"What kind of family would require a child's help to sew fingers back on?!??!" Farmers. It's always the farmers. They think they know a thing or two because they've seen a thing or two.
And they try to fix everything by jamming their hand it in or stepping on it. I remember when I was a kid my Grandpa (He was fire chief) went to a call where one of our neighbours got his leg crushed by a combine because it jammed up so he decided the best way to fix it was to jump on the thresher without turned it off and got his leg all tangled up in it.
One of my superiors at my previous job had parents who were farmers and one day she gets a picture message from her dad. It takes her a minute to figure out what she's looking at, and it turns out her got his finger caught in a chain while working and it cut to the bone so bad that the tip of the phalange was completely exposed with no skin or muscle around it. Thankfully they went to the ER. But yeah, farming is an oddly dangerous job despite the way city folk imagine it goes.
Performing self surgery like that is crazy! At the same time, this is what desperate people do when they don’t have access to local and affordable healthcare
that and the ability to take off work when emergencies arise. I had a cyst grow from the size (on the surface) of a freckle to the size of a dime because I couldn’t take the time off of work. Then once i had gotten it handled i couldn’t even stay off of work for the entire medically recommended recovery time…
Aren't there some hospitals that offer help even if you don't have insurance and give a much lower cost? I think I've heard Dr Mike say he's worked at some like that. Though I guess that depends on the state. Once again. I'm glad I live in a place where the county covers most of the costs for doctors visits like this.
my guess is 100%, but some of these people have disavowed science. They have the means. Others like the first example, it is a travesty that the procedure she performed on herself was so expensive and inaccessible to her. I still say if they break a leg they'll be at the doctor's asap.
Most. Socialized medicine still has access issues, typically in time to be seen or limitations on treatment options. Nonetheless, it's the superior healthcare model.
Actually probably not applicable here. If you read this reddit thread, these people don't trust science and think that doctors are trying to poison their wombs. It's not about access to them
@@meowmeowmeowmeowcatoncomputer I have had two kiddos, both but C section, one was an emergency even. It cost 0 dollars. I have a private room with a washroom attached (even the shared rooms have a bathroom right in the room) for 2 nights and still paid 0 dollars. None, Nada. First baby was in NICU for 2 days too, and still the bill was 0. ETA: I also didn't have any insurance either pregnancy/birth. Still $0.
don't wanna sound scary but my immediate reaction (I'm a midwife) to "what are the risks for baby and me" (the home birth alone despite doctor and midwife advising against it) was saying "death" out loud.
As a NICU nurse, I cringed SOOOO hard about the home birth one. Some of the worst babies I've had were from unassisted home births or assisted by untrained people.
I can only imagine this person being absolutely desperate for whatever reason. I am considering having a home birth someday. With an experienced midwive and if my doctor says everything is going perfectly fine. And that's still only because I know I would be able to get to the nearest clinic in less than five minutes by ambulance if I needed to. That's literally the same amount of time it would take for someone to realise there is a problem and get me to an OR if I was already at the hospital
And it's not just about there being medical professionals period. I work registration in an ER at a hospital complex with two ERs, and I think I remember that they try and direct any OB emergencies after 20 weeks to our other ER because that's where the specialists are (at least with ambulance stuff; I'm not sure what we can do with walk-ins for an in-hospital transfer). Sure the docs in the one I work in can get you through it, but the ones in the other one will be better at mitigating any complications (which, if you're coming to the ER for OB stuff, is already going to be a risk)
I'm a Texas resident. I got charged over $500 for my Nexplanon removal after insurance covered their portion. I understand people need to get paid for their services and medical supplies need to be replaced, but 1-2 cc lidocaine, a scalpel, some iodine, some sterile gloves, forceps/ hemostats, and a 3 minute procedure and I still had hundreds of dollars in debt after insurance? Not at all fair.
From Canada here, I also wonder what the $500 is for? Lidocaine isn't that expensive, the equipment isn't likely new (or is made of plastic that isn't that expensive to make), and the rest can be got at the drugstore. A plastic surgeon doing minor procedures doesn't cost that much.
@@TsukiKatana things are prepackaged and sterilized, most providers I know use metal instruments, but you’re right. Still should not cost that much as you can get most over the counter.
I had Implanon for less than 6 mo., but I had so much scar tissue around it, my doctor really struggled to get it out. I can't imagine removing it myself.
@@lanascrapaddict2044 Ah. See, being a Canadian, we don't have huge cost like that for essential health care. I do know (as my mother is a medical receptionist) that there are clinics in Toronto where you can get filler for less than $500, which is not insured. Now, removing an implant isn't filler, but.... If they can do that for less money while still maintaining a sterile setting, cleaning sites, etc... where is the extra cost?
@@lanascrapaddict2044 I’m in the UK and covered by the NHS (when I had cancer it was totally covered, even prescriptions which you usually have to pay a small fee for). You absolutely should not have to use your savings for healthcare. That’s insane and you should be outraged.
My sister was low income and had knee surgery and many other things done in a top hospital. She knew the people in finance by name and was never denied needed treatment because she couldn’t pay…. In Ohio
I had insurance at the time I suffered a cut to the scalp that required a visit to the ER and several stitches. When I returned as scheduled to the ER to have the stitches removed, no one at the hospital knew whether or not I would have to pay a bill for the stitch removal. I told him I would have my son cut them out instead and pay him the cash if there was going to be a charge. The question moved around to several places and finally a hospital administrator promised that if there was a charge they would waive it. So I let them remove the stitches. Let's all start asking more questions.
I’m the granddaughter of a farmer who once got severely burned by an aerosol can exploding in a trash fire and my grandma cleaned it out with Lysol. The sewing on fingers tracks. Honestly I just feel lucky that over decades of being farmers my grandpa and uncle didn’t suffer more severe acute injuries. I’m also the daughter of a trauma surgeon and heard horror stories from my dad treating farmers whose tractors had rolled over on them and other terrible accidents. Farming is one of the most dangerous professions.
Yeah, that’s was my immediate thought too. Actual example, from a family member who grew up on a dairy farm when her dad partially severed a finger: “Hospital? Nah, need to milk the cows in a couple of hours, just sew it up, some dettol and a bandage… fine, if you’re really worried I’ll wear my leather gloves… *sigh*, look if it’s still not ok in a couple of days I’ll have the doc look at it at cfa (country volunteer fire fighters) training. It’s not even an important finger, really.” 😱😂
The most disturbing thing in these is that they're not looking for advice on making a good decision. They're asking to be coached on how to approach the doctor with their risky decision. Not "is this a good idea?" But "I know I don't want to, tell me why". This is the lethal mindset.
My mom is a nurse and has a story like this. She was in school (think about 19), and someone asked if she wanted to witness their home birth with a midwife. She shows up and there's no midwife. They had complications and my mom had to do cpr on the baby all the way to the hospital
Wow. What a trauma to inflict on a young nurse. And yet, if they hadn't their baby might be dead. People are just 🤦♀️ I'm sorry for your Mom but also, she's a hero.
When I was a kid we didn’t have health insurance for a long time. One of my earliest memories was when I was about 4 and my mom had a long, deep gash on her leg. She had me help her stitch it up. She used a sharp embroidery needle and sewing thread. My job was to wipe it with a cloth soaked in alcohol, then quickly press an ice cube against the gash until she told me to stop between each stitch. The hope was that the ice would numb the skin in between stitches. I don’t know if it worked or not. She didn’t use any of the stitch methods doctors use, she just used a regular whip stitch. By some miracle it healed really well without getting infected. But when my dad (they were divorced) found out she had me participate in that, he was furious. Not that I blame him. The American healthcare system is a gem, isn’t it? Driving people to desperate measures like that? Best in the world. /s
A whip stitch is a regular stitch that is used :) It's just called a simple continuous pattern, but it's the same. Not that I love that she had to do that to herself, but sounds like she did a better job than she thought. Also bodies are amazing!
I sliced the bottom of my foot open when I was 9. No insurance, my mother was mad at me for cutting myself and ruining my new shoe. She had no sympathy, I still had to do chores. It would break open every time I put my foot down. Got an infection, had such a high fever that I was hallucinating. I'm surprised I survived, knowing how filthy my foot got at that time in my life. I still have a nearly 2 inch scar. Your mom sounds like a warrior, she did what needed to be done. Probably taught you how to be strong, too.
@@cyn4476 how did your mom not get hit with the book after that? Did she take you to the hospital for the infection, or did you just sit at home? How did any hospital not yell at her for letting you walk with a wounded foot?
@@TheSansationalSans we had no insurance and were extremely poor. Oh, and my mother was a terrible person. I think I'm lucky to be alive after that. The infection was nasty, I could have lost my foot, leg or my life. My brother once had a strep infection in his knee and my mother laughed at the Dr, mocking him for saying her kid has "strep throat in his knee." He saw a doctor because his PE teacher was concerned about him. My injury was during the summertime. She was a gem of a mother. The type you learned how NOT to be a parent from.
Thank you SO much for covering that the odds don't matter when it happens to you. At 25, I had a low-risk second pregnancy. My daughter was born not breathing; when the cord was cut, her body didn't take over. It took 5 minutes to resuscitate her *in hospital*. She would not have survived a home birth and yet, there were no warning signs. I'd already had a relatively simple delivery with her older sister. I always feel awkward sharing my story because I'm not trying to fear monger pregnant parents. At the same time, I'm the 1 in whatever number who would have lost my child at birth. The odds don't matter when you're burying your baby.
Problem is alot of woman give birth in the bathtub because they were sick of the mistreatment in the hospital and it was to expensive to do it at the hospital.
@@dakotamabry1645 sorry but misstreatment at the hospital? even if that was true and ppl were regularily mistreated at the hospital what kind of person would risk their childs life just so they dont have to be inconvenienced?
@@chiarakoch6034 Not having gone up to Labour and Delivery, I had a gynaecologist threaten me when I asked a male observer to leave the room. She then threatened that if I needed any further specialist services, she would track down my file and force me to stay under her service and she could have whoever she want examine me without my consent. Now, the second one I went to was lovely, amazing, and I cried when he retired. To say I didn't want to be inconvenienced by having my vagina be entertainment for whoever is a bit much. I can't imagine being 40 week and having the first one drag in an entire retinue of whoever she found laying around to poke and prod at me despite not consenting, then having to pay her for the privilege of a prolonged labour and probably a caesarian if I got so uncomfortable I stopped labouring effectively.
@@dakotamabry1645 I like the way England has it set up where they have home care options as well as birthing centres at hospital sites. There's some TH-cam videos about them, and they look super cosy. There's a ton of was to make things more homey and comfortable, as well as making sure help is available.
The worst one I had read was a woman was in labor doing a home birth w/her husband and said she "felt like she had to poo" but there was no progress for hours and her contractions were getting weaker. So instead of going to the doctor her husband uploaded a photo of her DIALATED birth canal (see her cervix and the tip of the baby's head inside) on the group to ask for answers and they encouraged her to STAY HOME and try yogurt or some pickle juice as she said she was feeling really tired and sick. The one person who told her the baby could be stuck in the canal and call the hospital was banned.
A friend ignored medical advice because she had no insurance and had a home birth with an unusually terrible midwife instead of going to the hospital. She ended up with a dead baby. My family has an agreement that when one of us is uninsured, go to the hospital anyhow when an emergency arises and worry about the bills later. When will Americans stop this healthcare mess?
I was all for home birth with my second child but my husband felt more comfortable at the hospital. My baby had shoulder dystocia and was going to suffocate before they could get him out. An angel in the form of a hospitalist who just happen to be on the code team and delivered babies in her practice thankfully got him out. He still required resuscitation. I’m forever grateful every one of those people was there and to my husbands need to “hear things beeping” to calm his nerves.
I feel your pain. I'm a retail pharmacist and the number of times i have to tell ppl NOT to soak tampons in (vinegar, bleach, various scented oils, yogurt to make a few) is mind boggling.
The RH- one is really uncomfortable for me to hear. My grandma is RH-, and my mom and all 4 of her siblings are RH+ the last three born were once they were experimenting with treatment for RH- moms who already had antibodies (my grandma volunteered to be one of the later stage test subjects before treatment was fully approved). Only one made it all the way to term, most needed blood transfusions, and one didn’t make it. My youngest aunt was one of the earliest premies able to be saved with minimal lasting damage, and the youngest (my only uncle) died at 18 weeks gestation. It’s not something to be taken lightly, and there are millions of families throughout history that would have given anything for access to the treatments we have now. An aunt, my grandma, and I have all lost babies and there was nothing we could do about it, it makes me angry when people have perfectly safe methods of preventing the type of loss they’re prone to and they refuse to do it because “big pharma”.
Seriously so sad. Imagine back in the 1800’s and earlier when they didn’t know all of this.. no wonder people had to have such big families and lost so many kids. I bet a lot of it had to do with blood types. I’m so thankful for modern medicine.
@@cassidybrewermy mom was born in ‘61 and my uncle was due in either ‘65 or ‘66, so it wasn’t even that long ago. My grandparents and their medical team understood why there were problems, but they were completely helpless to do anything about it until there had already been issues. She may have even been on the placebo for the treatment trial and just got lucky for the last two living children. I lost my son last year when we had to end the pregnancy for a severe medical condition, but we wouldn’t have found out how poorly he was without an ultrasound, we were able to find out what happened (combination of genetic disorders…first with that combo actually) and that it wasn’t inherited (unlikely to happen again) because of the availability of genome sequencing. My great grandma had to watch her firstborn not have the autonomic function to breathe because she was born without part of her brain and scull (something that would have been found on ultrasound today), and she never knew why or if it was an experience she would have to repeat. I’m thankful for a lot of aspects of modern medicine, but I am so beyond grateful people giving birth today don’t have the same struggles as our grandparents.
I'm not 100% sure, but I'm pretty sure the RH- one is actually from a fundamentalist Christian "influencer"--I saw a similar post in a fundamentalist snark subreddit. If it is her, she did, in fact, miscarry the child she was carrying and is now pregnant again.
@@janiew5561 that is a very sad (albeit predictable) outcome if it was her. I’m not religious anymore, but when I was, I thought of interventions like that as something that God wanted humanity to have access to or the ability to discover various life saving measures wouldn’t have been available to humanity. If more people thought that way, maybe there would be less preventable death in the world. If it was a “big pharma” issue…frankly, if something had existed that would have helped my son even a little bit, I wouldn’t have cared who profited from it or how much they profited, it would have been done without a second thought.
The first story made me appreciate living in Canada so much. I got my implant removed within a week of talking to my doctor about my side effects. It was super quick and easy they numb the area and it was out in under 10 min. I cannot even imagine taking that out myself.
