Zach, we share each others burdens to encourage each other to keep moving forward. Because the world brings us down. If we don’t share our struggles, not to complain but to show others our life isn’t perfect but we lean on HIM to get us thru. Paul did that all throughout his epistles. Keep on keeping on. Keep your eyes on Him. And keep sharing the love of Christ. Don’t allow the liar to get you down.
Manipulation is the biggest thing!!!! We went through a horrible ordeal that we're still struggling from but because so many have manipulated people we were brushed off when we went for 90% of the help we need. Another thing is we were told we were too honest. Through it all, though, we've taught our kids through action and word to always try to help when you can. They also have said they help people because they don't want them to feel like us. On the open to anything part, I used to drive semi and my s/o is an injured soldier. We made friends a year and a half ago with an amish family and spend a lot of time with them. I never thought we of all people would have friends like them, but they're such blessings to us!!!!
Dear Zach; I believe that one of the reasons people are becoming more selfish is fear. We live in times in which no matter where you turn on the internet you find: 'PREPARE! PREPARE! PREPARE!!!" The message of stockpiling, preparing and protecting YOUR FAMILY from the "certain food shortages ahead" have put many people into a mindset of "Charity begins at home... My family first- you have to prepare for your OWN family... We can't afford to help YOU, we have to take care of OURSELVES". I see this more and more. I so rarely see the forgotten generosity and spirit of sharing, and helping one another because it is the Christian thing to do. And while it IS true that we must look to our own families and protect and care for them, it is also true that in times of trouble we need ONE ANOTHER as neighbors, friends, community and "extended family." Sometimes, looking at the world as a whole, it seems like we all find a rabbit hole, dig in, jump in and put up a sign that says "NO TRESSPASSING!" So many "rabbit holes." So little love...
Wow. This hit hard with my morning coffee lol thanks buddy lol. All seriousness the nastiness to each other caused me to have to reset. 3 months off work because the people were awful (on the phone)....took a huge pay cut so I don't have to talk to people. The world lost its joy, and try to steal mine in the process. I'm glad more people are becoming self aware of any change they feel needs to be made. Maybe we are healing finally! Blessings 🙌 🙌
I found myself in that rabbit hole of distrust, isolation and "every one is out to get you" mentality. It lead to depression, loneliness and anxiety. This is not what God wants for us, so with prayer and constant Holy Spirit guidance I set out to find what He wants for us. After we were all given the all clear from the "powers" that be post 2020 panic, I decided I wanted more for me, too, and to overcome my mental barriers. I enrolled in the local Master Gardener curriculum, graduated and am now actively serving to educate people in their gardening journey. I've made new friends. Found new purpose and am glad that I took that step in faith and put it into action.
So true Zach! Misery does ❤ company. On the other side of it if you pull away from that manipulating relationship, you become the bad guy since your nolonger accepting the manipulation and being selfish for doing so. And ppl become more manipulated because they don't want to be selfish.. it's a horrible circle!! But sometimes it's best for your own well-being to close that door and not look back... idc if your family, friend or neighbor sometimes ya have to walk away forever! That way u don't end up feeling like u explained of presuming the worst when meeting new ppl n having other reactions even with ppl you knw... to me it's not being selfish protecting your own self wellness!! Love you n jen!! Great topic!! ❤
This is an interesting and timely talk. We are where we are, when we focus on ourselves. Yet for those of us who seek godly wisdom and knowledge in daily life, we are called to actions above our common nature. One thing you have recognized is that you are having routine negative thoughts (example car pulling up to the store...what do they want?) You will have to daily work to seek constructing a new thought - example "I can help and I can support this wonderful lifestyle God has blessed me with." Be encouraged that you are so very blessed and you will continue the journey to establish friendly kindness. This channel that you have WARMLY invited us to - is filled with real people that are kind and generous seekers. I live too far away to visit you. But my heart is warmed to you. Joann
I still remember the first day I was asked to watch your video from youtube and how you and your wife smiled. Thats when I became a youtube family. I hope your message will inspire so many people to change. I learned vanity, selfishness, and corruption. I also learned God forgives. We just need to learn to change. Politics in general needs to change badly. So hard to do what you suggest because people will run us over. This happens so many times to me. I get harrassed all the time since moving to a urban city and it got so bad I had a police officer suggest to get a peace order. Minipulation from others makes us down. I can only pray for those that are awful to others. To make the good ones stronger with strength. I pray for you all in that lawsuit you said you have. Again we don't know all the details of what is going on because its not really our business but I hope it is over soon for you all and Zach's smile again with peace. Love you all.
Zach u r so Right. I Love Listening to u and ur Truth. What a Blessing u r to Anyone who Will Willingly become a Better more Open Individual. I Feel the same when 2020 arrived. I know exactly what u r talking about because U listened and saw what we became. It was and still is so ugly. It was like to me a Dagger that was Driven through our Hearts and Souls. Also it Labeled us Weak, Frightened Individuals that the Detachment became so Strong of a Reality. I Called it that then and Moreso now. I have seen and Stuffed being Bitter, Bitten and Blue for Something Greater than what one can Imaging. I so Wish to get back my Free Mentality that I Once had, but Most Days I am Saddened to see the Damage to Myself and Other that I am Not sure Who they have became along with myself. Thank u so much Zack. I Appreciate u do much for speaking on subjects that Others do Not Dare to. Love ur Family and ur Wisdom. Keep up the Great Work, and Keep Pushing! Thank u.
I also have been in frustration and recently declared, "Why don't we all start to work together?!" Conflict is part of life, it's how you manage it? Open flexible mindset helps, at least in my internal change. Hopefully the external will follow suit?
Am I the only person that loves to talk to strangers 🤣? Not sure why people put so much energy into worrying about what others think of them. My philosophy, be the best person you can be everyday. Help others whenever you can. And don't waste your energy worrying about what other people think of you. Stop holding your tongue because you might offend someone. Be you 💜💙💚 you are valuable 🧡💛❤️
@@StiversHomestead I am blessed and grateful. I'm pretty sure most people wish I wouldn't talk to them 😂 But old habits are hard to break, been talking to strangers for 68+ years. Just be you, it keeps me coming back to see/hear you. God bless
I think that lack of TRUST is a big issue. It is hard to trust anyone these days when so many are out to use you or want something from you. Also talking to neighbors etc. often leads to gossip about you. Nobody seems to honor conversations anymore.
I also believe people have become so protective of themselves since Covid, because of the mask mandate. The ones that believed in it had such disdain for those that didn’t.
@maureensmith9923there are Bipolar groups you could join. I’m not Bipolar, but I prefer to just stick with my immediate family, especially when it comes to women! There’s so many women that are gossipers & backstabbers! I just prefer to have my boyfriend as my friend!
