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When yt recommendations get way too real
yeah
Fr i clicked bc I knew it was about me
Agree just discussed with friend same topic and now showing on youtube 😂 they are listening after AI from front canera watching 👀 and suggesting on emotional state according to your face expressions..
@@Saim.369 yup its real
Literally
The more I go out the more I confirm Im not missing s***
Real
Same 🤣
Fr outside makes me feel so uncomfortable it's like I am forcing myself in this shit because how others act.
fr when i go out with friends. we just go at someone's house and stay there talking together the important thing is spend the time with the people you like. i know these guys since the fourth grade school. even now we got work and other things to handle , we still take time to spend together. ( sorry the grammar the english isn't my native language )
Agreed… I’ve tried putting myself out there at the expense of people someone I’m not and finding that people are just into smoking pot and/or drinking…
The problem is society. They expect you to have ur life in order at 20. They don’t understand u can have a stable life built at 30
This must be pinned💯
THIS
The problem is people who think that you’re still a kid at 20. At 15 you’re already a « young adult »
The problem is this belief of yours
@@firewolf7108nah.
Going out is overrated. It's honestly not all that, once you keep going out regularly it gets boring and the older you get the more you want to have your space.
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True and this society is too sick anyways. You must find the right people at the right place.
Balance!
Who hurt you lil bro
@@Axel22250 his own mindset
As a 28-year-old who spent my late teens and early to mid-20s partying and drinking, I often engaged in things I shouldn't have. When the pandemic hit in 2020, I was 24 and became more comfortable saying no to unnecessary activities, prioritizing meaningful outings. Since then, I've traveled more and played more sports than ever. As I've grown older, I've come to appreciate my space and prioritize myself over others. I’ve always loved women, but now I focus my efforts on those who show me effort in return. If not, I'm content with being alone or hanging out with friends. Life is more than just women and going out; it's about self-fulfillment, doing what makes you happy, and having a purpose.
I really hate people like you. You experience life as it is and only regret the time spent when you look back. Did you not enjoy the time you spent while you were there and in the moment. You have stories and I mean plenty of them. Each and every place you went to is an interesting conversation starter about your life. The people you meet, the connection you had, or still have came from you experiencing people. When I get in your position all I’m going to remember is that I lived my life to the fullest than thinking I wasted it. Life is an amazing story you end up telling. It wouldn’t be amazing if it didn’t have obstacles.
He is kinda on his early twenties, that's why he thinks like that
i get what u mean , but i think he is just telling you to go out and get friends or just to talk to your classmates and friend them in school , he is probably using woman here so more people (teens) might get interested ,but i am exactly like how he mentioned , i went straight to school n came home , rarely went out with friends , and for the last 2 years of high school i moved to a better school ,lost touch with my close friends , after school i got into uni , completed my 1 st year and now im introverted ( i think after covid i became super introverted , what caught me off guard is the point he made about eye contact as they were true) , dont have any close friends , i did get a few friends in uni but they all live in different states. so pretty much 19 , got no friends lmao. knowing the type of person i am idk i think ill just stay alone forever. i am planning to go to gym , (mainly to lose weight). so if i got a chance to my younger self i would have probably told myself to spend some more time with my friends and into some other hobbies as i did waste a lot of time by playing games , i still do but to a very smaller extent. im not even looking to get a girlfriend or anything in fact i probably wont even think about that for 3 more years.
Agree with you, I'm 21 and I have the same mindset and goals, girls, partying, boring meeting ''unnecessary ones'' shouldn't be one of your priorities they are just waste of time and a big regret. You still have more to enjoy and learn for yourself and family, friends.
Happiness is subjective. Your brain, is not. Just equalize those levels. Purpose? Sounds cliché for this...
if you want to go deeper into the rabbit hole, 'Unveiling Your Hidden Potential' by Bruce Thornwood is a must-read
When u dont have money going out is pointless trust me
no
I only going out to do sport or buying items that all
Fr
agreed
Nah go out and work
I'm 31 yo and I feel awesome... I don't even think about going out and doing stuff. I have things to do at home. They make me feel alive
I only hangout to cure my depression and not blast my brain out and also keep my cognitive motor functioning in check not only that being thankful to the privileged lifestyle to build a great future with someone there for that reason.
"Life is more than just women and going out; it's about self-fulfillment, doing what makes you happy, and having a purpose."
@@Y4LUCIDBro just quoted a comment from this video 😂
@@Y4LUCIDugly man cope, anyone with a girl they like would never say that
yeah he doesnt even what hes talking about. semen bank head simping for women this is not the way.
This is not necessarily going out literally, it's about not exploring and trying new things
fr
@@Snork3njoyer😂😂
Being bullied for 10 years in school made me develop a severe case of social anxiety and agoraphobia. I never had real friends, nor was able to socialize with normal kids and normal people either. Had absolutely no options as nobody would understand the severity of my mental health issues after such a long period of bullying and abuse. It's deeply tied into me. I stayed at home most of my time after (barely) graduating with poor grades due to dyslexia and anxiety issues, and I spent at home for another 10 years. Now at 31, I worked only for like 3 months, and it was damn hard, like I barely kept myself together, remained mostly silent around co-workers, and they labeled me as someone who i'm not (except one colleague, but we required a lot of time to even start communicating, and i'm soo glad that I got at least someone 'normal' now) cuz i'm very good at reading peoples body language and non-verbal communication. I've been through severe depression and times where my physical health has been affected because of it, and I still sometimes run into deep depressive episodes that I hardly tell anyone. I've been to multiple psychiatrists and therapists, but they didn't help much. I'm stuck and I can't fit into this world. Everyone I ever tried to hang with (very rarely) just wasn't a type I would hang with, except this one colleague now.
