Time stamps: 1. 02:55 Hi Kati! Can your depression change over time? I've been depressed for about 10 years but my depression feels differen.. 2. 10:52 I have this faulty belief that I am not as good as everybody else. It is so deeply ingrained that I'm starting to witn.. 3. 20:05 Hi Kati! Is there any advice you can give to help people who have no way of affording therapy right now? I lost my job.. 4. 26:05 Hi Kati, I hope you are doing well. What do you tell your clients when they want to give up? I have had so many period.. 5. 34:25 Do therapists lie whether they experienced a similar event or feeling to reassure clients? Do they make up harmless st.. 6. 39:44 Do therapists test you even outside your appointment? Is that part of their job? For example, when you meet them befor.. 7. 44:21 Hi Kati I hope you’re having a happy day. I’m curious about your experience with patients working through C-PTSD. .. 8. 49:00 Hi Kati, how can I learn to communicate my anger? Growing up I learned to never be angry because my parents often got .. 9. 1:00:06 Hi Kati, why do painful memories trigger self-harm urges? I’ve recently been trying to process painful memories from.. 10. 1:05:27 I've always romanticized death. My whole life has been about running away from everything, escaping. I want to change .. Please correct me if i'm wrong these are auto generated :)
Hello people in the comments it's good to have this space to feel comfortable because everyone here has a health problem that they struggle to cope with just want to say you always make me feel welcome thank you to the people iv met anyone new I meet here is nice so thank you hope you remember me
I really appreciate this Kati! You give such great advice. I lost my cat two months ago and she was one of my anchors to keep going when my depression was awful. The grief has been awful and while I am seeing a therapist, I find watching your videos a lot more helpful.
I love how positive you are, like when you were saying things will get better even though everything in your head tells you otherwise. I feel like I needed to hear that today!
In regards to question #5 I'm not a therapist but as a person who has been through childhood emotional trauma I've been gaslighted, manipulated and lied to by people I was suppose to trust. If my therapist were to tell me personal things about himself (which he doesn't) and I were to find cracks in his story and then later found out he had been lying to me that would cause a huge rupture in the relationship for me! I don't think I would continue to seeing him. I can not tolerate dishonesty. I would rather hear a hard truth than a comforting white lie.
I’m very similar to Kati in how I feel that oversharing is against our professional ethics. I do share some personal stories or experiences/commonalities. For example, if I work with someone who is really feeling shame about having trauma, I will make a slight share and say “I can understand and relate to that feeling in my experience too” but I would not say what my trauma was, or go into myself further than that. Like Kati said, this time is for you, and I have my own therapist to work through my stuff with. Validation and normalizing is a huge part of therapy. It’s what makes us have a good relationship with our clients which is ultimately about 60% of how therapy works. If it’s like “do you like comics too?” i would be more likely to do a fib there and say “oh yeah they can be cool” even though it isn’t my thing.
Sierra M I love and appreciate my therapist don’t get me wrong😊. But I feel like she overshares, but I don’t dare bring up and remind her of boundaries. It’s good to have boundaries on both ends😊. And I do appreciate her for sharing some of her struggles..but I feel like she overshares.
Just getting off a plane...and I'm SOOOOO looking forward to listening!!!! Yay!! ....you're checking in...so i can tell ya I've been with my friends i hadn't seen in a year. Yes, we practiced physical distancing....and yes, our social bubble was kept in tact. I needed this SO much. It's been the most difficult year of my life...Covid aside, hardest one hands down. I feel re-energized , ready to focus and work hard this winter.
another great episode. And yes, getting a dog is a wonderful way of getting a purpose. Adopting a stray even gives you an extra purpose, as you both know suffering!
