I really want to share this video with my husband , bcz i always want respect from him , and don’t want to get humiliated in public 😩🥺, but i know , if i ll share this with him , he ll fight with me for next couple of months , he actually consult every small detail with her mother , and her mother is truly home breaker, she doesn’t blv in respecting spouse , my father in law spent miserable life, and died in misery last year, and never got spec of respect from his wife, Alas may his poor soul rest in peace, he was most innocent man i ever met
Same here but not with mother big elder sister. Trust on Allah pray for hadyiah YA LATEEFU YA WADOODU. respect is more important than love actually after few years in front of kids we realize this most.vise versa Husband also need respect. But man grown up in our society what he knows about respect from woman he wants every thing from woman kids.work 24/7 just like a perfect maid love and romance in typical bollywood style In simple words they just want every single sacrifice compromise from wife but why they dont happy .
I also agree, i m also sailing on d same boat, I hv given too much of respect to my husbnd , dat now he thinks he is worthy, n thinks i m not respectable enough N I always wants to share videos like des to him, but deep down I kno He ll see it asa fuel to d 🔥 in saying all d bullshit things N Splly for being a women who is wasting tym at home not earning as he do
What a mind-opening and progressive perspective he has given. But the fact is that men in our society deliberately keep their wives away from developing and involving in a bigger loop because they feel insecure. Our men feel insecure of a strong independent woman because they see this as a threat to their authority in homes. They get scared that if a woman will become independent, she is gonna make her own decisions and this threatens them. It sounds judgemental but this is what I have noted in our society. But in reality, if men start supporting their women in achieving higher goals, they can't imagine what change this may bring. These are all their inner fears and nothing more.
@@farukhshaikh8575 apki baat bhi theek hai but this doesn't apply on every woman. I'm talking about women who want to change their lives and bring change in society
@@zunutube but you bleming to the all men same about men not all men are feel insequre about women's development I want I think my wife shud get knowledgeable confident indipendent she gain respect from me but all efforts are fail getting fail
Listen recent talk of Sahil adeem with girls who studying law jinna university Even there dream is achhi job achha ghar achha Even they don't define what mean by achha Nd You call it they are developing Nopu they chasing material
100% agree with each word, lekin is male oriented society ma ye sikhaya he nhe jata , na girls ko or na he boys ko ,wives kahan neglect ho jati hain no one bothers , mothers sikhati he nhe hain apney beton ko , and having a son makes them proud in a negative way, they start thinking and they r superior to those who have girls . and husbands mock their wives , and every 1 around them enjoys , and mocking one's wife and her family is considered funny , this subject needs attention , and im really happy that some one has raised thia topic , otherwise our molanas start at shohar ki izzat and end at shohar ki izzat , like wife has no muqam , no one is telling husbands that how big responsibility that they have if they have a superior status , making ur wife comfortable at every level is husbands duty , but unfortunately husbands in our society dont think that way bcx no one have ever tell them to .. im thankful to this man who throws light on this topic ... Thank u sir sahil adeem .
@@angelaquarius07 That is so true. A whole new paradigm shifting wave needs to start. Shohron ko bohat izzat mil gai aurat aur khas to pr biwi ki izzat pay koi bat hi nahi hoti. and yes this should come from religious clerics themselves
Respect aur LEHAAZ nahi khatm hona chaiye, love n maturity a jati hey sath sath..I saw many couples saying shut up just in 10 years to each other on face..... how could you
Good question from this man. I am very happy. He asked you. Really appreciate his confidence. He telling about his parents communication gaps.And he asked how to manage my marriage life.
Ma Sha Allah very well said the way u precisely convey your msg to the both genders in the light of the of genuine societal influences on their personal development. The mothers of our nation, really… really need to open their eyes to know the responsibility that they are and will be accountable in front of Allah swt. Unfortunately we have lost the vision and distant ourselves from the ultimate guide ‘The Qur’an’ ! bcoz v r after money and the material ease. It’s a long debate if I come to the Men and their genuine role and responsibilities which has entitled to them. If they really get to know the true meaning of that why Allah swt has given them the prior place upon women in the light of Qur’an! and have a tiny glimpse of the fear of Allah,… no wonder we will get the solutions and could save ourselves from the destruction that we r very close to..
