I have applied a lot of tips and advice from your videos into my dating life and it works. It works so well that I got married within 6 months of us dating. ❤
To the ladies who are “nice,” You’re absolutely not being “too nice” or “too kind”-you’re just being yourself. The idea that men don’t like nice or kind women is an oversimplified and, frankly, misguided narrative. What matters is authenticity, and kindness is a core part of who you are. It’s essential to remember that you are showing up as your truest self, which is what someone who resonates with your energy will value the most. If not then leave him alone 🤷🏽♀️❤️ It’s also essential to remember that every “MAN,” is not cut from the same cloth.
Yes and I want to keep it real. So your comment is helpful because I can still be nice but not overly available, accommodating and tolerant of unacceptable behavior. Then if they go they go and if he doesn’t do right I can walk away.
@@winxclubstellamusa I value your perspective. My POINT, however, was to inspire WOMEN to embrace their authenticity and individuality ❤ Happy Holiday.
Great advice. I just think as a woman it's so so so sad I have to treat a man like a boy to get results....its so tiring it's just easier to stay single and pour the love and understanding into myself. I can not raise a grown man. 😢
Im sorry but dating men at this point is very exhausting…. The fact that they like when you’re mean to them says a lot about who they really are. Men also think all women like bad boys which is weird because they wear a good guy mask in the beginning….
All we need to do is match his effort, smile be pleasant and pay attention keep our boundaries and have a nice personal routine that we don’t break for anyone… that’s our self care routine. If he doesn’t plan date then keep his word then he naturally will have to plan another date around our natural weekly routine. ❤🎉
If you say “my plans are scheduled a week in advance and I’ll let you know” he will know you are playing games and if he’s smart he will move on Because you I said you know what your week look like and could have said “I’m not available again until next week Sunday after 2pm. Let me know by this Wednesday Either he re plan and by Wednesday or he just won’t see me and eventually he’s just not that into me and has many other potential ppl to date which is great and he can move on.
It is twisted. I agree. Nice vs people pleasing don’t always go hand in hand. Nice and kind also differ. So I think it’s better to inhibit kindness in the way you move in the world. Speak kindly and direct when necessary.
When you are too nice it sends the message that you are desperate and afraid of losing him, you're operating from fear and it shows. When you are secure in yourself, you're not afraid of asking for what you want and be unapologetic in who you are. Be a little selfish, have confidence in what you bring to the relationship, don't be overextending for a guy and don't accept everything. Have a clear list of the things you're looking for and have clear boundaries.
I listened AND applied your ENTIRE feminine energy series and I’m married now. He put a ring on it and he still chases this 🐈 every single day. Lissen sis! 💖
I was nice and I’m married. Don’t pay bills or anything! If someone wants you, they will treat you well. If they don’t, then they will treat you poorly. It’s up to you on what you allow. Definitely shouldn’t want someone that you have to be a B to get, that will wear off quickly
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
I think you’re right about the value of a “nice” woman. But being a nice woman doesn’t mean being a doormat. And, that’s what this videos about: encouraging women to have boundaries and not be a doormat. It’s not encouraging them to be mean.
You are 100% correct and really this applies to any relationship. I am an auntie (40+). Much of what we think is nice behavior is doormat behavior. Society encourages, your family encourages it. People want you to give them their way in general. When you can be honest with yourself about what you are willing to do and deal with you benefit. A lot of the time we think we are nice when we are "supportive" or "helpful". Men dont need our help and support is just believing in them. They dont NEED what we as women/feminine beings, do. I can promise that any woman getting mistreated has zero boundaries and prides herself on being nice. Because we are taught that boundaries are mean. Its a childish way of thinking, like getting mad at your parents when you were little, but most adults never grow out of that.
Love this video - it's so spot-on!!! Holding your partner accountable, and having boundaries, is extremely important... and as you said, so is affirming him and reinforcing him (with love/affection + words of affirmation) when he does a great job with this. I'm baffled at people who have commented that it's having to "treat your man like a child" or "raise him." Quite the contrary - this is treating him like a mature adult. I expect the same, in my other non-romantic relationships.
