Chances are, he's already got someone in mind. Someone he's been flirting with, maybe is already cheating with...and you know it won't be just a one-time thing. Time to leave!
I wouldn’t be entertaining the idea of having kids with him after that question. Hopefully OP got wise and left. He was probably already cheating before he asked. Shameful.
He wants to have one last night of fun…. Sure! Sounds great. Me too. He’s using her past as blackmail against her. He’s not ready to be a husband (too late), let alone a father. You love him too much. If he felt the same way, he wouldn’t want any other “ fun time” with anyone else.
The divorce is inevitable... her sleeping with someone else ended the relationship at the time. If he does it, it will have the same result now. It's even worse, because they are adults now who have come to an agreement that cheating is a deal braker.
@xeedflarian9748 cheating in highschool is not the same as cheating while married 🤣 High school means they were kids. You don't hold kids to adult standards.
@@heather.carpenter19 cheating is not an adult standard, it's wrong in all aspects and they should have went separate ways. They were old enough to know wrong and right that age. People k*ll and beat up each other over cheating in HS. It's not something laughable.
@xeedflarian9748 it's highschool and not that serious. And if kids are killing kids over "cheating" the society has set the bar so low it's under the ground.
@@heather.carpenter19 society has k*lled for way less and always has and will. Nothing has changed in that aspect. Highschoolers don't even take it lightly. I'm pretty sure in all aspects of a spouse cheating most people will take it hard and break up, period.
My first husband came and asked me if he could date another woman. I kicked him out of his own parents house. Our daughter was 2 and we had split up between that time. We were 19 when we married. But 30 years old??? yeesh.
You too and your interactions together are just so incredibly awesome. There is so much warmth, humor, and love on display here, and you two are absolute role models for what anyone should be looking for in a partner.
As someone in a relationship over 2 decades, you deserve better! He is not worth having children with at any point. Don't waste any more of your life with him. Please. The right person won't look outside the relationship to fullful any need for intimacy.
This is why I say cut cheaters loose. It takes a certain type of person to be able to completely forgive someone like that especially if yall were each others firsts. Most cannot do it. Once that type of trust is broken you can't get it back without some ridiculously demeaning sacrifices.
If he actually forgave her he wouldn’t be bringing it back up. He already has someone I’m sure of it. OP should be happy he’s saying this before they have kids so she can get a clean break. She wants to know what to say? Ask who she is and then pack because it’s over.
I think he doesn't want to have a kid & already has one foot out the door. He wants her to break it off so he can claim to be the "victim". Also he's already cheating.
So, she was 17 or younger when she cheated, and it's been over a decade. How much you wanna bet he feels like he settled, and "one last fun night" is his chance to dip his toes and see if he can land someone "better"? Even if she convinces him not to go, he will only come to resent her more as time goes on. Assuming he's been faithful their whole relationship, I can almost guarantee he wants out, and the only justification he can come up with is their highschool drama. It's the only thing he has where he doesn't come across as 100% the A-hole.
He never "healed" and he's not ready to be a father. OP should re-think everything and consider a divorce, because even if he "healed" (which he didn't or he wouldn't bring a high school mistake) what kind of person thinks "before a major step in our lives, let me f**k someone else just once"? what's next? If they take another life-changing decision or hit another milestone will he be like "OK, this time let me take a mistress" or "before we do this, let me have a child with another woman"???? Brozzo needs to get a grip, if he's going to hold grudges he should just end the marriage now.
OP doesn't want to be told to leave, but is she ready to hear that her marriage is probably already over? Her husband either never forgave her for her transgression more than a decade ago (and never should have married her if so), he knew what asking a question like this would do and asked so he didn't have to be the one to leave, or he has other interests outside of the marriage that he wants to test. But no mistake, OP is thinking about babies, and her husband is thinking exit strategies.
