@@dawnslagowski8375 Feminine energy is not "subservience" as you should always and only follow a man's lead when it feels good to you (such as in a partner dance). If it doesn't feel good to you then that is compliance and not feminine submission. Feminine energy is equally as powerful as masculine energy it is just the polar opposite energy that creates the "juice" chemistry, attraction, passion and devotion in a romantic relationship.
@@dawnslagowski8375 Yes asking permission can be super helpful since it helps to make sure that you're not penetrating your man energetically with masculine energy and can be more respectful and vulnerable. Only a high-value woman feels comfortable asking for permission and asking for help because only a high-value woman believes she is WORTHY of having a man want to help her (she doesn't have to demand/take it or try to manipulate others to get what she wants)
Obviously your not aware of today's dating scene. I'm from tge 1950s. Today it's totally different. That makes it very difficult for women who want to be monogomous. I don't know one man, unless he's manipulating tge situation wants to wait one,two,three months to be sexually intimate. They have too many other options. They classify you as "hot" when you are high value you can't get out of that compartment. Especially as an older woman.
My husband, pulled the old, my motorcycle broke down in my driveway!!! I gave him a chance to call a buddy to take him home- acted like he couldn't After Id only met him a couple days before I was NOT letting a strange man spend the night in my house. I managed a furniture store, took him over there and locked him in. Plenty of beds dor him to sleep on. The next day, imagine this!! He " fixed" his motorcycle and rode away😂😂
Marriage is a God given covenant. Not a piece of paper. I'd also never advise people live together. I'm a follower of the Lord but let me share this for unbelievers: The divorce rate is significantly higher for couples who shacked up than those who didn't. Great video.
Most marriages stay together for monetary reasons. There's nothing like a whopping insurance policy for a widow that will be sacrificed upon divorce to make an unhappy wife think twice. Feelings of love DO change. Kids don't hold people together anymore (like they should). Although I do think that romantic weddings on tape are a good ritual for cementing people together. Fifteen years later, when you're getting on each other's last nerve, a rerun of that ceremony when you both had stars in your eyes & hope in your heart, will make you think twice before calling attorneys. Maybe 1% are staying together "for God."Til death do us part" vows are a crapshoot. Weddings at casinos make more sense these days than weddings at churches. Although, if there's no money brought to the table instead of witnesses, they probably should offer lawyers on retainer.
I’m trying to respond with the statement of “I hear you” ,and then I be quiet and listen to the rest of what he has to say and that has made some of our conversations that much better.
A marriage isn't just a piece of paper! It's a deep engagement. Its a legal accord between two adults (or more) to attest of that engagement. The terms of that engagement protect the rights of everyone, especially of the children!
It's only between two people: a man and a woman. Indeed, it s' not just a piece of paper it's a godly union (whether they are religious or not) of two people becoming one flesh.
Hmmm. It is a shame when you have to have a paper over your man to acknowledge or to take care of the children. Genuine feelings are golden, pepper is good at wiping……..no legal paper engagement can substitute for true, honest, genuine relationship. Peace of paper is nothing if you do not have real thing going on in the first place.
You’re honestly right about everything. I’ve been studying relationships for like two years gone through a lot of perspective and you are just correct about everything. It’s very helpful for me when I tune back into one of your videos and get a little bit of a reality. Check of how I really need to be showing up in a relationship. It’s really just a huge perspective shift.
#5 Trust & respect has to be a 1 on 1 situation. Not when a Man only wants this when he won't show his face or come closer to the woman he's undetected in. Long distance doesn't create Trust & respect, it creates distrust & disrespect. I only hear words, I don't see actions!
My ex told me that I was selfish and possessive and controlling because I didn't want to be cheated on. But gave me shit for acting like I wasn't in a relationship. . And when I tried to say how I felt I was told to keep how I feel to myself and that they don't care how I feel and that it's my own fault for how I feel.. and if I ever said something that was bothering me, they said that I was attacking them and made everything about themselves but it was all because he was cheating on me and I wasn't the person that he actually wanted. At least he's happy now. and I'm happy he's out of my life only thing I miss is all my money that he stole from me. And all the time that I wasted with him 😊 Some advice I know it's wrong to give unsolicited advice, but never date a serial cheater .
Hi, I would like to express my gratitude for your incredible videos, with so much wisdom in regards to the masculine&feminine. This should be teached in school. I think that maybe 90% of the population of the planet is not aware of all the things that you teach. I bless you and your wife with infinite prosperity and abundance!💫
I realized early on that that man could not be and do what I needed in my life so I let him go so he wouldn’t feel all these future emotions of not being enough. But when I let him go he was so hurt and couldn’t understand why I let him go.
The analogies and explanations in this video were so easy to comprehend. I feel like I embody a lot of these traits, but as someone who is now in the active purposeful dating stage, I value any new advice or perspective so that I can develop a healthy relationship leading to my husband❤ Thank you for this!
I refuse to have sex with anyone unless I feel ready until he has actually proven to me that he can be trusted and care about my well being with my life and health physical and mental health because I personally don't find any man who is constantly putting everything about him to be all about or all into sex is unattractive to me and I have my own personal private problems with sex from not just my past experiences with sex but with the here and now with how men seem to come at me about sex.
All this advices are true and work 100% if with a conservative type of man or stoic! Otherwise may not work completely! but… it’ll always be helpful the advice, thx!
