I'm so sorry, my friend...my pop died in the car, sitting beside me, as I tried to drive him to the E.R. in a blizzard...I watched him have a heart attack. When we got there and I opened his door, and he fell out of the car onto the snow...but I was in my twenties. I'm so sorry you experienced that so young...
Read the description of the song. His father was dying from kidney failure and was at 11% function with no available donors. Blunt wrote the song to say his goodbye to his dad, played it privately for his dad, then asked his dad if he would sit in on the one take video. The video was released, blew up the charts, was heard by a distant cousin who was moved to get tested and was found to be the only compatible donor, which ultimately saved Blunt's father's life.
Wholly shit.... I'm not a real fan of Blunt, but this struck a chord....Lost my Dad 1.5 years ago. "I know your mistakes and you know mine," is exactly how our relationship was. Open, honest, heartfelt and supportive.
Thank you for sharing such personal details. Losing your dad so young probably helped you realize how important you are to your children. Many people don’t get that at all, sadly. And your son with autism is particularly lucky to have a dad who sees all of him. James Blunt wrote and performed a hell of a song 💪
When my dad passed I just immediately started working because I wasn't ready to deal with the fact he was gone.. several months I kept the cracks from showing then one day in the warehouse this song came on the radio and I just broke down.. any time I hear this song it gets me
My dad passed a couple of years before this song came out. One of the great things about this song is its James saying the things to his fathers face, that we all wish we had said to ours before they passed. We either didnt get the opportunity or couldnt find the words or the balls to do it, or for whatever other reason we just didnt do it. I couldnt have said these things to my Dad but i could have played him this song if it had been released a couple of years earlier, and i would have done as my wife and i cared for him in his last few months. ive watched every reaction i can find to this song and read thousands of comments. One of the comments that stuck in my mind was, "this song isnt entertainment its therapy". It most certainly is. It has helped me with the grieving process immensely.
Both James and his dad were officers in the British Army: James was a Captain and his dad was a Colonel. The line; "we're just two grown men saying goodbye" was said by James to his dad as he was leaving for the Kosovo war in '99. At the end of the recording, James and the crew were all in tears. His dad snarked "I'm not dead YET"!! and had to console them all. After releasing this song, James gave all proceeds to the British charity "Help For Heroes", which aims to help veterans. What a champ!!
This song is also about saying goodbye to his dad, because at the time they thought his dad wouldn't make it due to severe kidney issues. His dad fortunately survived.
The amazing thing is, this was a goodbye song but apparently a distant relative saw the video and has himself tested and was a match which saved his Dad's life.
Losing your father changes you... It's onions everytime I hear this friggin song as well. It's good to bare your soul, bro. Authenticity is as native to the best music as it is the best people.
There is no pity, only empathy and compassion. You lost your dad, very young, I lost my dad in February. He was 88 and I was 64. This song hit me like a ton of bricks. I don’t think I even cried that hard at his funeral or burial, but to see the pain I saw in James and saw in you, that connected to the pain in me.
I am happy that you had your Father for the time you did. My Father passed a month and three days before I was born, I feel like I will never feel whole because I never got to see him, hear him… I will always be searching for a ghost
You are not cringe and I am extremely moved by what you had to say 👌 The song I agree is very emotionally charged it makes me tear up every time I watch the video x
I've seen a number of reactions to this song and literally everyone says "I'm ready for this" and by the end every single one is chocked up with emotion or just weeping or unable to even put how it feels into words. For me one of the biggest bits of the song is the Lyric "I'm not your son, you're not my father we are just two grown men saying goodbye" and for me it speaks about the changing of relationship between a child and their father when the realise that their Dad is just a guy, a random dude who isn't what they thought but just another flawed human doing (hopefully) the best they can. From your story it sounds like you managed to have this milestone without your Dad still around but not everyone does.
“Sherman made the terrible discovery that men make about their fathers sooner or later . . . that the man before him was not an aging father but a boy, a boy much like himself, a boy who grew up and had a child of his own and, as best he could, out of a sense of duty and, perhaps love, adopted a role called Being a Father so that his child would have something mythical and infinitely important: a Protector, who would keep a lid on all the chaotic and catastrophic possibilities of life.” -Tom Wolfe, The Bonfire of the Vanities Sometimes it's hard to see our fathers as anything but our dads. We just need to remember they were boys like us. Thanks for opening up about your own dad.
I am so glad you released all those thoughts and emotions. I feel you were supposed to see this video. I cried for you, I absolutely did not feel sorry for you, I felt total empathy. There will be a huge number of people who were in the same boat as you & understand exactly how you felt then & now. You have been blessed with 2 beautiful children, so your dream to be a father has come true, each unique in their own way. Life is never a straight road, there are always ups & downs. Love & enjoy your children, they are so precious. I am sure your dad is so proud of the person you are & no doubt is looking out for you all.
