HOW HAVE OUR INSECURITIES SHAPED US?!?
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EP 169: In this episode we switch things up a bit and go a little deeper with each other and ourselves! Be ready cuz we definitely start out strong LOL. We open up the podcast by talking about what family traumas have triggered us in the relationships we create with other people... I know, sean came up with that one if you can believe it. We THEN go on to talk about how social media has affected our mental health IF it has and how we cope with it. We also take a little break and Nick asks the girls who their ULTIMATE MAN IS! We wrap up the podcast by talking about how our biggest insecurities have shaped us into the people we are today. WE REALLY HOPE YOU GUYS ENJJOYYY!!! :D
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Their voices breaking when they’re talking is making me tear up 🥹
literally didn’t expect to cry sm
I’m a silent viewer and have always felt cringey leaving comments. For this episode tho, I want to express appreciation for your content. I’ve been watching consistently for abt 2 years now and I love the direction y’all have gone. The level of growth and maturity is really refreshing and y’all may not know it, but the topics you covered today really reach a lot of people. Thanks for deciding to have a deep, vulnerable episode. It makes the rest of us feel a little less alone :)
literally same 😭
I’ve only felt comfortable commenting w them 😭
🫶🏽🫶🏽
This!!! 🥹
i am a silent viewer too, this episode touched me
maru being like “i don’t know if i’m doing the right thing” and then turning to nick and saying “what do u think” OMG SHES SO CUTE
Time stamp?
Even when she was crying she kept looking at him you can tell he is her safe person they have a great friendship!
@@shanyeholloway37250:55
wait that was such a cute moment- my heartttt
Let’s start the NARU EDDDIIITTTTSSSS
maru is so funny help " i saved sean from a predator"
The way her voice dropped😭
Because she was like "uh uh thAT is MY man!" and then she dropped it to the floor
fr they be bashing her but she’s a comedic genius ong😭
Sean is so real for saying that he’s afraid to love someone/opening up their heart for them bc they’re gonna be gone someday. I’m the same way and I hate thinking/having that mindset bc it really ruins how you see life and makes you afraid of making certain choices. I’m so happy he brought this up 🫶🏻
literally I never spoke about it before or even said it out loud and hearing him say it was kind of mind blowing idky. Its never happened to me or anyone I know but it became a fear tht I genuinely think is going to happen and its the worst feeling
That's life. If you're fortunate to find someone who cares for you and loves you, why deprive yourself of it just because of that fear? That possibility is always there. I guarantee you when you're looking back, if you had someone by your side that you lost, you're going to be happy you atleast got to experience a part of your life with them and not think why you ever ended up in that relationship in the first place.
not to make it unserious or anything but hes giving anthony bridgerton from brigerton
time stamp?
Literally
sean being able to open up so much now makes me tear up. thank you all for being so vulnerable
literally!!!
Definitely growth but I do think it has something to do with Christine not being there anymore. She was constantly bagging on him for being closed off.. which is not gonna make a person open up so her not being there anymore definitely helped in my opinion
@@oookie1946 Yeah I kinda agree. I do like her and her inputs when she was on the pod but she was a little too straightforward(?) sometimes and while there’s nothing wrong with that, it can be uncomfortable for the other person. I remember in a previous podcast when Sean would say he’s emotionless (or struggling recognizing his emotions) Christine told him that she wants to talk to his sister and idk it just felt too much 😭 but like I said I like Christine and I believe she had good intentions but her execution wasn’t always the best
@@iamwattpadandrhyslarsentrashi think it’s ‘cause christine is not really a close friends to them. and to be fair at that time sean and christine is still new to the podcast.
@@kaideloscopeyeah exactly she wasn’t close friends with them so her being straightforward with him overstepped a boundary 😭
The legalize eating ass cup in the middle of this serious episode😭
Always somethin😭
😭
LMAOOO
Maru crying breaks my heart 💔But all of you handled it so well you guys are great friends 🫶🏻
where did she do this?
