🙌🏻 when I was nursing a baby… I Kept the baby very close. 🤗 I did that way back in the with my first babe on 10- 18 - 1982 and again in 9-30-1985 with my second babe ❤ keep baby close to you for a very long time. Bed sharing with a baby is not something I was comfortable with. Many people are comfortable with it, and that is fine ❤ I just was never comfortable with bed sharing. We all all different views. I love the new idea since by boys were born… the feeling of baby wearing ❤ I wish I knew that way back when in 1982 😅 I think that that would have been amazing 🤩 ❤🎈
I had every intention to have baby in our bed. We had a bassinet next to our bed. We lasted one night because our baby was SO LOUD. I jumped up for every grunt, every gurgle and every sound. We moved him into his own room and everyone slept better. So I would just say be prepared to completely change your mind once she is home, as whatever plans you have in advance, she may have her own plans :)
Also, Maggie just prepare for any possible Post partum depression. I was never told or taught about it and I wish someone had talked to me about it. Everyone is different but it's always good to know.
Most definitely. I couldn't believe how sad and awful I felt after having my babies. Especially the first. I thought I couldn't have children (endometriosis and PCOS) so I felt even worse that I felt this way. Everything was hard work and truly changes your life and when your hormones are changing it makes for a massive upheaval in your world! 20 years later I wouldn't have changed a thing, but at the time I wanted to shove her back! I felt so bad for feeling like that!!
@kerryb1653 you aren't alone, I went through post partum pretty bad and it was worse with my second. My 3rd i miscarried but I still had ppd and that was hard really hard. It just wasn't and still isn't talked about enough not nearly enough.
Also postpartum anxiety, that turned into postpartum burnout. But not right away, the first months were bliss and suddenly i could not handle it anymore. Relentless sleepless nights, my kid is about to turn 4 years old and still i can not seem to sleep without weeks of sleepless nights for no reason at all. Burn out gave me really dark days where it felt like weeks to simply get to the end of the day and then when day turned into night i felt so so lonely, so tired and angry and sad. It sure can be very very hard to be a mom. But it really does get better eventually, it only took 3 years with me. We are not alone and maggie if you ever feel the need to talk or vent feel free to send a message
Speaking as a Mom Myself Your definitely gonna want the bassinet by y'all bed because Newborns wake up frequently as they must feed often throughout the night. And if your breastfeeding you're definitely going to find that more convenient then to walk a distance to feed your baby.
Keep your baby in your room right next to your bed for the first year. Good for bonding, your night rest and safety. Babies need to feel that closeness to their parents. We did it with both our kids and they were never cry babies. I think they got that nest bonding feeling. Love to follow your pregnancy I’m so happy for you.
I'm also a light sleeper. I couldn't have the baby in the bedroom as I heard every grunt and snort. I had a comfy chair in the nursery so I could hang out there when baby woke up. Target (and others) have belly bands that go UNDER the belly, across the hipbones and low back. I couldn't handle anything tight on my belly but the under belly band was amazing.
The “serola” brand SI Belt is the thinnest support on the market. It supports your SI joints more than your belly, but SI joints are usually what is causing back pain in pregnancy anyway. You can get your normal size (or your size rn) and then they sell a pregnancy extender to use later when you need it. It’s also super helpful in postpartum to support your SI joints as the ligaments tighten back up again.
I still have a heightened sense of smell and my daughter is 35. Lol. Although smells don't make me nauseated anymore. I couldn't sleep well with my babies in my room. Every noise they made woke me up. So in their own room close by, they went. You will know after she is here what works best for you both. ☺️ Thank you for all of your sharing. I just had a sigmoid resection a few months ago and my mom has Crohns.
Bassinet in your bedroom. Also a rocking chair to sit in when you do get up & breastfeed (or bottle feed) your baby. I am a light sleeper & we actually co-slept (after she was a bit bigger). Not really recommended, but it worked for us. I could roll over & feed baby without getting up. You’ll figure out what works best for y’all! Oh those baby kicks are the best!! Wrote about the kicks in your baby book for sure. Also write a birth plan to take with you to the hospital. It helps when you can’t remember stuff because you are too busy laboring! I kept journals for my daughter. I wrote in them daily what she did that day. I have more in those than in her baby book.
Feel free to ignore this if you already have too much of a pile of advice but: For breastfeeding I found the baby being as close as possible really helped. You’re so sleepy! Zack can help with diaper changes and stuff in the night if he can, but also save the other room for him to go get a good sleep so that at least one of you is rested. Then he can take care of you when the sleep deprivation really hits and you’re almost snoozing while nursing.
I had a little bassinet by my bedside. That worked for awhile although we both usually fell asleep while I breastfed her in bed. Ha, ha! I'm glad the cleaning helped your nausea. And I loved my pregnancy pants. They were so comfortable! I like that your midline scar is growing with you and looks so healthy. That was one of the things I was wondering how it was going to go throughout your pregnancy. So happy everything is still going well! 💜
Bassinet by the bed is a good place to start but remember every baby and every parent is different. Figure out what works for you and baby. With my first he lasted 6 days in our room, he was very noisy in his sleep and I am a very light sleeper (not a great combo for a tired nursing mama). With out second she slept in our room until about 8 months. She was a terrible sleeper, up multiple times a night every night and it was easier having her close. The best choice is the one that works for the three of you so be flexible and give yourself grace as you figure it out! 💜
I have that same body pillow. I am not pregnant, but i bought it several years ago to use after all my surgeries and I use it for my ostomy support at night as well.
