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100% justified to use daycare! (Not that you need anyone’s justification 💕) you’re a business owner and have several streams of income that consume your time. Getting some help with part-time daycare like you said will give you guys the opportunity to have more quality time with baby. Remember you are only human, and people with traditional part-time or full time jobs still need help with childcare. You’re doing great, and at the end of the day only you and Hamish’s opinions matter. ❤
I believe money provides more stability and comfort, but not happiness. And as for 'complaining' life can kick you in the kidney 3 times in one week regardless of what number your bank account says. Social media is the epitome of fake for 99.9% of people. Only the best, most polished, is shown. You being real is the main reason I still watch you after so long. You're no bullshit, no fluff. I appreciate the hell out of it. Bitch when you need to. We are all human, having human experiences, trying to navigate through this world. 💜💜
So true x
Anyone who’s watched your journey knows you weren’t handed success, handed money, handed comfort. You started back when TH-cam wasn’t even popular and it wasn’t income and pushed along and grew and thrived. Don’t worry about the jealousy. Your emotions are valid, especially still being a “new” mum you have the right to offload some thoughts and feelings. You come across real then and we can relate 🙌🏽
Daycare is so great for them socially. Tbh it made me feel less guilty because I didn't want to do the whole mother's group, playgroup thing so I knew he would be getting those social skills at daycare
& honestly New Zealand is viewed as having some of the best in the world. Their early years programming is some of what we studied in school
And those playgroups and mum groups can be so clicky and boring…
Daycare is a great idea! It helps with social skills aswell, we put our eldest into daycare when he was almost 2 and it’s helped him loads as he was born just before lockdown happened, and we need to normalise parents not being with their children 24/7, you need to work/ or just need a break it doesn’t make you a bad parent it’s just being a normal one xx
Your skin is soooo clear and glowyy. I hope one day you will find the peace to not care about getting judgements from other people. Any decisions you made should always be about you family first. I too used to think that I was not good enough, because I didn’t stop working and be a full time mom to my son. But seeing him learning so much from daycare, and we spent so much time on weekends and after nursery, it was really an eye opening experience. I could never hv the skills to teach my son like what his teacher teached at nursery. And I felt more focused to play with him when I’m no longer feel overwhelmed to have a time for myself.
Love watching your videos before bed! So relaxing, like hanging out with a friend. 💕
Same, almost everytime😅
Shan, regardless of circumstances (working mum or stay at home mum) childcare has so many benefits for both children and parents.
It’s essential for so many things. Separation anxiety, social development etc
You don’t need to justify it to anyone.
Exactly the same for parents that choose not to use childcare. Their decisions and their reasons are no body else’s business, they don’t need to justify it to anyone else either.
You do what works best for you and your family! ❤
You raise your child how you want to. Just like everyone else will raise their child how they want to.
FYI, sounds like you’re doing such an amazing job! 🥰
Shan- watching your videos brings me so much unadulterated JOY. I love “our” girl talks, I love getting inspired not only by your creativity but by who you are, out in this batshit crazy world. So proud of your success both on your personal and professional life- you got this mama. And you’re rocking it.
Day care is amazing for children, is better for your child to socialize and even if he does get ill is better to catch it now as a baby, than when he is an adult. As for 'complaining' everyone has struggles and things that stress them out, but sharing it can help. It makes you more reliable which is why I have watched you for so long. Love from London xx
I’m pretty sure I’ll always love you!! You are intelligent, compassionate, funny, and hardworking. It has been so inspiring watching you throughout your journey.
Deciding to put your baby in Daycare part time is a healthy parent decision. Most people have some kind of daycare service for their kiddos when they’re at work, you just so happen to work from home. I think that it’ll be great for him to be around other babies too.
