I knew my son was gay from about the age of three. It all came to light when he was thirteen and I accidentally saw a message from him to his cousin saying that he thought he was bi-sexual, so I asked him about it and said that I’d known since he was a little boy. He later came out as gay. He’s nearly 22 now and is happy and proud of who he is, as are we. No child should have to be ashamed of their sexuality or be afraid. To live your truth is so very important. Thank you guys for sharing your very special and intimate stories. Big loves xxx
I can’t wait for a day in the future where people don’t have to “come out”. Straight people don’t have to come out as straight and it pains my soul people have to state their sexuality. Love is love❤️. Love you guys!
Thank you guys for sharing and for expressing the turmoil a young person lives with. We had a family member come out at age 22 and his parents disowned him. He disappeared. It was heartbreaking. My husband and I were able to find him. He was safe but so depressed. He found a safe place with us. At the time my two were 5 and 3 years. From then on all we wanted was for our two to be happy in their lives. It took years but his parents finally accepted him. He is now 45 and happily married to a lovely man.
I smiled all the way through this video, my son came out at 13 to me, like you nick he came down stairs opened the fridge and started crying, so I panicked and was shouting what’s wrong what’s wrong.......... he finally said mum I’m gay! I was like I know that but what’s wrong........ I’ve always known and he has amazing friends who all accept him, but my mums the funniest she’s 74 and so proud to have a gay grandson, she thinks every family should have 1 🙄. His boyfriend is in a completely different situation unfortunately, he’s tried to come out but his dad shaved his hair off and hit him, it’s so sad, but he has our support xx
My daughter aged 11 passed me a note to tell me she preferred girls to boys, she pushed it under the door and went back to bed. By the time I saw it she was asleep. So the next day I knew she would feel a little awkward, she asked me if I'd seen the note, I said I had, and bless her she asked me if it was alright. I told her of course it was. All I ever want for my children is for them to be happy. Within the hour she was then telling her grandparents and her closest friends. It is a privilege to be told this and it must feel like that for a moment your whole world could change. But as I've followed you guys for years she felt that I was open to the idea of her being gay. Wonderful video Leigh and Nick.😊
When I was going upto senior school my dad came to speak to me and my sister to tell us he was gay, I was was upset but I werent upset because he was gay I was upset/worried about what friends would say because at my age back then kids were nasty... but I was wrong everyone was fine so that was a huge relief. My dad was 35 when he came out. Hes 60 now and married. I love him to bits for who he is x
I was the same, I had just started senior school when I realised my mum was gay and her girlfriend moved in. It was so difficult at school, I was bullied so much for it. I’m glad everyone took it well for you. I’m so relieved that times have changed. Love is love, gender doesn’t matter x
What a great post. Xx My son came out at my 40th Birthday party. Thanks xx I think I knew he was from as early at 2 yrs old. All I can say is that all I ever wanted for all of my 3 children. Was for them to be Happy and healthy I feel blessed that they all are. His journey was not easy. But he has survived. And is a stronger person for it of which I am so immensely proud. Sadly not every parent , family and so called friend is so understanding But be brave be strong we are all what we are. Prejudice comes in all shapes and and forms. Every life matters xx
Thank you so much for sharing your stories with us guys. I came out as Trans to my Mum in 2005 at age 14. I did something similar to Leigh and used a notebook to write to her. We went back and forth writing to each other in this notebook for a couple of days until we finally spoke in person. She found it difficult at first but is now my biggest supporter, she even joined Manchester Parents Group and now helps other parents to support their LGBTQ kids.
I think it’s really brave and noble that you’ve shared you story even though it’s private and you weren’t totally comfortable, but for the sake of someone who might need to hear it to feel more comfortable with their own situation. My nephew came out about a year ago and I was so happy to hear him say that he was never worried about what people would think and never had negative feelings about who he was. I hope that the world continues to grow and learn so that everyone can be happy being their true self. Videos like this help to keep it moving in the right direction. Bravo.
I loved this video. My mum came out to me in the late 90s. I accepted it right away but other people weren’t so kind to her or me (I was still in school at the time). She married my step-mum and with that came my step-sister who I just class as my sister. Now thanks to their marriage, I have two nieces and a nephew who just see it as the norm that they have two grandmas’ that live together, which I think is amazing. Times have changed so much and it’s great to see how accepting people are now. Keep up the good work guys. I love your vlogs and look forward to watching them each day 😊
Well done guys, my son came out as gay to myself and husband on new years eve 3 years ago he was 21. He said 'I've got something to tell you' then stuttered and couldn't get the words out, I knew what was coming, so told him to take a deep breath and just say it. He did, we were so proud of him, still are, he said it was the hardest thing he ever had to tell us, , We spent the rest of the evening reassuring him that nothing had changed and we still loved him as much as ever had and nothing would ever change that ❤
I've grown up with a gay uncle . I remember when they decided to get married they both said get your hats your going to your 1st gay wedding .( their both in their 60's been together 30 years ). Even my 2 daughters at 3 and 5 were on phone screaming with excitement. They both couldn't give 2 hoots. It was the best day finally seeing them have this amazing wedding which they'd always wanted x
This has melted my heart. You are both very brave to tell your stories, i can imagine it was very difficult at the time. Im so glad that you both found eachother and live a happy life together. Breaks my heart to think some people have a really difficult time to come out and sometimes family not accepting it. Life is all about being yourself and living a life full of love and happiness xx
It's a very hard thing to talk about for me as well. Mine was horrible at first....My mother told me i was going to hell! Yeah its harsh but My mother is a product of the Old South in America. But as the years have gone on after many many conversations and lots of education....she has come around bless her. I don't fault her at all but it's something we definitely had to work through. Thanks for sharing guys!!!
