change is okay. | Mel Joy

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  • @ainsleeschulte6795
    @ainsleeschulte6795 7 ปีที่แล้ว +219

    I think people are confusing the "change" from her old videos for a new found confidence.

  • @hannahregin8887
    @hannahregin8887 7 ปีที่แล้ว +73

    I hate how so many people confuse change with growth. We all change as we get older, it's a natural human thing to do.

  • @emilyb4019
    @emilyb4019 7 ปีที่แล้ว +277

    "changing isn't a bad thing, it never was." -shawn mendes

    • @capriay6456
      @capriay6456 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Emily b SHAWNN 💗😩

    • @jaylaalle5827
      @jaylaalle5827 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Emily b awhh i love shawn

    • @esmeraldaalejos
      @esmeraldaalejos 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Emily b Shawnie :')

    • @bellaverhoestra3386
      @bellaverhoestra3386 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      YESS SHAWNNN❤️❤️❤️

    • @lyviajuarez1315
      @lyviajuarez1315 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Emily B yes yes yes yes I thought of it too ahhhhhhh God bless Shawn

  • @BirdPlan
    @BirdPlan 7 ปีที่แล้ว +125

    This is something that needs to be said and maybe it wont mean shit to anyone or maybe it will help just one girl change her ways. I don't have all the answers to life but what I do know is that growing up with sisters, allowed me at an early age to understand and appreciate the female struggle. I have the up most respect for girls simply because I don't know where you find the strength to deal with the pressure of always having someone judge or scrutinize your every move. You would think being a girl that you would understand how the smallest insult can ruin your self-esteem and have a lasting effect. I know that as a guy, if I tell a girl she's pretty, she won't believe me, but if I tell a girl that she's ugly, she'll remember it forever. I worry about having a daughter so much that it makes me almost scared to have kids, I don't want my little girl to ever experience what it's like having 1000's of girls that have never even met her, leave her hate comments telling her to kill herself and calling her nasty names like slut, whore, trashy, skank, fat, stupid, loser, bimbo, tramp, fake, cow, disgusting, ratchet, cunt, bitch. I would rather go through life and not experience fatherhood than to bring a little girl in this world just so people can beat the self-esteem right out of her.It's such a turn off when we see a girl writing hurtful/hateful comments to another girl. It makes no fucking sense, it makes you look jealous and desperate. Look at it from my perspective, If someone asked you "Do you find a negative hateful guy attractive?" Pretty obvious answer right? Well We don't find it attractive when you girls do it either and despite what you've been told or made to believe, the truth is looks aren't as important to us as you girls think they are. We will take a solid 5 that's a sweetheart over a girl that's a 10 but a Bitch any day. Any guy that tells you differently is just trying to smash and I bible that. Remember that what you say about Mel says more about you than it does about her. That's just keepin it 100

    • @taylor-ow4cr
      @taylor-ow4cr 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You're a great person. We need more people like you

    • @olympiamae8978
      @olympiamae8978 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      thank you, i 100% agree, and i hope that girls who hate on others have read this and hopefully changed their ways. I don't even know you, but i have the most respect for you and what you have written here, so thank you.

    • @jadarosaline5899
      @jadarosaline5899 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Bird Plan INSPIRATIONAL! ❤️ much respect to you!

    • @splashythenarwhalaj534
      @splashythenarwhalaj534 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      holy crud that just spoke to me sosososo much. like i got a boyfriend who was my friends friend. my friend is gorgeous, i just kept thinking why me not her, and he said that she's gorgeous. and for a second i was hurt. but then he said but your drop dead beautiful gorgeous and nice

    • @nicolejawcson1822
      @nicolejawcson1822 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Bird Plan inspirational!
      😀😀😀😀

  • @MelJoy
    @MelJoy  7 ปีที่แล้ว +1381

    i will forever love you guys & will always be so grateful for having you guys in my life. thank you for everything babes.

    • @daniii2285
      @daniii2285 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Mel Joy ❤️

    • @nikalatkovic
      @nikalatkovic 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I love you so much and I support you 100%

    • @Haaaaaa46
      @Haaaaaa46 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Mel Joy its okeyyy head up girly❤️

    • @TheAmbermoo
      @TheAmbermoo 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Mel Joy so glad you have opened up on this it’s a hard thing to do sometimes, i love you💕

    • @harleighmarylou6130
      @harleighmarylou6130 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Mel Joy I love you bunches

  • @kovacseniko396
    @kovacseniko396 7 ปีที่แล้ว +269

    'changing isn't a bad thing and never was, but the end of the day, you are the same person'💕

    • @julialouise969
      @julialouise969 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Kovács Enikő Shawn Mendes girrrllll 😍😍😂😂😂

    • @kovacseniko396
      @kovacseniko396 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Julia Louise yeeees gaaal hahaha💕

    • @julialouise969
      @julialouise969 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      ' and where your heart is. It doesn't change.'

    • @capriay6456
      @capriay6456 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Kovács Enikő shawnnnn

    • @sarahc4584
      @sarahc4584 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      SHAWNNNNNN!

  • @johanna6611
    @johanna6611 7 ปีที่แล้ว +287

    Don't EVER say that again. "I hope I am good enough for you". This is you. You are perfect the way you are. I know that it's easy to say but you shouldn't even care if someone likes "this" you. Well like I said that's just you and that's perfectly fine. I love you for who you are ❤️

  • @okay_kelly_8743
    @okay_kelly_8743 7 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    This has explained how ive been feeling and no one understands i even thought about suicide but this video has helped me so much and ilysm your so amazing

  • @peytonclapperton8833
    @peytonclapperton8833 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1057

    I've been watching you for two years now and I can guarantee that you have grown. Not changed. You are still loving, happy and mature and that's what's important. Positive growth is so important, seeing you grow and mature has been incredible. You can change physically but your heart and love for your subscribers has remained the same xx Ily ily ily ily!!!!!!!

