For some reason, people think I am not worthy of any respect so they ask me the most personal questions and they are not even embarrassed by asking! Most of the questions I get are more incorrect assumptions based on people's own character flaws than open questions: "did you loose your way and become a bad girl and is this why you have no parents?", "you don't work do you?", "do you understand that?", "you can't read and write can you?", "where are your parents?" (implying that someone like me can't possibly be married so my parents must be my next of kin), "do you not like people" (referring to me not having hundreds of fake friends), "would you like me to show you how to use a computer/laptop/phone" - assuming I'm just too stupid to use either of these devices when actually it is my choice not to be a phone zombie. Or "do you have someone to help you write a letter?". I am a writer and have a degree in English! I am by the way a highly educated lady with several degrees and have worked throughout my adult life so it's not as if there is anything about me that would excuse such appalling behavior towards me! The projection of their own character flaws onto me is through the roof! If anyone has any ideas for really insulting one-liners to shut them up please feel free to let me know!
@@PosedionsGirl That's disgusting! I get similar - "when are you getting a new one", referring to my cat who got very brutally murdered by my stalker a few years ago! So sorry to hear about your husband - hugs to you!
I'm so sorry you've been dealing with such insensitive and unwarranted behavior-it’s truly a reflection of their own insecurities and ignorance, not a measure of your worth. From what you’ve shared, it’s clear that you’re an incredibly accomplished and intelligent person, and their assumptions couldn’t be further from the truth. Sometimes, people ask such ridiculous questions because they don’t know how to handle someone who breaks their narrow molds of understanding. As for one-liners, a confident smile and something like, ‘Oh, that’s an interesting assumption-why do you think that?’ can turn the tables and make them reflect on their behavior. But honestly, your accomplishments speak louder than any insult ever could! Keep shining-you’re doing amazing, and the right people will always see your worth.🫶
I loved this video! So many people think that they can just ask a question under the guise of "I was just asking! No harm in that" without considering the other person's feelings at being asked. Thank you giving me some classy replies to these questions.
Love the quotes after 9:02 Remember, You don't owe anyone an answer to anything you're not comfortable with; *BOUNDARIES ARE CLASSY, Kindness is classy,* even when someone else is not 'nailing' the classy vibe"
@@MannersMattersChannel Absolutely ! Boundaries help protect a person from entanglement in Narcissists webs; its like a butterfly that knows not to fly into a spider's web. NPD's will find ways to use your info to boost their ego while leaving their victim sapped, and stuck without options, and certainly without any dignity. Exception is someone who undoubtedly truly honestly cares, a loving caring parent or trusted professional advisor, to *help* you out of a rut, or help you grow. Others can just be nosy questions with NPD results.
Whenever appropriate, I try to give honest, direct answers to even the most awkward questions. Admittedly, this does require a certain amount of confidence/comfort in one's life choices. If the person is genuinely curious (like a kid, for example), it helps them learn about the different types of people in the world. If the person is being provocative, it can shut them down very quickly. Like someone else said, it depends on how close the connection is. Nosy strangers are most likely to get a brush-off answer like the ones you suggested. And painful subjects tend to elicit an evasive answer from me, too. But short of those things, honesty is a great response, IMO. It may or may not be "classy," but it's real, genuine, and so much simpler.
I completely agree! Honesty can foster understanding and learning, especially when approached with the right mindset. It’s all about finding that balance!
Since my husband passed away, I constantly get asked when I'm going to start dating or if I ever plan to get married again. It's so rude, nosey, insentitive and makes my opinion of the person drop considerably.
I completely understand how you feel. It's tough when people don't consider your feelings and boundaries. You deserve the space to grieve and heal without added pressure.🫶
Appreciate the efforts that you are putting in these videos. Though your channel is more woman oriented, there is a lot here that men too can learn from. ❤ Also appreciate that there is no intrusive background music anymore. You have taken the feedback in the right spirit. Wishing the best for your channel and you 🙏🏼❤😊
Thank you so much for your kind words and thoughtful feedback-I truly appreciate it! I’m so glad you noticed that I’ve taken your advice to heart. It’s wonderful to hear that you find value in the content, even though the channel is more women-oriented. Your encouragement means a lot to me, and I’m truly grateful for your support. Wishing you the very best as well! 🙏❤️😀
@MannersMattersChannel actually the suggestion to tone down/ remove the background music was given by someone else but I agree with that. Your words are more important than some generic music playing in the background. Take care 😊💖
@@MannersMattersChannel I second the no background music. Most of the time the uploaders have it too loud and make matters even worse. Moviel benefit from music, but if the content is information, that is given in a fast pace (another thing I appreciate here) no "enhancement" needed. Not when the info is relevant. Thanks for making the video.
