Are you concerned about burning out from programming, or already suffering? Share what you're going through, and what you're learning. I hope this episode helps you see how burnout is often a combination of job stresses, personal things we need to work on, and circumstances outside our control. ►► Know your options! Access my FREE data hub for the top 25 software industry roles, TechRolepedia → jaymeedwards.com/access-techrolepedia/ CHAPTER MARKERS 0:00 Introduction 0:59 1 SELF-INFLICTED BURNOUT CAUSES 1:05 1.1 People Pleasing 1:41 1.2 Overextending at Work 2:03 1.3 Side Gigs 2:15 1.4 High Expenses 2:51 1.5 Drug Addiction 3:18 1.6 Guilt and Shame 3:59 2 OTHER-INFLICTED BURNOUT CAUSES 4:16 2.1 Political Lies and Manipulation at Work 5:31 2.2 Recurring Project Firefighting 6:42 2.3 Betrayed by a Coworker 8:04 3 CIRCUMSTANTIAL BURNOUT CAUSES 8:34 3.1 My Child Struggled With Dangerous Addiction 10:07 3.2 My Father Died At a Young Age 10:45 3.3 9/11 Work Culture Changes 12:04 3.4 My Wife's Abuse 13:36 4 BURNOUT TRIGGERS 13:42 4.1 Startup Partner Exited 14:27 4.2 Marriage Became Distant 15:13 4.3 Recurring Relapse of My Child 15:54 4.4 Company Bought Out 17:04 5 MY BURNOUT SYMPTOMS 17:12 5.1 Chronic Insomnia 19:03 5.2 Uncontrollable Anger 19:47 5.3 Forced to Resign 20:25 5.4 Spent Emergency Savings 21:29 5.5 Spent Remaining Cash 21:49 5.6 Sold All My Stocks 22:09 5.7 Fell Behind on Mortgage 22:54 6 STRUGGLING THROUGH RECOVERY 23:05 6.1 Tried Quitting Development 23:33 6.2 My Wife and I Found God 26:11 6.3 My Addicted Child Moved Out 27:03 6.4 I Started on TH-cam 28:32 6.5 I Started Career Coaching 30:43 6.6 My Sleep Improved 32:01 7 HOW BURNOUT CHANGED ME 32:11 7.1 Recovery is Daily 32:31 7.2 Confronted My Addiction 33:09 7.3 Became Aware of My Limits 34:01 7.4 Embraced My Suffering 34:24 7.5 Motivated By Change 36:50 7.6 I Began Tithing 39:03 7.7 Learning To Live Sober 40:13 7.7 Focus on The Positive 41:09 7.8 Reject Being Defined By Work 43:56 Episode Groove
Please go into more detail on the coping strategies you had to learn when you stopped using weed and booze. I'm reading a book on CBT called cognitive behavioral therapy in 7 weeks. And have a lot of hope that it will be helpful
Hello @HealthyDev this message may or may not change your life so be carefull. Please check yourself for ADHD. I'm telling you so, as from what I heard, lot of your personal issues are common symptoms and behaviour of peoples with ADHD. Online test will take 3 min, but to be sure its beter check brain in clinic. I'm Senior Lead SDET, and I can much relate and really feel you man. I have mostly same issues with humans, MW addiction, trust and work isues, impostor syndrome, anger control issues, hyperefectivness on work, often changing of projects, isomnia, overall frustrations and MASIVE burnouts like for half of year or so. Most of them are most common ADHD and neurodivergency related symptoms. And if you have any - from experience it's better for you and family to know about it, because in this case if you know, you are prepared, and you know how to react and coup symptoms. Thank you for your blog, and take care about yourself.
@@Олексій-г1вwe have someone else in the extended family who has ADHD but I’ve yet to test for it. I may at some point, but I’m doing pretty well these days. Thanks for the suggestion.
@@HealthyDev glad to hear that and hope i did not scare you, It's not as bad as it sounds. ADHD is more responsive and complex brain circuitry =) So it is basically like you have a very fast brain without proper breaks, like GTX4090 but PC with 2GB RAM, and when your brain starts working on a problem it goes WRRRRRRRRR and you have trouble calming it down, because you do not have enough RAM to open task manager and close ongoing tasks, and when it overheats you start burning-out untill hard reset(depression and rehabilitation). It may have some negative effects on personal life but it also makes people perform better in creative work with a lot of variables, like... programming, product management, or mentoring... People with it think in more detail but have a hard time concentrating on one thing for too long. Such people are often good team leaders and high personal contributors. At least that is my experience of it.
Thanks I just don’t see any other option than to at least try and be more transparent. I’m tired of empty promises and I think more people are seeing through them now too - which is a good thing. I don’t love that some of this crap went down in my life, but it seems kind of pointless to hide it if I’m going to help anyone. I’d rather work with people that accept that I’ve made some stupid mistakes. 🤦🏻♂️
This one hit pretty hard. I've been unemployed for nearly a year now, struggling with a deep depression and slowly trying to put my life back together again. The lies... The insomnia... The rage... I've been dealing with that for years. Wish I'd done something about it sooner, but it wasn't until I found myself standing by the highway looking for an oncoming truck that I realized just how bad things were and went looking for help. But it's a slow and painful process. And honestly, I just can't see myself returning to IT again. I still like programming, I just don't like the industry. I think it's way past the time where we - programmers and managers alike - should take a step back and have a hard look at the work environment we create. I've seen way too many colleagues burning out over the last decade. Some recovered and came back. Some I never heard from again. I've heard some claim that it's a personal failing. That people just aren't tough enough for the job. I call BS on that. This isn't just a few persons we're talking about, this is a systemic problem within the industry.
Same, a year break and now looking for a job, but now I'm really scared of entering into another scrum-toxic workplace. IT is a violent workplace, so we need to be extremely selective of projects we decide to get into.
This is a very timeless piece of advice and this is what is missing sometimes in development content, as much as we work in technology but we are human beings too and we go through a lot of struggles outside the compiler.
I appreciate this video. I feel I'm on the tail end of a really bad burnout and I can relate to what you're saying. Emotionally and financially. One thing that's helped me is seeing how common this is in our industry and to take more ownership over my life and career. As a long time pot head myself, it's been a negative, comfortable coping mechanism which really prevented me from making positive changes in my life and career.
I appreciate the level of candor you put into this video. For me this comes at a perfect time where I'm doing a deep-dive into my soul. I feel I've been in the middle of a burnout for the past few years (a burnout I feel can get worse still if I let it), and this made me call into question everything in my life (not just what's going on with work and my career). I'm 30 right now, and I'm trying to decide what I want from my career, if I want this career at all, and even dipping into spirituality myself. I feel like a baby on this journey, and so I thank you for being able to share your anecdotes. To me this is SO much more important (especially now coming out of this pandemic) than the latest frameworks and what to watch out for. Thank you!
Thank you for blessing me with your story/testimony. I have a son who is a recent software engineering grad who had a job but was laid off in July. He is so discouraged. This is the first video of yours that I have watched! I believe the Lord led me to your channel. It was an answer to prayer and I will be praying for you and your family.
