when stuff becomes so important you lie and steal for it

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  • @Ajlatango
    @Ajlatango 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +549

    A month ago I celebrated a one year anniversary of me being a survivor of a violent crime. My husband invited a fairly big group of friends who mean a lot to me and were there for me during that time. Every single one of them showed up that night and it was one of the happiest times I can remember recently because I felt so loved and lucky to be alive. A way better feeling than buying any physical item.

    • @TaraParkinson
      @TaraParkinson 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +50

      Glorious to hear you are not only surviving and getting by but surrounded by love and friendship. 🌸💖

    • @taylorbechstein1681
      @taylorbechstein1681 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +20

      And the love your husband has for you to make such a gesture❤you are fortunate to have a great group too! Best wishes for your healing❤

    • @shawnaripari
      @shawnaripari  12 วันที่ผ่านมา +42

      wow, this is incredible. Thank you so much for sharing this here and it sounds like you have a wonderful spouse and group of friends 💕

    • @LaNette2733
      @LaNette2733 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    • @Ajlatango
      @Ajlatango 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

      @@shawnaripari I really do. Your channel has been such a huge help for me to overcome the initial unhealthy coping mechanism of excessive shopping. I’m so glad to see your channel growing as your content is so valuable!

  • @amandak.4246
    @amandak.4246 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +342

    i find this strange when she could have bought the items, filmed the haul and then returned the items. i know stores hate that, but at least it's legal

    • @rayeof_light
      @rayeof_light 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +33

      Exactly...especially target. They make returns pretty easy

    • @EncoreMama
      @EncoreMama 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +33

      If you return too much from any specific store, they will stop letting you return even with a receipt.

    • @tisugga
      @tisugga 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

      a lot of influencers do this actually, I think it's wild to resort to just stealing them, esp when its a lot of stuff

  • @alisonr819
    @alisonr819 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +94

    Yesterday I was cycling to work and it was an hour before sunrise. I was passing a big stand of trees when suddenly hundreds of crows burst out of the trees and wheeled about the sky before dispersing off for the day. I stopped to watch them. It was incredible.

    • @yourfairy_222
      @yourfairy_222 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@alisonr819 nice!

  • @stevenlisa2469
    @stevenlisa2469 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +178

    I’ve spent a lot of time & money collecting craft supplies. No more acquiring. In the last 30 days, I’ve sat down to “play with the toys I own.” Your videos are a good reminder to use what we already have. ❤

    • @StefsMiniaturesandCrafts-ej3mz
      @StefsMiniaturesandCrafts-ej3mz 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

      Me too!! I am way more aware of using what I have before I buy anything else!

    • @mb3938
      @mb3938 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      Omg! I also listen to her videos when painting with my art supplies!!

    • @paperigangsta
      @paperigangsta 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      yes!! it doesn't matter which and how many supplies/tools you have if they're not getting used!

    • @KristenZianourry2015
      @KristenZianourry2015 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I needed to see this as i am in the same situation

  • @selunescorpio
    @selunescorpio 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +195

    The wildest part of this story is the police saying they were aided by Marlena’s posts with the goods she stole. I don’t advocate theft. That said, it’s hilarious if you commit to something like that that you’d post it. You must think everyone is so unintelligent, you’ll so easily get away with it it’s ridiculous

    • @dinygoesglam
      @dinygoesglam 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

      she prob did it other times and got away. Why not post if no one knows, right?

  • @kneecole1282
    @kneecole1282 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +237

    When I heard about this woman my first thought was "Oh, Shawna is going to have a lot to say about this!"

  • @LorettaNance
    @LorettaNance 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +75

    My mom had her 91st birthday. What a blessing to be able to celebrate with her.

  • @emilyhammer4192
    @emilyhammer4192 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +120

    Wow, what a powerful reminder. Stuff and status on social media are not genuine.
    The other day our entire family was listening to Christmas music and working on creative projects. My youngest boys were simply coloring cardboard boxes and putting stickers and popsicles sticks all over them. The moment was so simple but so peaceful. We all just slowed down and created together. I loved it!

    • @CrisOnTheInternet
      @CrisOnTheInternet 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      Back in the day my family didn't have loads of money but moments like the one you described I think contributed that my siblings and I didn't grow up with an scarcity mindset or always waiting to have something to feel content.

    • @shawnaripari
      @shawnaripari  12 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      this sounds so sweet and cozy!

  • @lindyloohoo
    @lindyloohoo 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +73

    My friend finally went to rehab, sobered up, and now we’re more than friends ❤

    • @shawnaripari
      @shawnaripari  12 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

      wow, this is so wonderful for you and your friend. Thank you so much for sharing 💕

  • @mb3938
    @mb3938 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +62

    What I enjoy more than having “stuff” is taking care of my foster kittens! This is my fourth year doing it, and I hope to continue for the rest of my life. It brings me so much joy and fulfillment!

