Her Husband Left Her, Now She Lives Like This... | Obsessive Compulsive Cleaners
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 13 เม.ย. 2023
- This week, Hayley travels to help out 39 year old Shereen, who last cleaned her flat a year ago. Due to her lack of cleaning, her mum no longer visits her due to her flat being so messy! Meanwhile Penny is going to spend four days helping clean and de-clutter the two bed home of Paul and Elaine. Paul is a self-confessed shopaholic causing Elaine to have a constant fear of tripping or falling over all the clutter that he buys! When their grown up children come to stay, they have to sleep in the caravan on the drive because there is no room in the house!
Half a million of Brits change our bed linen just three times a year. Yet there is a group of Britons who wage a constant war on dirt and order. This brand new series follows Brits who - by their own admission - are so obsessed with cleaning they can't relax if there is a spot on a tap or a rain mark on the windows!
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"Hayley has learnt to manage her condition" and "she cleans for 19 hours a day" are such contradictory statements 😂
9:23 she bleaches her toilet while the wall is dirty and the pipes have a to of dirt on them 😂
Hailey fakes it for the camera for years as far as I'm concerned.
@@Hermaeusmora5042 I understand, at the same time the show producers create an overexarrated characted and make things up.
It goes to show it is not about cleanliness, because Hayle's home is not clean. The pipes look like the ones i hoarders homes.
@@angelikalaser7778 maybe they are just worn? everything else looks scrubbed spotless
Absolutely agree with you! To clean for 19 hours a day does not mean she is managing her condition.
Better than 35 which is what they said in the beginning lol
penny is an absolute angel, she did all that with no thanks from paul
Sounds like me . I love cleaning
A lot of empathic women who are married to high functioning autists, hoarders, narcissists and other types with control issues end up with auto-immune disorders. Doctors are starting to recognize that as a 'side effect' of being high empathy, living with a person who is low or no empathy.
@@Elysian777 I am not surprised. Thanks for pointing that out!
@@Elysian777I have auto Immune disease and have a high empathy and father with low empathy, that’s interesting i am v spiritual and already connected the link of probably self hate/ attacking oneself and leaky gut . I actually pretty much cured mine but this is an interesting angle to dig deeper on thanks
@@Elysian777that's really interesting
Paul needs a clip around the ears, what a selfish man child. His poor wife has a serious health condition and he's more worried keeping his stuff......🙄😒
He‘s ill as well and would have needed professional help for his hoarding problem.
@@leylano6423 This is true.
oh come of it… his illness has more to do with his laziness… I feel pity on the woman who has to clean after him like a maid.
If you weren’t thinking with your emotions then you’d realise that he clearly has an illness too.
@@Mariamsadventurehe’s 50/50 mentally ill and just wasn’t raised right. a grown man should never be making that many excuses, but his OCD is only making it harder.
I hate how Paul was hiding behind being an environmentalist when he is a darn HOARDER!!! does he not know that consumerism and environmentalism doesn't mix
THIS!!!!!!
He probably hoards and doesn't throw anything out to avoid buying things later on.
I loved the part with Hayley and Shereen; two women who appear to be polar opposites, both kind and understanding, getting to know each other, and genuinely befriending and helping one another. It's beautiful.
yes!! I loved them! they were so sweet I hope they stay friends
I thought that too.
Hayley cleaning in 6 inch platform pumps is always funny to me
She's a classy legend that's why ❤❤😊😊😊
@@jasminejohnstone1803 I discovered this show last weekend, I don't skip a single bit of Hailey, I'm totally in love 😍
My wife already knows, now the next step is to let Hailey know that I'm going to marry her! Wish me luck
Hayley fakes it for the camera. She is a staple for the show.
At 9:23 you can see how dirty the pipes are in the bathroom. For someone cleaning the toilet daily not to see the dirt on walls is strange.
The grouts in her kitchen are black 😅
I doubt that she cleans when the camera if off tbh.
@@angelikalaser7778 I was wondering the same thing.... Also, she wears the shoes she just wore outside inside her home??? That's like the number 1 no no rule!