I’m in Australia and hearing stories like this make me grateful we have healthcare. I just got my first implant put in 4 weeks ago and I love it! It was so quick and easy to get done.
I’m in the US and my insurance covers Nexplanon thankfully, but if I didn’t no way would I cut myself open!! I would gladly pay to have it safely removed! My life is worth more than saving $1200.
Exactly this. I had one and got it taken out. It had scar tissue around it, so the removal procedure was delicate and took a pretty long time. It was also pretty uncomfortable even with the numbing. I love my OB-GYN (I'd be happy to give her name to anyone in Austin, Texas - the discomfort of the procedure was 100% not her fault, it was just my body) so we just chatted the whole time while she slowly cut it out with a scalpel, but good God if I had to do that myself I can't imagine the complications. It left a tiny scar and the site is completely fine now.
I’m in this group and there was a recent post about a woman in that same free birthing FB group who still hadn’t given birth at 44 weeks and whose baby hadn’t moved in awhile :/ refused to go to a hospital because she had homebirthed her other children and was determined to see it through. it’s wild how many women are willing to sacrifice their baby’s wellbeing out of stubborness
They may not have been able to afford the help. Too many people in the USA are living below the poverty line and just a single wrong move from homelessness... if they aren't homeless already. Some people also have extreme fear of hospitals. Either way the outcome is tragedy.
@@MsEJMcLaren eh. I agree with you and this is compassionate. At the same time, I think it would be irresponsible to not push back against Facebook groups like this. Yes there’s a number of people under the subset you mentioned, but the group at large houses and promotes dangerous behavior that puts people and their fetus at risk
My late grandfather was a born prematurely about 90 years ago. My family always said the doctor assumed he was DOA but a nurse realized he was alive after everyone gave up on him and saved his life somehow. I don't plan on having kids, but this story always made me appreciate having more medical professionals in the room than just one midwife at home.
I overheard a woman at work saying she didn’t want to go to a doctor for her pregnancy (she was pretty far along from what I could tell) because “it’s not a medical issue; it’s personal” and I wanted to scream at her
@@SL-gz3dy I carried my twins to full term without medical care. I hate doctors and don’t go to a doctor unless I have to. Pregnancy is not a medical condition in my opinion.
When we were learning about blood types in 7th grade, my science teacher did not believe I had a positive blood type and my mom had a negative blood type. 🙄
In many states a middle school science teacher does not need a science certification. Sad…. As a high school teacher, it was always uncomfortable when my students insisted that men have one more rib than women because their middle school science teacher told them and it was in the Bible.
@@lanascrapaddict2044 I’m not even a teacher and it annoys me when people believe religion over proven science. So I’d be even more peeved if I were a teacher.
@@lanascrapaddict2044 Wouldn't the Bible as source material say women have the extra rib? Since God took Adam's rib to make Eve and whatnot. I share the frustration. It's not like we can count ribs by feeling them. Oh, wait... it's exactly that. I trust medical science but even if I didn't, I trust my ability to count more than a random interpretation of the Bible.
i went from perfectly fine and pushing a kid out to losing enough blood that within 10 mins of the baby coming out fully, i was unconcious and had a surgeon outside my room planning to remove my uterus entirely if they didnt stop the bleeding soon. i was quite literally 30 seconds from having no uterus at age 19 with zero problems besides some minor anemia throughout life. I would have died before a call to 911 could even be made at home. i had so many meds pumped into me in the course of the 5 mins of bleeding out and losing conciousness that if i was home, it wouldnt have taken half that time to pass away...
THIS. My mom almost died for the same reason. Granted, she wouldn't stop bleeding after a c-section, that you wouldn't do at home for sure, but still the same kind of thing that could happen with a regular birth. She was so close to dying that her doctor had to ask her if she planned on having more babies (later he told her to absolutely NOT risk it and not have any more. She didn't even have many, just my older brother and me) because he was fully ready to take her entire uterus out. In the end, the doctor perfomed what was practically a miracle and managed to save her life, and her uterus. I will never understand what kind of parent would risk their baby's life and health like that...
@@semoremo9548 i tried again qfter my first almost killed me. She has a little sister a few yrs younger who i wore a heart monitor while pregnant with her 🙃 after both of those lovely experiences i got fixed lmao. No more pregnancy for me
I wasn't around when it happened, but I was told the story of my bf's sister's labor (1st and only living child) and she literally ended up bleeding out. As in, she was DEAD for a brief time. She only remembers the very beginning, and then nothing until waking up after everything was over and calmed down. I believe it was something about her uterus not going back to normal afterwards? From what I heard, it was terrifying, but they almost didn't notice because she was just so quiet, and from what I was told it was a pretty hectic day. Anyways, she's still around, as they managed to bring her back, and the little girl just turned 2 a few months ago! Definitely would be terrifying to happen at home where no medical assistance is available. She HAD originally wanted a home birth, but thankfully listened to the drs even they told her it would be a bad idea (she's really tiny and short, and with it being her 1st they were being cautious) but I can't imagine what would have happened if she had gone through with the original plan. Just like MDJ said. Most of the time, things turn out alright. But you never know if you could be the one in that extreme scenario
I'm a huge fan of home births... and I'm pregnant and planning to give birth at home... but holy yikes to the woman with the bleeding issues still wanting to do this. I live 1 mile from the hospital and with a bleeding issue I still wouldn't dare. Common sense isn't too common, sadly.
There is also a story of a woman who had a "trauma-free home birth" of a blue in the face baby on this subreddit. This story is in a few posts, it began with her writing about her baby not being able to hold his head at 9 months old... And then there was the birth story, the baby wasn't breathing when born and only cried after feeding the next day. Horrible stuff, as far as I remember the people who were reading her posts called CPS on her. But anyway it would be nice to have you comment on this birth story, if you could find it.
I saw a theory in the comments of one of those posts that the baby actually died after being born and that these posts are the grieving mother's attempts at creating a happier reality where her baby survived. Either way, the situation is horrific and I have no idea if that kid is going to survive much longer if it really did survive birth.
Would love to hear more about the Rhogam shot! I'm Rh negative, and had two kids, so I had to get this shot.. but the doctors never did a great job of explaining either time.
Not an expert, but the way I had it explained to me was like this: Basically, your body sees your baby's blood as a foreign substance and produces an immune response to attack it. Rhogam prevents that immune response from happening if your blood and the baby's mixes at any point. MDJ should definitely make a video on it though!
@@angelaricaurte6926 Sadly before the shot a lot more babies died. Seems like blood transfusions with Rh- blood could be used (Based on quick google search, not medical training)
I’d love to see that video too! I’m A- and I’ve had 3 kids plus a mc, and between first trimester bleeding etc I’ve gotten the rhogam shot more than I can count off the top of my head lol. Would love to hear more!!
as a greek I can safely tell you that greek yogurt is only recommended to be consumed from the mouth and never inserted in any other hole on the human body... maybe that person has mixed the "eat yogurt when you take antibiotics" which is something that older people suggest, and since there is nothing wrong with EATING yogurt, we keep on doing so lol
Nah there are idiots pushing people to shove yogurt in their holes all over the place, people obsessed with natural medicine. They are in the same general group as the people that sun their perineum or drink their own piss.
I had an OB-GYN recommend yogurt tampons to me several years ago. Also an old bulletin board for moms I was on almost 20 years ago pushed remedies like yogurt tampons, borax capsules, etc, all sorts of "natural" remedies for all things vaginal.
@@Ventuswill this is actually terrifying. greek yogurt is mostly made out of sheep milk, and it's heavy in fat, it's also extra sour than other yogurts, so it might be even damaging to put it in the vagina like that ...
The lady in labor, bleeding for so long; I was dilated at 3 cm for three weeks before my water broke. There wasn’t any bleeding either. So my doctors *didnt* want to induce me because her lungs hadn’t fully developed. so I was in labor for three weeks. I was seeing my OB and a specialist every other day but I wasn’t bedridden either. I was working at my desk with my hips separating. Yes, it was incredibly painful for three weeks but I did everything I could to make sure my kid was okay and that’s the point. Do what your doctors and midwives tell you to do.
It sounds absolutely insane to me that you were still working. We get off a couple of weeks before you are due just for the extra preparation amd stuff
@@karinland8533 labor begins when you begin to dilate. To become fully dilated, 10 cm, it can take hours, days, or even weeks, as it did in my case. They generally will not admit you into the hospital until you’re at 4 cm. Active labor is at around 6 cm but dilation at any point is being in labor.
The yogurt thing made me laugh because it made me remember a story my mom told me about being told by a doctor to douche with yogurt. Following up with a nurse who asked her if she had been using the yogurt douche my mom told her she'd been trying but the blueberries kept clogging the nozzle. She of course promptly told the horrified nurse she was joking.
And I was hoping people didn’t use vanilla yogurt because I’m sure the yeast would love the sugar in it. Yours was even funnier. I’ve literally got tears in my eyes.
Coming from a family who have always just barely scraped by financially, and also deal with a lot of health issues, I dread to think what would have happened to us if we didn't live in a country with access to free health care. A few years ago I experienced heart failure and spent almost a month in intensive care (including my 20th birthday, lucky me lol) and it didn't cost me or my family a single penny. I don't even want to imagine how much that would have cost us if we'd had to pay for it. I have so much empathy for people struggling with medical bills, I wish you all the best.
Another great video! I just want to say that I was a "low-risk" pregnancy, but I am so glad we chose to go to the hospital. My baby swallowed meconium and needed help breathing right away. He stayed in the NICU for almost a week. I'm so grateful for the team of people who were there and ready to help him breathe. He is currently 10 months old. Happy and healthy.
Thank you! It was a surreal moment, having him whisked away as soon as I'd given birth. It didn't really sink in until I saw him hooked up to a CPAP machine in the NICU that night. Birth centers and giving birth at home are valid options, but I do think it's important for people to make a hospital transfer plan and just know what the risks are. Some people like to say, "Well, people have been giving birth for thousands of years on their own," as a reason to not go to the hospital, but forget that maternal and infant mortality has also been very high for those thousands of years. Not having a safe, clean environment in which to give birth surrounded by knowledgeable people who can provide medical care is part of why.
@@juliakwiatkowski647 I agree. I have scoliosis with 2 deformities in my spine (one upper and one lower). They cancel each other out to where the space between is straight and I'm nearly in as much pain as others or as people would expect. Due to this though, when I was pregnant with my son, I always thought that I'd have a problem carrying as he got bigger with my back and probably have to have a C-section, because it would be too much strain on back to go natural, but go under for it also as I didn't think they'd be able to get the needle in. My doctor ensured me that they would monitor my back if I ever showed signs of discomfort and that he would absolutely be able to get a needle in if I needed. I thankfully went full term without any issues, but did end up needing a C-section, just not for the reasons I thought. My son ended up being breach and was also about 8lbs in my tiny 5' 0" frame (honestly, there wasn't much space for him to turn anyway). I worked up until 2 days prior to the surgery and I was able to go through it while awake because they had no issues with the injection. Point being, that without doctors to monitor should I have had a personal issue or to catch that he was breach and quite big, I would have had an incredibly painful birth that could've put us both at risk. My only regret was that they wouldn't let me push the surgery back 3 days so that he'd be born on Halloween. Lol. (Still his favorite holiday though and when I took him home in a batman onesie) He's now almost 7 and enjoying his 2nd day of 2nd grade.
I had a somewhat similar experience with my first pregnancy. Second pregnancy the first question I asked the hospital 'do you have a NICU?' (we had moved). I wasn't delivering anywhere without one.
With the first woman, since she's saying that she'd have to drive 8 hours, my guess is that her father was a rural medicine doctor back in the day when it might have been a little bit more acceptable to have you teenager act as your nurse from time to time. Or hand surgeons had some epic take your daughter to work days. Or her dad was a farmer and the fingers being reattached were his own or a friend's.
I'd definitely put my money on farmer, or rancher especially in Texas. I grew up on a ranch and had to help my family doctor injuries in house quite a few times. We also lived roughly 2-3 hours from the nearest hospital. Closer to 3 or 4 if you wanted an actually decent hospital. Not to mention the many animals I had to stitch up or perform surgery on in the moment. It's a fly by the seat of your pants lifestyle that's for sure.
I miscarried the same way as the last story when I was 17, no one ever explained it to me really and I have been confused ever since (the past 10 years). I would be interested in a video on this topic. I haven’t had any pregnancies since then and I am worried about being pregnant in the future.
I'm so sorry that happened to you! I'm not a doctor, but studying to be a nurse, and I can tell you that nowadays there are fairly simple ways for Rh- women to have Rh+ babies without much issue. If I remember correctly, it was possible by taking a pill, or getting a vaccine. Something super simple for such a dangerous condition. I would say, if you are able to, talk about this to your doctor, and about what options are available in the case that you got pregnant again with a Rh+ baby. That would probably help ease your worries about getting pregnant again.
In 2020 I had 7 stitches in the back of my hand after accidentally slicing it open. Because it was in the height of the initial lockdowns where doctors weren't seeing anyone in person I really didn't have any other option than to remove them myself. They were getting very tight and uncomfortable as I'd had them in a good three weeks longer than I was supposed to. I used very sharp tiny nail scissors and tweezers (I sterilised both as best I could) and apart from one suture where it had formed a scab over the knot they were painless and easy to remove. I trust my husband with my life but he has incredibly shaky hands and I would never let him near my vulva with scissors.
I always take out my own stitches, I haven’t got time for a doctor visit. A friend took the staples out of his scalp but had me check to make sure he got them all. It’s no big deal
You're totally right in that childbirth goes fine... until it doesn't. I'm forever grateful for the team of doctors and nurses who acted fast and got my baby out and resuscitated after she got stuck (shoulder dystocia) and her heart rate plummeted to the 50s. It was so terrifying and I absolutely cannot imagine this happening at home. I had a normal, healthy, full term pregnancy.
My baby wanted to come out butt first so I had to have a c section after my contractions started. I had wanted to have a vaginal birth but I wouldn't consider risking my health and my baby's. That person not listening to doctors and midwives is scary!
That first one is definitely rural medicine. If the only clinic within an hour doesn’t call a farmer/rancher back right away, they’ll just do it themselves.
My ex-MIL suffered the same back in the 60's, but she also lost a little girl shortly after birth, and another where it was touch and go but thankfully she survived... being 0-neg myself, what can I say, but - love you, science!
