Thank you, Fuad, and happy Ramadan to you. What you say is very true and it is very important to understand the huge change a woman will have to make by marrying an Arab Man. Yes in Islam he is the head of the family, it is his responsibility to provide for the family, even if his wife is rich, he should not take any money from her. He has no right to any part of her money. This is very important for a girl to know and understand how Islam and Arab men should behave toward their wives. This is where a woman may find it hard if she is staying at home to look after the children and the house. Some men will give their wives a little money to buy things, and this is where you can have problems. Second, if you marry a Muslim man in Islam, you can ask a woman to hold the right to divorce if things are not working out, some men will make it hard to divorce if you're not getting on. In Islam, if the parent's divorce, the children have to live with the father once they reach the age of 12, especially girls. Islam is a beautiful religion and can bring a lot of peace and happiness to marriage, but this is very important that the man is kind, fair, and not controlling. Some Arab men see their wives, once married as their property and this can be dangerous for the woman. Yes, he will introduce you to all the family and you will be very welcomed, but the wife's family tends most often to be left out especially if they are not Muslim. No more family gatherings for Christmas, no more listening to music as some husbands will ban music in the home if they are strict in their faith. The wife has to listen to her husband as he is the head of the family, and if he says she cannot visit and stay over the night with her parents, and sister, then she cannot go. All these things must be thought about and there has to be kindness, fairness, and understanding from both sides. I have been married to an Arab man for 34 years, and we have two beautiful daughters Humdallah, but we had some very hard times when the children were young and it would have been a happier home if there was a little more understanding to my family and their feelings. I hope this helps a woman when getting married. I would say, you can be happy and have a good life, but you MUST be prepared and understand well your right's as a woman in an Islamic marriage. This is not been negative for Arab Muslim men, it is just an honest viewpoint from a Muslim sister who married a Muslim man, and if I know and understood better Islam, I could have been happier in my marriage. I am happy now, but the early years after I had our first child it was very hard. When you have a child the Arab husband becomes more protective of the family unit, and this can cause problems, especially with the wife's family. So just look and think very clearly both husband and wife as when you both have a child in marriage, things change and you need to be flexible and understanding of each other. Blessings, peace and light be upon you all.
Hello Delia, thank you for sharing your personal experience. I have seen both successful and less successful marriages when cultures differ, and your comment sheds light on very important points that complement the aim of this video which is to inform women about what they should expect, and what they should verify and study before marrying an Arab man. I appreciate your honesty and candor. Thanks again. May blessings, peace, and light be upon you as well.
p.s we shoudnt assume arab automatically means islam. It can be two seperate entities for example many arabs are liberal democratic culture over religion etc
I was dating a muslim man from Tunisia. And I'm christian. I told him from the beginning that I am looking to get married. He told me he is also looking for marriage. Turns out it was all a lie to try to sleep with me when we finally met in person. I was hoodwinked from the beginning.Thanks God I didn't sleep with him cause I am waiting for marriage. Women have to be careful with these type of men. Don't believe his words but watch his actions. If his actions don't align with his words and he has bad character...run!
Do Christian women today still want to get married ???! I dont wanna judge all peoplebut Today Christian women they seem not interested in mariage unless they are dating for years
Well.. to be honest your point is correct.. a lot of men they are looking for s$x witout married.. not only arabic men.. also western men.. the world is changing badly unfortunately 💔 I am an arab but i noticed that some of girls just wnat to marry me cuz of my job or of my $ ….. that’s sick
I dated a Muslim middle eastern cultured man but unfortunately all he wanted from me was sex. And I do see this pattern with Arab men who “date” women outside of their culture only to marry their second-cousin. I feel a bit jaded from the situation as he did not respect some of my boundaries and he didn’t understand why me a white women didn’t just agree to have sex with him and why I wanted to wait. I still respect the values but he clearly didn’t follow Islam 100%.
That’s very sad. For Muslim women that’s why we don’t give them anything because they try to push for more. So it’s better to clearly state marriage and not accept less
Sounds like we experienced the same situation...it's very unfortunate that you had to go through that. Most Middle Eastern/Arab men that do this see Western/non-Muslim women as just sex objects for them to satisfy their sexual desires. I feel bad for the wives who had their husbands like this, because if they're looking at other women like this, then how are they looking at their wives? You can't just turn that mindset off....
1. early marriage proposal. they get married first, then build the relationship. 2. Islam shapes him 3. His family is very important. 4. Dating is forbidden in islam 5. Traditional Gender roles 6. Good food is important. Expects Wife to be a good cook.
1: dating to get married eventually. You don't be with a person romantically for a decade 4: pre marital sex is forbidden in Islam not really dating dating 6:food is almost 20 % of our culture and we inherited from our forefathers that women were the better cooks that doesn't mean that women belong in the kitchen and all the ridiculous claims about Arab men
Not all middle easterners are Arab, and not all Arabs are Islamic. This is a very narrow perspective here… Another point, especially for Islamic males, is Never Compromise on anything, especially with a woman. - Never!
Cooking is a very easy task than an outside job. If he has an important family, why does he ruin others' dreams? Who asks him to date, just ask the halal way. His intention is jealousy, Eago, politics, and the evil eye. Then ruin others' dreams and family life. If any believer woman is in love, she can't marry another person or cheat. So he intends to ruin other lives, dreams, families, money, and cars. We can call them mental patients, not Muslim.
He intended to love somebody to absorb others positivity and maintain the family. He doesn't think about others ‘lives 0:08 , just selfish. They need to ruin others' lives for their barakah. But Allah is watching everything to protect nice people. Try to block others' marriages. Eat food and maintain. One day Allah asks about this. Wait for the judgment day. No one is superior on that day.
I’m so glad you made this, I was meant to find this. I recently met someone who’s from Middle East. I’ve made it clear wanting committed relationship And he’s still sticking around. Fingers crossed! Currently Ramadan so will see how things continue after. Videos like these are important, cause there a lot I’ve learned Abe had to unlearn from western propaganda
Thank you for your comment! I'm glad you found the video helpful, wish you all the best with your relationship. As you mentioned, it's currently Ramadan, and a pro tip: if he practices his religion, including praying and fasting, it can be a good sign that he values his faith and is committed to it. This attitude and commitment towards God will likely be extended towards you as well. Best of luck to you, and thanks for watching! 😊🙏
Hi, well I'm very happy for you and understand what a beautiful time it is to find someone you care about. I wish you both the very best of happiness, faith, and joy. Just be sure to fully understand his faith and culture and ensure he also considers your cultural and family ties. Then you will indeed be happy in your marriage. Understand the marriage diary, the wife's family give, and what the husband will give upon marriage. This is very important to you as a woman. Be happy. I live in London UK and also in Egypt.
I guess, the Arab man that I talked to, was a player because he wanted to take me out but in secret. Pretending to be a good Muslim in front of his society when in reality he is a sinner? He mentioned he never want to marry and when I asked if his plan is to hide all his life, he was not able to give me the answer. Next!
Point #1 I'm so happy you mentioned this. It's sad that men can't even express themselves or show affection without it being labeled as something negative. It's good to be aware but not every person is a narcissist
Thank you for being honest! If you want to marry a Middle Eastern man you know exactly what to expect. I'm African and think Middle Eastern men are very attractive. I think the cultural differences may be to great.
I appreciate your good will to help people have a clear picture. Personally, I don't believe that mixed marriages can work. I am from the west, but I want to mention that I received a solid conservative education to which I stick. That's why I agree on certain things you said. But I have the feeling that you consider yourselves the center of universe to whom all mankind has to bow. Pls, do not feel offended, I do not want to hurt anyone, I want to convey kindness and love, but this is the impression that I have after this video. You have so many expectations, but I never heard if a woman can have any expectation. From the books I read or real life stories I heard, I could understand that Arab men are more married to their families than their wives. But I am sure that there are many good persons and things in your society. I've heard that you are invincible regarding hospitality etc. Once again, I apologise if it was something hurting in what I said, was not my intention.
The best person in Islam is the man who helps his wife at home, one who respects her and takes good care of her. She is not your slave and she has many rights. We women our servants and slaves of Allah only and of men.
New subscriber as of today. You are correct when you say Muslim men don’t date, even with an engagement ring to a non Muslim female. Over 35 years ago, I met a man in a hospital clinic that I worked in, but he was a patient. It wasn’t forbidden to date patients within my company, and we saw each other every day. He asked me to marry him. He received a transplant, then when he was well, he went back home to tell his parents about us. The bottom line was he came back without telling them about us, but his mother wanted him to marry and he agreed to let her find him a wife. I had already met the family in the US, and I knew how to cook everything Arabic, and wanted kids together. It devastated me to find out he just wanted to maintain his life, and asking me to marry him was to maintain 100% detail to his health that he wanted to guarantee and continue. If he hadn’t asked and started a relationship with me, he was going to be traded to another new caregiver because I was going to change jobs. I stayed because of him. He’s the reason why I never considered any other relationships with any “foreign men.”
Yes Arab men are rather confusing for us western women, just learning what is haram and hallal is more than enough. Not all Arabs are the same, it depends from which region they come from. Middle Eastern are amazing and they do treat you like a queen. My experience is different because my partner and his family have been in the west for many years so they know our culture and they know there will be no marriage unless we know the man and the only way to get to know him is dating, which of course it does not include going to bed with him before marriage. So it is a give and take thing but yes there are huge cultural differences.
I just want to thank u ladies for being open and transparent about the situations you are both experiencing right now. Thank you very much. From wan to woman. I cannot tell you how relatable it feels to see you express yourself the way you do whilst engorging me to do the same and if not more at 4am Cali time😂🤘
Hey there, I completely understand why you're avoiding getting into any relationship that has any similar pattern to the bad experience you had. It was a manipulation game. In my opinion, his family and mother didn't play a major role. I think it's more about that guy's character and how deceitful he was. I wouldn't say it is about a specific culture or anything like that. I've been through my fair share of awful relationships, and I've encountered people who were just plain fake. But you know what? Those experiences genuinely changed me for the better. I wouldn't say that I became paranoid, but I started to read between the lines, hear the unsaid, and see through people's actions. I would examine whether the intentions they verbalize are their true intentions and think about what their concealed intentions could be, if they exist. It doesn't take me much time to do that. I became vigilant - a hard target for manipulators. So yeah, I'd say your story has a valuable lesson that goes beyond race or culture. Life has a way of teaching us tough lessons, and your story shows that people can hide their true intentions and manipulate others to get what they want. But to understand this, you need to also know that it's purely related to the character and integrity of the individual you meet, and this can vary among individuals regardless of their cultural background. I genuinely hope you find healing and growth from this experience. Thanks for sharing your story and being part of the community.