I hear you man. Find more people just like your colleague :)
Idk about the depression, but I went through the same thing you did when I was younger, bullied a lot, afraid to go out, etc. And because of all that, in my early twenties I was afraid to interact with people, it was to the point I would literally start shaking when talking to someone I didn’t know too well.
But at some point I talked to some old guy that inspired me and told me I need to do better for myself (I was working at Amazon at the time), after I talked to him I got a job that forced me to be in front of people and get over my social anxiety and it actually worked, I don’t have a problem talking to people now but I still have a problem forming meaningful connections and I’m still working on that
bro , thats agoraphobia as you said , and its symptom feeling not fitting , because of lack selfesteem and confidence that comes along with the traumas .... begin bro please going to therapy and find a psychiatrist and let them know what you feel , so you are in right hands and figure your shit together
Jesus loves you
@@kazyounthere is no solution I have that and avoidant personality disorder
Honestly a perfect take man. Iove these video showing ur persona. THE GLOW UP IS INSANE
PETER I'm so glad you liked it brother! I thought your video was so good I had to copy the title 🤣
Mf made the same video 2 weeks ago
@@manishraul everyone on youtube does that. its okay its makes us grow, plus!
its all you inside the video and thats what matters g, KEEP it UP UR BLOWING UP!
@@Peterwithanr This is why ur the goat
Bro copied u I just watched ur vid
This is true but, I also need money
We gotta work hard brother
very very correct
@@manishraul Problem is not everywhere there are job opportunities
get a job ez
@@manishraul they don´t want me to get a job, they want me to keep studying in university ;D (managed to pass a 127 ppl exam, only 31 passed)
man after 12 hours of work/day the only thing i beg for is staying home and game all day
I am 26 and lonely because I hardly talk to people. It’s late and killing me inside but I will try slowly daily. Thank you Manish Brother.
You got this brother I believe in you 🙏
It’s not late bro I’m 26 here and going through the same.
Brhh think a little. How did you make friends as a kid? Activities. You went to school, clubs, after school activities etc.
If you want that kind of environment as an adults its very possible. I wouldnt advise it but there are bars. There is also churchs. If none of thise are for you, then there are sports. Even gym works (rarely tho). But i mostly recommend sports if you cant do church. Do a combat sport like boxing, youll meet other people there.
You could also do classes although does rarely work. Also dont let this guy convince you that you cant mkae friends online.
Im just saying find some kind of activity that groups you and strangers.
Same but im 25 😂 maybe we should all be friends
@@victorbonnah70 📠📠
as an introvert. nah man i've been out a lot in the past, i went through a lot, and i find peace at my home playing on pc my favorite games. thanks for this tho
same here tbh it’s more peaceful
confort zone, max level of insecurity.
@@zerafael-si3dd won't say insecurity but can say laziness, im not insecure about anything im happy i go to gym i have friends i go out sometimes but i find peace at playing games like single player for example rdr2 so why do u come here telling that?
You've just been speaking facts. For most of my high school career I've just been going home after school. I was also a social outcast, so I can relate to you. After awhile it messes with your mental health. You need to go outside and socialize with others. If you don't have any friends at your school, it's maybe because no one wants to be around you (whether that be because you not physically attractive or don't have social skills), but that's ok. Just worry about improving those aspects in your life and you will attract people with similar interest as you, who genuinely make you a better person. Trust me, it's better to have no friends, but constantly improving yourself outside your house, then to let your mental deteriate of constant overthinking and self-hatred at home and letting time pass by.
Facts
well said
So basically what ur implying is that in order to get friends and love, you must improve yourself? So that means its all based on conditional connection. Basically fake and Mold yourself to get liked by people? Isnt that weak?
@@BerkantOzdemir-gt3dl It isn't weak...well it is weak but we are weak creatures. At some point in your life you will need the help of other people when you have a problem you can't solve alone. Therefore you need to improve yourself inorder to get their help. Being alone will be painful after some time
To be honest, im a pretty good looking guy and i dont have any problem making connections. Even during highschool, girls would often find ways to talk to me and i also had alot of friends but id always choose to be alone at home. It was perfect. Sometimes, you dont always need people to be happy. If you're happy all by yourself, there's nothing wrong. Dont force yourself to be someone you're not
Yeah😀❤️💯
yea social media might make you think you are not okay with your life even if you are happy with it and make you doubt yourself.
True, pretty damn relatable. When i used to be with my male friends who were friends with different girls they would come to me even if i made it seem like I'm avoiding them, honestly i never saw value in spending time with such people being alone made me feel contended
exactly. many people with lots of friends and wealth are empty on the inside. people dont make you happy.
He's not mostly talking about being happy, he was just saying that when you grow older, you'll wish that when you were younger you went out more which is why you should start doing that bc youth won't last forever.
Fuck... this level of honest no bs advice is what we need more on yt now
Man said all that just to sell his self improvement course
LMAAAAOO HAHAHAH
Another pаjeet promoting a scam, what do you expect
facts lmao
And then there are ppl like you.
