You'll Never Think the Same About Modesty After Hearing This
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- Modesty is something even Christian women don't agree on, but today I'm sharing a biblical example that I think all of us can relate to. Subscribe to my channel for more videos on living meaningfully for Jesus!
Thanks for watching! Kailey
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Try this one "Dress as though you are going to see Jesus in the five minutes"
That sounds great, but what if you really like fashion, elegance, aesthetics in general... Should you sacrifice all of this, to dress in the simplest way, as Jesus probably did ?
You can dress modest and still with style@@daisyg8384
@@daisyg8384 God made so much beauty in the world, I really think He loves beauty and aesthetics too. Being modest doesn't have to mean homely.
We're all called to reach different people for Christ, so it makes sense we have different ways of outwardly expressing modesty.
It's really about your heart with the Lord and how you feel like you'd be honouring Him best. I hope you'll feel beautiful and close with Him as you explore! He loves you and you can absolutely trust Him with your wardrobe.
If He dresses the lillies with beauty and splendor, how much more does He love you?
@@janetholmes " How you feel like you'd be honouring Him", that is very well said ! ☺
A guy's comment:
It's plain that many young women don't really understand how they look to men, they're just trying to look pretty. And I think 70% of women will acknowledge that it's hard to find decent clothes to fit if you're not a model; fashion designers seem to hate women. A couple things to know:
Females attract males. It already works. You don't need makeup and tight revealing clothes to "sell". Dads and brothers can help you sort it out.
It isn't as much what you wear as how you wear it. Or how you "wear" you.
Due to several very serious surgeries a few years back, I needed long courses of physical therapy. The Christian lady I drew was highly competent, friendly, and compassionate - and drop-dead model-gorgeous. And PT requires a measure of close contact. Due to her employment, pants and polo shirts were most practical; everything fit, and nothing was tight. How grateful I was that her overall comportment and demeanor was ladylike and chaste. I'm married (and more than twice her age), but could not fail to see her as attractive. But she could be perfectly friendly without sending any wrong signals, and this wasn't an artificial "professional" reserve. I offer her example to show that "attractive" is not at odds with godly and honorable. And that guys can tell the difference, appreciate it, and even experience relief; we have in our lives encountered other women offering the wrong kind of challenge. Those of us with good sense move away from these.
My dad always said that if I'm dressed in any way that makes a man feel uncomfortable when I''m around, then it's immodest.
that feeling when you’re gay and don’t understand any of this ✨✨
Well said ❤
@@sondragingery5949But anything you were can make any man feel uncomfortable. There are many crazy people in this world.
@@flyingzombiemicebeing gay is a mindset and perversion of your true self
A woman knows in her heart when she is immodest.
I agree with dressing modestly if you are a Christian. Thank you for your encouraging words and for addressing this subject in such a gentle and kind way.
Listen here, I really don't want Christianity to become another Islam, and have the "dress modestly" policy. Ok I know it wouldn't be as strict as Islam, but making an actual "dress modestly" policy could be trying to walk on a slippery slope that leads to becoming a radical religion.
Forgive me Father for being immodest in my past, you have changed me and also the way I dress and wear my hair makeup etc. I am ashamed when I think of how I once dressed for fashion which was inappropriate clothing for a woman of God. Thank you Lord that you give us right desires when we submit to you.
The only biblical record of a woman wearing make up was jezebel.
@@NilsWeber-mb5hg
Esther was given cosmetics. Can we know for sure none of it was makeup? She may have not worn it to the extent of Jezebel, but still.
by the Persians, in captivity against her will, sure.@@holyexperience1976
Oh my gosh, this is gold! I love how you turned to an eternal truth and then moved on to the condition of our hearts which is the most important in all this. My grandma belonged to a church that did not teach modesty. She was asked “why do you dress in a way your church does not require?” I saw her answer her friend “Since I gave my heart to Jesus, I just don’t feel the desire to dress the same I used to”
Not that long ago, before the sexual revolution, most people looked far more classy than most people look today. It was our culture to look that way. When an "everything goes" attitude took over society, then a lot went to pot. I think this lead to a lot of confusion about a lot of things, including how to dress appropriately for different jobs and occasions.
If you look at who is behind all that and why, it makes sense 😢
@@katie7748Just curious, who do you think is behind all that?🤨
Following baptist doctrines before revolution
I’m a male but I have young daughters and trying to figure out how to approach this subject with them over the coming years. This perspective is very unique and helpful. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for a lovely perspective. It’s a big struggle for many women to work out. I’m an older woman and the one thing I’ve come to realise is that our clothes reflect the personalness of who we are. Often what is considered immodest isn’t the length or tightness of our clothes but rather whether the outfit suits our individual body types. What looks like a sweet flowing dress on one woman would be hugely immodest on a differently shaped woman. I also think it’s an area that men should stay out of advising women on - no Godly man should actually have studied women’s bodies enough know the details of shape and Body types and how tiny tweaks of tailoring and colour choice can make one women look elegant and another look dowdy or immodest. We need to bring back the’ finishing school’ idea of personalising your whole way of waking talking and dressing to suit your personality/colour and body shape. And then modesty becomes a personalised and intelligent choice. Xxx
That's s good idea on the finishing school. We have lost so many useful classes through the ages.
This is why women need to find specific outfits that would go well with their body types. Just because there are a lot of different standards of modesty its not an excuse for us to dress immodestyl
Ignoring men's opinions on modesty is the wrong approach. Certain men are particularly well suited to identifying guidelines for modesty. As a father, I teach my daughter about modesty. It is a multidimensional concept. For a woman, being immodest attracts unwanted attention. Fathers are sensitive to the kinds of attention their daughters attract. We also know a thing or two about being modest ourselves.