If you can pump milk in the day then it can help space out when your personal attention is needed, zac could feed her with expressed milk instead during the night to give you a slightly longer period of rest. Worth trying.
I did the first 3 months sleeping near baby. Then moved him into his own room with monitor. It made it very easy to sleep train and now have zero issues him having a bed time routine 6 yrs later
About the sleeping situation: I really liked having a bedside bassinet, the type that connects with your bed for easy breastfeeding.Very practical to have a big bed for mommy and baby. The husband can sleep in the big bed, but we also had a spare bed for him in another room for the crazy nights.
a small cradle in your bedroom for when you need it and a recliner in the baby room for when you need it. That arrangment seems to work really well. Just set up a sleeping space for baby and a parent in both rooms. Hubby gets his full sleep and baby gets her sleep and parent time and Mom has peace of mind.
Both of my kids slept right next to my bed in a side opening bassinet. That way I was not stressed and could feed them without them having to cry for any length of time. I was never sleep deprived and breastfed for over a year. They are 18 & 20 yrs old and have had literally 2 colds (maybe) & zero ear infections.
With my first I stuggled to breastfeed and nighttime was hard with heating bottles and pumping for the first 5 months, we learned and I was able to stop the bottles. For myself exclusively breastfeeding was best. No getting up out of the bed at night to pump heat bottles or anything. Baby number two was way easier to nurse and I never got out of bed with him once at night. A safe place bedside saved me postpartum because getting up at night was making falling back to sleep so hard in my first postpartum.
An option - my husband and I slept in separate bedrooms (for most of the first year). I was first in the baby's room and then when he hit 7 months, I moved to a different bedroom in the same level as his room (the primary bedroom in our house is on the first floor and the other bedrooms are upstairs). I would call my husband if I needed help or a break and he took morning shifts with the baby some days if I needed to sleep in (he still does at 13 months). The minimum suggested age for sleeping in the same room as baby is 6 months to reduce SIDS risks, but you have to do what works best for your family. This is what worked for us. It's been nice being back in the same bedroom, but I also like having my own space for a while while we were on different schedules.
I had a bassinet by the bed for a few days but I had to go ahead and move her to her crib because every little move she made I woke up. It’s very important to sleep when the baby sleeps. I did have a monitor so I could see her and turn the volume to let me sleep. I also had a bed in her room thinking I would let her dad have a good night sleep. He was the only one working. Even if he did get up with her I would get up anyway. You look amazing! And really it’s whatever works for the two of you!!
My daughter slept in a bassinet in her own room! No baby monitors in 1976! After 2 weeks she slept through the night! My son however took a little longer to sleep through the night but also in his own room!
I always kept my babies in a bassinet in my bedroom u til they either outgrow the bassinet or starts sleeping all nite. Then it was time to move baby to the bedroom with the crib. I was always so tuned into my babies they cld just start to fuss and I would wake. U could just get up with the baby and go to another room to feed and then bring baby back to bassinet after feeding.
Ps on the bassinet. We had one set up with the 1st and went through such exhaustion getting up to pick baby up and whatnot. Had c-sec so no way to just bend over and pick baby up. 2nd time I research co-sleeping, went with that and it’s been amaaaaazing. Honestly no utter exhaustion phase!
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Don't both be tired at the same time. With my first baby we both got up and stayed up every single time. It was absolutely terrible. "Working shifts" is the best way to go. If you are breast feeding he can get up, bring the baby to you and do the diaper changes while you stay "half asleep" in bed. If you end up bottle feeding splitting the night in half seemed to work well with my 2nd child
So we did bassinet by bed- the trek to another room wakes you much more and makes falling back to sleep harder. We took shifts to ensure we each got a little rest. He would take baby from 7-11 or so and I would go sleep. Then when baby woke for first bf my husband would go to bed in our guest room since I would need to do overnight feeds anyways. This allowed us to both get some hours of rest.
Bassinet by the bed is great but I also recommend a daybed in the nursery where the crib will be works very well! Options are always helpful if you have the room
Hello missed this yesterday but found it as for the baby sleeping place it really does depend on what your comfortable with as it all changed with me once I had to have a c-section then it became easier to have the babies close as I couldn’t keep getting up for them so if they were with me it made it easier. As for cleaning the house always as you do have heighten sentences and all as if you have animals it’s worse!!! With that said have a very happy New Year’s 🎉
Weleda products are great. They also use only natural ingredients and no mineral oils. Their calendula babycream is also really good. I use the different oils a lot….a few drops after showering before drying up…better than lotion😊
I had mine in the room with me for awhile especially at the beginning, then had them in their nursery. I had a baby monitor that I could hear and check on them in the nursery to check on them.
Bassinet by bed for first couple months, then to own room with baby monitor. Or baby in own room with a twin bed for you when Zac needs to sleep. Totally your choice. Just suggestions
When you mention not liking things on your belly, makes me remember how, by the end of the day, I couldn’t tolerate anything on my belly and was so happy to just care my belly at night. It was the best 😂. Also, loved my maternity pj capris!
