Jammie, it's not just trans men who people say "you're so pretty, don't ruin it". I remember a woman celebrity who had a history of breast cancer said she was getting a double mastectomy as a preventative measure. A bunch of men complained as if she was supposed to risk her life so they could leer at her chest.
I once had a transphobe tell me (a non binary trans masc person) that I was being "biologically disobedient". That became my discord status for months and got turned into emoji in my server 😅
Love it! My ex and I were you once called "left-leaning social engineers" by a conservative columnist responding to something we wrote. I never did get around to putting it on a t-shirt, but I really should. I love it when they think they're being insulting, but they're actually being complimentary. "Woke" is a compliment. It means "awake, aware," as opposed to asleep and unconscious. 😁
9:43 “What is enticing about wheat?” As someone who grew up in extremely conservative rural Kansas, getting lost in a wheat field is pretty much the only fun thing that can happen. There’s so little joy in the rest of conservative areas that people just cling on to the most basic things I swear
Yeah, I think Jamie was being unappreciative of wheat. I also grew up in Kansas. (I was in a decent-sized city, but there were still wheat fields on the edge of town.) Despite having lived my childhood as the wrong gender, I still feel nostalgic (in a good way) about wheat.
As an Ohioan I have the same nostalgia for soybean and corn fields. That being said, romanticizing being isolated walking through soybean and corn sounds like a) itchy legs, b) getting a corn husk shoved into your eye (my great-grandpa actually went blind from that as a kid lol) and c) not nearly as fun as being at a pride event and having fun with people who are much more likely to accept me (I’m ace so the acceptance rate is questionable at times, but still infinitely better than being called Satan and inhuman lol)
I have my hysterectomy on the 1st November. I'm a cis woman but according to terfs who say 'if you don't have a uterus you aren't a woman!!' I will be a man 😅 my family and I are counting down to my manhood.
@@K4nd1tig3r she just said she's not trans. She's getting a hysterectomy - which removes the uterus. She said ACCORDING to transphobes, she would be a man since her uterus is gone. Her point was the opposite of what you interpreted - that regardless of whether or not someone has certain genitals or not, they're still entitled to their identity and deserve to be respected in regards to it
0:47 To be fair, Andrew Taint also made a video talking about how he'd rather do it with a hot trans woman than an ugly cis woman. Still was misogynistic though.
It's kinda fascinating to see someone's misogyny directly win in a fight against their transphobia. Usually people use transphobia to fuel their misogyny. He's reached a level of misogyny where he's not that far off from coming full circle with trans stuff.
Andrew Tate also said "up yours" to Elmo. That's kind of the point of a puppet. Not trying to devalidate trans people or anything- just thought of what Andrew said when yu mentioned it. I wouldn't wish Andrew Tate on any woman cis or trans, though-anyone can do better than Andrew. But at least Andrew sees trans women as women.
Somebody left a comment on David Farrier’s post on the recent Will Ferrell doco about their trans son and a transphobe replied, “your child is a BOY no matter what you say!” Which is like yes, he is a boy, thanks for being affirming!
I realize my experience probably isn't universal in any way but having someone say "No, don't transition! You're so pretty!" would make me really angry and only serve to further prove to me I'm right to start my transition. I started later (at 37) than many (most?) because it's taken me this long to get up the courage to claim myself. For most of my life I've felt like my body belonged to everyone else but me and especially to men. I've felt acutely the pressure to be valuable as an object rather than a person. Transitioning is partially about me taking ownership of my body. I've spent so long trying to shape it into what other people want. I'm tired of it. I don't want to be pretty. I won't spend my last 20 years on earth as someone else. I would rather die than spend any more time making myself pleasing for people who would see me either used or dead. I deserve to live as myself. I deserve to live.
@@seekervaltriz9447 Lol grammar wasn't my concern, but rather factual accuracy. I don't know what the average age is for trans mascs to start transitioning. I suspect it's younger than 37, especially as newer generations are largely transitioning at younger ages than previous generations. But thank you for trying to be helpful. It's a good impulse.
@@notbot2648 Yeah no, i get you, was just trying to affirm since you seemed unsure. As far as I am aware, the average transition age for anyone (transfem AND transmasc) is about 30 ^^ This is ofcourse considering people transitioning way later in life aswell.
I got this comment once, but my dear autism brain just went "tf are you? Why should YOU care how *I* will look after transition?" But also, it's not even true. I already have a more masculine face, so I already know kinda how I'll look anyway 🤷♂️ ngl my self esteem is pretty low but I can admit I have a cute face, so at least that won't be ugly. And even if, again, tf are they and why should we care about how we'll look TO THEM
I work at a pub restaurant and my boss has put forward the idea of the staff wearing name badges with our pronouns on them. I think it's a really great idea. We have a very diverse team. My boss himself is an openly gay man and so are the two assistant managers. It's just a good thing to do in a work place.
I love this. When my work changed locations, we had 3 single toilet washrooms. I asked my boss if we could possibly have one labeled for all genders (as im non-binary). He didnt skip a beat "oh im changing all the washrooms. Dont you worry about that."😁 best boss ever
What's even better is that if anyone pulls any transphobic crap, the boss and 2 managers can tell that customer, "Get Out. Never come back," and then ban those people from that restaurant. If they want to, that is.
8:54 i don't see how those two americas are contradictory. you've got the heteronormative cisgender family on a midwestern farm, and an hour down I-40 you've arrived at the pride parade in the city. both can exist simultaneously and both can be happy in their existence.
@@missnaomi613this is cute. I love supportive parents. My mom is getting used to using my new name, but she’s having an easier time, since her boyfriend doesn’t use his birth name. I told her “it’s like a nickname” and she understood the assignment
@@The0Stroy my kids are both cis (so far) but I also had opposite-gender names picked for them before they were born, I would hope they would use those names!
Unrelated, but I just want to say that I am so grateful for Jamie's content. He is so kind, warm, and morally grounded. He's a lifeline for my mental health.
my accidental ally story is that my high school made me play on the girl's tennis team after i transitioned to male but we frequently got complaints because the other teams didnt want to play against the "dude in a skirt" (miniskirt was part of the uniform but thats different issue)
This is too funny. That They/them doll looks pretty much like I do, like, genuinely exactly like me, with only few minor differences. I currently have all the provided hair colours in my hair, at the same time. My hair is shorter on the other side (as in shaved). And I don't own a plaid shirt. But seeing the spitting image of myself, plus size and with even the purple glasses, in a conservative joke, kinda makes me feel like I've peaked in life. Is that an existing figurine, and can I buy it somewhere? I feel so seen right now. 😂😂😂
The picture of the they/them doll was made by a non-binary person, but it was spread as a joke by transphobed etc. I think you can tell if you look closely, the colours and little details are too accurate and in-group knowledge to have been made by someone who isn't part of the community. The original is an AI generated image of a plus size doll with exchangable heads, that the person saw on tiktok (if I remember corrrect) and decided to edit it to the they/them doll.
@@Tankekraft Ok, then I won't be able to buy one. That is a pity, because this is the first time I've seen a doll and seen myself represented (and perfectly so). Knowing phobic people see me as a joke is nothing new, and I don't really care, at this point in life, about what other people think. It would have been such a cool doll to have, for reals.
I feel like those of us who are transmasculine and/or nonbinary get to experience the joys of accidental allyship from strangers far more often than our transfeminine sisters do. The kneejerk reaction of too many transphobes when encountering a trans person online is to type "You'll never be a real woman" as an insult. I love it when that happens. I just wish my trans sisters could experience similar affirmations as often, lol...
My friend's mom is supportive, but not fully. Basically she pays for my friends estrogen pills, and she buys my friend girly clothing and makeup, but she still uses He/him pronouns and my friends deadname. (In public she uses the correct name and pronouns to avoid weird looks because her daughter looks 100% like a teenage girl.) My friend said her mom only agreed to pay for HRT if she didn't police her about remembering pronouns and name, and my friend agreed because she needed HRT. Also, her mom is a very religious christan who believes she still has a son, just one who acts very girly and wants to "become a woman." She still thinks she has a gay son and not a straight daughter.
That doesn’t sound terribly supportive. I mean, she’s paying for HRT and “girly” stuff, but it kind of seems more like the mom is humoring a silly little fantasy than treating her daughter with respect
The "Even if you dress as a woman, you'll never be one" thing is actually super validating for me, as a trans femboy. You can pry my skirts and dresses out of my cold dead hands, doesn't change I'm Not A Woman.
