The sad thing is, the "good" men aren't that different. Just watch the Jimmy Kimmel clips where dad's can't even tell the interviewer their kid's birthdays.
Man this hit me like a ton of bricks! I'm doing EVERYTHING literally down to paying all the bills and im fed up! My husband had the nerve to add an extra 2( his oldest daughter not my kid and his niece) people to the household knowing his ass wasnt working. I am so ready to walk out with my 2 kids and let him go f himself
I used to be you, about 13 years ago. Paid the majority of the bills because all his money went to child support. One of his daughters moved in with us and the child support did not drop nor did the mother have to pay HIM. Did ALL the housework, shopping, laundry, holidays, errands etc...I had to work overtime as a nurse because his daughter had NOTHING. So, I had to supply her with clothes and products (not her fault) paid for her graduation fees, paid her senior dues, her prom, paid for her graduation picnic, and was told. You gonna have to sit these events out shawty, cuz my baby moms will make a scene if you show up and ruin the gathering. So, wasn't able to attend. In other words, BOTH PARENTS were POS and weren't taking care of THIER children but left ME with the bag, since I was around and I was the one paying. Please get out, take your children and leave because it will NOT get better. It won't and once the child support runs short because the kids are almost 18, he's gonna act out and make your life even worse, because he WANTS you to break up with him. So, you just wasted 15 years of your life on him and he used you to get through his legal obligations. Don't be me and give him another ten years...GTFO.
@heneverforesakesme4038 I tell my 18 yr old daughter not to ever even think about dating a man with children because more than likely, he's gonna owe child support As well as have to deal with his child's mother.
@@misslady5029 We are taught that our value as females is in being able to find a man. Just look at all of the animated movies where the young ladies, usually portrayed as princesses, are wrapped up in the fairytale idea of love. We are conditioned for love, marriage, & having babies/families from our earliest years, including with our toys, like baby dolls, cooking sets, cleaning sets, etc., & how we play. When we have that drilled into us from our earliest years that our identity is only achieved by finding a man & we aren’t allowed to have our dreams & aspirations, we get caught up in this current nightmare where we are slaves to our families & disrespected by the males in our lives. If I had it to do all over again, I would NEVER have made any man a priority. If love, marriage, & family happened, then it would have happened, but I would NEVER have tolerated one moment of disrespect from any man. I now know better & it sadly took decades of abuse, including mental, physical, emotional, & financial abuse, for me to learn my worth was so much greater than I ever realized & I NEVER needed any man to complete me or determine my value. In fact, I learned that the men devalued me by how I allowed them to treat me. NEVER ALLOW ANYONE A SINGLE MOMENT OF DISRESPECT! The first negative word or action needs to be the LAST!
I walked away from an almost 15 year marriage with 3 children almost 13 years ago. The marriage was killing me...literally. its the Best decision I've ever made. My children are doing wonderful and all over 20 now. I don't know if I'll ever marry again. I want to, but almost 13 years single has taught me...WHAT I DO NOTTTTTTTTT WANT! I'll take single & happy for $500, Alex!
I'm not asking a grown man who puts garbage in the garbage can to take out the trash, nor ask for help for his children. Might as well he's one of the kids. He should already know. I'm not his mother, nor am I in the business to coddling a grown man. After 30 yrs of a marriageless marriage, with all the debauchery I left. I'm home prompting him on what to do, but he can find time to entertain other women and have kids outside the marriage. No, ma'am.
Being a married single mom was a norm since millenia. Men rarely helped they just used pleasure and breeding machines as they liked it and benefited from unpaid labor. Women have enough and birth rates are plumbing.
It's not millenia it's the capitalisation of everything that was free.. As an African... We were raised by unemployed auntie or grandmas and ate whatever they ate, uncle who worked in the mines brought us good staff the kids had chores and everything was communal.. Now everything that I mentioned is services that have to be paid for
Ladies never settle for less. There are good men out there. I can leave my kids with my husband and know they will be cared for exceptionally well since he cooks and cleans and actually teaches the kids how to cook as well. If I have to go out on business I dont ever have to worry about anything.
