🍵Trans boobies and beauty standards.
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 2 ม.ค. 2021
- Mid-trip to America for my surgeries including breast surgeries. I took a moment to share my thinking thus far on the surgery.
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Safe travels Ashley!
Thx love!
Listen to the Plastic Surgeon. They will know the best for the body if they are good. A surgeon that will let you pick whatever you want it's not a good surgeon if you want something natural looking. If you want to body modify unnaturally looking go for it but also only with an experienced surgeon of course.
They have so many shape forms to cover the chest on each person perfectly and look natural. I had to be a D the last last and it suits me the best. I have a large chest so it doesn't t look extreme.
Send me a message when your settled and can talk.
Sending POWER!
Love AunTy M xo
Thank you aunty m!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Hi Ashley! Safe travels! Thanks for the video! I wasn’t expecting to hear from you for a while.
Pre-COVID-19, I traveled a lot for work. I purchased a “Known Traveler” (aka “Pre-Check) number so I’d never be scanned male again. Of course, my recent SRS would’ve fixed the issue too! I can sleep on planes and in airports, basically anywhere. I fell asleep at a gate once. When I woke up, I was the only traveler in that section of the airport. They left without waking me 😔
As for beauty and the boobs, I’ve got nothin!
omg I wish I had your sleeping skill! But that must of been shocking waking up with it gone, I might not trust myself after that lol. Yes, I'm doing what I can to share some videos. I'm editing a series on this trip that i'll be releasing the first episode of tomorrow or tuesday.
Definitely go with natural, they do go per CC volume and not bra sizes.
I am 5’10 tall and have C cups now, from a small A.
Mine are 380cc, I do not like them tbh because they get super hard when I lay on my back and I can’t sleep on my stomach anymore.
Also be mindful of the texture of the implant shell, as some textured implants can cause cancer in lymph nodes.
I wish I’d gone smaller size, because my boobs grew larger after SRS.
All good points thank you!
i think about beauty standards often, i have found them useful to subvert expectations about how i will behave when leveraged creatively..
I totally agree! Of course you'd have something interesting to say Seiren :)
I know you are on your way to surgery YAY. But for those watching I Highly recommend getting breast forms and trying the size you think you may want. Early on I tried Ds 1000cc for a couple of weeks and found they were too much for me, I was never comfortable and they hurt my back. I'll hope for a C when it comes my turn.
This is great advice thanks for sharing it. I def prototyped a size for a week. i def missed them when they were gone!
hey ashley! it's me from insta! Again, so sorry about you being misgendered but i definitely relate to all of your thoughts sis x
you’re so adorable!!! :-) i’m trans too but ftm
Awww thanks!
The whole airport security thing is nuts for us trans women. For me, I just dress very femanine in the airport and then tape (I've already had orche so that's easier), haven't been stopped or screened since!
Oh nice! No orchi here yet
@@AshleyxAdamson yeah, tucking is the fucking worst and I refused to do it lol.
I don't feel like you need to worry about beauty standards. What's important is how you want to look and what will relieve your dysphoria. My entire goal in transitioning is to look how I would had I been born cis. Maybe that's not what everyone wants, but that the point, transitioning is becoming the version of yourself that your most happy with.
Hi Ashley! While we are all indoctrinated by cultural beauty standards, surgeries should only be about what will relieve your dysphoria - this is the focus, ignore the rest. I have been fortunate enough to have decent breast development and friends politely and respectfully hate me for it (their words). They all say that I'm "there" already ... From my point of view, however, I hope development continues for a bit as I have a broad chest. From my point of view, a bit more is needed to feel right and I'm hoping to keep developing for a bit but it is only about how I feel - I really don't care what others think.
In a recent trans zoom meeting, a subject that came up was breast development. The trans guys were extremely vocal on the subject. Now I do realize that the perspective of trans guys is not going to align with that of trans girls but they were adamant about one thing - they all agreed that anything beyond a C-cup is sheer folly for all sorts of reasons - most involving pain and discomfort. Some of the big issues mentioned were back problems, limited positions sleeping, and pain (and difficulty) running ... Much love and live your adventure! 🤗😘❤❤❤
Thank you for all the tips Francesca! I think it’s going to be a C after all! I definitely didn’t want to get a d :-)
I hope you got some sleep. I LOVE flying (former flight attendant) so I’m always too amped to sleep. 🌸
I did! I got a full four seat row to myself :D
I am also ex crew, flew for 16 years, 6 of which after transitioning on the job :)) x
@@alfa2324 What airline? I was Southwest. Had I stayed, I could have transitioned openly. My job now has me a bit more cautious.
@@heatherwillowwood1489 I was flying for a British airline until last year. Congratulations on transitioning, it is a never ending journey....it was not an easy thing to do on the job, many of the staff were insensitive and continued to misgender me through out the years, although majority of people were incredibly amazing and made my journey smooth - I am forever grateful to them for showing kindness, over ignorance.
Also, dealing with toxic masculinity which is prevalent with flight crews and some of the pax, being stuck in a metal tube was not my favourite thing in the end.
I hope you are doing ok in your new job x
Have a safe trip too. When you get to the east coast stick your arm out the window and wave. Just kidding. I went with getting proportional to my frame. Did not want to be top heavy. But it comes down to how you feelat the time you make your decision.
Thank you Polly! I think comments here have helped me go for a balanced size so as to not hurt my back too much
That's the big question, isn't it? Well, one of them. I have felt myself *compelled* to answer it, and it turns out for me that's not very healthy. Here's why:
A large part of me thinks I owe it to the world to destroy patriarchy before I am entitled to relief. I don't. I deserve relief.
That part of me thinks I owe it to myself to root out all internalized trauma before I am entitled to relief. It tells me, convincingly, that to change my body is a violation of my authentic and divine spirit, and that it furthers the work of patriarchy. It is wrong.
It's wrong because that same patriarchy tortured me for decades and blamed my body for it. It taught me to blame my own body for my abuse. It continues to teach me that. It hasn't stopped just because I saw what it was doing and stayed inside for a whole year. I refuse to blame myself for internalizing that. I refuse to identify with a me that has never been tortured that way. I have. I owe it to myself to accept healing as I am, not as I could have been in a world without supremacism.
I deserve relief.
Surgery offers some of the relief that I need. Hormones offer a lot more. That's about as far as medicine can take me. I have to supply the rest of the relief in some other way.
This part of me is my most obstructive voice. Freud called her my superego. She never wanted me to know I was trans, and now she wants a fair hearing of her argument that I shouldn't do anything about it. She got me hear, I thank her, I love her, and she has lost her driving privileges. When she knows what it's like to accept love (and she is learning!), we'll talk about more useful ways for her to use her obstructiveness.
Powerful!!!! 👏🏻 Glad her license was revoked lol.
Giant hugs and hope all your recoveries are going well.
You still look like a woman to me with a face mask and a hoodie, a very pretty young woman. 😘