It's not specifically OBGYN related, but there is something comforting in hearing you say that the odds don't matter when you're the one who has to deal with it. I've been dealing with so many medical issues all my life, and recently there have been a lot of uneducated people telling me to just do something that puts me at risk of losing what health I have left because "what are the odds it'll really hurt this time?" It only really matters when you're in that percent, and I keep falling into that percent. And of course, the response is just kind of, "oops, oh well" when it could have been avoided with just a little more responsibility, or at leastno one making a stink and trying to prevent me from protecting my own health. Also, it seems like I'm encountering a bunch of potential side effects to my various medical issues that I had no idea could be side effects...because no one told me about it until I was already being effected by it, sometimes for years.
My mom (who passed away 17 years ago) was one of these people who didn't want to go to the hospital (and tried to have me, their 4th kid, at home). I think the source of the majority of these forums are a combination of 1) medical fear: doctors, hospitals, and medical procedures are all scary, and it's hard to trust someone you don't know with your life and 2) medical care is expensive in the U.S. Getting stitches adjusted by your doc seems like the better option but how much more will that cost? Having your birth in the hospital sounds safer but how much will THAT cost. I know, it's very easy to say "but it's that or YOUR life", but if someone can't afford to pay for their medical care, they might literally think it's not worth saving their life. I come from a family like that, and even though I don't believe that's the way to live my life, I understand it.
It could also be because majority of people don't actually have a good (or even base-line) understanding of science, specially biology. So that makes it so it's easier to fearmonger them into believing something is bad, when in reality they just don't understand how a vaccine actually works.
I have had so many medical issues, and it costs a LOT. Especially for a reconstructive bottom surgery I had. If I wasn't still living with my parents and had to pay for that myself, I simply wouldn't. So I get it too
As a mlt student, hearing how she refused to get the rhogam shot made me shudder. Please talk to professionals about how the rhogam shot works. Please don't ask Facebook
I think it needs to be explained in really simple words instead of antigens and antibodies which is gonna go over people's heads... "Your immune system is trying to kill your baby."
Same! I'm 39, nearing 40, and am pretty sure I'm perimenopausal but can't get my Dr to agree. It's so frustrating. I just wanna know what I'm in for and confirmation this is what I'm experiencing but apparently I'm "way too young."
@@storyln My mom started the hot flahses and other crap at 40 but was past 50 before her periods finally stopped, and I have one friend who at about 49 just had her period stop. That was it for her. I had a doc tell me I was perimenopausal in my mid 40s. My friend's sister went through full menopause before 20. There are no rules that our stupid bodies follow. More, uh, guidelines...
Yes! We need this topic discussed. I'm 47 and just woke up from one of those very real dreams where you discover you're pregnant! I'm not, by the way... but know of other moms who had a baby at my age 😬
@@storyln Ask your doctor to do a hormone panel. Early menopause is a thing and needs to be taken very serious. Not to scare you, but early menopause makes you more at risk for certain illnesses.
I really wanted to have a homebirth with my third baby. At the time there were very few midwives providing this service where I live and the cost was way beyond our means. I planned to have an unassisted birth at home. We lived within about 5 minutes of the hospital and I felt confident that we could be there very quickly if I identified a need to be. I still had regular checkups throughout my pregnancy with both my GP and the hospital midwife service (it's called Shared Care.) At my first ultrasound ~18 weeks it was noted that I had a low lying placenta; so I had repeat scans at ~28 and ~36 weeks. Unfortunately the placenta remained low and close to my cervix. Additionally, at my 36 week check up I tested positive after the Group B Strep swab. Although I was so, so disappointed, I knew that proceeding with my homebirth plans with these identifed risk factors would be an unwise and unnecessary risk. So I can understand the desire that these women in the stories you featured in this video had - we all have our idea of the perfect birth experience and it's hard to let go of that. I count myself fortunate that the reason I wanted a homebirth was not because of any particular traumatic or bad experience with my previous hospital births, I just loved the idea of being in my own space and not having lot of strangers around. (I'm an introvert.) I feel very sad that the mothers like the ones in this video and that you hear about in the news sometimes have such intense fear and distrust of hospital, doctors, midwives, etc that they are unable to make rational choices for themselves despite the evidence telling them it is the safest thing to do. It's a terrible reflection on the health education they have received and the quality of healthcare available to them when they would rather have no healthcare than expose themselves to what they fear.
That's really the heart of the issue. It gets to a point where it's a mental health issue with some people. There needs to be more mental health support and care for pregnant and post-natal people. That's assuming you can get them to accept that is. Sometimes distrust/ fear of drs extends to the psychological side of medicine too. It really doesn't help that this kind of dangerous behaviour is bening so strongly encouraged online. I'm not against homebirth, I just think it's important to make an informed decision with healthcare providers.
For anyone in Australia rhogam is called an Anti-D shot here. I had 3 shots during my pregnancy (normally u just get 2 but I was bleeding at 6 weeks so they gave me a shot the, in case I was miscarrying and then I had one at 20weeks then another at 36 weeks) Because I’m blood type A-, my baby turned out to be A+ so I’m glad I got the shots, especially as I needed an emergency C-section.
The blood type information is interesting! Historians believe that’s why Henry VIIIs wives kept miscarrying or having stillbirths; he likely had a positive blood hold and his wives were negative.
I was under the impression that Rh Incompatibility was only the case with Anne Boleyn? Catherine of Aragon's, to my education, were due to the fact that she had cervical cancer that was beginning to metastasize to her uterus.
Years ago, my sister in law had a norplant. After bleeding contastantly for 6 months and gaining a lot of weight, she asked to get it removed. They didn't want to and she finally told them she would herself. They finally got her in to remove it. It scared me and I never wanted a birth control device I couldn't remove myself.
Yeah, my first thought after the first story was "why would anyone accept to get an implant in the USA, without knowing what side effects it might cause them and without knowing if they will be able to pay for the surgical procedure needed for the removal?"
I’m O- and your quick explanation was a lot more understandable than all the other “explanations” from other ppl that I’ve heard from; it would still be awesome if you made an entire video on the negative blood type in pregnancy💙(if there’s enough to say for an entire video of course)
My mother was one of those for whom it went fine until it didn't. She had me at home, and things took a while, but were fine. Then she had my brother and things went long and the birth itself happened ok until the end where she nearly bled to death. Thankfully, the issue with not going to the hospital was financial (why, yes, I do live in the U.S. ... how could you tell?) and so when things went sideways, her sister took her straight to the hospital and they were able to save her.
Love these women acting like in history women were just giving birth completely alone with no one to help them and not with experienced midwives or at the very least women who had significant experience with both birthing their own children and helping deliver others
Whaaaaaat??? When I had my nexplanon removed it was such a process - the dr had started talking about waiting and going to OR because it had built up scar tissue, but thankfully he got it out in the end. I couldn't imagine going through that at home! I have no words!!
As someone who lives in a country where we have a proper healthcare system, these stories sound like the kinds of things we learnt about in history at school! Our health service has it's own issues, but I don't know anyone who has considered performing surgery on themselves due to lack of access to proper healthcare.
From my experience an American rural staple is dousing a cut in rubbing alcohol (or drinking alcohol) and duct taping it closed. I say from my experience because I have done it. Wasn’t ideal ngl
@@samraymond4967 That sounds horrendous! We would use some sort of antiseptic and cover with a plaster or dressing or go to A&E for stitches if it was really bad.
The scariest thing about the first one for me is the "I had two other people take theirs out as well". If you want to do impromptu surgery on yourself - seriously, don't - that's one thing, but don't encourage others to do it! Not to mention the fact that if this person died (which considering your tearing your arm open, you could bleed out if you misjudge your cuts), the brothers and GF would most likely be held liable. All the laugh-crying faces and the lols, this person is not only putting themselves but multiple others at risk.
The story of removing their own stitches just reminds me of a story from when my Dad was working out in Tajikistan. His colleague (N) had surgery a few weeks before hand and had some stitches post op which were healing but it was fine she had an appointment to get them removed when she got back to Germany. The project got extended by 3 weeks and they got told that they wouldn't be flown back to the UK or Germany respectively, until it was done- 2.5 weeks after N's stitches were due to be taken out. N arranged a video consult with her very understanding surgeon who told her to get them taken out locally. They asked the company's fixer to help them find a doctor for N- no luck, due to some translation errors they were taken to a pharmacist who didn't speak English German or Russian. They had hard less than 48 hours until they were back in full time meetings so what did the two of them decide? They bought rubbing alcohol, scissors, tweezers, bandages and a large bottle of vodka. Dad phoned a mate back home to ask how to take out stitches and decided they were ready. They both had a swig of the vodka, sterlised everything with the rubbing alcohol and Dad took out N's 16 stitches in the bathroom of her hotel room while she drank the rest of the bottle. It's amazing what people will do when desperate.
Eurgh... The stitch one.... My stitches were too tight as well and I felt like my vulva would rip everytime I sat down (which you do all day when you breastfeed). My midwife visited and got them out with some kind of bladed hook. She pulled on one and it did not cut. THE FREAKING PAIN.
"if you are the one that it doesn't go fine in the percentage risk that you had of that happening doesn't matter anymore because you're the one that has to deal with those consequences for the rest of your life" really well said MDJ! Exactly what I told a friend of mine who got pressured from a "doula" (with absolutely no medical experience) to deliver her first child (that was breech) vaginally and all the medical professionals advised against it and recommended a c-section...
I amazed at how many people take medical advice from social media. That said, in many cases I understand it because medical care has become too expensive. I don't want to run to my Doctor for every yeast infection and UTI and appreciate a script being called in without an appointment.
I used to have recurring UTIs, It would make me so mad that they made me come into the office every single time, loose a half day of work (because inevitably it was a walk in appointment), my boss complains, I am in pain, then produce a sample, they tell me I have a UTI, then they finally write a prescription, I pay an outrageous sum (if I haven't met the deductible) for a 3 minute encounter with a nurse. I cannot even get the prescription filled right away because my job is ready to kill me because I have been sitting in a waiting room for 3 hours. Repeat. Every time this happened you would have thought I was asking for oxy or morphine. I just wanted an antibiotic. I can understand it if you are a new patient, or if you haven't had a UTI before. My best friend found a doctor online that called in antibiotic for her, insurance didn't cover the call, but she said it was still cheaper since she had not hit her deductible, not to mention she didn't have to loose work over it, and jump through hoops.
@@trace9657 I think yeast infections and UTI's should be handled over the phone. If you get them all the time you know what you have and should not have waste money and time to get the drugs to make them go away.
@@trace9657 Your doctor wants to do a test every time because other medical conditions can mimic UTIs and antibiotic resistance is a very serious problem that's rapidly getting worse. Doctors caused this problem by prescribing unnecessary antibiotics. However, there's absolutely no reason for you to come in for an appointment every time. My doctor doesn't do that. You should be able to walk in (after calling to tell them you're coming), get a cup from the receptionist, pee in it, hand it back and leave. They can call you about the results. They could also give you some collection cups to store at home and then you can just drop off a sample on your way to/from work or during your lunch break if you have time. If it's impossible for you to get there during office hours you could have someone else drop it off for you. Make sure they keep it refrigerated until they leave. Alternatively your doctor can order the test to be done at a hospital lab and maybe you can bring the sample there yourself. You won't get the results as quickly and it'll be more expensive but the trade-off of not missing half a day of work might be worth it. Explain your situation to your doctor and ask about these options.
Regarding birth control that will be removed at some point, why isn’t it being billed universally, meaning that the removal of the devise is already covered by the doctor that placed it???
When I was growing up I learned the fact that Grandma from my father's side who had 15 children (yes, you read that correctly, nothing religious just an old rural-ish Mexican family) had an O- Blood type, and EVERY SINGLE ONE of my aunts and uncles, including my father, have positive blood types. Not a single one of the births or pregnancies had complications and she never gave birth in a proper hospital. She lived until 98 and was incredibly healthy till her last years. Just hearing you talk about this amazes me beyond comprehension, the fact that all of them manage to get so lucky and nothing terrible ever happened is just incredible.
this issue is indeed just a matter of luck. Here in France we don't even recommand to take the shot for different rh. They just monitor closely the blood and act immediately only if something goes wrong from what I understand.
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Blood type 0 isn't the same as Rh negative. You can have blood type A / B / AB / 0, and any of these can be Rh positive or negative.
@ my mom is O- (O negative) and I’m O+ (O positive). I’ve donated blood over 20x and am almost up to 2 gallons so I know what my blood type is. My mom HAD to have rhogam so fetus me wasn’t miscarried.
i’m a medical student, and i had a mom ask me yesterday if we ever run out of enzymes, like we’re just born with a certain amount of enzymes for our life and eventually we just run out of them. i was like, we would die
Oh MDJ do yourself a favor and don't dive into this sub. I'm not even a medical professional and it's been bad for my mental health Edit to say yes please! To Rhogham vid. I'm a mom who is B- and has had both miscarriages and a live birth so I've had a lot of those shots and I'd love to hear a breakdown of everything they do
Me too! O- rh+ here and I had the shots with three of my four live births. We suffered 4 miscarriages also. Edit* Fort those confused, I am O- and three of my four children were Rh+ thereby Requiring the Rhogham shots.
Re: Rhogam is an antibody specifically for Rh+ red blood cells. It coats the Rh+ baby red cells in mom's (Rh-) blood stream, flagging them for removal. This way, her body never learns to treat baby's red cells as foreign and build antibodies of her own. Without Rhogam, the first pregnancy might go okay if there's no bleeding across the placenta before birth (definitely happens then). Future pregnancies may result in complications (including miscarriage) due to mom's immune system attacking baby's red cells during pregnancy. If Mom is Rh+ or father (and thus, baby) is also Rh-, Rhogam is not needed. Note: I'm a medical laboratory scientist. Our lab screens for this risk and dispenses to nurses to give to patients.
Oh lord, this reminds me way too strongly of when I worked as a veterinary nurse. The crap people pull because they just didn't think to ask or weren't willing to seek help...and then you've got an emergency, long term consequences, or a fatality instead of a five minute phone call to the clinic. It's like you said - most of the time things are fine, but when they aren't, there are serious consequences. Idk why so many people go online instead of to a professional.
The odds can go wrong, I was a healthy 24 yo with my first child, low risk pregnancy, in labor and labor going perfectly well, until my child’s heart rate drop, my water breaks and the cord go out causing an emergency code to be announced and my child was born with a c-section literally FIVE minutes later ! She came out crying and was with perfect health, if I was at home, I can’t even imagine how terrible everything would’ve been
That happened to someone from my hometown in an out of hospital birth. She got to the hospital by ambulance and got an emergency c-section . The baby lost so much oxygen by that point that he was in critical condition. He lived for 5 days.