I love these, especially the last one! I am so guilty of doing the opposite. I will now work on expecting the best. I think this could be life changing. Thank you for sharing!
I’m not sure why, but the way it’s put for females to be in their feminine energy just makes me feel like you want us to be subservient. I get an ick feeling when you’re talking about us asking permission to speak…like may I ask you a question. I think it could be put in a different way. If someone asked me, can I ask you a question, it would put me on Edge. I have no idea what they’re going to ask me, so how can I agree to it??? I don’t know, It’s just such an icky feeling being put in such a subservient position . I kind of feel like the next thing to be asked of me is, here put on this Burka. Not cool…
It’s not about being subservient which is a perception. It’s a matter of coming from a place a being curious. When humans are curious by asking questions, the recipient will be more open to responding in a candid way. Honestly this is a primary communication skill - Be it male or female. It’s also how you convey the question with tone and body language.
@@dawnslagowski8375 Yes it's really about simply being respectful and not penetrating him energetically which would be masculine energy. A queen is comfortable asking for things from men because she has high self worth and believes that men WANT to give her what she asks for and that she is worthy of that rather than having to take it or force it.
@@MagnetizeYourMan- I haven’t made it through the video, yet, though, one tip I remember from years ago, from Mat Boggs - is to ask a man “Will you (please)..” That it helps engage a man’s desire/need to be of service, to his lady.
It's AWFUL. I became close friends with him, got to trust him, fell deeply in love with the person he is----and the sex was very disappointing. I am open and verbal, told him what I prefer. His response? "This is what 'women' like." He would not hear me, and I just couldn't continue. Otherwise? I would have married him for his other fine qualities. Thank GOD I tried before I buyed!
@@CarmenPerez-kz6rw don't you tell ME what true love is. I hear from soooo many women that men are bad in bed. They just don't know how, and don't want to learn. Just as you've never learned how to be nice.
Speaking on #5 there is a big difference between telling someone what to do, and controlling him and trying to change him or solve his problems is not the same as giving someone advice. If a man is coming to me and being vunerable to me telling me his problems I will always listen without analyzing or trying to tell him how to feel but if he’s seeking direction and advice from me I’m going to give it to him
I don't necessarily agree with this as a strict rule. Like men who get to experiment to find out what truly works for them emotionally and physically, women have every right to do likewise. I'm not advocating to have a physical interaction with every man you meet but on the occasion where it might seem like the relationship has possibilities I think it's totally logical to follow it where it leads both emotionally and physically. As someone who had no experience at all, I married the only man I ever had sex with ..but there was something missing for me...he kept saying something was wrong with me and I believed him because men were expected to have previous experience while we ladies, in my era, were taught the opposite is unacceptable for females. Eventually, I realized I loved him but wasn't in love the way I should have been had I done my personal journey sexually. Now, decades later, I know exactly what and who I want both emotionally and physically...not just one without the other in a long term committed relationship. I always tell younger woman to be very careful...but if they feel comfortable with a certain person or enjoy sex they should be very discriminate as to those they truly want to engage physically with...additionally, to explore it further if they are both emotionally and physically fulfilled...not one without the other unless it makes no difference to them...but, women deserve the chance to determine their individual personal happiness and personal sexual satisfaction.
I agree with this. Due to religion I’ve never had intimating but now it’s got to the point where I did it for the first time at such an old age. Not worth the wait.
@@seemu2927 That's truly a shame...now you've lost interest except its never too late if you still were open to meeting someone... it could happen when least expected especially when you aren't even thinking about it.
We're all human. Communication is key most of all. But not all people care to communicate literally, with respect. Both partners should always talk with one another, with respect, not casting blame: Example: When you do this ____, it makes me feel ____. (Something unpleasant)
When I tried using “I” statements, I was called selfish and that I was making everything about me 🤷🏾♀️ instead of empathy. 😅 I guess it didn’t work. We’re not together anymore.
@@MagnetizeYourMan "Not capable"...sounds like a cop-out. But I was with my husband for 28 years. Finally, I believed him. Sad, but it was the most valuable thing I've ever done. Glory to God. 🤲
Ok I get what you mean about making it about us (the women) and not him by sharing our emotions and how we FEEL. But what if how we feel is attached to something specifically the man is doing? For example, if he doesn't reply to text, leaving you on read or delivered. I'm currently in this situation and it makes me feel uneasy and anxious. I get the feeling he is not interested HOWEVER when I pulled away and didn't speak or talk with him for months, all he did was watch my stories but never called me or reached out. So when I re-emerged and tried to make it about me and not him (I didn't bring up that it was his nonresponsiveness that made me go silent) he stated that it made him confused about me not coming around anymore. As you stated I didn't want to accuse him of anything but by me not stating that his specific actions made me feel the way I did, I believe it made things worse because now he has withdrawn much more because I muddied the waters by not communicating exactly what I was feeling and WHY, which was because of something he was doing. I guess my issue is, how can I bring up something he did without sounding like I want to change him? He's now stated that he is now hesitant to do anything towards me that will send the wrong message. Is that code for, I don't want to lead you on and make you think there's something there or he doesn't want to pursue because he doesn't feel I want the attention because of how responded by not communicating with him properly in the first place? Smh this is just so confusing.
