ERRATA - I'm taking one-a-day, 50mg of slow-release Elvanse (Vyvanse in some markets) - I spoke in vague terms about the Dopamine Imbalance model because the jury is still out about what causes ADHD, notice I said "dominant model" in this video: New research casts doubt on not only on how the dopamine system works, but if it causes ADHD at all. This is how science works, we update our understanding as we get more evidence. - I forgot to mention a side effect! I think I have SLIGHTLY less appetite, which could either be the meds directly, or a side-effect of not needing the dopamine hit of constant snacks! Your doctor will talk to you about this, don't worry. It needs more monitoring for children, but for healthy adults (or folks like me who could lose a few KG) it's not a problem.
@@hontema technical doesn't have to be programming, and by my calculations, this video is 221WPM, not far off the speed of fast auctioneers! en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Words_per_minute#Speech_and_listening
It's such a lovely example of English dry humor taken to its scathing extreme. Like a dry Bond Martini, that phrase left me 'Shaken, not Stirred' with its associations. Wishing everyone an amazing new year in which *your* special talents/chemistry/wiring allow you to thrive, provide and make the world around you a better place...
this reminds me of when i was told i wasnt dumb, i was actually pretty clever, but i would not write a single word that year, i would literally do nothing a whole year, my tests were empty like nobody touched them. so they made me repeat and put me in a new christian super conservative school, you might wonder what happens next
The first day I took my medication, I sat down at my piano. I had played the same piano for 5+ years. Every time I had done so it felt less like I was playing the instrument and more like I was just moving my fingers around. But playing it after taking medication for the first time, I cried so much my grandmother came upstairs, worried something was wrong. There was something wrong, I went 23 years without a single soul noticing that I had something different about me. Twenty-three years of me trying harder than everyone around me and still performing behind them. That moment was more than euphoric, it was a moment that breathed life itself into me. Your videos have a simplicity and a pull which keep me focused. The way you paint your stories echoes how my brain tells my own. You're a cool person.
I got diagnosed as an adult with autism and adhd a couple of months ago, I started watching for the Rust content, but the neurodivergent focused content is always spot on, I have recently started the meal replacement hack and it is absurd why I did not do this all before, thanks Tris!
The adhd-prison pipeline makes sense to me. When labeled as (and grouped with) troublemakers, made a leper by the rest, what child would chose social isolation over drugs and occasional crime? When the good kids won't associate with you, you're left with the bad kids. And not just the ones who are "bad" because they daydream and forget instructions. But the ones who specifically want to cause trouble. I know I did a lot of things that I would have never sought out. Never even considered doing. Simply for social acceptance. I had zero desire to break into homes, but when the only people who accepted me were suddenly kicking in a door I followed. I'm lucky that I was never caught. Had I been, I wouldn't have been able to go on to become an engineer. I'd almost certainly still fall into that crowd.
Just a major adding to the first 6 minutes: You have described a very classic view of ADHD. I myself was the opposite, and that is why me, and more often, girls, have not been diagnosed. They "behave". As a kid I was incredibly creative with stories, I paid a lot of attention in class until I was either too bored with the content for lacking an application or because I was too ahead of it. I would excel in class to the point I learned English by myself and I wouldn't do homework because I simply didn't need that grade, but homework itself was dreadful because it was boring. Your description while correct, is only half right, the exact reason when I considered to have ADHD, I didn't follow to why I should get a diagnosis, despite being a very dysfunctional adult. My gf has ADHD and had not up to date doctors discard that and autism as a possibility despite having both. Please folks, do try a Neuropsychological evaluation. It is expensive but it is less expensive than trying meds in and out for depression and anxiety as adults.
Yes indeed, girls tend to exhibit more inattentive behaviour than boys (perhaps because 'boys are allowed to be boys', and girls are told not to get their clothes dirty and be sensible), but it all could be the same cause: Dopamine imbalance. This was extremely true for my wife: not diagnosed as a child because she was a GREAT student, but it all fell apart later on. She's now diagnosed and building better habits! With regard to the emphasis on my video: For accuracy, I had to scope it to mostly just my experience, my story, I hope I have been clear on that, and still hope that it's still partially useful for those with other backgrounds too. I don't feel qualified to speak much beyond that, though perhaps in time I'll learn more :-)
@@SnailHatan yikes, I'm sorry that it's so expensive where you are! That's terrible! However, there is a great deal of work you can do even with self-diagnosis. If after reading around and watching videos you think you could have ADHD, try building coping mechanisms for yourself, I didn't have medication for the first two decades of my adult life, I built coping mechanisms to thrive! I documented 18 of them here, steal any that sound useful and build your own: th-cam.com/video/XUZ9VATeF_4/w-d-xo.html
It's pretty tough for some of us, both with being a girl and being born in a nation that doesn't quiet have as much mental healthcare available for middle class families. I remember one time talking with my school counselor and feeling absolutely mortified about how I couldn't tell any reason on what was wrong with me. You are describing my symptoms to a T, even the part about learning English myself. When I am self diagnosed, it was pretty tough for me to mentally come to terms with : "Yeah I might geninuely have this thing, and no I am not doing it for attention on tiktok, I don't have a tiktok and I am not telling anyone right now, who am I even getting attention from?". I don't currently have the means to get diagnosed or do the eval thing you mentioned, but hopefully someday.
Getting medicated made me realize I can actually enjoy my life without purposefully or subconsciously putting myself in stressful situations and environments. I got diagnosed very late in my life and I was relieved to find out that many are affected by the same thing, but society shuns people who seek help for a special brain. I can now actually intentionally focus and be present and play music for the first time in my life. Thank you for bringing this subject publicity.
Happy that the algorithm found you and boosted your channel to what it is. I'm not a programmer, I don't know anything about Rust, but I am in IT and I have ADHD. I also recently started taking ADHD meds over 30, despite being diagnosed 15 years ago. It really makes a tremendous difference, andcI encourage everyone with ADHD to look into it.
Congrats for the diagnosis! And thank you for your kind words :-) I've noticed that the meds help me concentrate, but I have to learn to choose to concentrate on the right thing!
I want to thank you for this video. This has finally convinced me to stop accepting being distracted and finally working to get back onto ADD medication.
I've never been diagnosed with adhd, but the first half of the video, being still in uni, sounds dangerously relatable. It could, of course, be something else, but still, your videos on productivity and organizing are helping me be more functional in uni, thanks
I'm delighted. I hope you use Obsidian! I'd love to go through uni again with that at my side. Do talk to your doctor about adhd, maybe there's something to do with it?
Indeed, I've been using obsidian since last summer and it's really useful. I'm trying to talk to a doctor about the adhd thing, although I don't have a ton of time, trying to study for exams, so it'll have to wait for now
Having begun the process of realizing my (incredibly obvious in retrospect) neurodivergence near the beginning of this year, the effect of being diagnosed (ADHD Combined Type) last month and being prescribed medication has been... fantastic. The drastic increase in my ability to not just get things done productivity wise but to simply care for myself and maintain my environment (things that I always knew rationally should be incredibly simple and easy yet took absurd amounts of effort in practice) has done more for my mental health than any anti-anxiety medication or therapist ever has lol The most hilarious effect, though, is that the tension between "I want everything to be perfectly organized and neat" and "doing so is so goddamn hard because no dopamine reward so I guess I'll live in chaos" has been shattered to pieces, and I get more joy organizing my life and getting things done than I ever got lying in bed scrolling through social media for hours because everything else was too hard also, wow, the "ADHD dosen't present heavily in very structured/deadline-focused environments" thing makes so much sense in retrospect
I'm 45 and watched a video recently about the symptoms of ADHD and was struck by how much it described ways i've struggled all my life. I asked for a referral, and recently got a letter saying i have a year to wait. If a simple pill has that kind of impact on me, it will be a bloody relief. I'm left handed as well, so that was a interesting analogy to hear. Thanks.
I got diagnosed this year with adult inatentive adhd and finally understanding what was "wrong" with me is a lifechanger, thank you for telling your story!
my wife too! Women and girls can more often present with inattentive, which is less disruptive, or interpreted as being 'moody' (whatever that means!). Bloody patriarchy ruining everything for everyone!
I was complaining to my girlfriend just YESTERDAY about my envy of some of your videos, saying "he doesn't have ADHD he doesn't understand etc." and I guess here you are to prove me wrong, and make me feel hopeful and understood
I watched the precursor video to this one, thought that it was relatable, watched this one, and thought that it was relatable, and then, a few days ago, got diagnosed myself with ADHD. I'm medicated now, and my university work, as well as my personal life, is improving drastically. Part of the reason I reached out to get diagnosed was this series, and I have an incredible gratitude for that. Thank you
Thank you so much for making this video. I was finally diagnosed with ADD last year at the age of 22, after being talked into seeking help, by a friend of mine who was diagnosed as a child. I sometimes have a lot of self doubt caused by my disorder. My parents who are usually really supportive and open-minded, have a really hard time understanding what I’ve been going through my whole life, and I don’t know how they haven’t seen the signs. I started freelancing, alone, from home…. In 2019 which has been hell on earth for me. Anyways, your story made me feel really seen and a lot of your experiences, such as the way you describe the feeling of being medicated, and the different stages of feeling like you’re “cured” makes me feel like there are others out there who truly share this human experience, and that makes me feel a whole lot less lonely. Thank you for making these great videos. ❤
Funnily, I was discussing this with my family at the dinner table just a week ago. I could never manage to learn anything for school at home and nearly had to repeat a year due to covid. And considering that everyone else seems to have managed to do without issues like this, I just wasn't buying the 'you just need to get yourself together' stuff anymore. Now I'm convinced, I def. need to go to a doctor.
Sounds like you are on an interesting self discovery journey, and wish you well. If you are considering getting assessed for anything neurodivergent, there are free and shorter versions of tests you can take, and share the results of, with your doctor. There's one called 'Connor ADHD' something 😅 you might consider but totally up to you. I'd been seeking answers for decades and was dismissed as anxious or a bit depressed (geez, I wonder why: diagnosed at 35) until I had something officially recognised that I could point to, for me to get a referral for ADHD assessment. Best of luck to you😊
It's so frustrating, isn't it? I've been diagnosed for years (been on and off medication) and some people just don't get it. They just tell you to "work harder" and think that fixes everything. The reality is, unlike most people, we can't just decide to do something. Definitely go to a doctor, you will see significant improvements in your life when you start taking meds.
My issue was rather that I needed motivation spikes, like that vacation when I read three chapters ahead. My issue with school over IP is that it shattered the slight external support. Now my problem is that I study something I like, but I seem to destract myself with YT and podcasts.
It’s almost scary how much you describe my life. Minus the autism (as far as I know) and the part with the understanding parents. Finally getting the diagnosis and taking the meds last year has really started a new chapter of my life. This past year has felt like a decade in terms of knowledge gained and overall productivity. I am glad that you went so far as to speak with someone that is a professional in the field and that you use your platform to spread that knowledge
@@ΙσίδωροςΤσαούσης Quite alright, I should add it to the Errata comment, actually. Elvanse, modern slow-release Lisdexamfetamine - really nice! I'm titrating up to 70mg at the moment, but I might settle at 50-60, slight headaches at this level. 50 was fine! My doc and I will figure it out 🙂
@@ΙσίδωροςΤσαούσης I also take Elvanse. I think its named differently in the US. Im currently on 30 mg. I started with this dosage and have not seen a reason to up it yet. I am also taking the weekend off most of the time
Autism + ADHD + meds + marketable special interests (quite a combination) = an hyperfocus so strong I wonder if anyone else can relate to it. Feels like a door to another universe.
*Absolutely phenomenal video! Also critical to understand that meds are an excellent starting point and you can taper off. From personal experience, we need more empathetic and supportive healthcare professionals and a robust community - Especially for those who didn’t have the privilege of being diagnosed as kids*
What a nice video It is astonishing to see how much your work is carefully thought out, calm and qualitative, despite the drawbacks of ADHD Very inspiring
as someone who also only started treatment as an adult, i related to almost everything you said and got teary eyed while watching this. thank you for sharing❤️
Thanks for responding to my comment earlier. Very good video. I'm currently out of my ADHD meds and I'm finding it extremely difficult but I'll manage. In the US we treat medicine as a business and the sick as criminals so my current meds are purposely being under-produced causing a shortage.
I've been diagnosed 3 months ago at 24 years old and started medication almost immediately. Saying it's changing my life is an understatement. Both the medication and the better-informed perspective on the past make me so relieved and optimistic at the same time. The permanent "noise" stopping and THAT feeling of "Holy sh*t that's what it feels like to be in control of your life" is absolutely priceless... That euphoria part really hit. I still have my challenges though, habits and reflexes I have to unlearn, behaviors to be changed and systems to build, but god does it feel liberating to take over your own mind. What a great video, like many of your creations. I'm extremely glad the algorithm brought you to people's attention. I wish you the best for the future
thank you for your story, and your nice words! I'm so pleased for you! And yes, as you say, medication is just an initial step, we both have hard work ahead of us :-)
I’ve enjoyed your Rust content, but this story was so relatable that it pushed me to talk with a physician and receive a formal diagnosis. Two months later, my mind is calmer, and I’ve been more motivated and productive than any other time in my life. More importantly, it’s become much easier to be present with those around me. I just wanted to offer gratitude for sharing your story. 🎉
Thank you SO much for saying so - this outcome is EXACTLY what I hoped for when making this, my longest video ever. Rust's good, but I flatter myself that I could save lives here, and so I was compelled to use my platform :-)
I have also been recently diagnosed as an adult and had a remarkably similar story at school and university. When I found the coping mechanism of Todoist/Calendar/etc it changed my life. I moved into a role in cyber security but have had trouble staying on the ball. I always wondered why your videos spoke to me the most. Thank you for your hard work sharing the knowledge.
