Thank you for using yourself as an example. Too many of these videos come from a superior/self righteous stance, despite the fact that we ALL have shortcomings. Much respect & admiration. 🙏🏾💚
Caroline Winkler is great at this too! She usually speaks to her lived experience and makes her advice very actionable with concrete personal examples. She definitely keeps it very relatable and approachable.
Thank you for sharing this! Congratulations on the well-deserved mil, which I hope is the first of many. Your work has touched the lives of so many people, and I can honestly say you've changed my life in many ways!
Well, I hate that I've never had an original experience in my life. But also thank god you have put these things into such concrete terms. Another killer video
"5 years waiting in lines". Hell nah, very few things are important enough for me to spend that much time in lines. Waiting in line to confirm my ID for college is alright, for food i'll go somewhere else.
The self care point is SO IMPORTANT. Self care can be starting an assignment early so you dont have to rush and stress last minute, or going to class every day to make learning easier. I used to think self care was just doing what I liked, and thats part of it, but its also doing the thing you need to do in order to make life easier on future you.
I call it being kind to my future self. Do things now that will make things easier for your future self. And be sure to thank your past self when you get the benefits.
I always got frustrated when I'd tell therapists that I spent the whole day watching TH-cam or otherwise fucking around, and they'd say "Oh good, self care is important!" I was like BUT THAT'S ALL I DO and it really confused me until I pinpointed the difference between self-care and self-indulgence. The latter being more akin to self-harm than self-care.
Yes, I can relate to this. I had a therapist who thought self care was the epitome of mental wellness, which I’m not sure I agree with. I think self care has been warped into something it shouldn’t be, even though the initial idea was innocent. There’s a lot of evidence showing that caring for people, challenging yourself, and getting into the flow state are much more effective for overall well-being.
@@cierragrove4745 right. I can understand the need to relax and do something just for yourself sometimes. It's not good to never ever recharge. The problem is when ALL relaxation or downtime is seen as self-care, when what might be needed more is to be productive or be of service to others.
Yes! I've done this to myself and then wondered why I had no resilience in the midst of a forced high tempo season of my life when I had exercised no discipline, will, or worthiness for myself. How so many therapists can overlook such a glaring sign of not enoughness is beyond me. The professionals should be past this level of psychological immaturity by this point. It's infuriating that this is what is licensed and accepted by insurances as opposed to the holistic therapies that actually work but aren't mainstream yet. Rant, rant, rant, rant Whew. That's better. 😅
Yeah, I have had the same issue with therapists. I get they're trying to shutdown the self-loathing spiral, but I just also really need help in how to stop wasting my life doing nothing, never accomplishing my goals.
The social media one is so important. I truly think we are in a weird stage where social media is new enough that people don't realize the bizarre grasp it has on so many people. When you stop using it you see how strange it all has become. I really do think history will look back on this time and ask why we didn't realize how harmful social media was.
It's both harmful and wonderful though. We wouldn't be watching this if it wasn't for social media. There's lot to unpick - maybe it will get analysed properly sometime in the 2040s!
True, but I seek this out, consciously consuming positive, productive content. Seems like on average social media/internet algorithms skew negative. So maybe my issue is with how algorithms are deployed moreso than the platforms themselves.@@wkt2506
@@wkt2506thats strong argument you have there. Don't mind me using it to justify scrolling through crap when I bored, because Social Media is marvelous connecting all these people and their ideas.
that is totally right. i deleted instagram and twitter for a week just for a challenge and oh man my life has gotten 10 times better. instead I'm looking at pinterest and journaling.
@wingkintsoi7183 youtube isn't at same level it isn't as worse as typical "social media". pick a vid (no shorts) then watch it till the end (speed up if needed). By the time its completed i don't feel like watching more.
00:02 Bad money habits lead to misery 02:21 The impact of childhood money stories on adult behavior. 04:08 Identifying and avoiding the Mot and Bailey argument 05:58 Honesty and self-awareness can help identify and address bad habits. 07:57 Waiting creates false hope and leads to misery. 09:50 Setbacks can feel like a death sentence, but they're not as big as they seem. 11:33 Pushing through setbacks leads to growth 13:32 Focusing on everyday habits can lead to a better quality of life 15:17 Finding simple solutions can greatly improve your quality of life 17:06 Recognizing the net negative effects of drugs despite providing temporary happiness. 18:56 Conquered bad habit, no longer miserable
In the midst of a bout of crying and feeling sad and sorry for myself, your video popped up and I began to laugh. Kind of like the sun beginning to shine during a rain shower. Great timing.
If you don't add "reddit" to your keyword search you're not using the internet right 😂 I've been watching your channel for a long time and it still amazes me how you can take a universal, complex feeling and logic us through to a less uncomfortable place. Thanks for your swirly twirly, spicy philosophic brain! (sidenote: silly purchases are worth it even just for the stories!)
Your sidenote is really true. I've hardly ever made any impulse purchases, certainly nothing bigger than a chocolate bar or something like that lol. So I kinda envy people with these crazy stories!
It takes a certain amount of gumption to make super large purchases like a van on a whim, or a one way ticket to another country, but I certainly envy the people that trust the process enough!! It’s definitely worth investing in yourself though, be it that tattoo you’ve always dreamed of getting or finally buying a didgeridoo and learning to play. If life’s the journey, the side quests are the parts that make the picture worth looking at! 😊
So true I feel I’m not getting real research unless I take it the “Reddit” level 😂 it’s just always so much more insightful getting legit feedback from a bunch of strangers
* most likely to not be biased or advertised feedback that’s not from a library is my experience using Reddit. Learn so much more from it than what I learned from regular articles
procrastination = self care; that argument has been one I have played for myself MANY MANY MANY TIMES. thank you for highlighting it and talking through the habit (and habit-breaking)! 💕
I had a lot of these, turns out I had severe undiagnosed ADHD. getting the right meds and support completely turned my life around at 37, to the point that I'm about to start a PhD that I never would have even attempted a few years ago. Having said that I'm definitely going to take your advice and learn to chop veg properly. One of the things I really struggle with is feeding myself properly and not resorting to takeaways all the time. The fact that if I cook dinner it pretty much takes up the entire evening really doesn't help with that
Which medication helps you please, & what are the differences you notice? Kind regards. (& I agree with above, cooking efficiency improves with practice, & batch cooking is the best use of your cooking time. Bolognese sauce, chilli con carne & chicken casserole are my batching go-tos. I get whatever I want out of the freezer in the morning, & it's defrosted & ready to quickly reheat by evening.
@@bobbobert4884 I mean I've been feeding myself for decades and it still takes me hours to cook a proper meal from scratch. I've got a few meals I can do quickly that I eat most of the time.
