I hate parents who don't understand, even when there's visible evidence that something is wrong. Last year I had a huge mental breakdown and my cutting got a lot worse during that time period. My mum just said that I was being hormonal and that I was just having mood swings all the time. Initially my stepdad didn't handle it well by saying "Well done, you've just thrown away your entire future.". Earlier this year my mum made an appointment to see a GP after I kept having panic attacks during my mock exams. They made a referral to CAHMS and it hasn't gone through still. Nowadays I'm seeing the school counsellor. It's early days but I hope to make progress by doing that.
My mother is IMPOSSIBLE. I've tried to talk to her countless times about this. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. I try to talk to her about ME, she turns it to her. Example: Me: mom, I want to talk to you about something you always seem to brush off. You know I have anxiety, and depression and PTSD and all this other stuff, so can I actually talk to you without you getting angry at me, or without you turning the conversation to you. Mom: well what is it what do you want? Me: I just told you what Mom: well you don't have it as bad as me and you never will. **goes on to tell stories of how she has all this shit** And it's just so frustrating and so degrading (as time will fly by and the sky will cry as light is fading) because she's so self centered. One day it'll take her by surprise. She's noticed my cuts before, but of course she believed they were cat scratches. It makes me so angry because unless she learns not to be so self centered, I'm never going to get the help I need. She'll never know the power I have. Anyone can end themselves at any moment, but she just thinks I do it for attention.
Leah Wilson I don't do it for attention but I'm afraid that if I tell my parents they'll think that I do it for attention and then they won't take it seriously
My heart goes out to all you underage sufferers who need parental support to seek treatment right now. I hope your parents may be understanding and open as my own were and that you can start treatment and recovery young before bad habits and routines start to form too much.
Thanks so much for the love, care that you all are giving me. Today I was down, my girl friend ran away and hadn't called me or nothing. I felt like I someway had something to do with her running away. But I keep telling myself that I didn't! No I didn't. But that stupid voice in my head tells me to cut, bc I'll never see my highschool sweet again.. But.. No. I'm strong. I'm stronger then that voice!
IamAndrey Mbao same for u it has been a year please tell me if u told ur parents I am struggling in school as loosing friends and feeling down and not fitting in but am 13 and I don’t know how to tell them
My parents caused the depression. They’re one of many reasons why I feel depressed so it’s really hard to talk to them... And they only make it worse because they always yell at me and sometimes my mom even hits me. Last night she pushed me so hard, I fell on the floor. It just gets worse and worse everyday.
It's like learning a subject, sure you might be able to do it on your own but it is incredibly difficult and most people give up. With a teacher it becomes clearer and easier. It gives you options and tools and feedback of how you're doing. Sure you can suffer through it and give up a couple times or you can make it many times easier. Not a quick fix but it means help
A few months ago I'd told my mom's fiance about my anxiety and depression since I felt very invalidated and felt like a bother when I showed signs of anxiety.He was fairly understanding,it seemed,though he asked me why in context of my depression.I could never really give a full answer,since I don't know why it hits.However,a few weeks ago I was yelled at for my anxiety and started crying because I'd felt like a burden.I told my mom about it but she blamed my anxiety on the computer and told me I was rude that I am unable to socialize.Now I feel like a bad person for my condition. :/
Please don't feel like a bad person because of your anxiety, nobody wants to feel anxious or depressed or hurt in any way, you are loved and will be loved by so many people :)
I couldn't talk to them myself, so I had a friend tell a school councillor so that the councillor would tell my parents. there's no way I could have done it face to face, because simply telling the councillor the details and having them call sent me into a panic attack. I sat in shaking sobs while waiting to be picked up from school.
You can get though anything I know you can we all can if we have surport. You can always check out my channel then go to my Instagram and message me anytime you need someone to vent to :)
Same here... I'm no longer in school so I have no counselor, but I'm thinking about writing a letter. I'd like to be brave and talk to them face to face, but just thinking about it has me in tears. You're not alone, dear
oh my gosh im the same way!!!!!! so I just had that talk. and idk what religion you are but im a Mormon and my leader who I have know so long helped. she told me that it's a leap of faith with a prayer in your heart. it may not go how you want it too but there are people who can talk to them for you. I would try first writing notes and practicing what you will say.
i told a friend about it so I have someone to talk to and then she told me she has suffered with depression in the past too. its really good I have a person who can relate but I still need to tell my parents and its making me worry so much.
I talked to my mum, thank you for helping you are amazing! She completely understood! Thank you! 🙂 I'm almost three days clean as well, I'm 11 thank you. ❤️
3 days ago I nearly committed suicide. But my dog saved my life, again. About a year ago My family and I went to a park and I saw a bridge across the river. I was walking over to it while my family was further ahead, I walked to the edge and was about to jump off. Just me thinking I wasn’t worth it made me fell so worthless and hopeless, so I thought I would just jump off and end it all. I took a while because I was gathering my last thoughts. Then out of nowhere my dog came barking at me. He ran up to me and started licking my face and jumping up on me and he made me so happy that I thought I would wait till another day. It’s been about a year since that day and I’ve hit rock bottom. I fell in love and broke her heart. I’ve lost my dearest family members and some of my friends. I have some days when I don’t feel like anything is worth it and I might as well end it all. Sometimes I will go to out medicine cabinet and just stare at it for hours on end. There are days when I don’t eat anything because I think I’m too fat and days when I eat way too much because I think I am too skinny and lanky. So 3 days ago I thought I should end it all, help everyone I love because they wont have me around to break their hearts. So I stood up and walked out of my room into the hallway by our medicine cabinet. I stood outside of it for 10 or 20 minutes thinking should I do this? “Yes” I opened the door and looked for our Ibuprofen and then I heard my dog, scratching at the front door, he was barking so loud, and me being an animal person couldn’t leave him outside in the cold. So, I let him in and the moment was over. I’m not posting this for attention, I’m not posting this for likes, I’m posting this so everyone knows that if you need anything, I’m here. Seriously, talk to me or someone you know. I am gonna tell my parents tonight about my depression and then we will go from there. If you’re reading this I really appreciate you listening/reading to my story, I hope everyone gets help out there. I love you all and stay safe.