"Hey, can I tell you (or share) something with you?" He goes...."Sure, wut?" You say, "I feel anxious." He goes..."Why?" You say, "When you don't respond to me, I think you're not interested in gettting to know me. It makes me anxious." That is, unless you're texting constantly and being annoying. I'd say the above if we were communicating regularly, and he suddenly stopped for a few days.
Do not have sex with him until he Marry's you!!! Save it for the Wedding Night no matter what this Guy doing the Video says! Men can claim a lot of things and then you sleep with them and then they change their mind. Respect Yourself and Wait and if he Truly Loves You He will have enough of his own Respect for himself to wait until the Wedding Night.
What if he's not taking actions in his life that inspire me to respect him? It's hard to parse out the differences between expecting him to do things to inspire respect within you, or if it's just your standards are too high and what you're expecting is unrealistic... which is which. I guess the answer is leave. I only respect men that are ambitious (going after what they want), KIND even in the face of argument, GENTLE with their woman, generous, giving, moral, upstanding, understanding, capable of being empathetic.
As a woman who married virgin and was extremely neglected sexually for over 20 years, I don’t wanna a man to fall in love with me before I know if we will be sexually compatible. Because if we are not, I will break his heart. I think I have a lot of other qualities that would make a man feel in love with me and a mature man will not change his mind about me just because you were intimated specially if er both have a good sex energy and chemistry. What is meant to be, will be.
Thanks for your advice. This is how l feel ... In a mature relationship l am supposed to feel free to be myself from a place of mutual love and respect versus having to control what l say or how l say it all the time, l just can't 😊
What if your man is down on his luck and you have to be the one to help support him until he’s back on his feet how does one go about not making him feel less masculine
A man shouldn’t need validation three times a day (that’s absurd), if he doesn’t know his own value and needs constant affirmations about how needed and wonderful he is that sounds immature, he’s suppose to be a man not a child.
At last someone who knows what he is talking about, most people now want to jump into bed from the start it’s disrespect to each other, not that long ago people especially men went to sex workers now all they have to do is go on a so called dating site.
I just broke things off with someone who, despite everything else going very well, was pressing me to start having sex with him after only two weeks. Never fail to set boundaries early on, and never hesitate to walk away if your self value is being undermined.
I slept with my long term boyfriend after 2 hours of meeting him. Both him and his family wanted us to get married and I declined him. Bud...Humans bond and connect under the most untraditional circumstances.
I know several couples who had sex on the second date and they're still married almost 30 years later. I also meet women who wait several months to have sex and then once they do they get dumped or ghosted soon after.
If he sent massages saying he won't let me down, two time massages, per day . If I am ignoring he is worried, both are different country's. Can I believe him.
I just turned 60. No pregnancy, thank goodness. He conveniently failed to say he is still married even if separated a little over 3 years. For me, priority one.
@@tamaratindall1688Marriage was ordained by G-d and it means an intention from both sides to be in a long term committed relationship, a contract was made and signes by 2 witnessess. Now with organized religion it's a bit more of a legal process.
A very dear friend of mine recently lost her dear husband after over fifty years of marriage. They were expecting and married as teenagers, and were an exceptionally devoted, soul mate couple. My late grandparents, married over sixty years until his demise as well, and many other relatives and friends who were expecting when they got married. Your views may be accurate from your life's view; however, as a counselor, friend and family member, of many couples whom you allude to, it simply isn't true.
Lol I have in the past. 9 different guys, all ex's all have mentality and physically cheated on me. So, I have done nothing wrong. Oh, not all people trust. I always allow a guys to do things on their own, that's how they grow as a person and that's how they become a real man. Guys have asked me for advice and once I give it, they turn and start cheating on me. Soo, if a man can't do things on their own, and always need the feeling of being wanted, those are the guys, you don't want to be in a relationship with. I don't like, that a man has too always feel like a hero all the time. Females are strong, and able too fight their own battles. If we need help, we ask for it, a female should not have too make themselves be weak, to make a man feel good for themselves. A real man, likes it when a female is able to be strong and able to take care of themselves. Men, should get in touch with themselves, before jumping into a relationship. I know you are saying, you can't change a man, well a man should stop making a Females change and always make the man feel like the top person. So, like men, Females don't like someone trying to change us.
If you really want to be sure of a partner gjve them 10 years trial brfire marriage. Work out all the chinx in the relationship before the final I do. Tbat is a reasonable time to work through any relationships ebbs and flows. Talk about every topic from A to Z and test its true durability. Its worth the time invested.
No sex till married, do not give advice to a man it’ll feel bad to him, be happy he NEEDS to feel like he can make you happy, expect the best from him believe men want to help (no neg self fulfilling prophecy),
I'm very sorry, but if I'm not feeling well I won't act like nothing has happened and hide my feelings just to make my husband feel like he "did his job and helped me overcome my problem." Men hide their emotions, not woman! Men provide solutions, but we women are sensitive and need understanding and someone who will just listen to us, without telling us what we should do and then simply shifting the focus.. LOL.. It would be nice if you gave men advice on how they should behave to understand their wife, girlfriend or whatever!! I'm tired of always listening to what the women has to do. And what about Men?!
