Is your child not responding to you when you try to help them in Sport? Here’s the definitely WHY
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 6 มิ.ย. 2024
- Watch this video to understand what it takes for athletes to succeed when it comes to parental support, and to understand the most common mistake made by parents.
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They don’t even know that they’re making it, they mean 20000% well for their children but in the end, it’s only driving their children further from them. It’s only making their kid resent the sport over time.
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Please internalise this and fight the urges you have and do what’s best for your child in their sporting career!
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I hated to study because my parents made this same mistake.
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Yet, I saw playing Table Tennis and ABSOLUTELY LOVED it, got addicted to it, for this opposite reason I explain in the video!
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When it came to Table Tennis, my parents rarely got on my back. They allowed me to go through wins and losses on my own, learn from my own pain and mistakes.
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This allowed me to be moulded into the successful athlete I was.
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On the other hand, I was always an average school student and HATED school because they got too invested emotionally and drove me to feel like I “did it for them rather than myself”
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PLEASE do not make this same deadly mistake on your children, I know you mean well and LOVE THEM DEARLY.
Great video Heming. I coached a great group of kids way back in the early eighties 2 of those boys won Victorian junior titles and some of the others were highly placed as well. The one thing that stood out was that some of the parents were absolute tyrants with one in particular shockingly bad towards his son who was about 8 years old at the time. I will never forget that poor boy being slapped across the head as I observed while walking a distance behind them with his father demanding he will win his matches against the other kids. Have a look at horrible parents at kids footy matches etc. Yes encourage your kids, drive them to matches, make their lunch, cheer them on in the background, doing all the good things that parents do, but please stop trying to get your kids to be the champion that you couldn't be!
Thanks for that Popi, and congratulations on both their and your success in the Victorian junior titles. While it’s unfortunate, almost all parents DO mean well, and act accordingly to how they think is best for their child at the time. They may be unaware but they certainly are trying their best in their own way.
It must be really difficult as a parent! I can’t say I know how hard it must be to do so much, then have to stay out of the sport of their child when it comes to finer details. But as an Olympian, I know that the result is always better off when the parents don’t get attached within their child’s sport
@@heminghu1434 THankyou Heming, as a parent of 5 grown ups I gave up coaching and loved the role of being a parent and it was never hard work. A lot of parents need a huge pat on the back. I sincerely hope that one day you get to experience the joy of being a parent and grandparent as I have. My youngest daughter said you can go to table tennis now dad you don't have to read me a bed time story anymore. P.S. for a man without children you have a beautiful outlook on life and sport in general and I sincerely wish you all the best for the future and who knows we may cross paths in table tennis one day.
Good advice that I'll try to keep in mind. Tell your kid to put in the effort and leave the rest to the coaches.
You’re right, and on the right track. Trust the coach you hired and let the kid go on their own journey 👊
Thanks for sharing and applicable to most. But if we take the exceptions, it seemed to work well (at least judging based on results and world rankings) for Harimoto and Ovtcharov who were coached by their respective fathers (yes they were both high level players so it helps). Any thoughts or insights into why it worked?
and the Lebrun brothers too
Yes because they had to go and play and had no other choice as young boys. When we are little we have no say to what our parents get us to do. Table Tennis is a highly addictive game so once you have been introduced or pushed by some parents it is quite easy to get to a point where you just can't stop playing and playing and playing.
Great question man! Their fathers were respectable Table tennis players so it does make it easier to drop the son father hat and respect them as a coach than a parent that doesn’t understand at all and tries to intervene anyway (most parents do fit into this category). As far as how “it worked”, I’m confident that harimoto and Dima would have become as successful as they are without their fathers coaching them. Who knows, they may have done even better. What’s to say they wouldn’t