Omg Shan fair enough. I've been watching you since like 2011 or 2012 and I've always thought you are the most hard-working youtuber/person ever. You have not only this channel, your vlog channel, multiple businesses, etc and you still put up multiple videos a week here without fail. And now being a mum, it's completely fair enough that you'd be overwhelmed. I don't have any kids but i can only imagine that I'd look into part-time daycare too if i were in your situation to help make things easier. Porter is so lucky to have such an amazing mum like you and I'm so glad that you're still doing youtube all these years ❤️ i can watch them for hours, you're my fave youtuber by far! xo
Daycare is a great idea, its great for his development and its great for u and Hamish, i also think it’s crucial for when he goes to school so cuts down any separation anxiety he may have, dont judge urself so much coz ur both clearly doing an excellent job. Xxx
Finding work/life balance is important! Do what you feel is best for your family!!
Dont question what you are doing because you are a great mom! Anybody who does not think that they can just kiss your bum! You are all very busy and running companies, running a house, being parents to Porter. That is a lot more than most people have to handle. I will tell you that I personally have my own business as well now but while my son was little I had to go to an office every day and I still have feelings that I missed so much of him growing up. However, he does not feel that way at all and he is now 28. I have never heard you ever say poor me and complain. You are a new mom, you own businesses, yuo have a new house and a lot of responsibility. You are great Shannon, you really are!
I'm living for the rants :P Did you guys manage to find an organiser for your pantry / Scullery? Have you and Hamish talked about a Nanny?
I'm a big advocate for daycare, I grew up with older siblings, during the day as the youngest I was alone a lot while they were at school and I was quite lonely and it made me quite isolated in nature. I think having that experience with other children helps them build confidence and establish boundaries early on.
I just want to say - I’m watching this as I’m getting ready, for work this morning! My 2 year old goes to preschool full time while my husband and I work. I’m such an advocate for preschool, it’s fantastic for them! Do what you need to Shan, don’t worry about people judging you (: I have a mortgage to pay for I have to work as much as I do, the Mum guilt is real, but being able to provide a good life for my daughter and a roof over our heads, is all that matters ❤
"Money makes problem-solving easier, doesn't make problems go away" That is so true. My partner and I live a pretty modest life on average incomes in Australia, don't own property, etc and yes some people have it worse but that doesn't invalidate my problems. Just because your problems are different from mine doesn't make them invalid. I've been watching you for many years now Shannon and I think you're one of the most humble "influencers" out there.
Shan, I’ve been watching you for years at this point, and you’ve brought so much comfort to my life, and you do provide great advice! Seeing you become a mommy is so amazing 🥲 and there is nothing wrong with daycare! No matter what there will always be someone who has something to say, but you got this girl you know what’s best for your family! 💕 have a lovely day!
You do you, Shannon. No one walks in your shoes and you know best what‘s good for you! Also, I love how you acknowledge the benefits of having money. I believe that it won‘t ever give you the same fulfilled happiness as people and experiences and memories do, but as you said, it‘s an essential ressource in life that helps you with existential matters which is crucial for happiness for sure.
Shannon as a NZ qualified early childhood teacher and mum I recommend you look into "the first 1000 days" and the brain wave trust. It talks about the research into the importance of infants being at home with a parent or caregiver in their own home environment.
If you decide to go down the daycare route. In home care is far more baby friendly.
Okay, this i why i’ve been following and watching you for 10+ years, you are so sweet and considerate and beautiful and most importantly REAL, honest, not selling some plastic doll barbie girl perfect in every second planed life, not that you can’t, but you choose to be real to be you, and i LOVEEE you for that, your lifestyle and way of living 🤍🤍 aaandd your baby is sooo cuteeee 🥰🥰 you are doing an amazing job, if sure. Sending lots of love and support ❤❤ and Thank you 🤍
I absolutely agree about the money thing. It definitely helps to know you have it instead of wondering how you are going to pay bills or whatever..