There are different levels of “connection” between people, which you don’t seem to recognise. This is also the art of savoir-vivre , be able to adjust to the environment and communicate accordingly. Sophistication and class is a little bit more complicated, that’s why, you can learn, to some extent, good manners, you cannot learn class, and it comes from many sources.
You bring up some excellent points about the nuances of connection and the importance of savoir-vivre. It's a complex topic, and I appreciate your insights!
You know what they say-marriage is like a deck of cards! At first, all you need is two hearts and a diamond, but by the end, you’re looking for a club and a spade!😉
Society is just disgusting. This is why I keep connections to a minimum now. There seems to be very little space on this planet for those that don’t follow the so called ‘normal ways’.
Here’s your comeback,,,,,”I have Herpes”😃 now THERES a shocker and I’m sure will put an end to the questioning. No one will believe it, but they will understand you just shut down the one inquiring with a clever response.
I hate people asking me why I'm vegetarian. The type of people who ask are never actually interested to know about it. Just a boring question and often asked to provoke.
Honestly, curiosity isn’t a crime but how you feel about the person asking and perhaps even the question itself determines how you feel about answering.
Having been served food containing ingredients I double and triple checked with staff they didnt contain, the few times people questioned if I wanted to eat something because something looked off from their angle of my plate that I couldnt see from mine was much appreciated. Wish the times people didn't they had. If people are about to eat something you know contains something they majorly react to, SAY SOMETHING! If its minor, assess the situation. As examples.... if I have even 1 bite of something that contains cilantro I have between 10 and 15 minutes to get to a safe location where I can stay for about 4 hours because I get incredibly light sensitive migraines. During that 10-15 minute window, driving is already compromised but doable if I have to. I should ultimately also be eating a gluten free diet, but eating gluten is going to cause a slightly raised pain level, possibly some bloating, maybe a little itchiness the next day. If I'm out, I would want anyone that knows Im sensitive to cilantro to say something if they think it might be an issue. If Im willing to have something in a flour tortilla instead of corn, or choose to accept a bun on a burger, leave it be. If I wanted a bunless burger, I would have ordered it.
Thank you for sharing your story! It’s a powerful reminder that we need to look out for each other when it comes to food allergies and sensitivities. Your voice can make a difference!
For the first point about not asking someone how much does something cost, Where I come from such a question is not seen as bad or awkward It is seen as a form admiration😅 It depends on perspective
I get asked my age all the time. I hate it. Why do people need to know. I think it is even worse when someone that knows me very well decides to answer the question when I avoided it in a group of people. Why do you feel compelled to answer on my behalf when I don't want to?
It's definitely frustrating when people feel the need to pry into personal details. Your age is your business, and you have every right to keep it private!
Thank you so much. My question is how do one answer a compliment. I've been told my necklace is smart. Do I say ...oh thank you it is from Swarovski... Will the person appreciate it when I give that answer? OR when someone compliment me on my hair...Do I tell the person I brush my hair several times a day to keep it healthy?
Great question! I believe a sincere "Thank you" is always a good start. If you feel comfortable sharing more, go for it-people love a little backstory!
How about that family reunion where a cousin you haven’t seen for several decades asks you and your sister: “so, which of you is the older sister?” Neither I nor my sister answered that question. However, sis did have a facelift several months before the reunion.
It sounds like you have a lot on your plate! Remember to take a moment for yourself and enjoy that well-deserved scotch-I could use one too these days.
"Wow you're such a catch" is just passive aggressive, implying the same thing as asking why they're single. Just shut up about the subject, as in mind your own business. No one asks why someone else got divorced and comments that they're a catch after divorce. It's driving home the insult.