It was 1975. I was 19. I came out to my Mam when I was in bed with chickenpox. She was 55, she always knew (as they do) and couldn't wait for me to get better so she could come dancing in gay clubs with me :)
I was in high school in 1998. I did not have any openly gay friends or teachers. Fast forward to 2020 my kids have openly gay teachers and friends. Times have changed for the better. Everyone deserves to live a happy healthy life.
Thank you for being so brave and open to tell your stories. It breaks my heart that some people still don't feel they're able to do the same and I really hope anyone who watches this gets the courage to open up and be true to themselves. X
Great video guys ❤️❤️ So lovely to hear your stories & as a parent if any of my 4 children came out I would be proud & would just hope they find true love like you guys, your a joy to watch x
Thank you so much for sharing your stories ❤❤ I found it very touching & emotional & wanted to give you both a big ((hug)) my sister is gay and was tormented for years before she came out. Thank God society is changing to accept people for who they are & embrace that person for being themselves. 💗 Have a great week guys xxx
I’m pleased you’ve told your story , it will hopefully help some one to not feel awkward about telling their family . I was in the army and one of my close friends told me she was gay ! I felt for her , because in our day ,if you were gay in the army and they found out you were immediately discharged ! It was a secret, I never told anyone ,because she was a good soldier and loved the army as did I. At least she had some one to talk too! Stay safe guys !
What a great video. You’ve no doubt helped some people bring so candid. My nephew came out last year at 13 but he actually now believes he’s transgender. For the family it’s about educating ourselves so we can support him as it’ll be a few years before he can fully transition. He has been accepted within his friendship group which is a great thing. I just hope & pray that continues. Live your truth and be kind it’s all that matters. 🌈
I absolutely love you guys. Thank you for sharing something so personal. You both looked so nervous and adorable at the same time. I’m happy you both are who you are because you bring happiness to so many people that you don’t even know just from sharing your life with us. Watching your videos is a part of my daily routine and I feel like I know you both. Thank you again for sharing.
Awww guys that was amazing to hear your stories 🥰. I wish everyone that wants to come out and their parents could see this. I have 2 fantastic gay nephews who were bullied dreadfully at school and they've become 2 of the strongest,amazing young men you could meet. You guys are the best and I love hearing your stories. 💙💙 xx
Guys me and my wife loved this video ( both in our 50s) we thought it was soo sweet how u told ur individual stories and we love the daily vlogs and we have loved everything you have done for last two years ( originaly got on to you as planned to go to Florida) keep smiling keep doing what you do ( nick get a cordless drill driver will u)
Thank you both for sharing. I actually cried with laughter at Nicks mum 'have u killed someone’ and Leigh’s story with his mum was so touching. You’re both brilliant 😘
Wow! Thank you for sharing your stories, Nick I could feel the nerves coming from you in the video! I'm so glad you have loving, supportive families. If either of my sons ever comes out they will be greeted with a big hug, I only want them to be happy and to be themselves and God help anybody that says otherwise. Thank you for sharing - very touching x
Hi guys, I always like to watch you before I go to sleep because you always leave me feeling warm and fuzzy inside. And you help me feel calm and happy before I sleep.xx
Back in summer our 12 year older daughter text us to say she was transgender. As soon as I read it I sat in tears, she wasn’t around she was in her room. She had always been a tomboy so I always thought expected something coming. It just took me at the end of a really bad week. Now I accept these feelings, I don’t think she wants to be a boy I have discussed stage idea of sexuality with her and things changed you do not have to label anything! I said to my husband this weekend I don’t want her to feel she has to come to us to come out I want her to know we already know and are happy no matter what.
Bless you both for such an honest vlog. I had a male friend that always went about with our group of girls. Years later I found out he was gay. Lots of things made sense after that. He was such a good friend and that was all that mattered. We are in touch by Facebook now and he lives happily with his partner. I'm so happy for him. X
Great video guys and lovely to hear your stories. Thanks for sharing it. You will help people out there in finding their identity and helping families to support their loved ones. Xx
Binge watched it’s a sin this weekend and the 80s was a scary time ...so glad we have moved forward and you feel comfortable being able to share . Hope this vlog helps anyone who’s afraid to come out x I always new my cousin was gay and when he come out at 18 I was like thank god finally x
Love is love. It doesn’t matter how it is packages. So proud of you both. My nephew came out nearly 20 yrs ago, and I couldn’t have been more proud of him.❤️❤️
I’ve never understood why people in society care, especially when they don’t even know the person. It doesn’t impact their lives either way, so how can they have an opinion? You two are fabulous and I love that Nick was a part of your coming out story and you two are still together 23 years later. How special to share that together. 💗
I'm the proud mum of a child i gave birth to as a boy . He was always camp as it where , loved pretty things , dolls , shoes etc. But Lots of bullying in school and is an only child so had no siblings to confide in . He always had friends and was very popular despite it all . Most of his friends where girls. We have had many ups and downs over the years and he was very tetchy and unruly .. as I thought and when he was 19 we had another Row! Over the phone. I blurted it out "is this got something to do with your sexuality ?" And he said yes ! From that day I assumed he was gay , I cried a lot , but mainly because I was scared for him due to the Hate some people have. I loved him just the same . It made no odds to me cos he was my son and part of my body . ! ❤️ 5 years went by .. and we where all living this life . Him as a gay man and me as a mum of a gay son . No probs. But .. one day I got a text from him out of the blue. .... a long text !! , telling me that he had to let it out that he had been living in the wrong body and has known this since he was 11 ! You can imagine my surprise and the disappointment in myself that I had let him down for all these years. I refer to my son as my daughter now as we go through the hard journey of transition . I had / She had a double whammy and we have a long hard road ahead, but I couldn't be prouder of my brave , courageous, beautiful child . All you mums out there, love your children no matter what . ❤️💋🐥 Well done and Thankyou boys for sharing your story . Haters ...... "to the left!" Xx
You are wonderful role models for anyone who is struggling with their sexuality or how to share it with their families or for any parent who is struggling or worries about what the world will hold for their child . If they look at you two they will have no need to worry just two guys in love sharing a life together something most people strive for. X
Me and Laura are watching live now, we're both big fans of both of you and all things Disney. We watch you both every night, but I never knew one of you were from Barnsley like us :) Another great video, thanks to you both for sharing.