9:00 so they were together 9 years before getting married. My heart goes out to this woman. Her pain is palpable. I hope she’s gotten out of there! Money is not a good reason to stay your mental health is worth so much more and you being well is all your kids need.
Big lesson. Stay single. I am a single mom and i cherish my independence and freedom. No drama in my house except having to deal with my kids and its peaceful. Nothing is more alone than being in a relationship or marriage with an emotionally unavailable and absent man
This is ONE of the REASONS why MORE & MORE WOMEN are CHOOSING to be CHILD FREE!!!! Some are choosing to remain SINGLE to AVOID being in a relationship with a MAN CHILD!!! WOMEN DON'T WANT to DEAL with WEAPONIZED INCOMPETENCE & PEACE of MIND. Some WOMEN are in a relationship with a Man & DON'T WANT to LIVE WITH THAT MAN IN THE SAME HOUSE 👌👍!!! They call it " Living Together Apart" saw something like this on BurbNBogie's Channel either on TikTok or TH-cam. I'm a Mom of two Young Men & I'm going to watch with them & discuss what we saw. I Hope these WOMEN figure the BEST SOLUTIONS for THEMSELVES & their Children 🙏
I saw the movie Frida in the mid 2000s and was hooked on the idea of living apart since then! Seems ideal, since I don't have children. That way the man can have his normal relationship with his own children, and keep their routine. I won't have to cook and clean after multiple people. Plus having limited interaction with any baby mamas sounds like a win for me lol No having to adjust how I want to decorate, or be "on demand" for xes constantly
I got divorced in 2006. During the marriage I had thought about doing this for years. It thought was such an outside the box idea then but apparently I was the only. I did see the married parents of someone I dated live not only apart but in two different states. It worked for them.
That's really sad, but FACTS. My dad was the same way. My mama was the one who did everything, fed us, bathed us, dressed us, knew what we liked, and didn't. While my dad just lounged around drinking. No wonder women are the ones to initiate divorce nowadays due to the fact that they're the ones doing all the work. It's understandable, they need a break.
THINK OF IT LIKE IT'S A JOB. Even as a SAHM with a husband who pays all the bills, is it a good job? The pay is small/non existent (unless your husband is exceptionally rich), the work is never ending 24/7, you get practically no sick days, no retirement benefits, and your "employer" could even beat you, SA you or delete your life (rare but it does happen enough that it needs to be taken into consideration). Does that sound like a good job? Heck, it doesn't even sound like a tolerable job. And if you also pitch in with the bills, regardless of the percentage, while still doing ALL of the housework and childcare, is that a good job? Sounds like you're better off single.
If you don't see clear definitive evidence that a men is responsible, has self control and highly values your relationship then it likely doesn't exist. And even if you see evidence there still no guarantee. And this husband will say she left because she got bored. 😐
True. Many women have reported their man changed after marriage. Like they did seem responsible but after marriage they stopped. You just can never tell as you’ve said
I was a married single wombman & eventually I realized it figure it would be better to be single 😆 & my life has been great. Cheers to the Matriarch 🥂 I believe now marriage is the Patriarch scandal to trick women into being legal slaves to selfish men (not all but the majority)
I get your point but you can't trust some of these men with your kids...better carry them and go, that way you get rid of any connection with him ....like we saw in the first clip, that man doesn't even know his kids allergies....
Men don't love, don't love, don't love, don't love. When you love, you SHOW IT. Nothing else to say, ladies. We are just an appliance, to the MAJORITY of men out here. They are angry because they feel entitled to an IG hottie and didn't get one.
As per usual bw have been ahead of the curve. Now that it is known that being married is no automatic flex of some pseudo womanly superiority …tired & stressed married women are speaking out.
This 62 yo lady commented the other day as this being the reason she is single and childless. I don’t know how much better she thinks it was before she was born, but I think it was worse.😩😩😩
Women need to stop having so many kids whether they’re married or not. I would advise no more than 2. Kids are stressful & men in general rarely help. I’m so glad I’m single no kids no husband. I have 2 younger sisters & neither one of us wants kids.
