Congratulations on being out at work. I know that for me it was very stressful. But now that it's done it's like amazing. All my fears that I was worried about have not materialized at all. I can go to work just as myself and am completely free. Thank you for sharing your experience. I also get what you say about happiness versus feeling complete. I feel that way as well. The feeling of happiness can come and go. But my alignment with myself right now is more complete than ever. And that is the most amazing feeling. ❤
That's wonderful to hear. The journey from where I was even this time last year to today has been wild. I'd have never thought this was even possible in my past life, but here I am. The funniest thing is that this all seems so natural and easy - ok, not everything like the hoops to jump through and the boxes to tick. And some people seem to make 'proud of being an arse' a central part of their personality - but the state of being 'me'; finding my voice and identity. It's like that night in Kuala Lumpur when I went out dressed up and made over for the first time and it all clicked and the initial anxiety and fear melted away leaving a feeling of normalcy. I'm so happy that you seem to be in a similar place. There are not enough stories of trans joy and it's really important we can tell them as well as all the other ones. All the best, Andy ❤️ ❤️ 😊
Some people know I am trans without me telling them. Others are quite surprised when I come out to them. Happy? For me, I was an unhappy person for most of my life before transitioning. I still have problems, but I now can say I am a happy person. Yes, I am not happy all the time in some sense and in others, generally yes. Completeness? Something I am after, but it can be fleeting. I think my transphobia kicks in and I start wondering "What am I doing? How do I do this? " It is so hard. It seems impossible at times. But, I know it will never go away because it is me! I have to deal with it.
I don’t know how I managed to arrive at this point where I can say to myself and the world around me “I am transgender and I am proud of this.” I did have a minor wobble just yesterday where the enormity of all that’s still to do seemed overwhelming, but I recovered - as I seem to always do these days. I mention in another comment that I suppose objectively I’m not super feminine - but I see the progress, and that boosts my mood. Maybe it’s because I’ve spent years telling students to look at where they were and notice the changes and improvements, it’s helped me to do the same. I have made progress, but I do wonder how it will be in 2 or 3 or 10 year’s time: will I still feel the same if that progress stalls at some point? I suppose I have to have faith that things will turn out fine. People will continue to accept me in real life - and in many cases online too. I will continue to make progress. It is hard though. Such hard work. But as I was always told “nothing good ever comes easy.” All the best, Andy ❤️☺️✌️
@@Andy_trans_education One of my friends once told me, once a lady, always a lady. Since realizing I am trans twenty-five years ago, I know I still am and always will be. I did repress it for many years, but it resurfaced with a vengeance. We spend many years living male. I think it is not only becoming a woman that is our challenge. It also is undoing how we were before. If we feel happier or more complete we know it is right. Sure there are doubts, but if will take the time to really explore, our sense of gender is clear.
Indeed ☺️ That notion of ‘undoing who we were’ is interesting because there are things I want to retain, but other things I want to enhance. For example, I’m a bit of a football fan and I used to play a regularly. I’ve not played since starting transitioning but that’s more because I couldn’t keep up any more. I don’t see enjoying football being a barrier to being my authentic self; many women enjoy that sport. What I’m finding to be very fulfilling though is developing deeper and more emotional friendships with other women. I feel like while I’ve always been a good listener, maybe some were apprehensive to discuss certain things with me. I feel that the conversations - even the small talk - with other women just feel so supportive, compared with typical male conversations where belittling and ‘peacocking’ seems to be the standard. I know, I know #notallmen and having a more ‘feminine’ communication style doesn’t make you transgender, BUT I feel so much more comfortable in social situations these days. Much less forced and so much more aligned to who I’ve always been. There are superficial things I need to develop more like mannerisms and voice that take a lot of work and effort. But the more deeper sense of ‘transitioning’ on a spiritual level is so easy. It’s like shedding unwanted baggage.
Hi, Thanks for the question ☺️ I’ve known I’m transgender for maybe 15 years or so. Maybe more. I’d tried to repress or deny it. I figured that maybe I could keep it a secret until I couldn’t. Then I thought I wouldn’t need to transition, until I did. It’s been a long journey just to get here. But so far so good.
The goal of transitioning isn't "passing", the goal is to feel comfortable with yourself when you hadn't before. Besides, gender is ultimately a private affair. Some people choose to be outwardly open about their gender, but that isn't a requirement for everyone.
Thanks yeah. Maybe a few months ago id have been more phased, but as I progress, I feel more myself. Maybe I won’t ever ‘pass’ in the sense this person demands, but that’s a them problem. All the best, Andy ❤️✌️☺️
Precisely. Maybe I’ll ‘pass’ every day. Maybe only sometimes. Funnily enough I’ve already been called “woman” by several strangers who had no reason to do so. Did I pass? Maybe. But it was enough for me ☺️ All the best, Andy 😆❤️✌️
Congratulations on being out at work. I know that for me it was very stressful. But now that it's done it's like amazing. All my fears that I was worried about have not materialized at all. I can go to work just as myself and am completely free. Thank you for sharing your experience. I also get what you say about happiness versus feeling complete. I feel that way as well. The feeling of happiness can come and go. But my alignment with myself right now is more complete than ever. And that is the most amazing feeling. ❤
That's wonderful to hear.