I am agender and this is probably the reason why I (when I was a child) thought being trans is a choice, but even back then I was completely supportive ,because I did want for everyone to make the choices for their life that feels right for them, same with sexuality (I am asexual and aromantic, so when I was younger being gay or straight did feel like a choice for me, becauseI didn't understand that sexual and romantic attraction exists and just thought everyone feels like me, but just choose to have a relationship with someone). So I somehow understand where the transphobes are coming from, when they say that it is a choice, but I don't understand why it causes them to be transphobic.
Same, actually. I mean, I’m not agender, but even while I was riding the “trans people are mentally ill and trying to destroy the concept of gender!!” train, it still seemed natural to use the correct pronouns and refer to people as the gender they identified as. (I’m not saying my beliefs then were OK, but purposefully misgendering people is just petty and childish no matter how you look at it.)
I mean, yours is probably similar to the many cases of bisexual people that think being gay is a choice, since they "chose" to be straight they assume everyone else can do the same. You come from the other side of it, since you don't feel identified with any gender at all, you think is only a matter of preference. But as a cis gay man the idea many people have of trans women transitioning only to be appealing to men seems completely alien to me, it is the fact that I very much don't want to change my gender which makes me understand that trans women are not men. I honestly don't understand how other cisgender people think any cis person can be convinced to "become" trans. I mean, do they see themselves as someone capable to change their gender?
I'm in the US and early voted today! 🗳 🎉 Being in Texas, i dont feel it will make enough of an impact, but I do what i can. Im 53, transmasc nonbinary, and want to live in a place my healthcare is taken seriously and not stripped away. Same with women's healthcare, and everyone else.
As a doll customizer, I'm actually tempted to make that nonbinary doll, pins and exchangeable hair and all. Might throw in a tote bag and some cool earrings too.
That’s so cool that you’re a doll customizer!! What kind of dolls do you use? I used to customize monster high dolls and I always wanna get back into it
I'm not homophobic but... I don't think children should have to see that. I am ok with adults being British but I don't think we should expose children to the Uk community. I just dont agree with anyone being publicly british.
Thats like saying "I'm not racist but [completely unrelated tangent here]" is quite silly! Also, yes, having been exposed to the UK community as a child has made me know how to read/write/speak the english(not the murica poo) language.
Ofc you're not homophobic, you're UKphobic, even if a completely justified one. Like, I agree, all of those british people like Jk Rowling teaching all of those lies to our children. At the end they'll believe that britain is real!
@@JoF999 thank you for doing us normal people a service and helping us keep our children safe from the horrors of the british. I certainly hope we'll never get to see another child drink tea thanks to your honorific sacrifice
I’ve talked with people that have very purposefully called trans men “trans women” and trans women “trans men” because they can’t not call them trans but the idea of calling someone they feel is a woman a man, even in that context, is too much for them. Joke’s on them, they just sound purposefully ignorant, which is arguably worse because then there’s no benefit of the doubt.
If they want to be unambiguous in their TERFerry: they will say "trans identified male" (TIM) or "trans identified female" (TIF). Makes them very easy to report as hate speech.
Same. I'm a demiguy and still go by my (stereotypically female) birth name, but somehow even with he/they pronouns people think I'm a trans woman and refuse to use my name until I tell them the name I had as a baby, aka the name I just told them. It's even better when they aggressively "misgender" me by exclusively calling me he and nothing else, then get mad I'm not mad about it. Like uhh, why would I get mad that you are referring to me in the way I said I liked to be referred to? Also using pronouns in place of a name sounds utterly ludicrous. Like "I'm not asking *HE*!". 🤦
The ad with the "typical" American family in the wheat field vs. the Gay Pride guy with make up--we can have both. Straight, cis families, gay families, Trans families, etc. Just leave people alone and let them live.( I know I listed more than what they showed)
The weirdo desperate to find out Ashley's deadname was the funniest part of this video. It double-backfired on him when Ashley just said thanks for affirming my gender.
18:25 YES. See, I'm a trans man and a huge femboy, but I hate when people tell me to dress more masc or else I'm 'clearly not trans'. (yes that exact sentence has been said to me lol)
Oh don't worry, they are hypocrites, I've had people tell me I'm "not actually trans" because "you can't even put in the effort to shop in the men's section" while wearing clothes that were exclusively from the men's section (except my socks which weren't gendered at all and just had a chart of "these shoe sizes equal this size of sock"). Like excuse me? Do you think I found cargo pants you can fit a 2 liter bottle in the pocket of in the women's section?
They don't have a problem with the standard practice of women changing their last names when they get married, but lose their 💩 over trans people changing their names to fit who they are. TBH if I had some of the wonky names children are given these days I'd definitely be changing my name when I reached the age I legally could. Trans or not people should have the right to change their name.
@@electronics-girl yep. My sister's name change was included in the cost of the marriage license, which was $25. She still had to pay to replace all her documents, but didn't need to pay for the name change itself. But if you want to change your name outside of marriage or divorce, it's $250.
regarding 10:18 Foundation over beard is actually a thing. For some of us the beard, we don't want to see, is still really visible even after shaving. So foundation is the hope to make it less visible.
Transphobes aren't just refusing to learn, Jamie : They're making a lot of efforts to avoid learning. The difference is subtle, but important. That's why they get it wrong all the time. Because they're actively trying to not learn.
This, exactly. Their mindset has forged around the belief system that any contradictory information to their current beliefs is bad. Probably because having your beliefs challenged can be uncomfortable as you struggle to resist the fact that the alternate argument makes sense. That’s also why they’re so against colleges and universities, and starting to be against public school altogether. They believe that their children “suddenly” becoming more radicalized and having differing beliefs is proof that the education system “brainwashed” their kids, when in reality being exposed to other people and their lived experiences challenges your mindset that any experience different from your limited self is inherently wrong. (I say this as one of those “brainwashed from a liberal college” folks 😂 like no, my brain is still here, but leaving my home town of less than 800 cis white people made me more aware and present to the experiences of others who don’t fit that limited mindset. And it was uncomfortable and it wasn’t sudden - I can unfortunately still say I was transphobic until my senior year. But those experiences compounded and I started to learn to listen, not speak, which made all the difference in how I understood the world beyond my limited baseline. Which is hilarious in retrospect, because that’s literally what I was always taught to do in the conservative, religious neighborhood I grew up - “you have two ears to listen and one mouth to speak, so you should listen twice as much.” Amazing how that conveniently goes out the window when it comes to learning new information that doesn’t match their beliefs ☺️ lol)
19:10 as a nonbinary agender person thanks for the little shout out. Always nice to be included and a part of the conversation when it comes to trans issues! ❤️❤️❤️
@@gotmilk9843Not the original commenter, but as someone who is also agender I consider myself snuggly part of the nonbinary category, since it's a vast term encompassing many more-specific terms/identities. Not every agender person vibes with the nonbinary label, even though agender technically falls under being nonbinary, but there are no rules saying you can't stack labels as you'd like ^^
Love this question. I personally believe that I’m both and that these things are labels and to choose whichever fits you best (regarding whether they are the same). I personally found non-binary first and although it was better it wasn’t quite right, then I found agender so for me i used it as a specified version for myself. I understand for a lot of people non binary is an umbrella term and for others it isn’t, i think it’s up to you and depends on how much you just want to find connection or just don’t want to explain yourself. For people you’re introducing to the concept it might be easier just to say non-binary and for those you think would need minimal to no explanation you could say agender. I say “hi I’m nonbinary and agender” in general but honestly whatever your personal preferences are works! Gender is a spectrum and you should use labels that fit and feel the best to those you feel the best about sharing, don’t think of any of these things as rules. Also, hi! How’s it going?❤️🌈😁
@@Pigmentplays-c3c Yeah, I feel similarly about my own labels, I just say I’m “queer” unless I feel the space would recognize more “niche” identities. Your response is absolutely lovely though! I’m doing well atm, all things considered 😅 Hru❓
Okay so like the “which America will you give your grandchildren” my first thought was “I want the happy part but can I not be surrounded by people? Thanks”
I thought; happy wheat farmer family and happy pride are not mutually exclusive. Also, tough luck for my grandchildren, bc I won't be having kids in the first place 🤭.