I don't know any men advising women on this topic, not saying there is not, I just don't know them. But I do know there is a decent amount of men involved with the fashion industry that help design women's clothing and that is for a reason (maybe this is where the advising is). Many styles have those tiny tweaks of tailoring and many of them have big tweaks of tailoring and its not for elegance or for dowdiness. I challenge every Christian woman to go through her closet and dresser drawers and see how many outfits have designs, pictures, lines and/or stitching that points to her vaginal and/or breast areas.
@@professor115As a man I would not marry a woman who dresses like a slut since what example does that show our future daughter and I believe one should care deeply about reputation.
We grew up in a pentecostal church. Our skirts/dresses had to be below the knee. No tanktops/sleeveless shirts. Had to have a sleeves covering the shoulders. Nothing too too snug/tight. Makeup should be light and no bright red lipsticks...LOL...I don't mind bc I always think Jesus is always with me and I dress for him to please him & not man. I only wear shorts or a tank top in the home. God Bless you!
There’s beauty in modesty and being natural. For me honoring God is everything! Great video thank you.
I was taught to dress decent at the beginning of my walk with Jesus with my pastor. From then on was my journey. God knew who I was. For sure, the Holy Spirit did it. My human nature was to dress like the world does. No, sir. God knows how much you want to know Him. I want to please him so the lessons came up. I pray for all those women who are still fighting this. I had 3 days in a row with makeup, which is not the topic here. A voice asking: " Are you putting it on for you or for me? " So God help all of us who are serious about following the Master. I am still learning. My thought is "die to myself." Thanks for your input on this video, nice!❤
Good video!
As for my two cents: A devout Christian who's actively listening to the Lord may be working on another area of themselves than where my own focus is on currently with myself. That's why I can't afford to judge someone who isn't looking or behaving as I might like for them to, because their attention is elsewhere, for better or worse, not my business; it's between them and God. Hopefully. I love investigating and learning how modesty and purity feel in my spirit, but I can't turn around in pride and self righteousness, and enforce it on others. If they come to me with questions, that's another thing. I trust the good Lord has called me to this, and them to that.
I love your perspective! Thank you for sharing @Christina L. Bell
You are very wise in your thinking 😊 you made me look at modesty from a different angle and I just have to agree with you on this.
I completely agree. Modesty ultimately is about the heart. The Bible doesn't lay out specifics. So different people have different convictions. For some, they think pants are immodest, but others don't feel conviction about pants.
Ultimately, we all need to look at our hearts and ask ourselves why we are wearing the clothes we are wearing. Is it to draw attention to ourselves?
Two people can wear the exact same outfit and one can have a heart and intention to be immodest while the other one doesn't.
It's nice to know I am not the only one who dresses modestly!
When you love God, automatically you will dress well. When you love the world, you will dress not for God. Simple. ❤
Wasn't the world created by God? Why do you think loving the world is a sin? According to your religion, God put us into this world, shouldn't we love his work?
If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For everything in the world--the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does--comes not from the Father but from the world. The world and its desires pass away, but the man who does the will of God lives forever.
1 John 2: 15-17
Well said! So true!
Amen
@@lakcurious God loves the world He made, but not the sin we have infected it with. We are not to love creation, but the Creator. We can appreciate the beauty He gave us without worshiping it.
I love dressing modestly .
Hi from South Africa 🇿🇦 well said sister ❤ I've always worn clothes that covered up, no one told me to, I just did it, it felt weird otherwise. But now many years later I have a 16 year old and wow I have lead with gentleness because it's almost normal to wear next to nothing and be ok with it. God be with us and especially the youth🙏 thanks for this video, it's a great topic that should be dealt with but unfortunately Pastors avoid 😮
As a Christian who has had a very debauched past, I can say that the way I dress has been a gradual process, God has been been changing what I like to wear, I know when I try something on that isnt right, now i love dressing modestly and i still love fashion, it's more about comfort to me now and not just physical comfort, i just know when it feels right.
I had modesty and purity shoved down my throat as an adolescent. I had to be SO SO careful about what I wore, what I did, what I said, and where I went. Because, you see, as a newly-developed woman, I was now a source of temptation to men. It was now MY RESPONSIBILITY to make sure that they did not become aroused by my body. Well . . . God in His Great Wisdom decreed that I should grow enormous breasts. Think Dolly Parton breasts. Short of wearing a full Islamic hijab there was NOTHING I could do to disguise that fact--and even then I'm not sure that would have worked. Do you have any idea of what it is like to be a magnet for lustful men and to be blamed for that fact? Do you really? What I am saying is that dressing modestly did not save me from unwanted unsolicited sexual advances. What did was getting a breast reduction in my thirties. And the only reason I knew such a thing was possible is when I went to the doctor for an issue regarding my back and shoulders this is what he recommended. Did I pray about it? Did I seek Christian counseling? Hell NO! All I said was, how soon can you do this?
Now I am sure that there are a lot of people who simply cannot relate to that. That deep down I brought on all the negative things that happened to me because I wasn't modest enough, that I wasn't careful enough. That I didn't trust Jesus enough. Because these things don't happen to Good Christian Women. Yes, fifty years ago that is what women were being taught in the name of Christ.. If a woman was raped it was because she was asking for it in some way. That is what my mother taught me and her mother taught her, and so on and so forth with the blessing of the church. These things were not supposed to happen. Well they did, so therefore it was my fault somehow. It took SURGERY to put a stop to it. That is a sad commentary on our society. The doctor even said to me, "If insurance won't cover it due to physical issues, they will approve it for psychological reasons." Meaning even he, who did not know me well, understood what it was like to be super-endowed. Fortunately I did not have to go that route. I do not regret having surgery. I only wish that I had known about it sooner. But the damage had already been done. I cannot undo the legacy of guilt that was handed down to me, an innocent young woman. I cannot undo the self-blaming that I was encouraged to do by others who blamed me. This has left an enormous negative impact on my spiritual life--and I am sure I am not the only one who has been harmed in this manner.