    • @julia-p1m6q
      @julia-p1m6q 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Got any foster fails yet? :D (kitties you couldn't let go of)

    • @Greeneyedgeny7
      @Greeneyedgeny7 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Love this!! I have 2 and they are the best thing that ever happened to me ❤

    • @virginiagirl6628
      @virginiagirl6628 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@mb3938 thank you for doing that! My cat is my baby. If I had a living situation where I could do that I would love to. That, I am sure, brings far more joy than spending money!

    • @virginiagirl6628
      @virginiagirl6628 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you for doing that! My cat is my baby. I’d love to foster if my living situation allowed that. I am so sure that helping kitties brings so much more joy than spending money!

  • @sarahvassall4932
    @sarahvassall4932 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +44

    A few days ago, my 1 year old daughter "helped" me decorate the Xmas tree with these ancient ornaments my husband and I have had since childhood. It was really cute and sweet and such a nice reminder that those little moments are wayyyy more important and memorable than any gift we could give her.

  • @LVBadflower
    @LVBadflower 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +89

    These influencer girlies have a certain look to them that says “ I will scream, steal, and swear if I don’t get my way!’

    • @thecozyconstellation
      @thecozyconstellation 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      and that is exactly what they do 🤣🤣

  • @elbeelondon
    @elbeelondon 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +66

    Eeeek! Im so glad you’re covering this. 🥰 the social media greed in this woman and many is off the charts. It makes my skin crawl. She had kids which makes it 10X worse. 🤢

  • @V01D.mp3
    @V01D.mp3 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +116

    The channel suddenly and unexpectedly dipped into true crime and I'm HERE for it. 😂
    (I still can't unsee the trapped snake plant in the back tho ahahaha ❤)

    • @ThomtheArtist-js9kp
      @ThomtheArtist-js9kp 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +15

      Trapped plant? Oooh the leaf shut in the closet door. 😂😂😂

    • @V01D.mp3
      @V01D.mp3 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

      @ yes!! it’s been that way for a couple of videos at least 😂❤️

    • @jacquelinedaniels87
      @jacquelinedaniels87 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +13

      Oh come on why you have to tell us I can’t stop staring

    • @mormornie
      @mormornie 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

      free the plant 2024, coming on 2025? 😂

  • @MayB193
    @MayB193 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +60

    I feel sorry for her children. She is putting them through a lot.

  • @Kaiju.Kisses
    @Kaiju.Kisses 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    I adore insects and the other day I found a bright emerald green bee! She was so beautiful and I had never seen anything like it, she was very tired and her wings were wet so I gave her some sugar water and held her for about 30 mins until she could fly again. Watching her fly away and knowing I had the privilege to be so close to her was magical. Just sitting and watching her brought me more joy than anything I've bought this year.

  • @lauraturner7048
    @lauraturner7048 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +35

    Hi, Shawna. I recently joined a gym with my husband and I like using the treadmill and elliptical. This is what I have been doing recently rather than spending money. I enjoy your channel. I have a shopping addiction that I am trying to overcome.

    • @paperigangsta
      @paperigangsta 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      that's amazing! replacing something that's harming you with something that's good for you physically and mentally ❤

    • @strawberrycherrybaby
      @strawberrycherrybaby 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      I found weights to be good for helping with my shopping addiction. It tires your body out so your mind can be more still. Plus as women we need healthy muscle to prevent osteoporosis as we age. And having a nice bum and arms is a bonus 😂 I don’t do ab workouts as I’ve had a baby recently, but bracing my core to lift weights has definitely uh engaged my pelvic floor 😂 my husband is a big fan of me lifting weights. The machines have diagrams on the inside on how to use them, and you can ask the gym staff to show you how to use it + adjust for your height. I literally watch buff guys do it wrong all the time, I promise it’s a lot less intimidating after the first time ❤

  • @amandak.4246
    @amandak.4246 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +87

    LOL her calling her intentional crime "a mistake"

    • @Username0467
      @Username0467 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      I’d say most mistakes are intentional.
      “an action or judgment that is misguided or wrong.
      "coming here was a mistake"”

    • @hcf4kd1992
      @hcf4kd1992 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@Username0467 I agree with you. Mistakes can be intentional lapses in judgment. Let's all go over our dating history, those of us who don't have a criminal history, shall we? If we could land in jail for that stuff, I might have ... ...

