A friend of mine decided to write vows with her husband and exchange them during the first look. Then they did regular vows during the ceremony. I liked the idea
Ooh first touch, that would be a good compromise for my finance and I. He doesn’t want to see me before walking down the aisle, but I would like an intimate moment together before. Good to know there’s an option!
My now-husband and I ate breakfast together at the hotel everyone was staying at, we were still in our pjs so it wasn't an official "first look" as we weren't in our finery yet. I loved getting this sweet quiet moment together before the chaos started
You could stand at a corner of a doorway and reach around it to exchange love letters ❤️ and hold/touch hands. It would make a lovely moment to photograph, as well. You’d have a lovely, intimate moment and a memento. Old-fashioned love letters could become a tradition for your family. I have all the love letters my grandparents wrote to each other and it’s very special to me, especially now they are gone. My grandmother shared them with me when I first was engaged and said they were to be mine when she passed away and now, I can share them with my son when he’s a little older, maybe even for his engagement or wedding. A time capsule of their relationship and love.
I did both a first look and a first touch! We were around a corner, holding hands, and we prepared letters to each other. Before we read the letters, that's when we had our first look. It was a very sweet and touching moment. Highly recommended either (or both!!)
Our venue had a walk down stairs and i have multiple father figures in my life who would have had their feelings hurt if I had picked one of them over the other, so my partner and I had our "first look" at the exit to the venue and walked down together. No hurt feelings, it looked gorgeous on film, and (as he's a super private person emotionally) he got to have that vulnerable moment in relative private!
Always listen to your photographer! I once helped my mom do a wedding, and we had to make sure all the lighting was perfect. If there are lights, DO NOT touch them without asking the photographer. Also, the first touch shot was what we did, and it made the ceremony so magical for the bride and groom.
Woah my sister is a photographer and I never understood why she always did a first touch photo. I thought they were cute, but I didn’t realize they had a cute sentimental meaning.
I will continue with the theme weddings for sure, but they take 3 hours every time and I’m in peak wedding season rn 😭😂 I’ll be done with weddings in the next few weeks and then plan to go ham busting more out 👏🏻
My sister got married last year. I walked in first. (Well after my mom but she was helping her get ready or something) and it was so magical seeing her. But the even more magical part was seeing my brother and then even more so my father. It was amazing. (I also balled my eyes out once it was done after walking back. I just love both her and my new brother so much)
i plan to have a tangled themed wedding. My bridesmaids will be wearing light purple dresses, my cake will have lanterns, purple flowers, and flynn and repunzle in the boat as a cake topper. I’ll have lanterns hanging, and tangled themed decor. I plan to do a first touch, but not a first look because i want that to be when i’m walking down the aisle. While im walking down the aisle the pianist will be playing a tangled song. And are very last activity will be letting off lanterns with all my guests when it’s dark outside. :)
I had a first look with my dad and a first touch with my husband. It was rushed to do both, but I was thankful for that brief moment with my husband and my dad's look when he saw me was priceless.
Cool, personally though i wouldn't do all that. I would want my partner to be involved with everything, even down to the wedding outfits (especially because I'm a very indecisive person). Plus it would be more fun to go wedding shopping with your partner.
I have an older cousin that got married about 2-1 years ago in the summer. And she did the touch the wall thing and I still took my own little pictures from a distance in my phone as a memorabilia.
At least where I am in the UK the groom doesn't see or get near the bride on the wedding day until we are coming down the aisle, didn't do a first touch either. Got photos of my family reacting to me in my dress before the aisle which was nice, but that's all. Heck, we even slept at separate houses the night before lol.
My husband and I exchanged our personal vows with each other during our first touch. It was the most memorable part of the day and I'd highly recommend 💕
My cousin did a first touch for her wedding around the church door, it was gorgeous. Also very sweet thing they did was my uncle led her down the aisle and the groom's mother led the groom down
The photographer for my brother's wedding almost got him killed doing a first touch photo on a stair case. She decided he needed to be on a lower stair, and instead of having her walk back around the corner, she had him try to walk downstairs backward. It was insane. Thankfully, he didn't fall, but boy did that set the tone for the photo session.
