Challenges 1. Illiteracy/teen marriage 2.finance 3. Lack of preparation/detailed background checks 4. lack of mentorship for marriage 5. Need self development before marriage Areas of Opportunities 1. Increase Girls education 2. Encourage women empowerment 3. Self development + Maturity before marriage both parties 4. Financial stability before marriage
Asalaam Aleykum sisters, this topic needs in-depth discussion, especially in our Somali community. Women suffer in silence whether single, married or divorced. It's a taboo " Ceeb" to address it, and very few women or girls come out to share their lived experiences for fear of stigma. I watched a video and read some articles about Mauritanian culture. Divorced women are celebrated with vigelegele (ululation) and sherehe (celebration).
Somalis has one of the highest divorce rates in the world. Btw you can find some somali women who are celebrating their divorce in TH-cam or any social media
Asc sisters, it's good to discuss this, however it's actually not a taboo in the Somali community, why?? Cause it's very very very very common. Few may hide it but majority don't hide. Somali sisters are strong and proud of what they are. If it was a taboo, we would have had few divorces like other cultures.
There is no Stigma when there is three girls in every household that has been divorced. Midi kale calaaf siddi loo raadiniyey. The marry not once, twice sometimes even up to 4 times. Look at Rayaan Bajaaj she's has been married how many times I just wish there was a little bit guilt and shame associated with it, because is does create broken household and broken society.
My experience with Somalis back home is that the divorce rate is extremely high. You'll see a family of children each with different fathers and sometimes even clans/subclans. I think there is some what of a disconnect between Somali culture and diaspora Somali cultures.
Al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said: It is narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “The most hated of permissible things to Allah is divorce.” This hadith is not saheeh, but its meaning is sound: Allah hates divorce, but He does not forbid it to His slaves, so as to make things easier for them. If there is a legitimate shar’ee (religiously legislated) or regular reason for divorce, then it is permissible and depends on the likely outcome of keeping this woman as one's wife. If keeping her will lead to something that is contrary to sharee’ah (Islamic law) which cannot be avoided except by divorcing her, such as if the woman is lacking in religious commitment or chastity, and the husband cannot set her straight, then in this case we say that it is better to divorce. But if there is no shar’ee reason or ordinary reason, then it is better not to divorce, rather in that case divorce is makrooh (disliked)."(Liqa at al-bab il-Maftooh, no. 55, question no.3) And Allah knows best.
It is so painful when they divorce her with many kids and neglect their kids and responsibilities 😢 but listen like in Kenya she claim for her kids' rights
We have many absent fathers in the Somali community it makes me wonder if they will ever regret it or maybe they’ll wait to ask for forgiveness until they’re in their deathbed? It’s very unfortunate how they simply seem to not care about their own kids.
How do deal with promiscuousness and Zina if marriage is discouraged.. we know that’s another problem happening especially in NE. Why is H.IV spreading so rapidly in this community.?
Garoob is not a bad thing in language. it's for divorced women, but if we really see our somali comunity there no problem marrying them compared to other communities
Good job ladies. The women marry their off their loser sons is because they messed up in parenting and are looking for scapegoats for that. They are hoping the wives who are supposed to be perfect, mature will continue to raise their sons and mother them. Raise your sons to be responsible men first, then he will find his own match. Subscribed. Lets have more convos on how to better our community.
The entire video, the blame is A MAN. WHY? Women don't like to be accountable for their deeds. Do you know how many MEN out there a battling depression or some even channel it to chewing miraa because his wife in the house is giving him unnecessary obligations? "My neighbour Halima has relocated a lavish 2 bedroom house", I want the same. FYI the MAN salary can't allow him that and also he got other responsibilities. The GUEST is Very Angry I can attest. the way she's interrupting the host tell more about her Uncouth behaviour. What happens when she bring her behaviour in marriage? Obvious there will break up because the wife don't bring peace of mind in the home. I know the're good sisters out there who will make good wives that experience a good upbringing; that's FATHER'S presence and MOTHER who instill her the good character and respect. Later when the lady reach marriage she woul look a MAN with that character similar to her FATHER. But if we break this HIERARCHY then we blame MEN and the consequences are the divorce rate will skyrocket. Honest advice to ladies who are between 23 and 25 should marry earlier, avoid the bulsh*t of chasing A CAREER. the more you chase a career the more your value decreases. WOMEN are born at the top of the Mountain. MEN are born in the valleys around it. A MAN is judged on how high he climbs. A WOMEN is judged on how far she falls. MEN have much to gain. WOMEN have much to lose. A MAN has to prove his worth. A WOMEN has to preserve her worth. Masculinity is built while Femininity is preserved.