This vlog was beautiful.. I couldn't imagine keeping a secret that big. You both are extremely brave and are very lucky to have such loving family and friends. I think you bring out the bravery in each other, which shows me how much you truly love each other.
Do very brave for you both to share your stories. My partner and I have discussed this countless times in relations to our teenage children. We hope we would be very understanding, supportive and accepting if it happened. We are both very laid back people. My niece came out 2 years ago and the family have been very accepting of her and her partner. Love your vlogs, stay safe and take care ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🤎
💓you guys are so amazingly lovely with your coming out story. I am so glad nearly 2 years ago I stumbled across your channel and have watched and continue to watch your vlogs. I came out in my late teens and I am 49 now. Your sharing of your story will help and support so many people 👍 and you both are so loved by so many. Keep on with the vlogs you both are...well just simply gorgeous. 😁😘
Loved this!.. Laughed out loud at Nick's mum - "have you killed somebody?" 🤣 3 of my cousins are Gay and 2 of them came out to me, I didn't bat an eye, they are still the same people.. it doesn't change a thing to me and our relationships.. people who have a problem it's on them not you!.. My cousin was 18 & had a girlfriend when he met his partner.. they've been together 22 years, married 10 years.. foster a 14yr old and have just adopted 2 brothers aged 2 & 3 years.. so happy for them all 💝
I've just watched this after following you guys for a while, thank you for this. My daughter now 14 came out to me a couple of years ago and deep down I'd always known, she was scared to tell me even tho I'm very open and accepting. I love her more for her strength in what can sometime be a cruel world. Thank fully the world is a little more accepting and I'm so pleased to see more LGBTQ community in the media and the two male dancers on strictly at the moment is a huge step forward. Thank you again x
I absolutely love this! Well done guys! ❤I hope that one day I'll find my special someone and share a similar bond to the one you guys have for eachother! It's so wonderful to see. Thank you for sharing. If I didn't love you before, I do now! Keep up the great work! 🌈 Xx
Another great vlog guys...💖... Thank you both Nick and Leigh... For your complete honesty and sharing your personal 'coming out' stories... I am sure 'mams always know before you tell'... Even with a serious subject... You still manage to make me smile...🙂... Take care and stay safe...😷...
Thanks for sharing. My kids are young and I tell them they can have boyfriends or girlfriend's. I will love them no matter. I have gay friends and I love them. I treat people the way I would like to be treated doesn't matter sexuality or anything else. Be kind to one another x
I have two unofficial sons that I helped to come out to their families. They were both very scared but it worked out well for them both…. Wonderful stories guys You did well guys. Love you guys ❤
Thanks for sharing guys 💞 I have said to my son on the odd occasions that I would never care if you like boys or girls as he is very quiet on that front so mention it just incase. My daughter has gay friends & Transgender friends, they are wonderful humans & always welcome in our house. No hate is welcome here 💞
Brilliant video guys. It resonated a lot with us two. Sadly we are of an age where we kept it a secret from our families, got married to women, had kids and lived the lie. Thankfully now, we are us. Happily married and though we both lost family and friends because of it we are complete.
Extremely brave of you to be completely open and honest about your story. A true inspo to those who are yet to come out, who may be finding it difficult. May you both keep on shining! You should be so proud x
I’m a proud mom to a gay son, and I love to see lovely relationships like yours because they give me hope that he will meet a wonderful man someday. Thank you for sharing your stories!
So great of you to share your stories, I can’t believe Nicks Mum thought he may have killed somebody lol. Nicks expressions were hilarious while Leigh was telling his story xxx.
Love this coming out story me and my wife found it hard coming out and confined in friends before family but thanks for sharing guys means a lot ❤️ you are both amazing together and really well suited xxx
Isn't it strange looking back how times have changed. As a parent I can say it would honestly not have bothered me one iota if my kids had been gay. I hope your video has helped anyone struggling with their sexuality .I do think you ought to write a screen at about your coming out stories though! 😗🤣🤣
Just watched tonights vlog and just have to say how amazing you both are sharing your stories and giving advice on how to behave as a parent/relative when somone comes out - not that it should even be a thing anymore but unfortunately there are still some that say its ‘wrong’ - love is love no matter who you love, keep being your wonderful selves 💞
I hope it’s easier for people to be who they are these days. As a straight man I will never know how hard it has been for people to be accepted for who they are. Good job though on showing what a healthy relationship looks like. 🙂
This is such a touching vlog. Thank you for sharing such personal stories. I can imagine this helping so many people struggling to come out. I just feel like giving you both a hug! I can’t imagine the turmoil and fear gay people must go through when deliberating about when to come out. It has given me a real insight. X
Aw you two. Thank you for sharing your coming out stories. My niece has not long come out as thinking she’s gay, she was so nervous but she said how glad she was she lives in this day and age cos it is more “normal” Love watching you guys everyday and this just made me enjoy the pair of you even more. ☺️
What a lovely story, really enjoyed listening to you. Made me laugh when Leigh blurted it out and ran upstairs. Your story will help so many people who, even in this day and age, are scared to say how they really feel.....look at Philip Schofield. Well done guys.