I totally get where you’re coming from. I was abused as a child and it’s hard not to correlate the terrible decisions of man with who God is. I would only encourage you to seek out your OWN personal relationship with God. Find out who HE truly is, through careful study of His word. All of the world could tell you incorrect/harmful things about Christianity.. But it doesn’t change the TRUTH of who God really is, and our responsibility to have a relationship with Him, through His Son. Something I’m working on. Erase what you were taught and relearn who God is. ❤️
Don’t let people rob you of having a relationship with your Creator. Best wishes!
@@amberslilrose3954 It is not so easy to erase what you were taught when there are people in the church who are STILL teaching this. Who are STILL putting the responsibility on women to dress and act modestly while saying NOTHING at all about men's responsibility to do likewise. What? Male immodesty? Are you kidding? Men don't dress immodestly!
Oh yes indeed they DO! I remember a few years back when I was running the paybooth at the local recycling center. A young man rode up on a bicycle, wearing the kind of shorts you can see right through, you know the kind with lots and lots of little peepholes, and when he came up to my booth it was very obvious that he didn't have anything else on under those shorts. There was NOTHING left to the imagination. I mean, you couldn't help but notice. But--but--but--that's different.
Or take the trend of going commando while wearing pants that don't quite reach up to where they are supposed to, so that when the wearer bends over you get a view that's pretty hard to put out of your mind. I've seen guys lean over in the break room and rest their heads on the table seemingly oblivious to the fact that their shirt doesn't cover what is about to fall out of their jeans. Again, not much left to the imagination here. But I guess it doesn't fall under the category of sexually provocative dressing (it's really quite repulsive!) so no need to make videos addressing that kind of male immodesty, is there?
Quite frankly I am tired of people making excuses for Christians who teach harmful things, and saying I am so sorry that you were hurt by Christians. What I am saying is CLEAN UP YOUR ACT. There's a lot of poison ivy growing up around that cross and what I am doing is calling it out.
@@theresemalmberg955 What others do is irrelevant to you. You will stand before God someday and give account of YOURSELF and what you did with your life for Christ. You are using the failures of the church (sinful humans) as an excuse to remain bitter and angry with God, men and with the church. You can only control yourself and your actions. NOT the people in the church. Find a church that agrees with your beliefs on modesty and get on with serving the Lord. Pour your heart out to Him. If you can’t do that, I suggest seeking help. You are clearly struggling with a lot of anger and resentment, made evident by your very many descriptive examples of men and their immodesty, like a fixation on it. You’re missing the forest for the trees, which is a tool of the Devil to deceive you.
I also was over endowed. Wore an H. It was horrible. I had a reduction in my 30s as well. Modesty was never pushed on me in fact it was the opposite. I was modest on my own. We are all different but I understand exactly what you are talking about.
This was a good video!
Another guideline for modesty that I find helpful is that dressing modestly is also for other people not just ourselves. We shouldn't dress in a way that tempts our brothers in Christ around us to sinful thoughts/actions.
3:20 this exemplifies the reason people dress the way they do. It all comes from within. The clothes are a representation of the inner modesty a person divulges. Not always, but very very often it does. Why they wear it, is the whole reason
Really, how men are affected is what matters.
If we look up the word defraud in the scriptures and in a concordance, we will find that it actually means to trick. If we trick somebody by our behavior and our clothing, Or lack of, The father in heaven says that he will punish Us personally. That should be a key to how we are to dress And act, which is our righteousness. If a man looks At us and our clothing, or lack of, or our behavior causes that person to sin, We could be in big trouble. Just something to think about.
I think that's on the man. He should keep his mind out of the gutter. It sounds like the kind of thinking that helps perpetuate the "blame the victim" mindset that is so prevalent when it comes to rape. Now, granted, you do want to be careful as a woman, but it's up to the man to exercise self-control. Jesus talked about if you look on a woman to lust after her in your heart, you're in trouble. He didn't say that it was different if she was wearing a bikini or practically nothing, that *she* was in trouble for tempting him to think that way.
I don't agree with the "loud laughter" part 😅 We're not Muslims! We're supposed to be cheerful and show it.
One of the godliest young woman I know, is the counterpart of a sunny boy. She seems always happy, she always cheers up everybody and YES, she has an amazing loud laugh.
And beside that she absolutely LOVES God, and that's shown by her whole attitude.
She I hope that to the end of her days she will have that loud and hearty happy laugh that makes everyone happy.
You make a good point, thank you! I actually agree with you, we are to be joyful! Please understand that in my mind I was imagining a girl laughing loudly (at something that wasn't even funny) to get the attention of a guy over on the other side of a large room - a scenario which I have witnessed many times! That's what I was trying to say although it came out wrong. 😀😄
I see, thanks.
She meant as in attention seeking. The laughter is not genuine.
When people use "loud laughter" in a spiritual context, it isn't about the volume per se. It means being disruptive, raucous, raunchy, inappropriate, flippant, making a scene, or as others mentioned: being disingenuous or attention seeking.
