True when I was in radison hotel Jaipur ….party. Me models and high class girls …..bhai Mai surprise reh gya itni sundar ladkia….Ameer uncles ke saath thi sirf paisa aur extra affair b
"Financial Freedom" is a big word my Friend. Even a girl's father could not say confidently wheater he is financially free even at the age of retirement.
Being emotionally unavailable to my ex was the reason for my breakup. This happens when you take them for granted and don't invest enough time and efforts in the relationship.
Stop blaming yourself. Yeh sabka rona hai. Emotionally involved nhi ho, for granted le rakha h. This n that. Truth is she already found someone who is better than you.
Yaar parag achha kiya k tum usse granted le rakha tha, matlab kahin achhi jagah tumne invest kiya hoga. Kyun k ... Unlike other men you are different. Those men who revolves around pussy all day, they somewhere ended up hopeless, uncofident , not desirable goal in life. Yaar women are hypergamous in nature.. They likes to be stay in upper zone like they wants to wear good cloth, wealthy, fruitful lifestyle. Those men who have skill like u, stop idolise, stop pedastalise, taking granted kind of men who fall in this category called as high value men... So cherish your goal, your life what you wants to make
@@ChetanBhagat1 I would love to see your opinion on “Self respect”. I personally think men do disrespect their self respect a lot. If one can’t respect themselves, they can respect none. Hope you make it :)
That is not love . If one loves someone then loves their unemployment, love family problems, love their personal problems etc. Then boys has only one solution. Get govt job then marry with girl whose father gives him hefty dowry. That is the slap on the girl who is pretend to b in love but in disguise c love his money, carrier, social status etc.
The career point is true, although my only suggestion is, don't work on your career because you want to impress girls. Just work on your career because you wanna do something great in life. You need to work on yourself for yourself, not for anyone else. And we gotta ditch this possessiveness. Look the problem with guys is, we don't have any value. The girl ignores us, and we keep running even faster behind her. I think its high time we pick up ourselves and leave this race for women, discover the best version of ourselves.
Chetan Bhagat told "Possessiveness insecurities se aati hai", I totally agree. But what if the girls actions makes the guy insecure, like talking with exes after break up, posting revealing selfies on social media where little to no skin is covered, keeping old memories of exes like photos, hiding small to big things, lying about small and big things. Isn't it enough to make a guy insecure, now who's fault is that? Guys cause he is being insecure or girls who is doing certain actions that are not suitable being in relationships and directly or indirectly making him feel insecure. If I plan to share my future with someone I need to know everything about her. Lies creates doubts that's how insecurities arises.
i swear i went through these same thoughts when i was with my ex. what used to make me more insecure was cus she wad actually a hoe, she was a cheater in the past, also she wasn't a virgin whilst being only 15. she left me over me being over possessive which has taught me a lesson not to trust girls who've had a bad past. they don't change. and i don't really care enough to change this mentality of mine. im good being single. im too secure of myself now that i just don't bother caring about someone else 😂😂😂 you depressed ass boys need to listen to some Future
Totally agree with your points sir. One more point I wanna add is Career these days are equally important for both guys & girls, sometimes girls also don't focus on their career jus becoj they are so possessive for their boyfriends. Good career can lead to good relationship but not always vice versa.
Not true sister. If a girl is not focusing on her career or even if she don't have any job at certain age a boy who love her or any boy will marry her and will provide her the best life possible. But if talking about vice versa that shit is imposible. A girl with good or handsome career will never marry a boy even they love each other or any guy.
Abha Verma yeah I do agree with you entirely as in today's world both boys & girls require to be self relient as suppose if a boy losses his life after getting married & his girl stays just as a housewife then she will certainly become very much helpless
@@thebeatboxguy For girls having good career:- Ofcourse girls can look for handsome guy if the that guy loves her and posses a good nature then both can live happily, but only looks are not important rather girls prefer to marry a guy who is loving & caring. Coj looks would exhaust when he get old,but good nature will be with him always so he can better take care of his lady & kids😇
This is so true... Also, some advise for my boys Be confident Dress nicely for yourself Forcus on your career Don't be insecure and possessive Be real And the right type of girl will be attracted by you, bcoz if you are like this you deserve an equally great girl. *ignore grammatical mistakes
It depends on luck too. And past experience We can't say to a guy who was bullied in past to be confident He can try but to expect he will be confident always is unrealistic. But anyways I agree with your points
I was doing very well in my career and I wasn't insecure about her still she left because I was too into career.... Girls leave doesn't matter how good you are... It's better to not focus on girls focus on Career when you are doing well in your career you don't need girl.
Girls often keeps multiple options. They compare people basically based on their looks also the security they can provide. Unfortunately most of the times they choose the wrong partner for which they regret later although they don't disclose.
My genuine feedback for young boys is to think of girls as partners/friends. I am now 12 yr married to a guy who is not only my best friend but also encourages and supports my career decisions. Once you move forward from the initial honeymoon phase of dating and romance, reality hits. Both individuals need to be happy and satisfied with their carrier choices( money matters). We need partners to raise our kids. Here in US, there is no support system. You need to be hands-on with everything. Giving space and respecting each other are very important. I think of my life partner as my purpose-partner. We are achieving success by literally taking turns in our careers. Coming from a mom of 3 little toddlers. Communication is the key 🔑 by setting the right expectations.
"You're born alone, you die alone, and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one." Don Draper Mad Men S1E01
Hi Chetan... the coming generation will be luck to have you as their motivation guru. I am a 90s kid, who knew Chetan Bhagat after reading his first novel Five Points Someone. There was no TH-cam or Insta to connect to you. We did all these mistakes and learnt from them. Luckily this generation will know all this before taking wrong steps.
Well said.. Every word of yours is linked to another, 1.yes its REALLY easy for a girl to get nice guys, but lemme tel you it's EASY for a guys too to get nice girls, IF they are sensible enough. 2.career is imp to everyone if it's a guy or a girl, if you ain't focused on your career even your parents are gonna take your case obvsly they wouldn't like you to waste your life so how can you expect a girl to accept you if you ain't focused on your career. 3. Don't ever be possessive, if she loves you, she won't leave you for any other guy, and if she doesn't love she can kick you anytime anyway, so why to get worried, and too much possessiveness ruins the relationship badly, 4.if you try to control her, she will definitely go against you... LAST....... if she is yours she will never cheat on you so why to get worried bro, BUT if she isn't urs she will eventually leave you so why to cry for some one who wasn't yours ever right !
You absolutely nailed it Chetan bhagat ji..🙏🏻 I loved someone so much, I still love that person, but that person has rejected me, she outrightly rejected me, she didn't tell me anything, she just said No, and I Know why she rejected me, it's because of my career, I am not yet settled, that's the reason, hell I know, now Chetan bhagat ji just confirmed that, but let me tell you this, it's hard real hard, if you love someone so much, then it's going to hurt you as I am hurt, but I respect that person's choice and I am not that person for her, time will heal every pain stay strong boys.. ❤️
Too much emotional dependency of boy over his girl..I guess is one of the reasons Or should I say irrespective of the gender... never be fully dependent on others STAY strong...stay HAPPY ❤️
@Sumant Sahu lrkiya apne parents k sath rhti h aur bahar jane ka v mauka nhi milta upar se agar middle class h to sare bhai behan ka ek hi kmra hota h jiske karan wo baat nhi kr pati apne bf se😭😭😭it is also a cause of break up.
If women are loved unconditionally then you shouldn't have any problem with them being workaholic and have big career dreams to pursue even after marriage which obviously no one should have a problem with it For everyone career comes first and you should know that and nothing even after marriage nothing should hinder it
@shristi aditi Stop generalizing, if killing of all girl child were true you wouldn't be alive today, neither anyone else. You have also generalized by comparing today's situation to earlier, by saying matured men only want to marry girl with job. Get your timeline correct. If you are considering how nowadays men wants to marry working women then also consider nowadays people don't kill their girl child. Give this a thought, anyways you'll get attention from feminized boys like @Electro OP, who thinks just by ridiculing someone for breakup or career will make their point valid.
Loved the comment "Quality girl knows her boundaries" Thats absolutely true. As such babies are clingy towards you, when husbands also get clingy it is rather painful :) ! Good point!
None of these points apply to me. And yet, my girlfriend/best friend of 7 years left back in 2015 when I was in my First Year Engineering @ IIT Kharagpur
I agree with you sir. I just want to share my point on girls. 1, Dont try to understand a girl. 2, A girl is made to be loved, feeled & we should enjoy their presence.
