Hello to the "A Beautiful Mess" audience! I am Tisha. Since Bonnie's effort is to provide a community of selfless love and compassion, I thought it might be beneficial to respond (non-offensively, non-defensively, simply informatively) to some of the comments/questions that have been submitted to her oh-so-cleverly titled "Restoring Order to a Gift Hoarder" TH-cam post. Bonnie once shared this quote with me, which is quite fitting, considering I feel that it exemplifies Bonnie's genuine BEAUTIFUL (non-messy) soul. 💛 “I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” ~Maya Angelo
✨💖✨When two beautiful souls get together magic happens. We got to learn about the wonderful Tisha, the gifting hoarder, and her wonderful generosity. And Bonnie got to make another wonderful video,which will help thousands of people just like me with her generosity. ✨💖✨Thank you Tisha for letting us into a small part of your life, and Thank you Bonnie for posting such inspiration. ✨💖✨
First of all, you're under no obligation to show us vulnerabilities, but in fact your home looks fine. A family lives there, so it's not going to be perfect unless everyone moves out. Secondly, you're still gorgeous even with no makeup or your hair done. Thirdly, you're an amazing, kind, and selfless human being! ❤️ ❤ ❤
What a lot of clothes! She had a cardigan for each day of year. Well done on sorting them out. Thank you for showing your house as you say, nobody is perfect. What a lot of presents. So nice of her to think of other people. (love the dogs)
I am thrilled to meet you as well. I love, love, love that there are people out there like you, willing to share your struggles and how to overcome them! You are truly an inspiration! Love you, Mira!!🥰
I think it's very smart the way that you organized her gifts so that she knows what box has What type of gift So she doesn't have to go out and spend anymore money. And also the fact that she is so willing to donate very beautiful items to help out a charity is absolutely fantastic.
You lose your whole identity when chronic illness takes hold. I feel for Tisha so much. Recognising your intrinsic value without attaching that value to your ability to work, do things you want to for others and to represent yourself the way you want to is HARD. I still haven’t got there but one day i will. Tisha knowing that you see that value in her as a person, so much so that you literally fought your way back into her life, not to mention the time to help her with her home would enrich her soul to no end. ❤
Thank you. This has really been beneficial for both of us to have me come over and help her declutter and get things back in order. I love spending time with her. That is my favorite gift is just being around her and enjoying her presence.😊❤️
@rachaelh9193 🥺 You said it better than I could ever express. Makes me teary eyed. I have times when I feel alone and worthless, and yet don't know how to properly describe those thoughts/feelings. But you just did! It helps knowing that I'm not alone and that others can empathsize. Thank you! Thank you for expressing that, thank you for relating, thank you for taking the time to make the comment. I know I'm not the only one that will benefit by reading your thoughts. I believe you -- you WILL get there! 👍 I truly feel your determination, desire, and sense such a good soul in you. 🤍 Please never forget that even though it might not the same as perhaps you once were, you STILL have extreme VALUE in this world! I hope that you are able to get back to your functional self and able to recognize yourself again SOON! 🌼💛🌼
I grew up in an immaculate house. My mother spend most of her time cleaning and tidying. My sister and I were shamed for normal human messes. It was stifling. I am not impressed by perfect instagram houses. They make me scared and I feel sorry for any kids that live there. Your house looks like my current house, now that I'm an adult with kids of my own. Clean, lived in, cosy, friendly. You do great work helping others. Thankyou.
Thank you! I definitely love the look of an immaculate, pristine home, but I know that it's just unreasonable. I, in fact, would rather let the mess build up a little bit because I like the more extreme transformations.. haha!❤️
She should gift to a needy family for Christmas. It would help get rid of so many and give her joy. After all it is the season. Thank you for helping her.❤
Great idea. I am over there cleaning with her every Monday, so I was over there today and she actually helped me out with a gift for a friend going through a rough time. It was win-win as we are trying to downsize the amount of gifts she has and I didn't have to go out looking for a specific gift for this person because I'm really bad at knowing what kind of gift to get for different occasions, but she had the perfect thing.
Yes! It does bring me much joy -- to give to somebody in need AND to rid of extra stuff we don't need anymore. 😊 The feeling you get when you help somebody else is amazing. We all have different struggles in different times of our lives. So knowing my past, and then to help somebody else going through the same thing, feels like you're giving back good vibes to the world. 💜
Oh, I was thinking the same thing- my house of worship has an elder who has combined unwanted items (in good or new condition) and given them to needy congregants in a way as to be anonymous- the recipients and donors do not know to whom what has been given. This person matches up need pretty well and, instead of yard sales and storing too much, we all have better uncluttered homes, garages and attics. There is no pressure but a great deal of relief in trusting the things to be used by people who need them and use them NOW. -- The suggestion of a needy family getting items curated by an agency accustomed to doing this is also a good one! Bye
As someone who has had mild Long COVID issues for 18 months, I really appreciate your efforts to help your friend who is struggling. Thanks for helping to raise awareness about this debilitating condition. ❤️ So many cardigans you folded!! Nice job.
You are not alone! I used to think I was crazy, but it is real. Sending good vibes your way, hoping you experience at least some relief soon! (I do love my cardigans! 🙂)
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wpeveryone I know that has to also had the vaccines so it’s so hard to know if it’ was just way to much on their bodies to recover from covid and then get their protection 😓😭🙏
I truly understand and appreciate Tisha's thoughtfulness and generosity. When she is more physically able, and/or when her kids are older, might she consider hands-on volunteering with the less fortunate? Not to give them stuff, but to actually improve their circumstances. It might wean her off buying "cute stuff" to gift. My mom and several other female relatives were also very "gifty" people and so was I for a few years - of course not to this extent. I ended up getting rid of a lot of ungifted gifts on Buy Nothing. There are so many other ways to show appreciation to others than gifting mass-produced things that contribute to clutter. Bring on the hate, I can take it.
Yes, I would be quite s(t)uffocated by all those gifts. I either give someone a high-quality gift on special occassions and/or try to gift an experience or activity to do together.
I understand where you're coming from. No hate here. I know Tisha is going to jump on and comment on some of this stuff tonight because who better than Tisha herself to explain why she does what she does.😜
No hate -- I completely appreciate what you are saying! There are many ways to provide love and service to others, as Bonnie is exemplifying right now. But sometimes, a person is not able to do the things he/she would like to do. So they do what they can when they can. 🙂 Because of my ailments, I can't physically offer that appreciation. I also have a family, so I am unable to devote much time to service, either. But, it is very important to me to help others feel loved, noticed, and appreciated for what they do in this world!
@ArtamStudio I just re-read your comment. I have never heard of "Buy Nothing." That is very interesting! I will be doing more research on that program. Thank you for sharing that information with us! 🙂
I got tears in. my eyes when you said about your friend being so sick she just didn't recognize herself. I have had similar feelings not from COVID but burnout and depression. The fatigue and migraines are so debilitating. I have a sister-in-law that stepped in for me like you did for your friend and she was like a lifeboat for a sinking ship. I will never ever be able to express how much she means to me for all she has done but three years later, I feel like I just might live. I still get her to clean for me once a week and that is a lifesaver (yes, I insist on paying her also lol). Cheers for all you do for other people.😍 People like you are priceless.
Thank you for sharing your story. It really seems like an epidemic nowadays to have some kind of chronic depression. I have dealt with it myself and helping other people is how I manage to not get that depressed again. I'm so glad you had your sister-in-law to help you out. I'm thankful to be in a place now that I can help others and hopefully can continue to do that for as long as possible. May you continue to feel on the "up" side of things.🥰🙏
Another amazing video - brought tears to my eyes. Everyone needs a friend like you to just walk and start helping. They closet was an amazing transformation 💙💙💙
Perhaps this video appears to be about decluttering and cleaning, but this video is truly about love. Your love, Tisha's love and the doggys' love. And as a result, lots of cleaning and decluttering happened and lots of effort invested, but hey, now you and Tisha don't need to go to the gym! 🥰
@sazennonumber Thank you! Today has been a bit of a rough day for me. But reading your comment has made my eyes teary and my soul smile. The fact that you would see that perspectie in the video, and then take the time to comment on it has really meant a lot! 🥰 Thank YOU for the good vibes you are putting in the world!
