She Sent People To Spy On Me (ENG SUB)【她派人来监视我】Ft. JayleneHong｜ R U OKAY 【你OK吗?】
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ก.ย. 2024
- In this episode of R U Okay, Jaylene joins us as she shares her woes and joy of being a being a single mom and thereafter, finding her second husband and merging their families.
Hosts:
John Chua ( / johnathanchua )
Ryan Tan ( / ryanxgo )
Kelvin Tan ( / mayiduosg )
Charlene Huang ( / aizaiaisteady )
Guest:
Jaylene Hong ( / jaylenebaobao )
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Johnathan and Kelvin shared about them being more patient towards outsiders vs. their own spouses is real - the closer the person is to us, be it spouses, parents, siblings or children, the more we take them for granted. But when the other party feedback on their feelings, we need to take a step back, reflect, acknowledge, apologize and try to improve to make the relationship more loving.
Not just family members or spouses, sometimes friends too 😶
Jaylene really went through a lot. Just wanna say jiayou and you are already putting in alot of effort for the family. I’m sure the kids will be able to tell who is genuinely concern for them.
Hi marcus thank u for your constant kind words. Deeply appreciate it :)
I come from a broken family and have a stepmother, she always treat me better than her own kids (my sisters) which at some point I will feel different, and I don’t really like it. Sometimes I wish that she can treat me more equal and so my sisters would not feel there’s a boundary between us though, I even wish that she could ask me to help her do housework than asking my sisters, not just fully treating me like a princess. I agree with Jaylene because my mum is really like you 😅, she never talk bad about my own biological mother but my biological mom will always talk shit about her to my dad… I’m glad that I’m mature enough to think what is wrong and what is right cuz I’ve been living with my stepmom for almost half of my life, even more than my own biological mom
Jaylene, only you know how much you went through and sacrificed for your kid and stepchildren. It’s amazing how you manage to balance your career, your children as well as your own life. You really are a Wonder Woman.
Wishing you a happy Mother’s Day!! ❤️
Thank you!!! Happy Mothers day in advance to all good mothers!
I love that she kept it real that coparenting has its struggles and talked about it. Great episode!
Thank u! I tried my best to share more insights whilst not hurting any party. Glad it done right! 🙏🏼
It's natural/common to treat outsiders better than our closed ones...
I agree that cos we somehow have higher expectations of closed ones than outsiders...
So true and i am constantly learning to balance both sides! Not easy for anyone
I have great respect to stepdad and stepmum! Is not easy to accept another person who divorced and have kids.
Every dutiful parent deserves respect!!! 🎉
这一集让人对人际关系（家庭，朋友，同事）有许多的思考。
这一集很棒！
Jiayou Jaylene, proud of you for being so selfless and strong. Your kids are lucky to have you 😊
😭 thank u!!
😮😢😅😊😮😮😮😅😅😊 😢😊
yeahhhh i think as we all come to realise that even in our 20s or even 30s we still barely have things figured out and learn things about life and ourselves everyday. we need to be abit more understanding so that everyone can deal with their own struggles
An extraordinary video. See Ryan so engrossed throughout the session. My take is that divorce is not a taboo but it should not be encouraged either. Both husband and wife have to do their part by their marriage (easier said than done). If really no choice, they have to do what is best for the children (even harder done than said).
THAT actually happened to me. I also grew up in a broken family but it's not because my parents divorced but because my dad passed away just before I was born to an accident. So years later, my mum remarried and it was a mess and a half.
So my stepdad and my mum met when I was 1 and they dated for 8 years before they got married but that wasn't the issue. The issue already stemmed way before they got married. When I was about 3-8, my aunties would always “洗脑” me by saying all kinds of crap like "AIYA 那个 uncle 不是你真正的爸爸, 他不会对你好过我们对你的好!" and then keep shoving my dead dad's pictures in my face saying "你要记住这才是你爸爸啊! 你爸爸只有一个!" etc etc, every time I'm at my grandma's place, they'll psycho and talk shit about my stepdad.
Now I'm not saying that my stepdad is a good person because in retrospect, he's quite a scummy person who has no ideals on his own and easily manipulated but STILL, imagine telling a kid all that crap.
However, heng la.. I not easily psychoed cuz come on la... I never even seen my father once in my life but I seen this "怪叔叔“ for almost 9 years of my life before my mum and him got married so of course what you said against what I know is vastly different la but when I was still a kid, I sibeh pekchek one leh cuz they niam niam niam like broken recorder and you will be damn confused on what they're saying.
The point in their view is that they felt that my mum had "abandoned" their family way too quickly to have found another man to be with when my dad had just passed away for one year or less but they forgot to recognize that my mum was a single mother who also needed someone to support her and me despite making bank at that time herself. So in their eyes, my stepdad was an "evil person" and what better way to flip the script was to force their nephew to "disown" and discredit the "new boyfriend" but their plan of course pecah lobang la cuz this si ginnah (Me) kaypo, geykiang, confused go tell the mother everything then they all semua kena left, right, center. HAVEN'T END HOR!!!