Not going to read any other comments before i post but i can imagine theyre full of support and appreciation. This song is very close to my heart and i watch every reaction i can find to it, which is why i find myself here listening to someone ive never seen before in my life break his heart in real time. You absolutely bared your soul there, man, and you have nothing to be ashamed of for doing so. No part of it was cringe, or 'whiny', or reeked of self-pity. Just a strong, brave man telling his story. Even through the tears speaking of your son made you smile... i imagine youre a great Dad and, dare i say it, i imagine it would make your father proud. You have my heartfelt appreciation, admiration and best wishes for you and your family.
This is what music is supposed to be about. Connecting us emotionally. Do not ever feel ashamed of an emotional reaction to music. I can remember the first time a song hit me when I was a kid. "Seasons in the sun." Our music teacher was playing it for us. And for some reason it just hit me so hard. I will always remember that.
appreciate you dude! This was the first reaction I ever did that just hit emotionally, and remember asking myself If I should of posted it. I never want to post things for sympathy or pity. But, some friends said that I should and that it could help people.
Thank you for being so open with your story. It may help someone going through what you did. I think your boys will see this when they are older and be proud.
like a lot of people here i to lost my father over 20 years ago from cancer i sat by his bedside in the hospital watching him fight for every breath .i found my self thinking just go to sleep dad and leave all the pain and suffering behind , so when he sings " so just close your eyes " it allcomes back and i become a blubberring mess of tears ,my heart goes out to everyone who is affectted by this song in a simular way, and remember know one is every truly gone if someone remembers them . live in peace and my your god go wth, and keep you safe
Mate I’m fortunate to still have my father here and he is 76. I know the end is somewhere and it’s not soon god willing, so I can’t imagine how you feel with the loss. My son is autistic and my dad has a great relationship with him, so I can relate to not seeing that. So I am so sorry for your loss, take joy in being a great dad, as your dad is watching and proud.
James Blunt's father Charles, himself a kidney donor, was diagnosed with stage four chronic kidney disease.Blunt wrote "Monsters" to "express his feelings about his father and his illness, almost as if it's a touching farewell to his father.
Well considering James did this song in 1 take and everyone was crying proves this song meant a lot to everyone. Thank God his dad survived and is well now thanks to a kidney donation from a family member. My dad passed when I was 5, i do remember certain things about him to this day, he was a kind, funny and loving father, who i miss daily this song hit home to me.
Yeah, it certainly should come with a health warning but it seems to give lots of people especially guys time to reflect and cry . The other thing about your story is your appreciation of your dad and of course teenage boys aren't usually the easiest to get on with and only tolerated by parents, which we don't get till we're older.
Lost my father to cancer 13 years ago and it still hurts. This is a great song. That voice....that voice.... Man. I had recommended "Goodbye My Lover" (That song is so incredibly personal to me) but this was great. I hadn't listened to it before. (Pretty much swore off James Blunt because of the feels...but this was worth it.) Edit. I commented at the end of the song, but now that I've watched the rest, hearts out to you brother. I was 33 when my dad passed, but we went through several phases. Growing up, I didn't understand him and he didn't understand me. He was a strong guy's guy. He was so amazing with his hands. Could build literally anything. I was a computer nerd. It was hard to connect. I loved him, but there was no "connection". Then came the years where he and my mom were ending things, and I pretty much cut him out of my life for awhile. About seven years before he died, I rekindled the relationship. We had so many great conversations and visits. I truly respected him and I feel like the direction of my life let him down. (It let me down.) The last time I saw him, he was a shell of himself physically. His mind was active, but his body just couldn't keep up. My last visual memory of him was him sitting in his recliner with the wall of glass behind him and the sun shining through casting an aura of light around him. He died the next day. In the end, no regrets. We left on very good terms...but wow. I could really use him in my life right now. For what it's worth, I'm on the spectrum myself. I'm very high functional and it's really just a "diagnosis" more than a life altering state of being, but just know that as hard as it might be to "understand" your son, he's cognitive of you. Just being there for him in whatever he goes through will mean a LOT.
Dude, Thank you for sharing your story. I truly treasure that and just grateful. I love being a dad, everything I do is for them. So thank you for opening up man.
I read your whole comment and in addition to re-iterating what @TheWolffAndTheMelody said, i wanted to agree with your choice of "Goodbye my Lover' and tell you that it totally destroys me every time i hear it, almost as much as 'monsters'. Another exremely powerful song of his is 'No Bravery' especially considering the footage in the video and the 'home-movie/vlog' type content. Powerful songs from an incredible artist and an incredible human being and an actual, genuine hero.
Sometimes people telling their story can help other people that are going through something similar to them. Thank you for sharing and stay strong my brother❤❤.
I should add that James' Father was in kidney failure and they were having issues finding a donor and this song was recorded at that time. Luckily, at the last minute they did find a donor and his father is now doing well.
Yup, the song is hard. I can only advise everyone to reconcile with their family. My father died of cancer when I was 21. It was also the first death I had to experience. We were not so good to each other for a long time. We were too similar in character. We said goodbye on good terms, but it wasn't good enough for me. That still hangs over me today, 22 years later. Together with the same image in front of my eyes, the dominant memory of how he waves goodbye to me and my family. Even the fact that I told him that I loved him fades into the background as if I had never said it. And then he was dead the next day and there would have been so much more to say and work through. It wasn't enough. Our shared pride has been in our way for too long. And in the end, there wasn't enough time. This makes you incredibly depressed. In the meantime, everyone in my family has died, except for my mother and niece. Make sure you don't regret anything in the end. This will haunt you for a lifetime and be good to each other, that if you die one day, you will be remembered as a good human and you will not leave any traumas behind. That would be my advice.
