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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ส.ค. 2024
- Six months into her gender transition, Andrea faces some of the questions, concerns and doubts that have come up for her while she also explores her own expression of femininity amidst the pressures and complicated messages that women encounter in modern society. Join Target in celebrating who we are. #TakePride.
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This is so eye-opening. As a cis woman I've long been dealing with the pressures of societal expectations of appearance and beauty, but it never occurred to me how much more they would weigh on trans women in order to feel accepted. If I go out without makeup, I might feel unpolished or self-conscious, but I still feel like myself and know that others will perceive me for who I am. A trans woman deciding not to get dressed up, might be risking her mental well-being on an entirely different level. Just another of many burdens they have to bear in order to exist in our society.
Beautifully said.
This is beautiful 😭❤️❤️
You said what I was thinking so elegantly
That doesn't lessen your experiences though... comparing hardships is not good.
@@zarrowthehorse that's not my intention. I can still lament my own hardships while trying to be more aware of what others go through.
I born a girl and, sometimes, i still strugle with being feminine enough. I see myself as a woman, but there's some people who say that i'm not feminine and it makes me really sad. Ok, i don't care about make-up, hair, jewlery, clothes, but i'm still me. And you're still you: keep yourself as real as possible and don't follow all the rules. Do whatever makes you happy.
I agree. She seems to be falling into that societal trap of what femininity is "supposed" to look like. It's an entire spectrum. I like makeup, perfume, 'girly' clothes, but I don't care enough to make it a daily thing. Some women prefer to live in a tee and sweats. That's awesome too. Just do what feels right to you. At the end of the day we're all still women.
Her curly hair is so pretty
i've really been enjoying this series & you're so right Andrea, gender is so fragile
The fact that she sounded a bit excited about feeling unsafe walking to her car, like being afraid is part of being a woman is sad.
@Hi There stfu
The whole thing is sad. Even our oppression is fetishized.
Also this dude is like six feet tall and has a male body. Literally nothing to be afraid of.
@@dewilew2137 whats ur problem? Stfu
I don’t know how I would be able to handle all the pressure. In the Latino community, specially the one in USA, they expect us to be always put together, have this feisty flirty bubbly personality and it’s exhausting. I’m a introvert and I would always get those “Mija dress up more, how you gonna catch someone’s eye.””Stop hiding, be more up there” “what you wearing?!”.... All the the goodness in the universe for you!!!
It’s crazy how people are so concerned with other people’s lives. Who cares how you present, you do you !
If you, as a woman, present like a man and you want straight male attention, don't be surprised if you don't get it.
@@Roccofan gay women exist
@@Roccofan I think you have a good opinion!
@@mynameisuju I try to be VERY careful in what I say and write. I wrote clearly the words, “…and you want straight male attention.” Gay women tend not to want straight male attention.
I find the speech part so interesting. So if you learn to / practice speaking in a higher tone or whatever, does that eventually become natural? Or do you always have to make a conscious effort to make your voice like that?
You will have to make conscious effort for some time and then it should just come naturally :) like any kind of training really!
Initially, yeah it's a conscious effort. But, eventually, muscle memory will build up and your voice will naturally sit higher. The reverse is also true, you can also train your voice to be lower. It's not just a trans thing, cis people also get voice training for all sorts of reasons
I don't thinks she needs it though. I feel her voice is already feminine. Not every woman has a higher pitched voice, so she doesn't have to either. I think het voice is beautiful and soothing and feminine ❤!
I WANT TO GIVE HER A HUG SO BAD!!😭😭😭
Phewwww, this is an emotional one. 😭
A core theme of the first year of my transition was doubt. I was always concerned whether or not I was making “the right choice.”
So often we hear the narrative of trans people being “trapped in the wrong body.” While some of that was true for me, I rarely got such strong feelings of confirmation.
