Overcoming Toxic Shame & Procrastination: A Calming ASMR Guide to Self-Compassion

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  • @ddemaine
    @ddemaine 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    You always make the internet a better place.

  • @ambie9900
    @ambie9900 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    ive suffered from cptsd for the last five years and it can be very isolating. hearing a creator i enjoy speak about it so candidly made me feel a lot less alone, so thank you so much for this. i hope youre doing well!

  • @petercourtien4581
    @petercourtien4581 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    This topic resonates with me, Duck. Negative self talk has been part of my life since childhood. I appreciate your perspective.😊💙

    • @duckasmr
      @duckasmr  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hey Peter, I hope that you are doing well. The inner critic is one of the hardest to best. Sending you best wishes champ!

  • @MashPotatoDoubleDula
    @MashPotatoDoubleDula 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    This duck is very appreciative for this video as toxic shame and disregulation have been significant reasons for why it’s unable to fly. Watching other ducks take off into the skies while it wallows from below has been chipping away at its spirit for decades. Your video has given this duck comfort, and the hope to keep trying. Quack!

    • @duckasmr
      @duckasmr  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Hey Mash, I hope good things come your way. While I don't know your story, I hope you know that you are worth the effort it takes to challenge old thought systems and habits that don't serve you.
      Also fantastic name! 😄

    • @MashPotatoDoubleDula
      @MashPotatoDoubleDula 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@duckasmr thank you for your kind words!! Have a great rest of your week ❤️‍🩹

  • @annalynn870
    @annalynn870 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This is genuinely one of the most comforting, helpful videos I've ever watched, and I've been stuck in this shame-procrastination cycle for years so I have watched SO many self help videos. This is just perfect. The combo of ASMR, insight, and comfort means I actually can rewatch this whenever I need it and know it'll make me feel better. Thank you so much for the effort of researching and making this video. You're a special soul

    • @duckasmr
      @duckasmr  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@annalynn870 Hey! I'm so glad that it hits those points for you! Shame and procrastination can be a vicious combo and I hope that you are able to be kind to yourself, and take the time that you need! 🤍 You are most welcome and thank you 😊🦆

  • @danielhorton9929
    @danielhorton9929 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    You’re heavily underrated. Love your content dude!

    • @duckasmr
      @duckasmr  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thanks champ! Really appreciate the love and bearing witness to a steep learning curve. Have a great week buddy

  • @nisa76
    @nisa76 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    You've no idea how much I needed this right now. ❤

    • @duckasmr
      @duckasmr  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I hope this week has good things in store for you Nisa.

  • @Zero-we2ly
    @Zero-we2ly หลายเดือนก่อน

    Damn I wasn't expecting to cry, you really hit the nail in the head with a lot of stuff. Thank you so much man

  • @1_manproject
    @1_manproject 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You're so well-spoken and knowledgeable!

  • @patrik_wilhelm
    @patrik_wilhelm 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Welcome back, you have been missed❤& great, meaningful video.🙏 Quack, quack!🦆

  • @lorifromtemeculaca426
    @lorifromtemeculaca426 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Listened last night & this morning, thank you duck, for giving us wings! xoxo!

    • @duckasmr
      @duckasmr  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thanks Lori, I hope you are having a great summer so far! Bless

  • @justinnnasmr
    @justinnnasmr 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    A video about procrastination couldn’t have come at a better time for me 😅🫶

  • @vir_rm
    @vir_rm 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great video, Duck. Nice to see you back!

  • @lorifromtemeculaca426
    @lorifromtemeculaca426 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    NOT even 3 minutes in yet... wow duck, thanks!

  • @Eevcee
    @Eevcee 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You don’t know how much I needed this.

  • @ralphyb3313
    @ralphyb3313 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Excellent video as always ❤

    • @duckasmr
      @duckasmr  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hey Ralphy, thanks a bunch champ 😊. Hope you're off to a good start on your week

    • @ralphyb3313
      @ralphyb3313 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @duckasmr thanks hope you doing well ♥️& take care

  • @2wickie686
    @2wickie686 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I needed this one, too. I did something recently to hurt the one person I love the most in my life, and now we're in no contact for some time. I only hurt them because of trauma I have clouding my ability to both trust them and myself, and my struggles with black-and-white thinking. But in all of my fear and fight-or-flight mode, I ended up doing something I regret. Now, I've realized that not only did I betray them, but I also betrayed myself. I betrayed my own values, my own beliefs about healthy behavior, my firm belief in treating everyone I love with unconditional respect, even in the absence of love--or the fear of loving. I'm trying to grow as much and as fast as I can while also staying grounded and not moving through it properly. I'm in a crisis and have been for months, but I'm trying. I'm doing, rather. And I know that this guilt is often turning into shame, which keeps me stuck--it doesn't help me move forward.