Woah what a world. The only wedding photos i've seen are from mi parents'. There were first look and first touch photos, but they consisted of my mother fresh out of the car and my father all the way at the end of the aisle waiting for her. First touch when she handed off the flowers for the ring thing. All the photos were shot _during_ the ceremony
We did a first look and it was our photographers first wedding! She was amazing, when my wife came out I almost turned too soon (cause I was just so excited!) and the photographer caught me before I turned 😂 She was honestly the best and we plan on having her do a first anniversary photo shoot for us next year!
i really like the idea of my first reveal being when i walk down the aisle. i know the love is there. this wedding is a show and a party HUNTIES 🤣 SEE ME SHINE but i’m not very reverent i do really appreciate and admire more thoughtful weddings tho. i’m sensitive so i like when people acknowledge my side of things when they disagree 🤣
I plan on only doing a first touch with my fiance. I want to be able to see her walking down the isle and be just completely breath taken for the first look
Question: What for? Like...normal language is not enough? 😅 I kinda get why I never thought about weddings. But very nice that finally someone tries to explain it. I still didn't got it all. But I was at like.. one traditional wedding. 5 weddings in total and 2 of them was my mother's weddings with NO party or people around. The only big wedding was an african couple... nothing was like a usual at all and I was like 8 years old😅 The one traditional was a co-workers wedding and I was not close to them
Question!! Pros and cons of having the first look before the ceremony instead of having the first look be the isle walk?? I always thought it was customary for the first time they see eachother to be the isle walk, this also seems more romantic to me (and more likely for the groom to tear up which I love) The first look being before the isle walk to me gives the walk less impact? But what do you think?
@dinosaur__7209 - Waaaay late. But not always! If it’s your wedding, the people getting hitched can do what they want! But there is a tradition for a lot of folks in the US that the future spouse doesn’t see the wedding dress until walking down the aisle. Lots of folks do a first look, though. It can be because: - some venues - especially places of worship - don’t allow any photography or videography during a worship service, which sometimes includes weddings - often on the day of a wedding, the folks getting married may be independently busy so they don’t see each other until they get down the aisle. And they may not have seen each other for most of the previous day. So it’s a good way to reconnect without a crowd of people around - it can just be an awesome picture opportunity. It’s often a more controlled environment than wherever the aisle is and it’s a picture of just the couple without other people.
I mean no one is telling you or anyone else they HAVE to do these she’s saying they’re traditional suggestions for if you’re planning a wedding. The first “touch” is supposed to be like a “we’re in this together” reassuring moment for the bride and groom if they want their first time seeing each other to be walking down the aisle. I dont think you can say they’re still rooted in purity culture when my gay friends have chosen to do this for their weddings. At this point it’s more symbolic of the bond you’ll share and the first look is supposed to be when you see each other all dressed up and it sinks in that it’s really your wedding day and you’re making a big commitment.
I don't feel like first look is purity culture based? It's just a moment where you can see each other in your wedding garb for the first time and it's usually really emotional & some people want it to be seperate from when they walk down the aisle.
As someone who has put a LOT of effort into getting as far away from purity culture as possible, I don't see these as playing into that unless you make it that way. For a first look, if you're spending the entire day (and even evening before) getting ready and away from the person you're marrying, it can be a lot of build up combined with missing them. It's nice to not only see them right before you're going to go be on display for everyone, but be able to talk and be excited together before following all of the scripted stuff at the ceremony. As for a first touch, like the video says, maybe you want your first look at the aisle. It can still be nice to have a private moment beforehand where you can just be together and remind each other how excited you are and how much you love each other. It's a nice "this is us, and we're a team" moment. Neither have anything to do with staying "pure" until marriage unless you make them that way. I'd wager that the vast majority of people doing these have seen and held hands with (and more) with their betrothed prior to even being proposed to. It's just a nice moment of connection before the fancy ceremony.
It’s just capitalism and consumerism. None of it’s necessary but for some women, they feel the need to make their wedding the best day of their life. It’s built up to be a huge event so they spend lots of money and crazy things like this are invented to justify the financial waste.
Stupid ideas are all i hear. You get your 1st look down the aisle and your 1st touch when the bride is handed off to her groom.. theres also bad luck associated with the groom seeing her before that. This just sounds like one persons idea for photos worthy of the Internet and ppl liked it and made it a thing when it really shouldnt be a thing. If theres really love there every photo will show it, you dont need to set up moments to capture the feeling. Look at a loving couples wedding photos and you will realize just how stupid this is. Truly waste of time and money theres a million other things to snap photos of. And nothing is more beautiful than the couple crying happy tears as she walks down rhe aisle. This maybe makes sense for your 2nd or 3rd marriage bc at this point you gotta do something new to spice it up. But if you are marrying someone you love and truly commiting to them you should never have to do this again except for a renewal.