I dealt with this guy for years, we we were friend's with benefits. I put up with everything. He came over one day with all his snacks. I asked what did you get me he said nothing. I said ok, the next time you come over ask if I want something. He came over, didnt bring me anything. I wouldnt let him in. Didnt respond to text or calls for awhile. He never did that again. We latered ended up dating and in a relationship. He always took care of me.
Wow.. Thanks for sharing your experience. It's a learning for me... We teach people how to treat you.. I was always single never understood relationship psychology... I was over giving always sacrificing
Now this is the MJ Harris I know. I used to binge watch your femininity and love videos in 2020 and now I’m back. I love your advices and they help in relationships and work. Xx happy holidays❤. Sending love from Jamaica 🇯🇲
I was too nice, he trampled me and broke my heart then expected forgiveness becasue he knew how much i adored him, i didnt want to hide it, i feel like the workd knew how much i loved him, then he betryayed me 😮 dumped his ass quick, our baby was just 2 months old 😢 he absolutely tore me to shreds emotionally and for what ? Because i was "too nice" nonetheless ive learnt my lesson, never give too much / more than you are willing to lose x
You always come at the right time! I have fell off and haven’t seen your videos in soo long !! I have been going through something so bad and not eating in 3 days and your video came as a suggestion ! Soo grateful I’m back on track now and need this. What sucks is the dude wasn’t the greatest catch yet I got played
You CAN be yourself. But whenever they do something you don't approve of, don't be afraid to show it, and tell them. Men appreciate correction, and love praise when they do something right ✅️
You can. From what I have observed, he's right. My Mom has a man devoted to her and our family and she does anything she wants. She has him super trained. My Mom's sisters are very over accommodating and their men strung them along and did any and everything for 30 years just to leave them high and dry after they spent their youth with them.
You can, but the key is to find a man who feels you are out of their league. Find a man you're not that attracted to and you'll naturally be a challenge
I like how you clarify at the end of the video that this is NOT intended to manipulate men. It’s speak to your character and the intention behind your videos. Thank you! 💙💙💙
Learned this the hard way and lost the love of my life because I overgave and he got bored of me. Looking back his biggest compliment was I was “such a nice person.” And that’s not what I wanted. He dumped me blindsidingly after 3 years. We’ve been no contact since July and I just want him to come back but I don’t think he will. My silence doesn’t seem to mean anything to him. I’m mad. I’m so mad I was so nice. It made him bored of me or something. He doesn’t even seem to miss me.
@Iloveorliandwicked i wouldn't be so mad at yourself. He just wasn't into you. Had nothing to do with how nice or not nice you were had everything to do with him just wanting different. There is nothing wrong with that. it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you or that you did anything wrong. It simply means you two were not on the same page. Never change yourself for a man or for anyone. You'll know you have found the one when you can be exactly who you are and it's appreciated fully good bad and ugly.. But...until you find that unconditional love from someone else you first have to find it in yourself. And from you being mad for being yourself well it means you haven't started the journey of self-love to attain love from others so get to work. Love yourself like you love others. Appreciate who you are first..remember you are a mirror that reflects how you feel about yourself to others and that shows through the strongest no matter how nice you are.
@ @appreciate the kind words but I was able to be exactly who I was and he was very into me. He loved me. We got through some pretty tough and amazing things together, good bad and ugly of each other. We were together years. He’s got dismissive avoidant attachment style and there were a lot of outside factors that seemed to influence his abrupt decision.
That’s one perspective, but another perspective is that masculine and feminine energy operate very differently. Therefore, you get far better results out of masculine energy if you operate in a way that inspires them to give you what you want.
Thanks for the advice, but I don’t want to be with a narcissist that won’t appreciate me unless I manipulate him. Spiritually and mentally evolved men just want someone respectful they can trust.