Aaj sabse jyada ek dusre ke haq ko pamal kar rahein hn jab tak apne Deen Islam ko lekar clear intention nhi hoga ek dusre ke haq ka khyal Krna Mumkin nahi hai Kharabi jiske wazah(Deen se duri)se paida ho rhi kash humlog uspe focus karne lage
100% agree with each word, lekin is male oriented society ma ye sikhaya he nhe jata , na girls ko or na he boys ko ,wives kahan neglect ho jati hain no one bothers , mothers sikhati he nhe hain apney beton ko , and having a son makes them proud in a negative way, they start thinking that they r superior to those who have girls . and husbands mock their wives , and every 1 around them enjoys , and mocking one's wife and her family is considered funny , this subject needs attention , and im really happy that some one has raised this topic , otherwise our molanas start at shohar ki izzat and ends at shohar ki izzat , like wife has no muqam , no one is telling husbands that how big responsibility that they have if they have a superior status , making ur wife comfortable at every level is husbands duty , but unfortunately husbands in our society dont think that way bcx no one have ever tell them to .. im thankful to this man who throws light on this topic ... Thank u sir sahil adeem .
U r so right in saying why hubbies think spouses r dumbo less skillful less knowledgeable..true but she’s not exposed to the world..1000 % true give us more training more examples to grome this man
Men in our society spoiled from beginning. Wife is a object for them.They are feeding their wives that's why women need to tolerate all their trauma. They are providing shelter that's why this is their right to abuse women. This is what mostly men's mindset.
BTOTHER SAHIL ADEEM! PLEASE DON'T WORRY .IAM A WOMAN OF HIGH STANDARDS THAT ALLAH HAS GIVEN I KNOW ALHAMDULILLAH. THATS WHY I CAN UNDERSTAND YOU TOTALLY. ACTUALLY, I APPRECIATE YOU IAM 21.
Aapki arrange marriage hui hai agr to aapko fauran biwi se muhabbat nhi hogi mgr as a human aapko uski izzat krni hogi.. Aapki biwi hone se phle woh ek insan bhi hai aur hr insan ko dusre insan ki izzat krna zaruri hai chahe woh usay janta bhi na ho.. Koi ajnabi bhi ho, uski izzat krna bhi aap pe farz hai
can i ask a question from sahil bhai??? sir, me n most of ladies around me are well educated, well behaved, polite, tolerating and almost have good enough qualities, but yet most husbands do not show respect. what is in general, needed to be respected? if respect can be earned, what is the way. of course, not on gun point it can be earned, even if any one in the same household mentions to a husband that you are not respecting your wife, the man takes it into ego, is there a humble and peaceful way to have respect in a husbands heart?? so many compromises and no gain... no reward...nothing . and when it is proven by ahadees or quraan majeed, husbands just runaway saying that don't demand these rights or you will pay the price?? the same disrespectful behaviour retains..
They got married without screening their personality? And didn't discuss parenting, finances, moral values and sexual boundaries? You can't be surprised why there are problems if you find out about your husband/wife AFTER you get married
Respect is earned, it is not given! Most wives are entitled who want money, privileges, rights, respect without bringing anything on the table but "bodies", that doesn't deserve respect.
Possibly the most intelligent comment in this entire discussion. Harsh but true. Look at the female sahaabi or other female Muslims of the past and today's Muslim women, there is no comparison.
@@abcdef1709 according to you Ali RA failed in his resposibility to be the quawam for Fatima RA because in many instances he gave away the money that he had and as a result Fatima RA and the family went hungry. Your definition of quawam means men should provide according to the whim of modern muslim women.
Reality ye hay izat ti door ki bat husbands apni wives kay skills se jealous hotay hotay hain... Muhabaat kertay hain jab tak apni family ki bat na aey jab husband's ki family kay insulting or rude attitude ki complaint ki jaey to Muhabaat bhi khtam ho jati hay... Izzat to doori ki bat apni wives ko jhoota keh kar apni or apni family ki izzat bachatay hain or phir khud ap jasay motivational speakers ki asay lectures (kay jis main mothers or wives ko her masaly ki wajah samjha jatay hay) sun ker sirf apni wives kay negativ points ko highlight kertay hain... Hamari society main her koi woman ko lecture kun deta hay.... Insan hay wo iron man to nahi kitna bardasht karay disrespect, dislike, ignorance hatred and lot of other negative attitudes.... Ir phir society un se expect kerti hay obediant wife goid mother and a happy daughter.. Hiw it could be?
Jo yah sb zulm kerti hain..wo bhi to womens hi hain...why dont u women teach urself....i bet ap ki bhabhi ko bhi yabi shikayat hon gi ap n ap ki mother se....
Our men would never follow what he says. Husband is insecure about making her skillful. Sometimes wife is more knowledgeable while marrying than men then husband would do his best to deteriorate her so then they can make fun of her in front of his family.
Doesn't change the fact that men are the qawwam and decision maker, and women are emotional creatures, it's simple biology, you think you are smart but reality is quite different
As I see it. Love and emotions can be developed later unless both respect each other there is no showing love or affection. Looks kind of animalistic without respect.
