Stop Calling Your Kid "Defiant"

The biggest issue with “defiant” kids is our use of the word “defiant.” After all, labeling our children as “defiant” puts us in the mindset of seeing our child as the problem: They don’t listen! They’re purposely disobeying the rules! They always push back! In this week’s episode, Dr. Becky offers a total reframe: Defiance is actually a child’s struggle to regulate an urge and feel seen. Now, don’t worry-this doesn’t lead to taking an anything-goes, permissive approach. Dr. Becky shares practical strategies to put this framework into action, so you can show up as a sturdy leader, stay connected to your kid, and help your child build skills to reduce problematic behavior over time. Sounds like a total win, right? It is.
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[@amitramlall4235]

I’m not even a parent and I find this quite entertaining. Thank you Dr. Becky

[@jmfuller19]

Amazing. Great ideas to stay connected to my child and help him develop the skills he needs in life. This is exactly what I needed in helping me parent my 2 1/2 year old when he’s being “defiant.” I love how you changed the framework for that. Thank you, Dr. Becky! ❤