You make a really valid point! It's interesting how certain phrases can carry underlying meanings that aren't always positive. Thanks for sharing your perspective!
@@MannersMattersChannel Thank you. Yeah, no one is looking for an assessment of their "Catchworthiness!" Had one relative say to me, "But you were so pretty when you were young."
Living for many years in the deep south (USA), I occasionally encountered people who were extremely pushy with religion; they thought it was their right to ask if I went to church, and if not, why? And didn't I know I was going to hell for not attending church/being xtian? (I wish I were kidding) They tended to push harder when given a boundary. It was obnoxious.
I live in the South, too, and this happens all the time. My neighbor claims to be a “pastor” of a megachurch and is CONSTANTLY inviting me to come to his church. I was raised in a particular church and have no desire to change. How can I make him stop???
It sounds like you're in a tricky situation! Have you considered having a friendly conversation with him and explaining your feelings? Sometimes just being honest can help clear things up.
I am constantly asked what’s my ethnicity/ race/ nationality. For a little background info I’m racially ambiguous looking so I think this is what makes people so curious. Now when people ask for my “ nationality” I get an easy “ out” it’s American 🇺🇸. But racially speaking it’s Black ethnically Black/ West Indian. I get bent out of shape when people keep assuming I’m a certain race because of my phenotype and when I actually give an honest answer to the rude question and get “ oh really, but you really look Hispanic or WE, or are you sure your not Some other race? It really is infuriating. Even if let’s say 9x out of 10 I get a compliment about my attractiveness it’s still so rude and disrespectful sometimes.
It's frustrating when people make assumptions based on appearances. Everyone has their own unique background, and it's important to respect that. Thank you for sharing.
Start a conversation on a positive note and let conversation roll naturally. There is no need to ask questions, unless you want to act like a police officer.
Another question I don’t like is, did you dye your hair? actually I didn’t but I really don’t like the question. I’m just late in life in receiving gray hair genetically. But it seems a bit awkward to hear this question such as why does it matter.
@@MannersMattersChannel yes I understand how people have natural curiosity although since I am asked the question somewhat often, I become tired of it.
Good Christian lady living in my building asked me if I was 72yrs old (she was 72) and told me I looked 72 (I was 67 at the time). Backhanded insult?? I have been told by others I look younger than my years.
I totally get what you mean! It's so invasive when people question your personal choices and belongings. Everyone has their own preferences and that's what makes us unique!
When I don’t like to be asked is, how did your parent or your sibling die, from what and I really don’t want to go into the story about their illness or cancer, etc. so I need another response please
I completely understand how difficult that question can be. It’s such a personal topic, and not everyone realizes how intrusive it might feel to ask. It’s okay to set boundaries and gently redirect the conversation-you don’t owe anyone an explanation about something so personal.
@@MannersMattersChannel yes thanks for your quick reply, I need to remember that I don’t owe anyone an explanation and to redirect the conversation elsewhere, especially when it’s only a stranger an acquaintance. I had realized when I answer this question that I feel sad again when I tell the stories so I don’t want that
I was asked by my teacher at school during exam what kind of healthy issues I have because I have swollen eyelids and big eyes...I was ruined and dint want to continue my exam
I'm sorry, but I do not agree, with the first 3 or 4 at least. I couldn't get past those. They are very relative. People, mostly uptight, overly private people, may have issues with these questions. But, that's their problem. This reminds me, sadly, of how out of control our "Woke" society has gotten. No one is REAL anymore & our freedom of speech is being taken away. And, channels, with content like this are only adding to the problem. It's not CLASSY to be off put by these questions. It's inauthentic. I don't ask any questions I would have an issue answering myself. And, there are very few, except maybe my age. Which people, strangers, had no problem asking me my entire life, even before they knew my name. Now, that's rude. But, asking out of pure curiosity how much something costs, because you may want to consider purchasing it, or have been in the market for one. And, wondering if someone was planning on having children or not, are fair questions and not invasive. Don't mistake the definition of classy for closed off and unapproachable.