    • @briannat1486
      @briannat1486 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Peyton Clapperton YES

    • @alidanielle4016
      @alidanielle4016 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Peyton Clapperton Mel needs to read this

    • @jordanspeck5014
      @jordanspeck5014 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Peyton Clapperton YES

    • @sarahdarden1222
      @sarahdarden1222 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      YES i hope mel reads this

    • @alyssajoya
      @alyssajoya 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Peyton Clapperton couldn't have said it any better ❤️

  • @staceelleonard
    @staceelleonard 7 ปีที่แล้ว +116

    I don't know how a single person can dislike this video. Mel is SUCH a sweetheart and kind and this video looked so difficult to film and like this subject hurt you so much. You are amazing Mel!!! Don't even worry about the haters, you are growing up on a huge social platform and people don't like to see change. But growing up, you change as a person and it is NORMAL. Love yourself, and forget about those who don't because they're not worth your time girl💕xx

  • @dila5133
    @dila5133 7 ปีที่แล้ว +495

    It's so hard to see someone so loving and caring so frustrated. Mel, you are so right and please remember that we love you for who you are. Stay true to yourself. Such a role model lysm
    💞💞💞

    • @cacitwins
      @cacitwins 7 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      Mel you are so beautiful inside and out and one of the most humble TH-camrs we follow and its breaks our heart that you even had to experience this. Love you girl please keep being you

    • @berlynguminski5442
      @berlynguminski5442 7 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I love you Mel! Your perfect just they way you are!

  • @itsmelennaaa
    @itsmelennaaa 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I was litterally crying through his video. I am so blessed to have someone on TH-cam who spreads so much positivity! I love you from the bottom of my heart! Thank you!

  • @imieholland1055
    @imieholland1055 7 ปีที่แล้ว +521

    i honestly didn't notice "a new Mel" or anything ; you've always been an amazing human being and as subscribers, we've always loved you (and I hope you know that😌)

    • @zharyavickers219
      @zharyavickers219 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Imie Holland same! I didn't notice a difference

  • @EmmaJannsen
    @EmmaJannsen 7 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    Mel, you are the one youtuber I know who could never be described as "superficial" or "spoiled" or anything near a bad personality. You're so sweet and in every single video, you always express how thankful you are for your fans and how you wouldn't be where you are without us. You deserve to be able to change. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to have an awesome range rover. You haven't changed; you've become more confident. And that's something you need to be happy with yourself! And if that took you taking a break from youtube, or dying your hair every 2 days, so be it! You're gorgeous and have an amazing personality. We love you, Mel!!! ❤️

  • @jennadetvay6019
    @jennadetvay6019 7 ปีที่แล้ว +118

    this video couldn't of hit me more. i've never argeed to something more in my life. i've always been the person the pleases others, just so they feel happy. but it does eat you up, and it does tear you down. mel, you're my inspiration. this truly helped me, and i hope you are okay too. i love you. stay strong beautiful girl. you don't deserve the hate.

    • @katystafford2329
      @katystafford2329 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      yes, this relates to me sooo much and you couldn't have said it better

  • @emma.gilliver5013
    @emma.gilliver5013 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Plus I love you Mel. You r an inspiration to me and you always will be. As you grow, we grow with you and I admire change and how you r so open about it and it makes me sad that you feel this way. Keep doing what you r doing and strive over the top of the negativity and focus on what's really important, being true to yourself and the amazing positivity.

  • @user-rf9he1cg9c
    @user-rf9he1cg9c 7 ปีที่แล้ว +158

    Stop. Take a breath. Calm down. We love you. Be who you are. Love yourself. Love always wins over hate.❤️

  • @SaffronBarker
    @SaffronBarker 7 ปีที่แล้ว +532

    Everything you've said through this video I can totally relate! I love this. ❤️

  • @Beautyglamour161
    @Beautyglamour161 7 ปีที่แล้ว +172

    What's so wrong with change ? Do they want you to act like your 8 year old self ? Everyone changes ... change is good. It's part of being human ❤️love you Mel 💗💞💖

  • @melur6322
    @melur6322 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    watching you in such a big pain just broke my heart. Remember that we love you as much as you love us, and we will always be there for you, even through all the "changes" ❤️

  • @LakinMaria
    @LakinMaria 7 ปีที่แล้ว +288

    I hate how everyone makes change seem like this awful thing. I personally feel like change is good and healthy!!

    • @MelJoy
      @MelJoy  7 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      exactly! love you b

  • @desireelynn4251
    @desireelynn4251 7 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    Society forces us, as teens to try to "fit it." I suffered with trying to fit so much growing up. But I have learned that trying to be a person you aren't isn't okay and it won't make you feel better at the end of the day. Mel is some one who helped me realize that. I love her for being so real. She creates videos with love which many TH-cam lack. Love you Mel and thank you so much for all you love you give us back

  • @janellethompson295
    @janellethompson295 7 ปีที่แล้ว +202

    mel you are honestly the most inspirational and down to earth youtuber i watch 💗💗 everyone thinks that your change is a bad thing but what they fail to realize is that change is what made you feel happy and find yourself again, i think that is an amazing thing and i am so proud of you for taking time off to truly discover yourself again and as cheesy as it may sound you are soooo perfect and you don't need to change for anyone!!! God made you for a reason and you are made perfectly in him image :) ilysm mel!!! 💗💗

