I have learned to train my mind to create peace and happiness in the moment, even if everything is not perfect in the moment, and it truly has made a difference in my life. As you say, all of those future situations are just mirages in the desert. They do not exist, and if we put our energy into those mirages we lose the current moment. Thanks for another great video.
I know I’m beating a dead horse here but if you truly want to be happy you have to introduce coffee into your life. Sadly that was not mentioned in the video Rob and I can’t even give it any credibility now. Quit deferring caffeine and you quit deferring happiness… that simple really.
No horses, alive or dead, need to be harmed my friend. It was a simple mistake as I had not finished my coffee yet and I figured by including a "coffee mug" in the video slower people such as... umm yourself, would understand that coffee is indeed necessary. Bottoms up my friend!
Wonderful! Struck at just the right time for me. I often suffer DHS and this video gave context and allowed me to examine myself from the outside. I’m trying to start a small bookshop in my little harbour town, and the DHS is raging fiercely as I sort through the issues to get a business going and the risks that come with it. I am also working on my fitness and trying to get my Substack writing some attention. You really gave me a clear way to examine these challenges and the inherent difficulties I’m bringing to them. Thank you!
Having worked in a lot of bookshops, my advice to you is make sure your bookshop has an online presence. In fact, an online presence is really all you need. You could very well find the physical bookshop to be a drag on your online business. Best of luck!
I am glad this video could help! And I have dreams of a coffee shop bookstore hybrid so that is so cool to hear! I wish you all the luck and success and if I ever get up that way I would love to stop in and check it out. Thanks so much for watching and stay blessed my friend!
Happiness is a trip to the used book store and finding a boatload of classics for $.05 and $.10 each. Speaking of classics, boats, and happiness, have you read Three Men in a Boat by Jerome K Jerome? If not I highly recommennd it to offset some of the heavy stuff. Its laugh out loud funny and a quick read. I'm almost finished the free kindle version and ordered a nice copy for my husband for our anniversary because I think it was written about us 70-80 years before we were born. Don't worry, be happy and have a great week. Blessings,
I love that!! Haha sounds like a date night my wife and I would go on. I will have to look that book up and check it out. I have not heard of it. Thanks so much for watching and as always, stay blessed my friend!
Great suggestions about keeping a journal and writing your progress (or failures down). Loved the illustration of the door closing. Be aware that elation (extreme happiness) and depression are closely linked; balance is needed.
I agree. The mismanagement of happiness can indeed be linked to depression. Happiness in the more modern sense especially so. Thanks for watching my friend a stay blessed!
One dangerous secret to "happiness" is idealized in Thus Spake Zarathustra and mentioned in Catch 22. You may attain all the happiness one wants by selectively abandoning ethics, morality, and principles; only as long as one is careful not to be seen abandoning them by others. It raises questions about happiness and meaning. When we say yes to what we want, we often say no to what ought.
Happiness in the broadest sense is just the pursuit of the good or just. The Republic by Plato refutes this stance on happiness. Happiness without ethics or morals is not happiness at all. Happiness derives from the pursuit of the good and just. True happiness is the search for illumination. I can somewhat wrap my head around Nietzsche's points but I think he is off on his conclusions. That is a deep hole to go down and I am not sure I am at the stage yet to pursue it as deep as they have. I will need to finish more of Plato's works before I have any chance of completely understanding Nietzsche. I do enjoy you sharing this and making me think though. Stay blessed my friend!
Plato was exactly what came to mind when reading the OPs paraphrasing. Thoroughly refutes this stance, and as you know, I’m not even a big fan of Plato 😅
I have yet to read it but I have it on my list. It appears in every must read book list and I am ashamed I have not got to it yet. It may be “deferred” until next year. Haha
I can understand that. It is so close to the end of the year too. What is the price we pay for happiness? I would struggle with that one as well. I wish you the best of luck my friend and I hope you do what is right by you. Truly appreciate you watching and stay blessed.
For me my happiness was and still is finding out that I’m a new creature in Christ and given the gift of eternal life after that everything else felt new and satisfying. I would recommend Christ because the joy of being saved is a truth to experience
A very good place to find happiness. I think of it as the blessed journey. As long as you are keeping up and pursuing the path to be more like Christ you will continue to grow. Wonderful comment and thanks so much for watching. Stay blessed my friend!
I wonder if this phenomenon is just as common in all parts of the world. I mean, obviously, this is sort of a first-world problem, as the saying goes. But here I’m thinking of places like The Netherlands. I saw a video recently with a person who had lived her first 20 years in the U.S. and then ten in The Netherlands. She was discussing the relative health levels of the Dutch vs. Americans. We appear to be addicted to the “crazy busy” life. And this isn’t saying that the Dutch don’t work hard, but that they don’t put such a prize on it. I know that during the last decade or so of my work life (software), I was quite miserable and just could not figure out a way to compartmentalize work life vs. the rest. Maybe this kind of thing will become less common over time as younger people seem to be much more interested in a better work/life balance.