When I got my nexplanon taken out the nurse told me after that the person that put it in had it in the completely wrong spot and had inserted it right next to an artery. So if I decided to take it out myself there's a high chance I would have bled out and died. Luckily I'm in the UK and didn't have to pay for it so 🤷
In 2015 I considered doing this. I had extreme pain in my arm, and google suggested it was hitting a muscle, but no doctor would listen to my requests to take it out until I'd been saying I was thinking of removing the implant from my arm at home. At the same time, I was also taking antidepressants, and felt extremely suicidal. If I'd known the conflicts with the hormones that would have helped me realise where the symptoms were coming from. Ironically, 2015 was the year a male psychologist told me I was "cured" of depression because I'd broken up with a specific person - but I don't think I was "cured" if they then prescribed me antidepressants, right? I felt that a lot of my symptoms eased after I had the implant removed. The pill is easier to manage from my perspective.
I love it -- "My doctor gave me some advice and a treatment plan that I don't like, so let me check on Facebook to see if some random stranger on the internet can offer me a better alternative." This person deserves the Darwin Award. Unfortunately, there's a baby involved so it's not just that one person who will suffer the consequences of her stupidity. Like MDJ, I have no words.
I'm really interested in seeing a future video on the RH- topic. I remembered hearing about that during biology class in high school, and then when I found out I myself was A- (don't yet know what my partner is) that was something that came to mind for the future if and when we decided to have children. Loved this video, and looking forward to future ones :)
I had a yeast infection while pregnant with my 2nd baby. I’ve never had one before. I only knew what it was because I heard my sisters talk about it. I made an app with my OB, not an issue. She prescribed monistat and all is done. My hubby mentioned it in passing to my MIL. She was PISSED! She told me to not take the monistat, just have the hubby shove yogurt in my hoo-ha. I told her I’ll take the monistat and I’m fine. She started yelling at me that I can’t take it because SHE is allergic to antibiotics. I was shocked. Safe to say, I don’t take advice from her on anything, ever.
My dad had a chunk of finger come partly off when he was drunk. He just slapped it back into place and bandaged it up. He got so sick with blood poisoning. Ended up having to see the doctor many times. He's a teacher, and normally smart enough, they were just having a fun party. This is the same guy who was a walking spinal for three weeks- he fought with his doctors that something was still wrong and they were like, nah, we took xrays, you're fine. They missed it by 1 vertebrae.
The ignorant often believe themselves quite wise. It can also be a sign of low IQ to know everything about what a person has no training or understanding of.
My mum tried to remove her nexplanon herself after the doctors refused to because her side effects were so bad. It's devastating to think how desperate someone has to be to do that. And we're in the UK with free healthcare. They just wouldn't listen to her. She was unsuccessful and has a nasty scar from trying.
Wow! The blood type thing is fascinating - I'd never thought about how differing blood types between a pregnant person and their baby would impact upon pregnancy - I'd love to watch a video on that!
The video starts: "I removed my own nexplanon" Me: "Nexplanon?!?!?!?! The birth control that goes in your arm???!!!!!!!!!!" The video continues Me: *abject horror*
I felt queasy as she was reading on. Side note: The person who reposted it, also needs to learn the difference between Nexplanon and an IUD (makes me wonder what they think IUD stands for).
@@Panda72021 I am pretty sure she meant that she saw this as a comment on someone asking for advice on removing an IUD. IE Woman asks how to remove her own IUD and Nexplanon woman tells her horrifying story
I’m actually in a FB group for people who have bad side effects from nexplanon. Some doctors refuse to remove it before the 3 year mark. Some of them have gotten desperate and removed it by themselves.
Same! I had it for almost 4 years (when it was only meant to be for 3 years) and went to multiple doctors to try and get it removed. Planned Parenthood claimed that it was effective for 5 years-- and wanted to charge me $550 for removal. I definitely looked into removing it myself but finally found a doctor that removed it for $125.
Wait, what? How can that be legal? I've gotten IUDs taken out before their expiry (despite technically having an average sized uterus I could feel the normal size IUD so I got a smaller one placed) and that's way more invasive 🤔 I also live in Canada though so it's a completely different system (but also you only pay for the IUD itself here, the insertion and removal are free, so I'm even more confused as to why they wouldn't remove it in the US where you are PAYING THEM)
@@sianmilne4879 It's straight up eugenics, doctors deciding who can or can't reproduce. Unfortunately it DOES still happen here in Canada, just by different technique. Seriously, look up accounts from First Nations people who have come forward with their experiences of being tricked/coerced into surgical sterilization.
I've seen other people cover this subreddit before, but it's great to see someone cover it who is able to debunk the misinformation and educate viewers. Good stuff!
The cost of removing an implant should be included in the cost of implanting it. Insurance companies can reserve the costs so if they pay to put one in, they can pay to take it out even if the insured is no longer covered. If we're not going to get universal Healthcare for the good of society then we can improve the tools we got.
I'll admit when my daughter had stitches I took them out for her. But it was after the time frame the surgeon had told us, she was pulling and them and complaining (she was 3 and it was a forehead wound), they weren't soluble, and our GP was closed or booked out for the next four days. I also helped my husband pull stitches out of his scalp after neurosurgery, the nurse he saw just cut the knots off and left the non-soluble sutures in his skin. But my perenium stitches stayed in place until they dissolved, no matter how annoying and itchy they were. My GYN said that it can take up to 6 months for them to dissolve enough to break.
Wow that first story reminds me of my best friend! Her husband cut her nexplanon out of her arm too. They really wanted a baby but couldn't get an appointment because covid had just hit. He was in the marines and said he felt comfortable doing it.. lol. Now they have 2 beautiful children though! That'll be quite the story to tell them when they're 16 lol.
Re rhogam... Baby #9 she already didn't get the shot. She's pregnant with #10, so if 9 was Rh positive, she needs the shot NOW! Id love to see MDJ break down the odds BC it's like 85% of people are Rh positive in general. I would like to know if that's the same if the mom is Rh negative. Keep up the good work, mdj!
Depends on what genotype dad has. But generally Rh- is the recessive type, so mom would have the genotype dd. If dad also has dd all children will be Rh-. If dad is Rh+ there are two possibel combinations for him: DD and Dd. With DD every child will get d from mom and D from dad, so every child would be Dd/Rh+. With Dd the chance for a child being Rh- is 50 %: D (dad) + d (mom) d (dad) + d (mom)
Unfortunately she lost that fetus (but didn't believe the doctors and had her children pray for its resurrection). She's pregnant again and is much further along, but I don't know if that means this one is negative.
@@ACKelly9 it probably is. Iirc she's had miscarriages before the last pregnancy and I think she said the doctors *forced* or convinced her she needed the shot with some earlier pregnancies.
Wild how people will risk the life of their babies to be cool and have an at home birth even when showing signs something is wrong. And, then turn to strangers on the internet for help instead of medical professionals. Strangers who'd also rather die or let their own kid die, than step foot in a hospital. Nope, their opinion isn't biased at all. Both me and my niece would be dead if we weren't delivered at a hospital.
Man even “low risk” is sketchy. I had the easiest least complicated pregnancy ever(besides some low iron) and still ended up having a c-section cause little man just wasn’t in the right position to come out. He was face down and everything but the doctor couldn’t feel where his face was so it was like he was looking down or something.
@@betteryourlife865 So, what that says to me is, your doctor CHOSE a c-section rather than risking you suing them if something went wrong. Unless Baby was transverse, of course.
I went to planned parenthood to get my nexplanon out. I got it when I was a 21 year old during my very first gyno visit. Turns outI had almost all of the side effects and they explained so much to me and I got a bunch of free testing at 24. Im so grateful to them, and I probably would have had someone cut it out for me without them to get better. (I'm 29 now and have an amazing doctor who explains EVERYTHING to me.)
My dad once asked me to help him pry a black tooth out of his head with a knife because he couldn't afford to get it out. Sountimes the risk doesnt matter when you simply can't afford to do things the "right" way.
Oh my gosh, thank you so, so much for making the point about statistics. Whenever people try to brush off a valid concern by saying the chance of it happening to them is very small, I always respond by saying that a low chance of it happening to them isn’t going to matter anymore once it happens. Statistics matter, and it’s important not to be scared all the time, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take the risks of something seriously.
I’m RH- and I would love to learn more about it. Some of what you explained I knew, but with a long fertility journey and after experiencing miscarriage, this is a factor that still scares me. Even with doctors I deeply trust.
Same. I don’t want to take silly risks, but looked up the research and the Cochran review on the shot said there’s no long term studies on if it actually reduces risks for future babies, or even if it reduced rates of being sensitized, just rates of fetal blood in material blood (which does seem to be very very relevant, but I’d still want to know the overall rates). Going to be asking my midwife a lot of questions. I’m for sure getting it at birth, bc then whether it has risks or not my baby is born and I don’t care if I get same side effect for a while myself, but not sure about the 28 week dose until I hear a lot more about the research.
Very helpful video, as always. And also indicative of the state of health care in the US when people find themselves needing to do their own medical procedures. It *sounds* great to say "see a doctor," but reality is good luck with that to a LOT of people.
This is horrifying to me. Currently pregnant and I'm terrified of not making it to the hospital on time (a very real possibility in my case). Can't imagine being at home with no one to step in if something goes wrong (also very possible in my case).
Working in an OB/GYN, the amount of stuff I hear and see from patients. The most common one is people saying they’ve had normal healthy births in the past and don’t need to come so often or will only come for ultrasounds only. One patient decided she didn’t need to come anymore for another 4 months until she thought it was time for an ultrasound. From her last appointment to then, she ended up loosing her babies. She didn’t know when it happened or what caused it. Was in denial but she missed all her opportunities on purpose to follow up and see if there were any issues. Could’ve been easily avoided
Gotta fight at the polls to keep it, we don't want to end up like these poor folks! I'm two weeks out from a hysterectomy that cost me exactly zero dollars.
When I had an ovarian cancer scare several years ago it was literally less expensive for me to die (funeral costs and loss of my income in the marriage) vs having both ovaries removed (surgery, loosing my business because of recovery time, dealing with menopause in my mid thirties). I rolled the dice that it was non-cancerous growths and kept my fingers crossed that I wouldn’t die in the next thirty days. Still here 🙌
I had anorexia when my nexplanon was installed and by the time I had it removed I'd gained a significant amount of weight and 2 doctors couldn't get it out and sent me to a specialist because apparently it was all up in there with my nerve(s) or something. They tried for like an hour and couldn't. Can't imagine trying to do that myself!
"What kind of family would require a child's help to sew fingers back on?!??!"
Farmers. It's always the farmers. They think they know a thing or two because they've seen a thing or two.
Lol!!! This comment made me cackle!!! 😂
And they try to fix everything by jamming their hand it in or stepping on it.
I remember when I was a kid my Grandpa (He was fire chief) went to a call where one of our neighbours got his leg crushed by a combine because it jammed up so he decided the best way to fix it was to jump on the thresher without turned it off and got his leg all tangled up in it.
One of my superiors at my previous job had parents who were farmers and one day she gets a picture message from her dad. It takes her a minute to figure out what she's looking at, and it turns out her got his finger caught in a chain while working and it cut to the bone so bad that the tip of the phalange was completely exposed with no skin or muscle around it. Thankfully they went to the ER.
But yeah, farming is an oddly dangerous job despite the way city folk imagine it goes.
Said "farmers" out loud as she was reading that post lol
1. Hospital probably far away
2. Too much work to do
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3. "Oh yeah we suture cows all the time, this is the same damn thing."
Performing self surgery like that is crazy! At the same time, this is what desperate people do when they don’t have access to local and affordable healthcare
right?? like it’s hella scary but…. what are they supposed to do?
This does not have to be.
that and the ability to take off work when emergencies arise. I had a cyst grow from the size (on the surface) of a freckle to the size of a dime because I couldn’t take the time off of work. Then once i had gotten it handled i couldn’t even stay off of work for the entire medically recommended recovery time…
Just one more reason we love our NHS!🇬🇧
Aren't there some hospitals that offer help even if you don't have insurance and give a much lower cost? I think I've heard Dr Mike say he's worked at some like that. Though I guess that depends on the state.
Once again. I'm glad I live in a place where the county covers most of the costs for doctors visits like this.
How many of these issues could have been resolved with having affordable access to medical care and not worrying about significant expenses?
Every darn one of them, that’s how many.
my guess is 100%, but some of these people have disavowed science. They have the means. Others like the first example, it is a travesty that the procedure she performed on herself was so expensive and inaccessible to her. I still say if they break a leg they'll be at the doctor's asap.
Most. Socialized medicine still has access issues, typically in time to be seen or limitations on treatment options. Nonetheless, it's the superior healthcare model.
Actually probably not applicable here. If you read this reddit thread, these people don't trust science and think that doctors are trying to poison their wombs. It's not about access to them
@@meowmeowmeowmeowcatoncomputer I have had two kiddos, both but C section, one was an emergency even. It cost 0 dollars. I have a private room with a washroom attached (even the shared rooms have a bathroom right in the room) for 2 nights and still paid 0 dollars. None, Nada. First baby was in NICU for 2 days too, and still the bill was 0.
ETA: I also didn't have any insurance either pregnancy/birth. Still $0.
don't wanna sound scary but my immediate reaction (I'm a midwife) to "what are the risks for baby and me" (the home birth alone despite doctor and midwife advising against it) was saying "death" out loud.
Same. "You might die, your baby might die, both of you might die"
Yep, sometimes people need to hear the unvarnished truth.
Same.
That was my thought too!!!
I am not a medical professional, but I said the same thing. Modern medicine has saved an awful lot of women from dying in childbirth.
As a NICU nurse, I cringed SOOOO hard about the home birth one. Some of the worst babies I've had were from unassisted home births or assisted by untrained people.
I THOUGHT THAT SAID ASSASINATED 😀
I can only imagine this person being absolutely desperate for whatever reason. I am considering having a home birth someday. With an experienced midwive and if my doctor says everything is going perfectly fine. And that's still only because I know I would be able to get to the nearest clinic in less than five minutes by ambulance if I needed to. That's literally the same amount of time it would take for someone to realise there is a problem and get me to an OR if I was already at the hospital
Just read a story on the subreddit she's talking about where their baby died because they didn't seek help
what do you mean by "worst babies" ?