I appreciate your perspective! It's true that different people have varying comfort levels when it comes to personal questions. It's all about finding a balance between curiosity and respect.
It's not about being "woke" or freedom of speech, not asking those questions is simply considerate and just avoids making the other person uncomfortable. Unless it's very close family or friends who asks it's nobody's business why someone doesn't have children, how much they make or why they don't speak with someone. These ARE invasive and rude questions. Not revealing those things doesn't mean someone is uptight or closed off either, it's perfectly ok not to want to disclose those private matters especially to someone you don't know well.
Phoenix Twin Flame, most of these questions have been considered invasive, and, yes, rude for, well .... forever. This is not a new phenomenon. Whatever you may think of "Wokeism", asking personal questions about private matters has never been considered good form, and is not related to current politics. I'm so sorry to hear that you've encountered people who were so unsophisticated as to have asked you such questions. Some people have no savoir faire whatsoever, do they?
Guess what cupcake! Not you or anyone else in this world will EVER tell me how to conduct myself and my life!! As a matter of fact... Today I will go to a mall and ask dozens of people ALL 10 of those questions plus more!! Have a crappy day.
I got asked by an acquaintance do I lend money I promptly replied no I don't , I was relaying this to another acquaintance and his response was "why don't you lend money" I responded why the Fck should i"
It’s usually a mistake in money, the few times I did. I never received it back and also the last time I lent a book the person lost it and it was a book I really liked. It’s also easier to keep friends if you don’t lend money and things to them. Justmy opinion
💬 What’s the most awkward question you’ve ever been asked?
For some reason, people think I am not worthy of any respect so they ask me the most personal questions and they are not even embarrassed by asking!
Most of the questions I get are more incorrect assumptions based on people's own character flaws than open questions:
"did you loose your way and become a bad girl and is this why you have no parents?", "you don't work do you?", "do you understand that?", "you can't read and write can you?", "where are your parents?" (implying that someone like me can't possibly be married so my parents must be my next of kin), "do you not like people" (referring to me not having hundreds of fake friends), "would you like me to show you how to use a computer/laptop/phone" - assuming I'm just too stupid to use either of these devices when actually it is my choice not to be a phone zombie.
Or "do you have someone to help you write a letter?". I am a writer and have a degree in English!
I am by the way a highly educated lady with several degrees and have worked throughout my adult life so it's not as if there is anything about me that would excuse such appalling behavior towards me!
The projection of their own character flaws onto me is through the roof! If anyone has any ideas for really insulting one-liners to shut them up please feel free to let me know!
When are you going to start dating my husband died 4 years ago at 56……answer is never
@@PosedionsGirl That's disgusting! I get similar - "when are you getting a new one", referring to my cat who got very brutally murdered by my stalker a few years ago!
So sorry to hear about your husband - hugs to you!
I'm so sorry you've been dealing with such insensitive and unwarranted behavior-it’s truly a reflection of their own insecurities and ignorance, not a measure of your worth. From what you’ve shared, it’s clear that you’re an incredibly accomplished and intelligent person, and their assumptions couldn’t be further from the truth.
Sometimes, people ask such ridiculous questions because they don’t know how to handle someone who breaks their narrow molds of understanding.
As for one-liners, a confident smile and something like, ‘Oh, that’s an interesting assumption-why do you think that?’ can turn the tables and make them reflect on their behavior. But honestly, your accomplishments speak louder than any insult ever could! Keep shining-you’re doing amazing, and the right people will always see your worth.🫶
@@MannersMattersChannel thank you
I loved this video! So many people think that they can just ask a question under the guise of "I was just asking! No harm in that" without considering the other person's feelings at being asked. Thank you giving me some classy replies to these questions.
I'm glad you enjoyed the video! It's so important to be mindful of how our questions can affect others.
Right !!😮😮😼
I've been asked why I don't have grandchildren, as if it's my decision or business, or anyone else's. Really ticks me off.
OMG🙈. I'm speechless.
Funny
Love the quotes after 9:02
Remember, You don't owe anyone an answer to anything you're not comfortable with;
*BOUNDARIES ARE CLASSY, Kindness is classy,*
even when someone else is not 'nailing' the classy vibe"
I’m so glad you enjoyed the quotes! Setting boundaries really is an important aspect of self-care.