As you live in Palmy like me, I highly recommend in-home child care such as Porse. I was so anxious about larger daycare settings especially when they’re still babies. My baby loves his carer, she takes care of 3 other under-5 children so he is still learning those important social skills, but he gets more one-on-one care xx
I think you’re totally doing the right thing with Porter. As you say it will be so good for him. You don’t want a child that clings to your leg, and won’t let you out his sight. It’s good for them to have other people to interact with. Plus as you say just because you work from home doesn’t mean you have to watch your child at the same time. My company has been working from home since Pandemic and they make a point of saying we need to be working and that we need to arrange childcare just like we would if working in the office. You’re doing great with Porter. Don’t worry what others say. ❤❤ xx
I was fortunate to have my Mom watch my kids. I've always worked full time. My kids are 28 & 23, and they're still my babies. Parenting is the hardest, most rewarding & heartbreaking thing - just do your best - none of us is perfect. You're doing well Shannon ❤️
You do what works for you and your family. The right people will respect your decisions
I appreciate when you complain actually, because it’s really no one else’s business but you’d like to vent, which is NORMAL! Your feelings are valid ❤ positivity only people…it’s 2023
Your reasonings are completely valid and spot on. Daycare is as you said, a way for you to completely focus on work as well as spend quality time with your baby. Much better than spared moments when you can (In my opinion). If you were home with him constantly he wouldn't have as many opportunities to socialise, and it can often lead to seperation issues (which can be a nightmare when starting school!). Your decisions are clearly based on your child's needs and happiness 😊. And also don't feel bad for voicing your problems and worries. There are always people who are worse off, who have less than someone else, everyone's problems are valid 💜
You are such a a REAL woman 👸🏼 love watching your videos for that reason
Never feel guilty for the choices you make in the best interests of your family. We know you're a fantastic mum and do everything for Porter 💜 I put my son in daycare a few hours a week from 9 months old so I could have time to run errands and do some "me" stuff and it was a great thing for both of us. I wasn't even working. He loved playing with other babies and I felt like I could catch my breath and overall be a better mum. I had a midwife tell me "happy mama, happy baby" and it's so right.
Thank you for being so vulnerable… I hate to know how mean people can be. But you’re a human too just like all the rest of us. That doesn’t mean your feelings aren’t valid! You’re the best Shan 🥰❤️
I don’t have kids myself but have friends who do. One of them is a stay at home mum and has sent her kids to daycare mainly so she had a day or two to herself where she could get stuff done. Also it’s good for them to socialise as well.
You can complain all you want, Shan. You are exactly right, YOU ARE A PERSON TOO. You are inspiring to me and I hope all the best for you and your family.
Shan really is a breath of fresh air! A pure gold heart!❤️ so glad this is your job because if it wasn’t we all would be so unfortunate to not know and love you
My main worry was someone mistreating my kids, because of my own upbringing, i get nervous with new people around my kids, I don't know what id do if someone hurt my kids! But yeah, the teachers/carers at my kids kindys were sooo nice and my kids always were excited about going back, so that's when I knew they were safe ❤️
I also work from home and I completely understand were you are coming from. I put my son in daycare for his benefit and my own mental health cus it was so stressful trying to do work while he was home and him needing attention ect. We started part time and he enjoyed so much he started going full time. Parent hood is So stressful. It doesnt matter how much you love your kids it takes its toll.
I am with you on putting Porter into daycare that way you are able to get your work done and be able to fully devote your time to either working or being a mom so I 100% stand behind your choice and people need to get off their high horse and just like everyone else you also have problems in your own life that we have no idea about. Daycare will mean he will get sick but it will also build a healthy strong immune system.
Daycare was the best thing in hindsight I did for my daughter. She went in at 8.5 months with some separation anxiety. So we did 6 weeks of intro for her and now she’s 16 months and absolutely loves it and thrives at daycare. She’s created such an amazing bond with her teachers. It’s amazing. And it’s a smaller daycare in Palmy which I love :) the teachers there are like an extension of your whanau :)
Im a 28 year old kiwi mum to a beautiful 4 year old boy and unfortunately as young mums people for some reason feel entitled to let us know every single one of their opinions and let us know what we are “doing wrong” in their eyes. I HATE conflict and always used to retreat when ever it came to any judgement or confrontation but as my son got older and we popped him in preschool at 2 and a half I learnt to become a strong mumma bear who takes no s$#* from anyone. Our first preschool we unfortunately had an awful experience with with staff but once we found the Kindy he is in now it’s absolutely fantastic! And the progress we have seen from our wee man has been jaw dropping. It helps them socially!