One thing i couldn't understand Boys will support a girl for her career but why girls are not supporting him until he get successfull in life ....he is trying his best then also .....
It's damm true , because whenever I used talk to my bestie about her relationship, she always used to say that her guy had no good career and therefore she can't see the future with him... really
As a woman I think that's because we owing to biology we know that we may be bearing children for which we will want financial stability. And it's not necessary that a woman should not earn for the household, but the traditional responsibility still rests with the man.
@@jayeshpatil9399 yeah bro they are hypocrite 😆😂 they expect men to be provider but when we talk about household chores, cooking, cleaning they have a problem.
Chetan Bhagat told "Possessiveness insecurities se aati hai", I totally agree. But what if the girls actions makes the guy insecure, like talking with exes after break up, posting revealing selfies on social media where little to no skin is covered, keeping old memories of exes like photos, hiding small to big things, lying about small and big things. Isn't it enough to make a guy insecure, now who's fault is that? Guys cause he is being insecure or girls who is doing certain actions that are not suitable being in relationships and directly or indirectly making him feel insecure. If I plan to share my future with someone I need to know everything about her. Lies creates doubts that's how insecurities arises.
wait wait wait .... mujhe aisa lagta hai ki mere papa mujhe esa smjha rhe h ... words pe mt jao .. but if you are someone jisko smjhane wala koi nahi hai ... is channel ko kabhi mat chorna .. chetan sir ..we all know why you are here . just to make someones life better and we know you will always help us .. thank you dear chetan sir.
Same thing happened with me .. He became too possessive which i used to hate about him and he stopped focussing on his career and used to abuse me or throw his anger on me anytime which ultimately led me to be in stress for a long time and i am still recovering.. I have taken an oath not to come into any relationship anymore cause it's taking my peace away
👌👌you are right sir 👌👌Career is very important , lazy log kabhi bhi kishi ko pasand nhi aa sakte........... Unki soch big ho , hamesa apne aapko growth ki taraf le jaye..... Deeply soch rkhe ..... Netrual hokar kishi bhi cheez ko dekhe..... 👌👌
That is not love . If one loves someone then loves their unemployment, love family problems, love their personal problems etc. Then boys has only one solution. Get govt job then marry with girl whose father gives him hefty dowry. That is the slap on the girl who is pretend to b in love but in disguise c love his money, carrier, social status etc.
Before some years ago, I used to watch such type of videos . Now there is no need. Iam very Happy No breakups No pain. Iam 38 yrs old, married and settled.
I agree! And mostly guys equate career with money which isnt always the case. Many a times, girls look for boys who are already into a good career or at least have an aspiration of one because such men/ boys generally (of course not always) tend to be practical in life and value certain morals like time management/ importance of time, being able to comprehend the gravity of the situations, living in real time and not in some lala land always, being able to shoulder the responsibilities, being secure, etc. Also most of the times, it is such self made men who are able to appreciate their partners profession or job which any ambitious/working girl would want.
@SOMA: Flowing With Life then leave that girl... and put ur brain in finding a girl ... who likes for who your..... update ur choices and see what u want in a girl and get here. if you still fail.... blame ur self for not finding such a girl... after knowing what you want.
Truth into 100 . Bro , heart se zindagi nhi chalti . Its important but , girls look for security . And either way if you have a secure future and life , isn't it good for your own too . Plus you should also know your worth , don't sell yourself to anyone , just because you want closure , know what you want !
I wish exactly the same from boys ,are there boys who don't have problem with girlfriends or wives being workaholic and gets little to no time for husband during her struggle period? If yes then that's wonderful
@@physicsislove6100 you said it as a reaction to his comment. Because you think he made a patriarchal statement. 😅😅 Grow up man.😅 Till the time you are reacting to someone you have no real existence. Speak something which you feel strongly about, not something because you want to counter somebody. Because that is always superficial.
I want to add 2 more reasons why girls leave guys 3. Having sexual desire or forcing girl without girl's concern 4. Maximum boys thinks ghar ka kam ladkiyon ka hota hai it became very hard when girl is working One Extra reason.: Not respecting girl's value . Well it applies for both boys and girls.
These are good qualities, even I want the girl who have these qualities or we can reason, merko chahiye hi nahi koi chapri ladki. And sex to bilkul hi avoid karna chahiye shaadi se pehle no matter ladke ho ya ladki itne hawsi mat bano yarr.
Yes ofcourse, YOU are RIGHT Chetan, GREAT SUCCESS you have greater the chances that all people (both boys and girls) come running behind you !!! They feel that you are successful so you will be able to do something !!.. Now, WHEN the same person has no more money or his CAREER falls inbetween or goes down for sometime - you immediately come to know WHO your REAL FRIENDS are and who your REAL GIRL IS !! .. including your wife at times depending on the QUALITY of the girl.. 😳 ISNT IT ?
You are exactly right sir, things change for boys as soon as the campus interviews in colleges are over And girls now know which boy has better career option and earnings.
Entirely agree sir !! Most relevant point is where no one should control other's life. If she is yours and you really deserve her, she would come to/stay with you !
Sir I agree with your points , and second point is the strongest reason for a break-up.... Possessiveness is there in a relationship but within a limit only and if it exceeds far it will turn into ownership ...... Thanks sir for your thoughts and guiding us ❤️🙏
As sir said, possessiveness comes from insecurity, in many cases girl's are also possesive, the only thing which help to change the possessive behaviour of your partner is trust😊 that's what I think
Possessiveness girl or boy both ko Aati he Gara larke Se jiyda Larki Sundar ho to larke ko Dr hota he ki ya Kisi or ke sath to Nahi he , ya fir boy smart hota he girl ko dar Lagta he ki sayd ya.to Kisi Larki ke sath Nahi he , logic Yaha pe ya he sir ya to hota he dono gendar me lekin girl Karti he possessiveness to larka ladta he lekin Uske hi sath rahta he lekin Agar larka possessiveness ho jae to Galat he 😑 wahh re duniya ,
Agree to the Moooon!!! You are the super father of Indian youth. Pin point. Now, I am scared to share it with a friend who is having all the girlfriend repellent qualities you just discussed! 😂 He will jump to 🔥 probably.
I was Broken for a year I used to cry at night ! ! My whole family suffered because of My depression. The girl who Betrayed me was the one who proposed me but when I started loving her she left without any reason!!! Anyways the experience made me strong Now I am only focusing on My carrier and Don't wanna get into any relationship Just want to make my parents proud that's it!! 😊
@@pritam5278 it means u gave her too much time. spent too much time with her. women love men like kabir singh. not nice good men. women hate good guys.
I can share from experience that guys should focus on their career first, your health and building a strong character. You will be more likely to get a better girl at 25 if you have a good career than what you will get whekn you are 19 when you haven't seen much of the world. If you are physically fit and making good money, girls will come to you.
Try to find someone who is happy with the way you are. Someone who does not want to change you or expect you to be someone else. Don't fall for someone who thinks you are a project to be delivered. Finally, don't just go by looks (what Mr. Bhagat said out of your league and some other crap), try to see the person within.
This is the main reason why my breakup happened , I am a career oriented guy , but because of my over possessiveness the girl went , and one more point I want to add , some people are lonely they just want to come in relationship to fill that gap , and once its over they will go . So be very sure before choosing some one .
As a 25 yrs old...been in good amount of relationships...I can say each n every bit is so fucking true❤️ Bt definately all girls should make themselves worthy😊
@Garima Khuteil i can give lectures like chetan all day. I feel sad for people like you who fall prey to people like chetan and get their brainwashed. Chetan is always against dating, enjoyment..all he talks is career , health and money. Tell me one thing, why only those people talk of career who are themseleves a failure and making it by giving lectures to others. Why only those people talk of health who never read any book on medical science and have no knowledge of surgery, medicine, disease and body parts. Lastly, even young healthy people have died from covid at age of 25 , but people like you would never understand how short is life so that so that you can follow stupid chetan and take life for granted.
@@shivammahajan9051 girl u see all his video...he say keep career fist priority and have relationship later... He is not saying that do not enjoy ur life... U should see his videos.... I hope u r ok becoz ur comment says that u r going through a difficult time... I hope all will be good 😊
@@shivammahajan9051 make your career and then do ask for dowry or date a similar successful career oriented girl (financial standard) it's nothing wrong to ask since girls ( mostly) do date men who have stability or money in life so it's nothing wrong for you to ask it back good options should be their in your list. ( money and other factors from girls). Do go just for beauty ....