I am taking notes 1. Impulsive purchase/buying 2. Having procrastination while saying it's self care 3. Hoping too much for accidental solutions that are unrealistic 4. Just one setback and give up it all 5. Too much social media especially arguing about things that are not really important 6. Overlooking obvious things that would ease you in the long run for a bigger unobvious things - use mattress logic 7. Drugs, or anything that is addictive such as corn, PMO, and such things Hope yall doing better bros and sis
@colinhogan5661To add to this: the breaching point of porn use is when it effects your daily perception of people. Nothing wrong about thinking someone is attractive, but you might want to ground yourself or step away when the first thing you think when you see someone you're attracted to is something quite sexual.
The social media and opinions thing is so true. Cause there are so many times I have seen a discussion out of propotion, and I just sit there like "Why cant you guys see both the good and bad in each perspective, and come to a conclusion. Like no one outside of social media will care".
about "abandoning hope", i was taught that hope and fear are two branches of the same tree - which is projecting your expectations onto the future, when you should be being open to whatever may unfold ♥
@@KlappKlo well, as said in the video, hope is not a substitute for an action plan. that's all it means to "abandon" it. don't rely on hope alone, you also need actions
@@verthandijal That's true, but ultimately phrased poorly on the part of the video maker. "Abandon(ing) hope" is equivalent to "giving up" in standard parlance - which he promptly goes on to use as a bad outcome of poor resilience in the very next topic. "Abandon fantasizing" or "Structure your hope" might be closer to the mark. It's effectively a "learn how to properly make and execute a plan" topic.
Thank you. It's hard for me to admit this but I'm for sure an addict... to more than one drug nothing life threatening because of the drug itself but my behavior on said drugs. Your openness, your seriousness mixed with your presentation had me actually in tears from self realization that I've got bad habits man. And that feels bad man. I'm about to turn 30, it feels like a death sentence and that's so dramatic but it's the truth. I feel so meh and like I don't know what to do. The money story - for sure... I've suspected and reconciled my money story a few times now I make a lot of cash then I procrastinate, play the waiting game, play the hope game, waiting for that call for the next movie gig for the next whatever. That self care lie holy fuck what a take. Thinking about my own set backs my own trauma surrounding just a kid wanting to make things once shot down and now to scared not knowing how to even start... and finally social media. These things, on TH-cam a social media platform I've been procrastinating on for what years on now? This dopamine shot you've given me god I hope I can move it. I'm going to end my youtube dance today after writing this comment but you making this 19 minute heartfelt piece has brought me to tears and I think uncorked some deep seeded emotions and desires that I really needed to feel today. It's weird how things come into your life when maybe you need it the most. Struthless you have my upmost respect and I seriously appreciate the work that you do on your own. Your comment on the end about seeking professional help and getting the correct medication for your personal chemistry and situation... admitting I'm powerless... what a mind fuck. Thank you brother, I'm sending love your way. Thank you.
@@londongael414 I appreciate it, I know I do actually know. Sometimes when working on set for example I discover pretty regularly that I am in fact the youngest on my team... but fuck this last year with all the union delays shit got dicy and it just left time to reflect on well my 20's coming to an end.
@@JarredCordova Yeah, I know the feeling! But you know what the best time of my life was? My forties and fifties! You've figured a few things out, you know yourself better, you like yourself more, you begin to notice people treating you with...wow! actual respect! 30 sucks, but it really does get better - and you don't necessarily have to wait for ten years for that to start.
@@londongael414 Thank you seriously for taking the time! I’ll probably come back to this conversation again. I’m not like on an edge I think some serious reflection with age and it being December has me in a mood you know?
Thank you for being so open and honest with us all, Struthless. As another ordinary person who struggled with addiction, it's really encouraging to listen to your experience. ❤
I agree, it is about honesty. The you-tubers and friends that have gotten to that place of honesty after addiction are so refreshing to listen to. That has been my experience. Thank you Struthless, your videos resonate for sure!
Despite years of resistance, going from drugs that I had no clue about the precedence to pharmacy drugs really helped me with ADHD, anxiety and depression this year. I was lucky to find a psychiatrist who actually cares, but still, this change enabled me to see many other bad habits I kept on reinforcing just because they made me feel good at some point
On the topic of waiting. While waiting for random events is bad, waiting with a purpose can be really soothing. When I am in a train, and have to wait 1h to arrive. There is nothing I have to or should do in the meantime. I just have to wait and don't have to feel bad about it.
What you said about your art teacher made me think of Brene Brown's work. This is from an interview she did. “I used to believe, before I did the research for The Gifts of Imperfection… that there were creative people and there were non-creative people. And now I absolutely understand personally (and professionally from the data) that there are no such thing as non-creative people. There are just people who use their creativity and people who don’t. And unused creativity is not benign. For the people who really struggle because they don’t think of themselves as creative, there’s a lot of shame around creativity. People don’t think of themselves as creative, they think creativity is self indulgent. They don’t think it is productive enough. They don’t understand what it means. It was shut down in them as children. For those folks, when I say “unused creativity is not benign”, what I really mean is it metastasizes into resentment, grief, heartbreak. People sit on that creativity or they deny it and it festers. When I started the research on shame, you know, 13 years ago, I found that 85% of the men and women who I interviewed remembered an event in school that was so shaming, it changed how they thought of themselves for the rest of their lives. But wait - this is good - fifty percent of that 85% percent, half of those people: those shame wounds were around creativity. So fifty percent of those people have art scars. Have creativity scars.”
I think I need to get that book. I think it might fix me. The sadness and struggle around my art is wrapped in so many layers of shame that I didn't even talk about it in therapy during the total of 5 years I went. I read so much about other people's experiences in hopes that they will have something I could find useful or implement to better my life but I have never come across this!?
@throughcolouredglasses9300 I find Brene Brown's work so inspiring, my favorite is a 6 disc audio set called The Power of Vulnerability from Sounds True but the Gifts of Imperfection is also a great one. She.also has two Ted talks. Anyway I send you support in your quest for understanding, and common experiences.
@throughcolouredglasses9300 No matter how many inspiring books you read or how much you intellectually understand them, the big change happens when you understand yourself and begin to actively create the shifts in your life. Take it in, absorb it, and then dive into yourself with the new knowledge and tools. A book can't fix anyone, but it can give you new tools to tinker with your life. I'm sad to hear that your experience with therapy hasn't pulled the depths of color from your lenses out to witness. All too often do they remain too surface level to do any good. Even after years of skating that surface. ❤ you've got it though! The more you learn, the more tools you will have. Keep tinkering.