My mom was aware of my depression for a while before this and we had talked about it when I needed too. When I told my mom I needed to go to the hospital or I was going to eventually hurt myself. She listened and and we talked for about 30 minutes, she told me what to expect, the best way she could. 2 hours later we were at the hospital We had to stay the night there. I got some help at a mental hospital the next day. I'm still not completely healthy but that was June first and I'm still here. So it helped me. PS my mom is the best I'm so lucky I love her so much. I was still really nervous about talking to her. So I wish I had this video then great video.👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Thank you so much for this, almost told my mum about my mental health tonight but I got so scared and completely backed out. I'm so much more confident about telling her now thank you :) x
i'm not sure what exactly i strugggle with, but i know it's SOMETHING. i definitely think that i have anxiety, and possible bpd. i've been hiding having panic attacks from my parents. and frequently. i've had panic attacks in the school bathroom, hyperventilating and crying my fucking eyes out and have to make up excuses as to why i look like i've been to hell and back (from crying, of course). i've self harmed for 9 months now (currently 20 days clean 😊) and i know that i need help. however, i'm too scared to say anything to my parents. i'm almost positive that they'll tell me that it's my age, or they'll tell me that i'm overthinking and that everyone feels this way sometimes. i'm kind of freaking the fuck out. i've known that i have some kind of mental illness for MONTHS now and have been dealing with it on my own. i just can't anymore. i'm only 13, so my parents think that i'm incapable of having a mental illness at this age. they've even spoken about it before, and they've said that it's ridiculous that people my age think they have a mental disorder and that they'll just "grow out of it." i feel pretty sure that they wouldn't help me out, so i don't know if i can talk to them. please give me advice. i'm really in need of help. 💖
How do I talk to my parents about my mental health when I've felt like this for as long as I remember? Because at this point I'm scared they just think I'm naturally like this. But I've recently realized my behavior isn't healthy or normal. I shouldn't always feel like I'm worth nothing.
Hey, I just wanted to tell you that your videos are helping me a lot. I started self-harming myself one year ago and I knew it was wrong but I didn't know how to confront my parents. When I found your channel I found the courage to talk to them and it went well. It's been two moths since I stopped harming myself, I'm clean! You really inspired me to stop, thank you, just THANK YOU!
You are so amazing Kristen, you are gonna help SO many people in your lifetime X people like you make the world a better place 💖 you can brighten my day and make me feel less alone even on some of the worst days 💗
Thank you so much. There is no way I could have started my journey to recovery without you. Tonight I had a conversation about mental health and seeing a doctor sometime soon because I have felt very depressed for the last 4 months, horrible actually for the past 3 weeks. I want you to know that you a such an inspiration and I aspire to be as amazing of a person as you someday. Once again, thank you so so much!
I'm scared to tell them because I think I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) because I'm getting really bad thoughts and they'll probably throw me in a mental hospital! I'm also scared because it's like stabbing people, smacking and hitting them against a wall. Especially my little brother who is the one person who I love the most, he's only three years old. Practically defenseless. I'm just scared.... Sorry for the rant and vent but yeah :/ Edit: before people come for me saying that I'm a physcopath/sociopath. OCD tends to Target fears, weaknesses and stuff like that..
I used this video and the tips when trying to talk to my mom but she's still in denial that I have depression. She and I both have anxiety but she won't try to help. I've tried to talk to her about this three times in the last two months but she won't budge. She's one of the biggest reasons I have it in the first place. Thank you for reminding me that I'm not alone
My mother already knew about my anxiety and a bit of my depression already but last night I told her I self harm. I did it over messanger because I have 0 social skills, but she really understood! She used to cut when she was younger so she understands a bit. I'm going to the hospital tomorrow to see what can be done to help. The only problem I had was with my brother, my mom sent a group message and said that I am self harming but I will still need to be comfortable in the house and will be wearing short sleeves and shorts sometimes and they will see the cuts. My brother said that she needs to "stop babying me even though this is kinda serious ig idk" I'm still getting help and I'm still happy that someone understands. Thank you for this video as it really gave me the confidence for the whole thing!
I can picture the conversation now “mum I think I have depression” “you’ve been eating too many sweets. If you just ate healthier like I told you you wouldn’t feel this way”
I love you and your content. Here’s a reminder to everyone struggling with any issues: life goes on, and things will get better. Would you ever yell at yourself for having cancer? No, so why yell and put ourself down for having depression, and anxiety disorder, anything like that? Be gentle with yourself :( it isn’t your fault you feel this way, you can’t control these feelings. Please stay strong 💕 I’m asking my mom tonight to be put into therapy because I need to talk about my selfharm and mental health with somebody who isn’t as close to me. I don’t care about your race, religion, ethnic background, age, sexuality, gender, any of that; I love you. Stay strong, keep positivity flowing through your mind, and I know that saying this stuff won’t automatically “cure” you, but I really want to try and change anything you guys may have going wrong in your life. I’m a 13 year old pansexual genderfluid person and I believe all of you will get through your struggles, or maybe even help somebody out. Rainbows only happen after rain, just as good things always happen after the rough patches in your life. ( hopefully, stay strong) Everything always ends on a good note. If your ending is on a bad note, it isn’t the end yet. Love you all, Stay strong, Be brave, Be yourself, You will get through this. Xoxo, Clover.
ive prepared a few sentences in my notes, im just waiting for the right moment and building up the courage. im having alot of anxiety ive been thinking about this for weeks. wish me luck 💗💗
I'm 13 and 70% sure I have some kind of mental health issue. My mom (my only parent) had bipolar disorder and depression. A few months ago I told her that I think I might have social anxiety disorder or something along those lines. She told me that I'm probably just shy. I felt hurt and like I was begging for attention just by reaching out. This video has helped me a lot and it makes me more confident for a (maybe) future encounter. Thank you.
thank you so much for all you have done and still do to me. when i started watching your videos i was so depressed that i had attempted suicide three times and thought there was no escape. and watching your videos i am now 1 month clean of self harm and getting help from therapy and opening up to others. you have changed .y life for the better and thank you so much
Thank you so much. This is exactly what I needed to hear. I'm planning to talk to my mum about my anxiety which has been affecting me for over three years and this really gave me a lot of confidence. Thank you.
Thank you so much for making this video Kristen, this has really helped me. I'm struggling to get the courage to talk to my parents about my mental health, and this has given me a little boost to let me know that there's no shame in reaching out. It'll still take me some time to tell them probably, but this has made me realise that it's okay to want support from others.
thanks so much kristen. for the past few weeks ive been relapsing realllly bad, cutting my wrists and thighs because i know i deserve it. its just that last time i talked to my mom she took away everything that i liked and i felt even worse bc i couldnt talk to someone i trusted. i really do want to open up to her, but i think that she'll flip out on me. If she found my journal (which i once used as an alternative to cutting) she would disown me. She doesnt try to understand my sexuality, and i do love my mother dont get me wrong. I just feel like i cant open up to her. i think that this video helped me a lot and i just wanted to say thanks :))
I tried to talk to my parents about my anxiety, but I feel like they just think I am overly shy. My mom said that she understood me, but that I needed to get over it, and I can't do that. At first they didn't even believe me, because I was a total extrovert as a child, and then drastically changed in 6th grade. It's been 5 years now. I tried so many times to explain how I felt, but it doesn't seem to help at all. Also, my dad has always been a tease, and since he does not understand what anxiety really is, he keeps on teasing me like "Oh yeah she completly freaked out talking to the cashier this morning, lucky I was there". I know it is not meant to hurt, but it does. Hopefully I think my mom is beginning to understand more and may call a psychologue one day
I am now 4 days clean I know that's not long but it's the longest I've been. I am going to use these tips to tell my mum about what I'm going through. So thank you I have been trying to figure out how to tell her for a while now and this video came at the right time so thank you so much.
ive been living for months now knowing that I very likely have social anxiety and possibly depression and I want to tell someone so badly but like u said, its scary doing something like that which is holding me back because I dont know what the outcome will be. not only that but confronting my problem and saying out loud to someone else 'I think I have blahblahblah' is going to make it real when I want so badly to convince myself that I'm fine and not suffering each day
The first time I told my mom I thought I was depressed I sent her a text. Before she responded I had one of the worst anxiety attacks I have ever experienced. I cried and had to call my friend who had to constantly try and keep me calm and remind me to breathe. I was shaking so severely and then avoided coming home for the next week. Then when I got home all she really did was tell me that I had to push the depressing thoughts away. She didn't do a whole lot else and I don't know where else to go from here.