    • @alyssah8756
      @alyssah8756 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

      I think she means that it sounds like “mistake” down plays the severity when she did it over and over . Repeated behavior typically is not a “mistake”. It’s calculated

    • @alyssah8756
      @alyssah8756 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@Username0467and did coming there over and over again then saying that over and over again did you learn not to go? Lol

    • @sardonicprincess
      @sardonicprincess 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@Username0467my parents say that having me was a mistake

  • @yoanaruseva3414
    @yoanaruseva3414 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +25

    Im 20 and I moved countries for my first year of university. In the first week I met my now best friend who is 18, which is not that much younger than me, but this small age difference is very apparent in my everyday life. I love her so much and she makes all my days so fun, but she is an absolute shopaholic. She shops online during our lectures, comes to class with freshly picked packages from the post and its all fun and games until I start thinking like her. I start telling myself that once Christmas comes i will spend lots and lots of money on clothes and accessories and I can’t wait about it. I kid you not, youre THE ONLY person that breaks this chain of thoughts and brings me back to earth. I thank you so so much for these videos, I consume your content on the daily and youre making great change in this world.
    Best wishes from a Bulgarian girl living in Vienna :))))

    • @MoOveOver_plz
      @MoOveOver_plz 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      A word of advice: Making gifts is really fun plus handmade gifts are usually cherished more. I made an elaborate folding card out of recycled paper for my sister and she still has it hanging in her room. Plus the time and effort it takes to mqke the gift takes your mind off of shopping if thats qn issue ☺️

  • @anpe4970
    @anpe4970 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +35

    Last week I decided to learn to knit. I am having so much fun knitting and unraveling to knit a little square once again. I am learning a bunch of tehniques from youtube viands and have been using the same needles and yarn for everything (because I just unravel and reuse it). It is so much fun I have to set an 1 am alarm to make sure I finally go to bed at night!

    • @mormornie
      @mormornie 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      hehehe caught in the fiber arts nets!😂

    • @anpe4970
      @anpe4970 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      @mormornie I was already caught, I have been an avid crocheted for 30 years, I guess I am doubly caught now.

    • @NyraDelRey
      @NyraDelRey 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@anpe4970 adorable!!

  • @ladychaos6
    @ladychaos6 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +20

    Exactly 1 month ago I had to undergo life saving surgery, and now I feel like I'm on borrowed time. Everyday I realize how lucky I am to be alive and how little material things matter. Thank you for your videos 💜

    • @brookem225
      @brookem225 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@ladychaos6 I'm thanking God for saving you! I pray you know Him and love Him this Christmas season ❤️

  • @mamallama3841
    @mamallama3841 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

    GOING BACK TO THE GYM. i survived cancer. so now i can do something. (better than stuff, physical freedom of movement, no wheelchair)

  • @Majmysza
    @Majmysza 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +19

    We set up a grow light in the kitchen and now, while there's piles of snow outside, I get to watch little plants sprout and grow every day. Brings me a lot of joy.

  • @MishiBelley
    @MishiBelley 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +30

    Something I enjoyed more than stuff EVERY DAY is witnessing my toddler do/say/learn something new. Sometimes just totally out of left field things that crack me up. It's the best 🥰

    • @anonymouswitness3835
      @anonymouswitness3835 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      YES watching toddlers and babies learn. Witnessed a baby at church figuring out how to climb a step the other day. so simple but so cute

  • @leethrch
    @leethrch 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

    I passed my thesis defense for my masters! I would say the process and experience I got while working on my masters is waaaaaay more valuable than stuff!

  • @marianne7122
    @marianne7122 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +16

    Best time in the past month: Hanging out with my brothers, playing Scrabble and card games. I laugh faster and harder with them than with anybody else.

  • @jrochest4642
    @jrochest4642 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +17

    The second arrest suggests that she is deliberately trying to 'blow up her socials'. She gets arrested, goes to court, goes to jail -- content for days, and loads and loads of new followers.

    • @lspbeautea4791
      @lspbeautea4791 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      💯 agree with you.

  • @brittnye2865
    @brittnye2865 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +36

    Ma’am, this story is juicy 🍊 I had to do a background check (TH-cam) to see what other mischief she’s been into .. girl, she stole a car and crashed it when she was 17?! She’s been arrested multiple times since this incident too.
    Also, did anyone else notice on this last account she was with her husband and kids too? Like he knew what was going down. She has a serious problem and I hope she gets help soon.

  • @lillian-xs1fg
    @lillian-xs1fg 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +38

    I love making tea and singing! I spend a lot of days when I'm home alone singing + making cheap chamomile tea from walmart.

    • @anonymouswitness3835
      @anonymouswitness3835 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      inexpensive tea goes hard. The plain black tea that you can get anywhere is probably my favorite tea of all time! I love to sing too -- I actually intentionally memorize long songs so that when I'm cooking I have a good library to sing to myself. (:

    • @Anindeterminateamountofbees
      @Anindeterminateamountofbees 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      You can also buy dried chamomile in bulk and use a reusable tea steeper if u want!!

  • @redheadrage13
    @redheadrage13 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +133

    Something I enjoyed more than stuff was successfully making sourdough bread for the first time ever!!

    • @shawnaripari
      @shawnaripari  12 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

      this is so wonderful, thank you for sharing!

    • @mariayo4284
      @mariayo4284 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      @@redheadrage13 do you have a recipe to recommend?