Husbands developing the minds of their wives thinking of it as their responsibility was something i always thought i will teach my son because i could always see that they had the power. I see so many women with so great skills but they are so oblivious of their own selves because no one ever guide them or if by any chance they realize they wer suppressed by parents or weren't allowed by their husbands. The very lame thought of we dont need you to earn. I never think they need to earn but if Allah has given them any talent they should at least be allowed to discover it within the boundaries of Islam. Same men wouldn't mind their wives not praying or not caring about other religious stuff. Double standards is eating up so much from our people. Mindsets aurto ne hi banaya hai ye and ab hum aurto ko hi ise theek kerna hai.
RESPECT KE BOHOT SE TYPES HEIN SIR BEWI K LEAY DIFFERENT TYPE OF RESPECT HOTI HY AR AGR APNI AULAAD KE RESPECT NI KRTAY TO WOH BACHA ZINDAGI MEIN KISI KE BHE RESPECT NI KARAY GA!
Assalamu alekum Sahil bhai MERI shadi ko 14 Saal ho gai Hain husband kamaty Nahi Hain Ulta apna kharj bhi muj say let's Hain ice Ka nasha bhi Kerry Hain mujy Marty bhi bhot thy one week say Nahi mara ager main chorny Ka bolun to roty Hain main chorna bhi Nahi Chahti ,. Lekin mental stress ki waja bhi problem ho rahi hai what can I do I don't know
Sister aapko sabr or Isteqamat de Shadqah karein niyat karke iska asar bahot ha mere sath kai bar allah ne behtari ka mamla kya Ek bar mere 🚌 bus ka accident ho gya 2 3 insan ka spot death hua mere aankhon ke samne 7 8 serious or bus puri khoon se bhar gai thi Alhamdulillah mujhe jara v kuch nhi hua me safar pe nikalne se shadqah kiya tha shyd usi ki wazah se allah ne mujhe bacha liya ho kisi injury se
assalaam o alayikum sister.. ap ne khud ko iss azziyat main kyu rakha hua hay? Mard agar apne faraiz pure nahi kar skta tou usko shadi nahi karni chahiye.. Main har giz kisi ko divorce ka advice dene ke haq main nahi hu lekin apki situation main agar apko lagta hay ap inn halaat ko brdasht nahi kar sakteen tou ap ye step utha sakti hain.. ALLAH ko talaaq na pasand hay magar ALLAH ne apni rehmat se bohot mushkil situations ke liye talaaq ka option diya hay insano ko..
Extremist hote aise log, acha banty to lgta in se acha koi nahi jab bura bnte to boht burey, kuch kren ya na kren lactures boht acha dete hain Har issue pe, galti manwana to impossible🙅♂️🙅♂️
Yes u r right coz their is many condition they like that girl before the marriage and when she came in his life he suddenly realized oh u r duffer why the men r so rude especially in Pakistan
Dear you are not alone in this case.... Including me... Countless women are out there... Getting abused so badly... But sacrifice for sake of kids... Dark side of our society
Same here... After decades when we finally demand respect and ask to accept our identity as an individual then we get this title. Men gets scared why wife started asking such questions now
یہ عزت والی بات اکثر سننے کو ملتی ہے میرے نزدیک اگر آپ محبت نہیں کر سکتے تو آپ عزت بھی نہیں کر سکتے اور یہ بات ہو رہی ہے بیوی کے حوالے سے آپ محبت کرتے ہیں تو اس میں امپلائیڈ ہے کہ محبت ہوتی ہی تب ہے جب آپ کسی کی عزت کرتے ہیں لیکن عزت میں یہ قانون نہیں کیونکہ آپ کا اگر کسی بڑے سے جھگڑا ہوتا ہے تو آپ کہتے ہیں دیکھو میں آپ کی عزت کرتا ہوں بہتر ہے عزت کروائیں
Jaisay maa baap apnay bachon ki izat ni kartay isi tarah shohar ko agar 50 percent baap ka role ada karna ha to wo b izzat ni kar Sakta. Agar wo baap k role m ni b ata to king ki feeling lenay k lie us ka itna sochna hi Kafi ha k wo mard ha or us ka aik darja Uper ha is lie aurat ki koi izzat ni. Aurat k pas jitni b skills hon doesn't matter.
