Michael Caine, yes the actor, summed this up when he told of an experience he had when auditioning, early in his fledgling acting career. he had to walk on stage and open a door into a room to deliver his lines. Unfortunately, for him, the door was stuck. He called to the Director, who called back "Use the difficulty!" This stuck with Caine & he even shared it with his kids when they encountered problems & it helped them too & it seems to resonate with this idea of McGonigal's imho...
"Take the power back from stress" - YES! Absolutely! Shifting mindset on what self-care means can help stress too. Self-care can mean tackling challenges, meeting goals, and gaining a sense of accomplishment as a result.
It's not about magically stop working stressful jobs one needs to sustain a family because stress is bad or thinking that the stress from those jobs is ok because stress is normal. It's about switching from working hard because things are bad to working hard because you have the power to better yourself and people you love, not as a positive mantra, but as a reality that is true in our Universe. Making that mental switch helps you realize that situations you previously stressed about are not relevant to your person because they come from prejudices and from other people being ignorant of who you are. Then you can cancel all the garbage that may sometimes block your path and realize that there's nothing to fix because there is nothing wrong. Right may be right even if it's just you, and wrong is wrong even if everyone is doing it. Our world is backwards right now. This approach to stress is a step in the right direction, but the journey must be finished because if we stop at it's okay to be stressed because stress is normal (which is true [stress should not be demonized]), then we do not realize we can make some changes to our toxic environment and most importantly cancel all nonexistent negativity which we constantly believe is true when it is false. It's okay for a zebra to stress when a lion runs after it. Same logic applies to us in daily life and that is what this video defines well. It's not okay for a zebra (human) think it's okay to live in an environment where lions are constantly running after you. The solution is to take steps to better your environment every single day of your life, even if as small as choosing to stop watching negative news or painting after work. The Universe wants things to be good, and when you harmonize yourself, you are harmonizing yourself to the Universe.
We can get to a point where we feel comfortable doing things we care about even if there is some uncertainty. I only say this because I don’t want people to think it’s totally impossible. By us doing that we block ourselves in the same way we did when it wasn’t possible for stress to be good. I speak this from experience of training thousands of soldiers, and from when explosions were going off around me multiple times while deployed, and I was able to keep cool. I can still experience stress from much less, like my reputation being on the line 😅, after all I am here, but I don’t want you or anyone else saying, “I’m always going to feel like this from that and I have no choice.” Of course, there’s nothing wrong with proper framing of stress though.
Love this, Trevor. Thanks for always sharing such wisdom! (After learning about Alison Wood Brooks "emotional reappraisal" work a while back, I've been teaching this to my leadership/coaching clients before we do a hike that takes them out of their comfort zone. A common thing I say, and that my Epic clients will say, is "I'm not nervous. I'm excited." This is 100% due to AWB's research showing that because stress and excitement are both high arousal energies, it's more effective to try to shift from anxious to excited than from anxious to calm. Thanks so much for your work!
... as a German Biologist - this is about our Conditioned PAIN - Reward Pattern leading to Over Rewarding when we perceive even imagined “PAIN” that becomes unbearable... it takes intense Endurance Training to de Condition the perceived PAIN and STOP Rewarding! I call it Emotional Dry Fasting ... -as this is so unpopular and we do everything to increase Over Rewarding we accelerate Human Self Extinction...
Thank you for the video, very valuable content. My only criticism is that sustained unbroken eye contact is unnerving and deeply unsettling, and makes me want to click off the video despite enjoying the content and presentation. I even had to cover the eyes when watching at one point! When talking, aim to look away at least 35 - 40% of the time, though in a video you can do this a little less. If your other videos have this unsettling eye contact I won’t be watching 😅. Aside from that, great video. I sincerely hope you take this advice on board.
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Michael Caine, yes the actor, summed this up when he told of an experience he had when auditioning, early in his fledgling acting career. he had to walk on stage and open a door into a room to deliver his lines. Unfortunately, for him, the door was stuck. He called to the Director, who called back "Use the difficulty!"