Thanks for saving me 9 minutes lol. I scroll through comments while listening.
the issue is, especially on the internet atm: that people fail to realize to whom a specific advice is targeted towards. there is no yes or no, it depends. and i am getting tired of people online arguing in comments and alike about ''yeah no thats not true, i do it differently and ...'' bro... its because you re not even the target audience for this advice to begin with. you can give advice to one person and it might be completely wrong for another person. just because something works FOR YOU... does not mean it works for everyone else.
if a person is sitting at home all day, 100% this person HAS to pretty much FORCE himself to go out more for the greater good. people dont realize that your brain for the most part is not your friend. your brain is resistance. your brain always wants to go the easier route and just chill at home in comfort zone that why you actively have to force yourself to go out.
on the other hand if a person is out working and having a working social life to begin with, maybe its a better advice to just take it slow and chill and have a day at home from time to time.
it depends, that why arguing about it is beyond pointless.
Why is it so hard to understand that some people are completely fine, and actually prefere being alone and in peace?
This video isn't for those people.
But it's not the right thing.
some folk will try to think for you
I'm not afraid to go outside and talk to people. The issue is, where ARE all the people?
I go out a lot, but I just don't meet a lot of people. Everyone is either in a hurry to be somewhere else, or already has enough friends and isn't interested in meeting anyone new.
Bro for real they tell me to meet new people in order to break the boring routine but where tf are the people?
Everytime I go outside, It is usually just me around.
@@BrandonWombacher-cp7uh Yep, that's always been the problem for me. I go out, but there's no one else out there.
It impossible for me to meet new people around my own age it very empty out there, you only make friends thru work, club, gym, or activities, hobby, school tech, animal park
@@welpnope-nk2nzcause usually when your older most people already have cliques they don’t want new people especially men
I'm introvert, but this is my quote.
"I breathe oxygen, not people".
What do you mean?
Meaning talking to people is a waste of breath
cringe
@@zerafael-si3ddtell me how.
going out makes me so mentally tired. i need to get to home to recharge
Sign that it mentally challenges you bro. May you get out more so you strengthen your mind 💪
@@charis5070 no i dont have to
Yes you have,and you need me for that@@gamwsas
Worddddd
But we have to change our mindset be comfortable everywhere that have to be done for our own good for our future we can’t stuck forever in this fucking mindset to let u shut u down fight back control our life now didn’t then when 😊
There is more to life than human connection.
There is more to life than air, food and water.
THERE IS MORE TO LIFE THAN LIFE.
human connection is the main thing because thats what keeps us going if u like it to admit or not. Even as a man most of the historic things done in history was a selfless act trying to protecting someone or something, for a greater cause. u will lose your spark if all u care about is yourself. most of us want to truly improve cause of outside things, like family etc. true purpose comes when ur dedicating your life to something more than yourself. it maybe anything new experiences, adventure being passionate about something, being able to provide for your family , getting a girlfriend etc.
Is there? Human connection is pretty important.
The only thing as a muslim i can think of is my religion and connection to God, since i believe in an eternal life after this one and wanna prepare myself for it. But other than that, like what? Wasting your time playing Elden Ring? It might be enjoyable for the moment, but thats not something youll remember or be proud of in 20 years. Im not saying you should go out every single day and be with others 24/7, just like with everything, you will need moments where you take a break from that aswell, thats when you can play video games, but that should never be your focus in this life.
And im not saying all this to talk down on you, im genuinely asking you, like what for example? What am i missing out in your opinion?
@@z0ck3y23
Books, creative writting, workouts, meditation, cooking, working, learning niche things that interest me... any solitary activity, really.
I don't need connection to be fufilled and proud, if I'm doing this things. If I want something like sex, I'll just pay. I don't want friends. And I won't be around to look back in 20 years.
I'm 29 years old now - will be 30 in a couple of months.
I love video games and definitely gonna play them till the end of my life.
But I started to feel that I need some changes. Going out more, get to know people, maybe even getting a girlfriend, etc.
I don't know if these feelings come from my heart or from outside forces - some people "criticize" me for being a "home stayer"... - but either way, I feel that I need these things.
Honestly, I never had a girlfriend. During my school years I was a social outcast and I didn't really make many friends.
In high school I wanted to have a girlfriend, but the girls treated me so badly that I didn't even really thought about it to try getting a girlfriend again until nowadays.
My looks are okay, though I definitely need to lose some weight.
And I have some friends from work too, whom I'm going out with sometimes.
I'd like to meet new people, but I fear that I would just bore them or maybe even creep them out. Mostly because I'm not really good at small talk and I don't really have much stories to tell and topics to talk about - other than video games, movies and things like that...
But on the bright side, maybe I could get friends through the "things" I like.
For example, I'm a fan of Michael Jackson and I've been thinking about meeting other fans through fan pages and clubs :)
We'll see what happens. I'm actually mostly satisfied with my life.
For those, who reading this, if you feel bad about an aspect of your life and you want to change it. Just do it!
Otherwise, live your life the way you want it. Nothing else matters.
Thanks for sharing this brother
How do you know my life story?
Hey this is also me, but I'm 1 year younger than you. I'd say don't worry too much about it. Really living for myself is what helped me alot
I was in a similar situation. I'm 29, turning 30 in October. I was a social outcast and loner at school from grade 9. Remained a social outcast throughout Uni (only had a couple of friends but not very sociable) up until age 25. The year I was 25 was when I finally decided to become sociable, so I booked a big Europe trip. Unfortunately, that was just a couple of months before Covid started, so I ended up losing another 2 years of social life and making friends. I finally got to travel from 2022 at the age of 27 and have done so much since and made heaps of friends. It's definitely not too late to make friends and party in your late 20's. I highly recommend solo travelling. It really helps you to become extroverted and helps you to discover who you really are and the people that you are compatible with.