Plz request hai kay english main baat na karhain kiu kay samaj nahi aati out 2nd plz baat ko easy our simple words main samjaya karhain,kyu kay Tor maror kr baat karna meri samaj main nahi aati app bohat muskil way main samjaty ho, bohat sari baatain samaj nahi aati
Pakistani shaadiyon mai aurat sirf nursing k leye lai jaati hai or usko ussi jaga rakha jata hai inko ye baat nhi samajh aati k aurat mai emotions ziyada hote aap usko izzat do wo 10 gunnah ziyada aapki care karegi or sometimes i have seen k aurtein husband k ghar walon ki bhi khidmatein kar rhi hoti sirf is leye k mera shohar mujhe bht khush rakhta meri izzat karta but husband ki ego ka kia karen? Jo izzat dene ko tayar nhi wo develop karengy
زیادہ شوہر نہ بیوی کی عزت کرتے ہیں نہ محبت کرتے ہیں نہ قدر کرتے ہیں نہ دوسروں سے کرواتے ہیں
Kiy waja ha
Agree
Yes esy h hai
@@mobeenakhan3630 Nashukrey mard hoty hein aksar
Very true
Ur single word has a lot of meaning, I respect u sir from bottom of my heart
I really want to share this video with my husband , bcz i always want respect from him , and don’t want to get humiliated in public 😩🥺, but i know , if i ll share this with him , he ll fight with me for next couple of months , he actually consult every small detail with her mother , and her mother is truly home breaker, she doesn’t blv in respecting spouse , my father in law spent miserable life, and died in misery last year, and never got spec of respect from his wife, Alas may his poor soul rest in peace, he was most innocent man i ever met
Unko aik hadees sunao Mola Ali ameer ul momineen A.S ki
Farmaya
Wh mard malaoun haai jis ki har tatbeer aik orat k hath may haai
Same here but not with mother big elder sister. Trust on Allah pray for hadyiah YA LATEEFU YA WADOODU.
respect is more important than love actually after few years in front of kids we realize this most.vise versa
Husband also need respect.
But man grown up in our society what he knows about respect from woman he wants every thing from woman kids.work 24/7 just like a perfect maid love and romance in typical bollywood style
In simple words they just want every single sacrifice compromise from wife but why they dont happy .
I also agree, i m also sailing on d same boat,
I hv given too much of respect to my husbnd , dat now he thinks he is worthy, n thinks i m not respectable enough
N I always wants to share videos like des to him, but deep down I kno
He ll see it asa fuel to d 🔥 in saying all d bullshit things
N Splly for being a women who is wasting tym at home not earning as he do
Sister apko apni respect karwani chahiyay. jis tarha apkay marhoom susar sari zindagi apni wife say apni izzat nahin karwa sakay uss tarha apka haal nahin hona chahiyay. husband ki respect beshak lazim hai laikin iska hargiz yeh matlab nahin keh uss respect kay liay wife ko disrespect milay.
@@ghulamdastgeer8483 I am exactly facing this problem.
What a mind-opening and progressive perspective he has given. But the fact is that men in our society deliberately keep their wives away from developing and involving in a bigger loop because they feel insecure. Our men feel insecure of a strong independent woman because they see this as a threat to their authority in homes. They get scared that if a woman will become independent, she is gonna make her own decisions and this threatens them. It sounds judgemental but this is what I have noted in our society. But in reality, if men start supporting their women in achieving higher goals, they can't imagine what change this may bring. These are all their inner fears and nothing more.
Not
Women's don't want to development
Theire focus only on kapade purse sandle and makeups and brand
@@farukhshaikh8575 apki baat bhi theek hai but this doesn't apply on every woman. I'm talking about women who want to change their lives and bring change in society
@@zunutube but you bleming to the all men
same about men not all men are feel insequre about women's development
I want I think my wife shud get knowledgeable confident indipendent she gain respect from me
but all efforts are fail getting fail
@@zunutube she just want to live in her shell only
Listen recent talk of Sahil adeem with girls who studying law jinna university
Even there dream is achhi job achha ghar achha
Even they don't define what mean by achha
Nd You call it they are developing
Nopu they chasing material
My most demanding point.
Thankyou for picking this topic and bringing it up to people
Respect is the first human emotion that goes missing in any relationship and the last one that should ever leave
100% agree with each word, lekin is male oriented society ma ye sikhaya he nhe jata , na girls ko or na he boys ko ,wives kahan neglect ho jati hain no one bothers , mothers sikhati he nhe hain apney beton ko , and having a son makes them proud in a negative way, they start thinking and they r superior to those who have girls .
and husbands mock their wives , and every 1 around them enjoys , and mocking one's wife and her family is considered funny , this subject needs attention , and im really happy that some one has raised thia topic , otherwise our molanas start at shohar ki izzat and end at shohar ki izzat , like wife has no muqam , no one is telling husbands that how big responsibility that they have if they have a superior status , making ur wife comfortable at every level is husbands duty , but unfortunately husbands in our society dont think that way bcx no one have ever tell them to .. im thankful to this man who throws light on this topic ... Thank u sir sahil adeem .