If a man isn’t able to accept constructive criticism or advice from a woman because of his ego or pride, that is not the man for me. Personally I crave this kind of information from anyone and everyone because I have low ego and care more about improving any and all things above my pride. If that means hearing some bad advice at times, that is what discernment is for. I can’t deal with a man that can’t handle some words because if sparks feelings inside they can’t handle. That is weak. That being said I have been married for 15 years and my man is beyond happy even with my random advice (when it’s needed or necessary, not not picky and focused on perfection-it’s about balance) There is a difference between someone needing a fork in the ass vs changing a person. If someone is behaving in a way that is unproductive then it needs to be addressed. If they want to rebel because of this information then they are obviously immature and reacting like a naughty two year old…”well I’ll show you for trying to tell me what to do” 😂 I would run from that man child. I care less about how a message is delivered and more so the intent behind the words. I can’t deal with babying a grown ass man into a positive direction. I am about giving all the loving and supportive and grateful words and actions for my man whenever I can. That comes naturally without any thought or effort.
What if I don't want him to claim me. Had sex w a couple of guys recently. They want relationships. Very hard to say no. Rejecting a guy is so dufficult for me...😢
Excuse me, how old are you? This thought is either very boomer or very Catholic, but it is impossible for you to know that there is more than attraction, compatibility and admiration, if there is no sexual chemistry. Let's be rational not just idealistic, you can really like a person, but the sex still may not work (don't make me go into details). It seems only possible in a very ideal and out of reality or Catholic world, that someone could say I love you as my wife, without first knowing that sex was something they enjoyed.
This is dated advice. Men will pursue women for sex often, pretending to 'claim' her. It doesn't matter how long she holds out- if his intention is to sleep with her then hit will become a conquest game. People need to stop making women feel bad for having sex. It's ridiculous.
Claim you ?!?. What century is this ??. Solve your problems?! Take care of you ?!? Negotiate the price of a house ?!? WTF !!! I'm responsible for my happiness and taking care of myself. Not any man. Set us back a century
So tell me: what's the point of having a man if he doesn't do anything for you? And the point isn't that you can't do things yourself, but that when a man loves you, he will want to give you everything he can. If you don't receive anything from him you're not letting him love you. It's not a power dynamic, it's a love dynamic, giving and receiving. Which goes both ways.
@GoldChocobo77 want to and can are two very different ideals we must face with men. We can't have it all ladies. Trust me on this! Everybody wants a dream person but try setting up a reality list before you get to the I Do!
I disagree with waiting until marriage. I would never buy a car without taking it for a test drive. All the men I’ve met recently are totally noncommittal and a woman has needs…
Whole my life had sex with a guy on a 2nd or 3rd date. Always they wanted relationships and wanted to commit. Sth is wrong with the pattern in my case 😂
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@@dawnslagowski8375 Feminine energy is not "subservience" as you should always and only follow a man's lead when it feels good to you (such as in a partner dance). If it doesn't feel good to you then that is compliance and not feminine submission. Feminine energy is equally as powerful as masculine energy it is just the polar opposite energy that creates the "juice" chemistry, attraction, passion and devotion in a romantic relationship.
@@dawnslagowski8375 Yes asking permission can be super helpful since it helps to make sure that you're not penetrating your man energetically with masculine energy and can be more respectful and vulnerable. Only a high-value woman feels comfortable asking for permission and asking for help because only a high-value woman believes she is WORTHY of having a man want to help her (she doesn't have to demand/take it or try to manipulate others to get what she wants)
Obviously your not aware of today's dating scene. I'm from tge 1950s. Today it's totally different. That makes it very difficult for women who want to be monogomous. I don't know one man, unless he's manipulating tge situation wants to wait one,two,three months to be sexually intimate. They have too many other options. They classify you as "hot" when you are high value you can't get out of that compartment. Especially as an older woman.
My best friend’s mom used to tell us, “You tell ‘em, “Let me see the paperwork.”. Wise woman.
What it means? I dont get it :(
My husband, pulled the old, my motorcycle broke down in my driveway!!! I gave him a chance to call a buddy to take him home- acted like he couldn't After Id only met him a couple days before I was NOT letting a strange man spend the night in my house. I managed a furniture store, took him over there and locked him in. Plenty of beds dor him to sleep on. The next day, imagine this!! He " fixed" his motorcycle and rode away😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂
Awesome 😂
But clearly, he rode back!
Love this😂😂😂
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Marriage is a God given covenant. Not a piece of paper. I'd also never advise people live together. I'm a follower of the Lord but let me share this for unbelievers: The divorce rate is significantly higher for couples who shacked up than those who didn't. Great video.
You’re absolutely right!
Most marriages stay together for monetary reasons. There's nothing like a whopping insurance policy for a widow that will be sacrificed upon divorce to make an unhappy wife think twice. Feelings of love DO change. Kids don't hold people together anymore (like they should). Although I do think that romantic weddings on tape are a good ritual for cementing people together. Fifteen years later, when you're getting on each other's last nerve, a rerun of that ceremony when you both had stars in your eyes & hope in your heart, will make you think twice before calling attorneys. Maybe 1% are staying together "for God."Til death do us part" vows are a crapshoot. Weddings at casinos make more sense these days than weddings at churches. Although, if there's no money brought to the table
instead of witnesses, they probably should offer lawyers on retainer.
Amen to those who understand God's intended codes of conduct between a man and a woman.
Stats say those marriages fail when living together! Studies show it!
Adam and Eve never heard about marriage this is systemic thing not religious
ALWAYS USE DISCERNMENT,
KEEP GOD FIRST AT ALL TIMES...