Stick to your instincts, do whats best for your family and stick it to whoever has an opinion. You and Hamish are the parents no one else!
Sending so much love and strong mumma bear energy your way from Christchurch x ❤️
Totally get you! Our boys are the same age and I’m battling with judgement for working two days a week. My boy stays home with his Dad those two days and even if he was in day care, we need to work for the mental stimulation and to really appreciate and like you said, concentrate when we are with him. You do you girl!
Totally relate to your journey with working from home and being a mama it's normal to feel this way I love that you have such a down to earth perspective ❤️
Yes! Enjoy the process & do not stress. Makeup is fun and decorating/organizing a new makeup/filming room is the icing on the cake to all of your hard work❤️ Super proud of you and Hamish and all you’ve accomplished 🎉 can’t wait to see it when you’re all done ✅
As a mum of 3(25,23,15) and a new grandma! I’ve learnt that you have to do what YOU want to do with regards to you kids and it’s nothing to do with anyone else!
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I just watched your videos of organizing your new beauty room! And now a tutorial. ❤
I love how honest you are with us it's like watching a friend. I would love 2 see you try brands from different countries like Ireland brands English brands. Love the new house xx
Your realness and honesty is why we love you🥹❣️
Hey Shan! I work in a private daycare and honestly children learn so so much and can socialise with other children . It will help his development so it’s a win win for you both !!
Totally go for daycare! It has so many perks. You can give your all when working, which makes you happier overall and that will make your time together of higher quality! And its great for Porters development. You are doing great 🥰
Daycare is fine. U're working for his future as well as urs. He'll be great. So often, we think the world is going to judge us because we judge ourselves. We want to be everything to our children. But in reality, we can't do it all. We all need help. U got this! ❤️
Love! Lots of love to you shannon with whatever decision you choose to take and do with having a baby. Loved this grwm
I completely understand. I’ve got a 2 year old and an 8 month old and as of now I struggle to even get jobs around the house done never mind work. It’s so hard and even I’ve been considering daycare. It’s also the social aspect which I agree with.
Don’t feel judged. No mother is the same and we’re only human ❤
Shan, you and Hamish are wonderful parents one look at that beautiful bouncing baby boy and ppl know he is loved and well taken care of. It is your life, your son, your job and businesses so do what is best for the 3 of you, don't worry about what anybody has to say. Live your best life the way you want, you have a lot of ppl that stand behind you and Hamish and Porter, we love you all. Take care, much love to you all and the pups.
I was just watching your videos from 7 years ago and I think we need a throwback faves video! The LA Girl concealer threw me lol
Edit: there's a difference between working from home and being a stay at home parent. Don't let anyone shame you
I've been going through all the old playlists too haha love her videos
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That concealar is stunning! 🤯 would love an update in future vids if you keep liking it. Love what you talk about Shan - you're awesome x
Working at a day care I see this all the time when mums first drop them off. Completely normal to feel that way!
It’s so good for socialising, building different experiences in activities and creating bonds with his educators where it will eventually feel like a second home. And educators love your child as if they were their own 💯
Plus you’ll get updates on his day and he’ll be coming home with artworks for mum and dad in no time! 💕
We are human beings and the thing that makes us human beings are our feelings. Taking time for yourself is not wrong especially being a new mom. Don’t feel guilty for putting him in daycare. It’ll be good for both of you to have a break where you can start to feel like yourself and he’ll be able to socialize with other babies.
This look is so fresh and beautiful! I love the eyeliner colours 😍
U do u, I'm a stay at home mom of two and it is the most stressful and amazing job. But I have worked and had kids and it's so much easier to focus of one so wen u r with ur kids u can give them a 100%. U r killing it girl. Luv ur realness
it's the opposite with series with me :D you binge watch everything these days, it's refreshing to have to wait a full week for the next episode, reminds me of good old times when you had to be sitting at home to catch the next episode or you'd never see it again :D lol
I'm following you for like 4+ years I don't even know 😁 anyhow I wanted to say that you're truly amazing. You stayed so humble even though you gained millions of followers. Keep doing the videos because we love them and you enjoy it 🥰 and don't care about what others are thinking. You're great person and mother 😊 do what YOU feel it's the best !!!