@@angelaquarius07 That is so true. A whole new paradigm shifting wave needs to start. Shohron ko bohat izzat mil gai aurat aur khas to pr biwi ki izzat pay koi bat hi nahi hoti. and yes this should come from religious clerics themselves
Looks like everyone here lives on mars
MA sha Allah bht achi bt ke h chahy wife Ya hubby Ho dono ko ek dusry ko izat muhbt wafa deni chahy 💗💞❤wo insan he kai jo apny humsafar se wafa na kry
ALLAH bless you with good health and long life ustaad Sahil sb. Aameen
Amen sumamen
Ameen
Waaao wot a charismatic personality Sir Sahil Adeem 💗love your lectures.wondeful deep thinker👏
Yes 👍,💯 agree
True its very gracefull
Respect is very important.
شکر ہے کوئی اس پر بھی بولا ہے
Ma Shaa Allah Ma Shaa Allah Bht Duaain Nikal rhi hen Dil sy Aik Drrd sy bhry Dil Sy Dheron Duaain Ap k liy...
Y
So true what you said
Respect aur LEHAAZ nahi khatm hona chaiye, love n maturity a jati hey sath sath..I saw many couples saying shut up just in 10 years to each other on face..... how could you
Mashaallah, Exillent, jazakallah khair sir.
Mashallha Meri Sarkaar Dr Sahil Adeem saab ❤️😘🎤
ماشاء اللہ، very nice.
Sahil sb thnks out of the box
Amazing
ALLAH bless him more. Ameen
Mashallahu Tabarakallah
Alhamdulillah
Subhan Allah
Allahu Akbar kabeera
Ye kia tutul putul xD
Good question from this man. I am very happy. He asked you. Really appreciate his confidence. He telling about his parents communication gaps.And he asked how to manage my marriage life.
Respect na ho tu kuch time bd muhabbat b maar jati h i agree wd u respect far more important than love
Very true......95% right.... women ke respect nahi karta........
sir you are real hero and legend im your big and big fan....
Ma Sha Allah very well said the way u precisely convey your msg to the both genders in the light of the of genuine societal influences on their personal development. The mothers of our nation, really… really need to open their eyes to know the responsibility that they are and will be accountable in front of Allah swt. Unfortunately we have lost the vision and distant ourselves from the ultimate guide ‘The Qur’an’ ! bcoz v r after money and the material ease. It’s a long debate if I come to the Men and their genuine role and responsibilities which has entitled to them. If they really get to know the true meaning of that why Allah swt has given them the prior place upon women in the light of Qur’an! and have a tiny glimpse of the fear of Allah,… no wonder we will get the solutions and could save ourselves from the destruction that we r very close to..
Gr8 concept develop your wife ...be the part or her growth ... embrace her success ... don't b the obstacles of her lyf
Bless you sir jee⚖️
Excellent 👍🏻Explain 🌈
You Rock it 🌍
Thank you so much . You've explained it quite beautifully.
Sahil bhai great Allah Rabul Izat app ko sehat o afiyat wali zindagi dain
Aaj sabse jyada ek dusre ke haq ko pamal kar rahein hn
jab tak apne Deen Islam ko lekar clear intention nhi hoga ek dusre ke haq ka khyal Krna Mumkin nahi hai
Kharabi jiske wazah(Deen se duri)se paida ho rhi kash humlog uspe focus karne lage
Sahil Adeem 👏👏👏
MASHA ALLAH Brother Beautiful Speech
Aoa sir I like ur all videos they are very useful for us
Ezat kry r uxko hr tra ka mehfoz hny ka ehxax dilaye k apny gr waln k alfazn xe un k najaiz hrkatn xe jo haq pr ni h un xe mehfoz kry ..
MashaAllah l really appreciate you looking matters in different perspective thanks sir keep up your work
100% agree with each word, lekin is male oriented society ma ye sikhaya he nhe jata , na girls ko or na he boys ko ,wives kahan neglect ho jati hain no one bothers , mothers sikhati he nhe hain apney beton ko , and having a son makes them proud in a negative way, they start thinking that they r superior to those who have girls .
and husbands mock their wives , and every 1 around them enjoys , and mocking one's wife and her family is considered funny , this subject needs attention , and im really happy that some one has raised this topic , otherwise our molanas start at shohar ki izzat and ends at shohar ki izzat , like wife has no muqam , no one is telling husbands that how big responsibility that they have if they have a superior status , making ur wife comfortable at every level is husbands duty , but unfortunately husbands in our society dont think that way bcx no one have ever tell them to .. im thankful to this man who throws light on this topic ... Thank u sir sahil adeem .
Ma Sha Allah. Stay blessed. Wonderful lecture.