@@g.e.889 The problem with me is that I don't have anything to talk about with any of my friends. So I just ask them about their life and sooner or later I will lose interest in the whole conversation. Also i will act like I know what they are talking about so i don't look dumb, which inturn makes me feel fake and over the years i forget the point of talking I guess. Coming to think of the whole situation, I was forced to talk to avoid being awkward throughout my life that I don't know who I am anymore. All I know is i am more of a thinker than a talker.
its so difficult to make new friends cause I stayed home for like 5 years straight. I only went to school and had my social circle there and when i graduated last year, my social life was gone. I had no contact with any of them since then, we were just friends because we saw each other every day. After that I started going to university and i realized how difficult it is to make new friends and get to know new people cause i actually got no interest that i could talk about with them and no social skills since i havent made new friends for a long time. I also kinda developed social anxiety, i cant really talk to people in real life, its difficult.
What you just described was my exact situation a couple years ago man. Thing is, now I feel the exact opposite and never feel lonely EVER.
Trust the process of getting better at talking with people and you will see how good life will treat you brother.
Don't forget to always smile :)
i can't go out cause i think everyone hookup but acting from outside being so pure.. i had jobs tbh but it really hurts when i see others having fun and i'm just alone all by myself
im a girl but i needed this vid sm 🙏i could relate to this, mostly cus of strict parents and social anxiety. this summer im giving it all and trying to hv a 360 change to change who i am. being at home all day n shi is getting u nowhere in life its such a waste fr. live your life to the fullest
Bruh when I clicked this video I was still feeling kinda down, after seeing you here, made me cheer up😂. Seriously bruh what the heck you doing here?
nah if thats u on the pfp girl u look amazing go out you will be accepted by people and you will make friends pretty easily
@wycko0 it's not about the looks bro. People can be so handsome or beautiful but if they are more on the introvert side, shy away, then other people will also prefer to not bother them
@@tesla9665 wdym what am i doing here? i relate to this shit 💀
@@wycko0 yes thats me on the pfp haha thank u, and noo man its so hard for me to make friends esp with girls. i was always a loner but tryna change that from now by going out more
when I stay home new new idia came in my mind about life and career, but when I go out I forgot everything
This is the best "the treasure was the friends we made along the way" I have ever seen.
This shit relatable as hell. I wasted my teens and 20s doing nothing but playing games, watching anime, wrestling, and...porn. I wanted girls but wasn't putting in kinda of work and was doing something that would drive them off instantly.
Dude its your face who drovr them off
No, you did those things because you couldn't get girls
No, you did that because girls weren't interested
@@Incel371not cool bro
Nga that comment wasnt needed, not cool and huge L @Incel371
man i fully understand this and i think its absolutly right everything you say, i had best life ever until 16yo than i moved to another country where i didnt know anyone and even when i came to school nobody wanted to be my friend since i didnt know their language and they didnt want to speak in english, and ever since that nothing changed i tried different school i learned the language but still everything is same so i just started focusing on my self on our family business and just waiting time to get back to my home country to go out with friends that actually like me and arent fake. 3 years later everything stayed same, i go to university and people around me just feels fake compared to those from home country which i know since being born. even when i made new friend they never want to go out w me idk really know if its nationallity problem or what but man its so sad.... i have many skills on bike as well i am good rider and i go to boxing so i am definetly not antisocial. i am spending most of my time with my dad riding on hills and racing him but i miss going out partying and doing crazy shits that i been doing when i was 14
It's so true that people at uni seem "fake" compared to back at the home country
I agree with you, I've been the same way for a very long time. 3 years ago I've decided that I would change that, that I would go out more, meet new people, exercise, etc. And I did: I'm much healthier now, looking much better and enjoying living a lot more. But you know what didn't change? My connections to other people.
Unfortunately, having friends isn't something that depends entirely on you. You need others to try and put in the effort to get to know you too and most people unfortunately don't really want to do that. Most prefer the easier methods of online friendships which, just like you said, don't really fullfill our needs as human beings.
You can certainly fix yourself and become more sociable, but that will only get you so far: You also need others to do the same as you, and most people don't bother. Still, with that said, It's certainly worth it.
Atleast you had 1 or 2 friends, I dont even has 1..
You too can have friends man. He wasn’t born with these friends, and we all had 0 friends at one point. You have to go out and make friends
@@Khaled-F nah if you have school friends that's good, if not don't force yourself to go out and look for people to be your friends
@@Steve89100 if you don't have friends then you should force yourself to go out and look for friends, cuz nobody else is gonna do it for you, and nobody else should. I mean, you're not a baby. Go out and make friends! So many places you can make friends like the gym, sports center where people play football or basketball, libraries... etc. places where you can find people with common interests and hobbies.
Story time.
I actually met some of my best friends online, and hung out with them multiple times (flew to the other side of the country). I've been there for some of them going through heart break, and now that same person is getting married this September. We have a bachlors party in Vegas next month...
Anything can happen... I've been blessed.
