Linda, I am so grateful to have found your channel. I listened today to your story with tears streaming down my face. In 1990, my mother was diagnosed with Alzheimers. Little was known about the disease and there was no support. My husband & I took care of her for 4 years in our home until she was placed in a good care facility due to my own illnesses. To my stunned shock, a year later, my little 6 yr old daughter died suddenly from septicemia from a viral illness. My mother with medication at that point became the sweetest lady and comforted me during the worst time of my life. She was heaven sent. There were also many other serious crises in our life at that time. I can relate to what you are going through, Linda. Now I am 75 and my husband is 82. At the moment, we are doing okay, but, I know this will change in time. I am praying to God for guidance and wisdom. We all need to take it one day at a time and remember that , in the words of my dear aunt, "This too shall pass". I love your beautiful spirit and I will keep you in my prayers.♥
Oh my! Thank you for sharing your heartbreaking story. I am profoundly moved by all you’ve been through. It sounds like your faith has brought you through and Praise God, He will continue to do so! Thank you for your kind words and support! I appreciate it. Prayers and blessings for you today. 🙏❤️
Linda, my heart and head are so grateful God sent your channel to me. My husband of soon to be 51 years and I ar3 facing a difficult diagnosis .I just said to the Lord today that this diagnosis is not just my husband's but mine too🙏❤❤❤
Linda, my heart goes out to you because I know first hand of what you are experiencing. My husband was diagnosed about 6-7 years ago with dementia. He has gradually declined during this time . This is a man who operated heavy equipment and farmed during his adult life with a bachelors degree in business administration. He was very creative and innovative. He built our house in 1974 and just this past June we had to sell that house and move to a patio home close to our daughter because I needed assistance at times with him. We have been married 55 years and I am a retired RN. I have a deep faith in God and believe in divine healing and miracles but I also believe in God’s will being done. I pray every day for his healing but I also pray not my will but God’s will to be done because he knows what is best and our future. Our doctor says my husband has the blood work of a 25 year old and does not have any major heart or lung problems. He now is confused most of the time, has to wear pull ups instead of regular men’s underwear. His biggest care challenges for me are his objections to taking a shower and at times getting in the car to go somewhere. I bathe, shave and dress him completely.H sis very delusional and tells me stories all the time about where he has been and what he has done. I listen to him and make comments suitable to the story. I have to make sure he eats regularly. He gets hangry when he needs to eat. He doesn’t sleep well at night even with a sleeping med and sometimes doesn’t go to sleep until 6 am. He then wants to sleep all day. I miss the man that took care of our finances and did any handy man jobs I needed done. It has been difficult to adjust for being responsible for everything. So many times I have prayed “God help me”. I have to step back many times to let his brain reset. After a little while, he is more cooperative. Just know, many of us are experiencing the same thing. He also had a concussion from ahead on vehicle collision before developing dementia. May God bless and strengthen you
Thank you for sharing your story and my heart is breaking for you. Although we are not there yet I have certainly been made aware of what is coming unless God intervenes. I have had much anxiety about the future but know I must turn all things over to God and take life one day at a time. I also believe in healing but God’s perfect will be done. I will definitely be praying for your husband and you. Thank you again and I pray blessing, peace and strength for you today. ❤️
Thank you for sharing this phase of your journey. My mother -in-law had dementia. My mom has severe dementia and my dad was her caregiver until just a few months before he passed from cancer last year. Mom is in a wonderful care center. I retired 7 years ago and spent a chunk of time helping dad help mom. The hallucinations and mood swings are incredible. If it was only about memory loss, wouldn't that be a blessing? But no, it takes most of their personality with it. Mom and Dad were married for nearly 70 years. That's a lot of shared history together... until you're the only person who remembers it. May our Lord sustain you.
Thank you much for sharing your story. It is such an encouragement to connect with others in similar circumstances even if you’re in a different phase in the journey. I pray grace and comfort over you and blessings as well. Thanks again for watching and commenting.❤️
Oh Linda, I'm so grateful to God that I found you and your channel this morning! I was looking through some of the titles of your videos after subscribing and came across this. Several years ago, my Dad was diagnosed with Parkinson's. Last fall, he was diagnosed with Parkinson's related dementia. They told Mom it was a slow progression. Thankfully, my parents (married 53 years) know Jesus and raised my sister and I to also know the Lord, and we are still strong in our faith today. That said, this has been such a painful journey. You said SO many things that I can relate to. I see Mom doing all she can to now take care of Dad. My sister and I and our families offer as much support and help as possible, but this has certainly taken a toll on her. So much uncertainty, so many unanswered questions, and yet, as you aptly put, we know God is sovereign. It still hurts so much though. I look forward to watching the rest of your videos on this topic, as well as the others!! THANK YOU for encouraging me today. Sorry this is so long, but I'm going to add you, your husband and family to my prayer journal. My heart goes out to you. Thanks for being so open on this topic. I see as of now that you have 3,000 views...think of that...that's a lot of people you have inspired and encouraged! I will pray for you! You shine the love of God, and again, I'm so grateful I found you here! May God bless and lift you and your family up!!
Hi Linda, My heart goes out to you. I had to care for my husband who had very serious health issues. I understand the need for advocacy. It is essential these days. My husband eventually developed dementia suddenly. He was in and out of the hospital and passed in January from progressive lung disease. Illness does not impact one person. This is a shared illness and anyone who tells you differently doesn’t understand because they are not living with this every day. Vascular dementia progresses slower than Alzheimer's ‘and brain scans should be able to pick up on build-up in the brain. My husband developed Vascular dementia and he had hand tremors Any type of dementia is awful whether it’s Lewy Body or another type. You are dealing with it as best you can. God bless you!
I am overwhelmed by your kindness! And my heart goes out to you as well for all you’ve been through. And of course, I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ll be praying for you and thank you again. Blessings on you and yours.