Really appreciate all the courage and honesty to expose all the good and bad in your life. It will help a lot of people that might be too addicted to work, money, endless career growth and can't really priority health, relationships and love that are more important in life.
Been putting myself through school for software development while also building an IT career at the same time. That along with other life problems that have come up has been taxing to say the least. I want to sincerely thank you for this video and your story. I haven't even really entered the field and was already feeling burnt out. Seeing a mature man who has been through the thick of it is very helpful.
Your videos give me flashbacks to times in my working career that I have found difficult, but I watch them because it gives me comfort that someone else has experienced these things and it makes me trust your content.
The algorithm did not disappoint. Thank you for sharing and I'll share that, as a Christian, I have some of the same struggles and some of the same benefits. If this is the worst it gets, here on Earth, we have so much to be grateful for and so much to which we look forward. Glad I found this channel, it's been a comfort to listen to something relaxing and inspiring while I work. Also, that guitar riff is solid.
I was seeking for this content today and i see this fresh video on my feed and i am loving it. Living a similar situation as a principal engineer with 20 years of non stop action Thank you for this man :)
I have watched your channel since the beginning and I had no idea. I'm dealing with burnout myself. Every single video that you have uploaded have been of absolute help. You are making an impact. And I also have heard that helping others helps with burnout.
Thanks for you support, sorry to hear you’re struggling with burnout too. I tried to share some of this in earlier videos but I figured it was time to put the few remaining things I wasn’t ready to share out there. My wife says when we tell our stories, they have less power over us. Guess I’ll have to just wait and see!
Thank you for sharing. When I was in a bad place, I used to say - "If you work hard enough, you will be able to replace the feeling of emptiness with exhaustion". It worked for me for a few years and I still fall back on this from time to time. But we have to take care of ourselves, this is a straight path to burnout.
As a dev that just graduated when the Volkswagen Dieselgate affair started and development was freezed and everyone went into support and afterwards having covid, I can feel for your struggle.. Sometimes I think youtube is more real than the real world, where noooobody is talking about those things and struggles.
It differs from culture to culture. In Eastern Europe and Russia people talk about that shit. Not all the time but sometimes. There's even exist some kind of music subgenre, called post-punk or "doomer" music.
Hi, I’ve watched a few of your videos via YT recommendations, but this is the first one I’ve seen where you discussed your personal life and faith. I had no idea about any of that before today, it was very illuminating, and I can sense how difficult it was to share. As a person of faith myself (Muslim) I relate to the need to please God instead of people. People (myself included) are inherently ungrateful and self-centred, it’s part of the human condition. Having a higher purpose and intention makes all the difference, and is sometimes the only reason I login some days. 😅
This video really made me feel less alone, especially the fear of not having enough money to provide for my family. It also gives me hope I can get better.
I'll be the next person to say this: this video hits really hard. There's so much to unpack here that I'll have to think and come back to it for days, weeks, if not months. In my comment I would like to just thank you for sharing this. This past year I've found myself lashing out in anger at people over some really unnecessary things, getting into unnecessary arguments etc. And I have other stuff that makes me think I might be on the verge of burning out, and that I really need to take this seriously. So again, thank you for sharing this. I don't think I'm able to emphasize enough how valuable this video is.
Thanks for sharing so much and congrats on surviving it and turning the things over. I have seen families completely fall apart when struck with the "child on heavy drugs" problem. I will join in the prayers that your child overcomes this.
Great channel, truly special. You always keep it real at every level. Bravo! I really liked what you said about focusing on helping people around you. In general, I've found that the most fulfilling projects are ones with a tight feedback loop where you can keep creating and keep seeing the results quickly. My favorite project ever was when I was developing lots of code that other engineers were using and depending on, and we were collaborating multiple times daily to work through things together.
This is another side of programming world and life in general that nobody likes to mention. This was really insightful. Thank you Jayme. Wish you all the best. P.S. Nice guitar cuts, I love it :)
Bravo! I really loved this video. I loved your honesty and particularly the fact that you were honest about your faith and, most of all, your care that you don't want to smother your viewers with it. Everything must be done with love. True love is not a feeling. True love is to will the good for the other's sake without expecting anything back. That will make you truly free.
Thank you for being so open about this, takes a lot of courage to be vulnerable online. I do see myself in some of your struggles, especially the ones relating to people pleasing and your self-worth being tied to your work performance. As to suggestion to help others, I’m still struggling with my own burnout but your video on the four pillars is really helpful to identify the potential issues with your current role. I didn’t expect Impact to be lacking as much as it is in the AAA game project I’m on, it’s mainly firefighting to fix the poor choices of others with no end in sight.
Thank you so much for sharing. After watching this video I can relate most of the experiences you had, and all these comments tell me that this burnout issue is very common and we are not alone. I have been a software developer for more than 20 years and at this point of life (40s) I have been trying to recover from a burnout by changing habits. This industry create really hard habits to break, and it really takes a toll and some time to change simple habits like spend quality time with family, exercise, praying, eat healthy food, lower caffeine consumption, no alcohol, good sleep time, read, reflect, meditate, learn to say NO, stop doing side hustles, learn to slow down the pace in life, fix financial issues among others. I hope you keep on going with your mission to keep software developers healthy!
I haven't watched it to the end yet, and I'm 10 years in software development. And I want to say thank you for sharing all of this and I more importantly I believe you have a lot more to come!
Thank you for sharing! Feeling burn out now. Comes and goes but the main sign is lack of motivation in between my next big step in my career and financial steps. Everything is fine, which I know I’m fortune and lucky, but this video really helped so thank you!! You’re a hero in our world and best wishes for your healing!
Thanks for sharing that kind of stuff, I know it's not easy but people like me that are wondering what decisions should we take in our careers or how to handle difficult situations in our workplaces, it's a blessing
Your sincere feelings have reached my heart, I hope and pray the best for you and your family.. thank you for sharing your story and reminding us that we all go through our own battles no matter how strong we look on the outside 😢❤🙏
7 years into software dev and I’ve had a couple close calls with burnout. No joke, some of your earlier videos fed into decisions that helped avoid reaching a breaking point. Really appreciate your thoughts on the topic!
Thank you, this was really helpful for framing the problem. I've been noticing the signs in myself, and thankfully I have a really supportive partner that is understanding and helping me through it. I feel like I've spent a lot of time and energy on my career because I've had a hard time separating my personal value from my career value. Conflating the two makes it difficult to effectively manage my energy, and it takes a toll. Having realized this, I'm learning more about my other interests and finding ways to reconnect with the other areas of my life I've frankly been neglecting. It's really helpful to see I'm not alone, as it validates my struggle and shows me that it's possible to dig my way out of it. Thank you very much!
Thank you for making this video, it's exactly on time as I'm going through difficult times right now. I appreciate you sharing your story and try to help others. Keep up the good work.
Thank you! It's 4:30 am atm of writing this comment, I'm finishing my winter semester in my third year of uni and am feeling super tired and really undone physically because of all the different projects. I really needed to hear someone say some positive and thought-provoking things that gave a deeper appreciation for all of the people I have in my life and their understanding of the volume of work I had to do that in the final weeks is just testing my limits. I do not feel as getting close to it or even thinking about it but I see how unhealthy choices can turn it around for me very quickly. I hope I remember to edit or respond to my comment after ai finally get my bachelor this academic year. I really appreciate you giving a lot of context to what lead you to burning out, it must have taken a lot of bravery to open up like that and you are absolutely crushing it man (I should refer to you as sir given I'm probably more than half your age hahah)! I hope all is well and God bless you!