I am 15 no real friends bc the people are weird and material in my class. I met guy same age online 2 years ago and we talk / game everyday and are best friends now and I am his best friend. The thing what I really like about online friends is you can talk about everything. The friends I used to have all some sort betrayed me and you can’t tell them anything private bc would all tell it everyone. Everyone in my area / slash school is only focussed on alcohol/clothes and attention which is the complete opposite of me. 🙏 Jesus loves you ❤️
Bro, I swear my youtube recommendations know too much about me. Seriously though, thank you for the wake up call. For a long ass time I've felt this emptiness that I have tried to fill with studying, working, and consuming content. I have no idea why it hasn't occurred to me that social belonging/intimacy is a human need and is absolutely not optional. I've always labeled myself an introvert, and never made making friends or putting myself out there a priority, but doing so is like fighting my own genetic programming. To my fellow self-labeled introverts out there, let's go touch grass, and hopefully some boobs too.
im 34 - ive done both, sitting at home and enjoy some good games & also going out with friends and had fun with woman.
i dont regret anything i did - it made me who i am.
there is no key to success or how to live your life - do what you enjoy and stop being someone you aint.
i think as humans we crave what we dont have. antisocial people crave social relationships. people who have an abundance of friendships crave personal time. i think its important for us to take life into our own hands, and create new things rather than just experiencing life passively.
Uff alpha female
@@vicvic2081 😍😍😍
If any thing which is in more than need it always is a problem for humans
I don’t have Instagram.
I don’t have TikTok.
I don’t use Snapchat.
I don’t have facebook.
I don’t have Reddit.
I don’t use discord.
I don’t have beReal.
I don’t have twitch.
I don’t have Pinterest.
But video games. Man I need to go outside but I don’t want to spend money to do things and without spending money I’m never going to make any friends.
I had friends, you know like in school, but people change, people move on and now I don’t really have anybody I can talk to be honest.
I work, I go to college etc, but when I come home I don’t have a life.
I know that’s partly my fault but like it’s hard, I don’t know what to do.
I thought I had actual friend friends, not just ‘friends’. But there you go.
So right now I’m just lost.
I hv only yt no money for video games
bro has nothing 💀
@@AlCatSplat that’s cos I ain’t sat waisting my time on different social medias
@@Georrge._.06 same
This is the most relatable youtube video I've seen, probably ever. You earned a sub. I am 16 now, barely any friends/social communication, stuttering when talking, NO attraction from girls, and summer break is coming up and I don't know if I will really even go out of my house in order to socialize during the break. That is one of my biggest concerns rn. But I think I can do it, this video motivated me. Wish me luck
I’m 16 as well my friend, 3 months ago i started working out and haven’t stopped. I feel like a whole new person now. You can do it man.
I went to the gym recently and had a pretty rough experience. I asked someone for help with lifting a chair, and they ended up mocking me. It made the gym feel even more intimidating than before, and I didn't enjoy it at all. Despite this, I know I can't let it derail my goals. I'm determined to go back and keep pushing forward. Have any of you ever had a similar experience?
My friend Mathew passed away from taking his own life in 2016 because he stayed in all day playing video games not being able to be social
thank you for not blaming me🙏🙏. I really want to make a change asap
This is so related. Good video, man.
thanks man!!
I stay at home at lot now I recently got out of a 3 year situationship which messed me up and I also lost my job which allowed me to travel I hate where I am in life right now because the world is a massive place full of beautiful places and I want to see these places I stay at home to rebuild myself I go to the gym every day but I'm at the lowest in my self confidence in every way I want my life back and only I can get my life back to those traveling and seeing people enjoy those moments together cherish them because you never know when it'll end and how much you miss it when it's gone.
I'm a Recluse and I love my own company. I work remotely, I ride my motorcycle. I train in my home gym, I eat good food, I go out on drives and see places alone. I have a couple good friends who I meet maybe 3-4 times a year. In my free time I watch anime or study stuff. But mostly I don't crave company because I realised most people suck, and there is a bit of misanthrope in me. Romantic relationships are overrated, I have a couple female friends but I am single by choice. Some days suck, I have my share of demons and trauma (who hasn't), but it's not as bad as it was years ago when I was surrounded by a lot of fake people, used to socialize more and was in a toxic relationship and a shitty job.
thank you! i agree with this. when i say this, people get mad. people are depressed and ashamed of their true introverted selves because they have been brainwashed by society that they need to have thousands of friends and go out every weekend. the fact that they hate themselves for who they really are is enough proof that people suck. the society that made them hate themselves for not going out is the society that will let them down when they follow a sheep mentality and “go out and have fun”. people are boring, overrated, and full of baggage. people really suck. it’s okay to be alone. being alone doesn’t mean lonely.
This is the realest sh*t bro, thank you.
Thanks for this brother. I really needed to hear this rn. Been lonely cunt for years and i have been spending most of my free time playing videogames at home. But this summer im really doing a big chance in my life ❤
Easier said than done. I go out everyday and I ask people to whom I know to go out with me but none of them wants to go so I end up hanging out alone.
Similar background, video games after school and weekends while all my peers would be hanging out.
Damn relatable
@@manishraul you have the right idea but why did you come to the conclusion that women is the meaning of life
I feel honestly so connected to the words you spoke for the past 5 years I have been waiting for this to fit into my lifestyle but I've realize no major changes are gonna happen if I stayed home all day. This is me in my summer break and I hate it for the fact that I don't have any friends who I really trust to speak to.
I don't have time to ,just go out, I have work to do and the money doesn't grow on trees.
Every time I go out, it makes me realise that staying home isn't bad at all
brother life is not all about girls... the real answer is this; Finding something you enjoy (a hobby), making memories with a close friend or friends, travelling & seeing new places, that's living, being happy right now in this very moment is living and nothing else matters
Those girls eventually will leave him and make his life 10 yrs of hell more.