I've been eagerly awaiting this vlog since you mentioned doing it in a previous vlog. Loved this video. Thanks for sharing. It is a very personal issue but glad you felt ready to tell us Lodgers. Love you two 😁 ❤️
To quote Lin Manuel Miranda when he accepted his Tony award for Hamilton, “love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love.” Thank you guys for such honesty and your bravery to share your stories. I love you both more today than yesterday! ❤️🤟💕🌈
@thelodgeguy-nick @thelodgeguy-leigh I respect you for your latest video I've not long come out as bi it was hard before as I was married to a woman and really new I had feelings for both but I was to scared to admit it then now me and her have split and trying to get an divorce now. I'm now free and again thanks for the video.
Listening to you two is touching,great stories,I am surprised the two of you both waited so long to tell anyone but I guess it was harder back then for exceptance,,everyone loves you guys,,Leigh your story is so adorable I laughed everyone should just be who they are thanks for sharing guys see you tomorrow ❤
Wow. Thank you for covering this. There will come a day when people don't have to "come out". I hate that phrase. You are what you are, your life is your own and NOBODY had the right to say how you live it. (Unless it's hurting others). Love you guys. You are amazing ❤
This was quite emotional to watch, it was great to hear both of your stories . Leigh, I am so sorry you had such a tough time with it , well done and thank you for sharing your stories, and it may help others 🌈💕
My wife and I had two very different coming out stories: (K)hers was very much, 'this is me' and pretty much everyone was like yeah duh, and we're supportive. (S)mine was a struggle for many years with some close family members and made those relationships strained for many years. Friends were very supportive and kept me going. I can only hope that like you say; it's much easier for young people to be who they are without having to 'come out' because it will just be normal for someone to be with who ever they want to be with.
Loved this so much. Thank you for sharing - it felt like an episode from a soap, it was gripping stuff and so tense as you said how you revealed. Stay true to you you gorgeous pair 😘 and safe 😘😘😘
I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult at the age of 45. ADHD is not something one chooses; it’s a neurodevelopmental condition that typically originates in the womb. It involves differences in brain function, including lower than average levels of dopamine, a neurotransmitter that plays a key role in attention and motivation. To manage this, I now take supplements to help regulate my dopamine levels. Similarly, sexual orientation is not a choice; it’s an inherent part of who we are. As science advances, we increasingly understand that many aspects of our behavior and identity, including ADHD and sexual orientation, are influenced by complex biological and chemical processes. For instance, research suggests that a variety of factors, including genetics and prenatal environment, can influence sexual orientation. It must be incredibly challenging to come out, especially in a society that often pressures individuals to conform to certain norms. Our fear of going against the grain is deeply ingrained, but it’s important to remember that we are biological beings, shaped by both our genetics and our environment. Just as machines have mechanical functions, our bodies and brains function based on intricate biological processes.
Just watched the vlog. It was lovely to hear your story. I've had people coming out to me and I've found it awkward. Not because they are gay it's that I dont care they are gay but I know it was difficult for them to come out. I'm never sure how to react and dont want to just brush that moment off for them.
What response had you imagined you would get? And how do you feel about the reactions you got? It makes me sad really that people still have to come out at all because I wouldn’t come out as being straight 🤷🏼♀️ but as a mam I hope my babies know I love them to bits and they can tell me anything 🥰
Thanks for telling your stories could see how hard this was even now. I am not gay but have friends who are and one in particular I knew from a young age that he preferred boys . It was hard for him but suddenly a new friend appeared and we all just accepted them as they were. I was a case of so what ...this was in the 60s .
I think this was the best video to come I really enjoyed your honesty and sincerity but it was so funny watching you both squirm I am so glad you found each other one of your biggest fans ❣️💕💞
Loved this vlog! Can I ask if you had relationships with other people before u met each other or was u each other’s first relationship? Hope that makes sense x
I knew my son was gay from about the age of three. It all came to light when he was thirteen and I accidentally saw a message from him to his cousin saying that he thought he was bi-sexual, so I asked him about it and said that I’d known since he was a little boy. He later came out as gay. He’s nearly 22 now and is happy and proud of who he is, as are we. No child should have to be ashamed of their sexuality or be afraid. To live your truth is so very important. Thank you guys for sharing your very special and intimate stories. Big loves xxx
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I can’t wait for a day in the future where people don’t have to “come out”. Straight people don’t have to come out as straight and it pains my soul people have to state their sexuality. Love is love❤️. Love you guys!
Thank you guys for sharing and for expressing the turmoil a young person lives with. We had a family member come out at age 22 and his parents disowned him. He disappeared. It was heartbreaking. My husband and I were able to find him. He was safe but so depressed. He found a safe place with us. At the time my two were 5 and 3 years. From then on all we wanted was for our two to be happy in their lives. It took years but his parents finally accepted him. He is now 45 and happily married to a lovely man.
