Interesting points. I've had horrible experiences dating both Black, White, Latino, and everything in between. I think it has more so to do with the individual's level of education, exposure, and personal background than anything. Even within a Black on Black experience, we are not monoliths and there can be vast differences as it relates to cultural understandings within our families. As long as both are willing to actively listen to the other, and challenge oneself to remove biased thoughts that may have been in your head since you were able to express yourself - I think that's the key to any successful relationship. It's not easy and requires work.
Hey man. I’m from Detroit where there is already a racial divide for sure. I’ve had many experiences with friends who happen to be black. When I’ve been pulled over the officer always ,asks my black friends for their ID first before mine. Even when there are three other friends they ask,me,last. On one occasion they asked them and not mine. I was outraged but afraid to even speak up for fear of what this dude would do next. It’s even happened when I happened to to be dating a black man in public. Asking for my BF’s ID for no reason but not mine. Thought I would share. Keep making my day “everyday”
My experience with white men was similar to yours. I know exactly how you feel. I love the video... the message was very well delivered. I am no one's freak toy! Thank you.
@@aleqrobinson2876 Close but no cigar. When non black fetishize blk ppl its in the vain of looking at them as inhuman sexual animals. These blk men you speak of exotify non blk people by way of placing them on a pedestal and denouncing their own race. So like I said maybe similar but definitely not the same. Y'all need to give it a rest trying so hard to relate to blk ppl.
I was with my partner, " Who was white" l loved him immensely and unfortunately lost him to leukemia after 26 yrs. I do understand where you are coming from. But l molded my man and made him understand exactly how he did not know that some of the things he said would be deemed to be prejudiced. A came to realize that some Anglo people don't really know they are sometimes stereotyping other nationalities. I had to explain to him that l loved him because he was him, and l wanted him to love me for me. It was hard being in a biracial relationship, but l wouldn't trade those 26 yrs for anything. I miss him immensely. I don't think l will date again for the simple fact it takes yrs to make a relationship solid, and at 60 l don't have the have the patience to try, so now it will be about me. Don't let love pass you by. No matter what shape, color, or nationality in comes in.❤❤❤
Great comment. The one thing Samson didn't go into was the 2 of them discussing what kind of person you are. What is your moral code? Do you know what a moral code is? I had a brief a relationship with a white man who was a former priest and we would have discussions about treating each other well as well as others.. It didn't last soley due to me. I was immature and didn't know a good thing when I had it. Currently I'm single but if I were the person I am now I probably could look back over 24 years of happiness and into the years to come.
I'm sorry you went through that. The idea that "love conquers all" sounds nice, but the reality is interracial relationships take work on both sides. A partner that's right for you should be willing to put that work in. They should have the self awareness to be attentive to your needs and listen to feedback without getting defensive when you say that something makes you uncomfortable. This is something I (white guy) try to strive for when talking to/dating POC, but even good intentions don't stop us from making mistakes. Just be on the lookout for those who are/aren't open to learning from them. And DMV shoutout 🤙!
I’m gasping for breath. This sounds like something from The Boondocks animated series. That guy picking you up from the train station was off the chain with the cornbread, etc.
I just don't date white guys, I've had the worst dates with them. It's either they are boring or show signs of fetshistic behaviour. I'm Asian and one time I dated this white guy and he assumed I was lactose intolerant! The other time he decided to make "Thai green curry". that shit was so unseasoned I cried for the chicken. Needless to say I broke it off with him almost immediately.
I had the same thing happen to me in San Francisco. My white partner at the time was driving me to work before dawn through a poor black neighborhood as a shortcut. Then we got pulled over by white policemen for no reason. And they asked for _both_ of our IDs even though I wasn't driving. They let us go after that, but I thought it was weird.
I white man I dated was pulled over, driving my car, in broad daylight as we were driving to see his parents in Iowa. He was taken back to the kkkopmobile and asked how long he'd known me. Then the kkkop came back and asked me if I was a terrorist. No ticket. No warning. Never again.
This video was excellent. I know it may not have been intended to be funny, but when you talked about the chitterlings and collard greens, I just rolled with laughter for quite a while. I imagine you probably also heard at some point in that encounter that "your not like other black men." I'm from the age of multi-lingualism, where you knew how to speak in every stiuation and being articulate was the norm unless you were speaking hood with your friends. Thanks for a wonderful inspiring clear example of articulating the lack of desire to be fetishized.
LOL I dont know what chitlins are but i definitely wont be bringing them on a date. :). I'm from a australia and people think we throw shrimp on the barbie. If a black guy bought me some shrimp I would think it was funny. But as australian we are used to americans not really knowing much about our culture. Maybe because im white and not used to racism i would not be offended by the food someone bought me. It shows I have a lot to learn about being sensitive to other cultures and not overcompensating with their cultural norms whoever they are.
@@markbaxter8748 This instance isn't about an "overcompensating with cultural norms" The individual was simply racist and fetishizing his Blackness. There are numerous racist undertones about this encounter that you may be unaware. "Chitlins" are pig intestines, made into delicacy food by enslaved Black people when they were only given the scraps to eat by the white people who enslaved them. This is deeper than bringing someone food of their culture. It's ignorant to think that someone would like chitlins, just because they're Black.
I directly asked the black man I was dating if I could be fetishizing him. He said, “Will you introduce me to your friends”, and I said absolutely. He said, then no. I dated a black man for the first time earlier this year. We are now just friends and that is great. All the moment, I am only interested in black men. I think it has something to do with being denied even friendships with black boys when I was little. I was raised in the 60’s. To me at the moment, I think I am a white boy going through a healing process around racism. I am fortunate to have these loving and open black gay men in my life who desire me and I desire them. It is just natural for me to have compassion and empathy when they share a story about something that has happened to them that is either racially motivated or at least culturally motivated. I totally agree that love is love even within our queer community and being open to that love is the most important thing.
Love is not just love. In America not that long ago Blacks were openly lynched in front of everyone and no one has been held accountable. No reparations and no hate crimes bill protecting ADOS either. FBI reports that Blacks have more hate crimes against us than any other ethnic group here. Blacks are the only group in America whose right to vote is voted on every few years. And Black newborn babies were fed to alligators across America and no one has been held accountable. But they do have dolls here depicting this absolute horror. And there was a time when Blacks could not marry one another ....not that long ago either. Love is not love and miscegenation laws are still on books across America. In fact successful business districts bka Black Wall Street originally in Durham ÑC was bombed, looted and destroyed by Caucasians because of swirling or accusations of it. Also another Black Wall Street aka successful business districts filled with former slaves in Wilmington NC was bombed looted and destroyed in 1898 by Caucasians. Happend again in Knoxville TN, E St Louis IL, Tulsa Oklahoma and Rosewood FL too. Love is not just love and when Blacks mix with Caucasians we lose our wealth, identity, culture, land, lives, history and more.