Do what you gotta do and what makes life easier for you. I can’t relate to having a baby bc I don’t have any kids nor am I married. But I can understand needing to be focused when you’re working on a creative job. Creative jobs always require more energy & focus in my experience. And people trying to invalidate other people’s problems, stresses, and life experiences are just miserable narcissistic people. They think their issues are the most tragic compared to everyone else’s. Those people need to stop believing they’re the center of the universe. Also I think money can buy happiness as well as stability but for some it doesn’t. It depends on the person & their life experiences. But you do what’s best for you & your family girl xoxo💜
I really enjoyed watching this video, thank you for sharing your feelings with us 💕
I work full time from home and I trialled having my son home with me and it was either 1. My work wasn’t 100% because I was nonstop distracted or interrupted or 2. I felt mum guilt and would cry that I didn’t give him full attention all day… because people assume working from home you have time and freedom but one of the two will suffer. So I support your decision hun ❤
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I think if you want to try it then go for it!!! It’s a blessing that you and Hamish are using. If daycare if available you would want to use that. Different children and scenery for kids are important. Your mental health and work balance is important too. Keep going with your heart ❤️ you got this 😊😊
If anyone said something to upset you, ignore them. We love watching you and your content and family. I have two kids and a full time job and they both had to go right into day care because we had no other options. They both are young adults now and turned out fine. Yes it is the hardest job but the most rewarding. Just sleep when he sleeps and don’t “what if” yourself into insanity. We love you.
Honestly Shann, you are like every working mum...I started work when I left school at 16...I became a nurse, I worked fulltime to 2 weeks before my due date and with interest rates at 17.5%, I had to go back to work 3 mths after birthing to meet the mortgage....and I constantly 2nd guessed myself about getting the work/parent/life balance right.... no matter what you do, there will be someone ready to criticise you, someone ready to look back and criticise your choices...but you had to make choices on what were the options at the time and you could only do the best you could.... so screw them all, you have done your best... and that's all you can do. ❤❤
Hey hun being a mummy of 2 kids but working out of the home. I get one day when both kids are at school/daycare to myself and it is soo worth it. Even if yours is to get work done do it!! I use my one day to do my stuff- nails, laser appt, hair appts, Drs appts, cleaning the house or even just having nap it’s heaven. We need a break and stop mum shaming for ppl who say it’s hard. It’s not that we are ungrateful I would die for my kids but we need time to ourselves. You will find you will enjoy your time so much more with Porter because yo7 are not trying to wear a hundred hats at once. Love you xx
Daycare has been a life saver for us! I was exactly like you. However, my daughter is a covid babe and was born 2020, she lacked social skills, which worried me. So we trialed 3 days per week. The first month was hard. A lot of tears from both babe and mama, fast forward to today she literally does not want to come home 😂 she cries to not come home because she has so much fun with water play. She also has been officially diagnosed with Autism and she has flourished so much from daycare. It's something I could have never been able to do for her even if I tried at home. We also own a business, and I work part-time for bank (something to have for my own where im not mum or wife, Im me), plus we have a 1 year old too. Life can be hectic, so daycare definitely helps us a lot when we need things to be done. Our babe is happy, which is the only thing that matters to us. I say do it!🫶🏾
Been watching you for almost 10 years love you always ❤ you help me get through a lot of depression I’m truly grateful for your uploads
I don't work from home but if I did and my children were still below school age, I would 100% use daycare to help me separate that work life and home life. There are pros and cons to all kinds of work but honestly being able to go out to a workplace has always given me the freedom to work without distraction and socialise with other people. I wouldn't feel guilty or take anyone's judgement to heart. Everyone is different and every work from home job is different too! I appreciate all the time I get at home with my kids because I'm not home with them all day every day and I have chance to miss them 😂
love you so much Shan, you’ve been my fav TH-camr for 10 years now because you always keep it real like a true friend.
been feeling blue since my momma passed away a few weeks ago, your videos always brighten my day. Ps you’re the best mom because of who you are ✨🦋
aw man im so sorry to hear that. sending you so many hugs
@@shaaanxothank you shan🤍🫶🏼
💯 believe putting my daughter in daycare (wasn't even working yet I was thinking about to going back to ucol) helped me be a better mother. I was going crazy and didn't feel like myself at all. And now I appreciate the time I have with her so much more.