❤ I really needed to hear this. As a software dev working for a consulting company who's experiencing some of the same things you described, I feel i can relate in some small way to the feeling of burnout. I've been passively looking for other work, but i probably need to be more assertive in my current role and/or make a more decisive change about a future job. My faith has also been a significant positive source of consolation and balanced, long-term perspective in my career. By learning to focus on contributing to truly positive outcomes for other individuals (but without aiming specifically to please others), i think I've avoided some pitfalls i might have otherwise stumbled into.
Thank you. Hearing the viewpoints from a point of found logic are refreshing. Personally, it's really nice to hear an external voice saying these things. Life and situations didn't always make it easy to see the negatives as opportunities beyond the challenge. Maybe that too is a forever thing. Cheers.
Wow! Didn't know you have been thru so much. It takes courage to share your pains. Thank you! You've been an eye-opener for a lot of us. You have been a relief👏🏻
These are all life lessons and are amazing. The experiences you had and also sharing it, is priceless. I'm probably experiencing a fraction of these and to be honest there are very very few people that can understand what all of these means and advising how we can survive through it. Please keep doing great work.
Incredible video that shows how life and career is marathon. I also have a cannabis addiction. I'm over 10 years into it now. It's very inspiring to know you overcame it. Thank you!
You’re very welcome. It’s unfortunate that so many people think weed isn’t addictive. Everyone I’ve met who said it wasn’t a problem (including me) was just hiding the truth. Hang in there. When you’re ready, it’s definitely possible to move on!
Thanks for sharing your experience. I appreciate how much you shared about the non-career events going on in your life - it's a pretty big clue that burnout is something larger than just the job. I just left a work situation where I used to love my job, but company changes / downsizing and increased work load made the situation bad and I was no longer enjoying helping my coworkers. My burnout was worse than I thought in a lot of ways, but this video is making me consider that the path I was on had a lot more potential pain ahead, and I need to consider the risks carefully as I'm picking new roles.
I'm still in the learning stages of becoming a developer, so I've never held a job in the field or anything, but your videos started popping up due to the good ole algorithm and man... this one really resonated with me. I appreciate so much you being so open about your past and I absolutely love/agree with your main objective being helping people be a healthy programmer. It pretty much made my day to hear of your faith in Jesus as well. God bless you man, and thank you so much for these videos
Thank you for sharing your experiences in the industry as well as your personal testimony! There are precious few people who are this honest in person let alone on TH-cam. I've been right up to the line on burnout twice and God was my path out as well. I really appreciate your emphasis on mentoring coworkers. Until I found your videos I would focus on doing the right thing for the users of our software, but your past videos made me realize I should also invest time into building up my fellow developers.
Thank you for this video... I'm 40 now (holy shit... where did the time go?) and have been a software developer for just over a year, after leaving a better paying job where I loved almost everyone that I worked with to take the risk and pursue something I genuinely enjoy doing. Reflecting on my situation after watching this video, I'm realizing that I feel so burnt out all the time (in particular having chronic back pain) partially because my parents are in such bad health (they're both terminally ill) and I don't know how to deal with it, but, surprisingly to me, largely because of my desire to prove to everyone how smart and capable I am, because my narcissistic, abusive parent would always degrade my siblings and I for being stupid... it's an insecurity thing. I'm not really even working hard for the expectation of a better bonus - I'm working too hard to prove to people that I'm not stupid. Honestly, it's kind of pathetic when I think about it... there's so much more to life than your job, especially when you're a cog in some multinational corporation's machine... I think there are two big things at play that I can forgive myself for though, because I wouldn't have had any way to see them coming: 1. writing code professionally is still *super* fucking fun, so even when you're so mentally fried you can barely speak, you still feel tempted to "pop back online for a few minutes" 2. you have to advocate for yourself in the work place because even really good managers are too overwhelmed with their own shit to figure out what's going on with you/how hard you're finding a task/project, or that you're beyond stressed out and need some time off. I guess I naively thought that my manager (who is awesome, thank God) would be able to clearly see or understand how hard I was working/how much effort I was putting into projects (again, first software dev gig) - but that isn't reality. You really do have to advocate for yourself.
Although I'm not on board with the believe thing, your videos are a source of help and inspiration. If nothing else, they provide something to think about. Always. Good work!
Thanks for sharing, it's appreciated. Putting your life on stage for the benefit of others is never easy, but it's definitely a learning experience for me.
I started working in the software industry when I was 20, I'm 26 now, so still relatively early in my career. I'm at a point where I'm trying to figure out what the next steps for my career are. I've watched about a dozen of your videos now, just to get some perspective on this inquisition, from more experienced people in the industry. All that to say, I find your videos really insightful and helpful Jayme. I think the context and experiences you share about your own career and personal life is really valuable. This video must have been challenging to make. I just want to express my appreciation for you sharing this with the world. Even as someone who doesn't even come close to having nearly as many complexities or challenges as you in personal life, and doesn't share the same beliefs about religion as you... I think having listened to your story has helped me tremendously in considering what really matters when thinking about where to go next in my career. 🙏
Thanks for sharing this. It's always good to remember a lot of people online have things going on, and that can sometimes cause interactions to become unhealthy. I enjoy your content and thanks for taking the time to share your experiences, professional and other.
I knew there was a reason why your voice resonated with me so much. Thank you for sharing. I grew up in a DV/SA household and coming from a chaotic, chronically impoverished family with a drug addict father and a mentally ill mother had a profound impact on my professional life, even after I "escaped". There is so much I had to learn the hard way. I feel like there is not a lot out there for folks who can't talk about their careers with their family. I've got massive survivor guilt to this day, making 4-5 times what my cousins do; yet I am deeply resentful of being financially violated by my mother. Being lied to and repeatedly gaslit at work was deeply triggering for my CPTSD, and I couldn't talk about it with anyone. I've had to take breaks between jobs. On balance, I think my life experiences make me a better manager and coworker, but I've also had to be careful to not fall into rescuer mode (which was my role at home) or fall into codependency.
I follow your channel for professional advice, and I found this video to be extremely important and helpful. thank you for sharing your personal life with us the public, it's very brave of you to do this.
@@HealthyDev flaws and challenges are part of what makes us human, where our tech jobs, require us to be less human and we have to find the balance to lead a good life.
Somehow ran into this researching how much a PO should get out of a pull request, but feeling really good about my last 45 minutes. Thank you for posting Much learned
Wow dude. This was an amazing story. Thank you for sharing. This helps me. I’ve been thinking long and hard if I even want to be doing software engineering anymore. Thanks for sharing the story.
It's heart touching... ..you save my life with what i am going through. Didn't know that religion, prayers still protect me from those toxic managers and colleagues. May God bless you 🙏🏾 🇫🇷
I appreciate you sharing and being so vulnerable in this video. I can attest that faith in Christ has provided strength for me as well. I'm glad you are healing and helping others heal with you.