@@shivammahajan9051 bruh Ur the only one who said the truth!!!! I was looking for this answer...chethan bhagath doesn't know a dam thing... although I agree with some point...most of the things that he says is bs....
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Chetan Bhagat told "Possessiveness insecurities se aati hai", I totally agree. But what if the girls actions makes the guy insecure, like talking with exes after break up, posting revealing selfies on social media where little to no skin is covered, keeping old memories of exes like photos, hiding small to big things, lying about small and big things. Isn't it enough to make a guy insecure, now who's fault is that? Guys cause he is being insecure or girls who is doing certain actions that are not suitable being in relationships and directly or indirectly making him feel insecure. If I plan to share my future with someone I need to know everything about her. Lies creates doubts that's how insecurities arises.
I am a girl and I completely agree with your points. I am myself a CA student and ambitious, so the very first thing I would look in a guy is the same ambition and career focus
@@vinayaka004 toh socho naa, no one stopped you. Guys prioritize looks and beauty over career and ambition. It's truth. I would love if guys start thinking like that
I am in class 11th when she breakup with me , and she tell agar tumhe mere sath rehna hai too tumhe friend ban kr rehena padega . I agree with her decision then next day she'll call me and said kal se hum baat Krna band kr denge jab tumhe mere yaad aaye tab call kr liya Krna , too maine thik hai bola , Lekin uss din puri raat mai soya nhi , 2 months hamare bich batten hue ki kyu tumhe friends ban kr rehena hai kyu tum mujh se baat nhi Krna chahati but har baar usne alag alag reasons batayen or baat Krna band kr diya bcoz of this I am in depression for 6 month and today I am a b-tech student but still mai yeh he sochta hu kyu usne mujh se baat Krna band kr diya , vo mujhe uski family se bhi jyada pyar krti thi.... Please reply me ?
That's completely fine. You don't need to give explanations. I am an ambitious guy and I love feminine and beautiful(mostly interior)women and some girls ask me why. I am tired of giving them explanations.
yes, I agree with you sir over possesiveness kills the relationships. Because, it creates trust issues and being insecured and jealous won't lead to a healthy relationship. Because trust is the key for any relationship or friendship. Relationships are too complicated. It would be better to focus on your career first. Relationships Don't go anywhere which we need to deal with them our entire life afterwards.
Completely agree, my bf had career focus, that's why I never thought of leaving him. On the other hand, I rejected many majnu guys coz they did not have career focus nor career. For possessiveness I will say, those who wanna live with you, will choose to live anyhow. Those who do not want, will make a small excuse and go. Completely agree, thankyou
Exactly I too feel so,so I don't bother about if someone would leave me,but in initial phase of love blind trust on someone gives too much pain if she/he leaves u so take it easy,not like majnu who gets into depression after breakup.
@@abhinavverma740 Ek to population itna he Bhai Bharat me ki rojgar Ka kami ho Raha he 😂or tum Sabko add Kar.raha he Sab job hi karega to duniya Ka. Kya Hoga 😂 wahh re duniya
I cheated my bf at my teenager age and I am realized from how much pain he suffered. I arranged his number and said sorry to him but sorry doesn't makes any change and every day I am feeling very guilty for him but now he is with another girl into a relationship.
U r doing something really great for the youth , sir. I have read your book, making india awesome. It's really inspiring, sir. We indians are proud to have u
Sir I totally agree with you but I want to add a point..... Sometimes we feel that we love someone bt actually we don't. We don't understand the difference between love and ephemeral emotion. Later when we understand so....We wish to move on in search of a true love, causing a heart break.
You are a deep thinker and you can observe and remember your experiences And these stories are all coming from your memory lane I like people who introspect and think
That is not love . If one loves someone then loves their unemployment, love family problems, love their personal problems etc. If anyone in love can't give moral support in struggle can't b lover. Then boys has only one solution. Get govt job then marry with girl whose father gives him hefty dowry. That is the slap on the girl who is pretend to b in love but in disguise c love his money, carrier, social status etc.
Boys should choose a girl who has a great career 💯🔥 Y should girls have all the fun ? It they can choose the best guy we have the rights to choose a best gal. Women should not be burden for a man's expenditure. Instead they should be beneficial financially.
But sadly this thinking changes after marriage as boy and family expect too much from girl how she will sustain great career..at that boy also make helpless face yar mami papa he karna pdta he..so think twice before choosing ambitious partner😭
Saari tension ladko ki hi hai...Gf v chahiye career v banana....😐😐😐 Nhi to gf chor degi... Aur ladkio ko..Bf chahiye well settled ho.. Bss..Simple.. By the way I agree with ur words..Sir...😊😊
The thing the guy needs to prioritize himself and prioritize his family that is his parents....you have to live your life ...there is a huge trust factor and if you do not have trust on them, you have to get rid of the elements which is harming you..career is important and you need to sacrifice everything to achieve your goals...my take is very clear reject everything other than your parents who are your best well wishers and live your life
This is absolutely trueee... It's not like that the girl who wants will stay no matter what. Guys genuine actions awake feelings within girls. You should keep your career and family as your priority. Otherwise it's not gonna work the way you want it. If independence matters to you it matters for us too maybe more than you guys.
That is not love . If one loves someone then loves their unemployment, love family problems, love their personal problems etc. Then boys has only one solution. Get govt job then marry with girl whose father gives him hefty dowry. That is the slap on the girl who is pretend to b in love but in disguise c love his money, carrier, social status etc.
@@kpchandan25 This is not what I said. You got me wrong bro. I just said instead of chasing girls n stuff chase your dreams. The goal should be to grow with the partner. Even if that person doens't help you to that he/she might not be good for the specific person. That's it...!!
@@ritankarsarkar9394 all the best for this field😂 I mean ap smart ho skte ho pr bht ldko ko aj pta chla hoga ki ldkia kyu chor deti h ab pta chl hi gya h to aage k lye all the best 😂😂
Lesson of the story:: She will choose a guy according to her preference and her preference will change time to time and everytime she will put blame on you for being not according to her. Live your life and stop listening and caring about these bullshit.
You were soooo true Sir......I can't express a lot on social media but the 2 points are really true........the main reason I have seen for the breakup are these two only.....
That is not love . If one loves someone then loves their unemployment, love family problems, love their personal problems etc. Then boys has only one solution. Get govt job then marry with girl whose father gives him hefty dowry. That is the slap on the girl who is pretend to b in love but in disguise c love his money, carrier, social status etc.
I agree with your points. Everything boils down to what kind of life she believes you both will live.. If she is confident that someone else will provide a better life, be it more happiness and freedom, or more money, or just a life where you are a strong pillar and she doesn't have to worry about you, a girl has a high chance of leaving..
I hate my sister she did same left the guy who wasn't earning that much and now she is with someone who is good provider.i hate it my blood boils whenever i think about that.
@@pranavgohel6710 Bro but I think it's ur own sister, I thought u would support it. But honestly anyone who leaves someone for shallow reasons like that, doesn't deserve love.
Mindset pe bhi depend hai bcoz boys are there like they care too much in starting and then they take their girl on granted .. In that phase even if girl dont want to leave them but their behaviour force their mentality to leave boys
Nothing is more beautifully then true friendship in a relationship... so one should respect the bond of friendship and after this that relationship will be positive for both and you both can be better version of yourself... IF THE LOVE IS TRUE THEN IT WILL DEFINITELY BE GOING TO CHERISH AND EVEN IF THE LOVE IS NOT TRUE THEN YOU WILL REALISE AND LEARN TO CHERISH TRUE LOVE FOR YOUR FUTURE MATE... #Be the best you.. SO YOU GET THE BEST FOR YOU 😃
@@BasavarajJambagi i dont know whats ur experience but in my opinion every relationship starts with friendship nd even if you relationship dont work out then one should at least respect the friend....
Girls are not concerned about career of boys. She will never ask boys to study or let them study. Even if she asks it will be just superficial. She will enjoy till the time she is with you... Bus aapna dekho yaar what remains with you forever is your career..... It is my perspective may be few of you won't agree with me.
He’s spoken the truth, at the end of the day having a serious career shows that the guy is responsible and able to financially support his family. Just like Chetan bhai says at 4:55 , the nerd or studious guy ultimately wins.
