You can tell LFA is tapped in.. He doesn’t suggest to ever really get bitter or resent women. Doesn’t really suggest tactics or to be manipulative. He gets the nature of life and the impermanence of everything. Let go of fear fellas.. Stop worrying so much and accept the flow of life.. stop attaching to things in your life. And NEVER be resentful. Resentment and learned helplessness is a dangerous dangerous path to go down.
A dude that is getting women or women treat him fairly is never going to be bitter. I was bitter when I tried to make women the focal point of my life my high school and first year of college. Then one day the women in my life saw that I lost 30 pounds going into my sophmore year of college. I told them that my goal for that year was to stay lean and improve my mental health. I made out with about 12 different women that year and slept with one for 3 months. Me and LFA keep telling dudes that all they need to do is invest in themselves and I promise the women will start to treat you better. But....many guys don't believe us.
Facts bitterness just weighs you down I’m focused on my purpose women will always be there a lot are victims to society letting them do whatever with out accountability lashing out at them isn’t gonna change their behavior
You can never change a highly narcisstic woman, though you get really addicted to them due to the trauma bond / hot and cold dopamine hits, it's gods blessing if you manage to get out. And when you meet more women who are really nurturing to you, you connect the dots. Also I can feel that you really had a lesson learned from that dodged bullet and you were emotionally involved LFA. Keep up the great work
If someone ghosts you, they DO NOT respect you. Guys, assume that she was talking to other guys when you were first sparking up a connection and decided at some point along the way, that she could do better or preferred someone else. It's ok to acknowledge that and move on without becoming bitter or angry. As cliche as it sounds, you HAVE to keep moving forward and improving your life in whatever capacity that you can. If she comes back, be cordial but DO NOT entertain her again because she will repeat the behavior at the first opportunity.
Congratulations on dodging the bullet. This conversation really opened my eyes yo my current relationship. Many of the same things you went through I am currently dealing with.
Solid message and sentiment brother, as for the parts you felt might’ve been more “boring” In your vid, We consider that to be ‘context’ and it’s necessary to illustrate the full picture so we can utilize your advice effectively. Stay safe bro 🙏🏾👑
3 years together on and off, was never sweating it because I already have 3 grown sons and she was 20 years younger than me, it’s all good babe keep on keeping on!
I've known a woman who ghosted me. While she was nice she wasn't very pretty. Therefore she was shy and insecure. It's a character trait of people who haven't fully grown up. There is NOTHING anyone can do about it but themselves. Just look elsewhere.
Great video, LFA. I am in my late 30s and came to a similar conclusion myself a few years ago. I spend a lot of my 20s and early 30s stressing over women that were not interested and compatible with who I am. Now, I am married and happy and with someone that feels natural and organic to be with.
dude…..I could have an hour talk about how many videos you’ve posted have directly been about my specific situation I’m in right now. It’s actually mind blowing. Thank u
Once its over its over! Move on, delete all contact/social media and dissappear permanently. On to the next, yea it sucks but the last thing you want is for her to come back and do the same shit over again and most likely worst. THERE IS NO REFUND FOR THE TIME YOU WASTED ! BYE
How crazy is this: it's snowing in LFA's area, but here in Los Angeles, the whole city is on fire. Looters are out scavenging what they can from all those burnt down luxury homes and businesses. It's a dystopian wasteland out here while LFA is chilling out in the snow like it's still Christmas. I'm kinda envious.
What sucks is finding someone you think is a good fit for you, where you’ve had physical intimacy and gotten to know each other in person to find out that they went with someone else and made up bs excuses to make it seem like that’s not what happened BUT life experience makes it easier to accept and move on from that.
A girl I was talking for a few months blocked/ghosted me for whatever her reasons were and I forgot about her. Then she all of a sudden unblocked me a month after out of no where. She sent me a message asking how I was doing. You just gotta wait it out and have them go through whatever their mind is. and eventually they come back.
Yeah but I would never take a chick back who did that. She's essentially telling you that you were not her first option hence the block/ghosting. If she truly wanted to be with you she would not have done that in the first place. Dudes gotta stop tolerating these ridiculous games women play.