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A friend of mine decided to write vows with her husband and exchange them during the first look. Then they did regular vows during the ceremony. I liked the idea
My friend did this for her wedding and I will definitely me doing that in the future.
i got a nice idea for a Future wedding thx!
Ooh first touch, that would be a good compromise for my finance and I. He doesn’t want to see me before walking down the aisle, but I would like an intimate moment together before. Good to know there’s an option!
Oh, never knew people could marry their finances, I don't get why you would do, sounds like a golddigger /j
My now-husband and I ate breakfast together at the hotel everyone was staying at, we were still in our pjs so it wasn't an official "first look" as we weren't in our finery yet. I loved getting this sweet quiet moment together before the chaos started
You could stand at a corner of a doorway and reach around it to exchange love letters ❤️ and hold/touch hands. It would make a lovely moment to photograph, as well. You’d have a lovely, intimate moment and a memento.
Old-fashioned love letters could become a tradition for your family.
I have all the love letters my grandparents wrote to each other and it’s very special to me, especially now they are gone. My grandmother shared them with me when I first was engaged and said they were to be mine when she passed away and now, I can share them with my son when he’s a little older, maybe even for his engagement or wedding. A time capsule of their relationship and love.
Bestie we NEED a Peter Pan wedding theme
Lol!!! So soon I promise!! Getting through a few more weddings this season and I’ll have more time to pump out themes 👏🏻
I did both a first look and a first touch! We were around a corner, holding hands, and we prepared letters to each other. Before we read the letters, that's when we had our first look. It was a very sweet and touching moment. Highly recommended either (or both!!)
Our venue had a walk down stairs and i have multiple father figures in my life who would have had their feelings hurt if I had picked one of them over the other, so my partner and I had our "first look" at the exit to the venue and walked down together. No hurt feelings, it looked gorgeous on film, and (as he's a super private person emotionally) he got to have that vulnerable moment in relative private!
I can’t emphasize enough to listen to your photographer! Imagine your event is a movie and they’re the director. Listen. To. Them!
Always listen to your photographer! I once helped my mom do a wedding, and we had to make sure all the lighting was perfect. If there are lights, DO NOT touch them without asking the photographer. Also, the first touch shot was what we did, and it made the ceremony so magical for the bride and groom.
Woah my sister is a photographer and I never understood why she always did a first touch photo. I thought they were cute, but I didn’t realize they had a cute sentimental meaning.
Kinda sad that you're starting a cool new series and everyone just wants you to do more movie themed weddings 😂
I will continue with the theme weddings for sure, but they take 3 hours every time and I’m in peak wedding season rn 😭😂 I’ll be done with weddings in the next few weeks and then plan to go ham busting more out 👏🏻
My sister got married last year. I walked in first. (Well after my mom but she was helping her get ready or something) and it was so magical seeing her. But the even more magical part was seeing my brother and then even more so my father. It was amazing.
(I also balled my eyes out once it was done after walking back. I just love both her and my new brother so much)
I want one of these for every different culture wedding ceremonies.
I love this. Thank you.
I needed this series!!! Im planning my wedding and there's so much wedding terminology that i need to learn
i plan to have a tangled themed wedding. My bridesmaids will be wearing light purple dresses, my cake will have lanterns, purple flowers, and flynn and repunzle in the boat as a cake topper. I’ll have lanterns hanging, and tangled themed decor. I plan to do a first touch, but not a first look because i want that to be when i’m walking down the aisle. While im walking down the aisle the pianist will be playing a tangled song. And are very last activity will be letting off lanterns with all my guests when it’s dark outside. :)
That’s so amazing!!!
I had a first look with my dad and a first touch with my husband. It was rushed to do both, but I was thankful for that brief moment with my husband and my dad's look when he saw me was priceless.
Cool, personally though i wouldn't do all that. I would want my partner to be involved with everything, even down to the wedding outfits (especially because I'm a very indecisive person).