This stuck with Caine & he even shared it with his kids when they encountered problems & it helped them too & it seems to resonate with this idea of McGonigal's imho...
"Take the power back from stress" - YES! Absolutely! Shifting mindset on what self-care means can help stress too. Self-care can mean tackling challenges, meeting goals, and gaining a sense of accomplishment as a result.
Very stoic. It is not the response of our body that is bad, but our interpretation of it.
It's not about magically stop working stressful jobs one needs to sustain a family because stress is bad or thinking that the stress from those jobs is ok because stress is normal. It's about switching from working hard because things are bad to working hard because you have the power to better yourself and people you love, not as a positive mantra, but as a reality that is true in our Universe. Making that mental switch helps you realize that situations you previously stressed about are not relevant to your person because they come from prejudices and from other people being ignorant of who you are. Then you can cancel all the garbage that may sometimes block your path and realize that there's nothing to fix because there is nothing wrong. Right may be right even if it's just you, and wrong is wrong even if everyone is doing it. Our world is backwards right now. This approach to stress is a step in the right direction, but the journey must be finished because if we stop at it's okay to be stressed because stress is normal (which is true [stress should not be demonized]), then we do not realize we can make some changes to our toxic environment and most importantly cancel all nonexistent negativity which we constantly believe is true when it is false.
It's okay for a zebra to stress when a lion runs after it. Same logic applies to us in daily life and that is what this video defines well.
It's not okay for a zebra (human) think it's okay to live in an environment where lions are constantly running after you.
The solution is to take steps to better your environment every single day of your life, even if as small as choosing to stop watching negative news or painting after work.
The Universe wants things to be good, and when you harmonize yourself, you are harmonizing yourself to the Universe.
I cannot tell you enough how much this video helped me. Thank you so much
We can get to a point where we feel comfortable doing things we care about even if there is some uncertainty. I only say this because I don’t want people to think it’s totally impossible. By us doing that we block ourselves in the same way we did when it wasn’t possible for stress to be good.
I speak this from experience of training thousands of soldiers, and from when explosions were going off around me multiple times while deployed, and I was able to keep cool. I can still experience stress from much less, like my reputation being on the line 😅, after all I am here, but I don’t want you or anyone else saying, “I’m always going to feel like this from that and I have no choice.”
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with proper framing of stress though.
Love this, Trevor. Thanks for always sharing such wisdom! (After learning about Alison Wood Brooks "emotional reappraisal" work a while back, I've been teaching this to my leadership/coaching clients before we do a hike that takes them out of their comfort zone. A common thing I say, and that my Epic clients will say, is "I'm not nervous. I'm excited." This is 100% due to AWB's research showing that because stress and excitement are both high arousal energies, it's more effective to try to shift from anxious to excited than from anxious to calm. Thanks so much for your work!
great comment!
I knew I was missing something with growth mindset and this is it! Thank you for this so much!
... as a German Biologist -
this is about our Conditioned PAIN - Reward Pattern
leading to Over Rewarding
when we perceive even imagined “PAIN”
that becomes unbearable...
it takes intense Endurance Training
to de Condition the perceived PAIN
and STOP Rewarding!
I call it
Emotional Dry Fasting
... -as this is so unpopular
and we do everything to increase Over Rewarding
we accelerate Human Self Extinction...
such a powerful video, thank you
Do you have an example of the paragraph instruction on stress for students before taking the test? Where can I find it?
Can you share what tool you use to record your pod?
Thank you for the video, very valuable content. My only criticism is that sustained unbroken eye contact is unnerving and deeply unsettling, and makes me want to click off the video despite enjoying the content and presentation. I even had to cover the eyes when watching at one point! When talking, aim to look away at least 35 - 40% of the time, though in a video you can do this a little less. If your other videos have this unsettling eye contact I won’t be watching 😅. Aside from that, great video. I sincerely hope you take this advice on board.
If I'm not stressed I feel depressed, is that bad?
How to reframe depression?
Listening to this 10 years ago Ted Talks: th-cam.com/video/RcGyVTAoXEU/w-d-xo.htmlsi=O3SZ7KsJieO1xYzr
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