This shows that these men do not like their wives and only got married because they want a second mom and mother to their kids (and likely has the fun side chick on the side). Women, be careful to avoid these type of men. Trust, the men showed who they were during the dating phase, but the red flags were ignored.
My grandma always said, SAHM are pretty irresponsible for not having income flow especially in a time where you can work and be anything. She always say, a father can give up or walk out on his kids and responsibilities and not much people will talk but for mothers, people will say things and even make up stories. Best never depend on a man for the sake of your kids. Even animals know these.
Women should know that men are babies too but not in a good way. Society will trash single mothers who are not married but it is better especially when you are in a good financial standing. I love being a single woman staying with my child. Less labour and stress.
I thought I was alone in this experience. I divorced him & taught him some very valuable lessons. Don’t take it, ladies! You don't need this stupidity! If he won’t do for you what you do for him, then walk away. If you’re doing it all alone, then do it all alone from afar.😘
See I hate to say this but men could not ever do what we do at all see what this mom wife has been saying is the truth you can have a man in the house and he thinks that all he has to do is work and that is it no buddy boy you need to step up and this is why they would rather be a single mom I take my hats off to you and praying for you as I do my self been a single mom for 35 years and the kids are great
He wants to make you pay for taking care of you. It’s hard to find a man who will be a provider with no resentment attached. He wants to make sure that every hour he is at work you do quadruple that show him praise and gratitude for taking care of and his family. To him, it’s not a thankless job. They will make sure they get their thanks one way or another.
…and the first thing wives say within 5 minutes in a conversation with another woman/women (as if to validate their point) is “…my ‘HUSBAND’ blah blah” single independent women could care less about your husband!
I watch these videos and go "That's like the life of most Kikuyu moms in my village" Like 98% of those women are 100% responsible for their kids and running of their households and they are married.. Kiundu very bad
My mom says she was this way, but to this day, I still don’t believe her. I told her you are a lazy scum. Where my dad worked hard 20 hours a day, and I told her when I was 15 that if I divorced, I would cause violence at school. She filed anyway, going to two fights in one day, and she stayed
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These videos make me realize how free it is to be single
Exactly 😂💯 men are a liability at this day and age
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The loneliest I've EVER felt was when I was married. I am the happiest I have been in my life as a single woman!
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wow dude don’t know his child allergic to peanuts smh 🤦🏾♀️
That was absolutely pathetic! I used to feel sorry for Tisha, not anymore.
He's very embarrassing🙅🏽♀️
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The sad thing is, the "good" men aren't that different. Just watch the Jimmy Kimmel clips where dad's can't even tell the interviewer their kid's birthdays.
Man this hit me like a ton of bricks! I'm doing EVERYTHING literally down to paying all the bills and im fed up! My husband had the nerve to add an extra 2( his oldest daughter not my kid and his niece) people to the household knowing his ass wasnt working. I am so ready to walk out with my 2 kids and let him go f himself
Girl, make your exit plan to get gone & force him to sink or swim by himself.
It’s ur best bet to just leave that’s a lost cause
U better leave. Taking care of a grown man and his kids..... Absolutely not! LEAVE
I used to be you, about 13 years ago. Paid the majority of the bills because all his money went to child support. One of his daughters moved in with us and the child support did not drop nor did the mother have to pay HIM. Did ALL the housework, shopping, laundry, holidays, errands etc...I had to work overtime as a nurse because his daughter had NOTHING. So, I had to supply her with clothes and products (not her fault) paid for her graduation fees, paid her senior dues, her prom, paid for her graduation picnic, and was told. You gonna have to sit these events out shawty, cuz my baby moms will make a scene if you show up and ruin the gathering. So, wasn't able to attend. In other words, BOTH PARENTS were POS and weren't taking care of THIER children but left ME with the bag, since I was around and I was the one paying. Please get out, take your children and leave because it will NOT get better. It won't and once the child support runs short because the kids are almost 18, he's gonna act out and make your life even worse, because he WANTS you to break up with him. So, you just wasted 15 years of your life on him and he used you to get through his legal obligations. Don't be me and give him another ten years...GTFO.