    • @Julie-si3hi
      @Julie-si3hi 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      Well done 👏 i still haven't achieved that yet😂

  • @Aleatoire9
    @Aleatoire9 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +33

    15:34 I think this is such a key point! I saw a bookstagrammer saying he saw another bookstagrammer showing her stack of special editions of the same book that was taller than her and he was criticizing it as overconsumption. So many people defended her saying she can collect what she wants (which she can) but by filming it and putting it out there, she is influencing other people to do the same thing and she’s promoting overconsuming and normalizing it. It’s a volume issue - she can reach so many people and if all 200,000 people or whatever but 20 special editions of the same book that’s a wild amount of books being overconsumed which just fuels the cycle. The behaviour is not inherently “wrong” on an individual scale, but when you promote it you aren’t just an individual in their home doing stuff for themselves anymore.

    • @Julie-si3hi
      @Julie-si3hi 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

      They never seem to promote a library card! Its always linked as an affiliate

  • @IsabelleRSG
    @IsabelleRSG 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Something I enjoyed more than stuff recently: early November, I attended a mini High School reunion dinner. One of my oldest friends from grade school / high school was there. We vaguely kept in touch through the years but hadn't really talked and last time we met, there were many people at a party, 3 or 4 years ago. At this recent reunion, we agreed we should really catch up and decided to go spend a Saturday doing sightseeing and just walking around a nice city not far from where we both live. We hopped on the train together and walked and talked for hours, we laughed, we had a cocktail at 3 pm and bought a small bag of chocolates which we ate on the train back and it was one of the best Saturdays of this year. We have known each other for 37 years (yes, we are that old, in our later 40s lol) and it was amazing to be reminded that we are still friends - and we should do this more often.

  • @MrJeromeRN
    @MrJeromeRN 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +72

    I hope she doesn't influence people to steal to match her aesthetic because it sure doesn't look worth it.

  • @Pupura.rt2005
    @Pupura.rt2005 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    For the past couple weeks, almost 2 months now, I've been volunteering and selling my crochet and knit items at a local craft store/studio, i've gotten somewhat close with the owner and they've told me the second they can hire employees i'll be the first person they hire. It's been really fulfilling helping a small business that has regulars from my community that i can connect with, especially because most of my friends are at college while i'm not in school or working right now.

  • @samisparkleheart
    @samisparkleheart 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    I enjoy taking care of my baby daughter! Loving her, watching her learn and grow, smiling and having fun, the way she lights up when her daddy comes home, and growing more as a person and a mom because of her 😊💗

  • @oksure900
    @oksure900 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

    I’m so glad you’re covering this story
    Her behaviour is beyond unhinged!
    And she’s stealing with her kids in tow? 🤦🏽‍♀️

  • @briannaobrien4419
    @briannaobrien4419 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

    So non-material thing that made my year.
    Drove the 2hours north to have the holiday at my parents. Had a great time; the nieces were little devils (one rolled in the snow with the dog😂), food was good, great time with family. I couldn't spend the night though cuz my boiler was out and my Pellet stove doesn't have a large enough feeder for an overnight visit. Well it starts snowing hard and me and my matchbox car go off road. Bless the driver behind me because not only did she pull over, she waited an hour for a tow to get my car outta the ditch with me, found a safe place to park my car til the weather improved, but also gave me a ride home! Luck would have it she was just the town before and didn't mind the extra 10 minutes to my place and back. And it took two days for the weather to chill tf out. But when it did my dad drove an hour and a half south to my car with his snowblower in the back of his pick up and cleared the snow from my car. I was parked in the driveway of an Amish barn so it had gotten snowed in. Then my baby sister, it's a joke I don't say little cuz she's about 6.5 inches taller, drove me the thirty minutes to my car. Y'all I was so close to home 😂😅. Bless him my dad cleared that snow so fast he had to wait two hours for us. He wanted to make sure my car got safely on the road and that I wouldn't have unforseen problems driving. Y'all if you want to have kids, get a father for them that will do this with NO COMPLAINT. I mean I was in tears I was so grateful he dug my car out saying thank you and he's just uncomfortable *pat pat* on the head, "yeah well I'm your dad. of course. Don't have to thank me". 😂 So I did not enjoy my car going off the road, but truly could not have imagined a better outcome afterwards.

    • @ChristysChannelYall
      @ChristysChannelYall 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Bless your heart. My dad is 81 now, but I swear he would still do this for me 😅

  • @siennad587
    @siennad587 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +42

    I can’t believe she got arrested again for it. I wonder why Target didn’t trespass her after the first arrest.

    • @jadefire1814
      @jadefire1814 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      They probably did. She may have just gone to another store, though.

    • @siennad587
      @siennad587 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@jadefire1814Unbelievably it was the same target on Pine Island Road according to police in Cape Coral. Maybe they like to see her humiliate herself lol

    • @siennad587
      @siennad587 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      @@jadefire1814no, it was the same Target lol. It’s unbelievable. My grandparents have a home in Cape Coral. There are two Targets there and she went back to the same one on Pine Island Road.

    • @Thegeekponygirl
      @Thegeekponygirl 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      Correct me if I'm wrong she stole and the store found out after the fact so the police had to go look for her. Maybe the store managment didnt do their part to get her trespassed or where she lives she might have had to be present to get tresspassed. Just speculating

    • @siennad587
      @siennad587 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@ThegeekponygirlI hadn’t even thought of that but good point! I just assumed when you got caught they would automatically trespass you or the police would upon arrest.