James was a captain in the British army, his dad was a colonel. The "two grown men saying goodbye" line is what they said to each other as James was being deployed to Kosovo in the 90's
Not cringe at all - it was important that you shared this. A good father (none are perfect) is a wonderful blessing in life even if we don't have them for very long.
It must have been an incredibly sad time for you being so young when your dad passed away. My condolences. It was a true song at the time of James Blunts father but fortunatly a cousin gave a kidney to his dad which is so heartwarming. My father died in 1990, a very long time ago but he is always on my mind no matter what. R.I.P. to your loving dad 💔💔💔
I hear you brother. Your description really hit home for me when you mentioned that you weren’t treated the same as others. I’m curious, did you have other siblings and if so were any of them brothers? Being the only son in my family I tended to get treatment (and not good) that my sisters were able to avoid. I really have mixed emotions when I watch this video. Hell, I’m 64 years old and those feelings still surface from time to time. You just push them down, along with the other sh!t that’s been thrown at you, and keep moving forward. But yeah, I hear you brother.
I feel you brother , sometimes its necessary to be vulnerable it keeps the keel stiff it assists the focus needed to truely see ourselves , this gets me everytime - God I miss my dad cheers brother Kiatau te rangimarie
I lost my father and two of my sons 15 years ago it hurts, l think of them every day. But l have to push on because of my other 3 son's and my grandson. ❤ beautiful song.
I’m sorry for loss. Both of my AMAZING Parents died suddenly, unexpectedly and out of country. My greatest regret in life is that I maybe didn’t say I love you often enough
I can empathise with losing a father at a young age. I was 11 when my dad died from cancer. I didn't know I was autistic and so I couldn't handle my emotions. It wasn't until 13 years later that I worked through his passing. Then I met a man who was disabled and who didn't look after himself. He was a bilateral leg amputee. Due to me helping him and accepting me as his unofficially adopted daughter I began to heal. Then in 2015 he became really sick. He went into hospital the night before my biological father's death anniversary. He suffered for 14 weeks before his body gave out. Now, I can handle the passing of both my dads. I tell stories about them and help other dads by telling what each of their stories impacted on me. It is now 25 years since I lost my father and almost 8 years since I lost my dad.
I am myself a dad and I am looking at this song from the perspective of my children almost losing their father because of my lung embolism. When I had my embolism, I had just lost my mother and more than anything, I was worried about my children having to go through that at such a young age, having to grow up without a father, or my wife having to adjust her life around me not being there and the grief this would put them through. There was no cringe in this video, just honest thoughts. Nobody will think less of you for opening upnabout your personal history.
This was difficult, but sharing will let the demons out and you will feel better. Hiding feelings is neither good or necessary. It is hard to talk about, I know. Been there, done that. The song is brilliant and something few can create. Well done!
Bless your heart...I feel for your loss. You never get over it, but you do move through it and you will carry that with you forever, like a private scar on your soul.
I’m so sorry for what happened ❤ to you . Medicine is misused for many reasons. I know that first hand. This song brings everything out in me . Take care and give your sons a hug ❤
Hey just saying / lots of great people / but im just another subscriber/ in the end its what matters / you have lifted me on reactions that im blinded by/ my story is harsh / but its about you now / reactiom / love it /thank you
I never had a dad growing up...but I, myself am a father of 4. Two boys, two girls... I bawl listening to this song, for the father that I never knew and for the father that my kids DID know. "No need to forgive.. No need to forget... I know your mistakes and you know mine.."
I know when your dad passed away in front of you, it marked you. My dad died in my arms of a massive heart attack the day after my mom died. I was hysterical, screaming at him not to leave me because he was all I had left. It marked me. This is something you just learn to live with. It's been over 20 years, but I'm still dealing with it. I was very close to my parents.
Thank you for sharing, God bless you on your journey through life, may you find reconciliation and peace through your discovery...in the name of Yeshua...Amen
I appreciate your reaction to this song. I wasn't close with my father, but, my oldest brother was actually my father figure. He passed away at the young age of 52, and I think of him everyday. This song kills me every time I hear it.
Wow, that must have been so tough for you. Thank you for sharing. I still have my own father, but he is not well. I will have to go through this experience myself in due course, and it terrifies me. Thank you for your strength. Keep well.