Good evening everyone, we moved to a small property about 10 years ago. We only have a couple of neighbors that even speak at all, it's been so very hard for me,, I am a very neighborly kind of person, cook, like bbg, make cakes pie etc and share it. It has been eye opening for me. I love to make things drop it off enjoy a cup of coffee, tea just share,enjoy our neighbors!!! I am praying it will change!! Many blessings to you all!!!!
I understand everything you sd. It is so sad the way our world is today. I too have done and thought just like you! Ive been trying to do better about trying to open up to people but man...its hard. Its a me me me world. I could feel your heartache and it made me sad. Y'all are such down to earth people and seem so kind. I understand the going thru bad time after bad time right now...boy do I ! I keep praying and try hard to keep my eyes and my heart with God. It says in the bible these days were coming but fear not he is with us..always. I am praying for you and your family. I so enjoy watching your post. Love when yall are cooking up stuff and talking about you wares for sale. I just got my order of teas in today. Excited to try the campfire ...smells wonderful! God bless you and hang in there..for this too shall pass
Just have to say. My hubby and i have gone through 3 1/2 years of hell. But i dont take it out on anyone else im around. I try to be cheerful and make people happy and laugh. I know the world is sucky right now. I work at a local convenience store. And i interact with hundreds of people a week. I work 5 days a week and people always tell me that its so nice to come in and see a smiling face and workers having fun with each other. And we do! My job has helped me so much at getting through all the bad that has happened in my life. And my customers have helped me as much as i hope i have helped them. This year i was diagnosed with breast cancer and had a double mastectomy in march. And i was only off work for 3 weeks and when i came back. My customers were so supportive. Sure, you can find selfish people anywhere. But if you give out happiness. You will receive happiness in return. And the biggest thing that has gotten me and my hubby through the past almost 4 years is our faith in God and putting out happiness.
We moved to our homestead of 5 acres and a neighbor was extremely friendly then used what she knew against us. Reported us to the county for not having septic even though many people in the county don't. They allow waterless toilets but require septic if you have a kitchen sink. We were not aware. But she reported us and were then required to have septic. Cost us $10,000. She also told us wrong on where the property lines were. Then after having water lines run she flipped out about us "coming in on her." She made a huge deal about it like we did it on purpose. Tried to get the city on her side about us having to use a different water meter that would require us to run more lines and cost us more money. We had to pay for a survey to see where the property lines were since we could no longer trust her. We had to pay to have part of the lines moved. We've also dealt with handyman companies taking advantage and not doing what they say. Someone stole one of our trash cans that was out by the road. Someone's dogs killed our chickens and even though the town has a leash law the cop said nothing could be done. We have felt defeated. There is no trust. It really hurts the heart.
please change your mindset from, "what do they want?" to "what can i offer?" God sends you people, and maybe not everyone, but, maybe, just maybe, these people come to you for guidance and relationship or even just some reassurance of a lifestyle? Clearly, you all have something to offer! keep doing a great job! and CONTINUE WITH THE BRUTAL HONESTY! THERE IS A PLACE FOR IT AND YOU HAVE FOUND YOUR GROUND!! Conviction isnt easy especially on a huge platform! but, do what you are led to do! and own it as u have been! you guys are a huge encouragement to me !!! keep on your very obviously " led path" !!
Three years of full onslaught psychological warfare and polarization/demonization of ANYONE who dared say slow down, I need details and research has shown me how few deserved the trust I once had for them.
We need to get back to, "what would Jesus do?" And understanding that God brings people into our lives for a reason and a purpose, either for them, or for you, or for some circumstance in the future. We should be open to who and what God brings to us. I know you and Jen have a heart for that, so just keep your heart in it.
I rarely comment on most of my favorite homesteading channels these days. I have unsubbed to several because of thier negativity and doom and gloom. The one thing that I see most in common with all of the homesteading channels, and the homesteading community is the prevelant use of the words, "they, them, we, ours, and us", often used in conjuction with each other. I hear a lot of talk about what They want Us to do, or feel, or react to. I even heard it on your video today. I love your family, Zach. I love your channel, but sometimes even your channel has the They/Them/We/Us conflict going on. I don't say this as a way to put you down, or to be a "hater", as people call it, just an observation from little old me. I love the homesteading ideals of being sustainable, making something out of nothing, but sometimes I really have a hard time with the homesteading community's outlook on the world. When I hear too much of the negativity, I shut down. I turn it off and it makes me not want to turn it back on again. I know that I am not alone in how I feel, but sometimes I feel alone. I am not one of these people that think the world is going to hell in a handbasket. We have our problems, to be sure, but we also have so much beauty, so much abundance, so much to be grateful for, and lots of people just want to see the bad stuff. They want to run about wringing their hands and shouting, "The sky is falling! The sky is falling!" After a while, when the sky has not fallen and is still in its rightful place, all that hand wringing and shouting sure does wear on a person. I love that you have recognized that, and that you are planning on doing something about it. I hope others do, too. We are not a bunch of They/Them versus We/Us. WE are all of us. Period. We need to start acting like it.
The devil pushes SELF... he tells people to be about self, the god of self, is selfishness... Society is FULL of selfish people. God's children are not selfish (they shouldn't be). Love your neighbor as yourself.
I'm very much staying to myself it took a long time to realize this world is full of good and many bad ones.Put your trust in God you shall overcome all obstacles ❤🙏
Such a great video Zach thank you for sharing with us, just making one little adjustment to how we think and what we do is a big start. God bless you and your family🙏🏻❤️
It is like the rooster that lives across the street from me in the city it bothered me ,him making noise at 5 am but i look at as a blessing im alive another day to hear him and he doing his job , it about Perspective
Being protective and being safer and holding ourselves back so that we're more observant of what's going on and not just falling for everything that comes our direction is not being selfish that's being protective it's using the sense that God gave us to take care of ourselves and our family
I've noticed with people they're more defensive too. Example: asked a canning question, so I showed them my canning book & read instructions. They got defensive, "my mom didn't do it that way"..
Then get mom's cookbook and if she is her on earth with you talk to your mom. Each has their own way to can or was taught differently. Don't be critical in the way another cans, bake,cook or sew. That person used a canning book, so did I when I started making jams or jellies or I asked my aunt who has canned all their the food for her family for years. She would tell me and I wrote the recipe down. Be thankful when someone answers your question, tell them thank you and try the recipe. You might just love it better than moms..
Our mindset seems to be controlled by how we perceive our leaders. It’s hard to even think about lifting us up when this country is rapidly heading down a black hole. I have been near tears lately. We need a savior - someone to bring us back. I remember when Reagan became President, it was like a collective sigh of relief and a huge mental turnaround. And there WAS a turnaround. So much is coming to light,but how much of the general population is even aware. I surely do try Zach, but man, it is hard to not show depression.
2 Timothy 3:1-17, NLT. 1You should know this, that in the last days there will be very difficult times. 2For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful. Let’s focus on love and truth! Good word. Thanks.