I am new here I am very in awe with your intelligence,, Very grateful for your insight which is powerful The intricacies are on point. I really love your articulation of the information provided for us , will be implementing when I get back into the dating scene .💯💕💕💕
You’re probably right and this is so difficult for me I’m trying to recover from being nice at 34 😅 And it is hard. I feel like i can’t attract anyone and none of this would work. Women are just so replaceable
It's not being difficult per se .... Much of what women are taught is nice is actually being a doormat. Anytime you allow something to slide that you don't like it when you are always helping people and being overly supportive, that is not nice. You can be kind and have limits.
There are boundaries and there are games! Anything other than authenticity can’t be sustained! Men who need you to be difficult or need obstacles are not regulated or imbalanced! No here for the “damsel in distress “ narrative. I’m not masculine but I’m not weak minded and won’t pretend to be.
Dam. This was very high quality info! Thank you! (Just found this channel). Really takes balls and confidence to pull off every tip you gave but ill definitely try. Also, something you said really hit me as a wake up moment - i try and be aware of not emmasculating men but in the ways i knew of....i definitely "argue" (meaning rxplaining and digging in- not yelling etc) But .....youre right...i completely annihilate them. I could tell by their face and their energy they feel emasculated by me and men are intimated by me but i could never figure out why since i try to be respectful ....i think this may be it 😅😭🥴
It’s a powerful shift when you start to see how your energy impacts men, and then learn to adjust it in a way that allows them to step up as leaders. It can be a real wake-up call, but it’s a good one!
Sooooo I’m 30 and, I’ve been talking to this 47yr old. He is big on socializing with people especially with his sorority sisters. Like we got into a huge fight over that to me he’s too close to them. It makes me uncomfortable because I’ve never called my male friend “babe” but he calls his sorority sisters that. Like this past week i was with him and he didn’t pick up the phone when they call. I don’t want to jump to conclusions because I’m use to dudes being sneaky. How do i fully explain to him how I feel without sound insecure? I know frat bros and their sorority sisters are cool. I wanna trust him but idk. When we got into it i shut down first i will admit but it was like when we did try to talk he over talk me and was like “next time try communicating to me like an adult”
I love your videos and I have been told this before because I have been known to be too nice . What do you do when you like someone and can talk on the phone for hours he makes sure my car is good and I am good if I'm sick but he doesn't spend much time with me and tells me he wants things to gradually happen. How can I get him to want to spend time with me ?
So… what you’re saying is… I have to be that 17 year old mean girl who treated dudes like s$&t? So… what you’re saying is play games? Nah, not doing that. If I have to act difficult in order for him to take me seriously then there’s something wrong with that man and I should stay away from that individual because what guy doesn’t want a girl that is not difficult or “nice”? Now, I’m. Not saying to be a door mate, be yourself and continue to be kind and welcoming and understanding. Use discernment to vet him, if he reciprocated it and is not giving you a hard time , then move forward , if he doesn’t then do what you need to do.
My question is I’m talking to a guy. Fairly successful guy. We were friends for 20 years prior fyi. Anyway, he wants to be in a long distance relationship but hasn’t shown me that he has potential to be a provider. No real evidence of how my life would be easier especially financially with him. In 4/5 months of talking he’s prob sent $300 total. Just kinda stingy. I don’t ask men for money typically but I’m used to men offering more for girl maintenance here and there or whatever. I mentioned to him I needed new tires. His response was get that done asap. I don’t need you riding around with the kids with bad tires. NEVER SENT A DIME but kept telling me to take it to the dealership. He knows I’m a divorced woman with kids (involved father) and I’ve mentioned how hard it’s been financially recently. His response was but usually women come out better after a divorce (he’s divorced) or but you’re a professional woman. He says after I commit that’s when he provides but that’s backwards to me. Am I wrong?
@ he said I was the one and talked about getting accounts together. I think he’s hesitant to spend much money without a relationship which I understand but I’m not getting into a relationship with a man who doesn’t provide. I’ve mentally checked out. I already got the tires. He just isn’t generous or provides solutions.