My stepdad is a very respectful man despite being abit dense at times but when he visits my grandparents with my mum and I, he showed them the upmost respect and my grandparents also seemingly accepted him as, well, they already lost a son so why not have another godson? It's a win-win deal in the end but my aunties, those “三姑六婆” keep giving him sideeyes and shit that made him feel very unwelcoming there that he straight up chose not to go after like I was 6.
Not only that, the "Operation 洗脑“ NEVER stopped ok?! It was only until I was like 8yo that they kept up the antics and I jitao dulan shouted at 2 of them: "你们OK吗?! 你们一直拿同样的东西讲讲讲个不停!!! 我懂他是我爸爸, SO WHAT?! 人死可以复活吗？死了就死了咯！一直拿来讲做莫?! 你 buey sian I also hear until sian ah!!! Can stop ma?! xxx (my step dad's name) is taking care of me and mommy for so long liao then I don't call him daddy then what?! I don't care what you all say, he is my daddy and that's it.".
From that point on, they kept their mouths shut after my mum told my grandma who was asking "why xxx never come visit us liao woh?" and she literally ripped her 2 daughters both a pair of new ears. Once my mother married my stepdad, they also kept quiet as they can't do anything at that point on as if their own parents took my stepdad in, what fuck can they say? Scold their parents as 老糊涂 meh?!
Seriously, being a kid of a single parent that adds on the difficulty of having step parents are not easy, much worse when you got the extreme settings of "chochok relatives"
Wow sorry u had to go through that. Wishing u all the best
Very sorry for having to go thru all that. I hope you find closure for it now that you have grown up! 🫶🏻
@@jaylenehong Eh iz ok man... My ordeals over liao. Yours still got a long ways to go with your stepchildren having a "chochok relative" still talk 3 talk 4 behind your back.
Just relax, keep doing what you're doing, stand firm in your beliefs and it'll be over and probably for the better.
Remember... You're with your children and your husband's children day in, day out, she isn't. Whatever you say holds more power than what that 八婆 says.
KEEP GOING SIS!
Hope you’ve become a better you through your adversities!! 💪🏼
@@MrLolx2u im used to it somehow and my children all learnt to be stronger thru this process!
John's stunned face at Charlene's reply 😂😂😂😂😂
We all were stunned 😂😂
The bio mom is a new level of crasy..
Not easy for the kids growing up in such a situation, I wish them well and all the best!
Doing my best. Reflecting on my doings every now and then to ensure we are giving them a happy healthy balanced family
A very fruitful episode. Hope everyone keeps an open mind and do what's best. Its not easy managing two sides.
Agree! Everyone has their difficulty. Just gotta ensure adults dont involve children in the problems
重组家庭真的不简单，加油❤❤❤❤
Jaylene JY!! Great mom and wife!!
very very cool content. these family-related topics need to be talked more about. jaylene rocks
Jiayou jaylene. I hav a daughter and I reflected upon being a husband aft hearing Yr story. Thank u for sharing. Hope all well for u
I’m happy to help in anyway!
Really good topic to educate people or even just raise awareness! 👏 ❤
Do you guys charge Jaylene for the therapy session? finally able to vent after so long! XD strengthen the kids is the best strategy, hopefully the parents are strengthen as well instead of broken down. kudos. from the looks of it, things will only get easier from now
HAHAHHA on the contrary, it is because i vent too much on my social media thats why they invited me 🤪 on a serious note, i am glad i can share the insights and my views on how every coparent can do better. (Myself included) ❤
No doubt Jaylene is an extremely patient and good parent. But as a person from a broken family, I'd just like to call out that part at 21:26 where she explained to her children that the other step children already very "ke lian" already and she doesn't want them to feel more "imbalanced" when her own children is in the exact same situation.
I think you are confused… My child is not in the same situation. As i’ve explained, she is fortunate to have bioparents who are divorced but don’t involve her in adult matters.
Also.. i’m not patient at all hahahahaha
This is the best episode!! 👍👍👍👍
I wish you all the best in your marriage and family life. There will be a lot of challenges ahead, but I believe things will be better with time. Just be patient and love all the children as best as you can. Being in a patchwork family is a lesson and challenge for both adults and children. Just move ahead and let go of whatever that has already happened in the past. Make the best of today and look forward always. God bless you and all at home.