I smiled all the way through this video, my son came out at 13 to me, like you nick he came down stairs opened the fridge and started crying, so I panicked and was shouting what’s wrong what’s wrong.......... he finally said mum I’m gay! I was like I know that but what’s wrong........ I’ve always known and he has amazing friends who all accept him, but my mums the funniest she’s 74 and so proud to have a gay grandson, she thinks every family should have 1 🙄. His boyfriend is in a completely different situation unfortunately, he’s tried to come out but his dad shaved his hair off and hit him, it’s so sad, but he has our support xx
My daughter aged 11 passed me a note to tell me she preferred girls to boys, she pushed it under the door and went back to bed. By the time I saw it she was asleep. So the next day I knew she would feel a little awkward, she asked me if I'd seen the note, I said I had, and bless her she asked me if it was alright. I told her of course it was. All I ever want for my children is for them to be happy. Within the hour she was then telling her grandparents and her closest friends. It is a privilege to be told this and it must feel like that for a moment your whole world could change. But as I've followed you guys for years she felt that I was open to the idea of her being gay. Wonderful video Leigh and Nick.😊
When I was going upto senior school my dad came to speak to me and my sister to tell us he was gay, I was was upset but I werent upset because he was gay I was upset/worried about what friends would say because at my age back then kids were nasty... but I was wrong everyone was fine so that was a huge relief. My dad was 35 when he came out. Hes 60 now and married. I love him to bits for who he is x
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I was the same, I had just started senior school when I realised my mum was gay and her girlfriend moved in. It was so difficult at school, I was bullied so much for it. I’m glad everyone took it well for you.
I’m so relieved that times have changed. Love is love, gender doesn’t matter x
What a great post. Xx
My son came out at my 40th Birthday party. Thanks xx
I think I knew he was from as early at 2 yrs old.
All I can say is that all I ever wanted for all of my 3 children. Was for them to be Happy and healthy
I feel blessed that they all are.
His journey was not easy. But he has survived. And is a stronger person for it of which I am so immensely proud.
Sadly not every parent , family and so called friend is so understanding
But be brave be strong we are all what we are.
Prejudice comes in all shapes and and forms.
Every life matters xx
Thank you so much for sharing your stories with us guys. I came out as Trans to my Mum in 2005 at age 14. I did something similar to Leigh and used a notebook to write to her. We went back and forth writing to each other in this notebook for a couple of days until we finally spoke in person. She found it difficult at first but is now my biggest supporter, she even joined Manchester Parents Group and now helps other parents to support their LGBTQ kids.
I think it’s really brave and noble that you’ve shared you story even though it’s private and you weren’t totally comfortable, but for the sake of someone who might need to hear it to feel more comfortable with their own situation. My nephew came out about a year ago and I was so happy to hear him say that he was never worried about what people would think and never had negative feelings about who he was. I hope that the world continues to grow and learn so that everyone can be happy being their true self. Videos like this help to keep it moving in the right direction. Bravo.
I loved this video. My mum came out to me in the late 90s. I accepted it right away but other people weren’t so kind to her or me (I was still in school at the time). She married my step-mum and with that came my step-sister who I just class as my sister. Now thanks to their marriage, I have two nieces and a nephew who just see it as the norm that they have two grandmas’ that live together, which I think is amazing. Times have changed so much and it’s great to see how accepting people are now. Keep up the good work guys. I love your vlogs and look forward to watching them each day 😊
My son came out to me and although it hadn't occurred to me I just hugged him and said I loved him and nothing changes. I think they were 18
Well done guys, my son came out as gay to myself and husband on new years eve 3 years ago he was 21. He said 'I've got something to tell you' then stuttered and couldn't get the words out, I knew what was coming, so told him to take a deep breath and just say it. He did, we were so proud of him, still are, he said it was the hardest thing he ever had to tell us, , We spent the rest of the evening reassuring him that nothing had changed and we still loved him as much as ever had and nothing would ever change that ❤
I've grown up with a gay uncle . I remember when they decided to get married they both said get your hats your going to your 1st gay wedding .( their both in their 60's been together 30 years ). Even my 2 daughters at 3 and 5 were on phone screaming with excitement. They both couldn't give 2 hoots. It was the best day finally seeing them have this amazing wedding which they'd always wanted x
This has melted my heart. You are both very brave to tell your stories, i can imagine it was very difficult at the time. Im so glad that you both found eachother and live a happy life together. Breaks my heart to think some people have a really difficult time to come out and sometimes family not accepting it. Life is all about being yourself and living a life full of love and happiness xx
It's a very hard thing to talk about for me as well. Mine was horrible at first....My mother told me i was going to hell! Yeah its harsh but My mother is a product of the Old South in America. But as the years have gone on after many many conversations and lots of education....she has come around bless her. I don't fault her at all but it's something we definitely had to work through. Thanks for sharing guys!!!
It was 1975. I was 19. I came out to my Mam when I was in bed with chickenpox. She was 55, she always knew (as they do) and couldn't wait for me to get better so she could come dancing in gay clubs with me :)
I was in high school in 1998. I did not have any openly gay friends or teachers. Fast forward to 2020 my kids have openly gay teachers and friends. Times have changed for the better. Everyone deserves to live a happy healthy life.
Thank you for being so brave and open to tell your stories. It breaks my heart that some people still don't feel they're able to do the same and I really hope anyone who watches this gets the courage to open up and be true to themselves. X
Great video guys ❤️❤️
So lovely to hear your stories & as a parent if any of my 4 children came out I would be proud & would just hope they find true love like you guys, your a joy to watch x
V touching and honest vlog. Love and respect 💞
Thank you so much for sharing your stories ❤❤ I found it very touching & emotional & wanted to give you both a big ((hug)) my sister is gay and was tormented for years before she came out. Thank God society is changing to accept people for who they are & embrace that person for being themselves. 💗 Have a great week guys xxx
I’m pleased you’ve told your story , it will hopefully help some one to not feel awkward about telling their family . I was in the army and one of my close friends told me she was gay ! I felt for her , because in our day ,if you were gay in the army and they found out you were immediately discharged ! It was a secret, I never told anyone ,because she was a good soldier and loved the army as did I. At least she had some one to talk too! Stay safe guys !