Wow men giving us advice and he had good advice but just this is crazy cause society taught us these masculine traits while the men feminine traits and it’s backwards af where we really need this advice we should already know as women but appreciate what you giving 😂
I have applied a lot of tips and advice from your videos into my dating life and it works. It works so well that I got married within 6 months of us dating. ❤
That's amazing! I'm so happy for you! ❤❤❤❤
Love that for you!! ❤
This is very informative and congratulations to u !I will follow and see what happens ❤
To the ladies who are “nice,”
You’re absolutely not being “too nice” or “too kind”-you’re just being yourself. The idea that men don’t like nice or kind women is an oversimplified and, frankly, misguided narrative. What matters is authenticity, and kindness is a core part of who you are. It’s essential to remember that you are showing up as your truest self, which is what someone who resonates with your energy will value the most. If not then leave him alone 🤷🏽♀️❤️ It’s also essential to remember that every “MAN,” is not cut from the same cloth.
Well said 💯💯💯
Yes and I want to keep it real. So your comment is helpful because I can still be nice but not overly available, accommodating and tolerant of unacceptable behavior.
Then if they go they go and if he doesn’t do right I can walk away.
You’ve missed the entire point…
@@winxclubstellamusa I value your perspective. My POINT, however, was to inspire WOMEN to embrace their authenticity and individuality ❤ Happy Holiday.
💯
Great advice.
I just think as a woman it's so so so sad I have to treat a man like a boy to get results....its so tiring it's just easier to stay single and pour the love and understanding into myself.
I can not raise a grown man. 😢
👑 ❤😊
100%
Right! I’m a teacher and this is exactly how I deal with misbehavior. I’m repulsed.
All these games. Some men are so exhausting. I would rather be alone and happy.
Me too. Enjoying my peace and career.
Im sorry but dating men at this point is very exhausting…. The fact that they like when you’re mean to them says a lot about who they really are. Men also think all women like bad boys which is weird because they wear a good guy mask in the beginning….
Yup but then they go after mean or uncaring, or promiscuous women then play the victim. THEY don't like nice girls.
He’s not describing your man or mine… I do this psycho babble mind play.
Either he comes healed and whole or leave me alone.
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All we need to do is match his effort, smile be pleasant and pay attention
keep our boundaries and have a nice personal routine that we don’t break for anyone… that’s our self care routine.
If he doesn’t plan date then keep his word then he naturally will have to plan another date around our natural weekly routine.
❤🎉
If you say “my plans are scheduled a week in advance and I’ll let you know” he will know you are playing games and if he’s smart he will move on
Because you I said you know what your week look like and could have said “I’m not available again until next week Sunday after 2pm. Let me know by this Wednesday
Either he re plan and by Wednesday or he just won’t see me and eventually he’s just not that into me and has many other potential ppl to date which is great and he can move on.
It is twisted. I agree. Nice vs people pleasing don’t always go hand in hand. Nice and kind also differ. So I think it’s better to inhibit kindness in the way you move in the world. Speak kindly and direct when necessary.
When you are too nice it sends the message that you are desperate and afraid of losing him, you're operating from fear and it shows. When you are secure in yourself, you're not afraid of asking for what you want and be unapologetic in who you are. Be a little selfish, have confidence in what you bring to the relationship, don't be overextending for a guy and don't accept everything. Have a clear list of the things you're looking for and have clear boundaries.
I listened AND applied your ENTIRE feminine energy series and I’m married now. He put a ring on it and he still chases this 🐈 every single day. Lissen sis! 💖
I'm so happy for you! It's truly amazing to see how these principles work in real life. 💖
Like my grandma used to say to me about how her 50+ year marriage lasted so long with my grandpa: the worst you treat him the more he like it.
Exactly 💯
And if you are too nice they think you are like that with any and every man. So being cordial is proper it is a big difference
It's asinine, really 😵💫
"The more you want him, the more challenging you need to be!"