I’m happy that today I am sure that I made the right decisions and confident that I will continue doing so. ♥️
I hope this episode gives you some insight into what some other trans and non-binary folks experience. ✨
I also just posted a video elaborating on this if you’re interested in following my personal channel! 💋
I feel like all those emotions and the ups and downs, the crying is like a newborn. Newborns do that because they’re getting used to being out in the world, they’re learning to be who they are and figuring out how to do things, what they like and don’t like. Soo it’s okay to feel all types of feelings and just be grateful you’re transitioning now and not back 100yrs. Yes there’s still hate but you have a lot more support now. You just have to find your own support system which there’s plenty of. You will find your balance and place in this world.
Watching this is really helping me. (Trans man)
Please ignore the haters, you’re absolutely valid :) Just wanted to say keep going, and that you’ll make it at the end. Make sure to drink lots of water, and if you’re binding, bind safely. Have a great day/night my dude :)
@Hi There Bruh who’s “we?” I’m not hating on people. Ig it’s like the royal we? Oh well. Also, good job at using they/them pronouns 😊
The hardest part of the transition is the start but as a T woman of 15 years girl it gets easier. There is a song called blink by frankie and it helped me understand that it all moves by so fast. Misgendering gets less, you become more comfortable with yourself and who you are. Hugs from the U.K and girl you got this x
Kind and encouraging words of wisdom. Nice!!
I just want to say that I was assigned female at birth and it's still really hard for me to show a non-curated version of myself. You are BEAUTIFUL & thank you for this video :)
Don't forget there is beauty in the rough uncut stones too. Please don't pressure yourself with a having to be "polished" mentality. You're beautiful ❤ I remember first seeing you and you having such a beautiful spirit when you were in some Pero Like videos.
Just want to tell this beautiful girl that her energy is GORGEOUS and I'm obsessed with her eyeliner and hair!! 😍
I'll never stop talking about how beautiful she is outside and inside, the way she thinks and verbally expresses herself
Thank you, Andrea for letting us into your journey. Truly beautiful inside and overwhelmingly out!!!!
I'm always so excited for the next video in this series! Thank you so much for sharing your experience. 😊
I'm assuming it must take a lot of courage to share such a private part of oneself, good for her being able to!! :)
I hope they are patient and loving to themselves. Living in a way they feel is the most self-satisfying, void of fear.
some things in life you just have to deal with.. and the gender youre born with is one of those things
Are those suppose to be motivating words,or...?
What does that mean
I have to say, the darker lip on her is A LOOK! Overall great video
This is something that I will use as an example to remind me of the pain I have even as a woman, but with all kinds of struggle down to the very thing I like, knowing that everything I do is against my own gender! These are all created by people who value morality more than anyone else. How ironic and ruthless. Without them, the world would be heaven long long ago.
I really like her. She makes me feel at ease.
Here to give all my love to my fellow trans here with passing envy. Hopefully one day it doesn’t matter so much to the cis, wether you have passing privilege or not.
Societies pressure to “look” a certain way while trans is hard. You don’t owe anyone anything, and you shouldn’t have to in order to be respected and safe.
As we get into the “mid-transition” part of your story, the doubts, the fears, misgendering, disappointments, I relate so strongly right now. When you got to meet Janet Mock OMG !! amazing.
Their hair is so stunning 😱
If only you could stop caring what people think of you. Then you'll be free.
I hate the struggle you are experiencing. I see you. I am wishing you all good things and blessings. Side note, your hair--wow! I would love to have those curls!
For what it's worth Andrea, the first video I ever saw you in was the DNA test one, and I never questioned wheter you were a female or not. I don't know in what stage of your transition that was, but for me at least you have always been a beautiful female inside and out ❤️
Ghurrrrl your hair babe... love it. Wish you all the luck in the world. You are fierce.
her hair is so beautiful
THE CURRENT CONCEPT IS A COLONIZED ONE. SPEAK. this series is.... everything to me 🤍✨
She is so stunning. ❤ I hope she receives peace 💕
This is amazing ☹️🥺🥰🥰
So she's now a woman and I accept that because she accepts that too. Just a question, isn't it better to say "her" instead of "they" so she actually feels like a normal woman?
