Putting you on the defensive is always a sleezy tactic to get you reacting. When you react, they are in control. Never react. Respond with a hard fact, then walk away.
Exactly, you can respond imo by giving them a little taste of truth telling ; which may be sometimes considered in some circles to be contrary to conventional wisdom(giving them supply). Today I stand up for myself. And keep affirming, “ I am already abundant now.”
My narc bff apparently didn't understand that people generally don't expect or enjoy their bff sharing anything and everything about them with other people. When I discovered that she had discussed in depth a problem I had had with someone I had never met, i was angry and confronted her. Her reaction? "I didn't think you'd care. You didn't tell me it was a secret!" She frequently feigned ignorance of common sense.
I did this every week for years. Apologising for things years ago in the past, 6 yrs after. Having conversations twisted and leaving me explaining myself. He would change what insaid and the way i said it. It was a living e otional nightmare.
I completely agree this is my own personal experience. So heart breaking when its your adult child behaving like this and they weaponise the baby grandchild you love so much and want in your life. Going to practice self care and grey rocking and non responding. Basically changing my naturally loving empathetic helpful nature to protect myself from the confusing unkindness i receive in return. 😢
Its taken me a year and a half to deal with the 34 years we were together and her just dumping the whole thing becasue she doesn't know if she ever loved me. So, after dealing with this I e seen a whole new person who was always tryin to beat me at everything, but i was unaware of her always disrespecting me. I didn't know that a woman doesn't care about doing God's will. She was always on the phone at Church after the music. She was on the phone all the time, shecouldnt handle being with people, she jut ignored everyone. I do not want that again, ever!
you leave a conversation with them thinking you are on the same page....only to find out later that they "misunderstood" Ok, until it happens way more than it should over the years --- this is the norm not the exception. You are so dumb that you are unable to communicate matters properly. They are so innocent. Anytime you have to explain something to an adult as you would a young child...
Putting you on the defensive is always a sleezy tactic to get you reacting. When you react, they are in control. Never react. Respond with a hard fact, then walk away.
Exactly, you can respond imo by giving them a little taste of truth telling ; which may be sometimes considered in some circles to be contrary to conventional wisdom(giving them supply).
Today I stand up for myself. And keep affirming, “ I am already abundant now.”
My narc bff apparently didn't understand that people generally don't expect or enjoy their bff sharing anything and everything about them with other people. When I discovered that she had discussed in depth a problem I had had with someone I had never met, i was angry and confronted her. Her reaction? "I didn't think you'd care. You didn't tell me it was a secret!" She frequently feigned ignorance of common sense.
I stay away from those people at all cost.
Awesome needed this a long time ago
Omg this is so true. I literally cannot trust myself even when I know I’m right….😢
I did this every week for years. Apologising for things years ago in the past, 6 yrs after. Having conversations twisted and leaving me explaining myself. He would change what insaid and the way i said it. It was a living e otional nightmare.
I completely agree this is my own personal experience. So heart breaking when its your adult child behaving like this and they weaponise the baby grandchild you love so much and want in your life.
Going to practice self care and grey rocking and non responding.
Basically changing my naturally loving empathetic helpful nature to protect myself from the confusing unkindness i receive in return. 😢
My wife in a nutshell because my beliefs have changed.❤
Its taken me a year and a half to deal with the 34 years we were together and her just dumping the whole thing becasue she doesn't know if she ever loved me. So, after dealing with this I e seen a whole new person who was always tryin to beat me at everything, but i was unaware of her always disrespecting me. I didn't know that a woman doesn't care about doing God's will. She was always on the phone at Church after the music. She was on the phone all the time, shecouldnt handle being with people, she jut ignored everyone. I do not want that again, ever!
Well. On a good note. I’m an expert in using the right words to get my point across while focusing on the issue and not the person.
Just say....." .....yeah WHATEVER....!!!!"😮
Liked last part, eye roll 🙄
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you leave a conversation with them thinking you are on the same page....only to find out later that they "misunderstood" Ok, until it happens way more than it should over the years --- this is the norm not the exception. You are so dumb that you are unable to communicate matters properly. They are so innocent. Anytime you have to explain something to an adult as you would a young child...