@@Fuadtalks I agree with you about it being the character and integrity of the men. It did lead to better and more caution in how I evaluated all men, not just Arabic and Middle East. I lived near D.C then, but I had a few guys asking me to marry so they could get green cards from the first conversation, and I dropped the two guys who I was barely friends with. Other cultures are similar, but I left D.C and came back to my birth state. In some Arab families, “Honor Killings” are one of the normal beliefs and I refuse to get involved with any culture that has such beliefs. There’s no forgiveness for even minor offenses, unlike Christian, Jewish, etc. The penalties for Islamic offenses are stoning, decapitation, tossed off buildings, or shot. For example, women who are sexually assaulted needs 4 male witnesses to prove it. But what happens if the witnesses are the ones who did it? Women are therefore found guilty for sex outside of marriage when it happens to traumatized, terrified females and victims are shot, stoned to death, etc. It’s not just Arabic culture, but India, and others. Treating a man well and being the love of his life doesn’t keep you safe. I’ve done a lot of investigating all cultures from a standpoint of how they treat women in their lives. It’s normal for some men to beat their women to show dominance, but I tell men who are just friends that they if they lay a hand on me, I will have them arrested. Only one white man challenged that after we were married. I had him arrested, and fully prosecuted. I’m not picking on any religion, but showing that most other belief systems can be just as strict. I’m genuine and honest, treating everyone with how I want to be treated, but each culture stays within their race for the most part, unless you live in the US and are around a less stricter atmosphere. Being in the medical field (Dialysis Care Staff) means I’m around some patients all the time, and you end up like family. I made excellent income, and those in medical fields earn similar, but every man I’ve ever talked to, who made much less than I did, will gravitate to the high income earners. The American guy decided that we would live on my income, and he would keep his. I divorced him when he was wanting to repeat his behavior for a second time. Now I’m retired, and enjoy doing what I want to do. Women can be lonely, but enjoy being alone. My hobbies take up my time, but my babies come with 4 feet of fur. My brother lives with me, so anyone I meet would have to treat him well. Anyway, I love your videos because you are straight up honest, and I learn so much by listening. 🙏
I am Ukrainian and i realized my culture is the most logical and sustainable in terms of relationship. No one will talk about marriage straight away but it is someone usually has in mind. A man should take initiative and usually he should not love bomb you, he should be sustainable and chivalrous and try to get your attention. Sex is normal after some time in a relationship, it is not as free as in the Western world but not as forbidden as in the Middle East.
Thank you for this helpful video. I couldn’t help noticing that Arab men expect that women conform into their expectations and rules and wants, but what does he do to reciprocate? Could you make a video about how an Arab man should show flexibility when he decides to get involved with a woman?
Hey friend, thanks for your comment. In the Arab culture, the man is the one taking on his back much of the burden of life outside of the house and sometimes even inside it. And here, I don't mean just finances, even though finances are a huge part, and the entire world wakes up every morning to earn something to feed their families. But aside from that, everything that is trouble-related is the responsibility of the man. The kids had a problem outside of the house, the father fixes it. The kid is sick, the father takes him to the hospital. The glass is broken, the father fixes it. The wife has a wedding to attend, the husband takes her there. My mom was once complaining that she has a backache because the house she lives in is big and that she would rather have a smaller house. See what type of problems she has? I told her that some other women would be envious of her for having such problems. But, yeah, thanks for the topic suggestion. I'll definitely consider talking about it in the future.
@@Fuadtalks I hear you. It would be great to specify how/if these rules could change if the couple lives outside of the Middle East where the woman works outside of the house and is equally contributing to finances. I’ve seen many couples with double standards where husband and wife both work and pay for everything, but the man does nothing at home and doesn’t take care of the children nor cook or clean which leaves his wife drained and exhausted. Thanks 🙏🏻
Had a few middle eastern guys in an Indian university, so I don’t know anything about their dating lives, but they were pretty chill and didn’t expect anyone to conform to their ideas. So, the important point is to discuss these topics, and see how compatible you are in case you wish to have a relationship. The only way yo know is via a conversation
That's a great question, Asiphe! So, it really depends on the guy's religious background. If he's a Muslim Arab, he should approach your family first, and any type of meetings to get to know you should be supervised by a third person, either from your family or from his. So technically, we can call this a dating phase. However, the intention from this type of dating is to find a spouse. Sexual intercourse before marriage is a big no-no for Muslims. BUT, not all Arabs practice the religion or follow these cultural traditions. In fact, many Arabs I know live a very hedonistic life! So, it's really up to the individual and their beliefs. 🤗
@@Fuadtalks thanks for the breakdown. I've expressed interest in being with an Arab man, but looking at their family dynamics and issues of race. I don't think I'd be accepted in his family with me being a black person.
I totally understand what you mean. I've lived in France for over six years and have seen many Moroccan and Algerian men marry French African women. While some families may advise against it due to cultural differences, many follow the teachings of Islam that color does not matter. It's all in God's hands, I say. :)
The guy I'm dating is 32 and he just started talking about when he has a family which is a surprise cause 2 years ago he said he didn't want that life, so it's nice to see that he is open to it now. He's Catholic, but not practicing.
I am just starting a new relationship with a Middle Eastern man . I am caucasian from California and I find your tips very helpful. I want nothing more than to please him and him to be pleased with me. Thank you thank you thank you for your advice.
Hey Susan! You sound nice. I'm glad to hear that you found value in the video, and I hope that you and your man will have a pleasant and lasting relationship together. If you ever need any further advice or support, feel free to reach out.
I hope you will be happy together and that he will also be eager to please you. Don’t forget that while you’re getting introduced into his culture, he is also getting introduced into your culture. The two way pleasing is where you find happiness.
JazakAllah Khair this will hopefully clear things up especially for non Muslim woman. Too often I hear stories of them dating Muslim guys and they think it will lead to marriage. For some it does but unfortunately most of the time it does not.
I love my Tunisian man, Marriage is important and tested him to see if only wanted a visa however, he said I can live there if I want and actually cheaper haha Wahlah , met his family, he's special ❤
Thanks for the great advice. Yes, it can be a rollercoaster ride. But, if a middle Eastern man wants a relationship, he will be clear. He either wants you or he doesn't.
Is it common for Arab prince to ask American woman to bare him son's before dating ? One just came out and told me he wanted me have him.a son. He knew me for several years. He came into the hair shop I was a hairstylist in. It shocked me. I didn't know he was interested in me and he did wait until I was divorced, so he was very respectful. But he was very forward about what he wanted from me
I’m a South African Christian woman , in love with the Arab culture and values. You don’t find many strong men these days who can handle an empowered woman who speaks her mind like me lol, but I’ve found that many Middle Eastern men such as Arabs and Serbians still have REAL men so I’d love it if I married a Christian guy from the east.
i really like this channel. im dating an iraqi man & he treats me like a queen. He is a lil jealous & possessive but he means well. his love is different from western men your videos give me so much information about middle eastern men
Hello. While you are clearly a highly educated person, using the most respectful words and certainly having the best intentions, I think something is obviously lacking in your presentation: what are Arab Muslim men eager to do in order to adapt themselves too to their western wives culture? For me, as an European Christian woman the following things would be a big no no in any relationship: 1. not being allowed to go out on my own or take decisions on my own 2. not being allowed to have male friends if I decide to. Of course this is a point where I would be very attentive to see if there is any behavior that my partner finds disrespectful 3. being expected to cook daily and take care of the house all by myself 4. consider that my husband/partner is the ''boss" of the house and I should obey him. I think both partners are equal and no one should try to dominate anyone, but take together all the decisions in their mutual benefit, with love and respect for each other. Now, I have a great habibi that I talk to on the Internet. It is exactly how you said: he shows me so much love and tells me things that a western guy would never tell me because for some reason western men have come to the conclusion that showing all their love and kindness to a woman is ridiculous and makes them look weak. He comes from a very conservative culture, but I was surprised how open minded he is. I don't know if we would ever be together in real life, but he really seems willing to accept my terms: "Baby, if you want marriage - ok. If no marriage - ok. If you want kids - ok. If no kids - ok. Everything you want is ok. I just love you and want to be with you." 😅 🩷He is truly lovely and I don't know if he is just being childish and when his time comes, he will just marry a girl in his country in good Muslim tradition, but if our relationship comes to be true, I would feel very empowered to know that he accepts all my terms and the things that I am comfortable with. Maybe sometimes love is more powerful than customs and traditions. 🙂 That is also a point to consider. A wife is not a list of requirements, but a woman in bones and flesh, with her own personality, needs and desires, sometimes reckless, sometimes needy, but still - she should feel comforted to live all her emotions and know that her husband is always there to support her and not to take away her freedom. I know that my habibi wouldn't have a problem with the 4 points I have mentioned. In fact, point 3 is assured. I laughed very hard when you mentioned that the woman should never ask him to cook or clean the house. But in fact, habibi loves cooking his traditional foods. Even if I tried, I could never cook as well, maybe just learn a bit from him. It would be perfect if we cooked together, with me cutting the carrots and the salad. 😅 And he is also used to clean his place, so why wouldn't he like to help me finish the cleaning faster so we have more time to spend together with more enjoyable "activities "? 🫠 or to allow me exercise to be in better shape for him. Scenario in which we both have jobs... Just ending this long post with his reply when I told him that I don't want to talk to him because our cultures are too different. He told me: With love and understanding, cultures are made and improved. 🩷 So this is also my advice if there is any Muslim man reading this comment: try to create your own culture with the woman you love instead of making her fit into your own culture. This could bring her frustration and unhappiness and on the long term, you will only have a servant near you, not a loving wife. So if a woman, especially a western woman (but also others) is not willing to comply with all the "rules" that our friend here respectfully presented, this doesn't mean she doesn't love and respect you. But she expects you to understand her in everything, allow her to be herself because she needs that in order to function properly. And once she can be herself, she can give all the love she has to offer. And all that she does for you is purely out of love, not out of fear, because of customs, traditions, shame, lack of options etc. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to share my thoughts and experience. Have a blessed life!
My bf is Palestinian, he is so sweet. He's already mentioned marriage a couple of times. And seems so eager for us to have babies. I have 2y old. He lives in Palestine and I live in Scandinavia. He wants us to move to Palestine if it ever gets liberated.
@@fkvtsxhkIslam is the religion and Muslims are the followers of Islam. We are commanded by God to not smoke, drink and eat pork. Unfortunately just like every religion such as Christianity we also have individuals who disobey the rules. It’s not the majority. In fact they are a small minority.
