Op is also awful for everything she put her partner through. If she loves him and knows it's untrue don't stir the pot and act like your sister Just do it.
@taipao6661 spot on. It was HER sister that cause the doubt, and it is in HER ability to resolve any doubt. And, f'them parents. AH through and through
@@Thomas9907-I If I'm OP, i would do the test too 😌 but while Nate was signing the consent form, he should sign the divorce form too. If he can't trust his own wife, might as well go for the divorce while the topic is still there. Nate was so wrong in that cus if he suspected her, he should find proof first before outright indicating he's doubting her. Find those proof and confront her if she rly did cheats.
50 percent or MORE of children born to married couples are NOT fathered by the husband. The MAJORITY of children born to married couples are from cheating wives in nearly the ENTIRE WORLD. Any woman wants to avoid the test, and the majority of women have something to hide .
@@Thomas9907-Iwhen you KNOW the person talking crap is a KNOWN liar and crap starter you should never take their side. Especially against your own partner. ESPECIALLY when the partner is a victim of the crap starter. Nate might be a good man but he's a weak one and pathetic to believe that clear lie. Op deserves better
Please even Jesus as much as he loves humanity unconditionally, he does'nt trust them at all. He knew Both Judas and Peter would betray him. He knows human nature if they think they can get away with something they will try to and fake innocence.
Given the situation, there are reasons you'd want the test other than a lack of trust. Your sister-in-law just accused your wife of cheating and baby trapping you in front of her family and child. Word of that is highly likely to spread and you can no longer trust Rachel not to keep hinting at that with other people -- his parents, friends, son's friend's parents, etc. Further, at some point you are highly likely to need to confront the sister and the wife's parents with massive actions "We won't attend any family events she is invited to. She isn't welcome near our children. etc." or even legal action. You'd want to DNA test in your pocket merely to take that stand.
Your husband goes to a bachelor party and hear that there were hookers present. Would you feel better that if someone had video of what occurred to show you your husband didn’t do anything with the hookers? or would you be good with JUST his word. TRUST isnt a just a feeling, it is built to through actions.
Its not the marriage, paternity trust is a little bit different from most other forms of trust. A women know exactly who the father of a child is, could be or even if they have no idea who it is, unless a man is with a woman for 24 hours a day for over a year and knows she hasn’t had the opportunity, he only has the woman’s word that a child is his. If the child looks nothing like him, many men won’t even realise but once someone points it out, but it’s like a bell, you can’t un-ring it and you can’t un-see it. Once that’s seed of doubt is sewn it’s hard to ignore and will eat you away. Plus’s we’ve seen so many stories, in the media, online and friends and families where men find out years and even decades later a child they thought was theirs turns out no to be.
@tsrgoinc I totally agree with what you are saying and have seen the same many times, even though I would be offended of being accused of cheating because I don't believe in cheating, (I'd rather break up if relationship isnt working) I would IMMEDIATELY have my husband take a paternity test, I believe in doing that right after baby is born. But she should have just done it right away, it could have been resolve as soon as Rachel made the snide comment and husband was doubting. It's understandable because it happens often enough.
MORE THAN HALF of children born to married couples are NOT fathered by the husband. It has been scientifically proven by most dna companies world wide. In jamiaca it is 90% and UK and Scotland is over 50%. Anyone SHOULD be concerned with who the father is because cheat is the majority of children. So don't be self righteous when men have legitimate concerns.
She should have offered the paternity test, and make it clear that its stapled to divorce papers. If there's no trust, where can they possibly go from there? Good for her for sticking it out, but frankly it'll only take another doubt to crash things for him again, and if not, she'll have that over his head forever.
Or we need men who are up front in relationships that they'll be DNA testing any of their children or just doing it on mass such that most women now fear that they'll be caught.
@BW022 maybe, but those aren't the ones they pick to cheat with now are they!? Cheating is a proven survival strategy. The seed who grows without care, yields two fold. as such there will always be cheats and liars. No, this requires a practical solution, not an idiological.
It is a big deal. The husband is basically accusing his wife of cheating. It would be game over for me. Trust once broken is gone forever. The husband has made his choice... he doesn't trust his wife.