True, i want patner not an controller and yeah I like a person who is focus and serious about his future plans that's how we can see the future with them.
That is not love . If one loves someone then loves their unemployment, love family problems, love their personal problems etc. Then boys has only one solution. Get govt job then marry with girl whose father gives him hefty dowry. That is the slap on the girl who is pretend to b in love but in disguise c love his money, carrier, social status etc.
@@kpchandan25 I didn't talk abt money at all. Future plans means that person should clear about his future plans wheather he wants to be housemaker or earner of family and then what next. I tried to be gender neutral and you sound like typical indian. And there's no way a women should get marry in toxic household has to love abusive behaviour, a big NO. Love doesn't means looks, it everything. Check your defination of love.❤️
@@Ash-qm2xl who don't make plan? Everyone has plan n dream but reality is India is a poor country unemployment is reality. Even PHD Peoples fill d for for chaprasis just for 200 seats 50 lak form .If Person in love can't give morale support n have patience in their struggles can't b lover they r gold digger just like u..u can't b lover....never
Summary of the video-
1) build a career
2) Don't be too possessive
THANKS
build a career and earn more than her future guys
Focus on 1 and you don't have to think about 2
@Indian to girls relationship is all about survival
Ha copy me likhlo
Conclusion is that : paisa, money, rokda, dhann is the main ingredient along with other masala of life curry. Hats of chetan bhiyaa. Love u boss.
True when I was in radison hotel Jaipur ….party. Me models and high class girls …..bhai Mai surprise reh gya itni sundar ladkia….Ameer uncles ke saath thi sirf paisa aur extra affair b
Right
My advice-
1.focus on financial independence
2.Enjoy each day -by doing something which u really love.
3.take care of your health.
Yes yahi mool mantra hai.
So easy to say but hard to achieve.
👌🏻👌🏻👏🏼👏🏼
"Financial Freedom" is a big word my Friend. Even a girl's father could not say confidently wheater he is financially free even at the age of retirement.
Great Bro
Being emotionally unavailable to my ex was the reason for my breakup.
This happens when you take them for granted and don't invest enough time and efforts in the relationship.
Stop blaming yourself. Yeh sabka rona hai. Emotionally involved nhi ho, for granted le rakha h. This n that. Truth is she already found someone who is better than you.
@@rvi632 you sound bitter dude.. Looks like a recent heartbreak.
Lol.. No bro!!! Had a long time back.
Yaar parag achha kiya k tum usse granted le rakha tha, matlab kahin achhi jagah tumne invest kiya hoga. Kyun k ... Unlike other men you are different. Those men who revolves around pussy all day, they somewhere ended up hopeless, uncofident , not desirable goal in life. Yaar women are hypergamous in nature.. They likes to be stay in upper zone like they wants to wear good cloth, wealthy, fruitful lifestyle.
Those men who have skill like u, stop idolise, stop pedastalise, taking granted kind of men who fall in this category called as high value men...
So cherish your goal, your life what you wants to make
@@rvi632 i agree with Ravi opinion
Hey Chetan,
I mean honestly you said what mostly people fail to. Absolutely spot on. ✨
Thank you so much 😄
@@ChetanBhagat1 I would love to see your opinion on “Self respect”. I personally think men do disrespect their self respect a lot. If one can’t respect themselves, they can respect none.
Hope you make it :)
“Focus on yourself, your career, than you will not have time to be possessive and insecure “ 💯💯
Khb sara paisa kamao
@@omjoshi8319 earn money its more important than a hole
@@yeelanma9165 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lie and unfaith diatroye relation
@@soumsgaming238 *Just paisa kamao, successful bano, and daily raat ko larki kharido alag alag*
I always remember your lines sir,
( Being so busy to improve yourself that you have no time to criticise someone ) :-)
Wow , it felt so good seeing my exact name . Good luck brother 😃
Thanks for reminding
That is not love . If one loves someone then loves their unemployment, love family problems, love their personal problems etc. Then boys has only one solution. Get govt job then marry with girl whose father gives him hefty dowry. That is the slap on the girl who is pretend to b in love but in disguise c love his money, carrier, social status etc.
@@nitinyadav7525 😅
And here he is criticizing almost the whole indian male youth ..🤣🤣🤣
3:40 First Point
6:42 Second Point
Hero hai tu bhaiya
😂 😂 😂
Not all heroes wear cap
U have my respect 🔥
💯💯💯🤘🤘🤘
Thanks bhai
The career point is true, although my only suggestion is, don't work on your career because you want to impress girls. Just work on your career because you wanna do something great in life. You need to work on yourself for yourself, not for anyone else. And we gotta ditch this possessiveness. Look the problem with guys is, we don't have any value. The girl ignores us, and we keep running even faster behind her. I think its high time we pick up ourselves and leave this race for women, discover the best version of ourselves.
सच काहा भाई आपने👌🙏
Chetan Bhagat told "Possessiveness insecurities se aati hai", I totally agree. But what if the girls actions makes the guy insecure, like talking with exes after break up, posting revealing selfies on social media where little to no skin is covered, keeping old memories of exes like photos, hiding small to big things, lying about small and big things. Isn't it enough to make a guy insecure, now who's fault is that? Guys cause he is being insecure or girls who is doing certain actions that are not suitable being in relationships and directly or indirectly making him feel insecure. If I plan to share my future with someone I need to know everything about her. Lies creates doubts that's how insecurities arises.
i swear i went through these same thoughts when i was with my ex. what used to make me more insecure was cus she wad actually a hoe, she was a cheater in the past, also she wasn't a virgin whilst being only 15. she left me over me being over possessive which has taught me a lesson not to trust girls who've had a bad past. they don't change. and i don't really care enough to change this mentality of mine. im good being single. im too secure of myself now that i just don't bother caring about someone else 😂😂😂 you depressed ass boys need to listen to some Future
Its totally true
agreee
Then leave the girl because she don't love you
Brother she is a low quality women set boundaries and if she doesn’t respect your boundaries let her go Bro she is going to break your heart
Anyone can be bf with certain standard.. But when comes to choosing husband financial status becomes important 😃
#facts
Totally agree with your points sir. One more point I wanna add is Career these days are equally important for both guys & girls, sometimes girls also don't focus on their career jus becoj they are so possessive for their boyfriends. Good career can lead to good relationship but not always vice versa.
Not true sister. If a girl is not focusing on her career or even if she don't have any job at certain age a boy who love her or any boy will marry her and will provide her the best life possible. But if talking about vice versa that shit is imposible. A girl with good or handsome career will never marry a boy even they love each other or any guy.
Abha Verma yeah I do agree with you entirely as in today's world both boys & girls require to be self relient as suppose if a boy losses his life after getting married & his girl stays just as a housewife then she will certainly become very much helpless
If career is equally important for both than girls looks for a handsome good looking guy.
Please reply if any suggestions
@@thebeatboxguy For girls having good career:- Ofcourse girls can look for handsome guy if the that guy loves her and posses a good nature then both can live happily, but only looks are not important rather girls prefer to marry a guy who is loving & caring. Coj looks would exhaust when he get old,but good nature will be with him always so he can better take care of his lady & kids😇
@@abhaverma787 really nice answer ❤️❤️☺️
Good career that is the whole point of understanding,the theory of career linked with everything was great sir. Thanks for amazing video .
Our Name😬
@@Indian2.5 guturgu shuru ... huh 🥺😆
@@sonamdeshpande7281 😑😑
This is so true...
Also, some advise for my boys
Be confident
Dress nicely for yourself
Forcus on your career
Don't be insecure and possessive
Be real
And the right type of girl will be attracted by you, bcoz if you are like this you deserve an equally great girl.
*ignore grammatical mistakes
It depends on luck too.
And past experience
We can't say to a guy who was bullied in past to be confident
He can try but to expect he will be confident always is unrealistic.
But anyways I agree with your points
I was doing very well in my career and I wasn't insecure about her still she left because I was too into career.... Girls leave doesn't matter how good you are... It's better to not focus on girls focus on Career when you are doing well in your career you don't need girl.
That's the main think most of men don't understand
Management matters bro
@@ronnie1074 yeah why does we need girl its totally fine to be single not forever but for a while at least
Girls often keeps multiple options. They compare people basically based on their looks also the security they can provide. Unfortunately most of the times they choose the wrong partner for which they regret later although they don't disclose.
agreed
A girl doesn't deserve a guy if she herself hasn't done anything in her career
Career has nothing to do with partner. Its about the capacity of loving someone.