And it's not just about there being medical professionals period. I work registration in an ER at a hospital complex with two ERs, and I think I remember that they try and direct any OB emergencies after 20 weeks to our other ER because that's where the specialists are (at least with ambulance stuff; I'm not sure what we can do with walk-ins for an in-hospital transfer). Sure the docs in the one I work in can get you through it, but the ones in the other one will be better at mitigating any complications (which, if you're coming to the ER for OB stuff, is already going to be a risk)
I'm a Texas resident. I got charged over $500 for my Nexplanon removal after insurance covered their portion. I understand people need to get paid for their services and medical supplies need to be replaced, but 1-2 cc lidocaine, a scalpel, some iodine, some sterile gloves, forceps/ hemostats, and a 3 minute procedure and I still had hundreds of dollars in debt after insurance? Not at all fair.
From Canada here, I also wonder what the $500 is for? Lidocaine isn't that expensive, the equipment isn't likely new (or is made of plastic that isn't that expensive to make), and the rest can be got at the drugstore. A plastic surgeon doing minor procedures doesn't cost that much.
@@TsukiKatana things are prepackaged and sterilized, most providers I know use metal instruments, but you’re right. Still should not cost that much as you can get most over the counter.
I had Implanon for less than 6 mo., but I had so much scar tissue around it, my doctor really struggled to get it out. I can't imagine removing it myself.
@@lanascrapaddict2044 Ah. See, being a Canadian, we don't have huge cost like that for essential health care. I do know (as my mother is a medical receptionist) that there are clinics in Toronto where you can get filler for less than $500, which is not insured. Now, removing an implant isn't filler, but.... If they can do that for less money while still maintaining a sterile setting, cleaning sites, etc... where is the extra cost?
@@lanascrapaddict2044 I’m in the UK and covered by the NHS (when I had cancer it was totally covered, even prescriptions which you usually have to pay a small fee for). You absolutely should not have to use your savings for healthcare. That’s insane and you should be outraged.
Love how Americans have to do home surgery because it's too expensive to visit a doctor 🤦🏼 USA #1???
we know we aren’t really #1 😂
That’s really terrifying
My sister was low income and had knee surgery and many other things done in a top hospital. She knew the people in finance by name and was never denied needed treatment because she couldn’t pay…. In Ohio
Yea we'd rather do it ourselves than spend the rest of our lives in debt.
I had insurance at the time I suffered a cut to the scalp that required a visit to the ER and several stitches. When I returned as scheduled to the ER to have the stitches removed, no one at the hospital knew whether or not I would have to pay a bill for the stitch removal. I told him I would have my son cut them out instead and pay him the cash if there was going to be a charge. The question moved around to several places and finally a hospital administrator promised that if there was a charge they would waive it. So I let them remove the stitches. Let's all start asking more questions.
Sewing multiple fingers on - Farmer. Seriously. Farm equipment is known for removing body parts.
That's what I thought immediately as well. Rural farm folks.
I’m the granddaughter of a farmer who once got severely burned by an aerosol can exploding in a trash fire and my grandma cleaned it out with Lysol. The sewing on fingers tracks. Honestly I just feel lucky that over decades of being farmers my grandpa and uncle didn’t suffer more severe acute injuries. I’m also the daughter of a trauma surgeon and heard horror stories from my dad treating farmers whose tractors had rolled over on them and other terrible accidents. Farming is one of the most dangerous professions.
Thats what I thought and I didn't really even think twice about it. Is it advisable? No. But I've seen some shit working on farms...
and farmers are known for not going to the hospital 😂
Yeah, that’s was my immediate thought too.
Actual example, from a family member who grew up on a dairy farm when her dad partially severed a finger:
“Hospital? Nah, need to milk the cows in a couple of hours, just sew it up, some dettol and a bandage… fine, if you’re really worried I’ll wear my leather gloves… *sigh*, look if it’s still not ok in a couple of days I’ll have the doc look at it at cfa (country volunteer fire fighters) training. It’s not even an important finger, really.” 😱😂
The most disturbing thing in these is that they're not looking for advice on making a good decision. They're asking to be coached on how to approach the doctor with their risky decision. Not "is this a good idea?" But "I know I don't want to, tell me why".
This is the lethal mindset.
Yup. They're interested in agreement, not genuine information.
My mom is a nurse and has a story like this. She was in school (think about 19), and someone asked if she wanted to witness their home birth with a midwife. She shows up and there's no midwife. They had complications and my mom had to do cpr on the baby all the way to the hospital
Wow. What a trauma to inflict on a young nurse. And yet, if they hadn't their baby might be dead. People are just 🤦♀️ I'm sorry for your Mom but also, she's a hero.
Thank God your momma was there !!! She saved the baby's life !!!
Omg how awful.
When I was a kid we didn’t have health insurance for a long time.
One of my earliest memories was when I was about 4 and my mom had a long, deep gash on her leg. She had me help her stitch it up. She used a sharp embroidery needle and sewing thread. My job was to wipe it with a cloth soaked in alcohol, then quickly press an ice cube against the gash until she told me to stop between each stitch. The hope was that the ice would numb the skin in between stitches. I don’t know if it worked or not.
She didn’t use any of the stitch methods doctors use, she just used a regular whip stitch.
By some miracle it healed really well without getting infected. But when my dad (they were divorced) found out she had me participate in that, he was furious. Not that I blame him.
The American healthcare system is a gem, isn’t it? Driving people to desperate measures like that? Best in the world. /s
A whip stitch is a regular stitch that is used :) It's just called a simple continuous pattern, but it's the same. Not that I love that she had to do that to herself, but sounds like she did a better job than she thought. Also bodies are amazing!
I always wondered whether a whip stitch would work, now I know I guess. Thanks!
I sliced the bottom of my foot open when I was 9. No insurance, my mother was mad at me for cutting myself and ruining my new shoe. She had no sympathy, I still had to do chores. It would break open every time I put my foot down. Got an infection, had such a high fever that I was hallucinating.
I'm surprised I survived, knowing how filthy my foot got at that time in my life. I still have a nearly 2 inch scar.
Your mom sounds like a warrior, she did what needed to be done. Probably taught you how to be strong, too.
@@cyn4476 how did your mom not get hit with the book after that? Did she take you to the hospital for the infection, or did you just sit at home? How did any hospital not yell at her for letting you walk with a wounded foot?
@@TheSansationalSans we had no insurance and were extremely poor. Oh, and my mother was a terrible person. I think I'm lucky to be alive after that. The infection was nasty, I could have lost my foot, leg or my life. My brother once had a strep infection in his knee and my mother laughed at the Dr, mocking him for saying her kid has "strep throat in his knee." He saw a doctor because his PE teacher was concerned about him. My injury was during the summertime.
She was a gem of a mother. The type you learned how NOT to be a parent from.
Thank you SO much for covering that the odds don't matter when it happens to you.
At 25, I had a low-risk second pregnancy. My daughter was born not breathing; when the cord was cut, her body didn't take over. It took 5 minutes to resuscitate her *in hospital*. She would not have survived a home birth and yet, there were no warning signs. I'd already had a relatively simple delivery with her older sister.
I always feel awkward sharing my story because I'm not trying to fear monger pregnant parents. At the same time, I'm the 1 in whatever number who would have lost my child at birth. The odds don't matter when you're burying your baby.
Problem is alot of woman give birth in the bathtub because they were sick of the mistreatment in the hospital and it was to expensive to do it at the hospital.
Exactly. Every thinks they won't be the 1, but SOMEONE has to be the 1.
@@dakotamabry1645 sorry but misstreatment at the hospital? even if that was true and ppl were regularily mistreated at the hospital what kind of person would risk their childs life just so they dont have to be inconvenienced?
@@chiarakoch6034 Not having gone up to Labour and Delivery, I had a gynaecologist threaten me when I asked a male observer to leave the room. She then threatened that if I needed any further specialist services, she would track down my file and force me to stay under her service and she could have whoever she want examine me without my consent. Now, the second one I went to was lovely, amazing, and I cried when he retired. To say I didn't want to be inconvenienced by having my vagina be entertainment for whoever is a bit much. I can't imagine being 40 week and having the first one drag in an entire retinue of whoever she found laying around to poke and prod at me despite not consenting, then having to pay her for the privilege of a prolonged labour and probably a caesarian if I got so uncomfortable I stopped labouring effectively.
@@dakotamabry1645 I like the way England has it set up where they have home care options as well as birthing centres at hospital sites. There's some TH-cam videos about them, and they look super cosy. There's a ton of was to make things more homey and comfortable, as well as making sure help is available.
The worst one I had read was a woman was in labor doing a home birth w/her husband and said she "felt like she had to poo" but there was no progress for hours and her contractions were getting weaker. So instead of going to the doctor her husband uploaded a photo of her DIALATED birth canal (see her cervix and the tip of the baby's head inside) on the group to ask for answers and they encouraged her to STAY HOME and try yogurt or some pickle juice as she said she was feeling really tired and sick. The one person who told her the baby could be stuck in the canal and call the hospital was banned.
Those free birth groups are wild. Do you know what happened or they never came back with an update?
Jesus Christ, what the fuck?!
Pickle juice?
A friend ignored medical advice because she had no insurance and had a home birth with an unusually terrible midwife instead of going to the hospital. She ended up with a dead baby.
My family has an agreement that when one of us is uninsured, go to the hospital anyhow when an emergency arises and worry about the bills later. When will Americans stop this healthcare mess?
"Healthcare ist communism". IT IS insane for me you have to pay für giving birth
I was all for home birth with my second child but my husband felt more comfortable at the hospital. My baby had shoulder dystocia and was going to suffocate before they could get him out. An angel in the form of a hospitalist who just happen to be on the code team and delivered babies in her practice thankfully got him out. He still required resuscitation. I’m forever grateful every one of those people was there and to my husbands need to “hear things beeping” to calm his nerves.
I feel your pain. I'm a retail pharmacist and the number of times i have to tell ppl NOT to soak tampons in (vinegar, bleach, various scented oils, yogurt to make a few) is mind boggling.
Doesn’t help when some OBGYNs are out there recommending green yogurt douching (my doc recommended it me me 😬)
@@livelongandprospermary8796I’d get a new doctor. Did they at least say to make sure to use plain Greek yogurt and not one with added sugar? 😂
@@livelongandprospermary8796 I can't believe your doc recommended that to you... You think you can trust doctors as a whole, but some are like this
The RH- one is really uncomfortable for me to hear. My grandma is RH-, and my mom and all 4 of her siblings are RH+ the last three born were once they were experimenting with treatment for RH- moms who already had antibodies (my grandma volunteered to be one of the later stage test subjects before treatment was fully approved). Only one made it all the way to term, most needed blood transfusions, and one didn’t make it. My youngest aunt was one of the earliest premies able to be saved with minimal lasting damage, and the youngest (my only uncle) died at 18 weeks gestation. It’s not something to be taken lightly, and there are millions of families throughout history that would have given anything for access to the treatments we have now. An aunt, my grandma, and I have all lost babies and there was nothing we could do about it, it makes me angry when people have perfectly safe methods of preventing the type of loss they’re prone to and they refuse to do it because “big pharma”.
Seriously so sad. Imagine back in the 1800’s and earlier when they didn’t know all of this.. no wonder people had to have such big families and lost so many kids. I bet a lot of it had to do with blood types. I’m so thankful for modern medicine.
@@cassidybrewermy mom was born in ‘61 and my uncle was due in either ‘65 or ‘66, so it wasn’t even that long ago. My grandparents and their medical team understood why there were problems, but they were completely helpless to do anything about it until there had already been issues. She may have even been on the placebo for the treatment trial and just got lucky for the last two living children. I lost my son last year when we had to end the pregnancy for a severe medical condition, but we wouldn’t have found out how poorly he was without an ultrasound, we were able to find out what happened (combination of genetic disorders…first with that combo actually) and that it wasn’t inherited (unlikely to happen again) because of the availability of genome sequencing. My great grandma had to watch her firstborn not have the autonomic function to breathe because she was born without part of her brain and scull (something that would have been found on ultrasound today), and she never knew why or if it was an experience she would have to repeat. I’m thankful for a lot of aspects of modern medicine, but I am so beyond grateful people giving birth today don’t have the same struggles as our grandparents.
I'm not 100% sure, but I'm pretty sure the RH- one is actually from a fundamentalist Christian "influencer"--I saw a similar post in a fundamentalist snark subreddit. If it is her, she did, in fact, miscarry the child she was carrying and is now pregnant again.
@@janiew5561 that is a very sad (albeit predictable) outcome if it was her. I’m not religious anymore, but when I was, I thought of interventions like that as something that God wanted humanity to have access to or the ability to discover various life saving measures wouldn’t have been available to humanity. If more people thought that way, maybe there would be less preventable death in the world. If it was a “big pharma” issue…frankly, if something had existed that would have helped my son even a little bit, I wouldn’t have cared who profited from it or how much they profited, it would have been done without a second thought.
@@janiew5561 it is her. She almost lost her youngest due to an untreated UTI.
The first story made me appreciate living in Canada so much. I got my implant removed within a week of talking to my doctor about my side effects. It was super quick and easy they numb the area and it was out in under 10 min. I cannot even imagine taking that out myself.
I’m in Australia and hearing stories like this make me grateful we have healthcare.
I just got my first implant put in 4 weeks ago and I love it! It was so quick and easy to get done.
I’m in the US and my insurance covers Nexplanon thankfully, but if I didn’t no way would I cut myself open!! I would gladly pay to have it safely removed! My life is worth more than saving $1200.
I ruined the 100 likes btw
@@astridaquino13 Not to mention, if the site gets infected, that bill’s gonna be way more than $1200.
Exactly this. I had one and got it taken out. It had scar tissue around it, so the removal procedure was delicate and took a pretty long time. It was also pretty uncomfortable even with the numbing. I love my OB-GYN (I'd be happy to give her name to anyone in Austin, Texas - the discomfort of the procedure was 100% not her fault, it was just my body) so we just chatted the whole time while she slowly cut it out with a scalpel, but good God if I had to do that myself I can't imagine the complications. It left a tiny scar and the site is completely fine now.
I’m in this group and there was a recent post about a woman in that same free birthing FB group who still hadn’t given birth at 44 weeks and whose baby hadn’t moved in awhile :/ refused to go to a hospital because she had homebirthed her other children and was determined to see it through. it’s wild how many women are willing to sacrifice their baby’s wellbeing out of stubborness
Imma guess that didn't turn out well.
There was recently an update. Baby died
I wonder if her refusing to go to the hospital was some kind of reaction to trauma? Maybe denial? This is such an insane and sad story 😢
They may not have been able to afford the help. Too many people in the USA are living below the poverty line and just a single wrong move from homelessness... if they aren't homeless already. Some people also have extreme fear of hospitals. Either way the outcome is tragedy.