For what it's worth, I had 2 cousins I knew well that were on the autistic spectrum. We had no word for it, of course, in the 60's. Looking back, I think they were an advancement in human evolution. The human mind is far too uniform to be entirely natural. I'm not saying it's supernatural -- only that it is something that has to be installed in a child by adults, who internalized it in their infancy, and whose parents did the same. It isn't instinct. It's an installation. Sure, it shifts and changes slightly over time, but not that much. The mind of man can be compared to a virus, in that it must infect new hosts in order to survive. Maybe autism is a rejection of some aspects of that installation, or all of it -- like a response to infection. There's something in there that the unindoctrinated, pre-socialized, innocent mind of some children finds threatening, or toxic. They won't take it in. Basically, what you and I swallowed to become fully socialized (and frequently miserable) people activates an autistic person's gag reflex. This mind that the whole world wants so very much to give them so they can join the collective is poison -- at least in part. Okay, now that I've said a lot that I'm sure to be pilloried for, I'll top things off with an overreaching blanket observation -- most people sense that there is something wrong with the world. What if it isn't the world, but the mind we're using to perceive the world? If so, the evolutionary response of the human species would be a new type of human with the ability to detect the malware being foisted upon them and avoid it. Maybe the next stage of human evolution isn't X-men crap. Maybe it's this. I'll make my way to the stocks in the town square now, rather than being dragged. I've got new Skechers, and don't want them all scuffed up. ••• Thanks! PEACE!!!
You said about wanting to ve a good Dad, and then you said you had that before your Dad passed. But later you said your Dad passed when you were 14. You were quite young to be a Dad, no?
My dad wasn't a good dad which is a hard thing to say , he died of a heart attack when he was on his own ,as i get older i do wish id been able to say goodbye but not being able to ,this song hits hard .
You are scared like me but we are hard wired for a relationship with our father! My dad was a Korean War veteran who was severely injured from a machine gun and spent 9 months in a hospital in Okinawa carried there on a mash helicopter. After 9 months he finally came home addicted to the drug Demerol . In order to get off the drugs, he became an alcoholic. He came home to California, southern California, and bothers six kids, but it did not work out, and we all went into foster care.
I'm so sorry, my friend...my pop died in the car, sitting beside me, as I tried to drive him to the E.R. in a blizzard...I watched him have a heart attack. When we got there and I opened his door, and he fell out of the car onto the snow...but I was in my twenties. I'm so sorry you experienced that so young...
My friend, Im sending you so much love and hugs.
so sorry for your loss, .I lost my dad when I was 6 years x
@@tarantulamum4322 my heart goes out to you
@@TheWolffAndTheMelody thank you, really means a lot, at times I feel cheated bcos I don't have my dad. 🇬🇧💖
Oh my god, I can't even imagine. I'm so sorry.
Read the description of the song. His father was dying from kidney failure and was at 11% function with no available donors. Blunt wrote the song to say his goodbye to his dad, played it privately for his dad, then asked his dad if he would sit in on the one take video. The video was released, blew up the charts, was heard by a distant cousin who was moved to get tested and was found to be the only compatible donor, which ultimately saved Blunt's father's life.
At least in James's case there was a happy ending. Google the story behind the song, it's astonishing.
I did afterwards! I'm really happy for him
Wholly shit.... I'm not a real fan of Blunt, but this struck a chord....Lost my Dad 1.5 years ago. "I know your mistakes and you know mine," is exactly how our relationship was. Open, honest, heartfelt and supportive.
its amazing how a song can transcend into our heart. My heart goes out to you Paul
Thank you for sharing such personal details. Losing your dad so young probably helped you realize how important you are to your children. Many people don’t get that at all, sadly. And your son with autism is particularly lucky to have a dad who sees all of him. James Blunt wrote and performed a hell of a song 💪
I have seen this video dozens of times and I cry every damn time I watch it!
ya...umm this was tough, I had to ask some friends if I should post this...
Book of World Record for the most people crying during a particular song...Monster by James Blunt. Nah just kidding.
When my dad passed I just immediately started working because I wasn't ready to deal with the fact he was gone.. several months I kept the cracks from showing then one day in the warehouse this song came on the radio and I just broke down.. any time I hear this song it gets me
Losing a dad does something to us...All love your way brother.
My dad passed a couple of years before this song came out. One of the great things about this song is its James saying the things to his fathers face, that we all wish we had said to ours before they passed. We either didnt get the opportunity or couldnt find the words or the balls to do it, or for whatever other reason we just didnt do it. I couldnt have said these things to my Dad but i could have played him this song if it had been released a couple of years earlier, and i would have done as my wife and i cared for him in his last few months. ive watched every reaction i can find to this song and read thousands of comments. One of the comments that stuck in my mind was, "this song isnt entertainment its therapy". It most certainly is. It has helped me with the grieving process immensely.
Both James and his dad were officers in the British Army: James was a Captain and his dad was a Colonel. The line; "we're just two grown men saying goodbye" was said by James to his dad as he was leaving for the Kosovo war in '99. At the end of the recording, James and the crew were all in tears. His dad snarked "I'm not dead YET"!! and had to console them all.
After releasing this song, James gave all proceeds to the British charity "Help For Heroes", which aims to help veterans. What a champ!!
This song is also about saying goodbye to his dad, because at the time they thought his dad wouldn't make it due to severe kidney issues. His dad fortunately survived.
The amazing thing is, this was a goodbye song but apparently a distant relative saw the video and has himself tested and was a match which saved his Dad's life.
