Biracials tend to have this issue in any monoracial community. Her parents should have considered this and placed her in a diverse environment. Mixed people really need that so they don't end up feeling so othered.
No, her parents should have not race mixed. The majority of the planet is monoracial. Her parents finding her a mulatto friend isn't magically making her feel better. They want to fit in with their families and friends, not other mulattos. Key word - the girl literally said "I just wanna be like my family".
I'd imagine it was hard for them to do that if they were living in a very white neighborhood even before they adopted her. There might be resources or support groups, but I'm not sure that would be enough. I know as an Autistic person that just support groups aren't nearly enough to not feel othered.
I found myself tearing up so much at this. I am not a transracial adoptee, but I am an adoptee. And that lack of genetic mirroring is so hard to deal with. It’s something non-adoptees really have no frame of reference to understand. So I remember the self hatred and the gaslighting in my teens. It hits hard.
Bless her soul, navigating such a situation must be horrible and then have it brushed under the carpet like it's no big deal.. Look at what drove that girl to take those meds, I know it's acting but it happens in real life all the time and is not acceptable and grown arse adults should know better! 😤
Not knowing or even being willing to acknowledge that sickle cell anemia is something that she could be prone to is so profound. This is why understanding that we are all human regardless of race, but that we also have racial differences that make us unique and having others for young people to learn from is so important.
Ending was the best blame free coming to terms with the issue I've seen on tv. Don't start a sermon on it but open the door to talk about so when the kid does encounter it she's comfortable discussing it instead of internalizing it. Also they lady who stopped the girl rejoining her team needs to be named and shamed. No general shaming of all white people, individuals need to be called out and dealt with on a case by case basis.
I was taught right and wrong by my parents, that race and color doesn't matter, it's a person's character that does. They've taught me things that are uncomfortable subjects for them too. It's the parents who teach the child and answer their questions, no matter what.
Imagine if this doctor wasn’t the one who treated her and she continued on in life internalizing these complex feelings or being misdiagnosed psychologically. Now understand that there are millions of people with that reality walking the streets.
I have a sister in Christ that was subjected to this and adopted parents who pretended that racism no longer existed like the her coach did. It is sad but this something that should be considered when adopting someone of race and/or culture.
Am I correct in thinking that the parents, in their desire to teach their daughter how much they see her as just another one of their children and ignoring the obvious issue of feeling different because of skin color are actually complicating the situation?
It can be rough to see outrage against social injustices and regress to inaction lest you be the target of such outrage for a simple mistake. But the thing is, we're all human, and we all make mistakes, and the important thing isn't never making mistakes. It's the effort put into doing the right thing and into avoiding repeating mistakes. That's all it's about really, the effort.
Biracials have a similar issue in the black community. Her parents should have been more cognizant of potential stuggles and placed her in a diverse environment. That's really important for mixed people.
It definitely depends on looks. I look like an Asian with slightly wavy hair, but my sister is more tan with curly hair. When in NY people assumed my sis was latina, but accepted when she said she was black. When I tell people I'm black they laugh and talk to me in fake Chinese.
It’s easy to say now, especially among the younger generation as our society is more ethnically and socially diverse. But some older folks still have problems with accepting the duality of biracial and mixed race people. Programs like this help because they get people to talking to each other.
Yep definitely depends on looks .. she is looks black enough so I don't see her getting any real flack from black people . She is black and she is white !! She is just more Afro looking .. she will most likely be perceived as that ..
man the phyc dr was awesome i totaly get it at the end and the black dr, that is his paiteint so now it just kick in ok ok ... we both said dmn .......lol at the same time he had a good point lol
This is such a american thing, race isnt the same as skin color for example we can identify someone race by their skull. Change your skin color wont change your race some people like to get tan some people like to look lighter but you still need to like yourself. Poor girl wish this was just tv
Either way if you are born that way that is how God wanted it is his will… this is self hate .. stop allowing evil thoughts take root in that heart it will effect the mind
It is such fucking bullshit when adoptive parents tells adoptees that they picked them. No they fucking didnt. First off the adoption agency just calls them up and say I have a baby of blank gender and blank race and you either say yes or no. Same if you adopt out of foster care. Adoptive parents never choose their adoptive children unless they go over seas and hand pick a kid out of an orphanage. The reason adoptive parents adopt 90% of the time is because they wanted a kid and couldnt get pregnant. Adoption is child trafficking meant to fulfill adult wants not a childs needs.