Thank you for your point of view I dated a white guy and I dated a asian guy went on dates with black guys however I've been single for almost 10 years and at this point in my life I just have no interst in being in a relationship with anyone like at all with all the apps and the way things are going in the world peoples feelings getting hurt over simple things that back in the 90s weren't an issue I've just washed my hands of all of it. The culture stuff too that you mentioned and other races not really understanding black culture is something that I don't feel like having to explain in depth to people
It is important, that in every relationship, there is going to be some educating to be done! Wherever there’s a multicultural engagement, we must lead with love & understanding. One of the most important factors should be open and clear communication between the two. There will always be family challenges. It should be about the two individuals but alas, I feel your pain and can see your point of view.
I think this happens between many different cultures. I think sometimes their intentions are well meaning but it can seem patronizing or racist.I think I,m educated enough not to use these tropes . I try to just be myself. I have a habit when i meet people from all differnet cultures to show off that i know about their culture but it can seems like rasicm so i try to stop doig this even though i think im being friendly.
Sometimes I hear folks say we are all the same and that we should focus on what we share. And certainly as human beings we do share a lot regardless of race or ethnicity. But there is lot we DO NOT share in terms of culture and history. White folks most often don't recognize that. They want to minimize the differences to their own advantage. They focus on what they see as black culture not the totality of it. Hip hop and collard greens, as you point out. Few get it. I'm not saying that is true of every white person but I have to say it is more common than not. But unless a white person is truly immersed in the black community and knows it's history, I think that is is perilous for black men to date white men. And even then their are issues to confront. What I find so curious is how many interracial couples don't' even deal with the issue or discuss it. Again not all but many.
I had a wonderful Black partner for 20 years who died recently. I've been reading Black authors and studying Black history since I was a kid, so at least I had a clue what he had to deal with, and of course in 20 years I saw plenty of the mistreatment he experienced. But instead of being bitter, he was incredibly loving and generous.
I’m so very sorry that happened to you. My mind is blown. I understand about dating someone that can relate to your own experiences but please know that not all white guys are like that. That has to be an extreme case of ignorance on a whole other level. Why can’t men in general just be themselves and learn about each other rather than imposing stereotypes that make exactly no sense on each other. It’s ok to be curious and ask questions about culture but what that guy did was insane. As a white man raised in the south, there are stereotypes made about southerners in general that just aren’t true or just extreme. I love your videos and i learn a lot from them.
Did you hear him he said it's not interested in teaching. Yt like yourself love to try to divorce race from everything and you simply can not you think this way because you're living a different reality from black people.
I agree, I’ve dated all type of women and I dated a white chick once and we just couldn’t gel culturally, we grew up totally different and on some things we couldn’t find a common ground, she was and still is a wonderful person but sometimes when the differences are too drastic it’s hard to find a common ground. It’s ok to date someone that understands you culturally, for some it’s just less stress💯💯
I did not click this expecting it to be as bad as it was, i thought you were just gonna say he was lil bit tone deaf and maybe his family was passive aggressive 😭 "natural African essences" is craaaazy.
I notice that self loathing act happens until they're washed up, out of shape and them white men throw them away then all of a sudden they be about black love... Foh🙄
Yasssszz. With regards to your comment about Black men who only date white men, and when you enter that hostile space? Yes my experiences as well sis. Or should I say that is what I have observed - too. I too am from the east coast but it would also happen in New York, Berlin, Paris and Copenhagen. It is quite sad. Marlon Riggs discussed this problem- too.
I have a white gay friend...recently i started to realize how race/gender obsessed he was. All the little racist/sexist micro-aggressions he would throw out(that would become more prevalent when he drank). I had to let him be for a moment cuz i'm not far from slapping the full fledged sh*t out of him for that ish he was saying. I already had to tell him about himself😒 Anyway, i appreciate your video's so much. I found you in January. I loved your stand-up, short movies and all your content. My son came out to me a little over a year in a half ago. I had no problem, because i'm a bi/ w/ a pref of women myself. I definitely worry for him for a million reasons. It's already hard enough just to be a black man, but i feel like black gay men possibly have it the hardest. Both of my sons are my world and so precious to me. I feel your content has invaluable information i can share w/ my son to help him through his journey. In short, thank you for your content and your presence on this earth king❤ You help more than you know.
So I’m Brazilian And i borned in São paulo city who got elevate % of black people here but idk why i never see a lot of them in my routine that’s sad but Here recently black love Started growing however black gay here is minority part of them minority date white boys but that is the problem white boys here is very toxic always put black people in the second almost of them feels superior that us steal or culture and our love i just Date black and sometimes is very hard to find someone who have truly blacklove inside 💔part of my life here i’ve been alone
Hello Sampson ~ I am huge fan of yours!! I am in DC following your career as best I can. You look good as always. I wanted you to know that you are amazing and don’t you change one hair on your head lol. Be well. Bryant
Why do we think dating folks who had us as slaves worldwide are going to treat us better????? Not smart and dating is spiritual as well as physical, emotional, etc Our self hatred or post traumatic slave disorder is a major problem.
Truth matters... you and I experience same things with white men but I prefer black men of color that my taste over all,I understand you I stay in Washington DC east coast
Thanks for sharing your experience...I have dated black men and have dated white men and Latino and blatino as it were....I am a white man of Portuguese and Italian ethnicity and grew up in a multiracial community....I do understand that we can be so different culturally but we as LBGT are 10% of the population and deserve to reach each other as human beings whether that be in a loving relationship or as a community ❤ .
Too funny and typical, as to your experiences. Now my experiences are very similar especially the body oder thing dude ws funky all the time he felt like he did not need to shower w/we hooked up WTF!!!
Preach!! Off Seasoning!! 😂 lol. 🧂 I wonder what a Open discussion between BW and gay BM about this topic would look like. ☕️ for me, non BM are easier to date.
Hmm... non-Black men are definitely easier to read when it comes to dating and relationships... very clear and direct BW and GBM are long overdue on a conversation about this and ALL the things
I have a black coworker that is whitewashed and strictly dates white guys. I be trying to explain to him that 90% of these boys want you for the wrong reason, but to him it don’t matter 🤷🏾♂️. White washed gay black men also hate to see two black men dating each other. It be eating them up inside, especially if the couple is cute.