Losing your father changes you... It's onions everytime I hear this friggin song as well.
It's good to bare your soul, bro. Authenticity is as native to the best music as it is the best people.
much love friend. It really does change you...after 22 years, im still not the same
The producers of this song wanted James to have less emotion in his voice and he said no way. I want it authentic because this is real.
There is no pity, only empathy and compassion. You lost your dad, very young, I lost my dad in February. He was 88 and I was 64. This song hit me like a ton of bricks. I don’t think I even cried that hard at his funeral or burial, but to see the pain I saw in James and saw in you, that connected to the pain in me.
Much love friend. I remember not crying at my dad's funeral...it hit me later.
I am happy that you had your Father for the time you did. My Father passed a month and three days before I was born, I feel like I will never feel whole because I never got to see him, hear him…
I will always be searching for a ghost
My heart goes out to you friend
You are not cringe and I am extremely moved by what you had to say 👌 The song I agree is very emotionally charged it makes me tear up every time I watch the video x
much love friend. Its just a bit differen't do put this up for everyone to see
I've seen a number of reactions to this song and literally everyone says "I'm ready for this" and by the end every single one is chocked up with emotion or just weeping or unable to even put how it feels into words.
For me one of the biggest bits of the song is the Lyric "I'm not your son, you're not my father we are just two grown men saying goodbye" and for me it speaks about the changing of relationship between a child and their father when the realise that their Dad is just a guy, a random dude who isn't what they thought but just another flawed human doing (hopefully) the best they can. From your story it sounds like you managed to have this milestone without your Dad still around but not everyone does.
“Sherman made the terrible discovery that men make about their fathers sooner or later . . . that the man before him was not an aging father but a boy, a boy much like himself, a boy who grew up and had a child of his own and, as best he could, out of a sense of duty and, perhaps love, adopted a role called Being a Father so that his child would have something mythical and infinitely important: a Protector, who would keep a lid on all the chaotic and catastrophic possibilities of life.” -Tom Wolfe, The Bonfire of the Vanities
Sometimes it's hard to see our fathers as anything but our dads. We just need to remember they were boys like us. Thanks for opening up about your own dad.
kyle this wrecked me again...Dude...much love
I am so glad you released all those thoughts and emotions. I feel you were supposed to see this video. I cried for you, I absolutely did not feel sorry for you, I felt total empathy.
There will be a huge number of people who were in the same boat as you & understand exactly how you felt then & now.
You have been blessed with 2 beautiful children, so your dream to be a father has come true, each unique in their own way. Life is never a straight road, there are always ups & downs.
Love & enjoy your children, they are so precious. I am sure your dad is so proud of the person you are & no doubt is looking out for you all.
That son saves his father’s life.
Not going to read any other comments before i post but i can imagine theyre full of support and appreciation. This song is very close to my heart and i watch every reaction i can find to it, which is why i find myself here listening to someone ive never seen before in my life break his heart in real time. You absolutely bared your soul there, man, and you have nothing to be ashamed of for doing so. No part of it was cringe, or 'whiny', or reeked of self-pity. Just a strong, brave man telling his story. Even through the tears speaking of your son made you smile... i imagine youre a great Dad and, dare i say it, i imagine it would make your father proud. You have my heartfelt appreciation, admiration and best wishes for you and your family.
Much love dear friend. Thank you for the kind words
Brings me to tears every time. I lost my dad in 2010 and my mum last year.
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Sending you hugs and love friend
This is what music is supposed to be about. Connecting us emotionally. Do not ever feel ashamed of an emotional reaction to music. I can remember the first time a song hit me when I was a kid. "Seasons in the sun." Our music teacher was playing it for us. And for some reason it just hit me so hard. I will always remember that.
appreciate you dude! This was the first reaction I ever did that just hit emotionally, and remember asking myself If I should of posted it. I never want to post things for sympathy or pity. But, some friends said that I should and that it could help people.
Terry Jacks; me and my sister hid the 45 from our mom because she would play it over and over.
Thank you for being so open with your story. It may help someone going through what you did. I think your boys will see this when they are older and be proud.
much love friend
like a lot of people here i to lost my father over 20 years ago from cancer i sat by his bedside in the hospital watching him fight for every breath .i found my self thinking just go to sleep dad and leave all the pain and suffering behind , so when he sings " so just close your eyes " it allcomes back and i become a blubberring mess of tears ,my heart goes out to everyone who is affectted by this song in a simular way, and remember know one is every truly gone if someone remembers them . live in peace and my your god go wth, and keep you safe
much love alan
Mate I’m fortunate to still have my father here and he is 76. I know the end is somewhere and it’s not soon god willing, so I can’t imagine how you feel with the loss. My son is autistic and my dad has a great relationship with him, so I can relate to not seeing that. So I am so sorry for your loss, take joy in being a great dad, as your dad is watching and proud.
I've watched a lot of reactions to this song, and I think yours was truly honest and touching. You emotions are certainly not cringe. Great video!
thanks Michael, much love to you friend
James Blunt's father Charles, himself a kidney donor, was diagnosed with stage four chronic kidney disease.Blunt wrote "Monsters" to "express his feelings about his father and his illness, almost as if it's a touching farewell to his father.