Oh Linda, sending heartfelt hugs. I had your videos pop up earlier yesterday. And have watched several before this. My heart goes out to you. The person that told you that this isn't about you was cruel to say that. Because when your spouse is ill you are going through it with them every step . Always listening and watching. I know because I lost my late husband 11 years and 8-1/2 months ago. I was 63 years old and he was 64 years. We were married July 1969 and he died August 2012. We were married 43 years 1 month 8 days when he died. He was sick from the middle of November 2011 to middle of August 2012. I took care of him at home. He kept losing weight. Three weeks before he died he weighted 115 pounds. I know he must of weighted less when he passed. He was 6 foot-1-1/2 inches and normal weight was usually 195 lbs. After all kinds of test the medical profession never did find what was wrong with my husband. He changed from Marshfield to Mayo.. And Mayo wanted to redo all the test all over again. My husband refused. We were OTR truckers. I sold our semi and trailer after his death. I went two grief groups afterwards. Most of my friends are widows now.. My advice take a little break now and then for a hour or so. Have a family member stay with Butch during the break. Let God do the worrying as he is going to be up all night anyway. I live at Menomonie Wisconsin...Thank you for the video. Blessings to you.
Thank you for your kind words and encouragement and for sharing your story. My heart goes out to you and my prayers will be with you. Blessings on you today! ❤️🙏
What a blessing to have found you! I was looking for some hints on how to get chores done easily. Hubby has Alzheimer's and is no longer able to help physically and mentally. I had no idea that I would also find out that your dealing with a Husband with Dementia. It's hard to try to keep up with everything alone. I will be watching all of your incredibly helpful videos. Blessings to you and yours.
Just found you and I feel so glad to have come across this. You warm my heart. I will pray for you and Butch. Thank you for sharing your story you are going to help a lot of people and give them hope that they can find joy in their lives when things get difficult. Me included.
I’m so sorry, but I’m so glad you guys have Christ as your Savior. What a beautiful testimony you two have being married for so long. Remain in Him and He will guide and give you peace and strength. I can’t go into detail right now, but I am in a similar situation. My hubby is a Pastor and is very sick as well. We’ve had a couple of very difficult years. Our future will be a tough one as well… But like you said. We always have something to be grateful for. And yes we do… Phil 4:7 ❤🙏❤️ Love your videos .. so glad I found them
Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement. Your story really touches my heart. And yes, the Lord is my strength and song for sure! Praise His name! I am so thankful for His faithfulness and whatever strength I have is all in Him every single day. “I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me,” Phil. 4:13 Please know that I will be keeping you in my prayers, blessings on you and your husband. ❤️🙏
just subbed, I am dealing with this now with my husband, diagnosed with Alzheimers 5 years ago. Got him in a research program within a year of diagnosis. He is still hanging in there, he did fall and break a leg which has slowed him down a bit. He has trouble with words but still can talk. He has visual spacing that some Alzheimers pts get. He cannot drive, use phone or computer. Loses his balance and has to have someone with him at all times. (99% of time its me) He is a Christian and has given this to God. He does have some frustration (which is expected) but has never lashed out at me or anyone. He cannot dress himself anymore. I thank God for our faith and without it I think we would not be doing as well. He is 74 at this time. I will be following up with you as time goes on. God be with you and your husband. I will keep you in my prayers everyday and every night.
God bless you sweet lady! Your story has truly touched me! I pray God’s strength for you as you care for your husband. We are just beginning this journey and if not for God, I would be so afraid for what is to come. But I know He will be with each step of the way. Blessings and prayers on you and your husband! ❤️
God sent you to me today. Glory be to God... ✝️. I am 65 and my husband is 65,. We both are a wee bit forgetful. My dad is 85 and he is another story. He is still driving 🚗. My son and his family live with dad, My son is a home care nurse. Dad's long term memory is good, We talk about the good old days. He knows everyone and is able to drive to church.He tells things over and over. He has a hard time with words and we help him to remember, His doctor told him to take B 12. He has more energy . He does have mood swings. So far we are coping. God bless you❤✝️❤️
Thank you so much for watching and commenting and sharing your story. I certainly do understand all that you said and I’ll be praying for you. Blessings on you today!
I am so sorry you are going through this. I find your journey very interesting and want to hear every word as I am older and have family members who have gone through this. Sometimes it was difficult to hear because the music was too loud for your soft voice.
Thank you for you’re kind words but I assure you I’m just a regular person going through life and all it’s challenges one day and one prayer at a time. But for God I wouldn’t make it one day. But I do appreciate your kindness. Thanks again for watching and blessings on you and yours! ❤️
Ms. Linda. Thank you for so much transparency. Your truth is setting others free. In your sharing, I have found great comfort. My daddy also had dementia. While I was his daughter, it was my mama who had to be his caretaker and I saw how very hard it was on her. I never once heard her complain. Of course, she would share all the effects it was having on her, but it wasn’t complaining. Your stories are very similar. Mom and daddy were married for 46 years. It started when mom would wake up in the middle of the night, only to find him gone. Several times, he would be in the front yard in his pajamas staring in the sky. Another time they found him in years car with his shoes unlaced and he would be there for over an hour. He was also having the tremors and , hallucinations. He was a Vietnam veteran, so a lot of his episodes involved those memories. As his dementia progressed mom had to hide the keys, installed a camera inside and outside of their house. When she went to look at finances, she discovered that daddy had not paid any bills for three months. They foreclosed. Then after daddy passed. Mom went to take dad’s 401 K only to find out all $260,000 was gone and she had/has no idea where it went. And when she went to collect life insurance, he had not paid it in over a year. The ramifications from dementia can be or are devastating. While my heart is breaking for you, I do thank God that you have all affairs in order. You are an incredible truth-teller who is shedding light on the realities of dementia. I will continue to follow your journey. I will be faithful to pray for you, Mr. Butch, and your entire family. Much love, Chantelle
Hello sweet Chantelle! What a joy it is to hear from you and I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your kind, encouraging words. And thank you so much for your prayers! Maybe if I ever get back to Atlanta I can see all y’all sisters in Christ again! Love and prayers to you!!!
Linda, I just found your videos this morning trusting there would be something inspiring in my feed. And there you were in Divine Right Order, just what I needed! Thank you for your transparency and honesty about the struggles of aging, financial difficulties in our senior years and a husband (15 years my senior, I'm 65, he is almost 80) with dementia. Your story could be mine. I agree with your friend who told you that the journey with hubby's dementia would require a deeper spiritual walk than ever before! I am humbled by how God always meets our needs and blesses us with exactly what we need at exactly the right time even in finding your channel this morning! Thank you for having the courage to share your inspiring journey. Your zest for life and your attitude with the southern twist are precious! (I'm a NC girl myself!) I will look forward to following you. Congratulations on a fabulous channel. Many Blessings. ....