Honestly, it sounds like he's already been cheating on her and got another girl pregnant and wants to use this "one last fun night" as an excuse and if she showed up prego, the timeline might work out in his favor. Especially if this girl is only a couple weeks prego at the time of this "one last fun night", it could easily be hidden.
He's already been cheating, he thinks he will cut it off with his mistress if he's ready to have kids. And basically wants to go have a really wild weekend with her.
Good grief! Woman grow a backbone and say NO!!! If he keeps insisting then YOU OP need to get rid of him. Leave and don't look back. STOP with I love this man. He doesn't love you. Period! Grow the crap up.
Sorry OP, he's already been cheating on you for awhile, at least emotionally if not more. You made a mistake YEARS ago in high school when you were both still kids. You're both now adults and he wants to use that against you? Don't have kids with this guy, it will only cause you more pain. At a minimum talk to your therapist. Something else is going on.
This dude has been hanging on to this for years to hold against her. He never forgave her and likely has been using this one mistake to justify cheating throughout their relationship. You have every right to say no. And he knows it. He also knows he can guilt you into thinking this is even remotely ok. Say no. Don’t have kids with this guy. Say no for you, and for your unborn child.
OP needs the words to use? Ok. Try this... Me cheating once in high school is completely different than you cheating on purpose now that we're married. If you really forgave me, this wouldn't be an option for you. If you didn't really forgive me, why did we get married? I will not be able to forgive you for doing this now, so if that's what you want to do, we need to divorce. I can't have a child with someone willing to cheat out of spite for something that happened 12+ years ago.
Situations like this are why IMO cheating should always be a relationship ender. Even if the wronged party "forgives" the cheater, do you really think they're ever going to completely get over it and they're not going to be holding some resentment over it? Resentment that will most likely fester over time and lead to them not being fully committed to the relationship, which tends to lead to situations like this where they feel like they're "owed" something, or just to paranoia and lack of trust.
He always links the post in the description, so it's pretty easy to look them up. Unfortunately in this case (as mentioned in the video), OP deleted her account so there won't be any updates.
He's already cheating, wants to implode the relationship because he doesnt want kids or a life with her. This is his way out to go be with his mistress.
Both these folks are immature. It's a big red flag for me when someone says they are "desperately in love" with anyone. That's a very dependent outlook. The guy clearly does not want the family/kids lifestyle and is holding their past over her to justify this. His filters never changed after high school.
I know she doesn't want to hear "leave him," but she should leave him. This man is immature and never actually forgave her.
Chances are, he's already got someone in mind. Someone he's been flirting with, maybe is already cheating with...and you know it won't be just a one-time thing. Time to leave!
Hubby probably has already dipped his wick, tbh... or still is.
Or has someone in mind....
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He's not mature enough to have kids
This is a thought he should have had 6 years ago not now
I wouldn’t be entertaining the idea of having kids with him after that question. Hopefully OP got wise and left. He was probably already cheating before he asked. Shameful.
Part of true forgiveness means letting go, not hold it over the other person's head for over a decade, then using it for payback.
He totally has someone in mind. He wants a risk-free "trial run" to see if he might be missing out on something better. Run!
He’s already cheating. He just wants her permission to get away with it. Oh well, you said I could.
He clearly never forgave her. If he wanted one fun night, he should've done that in the year and a half they weren't together.
As I've said before, he didn't actually forgive her.
He held on to this so that he could hold it over her head later.
Cheating at high school is not the same thing as cheating as an adult. He's already cheating. Leave.
So , she made a mistake ... in high school ... now they are adults and he wants to get back at her for it?!
He will cheat at some point. He feels it's owed to him. If not now at some point. Leave him. He never forgave you.
The hard part is if she says no he will go and do it in secret
He wants to have one last night of fun…. Sure! Sounds great. Me too. He’s using her past as blackmail against her. He’s not ready to be a husband (too late), let alone a father.
You love him too much. If he felt the same way, he wouldn’t want any other “ fun time” with anyone else.