Hands can shake out of anger, too. I'm in the camp that DNA tests at birth should be mandatory, just like the other standard tests they run on babies when they are born. Do it under the guise of making sure the baby goes home with the correct parents. But as it stands, a request for a paternity test implies that there is doubt as to who the father is, which means he doubts her faithfulness. That is a hard blow to come back from. If my husband out of the blue had demanded a paternity test years after our son was born, when there were absolutely no red - or even slightly pink - flags, I'd be pissed, too.
@@cynthiaturcotte9280 I agree the shaking out of anger could be true, but the way the story was told that was not the case. She was relived it came back to her husband. I also agree that there should be paternity tests completed at birth. It will reduce the instances of paternity fraud, and there could never be any doubt. Yes, I too would be pissed if my husband ever came to me wanting a paternity test. I don't know if a relationship could ever come back from that.
Should’ve just done the test right away instead of all this blah blah, and then when it was clear it was his make it clear to him that one move for a long time I’m out. Nate was to quick to believe it tells me that he wasn’t solid.
If anyone ever makes such a comment, the right response is to roll your eyes while turning to your man, say "don't worry; we'll get a test," and go back to eating like nothing happened. Don't give him room or time to start doubting. If anything gave him doubts, it was her stupid reaction to the whole thing. This didn't need to blow up so big.
no, the real way is the husband step up for the wife. he shouldve known his SIL is crazy, so he should be the one saying wtf rachel. and instead of arguing abt its stuck in my head, prove it to me ace. just say, lets take the test and shove it to her face.
Honestly, if you have nothing to hide. Do the test. Heck, I believe paternity test need to be done on all children not including adoption and arrangements
Because you're an idiot if you can't see how the demand for a paternity test is screaming "I think you're a lousy cheater." You talk about that BEFORE even having intimacy. Afterwards is an accusation.
THIS. Even adoptions and arrangements should have tests done so you can match them to family to find out medical history. It's sad that his trust was shaken so easily, but reacting with anger to the request to take a test that can shut those doubts up is stupid.
Although I agree, the problem with marriage is that it’s a vow of trust, immense trust between two people. Being asked for a paternity test is like being told you’re lying, and in vice versa, refusing the paternity test is also like admitting that you’re lying
Especially since it was her sister who started the doubt. I don't see anything wrong with getting a test in this case. I would want my husband to know for certain his son was his.
@@wackyiv219considering how many paternity fraud is happening in present day society, I don't find husband wrong. If she was so sure that she didn't cheat why didn't she took paternity test and slap in face of her sister. Female doesn't need maternity test but men do.
@@wackyiv219 then that says ALOT about you. mothers know 100% if there the mother of a child but a father has to take there word for it love and trust her like she can do no wrong like soem perfect angel? please do you have ANY idea how many men are raising kids thats not theres how many men are payign child support for children thats not theres? have you not seen stories of men finding out there not the father of the child they raised for over 18 years? in a ideal world men would believe the women and alot of men do and they dont even realising they are raising another mans child. but this isnt a ideal world women cheat only difference is when a women cheats they can get pregnant and claim anyones the father. the guy and his child went to some party and the wifes sister made a loud comment infront of everyone that alone would put doubt in ANY mans head why? because it was said infront of family and friends and there ALL gonna be wondering if hes the father or not. men know thats what they will be wondering aswell and she even gave a name putting a name forward which to men is a HUGH red flag. claiming your sister is a cheat but to also mention someones name on top of it? would make majority of men pause a think is there a ounce of truth in it and panic would form FAST. now in this story she didnt cheat and good on her but hey what about rachels husband wanting a test aswell? only she DID cheat and was proven to be a cheat what the husband shouldnt have asked for a dna test either maybe he should have believed his wife and trusted her and see where that would have gotten him. you said youd prove it and hold it over his head for the rest of his life why just because he wants peace of mind he wants proof hes not raising another mans child? when you have nothing to hide then proving the man is indeed the father should be easy and it will put his mind at ease. But to hold it over his head for the rest of his life well do that and your marriage will just end in divorce very quickly because you cant let it go.
And why should she???? Her husband literally took word of some b*tch that is known for putting other down and even creating lies. He didn't believe his own wife nor his own son that he raised. It's not her pride that messed up their marriage. It was his own insecurity.
Why hesitated taking paternity test? Just take it, proved your husband is wrong. Although, it's heartbreaking because the husband doesn't believe his wife.
