Kati Morton. good evening 🌄 how s your week been .I'm enjoying your podcast I appreciate you. And all the helpful information. You share happy Thanksgiving to you from uk🙂
Crickey, nearly all these questions are directly relevant to me! I love the way you say, "We" so often; it's reassuringly validating, inclusive and empathetic.
I was shoved into a home with an adopted schizophrenic bpd child since infancy. I was encouraged to have a bond with him and "It really wasn't that bad"as I thought it was, they conveyed. His reality Is through his manipulation. I was turned into the scapegoat by "the family" eventually. And I now take care of him since his parent has passed. When I look back on my life, as time goes by, I am floored by the gaslighting and the "normalizing" and excusing of his behavior. "That's just the way he is". And as a child I remember him always saying "It's all your fault". Over and over again Him being a paranoid schizophrenic made it that much more challenging. As a child, only classical music could keep him soothed. I turned into a people pleaser and an enabler. I wonder why? Not to mention the apathy of not even trying new things as I got older. Not to have a pity party, I just wonder what in the world my adopted parents were thinking when they brought me into that environment. He was 2 1/2 and already showing signs of an issue with his language and behavior. I can sympathize with their predicament, but I've recently asked myself why did they encourage our relationship? This man has only taken every opportunity to destroy my and my mothers' relationships with our peers. He always has to put down anyone who ever came into our lives. His paranoia sees them as a threat to him and has no sense of others personal boundaries. And he still bashes her exes who've passed. And now, since his mother's passing I watch him as he feels so free to try to do my children in the same way with his language. Fascinating on the one hand, but in no way healthy for the needs of a healthy child like me the and stigma was unbelievable It's amazing how ignorant that family was now that I've finally figured out as I now see how manipulative he truly is and always was. And now, I really wonder what effect he really had on me and all of my mental faculties during my developmental years. In this situation, even as old as we are, I am having to restructure this relationship. Undo what "the Family" did. For My family. I am an advocate now against this convenient type of upbringing. I consider it now as child abuse. It was not in My best interest to ever allow such an irresponsible choice to linger on in my life. A healthy child's psychological rights were violated. Mine. And I realized this when I started to see how my behavior had been affected by his with my tolerance of my peers' behavior over time. I came to realize that I was stigmatized and labeled as he was. Seen as "not good enough" or "slow" just by the mere Association with him. It's something like an emotional handicap that I had no way of stopping. And I believe the level of shame of her allowing this to continue for so long caused her to check out. But it all never happen to me. These mentally challenged people are very sneaky. It's amazing how one good intention can have such a domino effect on the lives of so many others lives. But I know that in the situation where someone gets into a relationship with another controlling partner, somewhere in their past, there was an influence such as mine. I like sharing my past. It helps me to see the consequences of others goody two shoes intentions without a proper education. I'm getting my masters in psychology now. To avoid ever allowing some "good" intentions to tread on My life ever again.
Yes please make a video about the first topic! I have the same problem about invalidating my feelings. I've learned to set them aside, due to the death of my mum because I needed to keep my family together, to pull myself together. And now I feel bad for having anxiety, anger issues, self hatred and I don't allow myself to feel feelings which aren't happy and positive.
I love your videos and thought process discussing these sensitive and personal topics. For your topic on assault, you mentioned that sometimes people have to be asked 3 or 4 times before they can get past saying “ I am fine” to actually speaking about their experience. How can the support systems be developed and personal thoughts be organized so that the additional questions are not treated as suffocating instead of caring or lack of asking is not viewed as bad parenting/ bad friend instead of just understanding people are just stoic?
I like that were all different and I dont thk we should compare ourselves to others. There are some things we share , but I think it's important to talk about differences, to understand each other or at least to try.
Can you talk about feelings related to dissociation? I have mixed feelings about when it happens to me. A lot of the time when it happens I kind of feel indifferent or numb to it because I think I just accept it happens. Those times I just lost a little chunk of time. But there’s been times like yesterday where I have lost more time… like most of a day or longer and I feel so scared and frustrated that I am unable to recall things from that time. I woke up today and I literally cannot remember half of yesterday. It’s like everything I did is blanketed in a thick fog and I wasn’t really there. Typically I think my memory is pretty good, so I get scared when it fails. I feel like I am losing my mind and am not in control of my brain.