It does get confusing sometimes, since words & phrases like "humble", "pride", "modest" and "loud laughter" have different contemporary meanings or connotations than what is meant in a spiritual context.
It's good to discuss things with each other & look for clarification. We can also rely on the Holy Spirit to help us feel when something doesn't seem right, the way @Joni-lq3rf was sure in her belief that we should be cheerful & happy and help others to be happy as well. ❤
At the end of the day, no matter our motive whether we wear it of our selves or whatever, at the end of the day it doesn’t HONOR GOD. Even if we don’t have bad intentions with our immodest dressing it doesn’t mean that it honors God. Everything we do shall be done for the Glory of the Lord not for our own satisfaction. So at the end of the day, immodesty is not okay both inside and out. We shouldn’t excuse immodesty from the outside with the whole term about “ modesty being from the heart “ modesty is important both inside and out PERIOD !!!
This !!! This statement is getting thrown around so much nowadays and while its true , it’s still not an excuse for immodest dressing
Hi Kailey 🙂
I appreciate your video on modesty.
I am a Christian man and I have a precious love for you Christian ladies.
I love Sarah and Ruth and Hannah and Mary and Esther etc.
You women can have a wonderful influence on each other, on our children, and on us men.
The more humble and modest you are, the more godly influence you have.
I personally prefer NO makeup on women. It doesn't do a thing to add to a person's God given beauty. God be with you, Kailey! Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us. 🙂
God beautifies the meek with salvation.
The Bible also specifies long hair for women short hair for men. 🙂
I believe that the closer we walk to the scriptures is the happier we will be in the LORD . . . 🙂 💕
Some of us brothers also dress modestly, so as not to cause a sister to stumble.
When choosing clothing, what are you choosing? Comfort, practical, durable, or attracting attention from others? You have a conscience for crying out loud
This was beautifully spoken!
In the aspect of physical modesty, I have often become frustrated with the shape God has given me. What other sisters can wear and look lovely & perfectly modest in would, on me, look too "revealing." Unless I look like frump lady to try to hide everything, (Which I've also tried- but dressing in ill-fitting clothing, I don't think, is a good reflection of my Lord, either), I just have to work extra hard, try absolutelyeverything on, & shop carefully. Thank you for encouraging us not to judge one another! ~Liz
Liz, thank you for your lovely thoughts! I agree that looking like a "frump lady" is not a good reflection of our Lord, as you said.
It is such a struggle to find clothing that is both modest and beautiful. Consider Psalms 45:13 "The king's daughter is all glorious within: Her clothing is of wrought gold."
We are made in God's image, adopted children and heirs. I want my beauty to be inwardly focused, but I'm not afraid of showcasing in a proper way the body the Lord gave me. 🙂 Blessings!
Thank you this is so refreshing to hear. I’m a grandmother and need to share modesty importance with my granddaughter! This is so helpful.
I love how you put it as modesty beginning in the heart. There's two things I consider alongside with 1 Corinthians 6.19-20 and 10.31, and 1 Peter 3.3-4 (my guidelines when it comes to shopping and dressing):
1st is what the Holy Spirit is telling me. If it feels inappropriate, it is, and he will speak differently to different women. For example, I have a flat chest so I'm never bothered to wear lower cuts that would otherwise be too revealing.
2nd is context. If I'm going to the gym or the beach, I personally don't see a problem in wearing short shorts with a sports bra to workout or a regular bikini for a swim. Also where I live it's ridiculously hot all year long, so it would make no sense to wear long sleeved shirts or knee-length skirts and dresses all the time.
This is my personal view, though. Tysm for this amazing video and may God bless you!!
Adam and Eve WERE NOT NAKED before they sinned.
They were clothed with the
GLORY OF GOD on the outside. Born Again Christians are clothed with the Glory of God on the inside. 😊
As an adult Christian woman I would say this was a well thought out video. I would just caution and I don’t think it was your intention at all, but more for those who are watching. To remember that women are given different personalities and gifting by the LORD some of us are naturally loud, so think of it in how is a woman being load. Is it in an immodest way, or is it just naturally their personality. take for instance myself I am naturally load, however, I was called into ministry as a deacon. I read the gospel every Sunday as for my duty, as well as other things that are a part of my duties in my denomination. Though that loudness can be embarrassing in a lot of situations. I can control it when I am thinking about it, but other times I am being reminded to keep my voice down. Let’s just say I have woken plenty of my nieces and nephews over the years. If I get excited I also get load, 😬. Nothing like letting the whole restaurant know your business. However, that gift allows for my to do public speaking and reading and sermons, in the church where I am, and not “need” to be 🎤. It is still not a bad thing to be 🎤 for those who are hard of hearing that struggle with the frequency of my voice as opposed to the volume. When all of us clergy get together, both priest and Deacons, we have to be reminded not to use our preaching voices😆.
I would say you have a very solid foundation of theology modesty.
I saw girls/ladies wearing little clothing, but their hearts were so pure they still manifested extreme modesty. Not sure how they did it, but one felt the urge to thank God for creating such beauty.
Thank you! I really liked your perspective on this!
Very wise. And a very good point and perspective to make a reference for modest dressing. Thank you 👍🙏
Good word. Thank you for sharing what the Holy Spirit showed you. It’s really beautiful! Blessings and shalom
Wonderful video,great message .thanks kailey.
"In Genesis, God asks my absolute favorite question in the entire Bible...'Who told you that you were naked?'"
- my pastor
😂
I agree with everything that you said except the part about "judging". I think that we need to judge somewhat in order to hold each other accountable. If someone is not being the best Christian that they can be, we need to remind them to be better. If I am not being the best Christian I can be, someone it should be the obligation of one of my friends to remind me and help hold me accountable.