@@throughcolouredglasses9300Great, insightful post. How would you feel if you just went and started creating? Might be a joy, AND help with that wound.
My husband and I help each other with procrastination vs self care, we ask each other “are you sure you have the energy for this extra responsibility?” And “Are you sure you just can’t face things today? Are you sure you need this break or are you just trying to get out of doing something?”
Me: "I procrastinate" Also me: "I PROCRASTINATE BECAUSE MY ANXIETY STOPS ME" Also me realising I can do things with small steps at the time. Things don't need to be perfect. I don't need to be the best. If I just listen to those, I will for sure complete things regardless of how anxious I am.
Oh man... The perfectionism in every conversation I enter is the sole contributor of stagnating any progress I could have gotten. I believe it's from my excessive Internet addiction, I just compare myself to the pinnacle of conversation then never realize other people have the same awkward situations and lack thereof good topics, but of course I'll never understand that until I've fully committed to being the alright talker and not the perfect being with no mistakes.
I can't tell you how much I respect you, man. You've made the most impressive use of a sh*tty past I have ever seen. Seriously. You've helped me, I'm sure you've helped a ton of other people. I just love how upfront, honest, practical, and humble you are. It's amazing to me and I really hope that someday I can use my story to do something a fraction as beautiful as you've done with yours. You rock. God bless.
I'm curious about what you said regarding "abandoning hope" and how it helped you. How did you go about it and how did you proceed with life instead? Thank you, and congrats again!
I think he meant abandoning the specific hope that there will be a miracle, a sudden change, being rescued from misery. Hoping that your life gets better without any change. Hope without action. Yes, it's important to have hope when being depressed. But you aren't going to get less depressed in the long run with hope only if you don't speak with loved ones that you need help, or if you stay in a job or a relationship that fuels your depression or if you don't quit bring addicted to something that makes you miserable, I hope it gets the point across :)
Fellow clean and sober pal here! It works wonders figuring out your brain chemistry and getting on the right meds. With a clear, functioning brain on the mend, you can actually focus on fixing the other issues that led to the substance abuse.
usually working backwards helps too, when did the substance start when did the abuse start can there be a use of the substance without abuse if not, how can the feeling from the substance be substituted.. etc
RE: #4 - honestly this DOES get better and easier with age (65-year-old here). It’s like how people describe the tragedy of suicide-a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Your goal is to shorten that period of time between when the setback occurs (in your case, for example, the art teacher giving you the brush) and the point at which you figure out it doesn’t MATTER. If you all can shorten that length of time, you move forward with whatever you want to achieve more quickly with less pain and true suffering. Because the suffering and shame is real, unfortunately. Keep your head on straight and your eyes and heart on what you want to do-we can all do it!
Things got worse for me with age. I used to live life beautifully. Now I feel bad every day on every level and I’ve tried everything. Not looking for pity just maybe some understanding and some comforting & love before the end
congratulations on the golden button, Cam! :)) i've been watching you since the beginning of covid cause i wanted to start drawing again, so i found your video that i've watched a dozen times on doing the same thing every day, and of course i stayed for more. i love how you evolved into life philosophy and mental health basically. i'm 32 and i feel the most stable and happy as i've ever been, and your videos were a big part of my journey to happiness and stability 💔❤ you make your points so clearly and illustratively that they get stuck in my head :) and i can retract them easily when i need to! thank you so much for that
I think when you said you gave up on hope, what you really gave up on was magical thinking. To a child there's no difference but learning to tell the imposter from the authentic is among the challenging lessons of adulthood. Also, I synthesized a novelty Tshirt idea in the middle of watching the video. 💡
so many self help channels seem to be rooted in this weird right wing grind culture. I appreciate this video so much for being more grounded and genuinely helpful. Thank you
I hope you're finding fulfillment and a little satisfaction that your honesty and willingness to share your 'warts and all' is likely helping a lot more people than you know. It's no doubt frightening to be so vulnerable on a platform that doesn't always reward such courage. Thanks for what you do.
I’m trying to get better with money but I just don’t care about it enough. It comes and goes and I enjoy what I’ve gotten to do with it. I grew up poor and know how to do without so I’m not afraid to lose it all. I know I can rebuild. I am getting older though, so it’s time I start caring so the money can care for me when I’m too old to rebuild
Yes for the all or nothing mindset! The second I decided drinking was a problem I decided I'd quit. Moderation was never an option because I know I just can't do it. It goes for food too, there are things that are just not allowed in my house and for some reason people don't get this. Balance is overrated.
1M subs! So well deserved to get that plaque. I feel inspired to just keep pushing along to my goals. I feel like such a hipster since I was watching your videos before everyone discovered you. I was just looking for art inspiration when I found your channel.
"A top ten list of my dumbest purchases" Me, a music major and audio nerd: "Man if I had a ton of money to spend on stupid shit I don't need, I'd buy a theremin" "3: A theremin" At least you have good taste in your stupid purchases 👍
I've had a lot of success working WITH myself with solutions I figured out myself instead of working AGAINST myself with solutions other people told me were right. Advice is good, but never run with the first thing people tell you, thats bit me in the ass a whole lot of times.
Your channel was recommended to me, and I'm glad it was. Looking forward to exploring your channel more, I enjoy your delivery and insight. I struggle with alcoholism.
You are so amazingly inspiring! I could put it into a million more words, but.. Yeah, thanks for your honesty, the incredible production quality and thought behind your videos. I really hope you can feel the good you do for all your viewers, and feel pride on days that might be grey
You sound like my ADHD self with the dumb impulse spending. 😅 I mostly stopped that, too! Edit: oh, you just mentioned that you are kind of a colorful brain, too.(medication)❤
This must be one of my favourite videos of the internet and from you. And I'm not even half through yet. Thank you being honest, vulnerable and saying out loud things that most of us know, but do not acknowledge. Now, when hearing them (especially in your light way of presenting it and visualising it with images that show the real absurdity of these behaviours) it's like what you said "Honesty is one of the things that you know it when you see it". 👏🙌😇
Hiello 🙃 I wanted to say that I love youre book! It has helped me so much! I recommended it to my mom as well, thing is she wouldn't be able to understand it since it is written in English... I searched for a Spanish version but I couldn't find one. Is there anny chance I could find a Spanish version of the book somewhere 😬?
Gosh man, so relatable! From the alcohol to stop thinking to looking back at years of your life and wondering where your money went, and then discovering that the noise in your head is a condition and meds help... thanks for your vids. You make a difference in my life every day ❤
Drugs aren't worth it folks. Not even from a mental perspective, which seems to be the only perspective people focus on. Being an addict is sooo expensive, and it wastes way too much time. Humans prove themselves time and time again that we cannot handle being microfixated on just one thing, because we begin to disregard the important things in life for those that only feel the most important in the moment. Don't pop that pill, don't smoke that joint, don't snort that line, because addictions strip away our freedoms and replace them with dependencies. And to those who don't think they have freedom, yes you do. You have more opportunities than you can ever imagine, just don't squander them on drugs, or sensual pleasures for that matter.
