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Why I took a Break (Dealing with Change and Loss)
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This video is just an update on some of the recent changes in my life, and how I'm learning to deal with change and loss by "embracing my shadows" and "protecting my highlights".
#change #embraceyourshadows #protectyourhighlights
The world is a better place thanks to people like you Sean! ❤️ Best of luck mate, I’m sure your future is bright.
Fully agree.
Came here to say exactly these two things.
Thanks mate.
Agreed!!
❤
It takes an incredible amount of strength and courage to open yourself up like this and speak on the struggles, not just the triumphs. Anyone that’s been watching your channel knows the kind of heart you have. As hard as it will be, you’ll continue to do great work. Not just through photography, but sharing your light with the world. Nothing but love to you, Sean. ❤️
Thanks Matt. I appreciate that:)
I totally agree with Matt. I love your videos and your generosity of spirit, your honesty, thoughtful insightfulness and willingness to expose your vulnerabilities in your craft and now in your personal life. Be kind to yourself in the coming weeks and months as you heal and process the changes and continue to share your light. Warm Cape Town hugs xx
Beautifully said, Matt.
I have been through the same Sean. 11 years ago my wife left, to this day I still don't understand why. It was the time of the financial crisis. I then lost my 22 year career, lost my home,, my mother died , my 11 year old niece was diagnosed with inoperable brain cancer and when it was all done, I had a heart attack. Getting through the grief at times seemed impossible. You did a wonderful thing by trusting us enough to let us in. You have just allowed me to do the same. Stay safe my friend and stay in the present moment.
I honestly think she found someone else. Usually that's what happens.
I can only say, that by leaving you... she gave you all the information you need to know. Anything else is extraneous. If she wanted to stay, she would not have left.
Sean-
You owe us nothing, and yet you continue to be a warm light in a cold desert of indifferent trends and meaningless likes, and you’ve done so by letting us in and treating us with respect and honesty. Thank you from all of us.
Sean, so sorry for this tough time in your life. Heal and take care of yourself. You've helped and inspired so many. Good luck in your next chapter.
Thanks mate.
“Forget perfect offerings. There are cracks, cracks in everything, that’s how the light gets in” (Leonard Cohen)
Hi, Sean. When I went through a difficult time, a wise woman said to me, “ First you will be sad, second you will be mad, then you will be very glad.” I hope you get to very glad soon.
Dear Sean my English is not the best and therefore a quote for you .
“Don’t rush anything, when the time is right it’ll happen “
You will feel better take care !
“This rejection doesn’t suddenly make me useless. I’m still the same me.”
Thank you for sharing your heart. Love and internet hugs to you and well wishes in the move.
I am so sorry for your situation, Sean. It is an absolutely gutting feeling! It is good to hear you look forward and have plans for the future. I wish you all the best and good luck. Looking forward to following along on your journey as your thoughts are always incredibly interesting - thanks for making videos and sharing your life!
In a world of "influencers", you actually have influence. Your authenticity allows your work to have impact.
17 years of marriage and 3 children, same thing happened the exactly same way. My wife walked away from all...
I ended up raising children on my own and finding a new life.
I pray for you.. Much love to you ❤️❤️❤️
U too.... Lots of love❤️❤️ for kids
@@SaralSaadheSoppe Thank you!
Oh, man…. You have no idea how it hurt to hear that. I’ve never met you, I really don’t know you personally, but boy… following your work and being an admire of your persona…. It hurts. Impossible not to feel empathy. I’m so sorry, man. I do wish you and her the best. I do wish you to feel better and keep up the amazing work of yours. Empathetic and human love thrown at you from your follower here.
I had fifteen years of marriage end, when the mother of my children told me she had met someone else, and that, ' I had a week to move out as he was moving in!'. My world imploded, and if it had not been for one of my kids choosing to come with me, I doubt I would have got through.
Eight years later, I have all three of my kids, and my grand children to myself, the woman I talk of is no longer alive!
I wish your wife no ill will what so ever Sean, no one bit - I only wanted to say that at one point 8 yrs ago I could see no future for myself, and now I am the future for my family!
She’s was cheating on you so you are better off without that type of person in your life
I can't imagine that there is one person hearing this that hasn't been through a tough break. We feel your pain and fortunately it wont last forever even though it feels like it will. Feel better soon.