There is more to this.I agree with Candy. This is going to hurt but Op doesn't want to hear the truth.😢
What part of forsaking all others until death do you part does he not understand
So why didn't he have all the "fun" he wanted when they separated? Now that they're married and want kids he wants to? that's bs.
He wants to hurt her.
@@DawnKellyMedia Exactly, he never really forgave her.
4:23 He's already cheating. I feel it.
The divorce is inevitable... her sleeping with someone else ended the relationship at the time. If he does it, it will have the same result now. It's even worse, because they are adults now who have come to an agreement that cheating is a deal braker.
Her cheating in highschool is not the same as what her husband wants. They were dating! He is now married and has been for a while. He is scum!
Cheating is Cheating both are scum but he is and added ahole ontop for stringing her along for some kind of revenge.
@xeedflarian9748 cheating in highschool is not the same as cheating while married 🤣 High school means they were kids. You don't hold kids to adult standards.
@@heather.carpenter19 cheating is not an adult standard, it's wrong in all aspects and they should have went separate ways. They were old enough to know wrong and right that age. People k*ll and beat up each other over cheating in HS. It's not something laughable.
@xeedflarian9748 it's highschool and not that serious. And if kids are killing kids over "cheating" the society has set the bar so low it's under the ground.
@@heather.carpenter19 society has k*lled for way less and always has and will. Nothing has changed in that aspect. Highschoolers don't even take it lightly. I'm pretty sure in all aspects of a spouse cheating most people will take it hard and break up, period.
My first husband came and asked me if he could date another woman. I kicked him out of his own parents house. Our daughter was 2 and we had split up between that time. We were 19 when we married. But 30 years old??? yeesh.
You too and your interactions together are just so incredibly awesome. There is so much warmth, humor, and love on display here, and you two are absolute role models for what anyone should be looking for in a partner.
I think at least part of the issue is that he's not ready to have kids. I cannot think of a more moronic way to buy time.
As someone in a relationship over 2 decades, you deserve better! He is not worth having children with at any point. Don't waste any more of your life with him. Please.
The right person won't look outside the relationship to fullful any need for intimacy.
This is why I say cut cheaters loose. It takes a certain type of person to be able to completely forgive someone like that especially if yall were each others firsts. Most cannot do it. Once that type of trust is broken you can't get it back without some ridiculously demeaning sacrifices.
If he actually forgave her he wouldn’t be bringing it back up. He already has someone I’m sure of it. OP should be happy he’s saying this before they have kids so she can get a clean break. She wants to know what to say? Ask who she is and then pack because it’s over.
I think he doesn't want to have a kid & already has one foot out the door. He wants her to break it off so he can claim to be the "victim". Also he's already cheating.
When they broke up in highschool. I wouldn't be surprised if he was sleeping with someone else.
There would have been nothing wrong with that. They weren't together.
So, she was 17 or younger when she cheated, and it's been over a decade. How much you wanna bet he feels like he settled, and "one last fun night" is his chance to dip his toes and see if he can land someone "better"? Even if she convinces him not to go, he will only come to resent her more as time goes on.
Assuming he's been faithful their whole relationship, I can almost guarantee he wants out, and the only justification he can come up with is their highschool drama. It's the only thing he has where he doesn't come across as 100% the A-hole.
And they broke up over it. He chose to get back together with her a year and a half later.
She needs to let him go and greet him with divorce papers when he gets back.
Nah, that AH already has someone in mind.
If he isn't cheating now he will be.
Sorry OP, time to get out.
He never "healed" and he's not ready to be a father. OP should re-think everything and consider a divorce, because even if he "healed" (which he didn't or he wouldn't bring a high school mistake) what kind of person thinks "before a major step in our lives, let me f**k someone else just once"? what's next? If they take another life-changing decision or hit another milestone will he be like "OK, this time let me take a mistress" or "before we do this, let me have a child with another woman"????