Nah cz i js want nick and maru’s friendship like in the first question when maru was answering n she felt like she was gonna cry nick js instantly knew and got tissues for her and before that when she didn’t answer he elaborated on his answer to try and make maru feel more comfortable for feeling what she’s feeling like their friendship is js so wholesome.
cynthia checking in on maru @ 34:46 is so wholesome
My comfort people ❣️
Agreed❤
Yes!!!❤️🩹
Same fam ❤️
Always ❤❤
literally
25:48 nick and sean asking maru if she has anything she wants to say because she was quiet the whole time was so wholesome
I never comment but something about the moment at 19:26 where sage and Sean open up and sage says "I never met anybody that thinks like that too," really hit me and I thought it was so beautiful that they've been friends for so too long and this podcast allows them to get to know them better each day. I also love how much we get to learn about you guys and it allows us to reflect on ourselves when you guys ask the hard hitting questions. Much love
Not Maru and Sean saving each other🥹👀
Well yea they’re friends
Time stamp I thought it was Cynthia not maru?
3:58
Not the gaslighting about veggies 😂 probably why nick is a pro gaslighter
Yes😭
Maru sitting as far away from Sean as she can get to avoid the saru edits 😂😂
Oh so we all crying tonight. No but on a serious note thank you for sharing part of your past and present. It is hard to open up to friends and even harder to open up for the whole world to see. For anyone reading this don’t give up. It will get better and you are loved. The world is a harsh place but they are people who will love you for who you are. Thank you you guys for making this a safe place for many and thank you for opening up to us. ❤
Thank you for sharing that beautiful message 🫶🏽🫶🏽
y’all being able to talk about such hard shit you experienced through childhood not only in front of each other but on camera too is so commendable. Made me cry just listening to y’all and thinking about my own personal situations too. You guys have such a beautiful friendship, it’s obvious y’all are there for each other 24/7 and I really hope everyone finds a friend group like this.❤
27:07 nick 100x yes i saw this one quote on twi that said “if you grew up with an angry man in the house there will always be an angry man in your house but the angry man is you” & that altered my brain 😵💫
My heart goes out to Maru. When she started tearing up I felt that. It's hard to open up and I am proud of you for doing so! I know this because I too can't talk about these subjects with just anyone and not feel a flood of emotions pouring out of me. 😢
The dynamic of y’all’s friend group to be able to protect eachother like that is so good to see 😭‼️🩷
"some may say, but few know😭", sage is so funny
3:15 some girl grabbing her face to kiss THAT IS CRAZY and sean and maru saving eachother is the best thing ever
Sean saying this is a fun one before reading the question and then going into the deepest hardest conversation ever
i understand sage and sean’s fears about losing the ones we love and being feared about dying. it’s so terrifying and my anxiety always gets the best of me, but remember everyone anxiety doesn’t control you, you control it; your mind is your temple and so is your body, so treat it right and treat it like you are so much more important than your worries and fears. pray, find a motive, create calmness in the chaos.
this is def the best seating arrangement
I literally felt so seen when Maru started talking about not being able to talk about their feeling due to being afraid of being seen as over dramatic, genuinely my loved this one 🫶🏼
Maru wasn’t saving a friend, she was saving her mans 🤣
i saw a quote that said “I WAS TAUGHT THAT KEEPING QUIET KEPT THE PEACE UNTIL I REALISED WHOSE PEACE IS IT KEEPING? THEY WERE AT PEACE, AND I IN THAT LITTLE BODY WAS HOLDING ALL OF THE WAR, AND I DIDNT WANT TO HOLD IT ANYMORE.”
15:28 omg cynthia i feel that so hard 😭 i am an emotional person but i also hateee being vulnerable around people and kinda like distance myself from my own emotions and as a result theirs? like i feel bad for them, but i don’t know how to handle or comfort people crying to me
yesss omg I feel u
Maru asking Nick if he thinks she’s doing the right thing with her TH-cam was so precious 🥹🫶🏼 51:00
Sean and Sage talking about their struggles with family illness and Maru’s issues with feeling validated in her pain made me cry bc damn their pain is so apparent. Also Nick lore is getting cray!
sean not being able to empathize with people's issues (like whats annoying etc) bc he only couldve worried abt the big things ☹️☹️☹️
Saige: throat goat ? Some may say, few will know 😂😂😂😂 quote of the year !
Insane quote 😭
fear of losing someone and loving someone new is so real. This part made me tear up cause I remember watching my grandparents slowly slip away; that's why I really loathe hospitals, and funerals cause it just brings me back to that moment. :( whew. Sage and Sean were so real for this. Damn.