I've lost friends, family.. (last 3 yrs or so)..because I always put others before myself..and i stopped this. I felt that they just expected me to go out of my way to help them.. physically & financial..and they'd always have an excuse..I finally put my foot down (June)..and I've automatically became the enemy. Oh well...
I am so guilty of staying to myself and not trying to talk to many others. At first it was a way of protecting myself. And now it's so hard to open back up. But slowly but surely! We just joined a homeschooling co-op near us where the kids have outings regularly, whole family get togethers monthly, moms night outs, dads breakfasts, and more! I think it will be good to get us mingling with more people! ❤
We have all closed ourselves off. I watched my outgoing son at the peak of the pandemic become a mouse and secluding himself from people. He absolutely hates interacting with anyone. He was in sports before and now I cannot get him to get out of the house more than school. My 11 year old struggles to connect with his peers. I have listened to him talk with other kids his age and they all talk horribly to each other. They have no etiquette. They are rude and talk over each other. I try and talk to him and he says they are like that. It's sad. The lock downs have had a much stronger effect on a generation than I think anyone has yet to understand. Where we thought it was a treat to go do something as a family as kids many kids hate leaving their houses.
The Bible tells it all ... End Days Men's hearts wax COLD. I am literally in a SPIRITUAL BATTLE with a JEZEBEL SPIRIT... FULL ARMOR👸🏻🗡️...NO JOKE 💯. We must EXAMINE ourselves , seek HIM in FEAR & TREMBLING for our OWN SOUL SALVATION 🤴🏿🗡️💕🕊️🌿🕯️
Thank you for this reminder, I will admit that I have become very selfish in my interactions with others and I will strive to be more open to others. We live in a very cold world right now and it will only change if we first change ourselves! God Bless!
You are such a honest speaker. When I watch your videos I know you’re alone in the barn but I feel like you’re talking to me. Thank you for caring about us. Thank you for showing me how to do things that I never thought I could do. I love your channel. I love your family. God bless you all.
Watch the old movie "Pollyanna" with your family. You will be GLAD you did. I love this movie and I like to see the good in everything. Ever an optimist, my son even calls me Pollyanna.
2 Timothy 3:2 For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful. They will consider nothing sacred.
I appreciate your honesty. It is so hard to trust people these days with the 24/7, never-ending cycle of bad news and stories of people taking advantage of and/or hurting others. It's enough to get anyone down. I will, however, disagree with your assessment that we're in a depression. The last depression had an almost 25% unemployment rate. We're not even close to anything like that (just the opposite, in fact) and there are jobs everywhere if you're willing and able to work.
I can pretty much tell who I can have a conversation with and sadly but joyfully its the older generation. Meaning, sadly because most of the younger generation has nothing to say to us older ones and joyfully, at my young age of 63, I have some of the most inspirational and heartwarming interactions with ones older than me. This younger generation is really missing out, meeting and talking to the people who worked and fought to keep us a free nation.
A lot of this is chalked up too social media. These young people today have no ambitions. No one wants to work for their living. But for some reason people want everything for nothing. They borrow and take and there's no give when they do take. People these days just stay in their own worlds and I think after 2020 we have found out we don't need others. If we can make it on our own. then others are not necessary . And that mind set is killing the friends and family plan. We are social creatures and we need the interaction of others. However with the way things are going in day and age, most people wont even eat at the supper table anymore as a family. Sunday Dinners are a thing of the past for most . Values are less thenit was20 years ago. How it changed no one knows but it has. I don't think its being selfish i think its just being in our devices and not a group anymore.
I don't think it's just being in our devices. I think it's work schedules, too. Overnights and week-ends, holidays, both parents working just to pay bills and buy food. They aren't even guaranteed to have the same schedule. Or maybe they can't afford babysitters so they purposely have different schedules. My son and I worked different hours and very seldom ate any meals together, so I got rid of the dining room table. Our hours now allow us to have dinner together almost every night, which we eat at the breakfast bar/island that I replaced our table with. Most of the other things that you brought up I totally agree with. Thank God I have a job that I truly love, co-workers I can count on and tons of social interactions. Who knew that a library is the place to have awesome conversations with strangers! I was never a social butterfly before, but now I'm loving it! All it takes is a sincere smile and some kind words to make some one feel special.
Being guarded [s still Christan . Being protective is still Christan. Being aware is still Christann. Trust in God is Great, a stranger not so much. May God Bless You All.
I think more of us have become selfish because of recent events that have forced us all to take care of ourselves before anything else. Also, in order to try and make connections with others, we talk about ourselves and what’s going on with us in order to see if others can relate. And if they can’t relate, then we’re not going to waste our time with them because life is too short.
Zach, before we can open up, the evil must be exposed or it will not go away. For every action, the is a reaction and it just keeps festering. The root of the negative has to be exposed or things won’t change. Tough love works. It pains me to say that but it’s true.
Thank you for this barn chat. I am going through some major changes in my life. I am so guilty of just keeping to my self. I never used to be like this . Now that I am older I can see how the world is changing and it really scares me. You are right about changing your mindset. I promise to be aware of others and their needs. Change starts within ourselves and our families, and communities. Knowing that
I definitely have pulled away from relationships in the last few years. My reason is that people are cruel. We left our church during the lockdowns. We let our pastor know why and he didn't seem to care. No one reached out to us. Actually, they spread rumors about our family instead. It happens everywhere we go. People want to talk about you and your kids and smile in your face. I could tell you so many stories. I am a Christian, praise the Lord, but if I wasn't most Christians would keep me from knowing the Lord. I know that no one is perfect, especially me. I just feel like Christians have become more judgemental, clickish, selfish, and gossip more than ever these days. Our kids are suffering because of the parent's behavior. Just my two cents. Have a blessed day ❤
Please know that God loves you and he has a reason why he has separated you and your family from those wolves in sheep clothing 🙏 I read my Bible at home and watch Pastor David Lynn a street preacher , and Bishop Patrick Wooden from NC . Went through almost similar experience.
I believe the selfishness comes more due to technology and the lock downs....if you watch even when there is a room full of people there isn't a conversation going on, everyone has their face in a phone. I believe there is just such a disconnect from each other, self becomes our priority.
You guys are an American success story. I get that the story is ongoing, but you both are an example of what a family can achieve. I’ve been with my husband since I was 13 yrs old. We had five children, and lost one. We overcame infidelity and became closer than before. Our only daughter was severely handicapped physically and mentally. We took care of her every need for 15 yrs. Our family was chewed up and spit out. I’ve been following you guys for a few yrs. The way you both look at one another, it’s more than loving, it’s a knowing. I have that with my husband. It’s rare and precious. Keep doing what you’re doing.