I am Ukrainian 🇺🇦 and I have the same views on all the points except that I am not a Muslim. Currently travelling in Oman and Qatar and I’m SO INSPIRED by people here and their mindset 😭❤️🙏 I thought it was already impossible to find a non-alcoholised and non-promiscuous society, but I found. Thank you so much for this video! I have no intentions to date an Arabic man, just watched this to learn about Arabic culture and traditions. It was very interesting and useful.
I just started with an Egyptian man, though I am from Pakistan and he is also here, We are trying to know each other so we can decide if we can get married. These videos are surely useful in understanding him.
Hi! I just subscribed to your channel today. Great video! My best friend is Muslim so I've heard many of these things before from talking to her. The one thing I will disagree with you about is that western women don't like when a man gives them too much attention. Most women I know will love and appreciate that. Especially because a lot of men have a hard time expressing their feelings. So we welcome all the love and attention lol. Any girl that calls a man that gives too much attention a "simp" is just that... a girl, not a woman. 💯👌🏾
Thanks for the feedback. You're right, not all women view attention from men in the same way. Some may find it appealing, and others might feel it's strange and off-putting- this is especially true for women who are used to men playing mind games or engaging in subtle push and pull seduction tactics.
I've met an Arab man, although I don't want to disclose what country- he's from the Gulf! I'm not your typical American, drinking, partying, wearing short shorts in public type of girl. I'm Mexican and already pretty shy and quiet; so I guess it makes sense. we've only met online, had many calls, but never met face-to-face. He would insist on meeting in person, when he was nearby but I would always turn them down again, really introverted girl. He seems like a great genuine guy but I feel like I am so insecure of being with a guy since I've never even dated !! you would think I have a lot of things going for me compared to typical western girls .... I'm not sure when this will ever be more serious with my shyness, any tips 😅
You're shyness will be attractive to many men. You don't have to meet the man alone, you can meet him with a family member or a friend. I think it's good that you don't engage in a lot of dating. It's not worth it. Plus it makes you more of a wifey option.
Culturally I do find some similarities, because my family is from Southeast Asia. I have "talked" (?? I don't even know what to call it anymore honestly) with Arab men before with romantic potential and find that we have some similar family/cultural expectations.
Arabs and asians have similairities when it Comes to be family oriented and conservative both like to have a family and preach values and manners unlike white people not all but most
I have always wanted an middle eastern man but although I read the Quran I'm not Muslim so I know it won't happen lol however I went on a spiritual journey and I made it clear that I won’t be “experimented” on and I’m looking for marriage and a family. We getting married right away now that my priorities have changed. It honestly makes sense this way. They are loving. I love their faith, their family oriented, and very affectionate and not afraid to show it to their male friends as well. That’s what I love about them ❤
Happy to hear you've found qualities you admire in them. Hope no one will change your opinion about them lol. Just so you know, you don't have to be Muslim to marry a Muslim man. Muslim men can marry Christian or Jewish women. Also, some Middle Eastern men are Christians. :) Thanks for the comment. Best of luck!
Please I have a question: I was on 2 dates with an Arab man. He started to become a bit touchy and so clarified that I don't want to take it slow etc. and not be too physical at the beginning. I did this to ward him off if he wants only one thing. The result is that he wants to see me more often. I was busy and he contacted 2-3 times to make sure to schedule a date, but he does not want to see me in the evening, only in the afternoon. Before he mentioned we could go in the evening somewhere. I was wondering if it is a good or bad sign. I am a bit afraid he has a night life.
It is normal that he said he will propose when he saw me only once? He talks about marriage and having a family together but we don’t even know each other properly
Hi guys I need to ask for advice! I'm a Hungarian virgin girl.I met an Egyptian guy on tinder and we started to talk and know eachother.I should mention that he lives in hungary.We planed to go out for a date.Days before the date he texted me and asked me if I want to be his girlfriend, and I freaked out.I told him that I need more time to let somebody in my life.And well.. we don't speak anymore....Is it normal in their countries or he just wanted to use me?
I think he's an amateur in the dating game. If he suddenly stops texting you, forget about him. It's impressive that you take things slow, and I encourage you to continue doing that. Don't take what you did or said as a mistake, what you did was right. Before getting with someone, know what you want from the relationship and make sure it is clear to the person you'll be with.
I dont eat pork and I would never cheat. My father thought me well ,the women is the jewel of the family . That means she represent the fathers name. My father was not a Arab but he was a very he was a struct Muslim from Caucasus Dagestan kumuk
Yeah. My grandfather is an Arab man who was Muslim and married a Christian woman from Ghana. My grandfather was not that religious and everyone is Christian.
Hello, im a christian girl that an arab guy is currently interested in, but I'm kind of skeptical about the dating, as you say dating i totally forbidden before marriage, we also talked about it and he said its not allowed to have an intercourse before it (although he said you can do it with a girl youre omly sure about that you will mary) , but he said that kissing is totally okay, im so lost is he only looking for sleeping with me or its just he is not such traditional muslim (for a background he comes from a REALLY big family from Riyadh, currently lives in UK)
I'm related with u but I never accept any date he is courting me for 1 Yr for now I discarded him totally ghost him good thing is we can see at work together he will keep asking in his mind how I'm fine like I don't know him 😊😊😊
Love you guys, always funny and welcoming, knows how to dress and super kind, a bit dominating at times. I wouldn’t mind having a relationship with a Middle East/North African men but I know your family will not be so accepting, I will long and appreciate you from afar 2:43 SAME I dont dAtE, I’m looking for my ride or die lover till forever 🥹
We love you too, dear. Thanks for your kind words :) You're right about the family acceptance, there can be challenges. But as I see from the field, it is getting better as time passes :) And speaking of ride or die type of love, this is what every man on earth aspires to. So, lucky him who will find you :) Best of luck!
Lovely video, thank you 😊 I’d say the quirks about food, family and making sure our moms don’t have to pay for everything etc are true. That said; in my experience and from observing other mixed/ blended families; it’s maybe unwise to make huge sweeping generalisations. What you said about the manner in which we are / were expected to find a life partner is true and they are generally keen to uphold traditions but there’ is / was no expectation for the women in my family to marry a man of a specific race. Depends on your Dad’s outlook. Also, many Muslim dads of Arab descent fully embrace the culture of their wife whilst maintaining their own identity. We were fairly lucky in this respect.
Hey, thank you for the feedback. I agree with you, and I would hate to make generalizations or give the impression that what I say applies to everyone. There are always exceptions to the rules. As for the point you raised about Muslim fathers embracing their spouses' culture, I have touched on this topic in a different video. While it was discussed in a different context, you are right, some Arab men can indeed be open to being influenced by their spouses' culture. However, I wouldn't say that they are the majority, nor would I claim that they hold the traditional values of their grandfathers.
Can somebody unswer on question when some guy from Arab world comunicate with some girl and also with some girl without telling about this.Asking things like photos of naked body,haveing fun and suddenly next day tell he cant talk anymore because he is goung to be engaged and ask father of girl for engaged.How somebody can come to some home in front of father ask for engaged and all time comunicate with another girl ,playing with emotions .Asking things.It is so sad.😔.What kind of behavier is that from guy from Arab world?...My sad life expirions .From somebody who is not Arabic and love Arabic world so mutch.I do not like publickly interfier in anything ,asking opinions but i must do that .
Hey there! Yes, there are many Christian Arabs, and while the video is focused on dating Arab Muslim men, some of the cultural differences mentioned can apply to any Arab man, regardless of religion. :)
@@Fuadtalks aww thanks so much for your reply. Definitely an interesting/informative video. I probably will not need this info, but keep up the good work.❤
Yes, but it is not forbidden in Islam. It is more related to culture and tradition. Families believe in the importance of building a family with similar values and beliefs to reduce the probability of culture clashes, and there are also various other reasons for their preference
@wynterxo Their ignorant loss. Not yours. Many Arab men and families are waking up to the idea of having an African wife or wife of Afro-descent. A man who is truly of the faith according to the Royal Torah should not have a problem marrying an African woman or woman of Afro- descent, if she is willing to keep the ways of the Heavenly Father through Yahusha Hamashiac and keep the Commandments and Statutes. There are a few Royal Hebrew men who did marry Hamitic African women who bore them offspring. The Falasha tribe of Ethiopia are descendants of King Solomon. That is a food for thought. I find it rather interesting that there are so much Arab practising Islamic men have families who reject them marrying an African woman when there are many African nations who practice Islam. Therefore must have the same belief. This shows it's a race and complexion or let's say colorism issue in regards to Islamic Ishmaelite Arabic men. They see dark brown/ebony skinned African woman as inferior and glorify European beauty standards in regards to the European woman being a more acceptable choice of wife in regards to an inter-ethnic marriage and family. The first commandment 'Love the Heavenly Father with all your heart,mind, soul and strength.' A righteous man who truly follows this commandment will love his virtuous wife regardless what coat she comes in. The truly Royal Hebrew family wins.Shalom.