Happiness isn't a goal; it's a by-product of a purpose-driven life. I don't know at what point Western societies decided that happiness was an end unto itself to be pursued, certainly my immigrant grandparents or parents never had this strange fixation on happiness.
The term happiness can be used in many ways but I am referring to it as the founding fathers would have. Where it relates more to purpose. Western philosophy is based on the pursuit of the "good" and "just" which is, in my opinion, where happiness resides. If your ancestors immigrated like mine you can best believe it was because they were searching for something more that would provide a deeper state of happiness than that which they were leaving. The pursuit of happiness (purpose, fulfillment, the good) is the carrot that dangles in front of us all. And most will pursue it even if it means crossing oceans and leaving home.
I don’t believe we are. We are a community based species and actually do not fair well on our own in most cases. I am an introvert and can sit on the back porch in silence and read all day and it will not bother me but to live life alone would be hard. Most good things in life come in waves and cycles. If you could be happy all the time then it would turn to satisfaction or content. Very good point and got me thinking! Thanks for watching and stay blessed!
@@The_Cause Thank you for your kind reply. I'm mid 40's and I've been alone all my adult life and lot of people just say to "be happy alone" if only it was that easy, I've had a very messed up life. I brought a set of the Great Books a few weeks ago, I hope I can find some piece reading them.
are we not just talking about "depression" which has plagued and has grown in our world for quite some time, and more than likely at a peak in todays culture?
“Micro-dose the happiness” - Great Stuff Rob.
Thanks so much brother! I truly appreciate you tuning in and stay blessed!
I needed this today, very much.
Glad to hear it was helpful and I wish you the best on your journey my friend. Thanks for watching and stay blessed!
Great words of wisdom
Yes indeed! Now if only I can head the advice myself! haha Thanks for watching brother!
I have learned to train my mind to create peace and happiness in the moment, even if everything is not perfect in the moment, and it truly has made a difference in my life. As you say, all of those future situations are just mirages in the desert. They do not exist, and if we put our energy into those mirages we lose the current moment. Thanks for another great video.
I know I’m beating a dead horse here but if you truly want to be happy you have to introduce coffee into your life. Sadly that was not mentioned in the video Rob and I can’t even give it any credibility now. Quit deferring caffeine and you quit deferring happiness… that simple really.
No horses, alive or dead, need to be harmed my friend. It was a simple mistake as I had not finished my coffee yet and I figured by including a "coffee mug" in the video slower people such as... umm yourself, would understand that coffee is indeed necessary. Bottoms up my friend!
Wonderful! Struck at just the right time for me. I often suffer DHS and this video gave context and allowed me to examine myself from the outside. I’m trying to start a small bookshop in my little harbour town, and the DHS is raging fiercely as I sort through the issues to get a business going and the risks that come with it. I am also working on my fitness and trying to get my Substack writing some attention. You really gave me a clear way to examine these challenges and the inherent difficulties I’m bringing to them. Thank you!
Having worked in a lot of bookshops, my advice to you is make sure your bookshop has an online presence. In fact, an online presence is really all you need. You could very well find the physical bookshop to be a drag on your online business. Best of luck!
I am glad this video could help! And I have dreams of a coffee shop bookstore hybrid so that is so cool to hear! I wish you all the luck and success and if I ever get up that way I would love to stop in and check it out. Thanks so much for watching and stay blessed my friend!
Coffee...daily grind. Those being said, unrelated, in the same thought, gave me happiness.
haha yes indeed! I did not even realize that until now. Thanks for watching and stay blessed my friend!
There's a coffee shop in my town that's actually called The Daily Grind.
@The_Cause Thank you my friend. You too!
A very fitting name to the business! Haha
Happiness is a trip to the used book store and finding a boatload of classics for $.05 and $.10 each. Speaking of classics, boats, and happiness, have you read Three Men in a Boat by Jerome K Jerome? If not I highly recommennd it to offset some of the heavy stuff. Its laugh out loud funny and a quick read. I'm almost finished the free kindle version and ordered a nice copy for my husband for our anniversary because I think it was written about us 70-80 years before we were born.
Don't worry, be happy and have a great week. Blessings,
I love that!! Haha sounds like a date night my wife and I would go on. I will have to look that book up and check it out. I have not heard of it. Thanks so much for watching and as always, stay blessed my friend!
Great suggestions about keeping a journal and writing your progress (or failures down). Loved the illustration of the door closing. Be aware that elation (extreme happiness) and depression are closely linked; balance is needed.
I agree. The mismanagement of happiness can indeed be linked to depression. Happiness in the more modern sense especially so. Thanks for watching my friend a stay blessed!
One dangerous secret to "happiness" is idealized in Thus Spake Zarathustra and mentioned in Catch 22. You may attain all the happiness one wants by selectively abandoning ethics, morality, and principles; only as long as one is careful not to be seen abandoning them by others. It raises questions about happiness and meaning. When we say yes to what we want, we often say no to what ought.