Devin is so in touch with his emotions it’s so beautiful to see a guy have this level of vulnerability
protect maru at all costs 🥺💗
this episode is by far one of my favorite ones. This was everything I needed to hear and it is so comforting to know others have experienced loss and are open to talk about it. I can't wait until I can tell people about my mom and grandparents.
this friendship is so healthy i love seeing them like this
The only thing I watch anymore is suburb talks and it's simply because you guys have a different energy that just lightens up my day. I love the fact y'all are so close together so that you guys can joke around but be serious and vulnerable as well. I admire that a lot and I hope everyone here finds their own group like this
As a younger millennial (29) I think the thing I enjoy most about this pod is the fact I get to see these guys grow. They are one the more positive pieces to the influencer puzzle, which is so important for this current generation. They represent the importance of community and I hope they continue to flourish so more young people can be exposed to said importance. There’s a lot of lonely people out in the world and I genuinely think this group can make a real difference.
It’s nice to see y’all open up once in a while because while it’s nice to have laughs, y’all are also real people and we get to see another side of y’all.
when maru cries my heart cries with her😭😭😭 love yall for opening up so much!
i love maru so much her voice breaking during talking about her family was so heartbreaking and so relatable holding in most of your problems cause they"d be invalidated making you pile it up and having it come up all at once in a bad outburst
Devin’s “legalize eating ass mug” got me gassed 💀
maru ilysm i relate to everything you said and i grew up feeling soooo alone and i hate that there are so many people that have gone through similar experiences hearing you talk about it really
makes me feel seen and i understand how hard it can be talking abt it so thank u sm
it takes a lot to talk about these things, and im rlly proud of yall for being able to open up and be vulnerable about your feelings :’) i love yall & keep doing what you guys do
nahhh go back nicks mom took the CHEESE OFF the pizza and IRON in apple juice LMAOO
Lmaoo
This episode was soooo good 😭 I found myself crying when you guys were talking about loved ones dying to cancer, which is crazy cuz I never cry about anything ever. But Nick's story about his Tia and how he couldn't process his emotions just broke me down because I'm literally the same way. When my grandma died to cancer I didn't cry, when my Godmother died to covid I didn't cry, and when my Aunt died due to illness, I didn't cry, even though I was super close to all of them, I genuinely didn't know how to process my emotions and would just watch my family members break down and cry and I used to think for the longest that something was genuinely wrong with me. But hearing you guys voice that you also struggle with the same thing just makes me feel like I'm not alone haha. So thank you guysss lol I love you so so much!
my dad was fighting cancer for the past 5-6 years, & we just lost him a couple months ago, so hearing people my age talk about similar experiences -- Sean with his dad being sick & feeling pressure to be the "rock" in his relationships with his mom/sister, Sage talking about the fear of illness/hurting your loved ones because of it, Nick talking about how we can start to avoid seeing our loved ones & miss out on time with them b/c we subconsciously protect ourselves from the hurt of watching them fade away, Cynthia+Sean talking about the avoidance & "I don't know" explanation of it all with their families, Maru talking about "bottling up" her emotions -- was so eye-opening (in a good way) and made me feel less alone in my own experiences with those struggles too.
The switch to deeper topics/convos was really cool to listen to, because most people don't think about how heavily you think about (and are affected by) things like that when you're young, so you guys talking about it is setting an awesome example for the young people watching by showing them that it's okay to feel it & talk about it. I know that this made me look at love/family/loss in my life differently (by showing me that I'm not alone in these experiences) -- and I'm sure it has done/will do the same for others watching out there too. Thank you so so much for being vulnerable & sharing as much as you guys felt comfortable -- we appreciate the authenticity so much.
nicks thing about the parents 27:13 going to a 10 is so real. my dad was the same my whole life and now when i get in arguments i would take it to a 10 rather then moderate it. i get it nick
I felt like crying this whole pod, was so nice to hear all these topics get spoken about and hear different experiences, being able to relate. lots of love to you guys xx
watching this like y'all are my besties and we're being there for each other. it's so refreshing to see all of you share such personal stories, especially the guys because I feel like male emotional intelligence and vulnerability is not prioritized. thank you guys for being so brave, sending so much love
Im very proud at how well spoken Nick really is with his and other peoples emotions. Even though he giggles and jokes alot, he really is a good and mature man
I definitely teared up a few times throughout the video and im not even done w it but i rlly love y’all so much. The facts that u guys are willing to talk abt topics like these and post them means so much for so many people and makes me feel like y’all are rlly my family fr 🤍🤍
I love that there able to have such great boundaries enough to say no when they don’t want to answer a question!! Really shows comfortable everyone is and how much they know they’ll understand there feelings.