  • @milajones7005
    @milajones7005 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Mel I've watched you for a long time. You should take breaks if you want, you should post what you want, it's your channel and you should do whatever makes you happy and be yourself. You are beautiful inside and out. You need to ignore the people who hate. They are jealous and they don't understand "change". You are happy and that is what matters. You are still the beautiful person you were and nothing has "changed" besides your happiness and confidence. I still love your videos. You are an amazing person and I enjoy watching your videos because I feel like you really know me and am my friend. I know you will probably never see this but I want you to know that I love you, respect you and will stay loyal. You are a beautiful person and never stop being you, because I believe in you. ❤

    • @milajones7005
      @milajones7005 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      TBH I never noticed a "change"

  • @daniad9543
    @daniad9543 7 ปีที่แล้ว +223

    Mel, if anything, your car video sets an amazing example of how hard work pays off! You are the kindest, most humble and hardworking TH-camr I watch.

    • @daniad9543
      @daniad9543 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ❤️

    • @crystalreynolds8645
      @crystalreynolds8645 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      EXACTLY❤❤

    • @katlynrodriguez9503
      @katlynrodriguez9503 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Totally agree! she has me ready to buy a new car and work hard to reach her goals! she's an inspiration

    • @silvanamen3125
      @silvanamen3125 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Exactly

    • @minibeautybaby33
      @minibeautybaby33 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      it does! its urged me to work harder for my dream car and my dream life!

  • @mariegallagher3905
    @mariegallagher3905 7 ปีที่แล้ว +146

    I've had long hair since as long as I can remember, when I was 12 I cut 11 inches off and donated it, my hair was up to my shoulders and I loved it. I was too scared to do this for so long because I didn't want other people to not like it. When I went to school the next day I got probably 50 compliments, even from some people I have never talked to. I felt really confident and really good until I heard this one girl whisper that I looked terrible with short hair. I came home and just cried because I hated how I looked. I just wanted my long wavy hair back so bad. And then I realized that I let one person get to me and change how I saw myself. It doesn't matter if no one liked it because if I liked it then that's all I need. This is a superficial situation but the lesson is don't let other people's opinions scare you to stay the same. Girl if you want to shave your head, shave it. Mel, if you want to turn your channel into a food channel, change it!! The thing is, when your done with your life, if you only do things because of other people, it's not worth it. The people who love and care about you will be here no matter what

    • @maggals
      @maggals 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Marie Gallagher I love this comment... And your last name #shameless

    • @jordynpetree1655
      @jordynpetree1655 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      amenamenamenamenamen

    • @Stephanie-jv5mf
      @Stephanie-jv5mf 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Maggals YAS HEY FAM :D

    • @taylorboudreaux461
      @taylorboudreaux461 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Oml! That was so powerful...I got all teared up!

  • @lauren_elizabeth5525
    @lauren_elizabeth5525 7 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    seeing you cry literally almost made me cry. I used to not have a role model and i thought i was weird for that but then i realized you are my role model. ilysm, and i hope you realize how wonderful you are. Just don't listen to the hate you don't deserve it.

  • @Justasyou
    @Justasyou 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm not a TH-camr but it's really encouraging to know that someone else knows what I'm going through... my friends accused me of changing when they didn't even know me for a year yet. Yes, my style changed, but I still care about everyone the same. People pressure you to be different or be a certain way but when you do change, people accuse you of becoming a new person. I feel that I treat people better than I did but I didn't changed. Change is good. And sometimes people expose what's wrong with you because they can't handle what's right about you. We all have flaws it's just that some of us change for the better to rid themselves of those flaws and others get offended because they still have flaws that they are holding onto.

  • @marychildress1
    @marychildress1 7 ปีที่แล้ว +136

    When i watch your old videos compared to your new ones i see someone more confident and i see you more happy. There is nothing wrong with finding yourself and being happy. I enjoy your new videos and your old ones. You're working so hard and im very proud of you. Keep up the amazing work and stay happy mel. You inspire me daily. Thank you for being you

  • @ryanelsmith
    @ryanelsmith 7 ปีที่แล้ว +344

    Baby girl you haven't "changed" you've grown I've watched your videos forever. No matter what you do will make me happy. Change is good💞

  • @laurenhyde6141
    @laurenhyde6141 7 ปีที่แล้ว +314

    Girl. To all the hate. Mel is clearly trying to understand where your coming from, bc she cares, showing that she is more down to earth than you think. She wants to understand, I mean she looked through her old videos to try and see where your coming from. Mel took the time to listen and understand you and it should go both way. If you feel like you have the right to comment on someones personality and their life then you should at least listen to their explanation. To Mel, Being you is the most important thing I LOVE YOU! Hugs and Kisses xox

    • @MelJoy
      @MelJoy  7 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      thank you. this means more to me than you know and i love you more b!!

    • @laurenhyde6141
      @laurenhyde6141 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Awwww Mel♡

    • @hanamir5114
      @hanamir5114 7 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Mel Joy you don't have to live up to what anyone else wants you to be ...live up to who you truly are

  • @maggiehildreth8365
    @maggiehildreth8365 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    mel has always been such and inspiration ever since i watched one of her videos. she always inspires me to treat everyone with love and just be an incredibly radiant and positive person. i've never noticed a change that was negative, only positive and every time mel came back stronger. keep being you ;)

  • @smile-ks7un
    @smile-ks7un 7 ปีที่แล้ว +692

    my heart dropped in this video and i don't think it ever came back up. seeing her shake and try to hold back the tears and frustration was heartbreaking. no human being like mel deserves the hate or to feel this way. she is so charismatic and kind. she cares for others more than she cares for herself. she matured and changed because she grew up. #weloveyoumel