SEEK YE" THE KINGDOM OF GOD FIRST AMEN 🙏🏽 AMEN
I’m trying to respond with the statement of “I hear you” ,and then I be quiet and listen to the rest of what he has to say and that has made some of our conversations that much better.
Very nice
A marriage isn't just a piece of paper! It's a deep engagement. Its a legal accord between two adults (or more) to attest of that engagement. The terms of that engagement protect the rights of everyone, especially of the children!
It's only between two people: a man and a woman. Indeed, it s' not just a piece of paper it's a godly union (whether they are religious or not) of two people becoming one flesh.
Hmmm. It is a shame when you have to have a paper over your man to acknowledge or to take care of the children. Genuine feelings are golden, pepper is good at wiping……..no legal paper engagement can substitute for true, honest, genuine relationship. Peace of paper is nothing if you do not have real thing going on in the first place.
@@deeannakim9306 Obviously it has to be real. It's more than a piece of paper.
You’re honestly right about everything. I’ve been studying relationships for like two years gone through a lot of perspective and you are just correct about everything. It’s very helpful for me when I tune back into one of your videos and get a little bit of a reality. Check of how I really need to be showing up in a relationship. It’s really just a huge perspective shift.
You're a gentleman raised by a queen 👑 and your wifeis blessed..❤
This is a lovely comment.
#5 Trust & respect has to be a 1 on 1 situation. Not when a Man only wants this when he won't show his face or come closer to the woman he's undetected in. Long distance doesn't create Trust & respect, it creates distrust & disrespect. I only hear words, I don't see actions!
My ex told me that I was selfish and possessive and controlling because I didn't want to be cheated on. But gave me shit for acting like I wasn't in a relationship. . And when I tried to say how I felt I was told to keep how I feel to myself and that they don't care how I feel and that it's my own fault for how I feel.. and if I ever said something that was bothering me, they said that I was attacking them and made everything about themselves but it was all because he was cheating on me and I wasn't the person that he actually wanted. At least he's happy now. and I'm happy he's out of my life only thing I miss is all my money that he stole from me. And all the time that I wasted with him
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Some advice I know it's wrong to give unsolicited advice, but never date a serial cheater .
Same here❤
Your ex sure has a lot of narcissistic tendencies!
Sounds like a narcissist!
Hi, I would like to express my gratitude for your incredible videos, with so much wisdom in regards to the masculine&feminine. This should be teached in school. I think that maybe 90% of the population of the planet is not aware of all the things that you teach. I bless you and your wife with infinite prosperity and abundance!💫
Wow, thank you and you are so welcome! :)
I realized early on that that man could not be and do what I needed in my life so I let him go so he wouldn’t feel all these future emotions of not being enough. But when I let him go he was so hurt and couldn’t understand why I let him go.
The analogies and explanations in this video were so easy to comprehend. I feel like I embody a lot of these traits, but as someone who is now in the active purposeful dating stage, I value any new advice or perspective so that I can develop a healthy relationship leading to my husband❤ Thank you for this!
I refuse to have sex with anyone unless I feel ready until he has actually proven to me that he can be trusted and care about my well being with my life and health physical and mental health because I personally don't find any man who is constantly putting everything about him to be all about or all into sex is unattractive to me and I have my own personal private problems with sex from not just my past experiences with sex but with the here and now with how men seem to come at me about sex.
All this advices are true and work 100% if with a conservative type of man or stoic! Otherwise may not work completely! but… it’ll always be helpful the advice, thx!
I love these, especially the last one! I am so guilty of doing the opposite. I will now work on expecting the best. I think this could be life changing. Thank you for sharing!
What if you aren’t interested in marriage but want a relationship that includes monogamy and respect?
Same principles apply
I’m not sure why, but the way it’s put for females to be in their feminine energy just makes me feel like you want us to be subservient. I get an ick feeling when you’re talking about us asking permission to speak…like may I ask you a question. I think it could be put in a different way. If someone asked me, can I ask you a question, it would put me on Edge. I have no idea what they’re going to ask me, so how can I agree to it??? I don’t know, It’s just such an icky feeling being put in such a subservient position . I kind of feel like the next thing to be asked of me is, here put on this Burka. Not cool…
It’s not about being subservient which is a perception.
It’s a matter of coming from a place a being curious. When humans are curious by asking questions, the recipient will be more open to responding in a candid way.
Honestly this is a primary communication skill - Be it male or female.
It’s also how you convey the question with tone and body language.
@@dawnslagowski8375 Yes it's really about simply being respectful and not penetrating him energetically which would be masculine energy. A queen is comfortable asking for things from men because she has high self worth and believes that men WANT to give her what she asks for and that she is worthy of that rather than having to take it or force it.
@@MagnetizeYourMan- I haven’t made it through the video, yet, though, one tip I remember from years ago, from Mat Boggs - is to ask a man “Will you (please)..”
That it helps engage a man’s desire/need to be of service, to his lady.
Thank you for the advice & great content
Marriage is not just for convenience or comfortable to show your parents
Imagine you invest time, energy and patience to know someone, holding it to finally find out that sexually it not you expected?
It happens …
It's AWFUL. I became close friends with him, got to trust him, fell deeply in love with the person he is----and the sex was very disappointing. I am open and verbal, told him what I prefer. His response? "This is what 'women' like." He would not hear me, and I just couldn't continue. Otherwise? I would have married him for his other fine qualities. Thank GOD I tried before I buyed!
