This story is so true because i attended the same secondary with Idera, she joined us in SS2 then in a boarding school in Ondo SHUSSO around 2010/2011. When Idera joined us, she has this appearance of a spoilt rich kid and the only person we knew with her then was her grandma, the woman looks like all this Lagos big women. The presence of Idera then shook the whole school cos she had this huge stature, tall, chubby, fair skinned and beautiful. She was also a bright girl and speaks very well with a very fine handwriting. She was the woke student among us then cos she came from Lagos. But she was so stubborn, fears no one, not even the teachers, she was also a bully cos she bullies the junior ones and also her mates. Some of us who were her classmates feared her then. I could remember one night we were observing our night prep and she bullied some junior students and when a teacher intervened and asked her to kneel down, Idera did not obliged, she was rude to the teacher, pushed him and ran out of the school premises that same night, probably jumped through the fence. The whole school was in disarray that night and we the SS3 students were all sent to go and look for her within the school premises unknowingly to us that she has jumped over the fence and it was around 9pm at night ooo. Because of Idera, we the SS3 students were all punished the following morning and we were all on the field cutting grass as part of our punishment when Idera walked in with her Grandma the following morning cos her grandma has a house in ondo town then. And to our greatest surprise, the grandma was in support of Idera. She was given two weeks suspension that day and her grandma gladly told her to go pack her things from the hostel and follow her without scolding her, the suspension was like vacation to her, that was the day i knew the grandma was the one indulging her and she failed in giving her the right home training. The grandma spoilt her and that is the genesis of her problem. I feel so sorry for her and i pray she gets all the help that she needs. Olaotan Omotolani Ideraoluwa Lil'dee, that's how she use to say her full name back then. It's a pity.
I know her. As at 2023, she was at RCCG Redemption camp and was mostly roaming around the auditorium, anytime someone gives her something this is the exact way she kneels down to thank them. She then approached my Mum someday in the auditorium and narrated her life experiences to her, she also said she was brought to Redemption camp and some people were told to monitor her. Fast forward she gave my Mum her grandma's number, which my Mum then called and recommended a rehabilitation center beside our house then for proper treatment. After then, we didn't even see her again or know about her whereabouts until seeing this video. Did i forget to also include that, she claimed guys were taking advantage of her at camp? It would be nice to reconnect with her, she as a promising future.
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didnt you hear where he said they sent her to very good schools and spent millions on her education? don't conclude without hearing from both sides. i feel then guy sounds a little manipulative and the girl has always been useless
I know her as senior idera, we attend the same boarding school at Ondo, St Helen's unity secondary school. She is a very wicked senior, she does not fear anybody at all including teachers. I pray God should heal her
The family unit is an important factor never to be underplayed. I am guessing tribe played a role in the grandma being against the union between the father and mother. It is really a sorry case and the entire family unit, from the grand ma, father, mother, brother and grand daughter needs to come together forgive each others for there to be a resolution.
Tolani’s brother, I know you are hurt and disappointed at your father and his mother for their neglect and for abandoning you. I hope you heal, I hope you find peace and you are happy in life. Please, your resentment towards tolani is unfair, it is not her fault that her Grandma chose her over you. It’s ok to not want to have anything to do with her, but calling her a bastard is unfair. Please, focus on taking care of yourself and your mother. You need to heal first. Get help, See a therapist and heal. ❤❤ If you want to help your sister (If isn’t even in your place, you have a lot to unpack), please do it without expecting anything in return. They already disowned her, they won’t apologize. Heal first, please.❤
Boya grandma has use Tolani. U led her down this path of destruction by spoiling and pampering her. Tolani has a 10yr old same as me and I’m in my 40s. 😮😮
@@JulietOsuagwu-v7u the boy is bitterd 💯 but how do they want to relate with a child they never get along with,I can bet it if the mother should pick her up now she might end up killing the mother when she can’t have her way. Also, I’m not sure she has the resources to take care of Tolani at this stage. Let those who create the mess clean up the mess first. The only problem with the brother is he needs to stop this bitterness & shock the father with his success not wallowing in self pity.
Bro first GOD BLESS YOU secondly please can u look out for her mother and talk to her maybe she can be of help because of humanity, and I believe been with her mother for a period of time, that might change her life 4 good bro
It's such a pity she ended up this way,perhaps the grandma thot she was showing her love and care but then pampering is a negative thing,pray she gets help and for her brother I pray he also finds healing cause I can feel the pain and disappointment in his voice it is well o
No matter how you try to help someone they need to take responsibility too. Everybody has their breaking point. Calling out her parents is very wrong. She would have to be in a permanent lockup without access
A mother is waiting for the grandma to apologize before she fix the daughter’s life, she spent all her life poisoning the brother’s mind because what is all that curse and abuse for the grandmother, for the father it’s understandable but the grandmother has no fault, she only took in Tolani because she loves her son, she probably spoilt Tolani because of that same love for grandchild. There are homeless junkie everywhere its hard to take them away from the street, so Tolanis brother, you and your mum should pick your sis up if your mom truly cares for her. Talk-about they used her, you still said they didn’t use her, it’s motherly love she lacks. Pick one, na spiritual abi motherly love. I know you are hurt because grandma chose her, its not grandmas fault. She is just been responsible and took the 1st child, your father and mother are the real culprit because why impregnate/get pregnant of for the second when the 1st was a mistake and you expect the grandma to still take care of the second child hence the 50:50 thingy. Bro blame your mother too, she sef fuck up. And when she kidnap the daughter and grandma took her back, that is where grandma sef fuck up. Wo na una family ish be that, God go solve am for you.