I'm autistic, and was diagnosed at a very young age. I got all the help I needed back then, but I've started feeling like that wasn't everything, ever since I started college 10 years ago. I finally got a diagnosis for ADHD last week, and I'm seeing a doctor for medication in two weeks from now. I just wanted to thank you for this and your other videos on neurodiversity, they helped me finally get myself unstuck and actually start seeking help with everything that I've been struggling with
Instructions unclear, opened 100 other tabs while watching this, while wondering if I should get adhd meds, while I was supposed to be doing something else.
Thank you so much for making this video. Everything that you said about ADHD perfectly tracks with my own experience. I've been hesitant to talk to my parents (who financially support me) about this for so long but this has finally given me the courage I need to have that conversation with them.
The amount of money it could save us in the long run is uncountable, not just by helping us not mistakes, but by getting us more productive in professional and personal life. I've been fired from half the jobs I've ever had because of (in hindsight) my ADHD. And now I'm working for myself, the only ceiling to my income is my own personal effort. I'm excited for you! Check out this channel for really great ADHD videos that might help you and your parents think about it - I learned a lot th-cam.com/video/38qpm6VKBFc/w-d-xo.html
I love the little, subtle jab to the US... "If you live in a developed country, available for free" This may or may not have been intentional. But also completely correct. It should be free. Healthcare should be free and owned by the collectiive.
It absolutely was intentional. National healthcare is such a difficult thing to build that only 49 of the top 50 developed countries have figured it out :-/
@@NoBoilerplate such is life when you live in the only country in the world willing to bankroll national security (for better and for worse). The rest of the top 50's barely spend a dime on defense, that money goes straight into social services. If the rest of NATO and/or the UN at large contributed more of their GDP to their own defense efforts, the US *might* have a shot at being able to allocate money to the very solvable problem that is healthcare. Unfortunately, given the cost of actually kicking defense R&D into motion, most of those top 49 might have to pull back on their social support system. Or start deficit spending. And the Americans can tell us all about what deficit spending is like.
@@srb__ that's really not at all what I said. I can understand that being what a reader engaging in motivated reasoning might extract from it. I don't necessarily think I'd qualify it as a "fault" issue. There are too many people and years between the formation of the system as we know it and where it sits today. But, my point stands that if the American government wasn't the sole guarantor of international security via deterrence, Americans could get the best healthcare in the world. And since you brought it up, I don't think you understand how valuable "tax evasion" is for allowing Americans to receive care. Without getting mega deep in the weeds on it: Hospitals will try to make you pay whatever you possibly can. Step one in the billing process is the hospital itemizing your billable service and sending it to your insurance. Step two is your insurance paying what's on your policy (most Americans don't know what's in their policy). Step three is you get a big bill for whatever is left. Now, beyond what you've paid out of pocket and to your deductable, you're really not responsible. Hospitals can report you to a credit agency and sell your debt to a collector. Both of those are *not* profit centers. So instead, they forgive the debt and write it off as a loss on their taxes, easing their tax burden. The people who get bankrupted by medical bills tend to fall into two broad categories. A: they need long term pharmaceutical support and choose not to or cannot secure a policy with a good prescription plan. B: they have accidents and then believe that there's no way around the bill. This is primarily an education problem. Ultimately both of these groups tend to be the same demographic. Low intelligence, low education, low income. None of this has anything to do with my original comment. All the same I do appreciate your passion.
I also have ADHD and tried stimulant meds for six months. They worked very well, but I also had intense anxiety and depression on top of the ADHD, so the stimulant often made those worst. For me personally I had to truly cut all medications, figure out where my own anxiety and depression come from, and figure those out first. It's a process, but now I realize I actually like my ADHD, I don't need meds anymore, and I am building up myself to learn to live and take advantage of the ADHD. Do whatever works for you. Stay strong, my fellow humans, nothing is permanent!
my fiance sent this video to me and not even 7 minutes in I immediately knew why :,) I had suspected I might have ADHD since I was barely 18, and none of the adults in my life (including medical providers I saw) would take me seriously. nearly ten years later after much hardship and misery, I finally found myself in a position to get truly tested. it was a bit expensive (I got really lucky with the price for what's average here in the US though), but so worth it. being on a stimulant has quite literally changed my life. I think one of the most disorienting things about it is how I can just wake up and get out of bed immediately instead of laying in bed for an extra three hours. there has still been a lot of discipline I've had to learn (thank god for therapy), but being on a stimulant has actually allowed me to practice that discipline without it feeling like I'm pulling teeth and using every bit of energy I have with very little to no progress. I will say, something that this video (understandably) didn't talk about is how stressful it can be to have to switch to coping with ADHD with a stimulant after coping with it unmedicated your entire life. I had to relearn so many things, and sometimes it really felt like I was just constantly taking steps back instead of actually making progress. I got lucky to finally have a stable support system in the form of my fiance and newly found medical providers right as the start of the pandemic, and even now constantly remind myself that even baby steps in progress is still progress.
thank you for your story! I am early on in my medication story, so the relearning process I'm doing now, thank you for the warning there, I'll be kind to myself :-)
I got diagnosed with ADHD just 2 months ago and the medication was so infinitely helpful. Before I had days where I would sit in front of my work and no matter how hard I tried, I could not start working. It felt like a mental paralysis. I knew what I had to do, I knew how to do it and I knew it was easy. I just couldn't make myself actually do it. With medication this paralysis simply went away. So, for me it more like being bound to a wheelchair because my legs would listen to me when I tell them to move, and with the help of medication being able to walk again. For me, my ADHD is not just like left-handedness.
executive dysfunction is terrible isn't it! I'm so pleased the medication is working well for you! Make sure to use this time to build better habits, I talked about 18 of mine here, please steal any! th-cam.com/video/XUZ9VATeF_4/w-d-xo.html
wow this just reads almost completely like my own life history 😲 the only difference for me was that i wasnt that lucky early on. i got diagnosed with ADHD completely by accident at the age of about 25. but i do agree: the meds are insanely helpful. i also remember the first time i took them and the euphoria that kicked in. i was like "ooooh so THATS what life really feels like! wow!". i was completely blown away by it
ADHD and autism are definitely needed in current society. The most brilliant people I know are all neurodivergent, and the AuDHD combo is a superpower if harnessed correctly.
Got diagnosed with ADHD as an adult (very recently, only a month or two ago). Apparently my masking and coping mechanisms were rather good, but in hindsight it explains why I failed out of university but was top of my class in trade school. I managed to get a proper degree a few years ago, but since the proper diagnosis I could better build proper structures and coping mechanisms to help me properly (with the assistance of medication). Getting this diagnosed a few years ago would have been a major game-changer, but I build up from now. Your video is something I found to be both beneficial, interesting, and entertaining. Keep up the good work!
My experience: I’ve got ADHD, and as is common for people like me, had struggled with depression and anxiety for some time. I’ve tried ADHD meds & antidepressants, but ironically, it seems only the ADHD meds helped with depression and anxiety. Any effects the antidepressants had were incredibly hard to notice, if they were even there; indistinguishable from placebo. I still take vyvanse and sometimes a supplemental adderall, because now for the first time in my life I can actually get shit done in a sane, non-last minute fashion. So obviously that helps me feel better about myself. But it’s more than that, I think: ADHD meds seem to improve my emotional regulation. This makes sense, because they seem to give the prefrontal cortex more control in general, which allows for more critical thought about catastrophizing emotions, etc, eventually leading to their dissolution.
Thank you for your comment. This is something I've seen mentioned again and again: ADHD is often the root (or main) cause or trigger for depression and anxiety. This makes sense, it is terrible to feel your plans slipping away from you, unable to action them!
I almost cried when you described the feelings of using meds. Never looked at it that way. My mother's a psychologist and even though I never got diagnosed, she has always had a strong feeling I have ADHD. Given how much I identify myself in the speech of diagnosed folks, I can understand why. Always thought getting diagnosed wouldn't be worth it since it is wildly expensive to do properly in my country and I didn't want to "need meds to function". I realize now that this was pure stigma. God, how I wish I could feel how you described on being just able to focus on what I want to do. Thanks once again for the video, Tris. Really put me in a reflective state.
Absolutely my pleasure, this is exactly the kind of reaction I hoped to create, there's a lot of stigma about, even in very lovely people (notice how my parents didn't get me meds as a child! I don't blame them at all, they did everything else right.) You might not need to be on meds for long to have a breakthrough, I don't know how expensive it is where you are, but keep in mind. You ALSO don't need a diagnosis or meds to start buidling your own coping mechanisms, take 18 of mine to start with! th-cam.com/video/XUZ9VATeF_4/w-d-xo.html
Recently read An Indian's Father Plea about his son Wind-Wolf being marked as a "slow learner" in western society, and in the letter it's mentioned how their culture and their learning is mostly a left-brain experience of nature, which is their "real world."
I love the intro. It's absolutely beautiful and does a great job explaining the issue at hand. I would like to inform everyone take the dopamine section as a jumping off point, not the final word. I recently learnt that the release of dopamine and how it affects us is much more complicated than what was explained in the video. So yea. Just keep that in mind. Thankyou
Great video, we need more of these. I have very hard inattentive ADD, basically can't function normally even at the simplest tasks... All the negative sides of Hyperactive ADHD but none of the positive sides, like fast ideation - creativity, ability to talk a lot. More like just a slow, rusty, incapable brain to do anything, like a human plant or sleepwalking. I can't ever imagine having a normal life, but I never got diagnosed due to being scared of incompetent doctors who put me on drugs, even thought I could be in a heart beat. Also the process of going from step A to Z, of being diagnosed and getting medication, planning out the steps for that is so hard my brain hurts. I was planning to make my life easier with software like Obsidian for 3 years now, "Just after I do research first to be sure I find the best software". I still didn't do enough research and install anything 3 years later, just have a ton of notes about everything I look up and all the info just confuses me even more now as I have libraries of info I gathered on how to study and organize.
Hey man, highly recommend giving scattered minds by Gabor Mate a read, it’s also available as an audiobook (helps with the attention span issues) It is arguably a little outdated but it’s strength is approaches adhd from a holistic point of view and really helped me turn inaction into action I know it’s rough, so best of luck man, you’ve got this!
Hello Tris! I watched your coping mechanisms video months back and learned a lot from it, and wanted to rewatch it. I saw this follow-up and I'm amazed at how similar my experience is to yours up until uni. I've started seeing a counselor last year for emotional dysregulation, and after some more reading, I suspect that I have ADHD and had it for a long time now. Although I'm interested in formal screening, in a developing country, the screening for adult female ADHD might just go under the radar. So I've been managing my symptoms the best I can and videos like this are a huge encouragement. Thank you!
I was diagnosed with ADHD over a year ago and medication has had similar effects on me. Since I've also got a degree and I've managed to get a career as a software engineer at a big company, I also didn't notice until the pandemic hit and I felt that I was not coping with WFH and I couldn't figure out why. Sometimes I still doubt myself because of all the anti-diagnosis stuff that's out on the internet claiming "everyone has these symptoms", but your video reminded me that my life is packed full of coping mechanisms (checklists, timers, debugging for a dopamine hit) and I'm just used to living life with them. This video was very affirming for me - thank you for making it! :)
i was diagnosed with ADHD as a kid and i had a similar academic experience as you did. a big difference between your experience and mine was my parents assumed once I was on meds the problem was solved. it helped me for a few years in school, but my increased tolerances soon meant my dose got increased every six months and every shortcoming I had in school and my personal life was down to my choice and allowed my parents to neglect the symptoms of abuse and trauma I was experiencing at home. I eventually began abusing my prescription to get by in community college and my pert time job at the time and it accelerated a drinking problem as a solution to come down from often chaotic days. I'm glad meds have helped you so much, but I think you owe a lot of credit to your parents for beign so proactive with your disgnosis and fighting ruthlessly to get you the educational assistance you needed. learning coping mechanisms to operate in the real world are an important prerequesite to a successful medication strategy otherwise it's so easy to accidentally focus on the wrong thing for 8 hours.
nearly all my success is thanks to supportive parents, you're absolutely right. I'm sorry you had a much harder time of it. Have you heard the expression "pills don't replace skills"? It sounds like what you're saying - they're not magic, they help you build yourself up, but the work is for us to do, and that's hard
@@NoBoilerplate I had tolerance problems too. If you haven't yet, you will. For me, the meds seemed like magic at first, but then the effects tapered off. Your doctor will increase your dosage. Then you'll get more side effects. It can be a delicate line to walk. Eventually the side effects got bad enough that I was a nervous wreck in school. I quit taking my meds as a teenager. I struggled for a year or two but managed to get my grades back up, only to struggle again in college for a little while before improving there too. I'm now out of college, but I'm struggling to get a job. Hopefully this is just another hurdle. I really like the way you talked about inventing coping mechanisms for your everyday life -- I think this is something I did unconsciously, and didn't really notice until now. Medication is a tool to take advantage of, and I think I shied away from it too quickly after my bad experience in adolescence. But I also don't think I can ever fully rely on it. I will still have to work through issues that the average person doesn't have to face, and you probably will to.