How do you decide if your sister is not 'the best Christian she can be'? On the length of her skirt or the loudness of her laughter? And what is our intention when 'somewhat judging' on such outward things? Only God sees the heart - hers, yours and mine!
@@cvdheiden1 God tells us to call out sinful behavior, and not let it infest the church. Only God can "judge" as in "condemn", which is how it's used in scripture. But brothers and sisters in Christ are instructed to hold each other accountable when we fall into sinful habits. Scriptural use of "judge" vs. modern use of "judge" don't have exactly the same meanings. As humans in general, we have to judge many things about other people daily, simply to make decisions.
Just subbed ❤ Really Well Shared, Modesty starting in the heart is Beautiful Insight. Good Topic.
I completely agree @Jodi!
Thankyou so much... I never looked at dressing in that way. I mean using the creation and God covering Adam and Eve... I have a whole new perspective now on dressing...Jah bless.✌️😇
I think modesty is pretty simple: if your wearing something so tight i can measure the agnle of your privets with a protracter or see them easily though your clothing its definitely not moddest.
My husband felt that values/attitude were related to clothing modesty. He said for males, when women wore clinging and tightly fit clothing, they were actually potentially dangerous around people like construction workers, as it could pull attention enough that the workers could get hurt on the job. Also, when people had "an intent to seduce" when they wore clothing, that was senior to what they wore. It isn't just a case of "regulating" what people wear, but they also have to work to create environments where they have worked on self control, know to "run" when it is somehow unsafe, and a sexual intent is not meant to exist. Attractive, for men or women, doesn't have to be "sensual". Practical clothing that is for injury prevention, temperature regulation, health, inspiring well being... needs to be considered as well.
You are a great example of katastole for my precious young daughters. Thank you for your example and your obedience to Christ, my sister. God bless you!
I loved how you explained that in the Garden of Eden Father God sacrificed animals to cover Adam and Eve’s nakedness - the first blood sacrifice foreshadowing - God in the flesh himself, Christ’s sacrifice for our sins. 69 years old and my eyes have just been opened to seeing at it that way. 💞 You are sharing your thoughts on being a Christian woman and modesty and those commenting need to remember that you are speaking as a Christian - a follower of our Lord Jesus…not as someone of the world. We dress to please Jesus and our Heavenly Father and not be concerned about what others say as we will each stand alone before God on that final Judgement Day. We are not to judge, God is the judge, but we are to be discerning and the Holy Spirit will speak to your heart if you ask for guidance on all things including modesty. Thank you for this message, I will pray that more young Christian women will hear this and take it to heart. God bless you sister.
Wonderful and admirable perspective. I will share this with my daughters.
Thank you! That is so great! ❤️
I'm Catholic and I like to dress modest but also true like you said from the heart. Also how the person carries herself. How Our Lady dresses is how we should inspire to dress modest and we are all beautiful ^_^
Looking into fall/winter maxi dresses/skirts/sweaters/jackets
A pastor once said 'a woman can dress modestly but can still have an adulterous spirit or heart'.
I love seeing women in modest clothing but not if they look like dull frumps. Colour, style, elegance, individuality can express much.
@@cocoa88 If you read the OT, much was made of women being perfumed and dressed in linen and fine clothing. Ezekial 16 is deeply moving...representing the Lord's heart for us. As is Abraham's servant (a type of the Holy Spirit) who prays on and on as he seeks a wife for his master's son. He loaded jewels on to Rebecca and fine gifts. Look at the woman of God in Prov 31. (Single, married or widowed btw.) And what about the woman in the NT who worked with purple cloth? The Lord created colour and we all have preferences. I love wearing peach coloured clothing. It compliments my skin. I was never required to dress for my husband. We each have tastes in clothing as we do in food, and decor etc. Choices are okay. I hope your appearance matters to you. But more than anything....we are clothed in the righteousness of Christ. Yay!
Btw. I'm extremely covered, too and after my husband died, the Lord told me not to buy any new clothes for 2 years. It was fun hearing the younger wives gasp. 🤣🥰
@@cocoa88 The dull frumps are in my church who HAD wrongly thought that they needed to be invisible to men. 1 young girl wore brown baggy tops and brown baggy skirts to her ankles. She wanted to hide. I've met 2 female missionaries who came to our church from China. Both looked if they'd stepped out of a Vogue magazine. Powerful women with powerful testimonies who radiated the presence of God. It is what is inside that counts but that doesn't mean we need to discount clothing altogether.
Thanks so much my sister . This is so opening .
Thank you for addressing this subject, in all its varying aspect, within, and without.
The lack of modesty in the modern world is always shocking to me, but I also realize it is because; most young women are not taught what exactly modest dress is, many women are working mothers, and modern society pushes exposure
And excellent point regarding judgement, the lack there of. 🕊
The Lord bless you and your Family. 🙏🏼📖🕊
I subscribed to the godly channels you have showing in your description. I wish the young man’s videos had been available when my son was younger.
That is so encouraging, thank you and God bless! That young man is my little brother. In a lot of ways I look up to him. 😀
@@kaileymentink He is orettt amazing, as is your Family. The Lord be with you all and I create you that you may serve Him even more, feeding His sheep 🙏🏼📖🕊💝
Thank you for addressing this this modesty it causing low self esteem and religious trauma
An older lady once told us, "Every society has its standards, and we should not transgress those standards."
This is spot on! Thank you for this good word.