Spot on with this it’s because black gay men aren’t desired unless it’s the thug trade stereotype (for 🍆) and then you’ll get thrown under the bus and stripped of this so called “lgbt privilege” we are still black men and face the same things straights do with other races in society. You can even be a Butch queen with a completely male wardrobe and no makeup wigs or nothing the minute you display any sign of feminine even if it’s dominante femininity it’s a problem that also comes from the black straight community they only accept gay stuff if they date outside the race because it’s like well you sold out to the white, Latino, etc there’s your manhood even it’s a thriving black gay couple they hate to see it just look at Places like ATL, NYC, DC, Chicago etc where it’s more common idc tho I can’t date outside my race
I just saw this video and I have had two black Lovers, partners, and long term relationship. One way in New Orleans unfortunately I lost him to diabetes. After 6 years together. At the time I met him his younger brother had just passed from diabetes. While we were together he lost his mother. His loss to me was horrible and traumatic. We lived together and traveled and enjoyed our time together. He was a Navy guy and a great young man. My second relationship with a black guy was after I moved to San Antonio Texas. We became so close I ended becoming great friends with his sister and her daughters. His Parents would come to my house and his mom would cook, we did great fun things together. We lasted for about 3 years but again he was a Military man and was finally transferred to Germany. Naturally this ended out relationship but I remained friends with him family. Yes, we had to learn things about each other and our separate cultures. Other wise I have found that Black men seemed to be looking for more financial support and help. However, I understand and respected our differences but I will say I have found it difficult to be in a relationship with a Black man. Even though I have met this past year a super nice black guy and we seem to click and are really soul mates. Love life is absolutely beautiful and fantastic for each other because we care about each other and how each other are satisfied with sex, cuddle time and just being in each other’s company.
Man this is all so true on so many levels even for heterosexuals. Thank you for sharing. I dated outside my race for the same reason - but the experience was meh. I’d rather be with my own kind
I don't give a flying rat's ass about a person's color. If he's white and treats me right, then he deserves my attention. If he's black, Latino, Asian, Native, Pacific-Islander, Middle-Eastern ( you get my point), and treats me right, then he gets my attention. For me, personally, I have had NOTHING but issues & bullshit when dating my own fellow blacks. So, it's not that I haven't dated black men, I have, which is why I no longer do. Get it? I much PREFER white men. That's MY preference, and there's NOTHING wrong with that. We ALL have preferences, and there's NOTHING wrong with that, either. Without question, MY personal experiences while dating white men has been much more pleasant, much less difficult than MY experiences with black men. I choose to be happy in this life, and for ME, I have been happier, less stressed, less argumentative, less having to deal with bullshit, less having to worry about someone pulling their own weight, less having to pay someone else's bills, less worried about cheating (should I go on?) with white men compared to black men. That's just MY experience, and noone can speak on MY experiences but me. I'm NOT saying there aren't any good black men out there, I'm just saying that I have not met him, AND I'm no longer even looking. I found EVERYTHING I'm looking for in my white partner of eight years.
@@everettjennings4443 Greetings from Germany,my parents was married for 30 years ,until my father die ,só i see black love in action ,but for me personally i didnt find real love with black men period,its st much strugle ,little value or apreciation for the efort,besides desdein and physical abouse,anyway the world is changing ,people travel,meet people ,internet ...does not matter the race of the man i liar is a liar,a lazy man is a lazy man ...a man that dont want a seriouse relationship or what to explore you or live in your house for free,i see it all and experience alot...
In the past I have dated white european men, Spanish, Latvian etc, and have enjoyed them all for their different cultural characteristics. In relationships like that I have always ensured that they (and most importantly their immediate family) see, understand and respect me has an equal period!. I remember in my first serious relationship this was an important factor has the family (spanish) were all from and based in an isolated historical spanish village (me being the only black person in the village, although their son was out and gay) and looked upon as a 'lesser' equal from their point of view. I am biracial ,and have been raised with black, white and biracial cousins and their different cultures. Therefore I suppose I do not let anyone's ignorance or intolerance deter or make me question myself, and always let them see, that it is 'they' who have to work for this....not the other way round.
So I think post it in a video dedicated to addressing white Men whom are interested in dating Men of color on what not to do. And what key factors are important to really be aware of and understand and call the video DEAR WHITE MEN: IF YOUR INTERESTED IN DATING A DIFFERENT RACE
Yes please I'd love to see more videos like this a si enjoy meeting black guys as well as latin and white guys. As an australian who occasionally meets black american guys i would love to be better educated on what is offensive. I'm not that ignorant. But it's always great to get the perspective from a black guy. There are nuances that I may not be aware of. I think I'm pretty mindful of not entering into stereotypes or fetishizing. But i'm always keen to learn more to improve our encounters.
I went out with my white ex and we were at a mostly black establishment. The way they catered to him and disregarded the rest of us..who were black. I was too high to fuss but shit like that can be hurtful.
I'm so sorry you had this experience, Sampson. I'm a gay white male who predominantly dates African American men, and I can really relate to your story. One time I was on a date with a black guy, and we were at a club and neither of us drank. We both just had water. So driving back to his place, he was driving, we were pulled over by a cop, who was white, and the cop did nearly the same thing that you described! The cop said that we were swerving across the center line, but I know that was not true at all. Because again, we didn't drink anything at the club, just water. So then the cop flashed his flashlight in the car at my date who was driving, and then at me, and then he took my date's driver's license, but he didn't take mine. My date had an EXEMPLARY driving history, so after about what seemed like 10 minutes, he came back to my date's car, handed him back his license, and said something like drive safely. 1) He was not swerving over the line and was driving perfectly. 2) I could tell my date was a little embarrassed and I felt terrible for him because there was no reason for him to be stopped. And 3) we were having a great night out but it was ruined because this police officer pulled us over for absolutely no reason. So we went home, went to bed, and I went back to my home the next day, and we talked on the phone a few times, but that was really it. I learned that African American men and women have a different experience when driving then every other person on the road, and it doesn't matter what time of the day or night. They must be EXTRA careful. Cars are very important to me, as is driving, and cars were important to him, too, which was part of our mutual attraction. But the fact that African American men have to be careful when driving to work, driving on the weekends, and just driving anywhere never even occurred to me before that night. And this event took place 20 years ago! So to all my gay black friends out there, PLEASE be careful and stand in your truth.
I’m pleased that you’re honest enough to admit that BLACK men have to deal with constant racism & discrimination by these white cops every time they get behind a steering wheel. It would be great if you and some of your white friend would start a campaign by sharing this information you shared here and by making it a mission to educate your fellow white counterparts about the hurt, pain and danger they impose on us black men who are just trying to enjoy the gift of life like y’all are.