Great video and very insightful, I think we all should know that God is good and sometimes he pushes you to places and opportunities you never knew you needed. I just got to realize that trading comes with a lot of benefits And I have just bought my first house through it. As a beginner I was scared of loosing my savings but l'm glad I took the bold step that is now favoring me.
Yes please How does this trading stuff work? I'm really interested but I just don't know how to go about it. I heard people really make it huge trading
It's not as easy as you think my friend. As a beginner, it's essential for you to have a mentor to keep you accountable. I'm guided by Maymuun J Choi a widely known crypto consultant
I strongly advise you against self trading, it's really dangerous and has brought many investors down, you need someone with the right strategies and expertise to do the work for you, I recommend Maymuun J Choi
the audio quality in this video is not as good as it usually is and it makes it hard for me, someone with an auditory processing disorder, to understand what you are saying. If you plan to keep it that way please consider adding subtitles. autogenerated subtitles aren't usually super accurate. The video is really great though. I know a lot of people who need this.
As someone who just had a breakdown at work and had to go home and take the next day off, this video feels personal (Ive got therapy booked in for next week so we good)
I would like to point out that, to some people, this advice would be damaging. Not everyone is at the right spot on their path. Some people should in fact do useless things that make them feel good instead of trying so hard to reach goals that don’t make them happy. It’s not as simple as « if you think you are taking care of yourself, you’re lying ». I think the video may sound a bit too assertive on some of these points.
I used to paint and draw and all the things. A teacher I admired said something I interpreted as negative and I didn't draw or paint again for the rest of time.
Just stumbled on this video but whoa man You are amazing I'm so fricking proud of you Thanks for making videos, I'm inspired to keep drawing again :') and take responsibility for myself too You are a hero ❤❤❤ keep at it my man!
It‘s years that I‘m trying to work on the percentage between indulging in anxiety-driven avoidance procrastination and building good habits in favor of the latter one, but the change is really too slow
I have this with work. During work I will get distracted or do other stuff so extremely often that it is tiring. I keep telling myself it is to keep myself sane because I have a hard time keeping myself motivated on work. I already reached out to get some therapy or diagnose to maybe get some meds or habit to deal with me being distracted, but atm I am on my own and it is intense. I get so bad I can't concentrate on menial tasks like writing this comment lmao. ( me allowing myself to indulge in the distractions is me using the excuse "Self-care" )
Not only do i love the video but also how inspiring and supportive the comment section is here. So many random strangers all over the world all rooting for each other ❤
I disagree politely with abandoning hope. There is a healthy dosage of hope and a false sense of hope (related to the waiting for a big break topic.) For things related for what we have no control over, hope does help us. i.e. family members battling an illness, or an application we send for a job, or hoping others show up in time. It's important to not lose hop in many of life circumstances and build that muscle. Hope definitely has helped me get through a lot. I do think you are right about how detrimental waiting can be, and how prolific it is in literature and film.
Dude, I just love your content! I hope I can always count on your videos along my lifetime in this world. And I also hope you have a wonderful life in this journey. Thanks my man!
Thank you for this video, it's great to hear the perspective of someone that's actually gone through these things and truly wishes to help. I will definitely be coming back to this video from time to time to help remind myself of my goals, thank you 💙
Today I found out SLIPPERS are created to keep you warm at home 🤯 my life is full of these tiny moments right now, as I am on a path of recovery and reparenting. It feels so good to see someone else experiencing life in a similar way. Thank you 🙏🏻
Thank you for using yourself as an example. Too many of these videos come from a superior/self righteous stance, despite the fact that we ALL have shortcomings. Much respect & admiration. 🙏🏾💚
Totally agree
That’s what makes him the most real creator in this space. He isn’t afraid to reveal his vulnerabilities 🫡
I know, this fellow is golden. A true educator.
Caroline Winkler is great at this too! She usually speaks to her lived experience and makes her advice very actionable with concrete personal examples. She definitely keeps it very relatable and approachable.
Exactly what I was thinking and I think I'm definitely ahead of the curve for loosing things 😅
As someone who has grew up surrounded by drug addicts and losing multiple family members to drugs and alcohol;
I am so proud of you.
Thank you for sharing this! Congratulations on the well-deserved mil, which I hope is the first of many. Your work has touched the lives of so many people, and I can honestly say you've changed my life in many ways!
Well, I hate that I've never had an original experience in my life. But also thank god you have put these things into such concrete terms. Another killer video
Just randomly found you. Keep up the good work ❤.
a random feed in need is indeed a find in a time of need
"5 years waiting in lines". Hell nah, very few things are important enough for me to spend that much time in lines. Waiting in line to confirm my ID for college is alright, for food i'll go somewhere else.
I really like the current studio background ✨
Oh boy I neeeded to hear this thank you.
Great video! :) Thank you for sharing
This is soooo good ❤
i really want a theremin tho
it sounds so cool
If those little 7 things are your only problems, you're fine - you'll manage somehow.
The self care point is SO IMPORTANT. Self care can be starting an assignment early so you dont have to rush and stress last minute, or going to class every day to make learning easier. I used to think self care was just doing what I liked, and thats part of it, but its also doing the thing you need to do in order to make life easier on future you.
I call it being kind to my future self. Do things now that will make things easier for your future self. And be sure to thank your past self when you get the benefits.
This is a really useful frame, thanks!
I tend to procrastinate first. So I get it out of the way allowing me to focus on the adrenaline rush of an impossible deadline.
@@MidlifeRenaissanceManlol this is me. I need to light that fire under my ass to do anything
Hell yeah! Self care can be actually doing the hard thing early to avoid heaps of stress
I always got frustrated when I'd tell therapists that I spent the whole day watching TH-cam or otherwise fucking around, and they'd say "Oh good, self care is important!" I was like BUT THAT'S ALL I DO and it really confused me until I pinpointed the difference between self-care and self-indulgence. The latter being more akin to self-harm than self-care.
Yes, I can relate to this. I had a therapist who thought self care was the epitome of mental wellness, which I’m not sure I agree with. I think self care has been warped into something it shouldn’t be, even though the initial idea was innocent. There’s a lot of evidence showing that caring for people, challenging yourself, and getting into the flow state are much more effective for overall well-being.