I lost the nauseous feeling, but I never lost my pregnancy enhanced sense of smell. My kids are in their 40's😅 Both of my kids slept beside my bed until they were about 6 months old. It was so much easier feeding them when they were right beside me. That's especially true if you're breastfeeding.
I used that oil when I had my hysterectomy earlier this year. The skin got really dry and was also really itchy because I found out I’m allergic to the adhesive on the steri-strips. The oil helped with the itch significantly.
About sleeping arrangements: Why don’t you sleep with the baby in a separate room for the first few weeks so that at least Zack can be rested..This will allow him to help you during the day if he is on paternity leave or if he has to work he will be ok. Taking care of a newborn is beautiful but very demanding, so co-parenting is very positive and normal ( Most animal couples do that) ❤from Montreal
Honestly try out the crib in the bedroom! Because dont be afraid anything isnt perfect, you can adjust aaaanytime you three need to! A teeny tiny baby fresh out of the belly... sleeping all alone... i dont know its very personal opinion but we tend to love the warmth of a loved one near to us why not give it to the tiniest of us too. Babies tend to regulate their breathing based on your own, hearing you. We had the crib near my side of the bed (mothers side) and you know what i ended up pumping and my husband was soooo much better in the night because the freuqent waking didnt bother him nearly as much as it did with me. So we switched the sides where the crib stood and so i could get up quickly for pumping and he for feeding and changing. It was a good teamwork. We never know how it might end up being. And whenever one of us needed a night in peace one of us slept on the couch. :) Someday... my son said... "you snore. You are loud" and thats when we agreed on a bed in his room. He was about 2 then. And we still have a matress on the floor beside it for staying until he is asleep and being there if he needs it :)
Lots of moms will put a twin bed in the baby’s room for the first couple months. Especially if your husband is a light sleeper. You’ll definitely want a bassinet either way. I’ve had parents who like the Halo and the Chicco Lullago. As a newborn nanny I advise against the Snoo or anything that rocks or is insanely expensive!
Everyone's sleeping situation is so different. We did a bassinet that attaches to the bed and has a drop down side. You can just roll over and scoop baby out. I was able to breastfeed so that ment I didn't need to get out of bed at all (so long as i also had water and snacks by the bed) which I think actually disturbed my husband less than if I would have been getting in and out of bed and her crying a little longer while I got up and got to the next room and got her up. Also since I was staying in bed not getting up and moving I fell back asleep easier. However my husband sleeps through it so Zack might be different. My husband and I are both high sleep needs and I found it easier to just have him sleep and me always get up because I would rather deal with being exhausted myself than be around him sleep deprived, plus me being tired anyway. Also if you decide to put her in her own room, be prepared to pivot and have her by the bed just incase you have a c section. Here in NZ its a given that baby will be in the same room, the recommendstion being for the first 6 months but ideally 12 months. We made it to 4 months and then had to move her out for everyone's sanity, we sleep better apart so I was only up 1-3 times a night at that point which felt manageable for me. Feel free to ignore this bit because it is unsolicited advice which I do hate. It's a good idea to look into the safe sleep 7. We didn't plan to co sleep but still knew how to do it safer and she has ended up in our bed a handful of times. Co sleeping is controversial but a parent falling asleep on a couch with baby on you is more dangerous so better to know how to do it safer if you unexpectedly end up in that situation.
Definitely have a basinet in your bedroom for at least the 1st six months of baby's life, longer if you can but definitely the 1st 6 months, and have a basinet like a next to me or a moses basket don't have a big cot for the 1st year at least, babies don't like big open spaces and don't usually sleep very well in big cots until older, ours hated the cot at 10 months old but was to big for a basinet lol Obviously you gotta do what you feel is best but breastfeeding is digging a hole for yourself because it means no one else can get up at night with baby or feed baby, personally I would never breastfeed, id pump my own milk if I could so baby was having the best but I would always use bottles to feed but obviously that's your decision, but sleep deprivation is the absolute worst with a baby
That sense of smell overdrive - I get it. The biggest argument my little brother and I ever had in our lives was due my unreasonably strong sense of smell during my first pregnancy 😖🤢. He genuinely thought I was being absolutely ridiculous 😅. I felt ridiculous.
With both my pregnancies i had the cot by the bed. It was quick and easy to lift baby out to feed, especially in those first few months. I would have been very anxious if they were in another room.
so the way my husband and i worked it out was in the early stages he would stay up until late (her final hurrah before she felt like it was bed time lol) and then i would do the rest of the night. we also slept separate so that way one person is getting sleep. we also combination fed until we moved only to formula (breast feeding made me nauseous) and then we switched every other night for who would sleep with her and who would get a good nights sleep and that really worked for us
Bassinet by the bed for all 3 of mine. In saying that, #1 was a star sleeper. 4weeks in, sleeping through the night. Still amazing sleeper at 6yo and always outs hinself to bed. #2 i done pretty much the same thing, wakes to everything. EVERYTHING. Hitting 2yo and still awake twice during the night. All kids are different. The only other thing i had, when i moved them out, was another bed in their bedroom that i can use for any rought nights. Definitely helps with both #2 and #3 now hes in his own room. My partner and I use to be light sleepers.... my partner sleeps through all the kid stuff by the time my son was 3weeks. #2 helped me with not havjng light sleep, my body sleeps now when it can 😂 Good luck!!! Different things work for different babies. Both my #1 and #2 liked the total opposite of eachother. #1 hated swaddles, #2 loved them. Was great fun working this out hahaha, felt like i was starting over again from knowing nothing.
