There are many couple's who yearn for a child and then there are couple's who are willingly giving this up. May Allah make our hearts soft towards Him. Ameen
I was pregnant in November 2019 had an abortion in March 2020 I never ever wanted to have one I wanted to so much t have my baby I was so happy .. But when I told my bf he was nervous and upset made me have an abortion wasn’t there at all to support me when I went through so much physical and mental pain. I was so confused and felt like I made a decision without thinking.. I cried and cried and cried and was told by him to “get over that shit”. I’m still so very hurt and I feel so much resentment. I felt so alone and I pray that god forgives me because I feel so evil for what I did. I wish everyday to take it back.
So basically I am going straight to hell. May ALLAH SWT forgive me for my sins for I what I have done 20yrs ago. In this dunya i am paying the price. I know already. I can only as that all MIGHTY CREATOR ALLAH SWT only ALLAH KNOWS my sufferings. Only ALLAH will know my fate. I make my duas, prayers in my ways. I’m not perfect by all means. I seek refuge and I’m thankful for the greatness of what ALLAH has granted me. For only ALLAH will I shall answer to on the day of judgment. I can only imagine Jannah may ask ALLAH for ALLAH the all knowing alhmouduillah will help guide me in this dunya.
Allah puts the soul into the fetus at 120 days. If your bf wasn't ready and didn't want a baby t tell him to shag prostitutes who use contraception. Why are you sleeping around out of marraige cant u wait. I see it as your both in the wrong. May Allah Swt forgive us all. th-cam.com/video/s5T0nMwRw_o/w-d-xo.html
Love, please leave him if you haven't already then go from there. Ask Allah for guidance and trust that he will lead you to better, whatever that may be.🌹
The Quran says *"Don't abort/kill your children just because you can't afford it."* I'm American so I don't know the Arabic verse, but we are told not to kill our children simply because we think we can't afford it. Allah will provide.
@@heartsxday "Just." Naturally, a wide area for scholarly contestation. This can vary greatly between madhabs. Dude, you'd be surprised, but the internet has a wealth of information on this issue from reputable sources...
Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullah! Why aren't there "That's messed up" episodes anymore? It was so enlightening! Please, bring it back if you can, jazakumu Llahu khayran.
This is where Christians and Muslims of sound minds can come together. I can't understand people killing innocent lives. Thank you for putting this on the channel. Maybe it will save a little one from death.
The circumstances of a persons conception (eg, rape or incest), which is ouside our control, does NOT justify killing an innocent and vulnerable human child in the womb, which is supposed to be the most loving and safest place for every child.
What about the mothers though? The responsibility of the father’s actions should never be thrown at the child AND INCLUDING THE MOTHER. Why should a 12 year old girl be forced to go through 9 months of pregnancy and give birth and nurture a baby when she’s still a child herself? A child that has been robbed of her childhood and peace of mind and now she’ll forever have a reminder of that traumatic event, she’ll never recover mentally.
@@rahafalkhaldi1897 Its a terrible thing for any woman or child to go through and she deserves all the love and support to help her heal and be comforted. But that CANNOT be achieved at the expense of deliberately killing her child, who is innocent. If we dont even give the rapist, the death sentence, yet how can we possibly consider death for the innocent child? Even in the most terrible of situations, we cannot kill innocent people, just because we think it will alleviate our ouwn trauma. There ARE other ways to help victims, heal from the violance of rape. Abortion is a violent act on an innocent child, and we cannot solve psycholigical trauma by inflicting violence and death on innnocent parties, especially if they are vulnerable children. We HAVE to do the right thing EVEN in the hardest of circumstances, because that is the mother's child too, dont forget. And many women often find healing and strength from their child. And if she cant, then she can at least give the child for adoption. There are also many women have been raped by the father of their children, and yet they love their children, no matter what, EVEN if they look JUST like the man who raped her. Should it be ok to kill those children as well, just because they remind the mother of their rapist father?
i would never do it again and i would teach and be there for my baby girl so she would never ever do that like her mummy. her mummy is bad and evil evil i wont forgive myself but i promise to always be there for my baby
So what about childfree muslims? People who never want children, do not have a maternal and paternal instincts? If one doesn’t have a love towards any baby and children, he or she cannot marry? If not, is it okay for a child to have parents that never want to care and love them? So messed up.
Cherry Blossom My question was asked to Nouman Ali Khan. But since you wrote your opinion about my comment, I would ask you several questions. 1) You are calling it Islamic rule, so where can I find the verse in Quran about your statement, that a couple cannot stop reproduction permanently? 2) While birth control is not 100% effective, how come a couple MUST have an unprotected intercourse? 3) Why do you think if a child is a blessing for you, that it can be same to other people? 4) Parents must raise a child, since they gave them a birth, so if one doesn’t want to become a parent they will do their best to prevent having them. Hating someone and forcing yourself to love him/her doesn’t seem like a healthy solution, since the consequences can cause negative impacts on the psychology of both sides, maybe for you it’s normal? 5) Being single (unmarried) is something that normally muslims avoid since it can lead to zina, so are you supporting zina in this case? And lastly, you wouldn’t want if there were children unloved by their parents...
@@boogerboy1271 Once the process of said "clump" becoming a child begins, they are _alive._ Not as sentient as a fetus or an infant, but still very much alive, and considered a _potential child._
Subhanallah I just had this discussion with a non Muslim friend of mine yesterday. She told me children are "expensive"! I was astonished when she said that. I've never ever thought of my child or anyone else's as an "expense". I told her I don't believe that, if God gives you the blessing of a child God will find a way for you to take care of them. It's so sad how the non Muslims think, I then realised they don't understand the concepts of Barakah and rizq. Times like that I truly wish that the whole world was Muslim.
I understand what you're saying. However I think by expensive, maybe your friend meant that it requires a person to be financially stable to provide a good means of a lifestyle in today's day. In many cases of poverty, parents have multiple children and cannot provide education, food, or any necessities. Rather some ppl believe it is best to have a few children and provide them with the best lifestyle. Also, I agree that aborting after a life is given is in a way wrong. Alongside, sex education should be something people must be aware about before intercourse. This way if they know they might have troubles raising children or providing, they don't need to take a life after, better to think and act before.
+Aimen Fatima I agree with you to a point regarding what my friend said. We don't live in a third world country where it's hard to provide for your kids, we live in Sydney and Alhamdulillah we are by the means. That's why I was astonished because she genuinely believes that two kids are expensive. Whereas a Muslim knows that's far from the case and Allah will give you. It totally explains why we are the only ones increasing the ummah! You very rarely see non Muslims in the west with more than 2 or 3 kids where as many Muslim families have 5 or 6 children Masha Allah. Also, here in Sydney the non Muslims like to spoil there kids and give them iPads and nintendos and every did they want. To me that's not giving your child the best life that's just teaching them to feed their nafs! Non Muslims have a different concept of what's good for a child I think, but I can't also generalise as I've seen Muslims do the very same thing!
Lovethe Deen I agree :) But yes I understand what u mean,providing a good life for your children vs providing unnecessary materialistic things are 2 different things, hence the "expense" in one situation would obviously be more if you think you must raise your child with many material things. But in today's day parents don't want their children to feel short of anything which I guess is fine, but as a final point, I just think education on sex is important, ppl shouldn't regret children once they've entered this world. It's important to think about this before so the need to think or act upon decisions like abortion doesn't come across.
there are many Muslims living and raising their children in poverty. I am not saying this to justify abortion, I am against abortion, we are not to decide who should live or who should die. But I wouldn't judge poeple who use contraception and delay having kids. If someone grew up in poverty they may be scared of same fate for their kids, it is totally understandable. I don't think that being Muslim or non-Muslim has anything to do with it.
subhanallah , very significant topic. we need such discussion because many people's are going through such situation. may allah (swt) protect us from the evil deeds due to our ignorance
When my ex -wife was pragnant for our first daughter, i was serieusly thinking for an abortion.Because ,i thought ,she is young and we have to make carrier ect. After a while and because of my mother ...Elhamdulillah i didn't have such a crime... And now i have no regret even i m now divorced with my ex wife. Everthing will be allright.Allah is great.That is all.