Kati Morton. hello just managed to watch this new podcast I really needed this podcast hate missing them and listening to them live i can't no longer act happy or be happy honestly haven't been feeling myself i cracked a day ago todays been worse i have been very depressed and i been sleeping a lot and wanted to cry reaching out just for anyone to talk to right now I havent been in any therapy for a long time and corona virus and having things I was looking forward to cancelled hasn't helped how I feel thank you for this new health podcast glad you keep them coming I really need them you have become my only go to place as doings things around my house just isn't helping now your the best kati
I have a new hobby. Cross stitch embroidery. I needed something to focus on, to keep my anxiety and depression getting all of me, so to speak. It is great because I have to focus on it, 100% - and it is relaxing. I think it's a healthy outlet, especially on the days when things feel extra heavy. I haven't done that kind of stuff (cross-stitching) since I was a kid, - so pretty excited to try again (and test my patience, lol) - and to have something to look forward to (even if it is just a small thing) that I can do during the day. Thank you for yet another podcast/video
Hi Kati! You are awesome. Your videos have brought me so much help and comfort during hard times in my life. You are invaluable. Couple of weeks ago I found out that my long-time life partner had cheated on me for a year. How am I able to cope with infidelity and ptsd associated with it?
35:09 "no, we don't lie" 35:15 "i've told patients in the past like don't worry, i've heard this before, even it's a new thing for me" my sanity spiraling down into confusion...
"You don't have any evidence that you're not that good or that you're not as good as anyone else." I wish. My brain keeps on playing that evidence on repeat so I'm having trouble looking for evidence against it.
I call this the "broken record" effect. Our internal dialogue will just keep repeating things over and over again and it can be really annoying. As far as your self esteem is concerned, I would suggest the cliche idea of only comparing yourself today to the you of yesterday. There will always be someone better than you, and someone worse than you in any given metric. It's our responsibility to improve our character based on past experiences. If you're feeling lazy, spend 5 minutes cleaning your room. If it's more than you spent yesterday, congratulations you've improved! Start as small as you need to and have the humility to accept that changes might have to start in small steps. Sorry for long response, hope it helps!
@@Meechy37 Comparing myself today to myself yesterday sounds pretty depressing these days. I don't really know what to do with that feeling lazy bit. My body is stuck in freeze and flop these days. When I get overwhelmed my muscles don't want to hold my body any more. I didn't tidy up my flat these days because I know if I tried I would have had a meltdown from the sensory overwhelm of looking at all the clutter.
@@toni2309 You sound very stuck in a vicious cycle. Coming to terms with it might help. Accepting that you are doing something wrong is the biggest hurdle you have to jump over. If you don't know what you want, try naming a few things you figure most people would say. Cleaner house, more energy, better diet, quality alone time, a passion that you can pursue. Surely something has to exist that can motivate you. Because you feel so deep in the hole, you have to aim low at first. Don't clean the entire flat because you know you won't do it. Clean a single drawer. Going from doing nothing to cleaning a drawer is a lot for someone who gets overwhelmed. I set my goals just at the edge of my reach but no further. Don't let yourself be tossed aside by the world. Fighting back sounds hard but you're already doing. Otherwise you wouldn't be here. In the darkest of spaces is where you find the brightest of lights. I can't convince you that you're worth taking care of. You have to make that choice, and I hope you do. If you need professional help please seek it. As Kati mentioned in the video, there are resources online like Better Help and other therapy programs.
@@Meechy37 What you are saying sounds deeply offending and condescending to me. I hope you never have to deal with executive dysfunction. I hope you never have to deal with wanting to do something but your body not moving. I hope you never force yourself to clean up only to later not have the energy to get yourself ready for bed. I hope you never experience meltdowns or shutdowns in the middle of what you are doing. I hope you never experience trauma that gives you flashbacks in the middle of what you are doing. I hope your body never just decides to fall to the ground because you are overwhelmed.
Hi Julia, I hope you're having a good week :) Northern Norway! I love how we can connect across great distances over similar ideas. Thanks for being here!