I don't care if they come running back, they will be rejected by me. Once they have crossed that line into ghosting, they have demonstrated profound disrespect and there is no going back from that. That is not someone I want to share my future with.
I sort of experienced this and then friend zone (I brought it on myself) long ago. I later learned that the person got married at age 45, the time I tried for her, she was 25. So it was a favor as this person obviously was a terror on the dating scene. My favorite quote from her "You don't date much do you?" Red flag.
@@retrogamer82 She's a very high earner (250k+ at this point), I ended up simping for about 3 years before cutting loses. But she definitely did not mind someone picking up the tab.
I agree on the part about holding on to people longer than we should because of social media is so true. I avoid a lot of the “mind games” simply by not having any social media it’s been over 5 years not sure I stopped counting and honestly don’t feel like I am missing out on anything I connect very easily with people in real life.
Hell to yeah brother. If they ghost, they're gone. And if they try to show up again down the track, I ain't backup plan for nobody.... sorry your your plan A didn't work out
4 years wtf man 😆 I had more or less the same relationship with my ex and I could only endure 8 months. Maybe you were much younger, and it was a different era. Now I am curious to listen about the 10 years story. Keep it up!
So? Just enjoy the time you get to experience with people in this short life we live and if or when relationships end be cool with it and move on. Be happy to experience the good times because many people dont get that.
Yeah had that happen before. She'll be back again. She was just sticking her toe in the water and seeing if you were going to be all mad or whatever. Women are weird man, just can't let any of it bother you.
11:01 - ...soothing their inner, lost-child by misappropriating [social media] for social-proofing, validation has been a self-prescribed cope-ium of adolescents inside adult bodies pushing the same drug of ~[love language] to eachother.
After 15 years, I spoke to my ex-wife. We connected on WhatsApp. I noticed she kept changing her profile picture. I knew it wasn't for me. I have little tolerance for her now. Her replies turned into an emoji or one- or two-word replies. I stopped texting her. About 4 months later I opened my WhatsApp and sure enough, there was a different picture of her. She's around 55 years old and still craves attention.
sup ben affleck. thanks for your content. i dont think first half was boring. u were saying facts. tell us how to break up a self- centered and narcisssistic relationship as u did with your ex gf.
Hi LFA, I would like to know if you can make a video react of the videos in the channel Catfished? Please and thank you. It unbelievable how come so many people fall for romance scammers from Nigeria, India etc... Man and Women.
You talk bad about “PUA” stuff and the “gamey” side, but really half the battle is pushing guys to go talk to girls they normally wouldn’t have talked to. A guy into that stuff is going to go talk to and be exposed to way more girls than if he hadn’t had gotten into that stuff. And that’s really the main aspect. If you aren’t talking to girls, you aren’t dating them. Maybe you meet the next love of your life in line at the coffee shop
Actually i disagree with you and agree with LFA. Heres why. If you focus on yourself and making the most of this precious gift of life by getting out and enjoying lots of hobbies, adventures etc then the wmn will be attracted to you. Trust me you dont want wmn that you have to try and convince to choose you by approaching and running game. A wmn that chooses you just because of the man you are will be the best person she can be to you because she has chosen you and will not want to fail at keeping you in her life. I learned this early on in life and have had amazing success. Ive also taught this to many of my good friends over the years. 95% of the wmn ive dated have approached me out in the world. And all of them i ended up leaving eventually because i prefer being alone allot and once they press me to get married or to try and have kids i end it. Trust me the relation youll have with wmn that choose & approach you first are 100x better in every way especially int he passion department. Take it easy.
@@ElectronicMusicUnderground you can’t expect women to approach you though. That very rarely happens for men. If it happens to you then congrats, but that is not a common occurrence for men. If most men waited for a women to approach them they would never get a date. And even if you did have women approach you on a regular basis, it severely limits your dating pool. What if there is a girl that would have been a great fit for you but she didn’t see you or she just didn’t approach? It’s the man’s job to approach for the most part and if you aren’t doing it you are probably subconsciously trying to avoid rejection and bruising your ego.