The statement that granma made was out of bitterness " if she Idera which is Tolani pai the town Council will carry buried her." That cruel.😮😮 and she in pain
Life sha, we have parents like that who doesn't care anymore once their child go wayward. My Father is also like that till my younger brother died last year February. May his soul rest in peace.
You think it’s easy for parents too, after all the stress to feed us, the same parents still send her to 4 rehab centers. As human, be ready to take responsibility of whatever drugs or shits you go into
@@LifeisHard-w4dBut if the child became the governor or the president they would stick around abi. A parent has NO CHOICE than to stick with their child/children
Tolani father attitude with his mother's act and Tolani's growing up with her condition now, appear like what we watch in movies, but the movie never complete yet, I pray Tolani with her brother units and heal from their pain and life experience
Bro you don’t want to know what that family has been through, I’m not sure you even know how much love they have for her. But if she’s not willing to stop, you can’t help her.
I also have a brother who is a struggling addict. So I know for a fact what the family is going through. My brother started drugs at the age of 14, now his 27. He has also been to 4 rehabilitation centers and he comes out clean and the next week, he’s back to the drugs. This issue has Broken my family. He steals from anyone and everyone to feed his addiction. My point now is, you people have no idea what that family has been through and it think it’s totally wrong to call the father and grandma out on social media like that because you have no idea what and what they have sacrificed mentally, physically and financially. I’m not saying them neglecting Tolani is right, but I’ll tell you I know what it is like to be fed up. I have been fed up before but thank God we never gave up on my brother. My father at a point disowned him because he was tired because it was like everyday, there’s a new drama with my brother. I also disowned him. Imagine living with someone and that person turns your home to a drug den. Different smells everyday! It’s frustrating and tiring. So when they say they are tired, believe me, they are but the solution is not calling them out on social media! If there’s a way the public it’s self can organize something for tolani, that would be nice. We all heard how good she speaks, that grandmother and her father tried for her, at least they her basic education. So please, let’s all try to calm down and if it’s possible, let’s look for a more better way to reach out to the family and discuss how to help her. Thank you.
The fact that they came through for the daughter , then there’s love … one thing you have to know is that , regardless the effort who ever is not willing to be intervened your effort is a waste of time , regardless what the issue is the individual has to take responsibility too ! May God help all of us , at the end Heaven helps those who helps themselves… there are many Tolanis
I feel so bad for her. May God take total control over her life…. There is just something special about her, apart from medical, they should also go spiritually as well…
Exactly.... And some is saying the guy is pained. Why won't he be pained? Atleast they would have sponsored his education even when not leaving with the grandma.
The boy is only talking based on what he heard from the mother. If a man and woman separate, both parties will tell you stories that will not implicate themselves
I think the British Embassy needs to investigate how the grandma secured Visa for Idera's daughter without a consent or permission from the mother. I am aware the embassy aren't aware or didnt carryout due diligence on their application before they grant their visas. Infact, if the British authorities investigate this matter, the man in UK might go to jail and later sent away from UK if found guilty.
So when you find him, what would then happen? Beware of being sued for defamation in the UK! We will be here to read your story and comment. Do you pray that you should be publicly attached to such a predicament as the Tolani? Just because you listened to and believed a camera-fantasia individual, you want to confront a man helping raise the Tolani's daughter? Do you want to jeopardise both the future of the man and the girl that are being refocused? No doubt; this is sympathetic. But, one must not rush to judge or condemn either party. Personally, I dislike the attitude of the interviewer around Tolani on the street. I expected him to be more remorseful, cordial and respectful. And I consider his display of the conversation with the said dad to be dubious and blackmailing.
I feel more for the brother. He is so sad about the situation they are in. I wonder why the man abandoned the woman. Why is the woman not with him in London.
the part whrre the grandma said if she die council sill carry her dead body omo... say no to drugs and everything you do don't let peer pressure lead you astray even depression too
Gaga... nice work you are doing and may the good lord bless you. I just want to point something out, tho. You should not have put out the dads number in the chat you had. It should have been hidden or covered. The man deserves his privacy.
The truth is according to the conversations with her family, Tolani has been taken to some rehabs and after 2-3 months, she's back to the street. Now when you take someone to rehab or halfway houses, even when they come out clean and get better, they shouldn't be left on their own, there should be constant follow up on them. This is something i think is also missing, she probably have been left on her own after temporary healing and expected to do the rest by herself, i might be wrong though, Honestly, even with a very strong rehabilitation, she has to be CONSTANTLY MONITORED and not left alone (i understand that it's also left to her to want to receive help, nevertheless, she should be given that help to the fullest whether or not she demands it). I know it's hard but that's also the best option too. Now with her brother, i really do not blame him, as a professional Guidance Counsellor, he sounds like a traumatized kid who was neglected and forced to grow up immediately. It's really not easy to face rejection from people who should be there the most. While i understand his side of the story, i also see some transferred aggression towards Tolani which is what you get when you show interest in one child than the other. He just needs to realize that it was never Tolani's fault whatever was done to him, the battle isn't against her but his dad and grandma. Whether they apologize or not, if he can help in anyway, he should because like i wrote, the battle isn't against his sister but the guardians.