I gave my wife and young daughter a hug and told them both I loved them before they went to visit family for the weekend. The following morning my Father in law rang me before work to say neither were coming back. Life can be tough but we are stronger than we believe. Wishing you all the very best.
Speechless... wishing you much courage
Sean's wife sent him a text. Your wife had her father break the news. What's happening in this world? My heart breaks for everyone.
@@Ron_Boy We can not judge in either situation.
@@Ron_Boy it’s so sad and heartbreaking 😔
I am sorry that this happened to you.
I'm so sorry to hear of your situation Sean. However, your perspective on the positives on this were very refreshing and I am excited for this next chapter for you. The North (Yorkshire specifically) is absolutely stunning. Granted, I didn't pick up much of the accent but I lived up in Leeds for 3 years and York and Yorkshire is absolutely stunning and tranquil. Wishing you the best in this next chapter and I appreciate you opening up to your audience the way you have. You owe us nothing, but we owe you the years of great perspective and Knowledge you've given us. See you up north for a Pint one day (Hopefully by a nice log fire pub).
Cheers mate. I appreciate that. Yes to the pint for sure:)
@@seantuck The Vale of York is beautiful, and the Dales, Moors, Wolds and coast are a short ride away. Good choice.
“Keep some room in your heart for the unimaginable”
- Mary Oliver
One of the things my patients almost always tell me is that no matter how deep the depression, no matter now badly ravaged by the 'black dog' you have been there is always a hero's solution - the sun comes up one day and you can see colour again. Rainbows just happen. You learn to enter other people's being with much more empathy and resonance, and the world embraces an enriched and better person. The experience is a necessary journey into a cave of darkness and monsters and you do eventually come out stronger and wiser. Every hero's journey has the same strengthening descent into darkness. You are a hero Sean.
Many years ago my marriage fell apart, it was like a death to me, it hit me like a sledge hammer. Eventually I felt I could trust again and found my life love, we have been together ever since, 30 years now. It will hurt, but it will get better
Looking forward to seeing you up here matey. I'm sure you're going to settle into your new home in no time. I'll bring you some welcome cake ;-)
You and meg should definitely take him on a woodland photowalk.
Looking forward to you video together. Your in depth composition videos and his spiritual connect with artform will be best combination ❤️
Cake... mmmm:)
@@bhikhta oh we will. Lots of places to introduce Sean to :)
A fresh start can be a welcome change. When you are ready, be open to something better, what you truly deserve.
It's funny how coincidences work. My boyfriend of 3 years and I broke up a couple of days ago and even though it was a mutual decision, I am very much grieving as I love and cherish him as a person. We had one last very meaningful, warm and empathetic conversation today and after I came home with all the bittersweet emotions, I clicked on this video (I watch a lot of your videos these days to concentrate on photography) and I'm so glad I did. Thank you immensely for sharing all of this. While I'm not trying to compare your experience with mine at all, discovering many similarities with your path of grieving and ways of healing gave me additional hope that I can also deal with it gracefully. I hope you are feeling happier now as you absolutely deserve it
I’m sorry to hear that. Take care of yourself and heal well.
"Embrace your shadows and protect your highlight"...Lessons for life and light indeed....
Best of wishes sir🙏💜
“I always get to where I am going by walking away from where I have been.”
-Winnie the Pooh”. Good luck Sean. Sending hugs. Xoxo
I’ve always impressed with your grace, perspective and courage to share. I love your work.
Wow, I am going through the exact, exact same thing after 25 years. I feel your pain and can really relate to you. you are in my prayers
Dwayne, I went through this as well 6 years ago after a 22 year marriage. It’s the most difficult thing I’ve had to work through, but I can tell you it does get better. Little by little, day by day. Prayers to you as you navigate your current situation, and your next chapter.
Hang in their mate. You are one of the rare, decent humans on this planet.
Sean, when I first discovered your channel I was going through my own period of change & loss. It was therapy through photography that really helped me through those 'shadow' moments and your content helped in part to frame those moments into a more worthwhile perspective. There are so many gear or technical photography channels which, are all wonderful in their own way but it's the emotional, human connection which I appreciate so much in your content. I am sorry for your loss, and I hope the move is a fulfilling and joyful one for you, and I very much look forward to following your new beginnings there.
Couldn't agree more Erin.