@@cierragrove4745 right. I can understand the need to relax and do something just for yourself sometimes. It's not good to never ever recharge. The problem is when ALL relaxation or downtime is seen as self-care, when what might be needed more is to be productive or be of service to others.
Yes! I've done this to myself and then wondered why I had no resilience in the midst of a forced high tempo season of my life when I had exercised no discipline, will, or worthiness for myself. How so many therapists can overlook such a glaring sign of not enoughness is beyond me. The professionals should be past this level of psychological immaturity by this point. It's infuriating that this is what is licensed and accepted by insurances as opposed to the holistic therapies that actually work but aren't mainstream yet.
Rant, rant, rant, rant
Whew. That's better. 😅
Yeah, I have had the same issue with therapists. I get they're trying to shutdown the self-loathing spiral, but I just also really need help in how to stop wasting my life doing nothing, never accomplishing my goals.
@@yltraviole EXACTLY
The social media one is so important. I truly think we are in a weird stage where social media is new enough that people don't realize the bizarre grasp it has on so many people. When you stop using it you see how strange it all has become. I really do think history will look back on this time and ask why we didn't realize how harmful social media was.
It's both harmful and wonderful though. We wouldn't be watching this if it wasn't for social media.
There's lot to unpick - maybe it will get analysed properly sometime in the 2040s!
True, but I seek this out, consciously consuming positive, productive content. Seems like on average social media/internet algorithms skew negative. So maybe my issue is with how algorithms are deployed moreso than the platforms themselves.@@wkt2506
@@wkt2506thats strong argument you have there.
Don't mind me using it to justify scrolling through crap when I bored, because Social Media is marvelous connecting all these people and their ideas.
that is totally right. i deleted instagram and twitter for a week just for a challenge and oh man my life has gotten 10 times better. instead I'm looking at pinterest and journaling.
@wingkintsoi7183 youtube isn't at same level it isn't as worse as typical "social media".
pick a vid (no shorts) then watch it till the end (speed up if needed).
By the time its completed i don't feel like watching more.
00:02 Bad money habits lead to misery
02:21 The impact of childhood money stories on adult behavior.
04:08 Identifying and avoiding the Mot and Bailey argument
05:58 Honesty and self-awareness can help identify and address bad habits.
07:57 Waiting creates false hope and leads to misery.
09:50 Setbacks can feel like a death sentence, but they're not as big as they seem.
11:33 Pushing through setbacks leads to growth
13:32 Focusing on everyday habits can lead to a better quality of life
15:17 Finding simple solutions can greatly improve your quality of life
17:06 Recognizing the net negative effects of drugs despite providing temporary happiness.
18:56 Conquered bad habit, no longer miserable
Thanks
Just click the video description. They did it for us.
@@franko8572 but then you can't use the AI bot for likes :((
@@sixfeetbelowhell Issabot!?
more often than not lately
a 3ft LAVA LAMP objectively makes your life SIGNIFICANTLY better, come on… 😤
In the midst of a bout of crying and feeling sad and sorry for myself, your video popped up and I began to laugh. Kind of like the sun beginning to shine during a rain shower. Great timing.
If you don't add "reddit" to your keyword search you're not using the internet right 😂
I've been watching your channel for a long time and it still amazes me how you can take a universal, complex feeling and logic us through to a less uncomfortable place. Thanks for your swirly twirly, spicy philosophic brain! (sidenote: silly purchases are worth it even just for the stories!)
Your sidenote is really true. I've hardly ever made any impulse purchases, certainly nothing bigger than a chocolate bar or something like that lol. So I kinda envy people with these crazy stories!
It takes a certain amount of gumption to make super large purchases like a van on a whim, or a one way ticket to another country, but I certainly envy the people that trust the process enough!!
It’s definitely worth investing in yourself though, be it that tattoo you’ve always dreamed of getting or finally buying a didgeridoo and learning to play. If life’s the journey, the side quests are the parts that make the picture worth looking at! 😊
So true I feel I’m not getting real research unless I take it the “Reddit” level 😂 it’s just always so much more insightful getting legit feedback from a bunch of strangers
* most likely to not be biased or advertised feedback that’s not from a library is my experience using Reddit. Learn so much more from it than what I learned from regular articles
procrastination = self care; that argument has been one I have played for myself MANY MANY MANY TIMES. thank you for highlighting it and talking through the habit (and habit-breaking)! 💕
I had a lot of these, turns out I had severe undiagnosed ADHD. getting the right meds and support completely turned my life around at 37, to the point that I'm about to start a PhD that I never would have even attempted a few years ago.
Having said that I'm definitely going to take your advice and learn to chop veg properly. One of the things I really struggle with is feeding myself properly and not resorting to takeaways all the time. The fact that if I cook dinner it pretty much takes up the entire evening really doesn't help with that
Cooking faster will come as you cook more, and get comfortable with just a not perfect meal.
You can make big batches and keep some in the freezer to save time later. 🙂
Which medication helps you please, & what are the differences you notice? Kind regards. (& I agree with above, cooking efficiency improves with practice, & batch cooking is the best use of your cooking time. Bolognese sauce, chilli con carne & chicken casserole are my batching go-tos. I get whatever I want out of the freezer in the morning, & it's defrosted & ready to quickly reheat by evening.
@@bobbobert4884 I mean I've been feeding myself for decades and it still takes me hours to cook a proper meal from scratch. I've got a few meals I can do quickly that I eat most of the time.
@@JP-ve7or I don't have a big enough freezer to do that unfortunately!
I am taking notes
1. Impulsive purchase/buying
2. Having procrastination while saying it's self care
3. Hoping too much for accidental solutions that are unrealistic
4. Just one setback and give up it all
5. Too much social media especially arguing about things that are not really important
6. Overlooking obvious things that would ease you in the long run for a bigger unobvious things - use mattress logic
7. Drugs, or anything that is addictive such as corn, PMO, and such things
Hope yall doing better bros and sis
okie dokie dougie.
@colinhogan5661To add to this: the breaching point of porn use is when it effects your daily perception of people. Nothing wrong about thinking someone is attractive, but you might want to ground yourself or step away when the first thing you think when you see someone you're attracted to is something quite sexual.
The social media and opinions thing is so true. Cause there are so many times I have seen a discussion out of propotion, and I just sit there like "Why cant you guys see both the good and bad in each perspective, and come to a conclusion. Like no one outside of social media will care".