The guy in the white Benz is the one supplying her with the money she use to buy drugs she uses to get high, even when you're not around. She feels like you're just a temporary helper, which is why her mood changes around you. The government really needs to take action against the spread of Colorado in Nigeria, especially in the ghetto. Since the new president was elected, I've been in the ghetto, and I know what I'm talking about. Tolani's problems stem from what we call a "lack of parental care." I have a friend who studies at CIU; he went to Nigeria for vacation during the new president's inauguration and accidentally got involved with this substance called Colorado, which ended his life. The last time I saw him, he was praying to God for deliverance from this evil substance.
Many Grandma's have come to the rescue of young parents who were finding it difficult to raise their kids. I am sure she had good intentions but unfoirtunately it didnt go to plan. It is well
You did not ask a pertinent question... Where is Fikayomi's father? Who impregnated Idera? Why is the daughter not with the father and instead was exported to the UK?
Tolani was denied love from her father and mother, also, Tolani git deprived from Fikayo her own daughter. Tolani is depressed. She feels alone in the world
Listen that’s not an excuse! I was denied love too, I did drugs since secondary school but when I noticed it was taking a turn on me I helped myself out before I was lost! Today I’m happily married with kids and doing well for my self! It’s self determination, she’s clearly not even ready or should I say she’s not aware of the situation she’s putting deep into
@@JjJayden-u8gthat u were able to pick yourself up does not mean she can, you are both different pple! So don’t judge others based on how it turned out for you!!
She needs deliverance not about hospital or rehab again pls I feel so bad for her 😢but d girl future holds alots brighter her destiny is hard not an ordinary
I pray God locate her, this was what my baby’s father family did with me why i was in the hospital fighting for my life. Took my kids away from me and didn’t allow me talk to them or see them. I thank God for the people who stood beside me🙏 God fought for me i got my kids back! Some Yoruba people are evil 😈
Rehabilitation comes from urself nobody will help u if it not ready to help urself many families are experiencing dis drug issue from one child or d other, I don't know were dat location is but if u go to mushin u will see plenty of her type der even younger
The brother is still young and naive. He needs a lot to learn. When two elephants fight, the ground suffers and as a man, when you are raised by a single mother that resents your father, you will grow up with a lot of hate towards your father but know full well that Man are not stupid. For the brother, for your father to say you should ask your mother who your father is, then you should know that something is fishy. You are only sentimental and you need to stay away from all sentiments and try to get paternity tests done. Don’t believe everything your mother tells you. Women are good manipulators. I can bet it with you that as soon as your father is sure you are his, your story would change. You have just developed pain and hatred from what your mother told you. On Idera’s case, at some point, people get tired of drug addicts even their own parents. Drug addiction is a very serious issue. It’s not because they are heartless or wicked, it’s because they are tired, they gave up on them. 7 different sec schools, 4 different tertiary institutions, different rehabs….no changes. They are simply tired. If they are wicked, they won’t take her 10year old. He took her to London for a better life which I am sure she is getting. I grew up in Sango Ota, there are so many kids that have rich parents both home and abroad but are homeless and on the streets due to drug addiction. Their families got tired and gave up on them. “Even the content creator gave up on her when she wasn’t forthcoming again for an interview” We are simply humans, we all have limits.
I wish I could give you a hug through TH-cam. You said it all. The brother is so bitter towards the family and it shows in his interview. Definitely if Idera is pregnant will they leave her child on the street too. Tolani is an adult let’s not forget that as well.
There’s no genuine father that would willingly abandon his daughter and deny her of parental care, at least let the mother take care of her. IMO, Tolani was deprived of parental love, and the grandmother decided to pamper her so she wouldn’t feel that absence which led to her being spoilt. How did she get into drugs at that tender age? For more understanding, please read @Bishel_unscripted comment here, so you can get where her woes began from. Thank you
Her family is the root cause of her problem first from this story and even a comment above yours noted her secondary school life while in grandma's custody. If they send her to grandma to take care of, does that take the responsibility away from her parents. If she started drugs at 13, what does that tell you about her upbringing while in grandma's custody. It is hard to help a drug junkie, it is not over until it is over. Going to rehab is not the end of it. The main work is outside rehab to keep her from going back to drugs.
That's the consequence of taking a girl child away from her mother,grandma's can't raise a child well they will spoil them,now that the child is bad they don't want anything to do with her dey should come and cater for remains... wicked father and Grandma
No matter how hard life is never leave your kids in care of grandparents. They will mess up the life of a child. I can say 85% of grandma lessen their guards around grand kids. I’m sure the father cries everyday & question God what he did wrong. To all parents may we not weep over our kids
I agree with you, grandparents have soft spot for kids and these kids nowadays are smarter, I can’t leave my kids with my mom or MIL… amen to your prayers
I understand what you're saying but not in all cases.... All the young girls and grandchildren that ever lived with my parents turned out to be much better and more successful than those that lived with their biological parents. I don't even want to start with the kind of careers they have, their network and networth. It just depends..... Some people are just naturally lax when it comes to taking care of others..... It's unfortunate!
Complicated how? Her family failed her and society failed her. What is complicated here? Nigerians better wake up and stop saying addiction is “spiritual”. Nigeria will become Sierra Leone (kush addiction) in two decades or less and when that happens you people will blame the “devil” when it’s societal negligence
You better pray not to find yourself in this situation... What is not good is never good! They should see this as a destiny and remember no condition is permanent! Its still certian and glaring that should will definitely see helper and get back to her normal life... Her current situation is temporary! May God heal her.