I think he actually means exactly that.
Real talk. Thanks, bro.
You’re one of the most realest people out there I wish you were my family member and thank you brother for sharing I subscribed and will keep on watching your content. God bless you and wish you the best 🙂
"They come back from home to stay at home" 🗣
your smile holds so much sadness even your eyes are filled with sadness or regret i hope we will achieve it
100%%%
its really hard it really is. Im about to be a sophomore in highschool and I feel like im exactly in your shoes. I feel like ever since i left middle school I never had any REAL or TRUE friends, everyone who came from my previous middle school to my currrent highschool were my friends but not the real ones. Once i stepped foot into highschool, I just stuck with people who I knew from last year and did this for the first few weeks and after those few weeks, I realized those werent the people I wanted to hang out with and tried branching out. I eventually did but it was purely circumstantial and I believed to be where i got lucky as I made my first new friend. And the cycle repeated, in this new group of friends we all just played games IN school which is actually crazy. All i did was sit down and play brawlstars 24/7, 7 days a week and soon enough I finished school. My whole freshman year felt wasted, I did not participate in any clubs or school related activities and did zero sports. I really want to change but its so hard. After watching this video makes me feel like someone understands me. Im truly grateful for you bro, hopefully i can create stronger bonds this year and change for the better 😊
Straight to the point and very smoothly delivered, thanks brother 💪
Mate youre completely right, and Ive been trying these things in the last year or so a bit more, and I will say there is slight improvement, ive gotten to know a few more people.. BUT, what i have also found is that even with my open, friendly and positive attitude around people, they lose interest very fast. The people ive met in real life who ive connected with online will never message me, they will only message on response to me if i have something to ask, and sometimes just they will just straight up not reply.
Ive been pretty down about this whole situation because it feels like ive stepped up and improved myself which is cool and all, but its only making me feel worse, and more rejected.
Its hard for me to understand why this happens, im not too forward, i find myself pretty chill in conversation and positive, i also dont necessarily think i look bad.
Its a pretty tough world we live in, and for people like you and I, its not easy, its a real mountain to climb just to feel like we are wanted and that we fit in.
Even with my struggles, i still appreciate your video and agree with all that you said, we need to get out and try, otherwise nothing will happen at all.
Well said. Many people are struggling with video game addictions and have difficulties focusing on their goals as they tend to help escaping the real world because society has fallen down and nowadays is pure chaos.
For me, what really matters are my family and my religion. I love workout, talking to my family and deepening my understanding of my faith, such as by reading the Qur'an. This reminds me that this worldly life is only a test, and in the end, what truly matters are the deeds we've done.
Like really, there are people that are blind, deaf, or even amputees, making it clear that life is and always will be unfair and not a "so rewarding place". We achieve success through hardship and the difficult tests we face from our lord, and not from satisfaction. Thank you for giving us the opportunity to reflect on our lives, which is very important!
Nobody is addicted to video games lol, there's just nothing else to do
@@theking8347 great excuse video game addict
@@zerafael-si3dd I barely play video games anymore. There's still nothing to do.
I feel the same way bro, absolutely goated at the games I play, but at what cost .. it’s comforting in your safe space but everyone needs a breath of fresh air every now and then
I just don't like drinking smoking drugs and rap and that's what made me an outcast
Bro 🫴✊✋
@@viewer-v-21 wdym?
@@JK-nj3bt stay strong
Bro you really too fast to reply, 🥶
Bro how did you get 37subscribers with no vedio*
Wanted to chime on this as concise as possible: This video has a message with extremely good intentions and you should feel proud of yourself for taking the time to share this but I believe it only applies for people who are experiencing an extreme amount of loneliness and isolation and not for everyone who has just decided that they are happier staying at home. When I was 19-22 I went out at least every weekend. I felt that I wasted my day if I didn't go out and make friends and would feel like shit if I did not meet anyone interesting that day or if I wasn't able to gain the acceptance of people. I wanted so bad to be cool to others and I went out again and again and again hoping I can find "my tribe". Here's the thing: what if that's just a cope for a deeper thing you're neglecting? I realized that the only reason why I felt loneliness to THAT extent is because I wanted to please everyone and never myself. It was a surprise but it felt familiar at the same time: I felt most happy when I did not care about any of that shit anymore. It took years but now what brings me joy isn't going out, it's staying at home, playing video games, inviting my two best friends over, my sister, and my girlfriend. At this very moment, I don't need more than that. I love being at home. I used to go out to bars every friday making new friends I didn't even know I truly liked when I could have just stayed at home, enjoyed myself, and if I felt like having someone over, they're a call away and if they decline, I still have the pieces of me that make me smile and that's more than enough.
Very relatable. Subscribed. At the same time, I think you can do both. As long as you're not always home literally all the time, you can make some friends and feel fulfilled. You dont have to talk to a hundred people. That will make you not appreciate the people in your life. Just make enough friends that you can hang out with every now and then so that you're not socially isolated. Best place for that is probably at work or some sort of leisure weekly activity where you get to see the same people over and over again.
Thank you. I always knew this in the back of my head but I needed to hear this. I am an introvert, but I used this as an excuse to waste away inside and isolate myself just to hide from my fears regardless of how miserable it made me feel. All I ever do is play games. Even if I started some good habits like taking daily walks, getting sunlight and eating healthy, it never solved how miserable and lonely I really feel. I am not a person who just cold approaches people in public, so I will sign up to a judo dojo. That will be my first step to getting myself out of this crippling solitude.