@heneverforesakesme4038
I tell my 18 yr old daughter not to ever even think about dating a man with children because more than likely, he's gonna owe child support
As well as have to deal with his child's mother.
these dudes want mommy not a wife.
Unfortunately, too many people, male or female, are in love with their 'idea' of marriage and family.
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@@misslady5029 We are taught that our value as females is in being able to find a man. Just look at all of the animated movies where the young ladies, usually portrayed as princesses, are wrapped up in the fairytale idea of love. We are conditioned for love, marriage, & having babies/families from our earliest years, including with our toys, like baby dolls, cooking sets, cleaning sets, etc., & how we play. When we have that drilled into us from our earliest years that our identity is only achieved by finding a man & we aren’t allowed to have our dreams & aspirations, we get caught up in this current nightmare where we are slaves to our families & disrespected by the males in our lives. If I had it to do all over again, I would NEVER have made any man a priority. If love, marriage, & family happened, then it would have happened, but I would NEVER have tolerated one moment of disrespect from any man. I now know better & it sadly took decades of abuse, including mental, physical, emotional, & financial abuse, for me to learn my worth was so much greater than I ever realized & I NEVER needed any man to complete me or determine my value. In fact, I learned that the men devalued me by how I allowed them to treat me. NEVER ALLOW ANYONE A SINGLE MOMENT OF DISRESPECT! The first negative word or action needs to be the LAST!
I walked away from an almost 15 year marriage with 3 children almost 13 years ago. The marriage was killing me...literally. its the Best decision I've ever made. My children are doing wonderful and all over 20 now. I don't know if I'll ever marry again. I want to, but almost 13 years single has taught me...WHAT I DO NOTTTTTTTTT WANT! I'll take single & happy for $500, Alex!
The behaviour of those men also says a lot about their parents.
I thought you were going to say character!
I'm not asking a grown man who puts garbage in the garbage can to take out the trash, nor ask for help for his children. Might as well he's one of the kids. He should already know. I'm not his mother, nor am I in the business to coddling a grown man. After 30 yrs of a marriageless marriage, with all the debauchery I left. I'm home prompting him on what to do, but he can find time to entertain other women and have kids outside the marriage. No, ma'am.
I really appreciated this content. Every young woman needs to hear this, should be apart of the school curriculum.
Thank you 😘... exactly it needs to be included...let's keep educating one another
Home Economics! Lol! 😂😂😂
😅They would never 👎🏽 teach this in schools. Can’t let the slaves know they’re SLAVES 😅
Being a married single mom was a norm since millenia. Men rarely helped they just used pleasure and breeding machines as they liked it and benefited from unpaid labor. Women have enough and birth rates are plumbing.
It's not millenia it's the capitalisation of everything that was free.. As an African... We were raised by unemployed auntie or grandmas and ate whatever they ate, uncle who worked in the mines brought us good staff the kids had chores and everything was communal.. Now everything that I mentioned is services that have to be paid for
In this day and age of TH-cam- like there are thousands of videos that walk you through pancake making! Wtf
And egg scrambling b/c wtf was that with all the oil in the pan?!?😂😂😂
All the babies wanted was some regular ass pancakes….smh
HES ABOUT TO LITERALLY KILL HIS SON WITH PEANUTS 🥜!!!!!😮
Literally 😮😢. The second time he asked if she wanted a peanut butter sandwich I almost tossed my phone out the window.
Ladies never settle for less. There are good men out there. I can leave my kids with my husband and know they will be cared for exceptionally well since he cooks and cleans and actually teaches the kids how to cook as well. If I have to go out on business I dont ever have to worry about anything.
I was looking for at least one comment like this. My husband never let me do everything alone, ever.
Tht sounds scary too 😢😮
9:00 so they were together 9 years before getting married. My heart goes out to this woman. Her pain is palpable. I hope she’s gotten out of there! Money is not a good reason to stay your mental health is worth so much more and you being well is all your kids need.