Quick reminder that God will never put weight on your shoulders that He knows you can’t handle. Whatever your going through just be patient and see why God made you wait. It may be hard but it’s all worth it🤍.
Is Andrea a religious person,....do you know if she believes in God? Just wondering.
¡Tocaya! Andrea me encantan tus videos y amo que compartas tu transición con nosotros. Eres una hermosa persona. Saludos y mis mejores deseos desde México 💕😊
She's so beautiful. If I saw her walking around, I would never even guess she was transgender ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
I’m sorry to burst your bubble but that is a biological man so he’s a man.
Looking so beautiful! ❤️🔥👍 Hormones are a miracle. Taking estrogen for the first time is game changing mentally; not just physically . You have to allow it to change you; & hang in there. Otherwise, don’t do it if you’re unsure.
There is something so very wrong with TSA. Before a person steps into a body scanner an officer presses a button selecting the persons gender (based off of appearance). When a trans person walks through the body scanner with genitalia that may be different to their appearance the yellow alarm goes off. Trans people must be pat down, sometimes they are led to private rooms to be asked questions. I’m so grateful that you had a positive experience with this. So many trans people don’t.
I'm AFAB, not cis but I've never done any hormone stuff in my life and I still have facial hair. I would basically have a small teenage boy mustache and beard if I let it grow in. It causes me so much dismorphia, I hate it. And I hate that I hate because it's just a natural part of my body, just like yours Andrea. I want to get mine lazer removed too, and I will if I get the chance but what I really wish is that more femme presenting (because I do present more femme whether I like it or not) people could look however they want and not be judged or questioned. I wish femme people could just be hairy and that be okay. Instead you get questioned and I get mocked for it
Thanks for sharing!
The only thing about there gender is that there voice is a deep voice come on girlllll ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🤍
Just hang in there. There is light at the end of the tunnel and your beautiful self deserves to see it. ❤
Thank you again ♥️
She’s so beautiful :)
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@@MIDOGALI she :)
Andrea! You look so beautiful and so feminine. You are beautiful women! I’m so sad that you feel like you are not feminine enough. You look so much “better” then me. So happy that you get to be who you are!
I enjoyed this video. Thank you.
I'm confused about what happened at the airport. Can anyone explain?
If you accidentally Mis gender a transgender would it be better to correct your self and apologize going over it quickly and not making a big deal; not going into convo about it. Or should you just leave it alone? I would want to correct myself. And apologize, but want to know what the person would want?
Really enjoying the trans content this channel has been making recently :)
shes such a wonderful person!
I’m excited when I start
If she is attracted to straight men and they don't approach her, how does she find love? Is there a dating app?
Wait, so initially she thought she didn't get the apartment because of being trans and now we learn that wasn't the case at all. That's not cool. One sided stories about something that could cost a business owner their livelihood need to be questioned thoroughly.
Yup, so say she posted it to social media (well she kinda did here) it's almost like insecurities can lead to things like cancel culture. Unfair
She literally didn’t say that
i love you, beautiful andrea
You go girl
Man*
Oh boy 🙄
Watching that needle go in makes me cringe every time it’s so big!
Cannot hit the dislike button enough.
She seems to be very confused about his gender.
Very nice 👍👍
Still looks like a guy
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Why can’t we all default to people as they/them when we don’t know them or their pronouns that way we won’t misgender them
But you would be misgendering them if they didn't use they/them pronouns. So defaulting to they/them isn't a solution. It is up to YOU to tell people what your pronouns are if you feel that people cannot infer them from your appearance
I wonder how she's doing now. I hope she is even prettier and more feminine than the video I saw :)
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neither of you guys are second xD