5 Secrets To Letting Go That Make You Insanely Attractive

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  • 5 Secrets To Letting Go That Make You Insanely Attractive
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    In today's episode, we are going to be going over five secrets of letting go and detaching from outcome that make you extremely attractive to your ex, making them want to get back together with you.
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  • @brianthomas3451
    @brianthomas3451 ปีที่แล้ว +70

    I miss her everyday. I treated her badly when we were together. She was the best person I’ve ever known. I hope to get her back one day.

    • @chrisbajema8002
      @chrisbajema8002 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Continue to be that man you needed to be and see

    • @brianthomas3451
      @brianthomas3451 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you!

    • @aureenreal3677
      @aureenreal3677 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@brianthomas3451 when did you realise that you treated her bad and that u actually love her ? Did u too broke up u broke up with her?

    • @jessicadavis4163
      @jessicadavis4163 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Brian Thomas I am very intrigued by your comment. You said you treated her badly. I’m curious of how and why you treated her badly? Is that why you all broke up? Did you break up with her or did she break up with you?

    • @tracyrooster
      @tracyrooster ปีที่แล้ว +11

      U don't realise what u had until u lost it..

  • @Oviraptor10
    @Oviraptor10 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Thank you so much for this video, Clay!
    I've always been a control freak and even though I've been working on it for years and had gotten way better (or so I thought) my sudden breakup 2 months ago knocked me right back into square one (or worse, lol).
    I've been struggling to detach even though I have every intention to. This video really helps me keep working on it and puts things into perspective.
    Thank you!

  • @RobbiJamesVogt
    @RobbiJamesVogt 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love the way you look outside the box. Nothing is black and white and you see it. Keep it up!

  • @chbruiser
    @chbruiser ปีที่แล้ว +8

    After 23 years of marriage to my best friend it’s excruciatingly hard not to want to contact them. I am attached to”out come” .

    • @ClayAndrews
      @ClayAndrews  ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi @chbruiser, 23 years of marriage is really something. You mentioned that you are attached to "outcome". What are the things that you have done so far to manage that attachment? :-)

    • @chbruiser
      @chbruiser ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ClayAndrews I was quoting you “out come”.

  • @gutsandgrittv5076
    @gutsandgrittv5076 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Your best video ❤️

  • @spencerfrankclayton4348
    @spencerfrankclayton4348 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Where was this video when I needed it?? I definitely need it today. I didn't even realize I was attached to outcome. I work with my ex and I make mistakes so much, trying not to seem needy!! 😢❤

  • @spacepup3028
    @spacepup3028 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What’s weird is how when you naturally get there, you figure out that how your ex is being distant or difficult or all this weird shit…. You just find that you don’t want them anymore. Because someone else will want you.

  • @LeafsIn2024
    @LeafsIn2024 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    One of your best videos over the years, Clay.
    Appreciated! 🙏🇨🇦

  • @diamondd2778
    @diamondd2778 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Awesome video Clay . . Always a highlight of the day. Always helpful and very appreciated. Thanks bud! One day wld luv a chat.

  • @cwigg7728
    @cwigg7728 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you. It took so long, but I’m detached from outcome and have gained clarity. I will always love my ex, but I don’t need her. I’ve never felt more free than I have in the last few weeks. She’s not on my mind 24/7, and it feels great. I now feel I can move on from her, and before the thought of that hurt so much. I never thought I’d get to this point…but here I am.

    • @melindakube1705
      @melindakube1705 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I would love some insight on how in the heck to accomplish this detachment!! Its driving myself crazy. I can't imagine not wanting him or thinking about him...but uts been 10 long painful months now.

  • @danjewburger
    @danjewburger ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love your videos clay, this girl hurt me really bad and I know she feels terrible about it. She would love bomb me then when I was interested she’d back way, I’m not sure why she does this but in your opinion what does it mean when they never watch your stories and unlike all your pictures since you’ve known them? Strange right?

  • @mouniranouasria9459
    @mouniranouasria9459 ปีที่แล้ว

    I was with my love 25 years, we have 2 kids. After the separation, I was very needy, and he was just angry losing his best years for me, such a fake in his eyes. Over 1 year of hoping, fighting, crying, i let go. I am tired. I still love him and really want to be with him, but i try to be me now. Now i am happy for him, even if he is happy without me. I am grateful for all good things in my life. Hope i do not fake myself saying that 😊

  • @taylordemonico1926
    @taylordemonico1926 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Beautiful

  • @RobGordon35
    @RobGordon35 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Liking the new backdrop Clay, ~Peace

    • @ClayAndrews
      @ClayAndrews  ปีที่แล้ว

      @RobGordon35, thank you so much. :-)

  • @melindakube1705
    @melindakube1705 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Dear Clay. Thank you for this video. I've been watching your videos for a long time. My ex and I were together 1.5 yrs, he broke up with me 10 months ago, blocking me from all platforms except regular Facebook so he can view my profile.
    I do good but then something triggers my emotions and I'm a mess again. I will do anything for him to come back to me.
    I do NOT understand the" how to" to let go of the attachment to outcome!! I have watched numerous videos on letting go of the attachment to outcome various different people and I still don't understand how to do it please help

  • @katiehaubrick4215
    @katiehaubrick4215 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    He breaks up with me every month or two and then when I don't text him back he gets upset. Then when he thinks he can't have me, he comes back. He's bipolar and not medicated and I assume his feelings run on his manic and depressive episodes. Ideally, no this isn't a cycle I want in my life but it still upsets me. Most recently he proposed to me and then broke it off and said the proposal was just a "romantic gesture". He broke up with me because he said we don't get enough time together and he thinks that I can do better. I'm too old for this game, but I still hate to dismissed...never feels good. I love your videos. Thank you Clay! I've been watching your videos for years!