@@ElectronicMusicUnderground you can’t expect them to approach you though. That doesn’t happen for most guys. If most guys waited for that to happen they would never get a date. And even if they do approach you on a regular basis you are severely limiting your pool. What if there was someone that was great for you but didn’t see you or just didn’t say anything to you? It’s the guys job to approach, most guys don’t because they are afraid of rejection or hurting their ego
@@ElectronicMusicUnderground also let me clarify. I’m not saying to say lines and have routines to keep them around. I’m saying be yourself and do your hobbies, but if you see a girl you like when you are out go say hi to her.
If you’re doing it because she isn’t interested in responding to the first text, it’s generally a bad idea. If you’re doing it for any other reason it’s generally fine.
If she is wet, you can do it as much as you want. Early stages wait to see how interested she really is into you. Somewhere along those first 3 days you start flirting by asking her if she likes to make out on the couch and give a massage. The flirting usually escelates further if she likes you.
Call me a square but if you are just wanting a hook up it’s really easy to get a woman. My firm line is this if your gonna bs me and not value my time you are gone call me an old bitter 20 year old but it’s just dumb like a video game with silly or cheap scares I want it to be worth it for me I rather enjoy life go out with my friends chill work out etc than to be in a relationship that doesn’t work if you want a long term and compatible relationship it can be difficult you can’t fake chemistry . Your not always gonna find better I firmly believe better is the guy that’s always going hard at life and learning things and working hard know your worth and don’t stick around if you’re not gonna get the same effort in return .
I agree with natural selection…but there’s nothing natural about money/capitalism…if money is influencing things…it’s not natural selection. End of. There’s no debate.
There is. Money is an indicator of financial intelligence, securing great future requirements for the upcoming children. It also indicates that you are a smart choice maker. So I get why women lean more towards men with high financial status.
If they ghost, they’re actually helping you out. Imagine having to deal with this garbage deeper in a relationship? The sooner the better…
Men need to learn how to vet and know how to detect strong choosing signals
Just shows what kind of character they are. You didn't want them anyway. It kinda hurts more when the person doesn't ghost you lol
It’s not a matter of if she ghosts you but when, the minute you get involved in a relationship the clock starts ticking
You can tell LFA is tapped in.. He doesn’t suggest to ever really get bitter or resent women. Doesn’t really suggest tactics or to be manipulative. He gets the nature of life and the impermanence of everything. Let go of fear fellas.. Stop worrying so much and accept the flow of life.. stop attaching to things in your life. And NEVER be resentful. Resentment and learned helplessness is a dangerous dangerous path to go down.
Truth right here, I have been down that path.
Only thing i disagree with is sleepn with many women etc, im christian and dont need that, i wanna be good with God, and not sin
No one needs that
A dude that is getting women or women treat him fairly is never going to be bitter. I was bitter when I tried to make women the focal point of my life my high school and first year of college. Then one day the women in my life saw that I lost 30 pounds going into my sophmore year of college. I told them that my goal for that year was to stay lean and improve my mental health. I made out with about 12 different women that year and slept with one for 3 months. Me and LFA keep telling dudes that all they need to do is invest in themselves and I promise the women will start to treat you better. But....many guys don't believe us.
Facts bitterness just weighs you down I’m focused on my purpose women will always be there a lot are victims to society letting them do whatever with out accountability lashing out at them isn’t gonna change their behavior
This is becoming one of my favorite channels on YT. Never boring, always informative. Thank you brother.
You can never change a highly narcisstic woman, though you get really addicted to them due to the trauma bond / hot and cold dopamine hits, it's gods blessing if you manage to get out. And when you meet more women who are really nurturing to you, you connect the dots.
Also I can feel that you really had a lesson learned from that dodged bullet and you were emotionally involved LFA. Keep up the great work
If someone ghosts you, they DO NOT respect you. Guys, assume that she was talking to other guys when you were first sparking up a connection and decided at some point along the way, that she could do better or preferred someone else. It's ok to acknowledge that and move on without becoming bitter or angry. As cliche as it sounds, you HAVE to keep moving forward and improving your life in whatever capacity that you can. If she comes back, be cordial but DO NOT entertain her again because she will repeat the behavior at the first opportunity.