@@pa4760 ab ladki pr baat aayi toh love aur ladke pe baat aayi toh carrier 👏👏👏
@@deveshsomraj271 ekdum shi
@coco 07 yeah and nowaday both girls and boys are brain washed but the majority of the golddigers is increasing
I second that.:)
My genuine feedback for young boys is to think of girls as partners/friends. I am now 12 yr married to a guy who is not only my best friend but also encourages and supports my career decisions. Once you move forward from the initial honeymoon phase of dating and romance, reality hits. Both individuals need to be happy and satisfied with their carrier choices( money matters). We need partners to raise our kids. Here in US, there is no support system. You need to be hands-on with everything. Giving space and respecting each other are very important. I think of my life partner as my purpose-partner. We are achieving success by literally taking turns in our careers. Coming from a mom of 3 little toddlers. Communication is the key 🔑 by setting the right expectations.
So much of learning 👍🏼 thanks for sharing, teenager this side
Agree 👍
@@mikasa3202
badhiya career banaalo beta
abhi se ..
warna life is tough ahead
Thanks for sharing
@@sonamdeshpande7281 😂😂😂he matr agadi khare ahe (money matter)
"You're born alone, you die alone, and this world just drops a bunch of rules
on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one." Don Draper Mad Men S1E01
jordarr bro
kitne season hai ?
Agree 💯!!!!!
lage raho bhai
Don Draper and his personality is not something you should idealize.
Hi Chetan... the coming generation will be luck to have you as their motivation guru. I am a 90s kid, who knew Chetan Bhagat after reading his first novel Five Points Someone. There was no TH-cam or Insta to connect to you. We did all these mistakes and learnt from them. Luckily this generation will know all this before taking wrong steps.
I think power of two words( "SARKARI NAUKRI ") is more powerful than power of three words("I LOVE YOU")
#indians😉😉
Dude that's what you call bramhastra
@@Amit-rk5hw Exactly 😎
Sahi pakde beta😂😂
Yaha sarkari Naukri bhi lag gayi 🤣 par still single hain 🤣
Sarkari nokri only attract gold digger girl's and gold digger inlows
And yes you attract what you are , quality guys look for quality girls.
do you think you are quality girl ?
@@anandkrtiwari tujhe kya karna?
@@amanupadhyaynitk3292 looking for quality girl
@@amanupadhyaynitk3292 poochne do bhai, why are you policing lol
@@TheMsnitish inko real life me koi ladki ghans nahi dalti to comment section me har ladki pe line marte hai
Well said..
Every word of yours is linked to another,
1.yes its REALLY easy for a girl to get nice guys, but lemme tel you it's EASY for a guys too to get nice girls, IF they are sensible enough.
2.career is imp to everyone if it's a guy or a girl, if you ain't focused on your career even your parents are gonna take your case obvsly they wouldn't like you to waste your life so how can you expect a girl to accept you if you ain't focused on your career.
3. Don't ever be possessive, if she loves you, she won't leave you for any other guy, and if she doesn't love she can kick you anytime anyway, so why to get worried, and too much possessiveness ruins the relationship badly,
4.if you try to control her, she will definitely go against you...
LAST....... if she is yours she will never cheat on you so why to get worried bro,
BUT if she isn't urs she will eventually leave you so why to cry for some one who wasn't yours ever right !
Hadd hai 🤣🤣🤣🤦🏻♂️
Ky thoughts hai ma'am sabasi dena hoga 👍
Kuch naya baataogi madam ....jo sir ne bataya wahi eloborate karke eassy writing karne aai ho kya
Kuch naya bato ki ladka safsuthra, sanskari , pada likha dimag ka tej ya joooo bhi h matlab jo sir ne bata diya wahi chaap diya
Jaldi bataoo ab
Only Kabir Singh can get the girl despite being madly possessive and overbearing...!!!
He was topper also
True
So true.. it's all fictional
@@Amit-lh1jz that's exactly what I meant! I was being sarcastic.
Kabir singh was a reel character ; come to real '
You absolutely nailed it Chetan bhagat ji..🙏🏻 I loved someone so much, I still love that person, but that person has rejected me, she outrightly rejected me, she didn't tell me anything, she just said No, and I Know why she rejected me, it's because of my career, I am not yet settled, that's the reason, hell I know, now Chetan bhagat ji just confirmed that, but let me tell you this, it's hard real hard, if you love someone so much, then it's going to hurt you as I am hurt, but I respect that person's choice and I am not that person for her, time will heal every pain stay strong boys.. ❤️
Don't choose a selfish girl for that matter.If they choose you for your wealth,they may choose a wealthier one later ...
Too much emotional dependency of boy over his girl..I guess is one of the reasons
Or should I say irrespective of the gender... never be fully dependent on others
STAY strong...stay HAPPY ❤️
True. We should not depend on others.😊
Can you explain emotional dependency?
@Sumant Sahu Man,it's tooooo difficult to not to get attached .
@Sumant Sahu lrkiya apne parents k sath rhti h aur bahar jane ka v mauka nhi milta upar se agar middle class h to sare bhai behan ka ek hi kmra hota h jiske karan wo baat nhi kr pati apne bf se😭😭😭it is also a cause of break up.
@@amisha.3079 "Yeh *_chútíya_* excuse kisi aur ko jaa ke de"....🤦🏻♂️
“only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally,” whereas “a man is only loved under the condition that he provide something.... :-))
Hehe u reel guy 😂 . I've seen this reel just before this video !!💔🌸
@@shristiaditi538 so what a short boy can like tall girl
And vice versa
u forgot mothers love buddy
If women are loved unconditionally then you shouldn't have any problem with them being workaholic and have big career dreams to pursue even after marriage which obviously no one should have a problem with it
For everyone career comes first and you should know that and nothing even after marriage nothing should hinder it
@shristi aditi
Stop generalizing, if killing of all girl child were true you wouldn't be alive today, neither anyone else.
You have also generalized by comparing today's situation to earlier, by saying matured men only want to marry girl with job.
Get your timeline correct. If you are considering how nowadays men wants to marry working women then also consider nowadays people don't kill their girl child.
Give this a thought, anyways you'll get attention from feminized boys like @Electro OP, who thinks just by ridiculing someone for breakup or career will make their point valid.
Loved the comment "Quality girl knows her boundaries" Thats absolutely true. As such babies are clingy towards you, when husbands also get clingy it is rather painful :) ! Good point!
Nice logic
low quality men get clingy. make yourself better so that she's afraid to lose you.
*Just paisa kamao, successful bano, and daily raat ko larki kharido alag alag*
None of these points apply to me. And yet, my girlfriend/best friend of 7 years left back in 2015 when I was in my First Year Engineering @ IIT Kharagpur
Meri waali to meri job lagne k baad breakup karke nikal lee thee final yr me....😂
Pata nhi kya logic raha hoga us paagal aurat ka ?😆
Looks? @@shashanks631
I agree with you sir. I just want to share my point on girls.
1, Dont try to understand a girl.
2, A girl is made to be loved, feeled & we should enjoy their presence.
*Just paisa kamao, successful bano, and daily raat ko larki kharido alag alag*
One thing i couldn't understand Boys will support a girl for her career but why girls are not supporting him until he get successfull in life ....he is trying his best then also .....
Agreed
It's not true, it depends on the girl you are dealing with. Be with a girl who is actually goal oriented, she'll support you for sure !
Kyonki bhai wo STREE hai...wo kuch bhi kar sakti hai...🤣🤣😂😁
@@GoluSingh... sahi kaha golu ji
Ye sab nahi hota reality main so accept it and move on.
i would also prefer to be in a relationship with a women who is focussed for her goals dreams who have something meaningful to do inlife 💯
Tabhi single hai kya bhai abhi tak q 😂😂 q ki abhi sab ladki reels baane mai busy hai 😂😂 no offense dude it is just a joke ❤️
@@thebestnoel3159 girls go for money, boys go for beauty and relieving their stress to girls
@@yummyfood2257 boys go for a girl who understands them because boys don't share everything to anyone all they need is a patner to share everything
@Prasad Pvt. no bro it depends how supportive your girlfriend is for your and her goals too
same
It's damm true , because whenever I used talk to my bestie about her relationship, she always used to say that her guy had no good career and therefore she can't see the future with him... really
As a woman I think that's because we owing to biology we know that we may be bearing children for which we will want financial stability. And it's not necessary that a woman should not earn for the household, but the traditional responsibility still rests with the man.