I burned out too. I used all my savings to take about a year off. When I decided it was time to go back to work the market was in the toilet. Now I'm having trouble finding work. I got a job, but they had layoffs on my 5th week and I was included in that. Now I have a new job in the queue but they keep pushing the start date out. Essentially I've gone almost 18 months without an income and im almost out of cash. It's scary. And the thing is, im not sure if my burnout will come back fast or not. I really dont know what to do.
Man, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I hope you have friends or family who know what’s going on and can encourage you through this hard time. I had to find some new friends when I was in the middle of it because I really only had fairweather friends. Hang in there, hopefully a great opportunity comes your way soon!
20 some years into development and seesh. It’s hard to keep dealing with all this corp slog. I keep looking to escape the turds but can’t seem to get out of the stall. Where have the all cool devs gone?
Thanks for sharing this, this answers the question which I had for a while, which is what your actual intrinsic motivation for making this channel might be. Although we probably would not agree on the choice of Christianity as the best method to bring one's mental condition back into normal flow. IMHO there are many concepts/ideas/ideologies which can serve as the perfect leadership/ideal/etc. would do the job. Let's just hope that people don't fall for some strange cult, though. That said, please consider yourself lucky to have a wife which actually stays by her man despite of all ups and downs. Such traits are becoming exceptional nowadays.
Thanks for the kind words and perspective. She’s really changed a lot. We pretty much grew up together as adults. I’m very blessed to have such an incredible wife. It’s been a long road to get there, we used to fight a lot!
Wow this was quite a video to watch, I really appreciate you sharing this. I find myself on the beginning of my programming journey after college working 1 year as a junior and I get terrified looking at the seniors with bags under their eyes and overall giving off a very heavy burdened vibe. It's almost like I feel scared to progress in this field if that's what is going to happen.
Thank you for sharing your experiences and wisdom here. The company I work for is going through a difficult time right now and it is making things difficult for those of us who remain working there. What you're saying here are good reminders for a time like this. I also applaud you for being honest about your faith in a world where belief in God and acts of faith are more often criticized than admired or understood for their virtues. I also practice tithing and I appreciated your comments on that as especially. Thank you for your honesty!
Thank you. I’m well aware of how many people have been hurt by people in the name of Christianity (regardless of whether it’s true) so I’m trying to accept not everyone will understand or believe how faith could help me heal from burnout. I can only share my experience though.
Heyyyy!!!!! Fellow Jesus freak here man! So pumped for you and the process dude. I empathize wirh so much if what you said. You did a phenomenal job sharing your faith witbout being obnoxious or disingenuous.
i watched all your video, i dont usually comment videos, but thanks for sharing, i dont personally have those problems,but it helped me to be more greatfull about my life, so thanks you and hope you get even better.
Great video, thank you a lot for sharing your experiences and showing such vulnerability! I had originally skipped it because of the duration and how I thought it didn't apply that much to me (I'm fortunate enough to be in a very good place in my life) but it was still very inspiring and gave me a lot to think about. One suggestion I'd make is to be more careful about how you talk about your experience with your church. It's a very sensitive subject to many people, and especially the part about donating 10% of your income can be very thorny. In some circumstances, it could easily be perceived as textbook emotional and financial abuse. I read through the comments and saw that doesn't seem to be the case for you, but these things can basically act as a hate magnet on the internet. I think maybe taking a minute to give more context about it in the video could've helped. Thanks again, from a recent sub who quickly fell in love with your channel ❤
Thanks for the feedback! It just goes to show how often people have used emotional manipulation through religion to make money, that just sharing my experience can trigger people. It’s a good suggestion. It’s often hard when I make these to decide when to add positioning statements or disclaimers to my points - and when not to. If I see a pattern of feedback about the tithing stuff (I think yours is the third comment so far) by Thursday, I’ll be sure to include some more context in the “Frequently Asked Comments” post on the community tab for the channel I’ll do for the episode.
Thank you, Bro. You put my faith up. As a programmer and believer, I’m grateful for this video. God also took me out of getting divorced and wrecked last year. Thank you so much for reminding me and inspiring that my work is not just about making money but about serving, supporting, and blessing. Greetings from Poland 😄
Thanks! I’ve been blessed to have achieved a lot already. It’s been humbling to start over, but I’m choosing to move forward in my life with an abundance mindset instead of getting trapped by perceived scarcity. Only time will tell!
I really love your story and I can relate to some parts of your story. I hope to meet more people like you one day. Im also from Austin. Stay strong and well bud.
The market is really tough right now from what I hear. So I think maybe developers are being overworked, and are worried about keeping there current position, unable to move laterally or upward. Hang in there. Seriously avoid energy drinks, they are not good for you.
Thanks for sharing the advice on energy drinks! Coffee actually messed my adrenal glands up pretty bad (still healing). I never got sucked into energy drinks, I can only imagine the roller coaster ride of those suckers!
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Are you concerned about burning out from programming, or already suffering? Share what you're going through, and what you're learning. I hope this episode helps you see how burnout is often a combination of job stresses, personal things we need to work on, and circumstances outside our control.
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CHAPTER MARKERS
0:00 Introduction
0:59 1 SELF-INFLICTED BURNOUT CAUSES
1:05 1.1 People Pleasing
1:41 1.2 Overextending at Work
2:03 1.3 Side Gigs
2:15 1.4 High Expenses
2:51 1.5 Drug Addiction
3:18 1.6 Guilt and Shame
3:59 2 OTHER-INFLICTED BURNOUT CAUSES
4:16 2.1 Political Lies and Manipulation at Work
5:31 2.2 Recurring Project Firefighting
6:42 2.3 Betrayed by a Coworker
8:04 3 CIRCUMSTANTIAL BURNOUT CAUSES
8:34 3.1 My Child Struggled With Dangerous Addiction
10:07 3.2 My Father Died At a Young Age
10:45 3.3 9/11 Work Culture Changes
12:04 3.4 My Wife's Abuse
13:36 4 BURNOUT TRIGGERS
13:42 4.1 Startup Partner Exited
14:27 4.2 Marriage Became Distant
15:13 4.3 Recurring Relapse of My Child
15:54 4.4 Company Bought Out
17:04 5 MY BURNOUT SYMPTOMS
17:12 5.1 Chronic Insomnia
19:03 5.2 Uncontrollable Anger
19:47 5.3 Forced to Resign
20:25 5.4 Spent Emergency Savings
21:29 5.5 Spent Remaining Cash
21:49 5.6 Sold All My Stocks
22:09 5.7 Fell Behind on Mortgage
22:54 6 STRUGGLING THROUGH RECOVERY
23:05 6.1 Tried Quitting Development
23:33 6.2 My Wife and I Found God
26:11 6.3 My Addicted Child Moved Out
27:03 6.4 I Started on TH-cam
28:32 6.5 I Started Career Coaching
30:43 6.6 My Sleep Improved
32:01 7 HOW BURNOUT CHANGED ME
32:11 7.1 Recovery is Daily
32:31 7.2 Confronted My Addiction
33:09 7.3 Became Aware of My Limits
34:01 7.4 Embraced My Suffering
34:24 7.5 Motivated By Change
36:50 7.6 I Began Tithing
39:03 7.7 Learning To Live Sober
40:13 7.7 Focus on The Positive
41:09 7.8 Reject Being Defined By Work
43:56 Episode Groove
Please go into more detail on the coping strategies you had to learn when you stopped using weed and booze.