Plus it would be more fun to go wedding shopping with your partner.
Off topic, but can you please don an Anastasia themed wedding? It was my favorite movie growing up and it wpuld really make my day, thank you! 😊
its amazing seeing other cultures and their wedding prep! I'm Chinese btw
I have an older cousin that got married about 2-1 years ago in the summer. And she did the touch the wall thing and I still took my own little pictures from a distance in my phone as a memorabilia.
"If you plan to plan a wedding" i feel so seen 😂 too broke for a wedding, but ill be damned if i dont start now.
ok but I find the first touch SO much more cute tbh!!
I loved our first look! I thought that kind of thing was cheesy and I wasnt going to do it but so glad I did.
That's so cute!
Ur so pretty😚💕💕💕
These are so genius to do, I love this informative video, thank you! Saving for future wedding
At least where I am in the UK the groom doesn't see or get near the bride on the wedding day until we are coming down the aisle, didn't do a first touch either. Got photos of my family reacting to me in my dress before the aisle which was nice, but that's all. Heck, we even slept at separate houses the night before lol.
My husband and I exchanged our personal vows with each other during our first touch. It was the most memorable part of the day and I'd highly recommend 💕
I just took our photos a few months in advance so we didnt have to stress about getting good photos on the day. so much less stressful
That’s actually a really good point. I forgot about the stress weddings can bring (as well as all the love and joy)
My cousin did a first touch for her wedding around the church door, it was gorgeous. Also very sweet thing they did was my uncle led her down the aisle and the groom's mother led the groom down
Day 6 of requesting a Phantom of the Opera themed wedding! 🌹
The photographer for my brother's wedding almost got him killed doing a first touch photo on a stair case. She decided he needed to be on a lower stair, and instead of having her walk back around the corner, she had him try to walk downstairs backward. It was insane. Thankfully, he didn't fall, but boy did that set the tone for the photo session.
Woah what a world. The only wedding photos i've seen are from mi parents'. There were first look and first touch photos, but they consisted of my mother fresh out of the car and my father all the way at the end of the aisle waiting for her. First touch when she handed off the flowers for the ring thing. All the photos were shot _during_ the ceremony
For how long has this been a thing?
We did a first look and it was our photographers first wedding! She was amazing, when my wife came out I almost turned too soon (cause I was just so excited!) and the photographer caught me before I turned 😂 She was honestly the best and we plan on having her do a first anniversary photo shoot for us next year!
i really like the idea of my first reveal being when i walk down the aisle. i know the love is there. this wedding is a show and a party HUNTIES 🤣 SEE ME SHINE but i’m not very reverent
i do really appreciate and admire more thoughtful weddings tho. i’m sensitive so i like when people acknowledge my side of things when they disagree 🤣
I cant like this right now because she could see it but i appreciate this
What does it mean to “ice” someone?
Summbing to help my mom.
What does it mean to “ice” though?
I have a feeling I am going to be very confused on my wedding day
Yeah… what’s a ceremony and what’s a reception… that’s the 101
seing your bride in the dress before she walks down the aile is bad luck here
Exactly
If you have been to a wedding since 2020 you knew all of this😂
I plan on only doing a first touch with my fiance. I want to be able to see her walking down the isle and be just completely breath taken for the first look
Question: What for? Like...normal language is not enough? 😅 I kinda get why I never thought about weddings.
But very nice that finally someone tries to explain it.
I still didn't got it all. But I was at like.. one traditional wedding. 5 weddings in total and 2 of them was my mother's weddings with NO party or people around. The only big wedding was an african couple... nothing was like a usual at all and I was like 8 years old😅
The one traditional was a co-workers wedding and I was not close to them
I'm curious, what do you mean you had a bride "iced the bridesmaids?"
could you please do a avater the last air bender as a wedding theme?
Question!!
Pros and cons of having the first look before the ceremony instead of having the first look be the isle walk??
I always thought it was customary for the first time they see eachother to be the isle walk, this also seems more romantic to me (and more likely for the groom to tear up which I love)
The first look being before the isle walk to me gives the walk less impact?
But what do you think?
Ur right
This pre stuff is dumb
Esp as 90% of them live together 🙄
Checked the comments to see if anyone explained "ice her bridesmaids" in a way that makes any sense but nope.