I love it
Well considering James did this song in 1 take and everyone was crying proves this song meant a lot to everyone. Thank God his dad survived and is well now thanks to a kidney donation from a family member. My dad passed when I was 5, i do remember certain things about him to this day, he was a kind, funny and loving father, who i miss daily this song hit home to me.
Yeah, it certainly should come with a health warning but it seems to give lots of people especially guys time to reflect and cry . The other thing about your story is your appreciation of your dad and of course teenage boys aren't usually the easiest to get on with and only tolerated by parents, which we don't get till we're older.
Much love man!
Your silence at the end literally speaks volumes. Thank you for sharing your heartache with your viewers.
much love friend
Lost my father to cancer 13 years ago and it still hurts. This is a great song. That voice....that voice.... Man.
I had recommended "Goodbye My Lover" (That song is so incredibly personal to me) but this was great. I hadn't listened to it before. (Pretty much swore off James Blunt because of the feels...but this was worth it.)
Edit. I commented at the end of the song, but now that I've watched the rest, hearts out to you brother. I was 33 when my dad passed, but we went through several phases. Growing up, I didn't understand him and he didn't understand me. He was a strong guy's guy. He was so amazing with his hands. Could build literally anything. I was a computer nerd. It was hard to connect. I loved him, but there was no "connection". Then came the years where he and my mom were ending things, and I pretty much cut him out of my life for awhile. About seven years before he died, I rekindled the relationship. We had so many great conversations and visits. I truly respected him and I feel like the direction of my life let him down. (It let me down.)
The last time I saw him, he was a shell of himself physically. His mind was active, but his body just couldn't keep up. My last visual memory of him was him sitting in his recliner with the wall of glass behind him and the sun shining through casting an aura of light around him. He died the next day.
In the end, no regrets. We left on very good terms...but wow. I could really use him in my life right now.
For what it's worth, I'm on the spectrum myself. I'm very high functional and it's really just a "diagnosis" more than a life altering state of being, but just know that as hard as it might be to "understand" your son, he's cognitive of you. Just being there for him in whatever he goes through will mean a LOT.
Dude, Thank you for sharing your story. I truly treasure that and just grateful. I love being a dad, everything I do is for them. So thank you for opening up man.
@@TheWolffAndTheMelody It's one thing to open up in a comment, but another thing all together to shed a tear in a posted video. That's real man.
I read your whole comment and in addition to re-iterating what @TheWolffAndTheMelody said, i wanted to agree with your choice of "Goodbye my Lover' and tell you that it totally destroys me every time i hear it, almost as much as 'monsters'. Another exremely powerful song of his is 'No Bravery' especially considering the footage in the video and the 'home-movie/vlog' type content. Powerful songs from an incredible artist and an incredible human being and an actual, genuine hero.
Sometimes people telling their story can help other people that are going through something similar to them. Thank you for sharing and stay strong my brother❤❤.
I should add that James' Father was in kidney failure and they were having issues finding a donor and this song was recorded at that time. Luckily, at the last minute they did find a donor and his father is now doing well.
Yup, the song is hard.
I can only advise everyone to reconcile with their family. My father died of cancer when I was 21. It was also the first death I had to experience. We were not so good to each other for a long time. We were too similar in character. We said goodbye on good terms, but it wasn't good enough for me. That still hangs over me today, 22 years later. Together with the same image in front of my eyes, the dominant memory of how he waves goodbye to me and my family. Even the fact that I told him that I loved him fades into the background as if I had never said it. And then he was dead the next day and there would have been so much more to say and work through. It wasn't enough. Our shared pride has been in our way for too long. And in the end, there wasn't enough time. This makes you incredibly depressed. In the meantime, everyone in my family has died, except for my mother and niece.
Make sure you don't regret anything in the end. This will haunt you for a lifetime and be good to each other, that if you die one day, you will be remembered as a good human and you will not leave any traumas behind. That would be my advice.
send all the love your way my friend! Thank you for sharing.
James was a captain in the British army, his dad was a colonel. The "two grown men saying goodbye" line is what they said to each other as James was being deployed to Kosovo in the 90's
Have a listen to James Blunt’s music video ( No Bravery)
I also lost my father at 14. He was also very sick, and I watched him die. This song reminds me of that time, almost 40 yrs ago.
Much love to you friend. My heart goes out to you.
Thank you for sharing part of your story and posting this video.
Thanks for listening. Means alot
Love and Light Wolff. Thank you for telling your story and sharing your reaction
Thanks for listening. Much love friend
Thanks for being vulnerable in your reaction as James was in the song. It's so engaging, the sincerity. Well done. 👏
much love paul
Not cringe at all - it was important that you shared this. A good father (none are perfect) is a wonderful blessing in life even if we don't have them for very long.
Thankyou very much for this. Your story mattered a lot to me, and I appreciate you sharing it.
much love friend.
Losing your pops at 14 is hard enough, losing him right in front of you… I cannot imagine. I don’t know you, but I love you big guy!
much love man, appreciate u
My Dad was a Funny man to everyone... And strict on me... I cried for weeks to this song.