I think internet & instant gratification is part of the problem. Not work towards your goalls. Other day i try to do a complete random act of kindness. I had 2 dz eggs I tried to give away. I had to approach 5 different people to get them gone. Most thought I wanted something from them. All i wanted was to see there smiles. One couple was counting out change to pay for there stuff. Flat out refused to give me time. Sad
Since C-19 and all the lockdowns, distancing, etc that we allowed ourselves to be subjected to…speaking on behalf of myself ONLY…as a senior I learned to climb into my protective cocoon where I somehow felt safe with the Lord’s help. Three years into this craziness and I am still struggling to climb back out and let people near again. It no longer feels safe to me given all the societal changes. My ‘trust’ of others is gone. I know I can’t be the only one that feels this way.
I know exactly how you feel, as I'm a senior in an urban setting. I know my neighbors but am not really close to any. I have family nearby, but try not to intrude on their family time, unless invited. My garden is my sanctuary.
Man, I understand. There's times I almost welcome the thought of another lockdown so I can just stay at my home in the country, piddle around and not have to deal with people. I was not that way before 2020.
My husband and I stayed isolated way before C ever showed up. That's how we are. We like being by ourselves, don't like being around other people. We are quite happy and will continue this way.
Three years of full onslaught psychological warfare and polarization/demonization of ANYONE who dared say slow down, I need details and research has shown me how few deserved the trust I once had for them.
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I almost feel like having constant access to news, social media, etc has made me view the world differently. I have a negative mindset first and have to talk myself out of the negativity.
I’ve been watching you and jen since way before you moved. I’ve helped people in the past but instead of being grateful and thankful they start expecting it whenever they want something. All I hear is they’re coming to my house regardless of anything happening just because I try to do my best. Everyone jumps to conclusions at points in there lives but on the other end of the stickler the people commenting shows different points of view so you know your not the only one going through it. I’m proud to consider you all my TH-cam people. Keep up the great work. I absolutely love the barn chats. Love from Kansas. God bless
Ooooo. Hittin us with some real talk. The unintentional negativity is a struggle. Being honest about negative experiences is important. Relating is important. People forgetting to take the conversation to the next level and talk about solutions, or at least the silver lining of learning from bad experiences and how we can turn them into something positive are where most of us fail. Don't end a conversation on the sad note, carry it to the next level and finish with something positive.
Jesus said that the world did not love Him so he warned that the world will not love his followers. So as a believer I remember this wise advice from my King Jesus. I have removed the expectation of fitting in with the world. Find contentment with other believers and your family. This world is so evil now. Believers do not fit in. Wait for Jesus to come and get us all.
I'll tell you this. I'm NOT a BIG FAN OF ANY CHURCH and don't go to them, but I LOVE THE PPL in them and even tho I'm the outsider in this community and not a part of the religion which almost everyone I know around her is. I have made a point to GIVE to my community putting out at the front church doors 40+ Zucchinis and SHARE my BOUNTY with them. Electro Culture HAS WORKED FOR US BIG TIME and I'm all about sharing organic foods and SEEDS with everyone. My family came here to this homestead 3 yrs ago and we are in building mode even tho my husband is gone 5 days a week trucking but I will ALWAYS find time to help others even if it's giving them a hand with Foods in the TIME OF NEED we are in.I have MEGA BIG Onions and there is NO way I could ever keep them all or freeze dry or even dehydrate them so that's my next harvest community give. The sign always is outside the door of the church saying FREE TO OUR COMMUNITY. So that others that pass the church can also have the foods. I still can't believe how much we have been blessed with. I am learning seed saving super fast now this is another one I can help our community with. By the way these ppl have blessed me and when I came here they came to my house with a basket of goods foods homemade bread cookies hand made washcloths a few hand towels and EVEN A GIFT CARD 50 dollars. WHERE IN THE WORLD have THESE PPL COME FROM. I know I know GOD's ppl. RIGHT! I just never met any community like this and THEY DON'T EXPECT me to become there religion. So I give and give I will keep doing. I WISH I could meet you are your wife and kids some day. Such a beautiful family great SOUL you have Spilling to us and helping us CRITICALLY THINK. We all need this. If everyone had this kinda community around them I think the world would be ever so different. I pray this is our path.
I try seeing every person I meet for the unique person they are. I don’t trust that they will behave as “expected”, but I trust that I will. Honestly, every person has something they bring good into the world, even the worst of us. You don’t have to approve of them entirely to respect them. It also helps me to realize not everyone is taught how to be respectful of others & that we ourselves are going to fail the expectations of others at some point too… so how do we communicate? Be the change you want to see. ✌️💗
Wow, Zach - that was gutsy to bare your truthful reaction to visitors to your store! But you are so right! As a society, I think we react with thoughts like that - what do they want, or even what do they want now, or this time? Or I don't have time for this. I am guilty of not answering my front door, or answering a text, etc. When I grew up, we visited family and friends multiple times a week, we knew what was going on in our neighborhoods, and we supported each other. Not so now. We used to care about each other on a more personal level. You are right, we need to get back to emulating Messiah. In some cases, we are the only Jesus, people will see in their lives and we need to realize that our reactions to those around us can either encourage them, or send them farther down the drain of life, without hope and full of despair. Thank you for using your platform to bring this to our attention and make us all more aware of our selfishness and pride. God bless you and your family ❤️
I hear what you're saying, trust is a big issue and it is hard to welcome people onto your place, when you had someone violate your place. I would not be as trusting of people if someone stole my goats. I can see how keeping positive is a great goal, but negative things happening to us can make us respond negatively. I hope you find that balance of trust vs being cautious. It is a hard balance to keep and I have not found it myself, still working on it. Thanks for sharing such deep personal thoughts.
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Zach, we share each others burdens to encourage each other to keep moving forward. Because the world brings us down. If we don’t share our struggles, not to complain but to show others our life isn’t perfect but we lean on HIM to get us thru. Paul did that all throughout his epistles. Keep on keeping on. Keep your eyes on Him. And keep sharing the love of Christ. Don’t allow the liar to get you down.
Manipulation is the biggest thing!!!! We went through a horrible ordeal that we're still struggling from but because so many have manipulated people we were brushed off when we went for 90% of the help we need. Another thing is we were told we were too honest. Through it all, though, we've taught our kids through action and word to always try to help when you can. They also have said they help people because they don't want them to feel like us. On the open to anything part, I used to drive semi and my s/o is an injured soldier. We made friends a year and a half ago with an amish family and spend a lot of time with them. I never thought we of all people would have friends like them, but they're such blessings to us!!!!
Great message! Thank you!❤
Love the Positive chat! Peace love and positivity!
Dear Zach; I believe that one of the reasons people are becoming more selfish is fear. We live in times in which no matter where you turn on the internet you find: 'PREPARE! PREPARE! PREPARE!!!" The message of stockpiling, preparing and protecting YOUR FAMILY from the "certain food shortages ahead" have put many people into a mindset of "Charity begins at home... My family first- you have to prepare for your OWN family... We can't afford to help YOU, we have to take care of OURSELVES". I see this more and more. I so rarely see the forgotten generosity and spirit of sharing, and helping one another because it is the Christian thing to do. And while it IS true that we must look to our own families and protect and care for them, it is also true that in times of trouble we need ONE ANOTHER as neighbors, friends, community and "extended family." Sometimes, looking at the world as a whole, it seems like we all find a rabbit hole, dig in, jump in and put up a sign that says "NO TRESSPASSING!" So many "rabbit holes." So little love...