2 years later you are still helping people with this video. Thanks and best…
You are stronger and, on many levels, far more valuable , than you think. Stay strong and thank you for sharing you shadows
I think a large part of your followers is following you not so much for the photographic part, but for the wisdom and personality you put in to your work and videos! This was one of the best YT videos I've seen for a while. And I'm curious what will come out of your move to Yorkshire - it is said to be a very nice place …
I genuinely couldn't agree more, the man is like a photographic Yoda. Stay strong Sean and wishing you all the very best for the next chapter of your life in North Yorkshire - it definitely is a very nice place!
My favourite photographic quote: 'I am often asked which is my favourite photograph? My answer is the one I take tomorrow' - Imogen Cunnigham. When people ask me whats the best day of my life. My answer is waking up tomorrow. Stay safe, stay strong, stay you.
You can do nothing about the past but what you do today defines what you can achieve tomorrow...Best of luck and keep creating.
What an inspiration to be a human being using photography as therapy and as a way to live... Not only to live: A way to feel alive. THANK YOU
“Embrace the shadows and protect the highlights.” - Sean Tucker
...WOW ❤️
I was so touched by your honesty, you spoke so well and you should be proud of yourself for handling this with such dignity. Things will get better and being in nature and the countryside is absolutely the right thing. You have a lot of respect and love amongst your followers x
Thank you for your advice (protect your highlights and embrace your shadows)
I hope you cope well and find peace and love again.
Know that you helped me through my own depression. I wish you all the best.
A breakup is never easy, but especially hard when you don't have a real closure. Wishing you strength and hope you'll thrive in your new life in Yorkshire
I am very sorry to hear the news. Relationships are very difficult in my life I have ran to them, and ran from them. I have come to the conclusion that people change. When two people meet and hit it off, its great you are both at point in your life where you connect, but at some point your paths will change and its neither persons fault its just nature of things. I hope the best for you my friend, and as always I appreciate your prospective on the situation.
Jason
Even now you shine as a light. Thank you Sean
The line “life doesn’t move in straight predictable lines” really hit home for me. The last year has been one of the most dynamic times of my life and it’s changed my entire perspective. I would like to personally thank you Sean, your approach towards life and photography was a huge inspiration when I found myself stuck in a mental blockage about my work.
We’ve never met but having watched your channel for years now, I found I was fighting back tears. Your empathy and human touch drew me to your videos and is what connects all of us to you. I know you’ll get through this but as you said, it will take time and it will be difficult. I think of your move from South Africa back to England and can’t help but look positively on what awaits you in Yorkshire. All the best.
Yet more comments that you’ll wade into and through. Sean, my heart grieves with you. 16 years into my marriage, my wife left. I asked myself, “what do you want?” and the answer was for my marriage to be made whole. A year later she came back. 2 years later she left again and I had to ask myself the question again. I decided that I wanted what would make her happy and unfortunately that wasn’t our marriage. I’ve lived what you’re going through. I have three wonderful kids and at the time they were very young. Some 8 years later, I am happy. I loved your take on shadows and highlights. Live that. You’re doing it right. A delicate balance of letting it in and keeping it out is indeed the key. You don’t know me but I would still say I’m available to talk. I needed my friends and had friends who took my side no matter what as well as friends who held me accountable. Friends who had strong marriages and some who’d been divorced. They were all vital. Saying “I’m sorry for what you are going through” sounds so trite. How about, “I’ve been there and I’m still standing and you will too even if it means leaning on others. I know the pain and feel it for and with you.” Take care and hope Antarctica is still in your plans.
It’s painful 😔
Thanks Sean - my wife 'left' in her mind when her cancer returned. We fell into an emotional black hole. She died last year and so became physically separated. Shadows, light, courage, change. Thank you - you've helped me make a little more sense of the past few years. It's much appreciated.
I'm sorry to hear that my friend. Take care of yourself.
@@seantuck likewise. I wish you well
Hang in there, Sean. Much brighter days are ahead. Wishing you peace and love 🌸
You're a good man, never forget that. Wishing you peace and joy in the next chapter of your life.
I've always been saying this and will say it again, when I grow older i would like to be truthful, respectful and humble like this man. ❤️
So sorry Sean . Praying for you .Sending you blessings. Some people can not help being a light . You will always be a light .
Sharing your story will UNDOUBTEDLY help other in the same situation. Well done.
We’ve missed you. It’s always painful when love decides to leave. Time is the greatest healer. Let time work it’s magic. Excited for your move. Best!