The issue with not accepting black women is not unique to the Middle East. Asians, South Asians and Latinos have equal discrimination practices 🙃. Africans also have this issue: if you are from Senegal, you won't marry from Kenya. It's not religious, it's cultural and it's stupid. Europeans tend to be the most accepting of other ethnicities. They've done all that soul searching 😂 and are ready to mingle, lol. This being said, the "Middle East" encompasses North Africa, Iran and Turkic countries. This is a very, very wide spectrum of people and their attitudes towards interracial and intercultural marriage varies. For some, its really taboo primarily because they fear that there will be too much cultural mismatch. Middle easterners despise disrespect, and they fear that foreign brides don't understand their values and how they interact. Sometimes, Middle Easterners don't marry each other. A Morrocan might hesitate to marry a Saudi. Go figure 🙈, so even amongst themselves, Middle Eastern people might prefer not too venture too far from what they know. Here is a generic rule: Gulf states: very friendly people but have the highest challenge to marry out. Really, even to marry another ethnicity such as Europeans or other middle eastern people like a Turkish partner. Sham states: super sweet people, slightly more open to diversity but still inclined to stick to their own. Although might consider other Arabs a lot easier. North Africa: beautiful people, perhaps a little more inclined to diverse matrimony. Especially the lot from Belgium and France. Turkish/Turkic: welcoming people. Highly inclined to intergrate across ethnic backgrounds. I am generalizing l, but my husband is Turkish and I am around this lot a lot 😂. Zero racism as far as I have experienced. Iranians: never met one I didn't like ☺️ I'd just take it case by case. If you meet someone, just ask how his family feels about interacial marriage. Don't get offended if they're against it. It's really not personal. And it's a blessing to l ow right away so you don't waste time pursuing something that won't work. This being said, there is nothing sweeter than middle Eastern in-laws, they are amazing. 😊Very welcoming and very warm. If you meet a man and his family is open, I say go for it. Your life will be enriched. They are very loving and loyal people. And you become a part of their pack. If you meet a man and his family is closed to the idea, just move on in warmth and kindness. It's not fair to place a middle eastern man against his family because they are such an integral part of who he is. It's easier to move on and look elsewhere. It's also the right thing to do. 😊 Anyway, I typed a lot. Hope this helped
@@curious493 Many thanks for this informative response. Congratulations on your marriage to your Turkish husband. Yes sometimes it can be cultural differences also. Yes some ethnicities don't want to inter- marry with other ethnicities due to stereotypes, family traditions etc... The tribe plays a very significant role and factor. Even people of Afro-Caribbean descent can have this issue regarding the islands they see as small islands. Their is even tension between Afro-Caribbeans and West Africans inter- mixing due to tribe, ethnicity and cultural differences. So it's not always 'Black and White. ' I do find Morrocans can be opened to inter-marriages as well as Turkish and Turkis Cypriots especially towards women of Afro-descent. An increasing amount of Greek and Greek/South Cypriot can be open to inter-marriages as well as Hispanic/Latinos. Many Greek and South/Greek Cypriots have Western Asian Arab/Arab North African/Middle Eastern ancestry even though many are oblivious to this. Afro-Americans and Puerto Ricans mix a lot as well as Afro-Jamaicans and Cubans. Yes many European men are open to inter- mixed marriages especially with African women and women of Afro-descent. In London, UK there is a quite a few European men especially English men married to African women especially West African women. Additionally, an increasing amount of Indian and Pakistani men who would consider marrying or are even marrying women of African heritage or other Afro descent. Even though the families are not always so welcoming of this. But are becoming more accepting of this. I think the bad label 'Black is bad.' Is why some families don't approve of their sons marrying a so called 'black woman '. I think women of Afro-Caribbean descent particularly Jamaican heritage sometimes don't help when living up to the negative stereotype of being a 'Babymother' and having a good for nothing 'Babydaddy. ' it puts a bad label on the Afro-Caribbean community. No disrespect, most descent men from a respectable family is not going to want to pick up a ghetto, ratchet single mother who has baby daddy drama with a man who is ratchet and ghetto. It all depends on the individual as well as the family. And where the man's heart really is, if he is genuine. A real man will not ever let his true love slip through his fingers. He will defend and fight for his wife regardless. It's best to go where you are truly loved and appreciated. And be very importantly equally yoked of the same Faith. And whatever you do please The Heavenly Father through Yahusha Hamashiac not man, as this is where the true love is.
I'm still trying to figure out why my husband likes my cooking. My job has definitely became an issue because he wants to eat together and our work schedules are clashing every time his schedule changes.
How do I attract a good middle eastern Muslim man I am only 40 year I can have children I travel alot to egypt I was born in America muslim all of my life.Can you give me some advice at 40 looking young and in very good health and wanting to have baby I do not follow American culture. 😢
Hey there, I would say that the easiest way to get married is to be open about it with the women in your circle, especially those in the Middle East. But since I know you are Muslim, my suggestion for you, and I believe it is the most effective one, is to seek guidance from God. Ask Him to provide what is best for you.
Wow then how come I met a Middle East guy and he said he wanted a long term relationship and said he liked me in a very special way but the first time I met him he wanted to have sex with me? Lol and only sex, nothing more. When I refused, he never contacted me.
I had no idea what I walked into with my Arab ex-husband. If I had known, I would have walked away early. His family controlled everything he did and thought. He changed as soon as we married and became controlling and distant. A divorce was the best choice.
LOOOLLLLLLL In Celtic and German cultures, we have had powerful queens, chiefs, druidesses, and female warriors. We had fierce women in the Resistance in WWII. We are not kitchen-slaves. Neither are Middle-Eastern women, for that matter. I doubt Zaha Hadid spent her time cooking masgouf 😂
I couldn't help but chuckle. You mentioned World War II. Who held the weapons and dug the tunnels? Who were the ones on the frontlines? It was men. Women served as nurses, both in hospitals and at home, as caregiving comes naturally to them. I believe that when situations go south, the modern understanding of gender roles naturally fades away. If you believe that making sandwiches for your babies and your man is a form of slavery, then explain to me how it's not slavery to dedicate your youth, efforts, and life to serve some corporation or organization that, at the end of the day, won't care about you, especially when they deem you dispensable and less valuable. To me, women who care for their husbands and kids are the true queens. They are valued and appreciated by God and their family. In our society, you won't find children sending their elderly mothers to nursing homes. In other societies, it's very common, especially when they become annoying and useless. Our family bonds are different, and we find happiness in that distinction. And by the way, in the video, I was explaining how things work, not telling anyone to adapt or live by them. You can stick to your own beliefs. I wish you end up happy wherever you are. All the best!
I enjoyed your presentation and especially your seemingly sincere interest in explaining differences between the expectations of Arab men in your culture and that of western women and men. Regarding the above response, you speak of men sacrificing their lives, during times of war, in defence of their country, while women remain at home. Firstly, I feel sad that you 'chuckled' at Clare Pellerin's contribution. For me this is disrespectful, and does you no credit. My main point, however, is to your notion that men are willing to kill. My question is, "Is this sanctioning of the act of killing the same principle that allows a male to kill a his daughter for his perception of her dishonouring his family?" Again, I appreciate your willingness to share your views.
You need to make a whole video about cousin marriage. This bothers me a lot as a westerner. Birth defects and blood diseases. I know people are doing it slightly less but there’s a huge amount of cousin marriages going on and even first cousins. I feel like that is an abomination.
@3:07 "And from a religious background this protects us from hooking up with the wrong people." This statement alone says it all: How discriminating, racist, antisemitic, and antisocial. He is basically saying that we don't all fall under one God, therefore are not worthy to be included as a people, and then attempt to bind and dominate the world with shariah law just like Japan tried their world domination through Bansai when they attacked the U.S. back at Pearl Harbor. How demeaning and insulting. NO THANKS!
You missed the point. This protect us from the hook up culture all together. He said " random people" not "wrong people" . You lied or you misunderstood. And please relax, anger is not good for your health.
i've consulted this video before but now me and the guy are at an impasse so here i am. i work at a gas station. he used to drop by regularly and pay in funny ways. he sought me out on a smoke break to say: "the guy inside told me to find you out here. i just wanna let you know, you seem kind." i gave him my number. a week later he tells me he's divorced. i think, /okay, i'll go back to being his cashier./ i do that and he does some goofy things during my transactions with other customers. we run out of what he likes and (i really regret this) i took to giving him his usual from other shops with a mash note. i'd heard thru the grapevine he wants to return to the middle east because he has nothing here. i wanted to be good enough, so i did stupid things like that. but, his family is there, what am i to them? i was starting to get calm around him, but what a nosy co-worker said bugged me. in the end, he said: "i just got divorced, remember? when i'm ready for a long-term relationship, i'll remember you. i promise." i haven't seen him since. call it paranoia or feminine instinct, but i feel responsible. before he sought me out that evening, work was my life. it still is, so i worry about both losing him and pushing out a customer.
He has your number, so he might come back when he's ready and in a better place emotionally. I think it's good not to rush into another relationship right after a divorce; that shows he is wise. It could be that he is now into short-term fun, but your kindness made him decide not to play with you, since he said, 'when I'm ready for a long-term relationship, I'll remember you.' So, maybe his initial intention wasn't 'long-term.' But anyways, what he did was not a bad thing at all. It's also possible that he admired you, and because of that, he made his approach without thinking about his recent divorce. This happens to men when they see a beautiful lady. You'd be in a rush going somewhere, and you see a beautiful lady, and you say to yourself, 'you know what, let me get her number first.' LOL So yeah, don't be sorry about the situation; sometimes, life takes unexpected turns. If it's meant to be, he'll come back.
Thank you, Fuad, and happy Ramadan to you. What you say is very true and it is very important to understand the huge change a woman will have to make by marrying an Arab Man. Yes in Islam he is the head of the family, it is his responsibility to provide for the family, even if his wife is rich, he should not take any money from her. He has no right to any part of her money. This is very important for a girl to know and understand how Islam and Arab men should behave toward their wives. This is where a woman may find it hard if she is staying at home to look after the children and the house. Some men will give their wives a little money to buy things, and this is where you can have problems. Second, if you marry a Muslim man in Islam, you can ask a woman to hold the right to divorce if things are not working out, some men will make it hard to divorce if you're not getting on. In Islam, if the parent's divorce, the children have to live with the father once they reach the age of 12, especially girls. Islam is a beautiful religion and can bring a lot of peace and happiness to marriage, but this is very important that the man is kind, fair, and not controlling. Some Arab men see their wives, once married as their property and this can be dangerous for the woman. Yes, he will introduce you to all the family and you will be very welcomed, but the wife's family tends most often to be left out especially if they are not Muslim. No more family gatherings for Christmas, no more listening to music as some husbands will ban music in the home if they are strict in their faith. The wife has to listen to her husband as he is the head of the family, and if he says she cannot visit and stay over the night with her parents, and sister, then she cannot go. All these things must be thought about and there has to be kindness, fairness, and understanding from both sides. I have been married to an Arab man for 34 years, and we have two beautiful daughters Humdallah, but we had some very hard times when the children were young and it would have been a happier home if there was a little more understanding to my family and their feelings. I hope this helps a woman when getting married. I would say, you can be happy and have a good life, but you MUST be prepared and understand well your right's as a woman in an Islamic marriage. This is not been negative for Arab Muslim men, it is just an honest viewpoint from a Muslim sister who married a Muslim man, and if I know and understood better Islam, I could have been happier in my marriage. I am happy now, but the early years after I had our first child it was very hard. When you have a child the Arab husband becomes more protective of the family unit, and this can cause problems, especially with the wife's family. So just look and think very clearly both husband and wife as when you both have a child in marriage, things change and you need to be flexible and understanding of each other. Blessings, peace and light be upon you all.
Hello Delia, thank you for sharing your personal experience. I have seen both successful and less successful marriages when cultures differ, and your comment sheds light on very important points that complement the aim of this video which is to inform women about what they should expect, and what they should verify and study before marrying an Arab man. I appreciate your honesty and candor. Thanks again. May blessings, peace, and light be upon you as well.
Many arabs dont even uphold the above
thats just an expectation
p.s we shoudnt assume arab automatically means islam. It can be two seperate entities
for example
many arabs are
liberal
democratic
culture over religion etc
I’m American from Montana dating a man from Tajikistan and found this very helpful, so bless you!! Happy Ramadan!!