If i ever get married i wont do that thing where you cant see your so till the walk up the aisle
To clarify, for the first look, the photographer puts the husband looking away, and the bride comes up behind him.
Ok but what does it mean to ‘ice’ - you had a bride ice all her bridesmaids during the moment?
Day 5 Beetlejuice wedding theme 🎉❤
Hey so I'm a guy who likes a guy, can I do some of these traditions even though it is usually a girl and a guy
I thought you were supposed to wait until you walked down the aisle for the lperson you’re marrying to see you?
@dinosaur__7209 - Waaaay late. But not always! If it’s your wedding, the people getting hitched can do what they want! But there is a tradition for a lot of folks in the US that the future spouse doesn’t see the wedding dress until walking down the aisle.
Lots of folks do a first look, though. It can be because:
- some venues - especially places of worship - don’t allow any photography or videography during a worship service, which sometimes includes weddings
- often on the day of a wedding, the folks getting married may be independently busy so they don’t see each other until they get down the aisle. And they may not have seen each other for most of the previous day. So it’s a good way to reconnect without a crowd of people around
- it can just be an awesome picture opportunity. It’s often a more controlled environment than wherever the aisle is and it’s a picture of just the couple without other people.
How is this romantic though? What would a wedding look like without all these weird (purity culture) traditions?
I mean no one is telling you or anyone else they HAVE to do these she’s saying they’re traditional suggestions for if you’re planning a wedding. The first “touch” is supposed to be like a “we’re in this together” reassuring moment for the bride and groom if they want their first time seeing each other to be walking down the aisle. I dont think you can say they’re still rooted in purity culture when my gay friends have chosen to do this for their weddings. At this point it’s more symbolic of the bond you’ll share and the first look is supposed to be when you see each other all dressed up and it sinks in that it’s really your wedding day and you’re making a big commitment.
I mean. It's romantic cause they are seeing each other all dolled up for the first time. It can make the wedding and marriage seem all the more real.
I don't feel like first look is purity culture based? It's just a moment where you can see each other in your wedding garb for the first time and it's usually really emotional & some people want it to be seperate from when they walk down the aisle.
As someone who has put a LOT of effort into getting as far away from purity culture as possible, I don't see these as playing into that unless you make it that way.
For a first look, if you're spending the entire day (and even evening before) getting ready and away from the person you're marrying, it can be a lot of build up combined with missing them. It's nice to not only see them right before you're going to go be on display for everyone, but be able to talk and be excited together before following all of the scripted stuff at the ceremony.
As for a first touch, like the video says, maybe you want your first look at the aisle. It can still be nice to have a private moment beforehand where you can just be together and remind each other how excited you are and how much you love each other. It's a nice "this is us, and we're a team" moment.
Neither have anything to do with staying "pure" until marriage unless you make them that way. I'd wager that the vast majority of people doing these have seen and held hands with (and more) with their betrothed prior to even being proposed to. It's just a nice moment of connection before the fancy ceremony.
It’s just capitalism and consumerism. None of it’s necessary but for some women, they feel the need to make their wedding the best day of their life. It’s built up to be a huge event so they spend lots of money and crazy things like this are invented to justify the financial waste.
Seems excessively complicated for no reason. Why put so much stress on an otherwise joyous occasion?
Would you do an Addams family theme?
Are there really people who think that this is mandatory information
Do not recommend channel lol
This video is odd.
Day 5 of asking for a wedding theme based off the book the cruel Prince
Can we please have a brigadoon wedding?
Stupid ideas are all i hear. You get your 1st look down the aisle and your 1st touch when the bride is handed off to her groom.. theres also bad luck associated with the groom seeing her before that. This just sounds like one persons idea for photos worthy of the Internet and ppl liked it and made it a thing when it really shouldnt be a thing.
If theres really love there every photo will show it, you dont need to set up moments to capture the feeling. Look at a loving couples wedding photos and you will realize just how stupid this is. Truly waste of time and money theres a million other things to snap photos of. And nothing is more beautiful than the couple crying happy tears as she walks down rhe aisle.
This maybe makes sense for your 2nd or 3rd marriage bc at this point you gotta do something new to spice it up. But if you are marrying someone you love and truly commiting to them you should never have to do this again except for a renewal.
No questions other that why the heck the wedding industry tries to shove all this weird stuff down your throat
What a waste of energy.