Can you all invite Uncle Raymond? Just curious what he has to offer
Ryan jiayou, saw you tear-ing up a bit
What I’ve learnt is there are always 2 sides to every story. I’m sure if u ask the bio mum it’s another perspective on things. Let’s not be so critical on everyone. As these situation/circumstances are not easy to navigate to begin with and everyone is still learning as they go
I agree! Most of the time there are 2 sides, different perspectives, etc. thus i’m sharing what i’ve faced in the past 6 yrs and how i navigate around the problems!
I have to emphasize one thing: Everyone can have their difficulties - just don’t make it children’s problem.
18:27 i think this is a legit honest view because it’s what guys who’ve touched on this topic have said as well. I personally dgaf (and am not a guy), but it could be that there’s some ego factors to be taken into account that are more prevalent amongst guys? Nothing wrong w it btw but i am more inclined to believe john haha.
Tough & complicated with children
Jaylene look like a younger version of Fann Wong
Because of my high cheek bones 😁 i wish i have her complexion!!
“I want my ex wife to be happy” - meanwhile makes 100+ false police reports against her. Make it make sense
there is never an equality in reality...
Of course it is impossible.. even with my own biological daughters. And there is nothing wrong! We just try our very best to be fair to them on day to day basis
What happened to Ryan's hand? Is he ok? Haha see him playing with the bandage
Maybe can interview Bonita from Basic Model.
Ryan tends to relate to himself but the focus this show is on Jaylene.
got spy here?
I wondered if the ex-wife will come here and comment. Ehhh don't lah. Spy her until here meh. Siao zabor. Get a life please. People help you take care of your children but you at there use mouth talk this talk that. I'm also single mother. I know the difficulties faced to have stepchildren and manage own child. But we're way more stronger since we actually truly accepted other children as ours.
🥲 i thank u for being a understanding single mother! Ur kids will appreciate it a lot 🫶🏻 jiayou!
Latest update she showed the kids this video and claim i’m lying throughout 😂😂 i think she’s forcing me to show proof and make things worse for her
Ryan if u truely wish Sylvia well then why lodge all those police report then. LOLS
She kept emphasising that she didn't talk shit abt the ex wife but in this podcast she is making the ex wife sound like a mad woman.. some more this podcast so many people subscribe and listen to leh. Like that not call talk shit meh
Thank you for your concern but as the video shown, I have only shared about what my step children told me and i also carefully thought of my words to ensure I dont insult her in anyway. So no i dont think it is talking shit.
This is a very sensitive issue for the kids. Just imagine if their bio mom were to vocalise her thoughts about her share of challenges and how she navigates around that, and having the kids eventually watching both their “mothers” sharing dirty laundry in public about their family matters, how much more pressure and confusion will this add to their mental health? As you already deem that they are in a stressful environment, I thought you should have been more considerate in revealing snippets of the stories. But then again, this is my opinion.
@@charisphil4075 as i have mentioned many times, this is not dirty laundry. Everything ive mentioned are things my stepkids told me themselves. Understand ur view but it doesnt apply in this instance.
She meant she never said shit about the ex wife to her children
@@OMGSweetCakes you caught my point! 🫶🏻
isit me or wat the camera a bit blur
zoom out so blur zoom in okay
Who the ex wife of gary
😂
I don't know why sia. I feel like Jaylene is female version of Mayiduo. Meant as compliment. Both are very smart, sensible and very principled.
Maybe because we speak like ahbeng ahlian sometimes but we are really not…… 😅😅
@@jaylenehong ok la. Uniquely Singaporean flavor mah
“I want my ex wife to be happy” - yet makes 100+ false police reports against us 😂
Jaylene does your kids call your ex husband’s partner “mummy” too?
My ex is unmarried. My daughter is already 11. She can address her dad’s wife as mom if she is comfortable to
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The bio mum has insecurities and probably in a bad mental state. Feel sorry for her too.
I used to think that but i’ve learnt not to jump into my own conclusions.
Sad to say that these “influencer” are making divorce feel as something common… although is really common nowadays… but shouldn’t make it sound totally okay… nevertheless.. jiayou !
Its exactly what we said! It is common but not encouraged. My purpose was to share my story thats all.
不要把普遍当作正常
肯定！
lol “I want my ex wife to be happy” - proceeds to make numerous unsubstantiated police reports against her. What a hypocrite
常见 不等于 正常
hmmm but this whole episode, you are talking bad about your husband's ex wife, and your children may see this.
Yea if the children see this, won’t her efforts till now go to a waste ? Lol
She didn't say anything ultra bad about it...its so mild like diet coke
@@khokl9288she proclaim to say 0 things, u also realised is not totally 0 right.