As young adults, be careful of the decisions you make. Emotion runs deep in everyone, yet, be careful of how it affect the next generation. The sexual intercourse without proper plans and knowledge of your partner can lead to situations like this. It's obvious that there were no plans for these children. You did it the first time, You went ahead to do it with the same man again! Young men and women should watch out for whoever comes into their space. Don't make yourself a liability to someone. Love with your heart and eyes wide open. Ask questions about family! It is very important. You cannot go through carrying a child for 9 months and give up on her early,for a grandma, you never know, until you were looking out for an escape route yourself. Before Revelation, there is always a Genesis! Strong lessons learnt here, be cautious and mindful of your decisions, it could make or mar a life and a whole generation. Ire o.
My brother was like this But my mom never gave up Thank God he's doing well now We spent alot of money sha Went to different rehab centers no changes Until we try traditionalist from one church to another ni oo Rehab centers no help at all Make dem try natural ways I hope you understand me
I was also like this 2020/2021 my mom never gave up on me,2021 June was the last day my mom came to pick me up and I’m grateful too God that I’m living a better life Idioro nah useless hood ooo
@26:27 Listening to the grandma, she doesn't sound like she has been demonised. why don't we blame the Tolani who takes to drugs? why blame people who helped her stay out of drugs by taking her to rehabs for recovery?
It seems the grandmother messed her up, the father needs to show compassion and have unconditional love and support. She can be rehabilitated but need a lot of love and support. Please don’t give up. Have you tried to reach out to her mother?
Lagos state should take responsibility, Nigeria should take responsibility if the parents can't do it anymore stop blaming them. At this point she needs to be in permanent lockup till she is clean and relocated away from her familiar area to a supported living environment. So stop blaming her parents. There is so much they can do.
Well the parent dont need to be tired if it's truly there child and putting her in rehab is not just the only solution it requires prayer and consistent counselling about what she is doing especially danger to the body organs and making her see things to life in a different dimension ghetto is actually bad for her and I grew up in mushin and I understand the plight GOD be with her and also you also Mr lilgaga
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I don't believe this story, lots of questions to ask..
Na true o, they have Come to carry her to rehab
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This story is so true because i attended the same secondary with Idera, she joined us in SS2 then in a boarding school in Ondo SHUSSO around 2010/2011. When Idera joined us, she has this appearance of a spoilt rich kid and the only person we knew with her then was her grandma, the woman looks like all this Lagos big women. The presence of Idera then shook the whole school cos she had this huge stature, tall, chubby, fair skinned and beautiful. She was also a bright girl and speaks very well with a very fine handwriting. She was the woke student among us then cos she came from Lagos. But she was so stubborn, fears no one, not even the teachers, she was also a bully cos she bullies the junior ones and also her mates. Some of us who were her classmates feared her then. I could remember one night we were observing our night prep and she bullied some junior students and when a teacher intervened and asked her to kneel down, Idera did not obliged, she was rude to the teacher, pushed him and ran out of the school premises that same night, probably jumped through the fence. The whole school was in disarray that night and we the SS3 students were all sent to go and look for her within the school premises unknowingly to us that she has jumped over the fence and it was around 9pm at night ooo. Because of Idera, we the SS3 students were all punished the following morning and we were all on the field cutting grass as part of our punishment when Idera walked in with her Grandma the following morning cos her grandma has a house in ondo town then. And to our greatest surprise, the grandma was in support of Idera. She was given two weeks suspension that day and her grandma gladly told her to go pack her things from the hostel and follow her without scolding her, the suspension was like vacation to her, that was the day i knew the grandma was the one indulging her and she failed in giving her the right home training. The grandma spoilt her and that is the genesis of her problem. I feel so sorry for her and i pray she gets all the help that she needs. Olaotan Omotolani Ideraoluwa Lil'dee, that's how she use to say her full name back then. It's a pity.
Hmmm so touching 😢😢
@@BelloOlayinka-sr6nxThis is touching
So true.....reality of life.. everything has a back end
Omg😮😢
Jesus christ😮
I know her.
As at 2023, she was at RCCG Redemption camp and was mostly roaming around the auditorium, anytime someone gives her something this is the exact way she kneels down to thank them. She then approached my Mum someday in the auditorium and narrated her life experiences to her, she also said she was brought to Redemption camp and some people were told to monitor her. Fast forward she gave my Mum her grandma's number, which my Mum then called and recommended a rehabilitation center beside our house then for proper treatment. After then, we didn't even see her again or know about her whereabouts until seeing this video.
Did i forget to also include that, she claimed guys were taking advantage of her at camp?
It would be nice to reconnect with her, she as a promising future.
Hmmmm
Hello Dearest. May this year be bright for you. See below what Jesus says in
John 12 v46
I have come as a light to shine in this dark world, so that all who put their trust in me will no longer remain in the dark.
So what are you waiting for, trust Jesus alone and you will not walk in darkness 🥰🥰❤️🌹
I feel for the brother and mother. You can hear pain in his voice. He is a good boy
the girl too like preek an why she dey like that. she is otilo
didnt you hear where he said they sent her to very good schools and spent millions on her education? don't conclude without hearing from both sides. i feel then guy sounds a little manipulative and the girl has always been useless
After rehabilitation she still needs aftercare, and mentoring for a long time . Thank you for all you’re doing. Please don’t give up.
I hope she finds help soon 😢😢thank you sir
You are doing great Mr lilgaga go bless you this is so bad thiugh
Is that Lagos island?
I know her as senior idera, we attend the same boarding school at Ondo, St Helen's unity secondary school. She is a very wicked senior, she does not fear anybody at all including teachers. I pray God should heal her
Thank You Akin, God Bless You. There are lots of lessons to learn from all these.