We are all in this together. Our homes are our haven and they are lived in because it's real life. I do one room cleaning now not the whole house and I'm the happiest. Time to do whatever I need to do! Thank you for sharing YOU! 😍👍
@mariwillalwaysgivethanks Thank you for making that comment, for sharing how you've changed your cleaning habits and how it benefits your life for the better. I've slowly realized that myself, too. We all have different personalities, styles, etc. So that doesn't make one way right and another wrong. We need to do what is best for ourselves and not expect to conform to an unattainable standard. I've started to do that myself, now that I'm not able to have my structed cleaning schedule every week. I no longer have the "all or nothing" mentality. I'm realizing that a little here and a little there is a-o-k. It doesn't make me a failure. For you to make that change and recognize that it has helped bring more happiness to your life is inspiring! 😀💛👍
What a blessing for you to help Tisha! Thank you for sharing her story with us. I really feel for her and her family. My husband had Covid pneumonia last September, and just never really recovered. He had extreme exhaustion that was debilitating. He wound up being hospitalized in August, and has been diagnosed with a very rare auto-immune disease. It has turned our lives upside down. Caring for him has been my priority, but the more stressed I've been, the worse the house has gotten. I greatly appreciate you sharing these videos. It's encouraging me to get our home back into order. God bless you, Bonnie!
I appreciate you sharing your story. Yes, covid really disrupted a lot of lives and, for those that it was more like just having a cold, I'm sure it's hard to understand how it has really done some damage to some people. I'm sorry you are dealing with that. I'm glad my videos are helping to motivate you! Take care!🥰🙏
I wasn't expecting you to be perfect Bonnie! You are a human being! We aren't supposed to be perfect. You could use a hug and maybe a little self compassion 🤗❤️
If my house looked half as good as yours, I would be thrilled.Your house looks like a family lives there, and anyone visiting would feel comfortable. That's more important than a spotless home. Thank you for sharing,. And I have watched Mira as well. She has a very good sense of humor and makes no excuses for the state of her house. She just gets down to business with a tenacity I have come to appreciate. She sets a great example. Bonnie, keep up the good work.
I suffered from long COVID for over a year and still am not 💯!I could barely get up and brush my teeth, so my home became a hot mess. I am just starting to reorganize. She is definitely lucky to have a friend like you❤
Thanks for sharing. It definitely affected a lot more people than I think anyone realized. I'm glad that you're at least back to functioning a bit and getting stuff organized again!👏❤️
@butterflybaby429 I found your comment about brushing your teeth to be interesting. I've faithfully always had my 2x year dental check-up and cleaning. By the time I was able to see the dentist again since the pandemic, I had SIX cavities!!! 😬😳😩 (Weird nugget of information about me -- I cannot be in the same room as somebody brushing their teeth. It just grosses me out so much! (Kinda like nails on a chalkboard.). Plus, most toothpaste smells like mint. And I hate the smell of mint. (I know, I'll admit it, I am SO weird! 😂) I hope that you are able to continue working on your home and re-organizing, at your own pace! It is over-whelming. I'm still learnomg that it doesn't have to be done over-night -- it doesn't have to all be done all at oncee. Some days, you can work on a section of a closet. Other days, you can't. And that is okay! On the days you can, just choose a little bit. On the days you can't, don't feel bad! You are doing great! We all have strengths and weaknesses. And just know that you have people that are cheering you on, hoping for your success, even if it doesn't feel like it at times. Good luck! 🙂
@@TRGillett WOW, Thank you, your comment really made me feel better. And coincidentally I just went for my cleaning and the dentist told me that I had so many cavities between my teeth that he wasn’t sure what was going on! I’m telling you, it was the long covid! I’m still dealing with so many symptoms but as you said, I’m just completing things in small portions. Again, thank you, you made my day 🥰
I hope your friend recovers soon. Long covid is exhausting and challenging for those who don't know. Tisha is amazing with a heart of gold. Sometimes we need to allow ourselves down time to rejuvenate. Your home is normal when our lives are busy. If you feel better wearing makeup, wear it, don't apologise for caring. You are an amazing and caring person, who loves cleaning and organising rooms. Love your work and the way you help others respectfully.
It's proven that it's harder to get rid of stuff once you touch it so by someone else holding it up they have a better chance to let it go. I'm so excited to see you work with Mira! I love her videos and watching her videos and am so proud of what she's doing! So glad you'll be helping her! ❤️
Love that! Thank you so much for sharing. It's how I have always dealt with my own Mental Health is by helping others. It's such a blessing to ourselves. Thanks for helping others!
🤍🤍🤍 I can 99.999% guarantee you that your help does not go unappreciated. Sounds like you are another individual with a kind soul to do that so selflessly, and yet end by saying how it blesses you. A true act of charity.
Perfectly okay to do a video which is different from your usual- great to share when folks are willing and have something useful and meaningful to say! We have heard you mention Tisha before and now we sorta got to meet her! I appreciate that and know many are dealing with long Covid and could use support and compassion. This video encourages that and helps those who are so inclined to be more understanding. Wonderful frame-of-mind and thank you... Bye!
Wonderful how you helped your friend❤ My husband was in hospital with covid pneumonia just as pandemic started. It has been long journey of recovery ❤ Life changing! I loved all the puppers in video. God bless for all you do ❤❤
Bless your dear husband! In addition to tisha, I have a brother-in-law whose wife has been dramatically altered because of covid. It's so sad to see. I hope he is doing a lot better!❤️🙏
I have fibromyalgia, and the long covid symptoms are so similar. I definitely understand that debilitating fatigue. Bless her heart!! I like watching your videos because they help give me strategies to keep up with my own cleaning! ❤
I am so glad you are getting some benefit from these videos. Tisha has fibromyalgia as well as the long covid symptoms, so she would totally understand that part as well. It can be so difficult when you have a life-changing chronic illness like that. I hope you can muster up some motivation to get some things done. Best wishes!🙏❤️
I know of a young mom who got long covid and she had to take a leave from work. It is no joke. Thankfully, when her family got covid a second time, her antibodies somehow from that exposure rid herself of long covid. I hope you feel better soon Tisha! 💕
What you did for your friend is a wonderful act of kindness. I hope she gets better. You mentioned Mira in this video, I've watched her channel from the start of her decluttering journey, I think doing a collaboration with her would be a wonderful thing. I know she used to do crafting, getting a organized space for that would be wonderful! I give Mira so much credit for the achievements so far...help her with whatever she allows you to help with.❤ I'm not sure what kind of therapy she's going through, but sometimes just having a friend to help/talk to, can be the thing that can get someone over that hump.I appreciate the fact that you show us that at times your home looks "lived in", and life can get messy at times. Thanks for keeping it real. 😊
I'm so glad you follow Mira. She is incredible! I cannot wait to meet her in person and, yes, wouldn't it be cool to give her a space back to do some crafting? And, you're right, sometimes a good friend with a non-judgmental attitude and a listening ear is all the therapy you need.❤️❤️🙏
My Mum was a gift hoarder, not on that epic scale, but 2 large drawers full of stuff that had been growing over the decades. When she became very elderly and somewhat forgetful, I would "do" her Christmas cards and presents for her. She had 2 kids, each with a spouse and 2 kids with spouses of their own. I would spend a happy afternoon, (with her snoozing disinterestedly alongside) going through the present drawer allocating gifts "from Mum" to each person and wrapping them. The first year we all had really nice things! The second year was OK, the third year everyone was delightfully anticipating all sorts of random and mostly worthless things, which they were! Envelopes, greasproof paper, emery boards, funny little raffia birds.... I forget now! But they we all appreciated and treasured them all the more for all that!
As a relatively new subscriber, I love this video. Not only are you a great friend, but being vulnerable yourself was really touching. It feels good to know that you are willing to show some of your daily "mess", not just the homes of others. Can't wait to see more!
Thank you so much for this video! I do house cleaning/organizing for a living and I get all the time “your house must be immaculate”. That’s the furthest thing from the truth. When you do it all day five to six days a week, 1 there isn’t much time for my own and 2 sometimes I just need a break. Thank you for all you do to help others.
Exactly! I grew up in a home that was pretty messi/cluttered because my mom was always taking care of other people. I didn't really understand it then, but I get it now.😊💜
🥰 Ahhh... that is so sweet! I sense that you are a very good friend. 💜 Sometimes the best "gift" you can give somebody is just that -- love and support!
Omg your house is far from messy. I say our house has the lived in look. We’ve three cats and a dog that are inside most of the time. Oh the fur balls at times. My fantasy self has a perfect house and manicured garden. You are a wonderful friend helping your friend Tisha. Wishing her a speedy recovery. The transformation is lovely. Tisha must fell great with everything ye got done. Have a great week. Mary, Joes wife 🙇♀️👏💪👍🙏💐🐕🦺🦮🐶
Thank you. I'm thinking that I might start a video series a couple times a month where I show myself going through and decluttering and deep cleaning my own home. I really love Marie Kondo and the things that she teaches, so I think I would try to gear it towards really decluttering mostly. I'm still sort of processing how I might do this, but I think I might need to do something like that otherwise I really am never going to get back to cleaning my own home...haha!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp I’m a huge fan of Marie Kondo myself. If I hadn’t found her I’d be drowning in stuff by now. I feel like you have something unique to share - in this video it was about being vulnerable. It definitely made me think about the areas in my life where I could be more vulnerable. I think you gave us more of who you are, stopped caring about pleasing the masses, about what the right thing to do or say was. And that authentic stuff, it shows us the real you and she’s very likable. 🥰 it’s kinda why I like Jamie’s Journey. She shows us the real her and the ups and downs in her life and it really touches me. Anyway, I’m looking forward to seeing more of you!