Linda, I don't usually even watch videos like this, b/c I went through this w/ my beloved Daddy. He died in 2007, and I think I'm still recovering. You are in my prayers!!! Definitely grateful you have God and this TH-cam channel! Susan Buchanan, Little Poet, is a very good woman to watch for encouragement!
This was your second video I watched.. your honesty and transparency is so refreshing. We have had several friends and relatives with dementia. It is all about the whole family, it takes a village. My husband and myself were care givers and it was hard. But somehow God was our strength and wisdom. I sence you have great faith, which God will truly honor. My husband and I are both retired, have good health and are so thankful daily to God for his protection and provision. Praying for you both and look forward to watching many more videos.
Linda, thanks for sharing your heart. I love you and will be praying for you and Butch as y’all go through this difficult time. Feel free to call should you ever need to scream. Love you, my friend.
Thank you dear friend. This is why I retired in 2022. I still travel teach a few days so that is helpful. I appreciate your kind words and of course covet your prayers. Thanks for the offer to scream. Might just take you up on that. Love and prayers, ❤
Great video! Thanks for sharing! I was just diagnosed with with MCI on January 29th It took 4 months of waiting for Scheduled test to find out. I will have a Lumbar puncture this Thursday March 14th To see what kind of dementia I have. 😮 Takes 4-6 weeks to get results back. One question: Did your husband have a Lumbar puncture to find out EXACTLY what kind of dementia he had? Prayers for You ALL Linda I had a few concerns about memory 3 years ago and told my primary care physician, she brushed me off and said, we will see next year. When I went to her last summer, I told her about my memory problems and she said, “if it’s still there( memory problems) then it obviously not going to get better, I’ll send you to a neurologist” These drs really need to care and listen to their patients!!
So sorry to hear about your diagnosis. To answer your question, Butch has Lewy Body Dementia. He had a thorough 6 hr. Psychological work up at University of Florida’s Dementia Center on January 23rd and our final definitive diagnosis is LBD. No lumber puncture. I’ll be praying for you. ❤
Thank you so much for your kind and encouraging words! And of course your prayers are so appreciated. Thanks for watching and blessings on you and yours!
Linda, I truly grateful for you sharing this, I watched my maternal grandmother go through this.I agree with you on the health care system it has gone cuputz! And I am glad to hear you and your husband found a great health care team.Its a greif going through this because what people don't realize is it's a loss for the person and family.Yes find a support group I'm sure in your church family their will be other's who have and are experiencing it as well.I will be lifting you and your husband up in prayer.May God continue to cover you both in his care and protection.🙏🕊️💚
Although my late husband didnt have dementia, he was not medically well for several years before he passed (from unrelated causes) and I was his care taker. We were together 21 years and I wasnt yet 50 years old, with no kids and no family. He was my family, at that time and we were "that" couple that everyone looked at and wondered how we were so happy after so many years of marriage. He took care of me, like you, until he couldnt anymore. It was a HUGE shift, so I totally understand that not only are you losing your care taker and having to take care of more worldly things, you are also losing HIM. It's really two things, and very separate and different things piled on top of each other. And I agree that the spouse doesnt receive the support nor recognition that they need and so much deserve. My husband and I often discussed how he was going through something horrible but that after he was "done", I still had to somehow live life without him. I would say to him that he "got to" go to heaven, and left me here in hell on earth. But time went on and I have healed (you will never "get over it" but you will get used to it). I often will tell people that your wedding vows mean more when you spouse is ill or passes. Through sickness and health; In good times and in bad both mean so much more than they did on the day we said them in front of our friends, family and church. I feel good, though, knowing that I took my vows seriously and did a good job. It wasnt easy, but I did do the best job I knew how to. He died a happy man. I would pray "Lord, give me peace." a hundred times a day both during his illness and after his death. And it WORKED too! May the Lord shine on you and give you peace, my friend. Never, ever forget that HE stands with you always and ultimately IS what will get you through this difficult season of your lives and the afterward.
Your story is beautiful, heartbreaking and encouraging all at the same time! Thank you so much for sharing! We are navigating many new and deep waters and if not for God, I would not make it for one day. Everything I do is THROUGH HIS STRENGTH and certainly not my own. Thank you again for watching and I pray blessings on you and yours! 🙏❤️
Linda, I think the Lord led me to your channel. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I am so sorry you and your husband are going through this. I do understand what your saying about the caregiver role, I take care of both of my parents with alzheimers/ dementia they are both in their 80's. Yes, its extremely exhausting I just know though that I will enjoy everyday as much as possible with them just as you and your husband are doing. Sending prayers 🙏
Thank you for your kind words and your story really touched my heart. I can’t imagine the load you carry with taking care of both parents. I lost mine within 2 months of each other in 2010. Rough year for me but praise God, He brought me through and is my strength every day. It sounds like you are a strong believer and put your hope in Him. Thanks again for watching and Blessings on you and yours! ❤️
I’m sorry that you and your husband are going through this difficult time. Then finally you get a diagnosis after all he had to go through first. I do appreciate you talking about this. I do agree with you about the healthcare system that we are facing right now. This unavailability with drs is awful. I know what you are experiencing when you cannot speak with your dr and have to go through channels and wait days for an answer. I managed to find a new PCP who owns her own practice and isn’t in the huge system of universities that take over many practices. It is a blessing to be able to send her an email and she is the one answering. Looking forward to more video’s!
Thank you so much for sharing! It’s good to know that other folks struggle through this healthcare quagmire! And I appreciate your kind words of encouragement. Have a blessed day!
We we are married we become one, so yes it’s happening to you too. My brother in law had Lewy body and it went quickly. It’s a blessing that it’s moving slowly. Just hold each other and enjoy every minute you have together! My husband passed 10 years ago after being married 43 years. I will pray for you and your husband, if it’s Gods will you will still have a lot of years left!! God Bless You!❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement. And of course your prayers are so appreciated. And yes, we are thankful this thing is moving slowly. God is our strength and shield for sure!!!! Thanks again and blessings on you and yours!