@@MsEJMcLaren eh. I agree with you and this is compassionate. At the same time, I think it would be irresponsible to not push back against Facebook groups like this. Yes there’s a number of people under the subset you mentioned, but the group at large houses and promotes dangerous behavior that puts people and their fetus at risk
My late grandfather was a born prematurely about 90 years ago. My family always said the doctor assumed he was DOA but a nurse realized he was alive after everyone gave up on him and saved his life somehow. I don't plan on having kids, but this story always made me appreciate having more medical professionals in the room than just one midwife at home.
Nurses are the true heroes..
I overheard a woman at work saying she didn’t want to go to a doctor for her pregnancy (she was pretty far along from what I could tell) because “it’s not a medical issue; it’s personal” and I wanted to scream at her
I agree. Pregnancy is not a medical condition.
@@eringrey9297 is this a joke?
@@SL-gz3dy nope
@@eringrey9297 do you now how much can go wrong when you aren't followed up by a doctor during pregnancy? Did you watch the viseo?
@@SL-gz3dy I carried my twins to full term without medical care. I hate doctors and don’t go to a doctor unless I have to. Pregnancy is not a medical condition in my opinion.
When we were learning about blood types in 7th grade, my science teacher did not believe I had a positive blood type and my mom had a negative blood type. 🙄
Shows teachers can be idiots sometimes too.
In many states a middle school science teacher does not need a science certification. Sad…. As a high school teacher, it was always uncomfortable when my students insisted that men have one more rib than women because their middle school science teacher told them and it was in the Bible.
I'm O- my daughter is O+. I did have to a Rhogram shot after delivery. Just like your mom did. Apparently teacher needed to update his information.
@@lanascrapaddict2044 I’m not even a teacher and it annoys me when people believe religion over proven science. So I’d be even more peeved if I were a teacher.
@@lanascrapaddict2044 Wouldn't the Bible as source material say women have the extra rib? Since God took Adam's rib to make Eve and whatnot.
I share the frustration. It's not like we can count ribs by feeling them. Oh, wait... it's exactly that. I trust medical science but even if I didn't, I trust my ability to count more than a random interpretation of the Bible.
i went from perfectly fine and pushing a kid out to losing enough blood that within 10 mins of the baby coming out fully, i was unconcious and had a surgeon outside my room planning to remove my uterus entirely if they didnt stop the bleeding soon. i was quite literally 30 seconds from having no uterus at age 19 with zero problems besides some minor anemia throughout life. I would have died before a call to 911 could even be made at home. i had so many meds pumped into me in the course of the 5 mins of bleeding out and losing conciousness that if i was home, it wouldnt have taken half that time to pass away...
THIS. My mom almost died for the same reason. Granted, she wouldn't stop bleeding after a c-section, that you wouldn't do at home for sure, but still the same kind of thing that could happen with a regular birth. She was so close to dying that her doctor had to ask her if she planned on having more babies (later he told her to absolutely NOT risk it and not have any more. She didn't even have many, just my older brother and me) because he was fully ready to take her entire uterus out. In the end, the doctor perfomed what was practically a miracle and managed to save her life, and her uterus.
I will never understand what kind of parent would risk their baby's life and health like that...
@@semoremo9548 i tried again qfter my first almost killed me. She has a little sister a few yrs younger who i wore a heart monitor while pregnant with her 🙃 after both of those lovely experiences i got fixed lmao. No more pregnancy for me
Fake story! Doctors would rather let you bleed out and die on the table before they remove your uterus.
I wasn't around when it happened, but I was told the story of my bf's sister's labor (1st and only living child) and she literally ended up bleeding out. As in, she was DEAD for a brief time. She only remembers the very beginning, and then nothing until waking up after everything was over and calmed down. I believe it was something about her uterus not going back to normal afterwards? From what I heard, it was terrifying, but they almost didn't notice because she was just so quiet, and from what I was told it was a pretty hectic day.
Anyways, she's still around, as they managed to bring her back, and the little girl just turned 2 a few months ago!
Definitely would be terrifying to happen at home where no medical assistance is available. She HAD originally wanted a home birth, but thankfully listened to the drs even they told her it would be a bad idea (she's really tiny and short, and with it being her 1st they were being cautious) but I can't imagine what would have happened if she had gone through with the original plan.
Just like MDJ said. Most of the time, things turn out alright. But you never know if you could be the one in that extreme scenario
"It goes fine until it doesn't." Truer words have never been spoken. 👏
I'm a huge fan of home births... and I'm pregnant and planning to give birth at home... but holy yikes to the woman with the bleeding issues still wanting to do this. I live 1 mile from the hospital and with a bleeding issue I still wouldn't dare. Common sense isn't too common, sadly.
There is also a story of a woman who had a "trauma-free home birth" of a blue in the face baby on this subreddit. This story is in a few posts, it began with her writing about her baby not being able to hold his head at 9 months old... And then there was the birth story, the baby wasn't breathing when born and only cried after feeding the next day. Horrible stuff, as far as I remember the people who were reading her posts called CPS on her. But anyway it would be nice to have you comment on this birth story, if you could find it.
I saw a theory in the comments of one of those posts that the baby actually died after being born and that these posts are the grieving mother's attempts at creating a happier reality where her baby survived. Either way, the situation is horrific and I have no idea if that kid is going to survive much longer if it really did survive birth.
Would love to hear more about the Rhogam shot! I'm Rh negative, and had two kids, so I had to get this shot.. but the doctors never did a great job of explaining either time.
Not an expert, but the way I had it explained to me was like this: Basically, your body sees your baby's blood as a foreign substance and produces an immune response to attack it. Rhogam prevents that immune response from happening if your blood and the baby's mixes at any point. MDJ should definitely make a video on it though!
I would love to see that video! Also Rh negative and needed the shot for both pregnancies. What did people do before the shot?!
@@angelaricaurte6926 My ex-husband lost younger siblings because of it...
@@angelaricaurte6926 Sadly before the shot a lot more babies died. Seems like blood transfusions with Rh- blood could be used (Based on quick google search, not medical training)
I’d love to see that video too! I’m A- and I’ve had 3 kids plus a mc, and between first trimester bleeding etc I’ve gotten the rhogam shot more than I can count off the top of my head lol. Would love to hear more!!
as a greek I can safely tell you that greek yogurt is only recommended to be consumed from the mouth and never inserted in any other hole on the human body...
maybe that person has mixed the "eat yogurt when you take antibiotics" which is something that older people suggest, and since there is nothing wrong with EATING yogurt, we keep on doing so lol
Nah there are idiots pushing people to shove yogurt in their holes all over the place, people obsessed with natural medicine. They are in the same general group as the people that sun their perineum or drink their own piss.
That’s what I do when feeling a little less “fresh” as one might say. Eat yogurt… not shove into hoo-ha. 😂
I had an OB-GYN recommend yogurt tampons to me several years ago. Also an old bulletin board for moms I was on almost 20 years ago pushed remedies like yogurt tampons, borax capsules, etc, all sorts of "natural" remedies for all things vaginal.
@@MsAubrey 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@Ventuswill this is actually terrifying. greek yogurt is mostly made out of sheep milk, and it's heavy in fat, it's also extra sour than other yogurts, so it might be even damaging to put it in the vagina like that ...
The lady in labor, bleeding for so long; I was dilated at 3 cm for three weeks before my water broke. There wasn’t any bleeding either. So my doctors *didnt* want to induce me because her lungs hadn’t fully developed. so I was in labor for three weeks. I was seeing my OB and a specialist every other day but I wasn’t bedridden either. I was working at my desk with my hips separating. Yes, it was incredibly painful for three weeks but I did everything I could to make sure my kid was okay and that’s the point. Do what your doctors and midwives tell you to do.
It sounds absolutely insane to me that you were still working. We get off a couple of weeks before you are due just for the extra preparation amd stuff
You are not in labour, just because you are dialated
Did they at least give you this shot that helps developing the lungs? I don't remember what it is called, it's some steroid injection
@@karinland8533 labor begins when you begin to dilate. To become fully dilated, 10 cm, it can take hours, days, or even weeks, as it did in my case. They generally will not admit you into the hospital until you’re at 4 cm. Active labor is at around 6 cm but dilation at any point is being in labor.
@@SaheeliRai no, they didn’t and I didn’t know that existed.
The yogurt thing made me laugh because it made me remember a story my mom told me about being told by a doctor to douche with yogurt. Following up with a nurse who asked her if she had been using the yogurt douche my mom told her she'd been trying but the blueberries kept clogging the nozzle. She of course promptly told the horrified nurse she was joking.
😅😅😅
And I was hoping people didn’t use vanilla yogurt because I’m sure the yeast would love the sugar in it. Yours was even funnier. I’ve literally got tears in my eyes.
Coming from a family who have always just barely scraped by financially, and also deal with a lot of health issues, I dread to think what would have happened to us if we didn't live in a country with access to free health care. A few years ago I experienced heart failure and spent almost a month in intensive care (including my 20th birthday, lucky me lol) and it didn't cost me or my family a single penny. I don't even want to imagine how much that would have cost us if we'd had to pay for it. I have so much empathy for people struggling with medical bills, I wish you all the best.
That sounds terrrrrrrrifying, glad you're doing better!
Another great video! I just want to say that I was a "low-risk" pregnancy, but I am so glad we chose to go to the hospital. My baby swallowed meconium and needed help breathing right away. He stayed in the NICU for almost a week. I'm so grateful for the team of people who were there and ready to help him breathe. He is currently 10 months old. Happy and healthy.
Congrats. I can only imagine how scary that must've been. So happy to hear that he's thriving.
Thank you! It was a surreal moment, having him whisked away as soon as I'd given birth. It didn't really sink in until I saw him hooked up to a CPAP machine in the NICU that night.
Birth centers and giving birth at home are valid options, but I do think it's important for people to make a hospital transfer plan and just know what the risks are.
Some people like to say, "Well, people have been giving birth for thousands of years on their own," as a reason to not go to the hospital, but forget that maternal and infant mortality has also been very high for those thousands of years. Not having a safe, clean environment in which to give birth surrounded by knowledgeable people who can provide medical care is part of why.
@@juliakwiatkowski647 I agree. I have scoliosis with 2 deformities in my spine (one upper and one lower). They cancel each other out to where the space between is straight and I'm nearly in as much pain as others or as people would expect.
Due to this though, when I was pregnant with my son, I always thought that I'd have a problem carrying as he got bigger with my back and probably have to have a C-section, because it would be too much strain on back to go natural, but go under for it also as I didn't think they'd be able to get the needle in.
My doctor ensured me that they would monitor my back if I ever showed signs of discomfort and that he would absolutely be able to get a needle in if I needed.
I thankfully went full term without any issues, but did end up needing a C-section, just not for the reasons I thought. My son ended up being breach and was also about 8lbs in my tiny 5' 0" frame (honestly, there wasn't much space for him to turn anyway). I worked up until 2 days prior to the surgery and I was able to go through it while awake because they had no issues with the injection.
Point being, that without doctors to monitor should I have had a personal issue or to catch that he was breach and quite big, I would have had an incredibly painful birth that could've put us both at risk.
My only regret was that they wouldn't let me push the surgery back 3 days so that he'd be born on Halloween. Lol. (Still his favorite holiday though and when I took him home in a batman onesie)
He's now almost 7 and enjoying his 2nd day of 2nd grade.
I had a somewhat similar experience with my first pregnancy. Second pregnancy the first question I asked the hospital 'do you have a NICU?' (we had moved). I wasn't delivering anywhere without one.
With the first woman, since she's saying that she'd have to drive 8 hours, my guess is that her father was a rural medicine doctor back in the day when it might have been a little bit more acceptable to have you teenager act as your nurse from time to time. Or hand surgeons had some epic take your daughter to work days. Or her dad was a farmer and the fingers being reattached were his own or a friend's.
I'd definitely put my money on farmer, or rancher especially in Texas. I grew up on a ranch and had to help my family doctor injuries in house quite a few times. We also lived roughly 2-3 hours from the nearest hospital. Closer to 3 or 4 if you wanted an actually decent hospital. Not to mention the many animals I had to stitch up or perform surgery on in the moment. It's a fly by the seat of your pants lifestyle that's for sure.
Yeah, if her dad was a rural doctor he could have done the removal for her rather than her doing itself
Maybe her dad wasn't alive or in any state to help with that sort of thing. I'm guessing her brother was just as qualified.
I miscarried the same way as the last story when I was 17, no one ever explained it to me really and I have been confused ever since (the past 10 years). I would be interested in a video on this topic. I haven’t had any pregnancies since then and I am worried about being pregnant in the future.
I'm so, so sorry that happened to you. It's inexcusable that no one ever explained what was happening and why.
Maybe they don't know. The majority of miscarriages happen without a reason.
That’s really unfortunate. I am sorry that you had to experience that. I hope you get the necessary health care that you need and deserve.
I'm so sorry that happened to you! I'm not a doctor, but studying to be a nurse, and I can tell you that nowadays there are fairly simple ways for Rh- women to have Rh+ babies without much issue. If I remember correctly, it was possible by taking a pill, or getting a vaccine. Something super simple for such a dangerous condition.
I would say, if you are able to, talk about this to your doctor, and about what options are available in the case that you got pregnant again with a Rh+ baby. That would probably help ease your worries about getting pregnant again.
In 2020 I had 7 stitches in the back of my hand after accidentally slicing it open. Because it was in the height of the initial lockdowns where doctors weren't seeing anyone in person I really didn't have any other option than to remove them myself. They were getting very tight and uncomfortable as I'd had them in a good three weeks longer than I was supposed to. I used very sharp tiny nail scissors and tweezers (I sterilised both as best I could) and apart from one suture where it had formed a scab over the knot they were painless and easy to remove.
I trust my husband with my life but he has incredibly shaky hands and I would never let him near my vulva with scissors.
I always take out my own stitches, I haven’t got time for a doctor visit. A friend took the staples out of his scalp but had me check to make sure he got them all. It’s no big deal
You're totally right in that childbirth goes fine... until it doesn't. I'm forever grateful for the team of doctors and nurses who acted fast and got my baby out and resuscitated after she got stuck (shoulder dystocia) and her heart rate plummeted to the 50s. It was so terrifying and I absolutely cannot imagine this happening at home. I had a normal, healthy, full term pregnancy.
My baby wanted to come out butt first so I had to have a c section after my contractions started. I had wanted to have a vaginal birth but I wouldn't consider risking my health and my baby's. That person not listening to doctors and midwives is scary!