I was dating a muslim man from Tunisia. And I'm christian. I told him from the beginning that I am looking to get married. He told me he is also looking for marriage. Turns out it was all a lie to try to sleep with me when we finally met in person. I was hoodwinked from the beginning.Thanks God I didn't sleep with him cause I am waiting for marriage. Women have to be careful with these type of men. Don't believe his words but watch his actions. If his actions don't align with his words and he has bad character...run!
Do Christian women today still want to get married ???! I dont wanna judge all peoplebut Today Christian women they seem not interested in mariage unless they are dating for years
Well.. to be honest your point is correct.. a lot of men they are looking for s$x witout married.. not only arabic men.. also western men.. the world is changing badly unfortunately 💔
I am an arab but i noticed that some of girls just wnat to marry me cuz of my job or of my $ ….. that’s sick
I dated a Muslim middle eastern cultured man but unfortunately all he wanted from me was sex. And I do see this pattern with Arab men who “date” women outside of their culture only to marry their second-cousin.
I feel a bit jaded from the situation as he did not respect some of my boundaries and he didn’t understand why me a white women didn’t just agree to have sex with him and why I wanted to wait.
I still respect the values but he clearly didn’t follow Islam 100%.
Yes thats sad
That’s very sad. For Muslim women that’s why we don’t give them anything because they try to push for more. So it’s better to clearly state marriage and not accept less
Sounds like we experienced the same situation...it's very unfortunate that you had to go through that. Most Middle Eastern/Arab men that do this see Western/non-Muslim women as just sex objects for them to satisfy their sexual desires. I feel bad for the wives who had their husbands like this, because if they're looking at other women like this, then how are they looking at their wives? You can't just turn that mindset off....
@@Daijinelle the way they see their wives after marriage? Usually as the cook, house cleaner and bearer of his Muslim children.
1. early marriage proposal. they get married first, then build the relationship.
2. Islam shapes him
3. His family is very important.
4. Dating is forbidden in islam
5. Traditional Gender roles
6. Good food is important. Expects Wife to be a good cook.
But not all Arabs are Muslim.
1: dating to get married eventually. You don't be with a person romantically for a decade
4: pre marital sex is forbidden in Islam not really dating dating
6:food is almost 20 % of our culture and we inherited from our forefathers that women were the better cooks that doesn't mean that women belong in the kitchen and all the ridiculous claims about Arab men
Not all middle easterners are Arab, and not all Arabs are Islamic.
This is a very narrow perspective here…
Another point, especially for Islamic males, is Never Compromise on anything, especially with a woman. - Never!
Cooking is a very easy task than an outside job. If he has an important family, why does he ruin others' dreams? Who asks him to date, just ask the halal way. His intention is jealousy, Eago, politics, and the evil eye. Then ruin others' dreams and family life. If any believer woman is in love, she can't marry another person or cheat. So he intends to ruin other lives, dreams, families, money, and cars. We can call them mental patients, not Muslim.
He intended to love somebody to absorb others positivity and maintain the family. He doesn't think about others ‘lives 0:08 , just selfish. They need to ruin others' lives for their barakah. But Allah is watching everything to protect nice people. Try to block others' marriages. Eat food and maintain. One day Allah asks about this. Wait for the judgment day. No one is superior on that day.
I’m so glad you made this, I was meant to find this. I recently met someone who’s from Middle East. I’ve made it clear wanting committed relationship And he’s still sticking around. Fingers crossed! Currently Ramadan so will see how things continue after. Videos like these are important, cause there a lot I’ve learned Abe had to unlearn from western propaganda
Thank you for your comment! I'm glad you found the video helpful, wish you all the best with your relationship. As you mentioned, it's currently Ramadan, and a pro tip: if he practices his religion, including praying and fasting, it can be a good sign that he values his faith and is committed to it. This attitude and commitment towards God will likely be extended towards you as well. Best of luck to you, and thanks for watching! 😊🙏
Hi, well I'm very happy for you and understand what a beautiful time it is to find someone you care about. I wish you both the very best of happiness, faith, and joy. Just be sure to fully understand his faith and culture and ensure he also considers your cultural and family ties. Then you will indeed be happy in your marriage. Understand the marriage diary, the wife's family give, and what the husband will give upon marriage. This is very important to you as a woman. Be happy. I live in London UK and also in Egypt.
I guess, the Arab man that I talked to, was a player because he wanted to take me out but in secret. Pretending to be a good Muslim in front of his society when in reality he is a sinner? He mentioned he never want to marry and when I asked if his plan is to hide all his life, he was not able to give me the answer. Next!
😄😄🙏
Me too but I ghosted him...he didn't know that I'm expert player too I'm sure he is suffering now after I discarded him
Point #1 I'm so happy you mentioned this. It's sad that men can't even express themselves or show affection without it being labeled as something negative. It's good to be aware but not every person is a narcissist
That part. This is why chivalry is dying.
Thank you for being honest! If you want to marry a Middle Eastern man you know exactly what to expect. I'm African and think Middle Eastern men are very attractive. I think the cultural differences may be to great.
I'm an Indian woman who would love to marry a Middle Eastern man. 🌸 I love your culture. Thank you so much for your video! 🎉
Or you can just date a man who is Arab, but not Muslim… great conversation by the way❤
Yes, most probably it's safer.
This won't. Work will
I appreciate your good will to help people have a clear picture. Personally, I don't believe that mixed marriages can work. I am from the west, but I want to mention that I received a solid conservative education to which I stick. That's why I agree on certain things you said. But I have the feeling that you consider yourselves the center of universe to whom all mankind has to bow. Pls, do not feel offended, I do not want to hurt anyone, I want to convey kindness and love, but this is the impression that I have after this video. You have so many expectations, but I never heard if a woman can have any expectation. From the books I read or real life stories I heard, I could understand that Arab men are more married to their families than their wives. But I am sure that there are many good persons and things in your society. I've heard that you are invincible regarding hospitality etc. Once again, I apologise if it was something hurting in what I said, was not my intention.
I appreciate your honesty. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
The best person in Islam is the man who helps his wife at home, one who respects her and takes good care of her. She is not your slave and she has many rights. We women our servants and slaves of Allah only and of men.
New subscriber as of today. You are correct when you say Muslim men don’t date, even with an engagement ring to a non Muslim female. Over 35 years ago, I met a man in a hospital clinic that I worked in, but he was a patient. It wasn’t forbidden to date patients within my company, and we saw each other every day. He asked me to marry him. He received a transplant, then when he was well, he went back home to tell his parents about us.
The bottom line was he came back without telling them about us, but his mother wanted him to marry and he agreed to let her find him a wife. I had already met the family in the US, and I knew how to cook everything Arabic, and wanted kids together. It devastated me to find out he just wanted to maintain his life, and asking me to marry him was to maintain 100% detail to his health that he wanted to guarantee and continue. If he hadn’t asked and started a relationship with me, he was going to be traded to another new caregiver because I was going to change jobs. I stayed because of him.
He’s the reason why I never considered any other relationships with any “foreign men.”
Yes Arab men are rather confusing for us western women, just learning what is haram and hallal is more than enough. Not all Arabs are the same, it depends from which region they come from. Middle Eastern are amazing and they do treat you like a queen. My experience is different because my partner and his family have been in the west for many years so they know our culture and they know there will be no marriage unless we know the man and the only way to get to know him is dating, which of course it does not include going to bed with him before marriage. So it is a give and take thing but yes there are huge cultural differences.
I just want to thank u ladies for being open and transparent about the situations you are both experiencing right now. Thank you very much. From wan to woman. I cannot tell you how relatable it feels to see you express yourself the way you do whilst engorging me to do the same and if not more at 4am Cali time😂🤘
Hey there, I completely understand why you're avoiding getting into any relationship that has any similar pattern to the bad experience you had. It was a manipulation game.
In my opinion, his family and mother didn't play a major role. I think it's more about that guy's character and how deceitful he was. I wouldn't say it is about a specific culture or anything like that.
I've been through my fair share of awful relationships, and I've encountered people who were just plain fake. But you know what? Those experiences genuinely changed me for the better. I wouldn't say that I became paranoid, but I started to read between the lines, hear the unsaid, and see through people's actions. I would examine whether the intentions they verbalize are their true intentions and think about what their concealed intentions could be, if they exist. It doesn't take me much time to do that. I became vigilant - a hard target for manipulators.
So yeah, I'd say your story has a valuable lesson that goes beyond race or culture. Life has a way of teaching us tough lessons, and your story shows that people can hide their true intentions and manipulate others to get what they want. But to understand this, you need to also know that it's purely related to the character and integrity of the individual you meet, and this can vary among individuals regardless of their cultural background.
I genuinely hope you find healing and growth from this experience. Thanks for sharing your story and being part of the community.
@@Fuadtalks I agree with you about it being the character and integrity of the men. It did lead to better and more caution in how I evaluated all men, not just Arabic and Middle East. I lived near D.C then, but I had a few guys asking me to marry so they could get green cards from the first conversation, and I dropped the two guys who I was barely friends with.
Other cultures are similar, but I left D.C and came back to my birth state.
In some Arab families, “Honor Killings” are one of the normal beliefs and I refuse to get involved with any culture that has such beliefs.
There’s no forgiveness for even minor offenses, unlike Christian, Jewish, etc. The penalties for Islamic offenses are stoning, decapitation, tossed off buildings, or shot. For example, women who are sexually assaulted needs 4 male witnesses to prove it. But what happens if the witnesses are the ones who did it? Women are therefore found guilty for sex outside of marriage when it happens to traumatized, terrified females and victims are shot, stoned to death, etc. It’s not just Arabic culture, but India, and others. Treating a man well and being the love of his life doesn’t keep you safe.
I’ve done a lot of investigating all cultures from a standpoint of how they treat women in their lives.
It’s normal for some men to beat their women to show dominance, but I tell men who are just friends that they if they lay a hand on me, I will have them arrested. Only one white man challenged that after we were married. I had him arrested, and fully prosecuted. I’m not picking on any religion, but showing that most other belief systems can be just as strict.
I’m genuine and honest, treating everyone with how I want to be treated, but each culture stays within their race for the most part, unless you live in the US and are around a less stricter atmosphere.
Being in the medical field (Dialysis Care Staff) means I’m around some patients all the time, and you end up like family. I made excellent income, and those in medical fields earn similar, but every man I’ve ever talked to, who made much less than I did, will gravitate to the high income earners. The American guy decided that we would live on my income, and he would keep his. I divorced him when he was wanting to repeat his behavior for a second time.
Now I’m retired, and enjoy doing what I want to do. Women can be lonely, but enjoy being alone.
My hobbies take up my time, but my babies come with 4 feet of fur. My brother lives with me, so anyone I meet would have to treat him well.