I always had long hair, never dyed it, never styled it much. Always braids or buns. I started covering it, and I've been getting better attention from people. I think before, I looked like a modest Christian and people didn't like that (there's not too many Christians where I live), now with my hair covered, I think people can't quite tell what I am and I'm more approachable in that way.
This is an odd comment to me. Are you happy that "looking less Christian" appeases the world? What is "better attention from people"? A Christian's goal should always be to please God above anything else, I hope you've kept that in mind!
Aw! God bless you and your sweet spirit. You’re a jewel and much needed in our society today. I sat in my car after church one Sunday morning not long ago calling a friend for lunch and 2 girls appearing to be high school or college age, very attractive, walked in front of my car down the sidewalk in the parking lot. One girl's skirt was so short and she apparently was wearing a thong underwear so as to appear as wearing none or no maybe she was wearing no underwear, anyway, every step she took, her butt cheek would appear. Right leg forward, left butt cheek. Left leg forward, right butt cheek. It was unbelievable to me that she would think it OK to dress that way for church. Her friend's butt cheeks never showed but she certainly could not have bent over at all. Not only does it make it so hard for any man struggling with lust or not, but how do you justify having so much of your bare butt touching a public seat? It’s just nasty. I would not want to sit in a chair she had sat in. That’s partly what clothes are for. It just makes me so sad to see this all the time at church or really anywhere.
Women are more attractive when they are modest and dress modest....❤
It's more about deceny, then modesty. Revealing clothes are not decent.
Wow, thanks, this is the explanation lots of people need. Thanks again!
I was just telling my friend that we need to have these discussions. By having the discussions we give others permission to choose to dress in a way that helps then connect to the dignity that should be theirs as children of God.
Without the discussion most (not all) are swayed by what the world is presenting.
This is also part of why we shouldn't judge others when they choose differently. Many haven't ever been taught their is s different way to see and do things.
There is a 20- 60- 20 alignment that happens in society. On either end of an issue there will be those who are set in what they feel no matter what society says. But the 60 in the middle will be seated by society.
While the numbers might not be exactly 20 60 20 the concept prices of time and again.
Thanks for opening the discussion so that others have s chance to ponder and choose their own modesty.
Kailey, thank you for sharing!!
The Bible has everything we need in it if we take time to pray for the Holy Spirit to open our eyes to God's truth. It is not about pushing things to the edge of sin but how far we can run from sin. Don't give the Devil a foothold. Thanks again for sharing and using the truth in God's Word.
Thank you! You said it beautifully.
Thank you!
Wonderful video , thanks Kaylee
You are a wise young woman! ❤
I grew up in a high control, mysoginistic, doomsday cult. Everything we said, did, dressed etc was controlled. I was taught basically that if a woman was SA, it likely had to do with what she wore, where she was and who she was with. A womean was blamed for almost everything. Yes, i personally like to be comfortably covered, nothing personally hanging out, but i also think guys should be clothed well too, forget those tiny speedos. I personally do this for my comfort, not because i feel a bible is indicating this for me.
Love God, strive to love what He loves. Your perspective will change. Feast on His word, let Him guide you.
If we ask the Lord for guidance in this and all areas, His Holy Spirit will guide us. We can look pretty without being immodest.
@@wandacarr668 exactly
As a guy, I feel like society doesn't really approve of men wearing Speedo-style swim briefs (except for in the subculture surrounding competitive swimming/diving, which has a completely different set of norms and views about things, just like a foreign culture). If a man wears one to a waterpark with lots of kids around, a lot of people will react like he's a pervert wearing almost nothing in what's supposed to be a family environment and such. I know if _I_ wore a swim brief in that kind of environment, I'd intuitively feel worried that I was going to be arrested (even though I would intellectually know otherwise)!
Not so for women! Our (mainstream secular) society has approved of women wearing bikinis in such places for a long time (I still contend that they are more or less equivalent to swim briefs, since those articles of clothing each have more or less the same outline and tightness as their respective sex's underwear, with the only difference being material). Nowadays, it's getting to the point that women can wear thong or near-thong bikinis to such places without anyone showing disapproval (and I'm sure a man _would_ get either arrested or at least kicked out of a family environment for wearing something like that).
IMO this--and other forms of this secular double standard from dancewear to school clothes--has led to churches trying to give females some level of accountability on this topic, since they are uniquely not getting it from secular culture. (You could argue that in some times and places men aren't either, and I'd agree, but it's not nearly as holistic as the free rein that women are given to wear not only underwear-like clothing, but also less than that, in public, including in "family-friendly settings" as I described--perhaps sometimes even at church functions.)
Unfortunately, this has led to people hearing a ton of teaching about women's modesty and NONE about men's, when in reality the Bible doesn't hold one sex to a high standard but not the other. (Actually, in Bible times, neither sex was generally inclined to dress in revealing attire, and the admonition to dress "modestly" had more to do with not dressing to show your wealth if you had any.) Then people who sit under that sort of teaching end up thinking that modesty is a women-specific issue just because that's all that was *mentioned* when they were being taught.
p.s. My perspective on this is actually a bit different that what one might expect from a Bible-believing Christian, as I actually studied to go into the medical field for awhile (didn't go to med school, but took a lot of the classes to go into either medical imaging, lab science, or something like that), and I _had_ to have a healthy relationship with nudity, both to plan on working in a field where you're exposed to nudity (of both sexes!) on a regular basis as part of the job, and also just to go through a lot of our course material without being offended or thinking I was sinning for looking at the pictures we were supposed to look at. There were actually some theological ideas I found helpful that I essentially borrowed from advocates of Christian nudism, believe it or not!