Love your interviews and so glad I discovered your channel (and honored to see my art in your opener!). I definitely have had a similar experience to what you describe in this vid. Once had a dude try to make an argument that the Black Panther party was the same as the Klan. It was long ago and never again! Again, love your channel!
@@sampsonmccormick It was the 80’s , in the south and he was literally the first gay man to ask me out. Back then I thought I was the only black gay man on the planet because we were invisible so I took what came to me.
Greetings SM hope u r well n Happy Thursday😀n what a Wonderful Vlog.... thanks n Really Appreciate your Honest Thoughts on This Topic🔥👍n Sadly Sometimes it Really Comes Down to Culture Differences.... No Matter how u May Feel About the Person Actually😩n Continued Blessings💜....
OMG not ''my black boo''😂😂😂 chilee these white folks never cease to amaze me! I mostly get approached by non-black men but I'm not really interested although I'm open. I love black love too much!🤎
Sampson great Storytime ... I'll tell you one thing I've had a sex buddy also ask me to not take a shower for a couple days cause he enjoyed " that natural body odor thing as well" and we both BLACK... I'm just saying he probably a freak like that... My guy had told me he gets more turned on like that cause that was his 1st experience sexually , he probably f'ed with some bummy dude.. lol .. I did it once to appease him but I felt weird af ...
Why you let this man have so many opportunities to stereotype you? The first offense with the soul food, I would have been OUT! We could be friends but that would have turned me off romantically.
Great point to your video, I am so sorry you experienced that... But i do want people to understand that when it comes to interracial dating it's not always just black and white dating.. you have black with Hispanic, black with asain, black with middle eastern possibly. Not everything all the time is just black and white. It still surprises me that in 2022 that people still think interracial dating just involves just white and black. I am black and I am with a Hispanic man and he is so incredible. He supports black people and he is even more black that i am when it comes to culture 😅 trust me. The world, it gets better because not everyone is the same shitty white guy he explained in the video. Again I'm so sorry you had to experience that. We are a community that's supposed to stand up for equality and acceptance likes act like it and not be racist towards one another.
More black that you are??? 😒🚩🚩🚩I've talked to Hispanics and they can be just as bad. And you being easily impressed by your guys imitation of black culture ( I'm assuming black american) isn't the flix you think it is, most non black people nowadays are so far on Black Americans D's with the appropriations and impersonations under the guise of "internet culture" it's ridiculous.
There are black Hispanics so that one needs more detail. I get what ur saying but in the u.s. "interracial" is a blanket term and is used mostly for b&w couples. Ur both not wrong. I wouldn't say ur S/O is "more black" than u, i would say they are more into black culture than you.
@@sirvirgo1705 Given the topic and context it should be obvious no one was talking about black Hispanics. You would say "they are more into black culture" foh that's a damn lie, having a weird obsession with black americans culture doesn't calls for brownie point in my opinion.
You are right. Interracial includes all ethic combinations. I think it's the history of slavery in this country that has black and white couplings still the kneejerk assumption anytime interracial dating or marriage comes up. Remember black and white marriages used to be illegal.
I'm shocked that you spoke to him again after the Tupperware incident. Furthermore, someone who likes you and treats you well DOES NOT behave the way he behaved.
Just to respond to your intro and haven’t watched the whole video, you are right about blacks throwing shade at other blacks and I’m not black but have noticed that. I actually noticed that blacks have always out here in Cali competitive with other blacks. Whether it’s the how they dress, dance, car they drive. I just thought it was the culture bc I grew up hanging out in a black neighborhood back in the days and it was like that even with the straights. Kinda happy for you in your face, but talking a bunch of smack behind you back. East coast might have the brotherhood, but I’ve seen shade out there also. Look at the east coast ball scene and it’s lovin’ and all, but when it comes to who’s gonna be number one, true colors come out and it’s all about them. I thought it was a cultural thing . Anyway, this maybe a different perspective.
Chile you were a WHOLE FETISH to him that’s absolutely crazy
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Interesting points. I've had horrible experiences dating both Black, White, Latino, and everything in between. I think it has more so to do with the individual's level of education, exposure, and personal background than anything. Even within a Black on Black experience, we are not monoliths and there can be vast differences as it relates to cultural understandings within our families. As long as both are willing to actively listen to the other, and challenge oneself to remove biased thoughts that may have been in your head since you were able to express yourself - I think that's the key to any successful relationship. It's not easy and requires work.
“Natural African Essences”😂 I CACKLED
Never dated outside of my race. My partner and I have been together 27 years so I am on lock 😂
Chitlins?!OMG! That would have been our last date,no explanation needed.
Hey man. I’m from Detroit where there is already a racial divide for sure. I’ve had many experiences with friends who happen to be black. When I’ve been pulled over the officer always ,asks my black friends for their ID first before mine. Even when there are three other friends they ask,me,last. On one occasion they asked them and not mine. I was outraged but afraid to even speak up for fear of what this dude would do next. It’s even happened when I happened to to be dating a black man in public. Asking for my BF’s ID for no reason but not mine. Thought I would share. Keep making my day “everyday”
Thanks for sharing!
In this situation, even if the cop hadn't asked for my ID, I would have taken it out and showed it to him...
Exactly, I'm from Dallas tx, you are so right it's the same thing here. It's tough dating these days.
My experience with white men was similar to yours. I know exactly how you feel. I love the video... the message was very well delivered. I am no one's freak toy! Thank you.
...good of you to share this video, Sampson! my white boy played Chico Debarge and used Murray's hair pomade
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Omgggg this is crazy! I can definitely feel you on this ( as a Mexican American man). I have experience similar things like this before.
Maybe "similar" but not the same I've experienced this stuff from y'all the most. 🤷🏾♂️
@@dbd254 sorry to hear that
@@dbd254 I've seen Black men fetishize Hispanic and Asian men as well so that does go both ways. Just sayin.
@@aleqrobinson2876 Close but no cigar. When non black fetishize blk ppl its in the vain of looking at them as inhuman sexual animals. These blk men you speak of exotify non blk people by way of placing them on a pedestal and denouncing their own race. So like I said maybe similar but definitely not the same. Y'all need to give it a rest trying so hard to relate to blk ppl.
Missed you, Sampson !!!!!McCormick great video-you're right and you need to have respect and support or that is an empty relationship.