+prins74 It makes a HUGE difference as far as the legal system that administrates the divorce. in America you get screwed over in a divorce involving a kid with a mentally unstable partner (hence reason for divorce). I am happy you are able to raise your child in peace. Salaam
It is the same as in USA Sir. Unfortunately i was married with a muslim women.{Because ,i have friend who is divorce with his european women,he has not the same trouble what i have with my ex...putain!!!} She had abused the system of Europe country,now she lives in a Muslim country(after fleeing as criminal ).I see my childeren from distance once in a year .They are false muslim[my ex and her family ] who are praying every day,hadj ,fasting ect...but ... Doing every thing to make it impossible to see my childeren. Even the judge and police doing nothing...
In Surah al-mu’minun verses 12-14 In the Quran it explains that the soul isn’t there until after the bones and the flesh are formed. So before about 4 months, shouldn’t the female have the option to abort the fetus with no soul?
Brother Noman, I understand that in this situation woman should hold her ground to protect the life Allah Swt blessed her with but what if husband threatens to leave and disown the wife. I have heard of such situations where men seem ok with pregnancy first and then walk away on lonely non working house wife before the kid is even born. And as you know in our eastern society it is always the woman that ends up taking the blame on what could have been. I know patience is the key but may Allah protect us from such men with weak eman
+Manno K I have heard of a similar case, and the girl i know who this happened to has been left w/o marriage and a child that her ex-husband doesn't even want to see, he just up and left for Pakistaan. #that's messed up!
I am guessing that since it is permissible for women to abort if giving birth would be harmful to them then it also applies to the harm that she will receive from the people around her if that is the case
If you trust Allah. You trust him completely & you stand your ground and do what is halal. He will provide for you and take care of you. Not your husband
So he is saying rape is ok and the mother should take a child from rape? If the answer is yes, then he is sick. It's not his right to talk about this matter if he says he don't know about it
Hes saying that in islam its not allowed unless its from rape or incest or before 120 days. And that even if a person wants to have an abortion just to have one its considered a sin
If I’m not wrong the only time it’s okay to abort is if the pregnancy poses danger for the child and/or mother. And I get that but wouldn’t mental issues be included in this. Like a women with PTSD from rape is in no condition to carry that baby, or maybe they are. At the end of the day it’s up to that person and how they’re dealing with that situation. It’s always more complex than we think it is.
Admins, please edit out the ending. The other brother said "it's her body, it's her choice". That goes against the entire video. If her choice was abortion? You see where that's problematic I'm sure. And even in this particular case, the sister is right, but not because it's her choice, but because her desire is on the same side as Allahs commandment. Again, that last line should be edited out please.
+Zahra Beig The brother obviously didn't mean it in that way...the entire video was focusing on the Sister who wrote the email regarding being forced to have an abortion. Pay attention to the context first then the line "it's her body, it's her choice" makes sense. Her choice is not to abort which disagrees with her husband's choice. It's like saying that the verse "and kill them where ever you find them" from Baqarah is too violent/unislamic and must be removed even though you haven't looked at the context behind the verse.
when NAK said that its her choice , it refers to the issue of the husband having force his decision over the wife. He did not mean it is ok for the wife to abort if she choose to.
+Zahra Beig Agree with what others have said: the context makes all the difference. The question of the rights over a woman's body is an issue of fiqh. Over reacting to a single line of dialogue isn't going to shed light on anything. Instead, we need more knowledge and discussion; not less.
Jazzaka'Allah Khair for bringing up such a delicate issue. The videos are always thought provoking. InshaAllah here are more social services available from the ummah to help, such as counseling, support, which is very needed.
I have a question what if a woman was raped or anything like that is it haram to abort a child you don’t want because of trauma and she doesn’t want a reminder of her rapist in her own child
+أبو مالك الحلبي thats not what they meant by saying that rather if someone would have the right than it would be the choice of the mother because she is suffering 9 months of pregnancy etc.
+أبو مالك الحلبي he only said that if we take all the problem about its killing a naffs which he cant talk about cause its for the fuqaha even without all of that how can the man think its he's choice and not the mother's choice
Abortion is always a great moral wrong, I am not sure if it should be banned completely, but secular Western society normalizing and even celebrating this practice so casually is not right either. Even worse, lots of young Muslim women in America are heavily influenced by their friends or by social media and the crowd, so they also think it's "cool" and "normal" to be pro-abortion these days. :(
MashaAllah the idea of this series is very good,a humble suggestion is that plz change the background of this program,it gives an artificial effect,especially the girls are always the same plus it may be more effective if the background is without girls,otherwise this is a beautiful effort,may Allah protect the speaker from every evil Aameen.
I am not religious in any way but I am very pro life and its refreshing to hear your perspective. I am very interested in what other people of different religions have to say on the topic.
What if money is not a problem .what if a woman is not mentally ready to bear or raise a child .she may have two or three kids already and does not want more kids .money is not the only reason why you would want to keep a small family
MashaAllah awesome series ☺ Love every bit of it. May Allah grant us greater understanding and may Allah protect us from this crime. Jazak Allah Nouman Ali khan and That's messed up team ☺☺
Asalam alaykum. May Allah Almighty grant you Janatul ferduce for such an informative work. I really needed to watch something like this. Thank you very much 👍
The point was soooo clear by Noman Ali Khan that the life of a child is more important than anything else and the interviewer idiotically ended a beautiful discussion by saying, "It's a woman's body and her choice". That is NOT what Noman was trying to establish. The phrase Her Body Her Choice is used by abortionists to justify abortions. Noman was stating totally opposite of abortion.
I am not against abortion. If a woman is raped then she has the right to get a abortion. Because a woman must be also mentally prepared and in a good state. So my opinion is i am not against abortion in some cases.
Men are not among the 240, 000 women who die each year due to complications from pregnancy/childbirth. Men need not concern themselves with the issue. An early abortion should remain a woman's prerogative. An embryo cannot think, see, hear or feel. Save your feelings of pity for the millions of poor tormented, slaughtered and eaten animals. They, indeed, can see, hear and feel..and experience fear, pain and suffering.
@MemoryDecipheR if you think a 6 week old embryo has any sentience, or can think, feel, hear, see etc., you need to return to school and study basic anatomy and physiology. I 'am' opposed to abortion when the fetus has reached a stage where the brain and nervous system are developed, but have no problem with a very early abortion or taking medication to disrupt a fertilized egg. Yet, you have no problem causing extreme pain, suffering and torture to animal just to satisfy your taste buds. You're the weirdo.
@Bayyinah Institute A quick, but very important note: the last comment said in the video is bluntly untrue. The guy in the video ended with "The husband doesn't get to tell her that. It's her body, it's her choice". This absolutely contradicts the entire 5 minutes of what the video was trying to convey. It's not an issue of husband Vs. wife or of who gets to decide on taking the life of this child. The Quranic verses are not directed to husband or wife; it's not his choice and it's not her choice either. The verses simply take us humans out of the equation and say that killing your child is a sin. It's not a "choice" and it's not a "property" to be owned and it's certainly not "my body". I know it was said at the end of the video, but please take that part out of the video as it certainly can be misleading. Peace be with everyone and may Allah guide us all to the straight path.
He didn't tell the woman what to do exactly. He said what her husband should do but it was not the husband who asked the question. The husband may not even be religious for what we know. Sister will stand her ground but what if her husband ends up taking his frustration out on this child? Should she be ready to divorce? Then he says that the society should not penalise the children of single mums but the society does not want to know obviously. What should the woman do?
Assalamu alaikum Ustadz Nouman Ali, what about if it is known from the ultrasound results that the fetus is in a state of genetic defects and is expected to abort, it could be in the womb or it could also die shortly after birth? The parents of the prospective baby must have been very stressed and unable to bear the mental burden. What do you think?
Of course. Pregnancy at that age puts the woman at risk of her own life. In that case, abortion is allowed. From my understanding and knowledge, any pregnancy in result of rape or is at risk to a womans life can be aborted.
***** did u not read what i said? the original commenter gave a specific age, 11 12, at that age for any woman in any country a pregnancy is a risk of her life. in which case abortion is allowed. 2) do u know what rape does to a woman? if not then u cant speak on a woman or girls behalf. i was raped at the age of 14. it destroys u physically emotionally and mentally. why should i put my body through extreme measures because some monster invaded my privacy. the sheikh in the video said that in case of a rape, its a different story. u should abort a child for someones elses actions, but how do u think a child would feel that after its born his/her mother gives them a dirty look and be reminded of a terrible act that was brought upon her.