What a great video. You’ve no doubt helped some people bring so candid. My nephew came out last year at 13 but he actually now believes he’s transgender. For the family it’s about educating ourselves so we can support him as it’ll be a few years before he can fully transition. He has been accepted within his friendship group which is a great thing. I just hope & pray that continues. Live your truth and be kind it’s all that matters. 🌈
I absolutely love you guys. Thank you for sharing something so personal. You both looked so nervous and adorable at the same time. I’m happy you both are who you are because you bring happiness to so many people that you don’t even know just from sharing your life with us. Watching your videos is a part of my daily routine and I feel like I know you both. Thank you again for sharing.
Awww guys that was amazing to hear your stories 🥰. I wish everyone that wants to come out and their parents could see this.
I have 2 fantastic gay nephews who were bullied dreadfully at school and they've become 2 of the strongest,amazing young men you could meet.
You guys are the best and I love hearing your stories. 💙💙 xx
Beautiful and touching guys! Thank you for sharing this with all of us.
Guys me and my wife loved this video ( both in our 50s) we thought it was soo sweet how u told ur individual stories and we love the daily vlogs and we have loved everything you have done for last two years ( originaly got on to you as planned to go to Florida) keep smiling keep doing what you do ( nick get a cordless drill driver will u)
Thank you both for sharing.
I actually cried with laughter at Nicks mum 'have u killed someone’ and Leigh’s story with his mum was so touching.
You’re both brilliant 😘
Wow! Thank you for sharing your stories, Nick I could feel the nerves coming from you in the video! I'm so glad you have loving, supportive families. If either of my sons ever comes out they will be greeted with a big hug, I only want them to be happy and to be themselves and God help anybody that says otherwise. Thank you for sharing - very touching x
Hi guys, I always like to watch you before I go to sleep because you always leave me feeling warm and fuzzy inside. And you help me feel calm and happy before I sleep.xx
Yes me too watch on iPad in bed before going to sleep
Back in summer our 12 year older daughter text us to say she was transgender. As soon as I read it I sat in tears, she wasn’t around she was in her room. She had always been a tomboy so I always thought expected something coming. It just took me at the end of a really bad week. Now I accept these feelings, I don’t think she wants to be a boy I have discussed stage idea of sexuality with her and things changed you do not have to label anything! I said to my husband this weekend I don’t want her to feel she has to come to us to come out I want her to know we already know and are happy no matter what.
Bless you both for such an honest vlog. I had a male friend that always went about with our group of girls. Years later I found out he was gay. Lots of things made sense after that. He was such a good friend and that was all that mattered. We are in touch by Facebook now and he lives happily with his partner. I'm so happy for him. X
Great video guys and lovely to hear your stories. Thanks for sharing it. You will help people out there in finding their identity and helping families to support their loved ones. Xx
Binge watched it’s a sin this weekend and the 80s was a scary time ...so glad we have moved forward and you feel comfortable being able to share . Hope this vlog helps anyone who’s afraid to come out x I always new my cousin was gay and when he come out at 18 I was like thank god finally x
Love is love. It doesn’t matter how it is packages. So proud of you both. My nephew came out nearly 20 yrs ago, and I couldn’t have been more proud of him.❤️❤️
I’ve never understood why people in society care, especially when they don’t even know the person. It doesn’t impact their lives either way, so how can they have an opinion? You two are fabulous and I love that Nick was a part of your coming out story and you two are still together 23 years later. How special to share that together. 💗
Thanks for sharing that with us and being so honest. Love is love ❤️
I'm the proud mum of a child i gave birth to as a boy . He was always camp as it where , loved pretty things , dolls , shoes etc. But Lots of bullying in school and is an only child so had no siblings to confide in . He always had friends and was very popular despite it all . Most of his friends where girls.
We have had many ups and downs over the years and he was very tetchy and unruly .. as I thought and when he was 19 we had another Row! Over the phone. I blurted it out "is this got something to do with your sexuality ?" And he said yes ! From that day I assumed he was gay , I cried a lot , but mainly because I was scared for him due to the Hate some people have. I loved him just the same . It made no odds to me cos he was my son and part of my body . ! ❤️
5 years went by .. and we where all living this life . Him as a gay man and me as a mum of a gay son . No probs.
But .. one day I got a text from him out of the blue. .... a long text !! , telling me that he had to let it out that he had been living in the wrong body and has known this since he was 11 !
You can imagine my surprise and the disappointment in myself that I had let him down for all these years.
I refer to my son as my daughter now as we go through the hard journey of transition .
I had / She had a double whammy and we have a long hard road ahead, but I couldn't be prouder of my brave , courageous, beautiful child .
All you mums out there, love your children no matter what . ❤️💋🐥
Well done and Thankyou boys for sharing your story .
Haters ...... "to the left!" Xx
Hi Guys, Have you ever had any difficulties in America being a same sex couple? 🤔
You are wonderful role models for anyone who is struggling with their sexuality or how to share it with their families or for any parent who is struggling or worries about what the world will hold for their child . If they look at you two they will have no need to worry just two guys in love sharing a life together something most people strive for. X
Me and Laura are watching live now, we're both big fans of both of you and all things Disney. We watch you both every night, but I never knew one of you were from Barnsley like us :)
Another great video, thanks to you both for sharing.