I was with my partner, " Who was white" l loved him immensely and unfortunately lost him to leukemia after 26 yrs. I do understand where you are coming from. But l molded my man and made him understand exactly how he did not know that some of the things he said would be deemed to be prejudiced. A came to realize that some Anglo people don't really know they are sometimes stereotyping other nationalities. I had to explain to him that l loved him because he was him, and l wanted him to love me for me. It was hard being in a biracial relationship, but l wouldn't trade those 26 yrs for anything. I miss him immensely. I don't think l will date again for the simple fact it takes yrs to make a relationship solid, and at 60 l don't have the have the patience to try, so now it will be about me. Don't let love pass you by. No matter what shape, color, or nationality in comes in.❤❤❤
Great comment. The one thing Samson didn't go into was the 2 of them discussing what kind of person you are. What is your moral code? Do you know what a moral code is? I had a brief a relationship with a white man who was a former priest and we would have discussions about treating each other well as well as others.. It didn't last soley due to me. I was immature and didn't know a good thing when I had it. Currently I'm single but if I were the person I am now I probably could look back over 24 years of happiness and into the years to come.
I'm sorry you went through that. The idea that "love conquers all" sounds nice, but the reality is interracial relationships take work on both sides. A partner that's right for you should be willing to put that work in. They should have the self awareness to be attentive to your needs and listen to feedback without getting defensive when you say that something makes you uncomfortable. This is something I (white guy) try to strive for when talking to/dating POC, but even good intentions don't stop us from making mistakes. Just be on the lookout for those who are/aren't open to learning from them. And DMV shoutout 🤙!
Thanks for sharing!
Lmaooo omg this video had me crying
Omfg you had me dying laughing..great story. Open and honest...love your streams.
You explained your opinions very well
I’m gasping for breath. This sounds like something from The Boondocks animated series. That guy picking you up from the train station was off the chain with the cornbread, etc.
Me and my son hollared listening to this story
You were part of a study lol
I just don't date white guys, I've had the worst dates with them. It's either they are boring or show signs of fetshistic behaviour. I'm Asian and one time I dated this white guy and he assumed I was lactose intolerant! The other time he decided to make "Thai green curry". that shit was so unseasoned I cried for the chicken. Needless to say I broke it off with him almost immediately.
Interesting - thank you for sharing this.
That is INSANE!
After awhile ya' just run out of things to say. I can neither agree or disagree with your experience but it raises a warning flag.
Good post!
"I cried for the chicken"🤣🤣🤣
True they are that way, hate it
I had the same thing happen to me in San Francisco. My white partner at the time was driving me to work before dawn through a poor black neighborhood as a shortcut. Then we got pulled over by white policemen for no reason. And they asked for _both_ of our IDs even though I wasn't driving. They let us go after that, but I thought it was weird.
That was weird, and happens to us in these kinds of relationships, a lot.
Those black men see other black men as competition
I white man I dated was pulled over, driving my car, in broad daylight as we were driving to see his parents in Iowa. He was taken back to the kkkopmobile and asked how long he'd known me. Then the kkkop came back and asked me if I was a terrorist. No ticket. No warning.
Never again.
@@solemandd67Police in America were originally slave patrols. Research.
This video was excellent. I know it may not have been intended to be funny, but when you talked about the chitterlings and collard greens, I just rolled with laughter for quite a while. I imagine you probably also heard at some point in that encounter that "your not like other black men." I'm from the age of multi-lingualism, where you knew how to speak in every stiuation and being articulate was the norm unless you were speaking hood with your friends. Thanks for a wonderful inspiring clear example of articulating the lack of desire to be fetishized.
Chitlins and Rice 😭😭 LMAO....I'm sorry that you had to experience that level of ignorance
LOL I dont know what chitlins are but i definitely wont be bringing them on a date. :). I'm from a australia and people think we throw shrimp on the barbie. If a black guy bought me some shrimp I would think it was funny. But as australian we are used to americans not really knowing much about our culture. Maybe because im white and not used to racism i would not be offended by the food someone bought me. It shows I have a lot to learn about being sensitive to other cultures and not overcompensating with their cultural norms whoever they are.
@@markbaxter8748 This instance isn't about an "overcompensating with cultural norms" The individual was simply racist and fetishizing his Blackness. There are numerous racist undertones about this encounter that you may be unaware. "Chitlins" are pig intestines, made into delicacy food by enslaved Black people when they were only given the scraps to eat by the white people who enslaved them. This is deeper than bringing someone food of their culture. It's ignorant to think that someone would like chitlins, just because they're Black.
I directly asked the black man I was dating if I could be fetishizing him. He said, “Will you introduce me to your friends”, and I said absolutely. He said, then no. I dated a black man for the first time earlier this year. We are now just friends and that is great. All the moment, I am only interested in black men. I think it has something to do with being denied even friendships with black boys when I was little. I was raised in the 60’s. To me at the moment, I think I am a white boy going through a healing process around racism. I am fortunate to have these loving and open black gay men in my life who desire me and I desire them. It is just natural for me to have compassion and empathy when they share a story about something that has happened to them that is either racially motivated or at least culturally motivated. I totally agree that love is love even within our queer community and being open to that love is the most important thing.
Love is not just love. In America not that long ago Blacks were openly lynched in front of everyone and no one has been held accountable.
No reparations and no hate crimes bill protecting ADOS either.
FBI reports that Blacks have more hate crimes against us than any other ethnic group here.
Blacks are the only group in America whose right to vote is voted on every few years.
And Black newborn babies were fed to alligators across America and no one has been held accountable. But they do have dolls here depicting this absolute horror.
And there was a time when Blacks could not marry one another ....not that long ago either.
Love is not love and miscegenation laws are still on books across America.
In fact successful business districts bka Black Wall Street originally in Durham ÑC was bombed, looted and destroyed by Caucasians because of swirling or accusations of it. Also another Black Wall Street aka successful business districts filled with former slaves in Wilmington NC was bombed looted and destroyed in 1898 by Caucasians. Happend again in Knoxville TN, E St Louis IL, Tulsa Oklahoma and Rosewood FL too.
Love is not just love and when Blacks mix with Caucasians we lose our wealth, identity, culture, land, lives, history and more.
Im a african hetersexual female and i Love your Videos and i relate alot with all.
Thank you for your point of view
I dated a white guy and I dated a asian guy went on dates with black guys however I've been single for almost 10 years and at this point in my life I just have no interst in being in a relationship with anyone like at all with all the apps and the way things are going in the world peoples feelings getting hurt over simple things that back in the 90s weren't an issue I've just washed my hands of all of it.
The culture stuff too that you mentioned and other races not really understanding black culture is something that I don't feel like having to explain in depth to people
Been there done that! Wore the T-shirt.. And ate the Oreos and the Doritos.
Dude them red flags was big as hell with old boi 😂😂😂
Thank you for this video!!! Atlanta here. I identified with EVERYTHING you said! 💯
This video is everything, I was shocked all the way.