You have no right to talk about something specific to certain people while using international language, that is plain disgusting to look at with due to respect since u r old women u should know better, you are not somali if you are selling our problems to other people.ingriis ilbax ma ahan kaba sii daran sawaaxiliga
💯💯💯 I have seen married women chilling with single women and their husbands warning them about the risks of divorce until he prints out the divorce documents 😂
Only Somalia women gets married when she even have 5 kids only Somalia man do that, Arabs and other cultures the girl will never marry again once she got divorced but luckily only Somalia woman gets divorced and married easily. Hi wonderful it is, sometimes divorce is good the two people who couldn’t communicate because Allah said divorce and marriage both in the Quran if there is no mawada and rahma.
Divorce is part of life sometimes people are not compatible and it’s best to go apart.
Challenges
1. Illiteracy/teen marriage
2.finance
3. Lack of preparation/detailed background checks
4. lack of mentorship for marriage
5. Need self development before marriage
Areas of Opportunities
1. Increase Girls education
2. Encourage women empowerment
3. Self development + Maturity before marriage both parties
4. Financial stability before marriage
@queensexperience🙏
Avoiding single mothers, divorce women and career women is a blessing in disguise 🙏🏾
Asalaam Aleykum sisters, this topic needs in-depth discussion, especially in our Somali community. Women suffer in silence whether single, married or divorced. It's a taboo " Ceeb" to address it, and very few women or girls come out to share their lived experiences for fear of stigma. I watched a video and read some articles about Mauritanian culture. Divorced women are celebrated with vigelegele (ululation) and sherehe (celebration).
Somalis has one of the highest divorce rates in the world. Btw you can find some somali women who are celebrating their divorce in TH-cam or any social media
Sister divorce is not taboo in 🇸🇴 may is sujuu think sorry to say
Asc sisters, it's good to discuss this, however it's actually not a taboo in the Somali community, why?? Cause it's very very very very common. Few may hide it but majority don't hide. Somali sisters are strong and proud of what they are.
If it was a taboo, we would have had few divorces like other cultures.
There is no Stigma when there is three girls in every household that has been divorced. Midi kale calaaf siddi loo raadiniyey. The marry not once, twice sometimes even up to 4 times. Look at Rayaan Bajaaj she's has been married how many times
I just wish there was a little bit guilt and shame associated with it, because is does create broken household and broken society.
@@guled669 we are somalis this is how we live take it or leave it khasab majiro
My experience with Somalis back home is that the divorce rate is extremely high. You'll see a family of children each with different fathers and sometimes even clans/subclans. I think there is some what of a disconnect between Somali culture and diaspora Somali cultures.
Masha Allah very good work keep on going sisters we need more of us talking about this and opening the minds of young boys and girls
Please don’t lie about Allah he can’t not hate something that he made permissible- don’t quote fabricated Hadiths- divorce is mercy from Allah
Exactly 💯💯
The Hadith is not Sahih BUT the meaning is still correct because Allah does Hate divorce generally speaking.
Al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
It is narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “The most hated of permissible things to Allah is divorce.” This hadith is not saheeh, but its meaning is sound: Allah hates divorce, but He does not forbid it to His slaves, so as to make things easier for them. If there is a legitimate shar’ee (religiously legislated) or regular reason for divorce, then it is permissible and depends on the likely outcome of keeping this woman as one's wife. If keeping her will lead to something that is contrary to sharee’ah (Islamic law) which cannot be avoided except by divorcing her, such as if the woman is lacking in religious commitment or chastity, and the husband cannot set her straight, then in this case we say that it is better to divorce. But if there is no shar’ee reason or ordinary reason, then it is better not to divorce, rather in that case divorce is makrooh (disliked)."(Liqa at al-bab il-Maftooh, no. 55, question no.3)
And Allah knows best.