@@angelikalaser7778but it still makes good entertainment haha.. Haley has a mad addiction to the smell of bleach, she will be on the next rehab show haha
Paul’s a slapped arse. His wife is struggling to shift his crap. Felt sorry for her she deserves better. Where were her kids to help her? I hope she’s ok.
You would think they could afford a vase to put the fresh cut flowers in rather than having them in a half cut plastic Coca Cola bottle; Window shelf in kitchen.
He's a selfish overgrown child, can't believe his wife took him a cuppa, I'd have thrown it at him!
Paul‘s a hoarder. He needs professional help while cleaning, not a random women with OCD.
@@gillianbrookwell1678 the issue is that he's spending all of their money on his 'collectibles', and therefore a 'vase isn't part of his viewpoint
Paul has his own mental condition he is struggling with possibly tied to trauma even. He needs professional mental help to start healing more. His continuing to get rid of more stuff after penny left already is a good step in the right direction. however to prevent resurfacing of symptoms and internal struggles he should consider consulting a mental health professional. there seems to be good hope for paul and penny.
She worrying me , half a bottle of bleach with disinfectent so wrong to mix chemicals she can have a bad chemicals reaction. Bleach shouldnt be used to clean the house. Toilet only . She needs to be careful. We also have a immune system to kill germs .
I loathe bleach.. I've not used a single bottle of it in the 5 years I've lived in my apartment. My apartment is clean and I use a steam cleaner and other environmentally friendly products. I simply can't stand the smell of bleach 😅
And using Bleach in the fridge! It's absolutely dangerous because it is in contact with the food....
And it ruins your clothes
It's a disease though, it's not going to be rational unfortunately. Her compulsión makes using a lethal combination of chemicals seem like a great idea. 🙄💜
Professional cleaners like Aurikatariina will tell you to never mix bleach with hot water, it's so dangerous.
So sad, they should have brought a registered therapist for Paul and Shareen. Living conditions like this always stem from mental health issues. I hope they were able to maintain their living conditions after the film crew left!
Yeah I actually went from being annoyed at Paul to very concerned indeed
Every single person in this show should get professional help. That high heels woman is inhaling bleach and detergent boiled fumes all day. Just because her illness is more productive that doesn't means it's better. OCD impacts one's life quality and the relationships around them too.
Rumor has it that Paul is still pouting in his bedroom, pretending to be unwell, while using the excuse of saving the environment, to emotionally neglect his wife who is dealing with MS. She deserves better.
@maryfields1382 I understand that you are concerned about his wife. But please study hoarding disorder as this is also a medical condition. Paul was given no support for this medical condition.
Have studied. Also have personal experience. Its a disorder that makes you selfish and incredible careless. Took years to heal my father when he refused therapy.
He’s ill. Educate yourself on the matter.
"The cat is sitting on the surfaces with its bum hole." 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Hayley is so funny!
I think about this too! Really bothers me when I see cats on food prep areas when I am over at someone’s house for dinner 😂
Dont remember who, but someone did a test to see if thier cats bumhole actually touches surfaces by putting lipstick on it. And surprisingly it doesnt since the fur around it keeps it elevated 🤣 Id more worry abt their paws tracking poo and pee from the litterbox but the amounts are so small its negligible. My sister and I call our cat poopy paws sometimes when he leaves the box though.
This grosses me out too, it's disgusting. I'm sure they are cute and cuddly animals, but I can't stand this fact about their bum touching surfaces, AND the fact they lick their own bum and then lick you! 🤢
That cat is cleaner than she is.
@@jklfds85 don't act like dogs don't do the same 😂
Penny is so nice haha. She's so respectful and understanding even when she's very visibly grossed out lol.
That's great! What Hayley did for Shereen brought tears to my eyes. I know very well how she must have felt when she first entered the flat. I've felt that way too. Panic attack, germs entering your psyche and the urge to run.
That man doesn't care about the environment. This strange woman he doesn't know is making him get rid of what he sees as valuable, prized possessions so he is destroying the tapes so no-one else can have them or ever hear them.. This man seems dangerously malicious.