I love that your rooster answers you every time you say Hello!
Oh my goodness!! This is my life! Thank you so much!
Wow. This hit hard with my morning coffee lol thanks buddy lol. All seriousness the nastiness to each other caused me to have to reset. 3 months off work because the people were awful (on the phone)....took a huge pay cut so I don't have to talk to people. The world lost its joy, and try to steal mine in the process.
I'm glad more people are becoming self aware of any change they feel needs to be made. Maybe we are healing finally! Blessings 🙌 🙌
I found myself in that rabbit hole of distrust, isolation and "every one is out to get you" mentality. It lead to depression, loneliness and anxiety. This is not what God wants for us, so with prayer and constant Holy Spirit guidance I set out to find what He wants for us.
After we were all given the all clear from the "powers" that be post 2020 panic, I decided I wanted more for me, too, and to overcome my mental barriers. I enrolled in the local Master Gardener curriculum, graduated and am now actively serving to educate people in their gardening journey. I've made new friends. Found new purpose and am glad that I took that step in faith and put it into action.
So true Zach! Misery does ❤ company. On the other side of it if you pull away from that manipulating relationship, you become the bad guy since your nolonger accepting the manipulation and being selfish for doing so. And ppl become more manipulated because they don't want to be selfish.. it's a horrible circle!! But sometimes it's best for your own well-being to close that door and not look back... idc if your family, friend or neighbor sometimes ya have to walk away forever! That way u don't end up feeling like u explained of presuming the worst when meeting new ppl n having other reactions even with ppl you knw... to me it's not being selfish protecting your own self wellness!! Love you n jen!! Great topic!! ❤
Such a great topic… and so right! I’m gonna start now… with making a simple phone call…. And making it positive! Thanks!
This is an interesting and timely talk. We are where we are, when we focus on ourselves. Yet for those of us who seek godly wisdom and knowledge in daily life, we are called to actions above our common nature. One thing you have recognized is that you are having routine negative thoughts (example car pulling up to the store...what do they want?) You will have to daily work to seek constructing a new thought - example "I can help and I can support this wonderful lifestyle God has blessed me with."
Be encouraged that you are so very blessed and you will continue the journey to establish friendly kindness. This channel that you have WARMLY invited us to - is filled with real people that are kind and generous seekers. I live too far away to visit you. But my heart is warmed to you. Joann
I still remember the first day I was asked to watch your video from youtube and how you and your wife smiled. Thats when I became a youtube family. I hope your message will inspire so many people to change. I learned vanity, selfishness, and corruption. I also learned God forgives. We just need to learn to change. Politics in general needs to change badly. So hard to do what you suggest because people will run us over. This happens so many times to me. I get harrassed all the time since moving to a urban city and it got so bad I had a police officer suggest to get a peace order. Minipulation from others makes us down. I can only pray for those that are awful to others. To make the good ones stronger with strength. I pray for you all in that lawsuit you said you have. Again we don't know all the details of what is going on because its not really our business but I hope it is over soon for you all and Zach's smile again with peace. Love you all.
Zach u r so Right. I Love Listening to u and ur Truth. What a Blessing u r to Anyone who Will Willingly become a Better more Open Individual. I Feel the same when 2020 arrived. I know exactly what u r talking about because U listened and saw what we became. It was and still is so ugly. It was like to me a Dagger that was Driven through our Hearts and Souls. Also it Labeled us Weak, Frightened Individuals that the Detachment became so Strong of a Reality. I Called it that then and Moreso now. I have seen and Stuffed being Bitter, Bitten and Blue for Something Greater than what one can Imaging. I so Wish to get back my Free Mentality that I Once had, but Most Days I am Saddened to see the Damage to Myself and Other that I am Not sure Who they have became along with myself. Thank u so much Zack. I Appreciate u do much for speaking on subjects that Others do Not Dare to. Love ur Family and ur Wisdom. Keep up the Great Work, and Keep Pushing! Thank u.
Very good point!!
Luv u guys! Thank you for this subject❤
I also have been in frustration and recently declared, "Why don't we all start to work together?!" Conflict is part of life, it's how you manage it? Open flexible mindset helps, at least in my internal change. Hopefully the external will follow suit?
Love you guys!
My prayer is to visit your store and beautiful countryside someday.
Keep up spreading the message and God bless you all.
Great advice and thoughts Zac.
So love your sweet honesty
Am I the only person that loves to talk to strangers 🤣?
Not sure why people put so much energy into worrying about what others think of them. My philosophy, be the best person you can be everyday. Help others whenever you can. And don't waste your energy worrying about what other people think of you.
Stop holding your tongue because you might offend someone. Be you 💜💙💚 you are valuable 🧡💛❤️
Kudos to you for keeping it up. Wish it was that easy for all of us. Be thankful for your gift and know it’s not that way for most of us
@@StiversHomestead I am blessed and grateful. I'm pretty sure most people wish I wouldn't talk to them 😂
But old habits are hard to break, been talking to strangers for 68+ years.
Just be you, it keeps me coming back to see/hear you. God bless
Awesome message
Such a beautiful sight for you during barn chat.💕
I think that lack of TRUST is a big issue. It is hard to trust anyone these days when so many are out to use you or want something from you. Also talking to neighbors etc. often leads to gossip about you. Nobody seems to honor conversations anymore.
I'm sorry to hear that is your experience in life. I hope you find trustworthy friends
I also believe people have become so protective of themselves since Covid, because of the mask mandate. The ones that believed in it had such disdain for those that didn’t.
@maureensmith9923there are Bipolar groups you could join. I’m not Bipolar, but I prefer to just stick with my immediate family, especially when it comes to women! There’s so many women that are gossipers & backstabbers! I just prefer to have my boyfriend as my friend!
Thanks for keeping it real!
Oh that’s a gorgeous view!!! So peaceful. Unfortunately I live in town. I miss living in the country.
Good evening everyone, we moved to a small property about 10 years ago. We only have a couple of neighbors that even speak at all, it's been so very hard for me,, I am a very neighborly kind of person, cook, like bbg, make cakes pie etc and share it. It has been eye opening for me. I love to make things drop it off enjoy a cup of coffee, tea just share,enjoy our neighbors!!! I am praying it will change!! Many blessings to you all!!!!
I think it is the depression, and limited resources. We went from having abundance to more scarcity.