+Sara Moussa i don't know how rape feels like but we also don't know how the baby feels like when its aborted.... and i see what you mean by when you say that the mother will look at the baby in disguise but idk maybe get the baby adopted?? Allah knows best ... :) and as NAK said these are rulings for the fuqahas to do so I'm also not gonna say its harram or anything. Its just my oppinion.
umar mohammad well when a woman is pregnant her body goes through extreme measures. Going to labor is painful. People die from it sometimes. Why should any woman go through that from a monster who did unspeakable acts to her. That's a terrible thing to make ok.
Excellent Episode, however, I believe that that some individuals/people need to rethink about their strategic plan in their long term goals before implementing. If you can't achieve an explicit goal such has having a family or becoming rich then induce yourself with alternative and innovative idea/goals without affecting your final results. Don't start rescinding your goals just because you are unable to achieve them or in this case, taking care of the child. Think positive, think long term.
Until everyone on earth has the exact same standard of living no one can tell me abortion is wrong. I mean there are so many children dying or left on the road by their parents going hungry living in a highly dangerous environment?
Subhanallah may Allah guide us this so sad to hear. :( that's what the kafurs does as Muslim those thoughts should never come to our head. We need to study our religion more . A jaahal or arrogant would say that . May Allah(SWT)protect that sister and her unborn baby. May Allah guide her husband too. Inshallah
Abort should be banned, no matter what the case is, except if the birth is deadly affecting the mother or child. The soul is remain created to the foteus and which dosen't deserve to be taken away. If you don't wanna have children you should think twice before having sex.
One thing which you did not discuss, but I wish you did, was in what instances is abortion allowed. Correct me if I am wrong, but I don't think it is a blanket "abortion is not allowed under any circumstances".
Thts why our Lord teaches us to stay away from adultery and fornication as it will leads to heinous acts... And we can see such ppl will tend to sort things in such way which is inhumane... Let them call us backwards, extremists or whatever we have a guide, a purpose, a soul and a mind tht can distinguish what is right and wrong through the grace of God's guidance... Peace to you sir, May God bless us all
Kyle Ulrich That’s not surprising at all. Christians in the past were basically Muslims, they had a very clean and clear Bible, containing the words of Allah himself. Until falsification came, and most of the Bible’s words were changed by human beings. Some stayed, such as those of abortion, ones of homosexuality, and a little more. Really, there’s no consistent logic in today’s Bible. It’s truly heartbreaking. If you’re a Christian, we invite you to study Islam, and the Qur’an then try to relate it to Christianity and the Bible. You’ll find them to be very similar. The Bible, the book itself was mentioned in the Qur’an, 48. And He (Allah) will teach him [‘Iesa (Jesus)] the Book and Al-Hikmah (i.e. the Sunnah, the faultless speech of the Prophets, wisdom, etc.), (and) the Taurat (Torah) and the Injeel (Gospel). A side note, the Bible would be translated to the book of wisdom in the Arabic language. Just try to get deeper into your religion, and you’ll find so many illogical things.
Are you guys planning to organise a charity to help this women and her fetus out? You know, cause they really may not be able to afford a child, everything from a diaper to higher education is insanely expensive. Also, they may not be living in a country where the government helps people with financial hardships or childcare, maybe not even free medical care so check ups and delivery would cost them a fortune. So, since you guys seem so carrying, worried about the women and the fetus maybe you can help them out? Because the child being born and having a really horrible life caused by financial disabilities and then more than likely choosing "non halal" paths to fix that ( you know, She/he may even get a job in restaurant that sells alcohol making their entire income and everything they eat of that income "haram"). So, I just think it would be really cool if you guys can financially help them out rather just sitting comfortably in with coffee(?) in your hand and judge. Okay, thanks bye :) (now I wait for the msgs on my inbox calling me a kaffir and shaytan).
Junayd Zulfiqar@ You obviously do seeing as you took the time to respond you senseless dolt. Whether or not you refuse to admit the truth, you people view women as cattle/incubators first and people second. It's disgusting how your lot sees the fostering of mass poverty and overpopulation as godly virtue.
And do not kill your children for fear of poverty. We provide for them and for you. Indeed, their killing is ever a great sin. (17:31) these are Allah's words.
Men who abandon their children and the women they impregnate should be rounded up and shot. As long as this is not written in law, this world will never know true justice.
esrapk by law are you talking about islamic law sister ....cause we can not just add any law we feel is right....it's not that I am defending those men but men are not the only animals on earth there are women who dump there kids in latrines generally....both of them are sinners
My husband is 45 and im 32 and i have two kids mashallah, 4 days ago found out im pregnant, and just because of his age he scared and dont want more kids, so he wants me to abort and also i know its big sin but he is not agree to having a child im so messed up don't know what to do. And don't have a courage to take this step by myself plz help plz🙏
Assalamu aleykum brothers and sisters, you should listen to him with attentive and more than once if you have to. What the Ustashi is saying is, it is not anyone's right to take a life of any humans however in this case he mentioned the woman's husband "he" to answer her question but it no ones rights. If you look at in the humanities law, the husband has no right to tell his wife to have abortion if she doesn't want but in Allah's shariah none of them has any right to do so.
Maybe Nouman Ali Khan, with all respect that I have for him and the gentle way he discusses things, should avoid fiqh issues and not conclude "that's messed up", specially on complicate topics like this. It's not just people arranging the quran karim & the ahadith with the moment of "insufflation of the nafs" to get an abortion but a REAL IKHTILAF between the madhab ! To be short : hanafis & hanbali say it's hallal to "abort" before nafs insufflation WITH a real necessity, some shafiis say makrouh before & haram after, some malikis say it's totally haram in every case. If it brings the pregnant woman at a death risk, it's hallal for her to "abort" for the majority of shouyoukh. We've to question our use of that english term "abort" first, after we should avoid to compare abortion with a murder - it's a huge accusation subhannah al hakim! - specially if it doesn't fit the fiqh criterion and in the end understand that in fact the rahma of our ikhtilaf places Islam before a lot of so-called "western progressive laws" because our classical scholars understand the different steps of nafs insufflation between 40 and 120 days (so, sometimes much more than western laws allow for women to get abortions - less than 14 weeks ). In the end, it's a question for women and the relation they have with Allah taala, the husband has no part in her decision.
+Sa Saa Salam, we are agreed on most parts. But it's a fiqh issue to call a "murder" an abortion of a foetus without nafs insufflation, we can't compare it to all kinds of situations. We all have to let that issue on real scholars, hanafiyoun & hanbaliyoun don't follow their own nafs to say it's hallal or not. Allahou alaam
+Doyle دويل abortion is messed up in most cases. especially people who think that they cant afford the child. yes, fuqaha should always be considered but dont say that brother nouman shouldnt have talked about this issue. our own moral compass should tell us that its not ok.
+johannes scheitel Read me again, I never say our brother Nouman shouldn't talk about this : I said it's harmful to bring judgments like this outside of fiqh considerations. Why ? Because that's far more complex that "it's haram/hallal/messup up". It's a question of Quranic grammar, authentic sunna, contradictions or not with other Quranic commands etc... I know it's tempting to use our own moral on some questions but again, in our din, it's never a matter of following our own nafs. Of course Allah the rahman gives us a din that is human fitra, so the islamic moral is natural too. But, for some people, abortion is a natural thing women use since prehistory, for some it's murder, personnal/traditionnal/cultural moral is not islamic moral. Furthermore, Allah the rahman never put on us burden we cannot hold, so It's not surprising (to me at least) that in every ibadate or in any human situations there are facilities given by our khaliq. as salam
So Hanafis & Hanbalis are following Harry Potter and not Quran, Sunna and Ijma' ? It's as clear in the Quran al-karim that you cannot take without right one life than it's clear in a muttawatir hadith that the insufflation of nafs in human being happen after only 120 days. as-salaam
After 2.5 years of happy married life & Alhumdulillah, being blessed with 2 kids(1st kid 1.5yr old & 2nd kid 7 months old), my wife again got pregnant with 4 weeks of pregnancy today.... She is physically weak & all her energy has been drained during past 2 pregnancies.. 3rd pregnancy was unexpected... We are confused now... We are planning to abort it tomorrow but having alot of guilt inside... Is it permissible to do so since my wife is too weak to bear another pregnancy.... ???