The journey from where I was even this time last year to today has been wild. I'd have never thought this was even possible in my past life, but here I am.
The funniest thing is that this all seems so natural and easy - ok, not everything like the hoops to jump through and the boxes to tick. And some people seem to make 'proud of being an arse' a central part of their personality - but the state of being 'me'; finding my voice and identity. It's like that night in Kuala Lumpur when I went out dressed up and made over for the first time and it all clicked and the initial anxiety and fear melted away leaving a feeling of normalcy.
I'm so happy that you seem to be in a similar place. There are not enough stories of trans joy and it's really important we can tell them as well as all the other ones.
All the best,
Andy ❤️ ❤️ 😊
You are lovely. I just got this video randomly recommended to me, I wish you well with your transition.
Thanks ❤️
Congrats on the coming-out!! (I know it's unfortunately not a one-time thing, but still) And best wishes for your transition journey ma'am
Thank you ❤️
Some people know I am trans without me telling them. Others are quite surprised when I come out to them.
Happy? For me, I was an unhappy person for most of my life before transitioning. I still have problems, but I now can say I am a happy person. Yes, I am not happy all the time in some sense and in others, generally yes.
Completeness? Something I am after, but it can be fleeting. I think my transphobia kicks in and I start wondering "What am I doing? How do I do this? " It is so hard. It seems impossible at times. But, I know it will never go away because it is me! I have to deal with it.
I don’t know how I managed to arrive at this point where I can say to myself and the world around me “I am transgender and I am proud of this.” I did have a minor wobble just yesterday where the enormity of all that’s still to do seemed overwhelming, but I recovered - as I seem to always do these days.
I mention in another comment that I suppose objectively I’m not super feminine - but I see the progress, and that boosts my mood.
Maybe it’s because I’ve spent years telling students to look at where they were and notice the changes and improvements, it’s helped me to do the same.
I have made progress, but I do wonder how it will be in 2 or 3 or 10 year’s time: will I still feel the same if that progress stalls at some point?
I suppose I have to have faith that things will turn out fine. People will continue to accept me in real life - and in many cases online too. I will continue to make progress.
It is hard though. Such hard work. But as I was always told “nothing good ever comes easy.”
All the best, Andy ❤️☺️✌️
@@Andy_trans_education One of my friends once told me, once a lady, always a lady. Since realizing I am trans twenty-five years ago, I know I still am and always will be. I did repress it for many years, but it resurfaced with a vengeance.
We spend many years living male. I think it is not only becoming a woman that is our challenge. It also is undoing how we were before. If we feel happier or more complete we know it is right. Sure there are doubts, but if will take the time to really explore, our sense of gender is clear.
Indeed ☺️
That notion of ‘undoing who we were’ is interesting because there are things I want to retain, but other things I want to enhance.
For example, I’m a bit of a football fan and I used to play a regularly. I’ve not played since starting transitioning but that’s more because I couldn’t keep up any more. I don’t see enjoying football being a barrier to being my authentic self; many women enjoy that sport.
What I’m finding to be very fulfilling though is developing deeper and more emotional friendships with other women. I feel like while I’ve always been a good listener, maybe some were apprehensive to discuss certain things with me.
I feel that the conversations - even the small talk - with other women just feel so supportive, compared with typical male conversations where belittling and ‘peacocking’ seems to be the standard.
I know, I know #notallmen and having a more ‘feminine’ communication style doesn’t make you transgender, BUT I feel so much more comfortable in social situations these days. Much less forced and so much more aligned to who I’ve always been.
There are superficial things I need to develop more like mannerisms and voice that take a lot of work and effort. But the more deeper sense of ‘transitioning’ on a spiritual level is so easy. It’s like shedding unwanted baggage.
Your obvious joy is infectious. I found your video by accident but really enjoyed watching it. Good luck on your journey. x
Thank you that’s very kind of you to say.
I hope you enjoy the rest of the week!
Andy ❤️❤️
Best of luck!
Thank you ❤️☺️
What age did you discover you were trans?
Hi,
Thanks for the question ☺️
I’ve known I’m transgender for maybe 15 years or so. Maybe more. I’d tried to repress or deny it. I figured that maybe I could keep it a secret until I couldn’t.
Then I thought I wouldn’t need to transition, until I did.
It’s been a long journey just to get here. But so far so good.
You need to work harder . Much harder on passing
…for who?
I know I’m really early with all this. But I’m making progress. Progress is slow.
Who even are you?
The goal of transitioning isn't "passing", the goal is to feel comfortable with yourself when you hadn't before. Besides, gender is ultimately a private affair. Some people choose to be outwardly open about their gender, but that isn't a requirement for everyone.
@@Andy_trans_education Don't listen to these jealous eejits, probably not even out themselves. Keep going strong!
Thanks yeah. Maybe a few months ago id have been more phased, but as I progress, I feel more myself.
Maybe I won’t ever ‘pass’ in the sense this person demands, but that’s a them problem.
All the best, Andy ❤️✌️☺️
Precisely. Maybe I’ll ‘pass’ every day. Maybe only sometimes.
Funnily enough I’ve already been called “woman” by several strangers who had no reason to do so.
Did I pass? Maybe. But it was enough for me ☺️
All the best, Andy 😆❤️✌️