I'm reading a book on CBT called cognitive behavioral therapy in 7 weeks. And have a lot of hope that it will be helpful
Hello @HealthyDev this message may or may not change your life so be carefull. Please check yourself for ADHD. I'm telling you so, as from what I heard, lot of your personal issues are common symptoms and behaviour of peoples with ADHD. Online test will take 3 min, but to be sure its beter check brain in clinic.
I'm Senior Lead SDET, and I can much relate and really feel you man. I have mostly same issues with humans, MW addiction, trust and work isues, impostor syndrome, anger control issues, hyperefectivness on work, often changing of projects, isomnia, overall frustrations and MASIVE burnouts like for half of year or so. Most of them are most common ADHD and neurodivergency related symptoms.
And if you have any - from experience it's better for you and family to know about it, because in this case if you know, you are prepared, and you know how to react and coup symptoms.
Thank you for your blog, and take care about yourself.
@@Олексій-г1вwe have someone else in the extended family who has ADHD but I’ve yet to test for it. I may at some point, but I’m doing pretty well these days. Thanks for the suggestion.
@@HealthyDev glad to hear that and hope i did not scare you, It's not as bad as it sounds. ADHD is more responsive and complex brain circuitry =)
So it is basically like you have a very fast brain without proper breaks, like GTX4090 but PC with 2GB RAM, and when your brain starts working on a problem it goes WRRRRRRRRR and you have trouble calming it down, because you do not have enough RAM to open task manager and close ongoing tasks, and when it overheats you start burning-out untill hard reset(depression and rehabilitation).
It may have some negative effects on personal life but it also makes people perform better in creative work with a lot of variables, like... programming, product management, or mentoring... People with it think in more detail but have a hard time concentrating on one thing for too long. Such people are often good team leaders and high personal contributors.
At least that is my experience of it.
@@Олексій-г1вall good I can tell your intentions are to be helpful. 👍
Dude thanks for sharing. Means a lot in world where everyone is trying to appear so damn smart and heroic.
Thanks I just don’t see any other option than to at least try and be more transparent. I’m tired of empty promises and I think more people are seeing through them now too - which is a good thing. I don’t love that some of this crap went down in my life, but it seems kind of pointless to hide it if I’m going to help anyone. I’d rather work with people that accept that I’ve made some stupid mistakes. 🤦🏻♂️
Brother you had a tough life so far. But you are making gold from your past experience. Thank you for helping others. God bless you!
Thanks for the encouragement, it really is appreciated. We all need each other.
This one hit pretty hard.
I've been unemployed for nearly a year now, struggling with a deep depression and slowly trying to put my life back together again. The lies... The insomnia... The rage... I've been dealing with that for years. Wish I'd done something about it sooner, but it wasn't until I found myself standing by the highway looking for an oncoming truck that I realized just how bad things were and went looking for help.
But it's a slow and painful process. And honestly, I just can't see myself returning to IT again. I still like programming, I just don't like the industry.
I think it's way past the time where we - programmers and managers alike - should take a step back and have a hard look at the work environment we create. I've seen way too many colleagues burning out over the last decade. Some recovered and came back. Some I never heard from again. I've heard some claim that it's a personal failing. That people just aren't tough enough for the job. I call BS on that. This isn't just a few persons we're talking about, this is a systemic problem within the industry.
Same, a year break and now looking for a job, but now I'm really scared of entering into another scrum-toxic workplace. IT is a violent workplace, so we need to be extremely selective of projects we decide to get into.
Everything will be fine bro. We just have to keep at it, doing good, doing better for ourselves
What's your yoe? I would say keep fighting
Try to look at a past version of yourself, that did things that made you feel happy and move bit by bit some of that past self to your current self
Rare to find such a long-form video that's still jam-packed with insight and words of wisdom!
This is a very timeless piece of advice and this is what is missing sometimes in development content, as much as we work in technology but we are human beings too and we go through a lot of struggles outside the compiler.
I appreciate this video. I feel I'm on the tail end of a really bad burnout and I can relate to what you're saying. Emotionally and financially. One thing that's helped me is seeing how common this is in our industry and to take more ownership over my life and career. As a long time pot head myself, it's been a negative, comfortable coping mechanism which really prevented me from making positive changes in my life and career.
One of the most sincere videos on this topic I've ever seen. That alone deserves massive respect. Keep up the good work, brother.
Thanks for your support! 🙏
I appreciate the level of candor you put into this video. For me this comes at a perfect time where I'm doing a deep-dive into my soul. I feel I've been in the middle of a burnout for the past few years (a burnout I feel can get worse still if I let it), and this made me call into question everything in my life (not just what's going on with work and my career). I'm 30 right now, and I'm trying to decide what I want from my career, if I want this career at all, and even dipping into spirituality myself.
I feel like a baby on this journey, and so I thank you for being able to share your anecdotes. To me this is SO much more important (especially now coming out of this pandemic) than the latest frameworks and what to watch out for. Thank you!
I didn’t really start sorting out my life until my 40s, it’s awesomely to think you’re on your journey at 30! I hope you find what you need soon. 🙏
Thank you for blessing me with your story/testimony. I have a son who is a recent software engineering grad who had a job but was laid off in July. He is so discouraged. This is the first video of yours that I have watched! I believe the Lord led me to your channel. It was an answer to prayer and I will be praying for you and your family.
Thank you so much! It's great to hear this was helpful. We can always use prayer, appreciate it.
The algo pops your vids up from time to time. WOW I needed this one. Thank you for your candor and willingness to help others.
Really appreciate all the courage and honesty to expose all the good and bad in your life. It will help a lot of people that might be too addicted to work, money, endless career growth and can't really priority health, relationships and love that are more important in life.
Thanks so much for the kind encouragement. I hope so too!
Been putting myself through school for software development while also building an IT career at the same time. That along with other life problems that have come up has been taxing to say the least. I want to sincerely thank you for this video and your story. I haven't even really entered the field and was already feeling burnt out. Seeing a mature man who has been through the thick of it is very helpful.
Hopefully your journey is WAY smoother than mine was. As I said in the video, a significant contributor to my burnout was stupid decisions I'd made!
Your videos give me flashbacks to times in my working career that I have found difficult, but I watch them because it gives me comfort that someone else has experienced these things and it makes me trust your content.
Thank you. You're offering valuable advice making this channel so unique.
The algorithm did not disappoint. Thank you for sharing and I'll share that, as a Christian, I have some of the same struggles and some of the same benefits. If this is the worst it gets, here on Earth, we have so much to be grateful for and so much to which we look forward. Glad I found this channel, it's been a comfort to listen to something relaxing and inspiring while I work. Also, that guitar riff is solid.