@@bl7817then there was never true love.
@@CarmenPerez-kz6rw don't you tell ME what true love is. I hear from soooo many women that men are bad in bed. They just don't know how, and don't want to learn. Just as you've never learned how to be nice.
Speaking on #5 there is a big difference between telling someone what to do, and controlling him and trying to change him or solve his problems is not the same as giving someone advice. If a man is coming to me and being vunerable to me telling me his problems I will always listen without analyzing or trying to tell him how to feel but if he’s seeking direction and advice from me I’m going to give it to him
I paused this just to say thank you for saying until ideally marriage. I'm with you on this one! Totally agree. 💜
How about we just be ourselves?!
Because... Relationships. We're all vulnerable in own ways. Everyone is afraid of being hurt.
This is how I feel lol I hate that there’s so many mind games…
Ive always been myself sex early and sex not early. Both methods have worked if it’s meant for you it will happen if it’s not it won’t. PERIOD!!!!
I agree! This is something I have learned. I am celibate. No one is getting anything until they show me that they are serious. Lol
I don't necessarily agree with this as a strict rule. Like men who get to experiment to find out what truly works for them emotionally and physically, women have every right to do likewise. I'm not advocating to have a physical interaction with every man you meet but on the occasion where it might seem like the relationship has possibilities I think it's totally logical to follow it where it leads both emotionally and physically. As someone who had no experience at all, I married the only man I ever had sex with ..but there was something missing for me...he kept saying something was wrong with me and I believed him because men were expected to have previous experience while we ladies, in my era, were taught the opposite is unacceptable for females. Eventually, I realized I loved him but wasn't in love the way I should have been had I done my personal journey sexually. Now, decades later, I know exactly what and who I want both emotionally and physically...not just one without the other in a long term committed relationship. I always tell younger woman to be very careful...but if they feel comfortable with a certain person or enjoy sex they should be very discriminate as to those they truly want to engage physically with...additionally, to explore it further if they are both emotionally and physically fulfilled...not one without the other unless it makes no difference to them...but, women deserve the chance to determine their individual personal happiness and personal sexual satisfaction.
You did excellent. You did it the right way. Had you not been a virgin, you wouldn't be a wife.
The thing is that after intercourse a man could feel the need to continue searching, not be commited to the woman. Just because he fully had her.
@@kingadatoma Likewise a woman should also have that option...how else will one know what fulfills them.
I agree with this. Due to religion I’ve never had intimating but now it’s got to the point where I did it for the first time at such an old age. Not worth the wait.
@@seemu2927 That's truly a shame...now you've lost interest except its never too late if you still were open to meeting someone... it could happen when least expected especially when you aren't even thinking about it.
Thank you for what you do
THANK you. appreciate this video which confirms what I believed.
We're all human.
Communication is key most of all.
But not all people care to communicate literally, with respect. Both partners should always talk with one another, with respect, not casting blame:
Example: When you do this ____, it makes me feel ____. (Something unpleasant)
When I tried using “I” statements, I was called selfish and that I was making everything about me 🤷🏾♀️ instead of empathy. 😅 I guess it didn’t work. We’re not together anymore.
Likely a "broken" man unfortunately not capable of showing masculine care for your heart
Or a narcissist?
@@MagnetizeYourMan "Not capable"...sounds like a cop-out. But I was with my husband for 28 years. Finally, I believed him. Sad, but it was the most valuable thing I've ever done. Glory to God. 🤲
Excellent work done by Allison Armstrong. Loved her book "The Queens Code"
Ok I get what you mean about making it about us (the women) and not him by sharing our emotions and how we FEEL. But what if how we feel is attached to something specifically the man is doing? For example, if he doesn't reply to text, leaving you on read or delivered. I'm currently in this situation and it makes me feel uneasy and anxious. I get the feeling he is not interested HOWEVER when I pulled away and didn't speak or talk with him for months, all he did was watch my stories but never called me or reached out. So when I re-emerged and tried to make it about me and not him (I didn't bring up that it was his nonresponsiveness that made me go silent) he stated that it made him confused about me not coming around anymore. As you stated I didn't want to accuse him of anything but by me not stating that his specific actions made me feel the way I did, I believe it made things worse because now he has withdrawn much more because I muddied the waters by not communicating exactly what I was feeling and WHY, which was because of something he was doing. I guess my issue is, how can I bring up something he did without sounding like I want to change him? He's now stated that he is now hesitant to do anything towards me that will send the wrong message. Is that code for, I don't want to lead you on and make you think there's something there or he doesn't want to pursue because he doesn't feel I want the attention because of how responded by not communicating with him properly in the first place? Smh this is just so confusing.
"Hey, can I tell you (or share) something with you?" He goes...."Sure, wut?" You say, "I feel anxious." He goes..."Why?" You say, "When you don't respond to me, I think you're not interested in gettting to know me. It makes me anxious."
That is, unless you're texting constantly and being annoying. I'd say the above if we were communicating regularly, and he suddenly stopped for a few days.
Do you dance tango? The follower is an active partner. She does not just follow. She co-creates the dance.
Do not have sex with him until he Marry's you!!! Save it for the Wedding Night no matter what this Guy doing the Video says!