Bless your heart...love your transparency and honesty about your situation and the ability to reach out. Reaching out and asking for help is so hard for me...I need to learn how to do that and this video has inspired me to try harder...bless you:)
Thank you for your kind words and encouragement. I’m just taking life one day at a time trusting God as I walk through this journey. Thanks so much for watching and commenting. Blessings on you today!
Dear Linda I almost hate to post what my husbands gone through after hearing you and seeing others comments. In 2019 at the age of about 74 my husband was diagnosed with Prostate cancer, it was a very high number. He decided not to have surgery or radiation at that time but chose to let the doctors put him on some experimental drugs. It was a nightmare for him, physically, emotionally and psychologically. He took to his bed because he was in too much pain to sit. That went on for months. Finally I suggested for him to stop the drugs and asked the doctor if he could do the radiation and he agreed. My husband went through all the weeks of radiation and it worked. They said he was cancer free and still is, thank Gods. in between he had to be rushed to the hospital for an emergency triple bypass, got through that and 3 days later his gall bladder burst so rushed back into surgery. He was hospitalized for many weeks too weak to walk so sent to a rehab before he could come home. He recovered from all that, even went to the Y and was getting stronger, we all were so happy! BUT just before Thanksgiving 2021 he developed severe hemorrhoids so they did a surgery for that. Then a couple of weeks later he woke and had a sudden massive explosion of blood and had to be rushed to the hospital. Poor man had to start wearing depends. Then a few months later he suddenly had breathing difficulties and I had to call 911 again. He was diagnosed with severe COPD and now has to carry around oxygen. A few weeks after that he suddenly had a pain running down from his hip to his foot, tests show it’s from his lower back, no one’s been able to help him with that and they can’t do surgery because he’s too much of a health risk. I can’t believe all the medications he’s on. I’ve had to take him to so many doctors, chiropractor even massage therapist. Life is a living hell and now he’s lost his hearing and has no desire to do anything. Like you I’ve had to learn to take care of finances and our home. Our life consists of doctor appointments after doctor appointments. We go no where and he can hardly stand, stairs are a real challenge and he falls a lot going up them. His mind doesn’t seem to be affected but he has no desire to do anything. We barely talk anymore. I pray for you and all your subscribers that are going through similar things. I have to put all my trust in God because I don’t know how we’d get through it all. I’m asking for prayers also. 🙏
Wow!! it is heartbreaking to hear all that you have gone through and all that your husband has endured. As I have said many times, you don’t have to look too far to see how blessed you are, and when I hear your story, my heart breaks for you. I pray That God continues to hold you up and be your strength when you are weak. And I specifically pray that even today God would send someone, some thing or circumstance, to encourage you and give you a new Hope. Thank you so much for sharing.❤️🙏
Thank you so much for watching and for your comment. I’m so sorry you lost your mamaw but it sounds like being a caregiver was your blessing. Such an encouragement. Thank you. Prayers. ❤
Yes, I know about the music and will definitely fix that for future videos. Sorry about that. And thank you so much for watching and your kind words. I really appreciate it. Blessings on you!
I love your spirit ❤️ I love how you trust in the Lord sincerely 🙏🏼 and wait for His help 🙏🏼 ❤️ What a beautiful life you and your husband have lived. You know what you believe in. 😀 You've lived it together ❤️ PRAISE God for his blessings and mercies are new every morning. My baby sister has only days left on this earth. We've learned of her cancer 2 weeks ago, and there is no time left. She has peace with the Lord. We know we will be together again..she gets to see our parents before me. But...Oh to see Jesus ❤️ ❤️ 🙌 Our daddy also got alzheimer, so I know in part what you are are facing. We are never alone. I see you have faith and victory in Jesus. Sweet blessings to you both. Live is always good with you great attitude 👍🏼 ❤️ and prayers
Dear Linda, just trust in the Lord and He will lead you cause He is the Good Shepherd. He gave you the blessings you need, that is for sure. I list my late husband in 2013 as he got LB D as well. I will pray for you and your husband .Meanwhile embrace your children and grandchildren.
Thank you so much for your encouragement and I’m so sorry for your loss. And yes, God is my strength, refuge and fortress. I do not know how people go through this without the Lord. I cannot imagine it. Blessings on you and thank you again for commenting. ❤🙏
I really enjoy your channel however the music makes it difficult for me to hear you. I suppose it is my hearing issues, but could you not use music. Thank you.
Could it be a side effect of too many shots or medications? The meds people take sooner or later produce side effects like other problems in the mind or body. Maybe he will get better with the right Naturopathic doctor. Maybe not. I hope things get better for you. I read where there’s lots of drugs that cause dementia. Like those pills for allergies and Tylenol PM . There’s many others too.
Yes we have a whole list of meds, scripts and otcs that we do not take. He had 4 concussions in his football career and that is likely the cause. Thank you so much for your comment.