@@kasai1575 Sorry you had a bad experience, I perhaps dodged that by taking meds as an adult, where I'm much more in control of my environment, food, sleep etc. Headaches are cured for me with tight control of my water intake, for instance. One big thing, if you took meds before 2015, is that there are BETTER ones on the market now, I take Elvanse (Vyvanse) which was approved in 2015, and it's SUPER mild, it's a slow-release over 12-18 hours. I took 50mg last week, and will take 70mg this week (I'm re-titrating since having to stop due to the shortage last month). So MAYBE if you want to try meds again, you could talk to your Dr about one of the modern slower ones (or try different ones you didn't last time, there's loads!) Of course, we don't NEED meds. I am lucky to find one that works for me (for now, thank you for your experience with tolerance, I'll take regular breaks to help there). But the pills aren't magic, it's up to US to use the temporary space they give us to build up our coping mechanisms more. I obviously have had a really good experience so far with the meds, but my long-term goal is to become so well-disciplined that I don't need them forever. Did you see my coping mechanisms video? A few ideas in there perhaps! th-cam.com/video/XUZ9VATeF_4/w-d-xo.html
@@NoBoilerplate Thank you for your detailed response! I was originally on Concerta, which at the time was a slow-release pill. Then a couple years later the prescription changed (companies trying to cut costs) and it became a dissolvable tablet. This was much less effective because the dose would hit me like a truck by noon, then wear off in the evening. I switched to Vyvanse, but at the time it was also just a dissolvable tablet, not a slow release. It still helped my productivity, but I would get really wired in the middle of the day and study math instead of socializing with people. Eventually it wasn't really helping my productivity at all, and I'd get pretty bad side effects -- shakes, anxiety, etc. Not worth it for me. Long-term over-reliance was also a concern, and it sounds like you recognize that. I'd rather have the meds for when I really need them, and have my environment set up so I can mostly function without them. As a kid, I needed my meds to function, and my grades suffered heavily when I stopped taking them. From what you said, it sounds like a lot has changed in the past few years, and it seems you've really benefited from modern medication. I think I'll look more into the options nowadays and see if I can find something that works for me. Thanks for the info! I will also give that coping mechanisms video a look -- hopefully it'll help me with where I'm at now. Thanks!
Unfortunately enough, I am ashamed to admit that I used to be one of those reinforcing a little bit the stigma around ADHD, categorising it into more of a sort of laziness for pushing towards achieving a mental goal. I am starting to see it more and more as an actual problem and these kind of videos are really helpful in making us "right-handed" brains understand you guys more. Cheers for the educational moment 👌
I think many people (myself included) might have had a phase like that, the important thing is we learned when presented with new information and changed our minds :-)
I love this video, thank you. I sought treatment but ADHD-360 fumbled my diagnosis, and let me slip through the cracks. I got the diagnosis but they never followed up, by the time I reached out by myself to seek the treatment that they told me about following the diagnosis, they said I'd have to start again, pay more and sit the whole thing over. They just never got in touch. Terrible experience, so I've just been free-wheeling it ever since, it was just too much hasstle to get myself into the state of mind again given it was such a long process the first time round. I am infact a left handed, creativing field working, ADHDer. Thanks for the wonderful insights.
Thank you for telling your story, that sounds extremely frustrating. This kind of 'falling through the cracks' story I read all too often. It happened to my wife and several friends, mostly with adhd healthcare providers but also with other kinds too. I recognise this oppositional defiance behaviour in myself, and I have had to build coping mechanisms to stop me cutting my nose to spite my face, in these cases. One of the ways I do this is to remind myself that faceless organisations are staffed by a rotating motley crew of variously-competent and universally-underpaid people, people who make mistakes just as I do. No-one cares more about our health than ourselves. Their mistake didn't affect them at all, it affected you very badly. Unfair? Yes, but irrelevant. There is no karma or retribution to be had here, I urge you to put it in the past and put yourself first. # I also have concrete advice, rather than platitudes: adhd360 recently (like this WEEK) re-opened their nhs right-to-choose pathway. You can get treatment from them without paying any more, and if you like, you can do it out of spite: www.adhd-360.com/right-to-choose/ 8 weeks wait they had on Tuesday of this week. If you don't want anything to do with them any more, a position I sympathise with, don't pack the whole thing in - you are diagnosed with ADHD, you need help! Psychiatry UK have also recently re-opened their RTC. I understand they're slightly slower than adhd360, at perhaps 12 weeks on Tuesday: psychiatry-uk.com/right-to-choose/ There's very likely more options than these, and I urge you to find them. A month or two of faff and delay and a few missteps are a rounding error when looked at across our whole lives. The first best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago, the second-best time is right now. Good luck! :-)
@@NoBoilerplate A kind and thoughtful response of which I am taken aback. Thank you for taking the time to respond so meticulously and thoroughly. I found your channel through your conversations on coding and rust, and I watched them all out of an ADHD rabbit holing interest. I stayed for your content style and the way you present it...this is just another example of why TH-cam as a platform, isn't the entity itself but the creators within it. Wherever your content is presented, I shall follow, because of how you are and they way you engage with people. I will look into these options, thank you again. Keep creating, your content is awesome, as are you. C x
@@CraigHoward Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm here to educate, it'd be strange for that to stop when the video does. I'm excited for you, the meds are life changing 🙂
You have achived so much from three reasons: environment (parents), mixin of autism (it balances with adhd somewhat) and extraordinary smartnes (IQ) wich greatly helped with masking and coping. I had less luck, i get only some smartness but was born in laging country in times when few people ever know about this kind of neurodivergency, in result i managed to pass as "capable but lazy" but this over years left deep scars on my psychological health.
omg what just happened, Polish mind reading! AK, I'm sorry you've not got access to the advantages I have, that is unfair. I wonder if I can help with some research I've done on coping mechanisms, have you seen my video? th-cam.com/video/XUZ9VATeF_4/w-d-xo.html 18 tips that really help me, maybe some can help you?
@@NoBoilerplate I watched many of your videos, mostly about programming but this one not yet. Most of the time I deny myself this topic (ADHD) because it such so "rabitt hole" to me and my brain and my "normal life" performance is much affected negatively from hyperfixation also soon greif on life wich already sliped between my fingers kicks in... Ah yes, I started watching it, but denied after while after realising what is really about 😊 I thought then that declaring bankruptcy will be hard for me. I developed some kind of stupid kind of ambition that if "normals can do it then hold my beer" 😂 to cover even more stupid shame... Thanks 🙂 I didn't write it in negative sense, to lower your success or something rather like an "scientific observation" 😉 Such help was impossible because even in most developed countries knowledge was poor when I was a child... Also in my environment I was coping to good to gain attention and even if, problems were attached to my parrents divorce (wich was very unusual event in those times and place)...
I am so glad i got this in my recommended because i have wanted a mentor for the past 6-7 years and finally there is someone who says things which align with my perspective of life. Although mentorship is much more but ill take what i can get. Thank you
I'm not sure that's exactly right: I think a job like paramedic might be 'well suited' for ADHD - I thrive in constant emergencies XD Though youtuber is certainly the more comfortable job, I have no pressure to do anything, which is a double-edged sword...
I've been diagnosed with autism for years, but never really thought about adhd, probably due to the rigid structure of my life hiding it like you mentioned, but everything you mentioned here is super relatable to me, so you've got me researching now, thank you for the help :)
Its incredible how closely this resembles my own life - I started vyvanse a week and a half ago and already have seen a noticeable difference. Thank you for sharing this!
For me, probably (as I try to assess right now, because as ADHD goes, I have poor estimates) the greatest problems to tackle ADHD (which isn’t yet official-I just finally connected the dots a year-ish ago) are: - it wasn’t diagnosed in childhood; - my relatives are hard to make understand what’s happening with my brain and that it was always that way (at least all the freshly-remembered scenes of the long past do give me pretty strong clues it was!); - I lack local friends and any relations whatsoever with people (though I have plenty of long-distance ones, which can’t give me what local friends would make available); - I also didn’t come to have any job and I fell out of my prior higher education becuase I couldn’t take it anymore; - so my relatives like to come at me out of the blue asking for help in a great variety of topics which aren’t usually where my heart is at, even when I know how to do the stuff well-or better than they can, really, so that’s why; and it disrupts my day, obviously, and I have all those thoughts how to tell them again or what; - I have other illnesses like congenital optic atrophy (plus nearsightedness and amblyopy) and I probably have a hint of avoidant personality disorder or a similar one; and I’m a bit short which would be probably okay without all this stuff but here it compounds. I hate sleeves in clothing because they’re usually longer than I’m comfortable with because my palms tend to be sweaty, and I feel all these distracting uncomfortable sensations, and grrrh. And other things like this; - also then I lack money to really tackle the medical stuff once and for all (well, for the respective definition of that), including having my ADHD diagnosed officially to have meds; and usually it’s better for me to be escorted to new places because ADHD + nearsightedness + avoidance/insecurities shit makes for an explosively paralysing combination. But then I need to make myself and others believe that this action is necessary at all and find the time! That’s awful. I mean, it’s all interlocked. On top of that, it’s the fucking R-a country where I live in (hint: not Rwanda). I mean, it’s triply harder to get good things done in here. There were hardly any job orientation programs or social things to help youth in various ways. So I fell hard and sit on my ass now for years. IDK what I wanted by writing this list but maybe something good will happen, eh? I tend to hope that I keep overlook something, an avenue I wasn’t aware of, to be the last straw to be able to make something of these cards but yet alas.
Hey Tris, I’m underage and I have ADHD, which most often affects my executive functioning. This has made tasks like homework much harder for me and I’ve had to learn how to adapt over time to function at my expected level despite my disability - and I’m still learning lots about my condition. I’ve had very extreme experiences with hyperfixations, usually leading to me taking an intense interest in some topic or creative project before burning out for years. This was a great video covering the topic, and I’m a big fan of your other videos as well. I appreciate your commitment to clean, uncluttered, genuinely useful videos, and you’ve helped me find interesting tools in my own life like Obsidian. As an aspiring content creator myself, I hope I can one day match this level of professionalism and value in my own work. Thanks again, my subscription has been well worth it.
You already sound like you're on the right path. It's a long road, but knowing you have work to do is huge, well done :-) If you're going to be a content creator, my advice is that you'll never know what will work for you, so learn the basics of EVERYTHING: Learn piano, music composition, creative writing, poetry, how to speak and argue well. You might even realise why they're teaching some of this at school! But talk to a teacher/professor directly, they'll be delighted to help a curious student. If they're not, ask the next one. Come ask for advice over on my discord, we've got #programming, #mental-health, #obsidian and way more, and a friendly group of people!
I discovered your channel through your obsidian video 7 months ago, at that point it felt like a paradigm shift and now I document my day to day life using obsidian constantly. I saw this video the day it came out in November and it's been on my mind since then. I finally went to my doctor and got a diagnosis, and tomorrow will be my first dose of Adderall XR. Im excited, I really hope this stuff can help me. You were the first person that made me consider even the possiblity of having a mental issue like this, but looking back at my life now it makes sense. Thanks Tris, I enjoy every video you put out
mistake! I actually found you through the polyphasic sleep video, every video since then has been so interesting to me that it feels like the first time every time
thank you so much! I'm delighted to hear of your diagnosis, congrats. I hope the meds are helping, there are different options to try out if they don't agree with you, I take Vyvanse, but some of my friends prefer reuptake inhibitors, it seems pretty random, brain chemistry is incomprehensible! Whatever med vibes with you, even if that's nothing, the hard work is still up to us to use the space they give us to un-fuck our habits and build better ones. Good luck!
I'm left handed and got adhd and I relate so much to this. I'm also a web developer and I just became lead developer and I hated working from home because I wanted to but just couldn't stop distracting myself. I'm currently waiting to get meds and I can't wait to finally be able to do what I want to instead of it all being in my head but unable to ever execute it. Thank you so much for making this and making me feel understood. And it's a bit creepy how much we match stories it's like I'm hearing you narrate my own life.
While you're waiting, you can experiment with figuring out your own coping mechanisms - the pills won't obviate the need to build them, they'll just make it a little easier. Start now! th-cam.com/video/XUZ9VATeF_4/w-d-xo.html
I was diagnosed with ADHD less than a month ago. I'm still going back and forth on whether to try medication, my coping mechanisms seem to work well enough (now that I finally developed them, only 15 years later than I really should have). I'm going to start CBT soon and see what the doctor thinks as I talk it through her, but it was really helpful to hear this perspective. Thank you so much for sharing it.
My brand of adhd fits the new "limbic adhd" pattern that's getting attention. The sleep issues were existent from a very young age. It's usually treated with antidepressants (NDRIs instead of SSRIs). But, my experience has been much the same as yours! I do get some anxiety that i didn't get before (outside of procrastination crunch time panic), but it's mostly manageable for me, and with dealing with!
I needed this video, and after I think almost 2 years of procrastination to get a diagnosis, I think this is my tipping point. Thank you for hitting the nail on the head as always.
You're very welcome! Funny story, growing up I wanted to be a teacher, and my Dad, a life-long primary teacher, said "there's no money in it Tris, try being a software engineer, and you can teach in your spare time!" now look at me :-D
The timing of this video! three days ago i went to my GP to get myself checked out for ADHD. Forgetfulness, not coming on time, getting distracted during social interactions are one of the many things i struggle with. I will have a full test in a few weeks. Although, i might not follow through due to costs ;(.
Even a diagnosis without medicine is useful - names have power, and you can stop self-doubting and so on. You mention GP, are you in the UK? my meds cost 100/month, which is grim, but it's not forever, private providers pass you back to the NHS after a year and you pay your normal nhs prescription rate after then. I consider this first year an 'up front' cost for the rest of my life, and I'm extremely lucky to be able to pay it. Good luck friend!
If you’re in Australia (like me) and your diagnosis is declared retrospectively, you will get your meds on the PBS. Mine wasn’t originally and they were about $120AUD per month, but with the retrospective diagnosis they dropped to $30. Stick it out if you can, it might just be the best thing you’ve ever done for yourself.
@@NoBoilerplate I'm in the Netherlands. insurance will cover my meds, but getting the official diagnosis is the hard part. My deductible of my health insurance is about 850€ and the testing+diagnosis will probably consume it all. I can get a new insurance plan next year with which is probably cheaper to get tested. Right now I'm a university student with not a lot to spare...
@@meinteybergen4617 oof that's quite a lot. Even before diagnosis, there's lots of great advice out there, like my fav ADHD youtuber, Jessica from H2ADHD th-cam.com/video/51pOP8-wURk/w-d-xo.html
You're a massive inspiration. I had seen some of your rust videos before when the algorithm caught me attempting to learn how to code; though only till recently had I started exploring your videos on your other topics. Such as the use of Obsidian, this wonderful video and also on polyphasic sleep. I have ADD, my country recognizes both variants (H) and no H, and I'm medicated accordingly very recently. The content you put out has not only let me attempt to pursue what I want to do, that being programming, but also exactly how to do it in a framework of a non neurotypical brain. I can't thank you enough!