Both my babies started out in our room in a pack and play, no room for a crib. Then they were transitioned to their own room. Especially, my son because he had reflux from birth to 11 mos. Both of mine slept through night the first night home and woke me up every 3 hours for feedings. I did not breatfeed either of mine.
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We used a mini crib in place of a bassinet...could use it way longer. Kept it in our room the first couple months, but not directly next to the bed. Always got up and fed baby in a rocker versus taking baby in bed with us.
Smells are part of pregnancy!!! I couldn’t walk into my office and smell coffee brewing , another issue I had couldn’t look at a raw chicken lol and perfume oh no still can’t use the brand I loved before pregnancy lol
You need to get a little bed/ bassinet that goes directly next to your bed. You will not be up to getting up and down with little sleep with the baby. Especially if you are breastfeeding, it is much easier for you to have the baby next to you and you will want to make sure the baby is breathing. Most babies don’t like all the space a crib has..they like small places. This is about what is easy for you…husband can sleep somewhere else if need be.
I have been having a problem with dry skin and itching on my chest, back and neck ever since I’ve gotten ileostomy surgery two months ago, I wonder why? Will this oil you mentioned in the video help me too with these situations? 🤔
I stop buying Dysons after I tried my first Shark vacuum, and have stuck with Sharks since. My babies always slept in our room the first 3-4 months. We did a nursery with a crib, but use a bassinet in our bedroom, and then if needed, a Pack-n-Play. I've had quite a few belly bands and never have even seen one that wide. For delivery, make sure you have a larger flip-flop type of shoe/sandal. Between birth and having an IV for an extended time, it is very common to have feet swell huge after birth, which can last a couple weeks. Often Mom can't get her shoes on to leave the hospital. With our first, my husband had to run to a store to grab some so we could go home. I've needed them every birth. I live near our hospital and have had to run up twice with a pair so a friend could be discharged after their births. Just have a flip-flop or something you can slip a large foot into in your hospital bag.
We had our son i tried to have him in our room did not work out i am a light sleeper and so I put him in his room and it was the best thing. I still heard him when he cried at night.
After the first couple of weeks, I had my son, in his own room, and you WILL hear the baby crying, and get up, and go to their room, to feed them! That way, they can't see you when they are a little bigger, and will sleep better!
I am seconding the people who say have Zac do some feeds. Maybe you trade off nights so you can each get equal rest. Obviously if you are both needed then go for it. And never turn down help! Always say yes. It does take a village to raise a child!
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Hey Maggie. About smell. You don't have mold or mildew somewhere do You? I live in a really old house and it just is there especially in basement. Between that and my ostomy emptying smell, yikes. I use Pooph now but am going to try Poo pourri spray.
Sleeping in the same room as your baby decreases the likelihood of SIDS (only one parent needed for that effect to work, so Zac can be in another room resting if you want).
My baby only lated 3 nights in my room. I woke up every time she moved. I was nursing so for my sanity, she moved to her crib in her room. Only used the bassinet to roll her around the house lol
My babies slept in a bassinet in our room for about three months and we only had sound monitors, not video like you can get now. It was easiest for us that way.
Have you felt her hipups yet? That's a wild ride. My eldest some got them everyday and it drove me nuts. The smell thing is very real and mine never went away
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Exactly what I did with my 3.
🙌🏻 when I was nursing a baby… I Kept the baby very close. 🤗 I did that way back in the with my first babe on 10- 18 - 1982 and again in 9-30-1985 with my second babe ❤ keep baby close to you for a very long time. Bed sharing with a baby is not something I was comfortable with. Many people are comfortable with it, and that is fine ❤ I just was never comfortable with bed sharing. We all all different views. I love the new idea since by boys were born… the feeling of baby wearing ❤ I wish I knew that way back when in 1982 😅 I think that that would have been amazing 🤩 ❤🎈
Yes! Then you can reach out and touch the baby for mommy reassurance 😊. Congratulations Maggy and Zac!
I had every intention to have baby in our bed. We had a bassinet next to our bed. We lasted one night because our baby was SO LOUD. I jumped up for every grunt, every gurgle and every sound. We moved him into his own room and everyone slept better. So I would just say be prepared to completely change your mind once she is home, as whatever plans you have in advance, she may have her own plans :)
Same. We really tried.
Also, Maggie just prepare for any possible Post partum depression. I was never told or taught about it and I wish someone had talked to me about it. Everyone is different but it's always good to know.
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Most definitely. I couldn't believe how sad and awful I felt after having my babies. Especially the first. I thought I couldn't have children (endometriosis and PCOS) so I felt even worse that I felt this way. Everything was hard work and truly changes your life and when your hormones are changing it makes for a massive upheaval in your world! 20 years later I wouldn't have changed a thing, but at the time I wanted to shove her back! I felt so bad for feeling like that!!
@kerryb1653 you aren't alone, I went through post partum pretty bad and it was worse with my second. My 3rd i miscarried but I still had ppd and that was hard really hard. It just wasn't and still isn't talked about enough not nearly enough.