Brozzo needs to get a grip, if he's going to hold grudges he should just end the marriage now.
OP doesn't want to be told to leave, but is she ready to hear that her marriage is probably already over? Her husband either never forgave her for her transgression more than a decade ago (and never should have married her if so), he knew what asking a question like this would do and asked so he didn't have to be the one to leave, or he has other interests outside of the marriage that he wants to test. But no mistake, OP is thinking about babies, and her husband is thinking exit strategies.
She's desperate to keep him.
Honestly, it sounds like he's already been cheating on her and got another girl pregnant and wants to use this "one last fun night" as an excuse and if she showed up prego, the timeline might work out in his favor. Especially if this girl is only a couple weeks prego at the time of this "one last fun night", it could easily be hidden.
Divorce him. He accepted her and her baggage. He is changing things up after the fact. He can have all the fun nights he wants and she can move on!
He's already been cheating, he thinks he will cut it off with his mistress if he's ready to have kids. And basically wants to go have a really wild weekend with her.
Good grief! Woman grow a backbone and say NO!!! If he keeps insisting then YOU OP need to get rid of him. Leave and don't look back. STOP with I love this man. He doesn't love you. Period! Grow the crap up.
Sorry OP, he's already been cheating on you for awhile, at least emotionally if not more. You made a mistake YEARS ago in high school when you were both still kids. You're both now adults and he wants to use that against you? Don't have kids with this guy, it will only cause you more pain. At a minimum talk to your therapist. Something else is going on.
Hubby never actually forgave her. He had this "card" in his back pocket, waiting for the opportune moment to play it.
Cheating on your high school partner is bad enough, cheating on your spouse is a bit worse...
This dude has been hanging on to this for years to hold against her. He never forgave her and likely has been using this one mistake to justify cheating throughout their relationship. You have every right to say no. And he knows it. He also knows he can guilt you into thinking this is even remotely ok. Say no. Don’t have kids with this guy. Say no for you, and for your unborn child.
OP needs the words to use? Ok. Try this...
Me cheating once in high school is completely different than you cheating on purpose now that we're married. If you really forgave me, this wouldn't be an option for you. If you didn't really forgive me, why did we get married? I will not be able to forgive you for doing this now, so if that's what you want to do, we need to divorce. I can't have a child with someone willing to cheat out of spite for something that happened 12+ years ago.
Situations like this are why IMO cheating should always be a relationship ender. Even if the wronged party "forgives" the cheater, do you really think they're ever going to completely get over it and they're not going to be holding some resentment over it? Resentment that will most likely fester over time and lead to them not being fully committed to the relationship, which tends to lead to situations like this where they feel like they're "owed" something, or just to paranoia and lack of trust.
Not put it in something else 😂
She's not his wife, she's his puppy.
I think hubby has someone else and if she cheated on him it's fair he can cheat on her then they need therapy
You should start telling us the OPs username so we can look for updates
He always links the post in the description, so it's pretty easy to look them up. Unfortunately in this case (as mentioned in the video), OP deleted her account so there won't be any updates.
She deleted her account.
He's already cheating, wants to implode the relationship because he doesnt want kids or a life with her. This is his way out to go be with his mistress.
I love your crazy!!!
Both these folks are immature. It's a big red flag for me when someone says they are "desperately in love" with anyone. That's a very dependent outlook. The guy clearly does not want the family/kids lifestyle and is holding their past over her to justify this. His filters never changed after high school.
Co-dependency and a guilty conscience are a nasty combination.
i think maybe she is the only person he has slept with and still feels a way about it
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To me it's basic integrity. I'm not a person who cheats *period* I don't get this mentality "I don't cheat if you cheat/If you cheat - I cheat". Weird
Hey, you forgave me yet we still broke up for 6 months. How about we divorce for 6 months with me getting alimony and then we'll talk about it.