Seeing Bonnie show her "vulnerabilities" made me emotional. 🙂 It's not easy to put that out for the whole world to see. But knowing Bonnie, she did it to help somebody, anybody, feel comfortable and okay with who they are at this exact moment.
I love how neat that walk in closet is now ☺️ And what a massive organization task with everything. You are such a kind soul, caring for and helping your friend like that. 🧡
Wtg! That was a lot of work to do for your friend, and I am sure she is so thankful. I also watch Mira and love her attitude. Something is always better than nothing.
Thank you. Yes, Mira is so inspiring! It's one thing to be like me and to love to clean and declutter, but it's an entirely other thing when it doesn't come naturally and you still manage to do it, especially when it has gotten to the point that it has in her home. She's doing great!
Im so glad you took the time to check up on your friend and her family, that sort of support is so important. I hope the lack of clutter brings her some health and a lot of happiness
I love how you show yourself as vulnerable just as much as others can be and your own home can be a little messy just like mine lol it let’s everyone see you don’t have to be perfect all the time x
My mom's mom was a bit of a gift hoarder. She had cancer but her death was still rather sudden. Going through her house afterwards was so bittersweet, because there were large piles of gifts meant for the great-grandkids, including for my daughter, who was still unborn and never got to meet her. 💔 She was the sweetest grandmother who always made us feel welcome!
You are amazing, beautiful person inside and outside, perfect just the way you are. Thank you for showing real life, real you, so brave girl. I admire you even more. I don't like to see fake houses and fake people. We are all the same. God bless you beatiful soul.
Bonnie, i love you. You are so real and so loving, humble and compassionate. And funny! I wish i lived in Utah so we could be friends! 😅 Social media does damage, and doing what you did on this video does powerful work to reverse that. I feel lucky that you started this channel. Thank you! And PS I found Peeling Away the Clutter this week and i binged the whole thing too! Mira is another one who is so real and funny and humble. Love it.
Aw, thank you! There are a few of my subscribers that I have really come to love and you are one of them. Thank you for your support! I absolutely agree that most social media is so damaging, especially to the younger generation, so if I can even be a small part of undoing some of that damage, I will. People need to see real life modeled for them and not a facade of perfection.
I’ve been watching Mira clear away her clutter too! She’s doing such a wonderful job and is so inspiring. I’m looking forward to seeing more of her progress.
Very interesting. Never heard of a gifting hoarder😊 🎁 . I don't even know enough people to gift that much stuff too but it's an interesting concept. In my experience though, I'd just appreciate more the time spent with people I'm close to and sharing a meal or a cup of coffee and slice of pie with. Those are the things I remember although I have a number of special gifts from special friends over the many years of my life ❤️ ❤
So true! And she's great for that as well. We obviously spend a lot of time together lately and it's been so fun! She does have great taste in gifts, though, and I love everything she has given me and display it often because I never have time to go find that stuff myself, but it totally fits my style. But, I know that she knows, if she stopped giving me any gifts, we would remain the best of friends anyway. She's a gem!
That is how I am starting to feel at this point in my life -- it is more about the memories than it is tangible items. 😊 That being said, let's be honest, I'm not going to stop gift-giving cold turkey. 😂
Love that you may collaborate with her. She is amazing and the two of you together will be adorable. I love her outlook and the way she expresses herself and what is going on! Thanks for showing us the real you… you are beautiful inside and out.
I have been suffering from long covid for two years before someone told me about myoinositol. My lungs are never going to be same again however it is great help with brainfog, concentration issues and better energy levels. Maybe it could help your friend too. I didn’t think it was going to make any difference but I am grateful to the awful boss I had last year for telling me about it. It improved my quality of life and I don’t feel like suffering from dementia at 38 years old anymore.
I actually take that supplement myself. I never even thought about using it for long covid symptoms. I will tell her about it. She's willing to try just about anything. Thanks for the suggestion!
❤Love Remi Clog, housekeeping is like ‘any given Sunday’ some days the house looks great and of course no one will drop in then and when chaos is swirling they come. Sometimes you get lucky and visitors will see the house that you are proud of. My small house, even when a mess, is always warm, inviting and a place I want to be. My in-laws houses have always looked tasteful, perfect and unlived in, it must be difficult to live like that. I did have one friend who passed many years ago that did have a perfectly kept house and you could go to her house at any given time and she looked like Jackie Kennedy, always fixed up and she was happy and she never judged anyone, so very kind. So I’m not saying everyone who keeps up their house and themselves has a sterile life. Thank you for this video.
Yes, this -- awesome way to explain it! 👍 My MIL would tell me: “Cleaning your house while your kids are still growing is like shoveling the sidewalk before it stops snowing.” (Is that a Phyllis Diller quote?) 😄 I can confirm that is a true statement! 😉 haha
Just found your channel, and my favorite part of this video is your moment of being vulnerable. For those of us that struggle to keep up, seeing someone's fake perfect world just makes us feel worse about ourselves and makes us want to quit trying. Thank you for keeping it real.💖
I STILL deal with all those symptoms from having long covid for almost a year and a half. Mine is also a long story, but I 100% empathize. I’m doing much better now, but every time I get Covid, I HAVE to rest for longer than I think I need to or I relapse. It takes months to get back up to speed after getting it. BIG HUGS!!!! ❤❤❤😢😊
I'm so sorry. It has been really rough for some people. Tisha still is having a hard time and her health just keeps getting worse. I will actually be giving a bit of an update on her in my next video.
First of all, your home looks like you live there and you have children. You are blessing others and you are truly blessed with a heart ♥️ of gold . You are truly a sweetheart . Keep doing what you do . Love you and your videos.
I enjoyed your video. Mira is great so good to she her being reel. I liked it that you are reel to. I hope your friend can afford all the gift giving. Had a goot time watching this.
Thanks for watching! Yes, she can afford to do this, but I think she realizes that she doesn't need to buy so much. When depression gets that bad and retail therapy gives you that little boost, it's hard to not just go on a shopping spree all the time. She is in a much better place now and we are getting her house under control.❤️😁
The way you organized those cardigans in those boxes! Might save so much space! And indeed, she won't have the frustration of those cardigans falling off their hangers. You are SO pure! Indeed, no need to be fake. You have a beautiful house, and I love the autumn decorations! Home owners ask me all the time: 'Your house must be so neat and tidy!". I always say: 'Don't make illusions. My house can be a mess too!'. We are all human. Loved the video interruption! AND I need to figure out how I can be a member. Because I would love the LIVE videos. 🤍💙 Love X Coline
I'm so excited to have you as a member, Coline! I was looking up what time it is in the Netherlands if I do a live at 6:00 p.m. and it would be 1:00 a.m. there, so that definitely doesn't work, but I think this first live that I do might need to be at 6:00 p.m. tonight, but the next one I do, I will do it midday so that it is evening there.
I thought you looked great. It was natural beauty. You will have many stars in your crown for all the help you have given others. Your friends are to be cherished. God bless
This is a great video! Love the friendship between you two. Long term Covid symptoms can be brutal. God bless you for helping a friend get everything back in order. Now she can relax. The closet looks fantastic and all her gifts are organized. Love the vulnerable part. I didn't think your house was bad at all. Keep doing what you're doing. Have a wonderful weekend.
Gift giver here! I definitely appreciate my real friends and give gifts when can! Yay on the helper!! Cool that your mom did the "trade a maid" thing!! ❤❤
Girl your house is fine. We all are struggling these days, and one of the reasons I like your channel is how real and genuine you are. ❤️. I think we all are struggling in one way or another life is hard right now. Thank for what you do for others. God Bless uou and your family.
IMO Stackable cloth bins with lids are great- but you cannot see the quantity of what we own. You would have to reorganize, review, n reorganize often. Stacking for now shows what’s there (colors/type) n how much at a glance. Thank you for showing the progress made for this overwhelmed person!! Kudos to you both! Help makes big jobs doable!!
I think 'trade-a-maid' is a wonderful idea! I need to find one of my friends willing to do this. You are such a lovely, inside and out! Frankly, if I looked like you when I was 'raw' I'd never put on makeup. Thanks for sharing your wonderful videos!