Kati, thanks for answering the follow-up question (Q5, military). I am (and have been for the past year) curious about your thoughts on (U.S.) military behavioral health system (characteristics: volatile social environment, restrictions on individuality, choices of care, and a general “stuck” feeling). Depending on your own opinions, I think I’m more interested in the transition from active service to left after the military. Just the smallest amount of digging can show you a heavy percent of the environment (i.e. drug/theft issues, sexual assaults and runaways, the social image of Ft Hood in general). I think I’ll attempt to present this question, but I’m not sure of the amount of military-affiliated members there are in the community. It’s very difficult to find mental health professionals to talk about their views this particular subject since, most of the time, the only person you know is the person who you go and see. Damn, sorry for this long ass comment. I know it’s not much that’s interesting about the military, but I rack the ever-loving shit out of my brain trying to fathom an outside physician to give some insight. Have a wonderful weekend, Kati. Thank you for all you do.
I really don't agree with getting DNA tested after just one failed antidepressant. I have tried, let's say, several antidepressants over the years. Some did nothing, some had unexpected but not the needed results or intolerable side effects, some worked for a while then stopped working. But trying just one and then thinking they don't work is just not giving different ones a chance. There isn't just one that works for everyone, our chemistry is different so what works for me might not work for you.
I’m unfortunately in a bad situation and it’s not getting better in a day. I do notice that other women compare their lives to mine and brag it up all day.
Kati Morton. Hello and good evening thank you for another podcast and of course you answering people s question s nice jumper you are looking relaxed and calm I'm watching and listening right now please please next time give my question a chance much love ❤️👍
Deborah Fairburn. Hello just being friendly I'm Nikki I'm from uk and I follow Kati s video s and podcasts every week I sometimes write comments or just read other people s comments I sometimes write a question and add it to the community tab I'm mostly ignored on here but I like meeting new people who watch Kati because of there mental health 🙂
@@nikkimckay860 hi Nikki! I’ve been watching Kati & Sean for a while now. Although I’m in therapy, and it’s helping a lot, I still enjoy and learn so much from them. It’s nice to meet you. I’ll look forward to future posts and comments from you.
Katie I was taught the world going to end. So why do anything. The world is going to end. As a child I thought. If the world's going to end than can I just get out as quick as I can. After all Im bipolar. Im usless. So makes no sense in even being. That awful narrative fed to me. Yet it's a struggle to compartmentalizing as an adult. I honestly don't think the elders ment to do harm. It's just sad the very thing to help doesn't.
Melissa Tennent. Hello just being friendly iv asked a few people same question please do you have any advice and tips on getting a question to Kati iv tried a few times it's frosting and made me feel sad that nobody likes my question or leaves any comments iv been watching and following Kati s podcast for a long time still glad she has been of help to you 👍🙂
It was incorrect and very dangerous for Kati to say that you wouldn't want to make up a false memory of a troubling thing, so those memories must be true. People have been sent to jail, families broken up and people died, all based on recollections of events that were later, CONCLUSIVELY proved to have been untrue. The mind DOES fill in the gaps by making things up. We must understand this.
How is treatment-resistance treated? I struggle with attendance and homework in therapy my whole adult life. I've been kicked out of services at many agencies even though every time I move somewhere new and get on benefits again, I seek treatment again. I tell the new therapist I struggled with these things in the past but I'm not sure what's going on and usually start missing sessions very early in treatment and the threat of being kicked out and left without care (Medicaid in a small town) again.
@@tracihaberman430 hello thank you for your reply Most people don't even reply back kinda feel not fully welcoming. To the Kati community Because nobody hardly speak s to me and honestly iv had my question for the podcast s. Ignored loads of times yet I always come back and watch Kati s podcasts .and videos and say hello to random stranger s. thank you again for asking how am I doing. .Honestly struggle with my depression on and off everyday what about you .How are you where are you from. Do you have depression or other ?x
Hi Nikki I Also Suffer from Depression And Severe anxiety I'm Wisconsin I Know How It Is To Deal with Depression It's not Fun At All. Where Are U From Nikki.
@@tracihaberman430 I'm sorry to hear that you also suffer from depression and server anxiety thank you for sharing and for your reply yes it is a struggle suffering from depression and anxiety I have both but not server anxiety but my anxiety dose effect my life x
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Happy Thanksgiving! Self care.. my teen and adult kids are cooking while I get to play with my grandkids!🤣😅🥲🥲
Kati Morton. good evening 🌄 how s your week been .I'm enjoying your podcast I appreciate you. And all the helpful information. You share happy Thanksgiving to you from uk🙂
Happy Thanksgiving! I'm thankful for your podcasts!
Happy Thanksgiving
Crickey, nearly all these questions are directly relevant to me! I love the way you say, "We" so often; it's reassuringly validating, inclusive and empathetic.