It is important, that in every relationship, there is going to be some educating to be done! Wherever there’s a multicultural engagement, we must lead with love & understanding. One of the most important factors should be open and clear communication between the two. There will always be family challenges. It should be about the two individuals but alas, I feel your pain and can see your point of view.
He met you with cornbread and greens????? 🤯🤯🤯
I think this happens between many different cultures. I think sometimes their intentions are well meaning but it can seem patronizing or racist.I think I,m educated enough not to use these tropes . I try to just be myself. I have a habit when i meet people from all differnet cultures to show off that i know about their culture but it can seems like rasicm so i try to stop doig this even though i think im being friendly.
Sometimes I hear folks say we are all the same and that we should focus on what we share. And certainly as human beings we do share a lot regardless of race or ethnicity. But there is lot we DO NOT share in terms of culture and history. White folks most often don't recognize that. They want to minimize the differences to their own advantage. They focus on what they see as black culture not the totality of it. Hip hop and collard greens, as you point out. Few get it. I'm not saying that is true of every white person but I have to say it is more common than not. But unless a white person is truly immersed in the black community and knows it's history, I think that is is perilous for black men to date white men. And even then their are issues to confront. What I find so curious is how many interracial couples don't' even deal with the issue or discuss it. Again not all but many.
yesss sir say it louder for the black men who exclusively date whites on some self hate shit in the back.
All very well said...!!! 👍 💪 👏
I had a wonderful Black partner for 20 years who died recently. I've been reading Black authors and studying Black history since I was a kid, so at least I had a clue what he had to deal with, and of course in 20 years I saw plenty of the mistreatment he experienced. But instead of being bitter, he was incredibly loving and generous.
I am sorry for your loss. Nothing can fill that void, but I hope you can find some way to cope and carry on.
I am SCREAMING, ethnic gifts!!??
And you know them chittlins STUNK up that car!!!
I’m so very sorry that happened to you. My mind is blown. I understand about dating someone that can relate to your own experiences but please know that not all white guys are like that. That has to be an extreme case of ignorance on a whole other level. Why can’t men in general just be themselves and learn about each other rather than imposing stereotypes that make exactly no sense on each other. It’s ok to be curious and ask questions about culture but what that guy did was insane. As a white man raised in the south, there are stereotypes made about southerners in general that just aren’t true or just extreme. I love your videos and i learn a lot from them.
Did you hear him he said it's not interested in teaching. Yt like yourself love to try to divorce race from everything and you simply can not you think this way because you're living a different reality from black people.
Not your “natural African essences”?!?! 😫😫😫😫
I agree, I’ve dated all type of women and I dated a white chick once and we just couldn’t gel culturally, we grew up totally different and on some things we couldn’t find a common ground, she was and still is a wonderful person but sometimes when the differences are too drastic it’s hard to find a common ground. It’s ok to date someone that understands you culturally, for some it’s just less stress💯💯
I totally understand U Bro 👍🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I did not click this expecting it to be as bad as it was, i thought you were just gonna say he was lil bit tone deaf and maybe his family was passive aggressive 😭 "natural African essences" is craaaazy.
Well he wasn't lynched in broad daylight or treated like Jonathan Majors so.....
I notice that self loathing act happens until they're washed up, out of shape and them white men throw them away then all of a sudden they be about black love... Foh🙄
So True!!!!
Exactly! Smh
Facts
Lol that's crazy how that happens whether it's straight or gay ppl in the black community
Yasssszz. With regards to your comment about Black men who only date white men, and when you enter that hostile space? Yes my experiences as well sis. Or should I say that is what I have observed - too. I too am from the east coast but it would also happen in New York, Berlin, Paris and Copenhagen. It is quite sad. Marlon Riggs discussed this problem- too.
Some time you or in my situation I say good morning they don’t even answer
I have a white gay friend...recently i started to realize how race/gender obsessed he was. All the little racist/sexist micro-aggressions he would throw out(that would become more prevalent when he drank). I had to let him be for a moment cuz i'm not far from slapping the full fledged sh*t out of him for that ish he was saying. I already had to tell him about himself😒
Anyway, i appreciate your video's so much. I found you in January. I loved your stand-up, short movies and all your content. My son came out to me a little over a year in a half ago. I had no problem, because i'm a bi/ w/ a pref of women myself. I definitely worry for him for a million reasons.
It's already hard enough just to be a black man, but i feel like black gay men possibly have it the hardest. Both of my sons are my world and so precious to me. I feel your content has invaluable information i can share w/ my son to help him through his journey.
In short, thank you for your content and your presence on this earth king❤ You help more than you know.
i love your take on this
Great Great need to know information!
I love our race period.... we still gotta on!!!!!!!
🍿🙏⚡️✨ Fantastic video/ wisdom 🌎🇺🇸🏳️🌈 From Chicago south side 💚💙💛 United we stand ✝️🌈💜
So I’m Brazilian And i borned in São paulo city who got elevate % of black people here but idk why i never see a lot of them in my routine that’s sad but Here recently black love Started growing however black gay here is minority part of them minority date white boys but that is the problem white boys here is very toxic always put black people in the second almost of them feels superior that us steal or culture and our love i just Date black and sometimes is very hard to find someone who have truly blacklove inside 💔part of my life here i’ve been alone
Hello Sampson ~ I am huge fan of yours!! I am in DC following your career as best I can. You look good as always. I wanted you to know that you are amazing and don’t you change one hair on your head lol. Be well. Bryant
Thank you!
Why do we think dating folks who had us as slaves worldwide are going to treat us better????? Not smart and dating is spiritual as well as physical, emotional, etc
Our self hatred or post traumatic slave disorder is a major problem.
I’m gonna need you to go on more interracial dates the shit was funny AF lol story time was great.
Truth matters... you and I experience same things with white men but I prefer black men of color that my taste over all,I understand you I stay in Washington DC east coast
🤣🤣🤣"I don't know where you meets these Barneys."
He treated you like and experiment and sadly he didn’t have a clue that he was doing so.....
Bravo 👏 thank you for sharing this story. I stick to Black men because of the same reason
Thanks for sharing your experience...I have dated black men and have dated white men and Latino and blatino as it were....I am a white man of Portuguese and Italian ethnicity and grew up in a multiracial community....I do understand that we can be so different culturally but we as LBGT are 10% of the population and deserve to reach each other as human beings whether that be in a loving relationship or as a community ❤ .
Is this a comedy skit? Shea butter and cornbread? Wow....Natural african essence? LOL
NO!!! I'm serious. Homeboy was on one!
Thank you for all of your vids, especially this one, you are outstanding at what you do, I love it, please keep going.