    • @duckasmr
      @duckasmr  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hey, that really sucks that happened. There are many layers to what you are going through. I'm glad this video helps you and I hope you find great knowledge on TH-cam put out by people more knowledgeable than myself to help you on your journey! Can't rush the process which is one of the toughest parts. Keep on trying, progress isn't linear especially with a journey of healing

  • @Intimateflow
    @Intimateflow 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Your voice sounds amazingly relaxing, the tone is heavenly ❤❤❤

    • @duckasmr
      @duckasmr  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks Intimate 😊😊😊

  • @bjornjohansen9688
    @bjornjohansen9688 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The beauty of this man. Incredibly attractive. Some guys have all the luck.

  • @philduran3676
    @philduran3676 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Always good to see you my man. Wish you well

    • @duckasmr
      @duckasmr  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You too buddy! Hope you're doing good and enjoying summer

  • @caicaicaity
    @caicaicaity 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks for making this

    • @duckasmr
      @duckasmr  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It may sound anecdotal, but the next best time to start your journey is now. Hope you are doing well Caic

  • @terilayne
    @terilayne 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    So glad you're back!!🎉

    • @duckasmr
      @duckasmr  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Me too😊😊😊😊

  • @elias..1111
    @elias..1111 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    amazing content !! really relaxing asmr :)

  • @Stubbie_Nuggie
    @Stubbie_Nuggie 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You need to make another drone flying video. I saw your last short and fell asleep🙃🦆

    • @duckasmr
      @duckasmr  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Stubbie_Nuggie Hey Stubbie,
      Just wanted to say thank you for being so open and sharing your story with me. That's alot to happen in a short amount of time. And I'm glad a family has found you that loves you and that I hope you can see as part of your support network and love back.
      While obviously past experience affects us, it doesn't define us and we are not in a rigid state of existence or mental state.
      So while I haven't lived your experience; I have my own and know that after facing extended hard times a more conscious and hands on degree of existing is required to change patterns and maintain a positive cycle in life. So while being intentional and present with your life is much more intensive than passively existing, it is every bit worth it.
      I hope you try as many different things as possible, fail fast, as that is the only way to find out what brings you joy and what you want to chase in life.
      Take care and keep on keeping on 👑🦆

  • @ddemaine
    @ddemaine 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks

  • @HufflepuffJedi93
    @HufflepuffJedi93 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sorry about my first comment, was meant for a different video 😅
    Love this video! You have such a great voice 👏🏻

    • @duckasmr
      @duckasmr  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      No need to apologize! You identified something important I can do with future videos. Thank you! Quack🦆

  • @harlan5339
    @harlan5339 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    God bless. Im praying for yall in Jesus name. Forgiveness and compassion is definitely a key.

  • @umbreontamer2123
    @umbreontamer2123 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    can you make a video of you just quacking? it sounds so great 😭

    • @duckasmr
      @duckasmr  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Aha, ok sure! Quack 🦆

  • @catalyst_fs
    @catalyst_fs 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    back in business

  • @beatricejohnson6589
    @beatricejohnson6589 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Man’s really asked chatgpt to write him a script and read from it for a whole video 😂

    • @duckasmr
      @duckasmr  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Hey B,
      I think you may be conflating my use of a teleprompter with laziness.
      I do use a teleprompter on my long form dialogue heavy videos, hense the eye movement. But does that detract from the intended purpose of this video which is to try and help people? As you watched it I assume that was you were seeking, correct me if I'm wrong.
      This script I built out from notes I've made from reading: the body keeps the score by Bessel van der Kolk, Recovery from Complex PTSD, codependency and anxious attachment by Liam Hoffman (both great resources if this video wasn't your cup of tea), my personal reflection on the topics, and several papers and videos specifically on the topic of CPTSD, procrastination, anxiety, and complex shame.
      If you have any tips on how to research, write an engaging, digestable script, and memorize a 45 minute presentation on a complex discussion every week or so and maintain a busy life I would genuinely love to hear them.
      Take care