Thank you so much. I've been debating on telling my parents for a couple months now but have been too scared. This video really helped and gave me ideas on how to tell them.
I always want to tell my parents I have depression but I can't because all their children are perfect smart and happy so I don't think they would understand why I'm not.
Yeah, I know what you mean. I was in therapy 2 yeara ago and I had nothing. Now 2 years later I started self harming and being depressed, having anxiety, etc. So now my dad compares me to some cousins I have and who have perfect grades. He also compares me to my brother who has better grades and now I consider going to therapy again through telling my parents. It's tough
Hey there! So I have been dealing with a more externally heightened version of my mental health lately. When I say that I mean that I have outwardly been more frustrated and have had people ask me more and more if Im okay based on my body language, I've also been having a lot of mental breakdowns... infront of people. Yesterday I had one in the car with my mom and siblings, then today I had one again in the car only with my mom and I. I have been trying to figure out how to ask for help and today my mom asked me if I wanted to get a therapist and because I was so freaked I said no. I'm honestly upset with myself about that now because I have been working up to that, but I think that now, when/if she asks again, I will be more prepared to ask. Thank you for the lovely video (even though I'm late)!!
My parents reacted horribly to my depression 2 years ago, and this year when I told my mom about my anxiety attacks she tried to help for like a week and then it seems she forgot, or maybe thought I was "over it" just because I start shutting up and not voice my anxiety since it tires me. Now my depression is making a comeback and I feel so utterly alone. My mom always downplays my feelings, my dad doesn't know anything about me since I never tell him anything because of his reactions.
My parents have been noticing my behavior but I just say no or shrug to the questions. It’s like I can’t get out the words “yes” without crying about it..
all your videos help me so.much I have bad asthma and panic attacks I have up to 2 panic attacks a day and you help.me so much thank you xxx you really help me
This video helped me feel a little bit more confident, but i ended up crying by the end of the video for no reason. I believe that my parents will say that i don't need a therapist and that i can just talk to them, but evey time i try, they just say, "just don't let people get to you." They don't understand . I don't really know what to do.
I'm going to try to talk to my parents again about my depression as it's gotten even worse. The first time, they both blamed the devil and said God would fix it. And then they made a remark saying that it's all in my head and I was wanting attention and that going to a therapist would cost to much. I found a friend that helped, but he just recently said he was done and didn't want anything to do with me anymore. Hopefully this talk will go better and I can get the help that I need.
I have tried to tell my mom about my anxiety, but not my depression and cutting to see how she would react. I do believe that I have anxiety, as I have nearly all of the symptoms. I also have been self-harming for a while now and have been meaning to talk to one of my parents, preferably my mom. to. My anxiety has caused my grades to dramatically drop from straight A's to C's and D's, as a result of me being terrified to participate in social activities. When my parents finally asked me why my grades were so low, and I did try to tell my mom about anxiety, she just told me that I was being dramatic and brushed it off as nothing. I'm at a loss of what to do right now, because I have a 2 year old sister who takes up almost all if my parents time, so I rarely have conversations with them that don't include her. I get to terrified to talk to my parents about my mental state, even though I know that I need help.
I can't tell my parents I have anxiety... They don't even believe it... So I need to make up excuses to avoid going to school. Going to school makes me have a panic attack.
Thank you so much these videos are really helping me get the courage to tell my parents. You dont know how much this means to me. It feels so much better becuase tbh i am terrified to tell them. So thank you for helping me!
I am a lot better explaining things and talking through text or through writing, so I think using a text or a letter could really help me. I can just think of what I want to say quicker and easier by writing, and I don’t have to talk around my own tears and loss of words. It’s hard to explain, but I always know what to say when typing/writing.
Thank you Kristen I'm really scared to talk to my parents but I really know I need to. I've been self harming for three years and for a few months I've been abusing OTC drugs and my parents are oblivious. But the last time they found out I was cutting, my mom just screamed at me and would occasionally check me to make sure I wasn't cutting anymore but after a few months she stopped checking and started cutting again. I attempted suicide once but the only person who knows about it is my best friend. I think I really need a therapist but there expensive and I'm still not completely sure if I'm going to talk to my parents. I'm so freaking scared :{
I wrote a letter on my computer and I printed it out, I am going to put it in my mams bag before she goes to work and hopefully she understands and doesn’t blame herself xxx
ANFAL ABDULLAH My family laughed at me too, they're ignorant towards the fact that it's actually really hard to try and get to the best you can be. Telling a person with mental illnesses to just get over it is terrible, which is why I only talk to people who I know will understand the situation; even if family aren't included. Do you have any close friends you could confide in instead?
I need help. I have issues and I don't know how to cope. My parents are both gone. They walked out on me and my sister. Then, as soon as my sister turned 16, she just walked out one day and went to live with our mother. I have abandonment issues. I don't know why but I cannot stand physical contact. I hate saying goodbye because I think I'm never going to see them again. My gran has cancer, I've been living with her since I was 1. I have anxiety, depression, a guilt complex, and borderline/bipolar. I don't know why I'm saying all this, I just need to get it off my chest. Thank you.
Violet Ink I'm so sorry that sounds terrible 😭 maybe search for a therapist or talk to an adult or councilor at school. They'll hopefully know what to do and can get you into a better situation
Recently my mom told me she had bipolar, depression and anxiety, it makes me think I have it to as I’ve struggled with the symptoms... I really need courage to tell her
I would talk to them. I really want to. But we kind of already had this conversation when they found out I was self-harming, but then they did absolutely nothing about it. My mom is a doctor, but she has this thing where she goes into denial when something is wrong with me. She completely pushes it out of her mind and say that I'm too young and just doing this for attention.
My conversation with my mom went crazily good! It's pry because my mom has mental health problems and my sister talked to her about her depression way earlier so she pries knows how to take care of this.
My mom used to joke about sending me to a doctor because I was always unhappy, and when I finally told her how I was feeling and asked for professional help, both her and my dad got mad at me and assumed that my mother had originally put that idea into my mind, and before she said anything, I wasn’t unhappy at all. They basically thought I was being dramatic because of jokes they made in the past. Also, my mom keeps on saying that everyone else is secretly unhappy as well, but I know what I’m going through isn’t normal. My parents just don’t get it.