Sage, Cynthia and maru being so interested in love island is so funny to me I love it
Can we get yalls siblings on the podcast??
Omg yes!!
@user-tu3tu6xe6ti’m pretty sure maru only has younger siblings
@user-tu3tu6xe6t haha don’t quote me on it because i’m not 100% sure. but i do remember her mentioning it on a podcast :)
i’m so glad nick brought up him and his parents + sister dynamic when it came to fights bc i’m the same way with my family. i’m so patient and bite my tongue with friends, strangers, and other adults if they make me mad but when it comes to my parents and brother, they really do bring the worst out of me. i swear my family LOVES to push my buttons and push boundaries but not only that, they refuse to stop yelling when communicating. it’s so damn hard dealing with it
The topic of cancer and illness definitely made me feel heard and understood. When I try to explain to people what that feels like and how it’s affected me losing someone and watching it. They never understand and get it and it’s refreshing when others know the pain and it helps to know you’re not alone!
the growth of this channel over the years makes me so happy, you guys deserve all the love 💕 hope u know how much u impact the viewers lives
Y'all saved my life and I genuinely mean that. I just wanna say you guys feel like home to me, every single one of you guys has taught me something
Sean calling Maru “my dawg” ahh I love their friendship sm ❤️🩹❤️🩹
ya'll don't even understand how much I love this friend group
this episode actually made me cry. i really loved hearing everyone’s experiences throughout their life. i relate to Maru on the feeling like i shouldn’t be able to speak up. i think it’s a thing with asian parents, cause that’s what i dealt with my mother. our childhoods really do mess us up😞but i love how yall came out stronger and better☺️
I love how u guys keep it real, a lot of people go through things and im glad to see u guys handle it well and not let the past shape u into a bad person.
Dude this podcast gave the vibe of the pods back like a year to a year and 1/2 ago and it was a breath of fresh air to hear the real conversations throughout the episode🫶🏼🦦
thank you guys for opening up. You guys have no idea how much you guys are helping people who think they are alone and feel like no one has thoughts like them. We appreciate you guys. Never suffer in silence. ❤❤
Thank you for making this pod cast yall ❤ I feel like lately, your podcasts have been a lot more humor but this specific pod is really bringing me back to the reason why I started listening to you in the first place :’) I love the deep questions and topics so much
Just wanted to say that sage and sean you both are so valid for feeling the way you do!!! for being scared of loosing someone and getting sick. Cancer runs in my family and everytime I feel sick I’m too afraid to tell ANYONE even seeing my family members sick makes me terrified.❤️thank you guys for being so vulnerable and sharing things like this makes me feel less alone.
I love when you guys go into a deep conversation. Though I’ve the light hearted stuff, I live alone and don’t have many friends and just hearing how comforting you guys are for each other makes me so emotional. And it makes me realize I’m not the only one who thinks about stuff like this. 💞
This honestly is one of my favorite episodes. This honestly helped me realize my problems and you guys always help me realize and have a better mindset and become more mature
Love how yall can open up with eachother and let us see it , it shows the true strength of yalls friendship, and i definitely feel maru and nick on the parent thing , it always felt like we'd be great or nearly fist fighting , so it was so hard to talk to them aboyt anything rlly
thank you for opening up and being vulnerable with us. I really see in these episodes how much I am like all of you. I find It's easier to open up when someone is answering the hard question with you, instead of in some book asking you personal questions.
We really appreciate you guys for being vulnerable with us especially Maru 💕💕 hearing everything really makes me feel like I’m not alone. I’m not the only one who feels like they’re going crazy and keep my feelings to myself.