I was seeking for this content today and i see this fresh video on my feed and i am loving it. Living a similar situation as a principal engineer with 20 years of non stop action
Thank you for this man :)
I have watched your channel since the beginning and I had no idea. I'm dealing with burnout myself. Every single video that you have uploaded have been of absolute help. You are making an impact. And I also have heard that helping others helps with burnout.
Thanks for you support, sorry to hear you’re struggling with burnout too. I tried to share some of this in earlier videos but I figured it was time to put the few remaining things I wasn’t ready to share out there. My wife says when we tell our stories, they have less power over us. Guess I’ll have to just wait and see!
Thank you for sharing. When I was in a bad place, I used to say - "If you work hard enough, you will be able to replace the feeling of emptiness with exhaustion".
It worked for me for a few years and I still fall back on this from time to time. But we have to take care of ourselves, this is a straight path to burnout.
I think this was a really amazing video. I love that faith was your way to see meaning again in things.
Thanks, it’s definitely not what I expected to happen. But in hindsight it seems to make sense.
Dude, you give me so much hope.
As a dev that just graduated when the Volkswagen Dieselgate affair started and development was freezed and everyone went into support and afterwards having covid, I can feel for your struggle.. Sometimes I think youtube is more real than the real world, where noooobody is talking about those things and struggles.
It differs from culture to culture. In Eastern Europe and Russia people talk about that shit. Not all the time but sometimes.
There's even exist some kind of music subgenre, called post-punk or "doomer" music.
Hi, I’ve watched a few of your videos via YT recommendations, but this is the first one I’ve seen where you discussed your personal life and faith. I had no idea about any of that before today, it was very illuminating, and I can sense how difficult it was to share.
As a person of faith myself (Muslim) I relate to the need to please God instead of people. People (myself included) are inherently ungrateful and self-centred, it’s part of the human condition. Having a higher purpose and intention makes all the difference, and is sometimes the only reason I login some days. 😅
This video really made me feel less alone, especially the fear of not having enough money to provide for my family. It also gives me hope I can get better.
I'll be the next person to say this: this video hits really hard. There's so much to unpack here that I'll have to think and come back to it for days, weeks, if not months. In my comment I would like to just thank you for sharing this.
This past year I've found myself lashing out in anger at people over some really unnecessary things, getting into unnecessary arguments etc. And I have other stuff that makes me think I might be on the verge of burning out, and that I really need to take this seriously. So again, thank you for sharing this. I don't think I'm able to emphasize enough how valuable this video is.
Thanks Chris, glad to hear it helped some. 🙌
Thanks for sharing so much and congrats on surviving it and turning the things over. I have seen families completely fall apart when struck with the "child on heavy drugs" problem. I will join in the prayers that your child overcomes this.
Thank you!
I really appreciate your sincerity and how genuine you are. I'm glad to hear you recovered from a lot of dark times. Thank you for doing what you do.
Great channel, truly special. You always keep it real at every level. Bravo!
I really liked what you said about focusing on helping people around you.
In general, I've found that the most fulfilling projects are ones with a tight feedback loop where you can keep creating and keep seeing the results quickly. My favorite project ever was when I was developing lots of code that other engineers were using and depending on, and we were collaborating multiple times daily to work through things together.
This is another side of programming world and life in general that nobody likes to mention. This was really insightful. Thank you Jayme. Wish you all the best. P.S. Nice guitar cuts, I love it :)
Bravo! I really loved this video. I loved your honesty and particularly the fact that you were honest about your faith and, most of all, your care that you don't want to smother your viewers with it. Everything must be done with love. True love is not a feeling. True love is to will the good for the other's sake without expecting anything back. That will make you truly free.
Thank you for being so open about this, takes a lot of courage to be vulnerable online. I do see myself in some of your struggles, especially the ones relating to people pleasing and your self-worth being tied to your work performance.
As to suggestion to help others, I’m still struggling with my own burnout but your video on the four pillars is really helpful to identify the potential issues with your current role.
I didn’t expect Impact to be lacking as much as it is in the AAA game project I’m on, it’s mainly firefighting to fix the poor choices of others with no end in sight.
Wow this is an excellent video. Burnout is really scary, I’ve gone through two phases of it in my life and a lot of this video rings true.
Thank you so much for sharing. After watching this video I can relate most of the experiences you had, and all these comments tell me that this burnout issue is very common and we are not alone. I have been a software developer for more than 20 years and at this point of life (40s) I have been trying to recover from a burnout by changing habits. This industry create really hard habits to break, and it really takes a toll and some time to change simple habits like spend quality time with family, exercise, praying, eat healthy food, lower caffeine consumption, no alcohol, good sleep time, read, reflect, meditate, learn to say NO, stop doing side hustles, learn to slow down the pace in life, fix financial issues among others.
I hope you keep on going with your mission to keep software developers healthy!
I haven't watched it to the end yet, and I'm 10 years in software development. And I want to say thank you for sharing all of this and I more importantly I believe you have a lot more to come!
This is suchhhhhh a great channel.
Thank you for sharing! Feeling burn out now. Comes and goes but the main sign is lack of motivation in between my next big step in my career and financial steps. Everything is fine, which I know I’m fortune and lucky, but this video really helped so thank you!! You’re a hero in our world and best wishes for your healing!
Thanks for sharing that kind of stuff, I know it's not easy but people like me that are wondering what decisions should we take in our careers or how to handle difficult situations in our workplaces, it's a blessing
Your sincere feelings have reached my heart, I hope and pray the best for you and your family.. thank you for sharing your story and reminding us that we all go through our own battles no matter how strong we look on the outside 😢❤🙏
Thanks for your support!
Thank you so much for being vulnerable with us, this video means a lot to me and is soooo relatable
You’re very welcome! Thanks for your support. 🙏
7 years into software dev and I’ve had a couple close calls with burnout. No joke, some of your earlier videos fed into decisions that helped avoid reaching a breaking point.
Really appreciate your thoughts on the topic!
You have no idea how happy it makes me to hear that! I do these with the hopes people don’t have to get to these dark places I’ve been.
It's like you are telling my life story. That hit really deep, thanks for sharing.
Thank you, this was really helpful for framing the problem. I've been noticing the signs in myself, and thankfully I have a really supportive partner that is understanding and helping me through it. I feel like I've spent a lot of time and energy on my career because I've had a hard time separating my personal value from my career value. Conflating the two makes it difficult to effectively manage my energy, and it takes a toll. Having realized this, I'm learning more about my other interests and finding ways to reconnect with the other areas of my life I've frankly been neglecting. It's really helpful to see I'm not alone, as it validates my struggle and shows me that it's possible to dig my way out of it. Thank you very much!
Glad it helped!
Powerful & poignant. Love your teachings and always a must watch. Thank you. Thank you.
Thank you for making this video, it's exactly on time as I'm going through difficult times right now. I appreciate you sharing your story and try to help others. Keep up the good work.
Thanks for being so open!
Thank you for sharing this.
Thanks for sharing all those private things. I'm myself going through some burnout, and watching this video kinda helped me.
The part about your child was very emotional. Thanks for sharing. Really liked the guitar riff in between as well. Great content.