Yeah no wonder it's important for women to have their own even if you're being provided for...stash some away for a rainy day....
Big lesson. Stay single. I am a single mom and i cherish my independence and freedom. No drama in my house except having to deal with my kids and its peaceful. Nothing is more alone than being in a relationship or marriage with an emotionally unavailable and absent man
This is ONE of the REASONS why MORE & MORE WOMEN are CHOOSING to be CHILD FREE!!!! Some are choosing to remain SINGLE to AVOID being in a relationship with a MAN CHILD!!! WOMEN DON'T WANT to DEAL with WEAPONIZED INCOMPETENCE & PEACE of MIND.
Some WOMEN are in a relationship with a Man & DON'T WANT to LIVE WITH THAT MAN IN THE SAME HOUSE 👌👍!!! They call it
" Living Together Apart" saw something like this on BurbNBogie's Channel either on TikTok or TH-cam. I'm a Mom of two Young Men & I'm going to watch with them & discuss what we saw. I Hope these WOMEN figure the BEST SOLUTIONS for THEMSELVES & their Children 🙏
I'm remember Woody Allen having that same type of relationship with Mia Farrell before sue yee, the nanny.
I saw the movie Frida in the mid 2000s and was hooked on the idea of living apart since then! Seems ideal, since I don't have children. That way the man can have his normal relationship with his own children, and keep their routine. I won't have to cook and clean after multiple people. Plus having limited interaction with any baby mamas sounds like a win for me lol No having to adjust how I want to decorate, or be "on demand" for xes constantly
I got divorced in 2006. During the marriage I had thought about doing this for years. It thought was such an outside the box idea then but apparently I was the only. I did see the married parents of someone I dated live not only apart but in two different states. It worked for them.
That's really sad, but FACTS. My dad was the same way. My mama was the one who did everything, fed us, bathed us, dressed us, knew what we liked, and didn't. While my dad just lounged around drinking. No wonder women are the ones to initiate divorce nowadays due to the fact that they're the ones doing all the work. It's understandable, they need a break.
In 2025 start making these men single dads. Walk out on them like they walk out on you. Men walk away all the time.
Stop giving them kids. If they are already a useless parent to baby # 1, don't have baby # 2.
Go 4B. No dates, no copulation, no marriage and no breeding wirh them
Sounds like a Momma Boy to me with the lady who has to tell her man to shower. This is on her real talk
As a child free woman i think i might stay the course because it aint looking to good on the other side lbs
The father in the beginning is absolutely useless 🤦♀️
THINK OF IT LIKE IT'S A JOB. Even as a SAHM with a husband who pays all the bills, is it a good job? The pay is small/non existent (unless your husband is exceptionally rich), the work is never ending 24/7, you get practically no sick days, no retirement benefits, and your "employer" could even beat you, SA you or delete your life (rare but it does happen enough that it needs to be taken into consideration). Does that sound like a good job? Heck, it doesn't even sound like a tolerable job.
And if you also pitch in with the bills, regardless of the percentage, while still doing ALL of the housework and childcare, is that a good job? Sounds like you're better off single.
If you don't see clear definitive evidence that a men is responsible, has self control and highly values your relationship then it likely doesn't exist. And even if you see evidence there still no guarantee. And this husband will say she left because she got bored. 😐
True. Many women have reported their man changed after marriage. Like they did seem responsible but after marriage they stopped. You just can never tell as you’ve said
I was a married single wombman & eventually I realized it figure it would be better to be single 😆 & my life has been great. Cheers to the Matriarch 🥂
I believe now marriage is the Patriarch scandal to trick women into being legal slaves to selfish men (not all but the majority)
The 30 year old sahm is married to a liability 😭
Check out like the dads. This is why women suffer because we aren’t selfish. Be selfish 2025
I get your point but you can't trust some of these men with your kids...better carry them and go, that way you get rid of any connection with him ....like we saw in the first clip, that man doesn't even know his kids allergies....
Sadly, that's nottttttttt an.option for most.