  • @mamallama3841
    @mamallama3841 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    ive been saying..(since i heard u say)."MA'AM. your christmas tree does not need to spin.....soooo funny, ur really engaging.

  • @halfanewfie2
    @halfanewfie2 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +33

    Unfortunate situation? She made a flipping choice. Of course it defines who she is..

    • @VeeBlack
      @VeeBlack 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      And she did it twice 😑

  • @Mortifiedbird
    @Mortifiedbird 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +30

    Something I realized after hearing about this. She must have tried to this in smaller amounts before she went to 500 dollars worth. Building up that confidence would take a couple times ? At least you would think so and she almost has a felony charge. It will go to that if she racks up anything more.

    • @katc2040
      @katc2040 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      They add up all the stuff stolen over time but you're probably right

    • @shawnaripari
      @shawnaripari  12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      yeah, i also think this is likely

  • @BargainAnne
    @BargainAnne 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    I love this… I recently sewed some stockings for our fireplace out of an old pillowcase. The stuff isn’t what mattered, it was the time spent with my stepdaughter and the pride I felt in myself afterwards! Thanks for another great video!

  • @carlislecockatoo7362
    @carlislecockatoo7362 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    You have such a calm and logical take on so many things, I really enjoy your content.

  • @mit_irwin
    @mit_irwin 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I've been reconnecting with a friend from Highschool lately and I cam say with confidence that those moments of laughter together is waaaay better than material stuff

  • @razzledazzle5933
    @razzledazzle5933 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

    Having a friendmas gathering ❤ no presents. Just a potluck and board games. Spending time with the people that matter most

  • @Duckies1023
    @Duckies1023 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    25:17 wait??!? What!??!? She stole, again, AFTER being arrested and let go, AND just after filming an “apology” video?!?! That is CRAZY to me!!!

  • @TJ-yv3kp
    @TJ-yv3kp 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    This is incredibly sad but probably more common than we think. I stop following a lifestyle influencer this year for doing a second "buying my first house" series. Why? Well home girl was forced to admit after being caught that her previous "buying my first house & moving into my dream home" was a lie. She had a horrible credit score and found the house online as a rent to own vs buying it as she stated. Many influencers have become the new rappers...leasing and living a lie.

  • @jessicairis
    @jessicairis 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    A good reminder that what we see on social media cannot be taken at face value. I agree with you and hope she gets the help she needs, there seems to be an issue with her decisions and in my opinion she can't be taken genuinely with repeat offenses. She needs to own up and apologize if she's going to make any content. In answer to your last question at the end of the video - My daughter called just to chat and I loved having a light hearted conversation with her. Those are the things that matter! Great video.

  • @CrisOnTheInternet
    @CrisOnTheInternet 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

    Birdwatching, it gave me a lot of peace, something I definitely want to repeat on 2025. I always remember The Minimalists saying to use stuff and love people and not the other way around.

    • @heartquaked
      @heartquaked 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I love that quote!

  • @psychicrenegade
    @psychicrenegade 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I saw some stats once that said on average, shoplifters only get caught about 2% of the time. That means, for every 50 times they shoplift...they only get caught and held accountable ONE TIME. Just ONCE out of the 50 times they shoplifted! That's crazy! No wonder there are cameras all over the place in stores these days!!! 😮

  • @yygg9786
    @yygg9786 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    exactly. it blows my mind how people follow these kinds of influencers we should care more about who and what we consume

  • @lestel324
    @lestel324 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Being fortunate enough to visit Rome and learn about history, architecture and art I probably never would have delved into otherwise.

  • @Tea4tea-j9q
    @Tea4tea-j9q 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    the snake plant still being trapped in the closet is sending me, save that baby! 😭

    • @farmhouseonthemountain
      @farmhouseonthemountain 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@Tea4tea-j9q is it in the closet, though? It looks like it's in the same room?

    • @shawnaripari
      @shawnaripari  12 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      The snake plant isn't trapped!! She's been removed, she's just hangin out there 😅

  • @julianajaxson
    @julianajaxson 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    The proof that she is a squatter is that all of her home items (outside decor) were at that house where she got arrested the second time and there is no address for her arrest. That family got kicked out of the home they stole.

    • @MagpieMalone
      @MagpieMalone 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@julianajaxson 😮🤯

  • @jennamanzano
    @jennamanzano 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Last weekend I had birthday drinks with 3 close friends and over the course of our evening we talked about how distinct each of us is from the other, rather than being some carbon copies of the same bland shit.

  • @ThisIsMyBroomstick
    @ThisIsMyBroomstick 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    Something I enjoyed more than stuff was the time shared with family at Thanksgiving. This was the first time my partner and I's families shared thanksgiving together and it was awesome. (Everyone vibed! :D)

    • @matildamatilda1836w
      @matildamatilda1836w 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@ThisIsMyBroomstick This is the good stuff in life 🥰

  • @Talavania
    @Talavania 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    The other day I walked the long way home to go see a duck pond. The birds were so cute and several of them were resting peacefully on the banks of the pond.