Thank you, I hope this will help. My dad was called after my teacher broke down once she saw my cuts. That was Thursday, tomorrow (Sunday) is the day we're telling my mom
My parents think that therapy and things like that won't help me because it didn't help them. I really need help, but they've said they'll make an appointment multiple times in the past few months and still haven't done it
Hey Kristen! I appreciate you taking effort and making this video to help others but i have a question. I talked to my mum about my emotions and because im 13 my mums answer is always this: *dont wanna share my name so i'll just say Kira* "Kira, its just puberty. You are overcomplexing things. You are just shy, its fine" i was talking to her about my social anxiety, my grades have been slipping down because if i have any questions in school im scared to ask, when the teacher asks a question i start sweating alot, my heart starts racing and when im picked to answer i studder alot and i start feeling sick (i also get super red most of the time). Its really hard to walk out my room most of the time, its like losing the will to do anything. When i told my mum that she said "You arent a little kid kira, just suck it up its just puberty. You ae ruining your life by doing this. Stop crying and go read a book or something. Just start talking to people you dont have any 'mental health'. Stop living a fantasy and focus on reality" Its really hard to talk to her about this so im crying and sobbing and i told her that i cant control it, its just automatic for me. She said "Kira. Then automatically raise your hand and speak" she walked out and didnt say a word to me. I dont know what to do because its just getting worse and worse... ultimately she thought that my friend who suffers from OCD made me make up some 'health disorders' that i don't have. Now i dont know anymore if im overreacting but the feelings i feel are real. When i walk in a room with lots of people i could feel them staring and silently judging me for who i am. Its probably in my imagination but i cant stop it. Then i start doubting if im good enough and change eveything about myself. I started wearing alot of makeup aswell because i felt ugly but then i got judged for wearing it... talking to someone online so so hard so i cant reach out for help. What do i even do at this point? It was hard enough to write this but i had to get it all out. I know i dont have a right to complain, others have it wayyyy worse than me so im sorry.
i told my mom about about my anxiety and she said I just have a creative mind and she will not get me therpy. my mental health has been the worst ever since and its been hard for me to even move. that was about a month ago.
I know if I built up the courage to ask my mom she’d probably say yes, but what makes me nervous is that our relationship wouldn’t be the same anymore (it’d be awkward) or she’d blow it off and say “I had that same social awkwardness when I was your age” like when I tried to bring it up last time. :((
Okay so I don’t have the courage to go up to my mom or dad and TELL them I think I have anxiety, because ever since I was about 7, I started worrying A LOTT (mostly at night, thinking about what could go wrong the next day) But I really never new why, I thought it happens to most people. But about a year ago, it got HORRRRRIBLE! 90% of the time I have a mental BREAKK down. Weather it’s me sitting there thinking, or it’s my throwing a complete TANTRUM! I’m trying to drop suttle hints to my parents showing I (I’m pretty positive) Have anxiety. But I might just strait up tell my dad. Me and my dad are pretty close and we just spend most of our time alone and together. My dad is very understanding and I hope he considers taking me to the doctor, if I build up the courage to tell him.
My old school told my mom about my self-harm, I came out to my mom as trans, through a letter... I told her that I needed professional help, because I'm a danger to myself.. She also knows that my anxiety and depression, keeps me from leaving my apartment most days. Yet she's still making me go to college....Without the help I need..
They’ll just tell me not to believe everything I see online and tell me I am one of the kindest, humblest, people they have ever known. I have Narcissistic personality disorder ( you can know you are one by the way) and I want to heal. I want to love another person, I want to be able to feel actual emotions, and I don’t want to be a slave to my need of attention anymore.
I've already tried talking to my parents about my mental health.. I got a therapist but only went a few times because my step mom got tired of taking me and when I went I couldn't really even open up like I needed to either....
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I hate parents who don't understand, even when there's visible evidence that something is wrong. Last year I had a huge mental breakdown and my cutting got a lot worse during that time period. My mum just said that I was being hormonal and that I was just having mood swings all the time. Initially my stepdad didn't handle it well by saying "Well done, you've just thrown away your entire future.". Earlier this year my mum made an appointment to see a GP after I kept having panic attacks during my mock exams. They made a referral to CAHMS and it hasn't gone through still. Nowadays I'm seeing the school counsellor. It's early days but I hope to make progress by doing that.
I've had all this happening since I was about 12 (4 years ago when I started secondary school) and nothing was done about it until this year.
I wish my parents would notice my behavior, but "I'm just shy"
PopSicko same my mom is like it is hormonal
@@angiepiercy6710 my mother thinks that as well
My mother is IMPOSSIBLE. I've tried to talk to her countless times about this. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. I try to talk to her about ME, she turns it to her. Example:
Me: mom, I want to talk to you about something you always seem to brush off. You know I have anxiety, and depression and PTSD and all this other stuff, so can I actually talk to you without you getting angry at me, or without you turning the conversation to you.
Mom: well what is it what do you want?
Me: I just told you what
Mom: well you don't have it as bad as me and you never will. **goes on to tell stories of how she has all this shit**
And it's just so frustrating and so degrading (as time will fly by and the sky will cry as light is fading) because she's so self centered. One day it'll take her by surprise. She's noticed my cuts before, but of course she believed they were cat scratches. It makes me so angry because unless she learns not to be so self centered, I'm never going to get the help I need. She'll never know the power I have. Anyone can end themselves at any moment, but she just thinks I do it for attention.
Ik just stay strong, same here
Chiara Rachael Praying for you! ❤️😘
what if they get mad and think I'm just doing it to get attention? :(
Same, i sometimes think that i might be doing it for attention but i dont know
Leah Wilson I don't do it for attention but I'm afraid that if I tell my parents they'll think that I do it for attention and then they won't take it seriously
+Elvira Johanna Vejar Romero You don't know that for certain. You don't know until you try. Don't make predictions about it and just go for it.
I have the same fear ;_;
My parents thought this and they think I'm instantly better but that is not true it's frustrating
My heart goes out to all you underage sufferers who need parental support to seek treatment right now. I hope your parents may be understanding and open as my own were and that you can start treatment and recovery young before bad habits and routines start to form too much.
Zanyotaku thanks
Zanyotaku thank you so much
I know it isn't along time, but I'm 1 week clean😊
That's amazing! Keep it up!!!:)
You can do it! Great job
Being a week clean is the first step to being clean for life mate.
Thanks so much for the love, care that you all are giving me. Today I was down, my girl friend ran away and hadn't called me or nothing. I felt like I someway had something to do with her running away. But I keep telling myself that I didn't! No I didn't. But that stupid voice in my head tells me to cut, bc I'll never see my highschool sweet again.. But.. No. I'm strong. I'm stronger then that voice!
Yes you are SO stronger than that stupid voice in proud of you! I may not know you but I truly am!!