Also postpartum anxiety, that turned into postpartum burnout. But not right away, the first months were bliss and suddenly i could not handle it anymore. Relentless sleepless nights, my kid is about to turn 4 years old and still i can not seem to sleep without weeks of sleepless nights for no reason at all. Burn out gave me really dark days where it felt like weeks to simply get to the end of the day and then when day turned into night i felt so so lonely, so tired and angry and sad. It sure can be very very hard to be a mom. But it really does get better eventually, it only took 3 years with me. We are not alone and maggie if you ever feel the need to talk or vent feel free to send a message
Speaking as a Mom Myself Your definitely gonna want the bassinet by y'all bed because Newborns wake up frequently as they must feed often throughout the night. And if your breastfeeding you're definitely going to find that more convenient then to walk a distance to feed your baby.
Mom of 5 here, you will definitely want baby in your room for a while.
Or you can put a twin bed in babies room and sleep in their with her for a while.
Keep your baby in your room right next to your bed for the first year. Good for bonding, your night rest and safety. Babies need to feel that closeness to their parents. We did it with both our kids and they were never cry babies. I think they got that nest bonding feeling. Love to follow your pregnancy I’m so happy for you.
I'm also a light sleeper. I couldn't have the baby in the bedroom as I heard every grunt and snort. I had a comfy chair in the nursery so I could hang out there when baby woke up. Target (and others) have belly bands that go UNDER the belly, across the hipbones and low back. I couldn't handle anything tight on my belly but the under belly band was amazing.
Your pregnant belly is looking so cute! Way to go!❤
Your baby bump is absolutely adorable🩷
Your doing so well Maggie.. you look great...and so positive!!..❤❤❤❤
She’s so beautiful with her pregnancy and getting ready 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
The “serola” brand SI Belt is the thinnest support on the market. It supports your SI joints more than your belly, but SI joints are usually what is causing back pain in pregnancy anyway.
You can get your normal size (or your size rn) and then they sell a pregnancy extender to use later when you need it. It’s also super helpful in postpartum to support your SI joints as the ligaments tighten back up again.
Momma of four and loved having my babies within reach of me. Had everything they needed close by. Made things so much easier!
I still have a heightened sense of smell and my daughter is 35. Lol. Although smells don't make me nauseated anymore. I couldn't sleep well with my babies in my room. Every noise they made woke me up. So in their own room close by, they went. You will know after she is here what works best for you both. ☺️ Thank you for all of your sharing. I just had a sigmoid resection a few months ago and my mom has Crohns.
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Bassinet in your bedroom. Also a rocking chair to sit in when you do get up & breastfeed (or bottle feed) your baby. I am a light sleeper & we actually co-slept (after she was a bit bigger). Not really recommended, but it worked for us. I could roll over & feed baby without getting up. You’ll figure out what works best for y’all! Oh those baby kicks are the best!! Wrote about the kicks in your baby book for sure. Also write a birth plan to take with you to the hospital. It helps when you can’t remember stuff because you are too busy laboring! I kept journals for my daughter. I wrote in them daily what she did that day. I have more in those than in her baby book.
I still have my glider/ rocker from over 20 years ago. Loved it!!!
@ I wish I still had mine. Mine was a glider too with an ottoman that was a glider too. So comfortable!!
Feel free to ignore this if you already have too much of a pile of advice but: For breastfeeding I found the baby being as close as possible really helped. You’re so sleepy! Zack can help with diaper changes and stuff in the night if he can, but also save the other room for him to go get a good sleep so that at least one of you is rested. Then he can take care of you when the sleep deprivation really hits and you’re almost snoozing while nursing.
I've started mopping my walls - game changer! Makes a huge difference in the overall smell of the house/room. 👍🏻
I had a little bassinet by my bedside. That worked for awhile although we both usually fell asleep while I breastfed her in bed. Ha, ha! I'm glad the cleaning helped your nausea. And I loved my pregnancy pants. They were so comfortable! I like that your midline scar is growing with you and looks so healthy. That was one of the things I was wondering how it was going to go throughout your pregnancy. So happy everything is still going well! 💜
Bassinet by the bed is a good place to start but remember every baby and every parent is different. Figure out what works for you and baby. With my first he lasted 6 days in our room, he was very noisy in his sleep and I am a very light sleeper (not a great combo for a tired nursing mama). With out second she slept in our room until about 8 months. She was a terrible sleeper, up multiple times a night every night and it was easier having her close. The best choice is the one that works for the three of you so be flexible and give yourself grace as you figure it out! 💜
I have that same body pillow. I am not pregnant, but i bought it several years ago to use after all my surgeries and I use it for my ostomy support at night as well.
If you can pump milk in the day then it can help space out when your personal attention is needed, zac could feed her with expressed milk instead during the night to give you a slightly longer period of rest. Worth trying.
I did the first 3 months sleeping near baby. Then moved him into his own room with monitor. It made it very easy to sleep train and now have zero issues him having a bed time routine 6 yrs later
Both of our kids slept in their crib in their room. I nursed both of my kids and I woke up because of mother’s instinct.
About the sleeping situation: I really liked having a bedside bassinet, the type that connects with your bed for easy breastfeeding.Very practical to have a big bed for mommy and baby. The husband can sleep in the big bed, but we also had a spare bed for him in another room for the crazy nights.
Roomba is a sweeper, not a vacuum. So it doesn't get any kind of deep clean happening. It's ok if you have hard flooring. Carpet it's a no for me.
a small cradle in your bedroom for when you need it and a recliner in the baby room for when you need it. That arrangment seems to work really well. Just set up a sleeping space for baby and a parent in both rooms. Hubby gets his full sleep and baby gets her sleep and parent time and Mom has peace of mind.