And all the visits between prospective parents and prospective adoptees? Are they not a way to get to know each other and "choose" each other as a family? The care system is full of flaws but it's ignorant to call adoption child trafficking, especially when it means taking a child out of that flawed system.
Saying 'yes' or 'no' is still choice. Also: "Adoptive parents never choose their adoptive children unless they go over seas and hand pick a kid out of an orphanage. " - How do you know its wasn't like that with case if this girl?
trafficking? so people who can't handle having a baby and give them up for adoption TO GIVE THEM A CHANCE AT A BETTER LIFE are human traffickers? also the fact that they have an option to say yes or no means they did in fact choose her.
@@Niki_Schreiber just ignore or forgive. There's a good reason to her comment. She probably had a child taken from her and placed in a foster home and later adopted.
I'm sorry if something happened for you to feel that way about adoption. But my little brother was adopted and nothing you saod about the adoption process was accurate to my family's experience.
Not until the western colonial powers are overthrown and the Anglo's are in no higher authority than anybody else. Once they start to suffer the same circumstances, their crimes against other people will stop.
Oh please! As if bullying isnt universal! Even schools with all black students have bullying. "Not dark enough, grades are too good, groomed so nice must be that your trying to be white" Examples ive seen from comments talking about toxicity in the black community.
He’s telling them to get over their own discomfort at eight minutes and 35 seconds when tyey are her parents? What a racist doctor! I guess they are supposed to tell her to listen to rap music and learn ebonics!
He is not racist he is tell them the true without prejudice. Truth be told they are uncomfortable talking about it as the colour of her skin as they wouldn't have been so embarrassed to begin with
Nah, he's telling them to get a clue that their daughter is black and it doesn't matter that her adoptive parents are white, she will always be seen as black by everyone else.
The MD seems racist! Leave the young lady alone she’ll warm up to things and begin to understand that’s why we have so many separation and society anyways.
“Warm up to things” sounds like the cheer coach who feels uncomfortable and like the adoptive parents feel because things should be brushed under the table and not corrected to avoid their uncomfortableness . The young lady needs representatives for who she is just like her other children. She is different with a different background and ancestors who didn’t go through what they went through by the hands of white people just to be outcasted and treated unkind STILL
Unfortunately it sounds like you have very little experience being OTHERED. There is no such thing as "warm up to things" on issues like this. The amount of harm that people experience and inflict due to being OTHERED is very serious and harmful to the development of a healthy society
This hits hard. Society does not realize the mental trauma and anguish you carry at being belittled just because of the color of your skin.
❤"you need to get over your own discomfort for the sake of you child."
I don’t know how or why this showed up on my feed, but WHO is the actor playing the doctor??? He’s GORGEOUS. Lawd. 🥵
I second that hand✋🏾
I've been watching this like this for a while, but.... you're not wrong
Bro, calm down.
that's weird
Because be is fine!!
Biracials tend to have this issue in any monoracial community. Her parents should have considered this and placed her in a diverse environment. Mixed people really need that so they don't end up feeling so othered.
No, her parents should have not race mixed. The majority of the planet is monoracial. Her parents finding her a mulatto friend isn't magically making her feel better. They want to fit in with their families and friends, not other mulattos. Key word - the girl literally said "I just wanna be like my family".
Well, a lot depends on the cultural setting. In Europe it’s much easier to grow up while being of a mixed origins.
yeah... like OP said, a diverse environment...
I'd imagine it was hard for them to do that if they were living in a very white neighborhood even before they adopted her. There might be resources or support groups, but I'm not sure that would be enough. I know as an Autistic person that just support groups aren't nearly enough to not feel othered.
I found myself tearing up so much at this. I am not a transracial adoptee, but I am an adoptee. And that lack of genetic mirroring is so hard to deal with. It’s something non-adoptees really have no frame of reference to understand. So I remember the self hatred and the gaslighting in my teens. It hits hard.