Thank you! It's 4:30 am atm of writing this comment, I'm finishing my winter semester in my third year of uni and am feeling super tired and really undone physically because of all the different projects. I really needed to hear someone say some positive and thought-provoking things that gave a deeper appreciation for all of the people I have in my life and their understanding of the volume of work I had to do that in the final weeks is just testing my limits. I do not feel as getting close to it or even thinking about it but I see how unhealthy choices can turn it around for me very quickly. I hope I remember to edit or respond to my comment after ai finally get my bachelor this academic year. I really appreciate you giving a lot of context to what lead you to burning out, it must have taken a lot of bravery to open up like that and you are absolutely crushing it man (I should refer to you as sir given I'm probably more than half your age hahah)! I hope all is well and God bless you!
Thank you :). Best of luck with your studies!
Hey Jayme: Thanks for this!!!
Thank you for sharing honestly! It was very touching. Made me to think about various things with different angle. From Russia with love.
This is exactly the right way to turn your own difficulties in pure gold. Thank you so much for sharing this.
Thanks for the kind feedback. Glad you enjoyed it!
Thank you for sharing!! ❤I will probably rewatch this a few times. We don’t have enough content like this in the dev community.
❤ I really needed to hear this. As a software dev working for a consulting company who's experiencing some of the same things you described, I feel i can relate in some small way to the feeling of burnout. I've been passively looking for other work, but i probably need to be more assertive in my current role and/or make a more decisive change about a future job.
My faith has also been a significant positive source of consolation and balanced, long-term perspective in my career. By learning to focus on contributing to truly positive outcomes for other individuals (but without aiming specifically to please others), i think I've avoided some pitfalls i might have otherwise stumbled into.
Thank you. Hearing the viewpoints from a point of found logic are refreshing. Personally, it's really nice to hear an external voice saying these things. Life and situations didn't always make it easy to see the negatives as opportunities beyond the challenge. Maybe that too is a forever thing. Cheers.
Wow! Didn't know you have been thru so much. It takes courage to share your pains. Thank you! You've been an eye-opener for a lot of us. You have been a relief👏🏻
These are all life lessons and are amazing. The experiences you had and also sharing it, is priceless.
I'm probably experiencing a fraction of these and to be honest there are very very few people that can understand what all of these means and advising how we can survive through it.
Please keep doing great work.
Incredible video that shows how life and career is marathon. I also have a cannabis addiction. I'm over 10 years into it now. It's very inspiring to know you overcame it. Thank you!
You’re very welcome. It’s unfortunate that so many people think weed isn’t addictive. Everyone I’ve met who said it wasn’t a problem (including me) was just hiding the truth. Hang in there. When you’re ready, it’s definitely possible to move on!
Thanks for sharing your experience. I appreciate how much you shared about the non-career events going on in your life - it's a pretty big clue that burnout is something larger than just the job.
I just left a work situation where I used to love my job, but company changes / downsizing and increased work load made the situation bad and I was no longer enjoying helping my coworkers. My burnout was worse than I thought in a lot of ways, but this video is making me consider that the path I was on had a lot more potential pain ahead, and I need to consider the risks carefully as I'm picking new roles.
Thanks for sharing dude
I'm still in the learning stages of becoming a developer, so I've never held a job in the field or anything, but your videos started popping up due to the good ole algorithm and man... this one really resonated with me. I appreciate so much you being so open about your past and I absolutely love/agree with your main objective being helping people be a healthy programmer. It pretty much made my day to hear of your faith in Jesus as well. God bless you man, and thank you so much for these videos
You're so very welcome! Glad this might give you some hope going into this industry.
Thank you for sharing your experiences in the industry as well as your personal testimony! There are precious few people who are this honest in person let alone on TH-cam. I've been right up to the line on burnout twice and God was my path out as well.
I really appreciate your emphasis on mentoring coworkers. Until I found your videos I would focus on doing the right thing for the users of our software, but your past videos made me realize I should also invest time into building up my fellow developers.
You are so courageous 🎉❤❤
Thank you for sharing ❤, we support you and really value and appreciate your opening up❤
Thank you for this video... I'm 40 now (holy shit... where did the time go?) and have been a software developer for just over a year, after leaving a better paying job where I loved almost everyone that I worked with to take the risk and pursue something I genuinely enjoy doing.
Reflecting on my situation after watching this video, I'm realizing that I feel so burnt out all the time (in particular having chronic back pain) partially because my parents are in such bad health (they're both terminally ill) and I don't know how to deal with it, but, surprisingly to me, largely because of my desire to prove to everyone how smart and capable I am, because my narcissistic, abusive parent would always degrade my siblings and I for being stupid... it's an insecurity thing. I'm not really even working hard for the expectation of a better bonus - I'm working too hard to prove to people that I'm not stupid. Honestly, it's kind of pathetic when I think about it... there's so much more to life than your job, especially when you're a cog in some multinational corporation's machine...
I think there are two big things at play that I can forgive myself for though, because I wouldn't have had any way to see them coming: 1. writing code professionally is still *super* fucking fun, so even when you're so mentally fried you can barely speak, you still feel tempted to "pop back online for a few minutes" 2. you have to advocate for yourself in the work place because even really good managers are too overwhelmed with their own shit to figure out what's going on with you/how hard you're finding a task/project, or that you're beyond stressed out and need some time off. I guess I naively thought that my manager (who is awesome, thank God) would be able to clearly see or understand how hard I was working/how much effort I was putting into projects (again, first software dev gig) - but that isn't reality. You really do have to advocate for yourself.
Thank you for this!
Although I'm not on board with the believe thing, your videos are a source of help and inspiration. If nothing else, they provide something to think about. Always. Good work!
Thanks for sharing, it's appreciated. Putting your life on stage for the benefit of others is never easy, but it's definitely a learning experience for me.
I started working in the software industry when I was 20, I'm 26 now, so still relatively early in my career. I'm at a point where I'm trying to figure out what the next steps for my career are. I've watched about a dozen of your videos now, just to get some perspective on this inquisition, from more experienced people in the industry. All that to say, I find your videos really insightful and helpful Jayme. I think the context and experiences you share about your own career and personal life is really valuable. This video must have been challenging to make. I just want to express my appreciation for you sharing this with the world. Even as someone who doesn't even come close to having nearly as many complexities or challenges as you in personal life, and doesn't share the same beliefs about religion as you... I think having listened to your story has helped me tremendously in considering what really matters when thinking about where to go next in my career.
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Thanks for sharing this. It's always good to remember a lot of people online have things going on, and that can sometimes cause interactions to become unhealthy. I enjoy your content and thanks for taking the time to share your experiences, professional and other.
53yo here. You are saying what needs to be said.
I knew there was a reason why your voice resonated with me so much. Thank you for sharing. I grew up in a DV/SA household and coming from a chaotic, chronically impoverished family with a drug addict father and a mentally ill mother had a profound impact on my professional life, even after I "escaped". There is so much I had to learn the hard way. I feel like there is not a lot out there for folks who can't talk about their careers with their family. I've got massive survivor guilt to this day, making 4-5 times what my cousins do; yet I am deeply resentful of being financially violated by my mother. Being lied to and repeatedly gaslit at work was deeply triggering for my CPTSD, and I couldn't talk about it with anyone. I've had to take breaks between jobs. On balance, I think my life experiences make me a better manager and coworker, but I've also had to be careful to not fall into rescuer mode (which was my role at home) or fall into codependency.