I understand everything you sd. It is so sad the way our world is today. I too have done and thought just like you! Ive been trying to do better about trying to open up to people but man...its hard. Its a me me me world. I could feel your heartache and it made me sad. Y'all are such down to earth people and seem so kind. I understand the going thru bad time after bad time right now...boy do I ! I keep praying and try hard to keep my eyes and my heart with God. It says in the bible these days were coming but fear not he is with us..always. I am praying for you and your family. I so enjoy watching your post. Love when yall are cooking up stuff and talking about you wares for sale. I just got my order of teas in today. Excited to try the campfire ...smells wonderful! God bless you and hang in there..for this too shall pass
Just have to say. My hubby and i have gone through 3 1/2 years of hell. But i dont take it out on anyone else im around. I try to be cheerful and make people happy and laugh. I know the world is sucky right now. I work at a local convenience store. And i interact with hundreds of people a week. I work 5 days a week and people always tell me that its so nice to come in and see a smiling face and workers having fun with each other. And we do! My job has helped me so much at getting through all the bad that has happened in my life. And my customers have helped me as much as i hope i have helped them. This year i was diagnosed with breast cancer and had a double mastectomy in march. And i was only off work for 3 weeks and when i came back. My customers were so supportive. Sure, you can find selfish people anywhere. But if you give out happiness. You will receive happiness in return. And the biggest thing that has gotten me and my hubby through the past almost 4 years is our faith in God and putting out happiness.
Starting a daily thankful journal has helped me tremendously. Even in the midst of life’s challenges, we have so much to be thankful for.
Wonderful counsel, Kathy. I started one and OH MY--such goodness is around us.
Bring God back into our society. We have taken Him out of everything. We are reaping just what we asked for.
People are like crabs in the bucket once you get to the top they try to pull you back down
We moved to our homestead of 5 acres and a neighbor was extremely friendly then used what she knew against us. Reported us to the county for not having septic even though many people in the county don't. They allow waterless toilets but require septic if you have a kitchen sink. We were not aware. But she reported us and were then required to have septic. Cost us $10,000. She also told us wrong on where the property lines were. Then after having water lines run she flipped out about us "coming in on her." She made a huge deal about it like we did it on purpose. Tried to get the city on her side about us having to use a different water meter that would require us to run more lines and cost us more money. We had to pay for a survey to see where the property lines were since we could no longer trust her. We had to pay to have part of the lines moved. We've also dealt with handyman companies taking advantage and not doing what they say. Someone stole one of our trash cans that was out by the road. Someone's dogs killed our chickens and even though the town has a leash law the cop said nothing could be done. We have felt defeated. There is no trust. It really hurts the heart.
please change your mindset from, "what do they want?" to "what can i offer?"
God sends you people, and maybe not everyone, but, maybe, just maybe, these people come to you for guidance and relationship or even just some reassurance of a lifestyle? Clearly, you all have something to offer! keep doing a great job! and CONTINUE WITH THE BRUTAL HONESTY!
THERE IS A PLACE FOR IT AND YOU HAVE FOUND YOUR GROUND!!
Conviction isnt easy especially on a huge platform!
but, do what you are led to do! and own it as u have been!
you guys are a huge encouragement to me !!! keep on your very obviously " led path" !!
Couldn’t agree more!!🙌🏼
Three years of full onslaught psychological warfare and polarization/demonization of ANYONE who dared say slow down, I need details and research has shown me how few deserved the trust I once had for them.
Love you Stiver's 🌷🌺💐🌹 God bless and much love from Tennessee 🙏❤️
We need to get back to, "what would Jesus do?" And understanding that God brings people into our lives for a reason and a purpose, either for them, or for you, or for some circumstance in the future. We should be open to who and what God brings to us. I know you and Jen have a heart for that, so just keep your heart in it.
YES! How can I help, PERFECT!
I rarely comment on most of my favorite homesteading channels these days. I have unsubbed to several because of thier negativity and doom and gloom. The one thing that I see most in common with all of the homesteading channels, and the homesteading community is the prevelant use of the words, "they, them, we, ours, and us", often used in conjuction with each other. I hear a lot of talk about what They want Us to do, or feel, or react to. I even heard it on your video today. I love your family, Zach. I love your channel, but sometimes even your channel has the They/Them/We/Us conflict going on. I don't say this as a way to put you down, or to be a "hater", as people call it, just an observation from little old me. I love the homesteading ideals of being sustainable, making something out of nothing, but sometimes I really have a hard time with the homesteading community's outlook on the world. When I hear too much of the negativity, I shut down. I turn it off and it makes me not want to turn it back on again. I know that I am not alone in how I feel, but sometimes I feel alone.
I am not one of these people that think the world is going to hell in a handbasket. We have our problems, to be sure, but we also have so much beauty, so much abundance, so much to be grateful for, and lots of people just want to see the bad stuff. They want to run about wringing their hands and shouting, "The sky is falling! The sky is falling!" After a while, when the sky has not fallen and is still in its rightful place, all that hand wringing and shouting sure does wear on a person. I love that you have recognized that, and that you are planning on doing something about it. I hope others do, too. We are not a bunch of They/Them versus We/Us. WE are all of us. Period. We need to start acting like it.
Love your comments so much. 100% spot on !
Everyday is a good day! Its just that some days are better than others
Love content🙏🏻❤️
The devil pushes SELF... he tells people to be about self, the god of self, is selfishness... Society is FULL of selfish people. God's children are not selfish (they shouldn't be). Love your neighbor as yourself.
I'm very much staying to myself it took a long time to realize this world is full of good and many bad ones.Put your trust in God you shall overcome all obstacles ❤🙏
Such a great video Zach thank you for sharing with us, just making one little adjustment to how we think and what we do is a big start.
God bless you and your family🙏🏻❤️
It is like the rooster that lives across the street from me in the city it bothered me ,him making noise at 5 am but i look at as a blessing im alive another day to hear him and he doing his job , it about Perspective
I love where you are going with this, speaking truth 100%
Being protective and being safer and holding ourselves back so that we're more observant of what's going on and not just falling for everything that comes our direction is not being selfish that's being protective it's using the sense that God gave us to take care of ourselves and our family
The problem is, just like in the past, in the future we will need each other in the future.
I've noticed with people they're more defensive too. Example: asked a canning question, so I showed them my canning book & read instructions. They got defensive, "my mom didn't do it that way"..
Then get mom's cookbook and if she is her on earth with you talk to your mom. Each has their own way to can or was taught differently. Don't be critical in the way another cans, bake,cook or sew. That person used a canning book, so did I when I started making jams or jellies or I asked my aunt who has canned all their the food for her family for years. She would tell me and I wrote the recipe down. Be thankful when someone answers your question, tell them thank you and try the recipe. You might just love it better than moms..
Our mindset seems to be controlled by how we perceive our leaders. It’s hard to even think about lifting us up when this country is rapidly heading down a black hole. I have been near tears lately. We need a savior - someone to bring us back. I remember when Reagan became President, it was like a collective sigh of relief and a huge mental turnaround. And there WAS a turnaround. So much is coming to light,but how much of the general population is even aware. I surely do try Zach, but man, it is hard to not show depression.