My therapist made my co pay half at least until I can get a job. I am so thankful for that though my parents were paying for it but my mom had to leave her job because of a family emergency
I feel so weird about you answering two of my questions, like I'm taking the opportunity from someone else, but I know it's not just me, it's also the people who liked the comment. I especially loved when you said you don't have the global answer, it was really... I don't know the word... humanic? No, that sounds terrible. Whatever. Just a quick thought, though not that quick, but besides that, thank you 💛
I wish as a teenager I had known that I would be a completely different person in my 30s. I had no hope back then but now I know I can change and overcome these things. So I now I dont have this crazy fear of always being the same and be so consumed by my emotions. I still struggle but now I know it is temporary. I won't always feel that way.
Katy, I have a very toxic sister that I have lived with for over a year. She moved out a few weeks ago but I keep rehearsing her negative conversations in my head. She hovers over people, questions everything I do and is just intrusive. She's the oldest sibling, I'm the youngest.
I think I need a different approach than bridge statements. They seem to make me more anxious, and perpetuate the thoughts of that either things are really bad or okay. I'm currently trying to get comfortable with little bad things. All my life I have been feeling like if I've done something wrong or if someone was unhappy with me that meant that the world was ending. And with all that bridge statements or positive talk I just switch between "I'm okay" and "I'm horrible" and I tell myself that it's okay until I can't hold it any longer and drown in negativity. So I'm searching for things that are negative, but don't make the world end. Just little things you see, see that it could be better, but don't mean that everything is bad or that I am bad. Yesterday, I left advertising in the mail instead of putting it into the junk. And it didn't hurt anyone even if putting it to the junk would have been the more responsible thing to do.
@@toni2309 I'm sorry, of course you didn't ask a question. I just liked your post so much because it felt like something that is true for me as well / similar to my everyday approach. I wanted Kati to see your approach (no bridge statements but small things that we can tolerate). At the moment I also try the bridge statements but I'm not a big fan. However, your approach could help people as well. Sorry English is not my mother tongue, please excuse wrong expressions.
Kati "sniffer of negative thoughts"... How often we crap talk ourselves, even when asking questions. And we never notice it. But we can count on you to "sniff" it out and then "snuff" it out!!! lol
Congratulations on your continued success!!! How do you help somebody who honestly means well but is terribly, chronically late? She's got ADHD and she's a mom with 4 kids, 2 toddlers. She seems resigned butnit's causing big problems and issues in her life and effecting others in a bad way. She says she wasn't always this way, and she used to be early or on time so consistently that if she was late without calling ahead, people would call, worried about her. What can she do about priorities like getting her kids to amd from school? She doesn't forget - she just keeps trying to do "one more little thing, real quick." I ha e seen her say this in the moment amd she'll get in the car but go back for something she forgot 2-3 times.
Re. your itchy nose: If not allergies, it *could* be a food allergy. Not trying to worry you, truly just trying to help. And did you not say(?) once that your nose tends to itch after eating? It was maybe a different Podcaster? ❤
My nose is itching all the time at work. I have to keep touching my mask because of that. According to my allergy specialist (we did skin puncturing test - 7-9 drops of allergens), I'm only SLIGHTLY allergic to cats, but the others are basically 0 reaction. Weird.
You talk about coping a lot. What about thriving? I don't aspire to cope well. Why bother? That seems like the equivalent to treading water - just staying afloat but not actually going anywhere. I want something to aspire to, and not with a disclaimer attached. I don't need to be reminded that real life happens. I need something I can aspire to and look forward to. And making it through the day just isn't. What does healing look like on the other side?
You aren’t meant to use coping every second of every day, unless you’re at a point you DO need to do that to actually stay alive. That’s the thing here, people with mental illness can’t always “thrive”, but they can still aspire to... even while using coping skills. It doesn’t have to be one or the other. Learning to use positive coping skills helps us turn from things like alcohol, self-harm etc, to healthier alternatives. In DBT they teach not to use them for every little problem. Sometimes you simply have to face shit. But for people who can barely make it 5 minutes in a day without wanting to die or whatever else... coping skills ARE something to aspire to use well. But it’s not about needing them forever. It’s not about staying in this middle state and never moving forward. The skills help propel us forward. Until we know how to do it on our own. I’m just saying it’s not an issue of either or, it’s both things at once coinciding to give us the best results.