@@MannersMattersChannel Absolutely !
Boundaries help protect a person from entanglement in Narcissists webs; its like a butterfly that knows not to fly into a spider's web. NPD's will find ways to use your info to boost their ego while leaving their victim sapped, and stuck without options, and certainly without any dignity. Exception is someone who undoubtedly truly honestly cares, a loving caring parent or trusted professional advisor, to *help* you out of a rut, or help you grow. Others can just be nosy questions with NPD results.
What i like about this video it gives ways to navigate the questions.
I'm glad you found the video helpful! It's all about keeping it smooth and classy.🫶
Whenever appropriate, I try to give honest, direct answers to even the most awkward questions. Admittedly, this does require a certain amount of confidence/comfort in one's life choices. If the person is genuinely curious (like a kid, for example), it helps them learn about the different types of people in the world. If the person is being provocative, it can shut them down very quickly. Like someone else said, it depends on how close the connection is. Nosy strangers are most likely to get a brush-off answer like the ones you suggested. And painful subjects tend to elicit an evasive answer from me, too. But short of those things, honesty is a great response, IMO. It may or may not be "classy," but it's real, genuine, and so much simpler.
I completely agree! Honesty can foster understanding and learning, especially when approached with the right mindset. It’s all about finding that balance!
Since my husband passed away, I constantly get asked when I'm going to start dating or if I ever plan to get married again. It's so rude, nosey, insentitive and makes my opinion of the person drop considerably.
I completely understand how you feel. It's tough when people don't consider your feelings and boundaries. You deserve the space to grieve and heal without added pressure.🫶
Well it depends on your relationship with the person you are asking.
But generally I wouldn't worry about it one way or another
I teach 7th grade Earth Science. My students repeatedly ask me how old I am. I answer "Older than dirt. Younger than a mountain."
Thank you for sharing that! Your sense of humor must make learning so much more enjoyable for them!
One of my friends mothers would say, many moons old
Appreciate the efforts that you are putting in these videos. Though your channel is more woman oriented, there is a lot here that men too can learn from. ❤
Also appreciate that there is no intrusive background music anymore. You have taken the feedback in the right spirit.
Wishing the best for your channel and you 🙏🏼❤😊
Thank you so much for your kind words and thoughtful feedback-I truly appreciate it! I’m so glad you noticed that I’ve taken your advice to heart. It’s wonderful to hear that you find value in the content, even though the channel is more women-oriented. Your encouragement means a lot to me, and I’m truly grateful for your support. Wishing you the very best as well! 🙏❤️😀
@MannersMattersChannel actually the suggestion to tone down/ remove the background music was given by someone else but I agree with that.
Your words are more important than some generic music playing in the background. Take care 😊💖
man pregnant? with tape-worms LOL
@@MannersMattersChannel I second the no background music. Most of the time the uploaders have it too loud and make matters even worse. Moviel benefit from music, but if the content is information, that is given in a fast pace (another thing I appreciate here) no "enhancement" needed. Not when the info is relevant.
Thanks for making the video.
I completely agree! Clear, concise information is always more valuable than distracting background music. Thanks for your input!
5:17 people, especially gossipers, are quick to bounce and judge and say "im just asking why be rude?"
Well said
Great video. I really enjoyed your answers and comebacks. Thank you 😊
I'm glad you enjoyed the video! Your support means a lot to me.🫶
I don't mind if someone asks me how old I am. I'm proud of my age. I have survived this far, it's a good thing. 😊
That’s a fantastic attitude! Every year brings new experiences and wisdom. Proudly owning your age is truly inspiring!🫶
I feel the same !! 😮😃🎉🎉
It shows a lack of manners doesn’t it though?
I agree. I am happy to tell people my age.
Great insightful ways to navigate asking and answering questions. Thank you.
I'm glad you found the video helpful! Asking and answering questions can really make a difference in communication.
There are different levels of “connection” between people, which you don’t seem to recognise. This is also the art of savoir-vivre , be able to adjust to the environment and communicate accordingly. Sophistication and class is a little bit more complicated, that’s why, you can learn, to some extent, good manners, you cannot learn class, and it comes from many sources.