Yes, there is no proportional response or nuanced conversation! Very frustrating for thinking people!
about "abandoning hope", i was taught that hope and fear are two branches of the same tree - which is projecting your expectations onto the future, when you should be being open to whatever may unfold ♥
never really thoughtful about that. yes, thank you! 😊
Abandoning hope is absolutely the worst advice for a depressed person
@@KlappKlo well, as said in the video, hope is not a substitute for an action plan. that's all it means to "abandon" it. don't rely on hope alone, you also need actions
@@verthandijal That's true, but ultimately phrased poorly on the part of the video maker. "Abandon(ing) hope" is equivalent to "giving up" in standard parlance - which he promptly goes on to use as a bad outcome of poor resilience in the very next topic. "Abandon fantasizing" or "Structure your hope" might be closer to the mark. It's effectively a "learn how to properly make and execute a plan" topic.
@@smallpseudonym2844 ok
"I lived it. It was dumb." That's my new catchphrase for getting over past embarrassments. 😂
Thank you. It's hard for me to admit this but I'm for sure an addict... to more than one drug nothing life threatening because of the drug itself but my behavior on said drugs. Your openness, your seriousness mixed with your presentation had me actually in tears from self realization that I've got bad habits man. And that feels bad man. I'm about to turn 30, it feels like a death sentence and that's so dramatic but it's the truth. I feel so meh and like I don't know what to do.
The money story - for sure... I've suspected and reconciled my money story a few times now I make a lot of cash then I procrastinate, play the waiting game, play the hope game, waiting for that call for the next movie gig for the next whatever. That self care lie holy fuck what a take. Thinking about my own set backs my own trauma surrounding just a kid wanting to make things once shot down and now to scared not knowing how to even start... and finally social media.
These things, on TH-cam a social media platform I've been procrastinating on for what years on now? This dopamine shot you've given me god I hope I can move it. I'm going to end my youtube dance today after writing this comment but you making this 19 minute heartfelt piece has brought me to tears and I think uncorked some deep seeded emotions and desires that I really needed to feel today. It's weird how things come into your life when maybe you need it the most. Struthless you have my upmost respect and I seriously appreciate the work that you do on your own. Your comment on the end about seeking professional help and getting the correct medication for your personal chemistry and situation... admitting I'm powerless... what a mind fuck. Thank you brother, I'm sending love your way. Thank you.
All the best, man. It's all fixable, and 30 is young, take it from me.
@@londongael414 I appreciate it, I know I do actually know. Sometimes when working on set for example I discover pretty regularly that I am in fact the youngest on my team... but fuck this last year with all the union delays shit got dicy and it just left time to reflect on well my 20's coming to an end.
@@JarredCordova Yeah, I know the feeling! But you know what the best time of my life was? My forties and fifties! You've figured a few things out, you know yourself better, you like yourself more, you begin to notice people treating you with...wow! actual respect! 30 sucks, but it really does get better - and you don't necessarily have to wait for ten years for that to start.
@@londongael414 Thank you seriously for taking the time! I’ll probably come back to this conversation again. I’m not like on an edge I think some serious reflection with age and it being December has me in a mood you know?
@@JarredCordova Cool! "Catcha!"😁
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Thank you for being so open and honest with us all, Struthless. As another ordinary person who struggled with addiction, it's really encouraging to listen to your experience. ❤
I agree, it is about honesty. The you-tubers and friends that have gotten to that place of honesty after addiction are so refreshing to listen to. That has been my experience. Thank you Struthless, your videos resonate for sure!
Despite years of resistance, going from drugs that I had no clue about the precedence to pharmacy drugs really helped me with ADHD, anxiety and depression this year. I was lucky to find a psychiatrist who actually cares, but still, this change enabled me to see many other bad habits I kept on reinforcing just because they made me feel good at some point
Yeah, I like how tackling one problem gives you the strength and will power to tackle more.
Might be a bit random, but this dude has the bluest eyes I've ever seen
On the topic of waiting.
While waiting for random events is bad, waiting with a purpose can be really soothing.
When I am in a train, and have to wait 1h to arrive. There is nothing I have to or should do in the meantime. I just have to wait and don't have to feel bad about it.
What you said about your art teacher made me think of Brene Brown's work. This is from an interview she did.
“I used to believe, before I did the research for The Gifts of Imperfection… that there were creative people and there were non-creative people. And now I absolutely understand personally (and professionally from the data) that there are no such thing as non-creative people. There are just people who use their creativity and people who don’t. And unused creativity is not benign.
For the people who really struggle because they don’t think of themselves as creative, there’s a lot of shame around creativity. People don’t think of themselves as creative, they think creativity is self indulgent. They don’t think it is productive enough. They don’t understand what it means. It was shut down in them as children. For those folks, when I say “unused creativity is not benign”, what I really mean is it metastasizes into resentment, grief, heartbreak. People sit on that creativity or they deny it and it festers.
When I started the research on shame, you know, 13 years ago, I found that 85% of the men and women who I interviewed remembered an event in school that was so shaming, it changed how they thought of themselves for the rest of their lives. But wait - this is good - fifty percent of that 85% percent, half of those people: those shame wounds were around creativity. So fifty percent of those people have art scars. Have creativity scars.”
I think I need to get that book. I think it might fix me.
The sadness and struggle around my art is wrapped in so many layers of shame that I didn't even talk about it in therapy during the total of 5 years I went. I read so much about other people's experiences in hopes that they will have something I could find useful or implement to better my life but I have never come across this!?
@throughcolouredglasses9300 I find Brene Brown's work so inspiring, my favorite is a 6 disc audio set called The Power of Vulnerability from Sounds True but the Gifts of Imperfection is also a great one. She.also has two Ted talks. Anyway I send you support in your quest for understanding, and common experiences.
@throughcolouredglasses9300 No matter how many inspiring books you read or how much you intellectually understand them, the big change happens when you understand yourself and begin to actively create the shifts in your life. Take it in, absorb it, and then dive into yourself with the new knowledge and tools. A book can't fix anyone, but it can give you new tools to tinker with your life.
I'm sad to hear that your experience with therapy hasn't pulled the depths of color from your lenses out to witness. All too often do they remain too surface level to do any good. Even after years of skating that surface.
❤ you've got it though! The more you learn, the more tools you will have. Keep tinkering.
@@throughcolouredglasses9300Great, insightful post. How would you feel if you just went and started creating? Might be a joy, AND help with that wound.
My husband and I help each other with procrastination vs self care, we ask each other “are you sure you have the energy for this extra responsibility?” And “Are you sure you just can’t face things today? Are you sure you need this break or are you just trying to get out of doing something?”
Me: "I procrastinate"
Also me: "I PROCRASTINATE BECAUSE MY ANXIETY STOPS ME"
Also me realising I can do things with small steps at the time. Things don't need to be perfect. I don't need to be the best. If I just listen to those, I will for sure complete things regardless of how anxious I am.