Men can claim a lot of things and then you sleep with them and then they change their mind. Respect Yourself and Wait and if he Truly Loves You He will have enough of his own Respect for himself to wait until the Wedding Night.
Bingo!!
Thanks very much very interesting information yes I am never heard about but just use my intuition 👍💯
Very useful advice!❤
Glad it was helpful!
Very insightful. Thank you.
I'm available and ready to support you ❤
God knows our story before we were even born and He knows the ending of our story. ♥️🙏🏼🦋
2:07- you had me at your body pregnant with his child😅
What if he's not taking actions in his life that inspire me to respect him? It's hard to parse out the differences between expecting him to do things to inspire respect within you, or if it's just your standards are too high and what you're expecting is unrealistic... which is which. I guess the answer is leave. I only respect men that are ambitious (going after what they want), KIND even in the face of argument, GENTLE with their woman, generous, giving, moral, upstanding, understanding, capable of being empathetic.
As a woman who married virgin and was extremely neglected sexually for over 20 years, I don’t wanna a man to fall in love with me before I know if we will be sexually compatible.
Because if we are not, I will break his heart.
I think I have a lot of other qualities that would make a man feel in love with me and a mature man will not change his mind about me just because you were intimated specially if er both have a good sex energy and chemistry.
What is meant to be, will be.
What wisdom!
Thanks for your advice. This is how l feel ... In a mature relationship l am supposed to feel free to be myself from a place of mutual love and respect versus having to control what l say or how l say it all the time, l just can't 😊
What if your man is down on his luck and you have to be the one to help support him until he’s back on his feet how does one go about not making him feel less masculine
Precious advice❤
Excellent
THANK YOU SO MUCH...🙏🙏🏾🙏🏼🙏🙏🏾🙏🏼🙌⭐
Thank you ❤
Life is spiritual,if you have sex outside of marriage it will bring curses!
A man shouldn’t need validation three times a day (that’s absurd), if he doesn’t know his own value and needs constant affirmations about how needed and wonderful he is that sounds immature, he’s suppose to be a man not a child.
WOW
100%
Spot on!
Law of attraction!
At last someone who knows what he is talking about, most people now want to jump into bed from the start it’s disrespect to each other, not that long ago people especially men went to sex workers now all they have to do is go on a so called dating site.
I just broke things off with someone who, despite everything else going very well, was pressing me to start having sex with him after only two weeks. Never fail to set boundaries early on, and never hesitate to walk away if your self value is being undermined.
I slept with my long term boyfriend after 2 hours of meeting him. Both him and his family wanted us to get married and I declined him. Bud...Humans bond and connect under the most untraditional circumstances.
Thevex husband I had made me do all the dishes , clean tbe house, take the garbage out. For 22 years married. A terrible abusive man.
Divorced his tail
Were you a house wife? Or working too
I think when you are in a relationship all roles played should be unisex roles. That way you will find equal ground.
Thing is, women struggle being in a feminine energy because we pretty much have to survive this world in our masculine energy. Can’t win tbh.
I know several couples who had sex on the second date and they're still married almost 30 years later. I also meet women who wait several months to have sex and then once they do they get dumped or ghosted soon after.
I've yet to meet anyone that was worth so much effort.....🤣🤣🤣
The readiness needs time of simmering.❤
If he sent massages saying he won't let me down, two time massages, per day . If I am ignoring he is worried, both are different country's. Can I believe him.
I just turned 60. No pregnancy, thank goodness. He conveniently failed to say he is still married even if separated a little over 3 years. For me, priority one.
A relationship with your partner will never ever work out if you have sex before a commitment and marriage.
It's just the way it was ordained n
By Jesus
This is simply not true.
@@tamaratindall1688Marriage was ordained by G-d and it means an intention from both sides to be in a long term committed relationship, a contract was made and signes by 2 witnessess. Now with organized religion it's a bit more of a legal process.
Amen 🙏 For those who have ears, let them hear. And for those who have eyes, let them read.
A very dear friend of mine recently lost her dear husband after over fifty years of marriage. They were expecting and married as teenagers, and were an exceptionally devoted, soul mate couple. My late grandparents, married over sixty years until his demise as well, and many other relatives and friends who were expecting when they got married. Your views may be accurate from your life's view; however, as a counselor, friend and family member, of many couples whom you allude to, it simply isn't true.
Can u pls do a video about : why doe's a guy flys out to u from another country ?
Lol I have in the past. 9 different guys, all ex's all have mentality and physically cheated on me.
So, I have done nothing wrong. Oh, not all people trust.
I always allow a guys to do things on their own, that's how they grow as a person and that's how they become a real man.
Guys have asked me for advice and once I give it, they turn and start cheating on me. Soo, if a man can't do things on their own, and always need the feeling of being wanted, those are the guys, you don't want to be in a relationship with.
I don't like, that a man has too always feel like a hero all the time. Females are strong, and able too fight their own battles. If we need help, we ask for it, a female should not have too make themselves be weak, to make a man feel good for themselves.
A real man, likes it when a female is able to be strong and able to take care of themselves.
Men, should get in touch with themselves, before jumping into a relationship.
I know you are saying, you can't change a man, well a man should stop making a Females change and always make the man feel like the top person. So, like men, Females don't like someone trying to change us.