  • @selmalovexlove6298
    @selmalovexlove6298 7 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    bro wtf i've never noticed any change whatsoever, i really don't understand why people look for things to hate on. i've loved mel's videos since day one and i will always love her😭😭❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @films139
    @films139 7 ปีที่แล้ว +123

    Thanks for posting this video. It was such an amazing message to put out and spread. I connected to it in so many ways. I used to have awful anxiety and I let it hold me back. And I was this way, for about 5 years. So, the person that people met me as wasn't the person I was. And as I grew up and got older and started to get out of that anxiety and be myself. However, I was held back by everyone I knew. And I don't blame them because they can't be in my head, they don't know what I went through. But they held me back from being who I was. And for about a year I was so incredibly miserable because I wasn't able to be myself. My friends, kids at school, and even my family were telling me who I was and wasn't letting me change into the person I wanted to be. It was easier for them to put me in a box and a shy quiet person, instead of realizing I was actually outgoing and social. After pushing through, not caring, finding myself, and finding people that accepted me as who I actually was i have finally been so incredibly happy. People don't understand that sometimes people change...actually no, people ALWAYS change. And that's okay, and I'm so incredibly happy that u spread that message and that u have found who u are and have changed

    • @MelJoy
      @MelJoy  7 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      so inspirational thank you for sharing this!! stay strong my love always here for u!

    • @ronisapir6030
      @ronisapir6030 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      TS i feel so much like you i hate it

  • @dreamingtolive3714
    @dreamingtolive3714 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    So much damn love for you, Mel. I used to not really like you honestly because I was skeptical on who you were as a person. I've stuck with you though and I'm so happy I did. So much love and support for you girl. I never saw a "change" in you. When you came back to TH-cam, I saw you were happier and that made me feel happy. I wish you didn't care as much for others like you do because sometimes that can just bring you down, like it did. I'm still learning to put myself first and I'm happy you spoke about this, but no matter what you need to be happy for yourself and live for yourself. Love you💜💜💜

  • @hallehamblin5806
    @hallehamblin5806 7 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    for all of you who say she is "changing" think ab how much of a different person you have become too. Mel i have been watching you for almost two years, you have grown so so much as a person, and as someone i look up to. don't do things for anyone else, do things for you. after you came back from your break, i was like wow, she looks great, you were litterally glowing. this "change" is you growing up and finding who you want to be. you are not a bad person, pls don't ever think that. ily mel

  • @alyssamathews03
    @alyssamathews03 7 ปีที่แล้ว +165

    UHH WA--?? This video confused me so much because I never noticed a difference at all!?!? You're still down to earth, kind, goofy, and put other people's feelings first. Seriously, wth changed about your character???? I love you Mel, and hope I can find a friend like you to be with me to infinity and beyond. You have such a beautiful soul, I hope you know that 💙💙💙

    • @kenziepogue9870
      @kenziepogue9870 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Alyssa Mathews RIGHT!! Good for her that she got a new, very nice car! She busted her ass for that.

  • @morganlee5262
    @morganlee5262 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Mel you are beautiful. You have grown and matured but not "changed". You may have changed but not in the way people make change to be, all bad and people think change is to be a totally different person but it's not. You are still the sweet Mel and still the down to earth Mel. You make me feel comfortable in my skin. I love how you are real to us. Some youtubers don't post emotional videos because they don't want their subscribers to see their real side, but guess what that's what make them fake. You are one of the realist youtubers i'm subbed to. You'll always be so special to me and to your real subs. Ilysm girl 💜

  • @stephaniemolina6888
    @stephaniemolina6888 7 ปีที่แล้ว +192

    I checked out the comments on her last video and all of them seem to be something around the fact that she just had a car recently why did she buy a new one or someone saying that they can barely afford a cheap car and she's out here with a 2017 one. Stuff like " people work hard and she's out here making videos sitting down. Because she doesn't spend her life having to struggle doesn't mean she doesn't deserve the things she gets. She has made TH-cam her hobby and job. She makes good money I'm guessing from this; I've been subscribed not that long but from her videos she's such a down to earth person that we should support her. If you're subscribed it's to support her not to bash on her for saving her money and buying a new car. That video was requested and it's her channel. Yea she's changed, maybe even for the better. Don't come for her because it makes you feel better or because you may not have a 2017 Range Rover. Making a TH-cam video takes time and people actually struggle with this sometimes. Not saying it's the hardest job but give her some credit. Who are you to comment on her life and say negative things about her when you don't know her. From what I've seen Mel is so sweet and the mel that took a break to figure herself out most likely was not satisfied with trying to meet some people's expectations. She's changed for the better.

    • @mindsQuill
      @mindsQuill 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      absolutely! i agree with you on the fact that making youtube videos are damn difficult! i am a singer, writer, and linguist and i have been meaning to create TH-cam content but man the amount of time and work and perseverance that go behind a two minute audio file is fucking incredible! and i could not stick to it because i couldn't do it. i dont know why people dont give enough credit to people who are creative. hell it doesn't require hardcore physical activity but it does require a fucking load of mental activity and dedication!