Mery pas to alfaz hi nai aap ka sukria ada karny ka liay Allah pak aap ko sahat o aafiat wali daraz umer naseeb farmay r jaza day
True 💯💓
Gussa dono krskty Hain but disrespect nhe. Dono Mai iktalaf hoskty Hain but in respectful way.
U r so right in saying why hubbies think spouses r dumbo less skillful less knowledgeable..true but she’s not exposed to the world..1000 % true give us more training more examples to grome this man
Majority of hubbies don’t respect their life partners true..who gona train the hubbies
Great ideology brother . Please educate us more about it.
Men in our society spoiled from beginning. Wife is a object for them.They are feeding their wives that's why women need to tolerate all their trauma. They are providing shelter that's why this is their right to abuse women. This is what mostly men's mindset.
Good advices
Great thinking sir
BTOTHER SAHIL ADEEM! PLEASE DON'T WORRY .IAM A WOMAN OF HIGH STANDARDS THAT ALLAH HAS GIVEN I KNOW ALHAMDULILLAH.
THATS WHY I CAN UNDERSTAND YOU TOTALLY.
ACTUALLY, I APPRECIATE YOU
IAM 21.
God bless you 🙏🙏🙏
Very informative
ALLAH pak ap ko jaza dy
Can someone explain what does he mean by the morality curve being disturbed?
Aslam o Alaikum! I want Sahil Adeem’s online lectures, plz notify me plz plz plz!💐
Genius.....where were you b4 .....Sir
Nafrat mard se nahi jurm se krni chahye
Ma is Baat sy bilkul ikhtilaaf kerta hn... muhabat hogi th izzat b hogi...izzat toh ap boss ki bhi kerty hain
nopppp esa zaroori nahi .
Apni baat ka khud he jawab dedia. Muhabbat ka izzat sy koi link nhi
Aapki arrange marriage hui hai agr to aapko fauran biwi se muhabbat nhi hogi mgr as a human aapko uski izzat krni hogi.. Aapki biwi hone se phle woh ek insan bhi hai aur hr insan ko dusre insan ki izzat krna zaruri hai chahe woh usay janta bhi na ho.. Koi ajnabi bhi ho, uski izzat krna bhi aap pe farz hai
Agar dusre awraton main involved hai kia Kiaya jay
Kya kahu jab mard ye soch rakhta ho ke usko har haal mein biwi ke andar aib hi dhoondhne hain to uss jagah izzat nahi milti na to mohobbat
can i ask a question from sahil bhai??? sir, me n most of ladies around me are well educated, well behaved, polite, tolerating and almost have good enough qualities, but yet most husbands do not show respect. what is in general, needed to be respected? if respect can be earned, what is the way. of course, not on gun point it can be earned, even if any one in the same household mentions to a husband that you are not respecting your wife, the man takes it into ego, is there a humble and peaceful way to have respect in a husbands heart?? so many compromises and no gain... no reward...nothing . and when it is proven by ahadees or quraan majeed, husbands just runaway saying that don't demand these rights or you will pay the price?? the same disrespectful behaviour retains..
They got married without screening their personality? And didn't discuss parenting, finances, moral values and sexual boundaries?
You can't be surprised why there are problems if you find out about your husband/wife AFTER you get married
Pehlay Izzat ki definition tou kar dijiyey janab.
Respect is earned, it is not given! Most wives are entitled who want money, privileges, rights, respect without bringing anything on the table but "bodies", that doesn't deserve respect.
Possibly the most intelligent comment in this entire discussion. Harsh but true.
Look at the female sahaabi or other female Muslims of the past and today's Muslim women, there is no comparison.
Agree
Most nonsense comment
Allah has made us quawam for woman so its a responsibility of us to provide them and respect them
@@abcdef1709 according to you Ali RA failed in his resposibility to be the quawam for Fatima RA because in many instances he gave away the money that he had and as a result Fatima RA and the family went hungry. Your definition of quawam means men should provide according to the whim of modern muslim women.
@@abcdef1709 and if you deny him sex, respect, and care, he can stop providing for you too.... Don't forget that
So technique btayein
Thank you. Sir.
Rishty b krvaya krein
Buht saray maslay Saas ke taraf sa...Agar Saal teek hojay tu sab buht kuch teek hojay ga.
Dosra masla aj kay dhor ma begairat shohar.
Hahahaha
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A.o.a sir.main apse contect krna chahti gun.apni married life k issues k salution k liye.can u help me out
Sir ap sy contact kaisy krain ?
So beautifully explained the honour of a Wife❤
How do i contact him for questions??