Hi Kati! Hope you are doing well. I have a question: why recently you (or is it Sean's doing? Well... Hi Sean, hope you are doing well and blah blah blah...) started geotaging your videos as Santa Monica instead of Los Angeles? Isn't Santa Monica considered to be a part of LA? I'm slightly confused.
Oh, it's just part of the upload process. Sometimes I put LA sometimes Santa Monica... Sometimes I have fun with it and label it as recorded in random places. No real reason.
My mum wants to take me to a psychiatrist but i dont want to go, because i want want to get out of depression, i want to die 😞😞😞😞😞😞 I am 17 and I've been in depression since 2016, and I've been suicidal for 2 years, i was gonna end my like last year when i found a friend who listened to me and got me out of it temporarily, but it all came back even badly, i cant cope with it at all, i cant continue anymore I'm littrally done with living(LIFE).
Im not question #8 but I absolutely can relate. I shouldn't get angry because then Ill turn into my father and I can't do that. I can never do that. Now, is that a distorted belief? I don't think so. I learned so much from him and I have his genes. Realistically, the gene pool should've ended with him and I should never have been born to curse the world with more people like my father
I'm curious why you always say people need to see a psychiatrist to discuss medications. I'm a primary care doctor and take care of so many patients with depression, anxiety, ADHD, and more. We have very few Psychiatrists in my area, and if all my patients who need medication as part of their mental health care waited to see a specialist, many would never get appropriate care. I just worry that communicating that seeing a Psychiatrist is the only way to start medication for anxiety, depression, etc might prevent people from getting all the care they need. I otherwise love your content and learn a lot from it. Plus I love hearing about the approach you you take as another important part of the healthcare team! 💜
Surprisingly in my childhood in Ukraine, I knew NOBODY who was ever depressed and they were the 90s - surviving on bare minimum (financially) years for 90% -95% of the population. This shows that money has very little to do with happiness in general.
What is the point? Not one. I could bust my ass getting to a hotspot everyday. I'll never catch up to ask 5 million times. I guess I`m broke, and boo fucking hoo.
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1. 02:55 Hi Kati! Can your depression change over time? I've been depressed for about 10 years but my depression feels differen..
2. 10:52 I have this faulty belief that I am not as good as everybody else. It is so deeply ingrained that I'm starting to witn..
3. 20:05 Hi Kati! Is there any advice you can give to help people who have no way of affording therapy right now? I lost my job..
4. 26:05 Hi Kati, I hope you are doing well. What do you tell your clients when they want to give up? I have had so many period..
5. 34:25 Do therapists lie whether they experienced a similar event or feeling to reassure clients? Do they make up harmless st..
6. 39:44 Do therapists test you even outside your appointment? Is that part of their job? For example, when you meet them befor..
7. 44:21 Hi Kati I hope you’re having a happy day. I’m curious about your experience with patients working through C-PTSD. ..
8. 49:00 Hi Kati, how can I learn to communicate my anger? Growing up I learned to never be angry because my parents often got ..
9. 1:00:06 Hi Kati, why do painful memories trigger self-harm urges? I’ve recently been trying to process painful memories from..
10. 1:05:27 I've always romanticized death. My whole life has been about running away from everything, escaping. I want to change ..
Please correct me if i'm wrong these are auto generated :)
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Hello people in the comments it's good to have this space to feel comfortable because everyone here has a health problem that they struggle to cope with just want to say you always make me feel welcome thank you to the people iv met anyone new I meet here is nice so thank you hope you remember me
I really appreciate this Kati! You give such great advice. I lost my cat two months ago and she was one of my anchors to keep going when my depression was awful. The grief has been awful and while I am seeing a therapist, I find watching your videos a lot more helpful.
