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This is a difficult one for me… I grew up in a very ridged and strict Christian home, and there’s so much about myself that I keep learning about and accepting it has been a very long and unfinished journey. Learning about my wants, needs, sexuality, gender expression, dreams, and aspirations.. it’s all so new and different. It really is like taking a look at a completely different person than what I’m being told constantly that I’m supposed to be by my family and the people around me. The amount of self loathing, fear of the unknown, it’s so much. Thx for sharing this piece with us… I hope that one day, I’ll be able to overcome it all ❤
My favorite part was when you advice to dive deeper and deeper into your fears, since that dive helped me a lot to rid myself of my jealousy, anxiety, fear and other insecurities when I started having polyamorous relationships, because deep down my biggest fear was that I can not handle life all by myself if I were ever abandoned completely alone.
Hey thanks for sharing. Abandonment. Yes that’s it. The question for you now is why have you been abandoning yourself all this time and can you now start nurturing yourself and taking good care so that you don’t feel abandoned anymore.
I find it hard to imagine or to even understand, that said I usually struggle with techniques like this, thanks for sharing, I am sure it'll help many people.
I know my mom wouldn't accept me immediately if I wasn't cishet, buy she told me today that the first and foremost person I need to accept is myself. I also told her about some non-binary genders about 2 months ago and about aroace people last month, so I'm trying to make her be accepting of the community more and more until I come out because it'd be hard to wait until marrying a woman (I'm a bi guy)
Hey thanks for sharing what you’ve been going through. I can totally see your situation. Only you know how best to navigate this and you can take all the time you need. I did something quite similar in fact. You’ve got this and your community is rooting for you all the way.
Hey I’m so glad it was helpful. Please share if you feel it would help anyone else. Shadow work is so important for those of us with internalised feelings about our sexuality or gender identity.
Hey there. Thank you for reaching out and expressing what you’re going through. I just want to let you know that you are not alone and that whatever you’re feeling is welcome here. Sometimes we hate ourselves. You deserve love and appreciation for where you’re at. Sending you a big virtual hug through the ether. Take it easy on yourself. Don’t hesitate to reach out through www.notdefining.com if you need support. Take care. Mark ❤️
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To book a 1:1 coaching session go to www.notdefining.com/coaching-info.
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This is a difficult one for me… I grew up in a very ridged and strict Christian home, and there’s so much about myself that I keep learning about and accepting it has been a very long and unfinished journey. Learning about my wants, needs, sexuality, gender expression, dreams, and aspirations.. it’s all so new and different. It really is like taking a look at a completely different person than what I’m being told constantly that I’m supposed to be by my family and the people around me. The amount of self loathing, fear of the unknown, it’s so much. Thx for sharing this piece with us… I hope that one day, I’ll be able to overcome it all ❤
My favorite part was when you advice to dive deeper and deeper into your fears, since that dive helped me a lot to rid myself of my jealousy, anxiety, fear and other insecurities when I started having polyamorous relationships, because deep down my biggest fear was that I can not handle life all by myself if I were ever abandoned completely alone.
Hey thanks for sharing. Abandonment. Yes that’s it. The question for you now is why have you been abandoning yourself all this time and can you now start nurturing yourself and taking good care so that you don’t feel abandoned anymore.
Always accepting my truth have support some people will have a problem with it but too bad
Love this
I find it hard to imagine or to even understand, that said I usually struggle with techniques like this, thanks for sharing, I am sure it'll help many people.
I know my mom wouldn't accept me immediately if I wasn't cishet, buy she told me today that the first and foremost person I need to accept is myself. I also told her about some non-binary genders about 2 months ago and about aroace people last month, so I'm trying to make her be accepting of the community more and more until I come out because it'd be hard to wait until marrying a woman (I'm a bi guy)
Hey thanks for sharing what you’ve been going through. I can totally see your situation. Only you know how best to navigate this and you can take all the time you need. I did something quite similar in fact. You’ve got this and your community is rooting for you all the way.
Thank you this is so helpful! I was wondering how to incorporate shadow work in accepting my sexuality.
Hey I’m so glad it was helpful. Please share if you feel it would help anyone else. Shadow work is so important for those of us with internalised feelings about our sexuality or gender identity.
This is such a good idea, I love it
Thank you!
You are so welcome!
Amazing video and advice as always!!! By the way, love your nails!
Omg thank you so much
Coming out should not be a performance to make straight people feel less guilty.
Omg yes
Thanks for your Amazing Inspiring Lesson ❤🎉
It's my pleasure
Thanks ❤
You're welcome 😊
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I’ll never accept whom I am. I’ve spent my whole life being someone else, and I know that will never change. I hate myself, but it’s just reality.
Hey there. Thank you for reaching out and expressing what you’re going through. I just want to let you know that you are not alone and that whatever you’re feeling is welcome here. Sometimes we hate ourselves. You deserve love and appreciation for where you’re at. Sending you a big virtual hug through the ether. Take it easy on yourself. Don’t hesitate to reach out through www.notdefining.com if you need support. Take care. Mark ❤️
2:28 …Something deep inside when it comes to and affects THEMSELF.
This was just such a happy moment... Thank U I say with tears in my eyes 🥹✨
Hey I’m so glad this was helpful. Sending big love.