Make a sign.." Welcome, Come In and Lets Have A Talk"
2 Timothy 3:1-17, NLT. 1You should know this, that in the last days there will be very difficult times. 2For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful.
Let’s focus on love and truth! Good word. Thanks.
I've lost friends, family.. (last 3 yrs or so)..because I always put others before myself..and i stopped this. I felt that they just expected me to go out of my way to help them.. physically & financial..and they'd always have an excuse..I finally put my foot down (June)..and I've automatically became the enemy. Oh well...
Hey zac! Let it all out! We are listening
It is VERY hard to trust ANYONE 😊
I am so guilty of staying to myself and not trying to talk to many others. At first it was a way of protecting myself. And now it's so hard to open back up. But slowly but surely! We just joined a homeschooling co-op near us where the kids have outings regularly, whole family get togethers monthly, moms night outs, dads breakfasts, and more! I think it will be good to get us mingling with more people! ❤
Love you Stive TRIBE ❣️
We have all closed ourselves off. I watched my outgoing son at the peak of the pandemic become a mouse and secluding himself from people. He absolutely hates interacting with anyone. He was in sports before and now I cannot get him to get out of the house more than school. My 11 year old struggles to connect with his peers. I have listened to him talk with other kids his age and they all talk horribly to each other. They have no etiquette. They are rude and talk over each other. I try and talk to him and he says they are like that. It's sad. The lock downs have had a much stronger effect on a generation than I think anyone has yet to understand. Where we thought it was a treat to go do something as a family as kids many kids hate leaving their houses.
❤real talk, Real
The Bible tells it all ... End Days Men's hearts wax COLD. I am literally in a SPIRITUAL BATTLE with a JEZEBEL SPIRIT... FULL ARMOR👸🏻🗡️...NO JOKE 💯. We must EXAMINE ourselves , seek HIM in FEAR & TREMBLING for our OWN SOUL SALVATION 🤴🏿🗡️💕🕊️🌿🕯️
That is sad, im always looking for new friends to treat them as family
Thank you for this reminder, I will admit that I have become very selfish in my interactions with others and I will strive to be more open to others. We live in a very cold world right now and it will only change if we first change ourselves! God Bless!
You are such a honest speaker. When I watch your videos I know you’re alone in the barn but I feel like you’re talking to me. Thank you for caring about us. Thank you for showing me how to do things that I never thought I could do. I love your channel. I love your family. God bless you all.
I am the same way with the front door! It’s instant anxiety 😦
Watch the old movie "Pollyanna" with your family. You will be GLAD you did. I love this movie and I like to see the good in everything. Ever an optimist, my son even calls me Pollyanna.
2 Timothy 3:2
For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful. They will consider nothing sacred.
Very well said Zach. Love you guys!❤
Since I have started my in home daycare I have gotten that way. I think having less and less contact with ppl has made it harder for me.
We TRY to help and lead by example and HOPE no one gets butt hert.
I appreciate your honesty. It is so hard to trust people these days with the 24/7, never-ending cycle of bad news and stories of people taking advantage of and/or hurting others. It's enough to get anyone down. I will, however, disagree with your assessment that we're in a depression. The last depression had an almost 25% unemployment rate. We're not even close to anything like that (just the opposite, in fact) and there are jobs everywhere if you're willing and able to work.
When you are a person who is giving people take and take. So I personally have become less trusting.
I can pretty much tell who I can have a conversation with and sadly but joyfully its the older generation. Meaning, sadly because most of the younger generation has nothing to say to us older ones and joyfully, at my young age of 63, I have some of the most inspirational and heartwarming interactions with ones older than me. This younger generation is really missing out, meeting and talking to the people who worked and fought to keep us a free nation.
Well said
A lot of this is chalked up too social media. These young people today have no ambitions. No one wants to work for their living. But for some reason people want everything for nothing. They borrow and take and there's no give when they do take. People these days just stay in their own worlds and I think after 2020 we have found out we don't need others. If we can make it on our own. then others are not necessary . And that mind set is killing the friends and family plan. We are social creatures and we need the interaction of others. However with the way things are going in day and age, most people wont even eat at the supper table anymore as a family. Sunday Dinners are a thing of the past for most . Values are less thenit was20 years ago. How it changed no one knows but it has. I don't think its being selfish i think its just being in our devices and not a group anymore.
I don't think it's just being in our devices. I think it's work schedules, too. Overnights and week-ends, holidays, both parents working just to pay bills and buy food. They aren't even guaranteed to have the same schedule. Or maybe they can't afford babysitters so they purposely have different schedules. My son and I worked different hours and very seldom ate any meals together, so I got rid of the dining room table. Our hours now allow us to have dinner together almost every night, which we eat at the breakfast bar/island that I replaced our table with. Most of the other things that you brought up I totally agree with.
Thank God I have a job that I truly love, co-workers I can count on and tons of social interactions. Who knew that a library is the place to have awesome conversations with strangers! I was never a social butterfly before, but now I'm loving it! All it takes is a sincere smile and some kind words to make some one feel special.
Being guarded [s still Christan . Being protective is still Christan. Being aware is still Christann. Trust in God is Great, a stranger not so much. May God Bless You All.
I think more of us have become selfish because of recent events that have forced us all to take care of ourselves before anything else. Also, in order to try and make connections with others, we talk about ourselves and what’s going on with us in order to see if others can relate. And if they can’t relate, then we’re not going to waste our time with them because life is too short.
Zach, before we can open up, the evil must be exposed or it will not go away. For every action, the is a reaction and it just keeps festering. The root of the negative has to be exposed or things won’t change. Tough love works. It pains me to say that but it’s true.
Thank you for this barn chat. I am going through some major changes in my life. I am so guilty of just keeping to my self. I never used to be like this . Now that I am older I can see how the world is changing and it really scares me. You are right about changing your mindset. I promise to be aware of others and their needs. Change starts within ourselves and our families, and communities. Knowing that
A great way to start you day! And very well said 😊
I just prayed to the Good LORD to help me to approach people more
I definitely have pulled away from relationships in the last few years. My reason is that people are cruel. We left our church during the lockdowns. We let our pastor know why and he didn't seem to care. No one reached out to us. Actually, they spread rumors about our family instead. It happens everywhere we go. People want to talk about you and your kids and smile in your face. I could tell you so many stories. I am a Christian, praise the Lord, but if I wasn't most Christians would keep me from knowing the Lord. I know that no one is perfect, especially me. I just feel like Christians have become more judgemental, clickish, selfish, and gossip more than ever these days. Our kids are suffering because of the parent's behavior. Just my two cents. Have a blessed day ❤
Please know that God loves you and he has a reason why he has separated you and your family from those wolves in sheep clothing 🙏 I read my Bible at home and watch Pastor David Lynn a street preacher , and Bishop Patrick Wooden from NC . Went through almost similar experience.