Bless her soul, navigating such a situation must be horrible and then have it brushed under the carpet like it's no big deal.. Look at what drove that girl to take those meds, I know it's acting but it happens in real life all the time and is not acceptable and grown arse adults should know better! 😤
Not knowing or even being willing to acknowledge that sickle cell anemia is something that she could be prone to is so profound. This is why understanding that we are all human regardless of race, but that we also have racial differences that make us unique and having others for young people to learn from is so important.
My heart just breaks for this beautiful girl
Ending was the best blame free coming to terms with the issue I've seen on tv. Don't start a sermon on it but open the door to talk about so when the kid does encounter it she's comfortable discussing it instead of internalizing it. Also they lady who stopped the girl rejoining her team needs to be named and shamed. No general shaming of all white people, individuals need to be called out and dealt with on a case by case basis.
this one and the one where a mother wanted her intersex child's testicles removed. Both have such a perfect ending
Oh, okay.
I was taught right and wrong by my parents, that race and color doesn't matter, it's a person's character that does. They've taught me things that are uncomfortable subjects for them too. It's the parents who teach the child and answer their questions, no matter what.
Her parents are so lovely ❤ God bless them both 🙏🌄🪽
Good Call by the Psychiatrist!
Imagine if this doctor wasn’t the one who treated her and she continued on in life internalizing these complex feelings or being misdiagnosed psychologically. Now understand that there are millions of people with that reality walking the streets.
I have a sister in Christ that was subjected to this and adopted parents who pretended that racism no longer existed like the her coach did. It is sad but this something that should be considered when adopting someone of race and/or culture.
so much this, and then people try to say that disparities in health outcomes aren't real...
Hope the parents help there daughter to stand up for herself if it happens again and find her some good rollmodals to help her.
Am I correct in thinking that the parents, in their desire to teach their daughter how much they see her as just another one of their children and ignoring the obvious issue of feeling different because of skin color are actually complicating the situation?
Bring the show back
It can be rough to see outrage against social injustices and regress to inaction lest you be the target of such outrage for a simple mistake. But the thing is, we're all human, and we all make mistakes, and the important thing isn't never making mistakes. It's the effort put into doing the right thing and into avoiding repeating mistakes. That's all it's about really, the effort.
1:23 "I know this is alot to digest, but..."
Yes indeed, that bunch of pills was alot to digest, thats why you cut them out of her?
Biracials have a similar issue in the black community. Her parents should have been more cognizant of potential stuggles and placed her in a diverse environment. That's really important for mixed people.
It definitely depends on looks. I look like an Asian with slightly wavy hair, but my sister is more tan with curly hair. When in NY people assumed my sis was latina, but accepted when she said she was black. When I tell people I'm black they laugh and talk to me in fake Chinese.
It’s easy to say now, especially among the younger generation as our society is more ethnically and socially diverse. But some older folks still have problems with accepting the duality of biracial and mixed race people. Programs like this help because they get people to talking to each other.
Yep definitely depends on looks .. she is looks black enough so I don't see her getting any real flack from black people . She is black and she is white !! She is just more Afro looking .. she will most likely be perceived as that ..
Am I the only one who was staring at Lillian ketchman at the start trying to figure out if it was her.😂
And Pressley from dance moms
Where's Dr. Charles?
This show is wild. They couldn't tell it was an OD with a simple blood test? Lol
I have been looking for this clip!
man the phyc dr was awesome i totaly get it at the end and the black dr, that is his paiteint so now it just kick in ok ok ... we both said dmn .......lol at the same time he had a good point lol
Bro lily k was there u know it’s acting now like it’s not true it’s fake
Well some are
This is such a american thing, race isnt the same as skin color for example we can identify someone race by their skull. Change your skin color wont change your race some people like to get tan some people like to look lighter but you still need to like yourself. Poor girl wish this was just tv
Why change skin color?????????????????
wow 5 stars for this clip
but also, like, please think twice, at minimum, about transracial adoption...
Either way if you are born that way that is how God wanted it is his will… this is self hate .. stop allowing evil thoughts take root in that heart it will effect the mind
Hello
It is such fucking bullshit when adoptive parents tells adoptees that they picked them. No they fucking didnt. First off the adoption agency just calls them up and say I have a baby of blank gender and blank race and you either say yes or no. Same if you adopt out of foster care. Adoptive parents never choose their adoptive children unless they go over seas and hand pick a kid out of an orphanage. The reason adoptive parents adopt 90% of the time is because they wanted a kid and couldnt get pregnant. Adoption is child trafficking meant to fulfill adult wants not a childs needs.