I was nice and I’m married. Don’t pay bills or anything! If someone wants you, they will treat you well. If they don’t, then they will treat you poorly. It’s up to you on what you allow. Definitely shouldn’t want someone that you have to be a B to get, that will wear off quickly
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
I'm so sorry to hear about your breakup. It's never easy to let go, especially when you've invested so much time and love into a relationship.
@@MJHarrisSpeaksit's a bot. I've seen this on another video. Exact same message.
Nice woman allows growth. Mean and controlling woman limit you and blocks gains. A nice woman is a blessing.
I think you’re right about the value of a “nice” woman. But being a nice woman doesn’t mean being a doormat. And, that’s what this videos about: encouraging women to have boundaries and not be a doormat. It’s not encouraging them to be mean.
Nah. Nice women get played.
Y'all don't know what to do with a sweet woman 😂
Amen
You are 100% correct and really this applies to any relationship. I am an auntie (40+). Much of what we think is nice behavior is doormat behavior. Society encourages, your family encourages it. People want you to give them their way in general. When you can be honest with yourself about what you are willing to do and deal with you benefit. A lot of the time we think we are nice when we are "supportive" or "helpful". Men dont need our help and support is just believing in them. They dont NEED what we as women/feminine beings, do. I can promise that any woman getting mistreated has zero boundaries and prides herself on being nice. Because we are taught that boundaries are mean. Its a childish way of thinking, like getting mad at your parents when you were little, but most adults never grow out of that.
Very interesting points you made
That’s right! Stay unbothered ❤
Love this video - it's so spot-on!!! Holding your partner accountable, and having boundaries, is extremely important... and as you said, so is affirming him and reinforcing him (with love/affection + words of affirmation) when he does a great job with this. I'm baffled at people who have commented that it's having to "treat your man like a child" or "raise him." Quite the contrary - this is treating him like a mature adult. I expect the same, in my other non-romantic relationships.
It's about mutual respect and understanding, and it's great that you recognize that!
So glad you’re back to making these types of videos ❤❤
I'm so glad you're enjoying the content!
I dealt with this guy for years, we we were friend's with benefits. I put up with everything.
He came over one day with all his snacks. I asked what did you get me he said nothing. I said ok, the next time you come over ask if I want something.
He came over, didnt bring me anything.
I wouldnt let him in. Didnt respond to text or calls for awhile. He never did that again. We latered ended up dating and in a relationship. He always took care of me.
It’s awesome that you found your power and set that boundary!
Wow.. Thanks for sharing your experience. It's a learning for me... We teach people how to treat you.. I was always single never understood relationship psychology... I was over giving always sacrificing
Now this is the MJ Harris I know. I used to binge watch your femininity and love videos in 2020 and now I’m back. I love your advices and they help in relationships and work. Xx happy holidays❤. Sending love from Jamaica 🇯🇲
Thanks for the support! Glad you're back and still finding my advice helpful. ❤
MJ Harris been giving good advice for yearsssssss
This is true. The meaner you are the more they follow you. Idk why! I have a guy who wants me even if I say leave me alone and low key I like him.
I was too nice, he trampled me and broke my heart then expected forgiveness becasue he knew how much i adored him, i didnt want to hide it, i feel like the workd knew how much i loved him, then he betryayed me 😮 dumped his ass quick, our baby was just 2 months old 😢 he absolutely tore me to shreds emotionally and for what ? Because i was "too nice" nonetheless ive learnt my lesson, never give too much / more than you are willing to lose x
Thanks for sending me this link I really needed this information
I'm glad you found it helpful! ❤
MJ please more videos like this on relationships!!! Ur the Best!!!💖🔥
Am so tired of the games people play!!! Wish people would grow the F up!!
👍🏽👍🏽👏🏽👏🏽
You always come at the right time! I have fell off and haven’t seen your videos in soo long !! I have been going through something so bad and not eating in 3 days and your video came as a suggestion ! Soo grateful I’m back on track now and need this. What sucks is the dude wasn’t the greatest catch yet I got played
I'm so glad this video came at the right time for you! You're a powerful woman, and you deserve someone who sees that.