Sean, it’s refreshing to see someone who is so honest. You’re an absolute legend. The pain will heal in time. You rationalise everything wisely, give yourself time. The community is with you man.
You and your work always "Pay it forward," Sean. No Matter what the day has been, never, never go to sleep without saying, "I love you."
I hope you recover quickly.
Life is like photography sometimes too light and sometimes too dark .
Slowly the right light will come and you will have a perfect shot.
A master peace
It's sad when one of the partners gives up, no matter how much you try. I wish you healing, not having closure is difficult, but time heals. All of my best wishes!
Leonard Cohen on grieving the loss of love: “Go firmly to the window, drink it in”. From “Alexandra Leaving”.
Grief is different for everyone who experiences it, but it is also something that we men tend to hide, so I am pleased to see that you are telling it how it is for you and it's a lesson we all can learn from.
Photography is a great and constant friend and a wonderful outlet. We can embrace our creativity and use it to help us through life's challenges. Good luck to you Sean.
We don’t know what is behind the next door we must open. Good luck stay well. Thanks for all you do.
So sorry to hear about this Sean, for what it's worth, I'm going through absolutely crippling depression and no therapy has been helpful- videos like yours make me realize that sadness isn't unique to me, and your positive outlook is an absolute inspiration.
Happiness is a state of mind. I hope you'll feel better very soon Cob
10 years ago, almost to the day, my wife of five years said she was leaving. The circumstances weren't quite the same as yours, but I didn't see it coming. We'd had our difficulties, and had done a lot of work on the relationship, and it really stung when she left. I got through it, and we have an amicable relationship now. I can offer this from my own experience: you'll never get over it, but you'll get used to it. The things you shared in this video about how to go through something like this are spot on. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story. I wish you all the best moving forward, and I can't wait to see what the next chapter(s) in your life bring for you, and us.
I hope and I am sure u will find your peace and bliss.
Stay blessed.
Sean, this is the first vid of yours I've watched in a year. I've been through something difficult and although photography has always been a joy for me, I haven't picked up my camera or watched any of my favourite photographers on youtube during this time. Your honesty and your wise, calm nature are a tonic, and I'm glad I chose this morning to watch this. I'm so sorry that this has happened to you, the heartbreak and the lack of closure will take time to heal (I know from experience), and my heart aches for you. Your decision to move north will prove to be serendipitous - what wonders will life bring you? Thank you for letting us into your life, and thank you for inspiring me to pick up my camera again and go for a walk. I wish you every happiness.
Total respect for making such a personal film. If it helps remember “Broken crayons still color.” (Quote unknown)
I'm so sorry to hear this Sean. Life can bring forth such unexpected events. I wish you nothing but growth, healing, wisdom from this.
Sean, rejection is painful and I what to thank you for sharing. What we do moving forward is Feel, Deal and Heal!!!
I hear you. I honor your embracing of the shadows and protecting the highlights. Thank you. You are a bright and beautiful human, and I am so grateful for your presence in the world.
Sending well wishes and care to you, now and always.
First time commenting on one of your videos, but been watching for a while. The abruptness with which this happened is something I and anyone else can only sympathise with. Everyone who watches you - whether they are interested in photography or not - thinks one thing within two minutes of hearing you speak...you're a good guy. So it's sad you have to go through this.
Your 'Straight talk for people thinking of staring TH-cam' was an instrumental part of giving me realistic expectations for starting my own channel. So I'll tell you about something I have some experience in myself, which is a traumatic breakup: You're clearly the kind of person who has the perspective to know that suffering is part of life, and you will absolutely get past this. As ever, time is the healer. And even if it doesn't feel like it right now, eventually you will be fine and happy again.
It takes a lot of strength sitting in front of the camera and sharing this with us. And even more to learn from the situation and seek ways to empower others with your own experience. Best wishes to you and to her as well.
I see in the comment section there is not a single comment talking trash about her. I think that says a lot about the beautiful community Sean has created. And Sean, so sorry for your situation.
Dear Sean, I am sorry for your trials and tribulations. May your new beginnings bring you joy, prosperity, and solace.
Hey Sean! Take all the time you need to recover and get better. I don't know you but I care. Hugs from Spain!
Lots of love Sean.
I just want to say - look at the community you've built. Look at the people who's lives you've impacted. You've taken photography, something that seems so technical and unattainable for so many and you've breathed life into it and made it more than just photography. There are people all around the world who follow you for that - being who you are in the way that you are and encouraging others to do the same in their own ways.