My parents will be like you're too young to be feeling this way
IamAndrey Mbao same for u it has been a year please tell me if u told ur parents I am struggling in school as loosing friends and feeling down and not fitting in but am 13 and I don’t know how to tell them
Same I went to therapy without having anything. This year I have really bad depression and anxiety and idk how to tell my mom
I am so sorry, I keep seeing your comments everywhere and I hope you get the help you both need and deserve. 😊
I hate that word you are too young what do you mean to young
My parents caused the depression. They’re one of many reasons why I feel depressed so it’s really hard to talk to them... And they only make it worse because they always yell at me and sometimes my mom even hits me. Last night she pushed me so hard, I fell on the floor. It just gets worse and worse everyday.
Sherlisa Same( Is it better now? Anyway stay strong ❤️ Im here for you)))
i wish you were my parent
ikr
Same
I’m going to talk to my brother
same
my mom gave me the classic " we've all been depressed at one time or another" and I can't even begin to try and explain I think I have schizophrenia
How old are you ?
almost 18
If it's hard to talk try writing a letter. it helped me because I suck at talking to people
ThePoketroller I totally understand everyone's gonna think you have depression when you don't get the courage to straight up tell you parents
I completely understand. I have been feeling like I have OCD and ADHD but my parents doubt me.
I'm a month clean ❤
Great job Girl!
Go girl you can do this
Way to go girl!💖
Fuzzy Buzzy YAYYY!!🎊💓🎉
yay I'm so proud of you!!!
keep going💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
how do i ask my parents to see a therapist when they don't believe in therapy...they say i have to work threw my emotions on my own
It's like learning a subject, sure you might be able to do it on your own but it is incredibly difficult and most people give up. With a teacher it becomes clearer and easier. It gives you options and tools and feedback of how you're doing. Sure you can suffer through it and give up a couple times or you can make it many times easier. Not a quick fix but it means help
A few months ago I'd told my mom's fiance about my anxiety and depression since I felt very invalidated and felt like a bother when I showed signs of anxiety.He was fairly understanding,it seemed,though he asked me why in context of my depression.I could never really give a full answer,since I don't know why it hits.However,a few weeks ago I was yelled at for my anxiety and started crying because I'd felt like a burden.I told my mom about it but she blamed my anxiety on the computer and told me I was rude that I am unable to socialize.Now I feel like a bad person for my condition. :/
Please don't feel like a bad person because of your anxiety, nobody wants to feel anxious or depressed or hurt in any way, you are loved and will be loved by so many people :)
Thank you. ^-^
You're welcome :)
*falls down the stairs*
Mom: the computer pushed you.
Totally me
I'm two weeks clean, btw thanks for this video, i really needed it💖
Proud of you
Congrats!
choncé CONGRATULATIONS!!🎊💕🎉
that's amazing keep going!!!!💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
My Chemical Panic! withTwentyØnePiløts nice username XD
im 1 month clean of self harm, im really proud of myself 😊
I couldn't talk to them myself, so I had a friend tell a school councillor so that the councillor would tell my parents. there's no way I could have done it face to face, because simply telling the councillor the details and having them call sent me into a panic attack. I sat in shaking sobs while waiting to be picked up from school.
You can get though anything I know you can we all can if we have surport.
You can always check out my channel then go to my Instagram and message me anytime you need someone to vent to :)
THE LAZY DOG Always praying for you!
I told my mom that I have this problem and she forgot about it the next morning
Ya Boi Lettuce same! I was so stressed telling my mom and the next morning nothing no how can I help no. Mention about ANYTHING
Omg you're voice is just so soothing and listenable
I'm not brave enough to talk to my parents about it and my school has no counseler.... do you have any help for me? :(
Same here... I'm no longer in school so I have no counselor, but I'm thinking about writing a letter. I'd like to be brave and talk to them face to face, but just thinking about it has me in tears. You're not alone, dear
oh my gosh im the same way!!!!!! so I just had that talk. and idk what religion you are but im a Mormon and my leader who I have know so long helped. she told me that it's a leap of faith with a prayer in your heart. it may not go how you want it too but there are people who can talk to them for you. I would try first writing notes and practicing what you will say.
you should tell a teacher
2 years clean today ❤😊
Skulli Skellington sending some love 💙
I know this is irrelevant to the video, (which was so helpful btw, thank you,) but you are so beautiful.
i told a friend about it so I have someone to talk to and then she told me she has suffered with depression in the past too. its really good I have a person who can relate but I still need to tell my parents and its making me worry so much.
I talked to my mum, thank you for helping you are amazing! She completely understood! Thank you! 🙂 I'm almost three days clean as well, I'm 11 thank you. ❤️
LPSErinCat that's awesome keep going
Diccmeuppapi YOU GO!!!!!! 😘😘😘😘😗
I HOPE YOU'RE STILL CLEAN!!
I'm 12 but i started being like this when i was 10 and im about to tell them by Writing a letter
How do I ask my parents to actually get the help they said they would, without making it sound like I am not down playing them.
reminders are always good. Just remind them politely that you are still wanting to see someone.
I'm in the same situation. It's been 6 months since I first told them. If you go through your school/college they might be able to help.
Crystal Art just say hey, have you sorted out my therapy yet, or whatever they was gonna do
Camomile SAME
3 days ago I nearly committed suicide. But my dog saved my life, again.
About a year ago My family and I went to a park and I saw a bridge across the river. I was walking over to it while my family was further ahead, I walked to the edge and was about to jump off. Just me thinking I wasn’t worth it made me fell so worthless and hopeless, so I thought I would just jump off and end it all. I took a while because I was gathering my last thoughts. Then out of nowhere my dog came barking at me. He ran up to me and started licking my face and jumping up on me and he made me so happy that I thought I would wait till another day.
It’s been about a year since that day and I’ve hit rock bottom. I fell in love and broke her heart. I’ve lost my dearest family members and some of my friends. I have some days when I don’t feel like anything is worth it and I might as well end it all. Sometimes I will go to out medicine cabinet and just stare at it for hours on end. There are days when I don’t eat anything because I think I’m too fat and days when I eat way too much because I think I am too skinny and lanky. So 3 days ago I thought I should end it all, help everyone I love because they wont have me around to break their hearts. So I stood up and walked out of my room into the hallway by our medicine cabinet. I stood outside of it for 10 or 20 minutes thinking should I do this?
“Yes”
I opened the door and looked for our Ibuprofen and then I heard my dog, scratching at the front door, he was barking so loud, and me being an animal person couldn’t leave him outside in the cold. So, I let him in and the moment was over.
I’m not posting this for attention, I’m not posting this for likes, I’m posting this so everyone knows that if you need anything, I’m here. Seriously, talk to me or someone you know. I am gonna tell my parents tonight about my depression and then we will go from there.
If you’re reading this I really appreciate you listening/reading to my story, I hope everyone gets help out there. I love you all and stay safe.
Sofia Taylor-Swanson Hey, everything ok today?
Good luck and I hope everything is getting a little better for you!
My mom was aware of my depression for a while before this and we had talked about it when I needed too.