@ so grateful you replied to my comment! Needed this so bad! Thank you so very much
Men like women who don't like them
Why can't you just be your self
Because they get bored when you're too nice🤷♀️
You CAN be yourself. But whenever they do something you don't approve of, don't be afraid to show it, and tell them. Men appreciate correction, and love praise when they do something right ✅️
You can. From what I have observed, he's right. My Mom has a man devoted to her and our family and she does anything she wants. She has him super trained. My Mom's sisters are very over accommodating and their men strung them along and did any and everything for 30 years just to leave them high and dry after they spent their youth with them.
You can, but the key is to find a man who feels you are out of their league. Find a man you're not that attracted to and you'll naturally be a challenge
@@andrealustig3547😊 interesting approach. Thank you for this knowledge!
Thank you for this!
I learned the hard way.
I like how you clarify at the end of the video that this is NOT intended to manipulate men. It’s speak to your character and the intention behind your videos. Thank you! 💙💙💙
I needed to listen to this
Thank you MJ for all your relationship advice.
Learned this the hard way and lost the love of my life because I overgave and he got bored of me. Looking back his biggest compliment was I was “such a nice person.” And that’s not what I wanted.
He dumped me blindsidingly after 3 years.
We’ve been no contact since July and I just want him to come back but I don’t think he will. My silence doesn’t seem to mean anything to him.
I’m mad. I’m so mad I was so nice. It made him bored of me or something. He doesn’t even seem to miss me.
@Iloveorliandwicked i wouldn't be so mad at yourself. He just wasn't into you. Had nothing to do with how nice or not nice you were had everything to do with him just wanting different. There is nothing wrong with that. it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you or that you did anything wrong. It simply means you two were not on the same page.
Never change yourself for a man or for anyone. You'll know you have found the one when you can be exactly who you are and it's appreciated fully good bad and ugly.. But...until you find that unconditional love from someone else you first have to find it in yourself. And from you being mad for being yourself well it means you haven't started the journey of self-love to attain love from others so get to work. Love yourself like you love others. Appreciate who you are first..remember you are a mirror that reflects how you feel about yourself to others and that shows through the strongest no matter how nice you are.
@ @appreciate the kind words but I was able to be exactly who I was and he was very into me. He loved me. We got through some pretty tough and amazing things together, good bad and ugly of each other. We were together years. He’s got dismissive avoidant attachment style and there were a lot of outside factors that seemed to influence his abrupt decision.
@Iloveorliandwicked well hey I'm glad you see his decision was more of a him thing and not a you thing.
Yaasss!! Needed it so much! Thanksss
This advice is EVERYTHING! Thank you darling 😘 🎉
Thank you MJ, but I’m already exhausted just thinking about doing all this 😓
It takes work, but it's worth it! You're worth the effort. 💕
Happy Holidays!! This is good!! Thanks for sharing 🥰
Wishing you happy holidays too! 😊
I could not click on this video fast enough! I’ve always been too nice and you are absolutely right.
This is great advice. Thanks.😊
U r such a precious being. Thank you for this video
Honey you have skills !! I love your style and classy ways, for sure I can learn a lot !! 🥰
Thank you! I'm glad you enjoy the style of my videos. 😊
I agree, I'm a nice girl, sweet, kind, and they leave you. They instead want those girls who don't give a dang, they cheat and are rude 😂😂😂
This was amazing 🎉🎉...
MJ is back with gold 💎💎🔥🔥
Thanks for the tips
Thoroughly enjoyed Thank You
💯🎯 I just learned in my last relationship that I’m doing it all wrong.
Now I'm not nice and don't want them.
Too many games. Too many logistics.
That’s one perspective, but another perspective is that masculine and feminine energy operate very differently. Therefore, you get far better results out of masculine energy if you operate in a way that inspires them to give you what you want.