Though the discussion is pertinent within the context of marriage, it fails to acknowledge that the majority of abortions amongst western muslim women are done as a result of pregnancy outside of marriage, predmoninately teenagers and girls in the early twenties who are engaging in sexual relations with men during the high school and college years. It is easy to frame the issue of abortion within the context of marriage or rape/abuse, but when it is consequence of actions from socially liberal youth who mentally and socially are simply not able to raise a child - the question of abortion becomes far more complicated.... That being said, the series is a wonderful effort! May Allah guide us.
What would you say in response to the pro-choice argument? Women have the right to control their own bodies & shouldn't be obligated to support someone elses life until they can exist independently?
I just don't like it at all, I see how it leads it to such horrible things. It makes us think of babies as inhuman, it makes us men irresponsible and women into improper women.
I cringe over all my Pro-life friends who are in love with Judaism and the (criminal) State of Israel but then hate on Muslims. May Allah, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, bless you and show the path of salvation through the Cross of Christ. Much love from a Christian friend!
assalam alaikum. i just want to ask a question that i had a miscarriage when i was 6 weeks pregnant. and i have heard that on the day of judgment the unborn child will take his parents to Jannah. so i want to ask that is this saying also refers to the fetus who is only 6 weeks old and and died in the womb of its mother?
Mu’adh ibn Jabal reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “By the One in whose hand is my soul, the miscarried fetus will carry his mother by his umbilical cord into Paradise, if she was seeking its reward.” Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1609
Please I need some help.i live with this guy he has never paid any dowry and not done nikah.i got a first child with him which i believe it's the Haram way.i still feel guilty for that.but now I just found out am pregnant again am thinking of aborting it because I don't live any happy life with him please help me
if he hasn't done nikah and paid dowry then i believe the marriage is haram itself but Allah knows best. you can contact nouman ali khan through email and i hope he helps you. noumanbayyinah@gmail.com May ALLAH make it easy for you sister
Assalamualaikum brothers & sisters. Do you guys know where can i find Ust Nouman tafseer on Surah Al Qiyamah? ( the full tafseer) i really really need to understand this surah.
I don't like how this ended. All in all, it's not the women's choice or anyones period. It's a baby meant to be born. Simple as that. In rape, however, sure there can be exceptions when neccessary and only when necessary if the baby has only been conceived for
I have a real, genuine question. There was a case where an 11 year old girl was raped and ended up getting pregnant. She died in childbirth. 1. Would that be an instance where giving birth would be dangerous to the mother and therefore abortion is allowed (because that’s the ruling in Islam) 2. Are women who have been raped, especially CHILDREN, like the case I described above, allowed to abort? I can’t fathom an 11 year old giving birth to and raising a child in the 21st century.
Yup health comes before anything in islam. If the baby threatens the life of the mother its ok to abort. And in any case under any circumstances you can abort before 120 days though its better to ask allah for guidance i think. Allah knows best. My duas go out to that poor girl and her child
I'm tired of seeing these people saying that you still have to keep the baby even if you get raped or have a risky pregnancy. just think about this, those babies are much safer in heaven than having to go through the suffering after they are born. Think about the women and young girls who are victims of rape and how psychologically damaged they are, and people like you ridicule and go all "YOU EFFING MURDERER YOU KILLED YOUR BABY"
actually, if u have a risky pregnancy, which can threaten the health of a mother..u can have an abortion based on some of scholars'opinions. but..if the baby and the mother are both healthy, u cant have abortion
but what if woman wants a break from this, if she doesn't want to keep herself busy all her life,, giving birth one after another and reaping them all her life - what if she wants to do sth in her life, do good to the already existents who are suffering in the world today, or that she wants to do sth big or anything, or that she is losing her health, she is becoming weaker everytime - what in that case ?
I got my girlfriend pregnant we are not married she is not Muslim I am from a Muslim family went to Islamic school for a big part of my life I used to be super religious I’m still only 18. Idk what to do
Assalamualaikum. May Allah keep us in His blessing of all time. My question is, how about terminating an unborn child that is genetically faulted that it will be risking his life (such as thalassemia)? Thank you :)
Msblakbord hi so umm this actually really stuck me. Im not v educated in islamic studies tho i am a Muslim but i hace Thalassemia major or atleast had before my bone marrow transplant. I wull answer this question Because i am i was born sure it was lil hard but my life is worth it and a parent does not love his child any less if she/he has such a disability so why take away a beautiful life
I wanna know what to do if I was told by doctor not to get pregnant for 6 month. .. because my baby died in womb in 7 th month...but what if I accidently got pregnant... I had to abort or not for medical reasons!?? I can't stop my husband it may lead to curse of angels ...
Good speaker who for the most part speaks the language of the pro life movement. But in the end he throws it all out the window when he acknowledges that it's the woman's choice. What if it was her choice to abort and the husband was against this? Also, I'm sure he's aware that the major part of his story goes against what the madhabs have held on this issue, so then I would expect him to address this. Maybe in another video?
There are many couple's who yearn for a child and then there are couple's who are willingly giving this up. May Allah make our hearts soft towards Him. Ameen
+Lysa ali Ameen.
+Lysa ali Ameen.
Aameen
Watch "Abortion in Pakistan"...
Some people it's meant to be others it's not. If they don't want to have kids then it's not meant to be.
Seriously , this guy is truly awesome and charismatic and so honest. May Allah bless you Nouman Ali. Ameen
Nouman Ali khan explains things in a way that anyone can understand and in such a respectable way may Allah be pleased with him inshallah
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Saying and doing are different. Ask him to do and he will back out.
I like his way of thinking! I believe children have a right to live.
Agreed
I was pregnant in November 2019 had an abortion in March 2020 I never ever wanted to have one I wanted to so much t have my baby I was so happy .. But when I told my bf he was nervous and upset made me have an abortion wasn’t there at all to support me when I went through so much physical and mental pain. I was so confused and felt like I made a decision without thinking.. I cried and cried and cried and was told by him to “get over that shit”. I’m still so very hurt and I feel so much resentment. I felt so alone and I pray that god forgives me because I feel so evil for what I did. I wish everyday to take it back.
Aw dear hope ur OK try not to worry and just pray sne a Ross ur post and can imagine how difficult it is for you have hope
So basically I am going straight to hell. May ALLAH SWT forgive me for my sins for I what I have done 20yrs ago. In this dunya i am paying the price. I know already. I can only as that all MIGHTY CREATOR ALLAH SWT only ALLAH KNOWS my sufferings. Only ALLAH will know my fate. I make my duas, prayers in my ways. I’m not perfect by all means. I seek refuge and I’m thankful for the greatness of what ALLAH has granted me. For only ALLAH will I shall answer to on the day of judgment. I can only imagine Jannah may ask ALLAH for ALLAH the all knowing alhmouduillah will help guide me in this dunya.
Allah puts the soul into the fetus at 120 days. If your bf wasn't ready and didn't want a baby t tell him to shag prostitutes who use contraception. Why are you sleeping around out of marraige cant u wait. I see it as your both in the wrong. May Allah Swt forgive us all.
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Having a bf is haram sister, leave him and repent ❤️
Love, please leave him if you haven't already then go from there. Ask Allah for guidance and trust that he will lead you to better, whatever that may be.🌹
May Allah grant the whole Bayyinah-Family Jannatul Firdaus for their effort. We need more creative and inspiring Muslims.
Ameen
+johannes scheitel AMEEN
+johannes scheitel Aaaamiiin.
Aameen
Amin!
The Quran says *"Don't abort/kill your children just because you can't afford it."* I'm American so I don't know the Arabic verse, but we are told not to kill our children simply because we think we can't afford it. Allah will provide.
Mashallah you understood the verse better than many would do
May Allah protect all the unborn, ameen.
@@heartsxday "Just." Naturally, a wide area for scholarly contestation. This can vary greatly between madhabs. Dude, you'd be surprised, but the internet has a wealth of information on this issue from reputable sources...
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Sound like someone on the US Christian right but with a Muslim name
@@heartsxday fetus from latin prefix translates to baby
Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullah! Why aren't there "That's messed up" episodes anymore? It was so enlightening! Please, bring it back if you can, jazakumu Llahu khayran.
I am Hindu , and I completely agree with the gentleman. God provides.
This is where Christians and Muslims of sound minds can come together. I can't understand people killing innocent lives. Thank you for putting this on the channel. Maybe it will save a little one from death.