I think the worse thing about this story is that the person playing the game looks like they’re 4 yrs old and has no clue how to play the game…worse player ever! As for the story, get the test then put it over his head forever.
She should leave Nate after proving the Max was his son. Divorce!!!!! The fact that he doubted his wife to that degree caused irrevocable damage to the relationship. No matter how much the husband apologizes to his wife, the damage is done!
You feel untrusted…fair. you cant choose how you feel, but you can choose what you do. Your husband chose not to push, and held his opinion. YOU kept asking what could you do, but you CHOSE not to do what would make your husband feel SAFE. You FINALLY chose to do what is right for your marriage.
Might be the petty in me, but I'd have looked at him and said "Alright. But as soon as it comes back saying you are His father, I want you to know I am NEVER going to forgive you. I will bring this up at every Anniversary. Every Holiday. Every Therapy session we decide to go to. I will remind you, each and every day, of this one moment where you decided to take someone else's word over mine, in our 10 years of marriage."
"You're a human. Humans cheat, roughly 40% of them. I'll trust you until I have some reason to question it. If you have an issue with me validating your character, considering that people change and can spend years hiding their true nature. Then I think it's better we stop seeing each other."
OP sounds crazy. The moment she found out that her sister was cheating on her BIL, she should have told her husband, sent the proof to her BIL, and then announced that the sister isn't welcome near her, her husband, or her children and that the parents should stop inviting them to anything which the sister would be attending.
Sure, I would have done the test knowing I had nothing to prove. But it would have also come with divorce papers, because there is no recovering from your trust being broken like that. If my Husband EVER let some dumb comment like that sow doubt, we're done.
I understand your point, but I also seen many people(seeming loving faithful wives) duped their husbands in preternity to hide their fling. So many men want reassurance. And yes you also had right to be angry & even humiliated for him to ask that from you. Best option maybe communication & hear eachother out .... I think
The amount of people in the comments here saying she should divorce nate is crazy. He didnt accuse her of cheating, he didnt force her into taking the test, he didnt even try to bring up the Argument anymore, he was willing to let this all go and stay in her life and raise that kid, DESPITE his doubt. Yes he might have gotten colder and the feeling of not being trusted hurts, but in that moment both of you were hurt and only the OP started to get angry and escalate the issue. Nate seems far more like the mature one here and the OPs angry reaction is a red flag. Edit: Also her calling nates line of "i just cant turn off my thoughts" an excuse is crazy. Yea no thats not an excuse, people really cant just turn off their thoughts, and getting angry at your husband for having human emotion like doubt is not helping you fix anything.
She's confused why he's not talking to her meanwhile her husband did try to talk to her but she got aggressive, cutting him off, yelling... What is he supposed to get from that? I don't wonder him having doubts with someone that can become so angry for their partner feeling doubtful. There would be apsolutely no need for paternity test if she just knew how to talk to her partner.
Hell no. Her husband also "knew the truth". He was the the one that inseminated her egg, he was the one that was with her during her pregnancy, he was the one that helped raising their son... He was also the one that threw all of that in garbage and decided to let his insecurities win. There is no way that this happened only because of her sister's remark. Dude had issues waaaay before that. Honestly, he needs tons of therapy and so do you if you believe that poor OP is narc.
@@Tris_. But why in the world the OP got really defensive and mad in the first place? If she never cheat before and know whos the father is, it's shouldn't be a big deal to just take the test? The reason why he start to get untrusting is the way how OP gettting mad at him for not trusting her words. Even though a simple test that you can get easily with no problem is the better way to solve it. Plus, you can also take that proof and expose the sister for trying to ruin their marriage. It's an easy clap back to her sister
First half of the story you have a female whose honor was was disrespected because of her sister about the paternity of the test and instead of she being angry with her sister she was angry at her husband I think that you shut up all that aggression you should put it towards your sister instead of your husband because she got to you and you didn't do anything you're taking your frustration out on your husband
No, she was upset that her husband didn't trust her. He wouldn't let go the thought that his son could have been her ex's. That is why she was upset at her husband. One comment from her sister ruined her marriage.
The stigma against just taking a test that can shut down any question about a child's parentage is bizarre. Yes. A partner should trust you, but it shouldn't be offensive to consider taking the test to reassure your partner. Reacting with ANGER to doubt is not helpful in the least (particularly doubt brought about by something like an accusation from a family member without prior known enmity). Addendum: Wow, the Hypocrisy, commenting on the sister being mad about a paternity test request after she freaked out and shouted at her husband for requesting one after a family member made an accusation.