If I have to do all this thinking for both OF US... I'll just chill...because it's too much just to get appreciation and consideration from a partner.
Thanks for the advice, but I don’t want to be with a narcissist that won’t appreciate me unless I manipulate him. Spiritually and mentally evolved men just want someone respectful they can trust.
“What is the guidebook for dealing with you” YES 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 oooooo that’s a good one.
They want what they can’t have ❤
Mj your looking great love your hair have a great HOLIDAY your the best. Always on point truth spoken.😊❤🌲🌲❤️
Thanks so much! I appreciate your kind words and I'm wishing you a wonderful holiday season as well!
Thank you for this, MJ!! 🩷🩷🩷
I'm glad you found it helpful! 🩷
Well said! Thank you ☺️
You're welcome! I'm glad you found it helpful.
The last time I saw one of your videos you had a bald head. Love the new look . Great advice as usual ❤
New season and new look! 😂Thanks so much! I'm glad you're enjoying the new look and the advice! ❤❤❤
Boundaries are so important ❤
Thank you so much!! I'm learning!!❤❤❤
I'm so glad you're finding it helpful! 😊
I go through phases where I over function and when I go sit the hell down 😂 works okay for me
I am new here I am very in awe with your intelligence,, Very grateful for your insight which is powerful The intricacies are on point. I really love your articulation of the information provided for us , will be implementing when I get back into the dating scene .💯💕💕💕
Thank you for the kind words! I'm glad you found the information valuable.
You are amazing, MJ. Your advice is always the best. Thank you, darling )
Love your hair like this!❤
I appreciate that! 💕
You’re probably right and this is so difficult for me
I’m trying to recover from being nice at 34 😅
And it is hard. I feel like i can’t attract anyone and none of this would work. Women are just so replaceable
Same girl and I’m 35!
Omg 😳 this hair color and hair cut took you back into look like a teenager - I was like who is this kid lol - I love it
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Thank you for you great videos. I have been following you for years. 😊
Thanks for your continued support! I appreciate it. 😊
I don’t know how to be difficult. I always be nice girl.
It's not being difficult per se .... Much of what women are taught is nice is actually being a doormat. Anytime you allow something to slide that you don't like it when you are always helping people and being overly supportive, that is not nice. You can be kind and have limits.
When u think about it nobody likes somebody else hats too nice. Women don’t want the nice guy, they want the confident, masculine, attractive man
There are boundaries and there are games! Anything other than authenticity can’t be sustained! Men who need you to be difficult or need obstacles are not regulated or imbalanced! No here for the “damsel in distress “ narrative. I’m not masculine but I’m not weak minded and won’t pretend to be.
Thanks a lot❤ that was great video😊
You're welcome! I'm glad you found it helpful. 😊
Arrived at the perfect timing
Dam. This was very high quality info! Thank you! (Just found this channel). Really takes balls and confidence to pull off every tip you gave but ill definitely try. Also, something you said really hit me as a wake up moment - i try and be aware of not emmasculating men but in the ways i knew of....i definitely "argue" (meaning rxplaining and digging in- not yelling etc)
But .....youre right...i completely annihilate them. I could tell by their face and their energy they feel emasculated by me and men are intimated by me but i could never figure out why since i try to be respectful ....i think this may be it 😅😭🥴
It’s a powerful shift when you start to see how your energy impacts men, and then learn to adjust it in a way that allows them to step up as leaders. It can be a real wake-up call, but it’s a good one!
Thank you 💜
I'm glad you found it helpful! 💜
Sitting! 💜
Hey MJ
Besides, I've dated men who didn't expect too much from because they liked me.and treated me so well..