But that being said everyone has different situations, each child is different so you do what ever you think is best. Only you know what's best for you and your baby.
Girl dont feel judged by others, I have a 14 year old daughter an I was a young mom when she was little an still had to work as well as her dad had to work, an sometimes I had to take her to work with me but then we got to the point we had to get some daycare an there is nothing wrong with trying to focus on work when you need too an then haveing that time with your child an be focused on them, you will find your balance hunny. I'm 32 an my husband an I both have our own businesses it gets easier as you go, so dont sweat it. Sending love an good vibes your way 💕
I understand 110% where you are coming from, I always felt judged for making a choice about daycare as well especially being a young mum I was 17 when I had my eldest.. but people need to realise in a way that the cost of living doesn't stop at all, and being a parent doesn't stop. It's so hard to do, but if that's what you guys need to do that's what you guys need to do ❤️
With daycare I was so scared about them, my eldest didn't do good at all I immediately had to remove her, my second daughter did daycare but ended up as kindy she was 4yr old so quite older but I haven't done my youngest two in daycare and Monday my third starts kindy but I was so scared and the morning are possibly the hardest (drop off) because my girls hated me leaving and used to cry and scream
A tip from a mom that was a stay at home and single mom for 10 years, do not care what others think about how you parent YOUR child! Trying to balance everything else along with parenting is not easy. I got overwhelmed ALLOT when my oldest was growing up. And now I have a 2.5 year old and I have my fiance and i still find it hard to balance everything, and having time for myself. When I went back to work I felt so guilty for leaving my kids. With you not being distracted, Porter will love you even more!
Yes girl! Working from home is a completely different thing! Since I moved to a different state. (In the US) I work from home. It can be super stressful because sometimes it's hard to separate work from regular life because you do it all in one place. It took me a while to adjust to that. Also, sometimes it gets lonely and being stuck in the house all the time is hard too. So I feel your struggle on that. It's hard finding a balance. Also, you're so right on the point that not everyone is gonna be your biggest fan in life and that's fine. You do you and they do them. That's life. But, there's usually a lot of people who do vibe with you and it's better to focus on that then the people who don't. Society is super judgey though and ppl always have an opinion on what they think is best but at the end of the day you have to do what's best for you. Especially online people are even more blunt about it and I get that too. I do online sales so I know how brutal the internet can be so I completely get where you're coming from with that too. Love you and your content! Much love from the US! 💛💛
Hi Shan! I don’t know if this helps but I’m a nursery teacher and new children that start, start with visits to make sure the nursery works for the child and parent, and any milestones they hit e.g first steps, you wouldn’t be told of that happening to make sure it special for you, so when it happens for you it’s like it’s the first time, if that makes sense.. love this video it’s so honest and open 🥰
Honestly, putting your kid in daycare doesn't make you a bad mom at all. And you're right, money won't make problems disappear. Everyone's lives and unique issues are valid, no matter how big or small they may appear to others. There will always be someone who has it worse, and always be someone who has it better. It doesn't negate anything you feel.
Also, makes me lowkey sad when you say "I know some of you don't like baby talk, but..." You should be able to talk about your beautiful baby boy as much as you want. It shows how much you love him and cherish your time with him. Parenthood is a big part of your life now. Don't ever let anyone make you feel bad for talking about things that bring you happiness and/or peace ❤
You have worked hard to be where you are!! You are human with emotions! ❤
My bub went into daycare at 6 months old. She's 13 months now and loves it. She started a bit younger than a lot of bubs, but now she doesn't get the separation anxiety when we drop her off. I'm a fulltime working mama and although I WFH 3 days per week, it's nearly impossible to get stuff done when she's home! I was judged for putting her in so young by some people, but it's what's best for our family and has worked out for us. It broke my heart in the beginning to leave her everyday, but now I've seen the benefits of her socialising, doing stuff she'd never get to do at home, as well as getting some independence back for myself, I have no regrets. My hubby is super supportive just like Hamish - he literally can do it all and does it without being asked, but we still need help too!