You bring up some excellent points about the nuances of connection and the importance of savoir-vivre. It's a complex topic, and I appreciate your insights!
I have been asked time and time again why I have never married or why Im single it drives me MAD
You know what they say-marriage is like a deck of cards! At first, all you need is two hearts and a diamond, but by the end, you’re looking for a club and a spade!😉
Society is just disgusting. This is why I keep connections to a minimum now. There seems to be very little space on this planet for those that don’t follow the so called ‘normal ways’.
@@MannersMattersChannelwell some yes some no.
Very true, sorry for the witty answer.
Here’s your comeback,,,,,”I have Herpes”😃 now THERES a shocker and I’m sure will put an end to the questioning. No one will believe it, but they will understand you just shut down the one inquiring with a clever response.
I hate people asking me why I'm vegetarian. The type of people who ask are never actually interested to know about it. Just a boring question and often asked to provoke.
"Why are you vegetarian?"
"Because I don't eat meat."
And vice versa.
I have a friend who gets asked at every family dinner, 'Are you still vegetarian?'
Don't many vegetarians burst out with it anyway, without being asked?
Of course, but it is annoying to be asked every Sunday if you have changed your mind.
Honestly, curiosity isn’t a crime but how you feel about the person asking and perhaps even the question itself determines how you feel about answering.
Absolutely! The context and the relationship really shape our responses. It's all about the vibe!
My go to answer to many of these is “I get to decide that” and walk away
That's a powerful mindset! It's great to take control of your own decisions and walk away feeling empowered.👍
Having been served food containing ingredients I double and triple checked with staff they didnt contain, the few times people questioned if I wanted to eat something because something looked off from their angle of my plate that I couldnt see from mine was much appreciated. Wish the times people didn't they had. If people are about to eat something you know contains something they majorly react to, SAY SOMETHING! If its minor, assess the situation.
As examples.... if I have even 1 bite of something that contains cilantro I have between 10 and 15 minutes to get to a safe location where I can stay for about 4 hours because I get incredibly light sensitive migraines. During that 10-15 minute window, driving is already compromised but doable if I have to. I should ultimately also be eating a gluten free diet, but eating gluten is going to cause a slightly raised pain level, possibly some bloating, maybe a little itchiness the next day. If I'm out, I would want anyone that knows Im sensitive to cilantro to say something if they think it might be an issue. If Im willing to have something in a flour tortilla instead of corn, or choose to accept a bun on a burger, leave it be. If I wanted a bunless burger, I would have ordered it.
Thank you for sharing your story! It’s a powerful reminder that we need to look out for each other when it comes to food allergies and sensitivities. Your voice can make a difference!
For the first point about not asking someone
how much does something cost,
Where I come from such a question is not seen as bad or awkward
It is seen as a form admiration😅
It depends on perspective
It's fascinating how cultural differences shape our views on certain topics. Thanks for sharing your insight!
I get asked my age all the time. I hate it. Why do people need to know. I think it is even worse when someone that knows me very well decides to answer the question when I avoided it in a group of people. Why do you feel compelled to answer on my behalf when I don't want to?
It's definitely frustrating when people feel the need to pry into personal details. Your age is your business, and you have every right to keep it private!
Thank you so much. My question is how do one answer a compliment. I've been told my necklace is smart. Do I say ...oh thank you it is from Swarovski... Will the person appreciate it when I give that answer? OR when someone compliment me on my hair...Do I tell the person I brush my hair several times a day to keep it healthy?
Great question! I believe a sincere "Thank you" is always a good start. If you feel comfortable sharing more, go for it-people love a little backstory!
Why do you feel the need to answer a compliment? Just say thank you and receive the compliment 🤗
I have been asked if something is real. I respond with “of course it’s definitely not imaginary”
That's a great response! Love it!😆👍
How about that family reunion where a cousin you haven’t seen for several decades asks you and your sister: “so, which of you is the older sister?”
Neither I nor my sister answered that question. However, sis did have a facelift several months before the reunion.
Oh no🙈 That's a terrible question.