  • @makaylar.mr.23
    @makaylar.mr.23 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    I've been enjoying cuddles with my cat and husband while being sick and watching Scrubs for the first time.
    Tithing more (not just money but my time) and taking care of my home more when I actually have the energy.

  • @aw6356
    @aw6356 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Video chatting with my parents and my sister, showing our dogs, our Christmas decorations and just having a really nice time. For once everyone was well, cheery and positive. It meant a lot.

  • @callmewisteria
    @callmewisteria 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    I hadn't heard of this before, but I absolutely agree this is both frustrating and sad. I hope that, as bad as this is, she'll reconsider what is most important in her life and, hopefully, her children won't suffer too badly as a result of their mother's very public arrest. Unfortunately, kids can be brutal to each other at school and I really hope that won't happen to them because of this. All in all, I think this is a good reminder to put people in your life first before things, and I'm glad you showed the point of the damage viewing life from the lens of consumption, albeit in this extreme and sad example. Hopefully others will see this and reconsider how they view consumption and what is more important in their lives; things or people.

  • @luvzdogz
    @luvzdogz 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    As criminal lawyer Bruce Rivers would say... STOP SELF SNITCHIN! She definitely needs to stay off social media.

  • @gwenmph
    @gwenmph 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    It's an interesting practice to make a list of things you love more than stuff. I guess my number one is laughing with my spouse 😃

  • @Mamaxhija
    @Mamaxhija 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    When I see her reels… the only thing I think about is.. “is all of that stolen too?”

  • @rebeccamohammadi9653
    @rebeccamohammadi9653 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Having family together for Thanksgiving. Watching my grandchildren play together. Getting a good start decluttering in the attic.

  • @thisismerying111
    @thisismerying111 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I have quite a few things I enjoy more than “stuff”; when my family and friends take my recommendation for a book to read or show to watch bc I thought they’d enjoy it, when I personally finish a good book or show and can’t believe what I just read/watched but in the best way possible, or even simple things like my friends saying they want to see me again and hang out soon or my sister inviting me to her best friend’s day at her sorority because she really sees me like that❤️

  • @lorenabpv
    @lorenabpv 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    there was this girl who went to middle school with me (a year or two younger) who stole some stuff from a fancy store and got caught. back then, in the early 2000s, she was a blogger, posting about lifestyle and fashion trends. that story sorta blew up among our school, with people sharing alleged cctv images through myspace and BBM. she was one of the rich kids btw.
    i hadn't thought of her in years, but last year i found out she leaned into the old money aesthetic, moved to europe (for a masters, i think?) and became an influencer. her content is mostly geared towards rich eutro kids on vacation from thwir fancy universities, a mix of "elegant" fashion, beach holidays and study planning. she's somewhat successful i guess.
    it's like 18 years after the stealing incident, but honestly, as soon as a saw her face on my feed, it was all i could think of
    (my middle school cohort has a weird amount of micro influencers, especially considering i'm 31 and was in middle school up to 2007, back then we only had blogs.and all of these influencers started late, like on insta or tiktok after 2017, 2018. crazy to see it)

  • @baymewx
    @baymewx 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    For the first time since my freshman year of high school, I have started painting and crafting with actual passion and inspiration. Maybe this isnt the best time (as I am in the throws of research and writing my thesis), but I haven't actively wanted to paint to this extent in almost 6 years. Your content has both inspired me to be more conscious of my consumption (by deleting social media and shopping apps), and to truly put effort into enjoying what I have and what I love. I LOVE your content and I have shared it to lots of friends

  • @Julie-si3hi
    @Julie-si3hi 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Influencer content and their life looks so sad and beige and false!
    Seriously i don't understand anyone who is taken in by the fakeness.

  • @averagerunner_
    @averagerunner_ 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Things I enjoy more than stuff! Sunsets and sunrises, hearing birds and the wind in the trees and the sound of snow under my feet when I walk. When my sister and I cook together or discuss memories.

  • @12mooiyrwwtunf
    @12mooiyrwwtunf 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I definitely have a tendency to impulse buy and overshop. Knowing that about myself is actually what helps me not do it. Asking myself why I want something or how is it different from what i already have thats similar has helped me a lot. I also track what I didn’t buy and at the end of the month I add up the dollar amount. I will admit I am financially well off and debt free. However, i still need to be careful not to fall into a trap of endless spending.

  • @zemimsky
    @zemimsky 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I quit my life in the west (Montreal, Québec, Canada) to come back home in a small village in Romania to take care of my elderly father. Sleeping in on mornings up until NOON is worth more than stuff! (But I do miss my Tarot decks and my tower PC )

  • @ELMor8443
    @ELMor8443 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I foster cats and the one I have at the moment is an absolute joy to be around. I enjoy her more than stuff every day and I'm so excited for her to find her forever family now that she's up for adoption.