I was shoved into a home with an adopted schizophrenic bpd child since infancy. I was encouraged to have a bond with him and "It really wasn't that bad"as I thought it was, they conveyed. His reality Is through his manipulation. I was turned into the scapegoat by "the family" eventually. And I now take care of him since his parent has passed. When I look back on my life, as time goes by, I am floored by the gaslighting and the "normalizing" and excusing of his behavior. "That's just the way he is". And as a child I remember him always saying "It's all your fault". Over and over again Him being a paranoid schizophrenic made it that much more challenging. As a child, only classical music could keep him soothed. I turned into a people pleaser and an enabler. I wonder why? Not to mention the apathy of not even trying new things as I got older. Not to have a pity party, I just wonder what in the world my adopted parents were thinking when they brought me into that environment. He was 2 1/2 and already showing signs of an issue with his language and behavior. I can sympathize with their predicament, but I've recently asked myself why did they encourage our relationship? This man has only taken every opportunity to destroy my and my mothers' relationships with our peers. He always has to put down anyone who ever came into our lives. His paranoia sees them as a threat to him and has no sense of others personal boundaries. And he still bashes her exes who've passed. And now, since his mother's passing I watch him as he feels so free to try to do my children in the same way with his language.
Fascinating on the one hand, but in no way healthy for the needs of a healthy child like me the and stigma was unbelievable It's amazing how ignorant that family was now that I've finally figured out as I now see how manipulative he truly is and always was. And now, I really wonder what effect he really had on me and all of my mental faculties during my developmental years.
In this situation, even as old as we are, I am having to restructure this relationship. Undo what "the Family" did. For My family. I am an advocate now against this convenient type of upbringing. I consider it now as child abuse. It was not in My best interest to ever allow such an irresponsible choice to linger on in my life. A healthy child's psychological rights were violated. Mine. And I realized this when I started to see how my behavior had been affected by his with my tolerance of my peers' behavior over time. I came to realize that I was stigmatized and labeled as he was. Seen as "not good enough" or "slow" just by the mere Association with him. It's something like an emotional handicap that I had no way of stopping. And I believe the level of shame of her allowing this to continue for so long caused her to check out. But it all never happen to me. These mentally challenged people are very sneaky. It's amazing how one good intention can have such a domino effect on the lives of so many others lives. But I know that in the situation where someone gets into a relationship with another controlling partner, somewhere in their past, there was an influence such as mine. I like sharing my past. It helps me to see the consequences of others goody two shoes intentions without a proper education. I'm getting my masters in psychology now. To avoid ever allowing some "good" intentions to tread on My life ever again.
Yes please make a video about the first topic! I have the same problem about invalidating my feelings. I've learned to set them aside, due to the death of my mum because I needed to keep my family together, to pull myself together. And now I feel bad for having anxiety, anger issues, self hatred and I don't allow myself to feel feelings which aren't happy and positive.
I recently found your channels and I love listening to you and your advice. It has helped me a lot thank you ❤
I love your videos and thought process discussing these sensitive and personal topics. For your topic on assault, you mentioned that sometimes people have to be asked 3 or 4 times before they can get past saying “ I am fine” to actually speaking about their experience. How can the support systems be developed and personal thoughts be organized so that the additional questions are not treated as suffocating instead of caring or lack of asking is not viewed as bad parenting/ bad friend instead of just understanding people are just stoic?
I like that were all different and I dont thk we should compare ourselves to others. There are some things we share , but I think it's important to talk about differences, to understand each other or at least to try.
Can you talk about feelings related to dissociation? I have mixed feelings about when it happens to me. A lot of the time when it happens I kind of feel indifferent or numb to it because I think I just accept it happens. Those times I just lost a little chunk of time. But there’s been times like yesterday where I have lost more time… like most of a day or longer and I feel so scared and frustrated that I am unable to recall things from that time. I woke up today and I literally cannot remember half of yesterday. It’s like everything I did is blanketed in a thick fog and I wasn’t really there. Typically I think my memory is pretty good, so I get scared when it fails. I feel like I am losing my mind and am not in control of my brain.
I really really needed it today. Thank you so much
Thank you Kati, I needed this today. I hope you and yours are well. Happy Thanksgiving. 🙏🏽💙💯🔥
Kati, thanks for answering the follow-up question (Q5, military).
I am (and have been for the past year) curious about your thoughts on (U.S.) military behavioral health system (characteristics: volatile social environment, restrictions on individuality, choices of care, and a general “stuck” feeling). Depending on your own opinions, I think I’m more interested in the transition from active service to left after the military. Just the smallest amount of digging can show you a heavy percent of the environment (i.e. drug/theft issues, sexual assaults and runaways, the social image of Ft Hood in general).
I think I’ll attempt to present this question, but I’m not sure of the amount of military-affiliated members there are in the community. It’s very difficult to find mental health professionals to talk about their views this particular subject since, most of the time, the only person you know is the person who you go and see.
Damn, sorry for this long ass comment. I know it’s not much that’s interesting about the military, but I rack the ever-loving shit out of my brain trying to fathom an outside physician to give some insight.