Listening to this guy is like sitting down with a great and very wise friend.
Congratulations on dodging the bullet. This conversation really opened my eyes yo my current relationship. Many of the same things you went through I am currently dealing with.
Just stay single.
But you don't want to stay single forever
Solid message and sentiment brother, as for the parts you felt might’ve been more “boring” In your vid, We consider that to be ‘context’ and it’s necessary to illustrate the full picture so we can utilize your advice effectively.
Stay safe bro 🙏🏾👑
This is PhD level relationship information that nobody else is doing. Thoughtful and intelligent. First rate.
I like that you have a healthy mindset toward women and life and relationship. No manipulative tactics, no toxicity... no bitterness. Acceptance
3 years together on and off, was never sweating it because I already have 3 grown sons and she was 20 years younger than me, it’s all good babe keep on keeping on!
LFA keeps knocking these messages out of the park. I wish I had good advice like this to listen to years ago.
God first brothers, success will be our greatest revenge they’ll watch and regret
This brother is never wrong
We've been better LFA , Had to evacuate from the fires here in So-cal! Thanks for the vid big dogg and GOD bless!
Stay Safe bro
Be safe
I've known a woman who ghosted me. While she was nice she wasn't very pretty. Therefore she was shy and insecure. It's a character trait of people who haven't fully grown up. There is NOTHING anyone can do about it but themselves. Just look elsewhere.
Great video, LFA. I am in my late 30s and came to a similar conclusion myself a few years ago. I spend a lot of my 20s and early 30s stressing over women that were not interested and compatible with who I am. Now, I am married and happy and with someone that feels natural and organic to be with.
Lol or as They say when a women ghost's. Respect the dead and move on. Hope all is well, brother
dude…..I could have an hour talk about how many videos you’ve posted have directly been about my specific situation I’m in right now. It’s actually mind blowing. Thank u
Once its over its over! Move on, delete all contact/social media and dissappear permanently. On to the next, yea it sucks but the last thing you want is for her to come back and do the same shit over again and most likely worst. THERE IS NO REFUND FOR THE TIME YOU WASTED ! BYE
How I feel
its crazy how they treat you like a stranger after pouring their heart out for you
How crazy is this: it's snowing in LFA's area, but here in Los Angeles, the whole city is on fire. Looters are out scavenging what they can from all those burnt down luxury homes and businesses. It's a dystopian wasteland out here while LFA is chilling out in the snow like it's still Christmas. I'm kinda envious.
I love how women say they are single. But never mention they are still connected to a married! As in my case when I started dating someone.
level headed advice from LFA
What sucks is finding someone you think is a good fit for you, where you’ve had physical intimacy and gotten to know each other in person to find out that they went with someone else and made up bs excuses to make it seem like that’s not what happened BUT life experience makes it easier to accept and move on from that.
I had an ex exactly the way LFA explained about his, totally narcissistic and crazy too.
We were engaged, thank God I didn’t stay with her.
A girl I was talking for a few months blocked/ghosted me for whatever her reasons were and I forgot about her. Then she all of a sudden unblocked me a month after out of no where. She sent me a message asking how I was doing.
You just gotta wait it out and have them go through whatever their mind is. and eventually they come back.
Yeah but I would never take a chick back who did that. She's essentially telling you that you were not her first option hence the block/ghosting. If she truly wanted to be with you she would not have done that in the first place. Dudes gotta stop tolerating these ridiculous games women play.
I don't care if they come running back, they will be rejected by me. Once they have crossed that line into ghosting, they have demonstrated profound disrespect and there is no going back from that.
That is not someone I want to share my future with.
When they ghost they found a bigger better deal simple as that
Obey the Lord and find the one he created for you. She too obeys the Lord
What are the signs ?
I sort of experienced this and then friend zone (I brought it on myself) long ago. I later learned that the person got married at age 45, the time I tried for her, she was 25. So it was a favor as this person obviously was a terror on the dating scene. My favorite quote from her "You don't date much do you?" Red flag.