I haven't watched the entire thing yet, but I think the main problem with Paul is that he needs the support of a professional hoarding team. You can't really expect random people who like cleaning to be able to change everything in a household just by chucking things out. I know that's the premise of the series, but as a person who gets professional help with cleaning my surroundings, I realize how important it is to actually understand where it's coming from. It's so much more complicated than throwing things away. Yes, his behavior is shitty. That's why he needs a professional to work this through.
I was thinking the exact same thing. Penny did the best she could have in that situation, I think the yard sale was a great idea and I intend to try it on my own mother hah.😅
He definitely does need a whole team of professionals to teach him how to maintain this new lifestyle, environment, and also really tackle the psychological element of it all. Otherwise the pattern sadly continues. I stayed to watch the end because I was curious of the outcome and I’m quite surprised. So far, ‘their living room is clutter free and they plan to sell more of Paul’s stuff’.
Hope the best for them honestly, especially Elaine.
I know hoarding is a subset of ocd and I have ocd myself but I find hoarding to be quite selfish, which I’m saying from lived experience with a serious hoarder.
my heart is breaking with shireen, i hope shes found her strength. i get it, its a tragedy that led her to this dwelling, its not seen as a home, and to go through her possessions just is futile and brings more hurt from the relationship/home she just left. im glad thus far in vid hayley was as polite as she could muster. shireen needs love and hope restored
I feel really annoyed watching Paul. He is an incredibly selfish and inconsiderate man. He has probably worn down his poor wife!
He's seems like a control freak, having his wife exactly where he wants her. She has my deepest sympathy.
Paul should move in with the first woman. She can clean up all his junk for him.
she hasn t got mine, she could leave anytime, she choses staying, some people prefer lifelong misery in an unhealthy relationship to the unknown and being self-relient.....@@gillianbrookwell1678
He’s definitely mentally Ill. No doubt.
Who knows what has occurred in Paul’s past to contribute to his hoarding. Something will have because all hoarding disorders are routed in trauma.
Got to hand it to these people willing to 1. Publicize their conditions and 2. Willing to help one another. Also seeing a bunch of young adults volunteer to improve THEIR space, speaks volumes of each individual in my opinion.
When Paul basically said that he doesn't care about his wife's health...!
Paul can still shop at sales ,but he can shop for kids with no toys or clothes ! Hed be a hero if he changes his mind shift ,
And donated to kids !!!!
Of course he would but its about the high of owning trash, not “helping the environment” as he claims
What Paul is doing to his wife is straight abuse, knowing that she has MS and how much stress can effect a person with MS, causing lesions to form on their brain smh. I hope that man gets some much needed help otherwise I'm very doubtful their situation will improve. My heart goes out to Shireen. I'm glad Penny went there and helped her.
Paul’s a hoarder and blocks every effort to help his wife. Sad man 😢
21:25 my man literally pulled out the "The needs of the many..." card. Absolutely stone cold savage. Feel sorry for his wife to just be brushed off that easily by the man she spent the better part of her life with, christ.
1:24 the dogs reaction genuinely surprised me you could tell even he’s had it 😭 but really dogs usually freak out when you vacuum them like that he was so well behaved
Omg I love penny, she's the most charismatic lady.
Hayley cleans the toilet 4 times a day but the wall pipes right beside it have layers of dust and dirt on them. Also, I wonder when she has time to be present with her children. But I know it’s not her fault due to her OCD. Wishing her the very best
i was going to say this - cleaning in heels but the floor is dusty (under the cupboards are compacted!) and has specs of dirt on it too. hmm.
Shereen and Hayley are funny together
penny and elaine selling whatever they want while paul is "sick" is such a power move
What many people don’t realize is that acts of hoarding and uncleanliness can also be major symptoms of OCD as well. While to some people these behaviors are silly or harmful, it must be noted that these stressors can be very real to those who struggle with them. My heart goes out to all of these people. ❤️
My ex husband is a collector; he has over a thousand gardening magazines dating back from the 1950's. I've lived on my own for 9 years and enjoy living in a neat clean clutter free home. I also love cleaning, and like using a lot of bleach which is cheap and efficient.