Anyway, I love your videos because you are straight up honest, and I learn so much by listening. 🙏
I am Ukrainian and i realized my culture is the most logical and sustainable in terms of relationship. No one will talk about marriage straight away but it is someone usually has in mind. A man should take initiative and usually he should not love bomb you, he should be sustainable and chivalrous and try to get your attention. Sex is normal after some time in a relationship, it is not as free as in the Western world but not as forbidden as in the Middle East.
Thank you for this helpful video. I couldn’t help noticing that Arab men expect that women conform into their expectations and rules and wants, but what does he do to reciprocate? Could you make a video about how an Arab man should show flexibility when he decides to get involved with a woman?
Hey friend, thanks for your comment. In the Arab culture, the man is the one taking on his back much of the burden of life outside of the house and sometimes even inside it. And here, I don't mean just finances, even though finances are a huge part, and the entire world wakes up every morning to earn something to feed their families. But aside from that, everything that is trouble-related is the responsibility of the man. The kids had a problem outside of the house, the father fixes it. The kid is sick, the father takes him to the hospital. The glass is broken, the father fixes it. The wife has a wedding to attend, the husband takes her there. My mom was once complaining that she has a backache because the house she lives in is big and that she would rather have a smaller house. See what type of problems she has? I told her that some other women would be envious of her for having such problems. But, yeah, thanks for the topic suggestion. I'll definitely consider talking about it in the future.
@@Fuadtalks I hear you. It would be great to specify how/if these rules could change if the couple lives outside of the Middle East where the woman works outside of the house and is equally contributing to finances. I’ve seen many couples with double standards where husband and wife both work and pay for everything, but the man does nothing at home and doesn’t take care of the children nor cook or clean which leaves his wife drained and exhausted. Thanks 🙏🏻
Had a few middle eastern guys in an Indian university, so I don’t know anything about their dating lives, but they were pretty chill and didn’t expect anyone to conform to their ideas. So, the important point is to discuss these topics, and see how compatible you are in case you wish to have a relationship.
The only way yo know is via a conversation
Hey, I'm South African 🇿🇦 and I like Arab men, but never dated one before. ❤
Hello there! I think you mean you never MARIED an Arab before, right? 😄
@@Fuadtalks don't they go through the dating phase?
That's a great question, Asiphe! So, it really depends on the guy's religious background. If he's a Muslim Arab, he should approach your family first, and any type of meetings to get to know you should be supervised by a third person, either from your family or from his. So technically, we can call this a dating phase. However, the intention from this type of dating is to find a spouse. Sexual intercourse before marriage is a big no-no for Muslims. BUT, not all Arabs practice the religion or follow these cultural traditions. In fact, many Arabs I know live a very hedonistic life! So, it's really up to the individual and their beliefs. 🤗
@@Fuadtalks thanks for the breakdown. I've expressed interest in being with an Arab man, but looking at their family dynamics and issues of race. I don't think I'd be accepted in his family with me being a black person.
I totally understand what you mean. I've lived in France for over six years and have seen many Moroccan and Algerian men marry French African women. While some families may advise against it due to cultural differences, many follow the teachings of Islam that color does not matter. It's all in God's hands, I say. :)
The guy I'm dating is 32 and he just started talking about when he has a family which is a surprise cause 2 years ago he said he didn't want that life, so it's nice to see that he is open to it now. He's Catholic, but not practicing.
I am just starting a new relationship with a Middle Eastern man . I am caucasian from California and I find your tips very helpful. I want nothing more than to please him and him to be pleased with me. Thank you thank you thank you for your advice.
Hey Susan! You sound nice. I'm glad to hear that you found value in the video, and I hope that you and your man will have a pleasant and lasting relationship together. If you ever need any further advice or support, feel free to reach out.
I hope you will be happy together and that he will also be eager to please you. Don’t forget that while you’re getting introduced into his culture, he is also getting introduced into your culture. The two way pleasing is where you find happiness.
JazakAllah Khair this will hopefully clear things up especially for non Muslim woman. Too often I hear stories of them dating Muslim guys and they think it will lead to marriage. For some it does but unfortunately most of the time it does not.
I love my Tunisian man, Marriage is important and tested him to see if only wanted a visa however, he said I can live there if I want and actually cheaper haha Wahlah , met his family, he's special ❤
Thanks for the great advice. Yes, it can be a rollercoaster ride. But, if a middle Eastern man wants a relationship, he will be clear. He either wants you or he doesn't.
Is it common for Arab prince to ask American woman to bare him son's before dating ?
One just came out and told me he wanted me have him.a son. He knew me for several years. He came into the hair shop I was a hairstylist in. It shocked me. I didn't know he was interested in me and he did wait until I was divorced, so he was very respectful. But he was very forward about what he wanted from me
I met with emirati man in the USA. He asked after 2 date my dad number. Im trying to figure out still 😢 but I liked him too
How many of you want to marry arab man to settle in Arab and live in the city of prophet Muhammad and do hajj and umrah easily.
I wanna
I’m a South African Christian woman , in love with the Arab culture and values. You don’t find many strong men these days who can handle an empowered woman who speaks her mind like me lol, but I’ve found that many Middle Eastern men such as Arabs and Serbians still have REAL men so I’d love it if I married a Christian guy from the east.
Your giving great points here! Thank you!!!!
Thanks for watching. I appreciate the feedback!
i really like this channel. im dating an iraqi man & he treats me like a queen. He is a lil jealous & possessive but he means well. his love is different from western men your videos give me so much information about middle eastern men
Omg so relatable 🥹
Hello. While you are clearly a highly educated person, using the most respectful words and certainly having the best intentions, I think something is obviously lacking in your presentation: what are Arab Muslim men eager to do in order to adapt themselves too to their western wives culture? For me, as an European Christian woman the following things would be a big no no in any relationship:
1. not being allowed to go out on my own or take decisions on my own
2. not being allowed to have male friends if I decide to. Of course this is a point where I would be very attentive to see if there is any behavior that my partner finds disrespectful
3. being expected to cook daily and take care of the house all by myself
4. consider that my husband/partner is the ''boss" of the house and I should obey him. I think both partners are equal and no one should try to dominate anyone, but take together all the decisions in their mutual benefit, with love and respect for each other.
Now, I have a great habibi that I talk to on the Internet. It is exactly how you said: he shows me so much love and tells me things that a western guy would never tell me because for some reason western men have come to the conclusion that showing all their love and kindness to a woman is ridiculous and makes them look weak. He comes from a very conservative culture, but I was surprised how open minded he is.
I don't know if we would ever be together in real life, but he really seems willing to accept my terms: "Baby, if you want marriage - ok. If no marriage - ok. If you want kids - ok. If no kids - ok. Everything you want is ok. I just love you and want to be with you." 😅 🩷He is truly lovely and I don't know if he is just being childish and when his time comes, he will just marry a girl in his country in good Muslim tradition, but if our relationship comes to be true, I would feel very empowered to know that he accepts all my terms and the things that I am comfortable with. Maybe sometimes love is more powerful than customs and traditions. 🙂 That is also a point to consider. A wife is not a list of requirements, but a woman in bones and flesh, with her own personality, needs and desires, sometimes reckless, sometimes needy, but still - she should feel comforted to live all her emotions and know that her husband is always there to support her and not to take away her freedom.
I know that my habibi wouldn't have a problem with the 4 points I have mentioned. In fact, point 3 is assured. I laughed very hard when you mentioned that the woman should never ask him to cook or clean the house. But in fact, habibi loves cooking his traditional foods. Even if I tried, I could never cook as well, maybe just learn a bit from him. It would be perfect if we cooked together, with me cutting the carrots and the salad. 😅 And he is also used to clean his place, so why wouldn't he like to help me finish the cleaning faster so we have more time to spend together with more enjoyable "activities "? 🫠 or to allow me exercise to be in better shape for him. Scenario in which we both have jobs...
Just ending this long post with his reply when I told him that I don't want to talk to him because our cultures are too different. He told me: With love and understanding, cultures are made and improved. 🩷 So this is also my advice if there is any Muslim man reading this comment: try to create your own culture with the woman you love instead of making her fit into your own culture. This could bring her frustration and unhappiness and on the long term, you will only have a servant near you, not a loving wife. So if a woman, especially a western woman (but also others) is not willing to comply with all the "rules" that our friend here respectfully presented, this doesn't mean she doesn't love and respect you. But she expects you to understand her in everything, allow her to be herself because she needs that in order to function properly. And once she can be herself, she can give all the love she has to offer. And all that she does for you is purely out of love, not out of fear, because of customs, traditions, shame, lack of options etc.
Thank you for giving me the opportunity to share my thoughts and experience. Have a blessed life!
I love the Arab culture even though I am an African christian
My bf is Palestinian, he is so sweet. He's already mentioned marriage a couple of times. And seems so eager for us to have babies. I have 2y old. He lives in Palestine and I live in Scandinavia. He wants us to move to Palestine if it ever gets liberated.
Have many many palestine babies 😂
Is Muslim different from the middle East who drink and smoke?
Sorry just watch at 05.00 .. so what is the middle east who drink and eat pork and smoke??
@@fkvtsxhkIslam is the religion and Muslims are the followers of Islam. We are commanded by God to not smoke, drink and eat pork. Unfortunately just like every religion such as Christianity we also have individuals who disobey the rules. It’s not the majority. In fact they are a small minority.
If liberated??? It WILL get liberated.
I think I pretty much know all these traits because I am a Muslim from Malaysia which is actually from the South East Asia region
I am Ukrainian 🇺🇦 and I have the same views on all the points except that I am not a Muslim. Currently travelling in Oman and Qatar and I’m SO INSPIRED by people here and their mindset 😭❤️🙏 I thought it was already impossible to find a non-alcoholised and non-promiscuous society, but I found. Thank you so much for this video! I have no intentions to date an Arabic man, just watched this to learn about Arabic culture and traditions. It was very interesting and useful.
All the best, friend!
Great job on this video
Thank you!
I just started with an Egyptian man, though I am from Pakistan and he is also here, We are trying to know each other so we can decide if we can get married.
These videos are surely useful in understanding him.
Good luck!
I laughed when you said I cook 2days and you cook 2days, I clean 2days and you clean 2days😂😂😂😂
Haha, glad that part made you laugh! 😄
Hi! I just subscribed to your channel today. Great video! My best friend is Muslim so I've heard many of these things before from talking to her. The one thing I will disagree with you about is that western women don't like when a man gives them too much attention. Most women I know will love and appreciate that. Especially because a lot of men have a hard time expressing their feelings. So we welcome all the love and attention lol. Any girl that calls a man that gives too much attention a "simp" is just that... a girl, not a woman. 💯👌🏾
Thanks for the feedback. You're right, not all women view attention from men in the same way. Some may find it appealing, and others might feel it's strange and off-putting- this is especially true for women who are used to men playing mind games or engaging in subtle push and pull seduction tactics.