@@srishtishetty8578 but traditional responsibility still rests with women for cooking , cleaning, taking care of family
@@jayeshpatil9399 yeah bro they are hypocrite 😆😂 they expect men to be provider but when we talk about household chores, cooking, cleaning they have a problem.
The second point was so on point👌...like seriously this bothers so many girls...well said sir👍💯
Chetan Bhagat told "Possessiveness insecurities se aati hai", I totally agree. But what if the girls actions makes the guy insecure, like talking with exes after break up, posting revealing selfies on social media where little to no skin is covered, keeping old memories of exes like photos, hiding small to big things, lying about small and big things. Isn't it enough to make a guy insecure, now who's fault is that? Guys cause he is being insecure or girls who is doing certain actions that are not suitable being in relationships and directly or indirectly making him feel insecure. If I plan to share my future with someone I need to know everything about her. Lies creates doubts that's how insecurities arises.
wait wait wait ....
mujhe aisa lagta hai ki mere papa mujhe esa smjha rhe h ...
words pe mt jao ..
but if you are someone jisko smjhane wala koi nahi hai ...
is channel ko kabhi mat chorna ..
chetan sir ..we all know why you are here .
just to make someones life better and we know you will always help us ..
thank you dear chetan sir.
Same thing happened with me .. He became too possessive which i used to hate about him and he stopped focussing on his career and used to abuse me or throw his anger on me anytime which ultimately led me to be in stress for a long time and i am still recovering.. I have taken an oath not to come into any relationship anymore cause it's taking my peace away
Right ✅sis...my friend too very possessive ...now quarreling daily
Maybe you had done something that got stucked in his head
@@Sachin_kumar709 when he gets angry he abuses
@@tanujadon fine
@@Sachin_kumar709 nowhere
A girl of good value system/noble character clearly knows her respectful boundary b/w her partner & other male friends
Same thing is applicable to men as well
Exactly and same applies to boys as well
@@ketkipatil8309 thank you for supporting n appreciating 😇
@@ketkipatil8309 Absolutely Right
Many girls and much of boys want to control.
👌👌you are right sir
👌👌Career is very important , lazy log kabhi bhi kishi ko pasand nhi aa sakte...........
Unki soch big ho , hamesa apne aapko growth ki taraf le jaye.....
Deeply soch rkhe .....
Netrual hokar kishi bhi cheez ko dekhe..... 👌👌
How focussed are you about your career?
@@riteeksinghania9185 mujhe uska bhaw nhi chahiye bhai. Mujhe pta hai wo kitna focused hai 😄
Mam Safalta ka percentage Kitna h ?
India is a poor country 😢. Unemployment is reality. 200 seat k liye 5 lac farm Daale jate h.
That is not love . If one loves someone then loves their unemployment, love family problems, love their personal problems etc. Then boys has only one solution. Get govt job then marry with girl whose father gives him hefty dowry. That is the slap on the girl who is pretend to b in love but in disguise c love his money, carrier, social status etc.
@@vinayaka004 0 bro 🤣🤣🤣 shes dead
Tip
Looks matter most then
Personality is bonus and if you have
Money too you can get anyone you want
Before some years ago, I used to watch such type of videos . Now there is no need.
Iam very Happy
No breakups
No pain.
Iam 38 yrs old, married and settled.
I agree! And mostly guys equate career with money which isnt always the case. Many a times, girls look for boys who are already into a good career or at least have an aspiration of one because such men/ boys generally (of course not always) tend to be practical in life and value certain morals like time management/ importance of time, being able to comprehend the gravity of the situations, living in real time and not in some lala land always, being able to shoulder the responsibilities, being secure, etc. Also most of the times, it is such self made men who are able to appreciate their partners profession or job which any ambitious/working girl would want.
well said...
@SOMA: Flowing With Life then leave that girl... and put ur brain in finding a girl ... who likes for who your.....
update ur choices and see what u want in a girl and get here. if you still fail.... blame ur self for not finding such a girl... after knowing what you want.
Really thank u for such deep insight
Don't make urself fit for crap. Someone who offers her by seeing money is a crap of course
Just the perfect answer!
Truth into 100 .
Bro , heart se zindagi nhi chalti .
Its important but , girls look for security .
And either way if you have a secure future and life , isn't it good for your own too .
Plus you should also know your worth , don't sell yourself to anyone , just because you want closure , know what you want !
Girl who is there with her boy during his struggle period and support him instead of going with the career one's can change his life as well as hers.
I wish exactly the same from boys ,are there boys who don't have problem with girlfriends or wives being workaholic and gets little to no time for husband during her struggle period?
If yes then that's wonderful
@@physicsislove6100 agreed!!!!
Bhai milti kaha hai aisi ladki ?
It's the true conversation starter lol
@@physicsislove6100 you said it as a reaction to his comment. Because you think he made a patriarchal statement. 😅😅 Grow up man.😅 Till the time you are reacting to someone you have no real existence. Speak something which you feel strongly about, not something because you want to counter somebody. Because that is always superficial.
I want to add 2 more reasons why girls leave guys
3. Having sexual desire or forcing girl without girl's concern
4. Maximum boys thinks ghar ka kam ladkiyon ka hota hai it became very hard when girl is working
One Extra reason.: Not respecting girl's value . Well it applies for both boys and girls.
These are good qualities, even I want the girl who have these qualities or we can reason, merko chahiye hi nahi koi chapri ladki.
And sex to bilkul hi avoid karna chahiye shaadi se pehle no matter ladke ho ya ladki itne hawsi mat bano yarr.
Yes ofcourse, YOU are RIGHT Chetan, GREAT SUCCESS you have greater the chances that all people (both boys and girls) come running behind you !!! They feel that you are successful so you will be able to do something !!.. Now, WHEN the same person has no more money or his CAREER falls inbetween or goes down for sometime - you immediately come to know WHO your REAL FRIENDS are and who your REAL GIRL IS !! .. including your wife at times depending on the QUALITY of the girl.. 😳 ISNT IT ?
You are exactly right sir, things change for boys as soon as the campus interviews in colleges are over And girls now know which boy has better career option and earnings.
Sir, if we have a good career and money then why only one girl, we should have so many girls.
😀
you have said god's honest truth sir!!!.....really appreciative :)
❤️
And you dont even have guts to make boyfriend
Entirely agree sir !!
Most relevant point is where no one should control other's life.
If she is yours and you really deserve her, she would come to/stay with you !
He is one of the most intelligent guy I have seen, his theories are amazing !
Don't fall in love until you complete your education love doesn't feed you money does 😂😂
Ok
Sir I agree with your points , and second point is the strongest reason for a break-up.... Possessiveness is there in a relationship but within a limit only and if it exceeds far it will turn into ownership ......
Thanks sir for your thoughts and guiding us ❤️🙏
@Anshita Jharia, hasi aa rhi thi na video dekhte dekhte 😂😂?
As sir said, possessiveness comes from insecurity, in many cases girl's are also possesive, the only thing which help to change the possessive behaviour of your partner is trust😊 that's what I think
More often girl friend zone guy. That is why the guy developed insecurity and they are always in a dilemma whether the girl cheating on them
Possiveness comes from the fear of losing ur dear one
Possessiveness girl or boy both ko Aati he Gara larke Se jiyda Larki Sundar ho to larke ko Dr hota he ki ya Kisi or ke sath to Nahi he , ya fir boy smart hota he girl ko dar Lagta he ki sayd ya.to Kisi Larki ke sath Nahi he , logic Yaha pe ya he sir ya to hota he dono gendar me lekin girl Karti he possessiveness to larka ladta he lekin Uske hi sath rahta he lekin Agar larka possessiveness ho jae to Galat he 😑 wahh re duniya ,
Agree to the Moooon!!! You are the super father of Indian youth. Pin point. Now, I am scared to share it with a friend who is having all the girlfriend repellent qualities you just discussed! 😂 He will jump to 🔥 probably.
Share the video if you really care.
I was Broken for a year I used to cry at night ! !
My whole family suffered because of My depression. The girl who Betrayed me was the one who proposed me but when I started loving her she left without any reason!!!
Anyways the experience made me strong Now I am only focusing on My carrier and Don't wanna get into any relationship Just want to make my parents proud that's it!! 😊
Thats fucking rude man..