Too much bitterness in the brother's voice, I pray the family heals.
The family unit is an important factor never to be underplayed. I am guessing tribe played a role in the grandma being against the union between the father and mother. It is really a sorry case and the entire family unit, from the grand ma, father, mother, brother and grand daughter needs to come together forgive each others for there to be a resolution.
Exactly
Daddy Pst Tony Rapu did a lot for people like her
Tolani’s brother, I know you are hurt and disappointed at your father and his mother for their neglect and for abandoning you. I hope you heal, I hope you find peace and you are happy in life.
Please, your resentment towards tolani is unfair, it is not her fault that her Grandma chose her over you. It’s ok to not want to have anything to do with her, but calling her a bastard is unfair.
Please, focus on taking care of yourself and your mother. You need to heal first. Get help, See a therapist and heal.
❤❤
If you want to help your sister (If isn’t even in your place, you have a lot to unpack), please do it without expecting anything in return. They already disowned her, they won’t apologize.
Heal first, please.❤
Told him that today
@@mrlilgaga Mr lilgaga am once in her shoe if she wants to be she need care from her parent and also she should live those friends
Boya grandma has use Tolani. U led her down this path of destruction by spoiling and pampering her. Tolani has a 10yr old same as me and I’m in my 40s. 😮😮
@@JulietOsuagwu-v7u the boy is bitterd 💯 but how do they want to relate with a child they never get along with,I can bet it if the mother should pick her up now she might end up killing the mother when she can’t have her way. Also, I’m not sure she has the resources to take care of Tolani at this stage. Let those who create the mess clean up the mess first. The only problem with the brother is he needs to stop this bitterness & shock the father with his success not wallowing in self pity.
You're a good man. God bless you
Tanku mysister
It’s quite sad to see because her English is pure when she speaks. I wish her full recovery
His brother is pained 😔😔 I pray everything ends well
Bro first GOD BLESS YOU secondly please can u look out for her mother and talk to her maybe she can be of help because of humanity, and I believe been with her mother for a period of time, that might change her life 4 good bro
Such a beautiful girl see height and fine shape 😢😢
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It's such a pity she ended up this way,perhaps the grandma thot she was showing her love and care but then pampering is a negative thing,pray she gets help and for her brother I pray he also finds healing cause I can feel the pain and disappointment in his voice it is well o
No matter how you try to help someone they need to take responsibility too. Everybody has their breaking point. Calling out her parents is very wrong. She would have to be in a permanent lockup without access
A mother is waiting for the grandma to apologize before she fix the daughter’s life, she spent all her life poisoning the brother’s mind because what is all that curse and abuse for the grandmother, for the father it’s understandable but the grandmother has no fault, she only took in Tolani because she loves her son, she probably spoilt Tolani because of that same love for grandchild. There are homeless junkie everywhere its hard to take them away from the street, so Tolanis brother, you and your mum should pick your sis up if your mom truly cares for her. Talk-about they used her, you still said they didn’t use her, it’s motherly love she lacks. Pick one, na spiritual abi motherly love.
I know you are hurt because grandma chose her, its not grandmas fault. She is just been responsible and took the 1st child, your father and mother are the real culprit because why impregnate/get pregnant of for the second when the 1st was a mistake and you expect the grandma to still take care of the second child hence the 50:50 thingy. Bro blame your mother too, she sef fuck up. And when she kidnap the daughter and grandma took her back, that is where grandma sef fuck up. Wo na una family ish be that, God go solve am for you.
I totally share ur view but then what's done is done last last everyone of them go dey alright
So to call his father werey is nice? The mother obviously is not a good woman.
The statement that granma made was out of bitterness " if she Idera which is Tolani pai the town Council will carry buried her." That cruel.😮😮 and she in pain
Hmmm
Life sha, we have parents like that who doesn't care anymore once their child go wayward. My Father is also like that till my younger brother died last year February. May his soul rest in peace.
Awww so sorry to hear this, God will continue to console you, mum and the rest of the siblings.... much love
You think it’s easy for parents too, after all the stress to feed us, the same parents still send her to 4 rehab centers. As human, be ready to take responsibility of whatever drugs or shits you go into
@@LifeisHard-w4d , Life no hard na we they make am hard.
@@LifeisHard-w4dBut if the child became the governor or the president they would stick around abi.
A parent has NO CHOICE than to stick with their child/children
Why are you acting like you are on some double cup trips
Her dad responds off me I pray she recover completely 😢
Tolani father attitude with his mother's act and Tolani's growing up with her condition now, appear like what we watch in movies, but the movie never complete yet, I pray Tolani with her brother units and heal from their pain and life experience
Tolani's brother is hurting. I pray he heals because hurting people hurt others. I pray it doesn't affect his marriage.
Omooo…
She sounds so fine
Bro you don’t want to know what that family has been through, I’m not sure you even know how much love they have for her. But if she’s not willing to stop, you can’t help her.
Lagos state govt please save our youth from drug addicts.
I also have a brother who is a struggling addict. So I know for a fact what the family is going through. My brother started drugs at the age of 14, now his 27. He has also been to 4 rehabilitation centers and he comes out clean and the next week, he’s back to the drugs. This issue has Broken my family. He steals from anyone and everyone to feed his addiction. My point now is, you people have no idea what that family has been through and it think it’s totally wrong to call the father and grandma out on social media like that because you have no idea what and what they have sacrificed mentally, physically and financially. I’m not saying them neglecting Tolani is right, but I’ll tell you I know what it is like to be fed up. I have been fed up before but thank God we never gave up on my brother. My father at a point disowned him because he was tired because it was like everyday, there’s a new drama with my brother. I also disowned him. Imagine living with someone and that person turns your home to a drug den. Different smells everyday! It’s frustrating and tiring. So when they say they are tired, believe me, they are but the solution is not calling them out on social media! If there’s a way the public it’s self can organize something for tolani, that would be nice. We all heard how good she speaks, that grandmother and her father tried for her, at least they her basic education. So please, let’s all try to calm down and if it’s possible, let’s look for a more better way to reach out to the family and discuss how to help her. Thank you.