Both of my kids slept right next to my bed in a side opening bassinet. That way I was not stressed and could feed them without them having to cry for any length of time. I was never sleep deprived and breastfed for over a year. They are 18 & 20 yrs old and have had literally 2 colds (maybe) & zero ear infections.
With my first I stuggled to breastfeed and nighttime was hard with heating bottles and pumping for the first 5 months, we learned and I was able to stop the bottles. For myself exclusively breastfeeding was best. No getting up out of the bed at night to pump heat bottles or anything. Baby number two was way easier to nurse and I never got out of bed with him once at night. A safe place bedside saved me postpartum because getting up at night was making falling back to sleep so hard in my first postpartum.
Love your weekly updates!
An option - my husband and I slept in separate bedrooms (for most of the first year). I was first in the baby's room and then when he hit 7 months, I moved to a different bedroom in the same level as his room (the primary bedroom in our house is on the first floor and the other bedrooms are upstairs). I would call my husband if I needed help or a break and he took morning shifts with the baby some days if I needed to sleep in (he still does at 13 months). The minimum suggested age for sleeping in the same room as baby is 6 months to reduce SIDS risks, but you have to do what works best for your family. This is what worked for us. It's been nice being back in the same bedroom, but I also like having my own space for a while while we were on different schedules.
I had a bassinet by the bed for a few days but I had to go ahead and move her to her crib because every little move she made I woke up. It’s very important to sleep when the baby sleeps. I did have a monitor so I could see her and turn the volume to let me sleep. I also had a bed in her room thinking I would let her dad have a good night sleep. He was the only one working. Even if he did get up with her I would get up anyway. You look amazing! And really it’s whatever works for the two of you!!
I really enjoy your enjoyment of pregnancy ❤
With my first baby, I loved watching his foot/hand whichever going across my belly in my third trimester.
My daughter slept in a bassinet in her own room! No baby monitors in 1976! After 2 weeks she slept through the night! My son however took a little longer to sleep through the night but also in his own room!
I am so happy for you. You are going to be the best Mom. ❤️
I always kept my babies in a bassinet in my bedroom u til they either outgrow the bassinet or starts sleeping all nite. Then it was time to move baby to the bedroom with the crib. I was always so tuned into my babies they cld just start to fuss and I would wake. U could just get up with the baby and go to another room to feed and then bring baby back to bassinet after feeding.
I do not suggest or like crib's I had a play pen for my two children
Ps on the bassinet. We had one set up with the 1st and went through such exhaustion getting up to pick baby up and whatnot. Had c-sec so no way to just bend over and pick baby up. 2nd time I research co-sleeping, went with that and it’s been amaaaaazing. Honestly no utter exhaustion phase!
More than ever I appreciate your content. If your life is an open book, we are avid readers. What a beautiful couple doing beautiful couple things. Inspirational in every chapter.
We ended up cosleeping. as a nurse I’m well aware of the dangers but it made the most sense for me and a very light sleeping breastfeeding on demand.
Don't both be tired at the same time. With my first baby we both got up and stayed up every single time. It was absolutely terrible. "Working shifts" is the best way to go. If you are breast feeding he can get up, bring the baby to you and do the diaper changes while you stay "half asleep" in bed. If you end up bottle feeding splitting the night in half seemed to work well with my 2nd child
I had my babies in the room with me and my husband, my girls are five years apart, they were a little spoiled of course. I enjoyed having them me
I'm so glad you are doing so well. The products look great.
14:00 in German the stretch marks are called "Schwangerschaftsstreifen", pregnancy stripes. I think that makes them sound nicer and more valuable.
So we did bassinet by bed- the trek to another room wakes you much more and makes falling back to sleep harder. We took shifts to ensure we each got a little rest. He would take baby from 7-11 or so and I would go sleep. Then when baby woke for first bf my husband would go to bed in our guest room since I would need to do overnight feeds anyways. This allowed us to both get some hours of rest.
Also there is some evidence that it is safer for baby to be nearby- at least in the beginning
@@malkahmollieyep totally agree
Bassinet by the bed is great but I also recommend a daybed in the nursery where the crib will be works very well! Options are always helpful if you have the room
Hello missed this yesterday but found it as for the baby sleeping place it really does depend on what your comfortable with as it all changed with me once I had to have a c-section then it became easier to have the babies close as I couldn’t keep getting up for them so if they were with me it made it easier. As for cleaning the house always as you do have heighten sentences and all as if you have animals it’s worse!!! With that said have a very happy New Year’s 🎉
Weleda products are great. They also use only natural ingredients and no mineral oils. Their calendula babycream is also really good. I use the different oils a lot….a few drops after showering before drying up…better than lotion😊
I had mine in the room with me for awhile especially at the beginning, then had them in their nursery. I had a baby monitor that I could hear and check on them in the nursery to check on them.
If the room can accommodate a bed, it's a great way to be near baby and have hubby get his sleep.
I am so happy for u, bc u wanted this to happen for so long. I hope everything goes well for u.❤
Bassinet by bed for first couple months, then to own room with baby monitor. Or baby in own room with a twin bed for you when Zac needs to sleep. Totally your choice. Just suggestions
I'm just so happy for you.