When I told my mom I needed to go to the hospital or I was going to eventually hurt myself. She listened and and we talked for about 30 minutes, she told me what to expect, the best way she could. 2 hours later we were at the hospital We had to stay the night there. I got some help at a mental hospital the next day. I'm still not completely healthy but that was June first and I'm still here. So it helped me. PS my mom is the best I'm so lucky I love her so much. I was still really nervous about talking to her. So I wish I had this video then great video.👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Thank you so much for this, almost told my mum about my mental health tonight but I got so scared and completely backed out. I'm so much more confident about telling her now thank you :) x
i'm not sure what exactly i strugggle with, but i know it's SOMETHING. i definitely think that i have anxiety, and possible bpd. i've been hiding having panic attacks from my parents. and frequently. i've had panic attacks in the school bathroom, hyperventilating and crying my fucking eyes out and have to make up excuses as to why i look like i've been to hell and back (from crying, of course). i've self harmed for 9 months now (currently 20 days clean 😊) and i know that i need help. however, i'm too scared to say anything to my parents. i'm almost positive that they'll tell me that it's my age, or they'll tell me that i'm overthinking and that everyone feels this way sometimes. i'm kind of freaking the fuck out. i've known that i have some kind of mental illness for MONTHS now and have been dealing with it on my own. i just can't anymore. i'm only 13, so my parents think that i'm incapable of having a mental illness at this age. they've even spoken about it before, and they've said that it's ridiculous that people my age think they have a mental disorder and that they'll just "grow out of it." i feel pretty sure that they wouldn't help me out, so i don't know if i can talk to them. please give me advice. i'm really in need of help. 💖
stay strong boo ❤❤
Ambercrombie 💖
stay strong, but you can't possibly have BPD... you literally cannot be diagnosed under 18. but still, ily, stay strong:)
@@kennedy1137 im extremely late but my sister is under the age of 18 and she was diagnosed with bpd???
I’m going to tell my mom about my possible depression soon, possibly in a day or two. I hope it goes well. Thank you for this video, Kristen!
Dreamy Fuzzball Late comment, but good luck! And have a good recovery
Is it ok to talk to a school counselor first
of course!!!
How do I talk to my parents about my mental health when I've felt like this for as long as I remember? Because at this point I'm scared they just think I'm naturally like this. But I've recently realized my behavior isn't healthy or normal. I shouldn't always feel like I'm worth nothing.
Hey, I just wanted to tell you that your videos are helping me a lot. I started self-harming myself one year ago and I knew it was wrong but I didn't know how to confront my parents. When I found your channel I found the courage to talk to them and it went well. It's been two moths since I stopped harming myself, I'm clean! You really inspired me to stop, thank you, just THANK YOU!
You are so amazing Kristen, you are gonna help SO many people in your lifetime X people like you make the world a better place 💖 you can brighten my day and make me feel less alone even on some of the worst days 💗
I am beyond terrified
Idunn Gorham What's wrong ?
Thank you so much. There is no way I could have started my journey to recovery without you. Tonight I had a conversation about mental health and seeing a doctor sometime soon because I have felt very depressed for the last 4 months, horrible actually for the past 3 weeks. I want you to know that you a such an inspiration and I aspire to be as amazing of a person as you someday. Once again, thank you so so much!
I'm scared to tell them because I think I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) because I'm getting really bad thoughts and they'll probably throw me in a mental hospital! I'm also scared because it's like stabbing people, smacking and hitting them against a wall. Especially my little brother who is the one person who I love the most, he's only three years old. Practically defenseless. I'm just scared....
Sorry for the rant and vent but yeah :/
Edit: before people come for me saying that I'm a physcopath/sociopath. OCD tends to Target fears, weaknesses and stuff like that..
I used this video and the tips when trying to talk to my mom but she's still in denial that I have depression. She and I both have anxiety but she won't try to help. I've tried to talk to her about this three times in the last two months but she won't budge. She's one of the biggest reasons I have it in the first place. Thank you for reminding me that I'm not alone
My mother already knew about my anxiety and a bit of my depression already but last night I told her I self harm. I did it over messanger because I have 0 social skills, but she really understood! She used to cut when she was younger so she understands a bit. I'm going to the hospital tomorrow to see what can be done to help.
The only problem I had was with my brother, my mom sent a group message and said that I am self harming but I will still need to be comfortable in the house and will be wearing short sleeves and shorts sometimes and they will see the cuts. My brother said that she needs to "stop babying me even though this is kinda serious ig idk"
I'm still getting help and I'm still happy that someone understands. Thank you for this video as it really gave me the confidence for the whole thing!
I can picture the conversation now “mum I think I have depression” “you’ve been eating too many sweets. If you just ate healthier like I told you you wouldn’t feel this way”
Is it bad that some times I just cry thinking
I love you and your content. Here’s a reminder to everyone struggling with any issues: life goes on, and things will get better. Would you ever yell at yourself for having cancer? No, so why yell and put ourself down for having depression, and anxiety disorder, anything like that? Be gentle with yourself :( it isn’t your fault you feel this way, you can’t control these feelings. Please stay strong 💕 I’m asking my mom tonight to be put into therapy because I need to talk about my selfharm and mental health with somebody who isn’t as close to me. I don’t care about your race, religion, ethnic background, age, sexuality, gender, any of that; I love you. Stay strong, keep positivity flowing through your mind, and I know that saying this stuff won’t automatically “cure” you, but I really want to try and change anything you guys may have going wrong in your life. I’m a 13 year old pansexual genderfluid person and I believe all of you will get through your struggles, or maybe even help somebody out. Rainbows only happen after rain, just as good things always happen after the rough patches in your life.
( hopefully, stay strong) Everything always ends on a good note. If your ending is on a bad note, it isn’t the end yet.
Love you all,
Stay strong,
Be brave,
Be yourself,
You will get through this.
Xoxo, Clover.
ive prepared a few sentences in my notes, im just waiting for the right moment and building up the courage. im having alot of anxiety ive been thinking about this for weeks. wish me luck 💗💗
It's so hard because I hide myself behind a happy girl who never is sad they have no idea what I'm going through and I'm so scared please help
I'm 13 and 70% sure I have some kind of mental health issue. My mom (my only parent) had bipolar disorder and depression. A few months ago I told her that I think I might have social anxiety disorder or something along those lines. She told me that I'm probably just shy. I felt hurt and like I was begging for attention just by reaching out. This video has helped me a lot and it makes me more confident for a (maybe) future encounter. Thank you.
thank you so much for all you have done and still do to me. when i started watching your videos i was so depressed that i had attempted suicide three times and thought there was no escape. and watching your videos i am now 1 month clean of self harm and getting help from therapy and opening up to others. you have changed .y life for the better and thank you so much
Thank you so much. This is exactly what I needed to hear. I'm planning to talk to my mum about my anxiety which has been affecting me for over three years and this really gave me a lot of confidence. Thank you.