Linda, I am so grateful to have found your channel. I listened today to your story with tears streaming down my face. In 1990, my mother was diagnosed with Alzheimers. Little was known about the disease and there was no support. My husband & I took care of her for 4 years in our home until she was placed in a good care facility due to my own illnesses. To my stunned shock, a year later, my little 6 yr old daughter died suddenly from septicemia from a viral illness. My mother with medication at that point became the sweetest lady and comforted me during the worst time of my life. She was heaven sent. There were also many other serious crises in our life at that time. I can relate to what you are going through, Linda. Now I am 75 and my husband is 82. At the moment, we are doing okay, but, I know this will change in time. I am praying to God for guidance and wisdom. We all need to take it one day at a time and remember that , in the words of my dear aunt, "This too shall pass". I love your beautiful spirit and I will keep you in my prayers.♥
Oh my! Thank you for sharing your heartbreaking story. I am profoundly moved by all you’ve been through. It sounds like your faith has brought you through and Praise God, He will continue to do so! Thank you for your kind words and support! I appreciate it. Prayers and blessings for you today. 🙏❤️
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Linda, my heart and head are so grateful God sent your channel to me. My husband of soon to be 51 years and I ar3 facing a difficult diagnosis
.I just said to the Lord today that this diagnosis is not just my husband's but mine too🙏❤❤❤
Linda, my heart goes out to you because I know first hand of what you are experiencing. My husband was diagnosed about 6-7 years ago with dementia. He has gradually declined during this time . This is a man who operated heavy equipment and farmed during his adult life with a bachelors degree in business administration. He was very creative and innovative. He built our house in 1974 and just this past June we had to sell that house and move to a patio home close to our daughter because I needed assistance at times with him. We have been married 55 years and I am a retired RN. I have a deep faith in God and believe in divine healing and miracles but I also believe in God’s will being done. I pray every day for his healing but I also pray not my will but God’s will to be done because he knows what is best and our future. Our doctor says my husband has the blood work of a 25 year old and does not have any major heart or lung problems. He now is confused most of the time, has to wear pull ups instead of regular men’s underwear. His biggest care challenges for me are his objections to taking a shower and at times getting in the car to go somewhere. I bathe, shave and dress him completely.H sis very delusional and tells me stories all the time about where he has been and what he has done. I listen to him and make comments suitable to the story. I have to make sure he eats regularly. He gets hangry when he needs to eat. He doesn’t sleep well at night even with a sleeping med and sometimes doesn’t go to sleep until 6 am. He then wants to sleep all day. I miss the man that took care of our finances and did any handy man jobs I needed done. It has been difficult to adjust for being responsible for everything. So many times I have prayed “God help me”. I have to step back many times to let his brain reset. After a little while, he is more cooperative. Just know, many of us are experiencing the same thing. He also had a concussion from ahead on vehicle collision before developing dementia. May God bless and strengthen you
Thank you for sharing your story and my heart is breaking for you. Although we are not there yet I have certainly been made aware of what is coming unless God intervenes. I have had much anxiety about the future but know I must turn all things over to God and take life one day at a time. I also believe in healing but God’s perfect will be done. I will definitely be praying for your husband and you. Thank you again and I pray blessing, peace and strength for you today. ❤️
Thank you for sharing this phase of your journey. My mother -in-law had dementia. My mom has severe dementia and my dad was her caregiver until just a few months before he passed from cancer last year. Mom is in a wonderful care center. I retired 7 years ago and spent a chunk of time helping dad help mom. The hallucinations and mood swings are incredible. If it was only about memory loss, wouldn't that be a blessing? But no, it takes most of their personality with it. Mom and Dad were married for nearly 70 years. That's a lot of shared history together... until you're the only person who remembers it. May our Lord sustain you.
Thank you much for sharing your story. It is such an encouragement to connect with others in similar circumstances even if you’re in a different phase in the journey. I pray grace and comfort over you and blessings as well. Thanks again for watching and commenting.❤️
Oh Linda, I'm so grateful to God that I found you and your channel this morning! I was looking through some of the titles of your videos after subscribing and came across this. Several years ago, my Dad was diagnosed with Parkinson's. Last fall, he was diagnosed with Parkinson's related dementia. They told Mom it was a slow progression. Thankfully, my parents (married 53 years) know Jesus and raised my sister and I to also know the Lord, and we are still strong in our faith today. That said, this has been such a painful journey. You said SO many things that I can relate to. I see Mom doing all she can to now take care of Dad. My sister and I and our families offer as much support and help as possible, but this has certainly taken a toll on her. So much uncertainty, so many unanswered questions, and yet, as you aptly put, we know God is sovereign. It still hurts so much though. I look forward to watching the rest of your videos on this topic, as well as the others!! THANK YOU for encouraging me today. Sorry this is so long, but I'm going to add you, your husband and family to my prayer journal. My heart goes out to you. Thanks for being so open on this topic. I see as of now that you have 3,000 views...think of that...that's a lot of people you have inspired and encouraged! I will pray for you! You shine the love of God, and again, I'm so grateful I found you here! May God bless and lift you and your family up!!
Praise God for any encouragement or help you have received through my words. To Him be all the glory!!! Prayers for you and yours.🙏❤️
Hi Linda, My heart goes out to you. I had to care for my husband who had very serious health issues. I understand the need for advocacy. It is essential these days. My husband eventually developed dementia suddenly. He was in and out of the hospital and passed in January from progressive lung disease. Illness does not impact one person. This is a shared illness and anyone who tells you differently doesn’t understand because they are not living with this every day. Vascular dementia progresses slower than Alzheimer's ‘and brain scans should be able to pick up on build-up in the brain. My husband developed Vascular dementia and he had hand tremors Any type of dementia is awful whether it’s Lewy Body or another type. You are dealing with it as best you can. God bless you!
I am overwhelmed by your kindness! And my heart goes out to you as well for all you’ve been through. And of course, I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ll be praying for you and thank you again. Blessings on you and yours.
I will pray for you both, and ask for Divine Intervention to take place, God bless you always
Oh Linda, sending heartfelt hugs. I had your videos pop up earlier yesterday. And have watched several before this. My heart goes out to you. The person that told you that this isn't about you was cruel to say that. Because when your spouse is ill you are going through it with them every step . Always listening and watching. I know because I lost my late husband 11 years and 8-1/2 months ago. I was 63 years old and he was 64 years. We were married July 1969 and he died August 2012. We were married 43 years 1 month 8 days when he died. He was sick from the middle of November 2011 to middle of August 2012. I took care of him at home. He kept losing weight. Three weeks before he died he weighted 115 pounds. I know he must of weighted less when he passed. He was 6 foot-1-1/2 inches and normal weight was usually 195 lbs. After all kinds of test the medical profession never did find what was wrong with my husband. He changed from Marshfield to Mayo.. And Mayo wanted to redo all the test all over again. My husband refused. We were OTR truckers. I sold our semi and trailer after his death. I went two grief groups afterwards. Most of my friends are widows now.. My advice take a little break now and then for a hour or so. Have a family member stay with Butch during the break. Let God do the worrying as he is going to be up all night anyway. I live at Menomonie Wisconsin...Thank you for the video. Blessings to you.
Thank you for your kind words and encouragement and for sharing your story. My heart goes out to you and my prayers will be with you. Blessings on you today! ❤️🙏
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What a blessing to have found you! I was looking for some hints on how to get chores done easily.
Hubby has Alzheimer's and is no longer able to help physically and mentally. I had no idea that I would also find out that your dealing with a Husband with Dementia.