I just got done watching Remi and then came to yours. I adore her too. I just told her I appreciate her honesty and giving firm feedback to helpful people. I love you too. I appreciate your showing behind the scenes and reality. It is the truth and anyone who doesn't get it they don't have to. You are perfect just as you are. Feel better. ❤️
Sie sind wunderbar ehrlich und das bedeutet, dass sie sich angreifbar machen. Nicht alle Menschen sind so freundlich und liebevoll wie Sie! Lassen Sie sich nicht von negativen Kommentaren beeinflussen, Menschen, die im Netz böse Kommentare abgeben sind für Sie nicht relevant. Leben Sie ihr Leben wie Sie möchten . Sie müssen sich nicht rechtfertigen .
Bonnie what a blessed video. I loved your story about Tisha. I loved that your let your guard down and opened your heart. Brave and kind! It was such a blessing and very healing. It all looked so much better and I pray it brought Tisha some peace. I will keep you all in my prayers.
What a great friend you are Bonnie! I’m glad you were able to help Tisha sort and organize her gifts. Im sure she feels much better about it. I do hope her symptoms lessen.
🤍🤍🤍 It does help. Starting to declutter and organize after a couple of off years has helped my soul feel less convoluted, too. I have Bonnie to thank for that.
I watch your videos but it wasn't until today that I subscribed. It was you being open about your own home that I went ahead and subscribed. I love that you were able to open up and not hide our daily flaws. I hope one day you will also do a cleaning video of your own home. I think it's beautiful and well lived in as it should be with a growing family. Much appreciated.
Wow, thank you! That means a lot. There really is something very freeing about being more "real." I love when other people are real, so why would I want to be anything BUT real? I'm sure I will do a video of me cleaning my home, if for no other reason than it has gotten to a state of crisis and I can put it in the same category as the houses I clean...LOL! Thanks for being here!❤
I love your channel and what you’ve done for people, including your friend! Thank you for your honesty! Please may I just say though, that OCD is a genuinely distressing mental illness, and just because someone is very organised or tidy it doesn’t mean that they have OCD! Thank you 😊
I was waiting for this comment to come up because, I get it, I know OCD is not just about having tidy and organized spaces, but she does have some OCD tendencies that I won't get into here. I don't like to throw around that term lightly either because my husband has OCD and for 7 years it was debilitating enough that he wanted to take his own life. Fortunately, we finally found a medication that works well for him, but it was a very distressing time for both of us. I also have a very dear friend who has some major struggles with OCD and her day-to-day life can be very challenging. I probably shouldn't have said that in this video because it does come off as taking it to mean just people who like to be clean and organized. I am glad to know that other people out there who also understand that OCD is not just someone who likes things tidy. Thanks for watching!
I absolutely adore Remi Clog! She's so real, so kind, so aware of herself and thoughtful of others. I really appreciate you being so real, also. The cleaners with the perfect homes make me so uncomfortable. I will never have that kind of home or life, so watching them in full makeup, perfect bodies, perfect long nails, spotless homes, with no clutter... just ugh. Do they even really live in those homes? Where is the junk mail? Grocery receipts? Unfinished projects? Random socks? Thank you both for being real. We need you! We need more like you! Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Agreed. I actually tend to let my house get pretty messy before I clean it up just because I really like a more extreme transformation. I am going to start to film some cleaning of my own home as an extra video here and there in addition to my free cleaning videos just to show people that my home can get pretty messy as well and to show the clutter that can build up. I think it will also help me to stay a little bit more on top of my home since my family deserves a clean home as well and I spend a whole lot of time cleaning other people's homes, so I'm sure they feel a little neglected when I don't always take care of our home. And since I love Marie Kondo and her methods so much, I will probably talk a lot about decluttering and the freedom it gives us to have less stuff.
I love the vulnerable moment. June Cleaver doesn't live in my house either. It's a good reminder that real people live beyond their channels. Great job you did for your friend!
You rocked that girl..I enjoy watching I call you n Barbie n Matt themagical dream team cleaners on TH-cam y'all rock..I hope y'all Kan get 2 gether again keep doing you cause I'm watching Newark NJ!!!
Yeah, she's pretty great! I'm terrible at making time to go buy anything to decorate my house with, so she keeps my house up to date.. haha! However, I have told her she needs to cut back because I definitely don't want her stressing about gifts when she has so many other things that going on right now.😊
I wish I had your folding skills! I laughed when you were like oh inside my messy drawer and when you opened it it was super clean and organised lol. Your house is amazing! Your videos are always great! You seem like such a genuinely positive person and I echo what was said in the comments you don't have to prove anything to anyone!!
LOL, yeah, my "messy house" turned out to be not so messy. It does get plenty worse than this, I promise. I need to do a video of my basement right now...yikes!
This makes me feel so much better about my house. My father was always super particular about keeping the house clean and I'm paranoid that I'm a slob because I can't keep a house to that level. Seeing what normal looks like let's me know I'm not failing. My house isn't quite as clean as yours, but I'm not doing too bad! 😅
I love that your house looks lived it! That’s real life! I have that same thing over my sink to hold sponges and stuff! I would love Tisha! I am also one who enjoy gifting to others! I don’t keep that much on hand, but I will pick little things to have on hand when they are on sale!
Thank you! I actually want to find a replacement for that thing over the sink because it's always falling over and I know there are some great options out there that probably look a little nicer, too, but for now, it does the job. I admire those who can think ahead and pick out gifts to have on hand. I am not a big shopper, so I am hardly ever in a position to just be browsing for gifts to have on hand.
Hello to the "A Beautiful Mess" audience! I am Tisha. Since Bonnie's effort is to provide a community of selfless love and compassion, I thought it might be beneficial to respond (non-offensively, non-defensively, simply informatively) to some of the comments/questions that have been submitted to her oh-so-cleverly titled "Restoring Order to a Gift Hoarder" TH-cam post. Bonnie once shared this quote with me, which is quite fitting, considering I feel that it exemplifies Bonnie's genuine BEAUTIFUL (non-messy) soul. 💛
“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” ~Maya Angelo
Thank you, Tish! Love you! Thanks for being a great friend and always making me feel good to be around you!🥰
✨💖✨When two beautiful souls get together magic happens. We got to learn about the wonderful Tisha, the gifting hoarder, and her wonderful generosity. And Bonnie got to make another wonderful video,which will help thousands of people just like me with her generosity. ✨💖✨Thank you Tisha for letting us into a small part of your life, and Thank you Bonnie for posting such inspiration. ✨💖✨
I love that Tisha’s ‘showing love’ love language is gift-giving. What a sweet soul.
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First of all, you're under no obligation to show us vulnerabilities, but in fact your home looks fine. A family lives there, so it's not going to be perfect unless everyone moves out.
Secondly, you're still gorgeous even with no makeup or your hair done.
Thirdly, you're an amazing, kind, and selfless human being! ❤️ ❤ ❤
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Thank you my friend!
What a lot of clothes! She had a cardigan for each day of year. Well done on sorting them out. Thank you for showing your house as you say, nobody is perfect. What a lot of presents. So nice of her to think of other people. (love the dogs)
Thanks for the sweet shoutout! I'm so excited to collab and meet you. Love you, Bonnie!
Been watching you since the beginning - you’re doing so well ❤
You are amazing! I have been with you since your first video!
I'm heading over to check out your channel. See you there! 👋
Mira, I’ve been with you from the beginning and you are so incredibly inspiring. I’m super excited for the collaboration!
I am thrilled to meet you as well. I love, love, love that there are people out there like you, willing to share your struggles and how to overcome them! You are truly an inspiration! Love you, Mira!!🥰
I think it's very smart the way that you organized her gifts so that she knows what box has What type of gift So she doesn't have to go out and spend anymore money.
And also the fact that she is so willing to donate very beautiful items to help out a charity is absolutely fantastic.
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You lose your whole identity when chronic illness takes hold. I feel for Tisha so much. Recognising your intrinsic value without attaching that value to your ability to work, do things you want to for others and to represent yourself the way you want to is HARD. I still haven’t got there but one day i will. Tisha knowing that you see that value in her as a person, so much so that you literally fought your way back into her life, not to mention the time to help her with her home would enrich her soul to no end. ❤
Thank you. This has really been beneficial for both of us to have me come over and help her declutter and get things back in order. I love spending time with her. That is my favorite gift is just being around her and enjoying her presence.😊❤️
@rachaelh9193 🥺 You said it better than I could ever express. Makes me teary eyed. I have times when I feel alone and worthless, and yet don't know how to properly describe those thoughts/feelings. But you just did! It helps knowing that I'm not alone and that others can empathsize. Thank you! Thank you for expressing that, thank you for relating, thank you for taking the time to make the comment. I know I'm not the only one that will benefit by reading your thoughts. I believe you -- you WILL get there! 👍 I truly feel your determination, desire, and sense such a good soul in you. 🤍 Please never forget that even though it might not the same as perhaps you once were, you STILL have extreme VALUE in this world! I hope that you are able to get back to your functional self and able to recognize yourself again SOON! 🌼💛🌼
What wise comments- thank you!