    • @robertgailey9910
      @robertgailey9910 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So sorry on your story, but you really have to be careful whom you are into with, so he doesn't waste your time

    • @katiehaubrick4215
      @katiehaubrick4215 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@robertgailey9910 yes, nothing is a guarantee in life and we all take chances every day. I think every opportunity is a learning experience. If we think of things they way, we're never wasting our time. Thank you for the comment. 😊

    • @robertgailey9910
      @robertgailey9910 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@katiehaubrick4215 you are right on your own side of opinion.
      You don't really have to thank me, I saw your story and decide to give out mine own idea. I hope you stay safe, and take care.

    • @katiehaubrick4215
      @katiehaubrick4215 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@robertgailey9910 I understand what you mean. I just try to reframe my mindset because it helps me stay more positive. It's something I've been working on. Have a great day! 😊

    • @robertgailey9910
      @robertgailey9910 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@katiehaubrick4215 okay dear, Thanks you too have a great day always 😊.

  • @paulsell2438
    @paulsell2438 ปีที่แล้ว

    Made it two weeks into NC before she reached out. Had a 4 hour conversation, I showed a stronger better me...lots of emotions though. We're gently reentering texting regularly, totally riding the dragon. I'll continue to look to your videos for motivation on maintaining a good mindset and see where things go.

    • @Jakuboooooooooo
      @Jakuboooooooooo ปีที่แล้ว

      Update?

    • @paulsell2438
      @paulsell2438 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Jakuboooooooooo first date night tonight, had a great time...we shall see what comes of it. Lots of growth for both of us. Happy to hear she is also seeing a counselor.

  • @tracyhamilton8439
    @tracyhamilton8439 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Married 22. Years
    Divorced because he wanted it
    Cannot stop longing for him
    Discovery of who I am not as a wife, friend , nurse, young mother is very painful
    It’s been so hard
    I am recreating the best version of me… maybe he will return
    Emotionally attached like nothing I’ve ever experienced
    But perhaps it’s one sided?
    I’m questioning everything
    He is very careful not to say anything.. except pleasantries and business matters
    Ugh

  • @HeatherlynnGraham-lb8ye
    @HeatherlynnGraham-lb8ye หลายเดือนก่อน

    Same age

  • @markai2002
    @markai2002 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Clay, I had a coaching session with you the other day.
    I reached out to my ex and it went alright, she was open to talking to me and has been responding quite consistently, although she definitely sometimes seems distant. I've tried doing some of the things you told me, as well as just gauging her answers and keeping myself in a grounded place.
    However, when we had the "same team" conversation, she didn't seem sure about wanting to talk to me ("umm if you're ready I guess we can talk"). I told her it was okay to be confused and that I was too, and that we could figure out how to interact without making it uncomfortable.
    Does this seem hopeful to you?
    Thank you for your time.

    • @Jakuboooooooooo
      @Jakuboooooooooo ปีที่แล้ว

      Update?

    • @markai2002
      @markai2002 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Jakuboooooooooo Going good, though still in riding the dragon stage, or seeing a lot of hot and cold/contradictory behavior.

    • @Jakuboooooooooo
      @Jakuboooooooooo ปีที่แล้ว

      @@markai2002 just outta curiosity how did you reach out to her? What did you say/do and what was the situation prior to reaching out?

  • @marqann
    @marqann ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Working closely with my ex, it is so so hard.. how do you detach when he's in my face every day...?

    • @ClayAndrews
      @ClayAndrews  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @marqann I understand that it may not be easy to detach automatically from an ex especially if you both are working together. But accepting the current status and healing may eventually help you work on detaching yourself on the outcome. Sending more positive energies on your end.

    • @marqann
      @marqann ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ClayAndrews Used some of your advice, and we had such a good talk... about emotionally bonding, feeling more optimistic, so thanks...

    • @spencerfrankclayton4348
      @spencerfrankclayton4348 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Me, exactly.

  • @cantgobck69
    @cantgobck69 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm going to share this with my bestie Sahra her x my x are like terrible twos lol twins we both suffer God's lil jokes and challenges

  • @cantgobck69
    @cantgobck69 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I hate these type shows but clay has me not throwing shit at my TV. He is a normal in a abnormal world it's easy to spot the real from unreal he does not play the sides he just straight up the center

  • @aminhonari6883
    @aminhonari6883 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    If you guys really understand what this man says you 99%of your problem in all aspects of life will be solved

  • @___spiritofadventure___
    @___spiritofadventure___ ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I dion't buy this "rebound" relationship. It's just a new relationship.