More power to you, Sean.
And thank you.
Thank you so very much.
Cheers Luke. I appreciate that mate. Hope you're well.
Your honesty is your light.
Empathy for you friend...BigLOVE....we are not alone and sharing is so vital to the process. You are a gift to this world!!
You’re a good and genuine man Sean, all the very best.
Been there 2 years ago. Same time of the year. We weren't married, and it wasn't 13 years either, "just" 5 years. Sometimes it still haunts me, and I hate this feeling, but overall there are so many things to enjoy in our lives :)
Your humble personality and view on things gives me strength, inspiration and so much stuff to think about. And I want to thank you for that.
Keep up your excellent work, but don't hesitate to take time for yourself if you feel the need to do so. You don't owe us anything, but we are still thankful for every video you gift us. Best wishes
Sorry for your loss May God bless you in your future with friends and loved ones
Onward and upward. It's our scars that build our character. Best wishes.
Thank you. In a way. I’m glad that you feel tremendous pain - to me it’s a sign that love really existed in the relationship.
Best wishes to you brother, I feel your pain. I had the same with two long term relationships. They walked out suddenly and out of the blue. But thanks to that happening I’m now in the best relationship of my life. Good luck in your next chapter!
Much has been said ... I want to wish you a blessed journey! Be blessed!
A long walk in the city is great. A long walk in the country is amazing. Look after yourself Séan. And keep doing what you do 👍
Sean your openess to this “society” is exceptional and I know that often hurts. I wish you strenght in a trying time and very much look forward to your new evolution in photography.
I experienced something similar a number of years ago. It was tough, although I joke about my New England stoicism getting me through it. I have always said that you cannot feel the joys of life without experiencing some of the pain. Be well. There re a lot of people out there pulling for you.
I'm glad you've spoken and shown that the world and everybody isn't always ok. I feel for you. Ultimately I wish you all the best.
respect Sean Tucker, respect..
You’ll love Yorkshire Sean specially North Yorkshire were a friendly bunch. All the best
So sorry hear this Sean. You touch so many of our lives in many different ways, you inspire us constantly and make us reflect upon ourselves in a very special way. Just know that there are almost a half a million of us out here wishing you all the very best and good luck for the future. Take care buddy.
What doesnt kill you makes you stronger. Tough times but we'll all be supporting you 👊
I hope every broken piece will fit into its own new place for a new, better beginning for everyone.
13 years, 5 years married -- Struck such a chord, as you were saying this. Exactly as it happened in my life.
You absolutely have all you need inside of you to live through this change. You've been building those traits and insights for long now, as it came out on your videos.
You are getting to experience an aspect of life that will put much of your beliefs to a test in practice. You will get to strengthen those that help, and drop the unhelpful ones.
This is a process of growth.
Thank you for sharing @Sean
Sean, I have been in a similar place. My heart goes out to you. The day I turned 50 years old I stood in the middle of a house I just moved into all by myself. No family completely alone. This is not to say poor me. This is to say Sean you will make it through. I have made it through. I know photography delivered me from the depression I had of losing everything that was important to me. And I know you will come out of this a more mindful and enlightened being. Thank you for making this video. I love all of your stuff. I have really connected to the spiritual side of creativity because of you. My prayers are with you Sean. Look forward to seeing were your spirit leads you to create next.
It's an unfortunate thing that through pain we have been given some of the most beautiful art in this world. Best of luck ❤
You sharing your pain helps others heal as well. Thank you and best of luck.
Sorry to hear this and I wish you and your wife all the best for the future 💕
You inspire me - and I consider myself lucky to be part of a community you've cultivated. Hope your situation gets better good sir.
Sending hugs from the Philippines.
Wow, Master Teacher, only you could relate shadows and light to life. I hate that you ache, but we must all go through something to show both what life really means and strengthen our resolve.
You have been an inspiration to us all and through your pain, we will see the light in your photography and your new adventures. Take all the time you need Sean Tucker it will get better and you will be better, Master Teacher. You are not just a Master Teacher for photography but as it relates to life. Much love my friend, much love in deed.
I have been in the very same position and the lack of closure is agonizing. Thank you for your honesty. I walked my ass off last year when it happened, miles and miles and miles of grief and so many emotions.