She rode the cc for 20 years and found some simp to give her a retirement plan you dodged a bullet
@@retrogamer82 She's a very high earner (250k+ at this point), I ended up simping for about 3 years before cutting loses. But she definitely did not mind someone picking up the tab.
The girl i fumbled is getting married today, tq LFA for this video 💪🏼
I agree on the part about holding on to people longer than we should because of social media is so true. I avoid a lot of the “mind games” simply by not having any social media it’s been over 5 years not sure I stopped counting and honestly don’t feel like I am missing out on anything I connect very easily with people in real life.
You are a real one LFA, a certified thug ❤
Married couples shouldn’t have social media, if they want to have a long marriage.
"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." --Maya Angelou
God's people love to be out in the wilderness
Best content I have seen in awhile!
Good video dude. You have talent for this
Great video , I like the fact it's snowing and outdoors, different ❤
Grils rejection is a God protection brothers !
Great Show Man
Very chill and non chalant my man. Good video
Absolutely Spot On, Sir !!!
Good advice as always
Avoid them all
Great talk! It confirms a similar wise talk I heard recently. Thank you!
Hell to yeah brother. If they ghost, they're gone. And if they try to show up again down the track, I ain't backup plan for nobody.... sorry your your plan A didn't work out
Your right on point LFA tuning in form So CAL
Thank you LFA
I'll be the guy that says the lighting in this video is badass. 👌🏻👌🏻
Great video out in the snow LFA, we may get some white stuff here in Bama tonight
4 years wtf man 😆 I had more or less the same relationship with my ex and I could only endure 8 months. Maybe you were much younger, and it was a different era. Now I am curious to listen about the 10 years story. Keep it up!
LFA it was informative! Thx!
They will tell you that they will love you forever and move on like nothing
So? Just enjoy the time you get to experience with people in this short life we live and if or when relationships end be cool with it and move on. Be happy to experience the good times because many people dont get that.
Thanks forcthe video keep em coming
I love this guy
I just smoke the pain away.
When a woman ghosts, you do nothing. You continue to go about your business. They always come back.
And do NOT take her back! Ignore her when she comes back.
Women very rarely come back after they ghost a man.
@@maxpaws3977true
Just stay single, no kids, no family, wife, nothinggggg!!!!!!!!!
This is what I’m thinking, just work hard and go to the gym plus some other hobbies. Bag some girls here and there lol
So you’ll get flooded with 3rd world imm1grants who do have families and many children
And get flooded with imm1grants who do have families and children
My no contact just texted last week texted few times then went ghost again wtf.
Yeah had that happen before. She'll be back again. She was just sticking her toe in the water and seeing if you were going to be all mad or whatever. Women are weird man, just can't let any of it bother you.
It was informative. Thank you
Rain, sleet or snow, you can count on LFA to make a video outside lol
11:01 - ...soothing their inner, lost-child by misappropriating [social media] for social-proofing, validation has been a self-prescribed cope-ium of adolescents inside adult bodies pushing the same drug of ~[love language] to eachother.
Another great video
BRÖTHËR!
LFA back on retention? He’s got that glow
Yeah LFA it is better to stay single than to be with a wrong one
Truth.
I find brilliant men who can do with women that don't like them.
After 15 years, I spoke to my ex-wife. We connected on WhatsApp. I noticed she kept changing her profile picture. I knew it wasn't for me. I have little tolerance for her now. Her replies turned into an emoji or one- or two-word replies. I stopped texting her. About 4 months later I opened my WhatsApp and sure enough, there was a different picture of her. She's around 55 years old and still craves attention.
Love your content Homie … would love a mentorship if I could possibly afford you …..
Games people play...
Snow storm??? Some flakes 😂
sup ben affleck. thanks for your content. i dont think first half was boring. u were saying facts. tell us how to break up a self- centered and narcisssistic relationship as u did with your ex gf.
You plan on doing live streams again ?
Hi LFA, I would like to know if you can make a video react of the videos in the channel Catfished? Please and thank you. It unbelievable how come so many people fall for romance scammers from Nigeria, India etc... Man and Women.