@@khokl9288all the things ive shared are things my stepkids told me. So don’t worry! I’ve put careful thoughts on things before sharing. 😊
@@wongweihan8639because eventually, she'll have to speak out on a podcast. what's the point of the podcast if she's going to lie about it? a podcast is all about sharing life experiences for viewers to learn, and the stuff she's sharing were all facts or personal experiences that she had gone through with the exwife. not sure if u noticed but it was what the ex-wife had DONE to her(actions), not just jaylene simply badmouthing the ex-wife by saying "oh she's a bad mother!" are you going to say that any feedback on a person's attitude is talking bad about someone? is she simply supposed to sugarcoat her words just bc she's holding the narrative of "someone who doesn't talk shit"? rmb that she said it was for her KIDS, not for you. im sure that as an adult you would see where she's coming from, and if u can't, im not sure what to tell u but good luck in life.
I’m not a hater but hey it’s not right lah. You claim that you don’t speak bad about that woman infront on the kids but throughout this interview, you have been speaking negatively about your husband ex wife. And what does that makes you now?
Hi! I suggest for you to watch the video again - as i have not spoken ill about her, but merely shared what she has said or done. If anyone deduce her characteristics from it, it’s not me nor my intention.
I am answering to the hosts’ questions and simply sharing what I have faced as my 8 years of coparenting and 6 years of step-parenting.
Also, i have carefully thought about what to share and everything i have shared here are things my stepchildren told me. So not to worry if your concern is about the children! 🎉
@@jaylenehong don’t worry I did watch the entire video before I commented. Well, you have just “shared” her negative actions/talks/comments to the world. Your “sharing” will put her in a bad spot based on this interview, and how does that work or improve your entire relationship with your kids and that woman. I don’t understand. Your husband should be the one to try to mediate this issue instead of having you attend this interview.
Trust me, it won’t get any better after this, only worst. I am also a stepfather of 7 years and I know how difficult it is to manage all these relationship. In my opinion, this way may not be the best solution to fix the problem
@@n62goo79i dont think we should be afraid and keep mum about things. My relationship with that woman doesnt matter; and as for my relationship with my stepkids, it wont change as Ive only shared things that they told me themselves.
I get your view but i think you are confused about my situation with yours! 😊
@@n62goo79its her actions that placed her in a “bad spot”, so to say. Me sharing what happened is not the cause of anything negative.
I emphasize it is IMPORTANT to share storied and not keep mum so people know such problem exists and not to make the same mistake.
@@jaylenehong you are so contradicting 😂 you yourself mention in the video that you don’t speak anything bad about her and yet now “sharing” is ok. Ask yourself what is it that you want to prove first? Throwing everything aside, as a viewer, I feel that all comments towards her are quite negative. That’s the reason why I commented. You don’t have to be too defensive, I am just saying what I feel as a viewer
Jaylene last time confirm kana alot of canings in sch, damn Ahlian
I cane the teachers……
@@jaylenehongpunish me too 🤓
The discipline master cane your backside you got cry?
@@digobertosong discipline master was my bestie 😇
I understand the bio mum stand. she just worry that her kids don't remember her as their original mum.
If you look at her stand she might be close minded but i believe every mum love her kids and of cause she don't wan her ex husband to be happy
maybe they end on a bad term if they end on a good term i believe all will wan the best for each other and their kids.
But i like the way you educate your step children, it make me tear when you said you neglected your own daughter because i have this thinking that if i find another partner which is not my child bio dad they wont love them as how their bio dad love the kids.
Which make me scare to make a move on divorce and look for a new partner.
don't worry im not one of her spy hahahhhaa just speaking my pov as i'm also a mum
what really hit me is what you say is true we are creating a fake family when the family is already broken.
As everyone don't really wishes to go through divorce and want to have a complete family so they try hard to keep the family together and they lost themself
I love your energy in self care which i can't do it
Every broken family either its because of the parent can't get along after having kids or the partner cheat there is lots of reason why it turn bad.
But of cause having a clean break without other interfere (3rd party) i think the partner still can get along in the end
like co-parenting so we need to understand everyone difficulty and pov
其实这个节目应该换成英文节目，所有的评语都是英文，表达方式有点奇怪
对不起！哈哈哈。我那天只睡了1个小时。头脑不清醒
他們創建頻道的初衷就是做中文節目 奈何觀眾都是英文圈 哈哈哈哈
但是我覺得很好 學到了很多新詞 🤣
Ironic
this ryan damn fake
U r faker hiding behind the keyboard
keke. keep saying on video that he wishes his ex the best.
but in private? keep talking shit about her.
why so toxic, keep kp your husband's ex?
waiting for the part 2 when you invite the biological mom to share her views and we make judgement ourself.
Just a little unfair I believe mom cares about the children anyhow but one having the chance to share her thoughts and another doesnt.
Not all moms care about their children. Trust me I know.. 😢 for some mothers, even the Counsellor assigned by the Court cannot handle / cannot communicate with her…
@@sgdadboredwa… are u speaking from experience?
Found a new found respect for jaylene this influencer mummy 🥹🥹❤️ jiayous here for you and your family of 6
🥺🥺 thank uuuu!