Happiness in the broadest sense is just the pursuit of the good or just. The Republic by Plato refutes this stance on happiness. Happiness without ethics or morals is not happiness at all. Happiness derives from the pursuit of the good and just. True happiness is the search for illumination. I can somewhat wrap my head around Nietzsche's points but I think he is off on his conclusions. That is a deep hole to go down and I am not sure I am at the stage yet to pursue it as deep as they have. I will need to finish more of Plato's works before I have any chance of completely understanding Nietzsche. I do enjoy you sharing this and making me think though. Stay blessed my friend!
Plato was exactly what came to mind when reading the OPs paraphrasing. Thoroughly refutes this stance, and as you know, I’m not even a big fan of Plato 😅
@The_Cause I completely agree with you. In my opinion, the ideal man is embodied in Prince Lev Myshkin's character from Dostoyevsky's The Idiot.
I have yet to read it but I have it on my list. It appears in every must read book list and I am ashamed I have not got to it yet. It may be “deferred” until next year. Haha
I love your insights. So beautiful. When are you doing the next reading video? Did I miss it? Stay well.
Working on it now. Hoping within the next week pending any unforeseen issues! haha Thanks for watching and stay blessed.
Such a great video. Everyone needs to hear this
Yes indeed brother! I truly appreciate you watching buddy and stay blessed!
@@The_Cause 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Currently going through this, suffering before accepting a better job offer so that I can get my year end bonus.
I can understand that. It is so close to the end of the year too. What is the price we pay for happiness? I would struggle with that one as well. I wish you the best of luck my friend and I hope you do what is right by you. Truly appreciate you watching and stay blessed.
A secret to happiness? Subscribing to your podcast ❤!
Thanks so much for tuning and subscribing! Stay blessed my friend!
Been drinking more coffee, since I started watching these videos
Nothing wrong with more coffee! lol Stay blessed!
For me my happiness was and still is finding out that I’m a new creature in Christ and given the gift of eternal life after that everything else felt new and satisfying. I would recommend Christ because the joy of being saved is a truth to experience
A very good place to find happiness. I think of it as the blessed journey. As long as you are keeping up and pursuing the path to be more like Christ you will continue to grow. Wonderful comment and thanks so much for watching. Stay blessed my friend!
@@The_Cause Thanks bro. You too!!
I wonder if this phenomenon is just as common in all parts of the world. I mean, obviously, this is sort of a first-world problem, as the saying goes. But here I’m thinking of places like The Netherlands. I saw a video recently with a person who had lived her first 20 years in the U.S. and then ten in The Netherlands. She was discussing the relative health levels of the Dutch vs. Americans. We appear to be addicted to the “crazy busy” life. And this isn’t saying that the Dutch don’t work hard, but that they don’t put such a prize on it. I know that during the last decade or so of my work life (software), I was quite miserable and just could not figure out a way to compartmentalize work life vs. the rest. Maybe this kind of thing will become less common over time as younger people seem to be much more interested in a better work/life balance.
Happiness isn't a goal; it's a by-product of a purpose-driven life. I don't know at what point Western societies decided that happiness was an end unto itself to be pursued, certainly my immigrant grandparents or parents never had this strange fixation on happiness.
The term happiness can be used in many ways but I am referring to it as the founding fathers would have. Where it relates more to purpose. Western philosophy is based on the pursuit of the "good" and "just" which is, in my opinion, where happiness resides. If your ancestors immigrated like mine you can best believe it was because they were searching for something more that would provide a deeper state of happiness than that which they were leaving. The pursuit of happiness (purpose, fulfillment, the good) is the carrot that dangles in front of us all. And most will pursue it even if it means crossing oceans and leaving home.
Deferred happiness syndrome--the flip side of Aesop's fable about the ant and the grasshopper.
Very good point! I like that! Thanks for sharing and I truly appreciate you watching. Stay blessed my friend!
Hi I don’t know where to start , please help
Are we meant to live life alone? I've always found happiness fleeting, life seems life is more like a struggle with a few good bits.
I don’t believe we are. We are a community based species and actually do not fair well on our own in most cases. I am an introvert and can sit on the back porch in silence and read all day and it will not bother me but to live life alone would be hard. Most good things in life come in waves and cycles. If you could be happy all the time then it would turn to satisfaction or content. Very good point and got me thinking! Thanks for watching and stay blessed!
@@The_Cause Thank you for your kind reply. I'm mid 40's and I've been alone all my adult life and lot of people just say to "be happy alone" if only it was that easy, I've had a very messed up life.
I brought a set of the Great Books a few weeks ago, I hope I can find some piece reading them.
Hi I don’t know where to start my own education journey , please help
What type of education pare you looking for? Are you looking to educate yourself or attend a school?
are we not just talking about "depression" which has plagued and has grown in our world for quite some time, and more than likely at a peak in todays culture?
I think it is a little different. But I can see how they may be related if not resolved or understood. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and watching!