Thank you so much for making this video Kristen, this has really helped me. I'm struggling to get the courage to talk to my parents about my mental health, and this has given me a little boost to let me know that there's no shame in reaching out. It'll still take me some time to tell them probably, but this has made me realise that it's okay to want support from others.
thanks so much kristen. for the past few weeks ive been relapsing realllly bad, cutting my wrists and thighs because i know i deserve it. its just that last time i talked to my mom she took away everything that i liked and i felt even worse bc i couldnt talk to someone i trusted. i really do want to open up to her, but i think that she'll flip out on me. If she found my journal (which i once used as an alternative to cutting) she would disown me. She doesnt try to understand my sexuality, and i do love my mother dont get me wrong. I just feel like i cant open up to her. i think that this video helped me a lot and i just wanted to say thanks :))
My mom asked me how my mental health was a couple weeks ago. Multiple times. I said yes every time. God damn it.
I tried to talk to my parents about my anxiety, but I feel like they just think I am overly shy. My mom said that she understood me, but that I needed to get over it, and I can't do that. At first they didn't even believe me, because I was a total extrovert as a child, and then drastically changed in 6th grade. It's been 5 years now. I tried so many times to explain how I felt, but it doesn't seem to help at all. Also, my dad has always been a tease, and since he does not understand what anxiety really is, he keeps on teasing me like "Oh yeah she completly freaked out talking to the cashier this morning, lucky I was there". I know it is not meant to hurt, but it does. Hopefully I think my mom is beginning to understand more and may call a psychologue one day
I am now 4 days clean I know that's not long but it's the longest I've been. I am going to use these tips to tell my mum about what I'm going through. So thank you I have been trying to figure out how to tell her for a while now and this video came at the right time so thank you so much.
ive been living for months now knowing that I very likely have social anxiety and possibly depression and I want to tell someone so badly but like u said, its scary doing something like that which is holding me back because I dont know what the outcome will be. not only that but confronting my problem and saying out loud to someone else 'I think I have blahblahblah' is going to make it real when I want so badly to convince myself that I'm fine and not suffering each day
I wrote my mum a letter explaining what was wrong and I'm finally getting help so thank you sooooo much!!
The first time I told my mom I thought I was depressed I sent her a text. Before she responded I had one of the worst anxiety attacks I have ever experienced. I cried and had to call my friend who had to constantly try and keep me calm and remind me to breathe. I was shaking so severely and then avoided coming home for the next week. Then when I got home all she really did was tell me that I had to push the depressing thoughts away. She didn't do a whole lot else and I don't know where else to go from here.
My dad saw my scars and told me to text him whenever i want to and tell him. So when i was back at mom's house i texted him. He left me on read...
Thank you so much. I've been debating on telling my parents for a couple months now but have been too scared. This video really helped and gave me ideas on how to tell them.
I always want to tell my parents I have depression but I can't because all their children are perfect smart and happy so I don't think they would understand why I'm not.
Yeah, I know what you mean. I was in therapy 2 yeara ago and I had nothing. Now 2 years later I started self harming and being depressed, having anxiety, etc. So now my dad compares me to some cousins I have and who have perfect grades. He also compares me to my brother who has better grades and now I consider going to therapy again through telling my parents. It's tough
These videos litterly saved my life and still are continuing to save my life thank you!!
Hey there! So I have been dealing with a more externally heightened version of my mental health lately. When I say that I mean that I have outwardly been more frustrated and have had people ask me more and more if Im okay based on my body language, I've also been having a lot of mental breakdowns... infront of people. Yesterday I had one in the car with my mom and siblings, then today I had one again in the car only with my mom and I. I have been trying to figure out how to ask for help and today my mom asked me if I wanted to get a therapist and because I was so freaked I said no. I'm honestly upset with myself about that now because I have been working up to that, but I think that now, when/if she asks again, I will be more prepared to ask. Thank you for the lovely video (even though I'm late)!!
My parents reacted horribly to my depression 2 years ago, and this year when I told my mom about my anxiety attacks she tried to help for like a week and then it seems she forgot, or maybe thought I was "over it" just because I start shutting up and not voice my anxiety since it tires me. Now my depression is making a comeback and I feel so utterly alone. My mom always downplays my feelings, my dad doesn't know anything about me since I never tell him anything because of his reactions.
My parents have been noticing my behavior but I just say no or shrug to the questions. It’s like I can’t get out the words “yes” without crying about it..
all your videos help me so.much I have bad asthma and panic attacks I have up to 2 panic attacks a day and you help.me so much thank you xxx you really help me
Just to let you know I'm going to my first therapy session soon , you gave me courage thanks
I've been struggling to talk to my parents about this for a while now. Thank you for making this video, I'm planning to tell them tonight or tomorrow
I'm really, really trying to gather the courage to talk to my parents about this, and this video is beyond helpful. Thank you so much.
Hey, I just wanted to say I'm a huge fan & I love watching your videos! thank you for all the time and effort you have put into this. ❤
This video helped me feel a little bit more confident, but i ended up crying by the end of the video for no reason. I believe that my parents will say that i don't need a therapist and that i can just talk to them, but evey time i try, they just say, "just don't let people get to you." They don't understand . I don't really know what to do.
I'm going to try to talk to my parents again about my depression as it's gotten even worse. The first time, they both blamed the devil and said God would fix it. And then they made a remark saying that it's all in my head and I was wanting attention and that going to a therapist would cost to much. I found a friend that helped, but he just recently said he was done and didn't want anything to do with me anymore. Hopefully this talk will go better and I can get the help that I need.
I have tried to tell my mom about my anxiety, but not my depression and cutting to see how she would react. I do believe that I have anxiety, as I have nearly all of the symptoms. I also have been self-harming for a while now and have been meaning to talk to one of my parents, preferably my mom. to. My anxiety has caused my grades to dramatically drop from straight A's to C's and D's, as a result of me being terrified to participate in social activities. When my parents finally asked me why my grades were so low, and I did try to tell my mom about anxiety, she just told me that I was being dramatic and brushed it off as nothing. I'm at a loss of what to do right now, because I have a 2 year old sister who takes up almost all if my parents time, so I rarely have conversations with them that don't include her. I get to terrified to talk to my parents about my mental state, even though I know that I need help.
I can't tell my parents I have anxiety... They don't even believe it... So I need to make up excuses to avoid going to school. Going to school makes me have a panic attack.
Thank you so much these videos are really helping me get the courage to tell my parents. You dont know how much this means to me. It feels so much better becuase tbh i am terrified to tell them. So thank you for helping me!
I need help, how would I tell my parents about me thinking I have OCD
I have seen this video a million times, never in my 5 years of knowing that I need help had I have the balls to ask for it
I am a lot better explaining things and talking through text or through writing, so I think using a text or a letter could really help me. I can just think of what I want to say quicker and easier by writing, and I don’t have to talk around my own tears and loss of words. It’s hard to explain, but I always know what to say when typing/writing.