WoW... Sounds like dating in the twilight Zone
Too funny and typical, as to your experiences. Now my experiences are very similar especially the body oder thing dude ws funky all the time he felt like he did not need to shower w/we hooked up WTF!!!
WOW.
The corn bread has me screaming 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Preach!! Off Seasoning!! 😂 lol. 🧂
I wonder what a Open discussion between BW and gay BM about this topic would look like. ☕️ for me, non BM are easier to date.
Hmm... non-Black men are definitely easier to read when it comes to dating and relationships... very clear and direct
BW and GBM are long overdue on a conversation about this and ALL the things
That would definitely be a great conversation! non black men are more attentive, but some come with other issues.
This was a very interesting story time.
I have a black coworker that is whitewashed and strictly dates white guys. I be trying to explain to him that 90% of these boys want you for the wrong reason, but to him it don’t matter 🤷🏾♂️. White washed gay black men also hate to see two black men dating each other. It be eating them up inside, especially if the couple is cute.
Spot on with this it’s because black gay men aren’t desired unless it’s the thug trade stereotype (for 🍆) and then you’ll get thrown under the bus and stripped of this so called “lgbt privilege” we are still black men and face the same things straights do with other races in society. You can even be a Butch queen with a completely male wardrobe and no makeup wigs or nothing the minute you display any sign of feminine even if it’s dominante femininity it’s a problem that also comes from the black straight community they only accept gay stuff if they date outside the race because it’s like well you sold out to the white, Latino, etc there’s your manhood even it’s a thriving black gay couple they hate to see it just look at Places like ATL, NYC, DC, Chicago etc where it’s more common idc tho I can’t date outside my race
This is so true....they expect all of us to be as white washed as them. Smdh
I just saw this video and I have had two black Lovers, partners, and long term relationship.
One way in New Orleans unfortunately I lost him to diabetes.
After 6 years together.
At the time I met him his younger brother had just passed from diabetes.
While we were together he lost his mother.
His loss to me was horrible and traumatic.
We lived together and traveled and enjoyed our time together.
He was a Navy guy and a great young man.
My second relationship with a black guy was after I moved to San Antonio Texas.
We became so close I ended becoming great friends with his sister and her daughters.
His Parents would come to my house and his mom would cook, we did great fun things together.
We lasted for about 3 years but again he was a Military man and was finally transferred to Germany.
Naturally this ended out relationship but I remained friends with him family.
Yes, we had to learn things about each other and our separate cultures.
Other wise I have found that Black men seemed to be looking for more financial support and help.
However, I understand and respected our differences but I will say I have found it difficult to be in a relationship with a Black man.
Even though I have met this past year a super nice black guy and we seem to click and are really soul mates.
Love life is absolutely beautiful and fantastic for each other because we care about each other and how each other are satisfied with sex, cuddle time and just being in each other’s company.
Seasoning Salt was missing 😂
I can't blame you for ignoring red flags. It happens to the best of us
Man this is all so true on so many levels even for heterosexuals. Thank you for sharing. I dated outside my race for the same reason - but the experience was meh. I’d rather be with my own kind
I hear that!
I don't give a flying rat's ass about a person's color. If he's white and treats me right, then he deserves my attention. If he's black, Latino, Asian, Native, Pacific-Islander, Middle-Eastern ( you get my point), and treats me right, then he gets my attention. For me, personally, I have had NOTHING but issues & bullshit when dating my own fellow blacks. So, it's not that I haven't dated black men, I have, which is why I no longer do. Get it? I much PREFER white men. That's MY preference, and there's NOTHING wrong with that. We ALL have preferences, and there's NOTHING wrong with that, either. Without question, MY personal experiences while dating white men has been much more pleasant, much less difficult than MY experiences with black men. I choose to be happy in this life, and for ME, I have been happier, less stressed, less argumentative, less having to deal with bullshit, less having to worry about someone pulling their own weight, less having to pay someone else's bills, less worried about cheating (should I go on?) with white men compared to black men. That's just MY experience, and noone can speak on MY experiences but me. I'm NOT saying there aren't any good black men out there, I'm just saying that I have not met him, AND I'm no longer even looking. I found EVERYTHING I'm looking for in my white partner of eight years.
Im a black woman hetero and i had the same experience.
Then you fully understand my point.
@@everettjennings4443 Greetings from Germany,my parents was married for 30 years ,until my father die ,só i see black love in action ,but for me personally i didnt find real love with black men period,its st much strugle ,little value or apreciation for the efort,besides desdein and physical abouse,anyway the world is changing ,people travel,meet people ,internet ...does not matter the race of the man i liar is a liar,a lazy man is a lazy man ...a man that dont want a seriouse relationship or what to explore you or live in your house for free,i see it all and experience alot...
In the past I have dated white european men, Spanish, Latvian etc, and have enjoyed them all for their different cultural characteristics. In relationships like that I have always ensured that they (and most importantly their immediate family) see, understand and respect me has an equal period!.
I remember in my first serious relationship this was an important factor has the family (spanish) were all from and based in an isolated historical spanish village (me being the only black person in the village, although their son was out and gay) and looked upon as a 'lesser' equal from their point of view.
I am biracial ,and have been raised with black, white and biracial cousins and their different cultures. Therefore I suppose I do not let anyone's ignorance or intolerance deter or make me question myself, and always let them see, that it is 'they' who have to work for this....not the other way round.
Those are personal experiences...Can't blanket black men or gay black men as all being trifling. You attract what you are!
So I think post it in a video dedicated to addressing white Men whom are interested in dating Men of color on what not to do. And what key factors are important to really be aware of and understand and call the video DEAR WHITE MEN: IF YOUR INTERESTED IN DATING A DIFFERENT RACE
That is a great idea. I think input from people with past experiences should be able to comment on what they like/dislike as well.
Yes please I'd love to see more videos like this a si enjoy meeting black guys as well as latin and white guys. As an australian who occasionally meets black american guys i would love to be better educated on what is offensive. I'm not that ignorant. But it's always great to get the perspective from a black guy. There are nuances that I may not be aware of. I think I'm pretty mindful of not entering into stereotypes or fetishizing. But i'm always keen to learn more to improve our encounters.
I went out with my white ex and we were at a mostly black establishment. The way they catered to him and disregarded the rest of us..who were black. I was too high to fuss but shit like that can be hurtful.
The lack of seasonings baby 💯 😁 but for real about understanding what is Real...having Two different Realities......#ChallengesMuch 🌈
When you said the lack of seasonings i choked on my fanta🤣🤣🤣
It's true! It's robotic.