I like staying at home, but its important to go out as well. Balance is important in life.
i used to live just like you did back then, i started to hang out more for the same reason too !! The first thing i did to escape from that situation, was going to the gym daily taking care of myself, my hair and my skin. Im slowly recovering my confidence back, i never been more happy
Going out is overrated. You're not missing out on anything but problems 😴
Oh come on, touch some grass for once😂
@@victorbonnah70Say that after your third divorce!
@@thesurvivorssanctuary6561😭😭
thank you! i have been saying this. people are depressed and ashamed of their true introverted selves because they have been brainwashed by society that they need to have thousands of friends and go out every weekend. the fact that they hate themselves for who they really are is enough proof that people suck. the society that made them hate themselves for not going out is the society that will let them down when they follow a sheep mentality and “go out and have fun”. people are boring, overrated, and full of baggage. people really suck. it’s okay to be alone. being alone doesn’t mean lonely.
@@thesurvivorssanctuary6561 Yeah, the thing is, he wont have a divorse cus he never touched a woman and the reason is staying at home* thats the real problem*
Sup fam. I was Grand Master rank on Overwatch as well lol. Although im a few years older than you, everything you said is extremely relatable. I went through the exact same thing and still somewhat going through it. I still love video games and play everyday. But hitting the gym everyday is probably the best first step you could take to do better. I was fortunate enough to find a gamer girlfriend online, but honestly wish i did talk to more girls when i was younger cuz i was shy for no reason. After you get a good job and make money, you fall into comfort but you cant let that stop you from the gym and social grind.
Speaking of social grind, one thing i learned is that its not worth trying to cater to people you cant relate to. Those people wont be true "friends". Its unfortunate that i didnt meet you in real life before i graduated college bro. I think we would have been good friends since i could relate to everything you said and have the same exact mindset as you.
So true brother. We can still be friends bro :)
It’s not about going out it’s about coming out of your comfort zone cause it’s your worst enemy…
One time when I was 10, I tried to speak to literal strangers, they rejected me, which developed my social anxiety. However, I do speak with people, had a lot of intimacy, and did stuff to remember where when I tell a story of mine to someone whom I expect them to have more stories than me, they just told me that more things happened in my life than theirs. Video games kept me sane during the roughest moments of my life and thanks to them, I am a good person. But at the same time, people have changed me to the point where I try to be the best version of myself. You all just need to know the balance when to stop playing and when to stop being comfortable with people, because most people I have met were temporary, including the girls I have dated/had intercourse.
And then i went to a few of those "parties" that i keep getting invited to and found out that 90% of the people there are on their phones or go off in groups and gossip about the other group. The rest are looking around to get laid or getting high just to roam around like mental patients.
Then not to mention me minding my business and getting groped or sat on, then i have to explain im not tryna get laid, i dont drink, no drugs, and then i feel like im the weirdo so i just proceed to go home
Never felt so miserable in my life. The party lifestlye that 20yr olds describe is not fun at all
This is the first time i feel like ive been through the same shit as someone else bc thats happening to me right now but luckly for me i forced myself out my comfort zone to talk to people and i have to admit it has made it easier to talk to people and do shit u normally wouldnt do and playing video games and staying at home eventually gets boring and u will crave a need to talk to someone or just have any social interaction with someone but coming out your comfort zone will have a big impact on your life as a man and if u want a girl or man u must go outside and interact with people and get to know them and as a man life isnt easy so u must work on yourself on your looks and your life dont wait for someone to talk to u because no one will u must put yourself out there and talk to people, u must do it now and dont keep waiting the more u wait the more time u waste that you will never get back.
I do not really agree with you.
I went outside every day back in the day, but at an age i noticed that i don´t have an interest
in most of the people i met and many of them are morally no good humans.
I was playing video games alone aswell after that time and it was one of the best times of my life lol.
Now i got a girlfriend which i love very much but i still game, even tho i don´t get the same satisfaction out of it
because i got my girl and 2 cats and an apartment and work ofc.
Everyone is different. As a kid i had so many good friends but i also could play alone in my room for the whole day
without the need of social interactions.
What i want to say is: listen to yourself, get to know what you really want and then achieve it. Don´t lie or cope with
yourself- i see alot of ppl doing that.
You see, there are some people (as myself) who were forced to be homeschooled back in 2020. They had no choice if their parents forced them into the house and kept them from going out, I feel bad for them all who did suffer it or still are to this day. I had one friend left that still cared for me even after becoming homeschooled, but eventually they moved and completely ignored me. It really put a huge beating on my life, but I learnt a huge lesson over these 4 years, I even tried making online friends and it never worked out. Eventually I'm going to try getting out again and try to connect with others whether my parents hold me back or not. I think it's time to finally take a step and change my life completely. Thank you for this video, you're very convincing. 💖✨
Literally like me, and mostly of the time I feel miserable staring out of space for no reason.
i love going out, but i only got like one close friend. not tryna complain bc one friend is better than no friends at all, but i feel like having a decent group of friends to go out with seems like so much fun. grateful for what i have tho no doubt. ❤
I was the opposite. Been an extrovert in shape my whole life, model etc. but now I’m 29 I just don’t enjoy going out and getting drunk so find myself with fewer friends as most of my long term friends were made through drinking. Trying to find people on my level now
Sounds like the perfect buddy for me ,but of course you're probably on the other side of the world.But I'm literally in the same boat I stay in shape my whole life but don't drink or smoke and I'm forced to whenever I go out because it's the norm I guess 😂
@@Shyne282 aye drinking is fun until you act a fool lol
@@johnwest6977 with me happened one too many times.I found out I'm just not meant to drink hard liquor 😂🙌
I’m turning 19 tomorrow, I need to step up. Thanks bro
i’m 21 i feel like it’s over lol
@@giespire Bro your 21, you're basically just starting, I think?