Lovvvveeeeeedddddd this video ❤
I'm so glad to hear you loved the video! Your support means a lot to me!❤️
I normally have a shit load of things going on. When someone asks how's it going? I say, nothing a scotch on the rocks won't take care of.
It sounds like you have a lot on your plate! Remember to take a moment for yourself and enjoy that well-deserved scotch-I could use one too these days.
Also, don't ask people about their scars. Just don't.
Absolutely! It's important to be sensitive to others' experiences and respect their boundaries.
"Wow you're such a catch" is just passive aggressive, implying the same thing as asking why they're single. Just shut up about the subject, as in mind your own business. No one asks why someone else got divorced and comments that they're a catch after divorce. It's driving home the insult.
You make a really valid point! It's interesting how certain phrases can carry underlying meanings that aren't always positive. Thanks for sharing your perspective!
@@MannersMattersChannel Thank you. Yeah, no one is looking for an assessment of their "Catchworthiness!" Had one relative say to me, "But you were so pretty when you were young."
Oh no🙈. I'm speechless.
Living for many years in the deep south (USA), I occasionally encountered people who were extremely pushy with religion; they thought it was their right to ask if I went to church, and if not, why? And didn't I know I was going to hell for not attending church/being xtian? (I wish I were kidding) They tended to push harder when given a boundary. It was obnoxious.
It sounds like you've had quite the experience! Encountering pushy attitudes about religion can be really overwhelming.
I live in the South, too, and this happens all the time. My neighbor claims to be a “pastor” of a megachurch and is CONSTANTLY inviting me to come to his church. I was raised in a particular church and have no desire to change. How can I make him stop???
It sounds like you're in a tricky situation! Have you considered having a friendly conversation with him and explaining your feelings? Sometimes just being honest can help clear things up.
I am constantly asked what’s my ethnicity/ race/ nationality. For a little background info I’m racially ambiguous looking so I think this is what makes people so curious. Now when people ask for my “ nationality” I get an easy “ out” it’s American 🇺🇸. But racially speaking it’s Black ethnically Black/ West Indian. I get bent out of shape when people keep assuming I’m a certain race because of my phenotype and when I actually give an honest answer to the rude question and get “ oh really, but you really look Hispanic or WE, or are you sure your not Some other race? It really is infuriating. Even if let’s say 9x out of 10 I get a compliment about my attractiveness it’s still so rude and disrespectful sometimes.
It's frustrating when people make assumptions based on appearances. Everyone has their own unique background, and it's important to respect that. Thank you for sharing.
Start a conversation on a positive note and let conversation roll naturally. There is no need to ask questions, unless you want to act like a police officer.
Thank you for sharing! Positivity really does go a long way in making conversations more enjoyable.
Classy/polite people would say: “PLEASE “ subscribe and like 🤨🤨🇺🇸
If somebody asks me if something is real, I say "No, it's imaginary."
I love your response, thanks for sharing😆
Another question I don’t like is, did you dye your hair? actually I didn’t but I really don’t like the question.
I’m just late in life in receiving gray hair genetically. But it seems a bit awkward to hear this question such as why does it matter.
I completely understand how that question can feel awkward. Maybe people are just curious because you have such wonderful genes for late graying!
@@MannersMattersChannel yes I understand how people have natural curiosity although since I am asked the question somewhat often, I become tired of it.
I can imagine...🫶
Classy people don't use vocal fry.
So true..
Good Christian lady living in my building asked me if I was 72yrs old (she was 72) and told me I looked 72 (I was 67 at the time). Backhanded insult?? I have been told by others I look younger than my years.
Sounds like she was trying to be a ‘complimentarian’ but ended up being a ‘backhanded insult artist’ instead! 😂
I find it super creepy if someone pokes me about my possessions, "Why do you need that expensive or branded piece of - insert any shit here.
I totally get what you mean! It's so invasive when people question your personal choices and belongings. Everyone has their own preferences and that's what makes us unique!
There items are very basic that nobody but the most rude or completely unaware people will ask.
Agreed! And yet we have to face them almost every day.