15:05 It's so hilarious. A way too often, that conservative person claims that they know who they are, what they want and that they have the rights to choose, but then they proceed that the only "right" everyone else has, is to comply with them and their opinions and choices and not their own. That's exactly what dehumanisation is 🙈 and exactly what egoism is. And then they not only act surprised that there's pushback but also wanna gaslight everyone into accepting shame for resisting their own abuse. The most classic abuser 1x1 tactic ever!
The whole gender role thing really messed with me after I realized I was a trans man. I thought I couldn’t wear any jewelry or like pink because I was afraid of being told I wasn’t really trans because I liked those things. But now I know that’s so stupid. I do like those things and I look awesome in pink.
Yeah I’m a cis male and am really trying to start wearing the stuff I want to rather than the stuff society wants me to. Problem is I’m 15, hate shopping, and don’t actually know what I want to wear, so… I’m a bit stuck Sorry I was trying to make a point then realised I actually have no idea what I want to wear. Anyway…
@@russelstudios2187 I’m 33 and I just now figured out my style. You have plenty of time to figure yours out. If you see something you like. Try it. It could be your style or not but experimenting is the best way to find out.
NGL, I had it backwards (trans man/trans woman) until I started dating a trans woman and she set me straight (pun intended). Edit: Jammie, your hair looks splendid today!
I always read it as "You Will Never Build A Weapon" like brother I have built -4- 3 so far and they all seem to fire and cycle just fine thank you very much EDIT: I have (successfully) built 3. I used the wrong material for the rear 4mm pin in my latest glock and said pin snapped during a test fire. Surprisingly, the printed frame doesn't even have a scratch. I think Guido Mista was right with the whole "4 is an unlucky number" thing. Oh well, at least I learned to trust my gut when I feel like I built something wrong.
It took me so long to figure out what that acronym was supposed to mean too! Like, buddy, if your insult is incomprehensible to your target, it's not very effective, lol
@@orsolyafekete7485 Someone left that acronym as a comment on one of my videos, and unfortunately I knew exactly what it meant. I just deleted it, though. If I was going to respond, I would have said, "You're too late, I already am one!"
Somewhat in the spirit of AccidentAlly, I just told my mum yesterday the collor pattern on the sweater she was knitting was pretty much the trans flat. Not that she's transphobic, or particularly minded, but she was a bit surprised
im pretty sure the tables werent actually dirty. they just know that subconciously, complaining about a they/them pronoun pin is bullshit so they had to justify their poor review in some other way
I think it's kind of funny that a guy who was self described as 'Politely Transphobic' is also the guy who wrote the one of the best trans character dialogues of all time. Although he was also X-trans himself so he kinda had experience. Noelle: "Hey Zero,can I ask you something?" Zero: "Yeah?" N: "Why do you sound like that?" Z: "Like what?" N: "A.. Boy." Z: "Well... Not everyone is born with a pretty voice. Sometimes we have to make it pretty ourselves..." N: "I guess that's fair.. Uh... Do you ever wish you were born with a pretty voice?" Z: "Sometimes.. but I've grown to appreciate the cards life dealt me. I'm still who i want to be." N: "Oh! That makes sense!" Z: "Do you ever wish you had a different voice?" N: "I think everyone thinks about it atleast once in their life... But some want it more than others." Z: "That's a nice way to put it." N: "I think your voice is pretty!" Z: "Thank you. That means alot to me." N: "No problem Zero, you're my friend!" Z: :) "Let's go get Jack a new pumpkin." Literally mentions nothing about actually being trans, except Zero still having a somewhat masculine voice, but somehow explains so much in the span of under a minute.
I wish the world could be as simple as letting people live the way they want and everyone minding their own business. You can have an opinion on how someone lives their life, but your opinion shouldn't be able to change how they live.
As a trans woman I use the correct restroom, I’ve never had anyone stop me from using the women’s restroom. In fact I’ve had other women talk to me while I was touching up my makeup or washing my hands. No one cares.
This is so accurate. The only time I remember someone talking to me in the woman's bathroom was when someone said that they liked my skirt. If you're trying to look at people's g*nitals to see whether or not they "belong" there, you are the weirdo.
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Hells, no one ever adresses it, but Jamie looks so beautiful and healthy. I swear, no one would ever tell he wasn't a man for all his life. So happy to see him look so healthy
At 10:07 - It's coming from the right wing in the US being more rural and viewing themselves as the productive members of society who put food on the table. The subtext is "they might be having fun with their rainbows and whatnot, but without us Real Americans they'd starve".
And, at 10:18 - For a lot of AMAB folks, doesn't matter if you've just shaved, facial hair is conspicuous and isn't going to disappear just from using foundation. So, yeah, if you want to conceal it, it _is_ a challenge. That bit's actually relatable...
My son is a cis het guy, dating the beautiful woman that he plans to marry. And he keeps his hair longer and his favorite color is pink, and he loves to paint his nails. He proves that your gender and your expression don't have to match
...I give him a year and a half into the marriage and a baby untill he claim he was actually a woman all along. Preferably when his wife is pregnant with a second baby, that's the perfect time to announce that.
@saoirse2963 weren't you arguing in another comment to a cis woman who enjoyed 'guy coded' hobbies that people are multifaceted humans with different tastes and hobbies, and enjoying these 'traditionally male' activities has no effect on their gender? Yet here you are saying the absolute opposite. Or is it only ok if women enjoy 'traditionally male' interests. You have alot to say until you are called out.😂
8:20 To be fair, I was extremely confused for a while as to which was which. I wasn’t sure if it was like- trans woman is: I was afab and have transitioned to be a man, or something. I’m not sure how exactly I got there but I did? I fully called my trans man oc a trans woman 💀 I also had a whole conversation about whether my oc, Josh, who is a trans guy and bisexual, was a bisexual or heteroflexible because he is bi, with a preference for girls. So that was fun.
I'm not British, so I don't exactly know what this is referring to, but I have to say, that's incorrect. Here in Hungary we have a famous propaganda poster from the fifties, where our stalinist dictator of the time is looking longingly at some wheat, and it's memeworthy enough that "get yourself a partner who looks at you the way Rákosi looks at wheat" is a common joke, at least in my circles :P
So all my life I hated using public restrooms. In school and college, I'd find the bathrooms that were rarely used, and go in them, even if they were way out of my way. It always felt like I shouldn't be there. It never dawned on me that I felt like that because I'm trans, until I watched this video, and realized I don't have that same feeling of intruding with a woman's restroom that I did with a men's. That said, I still avoid the more commonly used ones, because I don't want to run into a transphobe in the bathroom. But I had spent over a year just not going to the bathroom at work, so using the bathroom at all is an improvement.
8:23 i did have to slow it very much Down for my parents to understand. My mom Said ah so trans woman is mtf and trans man is ftm and ever since then she has gotten it. Took her 1 explination and like 3 afterwards Correction but now she doesnt make that mistake :) its so easy!!!
My dad's actually been doing that andrew tate thing to me recently and it's been so confusing, like I'll bring up how I feel about things and he'll interrupt me saying something like "women voters are too emotional"🙄
I just thought about something. When Im scared of something i research it. Like i am scared of plane crashes and for the longest time i did not want to do any research but i also just steered clear pf anything mentioning planes. Until i decided to face my fears alittle bit and watch a video on a plane crash and it was done in this analytical style that helped me understand why plane crashes happen but also why theyre so rare. I am still not the first person to hop on a flight and be happy but i am less scared of the planes above me just falling out of the sky and on to me. Why dont transphobes do the same? Ik they Think they arent scared but still why dont they just take that little bit of time to research actual transpeoples experiences
it makes me laugh because if you present as a gender non conforming cis girl people will be like - wow you're such a boy. no dresses? that a boyee boy boy- but as soon as you say - yes, I am boy - they'll be like - wow what a girly girl. such a pretty little girly girl girl -
I feel like a lot of r/accidentalally just demonstrate how much aggression there is towards trans women. It’s sad that all the transphobes can’t even get past their own logic and hate for even a second to consider the whole picture but it’s scary to me how much they immediately get excited to tear apart trans women. Sadness aside, I loved the vid as always ❤
no yeah, it's so odd how all the violent and blatant transphobia is often against trans women, but then transmascs get painted as nonexistent or just confused teenage girls. it's so inconsistent
3:51 agreed, i had a (short) argument with someone over Girl In Red on tiktok a while ago The other person said shes bi and their main reasoning was that she "doesn't like the label of lesbian" and i said"her not liking the label doesnt make her bi, have you heard Girls??" And then they said that they don't even listen to her music -_- How are you gonna sit here and argue about a celebrity you dont even listen to???? People dont have to like certain labels to still exist in its like category or whatever. How you identify isnt about labels, its about how you feel.