That first one is definitely rural medicine. If the only clinic within an hour doesn’t call a farmer/rancher back right away, they’ll just do it themselves.
You got this from Dr. Glaucomflecken
Yep, and good chance a farmer has had to do something like that for an animal and could do just fine.
My grandmother had multiple miscarriages due to being rh- and having a husband who was rh+ before treatment options were available.
My ex-MIL suffered the same back in the 60's, but she also lost a little girl shortly after birth, and another where it was touch and go but thankfully she survived... being 0-neg myself, what can I say, but - love you, science!
That's so tragic
It's not specifically OBGYN related, but there is something comforting in hearing you say that the odds don't matter when you're the one who has to deal with it. I've been dealing with so many medical issues all my life, and recently there have been a lot of uneducated people telling me to just do something that puts me at risk of losing what health I have left because "what are the odds it'll really hurt this time?" It only really matters when you're in that percent, and I keep falling into that percent. And of course, the response is just kind of, "oops, oh well" when it could have been avoided with just a little more responsibility, or at leastno one making a stink and trying to prevent me from protecting my own health. Also, it seems like I'm encountering a bunch of potential side effects to my various medical issues that I had no idea could be side effects...because no one told me about it until I was already being effected by it, sometimes for years.
My mom (who passed away 17 years ago) was one of these people who didn't want to go to the hospital (and tried to have me, their 4th kid, at home). I think the source of the majority of these forums are a combination of 1) medical fear: doctors, hospitals, and medical procedures are all scary, and it's hard to trust someone you don't know with your life and 2) medical care is expensive in the U.S. Getting stitches adjusted by your doc seems like the better option but how much more will that cost? Having your birth in the hospital sounds safer but how much will THAT cost. I know, it's very easy to say "but it's that or YOUR life", but if someone can't afford to pay for their medical care, they might literally think it's not worth saving their life. I come from a family like that, and even though I don't believe that's the way to live my life, I understand it.
It could also be because majority of people don't actually have a good (or even base-line) understanding of science, specially biology. So that makes it so it's easier to fearmonger them into believing something is bad, when in reality they just don't understand how a vaccine actually works.
I have had so many medical issues, and it costs a LOT. Especially for a reconstructive bottom surgery I had. If I wasn't still living with my parents and had to pay for that myself, I simply wouldn't. So I get it too
People shouldn’t need to choose between death and bankruptcy. Our healthcare system is so broken.
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Also medical trauma compounding fear, /especially/ for marginalized pregnant people.
As a mlt student, hearing how she refused to get the rhogam shot made me shudder. Please talk to professionals about how the rhogam shot works. Please don't ask Facebook
As a mlt professional it HURTS MY SOUL.
*shudder*
I think it needs to be explained in really simple words instead of antigens and antibodies which is gonna go over people's heads...
"Your immune system is trying to kill your baby."
Would love a series on perimenopause and menopause issues! Particularly, birth control during this time!
I second the menopause suggestion!!
Same! I'm 39, nearing 40, and am pretty sure I'm perimenopausal but can't get my Dr to agree. It's so frustrating. I just wanna know what I'm in for and confirmation this is what I'm experiencing but apparently I'm "way too young."
@@storyln My mom started the hot flahses and other crap at 40 but was past 50 before her periods finally stopped, and I have one friend who at about 49 just had her period stop. That was it for her. I had a doc tell me I was perimenopausal in my mid 40s. My friend's sister went through full menopause before 20. There are no rules that our stupid bodies follow. More, uh, guidelines...
Yes! We need this topic discussed. I'm 47 and just woke up from one of those very real dreams where you discover you're pregnant! I'm not, by the way... but know of other moms who had a baby at my age 😬
@@storyln Ask your doctor to do a hormone panel.
Early menopause is a thing and needs to be taken very serious. Not to scare you, but early menopause makes you more at risk for certain illnesses.
Setting a petri dish on fire, also kills the fungus. Just saying. 🤣
You know what that means (lubes up a magnesium torch)
That's exactly what I said too
@@MrsKirk2203 We should band together to find more amazing new revolutions in alternative health. I say acid is sadly underutilized.
@@JuMiKu black salve though
@@crowdemon_archives We can put that on the acid burns, if you like. ❤️
I really wanted to have a homebirth with my third baby. At the time there were very few midwives providing this service where I live and the cost was way beyond our means. I planned to have an unassisted birth at home. We lived within about 5 minutes of the hospital and I felt confident that we could be there very quickly if I identified a need to be. I still had regular checkups throughout my pregnancy with both my GP and the hospital midwife service (it's called Shared Care.) At my first ultrasound ~18 weeks it was noted that I had a low lying placenta; so I had repeat scans at ~28 and ~36 weeks. Unfortunately the placenta remained low and close to my cervix. Additionally, at my 36 week check up I tested positive after the Group B Strep swab.
Although I was so, so disappointed, I knew that proceeding with my homebirth plans with these identifed risk factors would be an unwise and unnecessary risk. So I can understand the desire that these women in the stories you featured in this video had - we all have our idea of the perfect birth experience and it's hard to let go of that. I count myself fortunate that the reason I wanted a homebirth was not because of any particular traumatic or bad experience with my previous hospital births, I just loved the idea of being in my own space and not having lot of strangers around. (I'm an introvert.) I feel very sad that the mothers like the ones in this video and that you hear about in the news sometimes have such intense fear and distrust of hospital, doctors, midwives, etc that they are unable to make rational choices for themselves despite the evidence telling them it is the safest thing to do. It's a terrible reflection on the health education they have received and the quality of healthcare available to them when they would rather have no healthcare than expose themselves to what they fear.
That's really the heart of the issue. It gets to a point where it's a mental health issue with some people. There needs to be more mental health support and care for pregnant and post-natal people. That's assuming you can get them to accept that is. Sometimes distrust/ fear of drs extends to the psychological side of medicine too. It really doesn't help that this kind of dangerous behaviour is bening so strongly encouraged online. I'm not against homebirth, I just think it's important to make an informed decision with healthcare providers.
For anyone in Australia rhogam is called an Anti-D shot here. I had 3 shots during my pregnancy (normally u just get 2 but I was bleeding at 6 weeks so they gave me a shot the, in case I was miscarrying and then I had one at 20weeks then another at 36 weeks) Because I’m blood type A-, my baby turned out to be A+ so I’m glad I got the shots, especially as I needed an emergency C-section.
The blood type information is interesting! Historians believe that’s why Henry VIIIs wives kept miscarrying or having stillbirths; he likely had a positive blood hold and his wives were negative.
to be fair he did sire several children. It could have been any number of things in the medieval period leading to unsuccessful pregnancies and deaths
I thought it was because of syphillis?
@@saschamayer4050 not proven. His rival, King Francois, did have that though.
He also couldve been Kell Positive
I was under the impression that Rh Incompatibility was only the case with Anne Boleyn? Catherine of Aragon's, to my education, were due to the fact that she had cervical cancer that was beginning to metastasize to her uterus.
Years ago, my sister in law had a norplant. After bleeding contastantly for 6 months and gaining a lot of weight, she asked to get it removed. They didn't want to and she finally told them she would herself. They finally got her in to remove it. It scared me and I never wanted a birth control device I couldn't remove myself.
Yeah, my first thought after the first story was "why would anyone accept to get an implant in the USA, without knowing what side effects it might cause them and without knowing if they will be able to pay for the surgical procedure needed for the removal?"
@@ThePixieixie they might have unexpectedly lost insurance. It’s not like that’s planned for
I’m O- and your quick explanation was a lot more understandable than all the other “explanations” from other ppl that I’ve heard from; it would still be awesome if you made an entire video on the negative blood type in pregnancy💙(if there’s enough to say for an entire video of course)
My mother was one of those for whom it went fine until it didn't. She had me at home, and things took a while, but were fine. Then she had my brother and things went long and the birth itself happened ok until the end where she nearly bled to death. Thankfully, the issue with not going to the hospital was financial (why, yes, I do live in the U.S. ... how could you tell?) and so when things went sideways, her sister took her straight to the hospital and they were able to save her.
Love these women acting like in history women were just giving birth completely alone with no one to help them and not with experienced midwives or at the very least women who had significant experience with both birthing their own children and helping deliver others
Whaaaaaat??? When I had my nexplanon removed it was such a process - the dr had started talking about waiting and going to OR because it had built up scar tissue, but thankfully he got it out in the end. I couldn't imagine going through that at home! I have no words!!
This is a huge problem across the board in the us a lot of people will put off going to the doctor until it gets super bad because it is expensive.
As someone who lives in a country where we have a proper healthcare system, these stories sound like the kinds of things we learnt about in history at school!
Our health service has it's own issues, but I don't know anyone who has considered performing surgery on themselves due to lack of access to proper healthcare.
From my experience an American rural staple is dousing a cut in rubbing alcohol (or drinking alcohol) and duct taping it closed. I say from my experience because I have done it. Wasn’t ideal ngl
@@samraymond4967 That sounds horrendous! We would use some sort of antiseptic and cover with a plaster or dressing or go to A&E for stitches if it was really bad.
The scariest thing about the first one for me is the "I had two other people take theirs out as well". If you want to do impromptu surgery on yourself - seriously, don't - that's one thing, but don't encourage others to do it! Not to mention the fact that if this person died (which considering your tearing your arm open, you could bleed out if you misjudge your cuts), the brothers and GF would most likely be held liable. All the laugh-crying faces and the lols, this person is not only putting themselves but multiple others at risk.
The story of removing their own stitches just reminds me of a story from when my Dad was working out in Tajikistan. His colleague (N) had surgery a few weeks before hand and had some stitches post op which were healing but it was fine she had an appointment to get them removed when she got back to Germany. The project got extended by 3 weeks and they got told that they wouldn't be flown back to the UK or Germany respectively, until it was done- 2.5 weeks after N's stitches were due to be taken out. N arranged a video consult with her very understanding surgeon who told her to get them taken out locally. They asked the company's fixer to help them find a doctor for N- no luck, due to some translation errors they were taken to a pharmacist who didn't speak English German or Russian. They had hard less than 48 hours until they were back in full time meetings so what did the two of them decide? They bought rubbing alcohol, scissors, tweezers, bandages and a large bottle of vodka. Dad phoned a mate back home to ask how to take out stitches and decided they were ready. They both had a swig of the vodka, sterlised everything with the rubbing alcohol and Dad took out N's
16 stitches in the bathroom of her hotel room while she drank the rest of the bottle. It's amazing what people will do when desperate.
Eurgh... The stitch one.... My stitches were too tight as well and I felt like my vulva would rip everytime I sat down (which you do all day when you breastfeed). My midwife visited and got them out with some kind of bladed hook. She pulled on one and it did not cut. THE FREAKING PAIN.
"if you are the one that it doesn't go fine in the percentage risk that you had of that happening doesn't matter anymore because you're the one that has to deal with those consequences for the rest of your life" really well said MDJ! Exactly what I told a friend of mine who got pressured from a "doula" (with absolutely no medical experience) to deliver her first child (that was breech) vaginally and all the medical professionals advised against it and recommended a c-section...
I amazed at how many people take medical advice from social media. That said, in many cases I understand it because medical care has become too expensive. I don't want to run to my Doctor for every yeast infection and UTI and appreciate a script being called in without an appointment.
Some doctors will call in antibiotics without an appt. I got a UTI recently and they did just that. Ask your Dr about it
@@soogymoogi No need to ask my Dr. because before she became my Dr. I made sure she would to that.
I used to have recurring UTIs, It would make me so mad that they made me come into the office every single time, loose a half day of work (because inevitably it was a walk in appointment), my boss complains, I am in pain, then produce a sample, they tell me I have a UTI, then they finally write a prescription, I pay an outrageous sum (if I haven't met the deductible) for a 3 minute encounter with a nurse. I cannot even get the prescription filled right away because my job is ready to kill me because I have been sitting in a waiting room for 3 hours. Repeat. Every time this happened you would have thought I was asking for oxy or morphine. I just wanted an antibiotic.
I can understand it if you are a new patient, or if you haven't had a UTI before. My best friend found a doctor online that called in antibiotic for her, insurance didn't cover the call, but she said it was still cheaper since she had not hit her deductible, not to mention she didn't have to loose work over it, and jump through hoops.
@@trace9657 I think yeast infections and UTI's should be handled over the phone. If you get them all the time you know what you have and should not have waste money and time to get the drugs to make them go away.
@@trace9657 Your doctor wants to do a test every time because other medical conditions can mimic UTIs and antibiotic resistance is a very serious problem that's rapidly getting worse. Doctors caused this problem by prescribing unnecessary antibiotics. However, there's absolutely no reason for you to come in for an appointment every time. My doctor doesn't do that.
You should be able to walk in (after calling to tell them you're coming), get a cup from the receptionist, pee in it, hand it back and leave. They can call you about the results. They could also give you some collection cups to store at home and then you can just drop off a sample on your way to/from work or during your lunch break if you have time. If it's impossible for you to get there during office hours you could have someone else drop it off for you. Make sure they keep it refrigerated until they leave. Alternatively your doctor can order the test to be done at a hospital lab and maybe you can bring the sample there yourself. You won't get the results as quickly and it'll be more expensive but the trade-off of not missing half a day of work might be worth it.
Explain your situation to your doctor and ask about these options.
My sister had a placental abruption and almost died and she was at the hospital. Thankfully her and the baby were fine after an emergency C-Section.
Regarding birth control that will be removed at some point, why isn’t it being billed universally, meaning that the removal of the devise is already covered by the doctor that placed it???
When I was growing up I learned the fact that Grandma from my father's side who had 15 children (yes, you read that correctly, nothing religious just an old rural-ish Mexican family) had an O- Blood type, and EVERY SINGLE ONE of my aunts and uncles, including my father, have positive blood types. Not a single one of the births or pregnancies had complications and she never gave birth in a proper hospital. She lived until 98 and was incredibly healthy till her last years. Just hearing you talk about this amazes me beyond comprehension, the fact that all of them manage to get so lucky and nothing terrible ever happened is just incredible.
this issue is indeed just a matter of luck. Here in France we don't even recommand to take the shot for different rh. They just monitor closely the blood and act immediately only if something goes wrong from what I understand.
Blood type 0 isn't the same as Rh negative. You can have blood type A / B / AB / 0, and any of these can be Rh positive or negative.