    • @Baby_lindseyy
      @Baby_lindseyy 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Stephanie Molina 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 preach

  • @katianaata4880
    @katianaata4880 7 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    Mel:
    ily, ily, ily, ily ily, ily, ily, ily... WE LOVE YOU!!! Yes, absolutely change is more then okay. Change is what helped you find yourself. You don't have to change for anyone but yourself. The fact that you were willing to give us an explanation, when you did NOT owe us one, proves to everyone that you are a very loving and caring person towards your subscribers. Your true loyal supporters will always have your back and accept you no matter how much you change. Also, as you are changing, your subscribers are changing as well. We are growing up, just like you. So we should all grow together as one big loving family. Always be yourself and change as much as you need to. Thank you for being such an inspiration to me and many other people. ILYSM

  • @mrnris7
    @mrnris7 7 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    You don't have to prove it Mel. We, all the loyal fans , your friends & your family know how great you are. There will always be haters but there IS MORE people who loves you. ❤️

  • @jacelynho
    @jacelynho 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    honestly you are so amazing and so inspiring and it broke my heart to hear you talk so much about being affected and confused about who you are. and it actually is relatable and people do need to realise that yes you're a youtuber and have an online personality and whatnot but at the bottom of it, you're still a human just like everyone else. i just really want you to stay the amazing and beautiful you, it will take time to adjust your mindset to NOT please other people but i know you can do it i love you so much xx

  • @csmmurphy425
    @csmmurphy425 7 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    Mel, I really want to hug you. I love you, don't worry about feeling validated by people who hate you. You can't please everyone, you're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't so you might as well just do whatever you want :) FYI, that Range Rover car tour was LIT AF and it was fun to watch don't worry about people who hate you, okay I mean that. You make my heart happy.

  • @lolopie7501
    @lolopie7501 7 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    I'm sure a lot of the hate comments are from jealous people. I'm going to be honest, at first I didn't like you. Why? I didn't exactly know at the time. Then I realized with time that it was because I WAS JEALOUS and STILL AM. You're so positive, gorgeous, and uplifting. All qualities I lack and wish for myself. Now, I have self control so I never commented hate comments as I don't find them necessary, but a lot of people don't have self control over their jealousy. Please realize that most of the hate comments are from jealousy. If I haven't mentioned yet, I absolutely ADORE you now and appreciate you as a person. Love you!!

  • @hannahblairbaer
    @hannahblairbaer 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1062

    ily girl u know whats up ur so strong. love always wins over the hate n u gotta lotta luv 💙

    • @13carat65
      @13carat65 7 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Hannah Blair both of your personalities are so similar! you guys should collab! xx

    • @zahreah
      @zahreah 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Hannah Blair love this darkness can't drive out darkness only love can do that

    • @user-rf9he1cg9c
      @user-rf9he1cg9c 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hannah Blair YES HANNAH❤️

    • @carmenalvarezsueiro4354
      @carmenalvarezsueiro4354 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Being Elliszahreah 😍😍👏🏾

    • @wadeeaalghareeb997
      @wadeeaalghareeb997 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Two of my faveeeees💙💙

  • @hildabeltran8013
    @hildabeltran8013 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Change has had such an impact on my life that it's gonna be my first tattoo is just the word change. Change can seem bad but what most people don't see it that it can also be good.... in fact great. I wouldn't be the same person today without the change that occurred in my life. Your so inspirational and I love ur videos. They help me get through my hard times in my life. Don't let the h8rs get u down. 💕💕💕💕💕💕

  • @kourtneycox3784
    @kourtneycox3784 7 ปีที่แล้ว +183

    It's ok Mel change is something a lot of us don't like but at the end of it it made us and you a better person ❤️❤️

    • @MelJoy
      @MelJoy  7 ปีที่แล้ว +55

      so sweet. thank you so much love

    • @kourtneycox3784
      @kourtneycox3784 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Mel Joy no thx u You have helped me as well in so many situations so np but You are the one who should be receiving the thank u ❤️❤️

  • @Sommaa
    @Sommaa 7 ปีที่แล้ว +109

    girl don't worry about the hate. people grow in and out of each others life and there's nothing wrong with that, just ignore them and be happy being yourself 😌

  • @mackinliecourington1041
    @mackinliecourington1041 7 ปีที่แล้ว +82

    You can't please everyone, ESPECIALLY when it comes to the internet. I can only speak for myself but you've never disappointed when it comes to your content or your personality. You're one of my favorites to watch because I can tell how much you care. And I hope you continue to grow and develop because first of all it's normal and secondly you deserve to have the freedom to express yourself however you want through this platform, without any fear of judgment. Screw the haters, lots of love Mel 💕

  • @allisonsteingrabe1
    @allisonsteingrabe1 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    hey mel! i just wanted to let you know that the person you are right now is BEAUTIFUL!!!!! not so much your looks but your goals and your ideas about your social media platforms. i have been subscribed to you since you had 8,000 subscribers and the amazing person you have become has inspired me to find who my true self is and you've shown me how to live for myself and not follow the expectations society puts on us! thank you so much for being you!!!!❤️❤️❤️

  • @jjjbabies
    @jjjbabies 7 ปีที่แล้ว +126

    For the record I liked the car tour it was funny and different. Just be you girl lol you do you

  • @Alexis-hh8gr
    @Alexis-hh8gr 7 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    No matter how many times you change, I will still love you more and more every day. You are an amazing role model❤️

  • @arianacicc5280
    @arianacicc5280 7 ปีที่แล้ว +70

    You may have change on the outside(clothing, hair, etc.) but on the inside you are the same, you are sweet and funny and I love that you aren't afraid to show who you really are, it's honestly annoying that people can't be happy for you because you are amazing. Ilysm and please don't let anyone take you down, this made me cry , I felt so bad. Just be you girl and just continue to be yourself.💓💓💓💓😘😘😘 no hate, my opinion

  • @angelinabenner7942
    @angelinabenner7942 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    mel i seriously love you so much. don't ever apologize for changing or bettering yourself. i love you, my beautiful best friend

  • @noorin6373
    @noorin6373 7 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    Omg mel don't cry I love you so much, you changed my life. I really hated this world and had a lot of anxiety, but watching your videos healed my anxieties and my insecurities. So THANK YOU SO MUCH. Love you 😘