11:20 they even used the apostrophe wrong in their name... TERF's = "TERF is" or to indicate that whatever comes after BELONGS to a TERF. TERFs = plural of the acronym. It's so simple dude. But what would you expect from TERFs 🤷♂️
Loved your shout-out to Natalie Wynn in your video! She really does bring something unique to the table, and it’s great to see more people discovering her work. Wishing her all the best as she turns 36 tomorrow! Her video essays are always thought-provoking and insightful-her analysis from “Gender Critical” onward has been incredible. Thanks for encouraging your audience to check her out, and keep up the amazing work you’re doing as well!
Hey jaimie, i know you probably wont see this, but id love if you did more positive stuff/ pro lgbt stuff than not, i know you do post positive stuff but the negative ones really weigh on me and im finding them harder to watch, idk if anyone relates
Another point about Andrew Taints tweet: its a self read that he isnt stressed about elections or politics. Like, if you know anything about politics or political discourse you WILL be stressed. Its kinda the bare minimum when you know your stuff
Jamie, I love your content. However there is one phrase that you often use that I have a problem with. I would challenge the idea that "gender cannot be changed." I get that many trans people feel that their gender doesnt change, just their appearence, but there are some trans people (like me) who see it differently. I see my transition as a change in my gender. Furthermore, while the sentiment is very good, it doesn't include gender fluid people whose gender actually does change. No hate intended, you are one of my favorite content creators. If anyone would shed some light on this and explain why I'm wrong, please do. I love to be educated :) Keep up the great work!!!
@@SophieRoseLive Its not impossible, as gender fluid people prove. Everyone's journey is different, some people see it as their gender changing, some people don't.
If I ever do encounter a transphobe, I hope they use the "name your parents gave you" line. Because I can honestly say this is in fact the name my parents gave me when I was born. The came up with a boy name, and a girl name. I just switched the one I'm using. But they still gave it to me.
6:20 something it reminded me of this year when i went to ontario from quebec and found the very first public toilet that were men/women but on the men side, no cubicle, no toilet, ONLY URINALS..... OwO had to go poop in the women's toilet cause wtf ...you want me to shit in a urinal??????
9:53 - kids picture books about crayons has the quote from "beige crayon" saying "i only get to colour wheat and let's face it whi gets excited about colouring wheat!" 😂 The end has a fabulously coloured picture of a variety of colours
Here in America, we are supposed to have the freedom to choose whatever lifestyle we like. So if you want to stand in a field of wheat, no one is going to stop you.
Hearing you say nonbinary people don't have to be androgynous was oddly touching. I know it and can apply it for other people, but it sunk in that i don't need to be either, so thank you for a soothing little moment ^-^
@noddingyeti Absolutety! I just wanted to highlight how good it feels to hear someone else talk against internalised biases that you maybe can't quite separate from your self-image.
ok so I'm torn between watching this jammidodger vid and sleeping bc it's 11:30 PM here and I got a test tomorrow. I choose sleep bc I gotta do well this time, I will def watch the video when I get up bc holy shi I'll need some way to calm down lmao.
i live in rochester, mi, and the liberals were trying to be nice by saying "You can't blame a trans boy for being a woman and using she/her pronouns, it's not right :(" they were a transfemme, they thought trans boy = transfemme and trans woman = transmasc
as someone who was bullied for being gender nonconforming they only say "boys can like pink and girls can have short hair" when its used against trans people, you arnt REALLY allowed to be different
9:50 tbf.... I like farm fields, or fields in general, generally nature stuff, and not much into loud parties like pride parades, maybe I'll go to one sometime, but big social events are not my thing, but I'm happy for those for whom it is. Just saying, I'd likely want the field, not for the reasons the post was implying, I'd just be gay in a field..... That sounds weird out of context....
Jammie, it's not just trans men who people say "you're so pretty, don't ruin it". I remember a woman celebrity who had a history of breast cancer said she was getting a double mastectomy as a preventative measure. A bunch of men complained as if she was supposed to risk her life so they could leer at her chest.
it was angelina jolie!
Yeah, because in addition to our uterus our breasts are what make us women. /s
"U should've let your cancer get worse now we can't pervert"
That's insane...
@@everfluctuating Probably more than one. I think Christina Applegate also got a preventative mastectomy.
I once had a transphobe tell me (a non binary trans masc person) that I was being "biologically disobedient". That became my discord status for months and got turned into emoji in my server 😅
Naughty, naughty oliver, tut tut tut
Stealing this!
Love it! My ex and I were you once called "left-leaning social engineers" by a conservative columnist responding to something we wrote. I never did get around to putting it on a t-shirt, but I really should.
I love it when they think they're being insulting, but they're actually being complimentary. "Woke" is a compliment. It means "awake, aware," as opposed to asleep and unconscious. 😁
Lmao this is golden I’m shamelessly stealing this one off you 😂❤
"Biologically disobedient", love it and stealing it !!! ♥
Saying "you were so pretty, why would have to transition?" Is like saying "why are you hungry? You have so much water!" I DON'T NEED THAT!
OMG that’s a perfect metaphor I love it 🤣
damn that's a good metaphor to use
Epic metaphor
9:43 “What is enticing about wheat?” As someone who grew up in extremely conservative rural Kansas, getting lost in a wheat field is pretty much the only fun thing that can happen. There’s so little joy in the rest of conservative areas that people just cling on to the most basic things I swear
rural kansas is low key boring but i was in south west KS, so it wasn't too conservative
@@kitty79er ITS SO BORING! So glad I moved to like an actual city where there are fellow queer people and things to do
Yeah, I think Jamie was being unappreciative of wheat. I also grew up in Kansas. (I was in a decent-sized city, but there were still wheat fields on the edge of town.) Despite having lived my childhood as the wrong gender, I still feel nostalgic (in a good way) about wheat.
As an Ohioan I have the same nostalgia for soybean and corn fields. That being said, romanticizing being isolated walking through soybean and corn sounds like a) itchy legs, b) getting a corn husk shoved into your eye (my great-grandpa actually went blind from that as a kid lol) and c) not nearly as fun as being at a pride event and having fun with people who are much more likely to accept me (I’m ace so the acceptance rate is questionable at times, but still infinitely better than being called Satan and inhuman lol)
Fields 👏 are 👏 fun 👏 to 👏 wander 👏 around 👏 in! As a city kid I just appreciate the rare moments of countryside I get
I have my hysterectomy on the 1st November. I'm a cis woman but according to terfs who say 'if you don't have a uterus you aren't a woman!!' I will be a man 😅 my family and I are counting down to my manhood.
I love it! 🤣
What's a hysterectomy?
what is your name
(chosen name)
@@K4nd1tig3r she just said she's not trans. She's getting a hysterectomy - which removes the uterus.
She said ACCORDING to transphobes, she would be a man since her uterus is gone.
Her point was the opposite of what you interpreted - that regardless of whether or not someone has certain genitals or not, they're still entitled to their identity and deserve to be respected in regards to it
0:47 To be fair, Andrew Taint also made a video talking about how he'd rather do it with a hot trans woman than an ugly cis woman. Still was misogynistic though.
It's kinda fascinating to see someone's misogyny directly win in a fight against their transphobia. Usually people use transphobia to fuel their misogyny. He's reached a level of misogyny where he's not that far off from coming full circle with trans stuff.
That is dehumanising trans women. It is classic Transmisogyny
Peak TIRM moment
Andrew Tate also said "up yours" to Elmo. That's kind of the point of a puppet.
Not trying to devalidate trans people or anything- just thought of what Andrew said when yu mentioned it.
I wouldn't wish Andrew Tate on any woman cis or trans, though-anyone can do better than Andrew. But at least Andrew sees trans women as women.
@@GirlandsillyTIRM is really funny
Somebody left a comment on David Farrier’s post on the recent Will Ferrell doco about their trans son and a transphobe replied, “your child is a BOY no matter what you say!” Which is like yes, he is a boy, thanks for being affirming!
I realize my experience probably isn't universal in any way but having someone say "No, don't transition! You're so pretty!" would make me really angry and only serve to further prove to me I'm right to start my transition. I started later (at 37) than many (most?) because it's taken me this long to get up the courage to claim myself. For most of my life I've felt like my body belonged to everyone else but me and especially to men. I've felt acutely the pressure to be valuable as an object rather than a person. Transitioning is partially about me taking ownership of my body. I've spent so long trying to shape it into what other people want. I'm tired of it. I don't want to be pretty. I won't spend my last 20 years on earth as someone else. I would rather die than spend any more time making myself pleasing for people who would see me either used or dead. I deserve to live as myself. I deserve to live.