Why is modesty always about women? I have seen enough men in churches with very tight clothes that reveal all their bodily forms. I do not consider that appropriate either, but have never heard sermons or youtube videos about male modesty.
In Orthodoxy modesty is thought and expected from everyone, it may take time but part of the formation process is about proper conduct including suitable clothing.
I agree. This is hypocritical. Men shouldn't wear those clothes either
I appreciate this information.
Bless you
Those fig leaves were awful itchy too, I'm guessing as fig leaves can often give some the same reaction as poison oak. Great video.
Glory to God!! This is a great message!
Excellent video!
"The sacrifice and life of God!"
Let's keep our eyes on HIM!
The great I AM!
Yes! Amen!
You want modesty check out Queen Elizabeth modest and elegant even when she was walking her dogs riding her horses. We have no concept of modesty anymore because there is no standard. So many good examples of modesty if you care to look.
Thank you!!! I love this!!!
Self-effacing, modest. Yes, I had to learn this.
I feel most comfortable and confident dressing modestly. I love comfortable practical pretty clothing. My favorite length of dress or skirt is midi. I can go up the stairs with things in my arms and not trip on my skirt. I wear knee length dresses but it's not my favorite. My favorite fabrics are linen, cotton and wool; so nice and breathable. And i try not to wear super vibrant colors. I used to wear a head covering but I stopped because God said my heart was getting arrogant.
I enjoyed your video, nicely presented❤
I know there are plenty of Christian women (and men) that wear revealing clothes nearly all the time.
You did a great job of starting on a very touchy topic. Go forth and conquer young lady. Important to note that women can dress considering the effect it will have on there brothers in Christ.
A woman deserves respect whether she is modest or not.
But she might not respect herself.
Scripturally, "to respect" means "follow their lead." Is that what you mean?
If not respect Then what do you give to women to show you appreciate their modesty? I agree that I should be a gentleman at all times to please God BUT is that what you mean?
no, not everyone deserves respect. respect is something that has to be earned, and not everyone has earned it yet.
From the world's point of view, I see the general thought that respect is earned, BUT then many workplaces would expect all their clients or customers to be treated with respect as part of the job description to employees 🤔.
From a Christian point of view we should respect everyone, BUT I have never heard the scriptural definition that someone else gave - following their lead??? Nor would I have thought a man showing respect was doing that as a reward to the woman for her modesty - that is how a gentleman should behave towards a woman regardless. Perhaps our cultures vary a bit in how we would define respect & maybe I am misunderstanding some comments given???
I have worked with people/children who are vulnerable & respect for them is so important. I have seen police officers treat 'undeserving' people with respect. God is the only one who can make people - doesn't that conclude any arguments about whether we get to choose who we respect, or who we love for that matter? As Christians we are told to love our enemies, and to forgive. Let us let go & let God work through us, shining His light.
Very nice to meet you Kailey. I think it is very brave of you to speak out about what God is teaching you, I've been hoping more people would, so thank you.
I am a 50 year old woman with a lot of sin under my belt, and if I could give you some words of wisdom I would begin here:
1) I agree with you, modesty begins internally but we learn from what we do because we are judged by what we do. Romans 2:6. The Lord Jesus told us not to worry, and one of the ways he helped us to grasp this was not by lying to us about how the world would judge us. Matthew 10:16-42 sets a pretty good baseline on the range of hate and insults that will be hurled at us, and within it, it speaks about not worrying about what to say. Remember, no one needed to tell Jesus what man was like, John 2:23-25.
2) What we train our bodies to be is a part of that process of building a relationship with God, and Apostle Paul advises us to train like athletes. 1 Corinthians 9:24-27. I was a swimmer, and so I know what it is to get in cold water and swim a bunch of laps when I'm too tired and have more homework than I can get done before I'm ready for bed. (I'm still studying as a 50 year old.) So, to be kind to others one must first be kind to ourselves and set good boundaries. Enforcing them is a harder matter when Christians have been typically indoctrinated to please man before God, here is where talking with your parents about my advice would be a good thing. Eph. 6:1-4.
3) Who you choose to allow into your inner room, that place where Jesus went first is a very big deal and it is not a boundary society thinks is virtuous when they refuse Jesus our protector and King. I on the other hand, as I've said before, have fallen victim to them long before you and hope you never will; I have a 12-years I am hoping will choose God as #1. The clothes you wear are helpful when it comes to many people respecting boundaries, boring isn't cool or fun. (Galatians 5:19-21), but when the Spirit is within you, I can testify that no matter how boring you look there are some who will still think their duty and entitlement is to test that boundary. So, the clothes become a moot point the more our society enables them and tries to silence us, we must stay free to find opportunity in Christ (Galatians 5:1-6). This is why I mentioned Matthew 10:16-42 and the Holy Spirit giving us the words when our bodies foresake us. My years of work in the stock market and health care sciences comes in with 1 Corinthians 7, it is a very honest piece of work about marriage. It does not a lie about how hard it is to put someone before what you think God wants for you, 1 Corinthians 7:32-35. It is not easy staying with someone who does not respect you or the effort you put into your own integrity, why 1 Corinthians 7:8-19 is like a fine wine and gets better with age. Which is why Apostle Paul began with 1 Corinthians 7:1-6 to address the nature of our sin until we have learned to manage it for the betterment of our temple, 1 Corinthians 6:18-20. There is one sin you should not pray for, 1 John 5:16-17.
What do I know, as Apostle Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7:7, except for the fact that David was given 3 options to endure when he to stock of his subjects: Famine, Disease, and War. We know enough now to be able to apply this advice to other aspects of our life knowing how there is less of the world to run to and hide given the number of living beings that populate the earth. So, 1 Corinthians 7:1-7 is advice issued to help a person avoid 2 Samuel 24 and to manage the earth and all God created as he intended us to, by first be responsible to and for our own bodies.