@ well, she had O as in the letter not 0 as on the number, with obviously RH-. It is just colloquially called just O-
@ my mom is O- (O negative) and I’m O+ (O positive). I’ve donated blood over 20x and am almost up to 2 gallons so I know what my blood type is. My mom HAD to have rhogam so fetus me wasn’t miscarried.
i’m a medical student, and i had a mom ask me yesterday if we ever run out of enzymes, like we’re just born with a certain amount of enzymes for our life and eventually we just run out of them. i was like, we would die
Thank you for the laugh 😂
Oh MDJ do yourself a favor and don't dive into this sub. I'm not even a medical professional and it's been bad for my mental health
Edit to say yes please! To Rhogham vid. I'm a mom who is B- and has had both miscarriages and a live birth so I've had a lot of those shots and I'd love to hear a breakdown of everything they do
Me too! O- rh+ here and I had the shots with three of my four live births. We suffered 4 miscarriages also.
Edit* Fort those confused, I am O- and three of my four children were Rh+ thereby Requiring the Rhogham shots.
Re: Rhogam is an antibody specifically for Rh+ red blood cells. It coats the Rh+ baby red cells in mom's (Rh-) blood stream, flagging them for removal. This way, her body never learns to treat baby's red cells as foreign and build antibodies of her own. Without Rhogam, the first pregnancy might go okay if there's no bleeding across the placenta before birth (definitely happens then). Future pregnancies may result in complications (including miscarriage) due to mom's immune system attacking baby's red cells during pregnancy.
If Mom is Rh+ or father (and thus, baby) is also Rh-, Rhogam is not needed.
Note: I'm a medical laboratory scientist. Our lab screens for this risk and dispenses to nurses to give to patients.
That sub makes me cry on the regular but I can't look away. 😢
I would love a video on this too. I'm going into the medical field and would love to learn from someone as candid as MDJ
@@kristin4160 right? It's a train wreck and also just so sad like so much avoidable hurt
Oh lord, this reminds me way too strongly of when I worked as a veterinary nurse. The crap people pull because they just didn't think to ask or weren't willing to seek help...and then you've got an emergency, long term consequences, or a fatality instead of a five minute phone call to the clinic. It's like you said - most of the time things are fine, but when they aren't, there are serious consequences. Idk why so many people go online instead of to a professional.
I'm the US: money, first cause. Fear due to ignorance and missinformation, a close second...
The odds can go wrong, I was a healthy 24 yo with my first child, low risk pregnancy, in labor and labor going perfectly well, until my child’s heart rate drop, my water breaks and the cord go out causing an emergency code to be announced and my child was born with a c-section literally FIVE minutes later ! She came out crying and was with perfect health, if I was at home, I can’t even imagine how terrible everything would’ve been
That happened to someone from my hometown in an out of hospital birth. She got to the hospital by ambulance and got an emergency c-section . The baby lost so much oxygen by that point that he was in critical condition. He lived for 5 days.
When I got my nexplanon taken out the nurse told me after that the person that put it in had it in the completely wrong spot and had inserted it right next to an artery. So if I decided to take it out myself there's a high chance I would have bled out and died. Luckily I'm in the UK and didn't have to pay for it so 🤷
In 2015 I considered doing this. I had extreme pain in my arm, and google suggested it was hitting a muscle, but no doctor would listen to my requests to take it out until I'd been saying I was thinking of removing the implant from my arm at home. At the same time, I was also taking antidepressants, and felt extremely suicidal. If I'd known the conflicts with the hormones that would have helped me realise where the symptoms were coming from. Ironically, 2015 was the year a male psychologist told me I was "cured" of depression because I'd broken up with a specific person - but I don't think I was "cured" if they then prescribed me antidepressants, right? I felt that a lot of my symptoms eased after I had the implant removed. The pill is easier to manage from my perspective.
I love it -- "My doctor gave me some advice and a treatment plan that I don't like, so let me check on Facebook to see if some random stranger on the internet can offer me a better alternative." This person deserves the Darwin Award. Unfortunately, there's a baby involved so it's not just that one person who will suffer the consequences of her stupidity. Like MDJ, I have no words.
I'm really interested in seeing a future video on the RH- topic. I remembered hearing about that during biology class in high school, and then when I found out I myself was A- (don't yet know what my partner is) that was something that came to mind for the future if and when we decided to have children. Loved this video, and looking forward to future ones :)
I had a yeast infection while pregnant with my 2nd baby. I’ve never had one before. I only knew what it was because I heard my sisters talk about it. I made an app with my OB, not an issue. She prescribed monistat and all is done. My hubby mentioned it in passing to my MIL. She was PISSED! She told me to not take the monistat, just have the hubby shove yogurt in my hoo-ha. I told her I’ll take the monistat and I’m fine. She started yelling at me that I can’t take it because SHE is allergic to antibiotics. I was shocked. Safe to say, I don’t take advice from her on anything, ever.
My dad had a chunk of finger come partly off when he was drunk. He just slapped it back into place and bandaged it up. He got so sick with blood poisoning. Ended up having to see the doctor many times. He's a teacher, and normally smart enough, they were just having a fun party.
This is the same guy who was a walking spinal for three weeks- he fought with his doctors that something was still wrong and they were like, nah, we took xrays, you're fine. They missed it by 1 vertebrae.
I do wish I had someone like you around during my reproductive years. Things would have been very different!
this needs to be a series. Those mom groups are crazy!
The ignorant often believe themselves quite wise. It can also be a sign of low IQ to know everything about what a person has no training or understanding of.
My mum tried to remove her nexplanon herself after the doctors refused to because her side effects were so bad. It's devastating to think how desperate someone has to be to do that. And we're in the UK with free healthcare. They just wouldn't listen to her. She was unsuccessful and has a nasty scar from trying.
Wow! The blood type thing is fascinating - I'd never thought about how differing blood types between a pregnant person and their baby would impact upon pregnancy - I'd love to watch a video on that!
The video starts: "I removed my own nexplanon"
Me: "Nexplanon?!?!?!?! The birth control that goes in your arm???!!!!!!!!!!"
The video continues
Me: *abject horror*
I felt queasy as she was reading on.
Side note: The person who reposted it, also needs to learn the difference between Nexplanon and an IUD (makes me wonder what they think IUD stands for).
@@Panda72021 I am pretty sure she meant that she saw this as a comment on someone asking for advice on removing an IUD. IE Woman asks how to remove her own IUD and Nexplanon woman tells her horrifying story
I’m actually in a FB group for people who have bad side effects from nexplanon. Some doctors refuse to remove it before the 3 year mark. Some of them have gotten desperate and removed it by themselves.
Same! I had it for almost 4 years (when it was only meant to be for 3 years) and went to multiple doctors to try and get it removed. Planned Parenthood claimed that it was effective for 5 years-- and wanted to charge me $550 for removal. I definitely looked into removing it myself but finally found a doctor that removed it for $125.
Wait, what? How can that be legal? I've gotten IUDs taken out before their expiry (despite technically having an average sized uterus I could feel the normal size IUD so I got a smaller one placed) and that's way more invasive 🤔 I also live in Canada though so it's a completely different system (but also you only pay for the IUD itself here, the insertion and removal are free, so I'm even more confused as to why they wouldn't remove it in the US where you are PAYING THEM)
Forced birth control is a wild concept dude omg
@@cassidybrewer unfortunately, forced birth control was the entire historical basis of modern birth control.
@@sianmilne4879 It's straight up eugenics, doctors deciding who can or can't reproduce. Unfortunately it DOES still happen here in Canada, just by different technique. Seriously, look up accounts from First Nations people who have come forward with their experiences of being tricked/coerced into surgical sterilization.
I've seen other people cover this subreddit before, but it's great to see someone cover it who is able to debunk the misinformation and educate viewers. Good stuff!
Ive seen people discussing taking out their own nexplanons on a swedish parenting/pregnancy site because they didnt want to wait for an appointment
The cost of removing an implant should be included in the cost of implanting it. Insurance companies can reserve the costs so if they pay to put one in, they can pay to take it out even if the insured is no longer covered. If we're not going to get universal Healthcare for the good of society then we can improve the tools we got.
I'll admit when my daughter had stitches I took them out for her. But it was after the time frame the surgeon had told us, she was pulling and them and complaining (she was 3 and it was a forehead wound), they weren't soluble, and our GP was closed or booked out for the next four days.
I also helped my husband pull stitches out of his scalp after neurosurgery, the nurse he saw just cut the knots off and left the non-soluble sutures in his skin.
But my perenium stitches stayed in place until they dissolved, no matter how annoying and itchy they were. My GYN said that it can take up to 6 months for them to dissolve enough to break.
Wow that first story reminds me of my best friend! Her husband cut her nexplanon out of her arm too. They really wanted a baby but couldn't get an appointment because covid had just hit. He was in the marines and said he felt comfortable doing it.. lol. Now they have 2 beautiful children though! That'll be quite the story to tell them when they're 16 lol.
Re rhogam... Baby #9 she already didn't get the shot. She's pregnant with #10, so if 9 was Rh positive, she needs the shot NOW!
Id love to see MDJ break down the odds BC it's like 85% of people are Rh positive in general. I would like to know if that's the same if the mom is Rh negative.
Keep up the good work, mdj!
Depends on what genotype dad has. But generally Rh- is the recessive type, so mom would have the genotype dd.
If dad also has dd all children will be Rh-.
If dad is Rh+ there are two possibel combinations for him: DD and Dd.
With DD every child will get d from mom and D from dad, so every child would be Dd/Rh+.
With Dd the chance for a child being Rh- is 50 %:
D (dad) + d (mom)
d (dad) + d (mom)
Unfortunately she lost that fetus (but didn't believe the doctors and had her children pray for its resurrection). She's pregnant again and is much further along, but I don't know if that means this one is negative.
That's horrible to hear but not terribly surprising. The worst is that she still hasn't learned. 😭
@@ACKelly9 it probably is. Iirc she's had miscarriages before the last pregnancy and I think she said the doctors *forced* or convinced her she needed the shot with some earlier pregnancies.
Wild how people will risk the life of their babies to be cool and have an at home birth even when showing signs something is wrong. And, then turn to strangers on the internet for help instead of medical professionals. Strangers who'd also rather die or let their own kid die, than step foot in a hospital. Nope, their opinion isn't biased at all.
Both me and my niece would be dead if we weren't delivered at a hospital.
In the first story, the really horrifying part is not sewing on fingers, but the need to diy a medical procedure because you can’t afford insurance.
Home births are for LOW RISK pregnancies! There are criteria that will risk you out.
Man even “low risk” is sketchy. I had the easiest least complicated pregnancy ever(besides some low iron) and still ended up having a c-section cause little man just wasn’t in the right position to come out. He was face down and everything but the doctor couldn’t feel where his face was so it was like he was looking down or something.
@@betteryourlife865 So, what that says to me is, your doctor CHOSE a c-section rather than risking you suing them if something went wrong. Unless Baby was transverse, of course.
Love you MDJ!!! The humor is one of the reasons I'm here!!
I went to planned parenthood to get my nexplanon out. I got it when I was a 21 year old during my very first gyno visit. Turns outI had almost all of the side effects and they explained so much to me and I got a bunch of free testing at 24. Im so grateful to them, and I probably would have had someone cut it out for me without them to get better. (I'm 29 now and have an amazing doctor who explains EVERYTHING to me.)
Welcome to rural America, where health care is unaffordable and the closest clinic is a bit of a drive, DIY it
My dad once asked me to help him pry a black tooth out of his head with a knife because he couldn't afford to get it out. Sountimes the risk doesnt matter when you simply can't afford to do things the "right" way.
Oh my gosh, thank you so, so much for making the point about statistics. Whenever people try to brush off a valid concern by saying the chance of it happening to them is very small, I always respond by saying that a low chance of it happening to them isn’t going to matter anymore once it happens. Statistics matter, and it’s important not to be scared all the time, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take the risks of something seriously.
"A low chance" isn't "no chance", I live my life by this - not a big risk taker here.
I’m RH- and I would love to learn more about it. Some of what you explained I knew, but with a long fertility journey and after experiencing miscarriage, this is a factor that still scares me. Even with doctors I deeply trust.
Same. I don’t want to take silly risks, but looked up the research and the Cochran review on the shot said there’s no long term studies on if it actually reduces risks for future babies, or even if it reduced rates of being sensitized, just rates of fetal blood in material blood (which does seem to be very very relevant, but I’d still want to know the overall rates). Going to be asking my midwife a lot of questions. I’m for sure getting it at birth, bc then whether it has risks or not my baby is born and I don’t care if I get same side effect for a while myself, but not sure about the 28 week dose until I hear a lot more about the research.
Very helpful video, as always. And also indicative of the state of health care in the US when people find themselves needing to do their own medical procedures. It *sounds* great to say "see a doctor," but reality is good luck with that to a LOT of people.
This is horrifying to me. Currently pregnant and I'm terrified of not making it to the hospital on time (a very real possibility in my case). Can't imagine being at home with no one to step in if something goes wrong (also very possible in my case).
Working in an OB/GYN, the amount of stuff I hear and see from patients. The most common one is people saying they’ve had normal healthy births in the past and don’t need to come so often or will only come for ultrasounds only. One patient decided she didn’t need to come anymore for another 4 months until she thought it was time for an ultrasound. From her last appointment to then, she ended up loosing her babies. She didn’t know when it happened or what caused it. Was in denial but she missed all her opportunities on purpose to follow up and see if there were any issues. Could’ve been easily avoided
Let me just say, I’m so fucken happy we have Medicare here in Australia 😅😅
Fellow Aussie here, and yup I agree wholeheartedly! 👏👏
We need more funding for Medicare, or we'll end up like the US!!
same
Gotta fight at the polls to keep it, we don't want to end up like these poor folks! I'm two weeks out from a hysterectomy that cost me exactly zero dollars.
Same for Germany!
When I had an ovarian cancer scare several years ago it was literally less expensive for me to die (funeral costs and loss of my income in the marriage) vs having both ovaries removed (surgery, loosing my business because of recovery time, dealing with menopause in my mid thirties).
I rolled the dice that it was non-cancerous growths and kept my fingers crossed that I wouldn’t die in the next thirty days. Still here 🙌
I had anorexia when my nexplanon was installed and by the time I had it removed I'd gained a significant amount of weight and 2 doctors couldn't get it out and sent me to a specialist because apparently it was all up in there with my nerve(s) or something. They tried for like an hour and couldn't. Can't imagine trying to do that myself!
We need an entire series on this. My partner is a part of so many mom groups on fb and the stuff she shows me is wild.
Mama Doctor Jones, I am drinking in all of this science you provide us. I love that you provide us with data from real studies! Thank you!