Missed you ❤ thank u, as a mas guy i can use more fem energy
Glad this resonated with you! I think we all have a little feminine energy inside us! 😉
Amen preach it,
Sage advice
Haven’t seen your beautiful face in a couple years love to see it Merry Christmas❤❤
I just really love you ❤😊 merry Christmas
Thank you! Merry Christmas to you too! 😊
ive been told im a handful so i think im on the right path
Love this vid this is real facts ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Sooooo I’m 30 and, I’ve been talking to this 47yr old. He is big on socializing with people especially with his sorority sisters. Like we got into a huge fight over that to me he’s too close to them. It makes me uncomfortable because I’ve never called my male friend “babe” but he calls his sorority sisters that. Like this past week i was with him and he didn’t pick up the phone when they call. I don’t want to jump to conclusions because I’m use to dudes being sneaky. How do i fully explain to him how I feel without sound insecure? I know frat bros and their sorority sisters are cool. I wanna trust him but idk. When we got into it i shut down first i will admit but it was like when we did try to talk he over talk me and was like “next time try communicating to me like an adult”
I love your videos and I have been told this before because I have been known to be too nice . What do you do when you like someone and can talk on the phone for hours he makes sure my car is good and I am good if I'm sick but he doesn't spend much time with me and tells me he wants things to gradually happen. How can I get him to want to spend time with me ?
Ignore him sometimes. Don't be too available and stop always responding to his calls/texts.
I think it's time to start putting yourself first and not doing so much for him, so that he can feel the power of your absence.
AMAZINGGGG MJ you’re great ❤thank you boooo
I agree this happened to me recently
So… what you’re saying is… I have to be that 17 year old mean girl who treated dudes like s$&t? So… what you’re saying is play games? Nah, not doing that. If I have to act difficult in order for him to take me seriously then there’s something wrong with that man and I should stay away from that individual because what guy doesn’t want a girl that is not difficult or “nice”? Now, I’m. Not saying to be a door mate, be yourself and continue to be kind and welcoming and understanding. Use discernment to vet him, if he reciprocated it and is not giving you a hard time , then move forward , if he doesn’t then do what you need to do.
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Yeah, this video is right on mf time. Thanks unc unc! 💛
Glad this resonated with you! 💛
My question is I’m talking to a guy. Fairly successful guy. We were friends for 20 years prior fyi. Anyway, he wants to be in a long distance relationship but hasn’t shown me that he has potential to be a provider. No real evidence of how my life would be easier especially financially with him.
In 4/5 months of talking he’s prob sent $300 total. Just kinda stingy. I don’t ask men for money typically but I’m used to men offering more for girl maintenance here and there or whatever. I mentioned to him I needed new tires. His response was get that done asap. I don’t need you riding around with the kids with bad tires. NEVER SENT A DIME but kept telling me to take it to the dealership. He knows I’m a divorced woman with kids (involved father) and I’ve mentioned how hard it’s been financially recently. His response was but usually women come out better after a divorce (he’s divorced) or but you’re a professional woman. He says after I commit that’s when he provides but that’s backwards to me. Am I wrong?
Depends how serious of a relationship...sounds like he doesn't feel that it is yet...get your tires done yourself or this could be a test.
@ he said I was the one and talked about getting accounts together. I think he’s hesitant to spend much money without a relationship which I understand but I’m not getting into a relationship with a man who doesn’t provide. I’ve mentally checked out. I already got the tires. He just isn’t generous or provides solutions.
@@Mermaid03_03he’s playing games with you cut contact and move on
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they like everything, theyre for everybody
I miss you videos
I think being too nice being sweet is different then being a pressed thirsty person who over functions 😅. I agree with my you love the new hair bae ❤❤
I think you're right. There's a difference between being kind and being a doormat! 😊
PEOPLE ARE CRAZY...
I DON'T LIVE TO PLEASE MEN"...I HAVE MY OWN LIFE OF INTERGRITY...😊
4:30 I’ll let you know will have to suffice 😂
I don't even know how to NOT BE NICE 😢
You remind me of myself bestie 😉❤
Wow men giving us advice and he had good advice but just this is crazy cause society taught us these masculine traits while the men feminine traits and it’s backwards af where we really need this advice we should already know as women but appreciate what you giving 😂