@@Twiggyanajones Being Offended is fine. Refusing to Solve A Problem or Communicate is not. I've dealt with infidelity accusations myself. I stowed the spleen I wanted to vent, solved the issue by agreeing with my partners requests (which offended me) and then addressed my emotional pain with my partner. OP Responding with anger and refusal to address the problem only made the situation worse, and was a failure on her part to accompany her husband's fault. Honestly, it doesn't help my disdain for her anger at getting the test that I'm one of those people who think Paternity tests should just be mandatory. If you test at/before birth this can never come up.
I dont get how people sh-t on Nate. Just because he wanted a paternity test that doesn't mean he doesn't trust her. The test is the only f-cking evidence that would shut up everyones mouth who likes to spread rumors. Not to mention, what if max heard the rumor because they let it be? the seed of doubt would always spread if you dont shut it up quick. Is it really worth it making your family suffer just to prove a point? its not only making nate doubt but op is also hurting HER OWN CHILDREN. Lets say Nate let the matter drop. What happened if it was brought up again in the future by another family member? what if max happened to be old enough to understand? words of comfort does nothing at that point. and i wasn't like nate was forcing her either, he was in his own thoughts. probably thinking how this comment could ruin his family. Honestly im the same as nate. if someone said that comment to me and i knew my family enough that it would spread, i would just say "lets take a test and shut this bs down quick". But if my partner acted all defensive and sh-t like that then i would start to doubt em. taking a test doesnt always mean you doubt your partner. Its just a f-cking faster way to solve the drama instead of dragging it on. It should be taken if you know its tearing your family apart.
OP sounds so annoying with how she has to mention twice how her marriage is falling apart and 'there is nothing she can do'. 🙄🙄🙄 This story sounds so fake with how easy she found out things with a single fake Facebook account. Genius investigating right there. lmao
Op sounds horrible. That ego that would rather break the marriage than take a damn test. Also if you read between the lines I think there was a possibility that the kid wasn't her husbands which makes her a garbage of a human.
Rachal"s both parents are horrible...they didn't call her out for being nasty. They deserve hell for their action...not just Rachal
Op is also awful for everything she put her partner through. If she loves him and knows it's untrue don't stir the pot and act like your sister
Just do it.
@taipao6661 spot on. It was HER sister that cause the doubt, and it is in HER ability to resolve any doubt.
And, f'them parents. AH through and through
Nate should be divorced for SUGGESTING the sister was right to ask. END of it
Take a paternity test and be done with it Nate is a good man
@@Thomas9907-I If I'm OP, i would do the test too 😌 but while Nate was signing the consent form, he should sign the divorce form too.
If he can't trust his own wife, might as well go for the divorce while the topic is still there.
Nate was so wrong in that cus if he suspected her, he should find proof first before outright indicating he's doubting her. Find those proof and confront her if she rly did cheats.
@ Then he should also take the paternity test for her sister's child. We don't know what he did too. Usually it's projection when men ask like this.
50 percent or MORE of children born to married couples are NOT fathered by the husband. The MAJORITY of children born to married couples are from cheating wives in nearly the ENTIRE WORLD.
Any woman wants to avoid the test, and the majority of women have something to hide .
@@Thomas9907-Iwhen you KNOW the person talking crap is a KNOWN liar and crap starter you should never take their side. Especially against your own partner. ESPECIALLY when the partner is a victim of the crap starter. Nate might be a good man but he's a weak one and pathetic to believe that clear lie. Op deserves better
Sure, take the test and reassure the husband, but, it also proves that the husband does not trust the wife. And THAT, is forever!
Please even Jesus as much as he loves humanity unconditionally, he does'nt trust them at all. He knew Both Judas and Peter would betray him. He knows human nature if they think they can get away with something they will try to and fake innocence.
Given the situation, there are reasons you'd want the test other than a lack of trust. Your sister-in-law just accused your wife of cheating and baby trapping you in front of her family and child. Word of that is highly likely to spread and you can no longer trust Rachel not to keep hinting at that with other people -- his parents, friends, son's friend's parents, etc. Further, at some point you are highly likely to need to confront the sister and the wife's parents with massive actions "We won't attend any family events she is invited to. She isn't welcome near our children. etc." or even legal action. You'd want to DNA test in your pocket merely to take that stand.