Yeah, "later than most" is grammatically correct.
@@seekervaltriz9447 Lol grammar wasn't my concern, but rather factual accuracy. I don't know what the average age is for trans mascs to start transitioning. I suspect it's younger than 37, especially as newer generations are largely transitioning at younger ages than previous generations. But thank you for trying to be helpful. It's a good impulse.
@@notbot2648 Yeah no, i get you, was just trying to affirm since you seemed unsure.
As far as I am aware, the average transition age for anyone (transfem AND transmasc) is about 30 ^^
This is ofcourse considering people transitioning way later in life aswell.
Me to a T, proud of us ❤
I got this comment once, but my dear autism brain just went "tf are you? Why should YOU care how *I* will look after transition?"
But also, it's not even true. I already have a more masculine face, so I already know kinda how I'll look anyway 🤷♂️ ngl my self esteem is pretty low but I can admit I have a cute face, so at least that won't be ugly. And even if, again, tf are they and why should we care about how we'll look TO THEM
“I don’t believe in pronouns.” and then they use the correct pronouns along with other pronouns. Pick a side, Mary.
Call them only by their name from now on
And the sad thing is, I is a pronoun 😔
@@AoyamaSecretLoveChild
I believe in pronouns, nouns, verbs, proverbs, adverbs, adjectives and any other type of word. Especially I.
@@Kqvikko you’re so real for that.
_I..._ huh?
_me..._ oh f**k
_Sunwoo don't believe in pronouns_
I work at a pub restaurant and my boss has put forward the idea of the staff wearing name badges with our pronouns on them. I think it's a really great idea. We have a very diverse team. My boss himself is an openly gay man and so are the two assistant managers. It's just a good thing to do in a work place.
That’s so cool, wish work place was like that
that's sick! that sounds like a great idea, i agree. :)
I love this. When my work changed locations, we had 3 single toilet washrooms. I asked my boss if we could possibly have one labeled for all genders (as im non-binary). He didnt skip a beat "oh im changing all the washrooms. Dont you worry about that."😁 best boss ever
What's even better is that if anyone pulls any transphobic crap, the boss and 2 managers can tell that customer, "Get Out. Never come back," and then ban those people from that restaurant. If they want to, that is.
@@Encarishave one labelled he/him, one labelled she/her, and one labelled with your pronouns. Boom, you get your own facilities 🤩
8:54 i don't see how those two americas are contradictory. you've got the heteronormative cisgender family on a midwestern farm, and an hour down I-40 you've arrived at the pride parade in the city. both can exist simultaneously and both can be happy in their existence.
Who would ever take a child to a pride parade????
Yeah! Let the people have their wheat and their pride! 💖
"Name that your parents gave you" - What if my parents gave me also my new name after I came out to them and asked them for my name?
I'm using the names my parents would have given me as my middle names.
My parents picked out two names before I was born. I just switched to the other one.
My daughter is currently using (may change later, we'll see) the name we'd have called her all along, if she'd been identified correctly at birth.
@@missnaomi613this is cute. I love supportive parents.
My mom is getting used to using my new name, but she’s having an easier time, since her boyfriend doesn’t use his birth name. I told her “it’s like a nickname” and she understood the assignment
@@The0Stroy my kids are both cis (so far) but I also had opposite-gender names picked for them before they were born, I would hope they would use those names!
Unrelated, but I just want to say that I am so grateful for Jamie's content. He is so kind, warm, and morally grounded. He's a lifeline for my mental health.
my accidental ally story is that my high school made me play on the girl's tennis team after i transitioned to male but we frequently got complaints because the other teams didnt want to play against the "dude in a skirt" (miniskirt was part of the uniform but thats different issue)
That's really sweet of them!
I'm gluten intolerant and queer, so that's two counts against wheat field America for me.
Underrated comment
This is too funny. That They/them doll looks pretty much like I do, like, genuinely exactly like me, with only few minor differences. I currently have all the provided hair colours in my hair, at the same time. My hair is shorter on the other side (as in shaved). And I don't own a plaid shirt. But seeing the spitting image of myself, plus size and with even the purple glasses, in a conservative joke, kinda makes me feel like I've peaked in life. Is that an existing figurine, and can I buy it somewhere? I feel so seen right now. 😂😂😂
The picture of the they/them doll was made by a non-binary person, but it was spread as a joke by transphobed etc. I think you can tell if you look closely, the colours and little details are too accurate and in-group knowledge to have been made by someone who isn't part of the community.
The original is an AI generated image of a plus size doll with exchangable heads, that the person saw on tiktok (if I remember corrrect) and decided to edit it to the they/them doll.
@@Tankekraft Ok, then I won't be able to buy one. That is a pity, because this is the first time I've seen a doll and seen myself represented (and perfectly so). Knowing phobic people see me as a joke is nothing new, and I don't really care, at this point in life, about what other people think. It would have been such a cool doll to have, for reals.
I feel like those of us who are transmasculine and/or nonbinary get to experience the joys of accidental allyship from strangers far more often than our transfeminine sisters do. The kneejerk reaction of too many transphobes when encountering a trans person online is to type "You'll never be a real woman" as an insult. I love it when that happens. I just wish my trans sisters could experience similar affirmations as often, lol...
My friend's mom is supportive, but not fully. Basically she pays for my friends estrogen pills, and she buys my friend girly clothing and makeup, but she still uses He/him pronouns and my friends deadname. (In public she uses the correct name and pronouns to avoid weird looks because her daughter looks 100% like a teenage girl.)
My friend said her mom only agreed to pay for HRT if she didn't police her about remembering pronouns and name, and my friend agreed because she needed HRT. Also, her mom is a very religious christan who believes she still has a son, just one who acts very girly and wants to "become a woman." She still thinks she has a gay son and not a straight daughter.
@@maddykrantz tbh trans ppl aren’t mentioned in the bible
That doesn’t sound terribly supportive. I mean, she’s paying for HRT and “girly” stuff, but it kind of seems more like the mom is humoring a silly little fantasy than treating her daughter with respect
@@Girlandsilly And? neither are computers and they still exist
That sucks, I hope she manages okay until she can afford to pay for her own medication.
@@CometAura I can’t see my own comment
But ok
The "Even if you dress as a woman, you'll never be one" thing is actually super validating for me, as a trans femboy. You can pry my skirts and dresses out of my cold dead hands, doesn't change I'm Not A Woman.
I am agender and this is probably the reason why I (when I was a child) thought being trans is a choice, but even back then I was completely supportive ,because I did want for everyone to make the choices for their life that feels right for them, same with sexuality (I am asexual and aromantic, so when I was younger being gay or straight did feel like a choice for me, becauseI didn't understand that sexual and romantic attraction exists and just thought everyone feels like me, but just choose to have a relationship with someone). So I somehow understand where the transphobes are coming from, when they say that it is a choice, but I don't understand why it causes them to be transphobic.
Same, actually. I mean, I’m not agender, but even while I was riding the “trans people are mentally ill and trying to destroy the concept of gender!!” train, it still seemed natural to use the correct pronouns and refer to people as the gender they identified as. (I’m not saying my beliefs then were OK, but purposefully misgendering people is just petty and childish no matter how you look at it.)
Wow, all three A’s 🤩 Rlly saw gender nd sexuality nd said, “no thanks”
omg you're a triple-A battery (positive)
I'm AAA too, and I thought the same thing bc I genuinely didn't understand lmao
I mean, yours is probably similar to the many cases of bisexual people that think being gay is a choice, since they "chose" to be straight they assume everyone else can do the same.
You come from the other side of it, since you don't feel identified with any gender at all, you think is only a matter of preference.
But as a cis gay man the idea many people have of trans women transitioning only to be appealing to men seems completely alien to me, it is the fact that I very much don't want to change my gender which makes me understand that trans women are not men. I honestly don't understand how other cisgender people think any cis person can be convinced to "become" trans. I mean, do they see themselves as someone capable to change their gender?
I'm in the US and early voted today! 🗳 🎉 Being in Texas, i dont feel it will make enough of an impact, but I do what i can. Im 53, transmasc nonbinary, and want to live in a place my healthcare is taken seriously and not stripped away. Same with women's healthcare, and everyone else.