This vlog was beautiful.. I couldn't imagine keeping a secret that big. You both are extremely brave and are very lucky to have such loving family and friends. I think you bring out the bravery in each other, which shows me how much you truly love each other.
Thank you so much!
Do very brave for you both to share your stories. My partner and I have discussed this countless times in relations to our teenage children. We hope we would be very understanding, supportive and accepting if it happened. We are both very laid back people. My niece came out 2 years ago and the family have been very accepting of her and her partner. Love your vlogs, stay safe and take care ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🤎
💓you guys are so amazingly lovely with your coming out story. I am so glad nearly 2 years ago I stumbled across your channel and have watched and continue to watch your vlogs. I came out in my late teens and I am 49 now. Your sharing of your story will help and support so many people 👍 and you both are so loved by so many. Keep on with the vlogs you both are...well just simply gorgeous. 😁😘
Loved this!..
Laughed out loud at Nick's mum - "have you killed somebody?" 🤣
3 of my cousins are Gay and 2 of them came out to me, I didn't bat an eye, they are still the same people.. it doesn't change a thing to me and our relationships.. people who have a problem it's on them not you!..
My cousin was 18 & had a girlfriend when he met his partner.. they've been together 22 years, married 10 years.. foster a 14yr old and have just adopted 2 brothers aged 2 & 3 years.. so happy for them all 💝
I'm glad you guys talked about it you guys will help some one who is afraid to tell there parents you guys are awesome
I've just watched this after following you guys for a while, thank you for this. My daughter now 14 came out to me a couple of years ago and deep down I'd always known, she was scared to tell me even tho I'm very open and accepting. I love her more for her strength in what can sometime be a cruel world. Thank fully the world is a little more accepting and I'm so pleased to see more LGBTQ community in the media and the two male dancers on strictly at the moment is a huge step forward. Thank you again x
So lovely, well done guys. Two beautiful stories. I hope many others can be so lucky. xx
I absolutely love this! Well done guys! ❤I hope that one day I'll find my special someone and share a similar bond to the one you guys have for eachother! It's so wonderful to see. Thank you for sharing. If I didn't love you before, I do now! Keep up the great work! 🌈 Xx
Another great vlog guys...💖... Thank you both Nick and Leigh... For your complete honesty and sharing your personal 'coming out' stories... I am sure 'mams always know before you tell'...
Even with a serious subject... You still manage to make me smile...🙂... Take care and stay safe...😷...
Thanks for sharing. My kids are young and I tell them they can have boyfriends or girlfriend's. I will love them no matter. I have gay friends and I love them. I treat people the way I would like to be treated doesn't matter sexuality or anything else. Be kind to one another x
I have two unofficial sons that I helped to come out to their families. They were both very scared but it worked out well for them both…. Wonderful stories guys You did well guys. Love you guys ❤
Thanks for sharing guys 💞 I have said to my son on the odd occasions that I would never care if you like boys or girls as he is very quiet on that front so mention it just incase. My daughter has gay friends & Transgender friends, they are wonderful humans & always welcome in our house. No hate is welcome here 💞
You guys have a very close relationship and it's enjoyable to see you together.
Loved these stories, you’re both amazing guys, thanks for sharing your stories.
You’ve just made us love you even more 😍🥰❤️
Brilliant video guys. It resonated a lot with us two. Sadly we are of an age where we kept it a secret from our families, got married to women, had kids and lived the lie. Thankfully now, we are us. Happily married and though we both lost family and friends because of it we are complete.
Extremely brave of you to be completely open and honest about your story. A true inspo to those who are yet to come out, who may be finding it difficult. May you both keep on shining! You should be so proud x
I’m a proud mom to a gay son, and I love to see lovely relationships like yours because they give me hope that he will meet a wonderful man someday. Thank you for sharing your stories!
So great of you to share your stories, I can’t believe Nicks Mum thought he may have killed somebody lol. Nicks expressions were hilarious while Leigh was telling his story xxx.
Thanks for sharing something so personal... love to you both ... be well
Love how your both so honest, 2 brave boys 😘
Love this coming out story me and my wife found it hard coming out and confined in friends before family but thanks for sharing guys means a lot ❤️ you are both amazing together and really well suited xxx
Isn't it strange looking back how times have changed. As a parent I can say it would honestly not have bothered me one iota if my kids had been gay. I hope your video has helped anyone struggling with their sexuality .I do think you ought to write a screen at about your coming out stories though! 😗🤣🤣
Just watched tonights vlog and just have to say how amazing you both are sharing your stories and giving advice on how to behave as a parent/relative when somone comes out - not that it should even be a thing anymore but unfortunately there are still some that say its ‘wrong’ - love is love no matter who you love, keep being your wonderful selves 💞
I hope it’s easier for people to be who they are these days. As a straight man I will never know how hard it has been for people to be accepted for who they are. Good job though on showing what a healthy relationship looks like. 🙂
This is such a touching vlog. Thank you for sharing such personal stories. I can imagine this helping so many people struggling to come out. I just feel like giving you both a hug! I can’t imagine the turmoil and fear gay people must go through when deliberating about when to come out. It has given me a real insight. X
Aw you two. Thank you for sharing your coming out stories. My niece has not long come out as thinking she’s gay, she was so nervous but she said how glad she was she lives in this day and age cos it is more “normal”
Love watching you guys everyday and this just made me enjoy the pair of you even more. ☺️
What a lovely story, really enjoyed listening to you. Made me laugh when Leigh blurted it out and ran upstairs. Your story will help so many people who, even in this day and age, are scared to say how they really feel.....look at Philip Schofield. Well done guys.