  • @hannahl8299
    @hannahl8299 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Your video essays are always so interesting and you have made me really think about my media literacy and how I consume goods now. Thank you for educating!

    • @shawnaripari
      @shawnaripari  12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      glad to hear you enjoyed it!

  • @giuliagallus1122
    @giuliagallus1122 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    My favourite thing that is not stuff is cooking. I love cooking so much in particolar when I don’t have much ingredients and I have to ✨Make it happen✨ anyway. For example : today was grocery day and I literally had almost nothing to cook and somehow I made 2 plates of creamy lemon farfalle pasta topped with fried artichoke. I felt INCREDIBLE after. I made something delish from literally 1 lemon and 3 old and crusty artichokes 😅

    • @herrflick1244
      @herrflick1244 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      That is what matters, a cooking skill.good nutritious food,healthy,fresh and not mass made junk ,take aways or restaurant food at expensive prices. I think cooking should be reintroduced to schools like it used to be. I am in the uk and people over here are getting too reliant on fast food. No domestic science in schools anymore. I have a lit of cookbooks from charity(thrift shop) supermarket book swap shelves, easily adaptable for what you have. Today I am making homemade soup, with leftovers as I can't get to the shops as my car windscreen shattered and the hire car replacement won't be delivered until tomorrow so we have to eat what's leftover and make that's available. I won't phone for a fast food delivery at silly prices when I can cook much more cheaply and I know it is fresh and healthier and know what goes into it. Good home cooking is what we all should be able to do, we should all learn to cook nutritious meals no matter what our income.Gill from uk😊

  • @shoomboom
    @shoomboom 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    couldn't care less about stealing from a billion dollar company, but it makes me wonder about all the irl things we don't see...

    • @anonymouswitness3835
      @anonymouswitness3835 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      stealing from a billion dollar company affects the low-level workers more than it does the corporation itself. It's really not victimless.

  • @cosmicbodyguards4285
    @cosmicbodyguards4285 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I realized that i enjoyed the thrill of seeing all the discounts available on Black Friday (online) more than actually buying & owning the stuff. I put a bunch of stuff from various websites into my cart and i just decided i'd wait... First i waited until ~10pm to see what items were no longer available. Surprisingly about 15% were unavailable. Then i waited until 11:45pm to see if i'd purchase and i chose to pass on all of it.
    Much to my surprise the discounts on Saturday and Sunday were even better!
    But still, i passed on them.
    My instinct/habit felt this urgency and pull to go buy it but my year in therapy must have cone thru because i was able to see right thru to the heart of myself and be honest. I honestly just didnt want to buy any of it.
    Actually what this honesty did for myself was open this door to creativity that ive neglected since my 2 year old son was born. Instead of buying the beautiful forest green velvet ornament set for 25% off i was like, "i have TONS of plain boring ornaments. How can i enhance them with what i have at home?" So that led to me starting to organize the messy cluttered shelves of supplies id bought during past black fridays and left there to be forgotten about.
    I found all this beautiful gorgeous textured colorful paper in the clutter piles and now me and my 2 year old are making paper ornaments and paper Christmas decor. 😻
    Saying no to myself and to the buying tradition led to actual quality time with my baby and reconnecting to a part of myself id let lie dormant. A part of myself that i love and that uplifts my self esteem.

  • @alinaya26
    @alinaya26 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    So, the most enjoyable and memorable thing that happened to me that wasn’t connected to stuff in the past 30 days was my friend’s birthday! We went to a “guess the song” quiz night and it was so fun, I even danced for a bit, which I rarely do outside of the house, especially with new friends. What a night it was!

  • @Ambulancesarecool
    @Ambulancesarecool 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I love to romanticize my life and have an “aesthetic” wardrobe and stuff but you can do all that and without stealing or over consuming 💀 like damn

  • @JustineB-b1v
    @JustineB-b1v 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    This is just another example of how out of touch these influencers are. The part which annoyed me most is when the influencer said her team are dealing with the situation. Yet another example of letting others sort out the wrongdoings of an ego inflated influencer.

  • @Bokatisha1234
    @Bokatisha1234 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I went to a friend's house to sit around and yap and pet cats while she made cookies for Thanksgiving. Who needs expensive third spaces when you have your bud's kitchen.

  • @citronquartz2779
    @citronquartz2779 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    as soon as shawna mentioned the influencer's videos about preparing to evacuate ahead of hurricane milton i knew this was a florida woman 😭 sure enough, the watermark on her mugshot says lee county sheriff's office lol

  • @TraXs.
    @TraXs. 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Getting social media validation from strangers is never worth going this far especially when you consider that people portrait their life to make them aspirational, not realistic. But to each their own I guess 😅😮

  • @Threads_and_Cats
    @Threads_and_Cats 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Last Tuesday, I was at home when I received a call from emergency services saying my husband, while driving our two kids home from school, had been in a car accident. I can’t express the relief I felt when I arrived at the scene and saw that no one was hurt! Everyone was mostly alright. Moments like this remind us of what truly matters in life.