I went off my adhd meds about 10 years ago because I just couldn’t afford them. My doctor would only write the prescription for one month at a time so every month I would have to use a vacation day to go for an in office visit that cost $250 just for him to write me a refill. Then the meds he prescribed didn’t have a generic alternative so they were $300 a month. None of that was covered by my insurance, and I was already struggling to get by on nearly minimum wage. At some point I just kinda gave up and went off the meds.
I'm so sorry you're trapped in such a system. I hope you can find a way to get the meds again, but even if you can't, knowing you have ADHD is powerful, and coping mechanisms can still be built, albeit you'll find it more difficult. You can succeed, you have no choice! :-)
The slide at 15:17 made me cry. Thank you for making these videos and sharing your experiences. This video convinced me to make an appointment this monday.
I've long suspected that I'm on the spectrum but never had a formal diagnosis. I have always had sensory and communication difficulties, OCD, anxiety and stimming behaviours long before I ever knew what they were. Very recently my wife had a conversation with my dad while I wasn't there and he admitted he and my mum had suspected I may be autistic when I was a child but never did anything about it. Their approach instead of getting me help was to guilt me for my difficulties and tell me to "stop being antisocial.". It makes me wonder how different things might have been with supportive parents.
I truely was so, so lucky, I'm sorry it wasn't the same for you. However, as they say: The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago, the second-best time is right now. :-)
hard agree. i was diagnosed and medicated within the last year and it's been absolutely transformative. expensive, here in the US, but worth it. wish i could have been medicated during college, i could have learned and improved so much more
I never knew I had ADHD as until I went to uni. I'm using went generally since I stayed home and was stuck in my room since I graduated school in the spring of 2020... As you can imagine I did not do well with university. Was doing chemistry and physics at the time but after 2 years of not really knowing what to do i picked up coding again and started my degree in ICT and more specifically software engineering. My ADHD is fairly mild in comparison to a lot of others but it still hits me in the worst ways especially my at time lack of attention. But thats where ive found comfort in programming. Ive never taken medication and tbh ive never considered it since for me its kinda just been something that I live with.
I’m a new CS graduate looking to get into web dev and feeling lost trying to get into the market with no guidance. The part about your parents really struck me. My parents were working class and denied me ever having a diagnosis growing up. As you said, they thought adhd was a fad, and I was just a trouble maker that would grow out of it. As a 16 year old teen I took it upon myself to get tested and was medicated for adhd (the appointment was quick, my symptoms were obvious). Years off and on meds, I find myself working on my resume from home. Without medication I feel as though wouldn’t be able to half the stuff I get done in a day. Thank you for this video. It was assuring the best way possible. And as someone who has struggled with imposter syndrome when it comes to my diagnosis, the line, ”There’s no withdrawal symptoms besides your ADHD symptoms returning”, is something I think I’ll have to write on mirror. It is beautiful and i can only imagine how many people need to hear that.
I'm lefty and ADHD. Soooooooooo Edit: My lefthandedness was so obvious that I consciously knew about it and actively worked around living in a right handed world as early as five years old. In retrospect, my ADHD was obvious as well but I had no concept of that at the time. Turns out it's much harder to adapt, too.
This was wildly similar to my experience. The key distinctions were the lack of a childhood diagnosis, and that the cracks in my coping mechanisms started forming in 2019 when I was given management responsibilities at my web-dev job. Going from receiving structured, bite-sized tasks to being the one creating them and setting up that structure for others was an overwhelming challenge. I was struggling mightily to keep up, and then COVID quarantine happened and I completely fell apart. Transitioning away from management helped, but it wasn't until this year when I started hearing & identifying with ADHD stories that I realized there might be something larger at play. Pursuing treatment has been game-changing, and while I'm still on my journey and finding the right balance, I feel like I understand myself far better than I ever have. Thanks for this video! It was similar content on TH-cam that got me to consider seeking ADHD treatment, and it's made an enormous difference in my life. I'm sure this will do the same for others.
00:02 Left-handed individuals face challenges in a right-handed world. 02:07 Left-handedness and ADHD required a shift in attitude to be understood and supported. 04:14 ADHD is a classification of symptoms that respond to common treatment 06:28 People with ADHD are not intentionally disruptive, but often engage in dopamine rewarding behaviors 08:35 Working from home has exposed the flaws in traditional office-based work systems. 10:39 ADHD and working from home had different effects on individuals. 12:37 ADHD medication can work wonders if you are being affected by the same dopamine imbalance as affects me. 14:37 The side effects of ADHD medication include initial headaches and euphoria. 16:37 Many medicine options available for ADHD treatment 18:27 Don't let the historical requirement put you off, if you have ADHD today, you very likely had it as a child. Crafted by Merlin AI.
This is such a great video, i've actually sent it to a lot of people this morning because it far easier than trying to articulate myself. Love the content.
I'm not sure if you've ever had this issue, but with my meds I've definitely felt a curb in hunger. I think the euphoria effect also acts as a ghrelin inhibitor.
oh I forgot to put that in the video! Yes, slightly less appetite, which could either be the meds directly, or a side-effect of not needing the dopamine hit of constant snacks!
@@NoBoilerplate Odd. My meds personally remove my appetite completely. Though I also have a much higher dosage (20mg immediate release, twice a day) and was diagnosed as a 10yo kid due to sheer ADHD severity, so I suppose that would make a difference.
I'm autistic & have ADHD, and I wanted to thank you for sharing your experience! I find that this combination specifically is less talked about online, so I'm always happy to hear others share their own experiences with it. It helps a lot to hear what's worked and what hasn't for others! Edit: btw I was on ADHD meds for a year and a half, and after stopping the meds due to a possible side effect, I realized the meds actually helped my brain grow and learn how to direct attention better. The thoughts in my brain don't yell and compete for my attention anymore. I'm able to do things more, even if not necessarily exactly as much as I did when I was on meds. ADHD meds aren't this scary, "bad" thing that creates dependency. You can, as many people with ADHD do, find out that after a while you've built up the necessary coping mechanisms as well as created new pathways in your brain that you don't need them anymore. I'm in my mid-20s, and until I took meds I had no idea thoughts could be anything but loud, zooming, and incredibly annoying to deal with when trying to sleep. Now I welcome my thoughts happily, even if I get them in bed, because I can fall asleep WITH them.
wonderful to hear! Yes, our combined diagnoses are sometimes called AuDHD, you should be able to find some forums and groups by searching on that term :-)
This is a great video. I don't know if I have adhd or anything like that. I have struggled to get almost anything done for as long as I remember. Recently I learned about a classmate of mine who my friend told me is a bigger "procrastinator" than I am. I jokingly said I should then work with her, so we both get work done. Another friend of mine (who is diagnosed with adhd) said "ha, you probably don't want to put two people who have adhd together lol". Another friend once told me that I should meet this cool person, and that she had executive disorder "too". I didnt know what that meant. I don't know if I have adhd. Once, a professor forced me to consult with a psychologist on our campus. I started meeting with her weekly. After a year, I stopped seeing her for a semester (I was abroad). I really struggled. Not that I found the classes difficult, I just couldn't get anything done. Another professor there told me that I should get help. I procrastinated on geting help too. After the semester, he gave me more time to finish the projects and insisted that I get help. I reached out to the psychologist that I was seeing earlier. I talked to her, and she said "nothing seems to be working. What I want you to do is to go see a psychiatrist, and see if there's any medications that could help you" and she gave me a list of hospitals I could go to. I was afraid to tell my parents. They expect me to get straight A's, and they think im just dumb when I dont (which was all the time except my freshman year). They don't know anything about mental health, and they don't want to believe that stuff either. one day I just tried to slip that I should meet with a psychiatrist into a conversation with my mom, and that didn't go well. My parents blamed it all on that "hard" class I took, and that because I was too stupid to do well and that it made me "depressed" and that it also affected me in my other class. They forcefully made me agree that medcation is terrible and that I should never look to that. this was months ago. I havent met with anyone who could help me since then. i'm in my last undergrad year and still struggling. It's just hard to see friends who struggled just as much as I do a year or two ago, who are now doing well beause they got "help". I dont know if I have adhd. I probably don't. but it hurts to not know.
Thank you for sharing your story. There are many occasions in life where we are generally encouraged to see a doctor, even if our parent's disagree , I think this is one of them. Words are powerful, and a diagnosis (even if you don't take meds), can be such a boost to your self-confidence: You're not 'stupid' (or whatever unkind labels we give ourselves) - you (may) have ADHD. Talk to your friends, and if you would like to, chat in #mental-health on my discord server, there's lots of really nice people there :-)
I saw a video the other day talking about what ADHD should be called: SAVE (Dopamine Attention Variability Executive-Dysfunction) which just makes so much more sense to me.
There is another thing I've seen proposed as a term for ADHD: "Time Blindness." (It's not perfect, but from what I can tell, ADHD _does_ have significant effects on one's perception of time, and many symptoms can be explained as resulting from that.)
Thank you for taking about these topics. I always look forward to your videos, they definitely strike a chord with me. Hearing about other people's experiences helps me understand my own a little better, with a different perspective.
I have felt for sometime that a lot of your way of describing and seeing the things that interest you are so aligned with how I always saw the world. That's why I subscribed to your channel after a neovim tutorial. Now you post this. I have been diagnosed way back in the 90s too and the best thing you could have done is speak openly about it here and share your insights. Your channel is a light-post for how good and powerful TH-cam can be. Keep doing your thing.
Thank youuuuuuu! I've been intending to get my diagnosis this whole year. But tips such as your are super valuable in getting me to stop procrastinating it. It'll work eventually, I'm sure.
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- I'm taking one-a-day, 50mg of slow-release Elvanse (Vyvanse in some markets)
- I spoke in vague terms about the Dopamine Imbalance model because the jury is still out about what causes ADHD, notice I said "dominant model" in this video: New research casts doubt on not only on how the dopamine system works, but if it causes ADHD at all. This is how science works, we update our understanding as we get more evidence.
- I forgot to mention a side effect! I think I have SLIGHTLY less appetite, which could either be the meds directly, or a side-effect of not needing the dopamine hit of constant snacks! Your doctor will talk to you about this, don't worry. It needs more monitoring for children, but for healthy adults (or folks like me who could lose a few KG) it's not a problem.
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I know ? is error propagation in rust, but can you put something after? I am still a noob :)
@@Andrii-zc4dpyes, i believe you can do something like "thing.function1()?.function2()"
i would not consider this a fast or technical video. coal opinion lmao
@@hontema technical doesn't have to be programming, and by my calculations, this video is 221WPM, not far off the speed of fast auctioneers!
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Words_per_minute#Speech_and_listening
"This doesn't effect his work because he doesn't do any" is one of the funniest and most on the nose descriptors of ADHD I've ever heard lol.
I was murdered XD
So true...
It's such a lovely example of English dry humor taken to its scathing extreme. Like a dry Bond Martini, that phrase left me 'Shaken, not Stirred' with its associations. Wishing everyone an amazing new year in which *your* special talents/chemistry/wiring allow you to thrive, provide and make the world around you a better place...
this reminds me of when i was told i wasnt dumb, i was actually pretty clever, but i would not write a single word that year, i would literally do nothing a whole year, my tests were empty like nobody touched them. so they made me repeat and put me in a new christian super conservative school, you might wonder what happens next
@@sinusiteasmatica uh oh
As someone with ADHD I instantly liked the video and didn't pay attention during most of it.
> 2:12 "This sinister practice died out in the 50s"
> _Sinister (adj.): (archaic) on the left side_
I see what you did there
Left is also the devil's side
20 internet points for you!
you're _right!_
The first day I took my medication, I sat down at my piano. I had played the same piano for 5+ years. Every time I had done so it felt less like I was playing the instrument and more like I was just moving my fingers around. But playing it after taking medication for the first time, I cried so much my grandmother came upstairs, worried something was wrong. There was something wrong, I went 23 years without a single soul noticing that I had something different about me. Twenty-three years of me trying harder than everyone around me and still performing behind them. That moment was more than euphoric, it was a moment that breathed life itself into me.
Your videos have a simplicity and a pull which keep me focused. The way you paint your stories echoes how my brain tells my own. You're a cool person.
Thank you so much for your story and kind words. Here's to the next 23 years, and the next after that, what ELSE will we be able to improve upon! :-)
I got diagnosed as an adult with autism and adhd a couple of months ago, I started watching for the Rust content, but the neurodivergent focused content is always spot on, I have recently started the meal replacement hack and it is absurd why I did not do this all before, thanks Tris!
What's this hack? Sounds like I need it too 😂😭
@protocode_227 they're talking about the soylent episode
Exactly the same for me! struggling in college right now and dealing with burnout. Hopefully I can start climbing out of the hole I have dug myself.
meal replacement hack?
@@virtuallyaverage9357 I am going through the same right now, but it gets better slowly with a lot of support
The adhd-prison pipeline makes sense to me.
When labeled as (and grouped with) troublemakers, made a leper by the rest, what child would chose social isolation over drugs and occasional crime?
When the good kids won't associate with you, you're left with the bad kids. And not just the ones who are "bad" because they daydream and forget instructions. But the ones who specifically want to cause trouble.
I know I did a lot of things that I would have never sought out. Never even considered doing. Simply for social acceptance. I had zero desire to break into homes, but when the only people who accepted me were suddenly kicking in a door I followed.
I'm lucky that I was never caught. Had I been, I wouldn't have been able to go on to become an engineer. I'd almost certainly still fall into that crowd.
that's a very nice name
I suppose that makes sense. I had the misfits and books, and my own temperament. But others don't have the same.. luxuries?
That makes sense. I was too sensitive to join the "bad group" and after years of being excluded, I finally found comfort in isolation.
labelling theory
I literally didn't read any books outside of class before 1st grade of highschool.
"this sinister practice" got an amused smile out of me. well done, and thank you.
goal achieved!
I zooomed to the comments to see if this was intentional!
I chuckled and was left wondering if it was intended, love it.