As a doll customizer, I'm actually tempted to make that nonbinary doll, pins and exchangeable hair and all. Might throw in a tote bag and some cool earrings too.
You totally should!!
That’s so cool that you’re a doll customizer!! What kind of dolls do you use? I used to customize monster high dolls and I always wanna get back into it
Cool! Please, do it!
Plleeaasseee do it!!
I'm not homophobic but...
I don't think children should have to see that. I am ok with adults being British but I don't think we should expose children to the Uk community.
I just dont agree with anyone being publicly british.
Thats like saying "I'm not racist but [completely unrelated tangent here]" is quite silly! Also, yes, having been exposed to the UK community as a child has made me know how to read/write/speak the english(not the murica poo) language.
I'm British but I stay in the closet for the world's comfort lol
Hear hear!
Ofc you're not homophobic, you're UKphobic, even if a completely justified one. Like, I agree, all of those british people like Jk Rowling teaching all of those lies to our children. At the end they'll believe that britain is real!
@@JoF999 thank you for doing us normal people a service and helping us keep our children safe from the horrors of the british. I certainly hope we'll never get to see another child drink tea thanks to your honorific sacrifice
I’ve talked with people that have very purposefully called trans men “trans women” and trans women “trans men” because they can’t not call them trans but the idea of calling someone they feel is a woman a man, even in that context, is too much for them. Joke’s on them, they just sound purposefully ignorant, which is arguably worse because then there’s no benefit of the doubt.
If they want to be unambiguous in their TERFerry: they will say "trans identified male" (TIM) or "trans identified female" (TIF). Makes them very easy to report as hate speech.
12:49 has happened to me so many times. People ask for my real name, only to find out that they just used it!
Same. I'm a demiguy and still go by my (stereotypically female) birth name, but somehow even with he/they pronouns people think I'm a trans woman and refuse to use my name until I tell them the name I had as a baby, aka the name I just told them. It's even better when they aggressively "misgender" me by exclusively calling me he and nothing else, then get mad I'm not mad about it. Like uhh, why would I get mad that you are referring to me in the way I said I liked to be referred to? Also using pronouns in place of a name sounds utterly ludicrous. Like "I'm not asking *HE*!". 🤦
That guy eating right after destroying the Conservative was a total Boss move 😆
The ad with the "typical" American family in the wheat field vs. the Gay Pride guy with make up--we can have both. Straight, cis families, gay families, Trans families, etc. Just leave people alone and let them live.( I know I listed more than what they showed)
Exactly. Many LGBT people want to have a 'normal' family with marriage, kids, etc. i never understood why it is so hard to grasp
Recovering from top surgery+hysterectomy, this gave me a much needed laugh. Thanks Jamie!! 💛
I hope it went really well!!
@Tristan_Midnight ngl, it's been a bit of a struggle, but it's all uphill from here! 😊
@@raywuf I’m so happy for you!! I’m glad it’s all up from here :)
@Tristan_Midnight Thank you so much my friend! 💛
Hope recovery goes well for you! The first week or so is a bitch ngl. I had both surgeries separately and it was still a lot. Hang in there!
The weirdo desperate to find out Ashley's deadname was the funniest part of this video. It double-backfired on him when Ashley just said thanks for affirming my gender.
I'm very pro-trains, and also very pro-trans.
I see no sense in being anti-people that actually exist as what they actually are.
One Love.
18:25 YES. See, I'm a trans man and a huge femboy, but I hate when people tell me to dress more masc or else I'm 'clearly not trans'. (yes that exact sentence has been said to me lol)
Oh don't worry, they are hypocrites, I've had people tell me I'm "not actually trans" because "you can't even put in the effort to shop in the men's section" while wearing clothes that were exclusively from the men's section (except my socks which weren't gendered at all and just had a chart of "these shoe sizes equal this size of sock"). Like excuse me? Do you think I found cargo pants you can fit a 2 liter bottle in the pocket of in the women's section?
@@waffles3629
Who tf are you communicating with?
Sounds like a nightmare.
Don't let people talk to you like that.
@@CordeliaAurora random strangers most of the time who refuse to listen to me telling them to leave me alone.
They don't have a problem with the standard practice of women changing their last names when they get married, but lose their 💩 over trans people changing their names to fit who they are. TBH if I had some of the wonky names children are given these days I'd definitely be changing my name when I reached the age I legally could. Trans or not people should have the right to change their name.
Even in a progressive state like California, changing your name for trans reasons costs a LOT more than changing your name for marriage reasons.
@@electronics-girl yep. My sister's name change was included in the cost of the marriage license, which was $25. She still had to pay to replace all her documents, but didn't need to pay for the name change itself. But if you want to change your name outside of marriage or divorce, it's $250.
“And being happy, and smiling, and 💅💕✨FABULOUS✨💕💅”
2:53. The timing of that fart sound was impeccable 👌. Thank you for always making my day Jamie 😂
Happy trans day to all trans people 😊
Thanks❤ hope you have a good day too😊
regarding 10:18 Foundation over beard is actually a thing. For some of us the beard, we don't want to see, is still really visible even after shaving. So foundation is the hope to make it less visible.
Transphobes aren't just refusing to learn, Jamie : They're making a lot of efforts to avoid learning.
The difference is subtle, but important. That's why they get it wrong all the time. Because they're actively trying to not learn.
This, exactly. Their mindset has forged around the belief system that any contradictory information to their current beliefs is bad. Probably because having your beliefs challenged can be uncomfortable as you struggle to resist the fact that the alternate argument makes sense.
That’s also why they’re so against colleges and universities, and starting to be against public school altogether. They believe that their children “suddenly” becoming more radicalized and having differing beliefs is proof that the education system “brainwashed” their kids, when in reality being exposed to other people and their lived experiences challenges your mindset that any experience different from your limited self is inherently wrong.
(I say this as one of those “brainwashed from a liberal college” folks 😂 like no, my brain is still here, but leaving my home town of less than 800 cis white people made me more aware and present to the experiences of others who don’t fit that limited mindset. And it was uncomfortable and it wasn’t sudden - I can unfortunately still say I was transphobic until my senior year. But those experiences compounded and I started to learn to listen, not speak, which made all the difference in how I understood the world beyond my limited baseline. Which is hilarious in retrospect, because that’s literally what I was always taught to do in the conservative, religious neighborhood I grew up - “you have two ears to listen and one mouth to speak, so you should listen twice as much.” Amazing how that conveniently goes out the window when it comes to learning new information that doesn’t match their beliefs ☺️ lol)
Willful ignorance is a major problem in today's society, unfortunately
We don't refuse to learn, we simply DON'T AGREE. You however refuse to even listen to our arguments.
@@saoirse2963 Most of your arguments either refer to some guy in the sky from a thousands-year-old book or are just plain _wrong._
19:10 as a nonbinary agender person thanks for the little shout out. Always nice to be included and a part of the conversation when it comes to trans issues! ❤️❤️❤️
Just a question for my personal curiosity, feel free to disregard. When asked about gender, do you say you’re nonbinary or agender❓
@@gotmilk9843Not the original commenter, but as someone who is also agender I consider myself snuggly part of the nonbinary category, since it's a vast term encompassing many more-specific terms/identities. Not every agender person vibes with the nonbinary label, even though agender technically falls under being nonbinary, but there are no rules saying you can't stack labels as you'd like ^^
Love this question. I personally believe that I’m both and that these things are labels and to choose whichever fits you best (regarding whether they are the same). I personally found non-binary first and although it was better it wasn’t quite right, then I found agender so for me i used it as a specified version for myself. I understand for a lot of people non binary is an umbrella term and for others it isn’t, i think it’s up to you and depends on how much you just want to find connection or just don’t want to explain yourself. For people you’re introducing to the concept it might be easier just to say non-binary and for those you think would need minimal to no explanation you could say agender. I say “hi I’m nonbinary and agender” in general but honestly whatever your personal preferences are works! Gender is a spectrum and you should use labels that fit and feel the best to those you feel the best about sharing, don’t think of any of these things as rules. Also, hi! How’s it going?❤️🌈😁
@@Pigmentplays-c3c Yeah, I feel similarly about my own labels, I just say I’m “queer” unless I feel the space would recognize more “niche” identities. Your response is absolutely lovely though! I’m doing well atm, all things considered 😅 Hru❓
Okay so like the “which America will you give your grandchildren” my first thought was “I want the happy part but can I not be surrounded by people? Thanks”
I was thinking "I want to be in the wheat field with other queer people."