I grew up in an immaculate house. My mother spend most of her time cleaning and tidying. My sister and I were shamed for normal human messes. It was stifling. I am not impressed by perfect instagram houses. They make me scared and I feel sorry for any kids that live there.
Your house looks like my current house, now that I'm an adult with kids of my own. Clean, lived in, cosy, friendly.
You do great work helping others. Thankyou.
Thank you! I definitely love the look of an immaculate, pristine home, but I know that it's just unreasonable. I, in fact, would rather let the mess build up a little bit because I like the more extreme transformations.. haha!❤️
She should gift to a needy family for Christmas. It would help get rid of so many and give her joy. After all it is the season. Thank you for helping her.❤
Great idea. I am over there cleaning with her every Monday, so I was over there today and she actually helped me out with a gift for a friend going through a rough time. It was win-win as we are trying to downsize the amount of gifts she has and I didn't have to go out looking for a specific gift for this person because I'm really bad at knowing what kind of gift to get for different occasions, but she had the perfect thing.
Yes! It does bring me much joy -- to give to somebody in need AND to rid of extra stuff we don't need anymore. 😊 The feeling you get when you help somebody else is amazing. We all have different struggles in different times of our lives. So knowing my past, and then to help somebody else going through the same thing, feels like you're giving back good vibes to the world. 💜
Oh, I was thinking the same thing- my house of worship has an elder who has combined unwanted items (in good or new condition) and given them to needy congregants in a way as to be anonymous- the recipients and donors do not know to whom what has been given. This person matches up need pretty well and, instead of yard sales and storing too much, we all have better uncluttered homes, garages and attics. There is no pressure but a great deal of relief in trusting the things to be used by people who need them and use them NOW. -- The suggestion of a needy family getting items curated by an agency accustomed to doing this is also a good one! Bye
You are such a sweetheart and I’d be honored to have a friend like you to do something nice for you. Seems like you deserve it
Agree!
As someone who has had mild Long COVID issues for 18 months, I really appreciate your efforts to help your friend who is struggling. Thanks for helping to raise awareness about this debilitating condition. ❤️ So many cardigans you folded!! Nice job.
The symptoms seem to be identical to my psoriatic arthritis & fibromyalgia.
It's so sad to see how it has negatively impacted so many people. Who knew that long covid would be a thing? Prayers for you! 🙏
You are not alone! I used to think I was crazy, but it is real. Sending good vibes your way, hoping you experience at least some relief soon! (I do love my cardigans! 🙂)
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wpeveryone I know that has to also had the vaccines so it’s so hard to know if it’ was just way to much on their bodies to recover from covid and then get their protection 😓😭🙏
I truly understand and appreciate Tisha's thoughtfulness and generosity. When she is more physically able, and/or when her kids are older, might she consider hands-on volunteering with the less fortunate? Not to give them stuff, but to actually improve their circumstances. It might wean her off buying "cute stuff" to gift. My mom and several other female relatives were also very "gifty" people and so was I for a few years - of course not to this extent. I ended up getting rid of a lot of ungifted gifts on Buy Nothing. There are so many other ways to show appreciation to others than gifting mass-produced things that contribute to clutter. Bring on the hate, I can take it.
Yes, I would be quite s(t)uffocated by all those gifts. I either give someone a high-quality gift on special occassions and/or try to gift an experience or activity to do together.
I understand where you're coming from. No hate here. I know Tisha is going to jump on and comment on some of this stuff tonight because who better than Tisha herself to explain why she does what she does.😜
No hate -- I completely appreciate what you are saying! There are many ways to provide love and service to others, as Bonnie is exemplifying right now. But sometimes, a person is not able to do the things he/she would like to do. So they do what they can when they can. 🙂 Because of my ailments, I can't physically offer that appreciation. I also have a family, so I am unable to devote much time to service, either. But, it is very important to me to help others feel loved, noticed, and appreciated for what they do in this world!
I agree! There are many types of gifts to give. I don't limit myself to little "knick knacks." 😀
@ArtamStudio I just re-read your comment. I have never heard of "Buy Nothing." That is very interesting! I will be doing more research on that program. Thank you for sharing that information with us! 🙂
I got tears in. my eyes when you said about your friend being so sick she just didn't recognize herself. I have had similar feelings not from COVID but burnout and depression. The fatigue and migraines are so debilitating. I have a sister-in-law that stepped in for me like you did for your friend and she was like a lifeboat for a sinking ship. I will never ever be able to express how much she means to me for all she has done but three years later, I feel like I just might live. I still get her to clean for me once a week and that is a lifesaver (yes, I insist on paying her also lol). Cheers for all you do for other people.😍 People like you are priceless.
Thank you for sharing your story. It really seems like an epidemic nowadays to have some kind of chronic depression. I have dealt with it myself and helping other people is how I manage to not get that depressed again. I'm so glad you had your sister-in-law to help you out. I'm thankful to be in a place now that I can help others and hopefully can continue to do that for as long as possible. May you continue to feel on the "up" side of things.🥰🙏
You said it -- I agree 💯! 🤍
Another amazing video - brought tears to my eyes. Everyone needs a friend like you to just walk and start helping. They closet was an amazing transformation 💙💙💙
Love Mira. She echoes a lot of my emotional stuff. There’s bunches of us in the world
Bonnie, Thank you for the raw moment!❤
Perhaps this video appears to be about decluttering and cleaning, but this video is truly about love. Your love, Tisha's love and the doggys' love. And as a result, lots of cleaning and decluttering happened and lots of effort invested, but hey, now you and Tisha don't need to go to the gym! 🥰
So true! Love it. ❤️ Thank you!🙏
@sazennonumber Thank you! Today has been a bit of a rough day for me. But reading your comment has made my eyes teary and my soul smile. The fact that you would see that perspectie in the video, and then take the time to comment on it has really meant a lot! 🥰 Thank YOU for the good vibes you are putting in the world!
@@TRGillett 😍 Oh... Thank you! 🙏 May you handle the roughness of your day like a champion!!
We are all in this together. Our homes are our haven and they are lived in because it's real life. I do one room cleaning now not the whole house and I'm the happiest. Time to do whatever I need to do! Thank you for sharing YOU! 😍👍
@mariwillalwaysgivethanks Thank you for making that comment, for sharing how you've changed your cleaning habits and how it benefits your life for the better. I've slowly realized that myself, too. We all have different personalities, styles, etc. So that doesn't make one way right and another wrong. We need to do what is best for ourselves and not expect to conform to an unattainable standard. I've started to do that myself, now that I'm not able to have my structed cleaning schedule every week. I no longer have the "all or nothing" mentality. I'm realizing that a little here and a little there is a-o-k. It doesn't make me a failure. For you to make that change and recognize that it has helped bring more happiness to your life is inspiring! 😀💛👍
What a blessing for you to help Tisha! Thank you for sharing her story with us. I really feel for her and her family. My husband had Covid pneumonia last September, and just never really recovered. He had extreme exhaustion that was debilitating. He wound up being hospitalized in August, and has been diagnosed with a very rare auto-immune disease. It has turned our lives upside down. Caring for him has been my priority, but the more stressed I've been, the worse the house has gotten. I greatly appreciate you sharing these videos. It's encouraging me to get our home back into order. God bless you, Bonnie!
I appreciate you sharing your story. Yes, covid really disrupted a lot of lives and, for those that it was more like just having a cold, I'm sure it's hard to understand how it has really done some damage to some people. I'm sorry you are dealing with that. I'm glad my videos are helping to motivate you! Take care!🥰🙏
I wasn't expecting you to be perfect Bonnie! You are a human being! We aren't supposed to be perfect. You could use a hug and maybe a little self compassion 🤗❤️
If my house looked half as good as yours, I would be thrilled.Your house looks like a family lives there, and anyone visiting would feel comfortable. That's more important than a spotless home. Thank you for sharing,. And I have watched Mira as well. She has a very good sense of humor and makes no excuses for the state of her house. She just gets down to business with a tenacity I have come to appreciate. She sets a great example. Bonnie, keep up the good work.