"left wondering" @@tigwykplaysgames
I'm proud I was able to recognize this a linguistics joke even if I couldn't quite place it lol
Just a major adding to the first 6 minutes:
You have described a very classic view of ADHD. I myself was the opposite, and that is why me, and more often, girls, have not been diagnosed. They "behave". As a kid I was incredibly creative with stories, I paid a lot of attention in class until I was either too bored with the content for lacking an application or because I was too ahead of it.
I would excel in class to the point I learned English by myself and I wouldn't do homework because I simply didn't need that grade, but homework itself was dreadful because it was boring.
Your description while correct, is only half right, the exact reason when I considered to have ADHD, I didn't follow to why I should get a diagnosis, despite being a very dysfunctional adult. My gf has ADHD and had not up to date doctors discard that and autism as a possibility despite having both.
Please folks, do try a Neuropsychological evaluation. It is expensive but it is less expensive than trying meds in and out for depression and anxiety as adults.
Yes indeed, girls tend to exhibit more inattentive behaviour than boys (perhaps because 'boys are allowed to be boys', and girls are told not to get their clothes dirty and be sensible), but it all could be the same cause: Dopamine imbalance.
This was extremely true for my wife: not diagnosed as a child because she was a GREAT student, but it all fell apart later on. She's now diagnosed and building better habits!
With regard to the emphasis on my video: For accuracy, I had to scope it to mostly just my experience, my story, I hope I have been clear on that, and still hope that it's still partially useful for those with other backgrounds too. I don't feel qualified to speak much beyond that, though perhaps in time I'll learn more :-)
They used to call it ADD. Pretty sure that's what I have too.
Yes, I’ll just pull $2500 out of my enchanted wallet thanks
@@SnailHatan yikes, I'm sorry that it's so expensive where you are! That's terrible!
However, there is a great deal of work you can do even with self-diagnosis. If after reading around and watching videos you think you could have ADHD, try building coping mechanisms for yourself, I didn't have medication for the first two decades of my adult life, I built coping mechanisms to thrive!
I documented 18 of them here, steal any that sound useful and build your own: th-cam.com/video/XUZ9VATeF_4/w-d-xo.html
It's pretty tough for some of us, both with being a girl and being born in a nation that doesn't quiet have as much mental healthcare available for middle class families. I remember one time talking with my school counselor and feeling absolutely mortified about how I couldn't tell any reason on what was wrong with me. You are describing my symptoms to a T, even the part about learning English myself. When I am self diagnosed, it was pretty tough for me to mentally come to terms with : "Yeah I might geninuely have this thing, and no I am not doing it for attention on tiktok, I don't have a tiktok and I am not telling anyone right now, who am I even getting attention from?". I don't currently have the means to get diagnosed or do the eval thing you mentioned, but hopefully someday.
Getting medicated made me realize I can actually enjoy my life without purposefully or subconsciously putting myself in stressful situations and environments. I got diagnosed very late in my life and I was relieved to find out that many are affected by the same thing, but society shuns people who seek help for a special brain. I can now actually intentionally focus and be present and play music for the first time in my life. Thank you for bringing this subject publicity.
My pleasure, I hoped telling my story could a few people, and by the lovely response in the comments, that's happened!
Happy that the algorithm found you and boosted your channel to what it is. I'm not a programmer, I don't know anything about Rust, but I am in IT and I have ADHD. I also recently started taking ADHD meds over 30, despite being diagnosed 15 years ago. It really makes a tremendous difference, andcI encourage everyone with ADHD to look into it.
Congrats for the diagnosis! And thank you for your kind words :-)
I've noticed that the meds help me concentrate, but I have to learn to choose to concentrate on the right thing!
I want to thank you for this video. This has finally convinced me to stop accepting being distracted and finally working to get back onto ADD medication.
I'm so pleased, I hoped to inspire folks to seek further advice 😊
I've never been diagnosed with adhd, but the first half of the video, being still in uni, sounds dangerously relatable. It could, of course, be something else, but still, your videos on productivity and organizing are helping me be more functional in uni, thanks
I'm delighted. I hope you use Obsidian! I'd love to go through uni again with that at my side.
Do talk to your doctor about adhd, maybe there's something to do with it?
Indeed, I've been using obsidian since last summer and it's really useful. I'm trying to talk to a doctor about the adhd thing, although I don't have a ton of time, trying to study for exams, so it'll have to wait for now
Now I feel like I should really talk to my doctor... Thank you for contributing positively to my life with every video
you'll never regret it!
Having begun the process of realizing my (incredibly obvious in retrospect) neurodivergence near the beginning of this year, the effect of being diagnosed (ADHD Combined Type) last month and being prescribed medication has been... fantastic. The drastic increase in my ability to not just get things done productivity wise but to simply care for myself and maintain my environment (things that I always knew rationally should be incredibly simple and easy yet took absurd amounts of effort in practice) has done more for my mental health than any anti-anxiety medication or therapist ever has lol
The most hilarious effect, though, is that the tension between "I want everything to be perfectly organized and neat" and "doing so is so goddamn hard because no dopamine reward so I guess I'll live in chaos" has been shattered to pieces, and I get more joy organizing my life and getting things done than I ever got lying in bed scrolling through social media for hours because everything else was too hard
also, wow, the "ADHD dosen't present heavily in very structured/deadline-focused environments" thing makes so much sense in retrospect
amazing! if anything, these days, I focus TOO MUCH, and am having to learn how to intentionally take breaks :-)
could my tendency to let everything fall apart for weeks at a time before fixing all of it in one big burst of motivation be a sign of adhd?
I'm 45 and watched a video recently about the symptoms of ADHD and was struck by how much it described ways i've struggled all my life. I asked for a referral, and recently got a letter saying i have a year to wait. If a simple pill has that kind of impact on me, it will be a bloody relief. I'm left handed as well, so that was a interesting analogy to hear. Thanks.
Good on you friend! The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago, the second best time is when you get to the front of the waiting list.
As a life long left-handed person: I appreciate this video :) Solidarity between lefties and ADHD!
I have *both* afflictions! Although my left-handedness has not been diagnosed...
I got diagnosed this year with adult inatentive adhd and finally understanding what was "wrong" with me is a lifechanger, thank you for telling your story!
my wife too! Women and girls can more often present with inattentive, which is less disruptive, or interpreted as being 'moody' (whatever that means!). Bloody patriarchy ruining everything for everyone!
I was complaining to my girlfriend just YESTERDAY about my envy of some of your videos, saying "he doesn't have ADHD he doesn't understand etc." and I guess here you are to prove me wrong, and make me feel hopeful and understood
Thank you for your comment, I hoped my story might inspire - have you seen my coping mechanisms video?
I watched the precursor video to this one, thought that it was relatable, watched this one, and thought that it was relatable, and then, a few days ago, got diagnosed myself with ADHD. I'm medicated now, and my university work, as well as my personal life, is improving drastically. Part of the reason I reached out to get diagnosed was this series, and I have an incredible gratitude for that. Thank you
Congrats! There's much work to do for both of us, but the meds give us the space. :-)
Thank you so much for making this video. I was finally diagnosed with ADD last year at the age of 22, after being talked into seeking help, by a friend of mine who was diagnosed as a child. I sometimes have a lot of self doubt caused by my disorder. My parents who are usually really supportive and open-minded, have a really hard time understanding what I’ve been going through my whole life, and I don’t know how they haven’t seen the signs. I started freelancing, alone, from home…. In 2019 which has been hell on earth for me. Anyways, your story made me feel really seen and a lot of your experiences, such as the way you describe the feeling of being medicated, and the different stages of feeling like you’re “cured” makes me feel like there are others out there who truly share this human experience, and that makes me feel a whole lot less lonely. Thank you for making these great videos. ❤
Thank you for your nice comment, I'm delighted for you, fantastic!
The first time I tried medication I almost wanted to cry. I finally felt "normal" and I felt a calmth I'd never felt before.
Funnily, I was discussing this with my family at the dinner table just a week ago. I could never manage to learn anything for school at home and nearly had to repeat a year due to covid. And considering that everyone else seems to have managed to do without issues like this, I just wasn't buying the 'you just need to get yourself together' stuff anymore. Now I'm convinced, I def. need to go to a doctor.
I'm so pleased, just what I'd hoped for when I shared my story. Do watch my coping mechanisms video too!
give us an update when you get back
Sounds like you are on an interesting self discovery journey, and wish you well. If you are considering getting assessed for anything neurodivergent, there are free and shorter versions of tests you can take, and share the results of, with your doctor. There's one called 'Connor ADHD' something 😅 you might consider but totally up to you. I'd been seeking answers for decades and was dismissed as anxious or a bit depressed (geez, I wonder why: diagnosed at 35) until I had something officially recognised that I could point to, for me to get a referral for ADHD assessment. Best of luck to you😊
It's so frustrating, isn't it? I've been diagnosed for years (been on and off medication) and some people just don't get it. They just tell you to "work harder" and think that fixes everything. The reality is, unlike most people, we can't just decide to do something. Definitely go to a doctor, you will see significant improvements in your life when you start taking meds.
My issue was rather that I needed motivation spikes, like that vacation when I read three chapters ahead. My issue with school over IP is that it shattered the slight external support. Now my problem is that I study something I like, but I seem to destract myself with YT and podcasts.
It’s almost scary how much you describe my life. Minus the autism (as far as I know) and the part with the understanding parents. Finally getting the diagnosis and taking the meds last year has really started a new chapter of my life. This past year has felt like a decade in terms of knowledge gained and overall productivity. I am glad that you went so far as to speak with someone that is a professional in the field and that you use your platform to spread that knowledge
Fantastic, sounds like we're both making up for lost time!
Would it indiscreet to inquire about what your medication was?
@@ΙσίδωροςΤσαούσης Quite alright, I should add it to the Errata comment, actually. Elvanse, modern slow-release Lisdexamfetamine - really nice! I'm titrating up to 70mg at the moment, but I might settle at 50-60, slight headaches at this level. 50 was fine! My doc and I will figure it out 🙂
@@ΙσίδωροςΤσαούσης I also take Elvanse. I think its named differently in the US. Im currently on 30 mg. I started with this dosage and have not seen a reason to up it yet. I am also taking the weekend off most of the time
Autism + ADHD + meds + marketable special interests (quite a combination) = an hyperfocus so strong I wonder if anyone else can relate to it. Feels like a door to another universe.
*Absolutely phenomenal video! Also critical to understand that meds are an excellent starting point and you can taper off. From personal experience, we need more empathetic and supportive healthcare professionals and a robust community - Especially for those who didn’t have the privilege of being diagnosed as kids*
Well said!
What a nice video
It is astonishing to see how much your work is carefully thought out, calm and qualitative, despite the drawbacks of ADHD
Very inspiring
I'm no good without a script ;-)
as someone who also only started treatment as an adult, i related to almost everything you said and got teary eyed while watching this. thank you for sharing❤️
Pleasure, well done for getting diagnosed!
I can confirm that ADHD meds are life changing. Thank you for your videos, I really enjoy the format.
Thanks for responding to my comment earlier. Very good video. I'm currently out of my ADHD meds and I'm finding it extremely difficult but I'll manage. In the US we treat medicine as a business and the sick as criminals so my current meds are purposely being under-produced causing a shortage.
it sounds like a nightmare, I hope comfort returns soon
I've been diagnosed 3 months ago at 24 years old and started medication almost immediately.
Saying it's changing my life is an understatement. Both the medication and the better-informed perspective on the past make me so relieved and optimistic at the same time. The permanent "noise" stopping and THAT feeling of "Holy sh*t that's what it feels like to be in control of your life" is absolutely priceless... That euphoria part really hit.
I still have my challenges though, habits and reflexes I have to unlearn, behaviors to be changed and systems to build, but god does it feel liberating to take over your own mind.
What a great video, like many of your creations. I'm extremely glad the algorithm brought you to people's attention. I wish you the best for the future
thank you for your story, and your nice words! I'm so pleased for you! And yes, as you say, medication is just an initial step, we both have hard work ahead of us :-)
I’ve enjoyed your Rust content, but this story was so relatable that it pushed me to talk with a physician and receive a formal diagnosis. Two months later, my mind is calmer, and I’ve been more motivated and productive than any other time in my life. More importantly, it’s become much easier to be present with those around me.
I just wanted to offer gratitude for sharing your story. 🎉
Thank you SO much for saying so - this outcome is EXACTLY what I hoped for when making this, my longest video ever. Rust's good, but I flatter myself that I could save lives here, and so I was compelled to use my platform :-)
I have also been recently diagnosed as an adult and had a remarkably similar story at school and university. When I found the coping mechanism of Todoist/Calendar/etc it changed my life. I moved into a role in cyber security but have had trouble staying on the ball.
I always wondered why your videos spoke to me the most. Thank you for your hard work sharing the knowledge.
Thank you for your nice comments. Well done for getting diagnosed!
I'm autistic, and was diagnosed at a very young age. I got all the help I needed back then, but I've started feeling like that wasn't everything, ever since I started college 10 years ago. I finally got a diagnosis for ADHD last week, and I'm seeing a doctor for medication in two weeks from now. I just wanted to thank you for this and your other videos on neurodiversity, they helped me finally get myself unstuck and actually start seeking help with everything that I've been struggling with
I'm so happy for you! Thank you for telling me, this is just the sort of thing I hoped to be able to use my platform to help folks with :-)
Instructions unclear, opened 100 other tabs while watching this, while wondering if I should get adhd meds, while I was supposed to be doing something else.
Thank you so much for making this video. Everything that you said about ADHD perfectly tracks with my own experience. I've been hesitant to talk to my parents (who financially support me) about this for so long but this has finally given me the courage I need to have that conversation with them.
The amount of money it could save us in the long run is uncountable, not just by helping us not mistakes, but by getting us more productive in professional and personal life.
I've been fired from half the jobs I've ever had because of (in hindsight) my ADHD. And now I'm working for myself, the only ceiling to my income is my own personal effort.
I'm excited for you!