It is so painful when they divorce her with many kids and neglect their kids and responsibilities 😢 but listen like in Kenya she claim for her kids' rights
We have many absent fathers in the Somali community it makes me wonder if they will ever regret it or maybe they’ll wait to ask for forgiveness until they’re in their deathbed? It’s very unfortunate how they simply seem to not care about their own kids.
@@dianaa3336 what happenes happened move on, no need for victim mind we are not cadaans
@@hunnugumti3281 I wasn’t talking to you akhaas
@@hunnugumti3281 why even compare to caadans? They are on a different level of development.
Divorces are high in somali communities
How do deal with promiscuousness and Zina if marriage is discouraged.. we know that’s another problem happening especially in NE. Why is H.IV spreading so rapidly in this community.?
Garoob is not a bad thing in language. it's for divorced women, but if we really see our somali comunity there no problem marrying them compared to other communities
Good job ladies. The women marry their off their loser sons is because they messed up in parenting and are looking for scapegoats for that. They are hoping the wives who are supposed to be perfect, mature will continue to raise their sons and mother them.
Raise your sons to be responsible men first, then he will find his own match.
Subscribed. Lets have more convos on how to better our community.
Start by speaking somali,dadka lahadleesid af gaar ah ayey leeyihiin ingriishkan ilbax ma ahan
Is this Kenya ama
Yeah they kenyans. Every Kenyan I met got that accent
Divorce is halaal
This deep africa accent is wonderful.
Salam aleykum my sisters your are wonderfull girls how debate the subject make more programs your about our language somali enjoy the life
Gabar= Never married woman
Garoob= divorced woman
The entire video, the blame is A MAN. WHY? Women don't like to be accountable for their deeds. Do you know how many MEN out there a battling depression or some even channel it to chewing miraa because his wife in the house is giving him unnecessary obligations? "My neighbour Halima has relocated a lavish 2 bedroom house", I want the same. FYI the MAN salary can't allow him that and also he got other responsibilities. The GUEST is Very Angry I can attest. the way she's interrupting the host tell more about her Uncouth behaviour. What happens when she bring her behaviour in marriage? Obvious there will break up because the wife don't bring peace of mind in the home. I know the're good sisters out there who will make good wives that experience a good upbringing; that's FATHER'S presence and MOTHER who instill her the good character and respect. Later when the lady reach marriage she woul look a MAN with that character similar to her FATHER. But if we break this HIERARCHY then we blame MEN and the consequences are the divorce rate will skyrocket. Honest advice to ladies who are between 23 and 25 should marry earlier, avoid the bulsh*t of chasing A CAREER. the more you chase a career the more your value decreases. WOMEN are born at the top of the Mountain. MEN are born in the valleys around it. A MAN is judged on how high he climbs. A WOMEN is judged on how far she falls. MEN have much to gain. WOMEN have much to lose. A MAN has to prove his worth. A WOMEN has to preserve her worth. Masculinity is built while Femininity is preserved.
You have no right to talk about something specific to certain people while using international language, that is plain disgusting to look at with due to respect since u r old women u should know better, you are not somali if you are selling our problems to other people.ingriis ilbax ma ahan kaba sii daran sawaaxiliga
Qurba kuma badna laakin dalki waa said wye
the problem is no listening the man.
💯💯💯 I have seen married women chilling with single women and their husbands warning them about the risks of divorce until he prints out the divorce documents 😂
Mauritanian women celebrate divorce!
Are they even somalis or baanjuus
They’re not Somali 😂 don’t claim us please
haters alert
@@mombasa7 wakikuyu pia ni binadamu
😂😂
In your shallow thinking you think being Somali is being in your small circle or one has to be approved by your adheer
K@@bisharyussuf4139kuna mmoja hata hajui divorce inaitwa nini in somali...how can they talk about our culture?😂😂😂
Only Somalia women gets married when she even have 5 kids only Somalia man do that, Arabs and other cultures the girl will never marry again once she got divorced but luckily only Somalia woman gets divorced and married easily. Hi wonderful it is, sometimes divorce is good the two people who couldn’t communicate because Allah said divorce and marriage both in the Quran if there is no mawada and rahma.
I know a Muslim Egyptian woman married 3x (widowed, married twice) with 5 kids. It does happen in other cultures.
Hawa ni wa Somali Sijui