Dude, I feel that man.
There is a huge story to this song, research it, the elderly man in the video is his Dad
It must have been an incredibly sad time for you being so young when your dad passed away. My condolences. It was a true song at the time of James Blunts father but fortunatly a cousin gave a kidney to his dad which is so heartwarming. My father died in 1990, a very long time ago but he is always on my mind no matter what. R.I.P. to your loving dad 💔💔💔
Much love deborah, I appreciate you.
At its core it is a healing song ❤
it really is
I hear you brother. Your description really hit home for me when you mentioned that you weren’t treated the same as others. I’m curious, did you have other siblings and if so were any of them brothers? Being the only son in my family I tended to get treatment (and not good) that my sisters were able to avoid. I really have mixed emotions when I watch this video. Hell, I’m 64 years old and those feelings still surface from time to time. You just push them down, along with the other sh!t that’s been thrown at you, and keep moving forward. But yeah, I hear you brother.
I had 3 sisters that weren't my dads. I was his only child. Ya, I miss him man. I would love just to sit with him one more time.
I feel you brother , sometimes its necessary to be vulnerable it keeps the keel stiff it assists the focus needed to truely see ourselves , this gets me everytime - God I miss my dad cheers brother Kiatau te rangimarie
much love to you dude. Its for sure been a wild ride.
I think you were meant to watch this video. Music is what unites us all. Thank you for sharing your feelings.
appreciate you friend.
I lost my father and two of my sons 15 years ago it hurts, l think of them every day. But l have to push on because of my other 3 son's and my grandson. ❤ beautiful song.
I would hug you so hard right now. My heart goes out to you
Thanks for the share , this song cuts deep.
love your honest reaction, thank you
Much love friend
I’m sorry for loss. Both of my AMAZING Parents died suddenly, unexpectedly and out of country. My greatest regret in life is that I maybe didn’t say I love you often enough
I can empathise with losing a father at a young age. I was 11 when my dad died from cancer. I didn't know I was autistic and so I couldn't handle my emotions. It wasn't until 13 years later that I worked through his passing. Then I met a man who was disabled and who didn't look after himself. He was a bilateral leg amputee. Due to me helping him and accepting me as his unofficially adopted daughter I began to heal. Then in 2015 he became really sick. He went into hospital the night before my biological father's death anniversary. He suffered for 14 weeks before his body gave out. Now, I can handle the passing of both my dads. I tell stories about them and help other dads by telling what each of their stories impacted on me. It is now 25 years since I lost my father and almost 8 years since I lost my dad.
You must watch James blund cover by cakra Khan...he's amazing singer...
Oh man..I just want to hug you. Thank you for being vulnerable and saying what you said. It helps others just by hearing you. Take care.
much love friend. I appreciate that
He has such a unique voice. I appreciate its beauty, but this is one doesn't hit me much emotionally. Thanks! PEACE!!!
Thank you for sharing. My dad died in 2012. It feels like yesterday. I'm sorry for your loss.
much love to you dude. Heart goes out to you
I am myself a dad and I am looking at this song from the perspective of my children almost losing their father because of my lung embolism. When I had my embolism, I had just lost my mother and more than anything, I was worried about my children having to go through that at such a young age, having to grow up without a father, or my wife having to adjust her life around me not being there and the grief this would put them through. There was no cringe in this video, just honest thoughts. Nobody will think less of you for opening upnabout your personal history.
much love friend
This was difficult, but sharing will let the demons out and you will feel better. Hiding feelings is neither good or necessary. It is hard to talk about, I know. Been there, done that. The song is brilliant and something few can create. Well done!
I’m so sorry for your loss at such a young age 🇨🇦♥️🇨🇦
much love Cathy
Dude i just found your channel but you are real.
appreciate that man
Mike and the machines, living years. Breaks me every time I hear it. My father is still alive, so far as I know 😢
I never heard of it, and sorry bout ur dad situation.
Miss you, Daddy. Still trying to make you proud here.
You Dear,Gentle Man….Heartfelt response…..our Dads are always with us…❤️
Bless your heart...I feel for your loss. You never get over it, but you do move through it and you will carry that with you forever, like a private scar on your soul.
much love friend
I loved your reaction
Appreciate the support fam
I’m so sorry for what happened ❤ to you . Medicine is misused for many reasons. I know that first hand. This song brings everything out in me . Take care and give your sons a hug ❤
Im glad you decided to post the video, it wasnt cringe at all!
I lost my father some years ago he had demintia, and this song hits me hard
שיר מהמם מאוד מרגש.עוצמתי❤❤❤אהבתי את התגובה שלך🫶🫶🫶🫶
This song Hit me hard, I'm not a son but I was my father's daughter and he died in my arms😢
I'm so sorry for your loss friend.
Hey just saying / lots of great people / but im just another subscriber/ in the end its what matters / you have lifted me on reactions that im blinded by/ my story is harsh / but its about you now / reactiom / love it /thank you
much love John
Ren and James reacts always get me. Hope for more in the future!