Reality ye hay izat ti door ki bat husbands apni wives kay skills se jealous hotay hotay hain... Muhabaat kertay hain jab tak apni family ki bat na aey jab husband's ki family kay insulting or rude attitude ki complaint ki jaey to Muhabaat bhi khtam ho jati hay... Izzat to doori ki bat apni wives ko jhoota keh kar apni or apni family ki izzat bachatay hain or phir khud ap jasay motivational speakers ki asay lectures (kay jis main mothers or wives ko her masaly ki wajah samjha jatay hay) sun ker sirf apni wives kay negativ points ko highlight kertay hain...
Hamari society main her koi woman ko lecture kun deta hay.... Insan hay wo iron man to nahi kitna bardasht karay disrespect, dislike, ignorance hatred and lot of other negative attitudes.... Ir phir society un se expect kerti hay obediant wife goid mother and a happy daughter.. Hiw it could be?
Jo yah sb zulm kerti hain..wo bhi to womens hi hain...why dont u women teach urself....i bet ap ki bhabhi ko bhi yabi shikayat hon gi ap n ap ki mother se....
Izzat tb kary jb bv ko bhi insan samjy. apny se kamtar smjta hy to izzat kesy kary.
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Our men would never follow what he says. Husband is insecure about making her skillful. Sometimes wife is more knowledgeable while marrying than men then husband would do his best to deteriorate her so then they can make fun of her in front of his family.
Bilkul sahi
Doesn't change the fact that men are the qawwam and decision maker, and women are emotional creatures, it's simple biology, you think you are smart but reality is quite different
kaise shohar se izzat karwate?
Sir I joined ur what's ap group. How can I get answers of my question s.jazak Allah
Aslam o aloikum Sahil bhai I want to be a part of your question answers discussion kindly let me know how?
Sir mujhe app s baat krni ha mujhe app ko sun k bht acha laga plz mujhe bhi apki help ki zarorat ha
Exactly u favour girl bcz u have daughter I think u secure your children
Nafrat mard se nahi, jurm ya kasoor se honi chahye
Sirf mardo ko bol ke na insafi na karen, muhabbat aur izzat dono taraf se hoti hae to rishta qaim rehta hae.
AAP KO AURAT KA ISLAMIC STATUS KA ANDAZA NHIN HUA abhi
@@AishaAtiqueArar to status sirf aurton ke liye hae. Right? Mard to kafi sare ATM haen
Can u suggested who prefer for girl 4 weding
As I see it.
Love and emotions can be developed later unless both respect each other there is no showing love or affection.
Looks kind of animalistic without respect.
مجھے تو لگتا ہے جیسے جیل میں بند ہوں اور سمجھ نہیں آتا کہ اس سے باہر کیسے نکلوں😢
One request sir plz use Easy language in ur lectures
Assalamo allaikum
Hmri society k akser mard shadi kar k wesy hi hum aurton per Ahsan kartay hain ..bat bat per talaq ki dhamki aur bezariat show kartay h.
Husbands developing the minds of their wives thinking of it as their responsibility was something i always thought i will teach my son because i could always see that they had the power. I see so many women with so great skills but they are so oblivious of their own selves because no one ever guide them or if by any chance they realize they wer suppressed by parents or weren't allowed by their husbands. The very lame thought of we dont need you to earn. I never think they need to earn but if Allah has given them any talent they should at least be allowed to discover it within the boundaries of Islam. Same men wouldn't mind their wives not praying or not caring about other religious stuff. Double standards is eating up so much from our people. Mindsets aurto ne hi banaya hai ye and ab hum aurto ko hi ise theek kerna hai.
RESPECT KE BOHOT SE TYPES HEIN SIR BEWI K LEAY DIFFERENT TYPE OF RESPECT HOTI HY AR AGR APNI AULAAD KE RESPECT NI KRTAY TO WOH BACHA ZINDAGI MEIN KISI KE BHE RESPECT NI KARAY GA!
Assalamu alekum Sahil bhai MERI shadi ko 14 Saal ho gai Hain husband kamaty Nahi Hain Ulta apna kharj bhi muj say let's Hain ice Ka nasha bhi
Kerry Hain mujy Marty bhi bhot thy one week say Nahi mara ager main chorny Ka bolun to roty Hain main chorna bhi Nahi Chahti ,. Lekin mental stress ki waja bhi problem ho rahi hai what can I do I don't know
had haram mard hei, technically to islam mein husband ki zimmedari hei k wo karcha pura kare beshak queen ho.....Allah apki madad kare behen
Allah sa dua karo tahajud parh kay
Teek ho jay ga
Sister aapko sabr or Isteqamat de
Shadqah karein niyat karke iska asar bahot ha mere sath kai bar allah ne behtari ka mamla kya
Ek bar mere 🚌 bus ka accident ho gya 2 3 insan ka spot death hua mere aankhon ke samne 7 8 serious or bus puri khoon se bhar gai thi
Alhamdulillah mujhe jara v kuch nhi hua me safar pe nikalne se shadqah kiya tha shyd usi ki wazah se allah ne mujhe bacha liya ho kisi injury se
assalaam o alayikum sister.. ap ne khud ko iss azziyat main kyu rakha hua hay? Mard agar apne faraiz pure nahi kar skta tou usko shadi nahi karni chahiye..