It's hard to try to keep up with everything alone.
I will be watching all of your incredibly helpful videos. Blessings to you and yours.
@@debbiecalongne9628 Thank you for your kind words! You made my day!!! Blessings on you and your husband today!❤️🙏
Just found you and I feel so glad to have come across this. You warm my heart. I will pray for you and Butch. Thank you for sharing your story you are going to help a lot of people and give them hope that they can find joy in their lives when things get difficult. Me included.
Thank you for your kind words of encouragement. And thanks so much for watching! Blessings!
I’m so sorry, but I’m so glad you guys have Christ as your Savior. What a beautiful testimony you two have being married for so long. Remain in Him and He will guide and give you peace and strength.
I can’t go into detail right now, but I am in a similar situation. My hubby is a Pastor and is very sick as well. We’ve had a couple of very difficult years. Our future will be a tough one as well… But like you said. We always have something to be grateful for.
And yes we do…
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Love your videos .. so glad I found them
Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement. Your story really touches my heart. And yes, the Lord is my strength and song for sure! Praise His name! I am so thankful for His faithfulness and whatever strength I have is all in Him every single day. “I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me,” Phil. 4:13 Please know that I will be keeping you in my prayers, blessings on you and your husband. ❤️🙏
@@LiveandLaughwithLinda-jy7pooh thank you so much…
And for you guys as well. 🙏❤️🙏
Thanks for sharing Linda. There's lots of people out there going through this. I think it will help them too.
Thank you. ❤
just subbed, I am dealing with this now with my husband, diagnosed with Alzheimers 5 years ago. Got him in a research program within a year of diagnosis. He is still hanging in there, he did fall and break a leg which has slowed him down a bit. He has trouble with words but still can talk. He has visual spacing that some Alzheimers pts get. He cannot drive, use phone or computer. Loses his balance and has to have someone with him at all times. (99% of time its me) He is a Christian and has given this to God. He does have some frustration (which is expected) but has never lashed out at me or anyone. He cannot dress himself anymore. I thank God for our faith and without it I think we would not be doing as well. He is 74 at this time. I will be following up with you as time goes on. God be with you and your husband. I will keep you in my prayers everyday and every night.
God bless you sweet lady! Your story has truly touched me! I pray God’s strength for you as you care for your husband. We are just beginning this journey and if not for God, I would be so afraid for what is to come. But I know He will be with each step of the way. Blessings and prayers on you and your husband! ❤️
God sent you to me today. Glory be to God... ✝️. I am 65 and my husband is 65,. We both are a wee bit forgetful. My dad is 85 and he is another story. He is still driving 🚗. My son and his family live with dad, My son is a home care nurse. Dad's long term memory is good, We talk about the good old days. He knows everyone and is able to drive to church.He tells things over and over. He has a hard time with words and we help him to remember, His doctor told him to take B 12. He has more energy . He does have mood swings. So far we are coping. God bless you❤✝️❤️
Thank you so much for watching and commenting and sharing your story. I certainly do understand all that you said and I’ll be praying for you. Blessings on you today!
I am so sorry you are going through this. I find your journey very interesting and want to hear every word as I am older and have family members who have gone through this. Sometimes it was difficult to hear because the music was too loud for your soft voice.
Thank you so much and I’m so sorry about the music. I will definitely fix that in the future. Blessings on you today! ❤
Linda, I'm so impressed with you! You are an amazing person. You and Butch are in my prayers!
Thank you for you’re kind words but I assure you I’m just a regular person going through life and all it’s challenges one day and one prayer at a time. But for God I wouldn’t make it one day. But I do appreciate your kindness. Thanks again for watching and blessings on you and yours! ❤️
Ms. Linda. Thank you for so much transparency. Your truth is setting others free. In your sharing, I have found great comfort. My daddy also had dementia. While I was his daughter, it was my mama who had to be his caretaker and I saw how very hard it was on her. I never once heard her complain. Of course, she would share all the effects it was having on her, but it wasn’t complaining. Your stories are very similar. Mom and daddy were married for 46 years. It started when mom would wake up in the middle of the night, only to find him gone. Several times, he would be in the front yard in his pajamas staring in the sky. Another time they found him in years car with his shoes unlaced and he would be there for over an hour. He was also having the tremors and , hallucinations. He was a Vietnam veteran, so a lot of his episodes involved those memories. As his dementia progressed mom had to hide the keys, installed a camera inside and outside of their house. When she went to look at finances, she discovered that daddy had not paid any bills for three months. They foreclosed. Then after daddy passed. Mom went to take dad’s 401 K only to find out all $260,000 was gone and she had/has no idea where it went. And when she went to collect life insurance, he had not paid it in over a year. The ramifications from dementia can be or are devastating. While my heart is breaking for you, I do thank God that you have all affairs in order. You are an incredible truth-teller who is shedding light on the realities of dementia. I will continue to follow your journey. I will be faithful to pray for you, Mr. Butch, and your entire family. Much love, Chantelle
Hello sweet Chantelle! What a joy it is to hear from you and I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your kind, encouraging words. And thank you so much for your prayers! Maybe if I ever get back to Atlanta I can see all y’all sisters in Christ again! Love and prayers to you!!!
Linda, I just found your videos this morning trusting there would be something inspiring in my feed. And there you were in Divine Right Order, just what I needed! Thank you for your transparency and honesty about the struggles of aging, financial difficulties in our senior years and a husband (15 years my senior, I'm 65, he is almost 80) with dementia. Your story could be mine. I agree with your friend who told you that the journey with hubby's dementia would require a deeper spiritual walk than ever before! I am humbled by how God always meets our needs and blesses us with exactly what we need at exactly the right time even in finding your channel this morning! Thank you for having the courage to share your inspiring journey. Your zest for life and your attitude with the southern twist are precious! (I'm a NC girl myself!) I will look forward to following you. Congratulations on a fabulous channel. Many Blessings. ....
I’m overwhelmed by your kind words and encouragement! Thank you so much for watching. I really appreciate it! Blessing on you today!❤️
Blessings & prayers from Texas, Christian sister.