Love your story. Its our story. All us dads' story.
I lost my Dad June 25th. He fell down his stairs at home. Everyone loved my Dad. I miss him and this song makes me cry everytime.
My heart goes out to you friend
@@TheWolffAndTheMelody thank-you
Cringe?, No. Human?, Yes. Peace-Love-Goodvibes to all who miss loved ones.
Beautiful reaction
I never had a dad growing up...but I, myself am a father of 4. Two boys, two girls... I bawl listening to this song, for the father that I never knew and for the father that my kids DID know. "No need to forgive.. No need to forget... I know your mistakes and you know mine.."
much love my friend.
This song hit like a train for every man,, i dont know how to describe it but only men will feel the depth of this song
I know when your dad passed away in front of you, it marked you. My dad died in my arms of a massive heart attack the day after my mom died. I was hysterical, screaming at him not to leave me because he was all I had left. It marked me. This is something you just learn to live with. It's been over 20 years, but I'm still dealing with it. I was very close to my parents.
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I see in your face that you feel great anger about your father's untimely death. May your heart find peace. GOD bless you, GOD bless your father.
much love friend, you are really kind
Dan Vasc!! Heavy metal artist!!!
You need To look at the real experience of these two people. Both military history.
Thank you for sharing, God bless you on your journey through life, may you find reconciliation and peace through your discovery...in the name of Yeshua...Amen
Appreciate the kind words
I appreciate your reaction to this song. I wasn't close with my father, but, my oldest brother was actually my father figure. He passed away at the young age of 52, and I think of him everyday. This song kills me every time I hear it.
Sending you so much love and light friend.
My dad wasn't present, when I hear this song, I think of my mom. She chased the monsters away.
I love that friend, all love to you
That was deep. It made me tear up. Bless.
Glad I found you. Your past and paint heals others in one way or another. Always remember that. Much love.☯️💟☯️
Apprecaite those kind words friend.
Wow, that must have been so tough for you. Thank you for sharing.
I still have my own father, but he is not well. I will have to go through this experience myself in due course, and it terrifies me.
Thank you for your strength.
Keep well.
Love and comfort to you and your father.
For what it's worth, I had 2 cousins I knew well that were on the autistic spectrum. We had no word for it, of course, in the 60's. Looking back, I think they were an advancement in human evolution. The human mind is far too uniform to be entirely natural. I'm not saying it's supernatural -- only that it is something that has to be installed in a child by adults, who internalized it in their infancy, and whose parents did the same. It isn't instinct. It's an installation. Sure, it shifts and changes slightly over time, but not that much. The mind of man can be compared to a virus, in that it must infect new hosts in order to survive. Maybe autism is a rejection of some aspects of that installation, or all of it -- like a response to infection. There's something in there that the unindoctrinated, pre-socialized, innocent mind of some children finds threatening, or toxic. They won't take it in. Basically, what you and I swallowed to become fully socialized (and frequently miserable) people activates an autistic person's gag reflex. This mind that the whole world wants so very much to give them so they can join the collective is poison -- at least in part. Okay, now that I've said a lot that I'm sure to be pilloried for, I'll top things off with an overreaching blanket observation -- most people sense that there is something wrong with the world. What if it isn't the world, but the mind we're using to perceive the world? If so, the evolutionary response of the human species would be a new type of human with the ability to detect the malware being foisted upon them and avoid it. Maybe the next stage of human evolution isn't X-men crap. Maybe it's this. I'll make my way to the stocks in the town square now, rather than being dragged. I've got new Skechers, and don't want them all scuffed up. ••• Thanks! PEACE!!!
dude, all I can say is...I love seeing into your mind!
Yup. We need a little brutal reminder of familial love once in a while.
Thanks for sharing some of your story. You’re a really good dude I can just tell. Best of luck tou and your family.
Appreciate the kind words friend
You said about wanting to ve a good Dad, and then you said you had that before your Dad passed. But later you said your Dad passed when you were 14. You were quite young to be a Dad, no?
I have always wanted to be a good dad. I had a strong sense of fatherhood long before my dad passed.
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My son banned me from playing this as I had it on repeat after my father died two years ago, still can't listen to it without crying every time 😢
this is a tough one.
My dad wasn't a good dad which is a hard thing to say , he died of a heart attack when he was on his own ,as i get older i do wish id been able to say goodbye but not being able to ,this song hits hard .
Sending you love friend!
Thanks for ultimately posting this. I appreciated your story.
Thanks for listening. I appreciate you
You are scared like me but we are hard wired for a relationship with our father! My dad was a Korean War veteran who was severely injured from a machine gun and spent 9 months in a hospital in Okinawa carried there on a mash helicopter. After 9 months he finally came home addicted to the drug Demerol . In order to get off the drugs, he became an alcoholic. He came home to California, southern California, and bothers six kids, but it did not work out, and we all went into foster care.
much love to you Paul. Thank you for sharing dude. I'd give you a big ole hug bro
lost my dad to cancer when I was 6, in 1988, still hurts 30 odd years later 🇬🇧🩵
My heart goes out to you friend