I love how positive you are, like when you were saying things will get better even though everything in your head tells you otherwise. I feel like I needed to hear that today!
In regards to question #5 I'm not a therapist but as a person who has been through childhood emotional trauma I've been gaslighted, manipulated and lied to by people I was suppose to trust. If my therapist were to tell me personal things about himself (which he doesn't) and I were to find cracks in his story and then later found out he had been lying to me that would cause a huge rupture in the relationship for me! I don't think I would continue to seeing him. I can not tolerate dishonesty. I would rather hear a hard truth than a comforting white lie.
I’m very similar to Kati in how I feel that oversharing is against our professional ethics. I do share some personal stories or experiences/commonalities. For example, if I work with someone who is really feeling shame about having trauma, I will make a slight share and say “I can understand and relate to that feeling in my experience too” but I would not say what my trauma was, or go into myself further than that. Like Kati said, this time is for you, and I have my own therapist to work through my stuff with. Validation and normalizing is a huge part of therapy. It’s what makes us have a good relationship with our clients which is ultimately about 60% of how therapy works. If it’s like “do you like comics too?” i would be more likely to do a fib there and say “oh yeah they can be cool” even though it isn’t my thing.
Sierra M I love and appreciate my therapist don’t get me wrong😊. But I feel like she overshares, but I don’t dare bring up and remind her of boundaries. It’s good to have boundaries on both ends😊. And I do appreciate her for sharing some of her struggles..but I feel like she overshares.
Just getting off a plane...and I'm SOOOOO looking forward to listening!!!! Yay!!
....you're checking in...so i can tell ya I've been with my friends i hadn't seen in a year. Yes, we practiced physical distancing....and yes, our social bubble was kept in tact. I needed this SO much. It's been the most difficult year of my life...Covid aside, hardest one hands down. I feel re-energized , ready to focus and work hard this winter.
Kati thank you for all you do, it means the world! LOVE from Switzerland
Thank you for these videos they are really helpful in this time where mental health services are so stretched 🥰
another great episode. And yes, getting a dog is a wonderful way of getting a purpose. Adopting a stray even gives you an extra purpose, as you both know suffering!
Kati you and my therapist are the best I love you both so much and appreciate you both so much. I love this podcast
Kati Morton. hello just managed to watch this new podcast I really needed this podcast hate missing them and listening to them live i can't no longer act happy or be happy honestly haven't been feeling myself i cracked a day ago todays been worse i have been very depressed and i been sleeping a lot and wanted to cry reaching out just for anyone to talk to right now I havent been in any therapy for a long time and corona virus and having things I was looking forward to cancelled hasn't helped how I feel thank you for this new health podcast glad you keep them coming I really need them you have become my only go to place as doings things around my house just isn't helping now your the best kati
I have a new hobby. Cross stitch embroidery. I needed something to focus on, to keep my anxiety and depression getting all of me, so to speak. It is great because I have to focus on it, 100% - and it is relaxing. I think it's a healthy outlet, especially on the days when things feel extra heavy. I haven't done that kind of stuff (cross-stitching) since I was a kid, - so pretty excited to try again (and test my patience, lol) - and to have something to look forward to (even if it is just a small thing) that I can do during the day. Thank you for yet another podcast/video
Thanks for answering two of my questions, Kati! Love you and your work.
Love from the Philippines 🇵🇭
Hi Kati! You are awesome. Your videos have brought me so much help and comfort during hard times in my life. You are invaluable. Couple of weeks ago I found out that my long-time life partner had cheated on me for a year. How am I able to cope with infidelity and ptsd associated with it?
Great session! Thank you...
Happy World Mental Health Day kati❤️love you
Kati I love your videos/podcasts sm! I wish there where more youtubers like you!
Hi Kati! I love Thursdays because of AKA!!! It is my fav podcast!
35:09 "no, we don't lie"
35:15 "i've told patients in the past like don't worry, i've heard this before, even it's a new thing for me"
my sanity spiraling down into confusion...