The circumstances of a persons conception (eg, rape or incest), which is ouside our control, does NOT justify killing an innocent and vulnerable human child in the womb, which is supposed to be the most loving and safest place for every child.
the sins of the father should never be visited upon the child. Never
What about the mothers though? The responsibility of the father’s actions should never be thrown at the child AND INCLUDING THE MOTHER. Why should a 12 year old girl be forced to go through 9 months of pregnancy and give birth and nurture a baby when she’s still a child herself? A child that has been robbed of her childhood and peace of mind and now she’ll forever have a reminder of that traumatic event, she’ll never recover mentally.
@@rahafalkhaldi1897 Its a terrible thing for any woman or child to go through and she deserves all the love and support to help her heal and be comforted. But that CANNOT be achieved at the expense of deliberately killing her child, who is innocent. If we dont even give the rapist, the death sentence, yet how can we possibly consider death for the innocent child? Even in the most terrible of situations, we cannot kill innocent people, just because we think it will alleviate our ouwn trauma. There ARE other ways to help victims, heal from the violance of rape.
Abortion is a violent act on an innocent child, and we cannot solve psycholigical trauma by inflicting violence and death on innnocent parties, especially if they are vulnerable children. We HAVE to do the right thing EVEN in the hardest of circumstances, because that is the mother's child too, dont forget.
And many women often find healing and strength from their child. And if she cant, then she can at least give the child for adoption.
There are also many women have been raped by the father of their children, and yet they love their children, no matter what, EVEN if they look JUST like the man who raped her. Should it be ok to kill those children as well, just because they remind the mother of their rapist father?
@@edres7563 why do lack empathy for rape victims
@@laeeqkhan2069 you clearly didnt read a word I wrote.
May Allah forgive every lady who aborted and keep ladies away from abortion❤ indeed Allah is the most merciful and he loves to forgive.
i would never do it again and i would teach and be there for my baby girl so she would never ever do that like her mummy. her mummy is bad and evil evil i wont forgive myself but i promise to always be there for my baby
@@karfeishaolyia9567 sis p.s forgive yourself and
You're not evil. I dont know you but all I know is you're an amaizing lady
@@falizaabdullah1678 my mother aborted one of her babys and i feel ashamed
@@ashkanhabashan6652 Am so sorry. It will get easier with time trust me. Acceptance is the key.♥️ sending lots of love
So what about childfree muslims? People who never want children, do not have a maternal and paternal instincts? If one doesn’t have a love towards any baby and children, he or she cannot marry? If not, is it okay for a child to have parents that never want to care and love them? So messed up.
Cherry Blossom My question was asked to Nouman Ali Khan. But since you wrote your opinion about my comment, I would ask you several questions.
1) You are calling it Islamic rule, so where can I find the verse in Quran about your statement, that a couple cannot stop reproduction permanently? 2) While birth control is not 100% effective, how come a couple MUST have an unprotected intercourse? 3) Why do you think if a child is a blessing for you, that it can be same to other people? 4) Parents must raise a child, since they gave them a birth, so if one doesn’t want to become a parent they will do their best to prevent having them. Hating someone and forcing yourself to love him/her doesn’t seem like a healthy solution, since the consequences can cause negative impacts on the psychology of both sides, maybe for you it’s normal? 5) Being single (unmarried) is something that normally muslims avoid since it can lead to zina, so are you supporting zina in this case? And lastly, you wouldn’t want if there were children unloved by their parents...
Some people are deprived from having children, and others want to kill theirs. That's REALLY messed up! May Allah forgive us.
It's not a child, it's a clump of cells
ChiChi Peachu ^ This
@@boogerboy1271 Once the process of said "clump" becoming a child begins, they are _alive._ Not as sentient as a fetus or an infant, but still very much alive, and considered a _potential child._
@@boogerboy1271 We are all a clump of cells.
Ayyy lmao your skin is a clump of cells.
Subhanallah I just had this discussion with a non Muslim friend of mine yesterday. She told me children are "expensive"! I was astonished when she said that. I've never ever thought of my child or anyone else's as an "expense". I told her I don't believe that, if God gives you the blessing of a child God will find a way for you to take care of them. It's so sad how the non Muslims think, I then realised they don't understand the concepts of Barakah and rizq. Times like that I truly wish that the whole world was Muslim.
I understand what you're saying. However I think by expensive, maybe your friend meant that it requires a person to be financially stable to provide a good means of a lifestyle in today's day. In many cases of poverty, parents have multiple children and cannot provide education, food, or any necessities. Rather some ppl believe it is best to have a few children and provide them with the best lifestyle. Also, I agree that aborting after a life is given is in a way wrong. Alongside, sex education should be something people must be aware about before intercourse. This way if they know they might have troubles raising children or providing, they don't need to take a life after, better to think and act before.
+Aimen Fatima I agree with you to a point regarding what my friend said. We don't live in a third world country where it's hard to provide for your kids, we live in Sydney and Alhamdulillah we are by the means. That's why I was astonished because she genuinely believes that two kids are expensive. Whereas a Muslim knows that's far from the case and Allah will give you. It totally explains why we are the only ones increasing the ummah! You very rarely see non Muslims in the west with more than 2 or 3 kids where as many Muslim families have 5 or 6 children Masha Allah. Also, here in Sydney the non Muslims like to spoil there kids and give them iPads and nintendos and every did they want. To me that's not giving your child the best life that's just teaching them to feed their nafs! Non Muslims have a different concept of what's good for a child I think, but I can't also generalise as I've seen Muslims do the very same thing!
Lovethe Deen I agree :) But yes I understand what u mean,providing a good life for your children vs providing unnecessary materialistic things are 2 different things, hence the "expense" in one situation would obviously be more if you think you must raise your child with many material things. But in today's day parents don't want their children to feel short of anything which I guess is fine, but as a final point, I just think education on sex is important, ppl shouldn't regret children once they've entered this world. It's important to think about this before so the need to think or act upon decisions like abortion doesn't come across.
there are many Muslims living and raising their children in poverty. I am not saying this to justify abortion, I am against abortion, we are not to decide who should live or who should die. But I wouldn't judge poeple who use contraception and delay having kids. If someone grew up in poverty they may be scared of same fate for their kids, it is totally understandable. I don't think that being Muslim or non-Muslim has anything to do with it.
subhanallah , very significant topic. we need such discussion because many people's are going through such situation. may allah (swt) protect us from the evil deeds due to our ignorance
When my ex -wife was pragnant for our first daughter, i was serieusly thinking for an abortion.Because ,i thought ,she is young and we have to make carrier ect. After a while and because of my mother ...Elhamdulillah i didn't have such a crime... And now i have no regret even i m now divorced with my ex wife. Everthing will be allright.Allah is great.That is all.
+prins74 did you get divorced in america?
No ,in Europe ! Why do you asking this? Does it matter where it is ?
+prins74 It makes a HUGE difference as far as the legal system that administrates the divorce. in America you get screwed over in a divorce involving a kid with a mentally unstable partner (hence reason for divorce). I am happy you are able to raise your child in peace. Salaam
It is the same as in USA Sir. Unfortunately i was married with a muslim women.{Because ,i have friend who is divorce with his european women,he has not the same trouble what i have with my ex...putain!!!} She had abused the system of Europe country,now she lives in a Muslim country(after fleeing as criminal ).I see my childeren from distance once in a year .They are false muslim[my ex and her family ] who are praying every day,hadj ,fasting ect...but ... Doing every thing to make it impossible to see my childeren. Even the judge and police doing nothing...
i have nothing to hide bro.So I m only afraid of Allah ,i want to encourage other to do the same,because what i did ,Allah is the SUSTAINER,ELREZZAK.
MAY ALLAH SWT PROTECT US FROM THIS KIND OF MANS :(
Yes is o bad to know this kind of humans Astaghfirullah
+Zandra Franco ameen
Basma Sheikh Ameen
Watch "Abortion in Pakistan"...
if a wife decides to abort does the husband not have a say? where are your "morals" now?
In Surah al-mu’minun verses 12-14 In the Quran it explains that the soul isn’t there until after the bones and the flesh are formed. So before about 4 months, shouldn’t the female have the option to abort the fetus with no soul?
Brother Noman, I understand that in this situation woman should hold her ground to protect the life Allah Swt blessed her with but what if husband threatens to leave and disown the wife. I have heard of such situations where men seem ok with pregnancy first and then walk away on lonely non working house wife before the kid is even born. And as you know in our eastern society it is always the woman that ends up taking the blame on what could have been. I know patience is the key but may Allah protect us from such men with weak eman
+Manno K I have heard of a similar case, and the girl i know who this happened to has been left w/o marriage and a child that her ex-husband doesn't even want to see, he just up and left for Pakistaan. #that's messed up!