I'm so sorry you had this experience, Sampson. I'm a gay white male who predominantly dates African American men, and I can really relate to your story. One time I was on a date with a black guy, and we were at a club and neither of us drank. We both just had water. So driving back to his place, he was driving, we were pulled over by a cop, who was white, and the cop did nearly the same thing that you described! The cop said that we were swerving across the center line, but I know that was not true at all. Because again, we didn't drink anything at the club, just water. So then the cop flashed his flashlight in the car at my date who was driving, and then at me, and then he took my date's driver's license, but he didn't take mine. My date had an EXEMPLARY driving history, so after about what seemed like 10 minutes, he came back to my date's car, handed him back his license, and said something like drive safely. 1) He was not swerving over the line and was driving perfectly. 2) I could tell my date was a little embarrassed and I felt terrible for him because there was no reason for him to be stopped. And 3) we were having a great night out but it was ruined because this police officer pulled us over for absolutely no reason. So we went home, went to bed, and I went back to my home the next day, and we talked on the phone a few times, but that was really it. I learned that African American men and women have a different experience when driving then every other person on the road, and it doesn't matter what time of the day or night. They must be EXTRA careful. Cars are very important to me, as is driving, and cars were important to him, too, which was part of our mutual attraction. But the fact that African American men have to be careful when driving to work, driving on the weekends, and just driving anywhere never even occurred to me before that night. And this event took place 20 years ago! So to all my gay black friends out there, PLEASE be careful and stand in your truth.
I’m pleased that you’re honest enough to admit that BLACK men have to deal with constant racism & discrimination by these white cops every time they get behind a steering wheel.
It would be great if you and some of your white friend would start a campaign by sharing this information you shared here and by making it a mission to educate your fellow white counterparts about the hurt, pain and danger they impose on us black men who are just trying to enjoy the gift of life like y’all are.
Are you a chubby white boy?
Very nice, we all dealing with the same b.s with white and blk mean. It's tough dating these days. Ugh
Love your interviews and so glad I discovered your channel (and honored to see my art in your opener!). I definitely have had a similar experience to what you describe in this vid. Once had a dude try to make an argument that the Black Panther party was the same as the Klan. It was long ago and never again! Again, love your channel!
I appreciate you, your art/talent and am glad that you watch. (And whoever that dude was, was crazy as hell!)
@@sampsonmccormick It was the 80’s , in the south and he was literally the first gay man to ask me out. Back then I thought I was the only black gay man on the planet because we were invisible so I took what came to me.
Greetings SM hope u r well n Happy Thursday😀n what a Wonderful Vlog.... thanks n Really Appreciate your Honest Thoughts on This Topic🔥👍n Sadly Sometimes it Really Comes Down to Culture Differences.... No Matter how u May Feel About the Person Actually😩n Continued Blessings💜....
I just can't..... LMAO!!!!!
I need that jacket where did you get that at...
I think I got it in West Hollywood somewhere.
As a white person, I am sorry.
God I cringed so badly at someone of the things he said or did.
Wow don’t know who the hell you was dating, I’m surprised you let it go on after the second red flag 🚩
OMG not ''my black boo''😂😂😂 chilee these white folks never cease to amaze me! I mostly get approached by non-black men but I'm not really interested although I'm open. I love black love too much!🤎
NOT THE CORNBREAD LOL!!!!!!!!!!
Wow love your life stores very interesting ❤ hugs 🙏 👍👋
Why are you bearing ethnic gifts??? Dead lmao
That was in the book of the wet dog 😂 ijp
Sampson great Storytime ... I'll tell you one thing I've had a sex buddy also ask me to not take a shower for a couple days cause he enjoyed " that natural body odor thing as well" and we both BLACK... I'm just saying he probably a freak like that... My guy had told me he gets more turned on like that cause that was his 1st experience sexually , he probably f'ed with some bummy dude.. lol .. I did it once to appease him but I felt weird af ...
how superiority and inferiority? did u experience that?
Devil's advocate: Could it be that he was just the wrong white guy??
Damn I’m chopped liver even in my own race no wonder I’m single
Loool that Tupperware 😂
I don't know how I got over here, but straight black women who date white men, act the same. Hmmmm
Why you let this man have so many opportunities to stereotype you? The first offense with the soul food, I would have been OUT! We could be friends but that would have turned me off romantically.
Self hatred.
Great point to your video, I am so sorry you experienced that... But i do want people to understand that when it comes to interracial dating it's not always just black and white dating.. you have black with Hispanic, black with asain, black with middle eastern possibly. Not everything all the time is just black and white. It still surprises me that in 2022 that people still think interracial dating just involves just white and black. I am black and I am with a Hispanic man and he is so incredible. He supports black people and he is even more black that i am when it comes to culture 😅 trust me. The world, it gets better because not everyone is the same shitty white guy he explained in the video. Again I'm so sorry you had to experience that. We are a community that's supposed to stand up for equality and acceptance likes act like it and not be racist towards one another.
More black that you are??? 😒🚩🚩🚩I've talked to Hispanics and they can be just as bad. And you being easily impressed by your guys imitation of black culture ( I'm assuming black american) isn't the flix you think it is, most non black people nowadays are so far on Black Americans D's with the appropriations and impersonations under the guise of "internet culture" it's ridiculous.
There are black Hispanics so that one needs more detail. I get what ur saying but in the u.s. "interracial" is a blanket term and is used mostly for b&w couples. Ur both not wrong. I wouldn't say ur S/O is "more black" than u, i would say they are more into black culture than you.
@@sirvirgo1705 Given the topic and context it should be obvious no one was talking about black Hispanics. You would say "they are more into black culture" foh that's a damn lie, having a weird obsession with black americans culture doesn't calls for brownie point in my opinion.
You are right. Interracial includes all ethic combinations. I think it's the history of slavery in this country that has black and white couplings still the kneejerk assumption anytime interracial dating or marriage comes up. Remember black and white marriages used to be illegal.
I'm shocked that you spoke to him again after the Tupperware incident. Furthermore, someone who likes you and treats you well DOES NOT behave the way he behaved.
Just to respond to your intro and haven’t watched the whole video, you are right about blacks throwing shade at other blacks and I’m not black but have noticed that. I actually noticed that blacks have always out here in Cali competitive with other blacks. Whether it’s the how they dress, dance, car they drive. I just thought it was the culture bc I grew up hanging out in a black neighborhood back in the days and it was like that even with the straights. Kinda happy for you in your face, but talking a bunch of smack behind you back. East coast might have the brotherhood, but I’ve seen shade out there also. Look at the east coast ball scene and it’s lovin’ and all, but when it comes to who’s gonna be number one, true colors come out and it’s all about them. I thought it was a cultural thing . Anyway, this maybe a different perspective.
You should have just told him to treat you the same way he would treat a white guy.