Thank you. Yes, Mira has been very inspiring. I love when she chuckles to herself.😄
I suffered from long COVID for over a year and still am not 💯!I could barely get up and brush my teeth, so my home became a hot mess. I am just starting to reorganize. She is definitely lucky to have a friend like you❤
Thanks for sharing. It definitely affected a lot more people than I think anyone realized. I'm glad that you're at least back to functioning a bit and getting stuff organized again!👏❤️
@butterflybaby429 I found your comment about brushing your teeth to be interesting. I've faithfully always had my 2x year dental check-up and cleaning. By the time I was able to see the dentist again since the pandemic, I had SIX cavities!!! 😬😳😩 (Weird nugget of information about me -- I cannot be in the same room as somebody brushing their teeth. It just grosses me out so much! (Kinda like nails on a chalkboard.). Plus, most toothpaste smells like mint. And I hate the smell of mint. (I know, I'll admit it, I am SO weird! 😂)
I hope that you are able to continue working on your home and re-organizing, at your own pace! It is over-whelming. I'm still learnomg that it doesn't have to be done over-night -- it doesn't have to all be done all at oncee. Some days, you can work on a section of a closet. Other days, you can't. And that is okay! On the days you can, just choose a little bit. On the days you can't, don't feel bad! You are doing great! We all have strengths and weaknesses. And just know that you have people that are cheering you on, hoping for your success, even if it doesn't feel like it at times. Good luck! 🙂
@@TRGillett WOW, Thank you, your comment really made me feel better. And coincidentally I just went for my cleaning and the dentist told me that I had so many cavities between my teeth that he wasn’t sure what was going on! I’m telling you, it was the long covid! I’m still dealing with so many symptoms but as you said, I’m just completing things in small portions. Again, thank you, you made my day 🥰
I hope your friend recovers soon. Long covid is exhausting and challenging for those who don't know. Tisha is amazing with a heart of gold. Sometimes we need to allow ourselves down time to rejuvenate. Your home is normal when our lives are busy. If you feel better wearing makeup, wear it, don't apologise for caring. You are an amazing and caring person, who loves cleaning and organising rooms. Love your work and the way you help others respectfully.
Thank you so much 😊
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It's proven that it's harder to get rid of stuff once you touch it so by someone else holding it up they have a better chance to let it go. I'm so excited to see you work with Mira! I love her videos and watching her videos and am so proud of what she's doing! So glad you'll be helping her! ❤️
I started doing some free cleaning for some folks😊I don’t film, but I love to clean stuff and it really does bless me.
Love that! Thank you so much for sharing. It's how I have always dealt with my own Mental Health is by helping others. It's such a blessing to ourselves. Thanks for helping others!
🤍🤍🤍 I can 99.999% guarantee you that your help does not go unappreciated. Sounds like you are another individual with a kind soul to do that so selflessly, and yet end by saying how it blesses you. A true act of charity.
You look absolutely beautiful in your “raw” state! And your house looks pretty normal to me for a busy family!
Perfectly okay to do a video which is different from your usual- great to share when folks are willing and have something useful and meaningful to say! We have heard you mention Tisha before and now we sorta got to meet her! I appreciate that and know many are dealing with long Covid and could use support and compassion. This video encourages that and helps those who are so inclined to be more understanding. Wonderful frame-of-mind and thank you... Bye!
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Wonderful how you helped your friend❤ My husband was in hospital with covid pneumonia just as pandemic started. It has been long journey of recovery ❤ Life changing! I loved all the puppers in video. God bless for all you do ❤❤
Bless your dear husband! In addition to tisha, I have a brother-in-law whose wife has been dramatically altered because of covid. It's so sad to see. I hope he is doing a lot better!❤️🙏
I have fibromyalgia, and the long covid symptoms are so similar. I definitely understand that debilitating fatigue. Bless her heart!! I like watching your videos because they help give me strategies to keep up with my own cleaning! ❤
I am so glad you are getting some benefit from these videos. Tisha has fibromyalgia as well as the long covid symptoms, so she would totally understand that part as well. It can be so difficult when you have a life-changing chronic illness like that. I hope you can muster up some motivation to get some things done. Best wishes!🙏❤️
A hug from one fibromyalgia person to another! 💛
I know of a young mom who got long covid and she had to take a leave from work. It is no joke. Thankfully, when her family got covid a second time, her antibodies somehow from that exposure rid herself of long covid. I hope you feel better soon Tisha! 💕
🥺 Thank you, truly! 🤍
What you did for your friend is a wonderful act of kindness. I hope she gets better. You mentioned Mira in this video, I've watched her channel from the start of her decluttering journey, I think doing a collaboration with her would be a wonderful thing. I know she used to do crafting, getting a organized space for that would be wonderful! I give Mira so much credit for the achievements so far...help her with whatever she allows you to help with.❤ I'm not sure what kind of therapy she's going through, but sometimes just having a friend to help/talk to, can be the thing that can get someone over that hump.I appreciate the fact that you show us that at times your home looks "lived in", and life can get messy at times. Thanks for keeping it real. 😊
I'm so glad you follow Mira. She is incredible! I cannot wait to meet her in person and, yes, wouldn't it be cool to give her a space back to do some crafting? And, you're right, sometimes a good friend with a non-judgmental attitude and a listening ear is all the therapy you need.❤️❤️🙏
Great job! I hope Tisha's health is doing better. ❤
My Mum was a gift hoarder, not on that epic scale, but 2 large drawers full of stuff that had been growing over the decades. When she became very elderly and somewhat forgetful, I would "do" her Christmas cards and presents for her. She had 2 kids, each with a spouse and 2 kids with spouses of their own. I would spend a happy afternoon, (with her snoozing disinterestedly alongside) going through the present drawer allocating gifts "from Mum" to each person and wrapping them. The first year we all had really nice things! The second year was OK, the third year everyone was delightfully anticipating all sorts of random and mostly worthless things, which they were! Envelopes, greasproof paper, emery boards, funny little raffia birds....
I forget now! But they we all appreciated and treasured them all the more for all that!
I love this. Thanks for sharing!
😂 Absolutely loving it! Thanks for sharing -- brought a huge smile to my face.
And I'm smiling reading your reply! Thanks
Omg. I am so excited for this collaboration.
Absolutely love Mira and the progress she is making in her home
As a relatively new subscriber, I love this video. Not only are you a great friend, but being vulnerable yourself was really touching. It feels good to know that you are willing to show some of your daily "mess", not just the homes of others. Can't wait to see more!
Thank you so much for this video! I do house cleaning/organizing for a living and I get all the time “your house must be immaculate”. That’s the furthest thing from the truth. When you do it all day five to six days a week, 1 there isn’t much time for my own and 2 sometimes I just need a break. Thank you for all you do to help others.
Exactly! I grew up in a home that was pretty messi/cluttered because my mom was always taking care of other people. I didn't really understand it then, but I get it now.😊💜
I appreciate gifts that people give me, but bless them, I really don’t want them. I only want a hug and an ear. 💙
🥰 Ahhh... that is so sweet! I sense that you are a very good friend. 💜 Sometimes the best "gift" you can give somebody is just that -- love and support!
@@TRGillett a girl tries! 💙
Thank you for being vulnerable with us 🤗🥰
Omg your house is far from messy. I say our house has the lived in look. We’ve three cats and a dog that are inside most of the time. Oh the fur balls at times. My fantasy self has a perfect house and manicured garden. You are a wonderful friend helping your friend Tisha. Wishing her a speedy recovery. The transformation is lovely. Tisha must fell great with everything ye got done. Have a great week. Mary, Joes wife 🙇♀️👏💪👍🙏💐🐕🦺🦮🐶
I love you vulnerable! I just want to watch you being you. That’s so much better than anything else! Share more of your life, your housecleaning. ❤
Thank you. I'm thinking that I might start a video series a couple times a month where I show myself going through and decluttering and deep cleaning my own home. I really love Marie Kondo and the things that she teaches, so I think I would try to gear it towards really decluttering mostly. I'm still sort of processing how I might do this, but I think I might need to do something like that otherwise I really am never going to get back to cleaning my own home...haha!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp I’m a huge fan of Marie Kondo myself. If I hadn’t found her I’d be drowning in stuff by now. I feel like you have something unique to share - in this video it was about being vulnerable. It definitely made me think about the areas in my life where I could be more vulnerable. I think you gave us more of who you are, stopped caring about pleasing the masses, about what the right thing to do or say was. And that authentic stuff, it shows us the real you and she’s very likable. 🥰 it’s kinda why I like Jamie’s Journey. She shows us the real her and the ups and downs in her life and it really touches me. Anyway, I’m looking forward to seeing more of you!