I thought; happy wheat farmer family and happy pride are not mutually exclusive. Also, tough luck for my grandchildren, bc I won't be having kids in the first place 🤭.
What’s weird with me is I’m pretty introverted but I like being around a lot of people as long as I don’t have to interact with them overly much.
Fr I genuinely liked the wheat field better because the pride thing looked really overstimulating lol
Exactly. And like none, because I can't afford kids in this economy. And without kids grandkids can't happen.
15:05 It's so hilarious. A way too often, that conservative person claims that they know who they are, what they want and that they have the rights to choose, but then they proceed that the only "right" everyone else has, is to comply with them and their opinions and choices and not their own. That's exactly what dehumanisation is 🙈 and exactly what egoism is.
And then they not only act surprised that there's pushback but also wanna gaslight everyone into accepting shame for resisting their own abuse. The most classic abuser 1x1 tactic ever!
9:44 "What is enticing about wheat?"
My coeliac ass: 😢
The whole gender role thing really messed with me after I realized I was a trans man. I thought I couldn’t wear any jewelry or like pink because I was afraid of being told I wasn’t really trans because I liked those things. But now I know that’s so stupid. I do like those things and I look awesome in pink.
Yeah I’m a cis male and am really trying to start wearing the stuff I want to rather than the stuff society wants me to. Problem is I’m 15, hate shopping, and don’t actually know what I want to wear, so… I’m a bit stuck
Sorry I was trying to make a point then realised I actually have no idea what I want to wear. Anyway…
@@russelstudios2187 I’m 33 and I just now figured out my style. You have plenty of time to figure yours out. If you see something you like. Try it. It could be your style or not but experimenting is the best way to find out.
@@GavinTheGray Thanks, well done for finding yours
NGL, I had it backwards (trans man/trans woman) until I started dating a trans woman and she set me straight (pun intended).
Edit: Jammie, your hair looks splendid today!
I always read it as "You Will Never Build A Weapon" like brother I have built -4- 3 so far and they all seem to fire and cycle just fine thank you very much
EDIT: I have (successfully) built 3. I used the wrong material for the rear 4mm pin in my latest glock and said pin snapped during a test fire. Surprisingly, the printed frame doesn't even have a scratch. I think Guido Mista was right with the whole "4 is an unlucky number" thing. Oh well, at least I learned to trust my gut when I feel like I built something wrong.
you sound really cool
@@CometAura I'm really not, I just have autism and really like guns lol
@@Kcthetransgirl same!
It took me so long to figure out what that acronym was supposed to mean too! Like, buddy, if your insult is incomprehensible to your target, it's not very effective, lol
@@orsolyafekete7485 Someone left that acronym as a comment on one of my videos, and unfortunately I knew exactly what it meant. I just deleted it, though. If I was going to respond, I would have said, "You're too late, I already am one!"
Somewhat in the spirit of AccidentAlly, I just told my mum yesterday the collor pattern on the sweater she was knitting was pretty much the trans flat. Not that she's transphobic, or particularly minded, but she was a bit surprised
im pretty sure the tables werent actually dirty. they just know that subconciously, complaining about a they/them pronoun pin is bullshit so they had to justify their poor review in some other way
And they also used "their" in their complaint. Classic accidental ally
Day 277 of asking for OT, Jammidodger, TheClick and TheLexiKitty to collab
I think it's kind of funny that a guy who was self described as 'Politely Transphobic' is also the guy who wrote the one of the best trans character dialogues of all time. Although he was also X-trans himself so he kinda had experience.
Noelle: "Hey Zero,can I ask you something?"
Zero: "Yeah?"
N: "Why do you sound like that?"
Z: "Like what?"
N: "A.. Boy."
Z: "Well... Not everyone is born with a pretty voice. Sometimes we have to make it pretty ourselves..."
N: "I guess that's fair.. Uh... Do you ever wish you were born with a pretty voice?"
Z: "Sometimes.. but I've grown to appreciate the cards life dealt me. I'm still who i want to be."
N: "Oh! That makes sense!"
Z: "Do you ever wish you had a different voice?"
N: "I think everyone thinks about it atleast once in their life... But some want it more than others."
Z: "That's a nice way to put it."
N: "I think your voice is pretty!"
Z: "Thank you. That means alot to me."
N: "No problem Zero, you're my friend!"
Z: :) "Let's go get Jack a new pumpkin."
Literally mentions nothing about actually being trans, except Zero still having a somewhat masculine voice, but somehow explains so much in the span of under a minute.
I wish the world could be as simple as letting people live the way they want and everyone minding their own business. You can have an opinion on how someone lives their life, but your opinion shouldn't be able to change how they live.
As a trans woman I use the correct restroom, I’ve never had anyone stop me from using the women’s restroom. In fact I’ve had other women talk to me while I was touching up my makeup or washing my hands. No one cares.
phobes are the minority!
@@CometAura and I managed to end up in the one place where they're the majority lmao
This is so accurate. The only time I remember someone talking to me in the woman's bathroom was when someone said that they liked my skirt. If you're trying to look at people's g*nitals to see whether or not they "belong" there, you are the weirdo.
@@AshR42IsAll sorry to hear that. Hope you're doing okay 🙏
I bet there were a lot of women who didn't like it but were too scared to talk.
I'm glad we're all here for this :] Keep it up Jamieee
7:33 I had that happen to me on tiktok, and yes, the commenter proceeded to be transphobic with the correct information that I had to give him.
Just letting you all know? That YOU, yes you, ARE VALID NO MATTER WHO YOU ARE❤❤❤🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️⚧️⚧️⚧️⚧️⚧️⚧️🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️
Thank you Mikuuuuu
@@KaidenZvek no problem ✨
Say it a little louder for those in the back ❤
Hells, no one ever adresses it, but Jamie looks so beautiful and healthy. I swear, no one would ever tell he wasn't a man for all his life. So happy to see him look so healthy
At 10:07 - It's coming from the right wing in the US being more rural and viewing themselves as the productive members of society who put food on the table. The subtext is "they might be having fun with their rainbows and whatnot, but without us Real Americans they'd starve".
And, at 10:18 - For a lot of AMAB folks, doesn't matter if you've just shaved, facial hair is conspicuous and isn't going to disappear just from using foundation. So, yeah, if you want to conceal it, it _is_ a challenge. That bit's actually relatable...
starting with "our first ally is Andrew Tate" is WILD
4:53 Mass Produce this doll set ASAP.
My son is a cis het guy, dating the beautiful woman that he plans to marry. And he keeps his hair longer and his favorite color is pink, and he loves to paint his nails. He proves that your gender and your expression don't have to match
...I give him a year and a half into the marriage and a baby untill he claim he was actually a woman all along. Preferably when his wife is pregnant with a second baby, that's the perfect time to announce that.
@saoirse2963 weren't you arguing in another comment to a cis woman who enjoyed 'guy coded' hobbies that people are multifaceted humans with different tastes and hobbies, and enjoying these 'traditionally male' activities has no effect on their gender? Yet here you are saying the absolute opposite. Or is it only ok if women enjoy 'traditionally male' interests. You have alot to say until you are called out.😂
@@saoirse2963 lmao this is too specific, I'm sorry she did this to you saoirse
The nonbinary figurine that was meant to be offensive was so funny. I know at least 3 people who look like this and I found it to look really cute ❤
12:48 now I can't stop thinking about those trans Ashleys who just remained Ashleys 😂
8:20
To be fair, I was extremely confused for a while as to which was which. I wasn’t sure if it was like- trans woman is: I was afab and have transitioned to be a man, or something. I’m not sure how exactly I got there but I did? I fully called my trans man oc a trans woman 💀
I also had a whole conversation about whether my oc, Josh, who is a trans guy and bisexual, was a bisexual or heteroflexible because he is bi, with a preference for girls. So that was fun.
transphobes not knowing that trans women can shave just as much men is always funny to me.
I think you might have missed something: at 4:17, the important part was "They/'Them" pinned to *their* shirt
I missed it on the first watch: but that word was briefly highlighted in the edit by blacking everything else out and zooming in. 4:16
2:31 really affirming as a trans man who likes wearing feminine clothing sometimes
10:38 the only known adult excited by wheat is Theresa May and we know how that turned out 😂
I'm not British, so I don't exactly know what this is referring to, but I have to say, that's incorrect. Here in Hungary we have a famous propaganda poster from the fifties, where our stalinist dictator of the time is looking longingly at some wheat, and it's memeworthy enough that "get yourself a partner who looks at you the way Rákosi looks at wheat" is a common joke, at least in my circles :P
Just a small note - bigender/multigender people can be both girls and boys!