First I thought the same thing, but the normalizing is a therapeutic technique, so I wouldn't call it telling a lie
@@natiw8336 I demand exclusion from homo sapiens. A lie is not a lie because it's technique. Nope, i have nothing to do here. Uh-ah, i'm out.
i Loved your podcast with Alison 💙
Hello Kati! your work is awesome!! Love from India💖
"You don't have any evidence that you're not that good or that you're not as good as anyone else."
I wish. My brain keeps on playing that evidence on repeat so I'm having trouble looking for evidence against it.
Toni Same
I call this the "broken record" effect. Our internal dialogue will just keep repeating things over and over again and it can be really annoying.
As far as your self esteem is concerned, I would suggest the cliche idea of only comparing yourself today to the you of yesterday. There will always be someone better than you, and someone worse than you in any given metric. It's our responsibility to improve our character based on past experiences.
If you're feeling lazy, spend 5 minutes cleaning your room. If it's more than you spent yesterday, congratulations you've improved! Start as small as you need to and have the humility to accept that changes might have to start in small steps.
Sorry for long response, hope it helps!
@@Meechy37 Comparing myself today to myself yesterday sounds pretty depressing these days. I don't really know what to do with that feeling lazy bit. My body is stuck in freeze and flop these days. When I get overwhelmed my muscles don't want to hold my body any more. I didn't tidy up my flat these days because I know if I tried I would have had a meltdown from the sensory overwhelm of looking at all the clutter.
@@toni2309 You sound very stuck in a vicious cycle. Coming to terms with it might help. Accepting that you are doing something wrong is the biggest hurdle you have to jump over.
If you don't know what you want, try naming a few things you figure most people would say. Cleaner house, more energy, better diet, quality alone time, a passion that you can pursue. Surely something has to exist that can motivate you.
Because you feel so deep in the hole, you have to aim low at first. Don't clean the entire flat because you know you won't do it. Clean a single drawer. Going from doing nothing to cleaning a drawer is a lot for someone who gets overwhelmed. I set my goals just at the edge of my reach but no further.
Don't let yourself be tossed aside by the world. Fighting back sounds hard but you're already doing. Otherwise you wouldn't be here.
In the darkest of spaces is where you find the brightest of lights.
I can't convince you that you're worth taking care of. You have to make that choice, and I hope you do.
If you need professional help please seek it. As Kati mentioned in the video, there are resources online like Better Help and other therapy programs.
@@Meechy37 What you are saying sounds deeply offending and condescending to me. I hope you never have to deal with executive dysfunction. I hope you never have to deal with wanting to do something but your body not moving. I hope you never force yourself to clean up only to later not have the energy to get yourself ready for bed. I hope you never experience meltdowns or shutdowns in the middle of what you are doing. I hope you never experience trauma that gives you flashbacks in the middle of what you are doing. I hope your body never just decides to fall to the ground because you are overwhelmed.
Love your podcasts! Love from Northern- Norway❤️
Hi Julia, I hope you're having a good week :) Northern Norway! I love how we can connect across great distances over similar ideas. Thanks for being here!
Thanks, hope you’re having s great week over in the states! Yeah, it’s wild how we can connect across great distance!!
AYE I’m from Norway as well✨
vios art Så kult! Hvor?
Wow that first question could have been written by me! I love that question. My depression has definitely grown with me.
Thanks for answering my question! Love these podcasts :)
Great video Kati!❤️
My therapist made my co pay half at least until I can get a job. I am so thankful for that though my parents were paying for it but my mom had to leave her job because of a family emergency
I feel so weird about you answering two of my questions, like I'm taking the opportunity from someone else, but I know it's not just me, it's also the people who liked the comment. I especially loved when you said you don't have the global answer, it was really... I don't know the word... humanic? No, that sounds terrible. Whatever. Just a quick thought, though not that quick, but besides that, thank you 💛
Sweet post, Katie!