Thank you! Blessings to you from N. Florida! ❤️
Linda, I don't usually even watch videos like this, b/c I went through this w/ my beloved Daddy. He died in 2007, and I think I'm still recovering. You are in my prayers!!! Definitely grateful you have God and this TH-cam channel! Susan Buchanan, Little Poet, is a very good woman to watch for encouragement!
This was your second video I watched.. your honesty and transparency is so refreshing. We have had several friends and relatives with dementia. It is all about the whole family, it takes a village. My husband and myself were care givers and it was hard. But somehow God was our strength and wisdom. I sence you have great faith, which God will truly honor. My husband and I are both retired, have good health and are so thankful daily to God for his protection and provision. Praying for you both and look forward to watching many more videos.
Thank you for your kind words, prayers and encouragement! And of course for watching! Blessings on you and yours! ❤️
Linda, thanks for sharing your heart. I love you and will be praying for you and Butch as y’all go through this difficult time. Feel free to call should you ever need to scream. Love you, my friend.
Thank you dear friend. This is why I retired in 2022. I still travel teach a few days so that is helpful. I appreciate your kind words and of course covet your prayers. Thanks for the offer to scream. Might just take you up on that. Love and prayers, ❤
Oh Linda, I am so sorry, may God give you and Butch peace. My heart cries for you. 🥺
Thank you so much. Yes, God is definitely our strength and peace. Thanks again and blessings on you and yours. ❤️
Great video! Thanks for sharing!
I was just diagnosed with with MCI on January 29th
It took 4 months of waiting for
Scheduled test to find out. I will have a Lumbar puncture this Thursday March 14th
To see what kind of dementia I have. 😮
Takes 4-6 weeks to get results back. One question: Did your husband have a Lumbar puncture to find out EXACTLY what kind of dementia he had?
Prayers for You ALL Linda
I had a few concerns about memory 3 years ago and told my primary care physician, she brushed me off and said, we will see next year.
When I went to her last summer, I told her about my memory problems and she said, “if it’s still there( memory problems) then it obviously not going to get better, I’ll send you to a neurologist”
These drs really need to care and listen to their patients!!
So sorry to hear about your diagnosis. To answer your question, Butch has Lewy Body Dementia. He had a thorough 6 hr. Psychological work up at University of Florida’s Dementia Center on January 23rd and our final definitive diagnosis is LBD. No lumber puncture. I’ll be praying for you. ❤
Thank you so much for your kind and encouraging words! And of course your prayers are so appreciated. Thanks for watching and blessings on you and yours!
Linda, I truly grateful for you sharing this, I watched my maternal grandmother go through this.I agree with you on the health care system it has gone cuputz! And I am glad to hear you and your husband found a great health care team.Its a greif going through this because what people don't realize is it's a loss for the person and family.Yes find a support group I'm sure in your church family their will be other's who have and are experiencing it as well.I will be lifting you and your husband up in prayer.May God continue to cover you both in his care and protection.🙏🕊️💚
Thank you so much for your kind words of encouragement! I really appreciate it! Blessings!❤️
Although my late husband didnt have dementia, he was not medically well for several years before he passed (from unrelated causes) and I was his care taker. We were together 21 years and I wasnt yet 50 years old, with no kids and no family. He was my family, at that time and we were "that" couple that everyone looked at and wondered how we were so happy after so many years of marriage. He took care of me, like you, until he couldnt anymore. It was a HUGE shift, so I totally understand that not only are you losing your care taker and having to take care of more worldly things, you are also losing HIM. It's really two things, and very separate and different things piled on top of each other. And I agree that the spouse doesnt receive the support nor recognition that they need and so much deserve. My husband and I often discussed how he was going through something horrible but that after he was "done", I still had to somehow live life without him. I would say to him that he "got to" go to heaven, and left me here in hell on earth. But time went on and I have healed (you will never "get over it" but you will get used to it). I often will tell people that your wedding vows mean more when you spouse is ill or passes. Through sickness and health; In good times and in bad both mean so much more than they did on the day we said them in front of our friends, family and church. I feel good, though, knowing that I took my vows seriously and did a good job. It wasnt easy, but I did do the best job I knew how to. He died a happy man. I would pray "Lord, give me peace." a hundred times a day both during his illness and after his death. And it WORKED too! May the Lord shine on you and give you peace, my friend. Never, ever forget that HE stands with you always and ultimately IS what will get you through this difficult season of your lives and the afterward.
Your story is beautiful, heartbreaking and encouraging all at the same time! Thank you so much for sharing! We are navigating many new and deep waters and if not for God, I would not make it for one day. Everything I do is THROUGH HIS STRENGTH and certainly not my own. Thank you again for watching and I pray blessings on you and yours! 🙏❤️
Linda, I think the Lord led me to your channel. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I am so sorry you and your husband are going through this. I do understand what your saying about the caregiver role, I take care of both of my parents with alzheimers/ dementia they are both in their 80's. Yes, its extremely exhausting I just know though that I will enjoy everyday as much as possible with them just as you and your husband are doing. Sending prayers 🙏
Thank you for your kind words and your story really touched my heart. I can’t imagine the load you carry with taking care of both parents. I lost mine within 2 months of each other in 2010. Rough year for me but praise God, He brought me through and is my strength every day. It sounds like you are a strong believer and put your hope in Him. Thanks again for watching and Blessings on you and yours! ❤️
I’m sorry that you and your husband are going through this difficult time. Then finally you get a diagnosis after all he had to go through first. I do appreciate you talking about this. I do agree with you about the healthcare system that we are facing right now. This unavailability with drs is awful. I know what you are experiencing when you cannot speak with your dr and have to go through channels and wait days for an answer. I managed to find a new PCP who owns her own practice and isn’t in the huge system of universities that take over many practices. It is a blessing to be able to send her an email and she is the one answering. Looking forward to more video’s!
Thank you so much for sharing! It’s good to know that other folks struggle through this healthcare quagmire! And I appreciate your kind words of encouragement. Have a blessed day!
We we are married we become one, so yes it’s happening to you too. My brother in law had Lewy body and it went quickly. It’s a blessing that it’s moving slowly. Just hold each other and enjoy every minute you have together!
My husband passed 10 years ago after being married 43 years.