Thank you for such a thoughtful, scripture-filled comment. ❤️ That was good to hear.
Just because it's not in the Bible, per se, doesn't mean there haven't been guidelines for modest dress around already for thousands of years, preached and practiced even by those who knew Christ.
I totally agree that modesty is not only about how you are dressed, but also how you comport yourself and your behaviors.
I was almost fully onboard until she started the "don't judge diatribe. We are expected to judge bad behaviors and sinful actions. We are simply not allowed to judge a person's soul.
I found this topic to be very interesting and I’m glad you made this video. I think in general, our society is not modest at all, especially teenagers. I would have never been allowed to wear shorts that fit like underwear or tops that reveal way too much cleavage. It’s about respecting yourself and others around you. Be careful what you advertise.
Here is some counsel from a pastor (me) and his wife: clothes should cover intimate areas of your skin (breast, thighs); they should drape your body, not emphasize intimate parts: breasts and buttocks. Blue jeans, tight blouses and tight skirts bring men's attention and provoke. There it is! Godly women, whose modesty begins in the heart, will not struggle with this. And it really is simple as opposed to everyone's personal "convictions."
Love this!!
Love this🥰
Also a note on judging a woman for not being modest: I am incredibly modest (I joke with my mom that I'm a prairie-girl) but just this summer I went to a formal wedding and bought a gown that had a vs neck that ended up being too low. But I had no idea when I bought it. It laced in the back and when I tried it on the first time it was fine, but the way we laced it the second time pulled the bodice too much and it was immodest. But there I was in a different state, late for the wedding and I just didn't notice the ptoblem in time. I'm very thankful people didn't say anything because I knew full well it was a problem and was embarrassed.
God bless you
That is not just a Christian thing... I truly believe we all have this modest feeling within us, what our boundaries are. I feel it is similar to the concept consent. I think modesty crosses all cultures and religions. Thank you so much for sharing your insights and perspective on this. It is very interesting and how you talked about Adam and Eve kind of explains why we all might have this feeling within us.
Great video!!
Thank you for the insight Sister. ❤ I'd like to ask you a question that I've been contemplating for a while: What would you say is the difference between humility and modesty? Which one is the best value to strive for? I've heard from other sources that modesty causes you to belittle yourself and minimize your achievements so as not to offend or invalidate others, but I'm not so sure about this. I always valued being modest, but I have come to realize that I dont really view myself in a positive light because of it. What are your thoughts?
If you are humble you will probably be modest.
@galaxjam I have pondered that myself. I don't think belittling yourself is the answer - as children of God we are redeemed, not because of ourselves, but because of Christ. The Bible also tells us that we are made in His image. I feel like it's a fine line, though.❤❤ Thank you for your comment.
Humility, modesty and chastity are all sisters
That’s a good question…🤔
You can be so beautiful while being modest. My girls primarily dress from thrift shops but they often get compliments from people out in public. It is all about how you put things together. More clothes does not mean dowdy. Be thoughtful, don't just throw a little this and a little that on. Great layering adds depth and interest to your outfit.
You are so beautiful! Thank you for your channel! Greetings from Poland 🇵🇱
Modesty starts in the heart .it’s true. Have you ever asked the question , how would the brother in the next pew think of how I dress. What does it do to him or not.
Very insightful
I’ve always dressed modest, I’m uncomfortable if too much of anything is out there.
I think it’s time to bring this up.
What about men? Do they not have to be modest, too?
I think that woman's clothing should also have a feminine touch. A woman could dress from head to toe in men's clothing and be modest but cross dressing. Also real women work, inside and outside the home, in paying jobs in the community. We don't just stroll around in rose gardens carrying parasols to protect our delicate skin, and gently fanning away the dew of perspiration from our brow with an oriental folding fan!!! Real women mow lawns, mop floors, chase kids, ride horses, drive tractors. Real women work as nurses, EMTs, doctors, police officers, factory production, semi-drivers. But we can still be feminine and modest.
Amen! That is so well said! 🙌
I am the father of 3 now grown daughters now 37 39 and 42. My late wife and I said decide if you would li,e your grand parents to see you in it. My daughters now have decided to say the same to my granddaughters when the time comes. They are now 7 and 3 so it is not a problem now.
Outstanding!! From babes comes the truth.
Very good video, however I have a question. We use the words "personal convictions" a lot, yet I haven't been able to find that it's Biblical at all. How can you expain that to me?
To me it's basically personal likes, or areas of comfort; or they are just not at the same level of knowledge yet.
The New Testament's most direct instruction on women's clothing is, of course, Timothy 2:9-10, where Paul says, "I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God."
Paul speaks of _ostentatious_ clothing, saying nothing about sexually revealing clothing. It's not that they didn't have sexually revealing clothing...they did. By that time, silk was trickling in from China and Romans were already complaining about women wearing slinky _stolae_ that revealed their forms. But Paul's point was broader than that and covered the entire concept of _ostentatiousness._ Women were dressing to be noticed and admired for their appearance rather than for deeds appropriate for women who profess Christ.
So the real question is: _Why_ are you choosing that item of clothing? Is the desire to be noticed and admired?
Men can also fall into that trap, of course, and Paul speaks of the deeds men should be doing, with ostentatious dress not being as significant a factor in men's behavior (and it still as not today).
Read the book Dressing with Dignity❤ it's all about modesty
I’ll look into it! Thanks! 💕
Very good video❤