The fact that they came through for the daughter , then there’s love … one thing you have to know is that , regardless the effort who ever is not willing to be intervened your effort is a waste of time , regardless what the issue is the individual has to take responsibility too ! May God help all of us , at the end Heaven helps those who helps themselves… there are many Tolanis
Yep. A possible case of spoilt child in the wrong company 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Say no to hard drugs 😢😢
I feel so bad for her. May God take total control over her life…. There is just something special about her, apart from medical, they should also go spiritually as well…
Who else came frm TikTok 🥹🥹
Me ooo😂
Me ooo😅😅😅
Me😢
Awa re oo
Me oo, make God help 😢
Omoj😢 this so so touching
That her brother is hurting badly. But this is not the time to apportion blame.
I feel you bro which ghetto is She
If they can get in touch with pastor Tony Rapu I’m sure her story will change for life.
Hmmm
Listening to Grandma, you all should know they really took care of her , it’s just Drug , I pray she got help soon🙏
Exactly.... And some is saying the guy is pained. Why won't he be pained? Atleast they would have sponsored his education even when not leaving with the grandma.
The boy is only talking based on what he heard from the mother.
If a man and woman separate, both parties will tell you stories that will not implicate themselves
Did you hear when he said he use to go there with his mum and they chase them both? It wasn't told to him, he saw it all himself
You and sense sha 😩
You and sense 👈👉
1 mumu go sha deyyyyyyy🤦♀️🤦♀️ be like nah fast forward you Dey do all through
So sad.....there is more in that family so deep to unravel.
Oya gbefun 🙌🏻… modern day Kola Olawuyi 💪🏻 konibaje
Blessing my guy
I think the British Embassy needs to investigate how the grandma secured Visa for Idera's daughter without a consent or permission from the mother. I am aware the embassy aren't aware or didnt carryout due diligence on their application before they grant their visas. Infact, if the British authorities investigate this matter, the man in UK might go to jail and later sent away from UK if found guilty.
Ómó some family are crazy oooo
Nothing beats motherly love.
Nobody is talking about this. How did the Gandmother raise her for her to turn out like that?!!!
Please post his picture, I’m also in Birmingham. We will find him
So when you find him, what would then happen?
Beware of being sued for defamation in the UK!
We will be here to read your story and comment.
Do you pray that you should be publicly attached to such a predicament as the Tolani?
Just because you listened to and believed a camera-fantasia individual,
you want to confront a man helping raise the Tolani's daughter?
Do you want to jeopardise both the future of the man and the girl that are being refocused?
No doubt; this is sympathetic. But, one must not rush to judge or condemn either party.
Personally, I dislike the attitude of the interviewer around Tolani on the street.
I expected him to be more remorseful, cordial and respectful.
And I consider his display of the conversation with the said dad to be dubious and blackmailing.
Hmmm
I should ?
I feel the brother pain that guy has been through allot everything he said came with pains
I think the family have definitely tried to save her tbh. You can tell they feel it’s a lost cause. One the other hand her brother is so hurt.
I feel more for the brother. He is so sad about the situation they are in. I wonder why the man abandoned the woman. Why is the woman not with him in London.
the part whrre the grandma said if she die council sill carry her dead body omo... say no to drugs and everything you do don't let peer pressure lead you astray even depression too
If you really want to help your sister do and forget about any apologies from anyone
Make dem comot am for her eye na waiting I do for my younger brother be that Abeg rehab no dey work joor
Pls can you explain how dem fit commot am for her eyes pls
Please can you explain more about that because I also needs to do same to my brother
Gaga... nice work you are doing and may the good lord bless you. I just want to point something out, tho. You should not have put out the dads number in the chat you had. It should have been hidden or covered. The man deserves his privacy.
The truth is according to the conversations with her family, Tolani has been taken to some rehabs and after 2-3 months, she's back to the street. Now when you take someone to rehab or halfway houses, even when they come out clean and get better, they shouldn't be left on their own, there should be constant follow up on them. This is something i think is also missing, she probably have been left on her own after temporary healing and expected to do the rest by herself, i might be wrong though, Honestly, even with a very strong rehabilitation, she has to be CONSTANTLY MONITORED and not left alone (i understand that it's also left to her to want to receive help, nevertheless, she should be given that help to the fullest whether or not she demands it). I know it's hard but that's also the best option too. Now with her brother, i really do not blame him, as a professional Guidance Counsellor, he sounds like a traumatized kid who was neglected and forced to grow up immediately. It's really not easy to face rejection from people who should be there the most. While i understand his side of the story, i also see some transferred aggression towards Tolani which is what you get when you show interest in one child than the other. He just needs to realize that it was never Tolani's fault whatever was done to him, the battle isn't against her but his dad and grandma. Whether they apologize or not, if he can help in anyway, he should because like i wrote, the battle isn't against his sister but the guardians.