Can't wait to see you as a mommy!💖🧸
When you mention not liking things on your belly, makes me remember how, by the end of the day, I couldn’t tolerate anything on my belly and was so happy to just care my belly at night. It was the best 😂. Also, loved my maternity pj capris!
I lost the nauseous feeling, but I never lost my pregnancy enhanced sense of smell. My kids are in their 40's😅 Both of my kids slept beside my bed until they were about 6 months old. It was so much easier feeding them when they were right beside me. That's especially true if you're breastfeeding.
I used that oil when I had my hysterectomy earlier this year. The skin got really dry and was also really itchy because I found out I’m allergic to the adhesive on the steri-strips. The oil helped with the itch significantly.
About sleeping arrangements: Why don’t you sleep with the baby in a separate room for the first few weeks so that at least Zack can be rested..This will allow him to help you during the day if he is on paternity leave or if he has to work he will be ok.
Taking care of a newborn is beautiful but very demanding, so co-parenting is very positive and normal ( Most animal couples do that) ❤from Montreal
Love, peace and joy!
Honestly try out the crib in the bedroom! Because dont be afraid anything isnt perfect, you can adjust aaaanytime you three need to! A teeny tiny baby fresh out of the belly... sleeping all alone... i dont know its very personal opinion but we tend to love the warmth of a loved one near to us why not give it to the tiniest of us too. Babies tend to regulate their breathing based on your own, hearing you. We had the crib near my side of the bed (mothers side) and you know what i ended up pumping and my husband was soooo much better in the night because the freuqent waking didnt bother him nearly as much as it did with me. So we switched the sides where the crib stood and so i could get up quickly for pumping and he for feeding and changing. It was a good teamwork. We never know how it might end up being. And whenever one of us needed a night in peace one of us slept on the couch. :) Someday... my son said... "you snore. You are loud" and thats when we agreed on a bed in his room. He was about 2 then. And we still have a matress on the floor beside it for staying until he is asleep and being there if he needs it :)
Lots of moms will put a twin bed in the baby’s room for the first couple months. Especially if your husband is a light sleeper. You’ll definitely want a bassinet either way. I’ve had parents who like the Halo and the Chicco Lullago. As a newborn nanny I advise against the Snoo or anything that rocks or is insanely expensive!
Such a cute bump, ❤
looks beautiful 🥰
Everyone's sleeping situation is so different. We did a bassinet that attaches to the bed and has a drop down side. You can just roll over and scoop baby out. I was able to breastfeed so that ment I didn't need to get out of bed at all (so long as i also had water and snacks by the bed) which I think actually disturbed my husband less than if I would have been getting in and out of bed and her crying a little longer while I got up and got to the next room and got her up. Also since I was staying in bed not getting up and moving I fell back asleep easier. However my husband sleeps through it so Zack might be different. My husband and I are both high sleep needs and I found it easier to just have him sleep and me always get up because I would rather deal with being exhausted myself than be around him sleep deprived, plus me being tired anyway. Also if you decide to put her in her own room, be prepared to pivot and have her by the bed just incase you have a c section.
Here in NZ its a given that baby will be in the same room, the recommendstion being for the first 6 months but ideally 12 months. We made it to 4 months and then had to move her out for everyone's sanity, we sleep better apart so I was only up 1-3 times a night at that point which felt manageable for me.
Feel free to ignore this bit because it is unsolicited advice which I do hate. It's a good idea to look into the safe sleep 7. We didn't plan to co sleep but still knew how to do it safer and she has ended up in our bed a handful of times. Co sleeping is controversial but a parent falling asleep on a couch with baby on you is more dangerous so better to know how to do it safer if you unexpectedly end up in that situation.
Enjoy your cute little belly! It’s just so cute!
Hi maggie love your vibe
Definitely have a basinet in your bedroom for at least the 1st six months of baby's life, longer if you can but definitely the 1st 6 months, and have a basinet like a next to me or a moses basket don't have a big cot for the 1st year at least, babies don't like big open spaces and don't usually sleep very well in big cots until older, ours hated the cot at 10 months old but was to big for a basinet lol
Obviously you gotta do what you feel is best but breastfeeding is digging a hole for yourself because it means no one else can get up at night with baby or feed baby, personally I would never breastfeed, id pump my own milk if I could so baby was having the best but I would always use bottles to feed but obviously that's your decision, but sleep deprivation is the absolute worst with a baby
Adding a sanitizer to my laundry soap really helps with smells.
That sense of smell overdrive - I get it. The biggest argument my little brother and I ever had in our lives was due my unreasonably strong sense of smell during my first pregnancy 😖🤢. He genuinely thought I was being absolutely ridiculous 😅. I felt ridiculous.
my mom kept the baby basket beside there bed you look beautiful i was born at 6 months,Santa visited me when I was incubated another great video
With both my pregnancies i had the cot by the bed. It was quick and easy to lift baby out to feed, especially in those first few months. I would have been very anxious if they were in another room.
I agree, much better to have baby close to you, when they are very young, as they need feeding usually several times in the night.
so the way my husband and i worked it out was in the early stages he would stay up until late (her final hurrah before she felt like it was bed time lol) and then i would do the rest of the night. we also slept separate so that way one person is getting sleep. we also combination fed until we moved only to formula (breast feeding made me nauseous) and then we switched every other night for who would sleep with her and who would get a good nights sleep and that really worked for us
Bassinet by the bed for all 3 of mine.