Check out this channel for really great ADHD videos that might help you and your parents think about it - I learned a lot th-cam.com/video/38qpm6VKBFc/w-d-xo.html
I love the little, subtle jab to the US...
"If you live in a developed country, available for free"
This may or may not have been intentional. But also completely correct. It should be free. Healthcare should be free and owned by the collectiive.
It absolutely was intentional.
National healthcare is such a difficult thing to build that only 49 of the top 50 developed countries have figured it out :-/
@@NoBoilerplate LOL I love that
@@NoBoilerplate such is life when you live in the only country in the world willing to bankroll national security (for better and for worse). The rest of the top 50's barely spend a dime on defense, that money goes straight into social services. If the rest of NATO and/or the UN at large contributed more of their GDP to their own defense efforts, the US *might* have a shot at being able to allocate money to the very solvable problem that is healthcare. Unfortunately, given the cost of actually kicking defense R&D into motion, most of those top 49 might have to pull back on their social support system. Or start deficit spending. And the Americans can tell us all about what deficit spending is like.
@@turnkey_hole You'd be delusional to put fault in other developed countries for America's backwards, for-profit and tax-evading health industry
@@srb__ that's really not at all what I said. I can understand that being what a reader engaging in motivated reasoning might extract from it. I don't necessarily think I'd qualify it as a "fault" issue. There are too many people and years between the formation of the system as we know it and where it sits today.
But, my point stands that if the American government wasn't the sole guarantor of international security via deterrence, Americans could get the best healthcare in the world.
And since you brought it up, I don't think you understand how valuable "tax evasion" is for allowing Americans to receive care. Without getting mega deep in the weeds on it: Hospitals will try to make you pay whatever you possibly can. Step one in the billing process is the hospital itemizing your billable service and sending it to your insurance. Step two is your insurance paying what's on your policy (most Americans don't know what's in their policy). Step three is you get a big bill for whatever is left. Now, beyond what you've paid out of pocket and to your deductable, you're really not responsible. Hospitals can report you to a credit agency and sell your debt to a collector. Both of those are *not* profit centers. So instead, they forgive the debt and write it off as a loss on their taxes, easing their tax burden. The people who get bankrupted by medical bills tend to fall into two broad categories. A: they need long term pharmaceutical support and choose not to or cannot secure a policy with a good prescription plan. B: they have accidents and then believe that there's no way around the bill. This is primarily an education problem.
Ultimately both of these groups tend to be the same demographic. Low intelligence, low education, low income.
None of this has anything to do with my original comment. All the same I do appreciate your passion.
I also have ADHD and tried stimulant meds for six months. They worked very well, but I also had intense anxiety and depression on top of the ADHD, so the stimulant often made those worst. For me personally I had to truly cut all medications, figure out where my own anxiety and depression come from, and figure those out first. It's a process, but now I realize I actually like my ADHD, I don't need meds anymore, and I am building up myself to learn to live and take advantage of the ADHD. Do whatever works for you. Stay strong, my fellow humans, nothing is permanent!
Terrific!
my fiance sent this video to me and not even 7 minutes in I immediately knew why :,)
I had suspected I might have ADHD since I was barely 18, and none of the adults in my life (including medical providers I saw) would take me seriously. nearly ten years later after much hardship and misery, I finally found myself in a position to get truly tested. it was a bit expensive (I got really lucky with the price for what's average here in the US though), but so worth it. being on a stimulant has quite literally changed my life. I think one of the most disorienting things about it is how I can just wake up and get out of bed immediately instead of laying in bed for an extra three hours. there has still been a lot of discipline I've had to learn (thank god for therapy), but being on a stimulant has actually allowed me to practice that discipline without it feeling like I'm pulling teeth and using every bit of energy I have with very little to no progress.
I will say, something that this video (understandably) didn't talk about is how stressful it can be to have to switch to coping with ADHD with a stimulant after coping with it unmedicated your entire life. I had to relearn so many things, and sometimes it really felt like I was just constantly taking steps back instead of actually making progress. I got lucky to finally have a stable support system in the form of my fiance and newly found medical providers right as the start of the pandemic, and even now constantly remind myself that even baby steps in progress is still progress.
thank you for your story! I am early on in my medication story, so the relearning process I'm doing now, thank you for the warning there, I'll be kind to myself :-)
I got diagnosed with ADHD just 2 months ago and the medication was so infinitely helpful. Before I had days where I would sit in front of my work and no matter how hard I tried, I could not start working. It felt like a mental paralysis. I knew what I had to do, I knew how to do it and I knew it was easy. I just couldn't make myself actually do it. With medication this paralysis simply went away.
So, for me it more like being bound to a wheelchair because my legs would listen to me when I tell them to move, and with the help of medication being able to walk again. For me, my ADHD is not just like left-handedness.
executive dysfunction is terrible isn't it! I'm so pleased the medication is working well for you! Make sure to use this time to build better habits, I talked about 18 of mine here, please steal any! th-cam.com/video/XUZ9VATeF_4/w-d-xo.html
wow this just reads almost completely like my own life history 😲
the only difference for me was that i wasnt that lucky early on. i got diagnosed with ADHD completely by accident at the age of about 25.
but i do agree: the meds are insanely helpful. i also remember the first time i took them and the euphoria that kicked in. i was like "ooooh so THATS what life really feels like! wow!". i was completely blown away by it
ADHD and autism are definitely needed in current society. The most brilliant people I know are all neurodivergent, and the AuDHD combo is a superpower if harnessed correctly.
The downsides to autism and adhd don't need to be put up with anymore - you can keep any advantages you have, while ALSO being happy :-)
@@NoBoilerplate I agree!
Literally just talked about this with my girlfriend, now your video pops up. Nice.
Got diagnosed with ADHD as an adult (very recently, only a month or two ago). Apparently my masking and coping mechanisms were rather good, but in hindsight it explains why I failed out of university but was top of my class in trade school. I managed to get a proper degree a few years ago, but since the proper diagnosis I could better build proper structures and coping mechanisms to help me properly (with the assistance of medication). Getting this diagnosed a few years ago would have been a major game-changer, but I build up from now.
Your video is something I found to be both beneficial, interesting, and entertaining. Keep up the good work!
Thank you so much, and congrats on the diagnosis!
My experience: I’ve got ADHD, and as is common for people like me, had struggled with depression and anxiety for some time. I’ve tried ADHD meds & antidepressants, but ironically, it seems only the ADHD meds helped with depression and anxiety. Any effects the antidepressants had were incredibly hard to notice, if they were even there; indistinguishable from placebo. I still take vyvanse and sometimes a supplemental adderall, because now for the first time in my life I can actually get shit done in a sane, non-last minute fashion. So obviously that helps me feel better about myself. But it’s more than that, I think: ADHD meds seem to improve my emotional regulation. This makes sense, because they seem to give the prefrontal cortex more control in general, which allows for more critical thought about catastrophizing emotions, etc, eventually leading to their dissolution.
Thank you for your comment. This is something I've seen mentioned again and again: ADHD is often the root (or main) cause or trigger for depression and anxiety. This makes sense, it is terrible to feel your plans slipping away from you, unable to action them!
I almost cried when you described the feelings of using meds. Never looked at it that way. My mother's a psychologist and even though I never got diagnosed, she has always had a strong feeling I have ADHD. Given how much I identify myself in the speech of diagnosed folks, I can understand why.
Always thought getting diagnosed wouldn't be worth it since it is wildly expensive to do properly in my country and I didn't want to "need meds to function". I realize now that this was pure stigma. God, how I wish I could feel how you described on being just able to focus on what I want to do.
Thanks once again for the video, Tris. Really put me in a reflective state.
Absolutely my pleasure, this is exactly the kind of reaction I hoped to create, there's a lot of stigma about, even in very lovely people (notice how my parents didn't get me meds as a child! I don't blame them at all, they did everything else right.)
You might not need to be on meds for long to have a breakthrough, I don't know how expensive it is where you are, but keep in mind.
You ALSO don't need a diagnosis or meds to start buidling your own coping mechanisms, take 18 of mine to start with! th-cam.com/video/XUZ9VATeF_4/w-d-xo.html
Recently read An Indian's Father Plea about his son Wind-Wolf being marked as a "slow learner" in western society,
and in the letter it's mentioned how their culture and their learning is mostly a left-brain experience of nature, which is their "real world."
knowledge is fake. But you still must learn!
This was the most relatable and possibly the best modern postapocaliptical sci-fi novel I ever heard.
Thank you! If you'd like an actual scifi audiostory, try Lost Terminal th-cam.com/video/p3bDE9kszMc/w-d-xo.html
This is the push I needed to finally reach out to a psychiatrist. Thank you.
You'll never regret it :-)
I love the intro. It's absolutely beautiful and does a great job explaining the issue at hand.
I would like to inform everyone take the dopamine section as a jumping off point, not the final word. I recently learnt that the release of dopamine and how it affects us is much more complicated than what was explained in the video. So yea. Just keep that in mind. Thankyou
Oh indeed, I was careful to use the phrase "dominant model" in the video. Our understanding is always improving!
I'm a left handed person with adhd and the title alone is such an accurate description that I wish I'd come up with it LMAO
I'm quite pleased with it! :D
Beautiful. We need more awareness about ADHD.
Absolutely!
Great video, we need more of these.
I have very hard inattentive ADD, basically can't function normally even at the simplest tasks... All the negative sides of Hyperactive ADHD but none of the positive sides, like fast ideation - creativity, ability to talk a lot. More like just a slow, rusty, incapable brain to do anything, like a human plant or sleepwalking.
I can't ever imagine having a normal life, but I never got diagnosed due to being scared of incompetent doctors who put me on drugs, even thought I could be in a heart beat. Also the process of going from step A to Z, of being diagnosed and getting medication, planning out the steps for that is so hard my brain hurts.
I was planning to make my life easier with software like Obsidian for 3 years now, "Just after I do research first to be sure I find the best software". I still didn't do enough research and install anything 3 years later, just have a ton of notes about everything I look up and all the info just confuses me even more now as I have libraries of info I gathered on how to study and organize.
You'll never regret trying, even a diagnosis with no drugs is powerful - you have a name, and names are powerful.
Hey man, highly recommend giving scattered minds by Gabor Mate a read, it’s also available as an audiobook (helps with the attention span issues)
It is arguably a little outdated but it’s strength is approaches adhd from a holistic point of view and really helped me turn inaction into action
I know it’s rough, so best of luck man, you’ve got this!
Hello Tris! I watched your coping mechanisms video months back and learned a lot from it, and wanted to rewatch it. I saw this follow-up and I'm amazed at how similar my experience is to yours up until uni. I've started seeing a counselor last year for emotional dysregulation, and after some more reading, I suspect that I have ADHD and had it for a long time now. Although I'm interested in formal screening, in a developing country, the screening for adult female ADHD might just go under the radar. So I've been managing my symptoms the best I can and videos like this are a huge encouragement. Thank you!
The description of taking meds was so spot on. It's a total game changer! The only thing it doesn't fix is remembering to take them in the morning 😅
triggers and habits have been a game changer for me!
(try the book triggers by marshall goldsmith)
There's apps for that
I was diagnosed with ADHD over a year ago and medication has had similar effects on me. Since I've also got a degree and I've managed to get a career as a software engineer at a big company, I also didn't notice until the pandemic hit and I felt that I was not coping with WFH and I couldn't figure out why. Sometimes I still doubt myself because of all the anti-diagnosis stuff that's out on the internet claiming "everyone has these symptoms", but your video reminded me that my life is packed full of coping mechanisms (checklists, timers, debugging for a dopamine hit) and I'm just used to living life with them. This video was very affirming for me - thank you for making it! :)
Thank you for your story. This affirmation is exactly what I hoped for when I wrote it :-)
i was diagnosed with ADHD as a kid and i had a similar academic experience as you did. a big difference between your experience and mine was my parents assumed once I was on meds the problem was solved. it helped me for a few years in school, but my increased tolerances soon meant my dose got increased every six months and every shortcoming I had in school and my personal life was down to my choice and allowed my parents to neglect the symptoms of abuse and trauma I was experiencing at home. I eventually began abusing my prescription to get by in community college and my pert time job at the time and it accelerated a drinking problem as a solution to come down from often chaotic days. I'm glad meds have helped you so much, but I think you owe a lot of credit to your parents for beign so proactive with your disgnosis and fighting ruthlessly to get you the educational assistance you needed. learning coping mechanisms to operate in the real world are an important prerequesite to a successful medication strategy otherwise it's so easy to accidentally focus on the wrong thing for 8 hours.
nearly all my success is thanks to supportive parents, you're absolutely right. I'm sorry you had a much harder time of it.
Have you heard the expression "pills don't replace skills"? It sounds like what you're saying - they're not magic, they help you build yourself up, but the work is for us to do, and that's hard
@@NoBoilerplate I had tolerance problems too. If you haven't yet, you will. For me, the meds seemed like magic at first, but then the effects tapered off. Your doctor will increase your dosage. Then you'll get more side effects. It can be a delicate line to walk. Eventually the side effects got bad enough that I was a nervous wreck in school. I quit taking my meds as a teenager. I struggled for a year or two but managed to get my grades back up, only to struggle again in college for a little while before improving there too. I'm now out of college, but I'm struggling to get a job. Hopefully this is just another hurdle. I really like the way you talked about inventing coping mechanisms for your everyday life -- I think this is something I did unconsciously, and didn't really notice until now. Medication is a tool to take advantage of, and I think I shied away from it too quickly after my bad experience in adolescence. But I also don't think I can ever fully rely on it. I will still have to work through issues that the average person doesn't have to face, and you probably will to.
@@kasai1575 Sorry you had a bad experience, I perhaps dodged that by taking meds as an adult, where I'm much more in control of my environment, food, sleep etc. Headaches are cured for me with tight control of my water intake, for instance.