Don’t blame the man it only God that can intervene now pastor Tony rapu would help her out
You are trying to solve tolani’s problem 😩😩see those guys at the back knocked out by drugs 😢😢they are creating their own problem
The guy in the white Benz is the one supplying her with the money she use to buy drugs she uses to get high, even when you're not around. She feels like you're just a temporary helper, which is why her mood changes around you. The government really needs to take action against the spread of Colorado in Nigeria, especially in the ghetto. Since the new president was elected, I've been in the ghetto, and I know what I'm talking about. Tolani's problems stem from what we call a "lack of parental care." I have a friend who studies at CIU; he went to Nigeria for vacation during the new president's inauguration and accidentally got involved with this substance called Colorado, which ended his life. The last time I saw him, he was praying to God for deliverance from this evil substance.
Many Grandma's have come to the rescue of young parents who were finding it difficult to raise their kids. I am sure she had good intentions but unfoirtunately it didnt go to plan. It is well
The grandma nah oloobuku I swear nah she spoil her life😢
You can’t say that
You did not ask a pertinent question... Where is Fikayomi's father? Who impregnated Idera? Why is the daughter not with the father and instead was exported to the UK?
Those questions are for idera in her sober moments
Those questions are not important at this point. The 10 yr old is doing fine wit grandpa. We need to help idera
Tolani was denied love from her father and mother, also, Tolani git deprived from Fikayo her own daughter. Tolani is depressed. She feels alone in the world
Listen that’s not an excuse! I was denied love too, I did drugs since secondary school but when I noticed it was taking a turn on me I helped myself out before I was lost! Today I’m happily married with kids and doing well for my self! It’s self determination, she’s clearly not even ready or should I say she’s not aware of the situation she’s putting deep into
@@JjJayden-u8gb4 you were lost,she is lost b4 she was discovered
Na only her day depressed? Better be ready to accept and face consequences of whatever shits you do
@@JjJayden-u8gthat u were able to pick yourself up does not mean she can, you are both different pple!
So don’t judge others based on how it turned out for you!!
3 rehab no way Omo they need to take her out of the hood after talking her to the rehab and she need serious monitoring
She needs deliverance not about hospital or rehab again pls I feel so bad for her 😢but d girl future holds alots brighter her destiny is hard not an ordinary
Deliverance from what?? Y’all ignorance is always disgusting…. Someone needs medical help you’re trying to integrate spirituality into it
What she need is medical help not spiritual help although she need prayer also I will like to hear from her parent especially her mum
You think it's ordinary
Nah person wey e don do before fit explain
What she need right now is what they used to treated smile tee the guy that oluwadolarz helped both medical and spiritual
Mr jigaga, ua doing a great job, pls try nd put life in ur voice nd face. Also volume ur voice God bless u
I’ll do better in the future.
I pray God locate her, this was what my baby’s father family did with me why i was in the hospital fighting for my life. Took my kids away from me and didn’t allow me talk to them or see them. I thank God for the people who stood beside me🙏 God fought for me i got my kids back! Some Yoruba people are evil 😈
There are evil people everywhere it’s not Yoruba alone.
I think the family have definitely tried to save her tbh. You can tell they feel it’s a lost cause
The brother speaking like a child, that is your blood! Help her if you can
Rehabilitation comes from urself nobody will help u if it not ready to help urself many families are experiencing dis drug issue from one child or d other, I don't know were dat location is but if u go to mushin u will see plenty of her type der even younger
Amen you will make it
The brother is just hurt…….
The brother is still young and naive. He needs a lot to learn. When two elephants fight, the ground suffers and as a man, when you are raised by a single mother that resents your father, you will grow up with a lot of hate towards your father but know full well that Man are not stupid.
For the brother, for your father to say you should ask your mother who your father is, then you should know that something is fishy. You are only sentimental and you need to stay away from all sentiments and try to get paternity tests done. Don’t believe everything your mother tells you. Women are good manipulators. I can bet it with you that as soon as your father is sure you are his, your story would change. You have just developed pain and hatred from what your mother told you.
On Idera’s case, at some point, people get tired of drug addicts even their own parents. Drug addiction is a very serious issue. It’s not because they are heartless or wicked, it’s because they are tired, they gave up on them. 7 different sec schools, 4 different tertiary institutions, different rehabs….no changes. They are simply tired.
If they are wicked, they won’t take her 10year old. He took her to London for a better life which I am sure she is getting.
I grew up in Sango Ota, there are so many kids that have rich parents both home and abroad but are homeless and on the streets due to drug addiction. Their families got tired and gave up on them.
“Even the content creator gave up on her when she wasn’t forthcoming again for an interview”
We are simply humans, we all have limits.
I wish I could give you a hug through TH-cam. You said it all. The brother is so bitter towards the family and it shows in his interview. Definitely if Idera is pregnant will they leave her child on the street too. Tolani is an adult let’s not forget that as well.
You nailed it 100%
You are very correct . What you said is 100% true drug addiction do-sent go away the father must have tried all he could and the grandma
There’s no genuine father that would willingly abandon his daughter and deny her of parental care, at least let the mother take care of her. IMO, Tolani was deprived of parental love, and the grandmother decided to pamper her so she wouldn’t feel that absence which led to her being spoilt. How did she get into drugs at that tender age?
For more understanding, please read @Bishel_unscripted comment here, so you can get where her woes began from. Thank you
Her family is the root cause of her problem first from this story and even a comment above yours noted her secondary school life while in grandma's custody. If they send her to grandma to take care of, does that take the responsibility away from her parents. If she started drugs at 13, what does that tell you about her upbringing while in grandma's custody. It is hard to help a drug junkie, it is not over until it is over. Going to rehab is not the end of it. The main work is outside rehab to keep her from going back to drugs.