Trust NO ONE
I believe the selfishness comes more due to technology and the lock downs....if you watch even when there is a room full of people there isn't a conversation going on, everyone has their face in a phone. I believe there is just such a disconnect from each other, self becomes our priority.
I had a few conversations with strangers today because of my window sticker that says "Try that in a Small Town". Lol ice breaker!
You're exactly right.
Good points
Loved this chat😊
You guys are an American success story. I get that the story is ongoing, but you both are an example of what a family can achieve. I’ve been with my husband since I was 13 yrs old. We had five children, and lost one. We overcame infidelity and became closer than before. Our only daughter was severely handicapped physically and mentally. We took care of her every need for 15 yrs. Our family was chewed up and spit out. I’ve been following you guys for a few yrs. The way you both look at one another, it’s more than loving, it’s a knowing. I have that with my husband. It’s rare and precious. Keep doing what you’re doing.
I think internet & instant gratification is part of the problem. Not work towards your goalls.
Other day i try to do a complete random act of kindness. I had 2 dz eggs I tried to give away. I had to approach 5 different people to get them gone. Most thought I wanted something from them. All i wanted was to see there smiles. One couple was counting out change to pay for there stuff. Flat out refused to give me time. Sad
Since C-19 and all the lockdowns, distancing, etc that we allowed ourselves to be subjected to…speaking on behalf of myself ONLY…as a senior I learned to climb into my protective cocoon where I somehow felt safe with the Lord’s help. Three years into this craziness and I am still struggling to climb back out and let people near again. It no longer feels safe to me given all the societal changes. My ‘trust’ of others is gone. I know I can’t be the only one that feels this way.
I know exactly how you feel, as I'm a senior in an urban setting. I know my neighbors but am not really close to any. I have family nearby, but try not to intrude on their family time, unless invited. My garden is my sanctuary.
Man, I understand. There's times I almost welcome the thought of another lockdown so I can just stay at my home in the country, piddle around and not have to deal with people. I was not that way before 2020.
I can do all things through God who strengthens me.
My husband and I stayed isolated way before C ever showed up. That's how we are. We like being by ourselves, don't like being around other people. We are quite happy and will continue this way.
Three years of full onslaught psychological warfare and polarization/demonization of ANYONE who dared say slow down, I need details and research has shown me how few deserved the trust I once had for them.
I almost feel like having constant access to news, social media, etc has made me view the world differently. I have a negative mindset first and have to talk myself out of the negativity.
Greed and Pride are sins. But it's ok to be proud of something you did, as long as the pride isn't narcissistic... That's the difference.
I’ve been watching you and jen since way before you moved. I’ve helped people in the past but instead of being grateful and thankful they start expecting it whenever they want something. All I hear is they’re coming to my house regardless of anything happening just because I try to do my best. Everyone jumps to conclusions at points in there lives but on the other end of the stickler the people commenting shows different points of view so you know your not the only one going through it. I’m proud to consider you all my TH-cam people. Keep up the great work. I absolutely love the barn chats. Love from Kansas. God bless
I love all yalls videos but i really miss seeing you in the garden . I loved the ol' school content so much❤
Ooooo. Hittin us with some real talk. The unintentional negativity is a struggle. Being honest about negative experiences is important. Relating is important. People forgetting to take the conversation to the next level and talk about solutions, or at least the silver lining of learning from bad experiences and how we can turn them into something positive are where most of us fail. Don't end a conversation on the sad note, carry it to the next level and finish with something positive.
Wow, you guys are almost at 100K😊
Jesus said that the world did not love Him so he warned that the world will not love his followers. So as a believer I remember this wise advice from my King Jesus. I have removed the expectation of fitting in with the world. Find contentment with other believers and your family. This world is so evil now. Believers do not fit in. Wait for Jesus to come and get us all.
I'll tell you this. I'm NOT a BIG FAN OF ANY CHURCH and don't go to them, but I LOVE THE PPL in them and even tho I'm the outsider in this community and not a part of the religion which almost everyone I know around her is. I have made a point to GIVE to my community putting out at the front church doors 40+ Zucchinis and SHARE my BOUNTY with them. Electro Culture HAS WORKED FOR US BIG TIME and I'm all about sharing organic foods and SEEDS with everyone. My family came here to this homestead 3 yrs ago and we are in building mode even tho my husband is gone 5 days a week trucking but I will ALWAYS find time to help others even if it's giving them a hand with Foods in the TIME OF NEED we are in.I have MEGA BIG Onions and there is NO way I could ever keep them all or freeze dry or even dehydrate them so that's my next harvest community give. The sign always is outside the door of the church saying FREE TO OUR COMMUNITY. So that others that pass the church can also have the foods. I still can't believe how much we have been blessed with. I am learning seed saving super fast now this is another one I can help our community with. By the way these ppl have blessed me and when I came here they came to my house with a basket of goods foods homemade bread cookies hand made washcloths a few hand towels and EVEN A GIFT CARD 50 dollars. WHERE IN THE WORLD have THESE PPL COME FROM. I know I know GOD's ppl. RIGHT! I just never met any community like this and THEY DON'T EXPECT me to become there religion. So I give and give I will keep doing. I WISH I could meet you are your wife and kids some day. Such a beautiful family great SOUL you have Spilling to us and helping us CRITICALLY THINK. We all need this. If everyone had this kinda community around them I think the world would be ever so different. I pray this is our path.
You are one kind and loving soul!
So agree. 💙♾️
I try seeing every person I meet for the unique person they are. I don’t trust that they will behave as “expected”, but I trust that I will. Honestly, every person has something they bring good into the world, even the worst of us. You don’t have to approve of them entirely to respect them. It also helps me to realize not everyone is taught how to be respectful of others & that we ourselves are going to fail the expectations of others at some point too… so how do we communicate? Be the change you want to see. ✌️💗
Wow, Zach - that was gutsy to bare your truthful reaction to visitors to your store! But you are so right! As a society, I think we react with thoughts like that - what do they want, or even what do they want now, or this time? Or I don't have time for this. I am guilty of not answering my front door, or answering a text, etc. When I grew up, we visited family and friends multiple times a week, we knew what was going on in our neighborhoods, and we supported each other. Not so now. We used to care about each other on a more personal level. You are right, we need to get back to emulating Messiah. In some cases, we are the only Jesus, people will see in their lives and we need to realize that our reactions to those around us can either encourage them, or send them farther down the drain of life, without hope and full of despair. Thank you for using your platform to bring this to our attention and make us all more aware of our selfishness and pride. God bless you and your family ❤️
I hear what you're saying, trust is a big issue and it is hard to welcome people onto your place, when you had someone violate your place. I would not be as trusting of people if someone stole my goats. I can see how keeping positive is a great goal, but negative things happening to us can make us respond negatively. I hope you find that balance of trust vs being cautious. It is a hard balance to keep and I have not found it myself, still working on it. Thanks for sharing such deep personal thoughts.