I am guessing that since it is permissible for women to abort if giving birth would be harmful to them then it also applies to the harm that she will receive from the people around her if that is the case
@@MZ-fr3kf nope. Haven't you watched the video? The child HAS RIGHT TO BE BORN no matter the circumstances
@@MZ-fr3kf please do not speak without knowledge. This is dangerous. Having an abortion for fear of divorce from a devil man does not make it halal.
If you trust Allah. You trust him completely & you stand your ground and do what is halal. He will provide for you and take care of you. Not your husband
So he is saying rape is ok and the mother should take a child from rape? If the answer is yes, then he is sick. It's not his right to talk about this matter if he says he don't know about it
Hes saying that in islam its not allowed unless its from rape or incest or before 120 days. And that even if a person wants to have an abortion just to have one its considered a sin
If I’m not wrong the only time it’s okay to abort is if the pregnancy poses danger for the child and/or mother. And I get that but wouldn’t mental issues be included in this. Like a women with PTSD from rape is in no condition to carry that baby, or maybe they are. At the end of the day it’s up to that person and how they’re dealing with that situation.
It’s always more complex than we think it is.
Admins, please edit out the ending. The other brother said "it's her body, it's her choice". That goes against the entire video. If her choice was abortion? You see where that's problematic I'm sure. And even in this particular case, the sister is right, but not because it's her choice, but because her desire is on the same side as Allahs commandment. Again, that last line should be edited out please.
yes Admins please edit that
+Zahra Beig The brother obviously didn't mean it in that way...the entire video was focusing on the Sister who wrote the email regarding being forced to have an abortion. Pay attention to the context first then the line "it's her body, it's her choice" makes sense. Her choice is not to abort which disagrees with her husband's choice. It's like saying that the verse "and kill them where ever you find them" from Baqarah is too violent/unislamic and must be removed even though you haven't looked at the context behind the verse.
+Zahra Beig Well said, I totally agree with your comment. Yes Admins, please edit that ending.
when NAK said that its her choice , it refers to the issue of the husband having force his decision over the wife. He did not mean it is ok for the wife to abort if she choose to.
+Zahra Beig Agree with what others have said: the context makes all the difference. The question of the rights over a woman's body is an issue of fiqh. Over reacting to a single line of dialogue isn't going to shed light on anything. Instead, we need more knowledge and discussion; not less.
Jazzaka'Allah Khair for bringing up such a delicate issue. The videos are always thought provoking. InshaAllah here are more social services available from the ummah to help, such as counseling, support, which is very needed.
"People be messed up dude" - Nouman Ali
When you abort a child you abort your rizq (sustenance), that's what amazed me in this conversation. Mamy thanks
I have a question what if a woman was raped or anything like that is it haram to abort a child you don’t want because of trauma and she doesn’t want a reminder of her rapist in her own child
It's not her choice too. No one has this choice but Allah. Be careful next times
+أبو مالك الحلبي thats not what they meant by saying that rather if someone would have the right than it would be the choice of the mother because she is suffering 9 months of pregnancy etc.
Technically it's her choice.
gex Do you mean that, the parents have the right to kill their children !?
neither he nor ustadh nouman claimed that. allah dignified the son of adam.
+أبو مالك الحلبي he only said that if we take all the problem about its killing a naffs which he cant talk about cause its for the fuqaha
even without all of that how can the man think its he's choice and not the mother's choice
Can't wait for the next episodes!! Jazakom Allah khair.
Abortion is always a great moral wrong, I am not sure if it should be banned completely, but secular Western society normalizing and even celebrating this practice so casually is not right either. Even worse, lots of young Muslim women in America are heavily influenced by their friends or by social media and the crowd, so they also think it's "cool" and "normal" to be pro-abortion these days. :(
When pregnancies are viewed as an undesirable accidental byproducts of meaningless one night stands, then this kind of mentality is what you get.
It's so nice for you to say that because men don't carry the burden , , physically mentally and socially
MashaAllah the idea of this series is very good,a humble suggestion is that plz change the background of this program,it gives an artificial effect,especially the girls are always the same plus it may be more effective if the background is without girls,otherwise this is a beautiful effort,may Allah protect the speaker from every evil Aameen.
I am not religious in any way but I am very pro life and its refreshing to hear your perspective. I am very interested in what other people of different religions have to say on the topic.
Nice easy to understand explanation, keep up the good work brother Nouman, I love your series.
What if money is not a problem .what if a woman is not mentally ready to bear or raise a child .she may have two or three kids already and does not want more kids .money is not the only reason why you would want to keep a small family
Such a woman can have other easily available medical procedures to stop her from becoming pregnant.
MashaAllah awesome series ☺ Love every bit of it. May Allah grant us greater understanding and may Allah protect us from this crime.
Jazak Allah Nouman Ali khan and That's messed up team ☺☺
Asalam alaykum. May Allah Almighty grant you Janatul ferduce for such an informative work. I really needed to watch something like this. Thank you very much 👍
The point was soooo clear by Noman Ali Khan that the life of a child is more important than anything else and the interviewer idiotically ended a beautiful discussion by saying, "It's a woman's body and her choice". That is NOT what Noman was trying to establish. The phrase Her Body Her Choice is used by abortionists to justify abortions. Noman was stating totally opposite of abortion.
perfect sense..always happy to listen to your talks...
thank you
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MashaAllah! I wait for these episodes eagerly every Monday!
Low key this series makes Ustad Nouman seem depressed.
I am not against abortion.
If a woman is raped then she has the right to get a abortion.
Because a woman must be also mentally prepared and in a good state.
So my opinion is i am not against abortion in some cases.
Reacting to what the other guide said, it is not even a "woman´s body", it is a body of a new child developing in her womb.
If you can't afford a baby, just put him or her up for adoption...maybe? You don't have to get an abortion. There's no reason for it.
MASHA ALLAH
SUBHAN ALLAH
WISH ALL COULD THINK THIS WAY..!!!!
MAY ALLAH BLESS U AND UR TEAM ALWAYS 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Men are not among the 240, 000 women who die each year due to complications from pregnancy/childbirth. Men need not concern themselves with the issue. An early abortion should remain a woman's prerogative. An embryo cannot think, see, hear or feel. Save your feelings of pity for the millions of poor tormented, slaughtered and eaten animals. They, indeed, can see, hear and feel..and experience fear, pain and suffering.
@MemoryDecipheR if you think a 6 week old embryo has any sentience, or can think, feel, hear, see etc., you need to return to school and study basic anatomy and physiology. I 'am' opposed to abortion when the fetus has reached a stage where the brain and nervous system are developed, but have no problem with a very early abortion or taking medication to disrupt a fertilized egg. Yet, you have no problem causing extreme pain, suffering and torture to animal just to satisfy your taste buds. You're the weirdo.
@Bayyinah Institute A quick, but very important note: the last comment said in the video is bluntly untrue. The guy in the video ended with "The husband doesn't get to tell her that. It's her body, it's her choice".
This absolutely contradicts the entire 5 minutes of what the video was trying to convey. It's not an issue of husband Vs. wife or of who gets to decide on taking the life of this child. The Quranic verses are not directed to husband or wife; it's not his choice and it's not her choice either. The verses simply take us humans out of the equation and say that killing your child is a sin. It's not a "choice" and it's not a "property" to be owned and it's certainly not "my body". I know it was said at the end of the video, but please take that part out of the video as it certainly can be misleading.
Peace be with everyone and may Allah guide us all to the straight path.
He didn't tell the woman what to do exactly. He said what her husband should do but it was not the husband who asked the question. The husband may not even be religious for what we know. Sister will stand her ground but what if her husband ends up taking his frustration out on this child? Should she be ready to divorce? Then he says that the society should not penalise the children of single mums but the society does not want to know obviously. What should the woman do?
Is that a music instrument (guitar) used at the end ???
Please reply.
I am not critical, just curious.
ما شاء الله - all speeches done by Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan are amazing I love them
Assalamu alaikum Ustadz Nouman Ali, what about if it is known from the ultrasound results that the fetus is in a state of genetic defects and is expected to abort, it could be in the womb or it could also die shortly after birth? The parents of the prospective baby must have been very stressed and unable to bear the mental burden. What do you think?