Your husband goes to a bachelor party and hear that there were hookers present. Would you feel better that if someone had video of what occurred to show you your husband didn’t do anything with the hookers? or would you be good with JUST his word. TRUST isnt a just a feeling, it is built to through actions.
They should reflect on the weakness in their marriage to understand why one sentence can hurt them so like that
Nope. Right thing would be to say that she would take paternity test and slap in face of her sister for accusing of cheating
Its not the marriage, paternity trust is a little bit different from most other forms of trust. A women know exactly who the father of a child is, could be or even if they have no idea who it is, unless a man is with a woman for 24 hours a day for over a year and knows she hasn’t had the opportunity, he only has the woman’s word that a child is his. If the child looks nothing like him, many men won’t even realise but once someone points it out, but it’s like a bell, you can’t un-ring it and you can’t un-see it. Once that’s seed of doubt is sewn it’s hard to ignore and will eat you away. Plus’s we’ve seen so many stories, in the media, online and friends and families where men find out years and even decades later a child they thought was theirs turns out no to be.
@tsrgoinc I totally agree with what you are saying and have seen the same many times, even though I would be offended of being accused of cheating because I don't believe in cheating, (I'd rather break up if relationship isnt working) I would IMMEDIATELY have my husband take a paternity test, I believe in doing that right after baby is born. But she should have just done it right away, it could have been resolve as soon as Rachel made the snide comment and husband was doubting. It's understandable because it happens often enough.
MORE THAN HALF of children born to married couples are NOT fathered by the husband. It has been scientifically proven by most dna companies world wide. In jamiaca it is 90% and UK and Scotland is over 50%. Anyone SHOULD be concerned with who the father is because cheat is the majority of children. So don't be self righteous when men have legitimate concerns.
That kid is going to have a tough childhood having a parent like Racheal
I would’ve given him the paternity test with the divorce papers
She should have offered the paternity test, and make it clear that its stapled to divorce papers. If there's no trust, where can they possibly go from there? Good for her for sticking it out, but frankly it'll only take another doubt to crash things for him again, and if not, she'll have that over his head forever.
Rachel karma was quick 😂
Paternity test directly after birth. Good if a medical emergency arises and good for keeping everything right.
Exactly 💯 🎉
Paternity tests should be mandatory for every birth! Both parents need to be 100% , not just the mother!
Dude! Just run your own paternity test! No one has to know.
We need to make DNA tests mandatory at birth, problem solved, no more hurt over mistrust.
Absolutely!
Yeah, it’s hard to disagree, but it’s never going to happen!
Or we need men who are up front in relationships that they'll be DNA testing any of their children or just doing it on mass such that most women now fear that they'll be caught.
@BW022 maybe, but those aren't the ones they pick to cheat with now are they!? Cheating is a proven survival strategy. The seed who grows without care, yields two fold. as such there will always be cheats and liars. No, this requires a practical solution, not an idiological.
But thn you gonna wèed out the høe with proof.... Its simple women support cheating friends...
I'd apply for divorce and leave.
The thing is, max paternity test may prove that Nate us the dad. It doesnt prove either way if the mom cheated or not
The whole point of the sister's comment was to break up her marriage. Having a test is no big deal, do it and move on!
It is a big deal. The husband is basically accusing his wife of cheating. It would be game over for me. Trust once broken is gone forever. The husband has made his choice... he doesn't trust his wife.
The way I was so excited the entire time for Rachael to get what was coming to her
If she knew the kid was his, why did she open the envelope with shaking hands?
Whas thinking the same thing
Hands can shake out of anger, too. I'm in the camp that DNA tests at birth should be mandatory, just like the other standard tests they run on babies when they are born. Do it under the guise of making sure the baby goes home with the correct parents. But as it stands, a request for a paternity test implies that there is doubt as to who the father is, which means he doubts her faithfulness. That is a hard blow to come back from. If my husband out of the blue had demanded a paternity test years after our son was born, when there were absolutely no red - or even slightly pink - flags, I'd be pissed, too.