As a Muslim woman, I hope Shireen will get stronger with her faith and d now allow that divorce to destroy her life. I know it’s very hard, sometimes it can feel like you are all alone.
Please stay strong and have balance.
All the best to those who want to improve their lives for better. 🥺
I really felt for her. I hope she and her cat are having a great life.
I hope she is much better
While Paul is recycling little screws in cassete cases, Hailey is tossing several plastic bottles and rubber gloves each day 😩
Very true ☹️
And she is talking care about her family, and he doesn't give a f about his ill wife. So who is real bad guy here?
@@aliya6158so aggressive,I 100% agree but calm down
I’m very disappointment in Paul. He’s very selfish. His wife has an ailment and their kids have to live in a motor home outside of their home because of his hoard. They don’t want to deal with his “collections” after he passes. I feel like that’s super heartless of him to leave them with the burden of all that stuff to deal with while they’re trying to heal from the passing of their father. 😒😒
I know a lady who visited her out of state grandaughter in the flat the grandaughter shares with two others. The OCD gran re-arranged the whole kitchen to her liking and when the poor flatmates got up in the morning to go to work they didn't know where their coffee, tea, utensils, lunch-packing materials, anything was. Ran them late for work. The house was nice and clean. The grandmother just can't go anywhere without compulsively 'fixing things up' the way she likes them- even things that aren't hers.
BRO IS VACUUMING THE WHOLE ASS BED LMAO he is introducing more germs than actually cleaning
Yes. That was gross
Is Hailey cleaning while wearing Louboutin shoes? Really Hailey! Really 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
of course,not...only for her image on camera.
Amusingly, it was only for that one clip whereby she was outside. If you look at the rest of the clips, the shoes are the same style, but they're not Loubs
Sad there’s not a balance here but I would rather be clean than a messy hoarder. And good for Penny for cleaning others homes!
Paul is a very selfish person he only cares about what he wants honestly he has no respect at all for his wife or anyone else seriously his wife needs to leave him in his mess an save her sanity and take care of herself
People like Paul never change; I left my husband because of his selfishness and uncaring attitude.
@@gillianbrookwell1678 I'm sorry you had to go through that ❤️
@@kellylupton6136 It was difficult at first but I've lived on my own for nine years and I love it, being able to do what I want without being told what to do.
@@gillianbrookwell1678 that is absolutely awesome I'm really happy for you you deserve to have a happy peaceful life 💓
He is manipulating with his tactics to say he wants to leave things for his “children”… legacy my foot. His kids are alive and does he care about their feelings? He does not even consider them or his wife.
I would like to say to Shireen that life is beautiful. Dont let your past experiences dictate your present. You deserve to look after yourself and the your environment is very important. May Allah grant you ease. Ameen.
I feel bad for Shareen in the beginning. It takes a lot of bravery to ask for help to begin with, and Hayleys unmanaged ocd is making this task even more embarrassing then it had to be. Shes being judged for her house, her cat, and even possibly being poisoned by Hayley mixing chemicals.
Her house isnt that horrible and wouldnt be that hard of a task for most cleaners (a big job, but not impossible or something to complain about.) I hope Shareen talking to Hayley and giving her her perspectives helped Hayley realize her ocd really isnt managed well at all. Its ok to have joy in cleaning, but extreme germphobia can be debilitating and feeding the ocd in this way is unsustainable. However if she does keep help cleaning peoples homes in can be therapeutic in a positive way since she will have to be exposed to things that are dirtier then her home will ever get.
Pauls situation is also not being handled correctly, hoarding needs to be addressed with a therapist and the way Penny is attempting to deal with it is likely to make him just fill the house right back up again. No dig on penny though, she is sweet, just this is not the best way to handle this and it shows with him shutting down and running away.
The dog seems to enjoy the vacuuming. Usually dogs are scared vacuume cleaners. .
I feel so bad for Elaine, what a waste of space Paul is >:(
It doesn't bring me any joy to watch hoarders...I have a close family member that struggles with it and it is absolutely impossible to help if they aren't truly ready to change. It's super frustrating to deal with such people.
Cleaning with heels 👠 = my idol!