Seeing Bonnie show her "vulnerabilities" made me emotional. 🙂 It's not easy to put that out for the whole world to see. But knowing Bonnie, she did it to help somebody, anybody, feel comfortable and okay with who they are at this exact moment.
I love how neat that walk in closet is now ☺️ And what a massive organization task with everything. You are such a kind soul, caring for and helping your friend like that. 🧡
Thank you so much!
Wtg! That was a lot of work to do for your friend, and I am sure she is so thankful. I also watch Mira and love her attitude. Something is always better than nothing.
Thank you. Yes, Mira is so inspiring! It's one thing to be like me and to love to clean and declutter, but it's an entirely other thing when it doesn't come naturally and you still manage to do it, especially when it has gotten to the point that it has in her home. She's doing great!
Very, very thankful! 😊
Im so glad you took the time to check up on your friend and her family, that sort of support is so important. I hope the lack of clutter brings her some health and a lot of happiness
Indeed it did! 🤍
I love how you show yourself as vulnerable just as much as others can be and your own home can be a little messy just like mine lol it let’s everyone see you don’t have to be perfect all the time x
My mom's mom was a bit of a gift hoarder. She had cancer but her death was still rather sudden. Going through her house afterwards was so bittersweet, because there were large piles of gifts meant for the great-grandkids, including for my daughter, who was still unborn and never got to meet her. 💔 She was the sweetest grandmother who always made us feel welcome!
That's so sweet! It is a gift to be a good gift-giver. 💜❤️
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I have been watching Mira since her first video, thumbs up for all the progress she is making❤ She is making great strides.
You are amazing, beautiful person inside and outside, perfect just the way you are.
Thank you for showing real life, real you, so brave girl. I admire you even more.
I don't like to see fake houses and fake people.
We are all the same.
God bless you beatiful soul.
Thank you. ❤️🙏
Bonnie, i love you. You are so real and so loving, humble and compassionate. And funny! I wish i lived in Utah so we could be friends! 😅 Social media does damage, and doing what you did on this video does powerful work to reverse that. I feel lucky that you started this channel. Thank you! And PS I found Peeling Away the Clutter this week and i binged the whole thing too! Mira is another one who is so real and funny and humble. Love it.
Aw, thank you! There are a few of my subscribers that I have really come to love and you are one of them. Thank you for your support! I absolutely agree that most social media is so damaging, especially to the younger generation, so if I can even be a small part of undoing some of that damage, I will. People need to see real life modeled for them and not a facade of perfection.
It is so true that when you have someone to help you, you are more motivated.
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I love Mira too! I watch every single one of her videos too. She is pure sunshine.
I’ve been watching Mira clear away her clutter too! She’s doing such a wonderful job and is so inspiring. I’m looking forward to seeing more of her progress.
And I love when she chuckles at herself. So cute!
It's my favorite when she chuckles at herself!
Very interesting. Never heard of a gifting hoarder😊 🎁 . I don't even know enough people to gift that much stuff too but it's an interesting concept. In my experience though, I'd just appreciate more the time spent with people I'm close to and sharing a meal or a cup of coffee and slice of pie with. Those are the things I remember although I have a number of special gifts from special friends over the many years of my life ❤️ ❤
So true! And she's great for that as well. We obviously spend a lot of time together lately and it's been so fun! She does have great taste in gifts, though, and I love everything she has given me and display it often because I never have time to go find that stuff myself, but it totally fits my style. But, I know that she knows, if she stopped giving me any gifts, we would remain the best of friends anyway. She's a gem!
That is how I am starting to feel at this point in my life -- it is more about the memories than it is tangible items. 😊 That being said, let's be honest, I'm not going to stop gift-giving cold turkey. 😂
Love that you may collaborate with her. She is amazing and the two of you together will be adorable. I love her outlook and the way she expresses herself and what is going on! Thanks for showing us the real you… you are beautiful inside and out.
I have been watching Mira she is doing so great. It was nice of you to share her channel:)
I have been suffering from long covid for two years before someone told me about myoinositol. My lungs are never going to be same again however it is great help with brainfog, concentration issues and better energy levels. Maybe it could help your friend too. I didn’t think it was going to make any difference but I am grateful to the awful boss I had last year for telling me about it. It improved my quality of life and I don’t feel like suffering from dementia at 38 years old anymore.
I actually take that supplement myself. I never even thought about using it for long covid symptoms. I will tell her about it. She's willing to try just about anything. Thanks for the suggestion!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp no problem, I hope it helps her
Love the pile of cardigans. Im always freezing and love mine, especially the hooded ones!!
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❤Love Remi Clog, housekeeping is like ‘any given Sunday’ some days the house looks great and of course no one will drop in then and when chaos is swirling they come. Sometimes you get lucky and visitors will see the house that you are proud of. My small house, even when a mess, is always warm, inviting and a place I want to be. My in-laws houses have always looked tasteful, perfect and unlived in, it must be difficult to live like that. I did have one friend who passed many years ago that did have a perfectly kept house and you could go to her house at any given time and she looked like Jackie Kennedy, always fixed up and she was happy and she never judged anyone, so very kind. So I’m not saying everyone who keeps up their house and themselves has a sterile life.
Thank you for this video.
Yes, this -- awesome way to explain it! 👍 My MIL would tell me: “Cleaning your house while your kids are still growing is like shoveling the sidewalk before it stops snowing.” (Is that a Phyllis Diller quote?) 😄 I can confirm that is a true statement! 😉 haha
Love this comment. Above all, I just want to make sure people feel comfortable in my home, whether it's perfectly clean or a bit of a mess.🤗
I hope Trish gets better soon. You are blessed with kind friends because you are a kind person. I loved her sweaters!
Thank you! 🤍🤍🤍 Who needs a coat in Utah when you can use a cardigan sweater? 😂
Just found your channel, and my favorite part of this video is your moment of being vulnerable. For those of us that struggle to keep up, seeing someone's fake perfect world just makes us feel worse about ourselves and makes us want to quit trying. Thank you for keeping it real.💖
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I STILL deal with all those symptoms from having long covid for almost a year and a half. Mine is also a long story, but I 100% empathize. I’m doing much better now, but every time I get Covid, I HAVE to rest for longer than I think I need to or I relapse. It takes months to get back up to speed after getting it. BIG HUGS!!!! ❤❤❤😢😊
I'm so sorry. It has been really rough for some people. Tisha still is having a hard time and her health just keeps getting worse. I will actually be giving a bit of an update on her in my next video.
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First of all, your home looks like you live there and you have children. You are blessing others and you are truly blessed with a heart ♥️ of gold . You are truly a sweetheart .
Keep doing what you do . Love you and your videos.
Thank you so much!
I enjoyed your video. Mira is great so good to she her being reel. I liked it that you are reel to. I hope your friend can afford all the gift giving. Had a goot time watching this.
Thanks for watching! Yes, she can afford to do this, but I think she realizes that she doesn't need to buy so much. When depression gets that bad and retail therapy gives you that little boost, it's hard to not just go on a shopping spree all the time. She is in a much better place now and we are getting her house under control.❤️😁
Love your “messy” house. It looks lived in and that you have happy times there!❤. Thanks for that!
The way you organized those cardigans in those boxes! Might save so much space! And indeed, she won't have the frustration of those cardigans falling off their hangers. You are SO pure! Indeed, no need to be fake. You have a beautiful house, and I love the autumn decorations! Home owners ask me all the time: 'Your house must be so neat and tidy!". I always say: 'Don't make illusions. My house can be a mess too!'. We are all human. Loved the video interruption! AND I need to figure out how I can be a member. Because I would love the LIVE videos. 🤍💙 Love X Coline
I applied for a membership 🩵
I'm so excited to have you as a member, Coline! I was looking up what time it is in the Netherlands if I do a live at 6:00 p.m. and it would be 1:00 a.m. there, so that definitely doesn't work, but I think this first live that I do might need to be at 6:00 p.m. tonight, but the next one I do, I will do it midday so that it is evening there.
I thought the cardigans in the totes/boxes was pretty ingenious, too. 🙂
I thought you looked great. It was natural beauty. You will have many stars in your crown for all the help you have given others. Your friends are to be cherished. God bless
This is a great video! Love the friendship between you two. Long term Covid symptoms can be brutal. God bless you for helping a friend get everything back in order. Now she can relax. The closet looks fantastic and all her gifts are organized. Love the vulnerable part. I didn't think your house was bad at all. Keep doing what you're doing. Have a wonderful weekend.
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Gift giver here! I definitely appreciate my real friends and give gifts when can! Yay on the helper!! Cool that your mom did the "trade a maid" thing!! ❤❤
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Awesome facts. Glad you help so many others. Thanks being real. ❤
Girl your house is fine. We all are struggling these days, and one of the reasons I like your channel is how real and genuine you are. ❤️. I think we all are struggling in one way or another life is hard right now. Thank for what you do for others. God Bless uou and your family.