Thank you Kristen I'm really scared to talk to my parents but I really know I need to. I've been self harming for three years and for a few months I've been abusing OTC drugs and my parents are oblivious. But the last time they found out I was cutting, my mom just screamed at me and would occasionally check me to make sure I wasn't cutting anymore but after a few months she stopped checking and started cutting again. I attempted suicide once but the only person who knows about it is my best friend. I think I really need a therapist but there expensive and I'm still not completely sure if I'm going to talk to my parents. I'm so freaking scared :{
i can relate. youre not alone. I too think i need a therapist but theres always a lot going on in my family. I believe in you.
I believe in you too
Celeste Singerton you got this stay strong ❤️
Your videos really help me! You are such an amazing person.
I wrote a letter on my computer and I printed it out, I am going to put it in my mams bag before she goes to work and hopefully she understands and doesn’t blame herself xxx
You're like the big sister I never had
I am so scard to tell my mother about my self abuse. But I know I need to tell her
Great intro! Such a good video, I wish I knew all this a few years ago.
What if I already told my family and they laughed
ANFAL ABDULLAH My family laughed at me too, they're ignorant towards the fact that it's actually really hard to try and get to the best you can be. Telling a person with mental illnesses to just get over it is terrible, which is why I only talk to people who I know will understand the situation; even if family aren't included. Do you have any close friends you could confide in instead?
Nobody believes that I have depression so I've stopped trying to get my point across ):,3
I need help. I have issues and I don't know how to cope. My parents are both gone. They walked out on me and my sister. Then, as soon as my sister turned 16, she just walked out one day and went to live with our mother.
I have abandonment issues.
I don't know why but I cannot stand physical contact. I hate saying goodbye because I think I'm never going to see them again. My gran has cancer, I've been living with her since I was 1.
I have anxiety, depression, a guilt complex, and borderline/bipolar.
I don't know why I'm saying all this, I just need to get it off my chest. Thank you.
Violet Ink I'm so sorry that sounds terrible 😭 maybe search for a therapist or talk to an adult or councilor at school. They'll hopefully know what to do and can get you into a better situation
Recently my mom told me she had bipolar, depression and anxiety, it makes me think I have it to as I’ve struggled with the symptoms... I really need courage to tell her
I would talk to them. I really want to. But we kind of already had this conversation when they found out I was self-harming, but then they did absolutely nothing about it. My mom is a doctor, but she has this thing where she goes into denial when something is wrong with me. She completely pushes it out of her mind and say that I'm too young and just doing this for attention.
My conversation with my mom went crazily good! It's pry because my mom has mental health problems and my sister talked to her about her depression way earlier so she pries knows how to take care of this.
My mom used to joke about sending me to a doctor because I was always unhappy, and when I finally told her how I was feeling and asked for professional help, both her and my dad got mad at me and assumed that my mother had originally put that idea into my mind, and before she said anything, I wasn’t unhappy at all. They basically thought I was being dramatic because of jokes they made in the past. Also, my mom keeps on saying that everyone else is secretly unhappy as well, but I know what I’m going through isn’t normal. My parents just don’t get it.
I’m so scared of telling my parents.. I don’t want people to treat me differently once they find out I’ve been eh assaulted
Thank you, I hope this will help. My dad was called after my teacher broke down once she saw my cuts. That was Thursday, tomorrow (Sunday) is the day we're telling my mom
You have such a beautiful heart and personality. Thank you
How do I tell my mom, that dosent belive in bipolar disorder or ADHD, about my anxiety without her thinking I'm just wanting to be drugged up?
Knightly 33 you could mention therapy?
My parents think that therapy and things like that won't help me because it didn't help them. I really need help, but they've said they'll make an appointment multiple times in the past few months and still haven't done it
Hey Kristen! I appreciate you taking effort and making this video to help others but i have a question. I talked to my mum about my emotions and because im 13 my mums answer is always this: *dont wanna share my name so i'll just say Kira* "Kira, its just puberty. You are overcomplexing things. You are just shy, its fine" i was talking to her about my social anxiety, my grades have been slipping down because if i have any questions in school im scared to ask, when the teacher asks a question i start sweating alot, my heart starts racing and when im picked to answer i studder alot and i start feeling sick (i also get super red most of the time). Its really hard to walk out my room most of the time, its like losing the will to do anything. When i told my mum that she said "You arent a little kid kira, just suck it up its just puberty. You ae ruining your life by doing this. Stop crying and go read a book or something. Just start talking to people you dont have any 'mental health'. Stop living a fantasy and focus on reality" Its really hard to talk to her about this so im crying and sobbing and i told her that i cant control it, its just automatic for me. She said "Kira. Then automatically raise your hand and speak" she walked out and didnt say a word to me. I dont know what to do because its just getting worse and worse... ultimately she thought that my friend who suffers from OCD made me make up some 'health disorders' that i don't have. Now i dont know anymore if im overreacting but the feelings i feel are real. When i walk in a room with lots of people i could feel them staring and silently judging me for who i am. Its probably in my imagination but i cant stop it. Then i start doubting if im good enough and change eveything about myself. I started wearing alot of makeup aswell because i felt ugly but then i got judged for wearing it... talking to someone online so so hard so i cant reach out for help. What do i even do at this point? It was hard enough to write this but i had to get it all out. I know i dont have a right to complain, others have it wayyyy worse than me so im sorry.
awesome video, and awesome advice Kristen xx
The thing is I can come out about to my friends but I can’t to my parents idk why
i told my mom about about my anxiety and she said I just have a creative mind and she will not get me therpy. my mental health has been the worst ever since and its been hard for me to even move. that was about a month ago.
I know if I built up the courage to ask my mom she’d probably say yes, but what makes me nervous is that our relationship wouldn’t be the same anymore (it’d be awkward) or she’d blow it off and say “I had that same social awkwardness when I was your age” like when I tried to bring it up last time. :((
Okay so I don’t have the courage to go up to my mom or dad and TELL them I think I have anxiety, because ever since I was about 7, I started worrying A LOTT (mostly at night, thinking about what could go wrong the next day) But I really never new why, I thought it happens to most people. But about a year ago, it got HORRRRRIBLE! 90% of the time I have a mental BREAKK down. Weather it’s me sitting there thinking, or it’s my throwing a complete TANTRUM! I’m trying to drop suttle hints to my parents showing I (I’m pretty positive) Have anxiety. But I might just strait up tell my dad. Me and my dad are pretty close and we just spend most of our time alone and together. My dad is very understanding and I hope he considers taking me to the doctor, if I build up the courage to tell him.
My old school told my mom about my self-harm, I came out to my mom as trans, through a letter...
I told her that I needed professional help, because I'm a danger to myself..
She also knows that my anxiety and depression, keeps me from leaving my apartment most days. Yet she's still making me go to college....Without the help I need..
That really sucks I'm really sorry
They’ll just tell me not to believe everything I see online and tell me I am one of the kindest, humblest, people they have ever known. I have Narcissistic personality disorder ( you can know you are one by the way) and I want to heal. I want to love another person, I want to be able to feel actual emotions, and I don’t want to be a slave to my need of attention anymore.
I've already tried talking to my parents about my mental health.. I got a therapist but only went a few times because my step mom got tired of taking me and when I went I couldn't really even open up like I needed to either....