Lawd I know this man is not serious about toys being an insurance plan
I'd think that they would be stored better, to keep them in good condition.
Wish you the best Shereen....
Its been years since rhis aired and Paul's wife's condition has surely worsened. Since he is a selfish narcissist, wonder how she is doing
I love people that loves to clean. So neat and tidy. Wish I had that skill.
OCD is a horrible thing to live with
Hayley worries me but damn she’s making cleaning look beautiful will looking bomb at the same time! 😂❤
as a muslim, I respect Hayley for refusing to come into shireen's prayer room. And to be fair even Shireen should not be praying there. the first important step of praying is finding someplace clean to do it on. Glad Hayley help cleaned it out but I hope Shireen also uses a praying rug from now on. Easily washable.
the dust thing in the light is so relatable
"That cat, his bumhole will be on the surfaces. 100%"
OMG, I can't stop laughing 😂
I used to clean every single second of my waking day. I now have MS and can't clean as much as I once did. The MS may have been a small blessing.
I wish I had a friend like Penny!!!
Hayley and Shereen are so funny to watch lol i think they were vibing a little.
Oh, Hayley's come a long way since that episode. Good for her...😊
I think it is great how they did the garden sale, bc her partner cared more about the environment (an excuse to keep stuff) than he cared about her. She should have left him, bc her health was more important than that toxic relationship.
I love Haley she's magnificent.
Hayley is such a character , brilliant ❤
Yes, the young woman who is so obsessive about cleaning products and wears a lot of make up in those high heels(I don’t see how you can work in those things?), you need to research cleaning products, dear!!! You inhale those fumes, and they are very toxic!!! and you can burn your lungs, etc. I am 75 years old and I have COPD… You can look that up on the Internet… It has to do with the lungs and breathing… my ex-husband, I remember was cleaning a wall in a large store with muriatic acid, and he burned his lungs!!! And we have to breathe the air in around us with all these vehicles, etc.. I think you may catch my drift here, yes?! This was a really good video, all of you!!! I am a bit of a hoarder from years past, but I have really come along way!! Thank you very much to any and all here!!!! ❤
my mouth was open wide when paul said that his wife is one woman and the enviroment is millions.... dude
Hayley has come so far over the past few years. She is doing great. She has her own YT channel, and is on FB
😅 Penny is always welcome to come over friend.
Penny is so sweet!
Hayley too! And I'm so impressed by her heels
Listen, if penny wants to clean my house who am I to object ? It’s helping her.
9:49 but she walks around the house in shoes outside inside! And she mixes bleach and disinfectant dear gosh! She gonna get serious ill!😮
I feel bad for Paul’s wife. It’s frustrating to help people who refuse it but need it.
I'm amazed at how people can be so cleanliness minded in their homes and yet wear their shoes inside. Just think of all the ick your shoes touch each day, and that touches your floors and carpets.
I would watch Shereen and Hayley in a buddy comedy
I sympathise with elaine i have ms too
that paul is a waste of space 😠
My uncle was VERY similar to Hayley. One day a friend of my grandad came to the house and saw his habits, he mentioned this habits were whispers from devils, let’s just say he was normal from that day
I like collecting old cameras, but i keep them neatly displayed on glass shelves. Keeping them on the floor or everywhere is just chaotic.😊
The first house even though it was very cluttered it didn’t look dirty and extremely ugly, which is a surprise because you mostly see extreme vile houses on here.
That’s why he said he is a “collector” not a hoarder… the only reason it looks like that, is because of the poor wife… she tries her best to not let it get filthy like other homes
How do these people have 19 hours per day to clean though?
I doubt she's acrually cleaning for 19 hrs 😂
Penny is a nice lady
I could use a friend like Penny😊
This girl freaking out about the cats bumhole touching things 😂😂 it literally doesn't hahahah
I would think it does when it’s sitting down. I can tell when my dog’s is touching things but don’t care tbh as I clean the floor regularly
i remember seeing a post on fb where a kid did a whole presentation about it for school, and did all sorts of "tests" it was great haha. I think if the cats got medium to long hair, the fur covers it when they sit, hairless cat or short hair would be a different story though! @@foodpuff8582
It does. I remember seeing brown bum hole prints on my window sill from my cat 😖
It does though 😂
It does.