I've met an Arab man, although I don't want to disclose what country- he's from the Gulf!
I'm not your typical American, drinking, partying, wearing short shorts in public type of girl. I'm Mexican and already pretty shy and quiet; so I
guess it makes sense. we've only met online, had many calls, but never met face-to-face. He would insist on meeting in person, when he was
nearby but I would always turn them down again, really introverted girl. He seems like a great genuine guy but I feel like I am so insecure of being with a guy since I've never even dated !! you would think I have a lot of things going for me compared to typical western girls .... I'm not sure when this will ever be more serious with my shyness, any tips 😅
You're shyness will be attractive to many men.
You don't have to meet the man alone, you can meet him with a family member or a friend.
I think it's good that you don't engage in a lot of dating.
It's not worth it. Plus it makes you more of a wifey option.
I was wondering about the love bombing. I also reminding my self the cultures are different. Thats why i didnt run from him
Loving this kind of content
Thanks for sharing! Your words gave me a lot of clarity
Glad it was helpful!
Culturally I do find some similarities, because my family is from Southeast Asia. I have "talked" (?? I don't even know what to call it anymore honestly) with Arab men before with romantic potential and find that we have some similar family/cultural expectations.
Arabs and asians have similairities when it Comes to be family oriented and conservative both like to have a family and preach values and manners unlike white people not all but most
I have always wanted an middle eastern man but although I read the Quran I'm not Muslim so I know it won't happen lol however I went on a spiritual journey and I made it clear that I won’t be “experimented” on and I’m looking for marriage and a family. We getting married right away now that my priorities have changed. It honestly makes sense this way. They are loving. I love their faith, their family oriented, and very affectionate and not afraid to show it to their male friends as well. That’s what I love about them ❤
Happy to hear you've found qualities you admire in them. Hope no one will change your opinion about them lol. Just so you know, you don't have to be Muslim to marry a Muslim man. Muslim men can marry Christian or Jewish women. Also, some Middle Eastern men are Christians. :) Thanks for the comment. Best of luck!
@@Fuadtalks Thank you, Faud! Do you know a Facebook group where I can connect with them? 🤭
Please I have a question: I was on 2 dates with an Arab man. He started to become a bit touchy and so clarified that I don't want to take it slow etc. and not be too physical at the beginning. I did this to ward him off if he wants only one thing. The result is that he wants to see me more often. I was busy and he contacted 2-3 times to make sure to schedule a date, but he does not want to see me in the evening, only in the afternoon. Before he mentioned we could go in the evening somewhere. I was wondering if it is a good or bad sign. I am a bit afraid he has a night life.
It is normal that he said he will propose when he saw me only once? He talks about marriage and having a family together but we don’t even know each other properly
Yes, it is. But make sure his words match his future actions. :)
Hi guys I need to ask for advice! I'm a Hungarian virgin girl.I met an Egyptian guy on tinder and we started to talk and know eachother.I should mention that he lives in hungary.We planed to go out for a date.Days before the date he texted me and asked me if I want to be his girlfriend, and I freaked out.I told him that I need more time to let somebody in my life.And well.. we don't speak anymore....Is it normal in their countries or he just wanted to use me?
I think he's an amateur in the dating game. If he suddenly stops texting you, forget about him.
It's impressive that you take things slow, and I encourage you to continue doing that. Don't take what you did or said as a mistake, what you did was right.
Before getting with someone, know what you want from the relationship and make sure it is clear to the person you'll be with.
Great videos I am seeing a man from Israel he is Muslim. I am from Mexico he’s very nice
I dont eat pork and I would never cheat. My father thought me well ,the women is the jewel of the family . That means she represent the fathers name. My father was not a Arab but he was a very he was a struct Muslim from Caucasus Dagestan kumuk
That's great!
Yeah. My grandfather is an Arab man who was Muslim and married a Christian woman from Ghana. My grandfather was not that religious and everyone is Christian.
You are really nice and very truthful
Thank you very much!
good advice, in general
Glad you think so!
Not every Arabic think the same.my boyfriend He is down to earth 🌍.He respect me not asking for nothing.
Yes, respect towards women is a common thing we have. Glad you're happy dear!
I want to become a Muslim one day i hope that someone help me to convert
Any arab guy here ? 😊❤ Friends?
Video starts at around @2:00
Good advise thanks
❤❤❤ thank you
Hello, im a christian girl that an arab guy is currently interested in, but I'm kind of skeptical about the dating, as you say dating i totally forbidden before marriage, we also talked about it and he said its not allowed to have an intercourse before it (although he said you can do it with a girl youre omly sure about that you will mary) , but he said that kissing is totally okay, im so lost is he only looking for sleeping with me or its just he is not such traditional muslim (for a background he comes from a REALLY big family from Riyadh, currently lives in UK)
Don't want to ruin the man's plans.
However, you'll find videos in the channel that will help you.
I'm related with u but I never accept any date he is courting me for 1 Yr for now I discarded him totally ghost him good thing is we can see at work together he will keep asking in his mind how I'm fine like I don't know him 😊😊😊
Thank u for video 😊
Thank you i found you
Love you guys, always funny and welcoming, knows how to dress and super kind, a bit dominating at times. I wouldn’t mind having a relationship with a Middle East/North African men but I know your family will not be so accepting, I will long and appreciate you from afar
2:43 SAME I dont dAtE, I’m looking for my ride or die lover till forever 🥹
We love you too, dear. Thanks for your kind words :) You're right about the family acceptance, there can be challenges. But as I see from the field, it is getting better as time passes :) And speaking of ride or die type of love, this is what every man on earth aspires to. So, lucky him who will find you :) Best of luck!
Not all Middle Eastern men are Muslim though so point 2 depends on the man
🤣🤣🤣i cook 2 days and you cook 2 days😂😂😂 i died. It was so funny😅
I like Good men don't care about their ethnicity, the important thing is that they love me and are willing to sacrifice for me, that's enough
Thank you sir for sharing..very helpful...i have a friend arab now...
Glad it helped!
Lovely video, thank you 😊 I’d say the quirks about food, family and making sure our moms don’t have to pay for everything etc are true.
That said; in my experience and from observing other mixed/ blended families; it’s maybe unwise to make huge sweeping generalisations.
What you said about the manner in which we are / were expected to find a life partner is true and they are generally keen to uphold traditions but there’ is / was no expectation for the women in my family to marry a man of a specific race. Depends on your Dad’s outlook.
Also, many Muslim dads of Arab descent fully embrace the culture of their wife whilst maintaining their own identity. We were fairly lucky in this respect.
Hey, thank you for the feedback. I agree with you, and I would hate to make generalizations or give the impression that what I say applies to everyone. There are always exceptions to the rules. As for the point you raised about Muslim fathers embracing their spouses' culture, I have touched on this topic in a different video. While it was discussed in a different context, you are right, some Arab men can indeed be open to being influenced by their spouses' culture. However, I wouldn't say that they are the majority, nor would I claim that they hold the traditional values of their grandfathers.
Sense I was raced a Muslim I can say it's all true
Can somebody unswer on question when some guy from Arab world comunicate with some girl and also with some girl without telling about this.Asking things like photos of naked body,haveing fun and suddenly next day tell he cant talk anymore because he is goung to be engaged and ask father of girl for engaged.How somebody can come to some home in front of father ask for engaged and all time comunicate with another girl ,playing with emotions .Asking things.It is so sad.😔.What kind of behavier is that from guy from Arab world?...My sad life expirions .From somebody who is not Arabic and love Arabic world so mutch.I do not like publickly interfier in anything ,asking opinions but i must do that .
why you sent your naked pictures in the first place , dont send them to anyone , that will be good for a healthy relationship
Why did this pop up on my feed. I am Christian. Lol
Are there Christian Arab Men?
If so, I will watch this video later😂😂😅
Hey there! Yes, there are many Christian Arabs, and while the video is focused on dating Arab Muslim men, some of the cultural differences mentioned can apply to any Arab man, regardless of religion. :)
@@Fuadtalks aww thanks so much for your reply. Definitely an interesting/informative video. I probably will not need this info, but keep up the good work.❤
That is how our religion guide us alxhamdulilah ❤
What about if the woman is an agnostic? What role does the wife’s family play in the family?
An agnostic should date another agnostic
So, is this more about dating a Muslim man? There are multiple religions in the Arab world.
Thankyou
Thanks for watching!
So you dont date a woman first ? I was thinking the man was just cheep or crazy ,thanks for letting us know about this kind of thing.
I laugh in the cooking pat 🤣
i talked to an arab man before but he explained that most arab people do not except black women into their family.
Yes, but it is not forbidden in Islam. It is more related to culture and tradition. Families believe in the importance of building a family with similar values and beliefs to reduce the probability of culture clashes, and there are also various other reasons for their preference
@wynterxo Their ignorant loss. Not yours. Many Arab men and families are waking up to the idea of having an African wife or wife of Afro-descent. A man who is truly of the faith according to the Royal Torah should not have a problem marrying an African woman or woman of Afro- descent, if she is willing to keep the ways of the Heavenly Father through Yahusha Hamashiac and keep the Commandments and Statutes. There are a few Royal Hebrew men who did marry Hamitic African women who bore them offspring. The Falasha tribe of Ethiopia are descendants of King Solomon. That is a food for thought. I find it rather interesting that there are so much Arab practising Islamic men have families who reject them marrying an African woman when there are many African nations who practice Islam. Therefore must have the same belief. This shows it's a race and complexion or let's say colorism issue in regards to Islamic Ishmaelite Arabic men. They see dark brown/ebony skinned African woman as inferior and glorify European beauty standards in regards to the European woman being a more acceptable choice of wife in regards to an inter-ethnic marriage and family. The first commandment 'Love the Heavenly Father with all your heart,mind, soul and strength.' A righteous man who truly follows this commandment will love his virtuous wife regardless what coat she comes in. The truly Royal Hebrew family wins.Shalom.
The issue with not accepting black women is not unique to the Middle East. Asians, South Asians and Latinos have equal discrimination practices 🙃. Africans also have this issue: if you are from Senegal, you won't marry from Kenya. It's not religious, it's cultural and it's stupid.
Europeans tend to be the most accepting of other ethnicities. They've done all that soul searching 😂 and are ready to mingle, lol.
This being said, the "Middle East" encompasses North Africa, Iran and Turkic countries. This is a very, very wide spectrum of people and their attitudes towards interracial and intercultural marriage varies. For some, its really taboo primarily because they fear that there will be too much cultural mismatch. Middle easterners despise disrespect, and they fear that foreign brides don't understand their values and how they interact.