Have a wonderful weekend, Kati. Thank you for all you do.
I really don't agree with getting DNA tested after just one failed antidepressant. I have tried, let's say, several antidepressants over the years. Some did nothing, some had unexpected but not the needed results or intolerable side effects, some worked for a while then stopped working. But trying just one and then thinking they don't work is just not giving different ones a chance. There isn't just one that works for everyone, our chemistry is different so what works for me might not work for you.
I’m unfortunately in a bad situation and it’s not getting better in a day. I do notice that other women compare their lives to mine and brag it up all day.
Kati Morton. Hello and good evening thank you for another podcast and of course you answering people s question s nice jumper you are looking relaxed and calm I'm watching and listening right now please please next time give my question a chance much love ❤️👍
This episode was super interesting. Thank you :)
What a delightful surprise!
Deborah Fairburn. Hello just being friendly I'm Nikki I'm from uk and I follow Kati s video s and podcasts every week I sometimes write comments or just read other people s comments I sometimes write a question and add it to the community tab I'm mostly ignored on here but I like meeting new people who watch Kati because of there mental health 🙂
@@nikkimckay860 hi Nikki! I’ve been watching Kati & Sean for a while now. Although I’m in therapy, and it’s helping a lot, I still enjoy and learn so much from them.
It’s nice to meet you. I’ll look forward to future posts and comments from you.
Katie I was taught the world going to end. So why do anything. The world is going to end. As a child I thought. If the world's going to end than can I just get out as quick as I can. After all Im bipolar. Im usless. So makes no sense in even being. That awful narrative fed to me. Yet it's a struggle to compartmentalizing as an adult. I honestly don't think the elders ment to do harm. It's just sad the very thing to help doesn't.
Hi, can I ask what modality(ies) of therapy you practice, Katie?
Thank you so much Katie! This episode helped me a lot today :)
Melissa Tennent. Hello just being friendly iv asked a few people same question please do you have any advice and tips on getting a question to Kati iv tried a few times it's frosting and made me feel sad that nobody likes my question or leaves any comments iv been watching and following Kati s podcast for a long time still glad she has been of help to you 👍🙂
Thank you
That was a really great episode!!! Thanks♥️
I went through this too
😳 thank you 🙏🏼
It was incorrect and very dangerous for Kati to say that you wouldn't want to make up a false memory of a troubling thing, so those memories must be true. People have been sent to jail, families broken up and people died, all based on recollections of events that were later, CONCLUSIVELY proved to have been untrue. The mind DOES fill in the gaps by making things up. We must understand this.
Yes but the bits and pieces from others are possibly false. Our mind filling in the gaps isn't the untrue part
Happy Black Friday. Although these days they stretch the sales season out so much it could be called 50 shades of gray days.
Is suppressing trauma good once you have processed it so you are not ruminating on pain you can’t change?
Happy Thanksgiving 🦃🍽🍁 Kati. 💛Thank you Lisa 💜for creating 💕this wonderful 💗video 💛.
51:55 If that's not me, I don't know what is
How is treatment-resistance treated? I struggle with attendance and homework in therapy my whole adult life. I've been kicked out of services at many agencies even though every time I move somewhere new and get on benefits again, I seek treatment again. I tell the new therapist I struggled with these things in the past but I'm not sure what's going on and usually start missing sessions very early in treatment and the threat of being kicked out and left without care (Medicaid in a small town) again.
How AMAZING are dogs? Just sayin'... "Hi Roxy" xx
Hello everyone 👋 what is the time where you are from hope people are mangeing with there mental health best they can also stay safe from COVID X
Hi Nikki
How Are U Doing.
@@tracihaberman430 hello thank you for your reply Most people don't even reply back kinda feel not fully welcoming. To the Kati community Because nobody hardly speak s to me and honestly iv had my question for the podcast s. Ignored loads of times yet I always come back and watch Kati s podcasts .and videos and say hello to random stranger s. thank you again for asking how am I doing. .Honestly struggle with my depression on and off everyday what about you .How are you where are you from. Do you have depression or other ?x
Hi Nikki
I Also Suffer from
Depression
And
Severe anxiety
I'm Wisconsin
I Know How It Is
To Deal with
Depression
It's not Fun
At All.
Where Are U
From
Nikki.
@@tracihaberman430 I'm sorry to hear that you also suffer from depression and server anxiety thank you for sharing and for your reply yes it is a struggle suffering from depression and anxiety I have both but not server anxiety but my anxiety dose effect my life x
@@tracihaberman430 I'm from uk and you ?
Some things I find very upsetting.
I’m very upset.
You know why?
You know why!
Can I ask Kati anything?
“Why?” I ask.
Please 🙏 😞….