Animals belong outside.
14:31 😅😂😂😂😂, this partade me laugh out loud! Cats and their bumholes 😂😂
Penny should start a cleaning company and monetize her "illness".
They call it "illness", I call it talent. She's damn talented, look at that house, so clean.
OCD is an illness, there is nothing positive about it, it is awful to live with. I have OCD myself and you saying that is incredibly hurtful. And btw, monetizing it and performing those compulsions is just going to make the disorder worse. OCD almost lead me into a mental hospital because I wanted to hurt myself, I wash my hands till they crack and bleed. It's not this cute, quirky little personality trait you seem to be treating it as.
Thank you so much for your video.
"he hasn't got the balls" absolutely correct
My mom's coworker would obsessively clean their workplace (not what she was hired for) and it interfered with her actual work productivity and her job security to the point where it didn't make sense to have her work there in the first place--and I mean to emphasize that the place was already clean by regulatory standards. It turned out that she had some kind of medical condition with her thyroid that caused the such erratic behavior. Medical intervention pretty much stopped her peculiar (seemingly) OCD with cleaning. I'm sharing this story, not to say that's what is going on in the lives of the people shown in this episode, but because in some cases these kinds of behaviors can damage some peoples' lives, or the lives of their loved ones, subsequently. In some cases, medical intervention may help people to find a new kind of control over their own lives, rather than feeling controlled by the drive to clean obsessively. For any people out there struggling with this kind of thing, you may be able to work with medical professionals to pinpoint and manage these behaviors if you feel they're negatvely affecting your life.
I need her as my friend so my house can get clean 😂
Was thinking the same😅
Same 😂😂
Penny should wuit her job and become a full time cleaner, I feel so sorry for Elaine with MS having to live with Pauls Hoarding.
Hayley cleaning the toilets 5 times a day….completely misses the dirty pipes …. “I have OCD” 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I think I do too; When I go anywhere, I'm always looking for dust on the blinds, skirting boards and dirty ceiling fans to see how clean they are. If a cafe doesn't look clean enough, I won't eat in it.
Ocd isn't about cleanliness....do ur research its the obsessiveness of it
Because it's about routines and rituals more than it is cleanliness 🙄🤡
OCD is the inability to resist compulsions to do certain behaviours or actions, often in strict order. There's often fear that something bad will happen if you don't., Doesn't have to be cleaning although that's common
Yeah I noticed that ! Bizarre
Michael using a vacuum on the bed is wild 💀
Watching this while im big cleaning my room
👍🏽 kicking goals
I spent like 10 minutes looking for the town in this episode on google maps. As of 2022 it went back to it's original disarray, if anyone else was curious. Kind of sad.
I need to invite her over for coffee. 😂
I want a whole series of Hayley and Shereen doing things together!
Penny and Hayley are my TH-cam heroes minus the bleach Hayley as I also suffer OCD cleaning and organizing. Paul is selfish considering his wife Elaine is sick. Shame on you Paul! = Narcarcisstic Human. Shereen so glad your flat is Nice and clean. What a great video. Kindest thoughts from Australia x
I love Haley, but it always amuses I seeing the pipes at the side of the loo covered in grime.
Hayley missed to clean the water pipes 9:30, there are lots of dust 😂
Went back and took a look. Yes, those pipes looked dusty.
Right they look nasty
Hayley needs to clean those filthy pipes by her toilet. I can’t believe she’s obsessing over some things and just leaves the pipes caked in dust and bodily fluids.
Omg I saw that too!!
She’s a sweet soul
This is Defs how I am. Severe ocd and love cleaning and helping others which is why I’m a full time house keeper haha
9:26. Obsessive cleaners would see how filthy the walls and baseboards are.
Penny is bright and beautiful!
love this show , these people are so nice ❤
Heyleys OCD is relatable to me, but luckily I'm not too too freaked out by germs... I have exposed myself too and can handle touching them, but knowing pets have sat on certain surfaces definitely irks me 😂😂