Sometimes, Middle Easterners don't marry each other. A Morrocan might hesitate to marry a Saudi. Go figure 🙈, so even amongst themselves, Middle Eastern people might prefer not too venture too far from what they know. Here is a generic rule:
Gulf states: very friendly people but have the highest challenge to marry out. Really, even to marry another ethnicity such as Europeans or other middle eastern people like a Turkish partner.
Sham states: super sweet people, slightly more open to diversity but still inclined to stick to their own. Although might consider other Arabs a lot easier.
North Africa: beautiful people, perhaps a little more inclined to diverse matrimony. Especially the lot from Belgium and France.
Turkish/Turkic: welcoming people. Highly inclined to intergrate across ethnic backgrounds. I am generalizing l, but my husband is Turkish and I am around this lot a lot 😂. Zero racism as far as I have experienced.
Iranians: never met one I didn't like ☺️
I'd just take it case by case. If you meet someone, just ask how his family feels about interacial marriage. Don't get offended if they're against it. It's really not personal. And it's a blessing to l ow right away so you don't waste time pursuing something that won't work.
This being said, there is nothing sweeter than middle Eastern in-laws, they are amazing. 😊Very welcoming and very warm. If you meet a man and his family is open, I say go for it. Your life will be enriched. They are very loving and loyal people. And you become a part of their pack.
If you meet a man and his family is closed to the idea, just move on in warmth and kindness. It's not fair to place a middle eastern man against his family because they are such an integral part of who he is. It's easier to move on and look elsewhere. It's also the right thing to do. 😊
Anyway, I typed a lot. Hope this helped
@@curious493 Many thanks for this informative response.
Congratulations on your marriage to your Turkish husband.
Yes sometimes it can be cultural differences also. Yes some ethnicities don't want to inter- marry with other ethnicities due to stereotypes, family traditions etc... The tribe plays a very significant role and factor.
Even people of Afro-Caribbean descent can have this issue regarding the islands they see as small islands. Their is even tension between Afro-Caribbeans and West Africans inter- mixing due to tribe, ethnicity and cultural differences. So it's not always 'Black and White. '
I do find Morrocans can be opened to inter-marriages as well as Turkish and Turkis Cypriots especially towards women of Afro-descent. An increasing amount of Greek and Greek/South Cypriot can be open to inter-marriages as well as Hispanic/Latinos. Many Greek and South/Greek Cypriots have Western Asian Arab/Arab North African/Middle Eastern ancestry even though many are oblivious to this.
Afro-Americans and Puerto Ricans mix a lot as well as Afro-Jamaicans and Cubans. Yes many European men are open to inter- mixed marriages especially with African women and women of Afro-descent. In London, UK there is a quite a few European men especially English men married to African women especially West African women. Additionally, an increasing amount of Indian and Pakistani men who would consider marrying or are even marrying women of African heritage or other Afro descent. Even though the families are not always so welcoming of this. But are becoming more accepting of this. I think the bad label 'Black is bad.' Is why some families don't approve of their sons marrying a so called 'black woman '. I think women of Afro-Caribbean descent particularly Jamaican heritage sometimes don't help when living up to the negative stereotype of being a 'Babymother' and having a good for nothing 'Babydaddy. ' it puts a bad label on the Afro-Caribbean community. No disrespect, most descent men from a respectable family is not going to want to pick up a ghetto, ratchet single mother who has baby daddy drama with a man who is ratchet and ghetto.
It all depends on the individual as well as the family. And where the man's heart really is, if he is genuine. A real man will not ever let his true love slip through his fingers. He will defend and fight for his wife regardless.
It's best to go where you are truly loved and appreciated. And be very importantly equally yoked of the same Faith. And whatever you do please The Heavenly Father through Yahusha Hamashiac not man, as this is where the true love is.
I'm still trying to figure out why my husband likes my cooking. My job has definitely became an issue because he wants to eat together and our work schedules are clashing every time his schedule changes.
Theres christian arabs too
Is there any hope for us older females lol
How do I attract a good middle eastern Muslim man I am only 40 year I can have children I travel alot to egypt I was born in America muslim all of my life.Can you give me some advice at 40 looking young and in very good health and wanting to have baby I do not follow American culture. 😢
Hey there, I would say that the easiest way to get married is to be open about it with the women in your circle, especially those in the Middle East. But since I know you are Muslim, my suggestion for you, and I believe it is the most effective one, is to seek guidance from God. Ask Him to provide what is best for you.
My iraqi friend told me that im cute....is he saying that because im younger than him or what 😭?
Wow then how come I met a Middle East guy and he said he wanted a long term relationship and said he liked me in a very special way but the first time I met him he wanted to have sex with me? Lol and only sex, nothing more. When I refused, he never contacted me.
Actions speak louder than words. You made the right choice.
I had no idea what I walked into with my Arab ex-husband. If I had known, I would have walked away early. His family controlled everything he did and thought. He changed as soon as we married and became controlling and distant. A divorce was the best choice.
A divorce sometimes is a viable solution.
LOOOLLLLLLL In Celtic and German cultures, we have had powerful queens, chiefs, druidesses, and female warriors. We had fierce women in the Resistance in WWII. We are not kitchen-slaves. Neither are Middle-Eastern women, for that matter. I doubt Zaha Hadid spent her time cooking masgouf 😂
I couldn't help but chuckle. You mentioned World War II. Who held the weapons and dug the tunnels? Who were the ones on the frontlines? It was men. Women served as nurses, both in hospitals and at home, as caregiving comes naturally to them. I believe that when situations go south, the modern understanding of gender roles naturally fades away. If you believe that making sandwiches for your babies and your man is a form of slavery, then explain to me how it's not slavery to dedicate your youth, efforts, and life to serve some corporation or organization that, at the end of the day, won't care about you, especially when they deem you dispensable and less valuable.
To me, women who care for their husbands and kids are the true queens. They are valued and appreciated by God and their family. In our society, you won't find children sending their elderly mothers to nursing homes. In other societies, it's very common, especially when they become annoying and useless. Our family bonds are different, and we find happiness in that distinction. And by the way, in the video, I was explaining how things work, not telling anyone to adapt or live by them. You can stick to your own beliefs. I wish you end up happy wherever you are. All the best!
@@Fuadtalks
I enjoyed your presentation and especially your seemingly sincere interest in explaining differences between the expectations of Arab men in your culture and that of western women and men.
Regarding the above response, you speak of men sacrificing their lives, during times of war, in defence of their country, while women remain at home. Firstly, I feel sad that you 'chuckled' at Clare Pellerin's contribution. For me this is disrespectful, and does you no credit.
My main point, however, is to your notion that men are willing to kill. My question is, "Is this sanctioning of the act of killing the same principle that allows a male to kill a his daughter for his perception of her dishonouring his family?"
Again, I appreciate your willingness to share your views.
"We are not kitchen-slaves. Neither are Middle-Eastern women, for that matter": thank you, from a middle eastern woman who married an American guy.
What is meaning 'habibi'the guy arab always say this to me...anyone can tell me what that 's mean
Habibi means my love - usually when addressing a man.
Habibti when addressing a woman.
Thank you
Are you from. Yemen 🇾🇪! Or Iraq 🇮🇶
Yemen.
This is the last thing i was expecting from the arabic world
Why????
Yo what if im from East Africa😂😂😢
Wow
Any red flags of kurdish men living in the uk?
Many men share common red flags. I'll be addressing some of them in future videos.
You need to make a whole video about cousin marriage. This bothers me a lot as a westerner. Birth defects and blood diseases. I know people are doing it slightly less but there’s a huge amount of cousin marriages going on and even first cousins. I feel like that is an abomination.
Same place kabib the wrestler is from
I thought i would have to become muslm if i were to marry a muslm man.
No the problem arises with the kids. They belong to the man and they have to be brought up Muslim
Hi any Arab guys here😂😂😂😂
yup, me
me too 21 y
@3:07
"And from a religious background this protects us from hooking up with the wrong people." This statement alone says it all: How discriminating, racist, antisemitic, and antisocial. He is basically saying that we don't all fall under one God, therefore are not worthy to be included as a people, and then attempt to bind and dominate the world with shariah law just like Japan tried their world domination through Bansai when they attacked the U.S. back at Pearl Harbor. How demeaning and insulting. NO THANKS!
You missed the point.
This protect us from the hook up culture all together.
He said " random people" not "wrong people" . You lied or you misunderstood.
And please relax, anger is not good for your health.
What tf you talking about? Discernment is very different from what you just described
"antisemitic" mate us arabs are semites ourselves 😂😂😂
Why do i see a bedouin dress though you are in a full western attire.
What are you talking about?
I'm not in a Western attire. I am in a bedouin attire.
Is it not visible to you? :)
Is this possible to bring back my Arab boyfriend after he blocked me from all the social media please home you notice 😢😢😭😭💔
I thought in Islam, having boyfriend/girlfriend which is equal to dating, is not allowed?
Oh date me now 🙈🥰
i've consulted this video before but now me and the guy are at an impasse so here i am.
i work at a gas station. he used to drop by regularly and pay in funny ways. he sought me out on a smoke break to say: "the guy inside told me to find you out here. i just wanna let you know, you seem kind." i gave him my number. a week later he tells me he's divorced. i think, /okay, i'll go back to being his cashier./ i do that and he does some goofy things during my transactions with other customers. we run out of what he likes and (i really regret this) i took to giving him his usual from other shops with a mash note. i'd heard thru the grapevine he wants to return to the middle east because he has nothing here. i wanted to be good enough, so i did stupid things like that. but, his family is there, what am i to them? i was starting to get calm around him, but what a nosy co-worker said bugged me. in the end, he said: "i just got divorced, remember? when i'm ready for a long-term relationship, i'll remember you. i promise." i haven't seen him since.
call it paranoia or feminine instinct, but i feel responsible. before he sought me out that evening, work was my life. it still is, so i worry about both losing him and pushing out a customer.
He has your number, so he might come back when he's ready and in a better place emotionally. I think it's good not to rush into another relationship right after a divorce; that shows he is wise. It could be that he is now into short-term fun, but your kindness made him decide not to play with you, since he said, 'when I'm ready for a long-term relationship, I'll remember you.' So, maybe his initial intention wasn't 'long-term.'
But anyways, what he did was not a bad thing at all. It's also possible that he admired you, and because of that, he made his approach without thinking about his recent divorce. This happens to men when they see a beautiful lady. You'd be in a rush going somewhere, and you see a beautiful lady, and you say to yourself, 'you know what, let me get her number first.' LOL
So yeah, don't be sorry about the situation; sometimes, life takes unexpected turns. If it's meant to be, he'll come back.