Thoughts aren’t beliefs and thoughts aren’t facts. They’re just facts. Acknowledge the thought and look for evidence that supports the opposite.❤
I wish as a teenager I had known that I would be a completely different person in my 30s. I had no hope back then but now I know I can change and overcome these things. So I now I dont have this crazy fear of always being the same and be so consumed by my emotions. I still struggle but now I know it is temporary. I won't always feel that way.
I love your podcasts and OTDM mushroom sporecasts too.
Sporecasts!!!! Hahahaa love it.
You're the best Kati! Stay wonderful 💜 Much love from Southern Africa xx
There are leads for cats to take them for walks if they are willing. Kitty Holster has different designs.
Loving the podcast, I had no idea you had podcast !
I do! If you are so inclined, please leave a review on Apple or Amazon or anywhere you listen! 🍻
Katy, I have a very toxic sister that I have lived with for over a year. She moved out a few weeks ago but I keep rehearsing her negative conversations in my head. She hovers over people, questions everything I do and is just intrusive. She's the oldest sibling, I'm the youngest.
I think I need a different approach than bridge statements. They seem to make me more anxious, and perpetuate the thoughts of that either things are really bad or okay. I'm currently trying to get comfortable with little bad things. All my life I have been feeling like if I've done something wrong or if someone was unhappy with me that meant that the world was ending. And with all that bridge statements or positive talk I just switch between "I'm okay" and "I'm horrible" and I tell myself that it's okay until I can't hold it any longer and drown in negativity.
So I'm searching for things that are negative, but don't make the world end. Just little things you see, see that it could be better, but don't mean that everything is bad or that I am bad. Yesterday, I left advertising in the mail instead of putting it into the junk. And it didn't hurt anyone even if putting it to the junk would have been the more responsible thing to do.
Same here. You could copy/paste your comment into the next AKA Question-Call on Monday (will be posted in the community section).
@@natiw8336 What would be the question of this comment? I was mostly writing down my experiences.
@@toni2309 I'm sorry, of course you didn't ask a question. I just liked your post so much because it felt like something that is true for me as well / similar to my everyday approach. I wanted Kati to see your approach (no bridge statements but small things that we can tolerate). At the moment I also try the bridge statements but I'm not a big fan. However, your approach could help people as well.
Sorry English is not my mother tongue, please excuse wrong expressions.
Katie can you answer my question I would appreciate it how do you stop self-harming even though you done it since you're a teen and now you're 45
It blows my mind that TH-cam will label this content unsuitable for most advertisers. Complete nonsense.
Does anybody know how to ask Kati a question in this podcast?
I love your avatar, and yes she posts to the community tab and tells everyone to leave their questions below.
Kati "sniffer of negative thoughts"... How often we crap talk ourselves, even when asking questions. And we never notice it. But we can count on you to "sniff" it out and then "snuff" it out!!! lol
Congratulations on your continued success!!!
How do you help somebody who honestly means well but is terribly, chronically late? She's got ADHD and she's a mom with 4 kids, 2 toddlers. She seems resigned butnit's causing big problems and issues in her life and effecting others in a bad way. She says she wasn't always this way, and she used to be early or on time so consistently that if she was late without calling ahead, people would call, worried about her. What can she do about priorities like getting her kids to amd from school? She doesn't forget - she just keeps trying to do "one more little thing, real quick." I ha e seen her say this in the moment amd she'll get in the car but go back for something she forgot 2-3 times.
Why is the air in LA Poison?
Some times I want to wear a small cape.
Thanks Kati for another informative podcast🙏❤️selfhelpchampion
Re. your itchy nose:
If not allergies, it *could* be a food allergy.
Not trying to worry you, truly just trying to help. And did you not say(?) once that your nose tends to itch after eating? It was maybe a different Podcaster? ❤
My nose is itching all the time at work. I have to keep touching my mask because of that. According to my allergy specialist (we did skin puncturing test - 7-9 drops of allergens), I'm only SLIGHTLY allergic to cats, but the others are basically 0 reaction. Weird.