Sharing some love on the main video guys! Thanks again for sharing your personal experiences ❤️💛💗💚🧡💜💙 xx
I've been eagerly awaiting this vlog since you mentioned doing it in a previous vlog. Loved this video. Thanks for sharing. It is a very personal issue but glad you felt ready to tell us Lodgers. Love you two 😁 ❤️
To quote Lin Manuel Miranda when he accepted his Tony award for Hamilton, “love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love.” Thank you guys for such honesty and your bravery to share your stories. I love you both more today than yesterday! ❤️🤟💕🌈
Aww this video will help so many , been watching you guys from your very first vlogs , well done both x
@thelodgeguy-nick @thelodgeguy-leigh I respect you for your latest video I've not long come out as bi it was hard before as I was married to a woman and really new I had feelings for both but I was to scared to admit it then now me and her have split and trying to get an divorce now. I'm now free and again thanks for the video.
Hope things work out for you Gordon. You know where we are if you ever want to message us
@@TheLodgeGuys thanks guys if you want to use my comment please do.
Thank you so much for this, it is exactly what I needed❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Listening to you two is touching,great stories,I am surprised the two of you both waited so long to tell anyone but I guess it was harder back then for exceptance,,everyone loves you guys,,Leigh your story is so adorable I laughed everyone should just be who they are thanks for sharing guys see you tomorrow ❤
👏 👏 well done guys. x
Wow. Thank you for covering this. There will come a day when people don't have to "come out". I hate that phrase. You are what you are, your life is your own and NOBODY had the right to say how you live it. (Unless it's hurting others).
Love you guys. You are amazing ❤
Leigh , your innocence is so touching 😌😌😌
Thanks for sharing only met you guys this week from watching your Anthem of the Seas video love you guys
This was quite emotional to watch, it was great to hear both of your stories . Leigh, I am so sorry you had such a tough time with it , well done and thank you for sharing your stories, and it may help others 🌈💕
My wife and I had two very different coming out stories: (K)hers was very much, 'this is me' and pretty much everyone was like yeah duh, and we're supportive. (S)mine was a struggle for many years with some close family members and made those relationships strained for many years. Friends were very supportive and kept me going. I can only hope that like you say; it's much easier for young people to be who they are without having to 'come out' because it will just be normal for someone to be with who ever they want to be with.
Loved this so much. Thank you for sharing - it felt like an episode from a soap, it was gripping stuff and so tense as you said how you revealed.
Stay true to you you gorgeous pair 😘 and safe 😘😘😘
I love you guys! Thank you so much for sharing your stories ♥️!!
I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult at the age of 45. ADHD is not something one chooses; it’s a neurodevelopmental condition that typically originates in the womb. It involves differences in brain function, including lower than average levels of dopamine, a neurotransmitter that plays a key role in attention and motivation. To manage this, I now take supplements to help regulate my dopamine levels.
Similarly, sexual orientation is not a choice; it’s an inherent part of who we are. As science advances, we increasingly understand that many aspects of our behavior and identity, including ADHD and sexual orientation, are influenced by complex biological and chemical processes. For instance, research suggests that a variety of factors, including genetics and prenatal environment, can influence sexual orientation.
It must be incredibly challenging to come out, especially in a society that often pressures individuals to conform to certain norms. Our fear of going against the grain is deeply ingrained, but it’s important to remember that we are biological beings, shaped by both our genetics and our environment. Just as machines have mechanical functions, our bodies and brains function based on intricate biological processes.
Thanks for sharing.
🥰 Guys! What a great vlog! Me and my hubby love you both! Such a great video and you seem to be a great couple! 👬x
Very good video, reminded me a bit of TH-cam’s Rose & Rosie coming out story ❤
Thanx for sharing your story..all best wishes..I care...
Great coming out video, great stories. Neil and I both came out about 25 years ago.
Neil & Matthew(a.k.a. The Canuck Crew)
Thank you both for sharing your personal stories with us. I hope it can help anyone to feel free to live as their true selves
Thank you so much for sharing such a personal story. Love to you guys.
Thanks for watching!
You guys are absolutely phenomenal I loved this vlog and will say it again my fave TH-cam couple 🤍🤍🤍
Just watched the vlog. It was lovely to hear your story. I've had people coming out to me and I've found it awkward. Not because they are gay it's that I dont care they are gay but I know it was difficult for them to come out. I'm never sure how to react and dont want to just brush that moment off for them.
What response had you imagined you would get? And how do you feel about the reactions you got?
It makes me sad really that people still have to come out at all because I wouldn’t come out as being straight 🤷🏼♀️ but as a mam I hope my babies know I love them to bits and they can tell me anything 🥰
Thank you for being so honest to us. It makes us love you more xx
Thanks for telling your stories could see how hard this was even now.
I am not gay but have friends who are and one in particular I knew from a young age that he preferred boys . It was hard for him but suddenly a new friend appeared and we all just accepted them as they were. I was a case of so what ...this was in the 60s .
I think this was the best video to come I really enjoyed your honesty and sincerity but it was so funny watching you both squirm I am so glad you found each other one of your biggest fans ❣️💕💞
Great Vlog Guys, you two are awesome and very inspiring. 💙
Loved this vlog! Can I ask if you had relationships with other people before u met each other or was u each other’s first relationship? Hope that makes sense x
Beautiful stories,your a awesome couple 🙂