  • @kelciesimpson5386
    @kelciesimpson5386 7 ปีที่แล้ว +84

    if you want to drop $3000 on a bag DO IT if you want to buy a new car DO IT!! mel look at how far you have come as a person and an entertainer. you're amazing and we love and support you. you have worked hard for this so do what makes you happy thats the most important thing

    • @emma.gilliver5013
      @emma.gilliver5013 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      kelcie simpson Totally agree, well said too. Very inspirational

  • @katehernandez8225
    @katehernandez8225 7 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    Mel we always love you no matter what! You're an amazing hardworking person. You care about us so much and make these fantastic videos we all love! Don't listen to what some people have to say about you, because you know what they are wrong. Your saying that your changing, but to me your changing in a good way and not a bad way. When people grow up and start changing they learn new things because that's life.And Mel just know by the end of the day your the same person with this big heart, caring after one another and staying true to yourself❤️ the Mel from the beginning and the Mel now is the Mel we've always loved and will never stop loving and appreciating you. We appreciate you for posting this video and letting out your feelings and mainly being comfortable with us. Love you with all my heart Mel💗💗😘😘

  • @bizzarofamily3665
    @bizzarofamily3665 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    My friends keep saying "I've changed" and they "miss the old me" ...... for me as a person this helped me so much that someone is going through the same thing I am!

  • @ashnashah7123
    @ashnashah7123 7 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    i just wanted to say that i agree with what you said: we're constantly changing. and i'm proud of everything you've done. i'm so happy for everything you've accomplished and i just love you with my entire heart. you've changed me for the better and you saved me. you made me find a reason to live & you made me happy. point is: you've changed so many people's lives for the good and you should be proud of yourself. because you're a beautiful and an amazing and kindhearted person. you spread nothing but love & positivity and you're the best role model anyone could ever ask for. i'm so glad you're my idol and i don't know what i would do without you in my life. i love you so much.

  • @Lizbethcolinn
    @Lizbethcolinn 7 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    Yeah I get what people are saying by you "changed" like you are somewhat different but I think it's a good change. You were you back then but I think you weren't 100% you. You didn't really know yourself. After your break you found yourself. Your still the old Mel. Your just MORE you. You are 100% Mel. I'm glad you "changed" because your happier. You know who you are and I'm glad. Keep doing you! You're real and loyal supporters will stay and will understand and will be here no matter what. I love you Mel and I hope this makes sense. Love you ❤️❤️

  • @jazzmariepascual6944
    @jazzmariepascual6944 7 ปีที่แล้ว +123

    Why does it matter to some people if you've "changed"? You're a teenager and these years are meant for change and finding who we really are and people should be able to accept you as who you are.

  • @AmandaSmith-pp7rk
    @AmandaSmith-pp7rk 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    if its one thing that I've noticed its how strong you have become. I took this video straight to my heart. I've dealt with change even though I'm only 15 years old but I've learned a lot. I'm proud that you reached a high level of confidence and you're comfortable being yourself. You are so beautiful inside and out. If anyone says anything but nice to you, they are simply trying to bring someone who has a better outlook on life down. I've never watched a more touching, loving, and chill developing video. I thank you for your words and I thank you for YOU.

  • @katherineagudelo-marin5690
    @katherineagudelo-marin5690 7 ปีที่แล้ว +73

    Mel I'm so happy u told us about this, I'm changing too and u don't have to worry about the haters cuz haters got to hate and you're such a awesome, amazing , wonderful, beautiful person so be you always and that's the best thing u could give us ILYSFM so just be you because that's who u are❤️😘

  • @abbyrasmussen4
    @abbyrasmussen4 7 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    When Mel started crying I started crying, Mel I love you so much!!💕💕

  • @millie2031
    @millie2031 7 ปีที่แล้ว +110

    Everybody changes and it is good, Mel you be you cause you are a beautiful person inside and out 💗💗

    • @katwieczorek5592
      @katwieczorek5592 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      friends, let's get as many likes as possible for these positive comments so Mel sees the LOVE

  • @oliviakramer1190
    @oliviakramer1190 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Aww Mel. You haven't changed in a bad way!! I've been watching you for awhile now and I absolutely LOVE how you've grown, but I don't think you have changed in a bad way!! I hope you're never ashamed to be yourself around me. You being yourself is 110% good enough for me!! You make me so happy and I'm sorry that you got hurt. I support you and love you so much. I'll be by your side forever. Whatever makes YOU happy makes ME happy. Yourself is the best you. And I love you. xoxo. 💗

  • @ericamarie5129
    @ericamarie5129 7 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    ilysm mel and you're the most beautiful and humble person i've ever seen. please keep being you because it will always be enough❤️

  • @SincerelyAlexandra
    @SincerelyAlexandra 7 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    Mel is pure💗 and change is essential in a human's growth. You cant be physically 20 years old and mentally 3 years old. (Excluding any disorder) so, i find it really dumb when they say "oh i miss the old you". You are never the same person you were yesterday. Even if you don't see the change. You aren't.
    -
    And Mel, i feel you. I always put everyone before me. Opinions and everything. And thanks to that I've been stomped many times. But i am changing and becoming stronger. Mel you are not alone💗 we are your family. We are here for you.