  • @sofiastj
    @sofiastj 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Living for your frequent uploads 💙

  • @findingthebroom
    @findingthebroom 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    A couple of things I've enjoyed more than stuff during the last month or so: taking a walk with my bestie, running my first "real" winter run (with snow and ice), going to lunch with my cancer sick dad, journaling to figure myself out better on several parts of life and from several different points of view, watching the northern lights, making food in ways i'm not used to, watching my sibling doing their last figure skating competicion, meditating, sharing the first ginger bread dough of the season with a friend.. and more.:)

  • @puddinxplum
    @puddinxplum 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I have been preparing myself for a low buy year of 2025. I have been controlling my spending in preparation for the last two months. The holidays are the most challenging times for me to control my urge of spending. I have decided that instead of buying gifts during Christmas time, I have chosen to not buy gifts for most people, and have been spending time with them instead, or making dishes/goodies. For my roommates I wanted to show appreciation for the time we have spent together, especially because this will most likely be our last Christmas all together. I decided to still maintain my low buy, and instead make all of our pets matching sweaters,and we will be decorating and taking family photos together with our pets, so that we can frame the photos and cherish the time we have left with each other. This is very easy on my bank because I have only spent 30$ total on all 4 gifts, but it has helped me cherish the things I give to them. I definitely wanted to keep my low buy, and this has definitely helped. It also helped keep me from stress buying, which has always been a struggle for me. 💕

  • @ani-tamta
    @ani-tamta 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Not a big event, but recently I've came back to drawing everyday and it helps so much!! I can just relax and only think about my silly drawings

  • @rosieshaw2810
    @rosieshaw2810 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I set up my heater infront of my desk in my home office, so now I have a perfect view of my cats when they curl up next to the heater. That makes me happy everyday

  • @Sadcherrycherry
    @Sadcherrycherry 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I have an aesthetic and post on instagram from time to time. On my insta posts my life is very dark academia esque. The reason why i can afford those things is because I have prepared over 50 pictures to post ahead of time. It makes me look rich, but i'm actually a minmum wage worker in retail.

  • @allih615
    @allih615 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Just went to target on my lunch and all of the self check out lanes were closed off.

    • @TubbyVanillaMecha
      @TubbyVanillaMecha 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      I recently went to a new 5 Below that just opened, and it didn't have self checkout at all!

  • @maddie8415
    @maddie8415 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    You always have such great insight, Shawna 💗

  • @Vampslayer815
    @Vampslayer815 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Something I've enjoyed more than stuff is making real friendships in my community. After putting myself out there since May of this year and finding support groups, I have close friendships with other lgbtqia+ people in my area. 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

  • @JenniferSimmons-fh9us
    @JenniferSimmons-fh9us 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    My husband and I had a rare day off together. We stayed home all day and cooked breakfast, lunch and dinner together. The television stayed off!! It was the most relaxing time 😊

  • @melissapetzer3560
    @melissapetzer3560 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +17

    I enjoyed showing my 10 month old neice how to drink from a straw and her immediately being able to do it. The marvel of the baby brain

    • @bibble1389
      @bibble1389 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      That’s adorable 🥰

    • @shawnaripari
      @shawnaripari  12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      this is so sweet thank you for sharing!

  • @Ryanneey
    @Ryanneey 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I just finished a video that mentioned a different TikTok user who was caught shoplifting watches. Bananas!

  • @Yolli.Maceda
    @Yolli.Maceda 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I am a critical care NP we respond to codes and I had the chance to care for a patient that was the most humble human being I have ever seen. I walk outside the hospital to go back to ICU and the weather was so nice at night and I could see a few stars. I just look up and thank him for the weather and for letting me take care of that beautiful person. I felt like I did something meaningful that day. Throughout the night all I felt was peace and tranquility. It only cost me to be me. 💛💛💛

  • @Lizard1800
    @Lizard1800 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    The crazy thing is that anyone who knows anything about target's anti theft methods is that they do not fuck around with theft. If you steal from them, they WILL know and they WILL case build until they can hit you with a felony charge

  • @anonymouswitness3835
    @anonymouswitness3835 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    My family has begun celebrating Advent, and on the first Sunday of December we sang Christmas carols and reflected on hope. Was so happy to be able to be with them (I'm back at home now that I've graduated) and do the old tradition.

  • @swethatelkar85
    @swethatelkar85 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I went to Cancun over the thanksgiving break, nothing extravagant we try to do it on a budget and just sitting and enjoy the beach gave me to much happiness that no amount of stuff can.

  • @k4nd1incyb3rsp4c3
    @k4nd1incyb3rsp4c3 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Something I loved more than stuff recently was visiting a craft fair at my old school with friends. The fact that it was a fair selling things was the least important part. Something I'm looking forward to more than stuff is my boyfriend's band will play a gig in late December. I can't wait!