I genuinely love you guys so much. The first question made me realize how similar my childhood and traumas are to your guys’. Especially Sean with forcing yourself to stop feeling so much in order to be the rock for your family.
i loved every single one of your guys answer to the first question, thank you for opening up and being vulnerable with us. also just for fun I’d like to answer the question as well. I feel like just having a bad or like chaotic family where most of us arent close at all bc we can’t get along bc of so much gossip, rumors and just hating on one another definitely affects any and all relationships I have whether it’s friends or romantic and including family honestly. Like cynthia mentioned i feel like that’s why i sometimes feel emotionally unavailable, don’t know how to communicate properly and have major trust issues. Which is why i don’t personally have any close friends or family bc it’s always in the back of my mind that theyll never be as genuine as they say and show that they are. anyways sending so much love to you all🤍☺️🫂
i loved this segment and how open you all are with each other and respective of what each other when through. literally friend goals
These serious ass convos with the legalize eating ass mug on the table is throwing me lmaoo
I love how they open up about their childhood and stuff 🥺 It really helps me heal my childhood trauma's as well. I feel like I understand myself better by listening to their dissections. How they care for eachother is so cute toooo oml
It’s crazy to see the growth y’all have gone through !! I remember watching back in 2021 but wasn’t an avid watcher and then in 2022 I saw y’all getting really consistent and got into the pod again. It’s kinda crazy how time goes by so fast but I just wanna say that I really appreciate the hard work you guys put in ❤️
seeing you guys vulnerable, shows how strong you all are. ❤
I love episodes like this because sometimes we just feel like we are the only ones going through things but seeing other people talk about things that you are dealing with as well makes you understand that we arnt ever really alone. We all go through a lot of similar things just not a lot of people talk about the deep stuff when sometimes we should.
I love when Maru talks about her feelings/past, i'm the same way when it comes to talking about my past and don't want to because i know i will cry, it's inspirational to see her talk and start to cry because it's okay to cry! Yall are awesome and inspiring to me and many others
I love yall fr. this podcast is so comforting and I feel SO HEARD and understood without even needing to say anything. pls never stop this. coming from a fam with immigrant parents too and insane family history I literally related to EVERY single thing said in the first question❤❤❤❤ yall are amazing fr!!! NEVER FORGET IT
This episode is so touching for me bc what Cynthia was saying about having problems with communication with ur parents is so true bc I do have problems communicating with my parents and I just keep it to myself and it builds up.
I appreciate ya’ll for being vulnerable for us although it’s tough. I could definitely relate to some of y’all’s life experiences so it was an enjoyable segment to listen to. Supporting you always!
im ngl, I started watching suburb talks from one video I saw on tiktok for comfort, but ever since its been so much more than comfort! you can feel the genuine energy of each podcast episode. the vulnerability you guys are comfortable sharing with eachother makes me feel okay with my vulnerability
Oh no, not me crying with the first question answers. I’m happy you guys decided to talk about it, because it’s relatable, it helps process what you went through and how that affects you nowadays!!
i loved this type of episode. every one being vulnerable is refreshing. keep doing what you guys do
thank you to everyone who was vulnerable & shared. this was a great podcast
watched this while i ate mcdonald’s & thank you for making me feel not so lonely, y’all’s energy is great
This session hit really hard, I really liked how you open about your problems, I also feel identified with Maru´s experience. I really love this podcast. Keep it going 😊😊😊😊😊😊
This was a great episode!! Love when yall can be vulnerable about family it’s hard but makes a lot of us feel seen
every week no matter what is happening i can always look forward to these episodes because they always bring me such happiness. this podcast just feels like home❤️
Love listening to you all talk. I cried when you were talking about your close ones passing and being afraid to face that.
you guys have really changed my perspective on so many social topics. You guys talk about us keeping y’all going, man sometimes these podcasts are the only thing that keep me going, keep me thinking, keep me appreciating how even though humans are so complex, there is beauty to complexity. I have a long drive to commute everyday and these podcasts keep me up, keep me thinking. I even bring these topics to my own friend group to talk about. I remember when y’all mentioned you guys were going to hardsummer, I had already bought tickets and when it came to it, I was in line for food with my group and I manifested “man it’d be crazy if I saw suburb talks right about now.” I kid you not, 20 seconds after saying that to my friends, I looked over and saw Nick. I ran up to you and I was really faded, I was trying to thank you guys for the perspectives of society you guys gave me, but I just ended up mumbling and asking for a picture. You guys are amazing fr 🤝
thank you guys for being so raw and vulnerable, I related so much of what ya said this weeks podcast, luv ya guys🫶🏻
Thank You for open up. Really appreciate y'all. 🙏 Please continue to do this type of podcast. Loves it so much ❤
I truly never thought anyone else related when it came to fearing passing from an illness and leaving such pain to your loved ones. I too have had to grieve family members who passed from cancer and it fucking sucks. knowing other people relate brings me comfort, thank you guys for opening up