Thank you so much. 🙏❤️
You are a earth Angel. God bless you on your mission. Hugs from Arizona.
Wow, thank you!
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Stackable cloth bins with lids are great- but you cannot see the quantity of what we own.
You would have to reorganize, review, n reorganize often.
Stacking for now shows what’s there (colors/type) n how much at a glance.
Thank you for showing the progress made for this overwhelmed person!! Kudos to you both!
Help makes big jobs doable!!
I think 'trade-a-maid' is a wonderful idea! I need to find one of my friends willing to do this. You are such a lovely, inside and out! Frankly, if I looked like you when I was 'raw' I'd never put on makeup. Thanks for sharing your wonderful videos!
Aw, thank you! 😊 I hope you find a friend that you can do a trade-a-maid with.❤️👍
I just got done watching Remi and then came to yours. I adore her too. I just told her I appreciate her honesty and giving firm feedback to helpful people. I love you too. I appreciate your showing behind the scenes and reality. It is the truth and anyone who doesn't get it they don't have to. You are perfect just as you are. Feel better. ❤️
Sie sind wunderbar ehrlich und das bedeutet, dass sie sich angreifbar machen. Nicht alle Menschen sind so freundlich und liebevoll wie Sie! Lassen Sie sich nicht von negativen Kommentaren beeinflussen, Menschen, die im Netz böse Kommentare abgeben sind für Sie nicht relevant. Leben Sie ihr Leben wie Sie möchten . Sie müssen sich nicht rechtfertigen .
Bonnie what a blessed video. I loved your story about Tisha. I loved that your let your guard down and opened your heart. Brave and kind! It was such a blessing and very healing. It all looked so much better and I pray it brought Tisha some peace. I will keep you all in my prayers.
You have beautiful natural skin and hair. Thank you for sharing!
What a great friend you are Bonnie! I’m glad you were able to help Tisha sort and organize her gifts. Im sure she feels much better about it. I do hope her symptoms lessen.
🤍🤍🤍 It does help. Starting to declutter and organize after a couple of off years has helped my soul feel less convoluted, too. I have Bonnie to thank for that.
The dogs were so cute 🥰 Great job Bonnie, you’re such a great friend
Amen! 😀
I watch Mira all the time. I'm so glad you will be helping her, she is doing so well with her declutter. Love your videos Bonnie ❤
Thank you so much!
I watch your videos but it wasn't until today that I subscribed. It was you being open about your own home that I went ahead and subscribed. I love that you were able to open up and not hide our daily flaws. I hope one day you will also do a cleaning video of your own home. I think it's beautiful and well lived in as it should be with a growing family. Much appreciated.
Wow, thank you! That means a lot. There really is something very freeing about being more "real." I love when other people are real, so why would I want to be anything BUT real? I'm sure I will do a video of me cleaning my home, if for no other reason than it has gotten to a state of crisis and I can put it in the same category as the houses I clean...LOL! Thanks for being here!❤
"I think it's beautiful and well lived in as it should be with a growing family."
I love your channel and what you’ve done for people, including your friend! Thank you for your honesty! Please may I just say though, that OCD is a genuinely distressing mental illness, and just because someone is very organised or tidy it doesn’t mean that they have OCD! Thank you 😊
I was waiting for this comment to come up because, I get it, I know OCD is not just about having tidy and organized spaces, but she does have some OCD tendencies that I won't get into here. I don't like to throw around that term lightly either because my husband has OCD and for 7 years it was debilitating enough that he wanted to take his own life. Fortunately, we finally found a medication that works well for him, but it was a very distressing time for both of us. I also have a very dear friend who has some major struggles with OCD and her day-to-day life can be very challenging. I probably shouldn't have said that in this video because it does come off as taking it to mean just people who like to be clean and organized. I am glad to know that other people out there who also understand that OCD is not just someone who likes things tidy.
Thanks for watching!
Thank you for explaining! I appreciate that, and you did a fantastic job!
You are very right! I am fortunate in that my OCD "tendancies" are not debilitating.
Absolutely love your channel Bonnie! You are such an inspiration to all of your subscribers! And you are motivating me❤
I just found Peeling Away the Clutter, and I love her channel.
Right?! She's amazing!
I absolutely adore Remi Clog! She's so real, so kind, so aware of herself and thoughtful of others. I really appreciate you being so real, also.
The cleaners with the perfect homes make me so uncomfortable. I will never have that kind of home or life, so watching them in full makeup, perfect bodies, perfect long nails, spotless homes, with no clutter... just ugh. Do they even really live in those homes? Where is the junk mail? Grocery receipts? Unfinished projects? Random socks?
Thank you both for being real. We need you! We need more like you! Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Agreed. I actually tend to let my house get pretty messy before I clean it up just because I really like a more extreme transformation. I am going to start to film some cleaning of my own home as an extra video here and there in addition to my free cleaning videos just to show people that my home can get pretty messy as well and to show the clutter that can build up. I think it will also help me to stay a little bit more on top of my home since my family deserves a clean home as well and I spend a whole lot of time cleaning other people's homes, so I'm sure they feel a little neglected when I don't always take care of our home. And since I love Marie Kondo and her methods so much, I will probably talk a lot about decluttering and the freedom it gives us to have less stuff.
I love the vulnerable moment. June Cleaver doesn't live in my house either. It's a good reminder that real people live beyond their channels.
Great job you did for your friend!
So true! Thank you!🥰
You rocked that girl..I enjoy watching I call you n Barbie n Matt themagical dream team cleaners on TH-cam y'all rock..I hope y'all Kan get 2 gether again keep doing you cause I'm watching Newark NJ!!!
Thank you so much!! I hope we do another collaboration as well. It was so much fun!
Ooooh I'm so happy you are in contact with Mira! She is such a nice and genuine person!
Great job helping a friend in need. I need a friend like you. You are priceless! ... Glenda
Glenda -- that's the perfect way to describe Bonnie's friendship -- PRICELESS! 💛
so basically all your décor is from Tisha!! LOL what an awesome friend
Yeah, she's pretty great! I'm terrible at making time to go buy anything to decorate my house with, so she keeps my house up to date.. haha! However, I have told her she needs to cut back because I definitely don't want her stressing about gifts when she has so many other things that going on right now.😊
Your friend is so talented!😊And you are wonderful!🤗🌹
Thank you so much 🤗
I love your channel. Doesn't matter what you look like. I like the fact that you are so genuine. Real. I love your longer videos.
I'm exhausted watching you do this. You're a good friend!!
IKR!?! 😀
I've been watching Mira too!!! She's been doing AMAZING! I'm so proud of her and her getting at it on her own.
I thoroughly enjoyed this video ! You are so kindhearted Bonnie!
It is so true -- Bonnie is incredibly kind-hearted! 💛
I wish I had your folding skills! I laughed when you were like oh inside my messy drawer and when you opened it it was super clean and organised lol. Your house is amazing! Your videos are always great! You seem like such a genuinely positive person and I echo what was said in the comments you don't have to prove anything to anyone!!
LOL, yeah, my "messy house" turned out to be not so messy. It does get plenty worse than this, I promise. I need to do a video of my basement right now...yikes!
Thank you, Barbie! This was such a nice video! I love how you put the cardigans in those containers. I need some good suggestions like that.
You are an amazing friend, and a lovely person!
FACT! 💛
This makes me feel so much better about my house. My father was always super particular about keeping the house clean and I'm paranoid that I'm a slob because I can't keep a house to that level. Seeing what normal looks like let's me know I'm not failing. My house isn't quite as clean as yours, but I'm not doing too bad! 😅
I love that your house looks lived it! That’s real life! I have that same thing over my sink to hold sponges and stuff! I would love Tisha! I am also one who enjoy gifting to others! I don’t keep that much on hand, but I will pick little things to have on hand when they are on sale!
Thank you! I actually want to find a replacement for that thing over the sink because it's always falling over and I know there are some great options out there that probably look a little nicer, too, but for now, it does the job.
I admire those who can think ahead and pick out gifts to have on hand. I am not a big shopper, so I am hardly ever in a position to just be browsing for gifts to have on hand.
You and I are total gift-giving soul sisters! 😍
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp LOL that’s funny, that thing also gets in the way of washing pans!
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Love this one and everything you talk bout is so true. Treating others like we want to be treated. 💯🥰💕❤️🥳
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The "Golden Rule." 😀I'm still [patiently] trying to teach my children to understand that concept when it comes to their sibling squabbles. 😉 haha