In saying that, #1 was a star sleeper. 4weeks in, sleeping through the night. Still amazing sleeper at 6yo and always outs hinself to bed.
#2 i done pretty much the same thing, wakes to everything. EVERYTHING. Hitting 2yo and still awake twice during the night. All kids are different. The only other thing i had, when i moved them out, was another bed in their bedroom that i can use for any rought nights. Definitely helps with both #2 and #3 now hes in his own room.
My partner and I use to be light sleepers.... my partner sleeps through all the kid stuff by the time my son was 3weeks. #2 helped me with not havjng light sleep, my body sleeps now when it can 😂
Good luck!!! Different things work for different babies. Both my #1 and #2 liked the total opposite of eachother. #1 hated swaddles, #2 loved them. Was great fun working this out hahaha, felt like i was starting over again from knowing nothing.
Isn't feeling baby kicks and stretches The best ❤😊
I saw her move!!! :)
Both my babies started out in our room in a pack and play, no room for a crib. Then they were transitioned to their own room. Especially, my son because he had reflux from birth to 11 mos. Both of mine slept through night the first night home and woke me up every 3 hours for feedings. I did not breatfeed either of mine.
I would definitely buy a bassinet for the baby and have her sleep beside your bed so you can keep a close eye on her
Hi Maggie,
Which type of Weleda skin care do you use?
My facial skin is so dry, and I'm searching for a good creme.
You are looking gorgeous! ❤
Sending love from the Netherlands!
And: Happy New Year!
We used a mini crib in place of a bassinet...could use it way longer. Kept it in our room the first couple months, but not directly next to the bed. Always got up and fed baby in a rocker versus taking baby in bed with us.
Smells are part of pregnancy!!! I couldn’t walk into my office and smell coffee brewing , another issue I had couldn’t look at a raw chicken lol and perfume oh no still can’t use the brand I loved before pregnancy lol
You need to get a little bed/ bassinet that goes directly next to your bed. You will not be up to getting up and down with little sleep with the baby. Especially if you are breastfeeding, it is much easier for you to have the baby next to you and you will want to make sure the baby is breathing. Most babies don’t like all the space a crib has..they like small places. This is about what is easy for you…husband can sleep somewhere else if need be.
I have been having a problem with dry skin and itching on my chest, back and neck ever since I’ve gotten ileostomy surgery two months ago, I wonder why? Will this oil you mentioned in the video help me too with these situations? 🤔
I stop buying Dysons after I tried my first Shark vacuum, and have stuck with Sharks since. My babies always slept in our room the first 3-4 months. We did a nursery with a crib, but use a bassinet in our bedroom, and then if needed, a Pack-n-Play. I've had quite a few belly bands and never have even seen one that wide. For delivery, make sure you have a larger flip-flop type of shoe/sandal. Between birth and having an IV for an extended time, it is very common to have feet swell huge after birth, which can last a couple weeks. Often Mom can't get her shoes on to leave the hospital. With our first, my husband had to run to a store to grab some so we could go home. I've needed them every birth. I live near our hospital and have had to run up twice with a pair so a friend could be discharged after their births. Just have a flip-flop or something you can slip a large foot into in your hospital bag.
We had our son i tried to have him in our room did not work out i am a light sleeper and so I put him in his room and it was the best thing. I still heard him when he cried at night.
After the first couple of weeks, I had my son, in his own room, and you WILL hear the baby crying, and get up, and go to their room, to feed them! That way, they can't see you when they are a little bigger, and will sleep better!
I am seconding the people who say have Zac do some feeds. Maybe you trade off nights so you can each get equal rest. Obviously if you are both needed then go for it.
And never turn down help! Always say yes. It does take a village to raise a child!
I remember the clothes issue
Hi Megan my name is Carol I just had my reversal in November I know I feel to have a bag I'm wondering how is it going more with your pregnancy I'm very curious
Hey Maggie. About smell. You don't have mold or mildew somewhere do You?
I live in a really old house and it just is there especially in basement. Between that and my ostomy emptying smell, yikes. I use Pooph now but am going to try Poo pourri spray.
Sleeping in the same room as your baby decreases the likelihood of SIDS (only one parent needed for that effect to work, so Zac can be in another room resting if you want).
My baby only lated 3 nights in my room. I woke up every time she moved. I was nursing so for my sanity, she moved to her crib in her room. Only used the bassinet to roll her around the house lol
For 6 weeks, she slept in our room. Then, into her room. Up to you.
My babies slept in a bassinet in our room for about three months and we only had sound monitors, not video like you can get now. It was easiest for us that way.
Have you felt her hipups yet? That's a wild ride. My eldest some got them everyday and it drove me nuts. The smell thing is very real and mine never went away
Sounds like you need a dyson air purifier. Expensive YES, but it works great on multiple dogs!!!
You will be a whole 6 month's preggers in 5 week's then you will be much closer to holding your bundle of Joy 🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷
You probably already know, but they do make maternity underwear and they are very comfortable especially as your belly grows.
lol, that was me with Irish Spring soap, it made me so nauseous.
Also, thanks for the Weleda recommendation. They sell toothpaste without xylitol. Tiny amounts of xylitol create nuclear war on my GI track.