Yeap. And keep contact to minimum. She lost the position, that was probably unearned anyways....
Extravagant
You talk bad about “PUA” stuff and the “gamey” side, but really half the battle is pushing guys to go talk to girls they normally wouldn’t have talked to. A guy into that stuff is going to go talk to and be exposed to way more girls than if he hadn’t had gotten into that stuff. And that’s really the main aspect. If you aren’t talking to girls, you aren’t dating them. Maybe you meet the next love of your life in line at the coffee shop
😂
Actually i disagree with you and agree with LFA. Heres why. If you focus on yourself and making the most of this precious gift of life by getting out and enjoying lots of hobbies, adventures etc then the wmn will be attracted to you. Trust me you dont want wmn that you have to try and convince to choose you by approaching and running game. A wmn that chooses you just because of the man you are will be the best person she can be to you because she has chosen you and will not want to fail at keeping you in her life. I learned this early on in life and have had amazing success. Ive also taught this to many of my good friends over the years.
95% of the wmn ive dated have approached me out in the world. And all of them i ended up leaving eventually because i prefer being alone allot and once they press me to get married or to try and have kids i end it.
Trust me the relation youll have with wmn that choose & approach you first are 100x better in every way especially int he passion department.
Take it easy.
@@ElectronicMusicUnderground you can’t expect women to approach you though. That very rarely happens for men. If it happens to you then congrats, but that is not a common occurrence for men. If most men waited for a women to approach them they would never get a date.
And even if you did have women approach you on a regular basis, it severely limits your dating pool. What if there is a girl that would have been a great fit for you but she didn’t see you or she just didn’t approach?
It’s the man’s job to approach for the most part and if you aren’t doing it you are probably subconsciously trying to avoid rejection and bruising your ego.
@@ElectronicMusicUnderground you can’t expect them to approach you though. That doesn’t happen for most guys. If most guys waited for that to happen they would never get a date.
And even if they do approach you on a regular basis you are severely limiting your pool. What if there was someone that was great for you but didn’t see you or just didn’t say anything to you?
It’s the guys job to approach, most guys don’t because they are afraid of rejection or hurting their ego
@@ElectronicMusicUnderground also let me clarify. I’m not saying to say lines and have routines to keep them around. I’m saying be yourself and do your hobbies, but if you see a girl you like when you are out go say hi to her.
Well, she can naturally select if your games, are these right words and manners an at least how sayin u cant play that game on an on?
Thoughts on double texting?
If you’re doing it because she isn’t interested in responding to the first text, it’s generally a bad idea. If you’re doing it for any other reason it’s generally fine.
Dont do it
If she is wet, you can do it as much as you want. Early stages wait to see how interested she really is into you. Somewhere along those first 3 days you start flirting by asking her if she likes to make out on the couch and give a massage. The flirting usually escelates further if she likes you.
amen bro needed to hear this right now ....bless u u got me in tears ...love u man
Call me a square but if you are just wanting a hook up it’s really easy to get a woman. My firm line is this if your gonna bs me and not value my time you are gone call me an old bitter 20 year old but it’s just dumb like a video game with silly or cheap scares I want it to be worth it for me I rather enjoy life go out with my friends chill work out etc than to be in a relationship that doesn’t work
if you want a long term and compatible relationship it can be difficult you can’t fake chemistry . Your not always gonna find better I firmly believe better is the guy that’s always going hard at life and learning things and working hard know your worth and don’t stick around if you’re not gonna get the same effort in return .
I agree with natural selection…but there’s nothing natural about money/capitalism…if money is influencing things…it’s not natural selection. End of. There’s no debate.
There is. Money is an indicator of financial intelligence, securing great future requirements for the upcoming children. It also indicates that you are a smart choice maker. So I get why women lean more towards men with high financial status.
If you can read this.. Unfollow her bro!
Did you ever heard the term perfection game?
Can you explain what this is? What do you mean by that?
You should collab with Fresh and Fit dude. Been watching you for a long time, before I met my now wife like 5-6 years ago. Much love brother
LFA is above that
Thank you very mutch 🫡
What's up brothers