Main har giz kisi ko divorce ka advice dene ke haq main nahi hu lekin apki situation main agar apko lagta hay ap inn halaat ko brdasht nahi kar sakteen tou ap ye step utha sakti hain.. ALLAH ko talaaq na pasand hay magar ALLAH ne apni rehmat se bohot mushkil situations ke liye talaaq ka option diya hay insano ko..
Extremist hote aise log, acha banty to lgta in se acha koi nahi jab bura bnte to boht burey, kuch kren ya na kren lactures boht acha dete hain Har issue pe, galti manwana to impossible🙅♂️🙅♂️
Jab shohar haqooq poore kar raha ho to bhi biwiyo ko chahiye us ki aur us ke susral ki izzat karen.
Aoa i want to contact u sahil adeem shb
Kash hamaray mard hazrat ye bat samajh lain!!
Yes u r right coz their is many condition they like that girl before the marriage and when she came in his life he suddenly realized oh u r duffer why the men r so rude especially in Pakistan
After 21 years of my married life, I got an amazing tittle by my beloved husband is. "pagal awrat"....
May Allah ease your affairs
Dear you are not alone in this case.... Including me... Countless women are out there... Getting abused so badly... But sacrifice for sake of kids... Dark side of our society
Same here... After decades when we finally demand respect and ask to accept our identity as an individual then we get this title. Men gets scared why wife started asking such questions now
Indian husband s k bare mai apka kya khayal hai sahil saab...wo mohbbat krne wale hai ya izzat dene wale🤔
Both
Both are badtmeez
EVEN PARENTS KO BHE CHAHEAY K APNI BETI KE SHAADI KSI AISAY MARD SY KREIN JIS KA VOLUME OS SY KAFI HUDH TK ZIYADA HO!
Volume mean
Shadii b krvaty hnn app
یہ عزت والی بات اکثر سننے کو ملتی ہے میرے نزدیک اگر آپ محبت نہیں کر سکتے تو آپ عزت بھی نہیں کر سکتے
اور یہ بات ہو رہی ہے بیوی کے حوالے سے آپ محبت کرتے ہیں تو اس میں امپلائیڈ ہے کہ محبت ہوتی ہی تب ہے جب آپ کسی کی عزت کرتے ہیں لیکن عزت میں یہ قانون نہیں کیونکہ آپ کا اگر کسی بڑے سے جھگڑا ہوتا ہے تو آپ کہتے ہیں دیکھو میں آپ کی عزت کرتا ہوں بہتر ہے عزت کروائیں
Sir patriarchy has inculcated this attitude in men in most cases
O bibi! Islam literally teaches Patriarchy.... Kafir na hojana woke angrezon k peechay lag k
Jaisay maa baap apnay bachon ki izat ni kartay isi tarah shohar ko agar 50 percent baap ka role ada karna ha to wo b izzat ni kar Sakta. Agar wo baap k role m ni b ata to king ki feeling lenay k lie us ka itna sochna hi Kafi ha k wo mard ha or us ka aik darja Uper ha is lie aurat ki koi izzat ni. Aurat k pas jitni b skills hon doesn't matter.
I think especially in Pakistani society
Bulk wo aurat ki skills say dartay hen k kahin un per havi na ho jay. Is lie khamakhwa ka rob rakhna zaruri samajtay hen
q k biviun ka explorer b ab kafi acha ha
Plz request hai kay english main baat na karhain kiu kay samaj nahi aati out 2nd plz baat ko easy our simple words main samjaya karhain,kyu kay Tor maror kr baat karna meri samaj main nahi aati app bohat muskil way main samjaty ho, bohat sari baatain samaj nahi aati
Rishty b mera dyein u do good effort patchy rishty b drive dyein girls ky boys ky interview mera ky
Urdu plz
Pakistani shaadiyon mai aurat sirf nursing k leye lai jaati hai or usko ussi jaga rakha jata hai inko ye baat nhi samajh aati k aurat mai emotions ziyada hote aap usko izzat do wo 10 gunnah ziyada aapki care karegi or sometimes i have seen k aurtein husband k ghar walon ki bhi khidmatein kar rhi hoti sirf is leye k mera shohar mujhe bht khush rakhta meri izzat karta but husband ki ego ka kia karen? Jo izzat dene ko tayar nhi wo develop karengy