And all the visits between prospective parents and prospective adoptees? Are they not a way to get to know each other and "choose" each other as a family? The care system is full of flaws but it's ignorant to call adoption child trafficking, especially when it means taking a child out of that flawed system.
Saying 'yes' or 'no' is still choice. Also: "Adoptive parents never choose their adoptive children unless they go over seas and hand pick a kid out of an orphanage. " - How do you know its wasn't like that with case if this girl?
trafficking? so people who can't handle having a baby and give them up for adoption TO GIVE THEM A CHANCE AT A BETTER LIFE are human traffickers? also the fact that they have an option to say yes or no means they did in fact choose her.
@@Niki_Schreiber just ignore or forgive. There's a good reason to her comment. She probably had a child taken from her and placed in a foster home and later adopted.
I'm sorry if something happened for you to feel that way about adoption. But my little brother was adopted and nothing you saod about the adoption process was accurate to my family's experience.
This show is so much worse than House 💀
Well, a black family could have adopted also.
They could of, but adoption should not be done in a form of segregation.
@@TimberlakeTigerGirl agreed
Or black people could have taken the same route as the Native American community.
Will the I AM BLACK AND THEREFORE PICKED ON ever stop?
Will the I AM WHITE AND THEREFORE MY ACTIONS TOWARDS AND COMMENTS ABOUT OTHER RACES WILL ALWAYS BE EXCUSABLE ever stop?
Will the I AM WHITE AND THEREFORE DON'T NOTICE MY RACISM, IT WAS A SIMPLE MISTAKE EVER STOP?
Not until the western colonial powers are overthrown and the Anglo's are in no higher authority than anybody else. Once they start to suffer the same circumstances, their crimes against other people will stop.
Maybe when black people stop continuously being picked on???
Oh please! As if bullying isnt universal! Even schools with all black students have bullying. "Not dark enough, grades are too good, groomed so nice must be that your trying to be white" Examples ive seen from comments talking about toxicity in the black community.
"Racially gaslit"? My dude, you're just convincing them to put aside your advice by labeling an awkward handling of a situation as a form of abuse.
What?
Huh?
No, she was racially gaslit. The lady was uncomfortable so she just brushed it aside. What scared you about the conversation?
IT WASN’T AWKWARD, IT WAS RACIST.
AGREED SHE WAS RACIALLY ATTACKED AND IT'S NOT ACCEPTABLE, WHOEVER WROTE THIS COMMENT GO EDUCATE YOURSELF AND GROW UP!
Good grief...more racism. Enough already!!!!!
Guess If she wants to change skin colour then… I guess I identify as black
Ugh another woke episode
He’s telling them to get over their own discomfort at eight minutes and 35 seconds when tyey are her parents? What a racist doctor! I guess they are supposed to tell her to listen to rap music and learn ebonics!
He is not racist he is tell them the true without prejudice. Truth be told they are uncomfortable talking about it as the colour of her skin as they wouldn't have been so embarrassed to begin with
Nah, he's telling them to get a clue that their daughter is black and it doesn't matter that her adoptive parents are white, she will always be seen as black by everyone else.
😂😂 wow !! Rap music 🎶 Ebonics 😂😂 too funny
@@winniejohnson5559 ty
Calling the doctor in this clip for helping a child accept herself racist while you're hurling microaggressions is insane.
The MD seems racist! Leave the young lady alone she’ll warm up to things and begin to understand that’s why we have so many separation and society anyways.
“Warm up to things” sounds like the cheer coach who feels uncomfortable and like the adoptive parents feel because things should be brushed under the table and not corrected to avoid their uncomfortableness . The young lady needs representatives for who she is just like her other children. She is different with a different background and ancestors who didn’t go through what they went through by the hands of white people just to be outcasted and treated unkind STILL
She was left alone and the pills happened
Unfortunately it sounds like you have very little experience being OTHERED. There is no such thing as "warm up to things" on issues like this. The amount of harm that people experience and inflict due to being OTHERED is very serious and harmful to the development of a healthy society
So you ARE a bigot? Shocker! 🙄