@@cynthiaturcotte9280 I agree the shaking out of anger could be true, but the way the story was told that was not the case. She was relived it came back to her husband. I also agree that there should be paternity tests completed at birth. It will reduce the instances of paternity fraud, and there could never be any doubt. Yes, I too would be pissed if my husband ever came to me wanting a paternity test. I don't know if a relationship could ever come back from that.
She knew there was a possibility it wasn't her husband's child. That's why her hands were shaking.
Should’ve just done the test right away instead of all this blah blah, and then when it was clear it was his make it clear to him that one move for a long time I’m out. Nate was to quick to believe it tells me that he wasn’t solid.
If anyone ever makes such a comment, the right response is to roll your eyes while turning to your man, say "don't worry; we'll get a test," and go back to eating like nothing happened. Don't give him room or time to start doubting. If anything gave him doubts, it was her stupid reaction to the whole thing. This didn't need to blow up so big.
If the '' shaking hands shile opening the envelope '' tells anything she probably was not sure if the kid was from nate or not, dude.
@@tuliocolaco2045lmao
How is it her fault. Not everyone reacts the same or can be so indifferent.
no, the real way is the husband step up for the wife. he shouldve known his SIL is crazy, so he should be the one saying wtf rachel.
and instead of arguing abt its stuck in my head, prove it to me ace. just say, lets take the test and shove it to her face.
@I.am.hooked You don't have to be indifferent to be smart. They are not mutually exclusive things.
Honestly, if you have nothing to hide. Do the test. Heck, I believe paternity test need to be done on all children not including adoption and arrangements
Because you're an idiot if you can't see how the demand for a paternity test is screaming "I think you're a lousy cheater." You talk about that BEFORE even having intimacy. Afterwards is an accusation.
THIS. Even adoptions and arrangements should have tests done so you can match them to family to find out medical history. It's sad that his trust was shaken so easily, but reacting with anger to the request to take a test that can shut those doubts up is stupid.
Although I agree, the problem with marriage is that it’s a vow of trust, immense trust between two people. Being asked for a paternity test is like being told you’re lying, and in vice versa, refusing the paternity test is also like admitting that you’re lying
Especially since it was her sister who started the doubt. I don't see anything wrong with getting a test in this case. I would want my husband to know for certain his son was his.
Same, it takes like a minute, idk why it's a big deal. The truth will come out eventually may as well be immediate.
I would get the test and then file for divorce and take everything from him
She should just do the test. Then Rachel's accusations wouldn't have any teeth. Her pride is ruining her marriage.
Except she did and it still messed up her marriage. If I were her I'd hold this over his head for the rest of his life
@@wackyiv219considering how many paternity fraud is happening in present day society, I don't find husband wrong.
If she was so sure that she didn't cheat why didn't she took paternity test and slap in face of her sister.
Female doesn't need maternity test but men do.
@@wackyiv219 then that says ALOT about you. mothers know 100% if there the mother of a child but a father has to take there word for it love and trust her like she can do no wrong like soem perfect angel? please do you have ANY idea how many men are raising kids thats not theres how many men are payign child support for children thats not theres? have you not seen stories of men finding out there not the father of the child they raised for over 18 years? in a ideal world men would believe the women and alot of men do and they dont even realising they are raising another mans child. but this isnt a ideal world women cheat only difference is when a women cheats they can get pregnant and claim anyones the father.
the guy and his child went to some party and the wifes sister made a loud comment infront of everyone that alone would put doubt in ANY mans head why? because it was said infront of family and friends and there ALL gonna be wondering if hes the father or not. men know thats what they will be wondering aswell and she even gave a name putting a name forward which to men is a HUGH red flag. claiming your sister is a cheat but to also mention someones name on top of it? would make majority of men pause a think is there a ounce of truth in it and panic would form FAST.
now in this story she didnt cheat and good on her but hey what about rachels husband wanting a test aswell? only she DID cheat and was proven to be a cheat what the husband shouldnt have asked for a dna test either maybe he should have believed his wife and trusted her and see where that would have gotten him.
you said youd prove it and hold it over his head for the rest of his life why just because he wants peace of mind he wants proof hes not raising another mans child? when you have nothing to hide then proving the man is indeed the father should be easy and it will put his mind at ease. But to hold it over his head for the rest of his life well do that and your marriage will just end in divorce very quickly because you cant let it go.
And why should she???? Her husband literally took word of some b*tch that is known for putting other down and even creating lies. He didn't believe his own wife nor his own son that he raised. It's not her pride that messed up their marriage. It was his own insecurity.