Nothing wrong with any of these questions, guess I'm not classy 🤣
Thanks for sharing🤣
When I don’t like to be asked is, how did your parent or your sibling die, from what and I really don’t want to go into the story about their illness or cancer, etc. so I need another response please
I completely understand how difficult that question can be. It’s such a personal topic, and not everyone realizes how intrusive it might feel to ask. It’s okay to set boundaries and gently redirect the conversation-you don’t owe anyone an explanation about something so personal.
@@MannersMattersChannel yes thanks for your quick reply, I need to remember that I don’t owe anyone an explanation and to redirect the conversation elsewhere, especially when it’s only a stranger an acquaintance.
I had realized when I answer this question that I feel sad again when I tell the stories so I don’t want that
I was asked by my teacher at school during exam what kind of healthy issues I have because I have swollen eyelids and big eyes...I was ruined and dint want to continue my exam
Thank you for sharing your experience! It's always tough when personal matters come up in a public setting, but I hope you're feeling better now.🫶
Are your videos AI generated? Noticed some words mispronounced like they are misread.
I appreciate your observation! While I do use some AI tools for narrating. I’ll definitely pay more attention to pronunciation in the future!
@@MannersMattersChannel WHAT words were mispronounced? I did not hear any.
Of course 😂
How big is your ranch? Same as asking someone’s salary, don’t do it.
Exactly🙈
None of these bother me anywhere near as much as vocal fry 🤯
I totally get what you mean! Vocal fry can be pretty distracting for some listeners.
So what if you answer the question about salary. Hardly the end of the world?
No drama here, if you are comfortable with the question🫶
What a shame this is a robot-voice. Stopped watching so I could stop hearing it.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
I'm sorry, but I do not agree, with the first 3 or 4 at least. I couldn't get past those. They are very relative. People, mostly uptight, overly private people, may have issues with these questions. But, that's their problem. This reminds me, sadly, of how out of control our "Woke" society has gotten. No one is REAL anymore & our freedom of speech is being taken away. And, channels, with content like this are only adding to the problem. It's not CLASSY to be off put by these questions. It's inauthentic. I don't ask any questions I would have an issue answering myself. And, there are very few, except maybe my age. Which people, strangers, had no problem asking me my entire life, even before they knew my name. Now, that's rude. But, asking out of pure curiosity how much something costs, because you may want to consider purchasing it, or have been in the market for one. And, wondering if someone was planning on having children or not, are fair questions and not invasive. Don't mistake the definition of classy for closed off and unapproachable.
I appreciate your perspective! It's true that different people have varying comfort levels when it comes to personal questions. It's all about finding a balance between curiosity and respect.
It's not about being "woke" or freedom of speech, not asking those questions is simply considerate and just avoids making the other person uncomfortable. Unless it's very close family or friends who asks it's nobody's business why someone doesn't have children, how much they make or why they don't speak with someone. These ARE invasive and rude questions. Not revealing those things doesn't mean someone is uptight or closed off either, it's perfectly ok not to want to disclose those private matters especially to someone you don't know well.
@@danyf.1442 Well said!
Phoenix Twin Flame, most of these questions have been considered invasive, and, yes, rude for, well .... forever. This is not a new phenomenon. Whatever you may think of "Wokeism", asking personal questions about private matters has never been considered good form, and is not related to current politics. I'm so sorry to hear that you've encountered people who were so unsophisticated as to have asked you such questions. Some people have no savoir faire whatsoever, do they?
Guess what cupcake! Not you or anyone else in this world will EVER tell me how to conduct myself and my life!! As a matter of fact... Today I will go to a mall and ask dozens of people ALL 10 of those questions plus more!! Have a crappy day.
Haha, love the energy! Go get those answers, cupcake! A
upset because you lost an election ? LOL
I got asked by an acquaintance do I lend money I promptly replied no I don't , I was relaying this to another acquaintance and his response was "why don't you lend money" I responded why the Fck should i"
Thanks for sharing your experience! It really highlights the importance of knowing when to say no.
It’s usually a mistake in money, the few times I did. I never received it back and also the last time I lent a book the person lost it and it was a book I really liked.
It’s also easier to keep friends if you don’t lend money and things to them.
Justmy opinion