I will pray for you and your husband, if it’s Gods will you will still have a lot of years left!! God Bless You!❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement. And of course your prayers are so appreciated. And yes, we are thankful this thing is moving slowly. God is our strength and shield for sure!!!! Thanks again and blessings on you and yours!
Bless your heart...love your transparency and honesty about your situation and the ability to reach out. Reaching out and asking for help is so hard for me...I need to learn how to do that and this video has inspired me to try harder...bless you:)
Thank you for your kind words and encouragement. I’m just taking life one day at a time trusting God as I walk through this journey. Thanks so much for watching and commenting. Blessings on you today!
Through all the struggles head through this difficult story your faith in God is absolutely admirable
But for God, I would not make it one day. Thank you for watching and commenting! I appreciate it.
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Dear Linda I almost hate to post what my husbands gone through after hearing you and seeing others comments. In 2019 at the age of about 74 my husband was diagnosed with Prostate cancer, it was a very high number. He decided not to have surgery or radiation at that time but chose to let the doctors put him on some experimental drugs. It was a nightmare for him, physically, emotionally and psychologically. He took to his bed because he was in too much pain to sit. That went on for months. Finally I suggested for him to stop the drugs and asked the doctor if he could do the radiation and he agreed. My husband went through all the weeks of radiation and it worked. They said he was cancer free and still is, thank Gods. in between he had to be rushed to the hospital for an emergency triple bypass, got through that and 3 days later his gall bladder burst so rushed back into surgery. He was hospitalized for many weeks too weak to walk so sent to a rehab before he could come home. He recovered from all that, even went to the Y and was getting stronger, we all were so happy! BUT just before Thanksgiving 2021 he developed severe hemorrhoids so they did a surgery for that. Then a couple of weeks later he woke and had a sudden massive explosion of blood and had to be rushed to the hospital. Poor man had to start wearing depends. Then a few months later he suddenly had breathing difficulties and I had to call 911 again. He was diagnosed with severe COPD and now has to carry around oxygen. A few weeks after that he suddenly had a pain running down from his hip to his foot, tests show it’s from his lower back, no one’s been able to help him with that and they can’t do surgery because he’s too much of a health risk. I can’t believe all the medications he’s on. I’ve had to take him to so many doctors, chiropractor even massage therapist. Life is a living hell and now he’s lost his hearing and has no desire to do anything. Like you I’ve had to learn to take care of finances and our home. Our life consists of doctor appointments after doctor appointments. We go no where and he can hardly stand, stairs are a real challenge and he falls a lot going up them. His mind doesn’t seem to be affected but he has no desire to do anything. We barely talk anymore. I pray for you and all your subscribers that are going through similar things. I have to put all my trust in God because I don’t know how we’d get through it all. I’m asking for prayers also. 🙏
Wow!! it is heartbreaking to hear all that you have gone through and all that your husband has endured. As I have said many times, you don’t have to look too far to see how blessed you are, and when I hear your story, my heart breaks for you. I pray That God continues to hold you up and be your strength when you are weak. And I specifically pray that even today God would send someone, some thing or circumstance, to encourage you and give you a new Hope. Thank you so much for sharing.❤️🙏
praying for you sweet lady hang on to your faith...and yes you are a team..and take care of yourself❤
Thank you so much! Blessings on you and yours! ❤️
Prayers....I took care my names till she died. Ill never regret staying home from work. Ill always love the memories good an bad.
My mamaw
Thank you so much for watching and for your comment. I’m so sorry you lost your mamaw but it sounds like being a caregiver was your blessing. Such an encouragement. Thank you. Prayers. ❤
Amen you’re faith with get you through it
Have a wonderful day
Thank you and the same to you! Thanks for watching! Blessings!❤️
You have my prayers Linda 🙏
Thank you so much. ❤
Mama's had that. Just Denver if u get Tired tell someone at times I was bonetired. But with god we done it. I keep her home till she died.
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God bless you 🙏🏻❤️
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The music is too loud while you're talking. 😥 I'm so sorry you and your hubby are going through his diagnosis. It's a hard thing to deal with. 🙏🙏
Yes, I know about the music and will definitely fix that for future videos. Sorry about that. And thank you so much for watching and your kind words. I really appreciate it. Blessings on you!
❤❤❤ 🙏🏼 🙏🏼 praying 🙏🏼
Thank you. ❤
I love your spirit ❤️ I love how you trust in the Lord sincerely 🙏🏼 and wait for His help 🙏🏼 ❤️ What a beautiful life you and your husband have lived. You know what you believe in. 😀 You've lived it together ❤️ PRAISE God for his blessings and mercies are new every morning.
My baby sister has only days left on this earth. We've learned of her cancer 2 weeks ago, and there is no time left. She has peace with the Lord. We know we will be together again..she gets to see our parents before me.
But...Oh to see Jesus ❤️ ❤️ 🙌
Our daddy also got alzheimer, so I know in part what you are are facing.
We are never alone. I see you have faith and victory in Jesus.
Sweet blessings to you both. Live is always good with you great attitude 👍🏼
❤️ and prayers
God does amazing things
Amen to that! Thank you for watching and commenting!
God bless
Thank you. ❤
Dear Linda, just trust in the Lord and He will lead you cause He is the Good Shepherd. He gave you the blessings you need, that is for sure. I list my late husband in 2013 as he got LB D as well. I will pray for you and your husband .Meanwhile embrace your children and grandchildren.
Thank you so much for your encouragement and I’m so sorry for your loss. And yes, God is my strength, refuge and fortress. I do not know how people go through this without the Lord. I cannot imagine it. Blessings on you and thank you again for commenting. ❤🙏
I really enjoy your channel however the music makes it difficult for me to hear you. I suppose it is my hearing issues, but could you not use music. Thank you.
Sorry about that! But thanks for watching. Blessings!❤️
Could it be a side effect of too many shots or medications? The meds people take sooner or later produce side effects like other problems in the mind or body. Maybe he will get better with the right Naturopathic doctor. Maybe not. I hope things get better for you. I read where there’s lots of drugs that cause dementia. Like those pills for allergies and Tylenol PM . There’s many others too.
Yes we have a whole list of meds, scripts and otcs that we do not take. He had 4 concussions in his football career and that is likely the cause. Thank you so much for your comment.
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