@wackyiv219 or you could divorce him and move on with your life.
Bruh the way she described her fashion 😭💀💀
Why hesitated taking paternity test? Just take it, proved your husband is wrong. Although, it's heartbreaking because the husband doesn't believe his wife.
I don’t think i could have come back from this….
I think the worse thing about this story is that the person playing the game looks like they’re 4 yrs old and has no clue how to play the game…worse player ever! As for the story, get the test then put it over his head forever.
She should leave Nate after proving the Max was his son. Divorce!!!!! The fact that he doubted his wife to that degree caused irrevocable damage to the relationship. No matter how much the husband apologizes to his wife, the damage is done!
NTA - She set the standard, and you just followed her example 🔄
Why has no one commented on the word "insinuated"... Look up the right word next time, it's "Insisted"!
You feel untrusted…fair. you cant choose how you feel, but you can choose what you do. Your husband chose not to push, and held his opinion. YOU kept asking what could you do, but you CHOSE not to do what would make your husband feel SAFE. You FINALLY chose to do what is right for your marriage.
Might be the petty in me, but I'd have looked at him and said "Alright. But as soon as it comes back saying you are His father, I want you to know I am NEVER going to forgive you. I will bring this up at every Anniversary. Every Holiday. Every Therapy session we decide to go to. I will remind you, each and every day, of this one moment where you decided to take someone else's word over mine, in our 10 years of marriage."
"You're a human. Humans cheat, roughly 40% of them. I'll trust you until I have some reason to question it.
If you have an issue with me validating your character, considering that people change and can spend years hiding their true nature. Then I think it's better we stop seeing each other."
Lol, leaving the party after everything blows feels like OP gives her sis a middle finger, love the retaliation.
OP sounds crazy. The moment she found out that her sister was cheating on her BIL, she should have told her husband, sent the proof to her BIL, and then announced that the sister isn't welcome near her, her husband, or her children and that the parents should stop inviting them to anything which the sister would be attending.
Sure, I would have done the test knowing I had nothing to prove. But it would have also come with divorce papers, because there is no recovering from your trust being broken like that. If my Husband EVER let some dumb comment like that sow doubt, we're done.
I understand your point, but I also seen many people(seeming loving faithful wives) duped their husbands in preternity to hide their fling. So many men want reassurance. And yes you also had right to be angry & even humiliated for him to ask that from you. Best option maybe communication & hear eachother out .... I think
How did Elise get Rachels messages to Brandon?! 🤔🤔
The amount of people in the comments here saying she should divorce nate is crazy. He didnt accuse her of cheating, he didnt force her into taking the test, he didnt even try to bring up the Argument anymore, he was willing to let this all go and stay in her life and raise that kid, DESPITE his doubt. Yes he might have gotten colder and the feeling of not being trusted hurts, but in that moment both of you were hurt and only the OP started to get angry and escalate the issue. Nate seems far more like the mature one here and the OPs angry reaction is a red flag. Edit: Also her calling nates line of "i just cant turn off my thoughts" an excuse is crazy. Yea no thats not an excuse, people really cant just turn off their thoughts, and getting angry at your husband for having human emotion like doubt is not helping you fix anything.
She's confused why he's not talking to her meanwhile her husband did try to talk to her but she got aggressive, cutting him off, yelling...
What is he supposed to get from that?
I don't wonder him having doubts with someone that can become so angry for their partner feeling doubtful.
There would be apsolutely no need for paternity test if she just knew how to talk to her partner.
OP is as narcissistic as her sister. Her knowing the true does not mean other people automatically has the certainty
Hell no. Her husband also "knew the truth". He was the the one that inseminated her egg, he was the one that was with her during her pregnancy, he was the one that helped raising their son... He was also the one that threw all of that in garbage and decided to let his insecurities win. There is no way that this happened only because of her sister's remark. Dude had issues waaaay before that. Honestly, he needs tons of therapy and so do you if you believe that poor OP is narc.