One big thing, if you took meds before 2015, is that there are BETTER ones on the market now, I take Elvanse (Vyvanse) which was approved in 2015, and it's SUPER mild, it's a slow-release over 12-18 hours. I took 50mg last week, and will take 70mg this week (I'm re-titrating since having to stop due to the shortage last month).
So MAYBE if you want to try meds again, you could talk to your Dr about one of the modern slower ones (or try different ones you didn't last time, there's loads!)
Of course, we don't NEED meds. I am lucky to find one that works for me (for now, thank you for your experience with tolerance, I'll take regular breaks to help there). But the pills aren't magic, it's up to US to use the temporary space they give us to build up our coping mechanisms more. I obviously have had a really good experience so far with the meds, but my long-term goal is to become so well-disciplined that I don't need them forever.
Did you see my coping mechanisms video? A few ideas in there perhaps! th-cam.com/video/XUZ9VATeF_4/w-d-xo.html
@@NoBoilerplate Thank you for your detailed response! I was originally on Concerta, which at the time was a slow-release pill. Then a couple years later the prescription changed (companies trying to cut costs) and it became a dissolvable tablet. This was much less effective because the dose would hit me like a truck by noon, then wear off in the evening. I switched to Vyvanse, but at the time it was also just a dissolvable tablet, not a slow release. It still helped my productivity, but I would get really wired in the middle of the day and study math instead of socializing with people. Eventually it wasn't really helping my productivity at all, and I'd get pretty bad side effects -- shakes, anxiety, etc. Not worth it for me. Long-term over-reliance was also a concern, and it sounds like you recognize that. I'd rather have the meds for when I really need them, and have my environment set up so I can mostly function without them. As a kid, I needed my meds to function, and my grades suffered heavily when I stopped taking them.
From what you said, it sounds like a lot has changed in the past few years, and it seems you've really benefited from modern medication. I think I'll look more into the options nowadays and see if I can find something that works for me. Thanks for the info!
I will also give that coping mechanisms video a look -- hopefully it'll help me with where I'm at now. Thanks!
Unfortunately enough, I am ashamed to admit that I used to be one of those reinforcing a little bit the stigma around ADHD, categorising it into more of a sort of laziness for pushing towards achieving a mental goal. I am starting to see it more and more as an actual problem and these kind of videos are really helpful in making us "right-handed" brains understand you guys more. Cheers for the educational moment 👌
I think many people (myself included) might have had a phase like that, the important thing is we learned when presented with new information and changed our minds :-)
I love this video, thank you. I sought treatment but ADHD-360 fumbled my diagnosis, and let me slip through the cracks. I got the diagnosis but they never followed up, by the time I reached out by myself to seek the treatment that they told me about following the diagnosis, they said I'd have to start again, pay more and sit the whole thing over. They just never got in touch. Terrible experience, so I've just been free-wheeling it ever since, it was just too much hasstle to get myself into the state of mind again given it was such a long process the first time round.
I am infact a left handed, creativing field working, ADHDer. Thanks for the wonderful insights.
Thank you for telling your story, that sounds extremely frustrating.
This kind of 'falling through the cracks' story I read all too often. It happened to my wife and several friends, mostly with adhd healthcare providers but also with other kinds too.
I recognise this oppositional defiance behaviour in myself, and I have had to build coping mechanisms to stop me cutting my nose to spite my face, in these cases.
One of the ways I do this is to remind myself that faceless organisations are staffed by a rotating motley crew of variously-competent and universally-underpaid people, people who make mistakes just as I do.
No-one cares more about our health than ourselves. Their mistake didn't affect them at all, it affected you very badly. Unfair? Yes, but irrelevant. There is no karma or retribution to be had here, I urge you to put it in the past and put yourself first.
# I also have concrete advice, rather than platitudes:
adhd360 recently (like this WEEK) re-opened their nhs right-to-choose pathway. You can get treatment from them without paying any more, and if you like, you can do it out of spite:
www.adhd-360.com/right-to-choose/
8 weeks wait they had on Tuesday of this week.
If you don't want anything to do with them any more, a position I sympathise with, don't pack the whole thing in - you are diagnosed with ADHD, you need help!
Psychiatry UK have also recently re-opened their RTC. I understand they're slightly slower than adhd360, at perhaps 12 weeks on Tuesday:
psychiatry-uk.com/right-to-choose/
There's very likely more options than these, and I urge you to find them.
A month or two of faff and delay and a few missteps are a rounding error when looked at across our whole lives. The first best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago, the second-best time is right now.
Good luck! :-)
@@NoBoilerplate
A kind and thoughtful response of which I am taken aback. Thank you for taking the time to respond so meticulously and thoroughly. I found your channel through your conversations on coding and rust, and I watched them all out of an ADHD rabbit holing interest. I stayed for your content style and the way you present it...this is just another example of why TH-cam as a platform, isn't the entity itself but the creators within it. Wherever your content is presented, I shall follow, because of how you are and they way you engage with people.
I will look into these options, thank you again. Keep creating, your content is awesome, as are you.
C x
@@CraigHoward Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm here to educate, it'd be strange for that to stop when the video does.
I'm excited for you, the meds are life changing 🙂
You have achived so much from three reasons: environment (parents), mixin of autism (it balances with adhd somewhat) and extraordinary smartnes (IQ) wich greatly helped with masking and coping.
I had less luck, i get only some smartness but was born in laging country in times when few people ever know about this kind of neurodivergency, in result i managed to pass as "capable but lazy" but this over years left deep scars on my psychological health.
Are you from Poland, by any chance? “Capable but lazy” is exactly the way I was described throughout most of my formative years.
@@Qqq21387 Tak ;) "zdolny ale leniwy" czy "zdolny leń" ? I didn't know that this characterization is so specific 🤯
omg what just happened, Polish mind reading!
AK, I'm sorry you've not got access to the advantages I have, that is unfair. I wonder if I can help with some research I've done on coping mechanisms, have you seen my video?
th-cam.com/video/XUZ9VATeF_4/w-d-xo.html
18 tips that really help me, maybe some can help you?
@@NoBoilerplate I watched many of your videos, mostly about programming but this one not yet. Most of the time I deny myself this topic (ADHD) because it such so "rabitt hole" to me and my brain and my "normal life" performance is much affected negatively from hyperfixation also soon greif on life wich already sliped between my fingers kicks in...
Ah yes, I started watching it, but denied after while after realising what is really about 😊 I thought then that declaring bankruptcy will be hard for me. I developed some kind of stupid kind of ambition that if "normals can do it then hold my beer" 😂 to cover even more stupid shame...
Thanks 🙂 I didn't write it in negative sense, to lower your success or something rather like an "scientific observation" 😉
Such help was impossible because even in most developed countries knowledge was poor when I was a child... Also in my environment I was coping to good to gain attention and even if, problems were attached to my parrents divorce (wich was very unusual event in those times and place)...
I am so glad i got this in my recommended because i have wanted a mentor for the past 6-7 years and finally there is someone who says things which align with my perspective of life. Although mentorship is much more but ill take what i can get. Thank you
I'm so glad the video was helpful, do check out my "coping mechanisms" video too, for similar advice!
As a fellow ADHDer, you made a great video! It’s funny, that jobs like being a TH-camr is well suited for someone with ADHD.
I'm not sure that's exactly right: I think a job like paramedic might be 'well suited' for ADHD - I thrive in constant emergencies XD
Though youtuber is certainly the more comfortable job, I have no pressure to do anything, which is a double-edged sword...
This video is really comprehensive
I think it will help a lot of people understand how to deal with ADHD
Thank you, I do hope so too!
@@NoBoilerplate oh wow the best rust programmer replied
@@further_rush5138 you're too kind, I'm certainly not, I'm advanced intermediate at most! 🙂
The best Rust programmer I know is fasterthanli.me
@@NoBoilerplate I've seen his blog before
You should do a video on what makes someone the best programmer
I've been diagnosed with autism for years, but never really thought about adhd, probably due to the rigid structure of my life hiding it like you mentioned, but everything you mentioned here is super relatable to me, so you've got me researching now, thank you for the help :)
I believe autism can mask adhd (and the other way round!) you'll find lots of videos of advice, try "Audhd" as a keyword!
@@NoBoilerplate that makes a lot of sense, thank you!
Its incredible how closely this resembles my own life - I started vyvanse a week and a half ago and already have seen a noticeable difference. Thank you for sharing this!
Amazing!
For me, probably (as I try to assess right now, because as ADHD goes, I have poor estimates) the greatest problems to tackle ADHD (which isn’t yet official-I just finally connected the dots a year-ish ago) are:
- it wasn’t diagnosed in childhood;
- my relatives are hard to make understand what’s happening with my brain and that it was always that way (at least all the freshly-remembered scenes of the long past do give me pretty strong clues it was!);
- I lack local friends and any relations whatsoever with people (though I have plenty of long-distance ones, which can’t give me what local friends would make available);
- I also didn’t come to have any job and I fell out of my prior higher education becuase I couldn’t take it anymore;
- so my relatives like to come at me out of the blue asking for help in a great variety of topics which aren’t usually where my heart is at, even when I know how to do the stuff well-or better than they can, really, so that’s why; and it disrupts my day, obviously, and I have all those thoughts how to tell them again or what;
- I have other illnesses like congenital optic atrophy (plus nearsightedness and amblyopy) and I probably have a hint of avoidant personality disorder or a similar one; and I’m a bit short which would be probably okay without all this stuff but here it compounds. I hate sleeves in clothing because they’re usually longer than I’m comfortable with because my palms tend to be sweaty, and I feel all these distracting uncomfortable sensations, and grrrh. And other things like this;
- also then I lack money to really tackle the medical stuff once and for all (well, for the respective definition of that), including having my ADHD diagnosed officially to have meds; and usually it’s better for me to be escorted to new places because ADHD + nearsightedness + avoidance/insecurities shit makes for an explosively paralysing combination. But then I need to make myself and others believe that this action is necessary at all and find the time! That’s awful.
I mean, it’s all interlocked. On top of that, it’s the fucking R-a country where I live in (hint: not Rwanda). I mean, it’s triply harder to get good things done in here. There were hardly any job orientation programs or social things to help youth in various ways. So I fell hard and sit on my ass now for years.
IDK what I wanted by writing this list but maybe something good will happen, eh? I tend to hope that I keep overlook something, an avenue I wasn’t aware of, to be the last straw to be able to make something of these cards but yet alas.
Hey Tris,
I’m underage and I have ADHD, which most often affects my executive functioning. This has made tasks like homework much harder for me and I’ve had to learn how to adapt over time to function at my expected level despite my disability - and I’m still learning lots about my condition. I’ve had very extreme experiences with hyperfixations, usually leading to me taking an intense interest in some topic or creative project before burning out for years.
This was a great video covering the topic, and I’m a big fan of your other videos as well. I appreciate your commitment to clean, uncluttered, genuinely useful videos, and you’ve helped me find interesting tools in my own life like Obsidian. As an aspiring content creator myself, I hope I can one day match this level of professionalism and value in my own work. Thanks again, my subscription has been well worth it.
You already sound like you're on the right path. It's a long road, but knowing you have work to do is huge, well done :-)
If you're going to be a content creator, my advice is that you'll never know what will work for you, so learn the basics of EVERYTHING: Learn piano, music composition, creative writing, poetry, how to speak and argue well. You might even realise why they're teaching some of this at school! But talk to a teacher/professor directly, they'll be delighted to help a curious student. If they're not, ask the next one.
Come ask for advice over on my discord, we've got #programming, #mental-health, #obsidian and way more, and a friendly group of people!
“And if you live in a developed country it’s free” lmao
I discovered your channel through your obsidian video 7 months ago, at that point it felt like a paradigm shift and now I document my day to day life using obsidian constantly. I saw this video the day it came out in November and it's been on my mind since then. I finally went to my doctor and got a diagnosis, and tomorrow will be my first dose of Adderall XR. Im excited, I really hope this stuff can help me. You were the first person that made me consider even the possiblity of having a mental issue like this, but looking back at my life now it makes sense. Thanks Tris, I enjoy every video you put out
mistake! I actually found you through the polyphasic sleep video, every video since then has been so interesting to me that it feels like the first time every time
thank you so much! I'm delighted to hear of your diagnosis, congrats. I hope the meds are helping, there are different options to try out if they don't agree with you, I take Vyvanse, but some of my friends prefer reuptake inhibitors, it seems pretty random, brain chemistry is incomprehensible!
Whatever med vibes with you, even if that's nothing, the hard work is still up to us to use the space they give us to un-fuck our habits and build better ones. Good luck!
I'm left handed and got adhd and I relate so much to this. I'm also a web developer and I just became lead developer and I hated working from home because I wanted to but just couldn't stop distracting myself. I'm currently waiting to get meds and I can't wait to finally be able to do what I want to instead of it all being in my head but unable to ever execute it. Thank you so much for making this and making me feel understood. And it's a bit creepy how much we match stories it's like I'm hearing you narrate my own life.
While you're waiting, you can experiment with figuring out your own coping mechanisms - the pills won't obviate the need to build them, they'll just make it a little easier. Start now! th-cam.com/video/XUZ9VATeF_4/w-d-xo.html
Absolutely gorgeous video mate, also the sheer longing I felt in my heart when I heard "I wish this quiet focus for everyone".
Thank you, It's my biggest video yet, I just want to shout about this so everyone knows!
@@NoBoilerplate You're a legend 💕💕
I am left-handed and also have ADHD.
Oof, rough Brother I just have ADHD. I can only imagine 😅
me too ! Leftie and adhd
I was diagnosed with ADHD less than a month ago. I'm still going back and forth on whether to try medication, my coping mechanisms seem to work well enough (now that I finally developed them, only 15 years later than I really should have). I'm going to start CBT soon and see what the doctor thinks as I talk it through her, but it was really helpful to hear this perspective. Thank you so much for sharing it.