Why she left you..?
Why she left 🤔🤔reason bhai
@@amansharma3249 don't know bro!! Still a mystery I don't think I have done anything wrong!!
Maybe you lost the track on you career. It's never old to learn mistake
@@pritam5278 it means u gave her too much time. spent too much time with her. women love men like kabir singh. not nice good men. women hate good guys.
I can share from experience that guys should focus on their career first, your health and building a strong character. You will be more likely to get a better girl at 25 if you have a good career than what you will get whekn you are 19 when you haven't seen much of the world. If you are physically fit and making good money, girls will come to you.
Sometimes even if you earn more money,girls will not come after you.Sometimes it depends on luck also.
Indeed!
Try to find someone who is happy with the way you are. Someone who does not want to change you or expect you to be someone else. Don't fall for someone who thinks you are a project to be delivered. Finally, don't just go by looks (what Mr. Bhagat said out of your league and some other crap), try to see the person within.
Focusing on study and career goals only...My mom will bring the sweetest girl for me❤️😊
Ohhh great😍😍😇😇😍😍
You are going to have a brightest future....
Why not love marriage bro 👀
@@farheeennnnn3 apni pasand se insan khush rehta aur us insan ko ache se janta h arranged me compromise feel hota h baki sabki apni preference
This is the main reason why my breakup happened , I am a career oriented guy , but because of my over possessiveness the girl went , and one more point I want to add , some people are lonely they just want to come in relationship to fill that gap , and once its over they will go . So be very sure before choosing some one .
@@omjoshi8319 you okay now g? you wanna talk about it?
Sir, I totally agree with your words ..U are straightforward, no drama , nothing .. 👏🏻👏🏻
Finally after watching this video today's starting for cgl preparation with high dedication and hardworking 👍🥰
same
Same
Same
As a 25 yrs old...been in good amount of relationships...I can say each n every bit is so fucking true❤️
Bt definately all girls should make themselves worthy😊
@Garima Khuteil i can give lectures like chetan all day.
I feel sad for people like you who fall prey to people like chetan and get their brainwashed.
Chetan is always against dating, enjoyment..all he talks is career , health and money.
Tell me one thing, why only those people talk of career who are themseleves a failure and making it by giving lectures to others.
Why only those people talk of health who never read any book on medical science and have no knowledge of surgery, medicine, disease and body parts.
Lastly, even young healthy people have died from covid at age of 25 , but people like you would never understand how short is life so that so that you can follow stupid chetan and take life for granted.
@@shivammahajan9051 girl u see all his video...he say keep career fist priority and have relationship later...
He is not saying that do not enjoy ur life...
U should see his videos....
I hope u r ok becoz ur comment says that u r going through a difficult time...
I hope all will be good 😊
@@shivammahajan9051 make your career and then do ask for dowry or date a similar successful career oriented girl (financial standard) it's nothing wrong to ask since girls ( mostly) do date men who have stability or money in life so it's nothing wrong for you to ask it back good options should be their in your list. ( money and other factors from girls).
Do go just for beauty ....
@@shivammahajan9051 bruh Ur the only one who said the truth!!!! I was looking for this answer...chethan bhagath doesn't know a dam thing... although I agree with some point...most of the things that he says is bs....
@@shivammahajan9051 seems like u hate him . did he lend money from yu ? lol
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I started typing 'possesiveness' just as u asked girls to comment our views...n u mentioned it too in the 2nd point. 😂💚..
Chetan bhagat sir hai wo 😁sab jante hai...
@@prasenjeetkhadse couldn't agree more 😅
😂😂😂😳
Chetan Bhagat told "Possessiveness insecurities se aati hai", I totally agree. But what if the girls actions makes the guy insecure, like talking with exes after break up, posting revealing selfies on social media where little to no skin is covered, keeping old memories of exes like photos, hiding small to big things, lying about small and big things. Isn't it enough to make a guy insecure, now who's fault is that? Guys cause he is being insecure or girls who is doing certain actions that are not suitable being in relationships and directly or indirectly making him feel insecure. If I plan to share my future with someone I need to know everything about her. Lies creates doubts that's how insecurities arises.
I am a girl and I completely agree with your points. I am myself a CA student and ambitious, so the very first thing I would look in a guy is the same ambition and career focus
Agar saare ladke aise hi sochne lge to atleast 25% ladkiyan unmarried/single rhengi puri life
@@vinayaka004 toh socho naa, no one stopped you. Guys prioritize looks and beauty over career and ambition.
It's truth. I would love if guys start thinking like that
Mr Indian girl I don't wanna marry an indian girl 😉😂
I am in class 11th when she breakup with me , and she tell agar tumhe mere sath rehna hai too tumhe friend ban kr rehena padega . I agree with her decision then next day she'll call me and said kal se hum baat Krna band kr denge jab tumhe mere yaad aaye tab call kr liya Krna , too maine thik hai bola , Lekin uss din puri raat mai soya nhi , 2 months hamare bich batten hue ki kyu tumhe friends ban kr rehena hai kyu tum mujh se baat nhi Krna chahati but har baar usne alag alag reasons batayen or baat Krna band kr diya bcoz of this I am in depression for 6 month and today I am a b-tech student but still mai yeh he sochta hu kyu usne mujh se baat Krna band kr diya , vo mujhe uski family se bhi jyada pyar krti thi.... Please reply me ?
That's completely fine. You don't need to give explanations. I am an ambitious guy and I love feminine and beautiful(mostly interior)women and some girls ask me why. I am tired of giving them explanations.
boys after watching this be like : *Nothing can stop me, I'm all the way up*
Xd go to hell 😀😂😀
@@CrazyBoy-ns3wi 🤣😂🤣
there are thousand languages in the world and man decided to speak "FACTS"!!!
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yes, I agree with you sir over possesiveness kills the relationships. Because, it creates trust issues and being insecured and jealous won't lead to a healthy relationship. Because trust is the key for any relationship or friendship.
Relationships are too complicated. It would be better to focus on your career first. Relationships Don't go anywhere which we need to deal with them our entire life afterwards.
Completely agree, my bf had career focus, that's why I never thought of leaving him. On the other hand, I rejected many majnu guys coz they did not have career focus nor career. For possessiveness I will say, those who wanna live with you, will choose to live anyhow. Those who do not want, will make a small excuse and go.
Completely agree, thankyou
Exactly I too feel so,so I don't bother about if someone would leave me,but in initial phase of love blind trust on someone gives too much pain if she/he leaves u so take it easy,not like majnu who gets into depression after breakup.
In one word I mean to say excess trust is destructive
I Request you Plz Don't give His tention and Then distroy his time , Give His Motivation , don't leave his
What about your career? Or you are just dependent on your bf money?
@@abhinavverma740 Ek to population itna he Bhai Bharat me ki rojgar Ka kami ho Raha he 😂or tum Sabko add Kar.raha he Sab job hi karega to duniya Ka. Kya Hoga 😂 wahh re duniya
Sir your advice are very practical👌
How is life unfair for you
I cheated my bf at my teenager age and I am realized from how much pain he suffered. I arranged his number and said sorry to him but sorry doesn't makes any change and every day I am feeling very guilty for him but now he is with another girl into a relationship.
Atleast u called and said it appreciated
Well you realised
U r doing something really great for the youth , sir. I have read your book, making india awesome. It's really inspiring, sir. We indians are proud to have u
Sir I totally agree with you but I want to add a point..... Sometimes we feel that we love someone bt actually we don't. We don't understand the difference between love and ephemeral emotion. Later when we understand so....We wish to move on in search of a true love, causing a heart break.
You are a deep thinker and you can observe and remember your experiences
And these stories are all coming from your memory lane
I like people who introspect and think
That is not love . If one loves someone then loves their unemployment, love family problems, love their personal problems etc. If anyone in love can't give moral support in struggle can't b lover. Then boys has only one solution. Get govt job then marry with girl whose father gives him hefty dowry. That is the slap on the girl who is pretend to b in love but in disguise c love his money, carrier, social status etc.
Tujhe ghaas nhi daalte ladke
Boys should choose a girl who has a great career 💯🔥
Y should girls have all the fun ? It they can choose the best guy we have the rights to choose a best gal. Women should not be burden for a man's expenditure. Instead they should be beneficial financially.
Exactly
I also think same.
@@monalishabal4910 so proud to hear that!!