...J.K.s birthday?! Happy birthday to them 🎉
So all my life I hated using public restrooms. In school and college, I'd find the bathrooms that were rarely used, and go in them, even if they were way out of my way. It always felt like I shouldn't be there. It never dawned on me that I felt like that because I'm trans, until I watched this video, and realized I don't have that same feeling of intruding with a woman's restroom that I did with a men's. That said, I still avoid the more commonly used ones, because I don't want to run into a transphobe in the bathroom. But I had spent over a year just not going to the bathroom at work, so using the bathroom at all is an improvement.
8:23 i did have to slow it very much Down for my parents to understand. My mom Said ah so trans woman is mtf and trans man is ftm and ever since then she has gotten it. Took her 1 explination and like 3 afterwards Correction but now she doesnt make that mistake :) its so easy!!!
My dad's actually been doing that andrew tate thing to me recently and it's been so confusing, like I'll bring up how I feel about things and he'll interrupt me saying something like "women voters are too emotional"🙄
Love this subreddit
Same
I just thought about something. When Im scared of something i research it. Like i am scared of plane crashes and for the longest time i did not want to do any research but i also just steered clear pf anything mentioning planes. Until i decided to face my fears alittle bit and watch a video on a plane crash and it was done in this analytical style that helped me understand why plane crashes happen but also why theyre so rare. I am still not the first person to hop on a flight and be happy but i am less scared of the planes above me just falling out of the sky and on to me.
Why dont transphobes do the same? Ik they Think they arent scared but still why dont they just take that little bit of time to research actual transpeoples experiences
it makes me laugh because if you present as a gender non conforming cis girl people will be like - wow you're such a boy. no dresses? that a boyee boy boy- but as soon as you say - yes, I am boy - they'll be like - wow what a girly girl. such a pretty little girly girl girl -
I’m here from a Click video! You should collaborate with him again
bro when he did the egg irl video and said he had a special guest i thought it was gonna be jamie 😭
Somebody sold that preacher trans pretzels, saying it's patriotic 😂
I feel like a lot of r/accidentalally just demonstrate how much aggression there is towards trans women. It’s sad that all the transphobes can’t even get past their own logic and hate for even a second to consider the whole picture but it’s scary to me how much they immediately get excited to tear apart trans women. Sadness aside, I loved the vid as always ❤
no yeah, it's so odd how all the violent and blatant transphobia is often against trans women, but then transmascs get painted as nonexistent or just confused teenage girls. it's so inconsistent
3:51 agreed, i had a (short) argument with someone over Girl In Red on tiktok a while ago
The other person said shes bi and their main reasoning was that she "doesn't like the label of lesbian"
and i said"her not liking the label doesnt make her bi, have you heard Girls??" And then they said that they don't even listen to her music -_-
How are you gonna sit here and argue about a celebrity you dont even listen to???? People dont have to like certain labels to still exist in its like category or whatever. How you identify isnt about labels, its about how you feel.
PLEASE AMERICANS GO OUT AND VOTE KAMALA ❤❤❤
I’m not American and I’m too young to vote BUT if I could vote I would vote Kamala Harris!
11:20 they even used the apostrophe wrong in their name...
TERF's = "TERF is" or to indicate that whatever comes after BELONGS to a TERF.
TERFs = plural of the acronym. It's so simple dude. But what would you expect from TERFs 🤷♂️
Oh I like Contra. Nice to see Tate taking an L.
What we learned: Andrew Tate is fine referring to trans women as women if it means he can be misogynistic towards them :P
Dang now I really want that enby doll; they're so cute 💜
Loved your shout-out to Natalie Wynn in your video! She really does bring something unique to the table, and it’s great to see more people discovering her work. Wishing her all the best as she turns 36 tomorrow! Her video essays are always thought-provoking and insightful-her analysis from “Gender Critical” onward has been incredible. Thanks for encouraging your audience to check her out, and keep up the amazing work you’re doing as well!
Hey jaimie, i know you probably wont see this, but id love if you did more positive stuff/ pro lgbt stuff than not, i know you do post positive stuff but the negative ones really weigh on me and im finding them harder to watch, idk if anyone relates
no i definitely relate, i find the positive stuff more enjoyable
Another point about Andrew Taints tweet: its a self read that he isnt stressed about elections or politics. Like, if you know anything about politics or political discourse you WILL be stressed. Its kinda the bare minimum when you know your stuff
Not really, it depends
Jamie, I love your content. However there is one phrase that you often use that I have a problem with. I would challenge the idea that "gender cannot be changed." I get that many trans people feel that their gender doesnt change, just their appearence, but there are some trans people (like me) who see it differently. I see my transition as a change in my gender. Furthermore, while the sentiment is very good, it doesn't include gender fluid people whose gender actually does change.
No hate intended, you are one of my favorite content creators. If anyone would shed some light on this and explain why I'm wrong, please do. I love to be educated :)
Keep up the great work!!!
we can't both be right, and my gender certainly didn't change
@@SophieRoseLive Maybe we can both be right. I think its up to personal interpretation of our own journeys.
@@valkyriethesmith there's no interpretation. my gender didn't change, because that's literally impossible
@@SophieRoseLive Its not impossible, as gender fluid people prove. Everyone's journey is different, some people see it as their gender changing, some people don't.
@@valkyriethesmith some people see the earth as flat, doesn't make it true
If I ever do encounter a transphobe, I hope they use the "name your parents gave you" line. Because I can honestly say this is in fact the name my parents gave me when I was born. The came up with a boy name, and a girl name. I just switched the one I'm using. But they still gave it to me.
6:20 something it reminded me of this year when i went to ontario from quebec and found the very first public toilet that were men/women but on the men side, no cubicle, no toilet, ONLY URINALS..... OwO had to go poop in the women's toilet cause wtf ...you want me to shit in a urinal??????
What in the flying figs WHO DESIGNED THAT BATHROOM
I’m pretty sure Jamie has told a story where he experience this exact scenario lol.
Yep, I've encountered that too. It's ridiculous. Like men poop. And not everyone can, or is comfortable with, using a urinal.
9:53 - kids picture books about crayons has the quote from "beige crayon" saying "i only get to colour wheat and let's face it whi gets excited about colouring wheat!" 😂
The end has a fabulously coloured picture of a variety of colours
Accidental Allies are so funny, Trans rights are cool
Here in America, we are supposed to have the freedom to choose whatever lifestyle we like. So if you want to stand in a field of wheat, no one is going to stop you.
i like to call her JK Trolling
JK Howling
JK Molding
@@its.your.joyce.2024 atleast she knows what a real woman is, transwomen will never be women
Rowlermont is quite popular. J K Malding?
Hearing you say nonbinary people don't have to be androgynous was oddly touching. I know it and can apply it for other people, but it sunk in that i don't need to be either, so thank you for a soothing little moment ^-^
@noddingyeti Absolutety! I just wanted to highlight how good it feels to hear someone else talk against internalised biases that you maybe can't quite separate from your self-image.
@noddingyetiyour fear is palpable and hilarious
ok so I'm torn between watching this jammidodger vid and sleeping bc it's 11:30 PM here and I got a test tomorrow. I choose sleep bc I gotta do well this time, I will def watch the video when I get up bc holy shi I'll need some way to calm down lmao.
Watch it…
i live in rochester, mi, and the liberals were trying to be nice by saying "You can't blame a trans boy for being a woman and using she/her pronouns, it's not right :("
they were a transfemme, they thought trans boy = transfemme and trans woman = transmasc
as someone who was bullied for being gender nonconforming they only say "boys can like pink and girls can have short hair" when its used against trans people, you arnt REALLY allowed to be different
Elections are stressful indeed Vote blue America💙💙💙
4:11 No, Karen. The pronoun pin didn’t ruin your meal. Your bigotry ruined your meal.
4:52 i dead ass got jumpscared because that doll looks exactly like my mom
9:50 tbf.... I like farm fields, or fields in general, generally nature stuff, and not much into loud parties like pride parades, maybe I'll go to one sometime, but big social events are not my thing, but I'm happy for those for whom it is. Just saying, I'd likely want the field, not for the reasons the post was implying, I'd just be gay in a field..... That sounds weird out of context....