@ it is an option, women are to scared to do it, because we are too worried about how we are going to be viewed.
Men don't love, don't love, don't love, don't love. When you love, you SHOW IT. Nothing else to say, ladies. We are just an appliance, to the MAJORITY of men out here. They are angry because they feel entitled to an IG hottie and didn't get one.
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😅Yep most of them too broke for an IG baddie
that is why i divorced my ex.
These videos will be gold in court
I just thought the same. Especially when he says “what woman leaves the kids home alone with the father?” Umm cause the courts force us to.
As per usual bw have been ahead of the curve. Now that it is known that being married is no automatic flex of some pseudo womanly superiority …tired & stressed married women are speaking out.
He didn't know his kid was allergic to peanuts?! That is NEXT LEVEL!!! He could have killed him!
This 62 yo lady commented the other day as this being the reason she is single and childless. I don’t know how much better she thinks it was before she was born, but I think it was worse.😩😩😩
I’m single and childfree!! I need to start enjoying my life more.. I have it so good. Wow, these ladies are going through so much🥹🥹
This! I’m going out tonight just for the heck of it lol
Women need to stop having so many kids whether they’re married or not. I would advise no more than 2. Kids are stressful & men in general rarely help. I’m so glad I’m single no kids no husband. I have 2 younger sisters & neither one of us wants kids.
I agree. I had 2 and got my tubes tied. Much easier
“Happy three years of misery” 😢😭
I bet she was a beautiful bride!👰♂️
This shows that these men do not like their wives and only got married because they want a second mom and mother to their kids (and likely has the fun side chick on the side). Women, be careful to avoid these type of men. Trust, the men showed who they were during the dating phase, but the red flags were ignored.
8:18 so what made u think this kinda guy would be a good husband?
That escalated quickly too. To breaking her shit and doors etc
He don't even know his baby allergic to peanut butter 😧
Just imagine
Marsua hates Tisha and all of his kids. Always has
My grandma always said, SAHM are pretty irresponsible for not having income flow especially in a time where you can work and be anything. She always say, a father can give up or walk out on his kids and responsibilities and not much people will talk but for mothers, people will say things and even make up stories. Best never depend on a man for the sake of your kids. Even animals know these.
Women should know that men are babies too but not in a good way. Society will trash single mothers who are not married but it is better especially when you are in a good financial standing. I love being a single woman staying with my child. Less labour and stress.
Gross, I could Neva!!
I thought I was alone in this experience. I divorced him & taught him some very valuable lessons. Don’t take it, ladies! You don't need this stupidity! If he won’t do for you what you do for him, then walk away. If you’re doing it all alone, then do it all alone from afar.😘
Stop mommying ypir partner!
Communication, boundaries.....
See I hate to say this but men could not ever do what we do at all see what this mom wife has been saying is the truth you can have a man in the house and he thinks that all he has to do is work and that is it no buddy boy you need to step up and this is why they would rather be a single mom I take my hats off to you and praying for you as I do my self been a single mom for 35 years and the kids are great
He wants to make you pay for taking care of you. It’s hard to find a man who will be a provider with no resentment attached. He wants to make sure that every hour he is at work you do quadruple that show him praise and gratitude for taking care of and his family. To him, it’s not a thankless job. They will make sure they get their thanks one way or another.
FACTS!
…and the first thing wives say within 5 minutes in a conversation with another woman/women (as if to validate their point) is “…my ‘HUSBAND’ blah blah” single independent women could care less about your husband!
I watch these videos and go "That's like the life of most Kikuyu moms in my village" Like 98% of those women are 100% responsible for their kids and running of their households and they are married.. Kiundu very bad
9:00 i hope she left!
Look up the definition of matrimony. He is the firstborn child, unfortunately.
My mom says she was this way, but to this day, I still don’t believe her. I told her you are a lazy scum. Where my dad worked hard 20 hours a day, and I told her when I was 15 that if I divorced, I would cause violence at school. She filed anyway, going to two fights in one day, and she stayed
I choose the bear over and over