You talk about coping a lot. What about thriving? I don't aspire to cope well. Why bother? That seems like the equivalent to treading water - just staying afloat but not actually going anywhere. I want something to aspire to, and not with a disclaimer attached. I don't need to be reminded that real life happens. I need something I can aspire to and look forward to. And making it through the day just isn't. What does healing look like on the other side?
that’s the 2nd step and the focus of positive psychology
You aren’t meant to use coping every second of every day, unless you’re at a point you DO need to do that to actually stay alive. That’s the thing here, people with mental illness can’t always “thrive”, but they can still aspire to... even while using coping skills. It doesn’t have to be one or the other. Learning to use positive coping skills helps us turn from things like alcohol, self-harm etc, to healthier alternatives. In DBT they teach not to use them for every little problem. Sometimes you simply have to face shit. But for people who can barely make it 5 minutes in a day without wanting to die or whatever else... coping skills ARE something to aspire to use well. But it’s not about needing them forever. It’s not about staying in this middle state and never moving forward. The skills help propel us forward. Until we know how to do it on our own. I’m just saying it’s not an issue of either or, it’s both things at once coinciding to give us the best results.
How can anyone dislike this video
Just a random reminder to everyone: YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
You matter, you're loved.
Love you! From Qatar :)
hi Liza :) Thanks for watching! One day, I hope to visit Qatar!
OpinionsThatDontMatter Please do! And when you do, I can take you to cool places. :) Also love from Brazil! (That's where I am from)
I want the magic bean
Does wearing a mask outside help filter the poison air?
Hi Kati! Hope you are doing well. I have a question: why recently you (or is it Sean's doing? Well... Hi Sean, hope you are doing well and blah blah blah...) started geotaging your videos as Santa Monica instead of Los Angeles? Isn't Santa Monica considered to be a part of LA? I'm slightly confused.
Oh, it's just part of the upload process. Sometimes I put LA sometimes Santa Monica... Sometimes I have fun with it and label it as recorded in random places. No real reason.
@@askkatianything Oh, i see! That makes a lot of sense, sure thing...
My mum wants to take me to a psychiatrist but i dont want to go, because i want want to get out of depression, i want to die 😞😞😞😞😞😞
I am 17 and I've been in depression since 2016, and I've been suicidal for 2 years, i was gonna end my like last year when i found a friend who listened to me and got me out of it temporarily, but it all came back even badly, i cant cope with it at all, i cant continue anymore I'm littrally done with living(LIFE).
have a patient ever made you cry?
Im not question #8 but I absolutely can relate. I shouldn't get angry because then Ill turn into my father and I can't do that. I can never do that. Now, is that a distorted belief? I don't think so. I learned so much from him and I have his genes. Realistically, the gene pool should've ended with him and I should never have been born to curse the world with more people like my father
I'm curious why you always say people need to see a psychiatrist to discuss medications. I'm a primary care doctor and take care of so many patients with depression, anxiety, ADHD, and more. We have very few Psychiatrists in my area, and if all my patients who need medication as part of their mental health care waited to see a specialist, many would never get appropriate care.
I just worry that communicating that seeing a Psychiatrist is the only way to start medication for anxiety, depression, etc might prevent people from getting all the care they need.
I otherwise love your content and learn a lot from it. Plus I love hearing about the approach you you take as another important part of the healthcare team! 💜
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At this rate anyone who says "it can only get better" isn't being creative enough and just tempting fate to make things worse
Surprisingly in my childhood in Ukraine, I knew NOBODY who was ever depressed and they were the 90s - surviving on bare minimum (financially) years for 90% -95% of the population. This shows that money has very little to do with happiness in general.
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Maybe I could think about spending money on responding, but she won't see it because I have no money for a wifi hotspot. Only the cool kids.
What is the point? Not one. I could bust my ass getting to a hotspot everyday. I'll never catch up to ask 5 million times. I guess I`m broke, and boo fucking hoo.