Great job Mr LilGaGa. Kindly blurr parts where personal contact numbers are visible.
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That's the consequence of taking a girl child away from her mother,grandma's can't raise a child well they will spoil them,now that the child is bad they don't want anything to do with her dey should come and cater for remains... wicked father and Grandma
"mr olayiwola that lives in Birmingham"....you for carry cane go flog am now.
Grandma ruined her!!! How can a child in Nigeria be taking drugs at 13??!!! God!
That's too bad to be honest.
idera own is not up to shanawole own ...n God help pastor Tony rapu clean him ..contact him pls
No matter how hard life is never leave your kids in care of grandparents. They will mess up the life of a child. I can say 85% of grandma lessen their guards around grand kids. I’m sure the father cries everyday & question God what he did wrong. To all parents may we not weep over our kids
I agree with you, grandparents have soft spot for kids and these kids nowadays are smarter, I can’t leave my kids with my mom or MIL… amen to your prayers
@ my niece staying with my mum too wanted to start misbehaving we held a meeting that one of us should take custody.
I understand what you're saying but not in all cases.... All the young girls and grandchildren that ever lived with my parents turned out to be much better and more successful than those that lived with their biological parents. I don't even want to start with the kind of careers they have, their network and networth.
It just depends..... Some people are just naturally lax when it comes to taking care of others..... It's unfortunate!
Sir tee 😃
Who is that
@mrlilgaga bro you no go understand
This issue is complicated
And the children are suffering from family complications
So sad 😞
Real complications o
The grandson is traumatized
Complicated how? Her family failed her and society failed her. What is complicated here? Nigerians better wake up and stop saying addiction is “spiritual”. Nigeria will become Sierra Leone (kush addiction) in two decades or less and when that happens you people will blame the “devil” when it’s societal negligence
It is expected for the parent to get tired nah, after 4 attempts at rehab, they will be frustrated nah...
You better pray not to find yourself in this situation... What is not good is never good! They should see this as a destiny and remember no condition is permanent!
Its still certian and glaring that should will definitely see helper and get back to her normal life... Her current situation is temporary! May God heal her.
Exactly! They tried, but they should have released her to her mother before the whole thing got out of hand.
@@olukomolafeolayiwola5631 You get it they shld have let the mother have her
The problem is has a drug addict you don't go for rehabilitation in Ur own area because when you come back you will still mix with those old friends
Yes it's expected ,but they shouldn't
I can see she's a sweet soul from the kiss she gave Gaga 😅😅
Omo omo
As young adults, be careful of the decisions you make. Emotion runs deep in everyone, yet, be careful of how it affect the next generation. The sexual intercourse without proper plans and knowledge of your partner can lead to situations like this. It's obvious that there were no plans for these children.
You did it the first time,
You went ahead to do it with the same man again! Young men and women should watch out for whoever comes into their space. Don't make yourself a liability to someone. Love with your heart and eyes wide open. Ask questions about family! It is very important. You cannot go through carrying a child for 9 months and give up on her early,for a grandma, you never know, until you were looking out for an escape route yourself.
Before Revelation, there is always a Genesis! Strong lessons learnt here, be cautious and mindful of your decisions, it could make or mar a life and a whole generation.
Ire o.
13:18 omo na the switch for me sha 😂😂😂
The fact that she was separated from her parents and knowing they are out there living their lives should be one of the reasons that pushed into this.
My brother was like this
But my mom never gave up
Thank God he's doing well now
We spent alot of money sha
Went to different rehab centers no changes
Until we try traditionalist from one church to another ni oo
Rehab centers no help at all
Make dem try natural ways
I hope you understand me
How’s your brother jow
I was also like this 2020/2021 my mom never gave up on me,2021 June was the last day my mom came to pick me up and I’m grateful too God that I’m living a better life
Idioro nah useless hood ooo
Thank God for your life@@AdeolaOluwatosin-y7v
@26:27 Listening to the grandma, she doesn't sound like she has been demonised.
why don't we blame the Tolani who takes to drugs?
why blame people who helped her stay out of drugs by taking her to rehabs for recovery?
There’s always a reason, why and how did she end up like this
@@mrlilgaga
Thanks.
This documentary only scratched the surface.
Thank so much bros.
Funny how tolani baj and idera look so alike...
Just like movie. Things dey sup for this life o
My brother star boi took me here when everywhere no good people here are good people
What a life💔
It seems the grandmother messed her up, the father needs to show compassion and have unconditional love and support. She can be rehabilitated but need a lot of love and support. Please don’t give up. Have you tried to reach out to her mother?
Person wey carry grandma 2m and car japa..person wey Dey sell granpa things just to buy drugs etc…you know the kind trauma wey that grandma Dey nurse?
@@LollycruiseTV😮
That bros wey drag her they craze 😂😂
Lagos state should take responsibility, Nigeria should take responsibility if the parents can't do it anymore stop blaming them. At this point she needs to be in permanent lockup till she is clean and relocated away from her familiar area to a supported living environment. So stop blaming her parents. There is so much they can do.
This is a spiritual matter. Find a good pastor to deliver her.
Well the parent dont need to be tired if it's truly there child and putting her in rehab is not just the only solution it requires prayer and consistent counselling about what she is doing especially danger to the body organs and making her see things to life in a different dimension ghetto is actually bad for her and I grew up in mushin and I understand the plight GOD be with her and also you also Mr lilgaga