It's easy for me to say I guess.
the more i go out the more i realize how selfish the world is. people honking at eachother yelling at eachother in stores. if someone doesn’t know you, they don’t care for you, meaning they are selfish towards you. and that’s lowkey sad.
Tbh i want to stay home and i have enough chances to go out and i don’t want to go out and im socially fulfilled by my online friends
online friends are not friends.. they are rather... temporary companions that happen to walk in the same direction for a while. its all fake besides that. online friends are as much of a real friend, as luigi is your friend just because you play super mario or chatgpt is. you will realize that at some point at it will come sooner than later and than you will regret time wasted. real friends come to your house and hug you just because they can.
@@MaybeTiberius So? Not everyone likes going out, and we all like different things in life. How do you know that he'll regret anything? Maybe that's exactly how he wants to live. Also, there's no such thing as "wasting your time" because we all die in the end, and no matter what you do in life, it won't matter. Time you enjoyed is not a wasted time, and the things you think are a good use of time, are a waste of time to someone else.
@@GamingAndChill not talking to a guy called ''gamingandchill'' tbh. pointless to argue with an addict. argue with a crack addict that they should drink a smoothie instead and you ll get the same result xD ''oh man bro but i enjoy pumping heroin into my veins, it cant be a waste of time if i enjoy it right?'' yeah... you do you, you ll realize at some point eventually and for the rest: well you cant save everyone. some people are willing to learn and improve and the others, well just fck em
@@GamingAndChill mic drop
@@GamingAndChill MIC DROP
I'm gonna download this as an audio to listen to it every day because I literally think All you have said now is all I needed to hear and all I will need to hear in the future till I reach my goals, For me this is the greatest motivation I've ever I could ever
Needed to hear this bro fr💯🙏🏽
My man 🎉
@@manishraul 🙏🏽🫡
I did nothing but play video games after high school all my 20s.. thanks to that I became very social compared to what I would have been if I never interacted with other players online. I also met my wife playing ps4. I have to admit I do get anxiety when I go out but at least I stayed out of trouble. Who knows what I would have done with my life if I went out with real life local friends that I didn't have. I lived in the DMV area near dc everyone here goes out. I'm glad I just went to work and stayed home.
i have one friend that i hang out a lot
and why the hell do I need bitches when I have a formidable friend that I go out with
who needs bitches you got your homie bro
bros first
This video might be getting to some people, people who have goals and in general things that they would like to achive (like a mentioned girlfriend) but personally I think I might be too deep gone for that. Maybe when I get better, I'll return to this video and give it a praise it deserves.
i do stay at home alot, but not because i feel like social outcast, it's just there is nothing in my city to go for every 2 3 days after work. Most of my friend move out from the city like 90% of them and i stayed here cuz i got business to take care of, so i'm just confuse how to make new community that i actually enjoyed and yes i do go to the gym and workout got some gym friends and that;s about it, i don't feel like social outcast but i agree alot from this video, like i do feel like i need to find new stuffs, maybe i will sign up for martial art classes so i can have more new friends
Love this video, it’s one of those ones where the creator has no other intentions for the viewers accept to help them out of the exact spot he was in
Literally my life
Thank you for this mate ❤
I’d work on myself if I didn’t look disgusting lol, I’ve also wanted girls but ever since at a young age they always looked at me with disgust, it’s really hard to stay motivated I even tried forcing myself going to the gym to a couple of times but it didn’t last long because of knowing how it wouldn’t fix the problem. Now I’m at a point where I just don’t care anymore, I just come home, lock myself in my room and don’t talk to anybody
Aint it crazy how dudes who aint exactly considered traditionally goodlookin can still get ladies? It aint about the face, it's about the state of mind. You what you think you is. If you think you a boss, you a boss. If you think you a scrub, you a scrub. You say you confident, you confident. You say you weak, you weak. Basic stuff. If you think you ugly, guess what? You gone manifest that ugliness, and people gone see it too. But if you think you fly, you gone manifest that attractiveness, and they gone see it too. Every single word you say got power. Use them to manifest your dreams to life, not your fears.
Brother it's truly unfair that some us are unattractive or even ugly, its really diffucult these days, just try your best man train for a long time till you get ripped, do skincare, maybe get your nose done if its too big, grow out your hair mayhe that'll look good on you? There's so much you can do
This is so weird, i was in this position like 5 to 10 years ago. Now i just go to work, come home, and rest. I got a fiancé, and honestly im content. I don't need to go out and be with people like i used to, i like just chilling. It's very peaceful. Anyone else feel this way?
Thanks bro
Any time
thank you for this video ! hopefully more people will see this
It's not just guys it's girls as well. I am not an extrovert and I love love love video games. Love the Minecraft music in the background btw. I'm down to play on steam!
Yeah I didn't realize girls could also use my advice... That's awesome!
I always wanted to go out and do stuff because i actually hate being at home, but i couldn't because of strict overprotective parents.