Don't worry about what people say. As long as u do what's best for you your baby & your family, that's all that matters. Love you!!
I’m a stay at home Mum and have my kiddos in preschool for three mornings a week. I too often feel judged. But I think actually the problem is my expectations of myself. I expect to be the perfect Mum without ever having a break but that’s so unrealistic. I need that time to myself to be a good Mum. And you need that time to focus on your work, which is something that brings you joy. You’ll be a better Mum for it ❤
I understand where you’re coming from. My partner is the stay at home dad but owns his own business and it’s hard for him to get time to do it. We have a small house so he doesn’t have a room to go work in.
We were able to keep our daughter home till she was 3 before paying for daycare. But it meant my partner barely worked. We loved having both kids home but you’re right in how they need to go for them too. And they love it. You’ll love not having to think about him either, you just need that as a parent. Love your work babe.
I’m a stay at home mum and put my sons in daycare because they were bored being at home with me. We tried a nanny at first but i soon realised they needed that social contact with other kids their age.
They love daycare!! It was was the best decision I ever made, it’s made them so much more social and outgoing. Everyone has their reasons. You do you!
I feel your insecurities. You do you girl. We do what the think is the best. That is all we can do. Love u
My 3-1/2 year old Grandson LOVES his daycare friends. Even the teachers are his ‘friends.’ Lol - I feel overwhelmed a lot and my kids are grown and out of the house. The only thing that helps me is a day timer with a schedule. Even if I don’t get everything done, if I can check off one thing I feel accomplished! 😘
sometimes it's sad to hear people say they "can't relate" maybe coz they don't have the same job or income as you when in reality, you can relate because you have emotions and so do we. Pain is pain, pleasure is pleasure, no matter your social status, race, etc. it's like, everything now evolves around materialistic things and not human connection. I don't think you're shallow for "complaining", i think it's valid and you have the right to express it on your platform and if people don't like it they literally have the option to click away lol. You're one of the the small amount of "realistic" and "relatable" beauty YTer left out there and that is your strength.
You look gorgeous ❤❤❤ Love how the look turned out
The lighting in your new filming room is so sooo good!!
Your base looks so frickin good! Very smooth! Also, all of my kids went to daycare because I HAD to work & I'm sure this is true for many women. Just do your homework when picking the daycare.... read reviews & ask if you can go hang out there for a day to get an idea of how they do things. If they don't allow it then don't take him there!! I believe it's really good for socializing. You can always start small.... 1 hour a few days a week or so. Don't worry, everything will work out, you're great parents!
As an Aunty to twin 3 year old boys nearly 4 year old twins. My sister was very up and down about sending them into daycare, it did take some convincing and heaps of time of going around and looking at daycares. But they now go to 3 year old kinder where they actually did daycare. And it is thanks to this video. But again when it comes to your son. At the end of the day it is your choice. Whatever you decide to do. Will be what is best for you and Hamish.
Yes to day care! Even if you didn’t use all of that time for work. Rediscovering your identity after a baby is so important, for you and Hamish :)
I haven't watched in over a year cause I got really sick but DAMN SHAAAN You are so gorgeous and super sweet as always and I swear your aging in reverse, I'm going to be binging all week🥰🥰. . And BTW everything you've said every mother has felt your gonna be just fine and you know how to say screw it if you don't like it don't watch, I have the upmost faith in you.
Yes I was the same, I was sooo worried about sending my babies to daycare, but yes at the same time, I needed that time for myself , but at the same time I missed my baby's so much, it's definitely a balancing act I guess ❤️
I love the lip colour 😮💨 beautiful
So glad to see you here...I was worried about the horrendous floods....not sure how far away you guys are with the new house but yeahh....
And this is why I love you.. you are beyond real and honest. ❤