My pleasure, and congrats on getting diagnosed. Names are powerful :-)
My brand of adhd fits the new "limbic adhd" pattern that's getting attention. The sleep issues were existent from a very young age. It's usually treated with antidepressants (NDRIs instead of SSRIs). But, my experience has been much the same as yours! I do get some anxiety that i didn't get before (outside of procrastination crunch time panic), but it's mostly manageable for me, and with dealing with!
oh interesting! That must be one of the newer models that are being developed - I imagine the old dopamine model will be replaced soon. SCIENCE!
I needed this video, and after I think almost 2 years of procrastination to get a diagnosis, I think this is my tipping point. Thank you for hitting the nail on the head as always.
I'm excited for you!
Great video. Learned a lot…
I think I am neurotypical but I appreciate this video a lot because I didn’t know any of this.
i love the way you explain everything, even in lost terminal things just click in my head in ways it has never before. thank you for everything
You're very welcome! Funny story, growing up I wanted to be a teacher, and my Dad, a life-long primary teacher, said "there's no money in it Tris, try being a software engineer, and you can teach in your spare time!" now look at me :-D
@@NoBoilerplate that worked out pretty well :D
The timing of this video! three days ago i went to my GP to get myself checked out for ADHD. Forgetfulness, not coming on time, getting distracted during social interactions are one of the many things i struggle with. I will have a full test in a few weeks. Although, i might not follow through due to costs ;(.
Even a diagnosis without medicine is useful - names have power, and you can stop self-doubting and so on.
You mention GP, are you in the UK? my meds cost 100/month, which is grim, but it's not forever, private providers pass you back to the NHS after a year and you pay your normal nhs prescription rate after then.
I consider this first year an 'up front' cost for the rest of my life, and I'm extremely lucky to be able to pay it. Good luck friend!
If you’re in Australia (like me) and your diagnosis is declared retrospectively, you will get your meds on the PBS. Mine wasn’t originally and they were about $120AUD per month, but with the retrospective diagnosis they dropped to $30. Stick it out if you can, it might just be the best thing you’ve ever done for yourself.
@@NoBoilerplate I'm in the Netherlands. insurance will cover my meds, but getting the official diagnosis is the hard part. My deductible of my health insurance is about 850€ and the testing+diagnosis will probably consume it all. I can get a new insurance plan next year with which is probably cheaper to get tested. Right now I'm a university student with not a lot to spare...
@@meinteybergen4617 oof that's quite a lot. Even before diagnosis, there's lots of great advice out there, like my fav ADHD youtuber, Jessica from H2ADHD th-cam.com/video/51pOP8-wURk/w-d-xo.html
You're a massive inspiration. I had seen some of your rust videos before when the algorithm caught me attempting to learn how to code; though only till recently had I started exploring your videos on your other topics. Such as the use of Obsidian, this wonderful video and also on polyphasic sleep.
I have ADD, my country recognizes both variants (H) and no H, and I'm medicated accordingly very recently. The content you put out has not only let me attempt to pursue what I want to do, that being programming, but also exactly how to do it in a framework of a non neurotypical brain. I can't thank you enough!
Thank you so much for saying so, my goal is to help as many folks as I can!
I went off my adhd meds about 10 years ago because I just couldn’t afford them. My doctor would only write the prescription for one month at a time so every month I would have to use a vacation day to go for an in office visit that cost $250 just for him to write me a refill. Then the meds he prescribed didn’t have a generic alternative so they were $300 a month. None of that was covered by my insurance, and I was already struggling to get by on nearly minimum wage. At some point I just kinda gave up and went off the meds.
I'm so sorry you're trapped in such a system. I hope you can find a way to get the meds again, but even if you can't, knowing you have ADHD is powerful, and coping mechanisms can still be built, albeit you'll find it more difficult.
You can succeed, you have no choice! :-)
The slide at 15:17 made me cry. Thank you for making these videos and sharing your experiences.
This video convinced me to make an appointment this monday.
You'll never regret it, good for you!
I've long suspected that I'm on the spectrum but never had a formal diagnosis. I have always had sensory and communication difficulties, OCD, anxiety and stimming behaviours long before I ever knew what they were. Very recently my wife had a conversation with my dad while I wasn't there and he admitted he and my mum had suspected I may be autistic when I was a child but never did anything about it. Their approach instead of getting me help was to guilt me for my difficulties and tell me to "stop being antisocial.". It makes me wonder how different things might have been with supportive parents.
I truely was so, so lucky, I'm sorry it wasn't the same for you.
However, as they say: The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago, the second-best time is right now. :-)
hard agree. i was diagnosed and medicated within the last year and it's been absolutely transformative. expensive, here in the US, but worth it. wish i could have been medicated during college, i could have learned and improved so much more
mood
I never knew I had ADHD as until I went to uni. I'm using went generally since I stayed home and was stuck in my room since I graduated school in the spring of 2020... As you can imagine I did not do well with university. Was doing chemistry and physics at the time but after 2 years of not really knowing what to do i picked up coding again and started my degree in ICT and more specifically software engineering. My ADHD is fairly mild in comparison to a lot of others but it still hits me in the worst ways especially my at time lack of attention. But thats where ive found comfort in programming.
Ive never taken medication and tbh ive never considered it since for me its kinda just been something that I live with.
The option's there, if you need it.
I feel you completely, at this point my ADHD is practically just a part of me, a part that I have a love-hate relationship with
I’m brought to tears. I think I really needed to hear this. Thank you.
I’m a new CS graduate looking to get into web dev and feeling lost trying to get into the market with no guidance.
The part about your parents really struck me. My parents were working class and denied me ever having a diagnosis growing up. As you said, they thought adhd was a fad, and I was just a trouble maker that would grow out of it.
As a 16 year old teen I took it upon myself to get tested and was medicated for adhd (the appointment was quick, my symptoms were obvious).
Years off and on meds, I find myself working on my resume from home. Without medication I feel as though wouldn’t be able to half the stuff I get done in a day.
Thank you for this video. It was assuring the best way possible.
And as someone who has struggled with imposter syndrome when it comes to my diagnosis, the line, ”There’s no withdrawal symptoms besides your ADHD symptoms returning”, is something I think I’ll have to write on mirror. It is beautiful and i can only imagine how many people need to hear that.
It's your brain, you can be as unproductive as you like to relax, and don't let anyone tell you different!
I'm lefty and ADHD. Soooooooooo
Edit: My lefthandedness was so obvious that I consciously knew about it and actively worked around living in a right handed world as early as five years old. In retrospect, my ADHD was obvious as well but I had no concept of that at the time. Turns out it's much harder to adapt, too.
This was wildly similar to my experience.
The key distinctions were the lack of a childhood diagnosis, and that the cracks in my coping mechanisms started forming in 2019 when I was given management responsibilities at my web-dev job. Going from receiving structured, bite-sized tasks to being the one creating them and setting up that structure for others was an overwhelming challenge.
I was struggling mightily to keep up, and then COVID quarantine happened and I completely fell apart. Transitioning away from management helped, but it wasn't until this year when I started hearing & identifying with ADHD stories that I realized there might be something larger at play.
Pursuing treatment has been game-changing, and while I'm still on my journey and finding the right balance, I feel like I understand myself far better than I ever have.
Thanks for this video! It was similar content on TH-cam that got me to consider seeking ADHD treatment, and it's made an enormous difference in my life. I'm sure this will do the same for others.
Thank you for sharing your story, my hope is that folks will hear my experience and have an awakening, just like you (and I!) have had :-)
00:02 Left-handed individuals face challenges in a right-handed world.
02:07 Left-handedness and ADHD required a shift in attitude to be understood and supported.
04:14 ADHD is a classification of symptoms that respond to common treatment
06:28 People with ADHD are not intentionally disruptive, but often engage in dopamine rewarding behaviors
08:35 Working from home has exposed the flaws in traditional office-based work systems.
10:39 ADHD and working from home had different effects on individuals.
12:37 ADHD medication can work wonders if you are being affected by the same dopamine imbalance as affects me.
14:37 The side effects of ADHD medication include initial headaches and euphoria.
16:37 Many medicine options available for ADHD treatment
18:27 Don't let the historical requirement put you off, if you have ADHD today, you very likely had it as a child.
Crafted by Merlin AI.
This is such a great video, i've actually sent it to a lot of people this morning because it far easier than trying to articulate myself. Love the content.
That's so kind, thanks for sharing!!
I'm not sure if you've ever had this issue, but with my meds I've definitely felt a curb in hunger. I think the euphoria effect also acts as a ghrelin inhibitor.
oh I forgot to put that in the video! Yes, slightly less appetite, which could either be the meds directly, or a side-effect of not needing the dopamine hit of constant snacks!
Appetite suppression is a well-known side effect of stimulant medication. Dopamine plays a large role in hunger.
@@NoBoilerplate Odd. My meds personally remove my appetite completely. Though I also have a much higher dosage (20mg immediate release, twice a day) and was diagnosed as a 10yo kid due to sheer ADHD severity, so I suppose that would make a difference.
I'm autistic & have ADHD, and I wanted to thank you for sharing your experience! I find that this combination specifically is less talked about online, so I'm always happy to hear others share their own experiences with it. It helps a lot to hear what's worked and what hasn't for others!
Edit: btw I was on ADHD meds for a year and a half, and after stopping the meds due to a possible side effect, I realized the meds actually helped my brain grow and learn how to direct attention better. The thoughts in my brain don't yell and compete for my attention anymore. I'm able to do things more, even if not necessarily exactly as much as I did when I was on meds. ADHD meds aren't this scary, "bad" thing that creates dependency. You can, as many people with ADHD do, find out that after a while you've built up the necessary coping mechanisms as well as created new pathways in your brain that you don't need them anymore. I'm in my mid-20s, and until I took meds I had no idea thoughts could be anything but loud, zooming, and incredibly annoying to deal with when trying to sleep. Now I welcome my thoughts happily, even if I get them in bed, because I can fall asleep WITH them.
wonderful to hear! Yes, our combined diagnoses are sometimes called AuDHD, you should be able to find some forums and groups by searching on that term :-)
This is a great video.
I don't know if I have adhd or anything like that. I have struggled to get almost anything done for as long as I remember. Recently I learned about a classmate of mine who my friend told me is a bigger "procrastinator" than I am. I jokingly said I should then work with her, so we both get work done. Another friend of mine (who is diagnosed with adhd) said "ha, you probably don't want to put two people who have adhd together lol". Another friend once told me that I should meet this cool person, and that she had executive disorder "too". I didnt know what that meant. I don't know if I have adhd. Once, a professor forced me to consult with a psychologist on our campus. I started meeting with her weekly. After a year, I stopped seeing her for a semester (I was abroad). I really struggled. Not that I found the classes difficult, I just couldn't get anything done. Another professor there told me that I should get help. I procrastinated on geting help too. After the semester, he gave me more time to finish the projects and insisted that I get help. I reached out to the psychologist that I was seeing earlier. I talked to her, and she said "nothing seems to be working. What I want you to do is to go see a psychiatrist, and see if there's any medications that could help you" and she gave me a list of hospitals I could go to. I was afraid to tell my parents. They expect me to get straight A's, and they think im just dumb when I dont (which was all the time except my freshman year). They don't know anything about mental health, and they don't want to believe that stuff either. one day I just tried to slip that I should meet with a psychiatrist into a conversation with my mom, and that didn't go well. My parents blamed it all on that "hard" class I took, and that because I was too stupid to do well and that it made me "depressed" and that it also affected me in my other class. They forcefully made me agree that medcation is terrible and that I should never look to that. this was months ago. I havent met with anyone who could help me since then. i'm in my last undergrad year and still struggling. It's just hard to see friends who struggled just as much as I do a year or two ago, who are now doing well beause they got "help". I dont know if I have adhd. I probably don't. but it hurts to not know.
Thank you for sharing your story. There are many occasions in life where we are generally encouraged to see a doctor, even if our parent's disagree , I think this is one of them.
Words are powerful, and a diagnosis (even if you don't take meds), can be such a boost to your self-confidence: You're not 'stupid' (or whatever unkind labels we give ourselves) - you (may) have ADHD.
Talk to your friends, and if you would like to, chat in #mental-health on my discord server, there's lots of really nice people there :-)
I saw a video the other day talking about what ADHD should be called: SAVE (Dopamine Attention Variability Executive-Dysfunction) which just makes so much more sense to me.
There is another thing I've seen proposed as a term for ADHD: "Time Blindness." (It's not perfect, but from what I can tell, ADHD _does_ have significant effects on one's perception of time, and many symptoms can be explained as resulting from that.)
I don't have the patience for this video.
😂
2x time
Imagine how I feel, I had to make it 😅
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I can't understand the struggles, but I very much appreciate you talking about these issues and your solutions to them.
Thank you, telling our stories in solidarity and raising awareness is important, and I'm delighted with the response from folks!
You somehow manage to explain stuff in a way thats both specific and deatailed yet it can be applied more generally
Thank you for taking about these topics. I always look forward to your videos, they definitely strike a chord with me. Hearing about other people's experiences helps me understand my own a little better, with a different perspective.
Thank you for saying so, that's exactly what I hoped for with this video :-)
Left handed and ADHD.
do they cancel out each other ?
PLEASE TELL ME AM NORMAL AND FUNCTIONAL
I have bad news XD
I have felt for sometime that a lot of your way of describing and seeing the things that interest you are so aligned with how I always saw the world. That's why I subscribed to your channel after a neovim tutorial. Now you post this. I have been diagnosed way back in the 90s too and the best thing you could have done is speak openly about it here and share your insights. Your channel is a light-post for how good and powerful TH-cam can be. Keep doing your thing.
Thank you so much, that's EXACTLY what I hoped to do: speak plainly and clearly about my condition for others to learn
"If your body doesn't make the chemicals you want store bought is fine"
As a trans person, this hits home Very F--ing hard. Thank you
I nearly had a full-screen trans flag on the 'persecuting' slide, but it was a bit too much! Stay amazing
Thank youuuuuuu! I've been intending to get my diagnosis this whole year. But tips such as your are super valuable in getting me to stop procrastinating it. It'll work eventually, I'm sure.
Good luck friend, you'll wish you did it sooner!