If you really want to be sure of a partner gjve them 10 years trial brfire marriage. Work out all the chinx in the relationship before the final I do. Tbat is a reasonable time to work through any relationships ebbs and flows. Talk about every topic from A to Z and test its true durability. Its worth the time invested.
No sex till married, do not give advice to a man it’ll feel bad to him, be happy he NEEDS to feel like he can make you happy, expect the best from him believe men want to help (no neg self fulfilling prophecy),
I'm very sorry, but if I'm not feeling well I won't act like nothing has happened and hide my feelings just to make my husband feel like he "did his job and helped me overcome my problem." Men hide their emotions, not woman! Men provide solutions, but we women are sensitive and need understanding and someone who will just listen to us, without telling us what we should do and then simply shifting the focus.. LOL.. It would be nice if you gave men advice on how they should behave to understand their wife, girlfriend or whatever!! I'm tired of always listening to what the women has to do. And what about Men?!
Emphasis on the word dream
5:27- i see
If a man isn’t able to accept constructive criticism or advice from a woman because of his ego or pride, that is not the man for me.
Personally I crave this kind of information from anyone and everyone because I have low ego and care more about improving any and all things above my pride. If that means hearing some bad advice at times, that is what discernment is for. I can’t deal with a man that can’t handle some words because if sparks feelings inside they can’t handle. That is weak.
That being said I have been married for 15 years and my man is beyond happy even with my random advice (when it’s needed or necessary, not not picky and focused on perfection-it’s about balance)
There is a difference between someone needing a fork in the ass vs changing a person. If someone is behaving in a way that is unproductive then it needs to be addressed. If they want to rebel because of this information then they are obviously immature and reacting like a naughty two year old…”well I’ll show you for trying to tell me what to do” 😂 I would run from that man child.
I care less about how a message is delivered and more so the intent behind the words. I can’t deal with babying a grown ass man into a positive direction. I am about giving all the loving and supportive and grateful words and actions for my man whenever I can. That comes naturally without any thought or effort.
I thought it was just replying to the conversation. No advise, ok.
What if I don't want him to claim me. Had sex w a couple of guys recently. They want relationships. Very hard to say no. Rejecting a guy is so dufficult for me...😢
This is why God has sabotaged relationships and dating, because fornication is sin. I repented from all that. I gave my body to God.
Amen. Praise Jesus, I agree❤
Good job u are absolutely on the right track❤❤ Respect
Gods way is best
Ive always been myself sex early and sex not early. Both methods have worked if it’s meant for you it will happen if it’s not it won’t. PERIOD!!!!
Excuse me, how old are you? This thought is either very boomer or very Catholic, but it is impossible for you to know that there is more than attraction, compatibility and admiration, if there is no sexual chemistry. Let's be rational not just idealistic, you can really like a person, but the sex still may not work (don't make me go into details). It seems only possible in a very ideal and out of reality or Catholic world, that someone could say I love you as my wife, without first knowing that sex was something they enjoyed.
how come avoidants don't want to have sex.. weird 🤔
No way, this doesnt happen these days, nope.
Ummmm wouldn’t you want to keep living in the house???? Why is feminine detached when we need protection
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WTH, i FEEL that this man is discriminated against women by saying that too much about gender norms!!!
He is right though.. I’ve seen it up close… specially stepping into control “ taking on the masculine”
First ☝🏼
This is dated advice. Men will pursue women for sex often, pretending to 'claim' her. It doesn't matter how long she holds out- if his intention is to sleep with her then hit will become a conquest game. People need to stop making women feel bad for having sex. It's ridiculous.
Claim you ?!?. What century is this ??. Solve your problems?! Take care of you ?!? Negotiate the price of a house ?!? WTF !!! I'm responsible for my happiness and taking care of myself. Not any man. Set us back a century
So tell me: what's the point of having a man if he doesn't do anything for you? And the point isn't that you can't do things yourself, but that when a man loves you, he will want to give you everything he can. If you don't receive anything from him you're not letting him love you. It's not a power dynamic, it's a love dynamic, giving and receiving. Which goes both ways.
Well said @@GoldChocobo77
You're in the wrong video, then.
@GoldChocobo77 want to and can are two very different ideals we must face with men. We can't have it all ladies. Trust me on this! Everybody wants a dream person but try setting up a reality list before you get to the I Do!
well🤔Unless you’re willing to risk it all & want to try use him just as a sex buddy! which is a different story😸
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I disagree with waiting until marriage. I would never buy a car without taking it for a test drive. All the men I’ve met recently are
totally noncommittal and a woman has needs…
Human r not cars
Gross
Then, this video is not for you.
This relationship advice are out dated. It's more complicated. The #1 is communication, advice from men I've have known.
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Oh FFS. This is horseshit.
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I wouldn't be too happy if I were your wife, knowing you believe marriage is just a piece of paper. And you're giving other people advice?
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If we just want sex and stay free?
Why do woman have to cater to his frigging ego?
Omg
Whole my life had sex with a guy on a 2nd or 3rd date. Always they wanted relationships and wanted to commit. Sth is wrong with the pattern in my case 😂
Bad advice driven by dogma.
I like the advice you’re giving. It’s very helpful. An insight into how a man thinks. Thank you. ♥️
Glad it was helpful!
@@MagnetizeYourMan lol .. even at my age I can learn. Important to have an inquisitive mind.
Thank you 😮@lorraineAmicothemakeupartist