  • @juliakennedy5353
    @juliakennedy5353 7 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    So many people hate change because they feel like there loosing and falling behind and there insecure themselves. I'm was a freshman and that's how I felt when all my other friends started to "change" and I hated it but by the end of freshman year they came out stronger and I know you will too. I know hate can get to people I mean it can get to anyone but you are so strong and the old and new subscribers will be with you the whole way no matter who be hating cause your such a great role model. Ily 💕

    • @juliakennedy5353
      @juliakennedy5353 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Also can you pleaseeeeeee do a room tour I've legit been waiting since you started TH-cam 😂

  • @amandawahl2386
    @amandawahl2386 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are literally my role model!!! I love you so much!! Don't let people hurt you and put you down!! You are beautiful inside and out!! I literally adore your personality!! Love you Mel!!

  • @kayla-hs3hs
    @kayla-hs3hs 7 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    DUDE MEL. U MADE ME CRY. WHAT YOU SAID REALLY HIT ME. DONT LISTEN TO THOSE HATERS. CUZ THEY DONT KNOW WHAT THE HELL THEY SAYING. SOMETIMES PEOPLE DONT UNDERSTAND THAT WHAT THEY SAY CAN IMPACT ON A PERSON. AND THE ONLY CHANGE I NOTICED WAS THAT YOU GOT PRETTIER. I LOVE YOU MEL AND I DONT WANT YOU TO FEEL BAD. HEAD UP BBG💗

  • @elizadent9066
    @elizadent9066 7 ปีที่แล้ว +127

    You're an absolute inspiration!! I love you Mel and I hope you continue to find yourself. Everyone is constantly changing and just because your life is on social media doesn't mean you have to please everyone. LOVE LOVE LOVE #lovemel

  • @jonpon22
    @jonpon22 7 ปีที่แล้ว +137

    this video shouldn't have had to happen...change/growth is a normal thing...especially as a teen when you're trying to find who you are

    • @gracez9113
      @gracez9113 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Jonathan yes and the sad thing is she still needed to address it to the people who have been criticizing her >:( luv ya mel

  • @TazzyBear2267
    @TazzyBear2267 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    I think this proves that you're real and down to earth. I love you Mel! You have the cutest and brightest personality and it's super unique. And I'm a recent subscriber within the past month! That's what drew me into you was your personality. Can't wait for your future videos!

  • @vivianrose9915
    @vivianrose9915 7 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    change is okay 💗 i love you and every version of yourself because you will always be mel 💗 embrace your change, because in the end you're changing to be yourself. to find yourself. it's only the way to happiness 💗 discover and be yourself, because you will always be our mel. beautiful loving mel. i love you 💗 please put this on your snap so i know you saw this because you need to know it 💗💗💗💗💗💗

  • @carlyjean6146
    @carlyjean6146 7 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Mel, we love you. You're an amazing person and change is for the better!! Please dont let this get you down

  • @livwalters5125
    @livwalters5125 7 ปีที่แล้ว +94

    I'm sorry you had to film this. You're so strong mel and you seriously continue to inspire me everyday. Keep going girl 💛

  • @HaileySani
    @HaileySani 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    you are so genuine and down to earth and i agree with every single thing you said. love you mel

    • @MelJoy
      @MelJoy  7 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Hailey Sani aw thank you girl it means soo much. love you❤️

  • @semaaltawam6128
    @semaaltawam6128 7 ปีที่แล้ว +103

    This video needs to become viral bc people need to hear you out bc you have so much to say that tons of people can relate to and I love it

  • @kaitlinkeane2800
    @kaitlinkeane2800 7 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    Mel, i love you to the moon and back I can not explain how much you have impacted my life. You changed so gracefully and beautifully words can not describe it. I am crying rn bc I am lost and I hope to me like you when I'm older i love you mel

    • @MelJoy
      @MelJoy  7 ปีที่แล้ว +50

      this means so much to me. thank you so much & i promise you will find yourself & learn to love yourself for it

    • @kaitlinkeane2800
      @kaitlinkeane2800 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Mel Joy thank you I really needed that

  • @talyakapach6528
    @talyakapach6528 7 ปีที่แล้ว +82

    YOU ARE THE BEST! you always thanking us,now it's our turn to thank you. You are amazing,THANK YOU for giving me and not just me a better looking at myself and understanding. TANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING ❤️. (Btw: I'm sorry if my English is bad lol).

  • @nat2570
    @nat2570 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    change is okay, you're just branching out to all the different things you like, trying to find who you are and who you want to be, you're the same mel as always to me, be proud of who you are, you've come so far, don't let them bring you down, mel, your true fans love you so much ❤️

  • @ceci2984
    @ceci2984 7 ปีที่แล้ว +259

    Haters are our motivators, Mel stay strong.

    • @jennifer4312
      @jennifer4312 7 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      I totally agree with you

  • @taylorsmall9546
    @taylorsmall9546 7 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    dear Mel, i have absolutely adored your videos from the very beginning and i don't think that will ever stop , you are a human being , not some robot that we get to control. you have a beautiful soul, heart, and mind. anyone who tells you different is either jealous of you, wants to be you, or even just likes making people feel like shit bc they have nothing else better to do. you shouldn't have to apologize for being yourself, everyone should be apologizing to you for even mentioning "change". if the world never changed we would never get anywhere in this life, change means evolving, and us humans would never be where we are right now if we never evolved. and no matter what, you'll always have a light that shines everywhere you go that lights everyone up who ever comes in contact with it. you are one of the very rare good souls in this world and you need to know that. i love you M, Stay Strong.

  • @EmmaRomano15
    @EmmaRomano15 7 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    the sweetest, most down to earth person i have ever met. and to all the people saying shes not, thats fine.you have your own opinion. but i'm here to back up mel, and tell you how GENUINE she is! she goes out of her way to make people happy. she doesnt think of us as "subscribers" and "fans". she thinks of us as her best friends. she will ALWAYS do everything she can to make peoples day, week, year. and i will forever back her up on that. i love you

    • @MelJoy
      @MelJoy  7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      aw babe thank you for this i love you soo much

    • @EmmaRomano15
      @EmmaRomano15 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Mel Joy i love you more bb. thank you for everything. i can't even say it enough.