If a person has been raped, say at a very young age (11,12) and they've conceived, is abortion allowed? Especially if the mother is a very young age?
Of course. Pregnancy at that age puts the woman at risk of her own life. In that case, abortion is allowed. From my understanding and knowledge, any pregnancy in result of rape or is at risk to a womans life can be aborted.
***** did u not read what i said? the original commenter gave a specific age, 11 12, at that age for any woman in any country a pregnancy is a risk of her life. in which case abortion is allowed. 2) do u know what rape does to a woman? if not then u cant speak on a woman or girls behalf. i was raped at the age of 14. it destroys u physically emotionally and mentally. why should i put my body through extreme measures because some monster invaded my privacy. the sheikh in the video said that in case of a rape, its a different story. u should abort a child for someones elses actions, but how do u think a child would feel that after its born his/her mother gives them a dirty look and be reminded of a terrible act that was brought upon her.
+dunya in ur eyes. When u know what rape is like, then u can talk to me
+Sara Moussa i don't know how rape feels like but we also don't know how the baby feels like when its aborted.... and i see what you mean by when you say that the mother will look at the baby in disguise but idk maybe get the baby adopted?? Allah knows best ... :)
and as NAK said these are rulings for the fuqahas to do so I'm also not gonna say its harram or anything. Its just my oppinion.
umar mohammad well when a woman is pregnant her body goes through extreme measures. Going to labor is painful. People die from it sometimes. Why should any woman go through that from a monster who did unspeakable acts to her. That's a terrible thing to make ok.
Excellent Episode, however, I believe that that some individuals/people need to rethink about their strategic plan in their long term goals before implementing. If you can't achieve an explicit goal such has having a family or becoming rich then induce yourself with alternative and innovative idea/goals without affecting your final results. Don't start rescinding your goals just because you are unable to achieve them or in this case, taking care of the child. Think positive, think long term.
Until everyone on earth has the exact same standard of living no one can tell me abortion is wrong. I mean there are so many children dying or left on the road by their parents going hungry living in a highly dangerous environment?
Subhanallah may Allah guide us this so sad to hear. :( that's what the kafurs does as Muslim those thoughts should never come to our head. We need to study our religion more . A jaahal or arrogant would say that . May Allah(SWT)protect that sister and her unborn baby. May Allah guide her husband too. Inshallah
+xamdi Awes Ameen.
Ok, there are women who don’t want a baby, but why does the baby have to die?
it's always inspiring and concept clearing, may ALLAH bless you guys to keep up the good work:)
Walaqad Kharramna Bani Aadam - We(Allaah) have honoured all Children of Adam 17:70.... Subhan Allaah....
So beautifully said!
if she has a child she cannot afford, is the community going to her take care of it? i doubt it as ppl now are more narcissistic than ever
Abort should be banned, no matter what the case is, except if the birth is deadly affecting the mother or child. The soul is remain created to the foteus and which dosen't deserve to be taken away. If you don't wanna have children you should think twice before having sex.
Abortion is 100% murder. Willfully killing an innocent for selfish reasons. To hell with all those who do this act
One thing which you did not discuss, but I wish you did, was in what instances is abortion allowed. Correct me if I am wrong, but I don't think it is a blanket "abortion is not allowed under any circumstances".
Christians have a similar view.....come together
Thts why our Lord teaches us to stay away from adultery and fornication as it will leads to heinous acts... And we can see such ppl will tend to sort things in such way which is inhumane... Let them call us backwards, extremists or whatever we have a guide, a purpose, a soul and a mind tht can distinguish what is right and wrong through the grace of God's guidance... Peace to you sir, May God bless us all
Kyle Ulrich That’s not surprising at all. Christians in the past were basically Muslims, they had a very clean and clear Bible, containing the words of Allah himself. Until falsification came, and most of the Bible’s words were changed by human beings. Some stayed, such as those of abortion, ones of homosexuality, and a little more. Really, there’s no consistent logic in today’s Bible. It’s truly heartbreaking. If you’re a Christian, we invite you to study Islam, and the Qur’an then try to relate it to Christianity and the Bible. You’ll find them to be very similar. The Bible, the book itself was mentioned in the Qur’an, 48. And He (Allah) will teach him [‘Iesa (Jesus)] the Book and Al-Hikmah (i.e. the Sunnah, the faultless speech of the Prophets, wisdom, etc.), (and) the Taurat (Torah) and the Injeel (Gospel). A side note, the Bible would be translated to the book of wisdom in the Arabic language. Just try to get deeper into your religion, and you’ll find so many illogical things.
Are you guys planning to organise a charity to help this women and her fetus out? You know, cause they really may not be able to afford a child, everything from a diaper to higher education is insanely expensive. Also, they may not be living in a country where the government helps people with financial hardships or childcare, maybe not even free medical care so check ups and delivery would cost them a fortune. So, since you guys seem so carrying, worried about the women and the fetus maybe you can help them out? Because the child being born and having a really horrible life caused by financial disabilities and then more than likely choosing "non halal" paths to fix that ( you know, She/he may even get a job in restaurant that sells alcohol making their entire income and everything they eat of that income "haram"). So, I just think it would be really cool if you guys can financially help them out rather just sitting comfortably in with coffee(?) in your hand and judge. Okay, thanks bye :) (now I wait for the msgs on my inbox calling me a kaffir and shaytan).
Junayd Zulfiqar@
You obviously do seeing as you took the time to respond you senseless dolt. Whether or not you refuse to admit the truth, you people view women as cattle/incubators first and people second. It's disgusting how your lot sees the fostering of mass poverty and overpopulation as godly virtue.
have you tried closing your legs?
And do not kill your children for fear of poverty. We provide for them and for you. Indeed, their killing is ever a great sin. (17:31) these are Allah's words.
Men who abandon their children and the women they impregnate should be rounded up and shot. As long as this is not written in law, this world will never know true justice.
esrapk by law are you talking about islamic law sister ....cause we can not just add any law we feel is right....it's not that I am defending those men but men are not the only animals on earth there are women who dump there kids in latrines generally....both of them are sinners
My husband is 45 and im 32 and i have two kids mashallah, 4 days ago found out im pregnant, and just because of his age he scared and dont want more kids, so he wants me to abort and also i know its big sin but he is not agree to having a child im so messed up don't know what to do. And don't have a courage to take this step by myself plz help plz🙏
Assalamu aleykum brothers and sisters, you should listen to him with attentive and more than once if you have to. What the Ustashi is saying is, it is not anyone's right to take a life of any humans however in this case he mentioned the woman's husband "he" to answer her question but it no ones rights. If you look at in the humanities law, the husband has no right to tell his wife to have abortion if she doesn't want but in Allah's shariah none of them has any right to do so.
jazzakillah khair sis x
Maybe Nouman Ali Khan, with all respect that I have for him and the gentle way he discusses things, should avoid fiqh issues and not conclude "that's messed up", specially on complicate topics like this. It's not just people arranging the quran karim & the ahadith with the moment of "insufflation of the nafs" to get an abortion but a REAL IKHTILAF between the madhab ! To be short : hanafis & hanbali say it's hallal to "abort" before nafs insufflation WITH a real necessity, some shafiis say makrouh before & haram after, some malikis say it's totally haram in every case. If it brings the pregnant woman at a death risk, it's hallal for her to "abort" for the majority of shouyoukh. We've to question our use of that english term "abort" first, after we should avoid to compare abortion with a murder - it's a huge accusation subhannah al hakim! - specially if it doesn't fit the fiqh criterion and in the end understand that in fact the rahma of our ikhtilaf places Islam before a lot of so-called "western progressive laws" because our classical scholars understand the different steps of nafs insufflation between 40 and 120 days (so, sometimes much more than western laws allow for women to get abortions - less than 14 weeks ). In the end, it's a question for women and the relation they have with Allah taala, the husband has no part in her decision.
+Sa Saa Salam, we are agreed on most parts. But it's a fiqh issue to call a "murder" an abortion of a foetus without nafs insufflation, we can't compare it to all kinds of situations. We all have to let that issue on real scholars, hanafiyoun & hanbaliyoun don't follow their own nafs to say it's hallal or not. Allahou alaam
+Doyle دويل abortion is messed up in most cases. especially people who think that they cant afford the child. yes, fuqaha should always be considered but dont say that brother nouman shouldnt have talked about this issue. our own moral compass should tell us that its not ok.