Man, I really relate to “rescuer mode”. I’m starting to change but it’s always been my default since growing up.
Thank you so much for sharing, This video is what I was needed, I am sure this is going to help me a lot
Wow! Going so strong after going through so much! Thanks for your insight vid after vid!
I follow your channel for professional advice, and I found this video to be extremely important and helpful. thank you for sharing your personal life with us the public, it's very brave of you to do this.
You're very welcome! I feel like if people are going to consider advice from me, they should know my flaws and challenges.
@@HealthyDev flaws and challenges are part of what makes us human, where our tech jobs, require us to be less human and we have to find the balance to lead a good life.
@@Babakanian couldn’t agree more!
Somehow ran into this researching how much a PO should get out of a pull request, but feeling really good about my last 45 minutes. Thank you for posting Much learned
Wow dude. This was an amazing story. Thank you for sharing. This helps me. I’ve been thinking long and hard if I even want to be doing software engineering anymore. Thanks for sharing the story.
It's heart touching... ..you save my life with what i am going through.
Didn't know that religion, prayers still protect me from those toxic managers and colleagues.
May God bless you 🙏🏾 🇫🇷
I appreciate you sharing and being so vulnerable in this video. I can attest that faith in Christ has provided strength for me as well. I'm glad you are healing and helping others heal with you.
Just want to say that your videos have helped a lot. Thanks for taking the time to make these videos.
This video really helped me start viewing things a bit differently. Wish you the best to you and your family. Thank you.
I burned out too. I used all my savings to take about a year off. When I decided it was time to go back to work the market was in the toilet. Now I'm having trouble finding work. I got a job, but they had layoffs on my 5th week and I was included in that. Now I have a new job in the queue but they keep pushing the start date out. Essentially I've gone almost 18 months without an income and im almost out of cash.
It's scary. And the thing is, im not sure if my burnout will come back fast or not. I really dont know what to do.
Man, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I hope you have friends or family who know what’s going on and can encourage you through this hard time. I had to find some new friends when I was in the middle of it because I really only had fairweather friends. Hang in there, hopefully a great opportunity comes your way soon!
20 some years into development and seesh. It’s hard to keep dealing with all this corp slog. I keep looking to escape the turds but can’t seem to get out of the stall. Where have the all cool devs gone?
Wow. This was amazing. Thanks, brother.
Thanks for sharing this, this answers the question which I had for a while, which is what your actual intrinsic motivation for making this channel might be. Although we probably would not agree on the choice of Christianity as the best method to bring one's mental condition back into normal flow. IMHO there are many concepts/ideas/ideologies which can serve as the perfect leadership/ideal/etc. would do the job. Let's just hope that people don't fall for some strange cult, though.
That said, please consider yourself lucky to have a wife which actually stays by her man despite of all ups and downs. Such traits are becoming exceptional nowadays.
Thanks for the kind words and perspective. She’s really changed a lot. We pretty much grew up together as adults. I’m very blessed to have such an incredible wife. It’s been a long road to get there, we used to fight a lot!
Thanks for sharing this, it can’t have been easy
Great video. .... Dealing with burnout now. Appreciate this video.
Wow this was quite a video to watch, I really appreciate you sharing this. I find myself on the beginning of my programming journey after college working 1 year as a junior and I get terrified looking at the seniors with bags under their eyes and overall giving off a very heavy burdened vibe. It's almost like I feel scared to progress in this field if that's what is going to happen.
Hang in there. I make this stuff precisely so that doesn't happen to you!
Thank you for sharing your experiences and wisdom here. The company I work for is going through a difficult time right now and it is making things difficult for those of us who remain working there. What you're saying here are good reminders for a time like this. I also applaud you for being honest about your faith in a world where belief in God and acts of faith are more often criticized than admired or understood for their virtues. I also practice tithing and I appreciated your comments on that as especially. Thank you for your honesty!
Thank you. I’m well aware of how many people have been hurt by people in the name of Christianity (regardless of whether it’s true) so I’m trying to accept not everyone will understand or believe how faith could help me heal from burnout. I can only share my experience though.
Thank you for this video, I really appreciate all you do for people ❤️
Heyyyy!!!!! Fellow Jesus freak here man! So pumped for you and the process dude. I empathize wirh so much if what you said.
You did a phenomenal job sharing your faith witbout being obnoxious or disingenuous.
Thank you!
i watched all your video, i dont usually comment videos, but thanks for sharing, i dont personally have those problems,but it helped me to be more greatfull about my life, so thanks you and hope you get even better.
Thank you!
Great video, thank you a lot for sharing your experiences and showing such vulnerability! I had originally skipped it because of the duration and how I thought it didn't apply that much to me (I'm fortunate enough to be in a very good place in my life) but it was still very inspiring and gave me a lot to think about.
One suggestion I'd make is to be more careful about how you talk about your experience with your church. It's a very sensitive subject to many people, and especially the part about donating 10% of your income can be very thorny. In some circumstances, it could easily be perceived as textbook emotional and financial abuse. I read through the comments and saw that doesn't seem to be the case for you, but these things can basically act as a hate magnet on the internet. I think maybe taking a minute to give more context about it in the video could've helped.
Thanks again, from a recent sub who quickly fell in love with your channel ❤
Thanks for the feedback! It just goes to show how often people have used emotional manipulation through religion to make money, that just sharing my experience can trigger people. It’s a good suggestion. It’s often hard when I make these to decide when to add positioning statements or disclaimers to my points - and when not to.
If I see a pattern of feedback about the tithing stuff (I think yours is the third comment so far) by Thursday, I’ll be sure to include some more context in the “Frequently Asked Comments” post on the community tab for the channel I’ll do for the episode.
Thanks for this video, it helps.
Thank you, Bro. You put my faith up. As a programmer and believer, I’m grateful for this video. God also took me out of getting divorced and wrecked last year.
Thank you so much for reminding me and inspiring that my work is not just about making money but about serving, supporting, and blessing.
Greetings from Poland 😄
Watching again, and man your burnout story is hardcore. Thanks for sharing
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I appreciate your honesty and bravery to open the topic. Hopefully you achieve more in your life.
Thanks! I’ve been blessed to have achieved a lot already. It’s been humbling to start over, but I’m choosing to move forward in my life with an abundance mindset instead of getting trapped by perceived scarcity. Only time will tell!
I really love your story and I can relate to some parts of your story. I hope to meet more people like you one day. Im also from Austin. Stay strong and well bud.
Thanks for your support! It's rare I meet people FROM Austin. Seems to be so many migrants from other parts of the country here!
The market is really tough right now from what I hear. So I think maybe developers are being overworked, and are worried about keeping there current position, unable to move laterally or upward. Hang in there. Seriously avoid energy drinks, they are not good for you.
Thanks for sharing the advice on energy drinks! Coffee actually messed my adrenal glands up pretty bad (still healing). I never got sucked into energy drinks, I can only imagine the roller coaster ride of those suckers!
I commend you for being so real. Best wishes to you and your family.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts very useful information for how to deal with burnout