Oh man... The perfectionism in every conversation I enter is the sole contributor of stagnating any progress I could have gotten. I believe it's from my excessive Internet addiction, I just compare myself to the pinnacle of conversation then never realize other people have the same awkward situations and lack thereof good topics, but of course I'll never understand that until I've fully committed to being the alright talker and not the perfect being with no mistakes.
Sir, everyone needs a 3 foot tall lava lamp
I can't tell you how much I respect you, man. You've made the most impressive use of a sh*tty past I have ever seen. Seriously. You've helped me, I'm sure you've helped a ton of other people. I just love how upfront, honest, practical, and humble you are. It's amazing to me and I really hope that someday I can use my story to do something a fraction as beautiful as you've done with yours. You rock. God bless.
Saw the notification and went "oh shit" let's go.
Saaame!
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thanks, mate
I'm curious about what you said regarding "abandoning hope" and how it helped you. How did you go about it and how did you proceed with life instead? Thank you, and congrats again!
Sounds similar to the concept of radical acceptance
I think he meant abandoning the specific hope that there will be a miracle, a sudden change, being rescued from misery. Hoping that your life gets better without any change. Hope without action. Yes, it's important to have hope when being depressed. But you aren't going to get less depressed in the long run with hope only if you don't speak with loved ones that you need help, or if you stay in a job or a relationship that fuels your depression or if you don't quit bring addicted to something that makes you miserable, I hope it gets the point across :)
@@QT-oc9rn Oohh, thanks for explaining!
Fellow clean and sober pal here! It works wonders figuring out your brain chemistry and getting on the right meds. With a clear, functioning brain on the mend, you can actually focus on fixing the other issues that led to the substance abuse.
usually working backwards helps too,
when did the substance start
when did the abuse start
can there be a use of the substance without abuse
if not, how can the feeling from the substance be substituted.. etc
The "waiting for a big break" was the most relatable thing I've ever heard in my life.
RE: #4 - honestly this DOES get better and easier with age (65-year-old here). It’s like how people describe the tragedy of suicide-a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Your goal is to shorten that period of time between when the setback occurs (in your case, for example, the art teacher giving you the brush) and the point at which you figure out it doesn’t MATTER. If you all can shorten that length of time, you move forward with whatever you want to achieve more quickly with less pain and true suffering. Because the suffering and shame is real, unfortunately. Keep your head on straight and your eyes and heart on what you want to do-we can all do it!
Things got worse for me with age. I used to live life beautifully. Now I feel bad every day on every level and I’ve tried everything. Not looking for pity just maybe some understanding and some comforting & love before the end
congratulations on the golden button, Cam! :)) i've been watching you since the beginning of covid cause i wanted to start drawing again, so i found your video that i've watched a dozen times on doing the same thing every day, and of course i stayed for more. i love how you evolved into life philosophy and mental health basically. i'm 32 and i feel the most stable and happy as i've ever been, and your videos were a big part of my journey to happiness and stability 💔❤ you make your points so clearly and illustratively that they get stuck in my head :) and i can retract them easily when i need to! thank you so much for that
I think when you said you gave up on hope, what you really gave up on was magical thinking. To a child there's no difference but learning to tell the imposter from the authentic is among the challenging lessons of adulthood.
Also, I synthesized a novelty Tshirt idea in the middle of watching the video. 💡
so many self help channels seem to be rooted in this weird right wing grind culture. I appreciate this video so much for being more grounded and genuinely helpful. Thank you
Deleting twitter off my phone is the most simple way ive ever improved my mental health
I hope you're finding fulfillment and a little satisfaction that your honesty and willingness to share your 'warts and all' is likely helping a lot more people than you know. It's no doubt frightening to be so vulnerable on a platform that doesn't always reward such courage. Thanks for what you do.
You’re quickly becoming my favorite TH-camr for honesty alone. You’re fighting the fight with the rest of us.
I’m trying to get better with money but I just don’t care about it enough. It comes and goes and I enjoy what I’ve gotten to do with it. I grew up poor and know how to do without so I’m not afraid to lose it all. I know I can rebuild. I am getting older though, so it’s time I start caring so the money can care for me when I’m too old to rebuild
I've never met anyone that could put this into words but this helped.
Woah! Your channel looks amazing!!
It's also common to excuse procrastination as "planning"
Stop calling me out!
Is thay really a thing? I always associate procrastination with not doing what matters most.
Yes for the all or nothing mindset! The second I decided drinking was a problem I decided I'd quit. Moderation was never an option because I know I just can't do it. It goes for food too, there are things that are just not allowed in my house and for some reason people don't get this. Balance is overrated.
1M subs! So well deserved to get that plaque. I feel inspired to just keep pushing along to my goals. I feel like such a hipster since I was watching your videos before everyone discovered you. I was just looking for art inspiration when I found your channel.
"A top ten list of my dumbest purchases"
Me, a music major and audio nerd: "Man if I had a ton of money to spend on stupid shit I don't need, I'd buy a theremin"
"3: A theremin"
At least you have good taste in your stupid purchases 👍
me waking up hungover with a 1 metre tall the, ferra, thef, whatever that things is
ah yes. just how i imagined id end up with a 1m tall lava thing
I've had a lot of success working WITH myself with solutions I figured out myself instead of working AGAINST myself with solutions other people told me were right. Advice is good, but never run with the first thing people tell you, thats bit me in the ass a whole lot of times.
Your channel was recommended to me, and I'm glad it was. Looking forward to exploring your channel more, I enjoy your delivery and insight.
I struggle with alcoholism.
My girlfriend does, too, and I'm not quite sure what I can do to help her moderate. It makes me worry.
Good luck to you!
@@lykepaws She has to want to moderate first and foremost...I wish you the best :)
@@HeavyMetalGirl23 Yes, that makes sense. Thanks for your reply!
Back to applying for jobs and got my first rejection today. Felt shit. This video was so perfectly timed for me.
You are so amazingly inspiring! I could put it into a million more words, but.. Yeah, thanks for your honesty, the incredible production quality and thought behind your videos. I really hope you can feel the good you do for all your viewers, and feel pride on days that might be grey
You sound like my ADHD self with the dumb impulse spending. 😅 I mostly stopped that, too! Edit: oh, you just mentioned that you are kind of a colorful brain, too.(medication)❤
Surround yourself with LIKE-MINDED people who are GOOD FOR YOUR PHYSICAL SOCIAL AND MENTAL HEALTH 👏👏👏
Congrats for the youtube creator awards! Super happy to see that you now reached 1M subs!
This must be one of my favourite videos of the internet and from you. And I'm not even half through yet. Thank you being honest, vulnerable and saying out loud things that most of us know, but do not acknowledge. Now, when hearing them (especially in your light way of presenting it and visualising it with images that show the real absurdity of these behaviours) it's like what you said "Honesty is one of the things that you know it when you see it". 👏🙌😇
As an aside, "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen R Covey was one of the worst books I've ever read in my life.