@@ketkipatil8309 yep ❤️
But sadly this thinking changes after marriage as boy and family expect too much from girl how she will sustain great career..at that boy also make helpless face yar mami papa he karna pdta he..so think twice before choosing ambitious partner😭
If you don't focus on girls then you will see your life is very beautiful 😊.
Agree. Career matters.
Saari tension ladko ki hi hai...Gf v chahiye career v banana....😐😐😐 Nhi to gf chor degi...
Aur ladkio ko..Bf chahiye well settled ho.. Bss..Simple..
By the way I agree with ur words..Sir...😊😊
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The thing the guy needs to prioritize himself and prioritize his family that is his parents....you have to live your life ...there is a huge trust factor and if you do not have trust on them, you have to get rid of the elements which is harming you..career is important and you need to sacrifice everything to achieve your goals...my take is very clear reject everything other than your parents who are your best well wishers and live your life
This is absolutely trueee... It's not like that the girl who wants will stay no matter what. Guys genuine actions awake feelings within girls. You should keep your career and family as your priority. Otherwise it's not gonna work the way you want it. If independence matters to you it matters for us too maybe more than you guys.
That is not love . If one loves someone then loves their unemployment, love family problems, love their personal problems etc. Then boys has only one solution. Get govt job then marry with girl whose father gives him hefty dowry. That is the slap on the girl who is pretend to b in love but in disguise c love his money, carrier, social status etc.
@@kpchandan25 This is not what I said. You got me wrong bro. I just said instead of chasing girls n stuff chase your dreams. The goal should be to grow with the partner. Even if that person doens't help you to that he/she might not be good for the specific person. That's it...!!
As a girl I agree with you sir. Each n every word is right!
All the best boys 😉❤
All the best for what?
@@ritankarsarkar9394 for the career I guess 😅
Like its exam😂😂
@@ritankarsarkar9394 all the best for this field😂 I mean ap smart ho skte ho pr bht ldko ko aj pta chla hoga ki ldkia kyu chor deti h ab pta chl hi gya h to aage k lye all the best 😂😂
@@marketaspirant9790 exactly😄
Treat a date like a date, a girlfriend like a girlfriend not like Your life.
Lesson of the story::
She will choose a guy according to her preference and her preference will change time to time and everytime she will put blame on you for being not according to her.
Live your life and stop listening and caring about these bullshit.
Kya baat hai
Dil ki baat bol di🥀
Yahi comment dhund rha tha bhai 🔥
That's not the lesson of the story lol
You just portrayed it like only girl's are at fault
@@godslonelyman3878 Tu burnol laga.Lol
@@godslonelyman3878 Yeah, men are at fault for accepting wrong every time even when they are not and believing whatever shit a girl/woman lies to him.
You were soooo true Sir......I can't express a lot on social media but the 2 points are really true........the main reason I have seen for the breakup are these two only.....
3:42 first reason - guy doesn't have a great career or not focussed on getting it
6:50 second reason - they find them too possessive
I like your straight forward approach and thought ,this is only never die attitude in the face of death 💞🇮🇳 Jai hind 🇮🇳
I really agree with what you said sir... being possessive eventually make you alone.
Soo True, it's just a waste of your energy to worry that someone might betray you...the only thing you should be focusing on is yourself.. !!
💯 agreed sir ...👍 Career is very important ...mostly unsettled guys try to dominate girls to cover their rough edges...
Good point
But what do you do ? Career?
@@vinayaka004 Done M.A in maths , preparing for banking sector... Got selected in prelims preparing for mains .... 👍
@@daisyrafiq3242 kaun sa prelims?
@@daisyrafiq3242 bataya nhi kaun sa prelims clear hua hai
That is not love . If one loves someone then loves their unemployment, love family problems, love their personal problems etc. Then boys has only one solution. Get govt job then marry with girl whose father gives him hefty dowry. That is the slap on the girl who is pretend to b in love but in disguise c love his money, carrier, social status etc.
"Girlfriend he yaar, gaay nahi leni"- Oh god!😂😂 You have my heart, sir. Just love your sessions.❤❤
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pls translate to English
It's your girlfriend , not a cow... @sonamdeshpande
"boyfriend/husband hai yaar, credit card nhi"
@@utkarshyadav1811 not every girl enter into a relationship just for money..
I agree with your points. Everything boils down to what kind of life she believes you both will live.. If she is confident that someone else will provide a better life, be it more happiness and freedom, or more money, or just a life where you are a strong pillar and she doesn't have to worry about you, a girl has a high chance of leaving..
And this is why guys leave girls. All u guys care bout is urself. Selfish af
Selfish
I hate my sister she did same left the guy who wasn't earning that much and now she is with someone who is good provider.i hate it my blood boils whenever i think about that.
@@pranavgohel6710 What goes around comes around. Eventually this new guy would prolly leave her.
@@pranavgohel6710 Bro but I think it's ur own sister, I thought u would support it. But honestly anyone who leaves someone for shallow reasons like that, doesn't deserve love.
Mindset pe bhi depend hai bcoz boys are there like they care too much in starting and then they take their girl on granted .. In that phase even if girl dont want to leave them but their behaviour force their mentality to leave boys
Chetan sir, your presence on the screen is beautiful and the way of explaining feels like some close family member is explaining. Thank you.
So nice of you. Thank you!
Nothing is more beautifully then true friendship in a relationship... so one should respect the bond of friendship and after this that relationship will be positive for both and you both can be better version of yourself...
IF THE LOVE IS TRUE THEN IT WILL DEFINITELY BE GOING TO CHERISH AND EVEN IF THE LOVE IS NOT TRUE THEN YOU WILL REALISE AND LEARN TO CHERISH TRUE LOVE FOR YOUR FUTURE MATE...
#Be the best you..
SO YOU GET THE BEST FOR YOU 😃
right
come out of this illusion.... this is what the video is all about
@@BasavarajJambagi i dont know whats ur experience but in my opinion every relationship starts with friendship nd even if you relationship dont work out then one should at least respect the friend....
@@ayushsaini1074 still u need to go through many more real experiences... good luck
@@BasavarajJambagi 😅🤣
Totally agree with you because yes achi ladkiyan end me chomu hi le jaata h😂👍 Bitter truth though🤷
I think parental pressure also applies in Indian settings. Only girls financially independent can dodge them.
You raised a great point! We all need to understand this.
Girls are not concerned about career of boys. She will never ask boys to study or let them study. Even if she asks it will be just superficial. She will enjoy till the time she is with you... Bus aapna dekho yaar what remains with you forever is your career..... It is my perspective may be few of you won't agree with me.
2 reason applicable to me 👍 perfect ......ohh ohh wait wait ...Again insecurities point ..galti se pat gayi...Very very perfect 🙌🙌
Sir, it would be great if you discuss the other side of the scenario, why do guys leave girls?
Ek baar mil jaye bus fir dusri
@@chiragnarwal8428 Please don’t conclude something if you don’t know about everyone’s story.
ladke ko bhaav do to uska interest kam ho jaata h usi ladki me jiske liye vo paagal tha.
most boys leave because of beauty and bold pe...and 80% ke wajah se 20% old school lover are treated the same
Butterfly
He’s spoken the truth, at the end of the day having a serious career shows that the guy is responsible and able to financially support his family. Just like Chetan bhai says at 4:55 , the nerd or studious guy ultimately wins.
career and money Wala point is so appropriate . Both the reasons are 1000% true. The truest video i have ever watched on the internet.
True, i want patner not an controller and yeah I like a person who is focus and serious about his future plans that's how we can see the future with them.
That is not love . If one loves someone then loves their unemployment, love family problems, love their personal problems etc. Then boys has only one solution. Get govt job then marry with girl whose father gives him hefty dowry. That is the slap on the girl who is pretend to b in love but in disguise c love his money, carrier, social status etc.
@@kpchandan25 I didn't talk abt money at all. Future plans means that person should clear about his future plans wheather he wants to be housemaker or earner of family and then what next. I tried to be gender neutral and you sound like typical indian. And there's no way a women should get marry in toxic household has to love abusive behaviour, a big NO. Love doesn't means looks, it everything. Check your defination of love.❤️
@@Ash-qm2xl who don't make plan? Everyone has plan n dream but reality is India is a poor country unemployment is reality. Even PHD Peoples fill d for for chaprasis just for 200 seats 50 lak form .If Person in love can't give morale support n have patience in their struggles can't b lover they r gold digger just like u..u can't b lover....never
@@Ash-qm2xl it is all about money