+johannes scheitel Read me again, I never say our brother Nouman shouldn't talk about this : I said it's harmful to bring judgments like this outside of fiqh considerations. Why ? Because that's far more complex that "it's haram/hallal/messup up". It's a question of Quranic grammar, authentic sunna, contradictions or not with other Quranic commands etc... I know it's tempting to use our own moral on some questions but again, in our din, it's never a matter of following our own nafs. Of course Allah the rahman gives us a din that is human fitra, so the islamic moral is natural too. But, for some people, abortion is a natural thing women use since prehistory, for some it's murder, personnal/traditionnal/cultural moral is not islamic moral. Furthermore, Allah the rahman never put on us burden we cannot hold, so It's not surprising (to me at least) that in every ibadate or in any human situations there are facilities given by our khaliq. as salam
Didou it is clear in the Quran.....u don't hv the right to take a life in Islam
So Hanafis & Hanbalis are following Harry Potter and not Quran, Sunna and Ijma' ? It's as clear in the Quran al-karim that you cannot take without right one life than it's clear in a muttawatir hadith that the insufflation of nafs in human being happen after only 120 days. as-salaam
In this society god doesn’t provide anything, it’s money that provides. Also it’s not conscious until the 6th month.
someone tell this to linda sarsour and the womans march she organized, she didn't allow anti abortion feminist groups to attend. what a shame
i'm not crying....you are!
Is that a reference for skadoodle ?
After 2.5 years of happy married life & Alhumdulillah, being blessed with 2 kids(1st kid 1.5yr old & 2nd kid 7 months old), my wife again got pregnant with 4 weeks of pregnancy today.... She is physically weak & all her energy has been drained during past 2 pregnancies.. 3rd pregnancy was unexpected... We are confused now... We are planning to abort it tomorrow but having alot of guilt inside... Is it permissible to do so since my wife is too weak to bear another pregnancy.... ???
Did u still abort?
I'm not sure also. Was there any medical condition or was her life or the babys at risk?
What happened?? I know someone in a very similar situation and would love to know what happened thanks
Though the discussion is pertinent within the context of marriage, it fails to acknowledge that the majority of abortions amongst western muslim women are done as a result of pregnancy outside of marriage, predmoninately teenagers and girls in the early twenties who are engaging in sexual relations with men during the high school and college years. It is easy to frame the issue of abortion within the context of marriage or rape/abuse, but when it is consequence of actions from socially liberal youth who mentally and socially are simply not able to raise a child - the question of abortion becomes far more complicated.... That being said, the series is a wonderful effort! May Allah guide us.
Money is the key to happiness not children. Yeah children cost money if you can't afford them dont have them.
Beautiful video brother. May Allah reward you greatly and your family.
What would you say in response to the pro-choice argument? Women have the right to control their own bodies & shouldn't be obligated to support someone elses life
until they can exist independently?
I just don't like it at all, I see how it leads it to such horrible things. It makes us think of babies as inhuman, it makes us men irresponsible and women into improper women.
I cringe over all my Pro-life friends who are in love with Judaism and the (criminal) State of Israel but then hate on Muslims. May Allah, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, bless you and show the path of salvation through the Cross of Christ. Much love from a Christian friend!
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@@hibasemir8325 what um?
Can you please remove music from the end? these videos are a hit without having to add that, ma sha Allah. :)
love this series please continue
This is a great idea of the episode
Mashaa Allah
He never considered not having sex until he could afford a baby.
My ex wife killed our unborn child in 12 weeks being pregnant so was that sinful or is it all good because their is no soul?
Life begins at conception. Abortion extinguishes that life. She was complicit in murder. I recommend divorcing quickly.
User 1 We’re separated not divorced. But I want to know is she free from Allah’s punishment if she doesn’t make toba or repent?
assalam alaikum. i just want to ask a question that i had a miscarriage when i was 6 weeks pregnant. and i have heard that on the day of judgment the unborn child will take his parents to Jannah. so i want to ask that is this saying also refers to the fetus who is only 6 weeks old and and died in the womb of its mother?
I would like to know too
Mu’adh ibn Jabal reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “By the One in whose hand is my soul, the miscarried fetus will carry his mother by his umbilical cord into Paradise, if she was seeking its reward.”
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1609
Please I need some help.i live with this guy he has never paid any dowry and not done nikah.i got a first child with him which i believe it's the Haram way.i still feel guilty for that.but now I just found out am pregnant again am thinking of aborting it because I don't live any happy life with him please help me
if he hasn't done nikah and paid dowry then i believe the marriage is haram itself but Allah knows best. you can contact nouman ali khan through email and i hope he helps you. noumanbayyinah@gmail.com
May ALLAH make it easy for you sister
Assalamualaikum brothers & sisters. Do you guys know where can i find Ust Nouman tafseer on Surah Al Qiyamah? ( the full tafseer) i really really need to understand this surah.
great discussion, loving the series. I just wanted to know why is there a piano music playing in the background at the end @ Bayyinah Institute
If a rapist violate an inocent girl, why she should not do abortion?
+LGF Because it is not baby's fault. I think Ustadh was very clear in that explanation
+zohaib usmani but the baby doesnt exist yet
I don't like how this ended. All in all, it's not the women's choice or anyones period. It's a baby meant to be born. Simple as that. In rape, however, sure there can be exceptions when neccessary and only when necessary if the baby has only been conceived for
I have a real, genuine question. There was a case where an 11 year old girl was raped and ended up getting pregnant. She died in childbirth. 1. Would that be an instance where giving birth would be dangerous to the mother and therefore abortion is allowed (because that’s the ruling in Islam) 2. Are women who have been raped, especially CHILDREN, like the case I described above, allowed to abort? I can’t fathom an 11 year old giving birth to and raising a child in the 21st century.
Penda Ba nope. If the child is a threat to mothers health then it can be aborted. I’ve seen many fatwas online about this
Yup health comes before anything in islam. If the baby threatens the life of the mother its ok to abort. And in any case under any circumstances you can abort before 120 days though its better to ask allah for guidance i think. Allah knows best. My duas go out to that poor girl and her child
I'm tired of seeing these people saying that you still have to keep the baby even if you get raped or have a risky pregnancy. just think about this, those babies are much safer in heaven than having to go through the suffering after they are born. Think about the women and young girls who are victims of rape and how psychologically damaged they are, and people like you ridicule and go all "YOU EFFING MURDERER YOU KILLED YOUR BABY"
actually, if u have a risky pregnancy, which can threaten the health of a mother..u can have an abortion based on some of scholars'opinions. but..if the baby and the mother are both healthy, u cant have abortion
Did you even watch the video...?
but what if woman wants a break from this, if she doesn't want to keep herself busy all her life,, giving birth one after another and reaping them all her life - what if she wants to do sth in her life, do good to the already existents who are suffering in the world today, or that she wants to do sth big or anything, or that she is losing her health, she is becoming weaker everytime - what in that case ?
I got my girlfriend pregnant we are not married she is not Muslim I am from a Muslim family went to Islamic school for a big part of my life I used to be super religious I’m still only 18. Idk what to do
Assalamualaikum. May Allah keep us in His blessing of all time. My question is, how about terminating an unborn child that is genetically faulted that it will be risking his life (such as thalassemia)? Thank you :)
Msblakbord hi so umm this actually really stuck me. Im not v educated in islamic studies tho i am a Muslim but i hace Thalassemia major or atleast had before my bone marrow transplant. I wull answer this question Because i am i was born sure it was lil hard but my life is worth it and a parent does not love his child any less if she/he has such a disability so why take away a beautiful life
a disabled child is equal to a healthy child in the eyes of God
I wanna know what to do if I was told by doctor not to get pregnant for 6 month. .. because my baby died in womb in 7 th month...but what if I accidently got pregnant... I had to abort or not for medical reasons!?? I can't stop my husband it may lead to curse of angels ...
Good speaker who for the most part speaks the language of the pro life movement. But in the end he throws it all out the window when he acknowledges that it's the woman's choice. What if it was her choice to abort and the husband was against this? Also, I'm sure he's aware that the major part of his story goes against what the madhabs have held on this issue, so then I would expect him to address this. Maybe in another video?
Alhamdulilah a Muslim speaking the truth.
How sad! May Allah protect us all.
I don't agree that the mother should have to deal with the trauma of carrying a child that was conceived through sexual assault.
Sexual assault is a different matter. In those cases its good to consult with a Shaykh. This video is about a married couple....