Hiello 🙃 I wanted to say that I love youre book! It has helped me so much! I recommended it to my mom as well, thing is she wouldn't be able to understand it since it is written in English... I searched for a Spanish version but I couldn't find one. Is there anny chance I could find a Spanish version of the book somewhere 😬?
Gosh man, so relatable! From the alcohol to stop thinking to looking back at years of your life and wondering where your money went, and then discovering that the noise in your head is a condition and meds help... thanks for your vids. You make a difference in my life every day ❤
Drugs aren't worth it folks. Not even from a mental perspective, which seems to be the only perspective people focus on. Being an addict is sooo expensive, and it wastes way too much time. Humans prove themselves time and time again that we cannot handle being microfixated on just one thing, because we begin to disregard the important things in life for those that only feel the most important in the moment. Don't pop that pill, don't smoke that joint, don't snort that line, because addictions strip away our freedoms and replace them with dependencies. And to those who don't think they have freedom, yes you do. You have more opportunities than you can ever imagine, just don't squander them on drugs, or sensual pleasures for that matter.
Great video and very insightful, I think we all should know that God is good and sometimes he pushes you to places and opportunities you never knew you needed. I just got to realize that trading comes with a lot of benefits And I have just bought my first house through it. As a beginner I was scared of loosing my savings but l'm glad I took the bold step that is now favoring me.
congratulations!!
I will love to be your friend dear as well. as sharing some ideas which you're benefiting.
please how do you earn or should I say how does it work. are there steps I need to take, I need guidance my friend.
Yes please How does this trading stuff work? I'm really interested but I just don't know how to go about it. I heard people really make it huge trading
It's not as easy as you think my friend.
As a beginner, it's essential for you to have a mentor to keep you accountable. I'm guided by Maymuun J Choi a widely known crypto consultant
I strongly advise you against self trading, it's really dangerous and has brought many investors down, you need someone with the right strategies and expertise to do the work for you, I recommend Maymuun J Choi
the audio quality in this video is not as good as it usually is and it makes it hard for me, someone with an auditory processing disorder, to understand what you are saying. If you plan to keep it that way please consider adding subtitles. autogenerated subtitles aren't usually super accurate. The video is really great though. I know a lot of people who need this.
How many years of my life will be wasted on unskippable youtube ads?
The label maker was used adequately. Totally worth it. 😁
As someone who just had a breakdown at work and had to go home and take the next day off, this video feels personal
(Ive got therapy booked in for next week so we good)
Thank you man. I'll try this "no hoping" for the next months, it had to work for me. See you in 2024 🏆👀🐐☺️🇮🇹
I like how drugs and alcohol didn't make the list of dumbest impulse purchases.
To be fair… a theremin and 3-foot tall lava lamp are definitely purchased I would make 😅
I would like to point out that, to some people, this advice would be damaging. Not everyone is at the right spot on their path.
Some people should in fact do useless things that make them feel good instead of trying so hard to reach goals that don’t make them happy. It’s not as simple as « if you think you are taking care of yourself, you’re lying ». I think the video may sound a bit too assertive on some of these points.
I've wanted a theramin for YEARRRRRSSSSSS now. They sound so beautiful.
you shall have your Theramin, there is no denying you a Theramin,
in fact we should all have a collective protest #THERAMINHAVINGLIVESMATTER
I really want to know how you come up with those analogies, because I love you for it! :D
Dont save too much on what cushions you from the floor.
Shoes, mattress, bed, chair.
I used to paint and draw and all the things. A teacher I admired said something I interpreted as negative and I didn't draw or paint again for the rest of time.
Not me recently considering purchasing a theremin and then feeling called out in this video lmaooo
yeah okay I understand but a a 3 ft tall lava lamp is NEVER a dumb purchase
Just stumbled on this video but whoa man
You are amazing
I'm so fricking proud of you
Thanks for making videos, I'm inspired to keep drawing again :') and take responsibility for myself too
You are a hero ❤❤❤ keep at it my man!
I almost never lose things, but I sure do spend a lot of time chopping vegetables.
Oh snap! You caught me with the procrastination selfacare fallacy
Great video for me to be seeing as a 21yr art student, thanks legend :)
It‘s years that I‘m trying to work on the percentage between indulging in anxiety-driven avoidance procrastination and building good habits in favor of the latter one, but the change is really too slow
You sir, help me make the sad go away. Thanks. 👍🏻
I hate to say, when you said '3ft lava lamp' my response was OOOH
Hay I have a Theremin too! I broke mine somehow while not using it...
sorry but the video isn't working on me because every single one of those impulse purchases sounds sick as hell
how do you post perfect videos for me every time i need them
Loved this one Cam, keep killing the alphabet superset🫡
The self-care lie is one I didn't realize I was telling myself until this video. thank you!
I have this with work. During work I will get distracted or do other stuff so extremely often that it is tiring. I keep telling myself it is to keep myself sane because I have a hard time keeping myself motivated on work.
I already reached out to get some therapy or diagnose to maybe get some meds or habit to deal with me being distracted, but atm I am on my own and it is intense. I get so bad I can't concentrate on menial tasks like writing this comment lmao.
( me allowing myself to indulge in the distractions is me using the excuse "Self-care" )
damn you teared me up, you know what bit haha bless you man
Thank you! I needed this, so much truth,(from the Struth) and an encouraging reminder we are not alone in our struggles. ❤
Not only do i love the video but also how inspiring and supportive the comment section is here. So many random strangers all over the world all rooting for each other ❤
I disagree politely with abandoning hope. There is a healthy dosage of hope and a false sense of hope (related to the waiting for a big break topic.) For things related for what we have no control over, hope does help us. i.e. family members battling an illness, or an application we send for a job, or hoping others show up in time. It's important to not lose hop in many of life circumstances and build that muscle. Hope definitely has helped me get through a lot. I do think you are right about how detrimental waiting can be, and how prolific it is in literature and film.
Dear struthless, thank you
Dude, I just love your content!
I hope I can always count on your videos along my lifetime in this world. And I also hope you have a wonderful life in this journey.
Thanks my man!
Thank you for this video, it's great to hear the perspective of someone that's actually gone through these things and truly wishes to help. I will definitely be coming back to this video from time to time to help remind myself of my goals, thank you 💙
Today I found out SLIPPERS are created to keep you warm at home 🤯 my life is full of these tiny moments right now, as I am on a path of recovery and reparenting. It feels so good to see someone else experiencing life in a similar way. Thank you 🙏🏻