    • @llohi3920
      @llohi3920 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Emma Romano u are so right this video made me want to cry because people are so cruel and rude. who cares about if she's changed or not this is her channel not theirs why would anyone hurt Mel? She's literally my favorite TH-camr

  • @alexisworkman954
    @alexisworkman954 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Mel, you are so right. People need to grow and change, that's a part of life. I haven't really noticed you "changing" because you're still you, you're still Mel. I'm so proud of you❤️

  • @jessicahile5378
    @jessicahile5378 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    When Mel says thank you to the loyal subscribers, I get this heart wrenching feeling as if she is literally talking to me. Love you mel x

  • @kassiedz
    @kassiedz 7 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    THIS IS BREAKING MY HEART MEL I LOVE YOU IM HERE FOR YOU

  • @igcdxx9870
    @igcdxx9870 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    She is honestly so pretty so sweet and so loving..she really appreciates what she has and I really respect that.💕

  • @gwyndowney1803
    @gwyndowney1803 7 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Mel, you are an amazing, strong, inspiring young girl who has done so much for yourself and for all the people around you. Of course mean comments and rude thoughts of haters are going to get to you, they get to everybody at some point in time. Change is not bad, whereas it's the growth of a person throughout their own life. My dad always tells me, "you can't please everyone" and "sometimes the best thing to do is to put yourself first"- not because you matter more than anyone else, but because sometimes you are the only one who can motivate yourself in positive ways. I love you Mel, and so many others do too.

  • @sandraaubin815
    @sandraaubin815 7 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    Mel, you are so beautiful, and I feel like it took you so much courage to talk about this topic and I respect you so much for that. I couldn't even image how hard this must be for you, and I've been watching you since 263k and I personally didn't think you "changed". I understand that you put your heart and soul into this youtube channel, which you did MEL and want to do the best that you can do. But don't live up to people's expectations, and don't ever feel like you ever have to live up to this "person" ppl proclaim you should be, no one in this world is a "perfect role model" if people can't except you for who you are than F it because there's a lot of people who do. ILYSM

  • @daisymaddisonx7511
    @daisymaddisonx7511 7 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Mel I honestly don't personally know you and probably never will but when I say this I mean it DO NOT EVER CHANGE FOR SOMEONE ELSE we all love you and if some people don't then cool why are you here if you don't like her because saying that she needs to change is ridiculous if your saying that then YOU need to change because she is amazing and sweet and kind and I love her for it so don't say ANYTHING to her unless you like her. She could she her hair blue shave it and I would still love her so mel don't EVER EVER EVER change. Because we love you and even if everyone else stops loving I'll still love you because you are you ❤❤

  • @amayaburton380
    @amayaburton380 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    mel we love you and support you no matter what, change is okay and i'm happy you have changed into this more happier version of you

  • @The13JMN
    @The13JMN 7 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    Stay strong mel! You're an amazing person and dont let anyone else let you think or change that. Try to stay positive and let yourself be free and if no one likes who you are, screw them, because you are you and thats all that matters in life. Stay you and stay strong.
    Love you xox

    • @MelJoy
      @MelJoy  7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      thank you for this love it means soo much. i love you

  • @charmaine.caswell
    @charmaine.caswell 7 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Mel this is so personal to you, the appreciation I have watching you is unreal. For you to put on a brave face and express what your feeling is honestly amazing❤️ you have such an amazing personality, people will love and hate but stay truthful to yourself x
    Lots of love Charmaine x

  • @kendrabaker5990
    @kendrabaker5990 7 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    i'm about to rant hardcore just so ya know;) :::
    ily mel, everyone changes, you're just growing up. if you pay attention to negativity then that's just a piece of happiness waisted, you're so amazing and i can tell that you're such a genuine person.
    and please, you do not have to explain yourself for your car video! cars are obviously something that makes you very happy so embrace it! you payed for it with your money that you earned. hate sucks and everyone's gonna get some at one point but you gotta fight through it and be who you are! don't apologize for being you. and that goes to everyone reading this, not just mel. so if you're reading this somewhere at sometime in this world, make today a great day, live it up. bc you're awesome, even if you haven't found that out yet;). have a good day y'all. keep smilin'

  • @breburgess1780
    @breburgess1780 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    mel i love you and i know there are going to be people that try to put you down but that shouldn't effect you, you're perfect the way you are people change, people grow, it happens there's no way you can stop that and you shouldn't want to because you're still the same person you have always been you're just growing up. don't let anyone put you down bby ❤️ i'll always be here for you and support you💖💖

  • @flaviewana6555
    @flaviewana6555 7 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    mel, I subscrided to your channel a long time ago and I still am. I wanted you to know that you're perfect just the way you are, you've grown, yep and it's NORMAL ! everybody changes, it's an human thing.. you deserve to be happy, if you want to change your hair every week, do it ! do what you like, and ignore these "people" who tell you like "oh she's superficial, she has changed blabla.." I think you deserve to be loved, to earn money bc you work so hard to make us happy !
    love u mel ♡

  • @madell8552
    @madell8552 7 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    Before you comment something not kind or "constructive" just remember that we are all human and think about how Mel/someone would feel if they/ her read that!

    • @melodysun6031
      @melodysun6031 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Madison Wheat Constructive criticism is not supposed to be kind. It is supposed to be suggestions to improve the overall quality of her content or personality. To provide constructive criticism means there is something wrong. It just may be me, but if someone were to criticise how I act, I would be appreciative for the suggestion(s).