@@Tris_. But why in the world the OP got really defensive and mad in the first place? If she never cheat before and know whos the father is, it's shouldn't be a big deal to just take the test? The reason why he start to get untrusting is the way how OP gettting mad at him for not trusting her words. Even though a simple test that you can get easily with no problem is the better way to solve it. Plus, you can also take that proof and expose the sister for trying to ruin their marriage. It's an easy clap back to her sister
First half of the story you have a female whose honor was was disrespected because of her sister about the paternity of the test and instead of she being angry with her sister she was angry at her husband I think that you shut up all that aggression you should put it towards your sister instead of your husband because she got to you and you didn't do anything you're taking your frustration out on your husband
No, she was upset that her husband didn't trust her. He wouldn't let go the thought that his son could have been her ex's. That is why she was upset at her husband. One comment from her sister ruined her marriage.
Why is she so concerned about getting the test? If she has nothing to hide, then she shouldn't feel bad about getting the test.
Ah the comment that means that SHE cheated! There’s a name for that kind of comment but it’s 3am and I can’t remember.
Projecting. It comes to me eventually.
What's the problem we only see it everyday you are not the father
The stigma against just taking a test that can shut down any question about a child's parentage is bizarre. Yes. A partner should trust you, but it shouldn't be offensive to consider taking the test to reassure your partner. Reacting with ANGER to doubt is not helpful in the least (particularly doubt brought about by something like an accusation from a family member without prior known enmity). Addendum: Wow, the Hypocrisy, commenting on the sister being mad about a paternity test request after she freaked out and shouted at her husband for requesting one after a family member made an accusation.
When someone accuses you of anything you know didn't do, you tend to be offended.
@@Twiggyanajones Being Offended is fine. Refusing to Solve A Problem or Communicate is not. I've dealt with infidelity accusations myself. I stowed the spleen I wanted to vent, solved the issue by agreeing with my partners requests (which offended me) and then addressed my emotional pain with my partner.
OP Responding with anger and refusal to address the problem only made the situation worse, and was a failure on her part to accompany her husband's fault.
Honestly, it doesn't help my disdain for her anger at getting the test that I'm one of those people who think Paternity tests should just be mandatory. If you test at/before birth this can never come up.
I dont get how people sh-t on Nate. Just because he wanted a paternity test that doesn't mean he doesn't trust her. The test is the only f-cking evidence that would shut up everyones mouth who likes to spread rumors. Not to mention, what if max heard the rumor because they let it be? the seed of doubt would always spread if you dont shut it up quick. Is it really worth it making your family suffer just to prove a point? its not only making nate doubt but op is also hurting HER OWN CHILDREN. Lets say Nate let the matter drop. What happened if it was brought up again in the future by another family member? what if max happened to be old enough to understand? words of comfort does nothing at that point. and i wasn't like nate was forcing her either, he was in his own thoughts. probably thinking how this comment could ruin his family.
Honestly im the same as nate. if someone said that comment to me and i knew my family enough that it would spread, i would just say "lets take a test and shut this bs down quick". But if my partner acted all defensive and sh-t like that then i would start to doubt em. taking a test doesnt always mean you doubt your partner. Its just a f-cking faster way to solve the drama instead of dragging it on. It should be taken if you know its tearing your family apart.
Those that lives in glass houses?
OP sounds so annoying with how she has to mention twice how her marriage is falling apart and 'there is nothing she can do'. 🙄🙄🙄
This story sounds so fake with how easy she found out things with a single fake Facebook account. Genius investigating right there. lmao
Op sounds horrible. That ego that would rather break the marriage than take a damn test. Also if you read between the lines I think there was a possibility that the kid wasn't her husbands which makes her a garbage of a human.
Without trust there is no relationship. She should have done the test and divorced him when the results came.
@@jkrenee Ego and pride will took ya
It's suspicious that one comment from a horrible person would make him doubt...you should divorce him and also check if he is prone to stepping out.
What is suspicious is opening the enveloppe herself with shaking hands, don't you think?
@@happystoat99 people's hands can shake with anger just like she keeps saying she feels right before she opens the test
The game in the back ground is ver distracting can you lose lt
This OP is very self centered, it was never about her integrity. Women always know if the kid is theirs, but a man cant know for sure w/out a test.
It's funny that the OP didn't recognize that the sister who actually cheated said the same things she did to her husband.
Why not just get the test and get over it, when he asked for it youd have given it to him
so crazy
Badly read, long winded and boring
Oh got pity’s sake! This is such a stupid issue. Just do the dna test and get over it.
Lol, another bad writing project😂
Nate just do a secret paternity test